Yankuba3 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
14	Having a bad day She probably mourned the end of the relationship years before she told you she wanted a divorce. And now she’s excited for the next stage in her life. Same thing happened to me - I was devastated but she was giddy.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/01/25 10:39 AM
12	Wife with past trauma Yes, she never overcame her childhood abuse and trauma. Kept it buried away and put on a happy mask but after so many years she couldn’t keep the charade up and she turned into a monster.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/01/25 01:20 AM
2	Lost interest in women I’m in a huge city and 90% of my matches ghost me between zero and three messages. A couple of weeks ago I was stood up and I wandered around the train station waiting for a text that never came. I’m ready to retire from dating.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/24 11:04 PM
1	Lost interest in women How do you date hundreds of women? I get one date every two months.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/24 10:52 PM
2	Lost interest in women The OPs post makes me feel better about not having a second date with anyone the past two years. I don’t need to be told what to do by a stranger.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/24 10:50 PM
9	How many of you are still friends w your ex wife? No, I despise her	/r/Divorce_Men	02/12/24 12:39 AM
1	Do you guys ever financially recover? The hardest part for me was losing my ex-wife’s salary and assets. I went from two incomes and two pots of investments to one income and one pot of investments. On the expense side, my post-divorce expenses are now higher by the amount of monthly child support. And since I make much more than my ex-wife, I pay 100% of the children’s expenses (which I did before the divorce). While my net worth quickly grew more than I lost in my divorce (i.e. the divorce settlement), having one income and one bu…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/11/24 05:38 PM
1	Need some advice My separation agreement says that something ends when she gets married or cohabits but it’s not alimony/maintenance because I don’t pay that. I thought it was child support.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/11/24 07:33 PM
2	Need some advice Agree. If she gets married doesn’t child support end? It may even end with cohabitation.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/11/24 06:28 PM
3	Canned soup for dinner I have a messy home and it makes me smile because she has OCD and spends hundreds of hours a year making sure her house is 100% spotless at all times. It makes me tired thinking of it	/r/Divorce_Men	12/10/24 05:08 PM
2	How has social media impacted your marriage? I’m 45 and don’t think people use social media to show off like they did in the old days. Now people use Facebook Groups plus Marketplace and IG is a way to see animal videos, memes and humour. Very few of my 200 Facebook friends show vacation pics or luxuries.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/09/24 02:05 AM
1	Her career is tricking men to marry her, then soon after she divorces them and takes everything. Sad	/r/Divorce_Men	10/06/24 10:42 PM
3	Why do we seem so rare? You’re still young - many will divorce at 40, 45	/r/Divorce_Men	14/04/24 11:48 PM
6	Divorced Men: With what you experienced, would you ever remarry? If you could go back, would you have ever married knowing what you know now? I would only marry if she had equal or higher income/assets I will not put my income/assets/pension at risk again	/r/Divorce_Men	16/03/24 12:40 AM
6	In Retrospect, What Should Guys Screen for in a Partner Before Entering a Relationship? Whether or not you want kids Religion and level of involvement in religion Dedication to health and wellness Having similar money philosophies Being in a similar place career-wise. Don’t get into a relationship with someone looking to leave the city for work or education Being on the same page re: how much time you want to spend together. One night a week or seven nights a week Being aligned with long term goals	/r/Divorce_Men	22/02/24 01:13 AM
13	how to be friends again? She isn’t your friend, she is a coparent	/r/Divorce_Men	13/02/24 12:17 AM
5	Happily divorced, now what? Is money all that matters? I focus on work, parenting, exercise, hobbies, community service. Occasional socializing or a date. Not much time left after that.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/02/24 08:46 PM
2	Ex wife is completely off the rails 37 months. My son feels the same way	/r/Divorce_Men	03/02/24 09:25 PM
5	Ex wife is completely off the rails Re: “my ex-wife is not handling the divorce she wanted very well” Same!!! 100% She wanted the divorce so she could be a better parent (🤦🏻‍♂️) but my son now hates her more than ever and blames her for the divorce and relocating him. I have 65% custody and when he goes to high school he can choose where he lives and it may be 100% with me. On the bright side, I am my best self right now and a great parent (in my opinion). Still would have preferred not to get a divorce (for the children) and for …	/r/Divorce_Men	03/02/24 07:51 PM
