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You can tell this sub has been taken over by young, inexperienced Redditors.
/r/seduction09/01/25 03:02 PM
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I have been balding since my early 20's and once I shaved it off, so many women have complimented me on it and like the way it looks. I feel more confident because of it. Getting a hair transplant or hair system is inauthentic and expensive. It's better to just own the bald look.
/r/seduction23/10/24 06:10 PM
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This has to be a troll
/r/seduction17/06/24 06:55 PM
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Is there even a market for PUA with Gen Z? Are 20-somethings today even looking for advice like 15 year ago? Are they even trying to meet people outside of online dating, which is itself just a game?
/r/seduction26/03/24 03:57 PM
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I got big into the "pick up sphere" about 15 years ago. Over time, I realized most pick up success comes from self improvement and working on forming connections. Attraction and human interactions don't need a technical manual and loads of obscure techniques and tricks. But you can't sell many books and online courses saying that.
/r/seduction26/03/24 03:45 PM
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They've been led to believe that OLD is the only way to meet people which bums me out.
/r/seduction07/08/22 06:24 PM
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You can still meet people that way today.
/r/seduction15/06/22 05:49 PM
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That's what this sub has turned into, sadly
/r/seduction03/01/21 11:13 PM
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Not only is there a lot of bad advice to sort through, I think a lot of users here use this sub as an excuse to not go and talk to and meet women. They spend months or years reading post after post and book after book, telling themselves they actually take action after they've read one more post, etc. Constantly looking for the perfect piece of advice that will finally spur them into action. You see it a lot from users who use a lot of technical jargon and "PUA-speak" but have no practical knowl…
/r/seduction30/12/20 04:56 PM
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A lot of folks here don’t have the basics of living in a society down A lot of the folks here could benefit a lot more from learning basic social skills and how to interact with people in general before focusing on picking up women.
/r/seduction29/12/20 03:13 PM
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The problem with this sub is that you have naive 18-20 year old guys giving advice like they’ve slept with 200 women when maybe they’ve been with 5 or 6? Or none at all, but they've spent a lot of time reading this sub, so they act like they know it all.
/r/seduction29/12/20 02:58 PM
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I doubt most did in those days
/r/seduction04/12/20 01:14 PM
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Exactly and it doesn't help when there are posts here that just contradict other posts. Things like "You shouldn't text the girl between dates" and then "You should be texting the girl between dates!" Guys get hung up on the minutia of stuff like this and use it as an excuse to avoid taking action.
/r/seduction01/12/20 12:57 PM
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The even sadder part are there are guys that are begging girls to start an OnlyFans so they can give them money to be teased.
/r/seduction24/11/20 12:57 PM
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Most of the people who post here now just want to feel victimized and sorry about themselves and don't want to put any work into improving themselves
/r/seduction19/11/20 02:33 PM
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That’s today’s generation of men
/r/seduction16/11/20 03:43 PM
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Just don't overdo it. Too much caffeine makes me jittery and I start to feel nervous and anxious.
/r/seduction12/11/20 12:56 PM
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I fell into this trap for a while. You see it a lot with people on the sub who know all the technical terms and jargon but have no real experience or perspective on how to use it.
/r/seduction03/11/20 01:09 PM
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Yeah, you don't need a 100-page technical manual for this kind of stuff.
/r/seduction24/10/20 06:36 PM
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I am in my mid-30's and I feel like I have finally "come into my own". I'm in decent shape, make decent money and generally have my shit together. I get way more female attention than I ever did in my 20's. These really are the prime years for a man. Everyone is different of course, but as I've gotten a bit older, I now have no interest in dating or meeting girls under 25. The difference in maturity and life experience is too great and I'm no longer just looking for sex. I have nieces that age a…
/r/seduction23/10/20 11:55 AM
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I'm in my mid-30's now and I have very little interest in any girls under roughly 25. The difference in maturity level and life experience is just too much.
/r/seduction23/10/20 11:51 AM
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Very well said! Thank you!
/r/seduction22/10/20 01:47 PM
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This sub has been taken over by people who just want to feel sorry for themselves and complain and make no effort to change themselves.
/r/seduction21/10/20 05:23 PM
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What is wrong with last minute dates and coffee dates? I get the message this is saying, but the examples are a bit strange.
/r/seduction20/10/20 05:33 PM
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That's this sub now
/r/seduction19/10/20 11:56 AM
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Guys are shooting themselves in the foot and hurting their chances by focusing too much on online dating only. The same girls who will ignore you online are generally much more receptive and open to talking in person. By talking to women in person, you are giving yourself many more advantages that just don't come across through text communication. Your body language, charm and tone of voice don't carry over online and those are all things that can give you an edge when talking to women. Too many…
/r/seduction17/10/20 04:15 PM
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That's the state of this sub nowadays.
/r/seduction16/10/20 05:09 PM
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This is a good reminder that pickup isn't like a video game where if u grind long enough you'll become superhuman. I see a lot of people here with that mindset, probably from people who play a lot of video games and think real life works that way. "Do 500 cold approaches and then you will unlock the next level", etc.
/r/seduction15/10/20 03:58 PM
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It's not too late at all dude. You're still quite young. It took me until I was in my 30's to get my shit together and start meeting women and I've had more success now than I ever did in my 20's.
/r/seduction15/10/20 03:30 PM
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Posts like this are why this sub has gone downhill
/r/seduction12/10/20 03:20 PM
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Definitely recommend 3% Man! Lots of great information in there. My only complaint is that Corey Wayne can get a bit long-winded in his stories and I wish the actual information was a bit more concise, but great overall.
/r/seduction12/10/20 03:19 PM
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Corey Wayne says don't bring it up as the guy. Continue doing what you are doing and enjoy your time together and the girl will bring it up when she is ready if she is interested in pursuing a serious relationship.
/r/seduction12/10/20 03:16 PM
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The comments on this post is why this sub has gone downhill. Just people feeling sorry for themselves and not wanting to change and stating how things should be, not how they actually are.
/r/seduction12/10/20 03:13 PM
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Nina Hartley
