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Field Report_-resonance-_/r/TheRedPill24/12/19 04:06 PM
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_-resonance-_/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 10:01 PM
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In order for your wife to be attracted to you she has to feel that you are attractive. Part of being attractive is indifference to her opinion and focus/joy/fulfillment from your purpose. Also you have to accept that part of her being able to be attracted to you is her suspecting that other women are interested in you.
/r/askMRP19/06/24 11:49 PM
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How does one even maintain a ltr without accepting that cheating is always a possibility? Once you accept it, you free yourself to focus on yourself.
/r/askMRP23/07/21 06:59 PM
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From this comment it’s clear you’re just operating in her frame. Listen man, if you are in your own frame, you don’t react. You set the pace and you respond. You’re reacting because she has frame control. To answer your initial question: it’s already been answered. Set boundaries and “call her out” with your actions. Do not be butt hurt. Your life should be as good or better without her as it is with her.TM As you do the inner work you’re going to gradually adjust the way you relate to her.
/r/askMRP19/07/21 05:24 AM
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Right answer.
/r/askMRP19/07/21 05:17 AM
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You must be mad bc you’re doing them for her or you expect praise. Do what you do for you.
/r/askMRP19/07/21 05:15 AM
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make first date close to home and only if it’s something you’d do anyway, without her.
/r/TheRedPill19/07/21 04:39 AM
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This comment should not be downvoted.
/r/askMRP17/07/21 10:27 PM
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Christ Jesus brahs
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/07/21 03:35 AM
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Dude I know and trust told me “suck it up and pay off your half.” Saved him a lot of emotional turmoil that he was able to instead invest his energy in rebuilding.
/r/askMRP24/06/21 08:15 PM
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She’s already admitted to dragging you along. Would be cheaper to stay married and protect your assets but what is stopping her from just waiting to pull the trigger when she seems fit. The paradox is that the less you care and more DGAF you become, the more likely you are to regain her interest.
/r/askMRP24/06/21 08:14 PM
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Correct response, OP.
/r/askMRP24/06/21 07:08 PM
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Alimony, child support. Bro....
/r/askMRP24/06/21 07:08 PM
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“What you have together”? Dude, she’s merely got you on the hook. You have nothing.
/r/askMRP24/06/21 07:07 PM
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Orgasm real. She’s hoping you’ll hold frame. Not talking to you because she’s nervous it was a fluke. Bring humor and joy into it as able. Don’t refuse sex with her bc the circumstances aren’t ideal in your mind. As paradoxical as it sounds, she needs to know you can deliver regardless of the emotional turmoil she instigates.
/r/askMRP24/06/21 02:24 AM
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Reacting to let her experience frame control = niceguytm Respectful, submissive women should be pampered as much as you are able during pregnancy. Savage beasts can take care of themselves.
/r/askMRP07/06/21 06:49 AM
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Haha going to the gym too much. Just don’t undereat.
/r/askTRP07/06/21 06:30 AM
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OP on mission like William Wallace.
/r/seduction09/05/21 09:59 PM
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Always be vetting.
/r/askTRP09/05/21 09:43 PM
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Just respond, “got new wardrobe. I’m good, thanks tho.” If she texts again, try to ignore without blocking. Feed breadcrumbs if it amuses you.
/r/askTRP06/12/20 10:09 PM
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Great thread; just realized: as you’ve been doing inner-work, all the while she has held on to your clothes, saving them for this day. To you the clothes are nothing. To her, they were like a put or a “call” option. “When the time comes, at least I’ll still have his clothes.” Leaving things or taking things is collateral to these girls.
/r/askTRP06/12/20 10:05 PM
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Wholesome.
/r/askTRP06/12/20 10:00 PM
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Anyone downvoting this clearly is not a golfer.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/12/20 05:38 AM
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There are different reasons to marry, right? What’s yours?
/r/RPChristians01/12/20 01:38 AM
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What just happened?
/r/askMRP01/12/20 12:43 AM
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It depends on your angle.
/r/RPChristians30/11/20 11:31 PM
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Question: how can women most prefer obliques and glutes (interesting tidbit #1) but also most prefer Factor 3 muscles (which don’t include obliques and glutes)?
/r/TheRedPill30/11/20 04:40 PM
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Paul Elam explains that romantic love used to be laughed at as folly, like a mental illness, and was nothing to base a marriage off of. The trouble with falling for a woman is that she knows it, and that’s where she starts to try to control you.
/r/RPChristians29/11/20 02:58 AM
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You’re being rude dude, yet you’re the one who asked. Don’t follow girls on Snapchat if their party life is going to hurt your feelz. Does that help? Or is it also “retarded.” You’re retarded.
/r/askTRP27/11/20 04:15 PM
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That’s the game. Whether you like it or not, things change when you get oneitis and enter LTR. To answer your question, make yourself the point of origin for your life. Do not rely on validation from sources outside yourself. I hope some other people comment.
/r/askTRP27/11/20 12:20 AM
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Yes it is.
/r/askTRP26/11/20 11:52 PM
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If his vibe with lawyers and judge is, “I’m so sad. My wife is my source of validation,” then they will see firsthand that she has the stronger frame and thus she will be the primary parent. If he builds frame and is able to go through family court w/ DGAF attitude (aside from caring for kids), then he has a better chance of 50/50 parenting time (or more, depending on frame).
/r/MGTOW225/11/20 05:19 PM
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“...you shouldn't stay in a marriage just because that's the person you married!” Sound logic. Good understanding of marriage.
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre25/11/20 06:52 AM
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When is the zoom meeting?
/r/RPChristians24/11/20 08:56 PM
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No one said it’s easy. Hang in there brother.
/r/MGTOW224/11/20 06:42 PM
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Jack White said, “I’m a martyr for my love for you,” which comes off as indifference via no-contact. But it’s not bc the flip side of indifference being the absence of love is that indifference allows space which is healing.
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre24/11/20 06:40 PM
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Frame is everything to everyone.<sup>TM</sup>
/r/MGTOW224/11/20 06:08 PM
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Just like women, courts (judges, parents’ attorneys, court-appointed guardians-ad-litem, even outside sources like a counselor) operate based on frame. Men getting divorce-raped are already blindsided so their personal frame is shit. Pressure is put on the weaker party to fold. Forget the wife. It’s over. But develop the stronger parental and personal frames and the courts will notice. Basic psychology. Hold frame.
/r/MGTOW223/11/20 09:38 PM
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Detaching is step one but it goes hand-in-hand with developing a new perspective and developing what’s best for your self. Right there with you bro.
/r/MGTOW223/11/20 08:55 PM
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You’re codependent. You work for her validation which she finds despicable. Focus on yourself entirely with complete disregard for her opinion. Correspond with her only through Talking Parents or My Family Wizard because your only role now is to show the courts your availability and involvement as a father. Prepare your life to accommodate a 50/50 parenting schedule. Either have a sitter lined up, adjust your hours, or agree to offer her right of first refusal if you work more than her.
/r/MGTOW223/11/20 08:51 PM
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u/bigboibahmani: Boundary enforcement and explicit unapologetic self-interest is the whole game.
/r/MGTOW223/11/20 08:43 PM
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Good lawyers don’t necessarily advise clients about frame. If he needs her to “agree,” he’s already lost. Dude needs frame.
/r/MGTOW223/11/20 08:38 PM
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Welcome to the club. Focus inward.
/r/MGTOW223/11/20 08:36 PM
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Her needing to agree to it means she has frame. Get frame.
/r/MGTOW223/11/20 08:35 PM
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Yes and no. Seeking relationship for validation of any sort (even physical) has become a waste of time (not saying I won’t hook up; just saying I exert zero effort other than the weekly shower and shave). Further, though, I’m more self-centered than ever and motivated toward development. With this development, I look forward to vetting harder as I’m interested in having more children. So in a way TRP has increased interest in an LTR with an actual mother.
/r/askTRP21/11/20 11:10 PM
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Medium is the Massage? (srs)
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre21/11/20 02:40 AM
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Can I get a copy of this?
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre21/11/20 02:30 AM
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u/bigboibahmani How often do you “next” instead of even bothering with the shit test? The more I think about your comment, the more evident it becomes that blatantly making fun of your woman is a sign of utmost affection. “I care about you so much that I’m willing to make fun of you to your face and make you sound like an idiot because the alternative is saying nothing and not caring at all.”
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre21/11/20 02:29 AM
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Glory. Glory. Hallelujah. The needle in the haystack has been found.
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre21/11/20 02:19 AM
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Prostitution is scorned whether the man is HVM or LVM because either way: prostitution cuts in on the AFC (beta) and AlphaBucks (DGAF) marketplace. If prostitution isn’t scorned, women would lag behind as non-prostitutes, unless of course they embraced the institution and identified themselves as counter to it; thereby more easily marketing themselves as wife-material. Women should stop scorning prostitution, encourage the women who go down that road, and turn themselves into its antithesis in o…
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre20/11/20 02:29 PM
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Bam. Peanut butter and jam right here.
/r/TheRedPill19/11/20 01:33 AM
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NO TEST-DRIVES!!!!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/11/20 05:51 AM
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TRP is not about “chasing girls”. Maybe try a PUA sub?
/r/askTRP18/11/20 12:15 AM
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Gets what she wants. Gotta respect she a playa.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/11/20 08:20 AM
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Is that what God has written on our foreheads?
/r/RPChristians15/11/20 07:26 PM
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u/VasiliyZaitzev ...?
/r/askTRP15/11/20 05:16 PM
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Some females do get turned on by “little boy” behavior that they can exploit and manipulate... not “nurture,” but take advantage of (through sex).
/r/askTRP15/11/20 04:56 PM
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^ more upvotes please.
/r/askTRP15/11/20 04:52 PM
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Comment saved. Beautiful write up. Thank you.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/11/20 04:13 PM
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Girl is a codependent caretaker. They are still in honeymoon phase.
/r/askTRP07/11/20 02:53 PM
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brahhhhhh!!!!!
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre07/11/20 03:37 AM
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Are you swingers bc doug is my shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/20 03:32 PM
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Solid a&a; gotta hand it to him.
/r/TheRedPill25/09/20 11:40 PM
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Elegant. When anger creeps up, just ask yourself: “You mad, bro?” Don’t be mad, bro!
/r/TheRedPill24/09/20 07:36 PM
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...manipulating your body into thinking it’s fulfilling its purpose... how is this different from sex with a condom?
/r/askTRP22/09/20 04:05 PM
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See peers as extensions of your own higher self, which is All. So your interactions with them are really just interactions with yourself. This keeps you genuine (naturally maintains frame) as well as entertained (you are your own point of origin.)
/r/TheRedPill21/09/20 08:53 PM
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My issue with this comment is only this: a king could keep his hot fuck slave for 10 years. I guess because he didn’t really give a shit about her, though, bc if she were his queen, then she’d probably lose interest and instead concern herself with politics/material gain.
/r/TheRedPill19/09/20 02:52 PM
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Last paragraph is paramount psychology. My mom “loves” me but is also belittling and emasculating. Yesterday I realized that it’s my craving for love that causes my oneitis (despite having 3-4 other plates that I don’t even care to see any more due to oneitis, who I’m currently grey-rocking). As u/aahanatrey said, “You are all you need.”
/r/TheRedPill19/09/20 02:46 PM
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You’re probably not eating enough nor tracking your protein intake. What’s your TDEE?
/r/MGTOW217/08/20 04:40 PM
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I am beautiful No matter what they say
/r/askTRP16/08/20 04:04 PM
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Clearly you’re not a golfer.
/r/TheRedPill16/08/20 04:01 PM
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FDS: 0 PSYCHOLOGY: 1
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/20 05:14 AM
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“I hate you so much but please comfort me after I fix the toilet!”
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/08/20 04:45 PM
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oh, well at least you’ve got that stuff figured out, then.
/r/TheRedPill14/08/20 04:38 AM
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complete 180, not 360.
/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre14/08/20 04:37 AM
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sounds like you are drinking to fit in. save that for the bitches on your yacht. don’t play society’s fucking “Life card” they are trying to hand you. Getting fucked up is part of that.
/r/TheRedPill14/08/20 04:20 AM
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“She hadn’t been in a relationship for 6 years prior, just casual dating.” -> “It took her 6 years of CC until she found someone who could would ‘pay for everything.’” In an effort to help OP: the guilt is to manipulate you into continuing to provide for her. Sorry bro. #abundance
/r/askTRP11/08/20 06:22 PM
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Bingo. Perfect anecdote.
/r/askTRP11/08/20 04:04 PM
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Many men use TRP tactics to get into a LTR and fall back to blue pill ways. It is very possible to become a beta orbiter after fucking a girl. How many husbands are out there buying flowers to earn their wives’ approval? A lot.
/r/askTRP11/08/20 04:03 PM
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In a weird way, u/Zavss has a point bc she may not yet see herself as lower in SMV than OP.
/r/askTRP11/08/20 04:00 PM
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This is profound and for me personally, ultimately hard core. Pining after a oneitis/loneliness are symptoms of boredom and un-fulfillment, not anything to do with a unicorn.
/r/MGTOW211/08/20 03:19 PM
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saved
/r/MGTOW211/08/20 03:14 PM
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succinct & profound. this comment echoes truth.
/r/MGTOW211/08/20 03:12 PM
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Certain girls only want the ones that don’t want them.
/r/askTRP11/08/20 12:52 AM
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I remind myself that wherever my attention goes is my investment in the future.
/r/TheRedPill11/08/20 12:51 AM
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I am a complete asshole but remind women that I am a gentleman deep down. Or wait, am I a gentleman deep down just acting like an asshole?
/r/TheRedPill11/08/20 12:34 AM
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Wait, you don’t actively push women away from you in your abundance?
/r/askTRP11/08/20 12:14 AM
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This whole thread is wholesome.
/r/askTRP11/08/20 12:06 AM
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Above two comments key TRP summary
/r/askTRP10/08/20 11:57 PM
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“..its...” lmfao
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/08/20 09:36 PM
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$5 or $10 < $drinktotal so of course she’s happy.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/08/20 08:29 PM
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What sort of legal protection does marriage offer you? That is what marriage is, right?
/r/askMRP09/08/20 02:17 PM
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Username and flair checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/20 01:55 PM
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90 seconds is way too long
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/08/20 01:36 PM
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Just say “as you wish.” It’s from princess bride.
/r/askMRP02/08/20 09:51 PM
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good girls get my attention
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/20 05:04 AM
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only for committed dudes who aren’t sluts themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/20 05:02 AM
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Lose patience? That will be all that happens as you better yourself. Be ready for a shit storm of shit tests.
/r/askMRP31/07/20 03:38 AM
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Chads don’t work for girls other than “hello when r u free.” no clue what he chose. Also not Chad without the iron. Sounds like a brad.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/07/20 04:00 AM
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I love being at the top of a slut’s heap of men. Does that make me desperate? I see all women as sluts and if they aren’t, they will be after experiencing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/20 03:04 AM
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Chads have it in easy mode for a variety of reasons. 1) they are busy (keeps women chasing) 2) they lift (keeps them good looking) 3) they are confident (gets women wet) It may be easy mode with women, but being Chad is a lot of responsibility that centers around purpose (thus giving women zero fucks) which is why they come running.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/07/20 03:42 PM
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srs question: when wall approaches and BB hunt begins, how long till they realize/admit they still want Chad (that BB is insufficient for tingles)?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/07/20 03:35 PM
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At my 25th bday party at some club, crazy “alpha” dude wanted to fight me cause I was eyeing “his” 2 women. These girls looked at me smiling, “just ignore him”. They were giggling the whole time, shepherding their possessive “alpha” out the door. Why were they giggling so much? This possessive dude thought the girls were his and that he was being tough/attractive by being willing to fight for them. Maybe he was, but these girls had him on a string and were giggling because they knew they could g…
/r/TheRedPill29/07/20 03:25 PM
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it’s becoming a mindset. after all, grandma used to say, “the wise one shuts up.”
/r/askMRP29/07/20 06:22 AM
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But the premise is what makes this idea gold. Start it!
/r/MGTOW226/07/20 02:35 PM
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“Obviously” a LDR won’t work so if she catches vibe you are covertly spinning plates, there is a chance she will still see you as alpha despite your history in an LTR w/her, and she may still rely on you for sex. This only works if you have abundance and aren’t too emotionally attached.
/r/askTRP25/07/20 05:32 PM
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Gatekeeper to commitment pending her tingles and feelz. No shortcuts, OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/20 03:07 PM
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Keep it simple, guy. Your negative attention is just as valuable as positive attention. Any energy (critiquing, emotion, encouragement) you share with her is energy you have chosen to share. Stop doing it unless she is blowing you and buying happy meals. Focus on your self and remember that you are not only a good man/dad, but a force of nature any woman would be lucky to experience.
/r/askMRP25/07/20 03:05 PM
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Yes, partly. Def good for a first date to be something you’ll enjoy anyway; hint that you’re going out either way and it’s just a natural part of your day, and that the “date” is more like an offer for her to join you. But what I meant was about implementing more plausible deniability (friendly banter) if I’m not going to be overtly direct/sexual. Have gotten so used to strutting BDE but with a 9 or 10 it’s less impressive, so I need to remember to introduce PD so she’s more comfortable setting …
/r/TheRedPill25/07/20 02:58 PM
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To weed out the weak. Bad mother fuckers give no fucks so they need to see how many you give. Giving no fucks suggests that you are pre-qualified, so the tests do all this work for her.
/r/MGTOW225/07/20 06:45 AM
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Opening principles of chess teaches to attack the center of the board, NOT respond to arbitrary threats. COME ON!
/r/askTRP25/07/20 06:41 AM
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Cool kids lunch table right here, OP.
/r/askTRP25/07/20 06:40 AM
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Sounds fucking legit. You should have better things to do than to let this even be on your radar. Let the children play while you take care of business. You’re playing a man’s game, not any faggot bullshit. She’ll know why you’re ghosting and she’ll probably beg for your cock while sending pics of the rug in the dumpster. But the ghost seems the solid play until she offers some recompense. If it never comes, then you’ve confirmed your standing and are better off.
/r/askTRP25/07/20 06:37 AM
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Greatest TRP summary I’ve read to date.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/07/20 04:03 AM
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I believe a man should train to be able to lift his woman comfortably. At the same time, I am attracted to the dominant mindset of OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/20 03:53 AM
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do you even lift bro? but srsly tho it helps with posture and thus pacing.
/r/askTRP24/07/20 10:08 PM
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What I need to remember is often when a woman approaches or sends IOIs, she’s not consciously aware that she is asking you to escalate. I find that if I’m not using overt direct game, I need to incorporate more plausible deniability into the conversation. In other words, if I don’t drop a ton of BDE upfront, it’s important to incorporate plausible deniability in order to warm her up and make it easier for her to say yes to the date suggestion. A woman can send IOI and be aloof when you escalate …
/r/TheRedPill24/07/20 06:29 PM
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LTR’d using beta game until mid-30s. Whoops. Wonder if the “natural alphas” actually wind up getting more screwed over... being players in college then “settling down.” Glad I got that shit out of the way. Now I’m a hypergamous slut. Thanks ladies.
/r/askTRP24/07/20 06:22 PM
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Disagree she will get full custody. Essentially the entire custody battle is lawyers trying to figure out whose client has the stronger frame. Paradoxically, this includes giving less fucks, yet simultaneously giving all fucks. The way to win this battle of wits is to remember that if you are ordered to have less time with your kids, it gives you more time to develop your self and your brand. That’s a win for you. You fighting for time with your kids needs to be seen as a sacrifice, not a needy …
/r/askMRP22/07/20 08:13 PM
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This is some Jedi mind trick shit... but she won’t care if she gets child support. IMO 50/50 parenting time is the way to go. Gets Dad his time and Mom has to do her part as well. The rest is up to Jah.
/r/askMRP22/07/20 08:09 PM
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Your kids? Sounds like they are her kids.
/r/askMRP22/07/20 08:07 PM
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Make sure you fill in for her financially and emotionally as well. /s
/r/askMRP22/07/20 08:06 PM
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Plant nothing. Ignore her. Your wife perceives you as BB which includes child-rearing. Taking care of her kids is a peasant’s (your) job. Consider an alpha male that pumps and dumps. This is her. You are the bitch.
/r/askMRP22/07/20 08:03 PM
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Divorced. Cucked. After TRP met a girl like this. She clearly thought it was funny how her husband was doing all the dirty work with the kids. She also seemed to think it was funny how badly her kids needed her. Meanwhile she was available to me and my sexual needs. OP needs to reprioritize. Remember, it is YOUR responsibility to make sure your kids are cared for. Yes, it helps to have a woman to accomplish this task, but your type of woman will make things more difficult for you and perceive yo…
/r/askMRP22/07/20 07:56 PM
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exactly. OP is losing frame by listening to “her” opinion about him instead of owning his frame. He’s more ahead than he realizes, and also much further behind than he realizes.
/r/askTRP22/07/20 07:49 PM
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oh bro, that is a shit test. She loves your stoicism and you are failing the test by letting her seed of doubt take root in your mind. If something is meant to strike your emotions, it will, and it’s none of her business. BRO!!
/r/askTRP22/07/20 07:48 PM
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Obviously. People act like women can’t escalate cause “tee hee!”
/r/seduction22/07/20 07:04 PM
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I teach girls chess and judge them on their skill
/r/askTRP21/07/20 07:08 PM
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Darius M made a video about how everything can be going great and a girl will just up and decide to drop a massive test. It trips guys up bc it happens when things are going swimmingly, and they chase to restore balance, which just pushes her away.
/r/askTRP21/07/20 01:18 AM
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I’m introducing the concept of bdsm upfront so i can explicitly/overtly pressure flip any test into a “scene.”
/r/askTRP21/07/20 01:10 AM
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I became best bro’s cause we’d see each other around town. Just say “what’s up?” To a bro and see what happens.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/20 01:08 AM
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I’ll be your friend bro-Maine.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/20 01:05 AM
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The male bond is supreme because it decides how to partition the women.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/20 01:01 AM
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Fuck yeah. Coming to save the motherfuckin day. YEAH!
/r/TheRedPill16/07/20 06:54 PM
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“Yeah, well the jerk store called and they are running out of YOU!”
/r/askTRP13/07/20 03:11 PM
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Link?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 05:23 AM
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Underpants. 2. 3. Profit.
/r/askTRP11/07/20 05:08 PM
4

