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Because it is weird most of the time. Most people don’t want to be accosted in public, especially if they’re on a task. Its also the reason the rate of success of day game is so low. The only positive to day game is that eventually, after much trial, you’ll find someone who not only finds you attractive, but was secretly hoping for someone to approach them. That’s generally very rare. There are signs and things you can do to help you hone your success rate and save your ego a some damage. There …
/r/seduction18/03/20 06:51 AM
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Same boat as you, approaching 22. Made good progress but i’m ready to step things up another level. I’d love extra details as well.
/r/seduction15/03/20 05:33 AM
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Nazeem is just nervous, he actually thinks you’re cute and wants to date you “Do you get to the cloud district very often?” Fuck, that was so generic and compliant, gotta neg to balance back my relative value “... oh what am I saying, of course you don’t “ close one, but this instance might be an L - will scribe a FR to the public seduction forum scroll later
/r/seduction10/03/20 08:06 PM
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is definitely the most psychologically rooted one for me, nice refresher!
/r/seduction10/03/20 02:33 AM
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This sub has officially entered the post-seduction age. Game now only discusses attraction in the meta and only speaks of what not to do in the literal interaction
/r/seduction06/03/20 11:40 PM
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OPs link is actually very insightful. It’s statistically backed that women rarely date men they see as less than or even equal to themselves. If you’re bound by the same rules as her, you’ll get nothing. If you show herd minded compliance with other people’s rules, you’re not being attractive. Women’s mating strategy is to fuck the winning male, which goes beyond just money. Also unironically or non-duplicitously subscribing to a feminist historical view is definitely not going to win you any gi…
/r/seduction03/03/20 03:25 AM
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Basically, girls have the keys to the doors of sex This is right on the mark and exactly what i’m starting to learn from personal experience. Creating attraction isn’t a transitive process i.e. its not what you do or say to a woman. Its about who you are. Someone on here posted a while back an article on being the transcendental man. While it perhaps laid a tad much with the esoteric language, the main point of the article is that your agency and transcendence over social rules and limitations i…
/r/seduction27/02/20 12:54 AM
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u/tarthwell = goodcop u/Joel504 = badcop both are great responses i’m torn.
/r/seduction22/02/20 06:08 AM
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Yeah, that’s the thing. My roommates are by all means less well off than I am socially, so no easy connections there. I’m a late bloomer in my last year of college, which is definitely when it becomes the hardest to get your foot in the door with social networks. So far I banter really well with people who look like they attend parties, and am looking to form study groups with them in the future to befriend them. As far as clubs go, its too late, that’s freshman stuff for the most part. Can’t ru…
/r/seduction19/02/20 07:37 AM
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How’d you get access to the parties? I’ve been to parties and I do pretty good for myself socially, but I just don’t have the network to get in regularly.
/r/seduction19/02/20 02:25 AM
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Let’s see what she listed out: - don’t be needy - be direct with your intentions while taking the bluntness off the delivery - she ultimately decides if she wants to go with you (bc you can’t force attraction, that’s pretty fundamental stuff) What would be the alternatives? - pursuing after a strong initial rejection? that’s desperate and its creepy. note here, rejection and shit test are different things - lie about what you want to do and swap your intentions when you have her alone? very cree…
/r/seduction17/02/20 12:54 AM
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That sounds really helpful. Progress has been slow for me, albeit steady. I manage to talk to a few people at a bar or club per night out, at best making a few friends but not really hitting it off with girls. I can bant and vibe with guys, but with girls it feels like a cap get slammed onto my creative capacity for dialogue. Definitely has to do with fearing sexual expression or interest, and I’m a fairly above average looking guy so looks isn’t a huge obstacle apart from not being in the top c…
/r/seduction17/02/20 12:36 AM
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Sounds like you still talked to more people in the club than the vast majority of people on this sub, so kudos to you. You’ve got great nights ahead of you!
/r/seduction17/02/20 12:07 AM
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Instead of going to the bar immediately, you could get some food nearby first to build some rapport and then switch over to the bar when you’re ready to spice it up a bit. Just make sure to be playful and a little sexual in the first part and it should go well.
