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What's something coming up that you're looking forward to? Opens the door to all sorts of things; vacations, meals, events, etc. Gives you an idea of the type of stuff she's into.
/r/seduction05/06/19 03:06 PM
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You would be appalled how low the bar is for guys cooking. If you're remotely competent in a kitchen, you're streets ahead of most guys. In my experience, girls are impressed and drawn to men who can cook.
/r/seduction05/01/18 07:00 PM
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Talk to women to learn what they’re like – not to impress them or “pick them up”. I really like this mentality. Talk to girls as practice. Think about anything you're good at, chances are you've practiced it countless times. Be it playing the guitar, playing basketball, whatever. You need to practice in order to get better at it. And when you practice and fuck it up, that's fine. It's part of the process. Just keep getting reps and you'll get better. Reminds me of a great Arnold quote, "You can'…
/r/seduction06/04/16 09:57 PM
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"I think you've got me confused for every other guy you've ever met."
/r/seduction26/02/15 02:19 PM
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On the whole reading non-fiction vs fiction thing which is pretty controversial, I think they're equally valuable. I don't think there's a need to take side; I adore both Douglas Adams and Malcolm Gladwell's works. I think the most important thing is to JUST READ! I used to not enjoy reading through college, but now before I go to bed and when I wake up I read a few chapters. It is SO much more fulfilling and helpful in my life than watching TV. It's difficult to put a finger on precisely how it…
/r/seduction10/10/14 06:27 PM
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I think this is totally normal, especially coming off a break-up. About year ago I got dumped and while hooking up with a rebound or two, I'd actually lose interest in her while it was happening. I'd recommend doing kegels (they helped me a ton) and fapping a little less. Mentally, just try to prepare your emotions for shagging a new girl.
/r/seduction06/10/14 09:33 PM
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You're going to fail many times when approaching girls, be it in person or in online dating. I don't think he's implying this works with 100% success, it's just a highlight reel.
/r/seduction01/05/14 02:31 PM
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I'll echo this. After I got dumped I hit the gym harder than ever -- I started training with some real passion to work towards my ideal physique, because when life gets heavy, lift heavy! It was and still is such a stress reliever to me. Avoiding Facebooking is important. I think avoiding contact in general is even more important. Any sort of conversation before you're over each other will lead to you either 1) resenting one another, or 2) opening up old feelings that don't need to be revisited.…
/r/seduction28/04/14 07:52 PM
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You’re on a date, the hard part is over. If she is ON this date with you, if she is sitting across from you – that means she is attracted. You don’t have to worry about attracting her – that part is over. she likes you. Enjoy, have fun, and see if you like her and where you want to take it” That bit was 10x more insightful and helpful than their headline.
/r/seduction21/04/14 06:08 PM
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I isolated her by asking if she wanted to sit down. While she was talking I focusing on eye contact and smiling seductively I called her bluff and said, “Okay, but just so you know tonight is your only chance with me”. All of those are great. Asking a girl to sit down elsewhere helps build sexual tension and shows you're genuinely interested in her and only her. Sex eyes and a smirk can take you anywhere. And that's a bloody brilliant way to respond to the "I don't want to have sex" line.
/r/seduction31/03/14 11:26 PM
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Rejection is less fun than getting the girl, but it is a lot more fun than not having the nuts to do it. If there were ever a "1 sentence guide to getting over approach anxiety," this would be it. Everyone can get a little nervous on approaches, but it definitely sounds like you're in the right mindset.
/r/seduction15/03/14 06:54 PM
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I'm really not, I've just fallen flat a few times and made out like a bandit (literally huehuehue) with women plenty of times. Just be a fun person that radiates fun and positivity and all sorts of new doors will open.
/r/seduction15/03/14 06:52 PM
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Both are very plausible options. I guess ipso facto, I walked away feeling great about a rejection and with some new perspective.
/r/seduction15/03/14 02:03 PM
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Yeah I'm sure Tinder and OkCupid can yield pretty great results, and are probably fun to dabble in on the side, but I think nothing's as great or as beneficial for life in general as going out and talking to girls face to face.
/r/seduction15/03/14 02:01 PM
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It sounds like a shitty Tumblr cliché, but I'd definitely rather have experienced a bunch of "Oh wells" instead of "I should haves"
/r/seduction15/03/14 02:00 PM
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People meet people through people, friends of friends and so on. Cold approaches aren't the only way girls end up with people. That's why you gotta cast a larger net!
/r/seduction15/03/14 01:57 PM
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Yeah but being perceived as attractive is something totally within one's control. A few years ago I wore shitty band tshirts and sneakers everyday, was skinny as fuck and had a shite haircut. Deciding to bust my ass in the gym 3x/week, get into fashion and a new haircut was the best decision I've ever made. I'm not tooting my own horn, I'm just saying anyone can become attractive if you wanna work hard enough for it!