/r/seduction10/10/20 04:11 PM
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We are. I gave up all social media a couple year (I still have accounts but they are mostly inactive and I never post) and I don't miss it in the slightest. It's just not worth my time and effort anymore.
/r/seduction09/10/20 05:15 PM
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Now that I'm in my 30's, girls in their early-20's don't really appeal to me anymore. I have family members that age and they just seem like kids to me. Girls in their late-20's-mid-30's appeal to me much more now. There's a maturity level and general confidence I find very attractive that younger women don't have.
/r/seduction08/10/20 08:58 PM
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This is good advice to remember and something fell victim of in my younger days and still do to some extent. I would fantasize an entire life together with a girl I liked before I even asked her out or knew she was interested. That creates completely unrealistic expectations and then it is even more devastating when things don't go as you had hoped.
/r/seduction08/10/20 07:14 PM
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This. I also think people get lost in the technical details, and forget that sex is supposed to be fun. It's not about performing like a pro. This comes from people getting their sex education from porn and then thinking real sex is supposed to look like that.
/r/seduction08/10/20 02:56 PM
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What? Why would that make any kind of difference? If anything, it would throw you off your game.
/r/seduction08/10/20 02:05 PM
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I made it a point to increase my eye contact in the past year or so and it really does have a positive effect on people.
/r/seduction07/10/20 05:20 PM
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I would be instantly smitten if I met a girl who wanted to talk about the Crusades in-depth.
/r/seduction07/10/20 03:04 PM
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Half the posts on this sub are just guys feeling sorry for themselves and not wanting to change
/r/seduction06/10/20 03:30 PM
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Then be that better guy yourself. Too many guys (myself included in the past) become complacent and lazy once they're in a relationship and quit doing the very things that attracted the girl to that guy in the first place.
/r/seduction06/10/20 03:27 PM
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Do not do any of this with girls you are approaching or just meeting.
/r/seduction02/10/20 05:42 PM
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The key is to find the right amount of alcohol and not overdo it. (that can be harder than it sounds) A nice buzz can = confidence, where as a couple drinks too many can make you think you're way more suave than you are coming across as. I've ruined a lot of good opportunities by having too many drinks before I started approaching.
/r/seduction02/10/20 02:01 PM
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They're not anyways
/r/seduction26/09/20 04:21 PM
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It might seem hard, but when a girl is actually into you, it becomes a lot easier. "Game" is mostly just being able to recognize the girls that are already into you and not screwing it up. (I'll admit, that can be harder than it sounds!)
/r/seduction11/09/20 09:17 PM
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Yes and you have way more going for you talking in person than through text. Body language, eye contact, tone of voice, etc, are all things that are very difficult or not possible to convey through texting and you are just making it harder on yourself that way. I've found lots of girls are way more receptive and open when talking in person than through texting.
/r/seduction11/09/20 04:09 PM
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Not at all! It really depends on the girl but you have to own it. I am a huge nerd and I have met lots of girls at D&D/gaming conventions and they love the fact I am a nerd.
/r/seduction05/09/20 05:29 PM
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You don't have to share every interest and hobby and in many cases it is better if you don't. Learning about their interests and sharing your own are a great way to build a connection with someone. And you will find things you both have a common interest in.
/r/seduction19/08/20 05:42 PM
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Indeed. "Game" is largely filtering out the girls that are interested from the ones that aren't and then not screwing it up. I think a lot of newer users and younger people find their way to this sub in hopes of finding some magic "trick" that will make a particular girl like them. It takes practice and reflection to realize that is not what seduction entails.
/r/seduction18/08/20 04:34 PM
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It's never too late, dude! I essentially "wasted" my twenties but now I'm in my thirties and doing better than ever. I find it's easier now because I'm in a better place in life. Girls respond to that.
/r/seduction08/08/20 02:39 PM
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Everyone is fucked up in someway or another. It is not exclusive to women. Just as you are asking yourself what you want in a woman, the woman should be asking the same of you.
/r/seduction03/08/20 01:07 PM
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I think a lot of younger people end up on this sub because they are obsessing over one particular girl and looking for surefire ways to "win" her. That's why we see so many posts like that here and r/askseddit is basically all posts like that.
/r/seduction30/07/20 09:35 PM
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I cringe when see people post and brag about their number of approaches as if they're going for a high score. Hit a high-enough number and then you "win". All without any self-reflection or changing their approach.
/r/seduction30/07/20 09:33 PM
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Reddit in general (and this sub too) sometimes talk about women as if they are a different species. Women are people with the same hopes, dreams, fears and insecurities as men. If you are nervous to meet with a girl, chances are she is nervous too. If you are having a genuine fun time hanging out with a girl, she probably is too.
/r/seduction29/07/20 01:06 PM
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Yeah all of the technical jargon and gimmicks just seem really cringey and try-hard
/r/seduction02/07/20 03:42 PM
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I could tell he was less experienced than me by the way he kissed, the sex, he didn’t have many ex’s and some of the things he said gave it away. Just curious, what are some of the things that gave it away? But that didn't bother you?
/r/seduction02/07/20 03:34 PM
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(unless we're good/old friends, then it can get a little tricky) What do you mean by tricky?
/r/seduction30/06/20 02:51 PM
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I used to watch his videos a couple years ago but I lost interest when all he started doing was sponsored videos. I get you gotta make money but the content seemed to change then.
/r/seduction30/06/20 02:43 PM
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Remember that feeling of despondency you feel now over a missed opportunity so the next time an opportunity presents itself you won't let it pass by. It's a hard thing to get over, man. I still cringe thinking of opportunities I let slip by years ago. But if you can use it towards future motivation, it ends up being a positive of sorts.
/r/seduction30/06/20 12:09 PM
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That's just a polite way of saying "No thanks". Accept it as a rejection and move on. No big deal. There may be a rare occurrence where she does hit you up later, but don't expect it or hang around waiting for it. Consider it a bonus is she actually does.
/r/seduction27/06/20 03:46 PM
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"dOn'T aSk ThE fIsH..."
/r/seduction26/06/20 07:11 PM
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Combat boots and cargo shorts
/r/seduction25/06/20 01:03 PM
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Upvote for mentioning my favorite Maiden song!
