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_Try_Try_Again_/r/askMRP16/07/18 12:20 AM
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_Try_Try_Again_/r/askTRP17/10/18 08:39 PM
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Me 38 SO 37, one kiddo 10, married 14 yrs. DL 225, BP 145, Sq 145 deloaded after a month away Finished WISNIFG, so add that to Pook, NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, and RM yrs 1-4 Decided to go back to lifting. Realized I enjoyed it too much to stop. Am still tracking food intake daily. Noticed that eating at home gets out of control at time. SO is a pretty good cook. It’s typically not a type of food problem so much as an amount to food problem. Still not drinking much, tho we had friends over on Saturday a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 10:19 PM
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Thx for that. I haven’t cut lifting completely, but I’ve had difficulty trying to do SL and cut at the same time. I still do dumbbell and body weight exercises. I’ll add back in the compounds with your suggestion and see how it goes.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/18 04:34 PM
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Do a search of previous posts. You think you’re the first person to ask these questions? We’re not here to spoon feed you.
/r/askMRP25/10/18 02:27 PM
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Definitions are on the sidebar.
/r/askMRP25/10/18 03:57 AM
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Good point. Did sober September and it took my desire to drink down to once per wk. Also nofap for three wks now. Not cuz I had to, just trying to see how much discipline I have.
/r/askMRP24/10/18 06:45 PM
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You’re probably right. I’m no stranger to the gym, despite the three plus year’s I took off after I stopped playing full time rugby. I can’t remember a time I’ve been able to lift heavy and cut weight. I’m open to suggestions tho.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/18 12:34 AM
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I was struggling to drop weight and increase lifts. I’ve got a belly so I’m trying to get thinner then hit the weights. I’m doing body weight and some dumbbell work. It’s pussy but I’ve never been able to lift and drop weight. I just get bulky under my flab.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 07:38 PM
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38, SO 36 married 14 yrs, one kid Paused lifting to drop weight. Lost 1.5lb since last OYS. Current weight 239, 20% bf 5’10” built like ex rugby player, not video gamer. Goals 215 lb, 15% bf Finished MAP book and have started putting together my map. The good news is that I do have one or two greens. The bad is that I have more than a few reds. At this point I’m going through each red and figuring out what my plan is. I’m breaking each step down into actions and how I’ll track compliance. I’ve s…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 03:39 PM
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Instead of focusing on those ahead of you, realize how many are behind you because they don’t garbage heap to teach them. You’re focusing on the wrong thing. You are the focus.
/r/askTRP22/10/18 05:26 PM
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Eh. It’s her dog.
/r/askTRP18/10/18 08:39 PM
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I was actually half way to the airport to execute that exact plan when I realized I left behind my favorite socks so I head to head back home. Maybe tomorrow....
/r/askTRP18/10/18 01:32 AM
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38 her 37 married 14 one kid. Switched to maintenance lifting, focus on weight loss. 242 last Friday, 239 today. 19.8% bf navy method. Sunday I escalated with out any build up and got a hard shut down with disgusted tone and crazy, get this stalker away from me glare. Decided I hadn’t done anything to deserve that kind of disrespect so I decided to pull attention for two days. And boy did I. I think I spoke 7 words to her in two days. Made a list of shit to get done and errands to run and I did …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/18 07:38 PM
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Nope, you're exactly right. I've gotten complacent. I'm going thru something where I just don't really give a shit about anything I'm not concerned with, if that makes sense. Not having much sex, but really don't care which is weird after years of caring. Nofap is changing that, though. I'm pretty revved up. But if I get the hard no, I can already tell I won't really care. I'll just turn on a game or go load the dishwasher or whatever I want to do. Is this a normal phase? I'm a little turned aro…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/18 04:06 AM
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WGAS? You’re a man with lots of interests, right?
/r/askTRP11/10/18 04:47 AM
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5'10" 240lb BF 22% 38yo Married 14yr 1 kid Sq 215, DL 215, BP 155 Update: Been a few wks since my last OYS. In that time I've fallen off the bandwagon a bit, but not in my usual way. I'm still taking care of what I need to take care of (house, cars, bills, kid) but I don't feel like I'm being as forceful to those around me as I was in the past couple of months. I can't tell if this is me actually getting over the anger phase or if something else is going on. As an example, I haven't been physica…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 06:14 PM
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Sounds like both. Without knowing more context, I’d say she’s trying to impress you. She knows you’re intelligent by your degree, so she thinks that’s the way to get your attention. I’d think that’s good cuz if you want to keep her around you can mold her physical/sexual nature to be what you want, rather than her starting off by trying to impress you with her body, which will hit the wall at some point.