Bro, it is totally hard for them to take accountability for their decisions. Don’t be so presumptuous!!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/07/20 08:34 PM
2

“I thought you’d never ask... but ladies first.” [head-nods date to kiss friend] (u/doubleconversation4)
/r/askTRP05/07/20 08:58 PM
1

I like to post to asktrp bc I like discussing the logistics of things. Like, duh- just approach her. But I’m into the brainstorm of various techniques or perspectives that would help convey various things about myself, considering the situation.
/r/askTRP05/07/20 04:27 PM
1

Hm, I guess I did just feel like writing. Thanks.
/r/askTRP05/07/20 04:21 PM
1

Say it’s your boss’s wife who you want to smash; he’s a cool guy but talked shit to you a few times and you’ve got some other prospects so you don’t really need the job. I’m a word nerd for sure.
/r/askTRP05/07/20 04:16 PM
1

I agree; but sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever date someone who is more sane than she is hot.
/r/askTRP05/07/20 01:52 PM
1

This is why I distinguished with u/imadethisinoneminute between control w/ a FWB vs. a LTR, but he maintains that with higher SMV & RMV, the worshipping works.... which is a hard point to disagree with. Is it possible, u/noodlesoupe2, that we want/need that connection with women because they are above us in either SMV or RMV? If the man is higher in both, why would he not soak up the adoration? I see validity in both of your guys’ point; not sure which side of the fence I’m on here... feels like…
/r/askTRP05/07/20 06:04 AM
1

u/imadethisinoneminute, this is true bro. Do you disagree with u/noodlesoupe2?
/r/askTRP05/07/20 05:59 AM
2

Maybe it’s a facade. Maybe it’s bravado. Like driving a fancy car.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/20 03:55 AM
2

I love this post and where you are coming from. Trouble is, with RP knowledge comes the idea that you are being pursued for LTR while she bangs Chad in background. Makes it hard not to just “be like Chad.” We may as well be asking, “has feminism empowered women to be dirty sluts?”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/20 03:53 AM
2

Hidden gem ^
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/20 02:08 AM
2

Great response; thanks. I wonder if OP and I both struggle with oneitis. It’s easy to judge someone who supplicates as immature, which is not ideal for LTR. BUT to your point, u/imadethisinoneminute, if one’s SMV (and RMV) is high enough, then the dread that inspires supplication in theory would last. Disagree?
/r/askTRP04/07/20 06:34 PM
4

Control for FWB but not LTR, right? OP seems critical of these types based on LTR potential. Otherwise it’s a pump and dump which he’s probably not into because he is considering personality.
/r/askTRP04/07/20 06:16 PM
4

This is what I meant by my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 09:20 PM
7

Power comment. Thanks. Yes, I’ve made the mistake of giving a relationshit for hot; same thing as a chick giving up sex for hot.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/07/20 08:33 PM
-1

This
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/07/20 08:10 PM
30

Yes. Imagine a pack. The females will get social stimulation from each other whilst sharing the alpha male. Beta males are fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/20 07:07 PM
2