/r/seduction24/06/20 06:55 PM
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You are getting shit on but I enjoyed this post. This sub can take itself a bit too seriously at times.
/r/seduction24/06/20 02:31 PM
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Like him or not, he's got a certain charm to him.
/r/seduction24/06/20 02:29 PM
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I know there aren't that many lesbians out there statistics-wise, but they always seem to be the ones I end up hanging out with and am attracted to haha.
/r/seduction23/06/20 04:53 PM
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Well said. This has essentially been me my entire life. I've always been so focused on one girl that I have missed opportunities with other girls that were very obvious in hindsight. The feeling of unrequited love on one particular girl is more "comfortable" than the uncertainty of meeting someone new.
/r/seduction16/06/20 03:29 PM
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That's generally a pretty popular opinion on this sub.
/r/seduction13/06/20 11:16 PM
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she was showing all the signs that point to ‘I wanna fuck you’. Great story, man. Just curious, what are some of the signs and how could you tell?
/r/seduction06/06/20 04:53 PM
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This sub loves him
/r/seduction02/06/20 01:30 AM
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They respond positively to your touch
/r/seduction26/05/20 03:46 PM
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It is possible to be legit good friends with a girl and still be attracted to her. I am friends with a girl who is part of my social group and she is in a relationship but there is still clear attraction and tension between us. I treat her like a friend but I don't overdo it. I don't always make myself available to her. I tease and flirt with her when it is appropriate but I would never make a move on her while she's in a relationship. If the opportunity ever arose, I absolutely would.
/r/seduction15/05/20 02:13 PM
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This sub mainly pushes cold approach and pure numbers game over anything else, as if that's the "only" way to meet women. For many people it is not. Building your social circle is the way to go.
/r/seduction15/05/20 02:08 PM
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Agreed. Working on my inner game and spending time in self-reflection has helped me far more than learning techniques and pickup technical jargon.
/r/seduction13/05/20 02:37 PM
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Watch his interview with Kate Mara
/r/seduction09/05/20 02:28 PM
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Hit them up to chat occasionally but don't overdo it.
/r/seduction25/04/20 02:35 PM
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Damn that is harsh but true. Doesn't exactly inspire me to pursue another relationship.
/r/seduction23/04/20 02:01 PM
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Number 1 is important. Give her time to miss you.
/r/seduction18/04/20 09:16 PM
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Some guys need to be reminded of this a lot. All over Reddit you see thirsty guys calling all women "perfect" and "goddesses".
/r/seduction18/04/20 03:39 PM
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I know the userbase here is really young now when half the posts are about "my crush".
/r/seduction17/04/20 05:56 PM
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To me, "having your shit together" means living a mature, adult life and not being a lazy slob. Have your finances in order or at least be working towards it, keep your apartment/house clean (and smelling good!), wearing clean, well-fitted clothes (not wrinkled!), keep impeccable hygiene and make sure you smell good. At least make an effort to work out (anything is better than nothing!). Try to have a good diet and don't eat too much junk food. Don't spend 90% of your time playing video games. T…
/r/seduction16/04/20 02:22 PM
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This is a general Reddit problem not exclusive to this sub. Look at the most upvoted answers every time a "dating" question gets asked on r/askreddit. The top answers are always things Redditors want to hear that don't challenge their egos or make them reflect at all.
/r/seduction14/04/20 08:17 PM
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I've noticed FR's tend to get heavily downvoted or outright ignored here these days because I assume it is people getting jealous of other people's success.
/r/seduction14/04/20 08:08 PM
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remain in an introverted lifestyle where most communication is online (safe) You see this here all the time with all of the "What do I message this girl on Tinder" and "How do I meet girls on Tinder" type posts that are always on the front page. Forgetting the current pandemic, guys have become way too reliant on online interactions because it is safe for their egos but ultimately they are hurting their own chances and putting themselves at a big disadvantage.
/r/seduction14/04/20 08:07 PM
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Your strategy is to just move onto the next female. Well, that means you're treating these women as objects to be fucked rather than humans you're trying to seduce. That seems to be the prevailing thought on this sub much of the time.
/r/seduction13/04/20 06:35 PM
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Just be patient. Once this is done with and people start going out again, everyone is going to be desperate and eager to meet new people and meeting new girls will be easy.
/r/seduction09/04/20 05:12 PM
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Agreed! On some of the posts here now, half of the comments are just 'Nice' over and over.
/r/seduction07/04/20 04:52 PM
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Showing someone you care about them does not = friend zone! You'll get into the friend zone if you don't show intent on wanting to be more than friends, but that does not mean you have to be an ass or pretend that you don't care if you actually do. This is a great point that should be reiterated more on this sub. "Avoiding the friendzone" does not mean being an asshole.
/r/seduction07/04/20 04:51 PM
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OP sounds like one of the guys who reads tons of "pickup" material but doesn't really understand it and becomes over-reliant on technical jargon and obsessed with proper "techniques" as if it's a cheat code.
/r/seduction07/04/20 04:47 PM
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The non-stop Nice is getting old
/r/seduction07/04/20 04:44 PM
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Right. Too many guys fall into the trap of thinking that finding a girlfriend/wife will automatically "fix" their problems and magically make them happy.
/r/seduction06/04/20 09:10 PM
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I know the feeling all too well, man. What has helped me is to remember that shitty feeling of regret you have over it, so that the next time a situation like that comes up, you will be more motivated not to feel that regret again. It is far better to be outright rejected than to always carry around that "what-if?" feeling of what could have been.
/r/seduction01/04/20 07:58 PM
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But on the positive side, once this is over, people are going to be desperate to get out and do things and meet people.
/r/seduction01/04/20 02:48 PM
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Even small improvements can have big positive effects on your confidence. I am only in somewhat decent shape and I have recently started working out a few times a week and I just feel so much better about myself. And that can go a long way into how you present yourself to others, and girls do notice that sort of thing.
/r/seduction27/03/20 03:17 PM
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Props to you man for realizing what you did wrong and being willing to work on yourself for the future. Most guys go their whole lives never coming to that realization.
/r/seduction25/03/20 08:15 PM