/r/askTRP08/10/18 06:30 PM
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The side bar is on the side...bar of your web browser. If you’re on a mobile device it’s the three dots at the top of the app. Everything is there.
/r/askMRP07/10/18 04:02 PM
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Why do you care? Stop shopping with her if you don’t want to do it. Spend your time getting shit done and don’t worry about her.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/18 01:51 AM
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Holy shit this reads like the diary of a 12 year old girl.
/r/askTRP05/10/18 07:43 PM
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Christian women need to be games just like non-Christian women. RP is amoral, so apply your own standards to how it ends, just the sexual strategy of Christian women isn’t any different, they need tingles from their man in order to feel desire, so you need to go thru the steps to improve yourself. No one follows a loser, so make sure you’re a winner within the structure of your morals and ethics.
/r/RPChristians27/09/18 03:59 AM
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It’s true. First time I hit the link for the side bar it just showed a pic of MCT’s dong. Changed my life.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 07:52 PM
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F that. Don’t tell him what’s reasonable and what isn’t. That’s his choice not yours.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 07:51 PM
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This. She doesn’t believe she owes you anything because she doesn’t see you as someone worth pleasing, be it sex or time to yourself. So long as she knows you’ll do what you’re told, you won’t get the respect you think you deserve.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 07:49 PM
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That’s a good idea. I know at some point I gotta get serious about tracking, but I have a good 30 lbs to lose so I figured it’d be the last 10-15 but I guess not.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/18 07:13 PM
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How much you pay for has zero bearing on the situation. That’s a covert contract. “I pay for everything so I should be able to act how I want without complaint.” Sorry, you’re probably not in a position to make that work. But like others have said, you gotta be your own judge.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 07:12 PM
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I will. Thx.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 12:07 AM
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I’d like to offer a critique. I have a tendency to be violet, but I am aware of it and I have self control so I’m generally not violent. Does that make me beta? I have a tendency to drink and engage in risky behavior but I am aware of it and I have self control. Does that make me beta? I’m not advocating unicorn fantasies or NAWALT or anything like that. Women may feel a tendency to branch swing due to genuine desire, but LTR women have the awareness and self control to not engage in that behavi…
/r/TheRedPill18/09/18 07:40 PM
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I was considering changing out milk for water, but hate the taste! Oh well. I have mfp but don’t use it consistently. I typically eat one meal per day, high in protein and fat, but don’t want to become obsessive about it. I’ll make the milk change first and see what results I get.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 07:21 PM
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I feel the same way after my first warm up set of squats. I’m not getting up at 5am as I work afternoons/nights, but I agree with the sentiment. Thx.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 05:13 PM
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I’m really meh about it. I did it last minute more as a discipline challenge than to dry out. I do miss having an IPA when I’m done with yard work tho.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 03:10 PM
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240lb 5’10” sq 185 bp 135 ohp 125 dL 185 Delia’s from 12 days away. Diet: no alcohol for the month of September. Been easier than I thought. I definitely do not have a drinking problem. I don’t feel any different from normal. Have one salad every day for September. Missed two days so far. Again, don’t feel much different. Typical eating schedule, esp on the road, is a protein shake with whole milk for lunch and a normal meal, either from the airport or the hotel, before 8pm. Fast from then to no…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 02:32 PM
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It’s all in the sidebar. In this case, the TRP sub sidebar.
/r/RPChristians13/09/18 01:15 AM
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No, but they do rep leftist thinking.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/18 12:52 PM
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Interesting that this is the second post that specifically mentioned co-habitation as the point where a relationship goes downhill. I wonder if BP mentality starts its insidious creep in when men have a woman around constantly without any space of their own. I’m not far enough into this process to pontificate further than that, but I’m guessing there’s some experienced RPers that could write up something about this. Seems to me that men moving in with a LTR are giving away their commitment witho…
/r/askMRP08/09/18 03:52 PM
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Just make sure it’s not such a drastic change that it upsets your sobriety. Do you have a sponsor? Are you going to meetings? If you don’t have that stuff on lock down you’ll be tempted to go back to using to cover your anxiety.