Put another way... Productive, successful men have limited availability to share with women. It’s easy to get caught up in a love affair and let it take precedence over life-gains. Instead, one should make known his availability (to the woman) and bail out on time, even if she says she wants to keep fucking. Don’t compromise progress toward your purpose to spend time with a hottie.
/r/askTRP03/07/20 04:21 AM
2

JBP? And I’m with u/jackandjill22. His bullet point and the paragraph above it are pure gold. Pure. Gold.
/r/askTRP03/07/20 04:06 AM
17

Aren’t most states “no-fault,” though.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 03:03 PM
2

This right here could be a post of its own.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/20 01:53 PM
1

Don’t forget their uninhibited access to food and shelter.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/20 01:49 PM
1

Question is not about if it winds up being true; it’s about being said with manipulative intentions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 09:44 PM
1

Throw one in at the end saying “willing to put my years of sexual practice to good use for the right man.”
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/06/20 04:19 PM
6

Burn of the fucking year, right here.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/06/20 04:14 PM
17

maybe, but let’s not detract from u/anti-hypergamist ‘s gem of a comment.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/06/20 04:10 PM
1

No; my question is more along the lines of, “how often is this specific statement used as a means to secure commitment?” (Whether said by a man or woman)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 11:09 PM
1

No different. I’m curious if the people who initiate this type of speak are doing it with manipulative intentions, either conscious or subconsciously. By getting someone to “agree” to this concept, it facilitates the initiator’s ability to keep options open.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 10:22 PM
2

I just can’t help but feel it’s BS in order to ensure I won’t going anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/20 10:17 PM
3

It’s bait for a reaction. You will have to make the tough decision to either proactively cut her out of your life, or not. You may correctly suspect that you still mean something to her. Why else would she care enough to try to traumatize you? This may prompt you to goad her into more drama together by pretending like you don’t care (“haha nice. Make him your bitch!”), or maybe even sending her a pic of you with someone else (doubtful any time soon considering oneitis). But before thinking much …
/r/askTRP21/06/20 09:01 PM
1

Enter white night.
/r/askTRP21/06/20 03:34 PM
1

Khalil Gibran in the House.
/r/TheRedPill21/06/20 03:18 PM
1

This same exact thing happened to me but I married her. Found out she was cheating one month into marriage, if not sooner. Divorce took 1.5yr; included custody negotiations. Get out. Thank GOD.
/r/askTRP20/06/20 09:34 PM
2

OP, valid points on both sides here. My “hot stove” moment was in my marriage. Got divorced. Linked up with a hottie and made it last 1.5 yrs until I realized she was playing the same manipulative game. It was still hard for me to let go, and it is still hard for me to vet properly and not use female validation as a motivator.
/r/MGTOW218/06/20 02:23 PM
2

How in God’s name is this downvoted? Christ intervene.
/r/MGTOW218/06/20 02:36 AM
2

Also applies to any ex who lost interest when it became clear you would not relinquish frame.
/r/TheRedPill18/06/20 12:46 AM
9

u/don_draper27 is on point. I recently answered some questions on a first-date because in general I was being elusive and mysterious. I felt confident to answer her directly and figured idc what she thinks about my response. Thing is, by directly answering her questions without giving her any push-back, I let her think she could swindle frame-control from me. Plus I lost my mystique. So when you get called out for elusiveness, keep having fun with it. Offer information in your own time and way, …
/r/askTRP17/06/20 01:37 AM
15

Maybe dude doesn’t want to fuck something so shallow..
/r/askTRP17/06/20 01:26 AM
2

u/afoolforfools keeps making hard-ass shit sound easy.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/20 01:24 AM
3

“...it...”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 03:29 AM
3

Jealousssss
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 03:28 AM
1

Who says there is anything wrong with going down. People explore the deep blue. So explore.
/r/MGTOW216/06/20 03:19 AM
2

Quality. Can you shed light on the other questions (“How long...”)
/r/TheRedPill16/06/20 03:03 AM
7

Flirt with friend. Ignore date. act like they are tagging along with YOU
/r/askTRP16/06/20 01:14 AM
1

Nice to hear. Based on my “baggage” and thus my experience with women, it seems part of my self-healing is ensuring my frame is what establishes the relationship. Love the idea of the kind of woman who can hear her man (and maintain fidelity/attraction). Just unfamiliar with it and skeptical.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/20 10:19 PM
5

How long were you together when you opened up? When she opened up? When you opened up together? How did sex change afterwards? How is her level of respect towards you?
/r/TheRedPill15/06/20 08:44 PM
6

Whose frame is the relationship built on?
/r/TheRedPill15/06/20 08:16 PM
10

So she will feel better about marrying someone who can’t manage his emotions after she is already locked into marriage and rearing children? How does that open her up to caring about the man’s baggage? Seems like she’d be more concerned about her own, as well as her kids’.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/20 06:11 PM
7

The vulnerability probably made him seem more “attainable.” So the female was able to secure her comfort and more likely controls the relationship frame.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/20 06:08 PM
12

Whose frame is the relationship built on?
/r/TheRedPill15/06/20 06:01 PM
2

Why anyone would laugh at the idea of using a talking-stick is beyond me. Whoever has the stick can talk. Why is this funny? Do they chuckle at the idea because they know it should be easy but really is impossible for them?
/r/TheRedPill15/06/20 05:58 PM
21

Some people really struggle moving on from something like this. Your attitude is positive and you are sharp. Keep going and don’t forget to be grateful that your autonomy is solid.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/20 05:54 PM
3

...”enhancement is better than being alone.” Any girl will be able to see right through this and realize that she is the source of your exuberance.
/r/seduction12/06/20 06:42 PM
1

Thanks.
/r/askTRP11/06/20 07:08 PM
1

We had a talk last night and she admitted this to me shortly after wedding my bed like a whore. “Why are you crawling back to get fucked by someone you don’t respect?” ...she didn’t want to talk about THAT.
/r/askTRP11/06/20 05:05 PM
1

The paradox is that I was really in her frame while committing to exclusivity. That is out the window as my new philosophy is: ”You should be confident enough in your self that you know you are enough for me, and that I wouldn’t need anyone else.” By encouraging FWB or OLTR, it’s removing her comfort which encourages her going elsewhere. But If I provide comfort (while maintaining the boundary above), she will likely interpret as neediness. Solution is simply give less fucks. Simple, not easy.
/r/askTRP11/06/20 05:03 PM
1

This. Thanks.
/r/askTRP11/06/20 04:57 PM
1

Interesting, man. I’ve blocked her for my own benefit when shit gets annoying, but keeping her expelled indefinitely requires more fucks than letting her fuck me (the “crazy one” kind of fucking). Not trying to use TRP tactics to obtain the BP dream. Continuing further down the rabbit hole, being more clear about my boundaries, expectations... not being autistic is the trick though. She herself can’t even tell if she’s shit- or comfort- testing me because I’ve genuinely incorporated giving less …
/r/askTRP11/06/20 04:53 PM
1

I am talking with other women. I’ve done what you said but she gets burner numbers to cold call me or just shows up, which she gets points for.
/r/askTRP11/06/20 04:38 PM
-3

Thanks; I have hard nexted her multiple times. She lasts 3 days. I am still digesting the pill, but this is not a relationship I wish to (continue to) nuke. My goal in this post to to solicit advice about keeping tough (insecure, possessive, controlling) feelings at bay while continuing to reap many benefits.
/r/askTRP11/06/20 04:29 PM
4

Wondering about the shit-/comfort-test dynamic in your relationship. Sounds like you have established overt leadership. Is this correct?
/r/TheRedPill09/06/20 02:34 PM
6

☝🏼if anybody is looking for “concentrate,” it’s right here. Thank you u/noodlestheclown for putting into words a conclusion that takes time, experience and practice in order to realize.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/20 01:35 PM
1

“Alright guys: Jeff, Derek and Steve on Stefanie; Becky takes Dick, Rob and Adam; April and Lena.. on your knees for Jay and me.”
/r/askTRP09/06/20 01:59 AM
1

Women ask for vulnerability and resent a man who has any. It’s the ultimate shit test and I keep failing because I want to believe my girlfriend “cares about me.” A similar example is causing someone to lose all faith in me due to my vulnerable expression of opinion and perspective.
/r/TheRedPill08/06/20 04:26 PM
-1

Thread continues. Just saying.
/r/askMRP08/06/20 01:46 AM
1

Thank you.
/r/askMRP08/06/20 01:43 AM
1

Can you elaborate on how MRP (as opposed to TRP) opens one’s eyes to the inner and outer realms of lying faggotry?
/r/askMRP08/06/20 12:27 AM
3

Yeah; it pisses me off when people put others down for no reason.
/r/askMRP07/06/20 11:17 PM
1

“OP: DGAF, focus on your purpose, and soft or hard next her depending on your tolerance of her behavior. Have a good day and stick to it.” No need to show disrespect to someone looking to bros for guidance and discussion.
/r/askMRP07/06/20 10:37 PM
1

The bullshitting faggots are the ones who act like TRP is some black and white credence that is either mastered or not. You’re either some elite alpha male getting your balls juggled or a beta faggot. Black and white thinking is the faggot bullshit. How are any of you bullshitting faggots helping OP?
/r/askMRP07/06/20 10:35 PM
1

I mean he’s basically asking the right question, bit just doesn’t realize that focusing on his purpose and DNGAF is the same as nexting. I thought this was supposed to be a community, not shit on people who are seeking input.
/r/askMRP07/06/20 09:38 PM
2

Can you explain the dog analogy? I’m not following it but it sounds gold.
/r/askMRP07/06/20 08:51 PM
-3

Disagree. Owning his shit with IDGAF attitude essentially is nexting her, so OP is on track. Thread continues...
/r/askMRP07/06/20 07:38 PM
1

Don’t think she is red pilling him; the mix of hypergamy and hamstering makes it seem like she’s aware of what motivates her behavior. She’s not.
/r/askMRP07/06/20 06:56 PM
10

Yeah, OP should wait until after he’s married to uncover his woman’s excuses for avoiding sex.
/r/askMRP07/06/20 06:55 PM
5

This right here. But I say next her indefinitely until she comes back. What’s more, block her and make her figure out a more tactical way to get back into your life. I sardonically told my girl via text that I cry myself to sleep every night without her. Pretty sure she thinks I was serious. Jokes on her. But yeah, I still miss her and want her to come back, but not as much as I am willing to take accountability for and improve my own SMV.
/r/askMRP07/06/20 06:54 PM
1

Don’t overtly next her, but own your shit and let the chips fall where they may. If she tries to control frame, just don’t get pulled off your course.
/r/askMRP07/06/20 06:44 PM
-4

These comments are dickish. I think it’s a solid question. I just nexted my 1.5yr LTR who I’m in love with as an attempt to cure oneitis. It became evident she wanted frame and so did i. Overt leadership is my latest game. It sucks, I miss her, but supplicating is not an option.
/r/askMRP07/06/20 06:43 PM
3

OP thanks you for your helpfulness. Not.
/r/askMRP07/06/20 06:40 PM
1

Mid 30s. Are you saying that part of my messed-up views is needing to make myself feel better by finding someone fun and nice to spend my life with?
/r/TheRedPill07/06/20 02:33 PM
1

Fair rebuttal. Just let go and let them come back. See I agree it’s not with the hassle, but at the same time, by letting go, she’s free to return at any time. Supplication to her at any level, even sex, becomes where the long-term investment loses its value.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/20 06:04 AM
3

Add this to sidebar!! Nice to read a write-up from myself. Thanks.
/r/ExRedPill05/06/20 06:06 PM
11

Figure out what drives you and figure out how to monetize it. Most people who work beneath someone else seem unhappy. But stay focused on the drive, not the money. Money is a byproduct of having created value. Create value for yourself Share this value with others Receive financial gains from value you share.
/r/askTRP05/06/20 04:49 PM
1

Huh huh... cool. Hey, baybeh.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/20 03:16 AM
2

Being fat is unattractive. Being fit is attractive. Wow, OP.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/20 02:55 AM
1

TLDR: you saying, “I deserve clarity,” means she has the keys to your clarity. Why would anyone date someone who didn’t already have (and maintain) clarity?
/r/askTRP02/06/20 11:21 AM
2

One day it clicked that the best first date is always inviting the other to join you for something you’re already planning to do (or would do anyway) on your own.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/20 04:32 PM
3

No. She’ll just think he’s turned into an asshole or that she’s not able to maintain the stud. OP keeping dread passive is paramount. It’s tempting to flaunt progress but it will backfire. In a LTR, the love vibe has to remain strong. OP should be proud of himself for his progress, and consider any adaptation on his wife’s part as a bonus.
/r/askMRP29/05/20 04:12 AM
5