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The short answer is, stop worrying about the one girl, that one special girl, and go out and learn a skill set so that you can attract more girls. I think the reason we see so many posts on this sub about "that one girl" is because that is what brings a lot of new users to this sub in the first place. They like some girl and end up on Seddit looking for advice. My hope is that once they find their way here, they begin to absorb the information and realize it is about cultivating a skillset and l…
/r/seduction25/03/20 06:58 PM
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This sub has been overrun by middle schoolers and high schoolers
/r/seduction25/03/20 05:46 PM
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This sub has been taken over by guys who don't really want to improve or challenge themselves and just want to feel sorry for themselves.
/r/seduction24/03/20 09:20 PM
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It's unlikely she didn't know this was a "date". From the sounds of it, OP made no move on her or showed his intentions during their first two times together. She may very well not considered it to be a "date" at that point.
/r/seduction24/03/20 04:21 PM
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I am starting to work out from home. Doing things to improve myself I didn't have time for before. I've started reading more, working on learning a new language, practicing meditation and I have started painting a bit again. Don't allow yourself to lose the improvements you have made while we are all stuck inside. I'll admit I did spend a couple of days sitting around on the couch playing video games and eating junk food. But I know I cannot allow myself to do that long term. Perhaps the silver …
/r/seduction22/03/20 03:04 PM
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They may not tell you straight up, but they do give off many obvious signs that she chose you. Women will give you positive attention, and you'll feel it. It's unmistakable. Can you expand on this? How will you just know?
/r/seduction17/03/20 03:59 PM
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Same here. I am in my 30's and girls under 25 are just too immature for me.
/r/seduction14/03/20 11:41 PM
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That's why I feel a better use of your time is building a social circle of friends, both men and women. Finding a social activity you enjoy that gets you out meeting people is great for this.
/r/seduction13/03/20 08:34 PM
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It doesn't really matter what you say if she likes you, but it is still in your best interest to not text to much (at least at first) because that is more chances to fuck it up or come off as needy.
/r/seduction13/03/20 07:48 PM
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Social circle game has always worked out much better for me than cold approaching. But according to this sub, cold approach and numbers game is the only way to meet women.
/r/seduction13/03/20 07:37 PM
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You can and should genuinely care about people. But that doesn't mean you should be a pushover with a false sense of entitlement.
/r/seduction13/03/20 02:40 PM
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If all the apps die then maybe guys will actually leave their homes and approach women in real life again. It's possible some will. Some guys will find any excuse to not actually do anything or put in any effort. But that gives the guys who do approach and talk to people in real life a huge advantage.
/r/seduction13/03/20 02:26 PM
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Seems like a good time to work on yourself until this blows over. Continue to stay in shape/work out, find a creative hobby you enjoy (music, painting, drawing, etc.), read some interesting books, practice meditating, etc. All things to make yourself the best version of you that you can be.
/r/seduction13/03/20 02:23 PM
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I think this is a generational thing. Younger people are more accustomed to texting constantly and expect it out of everyone. They can be put off if you push to meet in person too soon. I am in my mid-30's and have never been a big texter. I hate having conversations through text that would be better suited for in-person. I prefer to keep texting to a minimum. It is very difficult to be "in the moment" in a text conversation compared to face-to-face and I can present the best version of myself i…
/r/seduction11/03/20 09:15 PM
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You are also doing yourself a huge disservice by talking too much over text before meeting in person. You are able to present a much better version of yourself in person than through text. You are missing out on so many things that can make you appear attractive such as eye contact, body language, proximity, etc.
/r/seduction11/03/20 09:09 PM
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It seems like nowadays no one is actually looking succeed in their dating lives. Rather, they search for the next RSD to fanboy over and live vicariously through I've never understood the reverence guys like that get on this sub. They are treated like a Twitch or YouTube star and people seem content to watch them succeed instead of improving their own lives. Seduction is rather simple when you really break it down. PUAs with something to sell don't want people to know that. So they continually o…
/r/seduction11/03/20 08:54 PM
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Agreed. It seems like there is a subsection of users here who don't really want to improve or succeed but are just here to pity themselves. "I'm too ugly, short, bald, etc. etc." We are all on this journey of improvement together and everyone starts somewhere. Even small changes can have a big impact on your success. Having a good haircut, wearing properly-fitted clothes, practicing good hygiene, good posture, etc, all go a long way and do get you noticed.
/r/seduction11/03/20 05:22 PM
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I feel that so many guys are killing their chances by constantly texting the girls instead of trying to get them out on a date. They do it because it is "easier" than putting yourself out there in person and risk being uncomfortable. But you have so many more things in your favor when talking in person versus through text. Eye contact, body language, tone and inflection don't come through on texting. You are able to present yourself in the best way possible in person.
/r/seduction11/03/20 04:28 PM
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Exactly. I feel like a lot of this comes from the guy thinking the interaction went way better than the girl did and then ends up confused when the girl changes her mind. She was probably not as invested as the guy was in the first place.
/r/seduction10/03/20 04:22 PM
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Absolutely agreed. Women are people too and not that much different than guys overall. They're not some mysterious, flighty fey creatures that can never be understood by mere mortals. OP sounds a bit butthurt, TBH.
/r/seduction10/03/20 01:35 PM
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What would you say is a positive reaction to look for?
/r/seduction09/03/20 03:36 PM
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I'm definitely getting that vibe from some of the replies in this thread.
/r/seduction08/03/20 10:13 PM
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Absolutely this! Too many guys out there are killing their chances by trying to do all the communicating through texting because it is "easier". Save that stuff for in person when you can present yourself much better and show your authentic self, show eye contact, etc. Anything you say over text is going to have so much more impact in person. It's also much easier for the girl (or guys) to dismiss or ignore the other person over text.
/r/seduction07/03/20 04:12 PM
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Build yourself into the best version of You, and the women will follow. Absolutely agree with this. I have noticed even minimal changes I have made for the better have gotten me more attention from women. In the last year, I have made a concentrated effort to dress better, be in decent shape, have great hygiene and carry myself differently and women do notice. The changes I've made aren't even that big.
/r/seduction06/03/20 04:59 PM
2