/r/seduction16/02/20 05:22 AM
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Do you not get back up again after 10 or 15 minutes or so?
/r/seduction15/02/20 06:35 PM
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Big time, its really important for breaking out of the covertly toxic nice guy mentality!
/r/seduction12/02/20 08:00 PM
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There was a guy a while back who basically hammered home this mentality super well and even made his own subreddit for it. Unfortunately it looks like he closed it and stopped posting, but in any case you’ve really touched the right idea like he did. Dating is all social proof and having basic masculine qualities. Traditional ‘game’ is a micromanagement toolset which has utility once you already have something substantial to show off in the first place. Very wise post! edit: that all said, havin…
/r/seduction10/02/20 08:13 PM
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Here’s the thing about game. Its for socially autistic people who stumbled somewhere in their developmental years. Game is all about taking these ideas, systems, frames etc and making them innate, so that there comes a point in time where you’re not actively calculating your moves and aligning them with structured systems like push pull etc, they just flow out of you like water. I can say this from one year of experience so far. I didn’t only suffer from talking to women, I could hardly talk to …
/r/seduction09/02/20 11:06 PM
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When I focus on having a good time, it results in me having a good dance but not talking to girls. Its not enough by itself.
/r/seduction01/02/20 06:49 AM
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Social anxiety is such a burden. I think the worse part is starting down the path to fixing it. I know I have to just start interacting with people but my whole shameful childhood flashes before I even get the chance to open my mouth. Its just a matter of forcing yourself I guess...
/r/seduction01/02/20 06:47 AM
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fw = fuck with, so aka, if you like her style
/r/seduction28/01/20 02:00 AM
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Overthinking to the point of not talking is a symptom of serious social anxiety. Sean cooper has a whole manual on overcoming it, with some digging you can find it online for free. You’re not approaching for fear of rejection, and its intertwined with your biological fight or flight response - a pretty toxic situation. Stop focusing on girls and work on defusing the problem closer at hand.
/r/seduction26/01/20 08:57 PM
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Being a gentleman means having some standards and being courteous, its not the same as being a simp or nice guy. It’ll definitely deter some low hanging fruit with serious personal issues, but nothing is really lost in that.
/r/seduction26/01/20 08:54 PM
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Read the sticky and top rated posts, your question has been asked and answered a million times and is wasting space.
/r/seduction26/01/20 08:51 PM
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In the past, I've chalked up having boring conversations with women exclusively to them. This really comes from a misunderstanding of what makes an conversation interesting with girls. Guys talk about things with autistic fervor - hobbies, cool objects, trivia, politics etc. The pool of topics to discuss with a dude are rather limitless if you stick to things that aren't about you or him. With girls however, you gotta talk about either you or her. It makes sense when you test it against what we …
/r/seduction26/01/20 08:05 AM
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I have a close friend who's been in the same situation - childhood friends with a girl who he secretly fell in love with. He eventually (after many years) asked her out with a heartfelt birthday gift and message, and was soon declined. To this day he still has feelings for her and tries to maintain friendly terms in the hopes to one day convince her to be his lover, because in his head, he has it that romance spins like a Disney fairy tale. I think its fair to say you have a lot to learn about e…
/r/seduction26/01/20 07:44 AM
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https://youtu.be/VoW9czgQBqE Good effort King, but read more about the mentality behind cold approaching. The experience is more valuable than anything you’ll read though, so keep trying! Just facilitate it with a little research.
/r/seduction21/01/20 05:47 AM
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High energy post, doing good out here.