Don’t forget that going Rambo will nuke the marriage and do not be afraid to proactively offer comfort throughout your frame grab. Keep making progress and let the dread remain passive. Imagine a point in time in the future where she willingly, voluntarily, optimistically and lovingly submits to your frame. Let her realize it’s in her best interest, let her come to it in her own time. By holding the above image in your mind, you can provide ample comfort without it being a blow to your ego.
/r/askMRP29/05/20 04:09 AM
1

Thank you for the explanation. Makes sense. Certain things from porn I might aspire to bring into the bedroom, but I also think the aftercare and understanding of the psychological components turns the “derogatory, heinous” sex acts into more of a mutually agreed upon performance/“play”.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/20 03:59 PM
1

Isn’t sound of music a musical? How was MT a scumbag?
/r/ExRedPill28/05/20 06:03 AM
1

Opposite cause MT was real.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/20 05:57 AM
2

Jesus Christ that is beautiful.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/20 04:51 AM
2

Wrong sub; good luck.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/20 04:50 AM
1

Elegantly put; I’m so glad this comment was written. I’d like to add that this girl technically is not an asshole; she’s just being honest about how she feels. But let’s say everything is the same minus his vulnerable admission... A dominant dude like that who’s not willing/able to be vulnerable would likely have other issues that instead of being shared openly would somehow come back to bite this chick in the ass. Good on the bro, and good on her for being honest. She can go ahead and leave him…
/r/ExRedPill28/05/20 04:48 AM
1

I like your comment. But how does porn skew the mind into unrealistic expectations? Yes, porn is not “vanilla,” but how does that make it unrealistic? Personally, I am trying to coalesce the dominant male/submissive female (kinky sex) vibe with the communicative/empathetic partnership vibe. I seek to bring these two elements together like two sides of the same coin. Excessive focus on kink neglects companionship. Excessive focus on companionship diminishes tingles (for the man and woman).
/r/ExRedPill28/05/20 04:36 AM
2

I haven’t left but I’m getting there. Here’s why: “killing the beta” is synonymous with “killing the provider.” Wanting to provide for someone is not beta. Chads are wholesome.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/20 04:19 AM
4

Holy shit
/r/ExRedPill28/05/20 04:12 AM
3

High value men are on their purpose, yes. But a woman can facilitate and encourage his progression towards such. So, does a man “only have time to string along” a woman because he is so busy, or, could a man and woman actually form a symbiotic relationship where each of them pushes each other towards their purpose? Comments?
/r/ExRedPill28/05/20 03:43 AM
8

She’s not throwing him away; she’s actually encouraging him. She just doesn’t want to hang out with him. She’s protecting herself from becoming invested in something that doesn’t serve her.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/20 03:11 AM
1

Bingo was his name-o. (This 👆🏼)
/r/askTRP27/05/20 10:05 PM
-1

It helps to have a good cry.
/r/TheRedPill26/05/20 08:01 PM
0

ps- gotta clean out her gutters asap.
/r/TheRedPill26/05/20 07:59 PM
2

I will concede that a truly RP’d man may garner enough respect from a woman that she seeks to empower and better him (because it in turn benefits her). I’ve not experienced this yet.
/r/TheRedPill26/05/20 07:56 PM
2

Nice.
/r/askTRP23/05/20 05:30 AM
2

Ok. But part of sexual strategy is not giving af and staying true to purpose. What turns her off in the short term very well be what’s required in order to maintain attraction long term. In other words, don’t supplicate. If a woman knows you’re making moves to impress her then it doesn’t count. A man has to do what pleases himself regardless of female attention or validation. To me, that’s one of the deeper lessons of TRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/20 07:55 PM
14

How do you resist women with daddy issues?
/r/TheRedPill19/05/20 06:45 AM
2

Same story. I didn’t want an “open relationship” mere months after our marriage so I filed. But had I accepted the opportunity, we likely would have made it.
/r/TheRedPill19/05/20 12:13 AM
2

Great idea. Here.
/r/TheRedPill19/05/20 12:11 AM
6

Most underrated comment.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 11:42 PM
1

Be more attractive and less unattractive.
/r/askTRP17/05/20 12:56 AM
1

Striving.
/r/askTRP10/05/20 09:25 PM
1

You are talking about her like she’s a girlfriend. If you aren’t willing to commit, be ready for her to fuck other guys and flaunt it in front of you to try to make you jealous. If you react, she will have called your bluff on keeping things casual. If you don’t, she’ll keep falling in love with you. So you’re in a bind. My vote is that you have feelings for her but don’t realize it.
/r/askTRP09/05/20 02:57 PM
1

Out of curiosity, who filed the initial petition?
/r/askMRP08/05/20 06:56 PM
1

correction: I misread the end of your comment. If the EOTTJCBTMtm sex in no way would change your opinion of the divorce, why bother? But wait, if you have never had this kind of sex before then you are entering into a whole new ballgame. As you continue to increase your value as a masculine force, her sex would continue to be at that level at which point you may *actually want to reconsider the divorce. Why not consider divorce your failure for not delivering her with life-shattering orgasms? I…
/r/askMRP07/05/20 04:20 AM
1

Are you able to fuck her like a whore without letting your emotions get in the way? And then continuing to do that? Without caring if (when) she pulls away to test you? How we deal with their withdrawals says more about us and our intentions than it does about them.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 04:03 AM
4

Agreed. At a certain point, too much stoicism is weak.
/r/askTRP06/05/20 03:21 PM
2

Flipping the script and being the one to provide shit tests instead of passing them...
/r/askTRP06/05/20 03:21 PM
2

Dude If you can’t imagine a good woman to have kids with, then don’t do it. Improve yourself until quality women present that option. Duh.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 04:53 AM
20

Improve your confidence. Also, my dad was 45 when I was born and he was my baseball coach, bowling buddy, etc. Stop making excuses for being weak. You shouldn’t want to be with her if she wants to be with a lower version of yourself than you are capable of. Choose to stay with her because she is your best option, not your only option. Choose her because she makes you want to be better. If she doesn’t make you feel that way, you especially should not want to be with her.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 04:46 AM
3

She will be able to smell if you stay with her because of your lack of options, so even if you stay, you are going to need to game up. Either way, you would need to game up, so don’t “stay” thinking it’s the best you can do. This strategy will backfire because either she’ll smell your desperation or if not, she will observe it. So either way you are going to need to improve yourself. If you decide to stay, you better be confident that you’d be able to pull a better replacement if she were decide…
/r/askMRP06/05/20 04:42 AM
1

I appreciate this, especially the first paragraph. I checked myself there and you are 💯about leadership.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 12:18 AM
-1

Save the apologies only for when they are warranted and you are willing to make the necessary changes to improve (for yourself, not for her). It sounds like you did that, and that your wife respects you. Being overt about your captain position, and her acceptance of it, puts you leaps and bounds ahead of most, some of whom may be your critics.
/r/askMRP05/05/20 01:23 AM
-5

I disagree with a lot of the commenters here. Sometimes a woman needs to feel a man stand up to her. It’s ok to consider your tact and how you assert your leadership, but if she responded to “I like a wife who is happy being second to me because she knows I got this...” if she accepted that and followed it up with “I’ll try to shut the fuck up from now on and let your angry ass dominate mine as well as this relationship,” I’d say you are fucking golden. Work on how you uphold your boundaries wit…
/r/askMRP05/05/20 01:03 AM
4

This. One day after prolonged success w/ stfu, I realized my game would be better if more words came out my mouth hole. This applied to texts, too. It was tough. I’d say the wrong stuff a lot and go back to stfu. But with practice, I learned what u/man_in_the_world mentions here. It’s a balancing act. Knowing when to express emotions, especially negative ones, is paramount. 100% true that negative emotions expressed w/ OI at the right moment is exactly what’s called for, and is appreciated by wo…
/r/askMRP17/03/20 01:57 PM
1

TRP is not about getting puss. It’s about becoming the best you can be, offering women a masculine frame for them to relax into. If you are trying in any way to appease women in order to get puss, you’ve already lost.
/r/askTRP16/03/20 02:06 AM
1

Best sex ever. Will distract from your purpose making you a bitch. Great experience to learn frame and develop self-validation.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/20 04:30 PM
5

Great responses here OP. I’ll add: use the process of improving yourself as an opportunity to remind yourself how real and awesome you are. This helps solidify in your mind the mindset that you are the prize, that she was just ignorant/dumb to not support/encourage you as you grow, and all of this helps go no contact. I’ve read before that if you handle the breakup properly, they always come back. It’s because the mindset mentioned above is high value. If she gets a whiff of the idea that you ar…
/r/askTRP14/03/20 01:43 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/askTRP13/03/20 05:33 PM
1

I feel this. Had LTR 1yr with a ClusterB slutTM Rocked my fucking worldview. All TRP-inspired game sustained this glory for a year. We are currently at a standoff, as she intuits that anyone who “loves” her is a loser, and that only a shithead would want to be with her. It’s obviously a flawed outlook.
/r/askTRP13/03/20 04:29 PM
8

BROS, if everything falls apart, we’ll just build forts, grow crops, and trade with each other. Can’t you guys just feel that? THAT’S what feelings are for, ladies. This is what we do. Survive. WITHOUT GODDAMN TOILET PAPER.
/r/askMRP13/03/20 04:23 PM
1

In other words, she’s not just using me for sex and validation. She actually likes and respects me outside of the bedroom, wants to serve me, etc. I guess I just answered my own question. Improve SMV and attract higher quality women.
/r/askTRP13/03/20 03:14 PM
1

Again, by slut I mean dirty girl.
/r/askTRP13/03/20 03:13 PM
1

I’m a “bad daddy” 😈 but I self-validate. Aren’t there likewise “bad”/“good” girls who don’t rely on sex for validation, but are still “sluts” for someone they respect?
/r/askTRP13/03/20 03:10 PM
1

Well said. To clarify, when I say “slut,” I’m referring more to the sexually liberated dirty little girl, as opposed to the girl who uses sex as her main means of validation.
/r/askTRP13/03/20 01:50 PM
1

Me. I have questions. Plz pm me, Uncle u/itiswr1tten
/r/TheRedPill12/03/20 12:49 AM
15

How did this parenting tactic influence your sexual and/or relational decisions as an adolescent and adult?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 11:06 PM
2

Dude
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/20 06:01 PM
1

I mean this is why the number one tenet of TRP is to lift, bro.
/r/ExRedPill11/03/20 05:51 PM
1

This and u/hopeunseen both have great points. I concur with both and would summarize as: Make sure that while you are gaming your wife, it’s fun and within your frame. Until your frame is solid and you can ensure she is operating within your frame (translation: she has submitted to you after the main event), until then, focus on your self and your frame so the place in which she will need to rest (that you build) is solid and secure.
/r/RPChristians10/03/20 08:52 PM
2

You seen that Seinfeld? Boss (to indulgent George): Hey George, the ocean called and said they’re running out of shrimp!! (Laughter ensues). George (days later): Yeah? The jerk store called and said they’re running out of YOU! (Laughter does not ensue). Be in flow state enough to offer a jovial retort. If the moment passes without a natural comeback, let it go and stay present with your social game so next time maybe you can snap back.
/r/askMRP10/03/20 08:38 PM
3

Comforting her about her cognitive dissonance could potentially come off to her (subconsciously) as Agree & Amplify. This may rattle her hamster even further, actually causing more histrionics. She’s so used to being able to emotionally manipulate others that she’s confused as to why it’s not working. Why does that deserve comfort? OP, I’m guessing you’ve not yet had your Main Event? Stoicism wins here. I think it’s actually a less Rambo tactic and will lead more gradually to the Main Event.
/r/askTRP08/03/20 11:06 PM
0

So even if he takes you back, you’ll still be throwing fitness tests at him. That’s the tricky part. Another commenter mentioned to proceed with caution. A good angle to consider because you don’t want to be taken advantage of, but at the same time, it’s the submission which will get you back in the door. You might consider telling him upfront that you want to submit to him and that you’re willing to try. He may need you to spell out what “trying” looks like on your part, and I think that’s vali…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/20 01:14 AM
1

To what extent are you willing to (trust and) submit to him?
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/20 12:50 AM
6

Another commenter mentioned his “RP programming.” Considering his RP programming, you should be the one to reach out (since he won’t/“shouldn’t”). A woman’s strength is in her submission. Reach out to him and report back plz!
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/20 12:28 AM
7

Agree
/r/askTRP07/03/20 11:53 PM
1

This response has good information but dissing OP is unnecessary. Without OP’s “meaningless and counterproductive post,” you’d have no reason to respond to it with wisdom.
/r/askTRP07/03/20 11:49 PM
1