Indeed. You can still be a nerd who is super-geeky but that doesn't mean you shouldn't stay in shape, dress well, groom, etc. Just because a girl is a nerd doesn't mean she likes guys who only wear Cheetos-covered hoodies and skip deodorant. I am a huge nerd and unashamed of it but I still put in effort to look and act my best and that puts me ahead of 98% of guys in my social circles and women do notice.
/r/seduction05/03/20 05:05 PM
3

Sounds like an excuse not to approach. I've told myself the same before.
/r/seduction05/03/20 04:59 PM
3

I assume anyone who says "my crush" is is high school or younger.
/r/seduction04/03/20 07:36 PM
2

Guys on here often want advice to get a specific girl. I think that's what brings a lot of new users to this sub in the first place. They have a thing for some girl and come here looking for surefire tips that will "win" her and then get resentful when it doesn't work. They aren't here to learn how to get better with women in general. They are the type who downvote any content here that challenges them or requires them to put in effort to change.
/r/seduction27/02/20 06:47 PM
1

I've noticed lately field reports either get downvoted or very little attention here. Probably from jealous users who don't want to put in any effort.
/r/seduction27/02/20 03:16 PM
4

Absolutely. The same girls who ignore you online are much more receptive to in-person approaches. And so few men have the balls to do it that it gives you an immediate advantage. It is a bit sad how so many guys today seem resigned to the fact that they think online dating is the only way to meet women and just give up altogether when they get frustrated with dating apps.
/r/seduction17/02/20 04:29 PM
2

I made a PoF account years ago that I had forgotten about and out of nowhere in the last few months I have been getting tons of e-mails from them about obviously fake accounts that "want to see me".
/r/seduction17/02/20 04:23 PM
19

The veneration these guys get on this sub confounds me. It’s not that difficult and none of their material is worth thousands of dollars. They mainly sell to desperate guys who are looking for “one trick” to get women when of course there is none.
/r/seduction15/02/20 03:10 PM
2

The ones defending him wouldn’t have approached either and think the girl should do all the work
/r/seduction15/02/20 02:07 AM
4

He probably wanted to approach you but didn't know what to say and froze up like most guys do. It sounds like you were doing everything you could and ultimately it is up to him.
/r/seduction14/02/20 09:02 PM
2

I fucking wish more guys just shut up and DID THE FUCKING WORK. But it's so much easier to just feel sorry for yourself and complain on Reddit...
/r/seduction14/02/20 07:03 PM
1

So many of the posts here are focused on just pure number or approaches. Constantly approaching just for the numbers without trying to connect won't get most guys anywhere.
/r/seduction14/02/20 06:34 PM
9

Yes I am in my early-thirties and I have noticed it as well. I get a lot more attention without really doing anything differently. I am in a bit better shape and I dress better than I did in my twenties.
/r/seduction12/02/20 04:33 AM
4

I am in my mid-30s and anyone under 25 still seems like a kid to me.
/r/seduction10/02/20 09:36 PM
4

There is a girl in my friend group who does this all the time. Half the time I'm not really even trying to be funny but she's always laughing at stuff I say. She doesn't react that way to anyone else in the group either.
/r/seduction09/02/20 01:51 PM
2

Absolutely. So many men today have convinced themselves that online dating is the only way to meet women and then don't have any luck with it. They just swipe through Tinder and then don't understand why they don't meet anyone. If you are bold enough to approach and talk to women in person, it automatically puts you ahead of all those other guys and gives you a huge advantage. It is far easier to express your true self in person than online. You just have to be willing to put yourself out there …
/r/seduction07/02/20 02:10 PM
3

It seems people would rather be told they are the victim and nothing they do is wrong and they don't have to change themselves in any way.
/r/seduction07/02/20 02:09 PM
3

I'm definitely getting some weird vibes from this post too. Having more opinions and hearing women's side of issues is important too. It's not as if most of the guys posting here having anything of value to contribute either.
/r/seduction06/02/20 02:26 PM
2

Anyone can ask questions, just expect to see the comment "Don't ask the fish how to catch fish, ask the fisherman" repeated over and over.
/r/seduction05/02/20 04:28 PM
2

It's because this sub had an influx of people who don't really want to change or put in any work on themselves. They are looking for a "quick fix" that requires little effort. And all these 'gurus' and 'artists' are trying to sell those people techniques that don't exist.
/r/seduction05/02/20 04:12 PM
7

FR's get downvoted now because this sub is full of people who don't really want to change themselves and get jealous of anyone else even mentioning success. Instead it's easier to pity yourself behind a screen and remain hopeless.
/r/seduction31/01/20 01:57 PM
2

Honestly, a lot of guys settle for the first girl that gives them any serious attention and never even try to meet anyone else. Most meet their wives/girlfriends through work or some social circle and have no idea what "game" is. If they were ever to get divorced or find themselves single again, they would have no idea what to do.
/r/seduction30/01/20 01:44 AM
3

It really is a simple confidence boost that is easy to do and girls really do notice! I made a conscious effort last year to start dressing better and it is surprising how much better it makes me feel and the attention I get for it. And I really haven't done anything that extreme. I just wear plain t-shirts that fit properly, well-fitting jeans and a nice pair of shoes. I see so many guys in their 30's who still dress like they are in junior high wearing jeans that are too baggy, novelty t-shirt…
/r/seduction29/01/20 03:50 PM
2

That is a sad sub
/r/seduction29/01/20 03:45 PM
8

Find new hobbies you enjoy. Get out and do them. Meet people. That doesn't mean you have to give up the hobbies you now.
/r/seduction28/01/20 02:03 PM
5