/r/askMRP08/09/18 03:47 PM
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Not to beat a dead whores, but she wasn’t your ten, you were just borrowing her. Otherwise, funny shit.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/18 09:28 PM
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Remember that the commandment is honor your father and mother. You can do that by speaking kindly to him, forgiving him for not being in your life earlier, and understanding that you won’t see eye to eye with him and that’s ok. It doesn’t mean you need to follow all his decisions.
/r/RPChristians02/09/18 05:02 PM
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That’s gonna make a fun story at their high school graduation party!
/r/askMRP01/09/18 02:23 PM
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If you’ve come to terms with it, you’re level headed about it. If you haven’t, you come on an anonymous reddit sub and cry about it. Either take control of the situation and get your needs met or don’t. Either way, stop whining.
/r/askMRP01/09/18 02:21 PM
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Not expecting any, but she goes unaccompanied so issues can happen. RP award means what it sounds like. She found this hell-hole and read a bunch of shit, then freaked out, the read a bunch more, then realized she’s ok with parts of it. Doesn’t make much difference to me, other than that she knows when she’s being fogged or when I’m stfu cuz I don’t anything to say that wouldn’t make whatever situation worse. Not a magic trick, but rather a process. She was right. NI is negative inquiry. The roo…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/18 02:05 AM
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Why are you trying to get her to do what you’re supposed to be doing?
/r/askMRP29/08/18 07:16 PM
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Don’t put sex on a pedestal. Chances are, when it finally happens you’ll be completely underwhelmed by the experience. There’s a big difference between ‘I waited for that?’ and ‘I waited for her’. Also, don’t put ‘her’ on a pedestal. You should be your own, self-actualized man before promising your commitment to a woman. If you don’t know what you’re worth, you’ll give yourself away cheaply.
/r/RPChristians29/08/18 07:10 PM
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Week recap Not much this wk. had a four day trip last wk and started two day that ends today. Kiddo came home from grandparents with no issues. Happy to have her back. Met old mil friends for late lunch on Sunday followed by ice cream for the wife and kiddo before heading home. Had a mini argument with SO. She asked me a question about something I said during our wedding trip. It came off as accusatory to my ears, so I immediately went a bit autistic and fogged, AA’d. She’s RP aware so she gets …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 02:13 AM
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One suggestion. If you think she might join you in the future, but makes other plans for this next get together, don’t denigrate her choice to the people you’re with at the party. If word gets back to her it will make her less likely to say yes in the future and honestly it’s not what a good leader does.
/r/askMRP27/08/18 03:25 PM
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Got it
/r/askMRP26/08/18 07:55 PM
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Sarcasm? I’m old so I can never tell on the internet.
/r/askMRP26/08/18 05:50 PM
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You have your kids and your own life and she’s just a gf so, yeah, she’s second class to you.
/r/askMRP26/08/18 02:47 PM
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There’s nothing RP about hitting a woman. Holding frame doesn’t mean getting physical, it means knowing when to engage and when to depart the area. As if holding frame when being attacked by a crazy cunt means hitting her and facing 10 yrs in jail.
/r/TheRedPill24/08/18 04:55 PM
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I completely agree. I’m simply owning my shittyness with lifting. Honestly, mostly beer. I do a 16:8 IF pretty religiously now and I find it’s easier to not eat sugary shit cuz I get all my calories in such a short time. But either way, want to lose another 15 by Halloween.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/18 08:06 PM
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4 Recap Good wk. SO was upset over something I can’t remember at this point, but I STFU and let it play out while I was on a trip. When I came back I applied comfort and she returned to her new normal. Good sex all wk. Went to a wedding of one of her high school guy friends. Got to catch up with some people we haven’t seen since our wedding. One small incident occurred when a girl that screwed over one of my buddies showed to the wedding. She was invited but really had no reason to be there and …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/18 02:34 AM
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I’d like to think I’m just that sexy, but the lifting helps.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/18 05:40 AM
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60% of the time, it works every time.