The classification helps. Harping on the feelings/situation may simply be a symptom of being a Crazy-widower.
/r/askTRP07/03/20 06:15 PM
0

if they have BPD, sex*
/r/askTRP07/03/20 05:53 PM
1

Also.. “mouthpiece?”
/r/askTRP06/03/20 03:40 AM
2

Right on. My two cents: test women.
/r/askTRP06/03/20 03:39 AM
1

This is an interesting point. Consider the first round NFL draft pick mentioned above. What kind of shit tests was he facing? Most likely just anal.
/r/askTRP06/03/20 03:34 AM
2

When she realizes her other dudes are either unattainable or weak.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 11:55 PM
0

Should he need a scapegoat in the future, he could return to OP, so long as she’d still have him. 😬
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 04:31 AM
1

His broke up with you resembles a Japanese honor suicide. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honor_suicide
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/20 04:24 AM
2

Comment saved.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 12:00 AM
2

Exactly. Don’t give up on your needs by settling. He will love to dom and will appreciate you doing it on occasion. If you love him, you should (correct me if I’m wrong) be able to find joy in it during those rare/special occasions.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/20 04:34 AM
6

Step outside your comfort zone and let him be sub 10% of the time, or less, or whatever.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/20 04:07 AM
31

Deceit is a beta characteristic due to fear of consequences.
/r/TheRedPill26/02/20 09:24 PM
9

What. In. The. Fuck......
/r/askTRP22/02/20 06:23 AM
3

Holy crap, well said, to say the least.
/r/askTRP22/02/20 06:15 AM
6

Brooooooo... 😮
/r/askTRP22/02/20 06:09 AM
18

Important point to remember, thanks. Sometimes getting the date is harder than escalating. Consider forgetting about “dates” and invite her only to activities you’d do on your own, anyway. This removes any effort of seduction on your part. And this mentality sets you up to vet her from your very first approach to determine in which way she may best fit into your hobbies and lifestyle. Internalize this and it’s much easier to approach and vet from the get-go.
/r/TheRedPill21/02/20 10:37 PM
2

Rollo Tomassi is my dad now.
/r/askMRP19/02/20 05:23 AM
1

Brodin help us!
/r/RPChristians19/02/20 05:21 AM
1

Thanks for the clarification. I’m following you a bit... my ex was a former cheater and maybe “cheated” on me too. I always covertly dared her to leave me which is why she couldn’t. Finally, she stole my phone and spent all night finding a piece of evidence I had been on tinder. She flipped. Early in the relationship she was paranoid about cheating which was a flag. Didn’t bother me though; I proceeded. Her reaction to my browsing tinder (no meetups) was so intense that it drew blood. Overreacti…
/r/askMRP18/02/20 05:26 PM
1

Yes, OP should definitely be talking to many, many girls.
/r/askMRP18/02/20 07:20 AM
1

Bro, I would love if you could expound on what it means to be a cake eater. That sounds like some far out psychology shit with varying interpretations. Wife is crying and begging to keep around a dad, a provider, and a teddy bear. Not because OP has transformed himself to higher value. The “please don’t leave me sex” will taper off when she begins to wonder how nice that may actually be. I’m not sure if a woman “gives” a threesome. Seems more like something a man initiates?
/r/askMRP18/02/20 07:16 AM
3

OP should be gaming chicks and planning his first 3some for when his cheating whore of a wife is begging him not to leave her (as opposed to him checking her phone).
/r/askMRP17/02/20 09:41 PM
2

Not if his redefined character and physique elicit dread, bro.
/r/askMRP17/02/20 09:40 PM
2

Thank you for helping me find the point! I agree he has to sacrifice some self-respect in the short term. But a man with a cheating wife can’t just point the finger at her. He never should have been so attached that it would matter that much, anyway. Come on now. He could get there eventually if he puts in the time and work, and may be able to avoid divorce rape, custody battle, etc. Worst case scenario: he gets time to plan his divorce if that’s what he decides. If she loses respect for him for…
/r/askMRP17/02/20 09:38 PM
1

OP, I don’t know how “IwantToHelp” is helping you here. Msg me and I can tell you what I learned from my cheating wife, the divorce (and custody), and the Red Pill knowledge that followed. You can do this. u/justthetipbro22
/r/askMRP17/02/20 09:34 PM
2

He should use the cheating merely as a wake up call about TRP, and better himself for himself. If he chooses to keep her after he demonstrates higher value than her, then that would be his decision based on his desire for his life, which it sounds like is being a nuclear family. Maybe he’ll self-improve and decide to bail 🤷‍♂️ His choice. He doesn’t really have either of these options right now. He has to look inward and accept whatever/whoever she is in the meantime (because he’s too busy worki…
/r/askMRP17/02/20 09:28 PM
2

One can not file for divorce to win his wife back bro. Re-read his request.
/r/askMRP17/02/20 09:25 PM
2

Disagree. He can reinvent himself. It will take time and tons of work. Part of this work will be accepting that she is a cheater, and being ok with it by knowing (becoming) her best option. That is hard to do, especially knowing she could be (and likely is) fooling around, but OP can focus on himself and build himself into that person. Not for her, but to be the best version of himself. As he sees what he’s capable of with other women, he may even become less interested in his wife which of cour…
/r/askMRP17/02/20 08:59 PM
3

She’s just treating you now, trying keep you “around.” It’s not over. You need stop checking her phone. You should e worried that she might look at your phone. The only way to genuinely turn this around is to flirt, get numbers, and slowly hint over time that your game is tight. You need to genuinely be ready to replace her. She will find this attractive.
/r/askMRP17/02/20 08:43 PM
1

When she asked if you were the strong silent type, she subconsciously wanted a yes but on the surface wanted a no. Answering that question at all (or not being sure what she wanted you to say) is problematic. You’re either not her type (she’s used to strong and silent), or, you are her type (which is “so not what she needs”). So in that scenario, your best bet was to deflect confidently. “We’ll have to see”, or “depends on how you behave” would be good responses to her bait of “you’re not one of…
/r/seduction15/02/20 06:31 AM
1

Note- I cant imagine a female wanting to lock you into an LTR while you are out gaming, but if you’re asking how to keep a plate a plate, then remember that you can’t be afraid for a plate to fall and break (abundance, dgaf, purpose), and... Always DARE, never DEER. There are “escalation points” in any relationship. If you allow escalation, it’s easier to get locked in. So always DARE. And remember that ambiguity sparks attraction. So balance your beta tendencies with your capacity to flirt (def…
/r/TheRedPill31/12/19 07:08 PM
3

Yes; know this and feel this in its truth. One should not simply “tell himself” this.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/19 06:46 PM
2

Not married; separate residences.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/19 06:42 PM
1

You’ll have to pass on women wanting to hook up (trim) with you in favor of ensuring their personality aligns with what you want (pre-qualifying them).
/r/ExRedPill11/11/19 02:17 AM
12

I read once, “it’s not ‘feeling’ that’s weak; it’s what we do with that feeling.” Just like any other pursuit, your goals and objectives are evolving. Keep what has worked in the past if it fits with the “new you.” I think the biggest challenge you’ll face is turning down trim in the name of pre-qualifying women who match the personality you are looking for.
/r/ExRedPill07/11/19 12:19 AM
2

You’re an asshole for giving yourself a B. There was nothing better you could do besides hold frame, which you obviously did (as well as Amused Mastery). Appreciate the story, as I’ll hold frame sometimes, feeling kind of shitty inside as GF (we each have a kid from before) scolds me for something, withholds affection and goes to bed. I’ll just read or whatever (not react), and next day everything is fine. So your story exemplifies for me how the shit tests, however strong and brutal, are nothin…
/r/askMRP12/09/19 08:35 PM
10

Distinguishing between comfort- and shit-tests, I’ve learned, is imperative. To the point where I will make sure to at least make a conscious decision about which way I am going to play it. In other words: I won’t waver between giving comfort and showing amused mastery. At the very least, she can rely on me to follow through with my own choice about how to respond to her. I’ve also learned that there can, actually, be a mix. For example, you can stay in your frame, part of which is letting her k…
/r/askMRP02/08/19 03:13 AM
10

Yes. Focus on your self; study TRP and be ready to take accountability for your SMV. Done properly, you may be able to maintain the family. Focus on your SMV and don’t project your disappointment about her intrigue in other men onto her. Use it as motivation to better yourself and keep studying TRP.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 02:59 PM
10

You seem to say you’re not interested in sex, but then suggest being sexual. I will say, the kiss emoji is great when she can’t tell if it means “Go fuck your self; I don’t give a shit about whatever you said,” or, “‘Night, hon!”
/r/askMRP01/08/19 01:24 AM
1

Demoting is the way because you can keep the plate, and it assures the woman you don’t get butt hurt. This kind of bounce-back on your part could set you up for something more substantial in the future if you give it a go. It can take time to lay the right foundation. Letting a woman know you can demote her without “ending things forever” keeps your frame strong and throws it right in her face. “You thought I cared so much that I wouldn’t still be able to bang you? PSH” Her: “Wait, what?”
/r/askTRP31/07/19 08:07 PM
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This may be true. I’ve been in a similar situation, went no contact, and figured this was a possibility. However, part of the soft next is assuming this may be happening. If reconciliation occurs, there is a bit of an implicit downgrade (back to plate status). I think women want to make sure you’re always still capable of spinning her.
/r/askTRP30/07/19 11:45 AM
22

Before sex “why don’t you go freshen up.”
/r/askTRP29/07/19 12:41 AM
1

Great points, thanks. I’m not trusting her about the STDs though. Assuming we both got tested and are clear, I’d still be apprehensive and I’m not sure why.
/r/askTRP26/07/19 01:47 PM
7

My opinion is that I want to pump her ass full of cum but I’m nervous about unprotected anal, so I’m seeking advice/experience from the community.
/r/askTRP26/07/19 01:01 PM
5

I’d love if this were its own thread. So I had a soft harem and ultimately let it go because LTRing the queen of the pack was worth it. As LTR dudes will say: she made my life better and motivated me to be better. So I went for it. I quickly learned (out of necessity) to pass her comfort tests. That’s all she threw at me. And... You’re right. Eventually the attachment comes. In the back of my mind, I always reminded myself to maintain the attitude of her as “plate.” But with time and many life e…
/r/TheRedPill20/07/19 08:09 PM
18

Best oneitis description and prescription right here.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/19 07:58 PM
1

Be so bad in owing your own life that smoking is like an after thought for you. Make this obvious. Without saying it explicitly, make it clear that you get a buzz naturally off your freaking awesome life. Similarly, I go to church and I DGAF what anyone thinks because I’m awesome and church helps me be more awesome. Eventually I’m seen as the girls dirty little church boy 🤷‍♂️
/r/askTRP17/07/19 09:55 PM
1

Regardless, you should interpret it as an IOI, and be sure to respond appropriately (don’t lose frame by answering objectively.) “Why? You finally got the courage to ask me out?” “Nothing official; lots of girls are after me, kind of like you” “Lots”
/r/askTRP17/07/19 09:52 PM
2

Refuse to fight. Just refuse. Study Gandhi. Let him get his rocks off elsewhere if you want to maintain hope that you and him are on the same team. You’re right: if you keep it up (even at his asking, kind of like a shit test) the relationship will gradually erode. Either he’ll win one time and think even more highly of himself, or he won’t and then will just resent you. Be neutral. Don’t fight. He’ll fight others and will win some and will lose some. You have to navigate this more carefully, an…
/r/askTRP17/07/19 09:49 PM
5

Be proud of meeting your own needs. Develop an attitude of self-confidence as you develop game and social proof. She needs to become attracted to you for sex, not obligated to it. It will take time and work, but the gains will come as you more and more take full accountability for how you feel and ultimately, the state of your sexless marriage.
/r/RPChristians17/07/19 03:02 PM
2

True, and I’m not advocating for LTR if it’s not what a man wants. Also, it’s important to distinguish caliber of plates. Notice, OP, I said “keep the LTR spinning”. Even though there is more vulnerability and emotion (because eventually they can be communicated as indicators of strength), I always keep myself in check and remind myself she is still a woman and she can be replaced. That her walking away would be an opportunity for me (as well as for another woman). It would be worth celebrating.…
/r/TheRedPill16/07/19 08:50 PM
2

Agreed. When I no longer felt the need to spin plates, and felt I could comfortably enter into an LTR without losing abundance & dgaf mindset, I felt I reached a higher level. There was no concern regarding re-establishing a line-up quickly. In other words, the plates didn’t need to be kept around out of fear of what OP calls “the inevitable.” Prior to this, I was weary of LTRs due to lacking an abundance mindset, even though I was spinning more plates than I could count. In other words, if you …
/r/TheRedPill16/07/19 08:37 PM
2

Even if you got in an LTR, it would be doomed because you are seeking it so desperately, like it defines you or provides you with validation. The only way to maintain a LTR is to have a DGAF and abundance mentality. “How to approach wife?” It’s not 1950. Women are empowered now and don’t want or need husbands (except to leech off of and/or emasculate them). Thus you have to be awesome, so awesome that you are desire-able. Are you desired? No? So work on that. Let the women come. Then, let the wo…
/r/askMRP16/07/19 04:06 AM
1