Well said. This sub has a "celebrity worship" case for some of these guys and I've never quite understood why they are so revered here. They seem more concerned with technical jargon and boosting statistics than actually connecting with people. I never really enjoyed watching infields.
/r/seduction24/01/20 10:26 PM
82

I think a lot of the newer users coming here aren't looking for or ready for advanced techniques and theory but really just need help with basic socializing and getting better social skills in general. They come here seeking advice on how to get that "one girl" or "girl I like" instead of wanting to learn how to get better with girls in general. I also think the userbase on this sub has become a bit younger over time which affects the content that is posted and upvoted here. I see a lot more pos…
/r/seduction24/01/20 06:14 PM
3

I agree. That's why it is strange to me that this sub venerates him so much.
/r/seduction24/01/20 03:35 PM
1

It's so guys like this can keep selling you a product. There really isn't that much to it but they have to keep inventing new "systems" and techniques because that is what they are selling. There are lots of people who will buy up all the products and material and pour over it but never actually do anything with it.
/r/seduction24/01/20 03:34 PM
2

This sub has a strange "celebrity worship" thing about him
/r/seduction24/01/20 03:32 PM
9

I did get her phone # after it obvious she liked me. We talked on the phone for hours/text before when went out on our Date. She even came back to my place on the first date where she made the first move for the kiss. I didn't have a clue what I was doing but it still worked out. This sub would have destroyed you for doing any of those things like talking on the phone for hours, yet it still worked out. It goes to show no one has all the answers and there is no 'one-size-fits-all' solution.
/r/seduction20/01/20 08:21 PM
2

This sub is now mostly full of people who just want to mope around and feel sorry for themselves and never put in any effort to change themselves for the better.
/r/seduction20/01/20 01:49 PM
1

Cannot agree with this enough! I am only in average shape but once I started wearing shirts that actually fit properly I have felt my confidence go up a lot and people definitely notice. You start to notice how many guys wear shirts and pants that don't fit well and how sloppy and uncoordinated that makes them look. Even something as simple as wearing properly fitted clothes makes you feel better and gives you and edge.
/r/seduction18/01/20 06:59 PM
1

How do you feel you fucked up in the middle?
/r/seduction15/01/20 09:51 PM
2

That's what most of the posts here are now
/r/seduction15/01/20 08:40 PM
1

This is the way.
/r/seduction09/01/20 02:28 PM
1

Target is always full of hot shoppers and employees. Wal-mart... not so much.
/r/seduction08/01/20 02:09 PM
1

Most of Reddit talks about women as if they are a different species so it may come as a revelation to some.
/r/seduction02/01/20 03:04 PM
1

They just want to sit and feel sorry for themselves without actually trying to change or improve
/r/seduction31/12/19 10:25 PM
2

Reddit has become a lot more "mainstream" in the last few years since those snapshots were taken. This sub, like many others, has seen an influx of new users. A lot of the new users seem to be on the younger side. I see a lot more posts here now asking about 'how to ask out their crush' and things of that like. Stuff that belongs on r/askseddit. There has been a noticeable shift in the type of users who browse this sub, as with Reddit as a whole. The "I'm such a loser/no one likes me" mentality …
/r/seduction31/12/19 02:40 PM
2

To me it sounds like someone who has read too much theory and over analyzes every reaction and tries too hard to be nonchalant instead of just acting like a real person.
/r/seduction25/12/19 03:36 PM
37

That's why I'm here!
/r/seduction21/12/19 05:12 PM
71

I'd say I tend to have the opposite problem. When in a mixed group of other men and women, I seem to do quite well and always have women interested in me. But put me in a one-on-one setting and I always blow it or come off too "nice".
/r/seduction21/12/19 05:01 PM
1

Thanks for writing this. This is great advice. I have a habit of self-sabotaging my relationships and I still cringe thinking about some of them. I asked out a girl I was talking to for a while and she said yes and my first thought afterwards was "I am going to screw this up." And I did and now she wants nothing to do with me. This girl was really into me but in my own mind I subconsciously believed I was not good enough for her and that manifested in behavior that made her lose attraction to me…
/r/seduction05/12/19 06:16 PM
1

I do this all the time too. A girl I'd been talking to for a while agreed to go out with me and my first thought was "I'm going to screw this up." And guess what, I did and now she wants nothing to do with me.
/r/seduction05/12/19 04:43 PM
1

Most people's romantic lives aren't as fulfilling as you may think. Most people settle and don't go for what they truly want.
/r/seduction05/12/19 04:41 PM
6

I'm in my thirties and girls that are younger than 24 are like kids to me.
/r/seduction04/12/19 02:08 PM
4

This post comes off a bit creepy.
/r/seduction04/12/19 02:07 PM
1

Do you feel a man can or should be friends with girls they are attracted to?
/r/seduction30/11/19 04:35 PM
10

The sub has been overtaken by people who don't really want to change and just want to feel sorry for themselves without taking action.
/r/seduction26/11/19 04:58 PM
2

The replies are just proving the point OP is making.
/r/seduction26/11/19 04:57 PM
5

Seduction is something you actually have to go out and do to get better at it. You can only watch/read so much theory before it does you more harm than good. There really isn't much to 'learn' other than going out and practicing. Anyone who claims to be an "expert" has just put more time in practicing. Despite their claims, there are no magic shortcuts or secrets to sell you. 'Coaches' that charge thousands of dollars for basic self-help advice are becoming irrelevant and I've never understood t…
/r/seduction15/11/19 02:39 PM
2

It's become full of people who just sit around and feel sorry for themselves but aren't willing to put any work into doing anything about it.
/r/seduction14/11/19 06:30 PM
6

Because nobody here wants to take real action so they ignore FRs but upvote pseudoscience that requires no action and is easy to agree with.
/r/seduction12/11/19 08:42 PM
3

Women will respond so much better in person than online.
/r/seduction08/11/19 02:50 PM
2