/r/askMRP17/08/18 05:14 AM
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some such nonesence, I’m sure this is an autocorrect, but I think it’s more to the point than nonsense that you probably were going for.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/18 04:36 AM
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Just because we’re bald doesn’t make us a loser. I get lots of compliments on my head shape.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/18 04:35 AM
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I get your point, but I can understand OP. I’m also a complete fuck up and I own that. But knowing you’re a fuck up and having your own internal monologue pile on adds to the difficulty. I’ve been working on my monologue well before my RP journey started, so when I hit the anger phase I was able to use my own (non-cartoon) scripts to overcome. My anger phase was seemingly shorter than most. But OP isn’t that far off. Not sure I could execute his method, but if it works for one poor bastard than …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/18 04:32 AM
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Oh I thought you meant actual masks.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/18 02:04 AM
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Yeah, not sure how to get out of that without permanent damage. I told her it was bullshit and I don’t expect to have conversations like that again. Boundary set. Now if she starts down that track again I’ll cut it short.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 10:59 PM
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Done twice since breakfast!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 10:57 PM
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Not my jam. I’m more a process Leia type.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 10:57 PM
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Wow. Thx. That’s a lot to digest. I’m not there yet but it’s funny cuz you’re talking right along the lines of what I’ve been thinking recently. I’m willing to kill the puppy, but she can show value added when she’s not hamstering like mad. I don’t know what anima is and I don’t have any masks. Well, ski masks.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 05:48 PM
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No fucks given. She was mostly pissed the first time cuz I laughed. She spent two hours trying to get me to tell her whether or not I was happy with how that interaction went. I told her I was cuz I barely remember it at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 05:45 PM
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I’d appreciate that.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 05:10 PM
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Haha that’s funny. She got upset last wk cuz I slapped her ass in the kitchen and she asked me not to. She’s asked me that before and I usually remember but we were having a weird day so I was trying to lighten the mood. This morning we had good makeup sex and after I slapped her ass on the way to the shower, really lightly cuz at the last second I remember I wasn’t going to do that. She looked at me with big puppy dog eyes and asked why she liked it so much that time when she didn’t the last ti…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 05:09 PM
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I’m OP so now I’m a bit confused. Do have her read RPwives or no? I’ll do my own research but it sounds like you have more experience there. I’d like my wife to be more feminine and ‘50s leave it to beaver attitude. She’s getting there as the journey progresses and I’m definitely starting to lead, but she’s seen the playbook so I’d like her to have a female interpretation of this life, a female perspective from women who understand that TRP isn’t just the locker room vulgarity and spinning plate…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 05:06 PM
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What’s UMC? I don’t understand the last comment either. I feel like I missed something.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 03:56 PM
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Thx for this. You’re right about how she attacks. More lingo, always accusing me of fogging and AA and whatever she read that day. It makes me laugh to hear this shit come from her. Turns out I don’t have to quash it. Just ride it out like any other storm and when it blows over she’s back to being her lovely self. I’ll meantion RPwives to her. Didn’t realize there were so many RP subs.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/18 03:51 PM
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I’ve gone down that route, tho with different wording, and I’ve seen it work. This last event was over the phone since I’m on a trip. Next time tho.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/18 06:05 PM
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38, SO 36, married 14, one child. SO found MRP. SL5x5 BP 155, Sq 215, DL 200, Ohp 140, row 130. Trying to lose weight while increasing lifts has hit a wall, so I’ve added 40g protein shakes to break 14-16 hour fast around noon. Feeling a bit bloated. Physical Getting in 3 lifting days per wk at this point. Lifts feel better but I did some shoulder damage on a wipeout while wake boarding. Going to see the chiropractor about it. Had last wk off while SO was in Florida for work retreat. Had planned…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/18 05:10 PM
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Good luck. I hope it works out for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/18 06:42 AM