/r/seduction20/01/20 07:38 AM
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Girlfriend = constant sex and companionship for way WAY less work. Its unrealistic to think you’ll be some PUA god picking up 10/10s every weekend. You might start picking up girls more regularly, but they’ll likely be lower quality than you’d like. As long as you hold masculine frame and remain respectable in her eyes, a relationship is great. Have good judgement of character and find someone who is highly unlikely to cheat and actually respects you. If she does cheat on you, then you dump her …
/r/seduction16/01/20 12:06 AM
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Sounds like you should have accommodated the conversation to her work tasks and maybe closed more directly i.e. in person. That said, looks like you already took note of all of that. You two had a nice convo and you found a way to drop your number given the circumstances, even if it wasn’t optimal. Nothing was lost and at the very least you had a pleasant lunch.
/r/seduction14/01/20 05:17 AM
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Inspiring stuff dude. I too suffer from speaking fast when feeling anxious. When I force myself to slow down, everything about the way I speak improves - more intonation, more suspense and synchronization with my gestures etc. I also feel like I laugh too much as a mechanism for handling weak points in the convo. Like if its awkward, or if they or I say something that’s not so funny, i’ll throw a small laugh to try to defuse it but it doesn’t really achieve anything aside from inflating what my …
/r/seduction13/01/20 06:35 AM
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I’m still a rookie so take what you see with a grain of salt. Playing indifferent and not folding your hand to her immediately like everyone else is definitely a good move, but its not the full package. If its the only thing you do, well, you haven’t accomplished anything - no number/snap/insta/line of contact. You have no clue if you’ll see her again and without your contact, she’ll assume you’re not interested/shy and talk to the other people. The trick is not to release all the tension when g…
/r/seduction13/01/20 06:00 AM
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Yes, breaking your SAD is far more important than picking up girls. It leads to all kinds of new pathways - upward mobility, friends, liberty to meet anyone you want. But that doesn't mean you can't or won't get with girls along the way! You can think of doing so as an extra reward on your journey of positive reinforcement. Girls feel comfortable around guys who can talk transparently and directly, which is the very first requirement of pickup. From the way it looks, you're on the way to meeting…
/r/seduction23/12/19 07:04 AM
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He means that, after establishing yourself as the frame holder and someone who’s respect must be earned, if she compliments/tries-to-earn you from a certain aspect (compliance w your frame basically), you reward them in the same aspect and not a different one. e.g. if she makes herself emotionally vulnerable to you to win you over, you don’t reward her w a sexual response or w logistics for a meet up. If she tries to flaunt sexually, you don’t tell her how you feel or immediately plan out where …
/r/seduction26/10/19 07:03 PM
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Solid advice dude I agree with everything. I already know about teasing vs negging and not handing cheap compliments. Specifically, I’m wondering if I can rush things along w out turning her off bc I have zero time to date or really build rapport over e.g. a late night outing. Not quite sure how I’d get around that, maybe just need to be lucky and detach myself from my expectations to land something today or later. Really, really good advice tho its all correct, framing is the name of the game.
/r/seduction26/10/19 06:54 PM
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Your post is dry bruh
/r/seduction25/08/19 05:04 AM
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So many critics today with nothing useful to say. It’s salvageable if you act normally and joke about last night (“haha I was pretty high last night “) / dismiss it. I think your friends assume you’re a little awkward now, but not necessarily creepy. Best advice is to remain confident and don’t show you feel it was creepy. In fact, don’t think of it that way and you should be ok. Just do better next time lol.
/r/seduction24/08/19 02:36 PM
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Kinda hard to tell without a video of you walking. Could be that you’re fine and they were shit testing you, in which case you should have maintained your frame and dismissed them, but again can’t tell from this end of the screen.
/r/seduction24/08/19 04:29 AM
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I totally agree. To clarify, I’m not asking for a script or a canned conversation. It’s more a set of general themes to touch on, something to spur your brain when the conversation hits a lull or demands a more meaningful turn. I’m still all about finding things to say in the moment for the context.