The same girls that turn us down on Tinder are very attracted to us in real life. This is totally true. You get to present yourself so much better IRL and girls respond to you way better than they ever would online. There are so many posts here from guys who don't want to put in the effort and have seemed to resign themselves to the fact the only chance they ever have to meet women is through Tinder and then get frustrated when it doesn't work out.
/r/seduction08/11/19 02:42 PM
1

I've had a similar experience. I didn't really try to date or meet people at all in my 20's and now I'm in my early-30's without much dating experience. It is definitely an uphill battle but I have improved myself a lot and am still working on permanently changing my mindset but I have noticed improvements. I carry myself differently and I have noticed I get looks from girls a lot more (or at least I know to look for them now).
/r/seduction06/11/19 02:32 PM
2

Who is phone?
/r/seduction05/11/19 04:53 PM
2

This is great info! Thanks for taking the time to write this up.
/r/seduction01/11/19 01:21 PM
1

Get over it. You are projecting your own sexual insecurities onto the girls that you don't even know.
/r/seduction31/10/19 09:20 PM
3

Exactly. This sub has been overrun with losers who don't actually want to improve themselves but just harbor resentment and feel sorry for themselves
/r/seduction31/10/19 09:00 PM
9

Right? This sub has really gone downhill
/r/seduction31/10/19 08:59 PM
18

What is happening to this sub? Why is this even posted here?
/r/seduction31/10/19 05:43 PM
1

The idolization of "famous" PUA's just seems strange to me. I have always taken infield videos with a grain of salt.
/r/seduction25/10/19 05:20 PM
1

How does a cold shower help?
/r/seduction25/10/19 01:56 PM
2

Stop thinking of her as an "alpha female" and just think of her as a fellow person?
/r/seduction25/10/19 01:43 PM
3

What things should you be looking for before you approach?
/r/seduction23/10/19 08:52 PM
14

I am generally pretty good at remember details like that and I find myself thinking like that often. There have been times I have pretended I didn't know a certain detail because I thought it might seem too weird if I did.
/r/seduction23/10/19 01:57 PM
16

I think that is what draws a lot of new people to this sub in the first place. They are obsessing over one particular girl and looking for ways to "win" her. It almost never works because you are already too over-invested and will screw something up. (I can speak to that from my own experiences). Hopefully this can be an awakening for more people so they can realize they need to focus on their skills in general and improving themselves and that it is not about any one particular girl.
/r/seduction13/10/19 09:02 PM
22

I tend to, for reasons unknown, always find myself crushing on the girls I am already friends or at least friendly with. The reason is because you don't have enough girls in your life, so the ones that you do spend time with seem super-special and you always end up idolizing them. I know because I have done the same thing for most of my life.
/r/seduction13/10/19 04:55 PM
9

They can abduct me anytime.
/r/seduction08/10/19 05:35 PM
1

She agreed to meet up with me after I going to be done with a game night with a group of friends. I ended up staying too late with my friends and missed the date. I blew her off and she rightfully hates me for it. It was such a stupid move and I wasn't even sure why I did it. I really wanted to go out with her. But I realized I had spent too much time in my own head and made it way too big of deal. I was far too invested. I essentially convinced myself that I wasn't good enough for her and talke…
/r/seduction03/10/19 03:07 PM
3

I can attest to this from recent experience. You get way too into your own head and will inevitably fuck something up.
/r/seduction03/10/19 01:55 PM
2

Wow, talk about a self-fulfilling prophecy. I can attest to this. Your mindset affects your actions so much. I recently asked out a girl I'd been interested in for a while and she agreed to go out with me. My first thought afterwards was "OMG, I am going to fuck this up!" And I did fuck it up and blew my chances and now she has gone cold. I needed to go into it with a mindset that I would succeed.
/r/seduction02/10/19 02:54 PM
1

Once you get strong oneitis it is hard to not fuck something up. I just fucked up bad with a girl I've been liking for too long. I understand I was way too emotionally invested way too early. Just live your life and pursue other interests and try not to spend all your time thinking about her.
/r/seduction02/10/19 02:52 AM
13

I miss Craig on TV. I loved every one of his interviews even if I didn’t know the person he was interviewing. And he certainly has a way with the ladies.
/r/seduction25/09/19 09:16 PM
5

Good job man but next time have a definite date and time in mind when you ask her. I've found girls respond much better when you present a definite date and not something vague like "sometime this weekend."
/r/seduction24/09/19 07:25 PM
10

Wearing clothes that fit properly is also very important. Many guys (used to be me too) wear t-shirts and jeans that are too big/baggy for them. It looks sloppy and immature. Once I lost some weight (not even a lot!) and started wearing shirts and pants that fit me properly, I started to feel much better going out in public and I believe people can pick up on that.
/r/seduction23/09/19 06:32 PM
1

I think a persisting interest in someone who answers she's always tired (though she may actually be), not showing enthusiasm in general, is a hint of neediness. Can you elaborate on what you mean by this? How is that being needy? Because she is not showing interest?
/r/seduction19/09/19 01:17 PM
21

How might you come off as acting needy without realizing it? Even if you live a busy life with many other things going on?
/r/seduction17/09/19 06:16 PM
1

What are ways you could be acting needy without even realizing it? Even if you have a lot of other things going on in your life?
/r/seduction17/09/19 05:47 PM
3

Should the girl pay for her own meal even when it is the guy asking her to go there? I have no problem paying in that situation.
/r/seduction16/09/19 10:35 PM
2

So do you feel you should always push for a kiss on the first date no matter what? Just don't wait until the end?
/r/seduction06/09/19 02:26 PM
4

They won't see it anyways
/r/seduction06/09/19 01:08 PM
4

Just about every girl that is single I've met has a handful of guys "orbiting" her that were either were too afraid to ask her out or got friendzoned. Yet they still think they might have a chance someday. Even boring, unattractive girls.
/r/seduction05/09/19 06:34 PM
4