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Being RP MEANS being a good father, or at least part of it does. Otherwise, read the sidebar posts on divorce. Recalling other posts about this, try to keep a good relationship with your ex but be prepared in the background for it to get bad. Full disclosure, I’m not divorced, just read a lot of sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/18 05:03 AM
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4 Physical Took the wk off of lifting. Weighed in at 236 on Sunday morning. Down 18 lb total. Felt ok but a couple niggling sore spots healed over the wk. Went wake boarding Sunday which revealed a weakness in my grip strength. Mental Home alone this wk with the dog. Enjoying the quiet and looking forward to knocking a bunch of to dos out. Found myself getting jealous wondering what the wife was doing on her trip. Fear of missing out. Otherwise feel like I’m in a good head space. Sex None this w…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 02:58 PM
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Probably all of them, but at least the last 15. Everything for me has changed in 2 months, and that’s really the point for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/18 07:10 AM
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Agreed
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/18 11:18 PM
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Got it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/18 10:33 PM
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So question about that. Should I encourage her to keep reading? I know Glover says to read NMMNG together. I’m thinking I shouldn’t encourage it, and I haven’t brought up fight club since our soirée in the shop. But at this point she knows what it is and where it is. I’m not going to bring it up, but I’m interested in your thoughts.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/18 10:33 PM
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Nope. Her words directly. I didn’t think it cuz it’s not where my focus lies. My path is mine. I’ve read your entire website. I feel like this event was equivalent to your hot tube night. The difference is that she came to realize her position by reading posts about killing the puppy and the stay plan is the go plan rather than seeing me with other women in a hot tube. Tho my story isn’t nearly as epic as yours. And you’re absolutely right that it changes nothing. Still lifting, still owning my …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/18 08:57 PM
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Those are my current SL lifts, not maxes. Haven’t maxed since I started the program. I know what a main event is. This was as close as we’ve ever been. Do I believe she feels ‘betrayed’ that I discuss our problems with strangers? Yeah, I can see her point. Doesn’t mean it’s gonna stop me. I’m still posting here, aren’t I. What am I missing? I’m not naive about the sex continuing. But it is good right now and I’m happy that it’s happening. It’s a big change from a dead bedroom. Like I said, it’s …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/18 08:06 PM
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Whats in it for me? thats all they give a shit about. No argument here. She’s an adult and she has desires for how the relationship should play out from her perspective. As I said later in my post, my goal is still a better me. Part of what I want is a fully realized relationship, with her or someone else. That means a fully realized me. So you're going to work on all the shit in your life, then just hand it over to her on the 10 yard line? I’m not sure what I’m handing her. I’m building my life…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/18 07:51 PM
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OYS 3 Missed last wk cuz reasons. 5’10” 239lb (-14) neck 18 shoulders 52 waist 37 BF 20% SL 5x5 Sq 200, BP 145, OH 125, DL 190 Relationship. Had the main event. SO found out about fight club. She Spent a wkend reading thru posts and some limited sidebar material. Was initially disgusted but once she understood the underlying goals she turned around. Got a huge amount of feelz and massive hamstering. Had main event on day three. She came to realize that this was a path to having the me that she’s…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/18 06:01 PM
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Do a search of old posts on pregnancy. I know I’ve run into a few. Otherwise, calm down. It’s not rocket surgery. She’s only pregnant, so you have a few months to think it through. Don’t stop leading, but do provide more comfort. That’s the best this newer guy can do. I’m sure someone wiser than I will be along shortly.
/r/askMRP24/07/18 02:41 AM
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FWIW, Adam Carolla says you should always have a ‘fuck off’ in the chamber. Has served me well a few times.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 04:53 AM
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A personal assistant? Never thought of that. Handyman is a good idea as well. Thx.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/18 06:20 PM
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Thx. That’s good to know. I’m trying to keep from going Rambo but making those decisions at the same time. It’s a bit tougher for me since I’m away from home 3-5 days each wk.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/18 04:03 PM
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WGAS about her race? You married a woman with four kids who’s ex is in prison. Sounds like the setup of a bad drama.