/r/seduction15/03/14 01:56 PM
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I won't sit here and ask about why you dislike yourself or anything like that, but it honestly sounds like you'd benefit from talking to a therapist. This sounds like something that you need to really work through. Having someone just genuinely listen to you, be able to comprehend your problems, and above all give actual medical advice would probably do you wonders. There's no shame at all in going to see a therapist. Keep your head up, man. You're strong enough to conquer this.
/r/seduction20/09/13 10:46 PM
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It's definitely difficult, and every girl is different so I don't think there's a universal formula. But idk, pay attention to her interests, what her friends are like and how she carries herself. Just sorta pile up context to try to make judgement, but always be yourself.
/r/seduction31/12/12 04:12 PM
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Yeah I figured this is more geared towards guys who have enjoyed a bit of success. Not that I don't think thinking about this wouldn't be useful for new guys.
/r/seduction31/12/12 04:10 PM
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"You become what you repeatedly do". Just keep putting yourself in social situations and act extroverted until it becomes natural to you.
/r/seduction15/10/12 11:30 PM
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Bravo. She totally pitched a softball there, I want to learn how to drop responses like that on a more consistent basis.
/r/seduction11/10/12 04:03 AM
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Every single one of these is absolutely vital to good times at college. Partying is so much more fun when you're not on academic probation (hell your whole life gets easier).
/r/seduction30/08/12 08:28 PM
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I've found starting small talk to be easy as fuck and I hope this helps. With each of these questions I'll usually ask her what it's like/elaborate further/other lead on questions. I don't run through them like I'm giving an interview, but you get the point. What's your major? Where are you from? Where do you live here? In any groups/organizations? Other classes? And so on. The key is to be interested and listen to her. Hot girls don't get "listened to" often so change it!
/r/seduction30/08/12 08:27 PM
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Often times, just one rejection will numb you. Once you knock over that wall it's smooth sailing.
/r/seduction30/08/12 08:24 PM
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Agree entirely. Last sentence nails it. It's better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all.
/r/seduction30/08/12 08:23 PM
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This is the greatest mentality. If you learn something, God damnit it's a success.
/r/seduction30/08/12 08:22 PM
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Thanks, I appreciate it! But agreed, I think a lot of guys put the frat guys/popular dudes on a pedestal and think they're so cool and girls adore them, but I find it to be quite the opposite. Most girls I know talk shit on the frat stars.
/r/seduction30/08/12 08:21 PM
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I think if you type "kino" into the search bar you'll find oodles of great info. But I like to just touch her arm during conversation. "I just got this internship!" "Oh that's great! (here is when I'll touch her from her shoulder to elbow-ish? It feels weird narrating how I do it but hopefully you get the point). Or (for more developed instances) if you're going with a girl somewhere and she's going through the door, I'll guide her through with my hand on her lower back. That sorta stuff I recko…
/r/seduction30/08/12 08:20 PM
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They say "Man cannot carve himself without pain, for he is both the sculptor and the marble." Point being, you can't get to where you wanna go without getting the willies a little bit. I bet 100% of guys looked like a doofus on their first approach. But you get better exponentially fast. Just think less, talk to her like you'd talk to some dude in the class. She's just a person and look to start a good conversation.
/r/seduction30/08/12 08:16 PM
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Don't put her on a pedestal. She's just a person. Don't think of her as a really hot girl, think of her as just another person at the party/location and strike up conversation.
/r/seduction03/08/12 06:04 AM
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At a college party (both slightly drunk), talking to a random girl and I could tell she was at least a little into me. "Hey, you should kiss me." Worked like a charm. I'd recommend trying it only if A) you can tell that she's attracted and/or B) you have nothing to lose or C) one or both of you have been drinking.
/r/seduction03/08/12 05:56 AM
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I try to always display that I was looking forward to it, but it's really no skin off my back and I have other things to do. I'd say something like, "No problem, maybe I'll see you around." That really puts the pressure on her to see each other again.
/r/seduction29/07/12 11:52 PM
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There isn't a dude in this world who's never been rejected. Realize that it's a part of life and you live in a world where there are beautiful women around every turn! Don't dwell on it. Smile, pick yourself up and get back out there.