/r/seduction22/08/19 11:26 PM
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Kind of a novice myself, but from my own experience and what others would probably comment, your suggestion did not sound confident/assertive/suggestive enough. Like, it’s clear you meant to have sex, but the packaging was a mix between feigning innocence and seductiveness, making it lame. Next time would go all out, being either totally indirect or very direct/suggestive. No matter which you do, suggest it with confidence and she’ll feel more confident and willing to agree. I think a general ru…
/r/seduction21/08/19 01:07 AM
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Don’t have any advice on the former, but as far as your experience goes, I find it rude when girls do this. I think the right thing to do is tell them you don’t want to hear about it if you’re gonna be fwb. If she cuts it off after you ask this then at least you keep your self respect, but I’d guess she’d respect you even more for asking her to shut up about her other targets. If you’re going for more and she’s talking about ongoing affairs, I’d spill your intentions and break the deal if she wo…
/r/seduction20/08/19 02:37 AM
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You should have stood up for yourself by either defending yourself in debate or if you felt like having a debate would’ve been dangerous (e.g. you thought she might dox you) you should have simply thanked her for coming in and left.
/r/seduction19/08/19 04:41 AM
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Hey dude, I'm 21 and wish I had my footing where you have it now. That sort of self awareness and humility that opens the doors to self improvement eluded me at that age, and I continued on the way I was up until very recently. I want to start by saying that you're on the right path tackling these issues now rather than putting them off, and that its totally something within your reach if you go out and apply your ideas in action (actually talking to people, actually breaking bad habits etc). ​ …
/r/seduction19/08/19 03:49 AM
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You're vids are always solid Ciel, kudos! Big inspiration for me.
/r/seduction13/08/19 07:33 PM
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Similar boat here, highschool to 20 y/o I've wasted my time and shunned social interaction. 21 now, and as of this year I've covered a lot of ground: got fit, broke many bad habits, and landed my first fling. Wouldn't say I went to the extreme you have, but I've hurt myself to a similar effect psychologically for sure. Sometimes it feels like you're soldering together the broken neuron pathways in your brain used for socializing that never fused when they should have growing up. It hurts and it'…
/r/seduction06/08/19 03:08 AM
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This is a cross post, the OP was female
/r/seduction16/07/19 12:04 AM
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Awesome insight. Started tinder recently: I opened my first match with crazy shit, had her on the hook for a bit but she was too far away and we stopped. Decided to tone it down from there and started playing it safe with the story of my life stuff. Covos just started fizzling out and there was no sort of hook. Only thing I did right in all of these was opening up without saying hey or something generic. Looks like overall that getting straight to the point and obstinately setting your frame is …
/r/seduction11/07/19 03:48 AM
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Be outgoing and develop confidence. I had crippling social anxiety going in, and I've only started overcoming it recently. Not too worried now tho, have my senior year to catch up. If you have social anxiety, my advice is to read a few books on the issue, and to reflect on your insecurities and squash them now rather than later. For me, Neil Strauss's Game really did it for me. I found the book quite boring at times when it focused on drama involving his relationships. It's also a little archaic…
/r/seduction03/05/19 05:16 AM
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How did that go?
/r/seduction23/04/19 05:17 PM
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Nice dude. I finished Style's main book a a month or two ago and have my copy of the 30 day challenge book-marked on Day 1. Its a mix of fear and workload that keeps me from starting. I can't tell if I'm coping or not, but I attribute my workload and my lack of sleep to not starting the challenge. Its just an extra tax on my energy I can't afford right now, or so I tell myself anyways. Doing a double major in engineering/compsci keeps you busy and locked up, you know? ​ Keep the posts up, you ca…
/r/seduction12/04/19 05:12 AM
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The pivotal rule is "guys want rocks, girls want gold". If she gives you sex, take her on a hike, to dinner, etc. If you make her feel like a tool, an LTR won't last much longer.
/r/seduction08/03/19 09:07 PM
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Hey dude, looks like you and I created accounts on the same day. I've been reading a lot of Neil Strauss this week , who's been a big inspiration in my approach towards joining. One of his big themes about PUA is that Game isn't a mask that you put on, its not a facade that you skillfully wear: its a tool for helping the socially retarded understand signals, ques, and notions that they missed out on growing up. You still have to be yourself if you want to succeed, and that means fixing the thing…
/r/seduction04/03/19 02:34 AM
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