It's almost like men and women are all people!
/r/seduction05/09/19 01:22 PM
3

Honestly I think you stand a far better chance being successful in person than online. In person, you get a chance to show your real self in a way you cannot online. I feel online dating should never be your only way of meeting women and too many guys fall into that trap and don't put themselves out there enough.
/r/seduction03/09/19 08:11 PM
3

I think this sub would be viewed better if it were called selfimprovement or something like that.
/r/seduction03/09/19 05:15 PM
1

This post is basically a scare tactic. I've noticed this to be the general tone of a lot of the posts here. They make it sound as if one little mistake or not doing something 100% right will completely blow your chance and you will lose the girl. Game over, you fucked up and you're done. It can lead to overthinking because you are too focused on doing everything absolutely perfect like you read in that Reddit post instead of being in the moment. Do you feel girls are generally more forgiving and…
/r/seduction01/09/19 04:25 PM
2

Did you get another chance?
/r/seduction29/08/19 10:37 PM
1

I think bite sized info thingies like YouTube, Reddit etc make people seem smart when in reality is just clickbait Absolutely agreed.
/r/seduction21/08/19 01:34 PM
1

It's the bruh
/r/seduction20/08/19 09:12 PM
1

M'Lady
/r/seduction19/08/19 02:47 PM
1

Thanks for the great writeup! This is the kind of content we need more of here!
/r/seduction14/08/19 05:56 PM
4

This sub used to be different. It has been largely taken over by self-pitying defeatists who are bitter and don't want to change anything about themselves and aren't willing to put any work in. And people who just outright hate women because they won't give them sex.
/r/seduction14/08/19 03:17 PM
5

Indeed. This sub has been taken over by 'feel-bad-for-me', self-pitying losers who have no interest in actually improving themselves or trying to improve their success with women.
/r/seduction14/08/19 02:24 PM
1

One of my favorite Captain Picard quotes
/r/seduction14/08/19 12:16 PM
11

"You made out during Schindler's List? I can't believe you, Jerry!"
/r/seduction13/08/19 05:35 PM
2

Remember that feeling the next time you get an opportunity so you won't pass it up again. I have missed opportunities from years ago that still sting. I have struggled to internalize this concept for years but I feel I am getting better at it. You will too!
/r/seduction07/08/19 08:29 PM
1

The Hot Body # system is especially cringy to me. What's the difference exactly between a HB6 or HB7? It's all subjective anyways.
/r/seduction04/08/19 08:35 PM
2

REEEEEmales!
/r/seduction04/08/19 08:31 PM
2

That is a good tip. I would like to hear your advice on Facebook because I've had girls tell me to hit them up on Facebook when I don't have their number yet. Do you feel it is more beneficial in general to give the girl your number first instead of trying to get hers?
/r/seduction04/08/19 03:36 PM
2

Thanks for the writeup! Do you feel this is something you should try even if you are looking for a serious relationship with the girl? In that case I wouldn't mind waiting to hook up as in not to rush things.
/r/seduction02/08/19 06:35 PM
2

Absolutely on point! Too many guys these days (and many of the posters on this sub judging by the topics here) rely too much on Tinder and social media to try and meet and date women. Some younger guys have no experience or frame of reference for dating outside of using Tinder/dating apps/Instagram which is a bad first experience for them and they could be doing so much better! I've found that women are far more responsive and willing to talk in person if you have the guts to approach them. Espe…
/r/seduction01/08/19 05:40 PM
1

Great advice! Meeting women should never be the only priority in your life. I find my outlook has improved greatly once I internalized that.
/r/seduction30/07/19 06:10 PM
53

Exactly right. Too many guys these days (and people on this sub) always take the easy way out and rely too much on Tinder, texting and social media. I find women are far more responsive and willing to talk in person if you have the guts to approach them. The same ones who may not give you the time of day on Tinder. It happens less these days so if you are one of the guys who does approach in person, I feel it puts you at an immediate advantage.
/r/seduction30/07/19 06:05 PM
1

Hayley Quinn
/r/seduction28/07/19 03:43 AM
1

Some alcohol can help a lot. I have missed opportunities by having too much to drink and coming off too drunk when I am talking to girls.
/r/seduction27/07/19 01:30 PM
47

Thank you for this writeup. This is the area I find myself struggling with the most. I am capable of making a strong connection with a girl but it ends up more platonic and 'sterile'.
/r/seduction16/07/19 05:52 PM
3

A picture of a printout of a tweet.
/r/seduction16/07/19 12:58 PM
2

Great quality content that this sub needs more of. Thanks!
/r/seduction15/07/19 08:29 PM
1

Success stories get downvoted too
/r/seduction13/07/19 04:03 AM
3

From my experience, if you are stuck in a place with no chicks, there aren't many on Tinder there.
/r/seduction12/07/19 08:28 PM
4

On the positive side, those that have even a modicum of social awareness and an ability to talk to people in person can do very well because it isn't as expect today.
/r/seduction12/07/19 06:17 PM
21

That's it. Too many people looking for the "easy" way to do things without putting in any effort.
/r/seduction12/07/19 03:05 PM
23

That's supposed to be what r/askseddit is for but more and more of those posts end up on the this sub. I understand there are a lot of inexperienced and younger posters here, but there has been a noticeable shift in quality of the posts here in the last couple of years. It seems like there are a lot more posts like: "I'm such a loser. No one will ever like me. Have pity of me".
/r/seduction12/07/19 02:43 PM
2

The Joe Biden
/r/seduction11/07/19 10:56 PM
1

And it’s subjective anyways. What’s the difference between a HB7 and HB8? And one person’s HB6 might be another person’s HB9.
/r/seduction04/07/19 05:58 PM
1

I agree. I've started going to this sub a lot less because it has turned into 75% self-promotion for websites or dumb Youtube videos.
/r/seduction05/12/16 07:06 PM
1

A great write up! Thanks for posting! It is a welcome change to the bro-science posted here lately.
/r/seduction18/11/16 06:30 PM
1

I wondered the same thing. This post contradicts half the things posted on this sub every day.
/r/seduction16/11/16 03:27 PM
2

$100% true story
/r/seduction07/11/16 03:53 PM
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