/r/askMRP18/07/18 05:34 AM
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Point taken.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 11:41 PM
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I don’t think she knows much. I offered to give her the book to read but she’s anti-reading. Refuses to do it. She read a summary from the same internet she doesn’t want me to get advice from and her mind is made up. I do not talk about fight club. For the part about the vehicles, you are correct. We didn’t make this much money before and it’s difficult to manage when it first happens. We cut back for a long time and now our spending has grown with our income. It’s something I have been dealing …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 10:24 PM
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OYS 3 Body 5’10” 240lb (down 12 in 6 wks); 5x5 program: Sq 175 Bp 135 Ohp 110 Row 110 DL 150. Low numbers but for once in my life proper form. No knee pain as in the past. Diet has slowly been improving. I’ll get down to 238 then we’ll have a lake day or something similar and I’ll be back up to 245 again. Drinking much less overall. Navy method bf 21%. We have a wedding in 4 wks. My goal is to be 235 consistently by then. No wardrobe improvements. I wear a uniform for work. I’ve upgraded that to…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 06:01 PM
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Yeah, I can do that. I guess my intent was to not DEER. Like practice I guess. I’m getting much better at fogging and staying in my own frame. Didn’t get upset at all just kept saying how small this was and how big a deal she was making it. Getting much better at not going into a guilt spiral. Her emotions and happiness are her problem. That kind of thing. Not worth it in the end tho. Thx for your thoughts.
/r/askMRP17/07/18 06:43 AM
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Thx.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 04:32 AM
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Yeah, I guess I was looking for a conflict. Not sure we’re at the point where I can just AA the way you put it. We don’t have that kind of rapport yet and why my SMV is a bit higher than hers, she’s already made several comments about how I laugh and smirk. I know that’s part of the plan (yes I do read the sidebar) but I hate seeing her struggle with this. I’m still a faggot.
/r/askMRP17/07/18 03:36 AM
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Understandable.
/r/askMRP17/07/18 02:17 AM
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Who is this guy?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/18 10:29 PM
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Good, this was my conclusion as well. She said it as if it was her idea, that if I can’t do it ‘right’ then don’t touch her laundry. Done and done.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 09:59 PM
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This actually came up. When she said ‘you’ve always been like this (a bad partner)” I asked her why she married me. She said she doesn’t know but that she thought I’d change. I told her I thought there’d be more appreciation and sex from her after we got married so obviously we didn’t talk it through enough. Anyway, the laundry is all mixed together. I do laundry cuz it needs to get done. Just like I load the dishwasher or vacuum. Basic household chores that need doing.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 09:44 PM
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So I called her this afternoon. Short answers about how her day is going and so on. So I asked her if she’s still mad about the battery. She said it was one of many things. Hour plus conversation using the laundry as focus. She’s mad I don’t turn her clothes right side out when I fold them. I said it was disrespectful for anyone to leave it like that and expect someone else to do it for them. And I’m talking jeans turned all the way out with underwear still in the legs. She’s said it’s typical m…
/r/askMRP16/07/18 09:03 PM
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All good. Still good advice.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 08:48 PM
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That was from one of the sidebar posts.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 07:15 PM
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Yes, the stay plan is the go plan, but right now the only real plan is to own everything and lift and stfu. I’m still working on my mission. As for the rest of what you wrote, wow, that’s a lot to digest. I think I laughed at her precisely because the battery was such a small peanuts thing. Im just starting to turn the ship around (like, one or two degrees so far, to follow the boat analogy) and I’m trying to give her the 1000ft rope. I do think that at one point she wanted a happy marriage with…
/r/askMRP16/07/18 07:14 PM
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Good advice, but flight wasn’t a typo. I fly for a living.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 07:06 PM
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Probably true. Should I add “right now” to the end of that?
/r/askMRP16/07/18 04:57 PM
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Hmmm. It bothers me that her default mode seems to be to react negatively to whatever I do. I’ve always seen my wife as a little bit more logical and rational than the women I dated before her. I’m reevaluating. I think what really bothers me is that I’m still really new to this journey, that I’m not super confident yet, but I’m seeing things improve in fits and starts so I’m continuing. I don’t want my marriage to end because I think there’s still hope for happiness but also because I don’t wan…
/r/askMRP16/07/18 04:56 PM
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I don’t. After reading (and re-reading) NMMNG I’ve gone from not arguing cuz that would rock the boat to not arguing cuz what would it solve. The change in mindset, despite the same actions, has seen results.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 04:50 PM
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Nope. Actual flight. I’m a pilot.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 04:48 PM
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Excellent point. Don’t want to go Rambo.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 04:03 AM
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I think I’ve read that one. I think you’re right.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 04:02 AM
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Thx. Just got off the phone with her. More one word answers but slightly better tone of voice. Refused to say goodbye after I did. Good thing I’m not on Facebook or she might unfriend me! Clarity edit
/r/askMRP16/07/18 12:48 AM
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Ok, so pretty normal. Thx for that. I guess I was expecting to be told I’m being a faggot or autistic about it. Weird. The old me would feel bad about upsetting her day, but since she’s always upset at something what’s the difference, right?