Be blunt about it upfront so he knows your standards and boundaries. You don’t want to waste anyone’s time, including your own. So just be upfront since it’s a major sticking point. No need to mention it so soon that it comes off as like a bad thing, but somewhere between after the first or second date. After third, he may be “expecting” it, so make it clear after the second (or before confirming the third date.)
/r/RPChristians15/07/19 03:34 AM
4

Happy happy dance time bc you don’t have kids. Dude. CELEBRATE. This is truly amazing. What an idiot that she denied the college you offered to pay for. She could have bettered herself and then divorce-raped you, but instead you can strategically plan your exit. Congrats!
/r/askTRP13/07/19 01:30 AM
1

If you’re not broken, you don’t need saving. So do as you wish, but risk losing everything you’ve built, family-wise (and thus financially and socially as well). If your marriage falls apart, you may at that time become broken and will then lean into Jesus. Funny little paradox. If it’s not worth the risk, pray and celebrate and rejoice for all of the positives in your life, and relish your alpha-ness in those (great kids, career, committed wife), and start treating your wife more like a... coug…
/r/RPChristians10/07/19 10:59 PM
1

Don’t feel bad. Been there. It’s part of the process. Check out alpha male strategies on YouTube. He always emphasizes your purpose as priority. Keep this in mind: women shit-test because they figure “if he can’t even handle my irrational storms of emotion, how could he ever handle life’s shit storms?” In other words, never lean on a woman. It’s their role to lean on us. I’m in a church group to vent/open up/share emotion, and it’s with other MEN.
/r/askTRP10/07/19 02:40 PM
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Eventually you’ll become so hardened by red pill reality, that the only place left to go is showing vulnerability, because being open about it is the only place you have left to go to demonstrate strength. It’s crazy- like once a woman realizes you have abundance and dgaf, then what used to be considered “weak” (for a blue pillar) is actually perceived as strength (since you’ve demonstrated you’re unshakeable frame).
/r/askTRP10/07/19 02:31 PM
7

Love seeing TRP linked directly with scripture. Hard core.
/r/RPChristians10/07/19 05:06 AM
20

Next time he saw her she had a nose ring. The end.
/r/askTRP03/07/19 05:01 AM
4

Who is Uncle V please?
/r/askTRP03/07/19 04:59 AM
44

Dude, they hooked up first and then she opened up about being bi. She is not your gf hooking up with a girl on the side. You are the side piece boy toy. Stop calling her your girlfriend. Demote her, keep the physical fun if you can. Let her know (by letting it come up naturally in conversation; don’t tell her overtly) that she has been demoted because you’re not dumb and you know she’s hooking up blah blah whatever, but you’re cool keeping it casual. It might spark her attention/interest knowing…
/r/askTRP03/07/19 04:57 AM
1

This motherfucker. Listen to this motherfucker.
/r/askTRP01/07/19 07:58 PM
3

You can’t, unless you have leverage. Which you don’t because a) she’s out of town and b) she knows you’re upset. So you need to be building your attitudes of DGAF and abundance. This is opportunity for you to strengthen frame and work on your self, so that you are a better man when she returns. You should be in better shape, have better job prospects, be more enlightened or educated when she gets back... not worried about why she texted late. Be more attractive and your issue goes away.
/r/askMRP01/07/19 04:20 AM
0

Ok man, so you need to play the long game here. Get ready: Start cutting your hours at work. You’re setting the precedent (which is all the courts care about: “precedent”) that you make the money and she watches the kids. Fight this by transforming your coparenting relationship to that of “50/50” and be able to prove it is such. She will shit test you to make more money; call you a loser, etc. Its all so she can divorce rape you later and get custody, child support, alimony. Be smart. Tip the sc…
/r/askMRP01/07/19 03:29 AM
1

This is correct. In divorce, proving a parent unfit is near impossible without evidence of physical abuse. Oh so you got photos of her drinking around the kids? Not enough. OP is correct in this. Stop ragging on him.
/r/askMRP01/07/19 03:18 AM
1

So yeah dude, I’m in my first LTR after swallowing TRP and I’ve noticed some differences about myself that I’ve not explicitly read about in TRP theory, but these behaviors have naturally manifested as a result of internalizing TRP. A lot has to do with validation. For example, I don’t reach out to hold hands, unless I’m conscious that I’m providing her with comfort. In no way should you be seeking validation. Note: men’s group at church helps. You can get shit off your chest without “venting” t…
/r/askMRP24/06/19 04:51 AM
2

https://ladyimperium.wordpress.com/2014/11/04/a-plate-is-the-equivalent-of-a-female-beta-orbiter-do-not-be-a-plate/
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 11:59 PM
2

I’m a single dad. The parenting agreement is everything. Essentially, the woman is exploiting fem-centric society and your own child as leverage against you. I know a bro whose soon-to-be ex-wife is brainwashing the child to think she “misses mommy” so that she the kid will get less time with Dad all so Mom can maximize child support payments to her. How sick is that. I remember when my ex wanted to bring our kid into court with her (even though I was with the kid just as often) on one of her pa…
/r/askTRP16/06/19 10:39 PM
1

Right, it’s like your chasing her validation instead of being excited about the opportunity to grow/expand.
/r/askTRP14/06/19 06:53 PM
0

Hey man I’ve heard this before and maybe it could work for you..? Maintain your commitment/monogamy, but encourage her to see others. The idea I read about is to teach/show her the benefits of the very thing you are seeking, but in a way that allows her to experience it on her terms and in her own time, knowing you are still being faithful. Once she gets into “the swing of it,” the idea is her comfort level will be up and then you’ll have freed your self to pursue others honestly while keeping h…
/r/TheRedPill14/06/19 06:25 PM
12

I’m surprised the link between MGTOW and TRP isn’t acknowledged as a bridge and a positive, like two tribes that trade with each other. PUA kind of led me to MGTOW which led me to TRP. In my mind, there is fluid connection, notably: MGTOW helps cultivate DGAF attitude, which can be used to attract women not out of need, but actually a form of abundance (not with women, but joy in life). A woman in that scenario is not a goal or a necessity, but a byproduct of self-fulfilling living. *note: I’m b…
/r/TheRedPill14/06/19 03:02 AM
1

So what happened (why’s she your “ex”)?
/r/askTRP14/06/19 02:53 AM
3

Well fuck, like my friend The Beast said (r.i.p. cous), “that’s my problem... I like the crazy ones.” All my other plates just seem boring or easy. Is the solution just “more plates?” Do you guys recommend starting from scratch and seeking higher SMV plates, or returning to the harem I have in place? Another part of me is saying just focus on mission/purpose for a while, and forget everyone, but that’s hard to do when my old plates and a new one or two are hitting me up.
/r/askTRP10/06/19 03:02 AM
4

TLDR: Procuring the devotion of a girl like this feels like “winning” the game. Thank you. I understand. She actually did “stalk” me when I disengaged first, and I stupidly put my other plates on hold and entertained her for a week. She told me about her ex-“bf” and how he was sending flowers, candy, toys for her daughter (saw the pic), showed up sobbing and drunk at her place... Though I’m red-pilled enough to know how bluepill orbiter that is, I’m currently doubting my game as I realize I did …
/r/askTRP10/06/19 12:09 AM
1

Why not just maintain frame? Genuine question as BPDs just seem to have a knack for instilling oneitis in there partners.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/19 10:29 PM
4

“Handle it” meaning dealing with insanity in exchange for mind-blowing sex. Doesn’t learning how to deal with insanity, while maintaining the sex, strengthen our frame?
/r/askTRP09/06/19 10:25 PM
1

Powerful words that were hard to swallow but ultimately lifted me up: oneitis is cancer.
/r/askTRP08/06/19 01:51 PM
2

Great scene.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/19 01:10 AM
1

Seminal post. Agreed on the merit badge “3 in a week.” When it dawned on me that had occurred, I looked up “The Perfect Week” episode of How I Met Your Mother. Hilarious. And it’s true, that week changed me. Something clicked in my brain.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/19 09:48 PM
2

I was just worshipping The Man. You seem cool though 😇
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 09:34 PM
5

Jesus Christ... you are my goddamn fuckin hero.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 09:21 PM
1

If you ever give off an air of “should I?” Or “how will she react,” something is already off. Your frame from the get-go is that she finds you attractive. You are just setting the pace and logistics for the seduction.
/r/seduction03/06/19 07:03 PM
7

1) Whoever needs the relationship less is in control. Develop your self professionally in the same manner you do personally; this way you are never afraid to “lose” your job. They’d be afraid to lose you. This is the only way I imagine you could genuinely hold frame without bluffing. The other option is to basically “risk it,” in other words, not have a backup plan, and figure that if they do “let you go” for whatever reason, that you will have the motivation and confidence to get where you need…
/r/askTRP03/06/19 06:52 PM
3

💯
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/06/19 04:21 AM
1

Only because your frame is not sturdy. Improve your fundamentals and it’s not a hassle.
/r/askTRP01/06/19 06:09 PM
1

I disagree with almost all of this. I’ve dated this girl. Three male roommates. The way to look at this bro is as follows: This is an opportunity for you to improve your game. THINK If you can maintain the attraction of a girl with balls this big, just think what that says about you. Bro, I’m guessing this girl’s a freak in bed. You think she gives a shit how you feel about her living with other dudes? “I’m not cool with this” = “I’m intimidated you can do better with one of your roommates’ bigg…
/r/askTRP01/06/19 05:45 PM
1

I’ve struggled with this myself. More masculine strength/dominance, with a clear path to the door is the best advice I can offer on this, as of my current experience-level. I’d love to hear others weigh in on this.
/r/askTRP01/06/19 05:34 PM
1

Kinda, but don’t say this explicitly. And she shouldn’t be hearing from you. When she contacts you, just remember: she’s testing to see how much free attention she can get. Just remember that bro. “How much energy can I sap from this guy without sex?” I’ve been in a similar situation and what helped me was the idea that if she wanted me for sex, then it would happen. So what did I do? Hit the gym and kept myself busy. Also I read this: “if a woman is interested in you, you’ll know. If she’s not,…
/r/askTRP01/06/19 05:29 PM
2

She wanted to f-close when she showed up in the sexy outfit. Now she’s testing you for beta attention since you didn’t escalate properly. Soft next. Wait for her to contact you and indicate via your texts that you are a sexual man.
/r/askTRP01/06/19 05:25 PM
2

No, they are not. I myself literally can not tell if you were being self-depracating (“I can’t control myself”) as a flirt or a warning. When she arrived dressed like that, you could have had her. So yeah man, she was DTF by showing up like that but you lovey-dovey’d yourself right out of the bedroom.
/r/askTRP01/06/19 05:23 PM
0

Good question OP. Just thinking out loud: I’d probably agree and amplify the catcalls, essentially mocking them for thinking they have a chance. This could theoretically diffuse the situation without your needing to “intervene” on behalf of your bro. In terms of making the right choice, I wouldn’t sweat it. Sounds like he’s more your GFs friends BF, not your actual bro. But he’s still kind of like a bro, and bros, IMO, should always give each other the chance to handle their own shit.
/r/askTRP01/06/19 05:19 PM
3

If it were me, I’d say she’s recruiting you for attention. Make sure she gets none. Better to actually have natural abundance than to exude charm and charisma while around her. Sounds a bit like a oneitis, which is a cancer that must be cured. I’d focus more on my self and getting rid of it than figuring out how to game her properly. The real answer is to not have to.
/r/askTRP01/06/19 05:09 PM
4

Sleep with 10 women. It tightens your game, helps you uncover your weak areas, and allows you to become more attractive. If a woman smells you loving on her before she catches the tingles, it’s over. Keep giving tingles, always be ready to walk away, and eventually you’ll have to work on your comfort-game: reassuring her that you’re into her (assuming you actually are) because you’re so high value she’s afraid you’re fooling around with your other options.
/r/askTRP01/06/19 05:03 PM
1

Don’t self-deprecate to garner pity or sympathy. Talking shit about yourself (small dick, no friends, terrible with women) is a gold mine. You’re welcome.
/r/askTRP01/06/19 05:03 PM
1

No one woman should suspect that she is your only option for sex. If you are truly abundant and know you can attract sex and affection, you can actually work on your comfort-game, which paradoxically can make a woman open up sexually even more. She’s feeling loved. She knows you have options, but you’re choosing her. It’s amazing. Her orgasms literally just come (no pun intended) because she knows you’re not trying. You’re choosing her and that turns her on, which makes it that much easier for h…
/r/askTRP01/06/19 04:53 PM
2