2	Help I use MS Excel because I am old and good at it	/r/Divorce_Men	03/02/24 07:45 PM
1	Advice needed pls - kids miss having "1 home" My son (age 12) hates having two homes and only wants to stay with me in my home (his home pre-divorce) which is creating a lot of drama with his mother that I am trying to resolve by taking them to therapy (to no avail). My son ends up spending xtra days with me. My daughter (age 8) has no complaints.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/01/24 10:42 PM
6	Dating post divorce I tried dating on and off for 36 months. Three relationships. Maybe one date every six weeks. I was picky and very impressed with most of the women (NYC/Long Island) but the ones I really liked didn’t like me and vice versa. Now, I am taking a break. Dating is a lot of time (and drama) and I know numerous people age 40 to 50 who have never been married despite 100s of dates so I am pessimistic re: finding my person. I am also VERY busy (job, kids, volunteering, health/wellness, chores). I was to…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/01/24 11:07 PM
8	One marriage enough? Or more to come. I would only get married again for someone off the charts wonderful who ALSO has a higher income and more assets. Not putting my money on the line again.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/01/24 01:43 PM
13	Is it selfish to want to be happy? My ex-wife was “unhappy” and initiated the divorce and now my son hates her for it and they are on the track to estrangement. Because she put her happiness ahead of his. I’m sorry you’re unhappy but there’s no guarantee life as a single father will be better. It’s quite overwhelming and there is less money to go around. P.S. FWIW my ex-wife tells me she is still unhappy even though she now has all the things she wanted, including a great boyfriend.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/01/24 11:04 AM
8	Scientific study on loss of love in marriage and women. They used to call that the “seven year itch”	/r/Divorce_Men	06/01/24 12:23 AM
10	Gratitude One thing I learned from my divorce coach is to replace the phrase “have to” with “get to.” Like the OP says - he “gets to” make his daughter’s lunch while tons of men have to fight like hell for every minute of custody. They don’t “get to” make their daughters’ lunch. I have massive bills but I “get to” pay them (as long as I can hold on to my job). Lots of men have the bills and can’t pay them. That’s a bad situation. But it’s hard and somedays the unhappiness and mental exhaustion is too much…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/24 10:38 PM
2	Gratitude I hear you, it’s hard	/r/Divorce_Men	02/01/24 10:26 PM
1	Looking for some advice Agree	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/23 01:39 PM
6	Looking for some advice Your #1 focus should be on your son, not a relationship. Move to North Carolina and get your own place.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/12/23 04:56 PM
3	Advice Appreciated If you’re currently unhappy in the marriage you cannot have more children at the moment.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/12/23 01:24 PM
1	Two years, nothings changed My most recent assignment from my divorce coach was to start doing things for myself. It’s hard when you’re unhappy and have finite free time and money but I understand what he was getting at.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/23 01:38 AM
9	Two years, nothings changed I’m 36 months post divorce. Just had a brutal dinner with my parents, kids and brother. The kids were poorly behaved, my father is old and cranky, my mother picks fights and demands too much from everyone. It was loud and unpleasant. I’m really looking forward to my kids going with their mother tomorrow and me having a quiet telework day. Anyhow - it has been 36 months and I have done everything everyone recommends yet I am still angry, unhappy, jealous of others, etc. What usually helps me is v…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/12/23 01:32 AM
11	Wife wants me to move out for the month of January, anything I should be concerned about from a legal perspective? Never move out - the court will hold it against you	/r/Divorce_Men	25/12/23 11:30 PM
3	She is going to have to work for the first time in her life hahaha SAHM is hard when they’re toddlers. Once the kids go to kindergarten it is a breeze and it gets easier every year that the children grow independence.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/12/23 11:31 PM
2	After 14 months...Sock Day Glad you’re doing well and yes, mediation is so much less expensive than court	/r/Divorce_Men	23/12/23 01:55 AM
1	Need a little help here. There’s a Facebook group for divorced men that is run by Michael Rhodes.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/12/23 12:16 PM