/r/askMRP16/07/18 12:32 AM
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Trickle truth in play.
/r/askMRP12/07/18 12:44 AM
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Surprise surprise I haven’t gotten to WISNIFG yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/18 06:22 PM
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Agreed
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/18 06:21 PM
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Agreed on the truck repair. I was pretty pissed when the box I opened had the wrong part, but I was in the shop (my shop) and she was in the house so by the time I came in I acted calmly about it. Still a DLV. Part come in Thursday, I’m installing Friday. Best I can do at this point. As far as the contracts, in my mind these amount to expectations, and if the other person isn’t told explicitly what the expectation is, then it’s a covert contract. So reflecting on your question, I guess it’s not …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/18 04:17 PM
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OYS 2 Things this last wk were weird. No real conflict. Spent the 4th at a friends cabin with the fam. SO left a day early to work and I stayed at the lake having fun with the kiddo. Overall it was a successful trip. I planned everything but the food, packed everything and made sure there was nothing for anyone else to really have to worry about so we could have fun. And fun was had. I count that trip a success. SO has been odd since we’ve been home. I had planned to change the struts on the tru…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/18 05:33 AM
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And when I succeed, the only one that cares is me. I accept both ends of the spectrum.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 06:36 PM
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Good point. I agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 05:24 PM
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I agree. I was going to DEER to you but fuck it. I’m fixing that fucker. I don’t need her approval or anyone else’s. I’m tired of being a bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 05:06 PM
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I read your comment as making me my own point of origin. Not being autistic, just confirming. It’s a concept I’m struggling with because I’ve been told for years that I’m a self centered asshole. I don’t believe I am. Guess I should just embrace it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 04:56 PM
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From the beginning I wanted to do this myself. Despite her comments I’ve done basic car mx and repairs myself. I almost wrote that I don’t care if she likes it but that’s not quite true. I want to prove to myself I can do it, but fuck if it wouldn’t be nice if she stopped thinking of me as an autistic faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 04:24 PM
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OYS Wk 2 Me 38 yr her 37 yo, married almost 14 together 18. Daughter 10 yr. Income: Me ~$120k her ~25k No debt other than rental house (covers itself) and current home. Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, Pook, TRM yrs 1-4, Rian Stone's blog, started SGM, 12RFL Physical: SL5x5 Program. Sq 155, BP 120, Row 100, OHP 105, DL 140. All super low, but I'm cool with it. Never felt better in my form and am seeing results which is motivating as hell. I guess the plan that works is the plan you'll stick to. Starting wt: …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 03:39 PM
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Dude. So much here for me to digest. Thx for it. I’m on the phone so can’t do a lot of fancy editing. Yes I like her. She has great qualities that offset some of my weaknesses. She’s fun to be around when she’s not riding my ass. I am attracted to her. I am a drunk captain. She has no reason to believe that I’m making a serious change. But she will. As to the rest, I agree with all of it. I’m a work in progress but for the first time I’m actually committed to something more than what I just ‘wan…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/18 05:41 AM
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Thx. Breathing is definitely important. I never lost my cool, didn't raise my voice or try to stop her making her points. This morning was interesting. She's much more level, conversing with me again on a normal level. I did a reset like the sidebar says to, been doing that for wks now. Thought my opsec was good. Passwords on computer and phone, don't talk about fight club, separate amazon accounts (how else do you buy your SO a gift if she gets emails when they ship?). Apparently she opened the…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 07:54 PM
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OYS 1 38 yo married to 37 yo for 14 yr next month. One 10 yo girl. My income $115k hers ~$30k. Pilot so I’m gone for half the month on 3-4 day spurts. She’s a SAHM that works part time (5-6 hrs/day) from the house. Lifts: 1RM SQ 250; BP 215; OHP 185; DL 315 Currently doing SL for about three wks. Started off very low which I’ve come to like. I’ve never squatted so deep. Starting wt: 252 Currently: 240 Dead bedroom, absent husband, good father, good financial provider but terrible at sticking to …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 05:20 AM
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