Learn from your mistake. Your missed opportunity (yes, let this go) will motivate you to better yourself so in the future, you won’t be held back by whatever was holding you back before. You’ve got oneitis. So work on yourself and enjoy the ride.
/r/askTRP01/06/19 04:47 PM
1

It’s amazing how quickly you can turn around from fear and desperation (oneitis) to complete and total abundance. A favorite TRP quip of mine is to learn to fall in love with your life, not your woman/women. Her/them being a part of your life is the gift you give.
/r/askTRP01/06/19 03:12 PM
1

What I’m working on now that I’ve attracted a real winner and am less interested in plating is distinguishing between comfort- and shit- tests. Understanding the difference is so key, and clutch. It is the only way to keep things purring along. You just have to be able to tell if she’s vying for control (shit test, so DARE, don’t DEER), or if she’s afraid you’re cheating (because you’re so high value, which would be a comfort test), so concede something unimportant or trivial to you so she knows…
/r/askTRP01/06/19 03:01 PM
3

Ever seen a chick cry after getting pulled over by a cop? “Cry cry. Let me out of my ticket? I’m a poor helpless woman.” With you: “Cry cry. Let me have control of your life. I’m a pretty girl.” Using emotion to manipulate men. Crying is a shit-test disguised as a comfort test. Be careful, though, to know what actually is a comfort test, as they will come, in order to reassure her you’re available emotionally (assuming you are). Otherwise she’ll occasionally smash with the emotional caregivers s…
/r/askTRP01/06/19 02:10 PM
84

Yeah dude, don’t sweat. If they murder you they’re totally going to jail.
/r/askTRP28/05/19 12:30 AM
1

Have you heard of “going Rambo?” It’s when you go from 💯 Blue Pill to 💯 Red Pill. It is a recipe for a relationship to end because the woman expects a certain level of groveling from you. If you stop too abruptly, she walks because she has come to rely on your beta tendencies. That being said, you do need to focus on your self, but maintaining an air of caring about the relationship is a must, for a while, if you wish to hold on to it. For every year of blue pill relating with her, you need a mo…
/r/askTRP27/05/19 10:05 PM
3

If you’ve gotten laid “twice,” then they probably don’t come back bc you still need to work on your confidence game. You’re self conscious and they can sense it. That is most likely the issue. Learn to not care. Put your pleasure first. Women cum best when they know you’re not trying to make them cum, but also that you know what you’re doing. It’s a weird paradox. They need to know you know you’re the man.. which makes you have to try less, which is better for everyone. Try to make her cum, and …
/r/askTRP25/05/19 04:23 AM
1

“Sounds crazy...” That’s what they want us to think.
/r/askTRP21/05/19 06:02 PM
1

The only reason I mentioned divorce is due to the fact that it is so common for procreation to occur within marriage. I’m talking about procreating, with legal protection, without marriage.
/r/askTRP21/05/19 05:05 PM
1

The only reason that’s f’d up is because of the courts. All these women knew what they were getting into, but the courts complicate it by assuming the mother gets custody, etc.
/r/askTRP21/05/19 01:49 PM
1

Thank you for this idea; it never crossed my mind and now I’m better able to articulate my vision: 50/50 parenting time, one parent agreed-upon as “educational custodian” (school district), with the relationship-potential remaining in tact. In other words, articulate the parenting agreement and continue to date as able / as interested. This leaves room for potential long-term, and also potential additional relationships. Would all depend.
/r/askTRP21/05/19 05:14 AM
4

I’m being dead serious. Knowing how the divorce courts work and how women operate, how can any man expect to be the leader of his progeny without upfront legal protection lock, stock and barrel? Woman denies the paperwork... then she clearly doesn’t trust me as a person, nor my capacity to lead my family. Bullet dodged! “Father’s rights” in place before the child is even conceived. This just seems like a no-brainer and no one is talking about it.
/r/askTRP21/05/19 03:43 AM
2

The way to answer this question is as follows (assuming you’re looking to hook up): Assume she is asking because she is discreetly trying to determine your ability to take initiative as a leader. In other words, assume she wants to hookup. Assume that she is too shy to admit this, and that she is hoping you have the balls to not act soft and overly gentlemanly. When you reply, somehow indicate that you know what she is really asking (nudge nudge wink wink), but respond in a way that is gentleman…
/r/askTRP21/05/19 03:34 AM
-1

I don’t find this unreasonable. She needs money, and is entitled to basic housekeeper and child-rearing pay. If Daddy doesn’t want to pay her, she can work on her own for money, and they can split the childcare costs. Jay-Z agreed to pay ~$5M for every child Queen Bey bears... saying nothing of actual childcare...
/r/TheRedPill21/05/19 12:03 AM
1

She may be banging other guys in the meantime. You have to use this time as an exercise to build yourself up.
/r/askTRP20/05/19 05:09 AM
3

Women shit test to see how much frame they can gain, then lose respect for you when they get it. By not reacting to her tests, your behavior indicates or suggests 1) you don’t intimidate me 2) I have other options you don’t know about, anyway , and 3) I’m not mad, I love ya baby. You do you and I’ll do me. It’s that kind of confidence she’s looking for. In other words, that you don’t need her (nor do you need to control her through ultimata). So no, don’t explicitly tell her you love how she’s b…
/r/askTRP20/05/19 05:07 AM
5

Being unfazed by her behavior is the only way to suggest the vibe that you “accept her the way she is.” Since in this case you actually don’t, your only option is to focus on boosting your SMV. You do have plenty of other options, don’t you? She knows your doing her a favor by sharing a relationship with her, doesn’t she?
/r/askTRP20/05/19 03:49 AM
17

You’ve got a bigger problem: Why are you asking her what to tell the parents? Why does it matter? Even with a witty response, you’re relinquishing frame. Also, what’s wrong with how you met?
/r/seduction19/05/19 07:07 PM
9

This write up is absolutely stellar. Having been through what I’ve been through, for those out there in a similar situation this writeup could be used as a manual and actually save marriages. Note: it’s important to distinguish an FA in a relationship from one in an actual marriage. I can attest that the act of marriage really triggers the avoidant response because it’s a huge display of intimacy. Be ready with your SMV, or embrace for a string of affairs immediately following marriage. (“I know…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/19 02:13 PM
3

Just described life with my ex (mother of my child). As soon as we experienced the “intimacy” of marriage, she was gone. The string of “affairs” got long. The marriage ended as soon as it began. If I knew then what I know now, I’d have handled things differently. (Note, we were together 8 years before marrying. During that time, during her uncertainty, she wanted me desperately). My issue now is finding the right level of beta/vulnerability when I meet new women. With most I’ll close on the firs…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/19 02:05 PM
-1

“Weirdos” doesn’t mean she wouldn’t spread. Just sayin.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/05/19 06:26 PM
3

LMAO- “crazy scale” starts at 4. 🤣
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/05/19 06:11 PM
-1

Why?
/r/MGTOW17/05/19 06:49 AM
1

If I found that with a girl in my town I wouldn't put in effort to go see this chick sometimes Great post here... but can you elaborate on the above? I can understand not putting in effort... but “sometimes?” Thanks in advance for clarification.
/r/TheRedPill17/05/19 03:47 AM
6

Dude, our lady friend here is sharing good advice. She’s spot on in saying that relating to women is key. If a dude is presenting a masculine front, it’s still a front. The truly confident man is able to be empathetic, sincere and genuine because he knows his innate masculinity is a gift to share, not a prize to showcase. Women can sense this and want to smash it.
/r/askTRP17/05/19 03:27 AM
1

Yep
/r/askTRP17/05/19 03:20 AM
4

A woman truly has no power over him and that is what make him “mysterious” because female narcissism and solipsism can’t grasp this concept. Genius.
/r/askTRP17/05/19 03:18 AM
3

What reason is there to “beware” if you’re not getting emotional about the relationship? OP is talking about being mysterious guy, and mysterious guy certainly ain’t stressing.
/r/askTRP17/05/19 03:12 AM
2

You can chase a bit upfront if necessary. After sex, stop. It’s her turn.
/r/askTRP17/05/19 03:05 AM
1

1) Abundance. It has to become real. To the point where you say things to women your past self never would have dreamed possible... because you have _so_many_options. You need be outgoing enough to befriend so many women, and have so many opportunities that if anyone walks away, you are almost thankful because it gives you a bit more time to yourself. By being a friend, you “get it.” You never push for or need sex with a friend, which is part of your appeal. They are able to “trust” that you’ll …
/r/askTRP17/05/19 03:03 AM
1

TRP subreddit
/r/askTRP12/05/19 11:53 PM
1

If I’m not mistaken, it’s the original red pill subreddit that was quarantined, and no longer accepts new people.
/r/askTRP12/05/19 11:51 PM
1

Whoa, cool. It worked through the web-interface, not the app. But I was able to join, and is now linked with app. THANK YOU. 🙏🏼 Is there a way to do the same with “TRP” (like what you advised with “TheRedPill”)?
/r/askTRP12/05/19 05:17 PM
1

How can I get in the original TRP / TheRedPill subs? still not working
/r/askTRP12/05/19 03:50 PM
2

It doesn’t have to.
/r/askTRP12/05/19 05:59 AM
2

r/askTRP
/r/seduction12/05/19 05:58 AM
1

Bro, get a “Bottle Bud” on Amazon. $20 for a 2L stainless steel jug that comes with a sleeve and strap.
/r/askTRP12/05/19 04:45 AM
4

Right here is what you want. It’s simple with the right mindset, but without it, seems impossible. Give zero f***s. “Ghost her in her own home.” You probably think this behavior will reflect poorly on you. You probably are afraid she’ll tell her friends how awful you are. In truth, it’s a good thing. Perceive it as, “ha, she hates me but can’t stop thinking and talking about me!” Just keep being your self (assuming you are improving) until the life-gains come. If you maintain your own frame, she…
/r/askMRP12/05/19 04:09 AM
1

Can’t join TRP sub
/r/askTRP11/05/19 11:59 PM
1

How do I get in TRP sub?
/r/askTRP11/05/19 09:05 PM
1

Please explain. What is the “main TRP” page?
/r/askTRP11/05/19 07:29 PM
2

Isn’t that group “quarantined?” Does that mean it’s closed altogether or closed off to new users who want to join?
/r/askTRP11/05/19 06:47 PM
1

It’s taking so much energy cause you’re thinking so much about it. Keep doing it though. I’m at a point where I basically open anyone in my path that strikes my fancy, but I still mess up and analyze afterward. For example, I approached an HB9 and realized (later) that I messed up by telling her, after asking “How many boyfriends do you have?” that I wanted her number 5 spot, after she said she had 5 but just lost the 5th. Realized, she was actually kidding cause later in our talk she mentioned …
/r/askTRP10/05/19 10:07 PM
1

🤦‍♂️
/r/askTRP10/05/19 02:55 AM
1

Truly these are great comments. During my blue pill days, I’d make eye contact with types like this with no reaction; I’m sure you guys know the feeling. Any insights from people who’ve upped their game and noticed women noticing them with disdain?
/r/askTRP10/05/19 02:29 AM
2

Remember to ease into Red Pilled behavior, one month for every year of your blue pilled marriage. Don’t go Rambo, but make sure you have a solid understanding of the tests, games, and psychological warfare she will rage on you.
/r/askMRP09/05/19 09:44 PM
7

Nice, but I don’t think she’s asking about how to look and feel sexy, but about dealing with presenting more sensuality than her colleagues. It seems to me like she is asking about the feeling of being sexy, when most others are not, and how to overcome that.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/19 02:05 AM
1

If you are 22, consider your self lucky. You are waking up with plenty of time to implement RP knowledge. Some men never get it, some get it late. You’re young. Don’t look back. Learn not to rely on women for any sort of emotional anything.
/r/askMRP03/05/19 04:13 PM
5

Ho. Ly. $|-| * -|-
/r/askMRP03/05/19 04:10 PM
1

Get out of here!! 😱 I never knew...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 05:06 PM
1

How old was your husband when you tied the knot? Marrying at 23 is much different for men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 05:05 PM
2

You still are a boy. Only now you have a job, wife, and kids. It’s a pretty awesome reality you’ve created for yourself, if you ask me. Embrace your independence, first and foremost, and your connection with whatever Higher Energy you accredit reality to. That way, you can never get burned. When in that zone, share the joy with those around you, like a kid shares a pop tart or a video game.
/r/askMRP22/04/19 01:21 AM
2

When a person lets others “use them,” it’s because that person allows it. The others may not see it as a problem. They may think you’re just being generous. Your bigger issue, IMO, is to learn how to say no and advocate for yourself while remaining tactful. Saying no can be hard at first. Are you familiar with codependency? It’s people-pleasing. Until you stop doing that, you’ll never know how others truly feel about you. Put out good energy and the Universe will send it back. Be patient. Don’t …
/r/askTRP22/04/19 01:16 AM
2