/r/seduction05/07/12 05:50 AM
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Many will point to the sidebar, and while that is chock full of good stuff, I'll give my two cents. Girls in college are usually tame, mellow things during the day and their inner party animal comes out at night. At parties/bars you just have to be confident, happy and enjoy yourself. While that may sound easier said than done, it's certainly not super difficult. Dress well (that means don't wear university Tshirt & athletic shorts everywhere), roll with a posse of girls and guys, and for the lo…
/r/seduction24/06/12 11:59 PM
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This write-up is just great for inner game. Highly recommended. Just don't go out having expectations. Don't go out thinking that if you don't get X many numbers or don't hook up that it'll be a failure. Go out with the intentions of having a good time, and you will. Watch shows that make you happy, listen to more music that gets your blood flowing. This'll help you 'get in state'. Just do more positive things that build your confidence. You sound like a kick-ass guy and I'm sure you are. Carry …
/r/seduction02/06/12 06:31 AM
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Don't think, just do Brilliant advice from TheShowsNotOver. Drunk me doesn't think, he does. I've taught sober me to do the same. If you're ever nervous about something, think, "What would drunk me do?"
/r/seduction02/06/12 06:25 AM
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I guess it hinges on context but if you're comfortable around her, go do more casual, personal stuff. Get coffee and talk one on one. If you live near any sort of beach/lake/body of water go and hang out on the shore/a dock. It was my go-to in high school. Under a night sky, near the water and it's just the two of you? If she's into you, chances are she'll melt. You're in high school, the girl's probably not used to formal things. Keep it casual and put yourself in a situation where you're comfo…
/r/seduction02/06/12 06:22 AM
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I can't quite tell if /r/pickup is a joke or not, but one of their top posts is actually pretty interesting. The "Text A-Bomb" is something like (paraphrased): "Heyy (name), it was nice meeting you and (compliment her), and I'd really like to see you again. But it seems like you're really busy so maybe I'll just see you around." High risk, high reward kind of mind game.
/r/seduction02/06/12 06:13 AM
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Any alone or 1-1 time with ex's can really bring them to throw themselves at you, IMO. Being alone again, remembering what once was and the comfort can make reuniting with ex's routine. That said, I don't endorse ever going after an ex, ever. He's your ex for a reason, and I've gone down that road before and it is simply bad news. Both people get hurt in the end more often than not and there are tons of other people out there. But like I said if you really want to go for, I'd look for a way to g…
/r/seduction25/05/12 03:29 PM
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Elaborate on "make moves". Like initiate more intimate contact, or kissing? Give the girl more direct attention? If you're confident the girl is into you and you want to go in for a kiss or make a more bold statement, just relax and do what feels right. Girls like to feel special. Keep more eye contact. Give 'cuter' facial expressions like smirking or biting your lip. Look up Jim from The Office's facial expressions even, girls love the way he always looks quirky and funny. Maybe I'm rambling bu…
/r/seduction06/05/12 10:37 PM
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Not picking up signals is a fatal flaw so many guys have, myself included. If you find yourself starting to over-analyze things, just take a step back and realize that the girl is with you, talking to you and therefore interested. Just calm down and don't psyche yourself out. For the second part, it sounds like the goals you're setting are halting you. When you're hanging out with girls you're interested in, don't go in thinking about the end goal. Don't go in thinking that if you don't hook up …
/r/seduction06/05/12 10:09 PM
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As for your outfit, never be afraid to push the envelope. In talking with an assortment of girls about fashion and whatnot, the general consensus seems that guys don't know how to dress and generally wear stuff that doesn't fit and is boring. /r/MaleFashionAdvice can send you in the right direction but as I've said in previous posts, they generally dislike flair and peacocking. As for the weight thing you'll be fine as long as you're committed. But dude kick that mindset because that's gonna hol…
/r/seduction05/05/12 05:55 AM
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Better yet, Borat's disco dance!
/r/seduction04/05/12 10:43 PM
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This is brilliant. Very flirty but not too forward.
/r/seduction04/05/12 07:28 PM
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How to improve your "inner game"/self confidence, I recommend reading this. This really helped me. But orientation is a situation of little risk and high reward. TALK TO GIRLS. Talk to the hottest one there, what's the worst that happens? She's not interested and you'll likely never see her again. The topics of conversation between college freshmen are endless. Where are you from? What's your major? Any friends/family go here? And so on. Be confident, walk like you're the man, and whatever you d…
/r/seduction01/05/12 02:01 AM
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I used to be tall, lanky, and super skinny. I started lifting weights years ago and I can say it's the single greatest decision I've ever made. You radiate more confidence if you know you look go. Look around at the pool/beach. The guys talking to girls are usually the ones who are in shape and relaxed. Check out the FAQ of /r/fitness. Gym memberships are worthy every single penny. *I don't know if girls dislike skinny guys per se, but I know they greatly prefer athletic, cut guys. * Being confi…
/r/seduction28/04/12 08:23 PM
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Also! My throwaway name isn't meant to mean "I'm you just more awesome." I meant it to be more of a "You can be awesomer". Terrible choice, I know.
/r/seduction18/04/12 12:48 AM
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