Just echoing a basic tenet as a reminder: care less than she does. Period. Right?
/r/askTRP20/04/19 03:11 PM
0

What’s your number? I’ll leave you a voicemail right now.
/r/seduction19/04/19 10:52 PM
3

Hold up your pinkie with the half-smile. “Yep.”
/r/seduction19/04/19 10:41 PM
1

“Oh, well I was codependent when I married him, and God has delivered me from that, so I have no more need for him. Praise God!” Having experienced this firsthand, and seeing it frequently in church, it certainly leaves me jaded and guarded about lifelong commitment. Seems more practical to focus just on Higher Power, and “merely” seek good mothering candidate(s) for offspring.
/r/RPChristians12/04/19 09:38 PM
9

Or... more “empowered” by It. Been through it. Now seeing it with a buddy. His wife “wants a divorce” so she can “just focus on being a better Christian woman.” I can just imagine her women’s-group Bible-study applauding her newfound confidence and trust in God at the expense of her marriage.
/r/RPChristians12/04/19 04:24 AM
1

Perhaps, but it’s nice to think he was on point from the beginning. ...”Thanks, Dad!”
/r/MGTOW05/04/19 11:53 PM
2

This post addresses your thread quite specifically and does a great job. https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/comments/b0bzda/breaking_the_niceguy_take_ownership_ask_for_help/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app
/r/askMRP05/04/19 11:42 PM
4

Because it weeds out the “lesser men” for her. She assumes that any man going for the less desirable female is less desirable, himself.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 08:56 PM
19

People, read the link. 👌🏼
/r/askTRP30/03/19 03:25 PM
1

Just spent 20 minutes trying to find this comment after mistakenly closing the thread. Wonderful analogy and important to remember so as not to get hung up on (or neglect) any one “leg.”
/r/askTRP28/03/19 06:46 AM
1

One could argue that sacrifice is part of being alpha. Take Musk- he maybe sacrificed going to the gym, learning game, etc, in favor of establishing his own game. Now with his resources, he can go back in time so to speak, and fill in any gaps along the way. I believe his appearance has changed significantly. The good-looking soldier might “slay” some of the peasant-women, but even if they bear his children, then what? This debate highlights the importance of developing both our alpha game and o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/19 12:25 AM
1

Guys, don’t bother engaging with u/LivelyChartreuse. [She’s trolling] (https://pasteboard.co/I7hel9k.jpg)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 11:53 PM
1

Jesus loves you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 11:48 PM
4

Can we all agree the alpha/beta scale is a spectrum, and subjective based on context? Someone could be living their life with the alpha/beta balance that works best for them (I’ve heard an 80/20 balance is ideal, if one intends to hold on to a partner and pass comfort tests), yet someone else could still be more alpha, and even... more beta at the same time. The second character, despite having more “beta” characteristics is preferable to the first, because his gene quality as well as provisioni…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 11:37 PM
2

Alphas procreate. The best ones can afford to raise their young according to their own agenda. Recurring birth-controlled intercourse is akin to masturbation, but with a partner. Procreative intercourse is beta if you can’t afford the lead role in the child’s welfare.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 11:30 PM
5

This logic is empowering.
/r/askTRP25/03/19 10:38 PM
4

“That's why it's better to approach the hottest girls with other hot friends which is far easier when your SMV is high.” Can you explain this?
/r/askTRP25/03/19 09:29 PM
1

Wrestling classes for kids. They exist.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/19 03:13 PM
1

Props on the succinct assessment for only being red pilled a couple weeks. I read this once and I think there’s merit to it: that for every year you’ve been blue-pilled in an LTR that you need to spend a full month easing into full red-pill mode. In other words, if you go full red-pill upfront, it will be too much too fast for her and you will almost assuredly lose her as your frame will be incongruent with what has been established over the past decade+. It’s tempting to jump in head first, and…
/r/MGTOW22/03/19 07:53 PM
3

How on God’s green Earth do you consider yourself red pill at all? Sorry, I am actually trying to help here. Here’s my interpretation of your post: “Guys, some guy wants to ‘have’ my wife. I told him it’s cool, so I’m trying to groom my wife for the opportunity. She is frustrated with me because I’m making it difficult for her to take 50% ownership of the business once she divorces me.” Bro... BRO. BROOOOOO!
/r/RPChristians22/03/19 07:21 AM
2

Different details, same story. ✊🏼
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/19 03:59 PM
8

“Is this his way of shit testing me?” Yes. The worse he treats you, the more insecure/jealous you get. It’s a toxic feedback loop, classic narcissist/codependent. You are stuck in a serious psychological wormhole; there are a lot of support groups, online coaches, and literature to help people who get stuck in webs created by such charmers. Thing is, you can’t blame him entirely. You are complicit in this dance, hence he’s shit testing you and you’re going along with it, and making it worse by m…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 03:47 PM
2

u/Red-Curious’ post is uncomfortably successful at linking RP philosophy with scripture and Christian principles. For the first time, I’m feeling that separating RP enlightenment from the church scene, while perhaps seemingly good-intentioned, is actually a lost opportunity and disservice to the brothers I care so much about. The question is, how do I do this tactfully? Sadly, bringing a different gf to church every other week doesn’t quite seem right. Maybe I’m wrong. Feedback on that welcome!
/r/RPChristians12/03/19 11:15 PM
3

“Help me, Jesus, to be a better husband by following her lead, her rules and regulations.”
/r/RPChristians12/03/19 10:23 PM
2

Everyone in the group has ceded authority to the feminine agenda, thus blaming themselves when they don’t live up to it. 🤦‍♂️
/r/RPChristians12/03/19 10:21 PM
1

K bro, now come give this testimony to all the porn-addicted cry babies at my Celebrate Recovery group. ...please. For real.
/r/RPChristians12/03/19 10:04 PM
1

You’re assuming that he can’t garner female attention without staying faithful. Being tactful in his position is a must. And agreed- it’s powerful advice. Perhaps your analogy is correct, as he may not have the level of covert tact required to save his marriage. He first needs to develop his confidence and flirtatious success with women without any hints given to his wife. It will take him time to develop the skill set and prowess to A) have the experience to back up the confident changes he nee…
/r/RPChristians20/02/19 02:14 AM
1

It sucks, but she has to wonder if there is someone else. There doesn’t have to be and I’m not saying there should be. But she has to wonder; she has to know that options abound for her desirable, attractive, high-value husband.
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 11:56 PM
1

Don’t take the effect and turn around and make it the cause. At some point (consider when), you stopped being the leader. She was able to use sex to (try to) manipulate you. No, it’s not right. But how did this situation come about to begin with? that is something you need to take ownership of. “Keys...” meaning that she is the one who decides if sex is or isn’t happening. When did she stop seeing you as the guy she was waiting to have sex with. “Initiative” as in you are setting the pace and to…
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 11:53 PM
1

Ok listen man: first of all you asked for feedback here. People are responding to your predicament. If it were not an issue, you wouldn’t have posted. Are you even open or receptive to feedback? Try this one bro: “She’s essentially saying implicitly “if you don’t do x, I won’t have sex with you.” “Jumping through hoops to pass her silly tests...” Dude, you’ve lost the initiative in your relationship. She has seized it. You are responding to her. At what point did she hold the keys to sex? At wha…
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 11:26 PM
1

So you’re posting asking for advice becauuuse...?
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 11:15 PM
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Fair enough. But you married her. You have to love her even if it’s bad, assuming you intend to honor the Christ/church; husband/wife metaphor. Man you just gotta learn to attract your wife and like another dude said, the issues will resolve themselves. Her issues may never go away, but you can redirect her as the leader. But you’ll never be the leader if she’s not attracted to you. Either own that, or put the onus on her. Right?
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 11:13 PM
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By focusing on what she’s doing wrong, you are showing her that you are incapable of rising above it and showing her by example how to work through it. Her issues are literally causing you to stumble to the point where you can’t even get sex.
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 11:05 PM
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If a woman, like your wife, doesn’t want to have sex with you, it’s your problem, not hers. She’s fine, thank you very much. You can’t expect to deserve leader-status if you can’t even learn to think like a woman. You don’t have to go along with it but you need to understand it and appreciate the sexy creatures for the silly, cute irrational beings they are. That’s why we love them.
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 10:57 PM
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No, it’s because women are autonomous, and if you think about it, are allowing men to take the lead (withOUT us saying “oh btw, we want sex even if you don’t and you should go along with that.”)
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 10:56 PM
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Don’t pretend. Accept. And allow her to manage them. You just have to accept that they are there, and that you married them. Focus on Gods purpose and call on your life. Remember it’s not her; she is just along for the ride. Women don’t want men who pander them unless they are gold diggers.
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 10:51 PM
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I felt the same way. Problem is, there is no women’s ministry that teaches women how to be attracted to men they are no longer attracted to. The way to earn that attraction back is to take responsibility for your marriage, which includes all of her baggage. You don’t have to get rid of it (you can’t, that’s her job); by “responsibility” I mean: accept that it’s there, and love her anyway. And make love to her, anyway. But you can’t, cause she’s not attracted. This is your problem. What are you g…
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 10:48 PM
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Right, that’s my point. We are trying to avoid this outcome.
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 10:45 PM
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Then you will lose her, have to start over, and be more selective with your next “wife.” Ultimately facing the same issues you face now.
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 10:36 PM
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Why did you marry her? Now that she “has you,” she may still love you but sees you as less of a catch. She got you. Your dominant nature which turned her on initially is HERS now. You’ve got to show her you still got it. To me, that’s how you keep your vows- by taking care of her needs (before your own logical, rational ones) and maintaining strength, which includes the ability to attract her. Apparently you’ve lost that.
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 10:34 PM
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You got to consider the hypergamous nature. The idea comes from the notion of #keepingyourwifeattractedandwantingtohavesexwithyou It’s common for people to figure this stuff out after divorce, because they want to figure out what the heck happened? What went wrong? You still have a chance to make it work out.
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 10:29 PM
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Just be ready for her to cheat or divorce you if you try to fix her. Do you have kids? If not, what’s keeping you together?
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 10:25 PM
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Otherwise, you’ll come off as trying to “fix her” which she will resent for myriad reasons. 1) So why’d you marry me? 2) so you don’t accept me as I am? Guess you’re breaking your vows. 3) you think I’m broken? Remove the log from your own eye before you try to remove mine. Keep in mind whatever she’s covering up by ignoring the logic and reason you speak of is something deep-seeded. Defense-mechanisms have been built up over the course of her entire conscious and unconscious life. It’s up to yo…
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 10:21 PM
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Agreed. I venture to say most red-pillers would admit that women are irrational. That’s kind of the point. You’re more of a servant leader by allowing this to be true without trying to change or fix her. Change and fix yourself by giving her the emotional drama and insanity that she can not and will not live without.
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 10:16 PM
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The leverage is against the forces that cause the woman’s lack of reason or logic as you might call it. You need to slay that dragon, whatever it takes. Servant leadership and humility is about serving the greater good and meeting her needs, not holding yours up as the beacon of truth. You can’t just say, “this is the truth. Believe it cause I’m your trusted servant leader and it says so in the Bible.” That’s using logic and reason. Women are emotional and you need to spark it. Try to have fun w…
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 10:10 PM
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So you admit you married an immature woman? #deadlocked If she gets a whiff of this truth (you just insinuated such), she’ll resent you for doing so, even though the immature woman is her. She will NOT think, “what a guy, he took a chance on me and spends his energy trying to help me mature.” She will think, “what was this guy thinking, marrying someone who he perceived to be not yet fully mature? There must be something wrong with him... Also, why is he focusing on ‘helping me mature’ as oppose…
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 10:04 PM
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It’s not about finding the perfect partner, but becoming one. If you think she completes you, you’ve already found your answer (that you are deluding yourself). Work on sparking Wife’s attraction to you and the sex will improve... you are the MAN, right? So take responsibility for your wife’s lack of synthesis with you. The “dream girl” could just get her rocks off by stealing a man. Course, you won’t find out if that’s all she wanted until after you’ve left your wife. Don’t count on her tipping…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/19 08:47 PM
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At the end of the day, you are responsible for your frame. If you uphold the frame you are espousing, then be prepared for the consequences. If in no way you are intimidated or scared she may leave, then I’d say you have a solid frame! But if you want to trigger her attraction, you need to take responsibility for the fact that it’s not there. You can’t negotiate desire, or explain why it seems rational (to you). Being able to accept her potentially leaving, I might add, could be a huge asset in …
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 08:28 PM
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The root in her or the root (lack thereof?) in you? Don’t be codependent and spend your life force “helping” her with her issues. Even if you were successful, you’d still lose in the long run cause you didn’t show trust, faith and confidence in her to handle her own business as an adult.
/r/RPChristians17/02/19 08:16 PM
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