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| 0 | The concept of women "maliciously withholding sex" makes no sense.I think in those cases what those men have is a fetish completely removed from the partner in question. they fantasize the idea of having taken sex from someone because it rewards them in the eyes of others. It's a cultural problem because Men do validate other Men for this. Sex isn't an accomplishment and shouldn't be. Yet dudes clap hands when a guy has banged. It isn't a celebration for him meeting and loving someone but a celebration for him having achieved something akin to beating a video … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/25 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you date a woman who was not romantic at all?Not really, I want someone who wants me as I want them. I understand that isn't everyone but like I prefer things to be clear. If I can't even handle being suddenly ghosted by someone I perceived as a close friend I doubt I can handle a relationship without some assurance. Especially with them leaving me with a "never clicked with you and felt too guilty to say" remark. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/25 09:21 PM |
| 11 | Are there any feminist or blue pill solutions to the male loneliness epidemic?This is kinda something that happened to me in regard to cats. Family kept bringing in a cat and since we already had two and cats are Territorial. Especially the ones we had, I kept making a temporary extra litter box. Which they didn't want , told em that cats are territorial and I'll keep doing this if they keep bringing in this cat. After which they played it off as me screaming and going crazy. I only talk in room voice, this is a long problem that others have expressed to me. Where they ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/25 10:30 PM |
| 3 | Women look for guys who will entertain them, and then are surprised when those guys bounce after sex. If you want to find guys who stick around, go for men with similar personalities.people are always motivated to be validated without proper reflection in kindness and care. Like craziest example I got is a man attempting to help me while I was carrying laundry. He asked and I told him I was fine and that I'll carry it down the hill. He proceeds to yank the bag from my hands and in turn I go with a firm no because one doesn't just take another person's items like that. He drops it to the floor and calls me ungrateful while walking away. That man most definitely did things to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Women look for guys who will entertain them, and then are surprised when those guys bounce after sex. If you want to find guys who stick around, go for men with similar personalities.I think entertain isn't the word. Moreso validate. The more a person is a specific way in which is socially valuable or acceptable. The more validated an individual will feel in having come to find them, to be in a relationship with and ect. The validation we as people should strive for is internal and if it's ever external it should be by the individuals we trust and can be vulnerable with. The dark triad I feel is the culmination of this. Narcissism is the extreme of confidence. It's confidenc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Prostitution should be legalizedProstitution shouldn't be legalized for the reasons you mentioned because Men already do that. It's in such high demand that it's an illegal market. It's akin to how probation didn't end alcohol consumption or buying. It should be legalized however for the safety of individuals who partake in such. These types of markets being legalized allow for people in desperate need of help to seek it and allow for regulations. Besides the problem isn't sex but intimacy. Men disguise the need for intimacy u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/25 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Single mothers symbolize something deeply painful to a lot of menAnd to those men I ask, why are you letting such harmful and self sabotaging thoughts ruin a relationship? There is no confirmation of such, ended relationships aren't even always a byproduct of bad decisions. Alot of the time people simply are incompatible. There can be the nicest guy in the world, she can be the greatest partner but they both aren't compatible in life. Maybe she wanted kids and he didn't. Maybe he wanted to move and she didn't. Maybe they had unshared values. Making this about… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/25 02:26 AM |
| 0 | Why does men only like attractive women and not actual good women?Because sexuality is kinda like that. You might be demi sexual if you're unable to find anyone attractive without a personality. Like sexuality is a case of out of control ape brain. People can't choose it , but that doesn't mean they shouldn't manage it. Which is like a cause of alot of problems because it's always so different and specific to an individual. I believe however expression and interpretation of sexuality is easily influenced by outside forces which is what we see when it comes to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/25 03:03 AM |
| – | Time to settle the dick size debate once and for all using data - women generally prefer bigger dicks until a certain point and the ideal size for most women is larger than average.I think this goes under the assumptions people have on how to feel pleasure during sex. From what I can tell many women don't necessarily feel pleasure on the inside unless it's the g spot which is located near the clit and stimulation around the clit gives em pleasure. I think the reason big dick leads to positive experiences is moreso the illusion and expression of confidence. A guy with a big or average dick is likely to not be as self conscious and by proxy more able to perform. It's usually… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 05:33 PM |
| 1 | More women than men watch violent, misogynistic porn. What's the reason?think some women are fulfilling desires to inflict? Like projection in porn from what I can tell isn't sex exclusive. Bl is the biggest showcase of this to me in regards to many cis women who prefer to project themselves into men that share traits with them. it can be safe to assume some women in that case project themselves as the ones inflicting such to another woman if they are bi or lesbian but maybe due to purity and homophobia don't realize it as such. Like I notice a pattern with some fri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 03:56 AM |
| 3 | If you’re an average NPC, becoming “sexy” is about shifting your behavioral mindset more than anything.Aren't these just basic attractive qualities for both sexes? Xd , I'm a man so obviously I ain't getting it because my standard for sexiness is more so teasing, playfulness, values and connection. In which case I think it's just preference and whatever one comes to value. Like many men have hyperfixations on specific parts of a women's bodies based on some value based system in their head. I don't care because my brain just wants to go bazoooga for someone I share hobbies with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/25 01:03 AM |
| 4 | How offended do you feel when you see sexualized images of men?Being horny is like perfectly natural and you shouldn't stop yourself from such. Just don't confuse your own desires with like what is actually happening xd. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/25 10:23 PM |
| 3 | How offended do you feel when you see sexualized images of men?I don't mind, the problem isn't so much desires but agreements and treatment. When the line becomes exploitation and abuse. Love is the desire to care, lust is desiring an individual sexually. Taking advantage in a way in which a person doesn't consent or is comfortable with is the problem. If a man puts himself out there as a thirst trap, no pressure from outside sources in a way that he is comfortable. Then no problem, go ahead. There's implied consent with that, however that isn't consent to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/25 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Men are menI despise the red pill in general so I just get buzzled when I see these talking points. Mostly in terms of viewing these things as a biological thing and not a social thing. I doubt men are biologically hard wired for "younger" and it's more so a symptom of the cultures that influence them. the expression of sexuality, (not sexuality itself) tends to be heavily influenced by society Lavender marriages, old beauty standards of men wearing makeup,heels, small pp and ect, old beauty standards of w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Men are menSis, I firmly believe this has nothing to do with biology and is a social thing. Men through my social circles that I feel invested in tend to not be like this. The men who do tend to be on the social circles I despise. The traditionalist circles which I believe breed men into being like that. I myself feel disgusted at the idea of dating someone younger. Thing with sexuality, and the search for partners is that when society puts value over something. People will crave or conform to it even if i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 03:03 PM |
| -1 | Why is the "Office Siren" trend getting so much hate?There's nothing wrong with what she's wearing, it's just that all the people giving backlash don't understand why rape/harassment happens and are shaming because they demand women dress and be a specific way. Legit, that's a get up a woman would wear in the "if men didn't exist what would you wear" trend because of how society tends to believe men are like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/25 02:31 PM |
| 2 | how much internalized shame do you think you experienced from purity, sexual, and ect expectations?That must have been fun, basically a cloth change montage in ones head. Switching between what would feel right when nothing is holding one back. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 05:00 AM |
| 7 | how much internalized shame do you think you experienced from purity, sexual, and ect expectations?That is horrible and heartless. Making my blood steam that people like him exist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 04:54 AM |
| 4 | how much internalized shame do you think you experienced from purity, sexual, and ect expectations?I might take time to read it because it looks very informative. I always been pro sex ed and kinda get annoyed when people treat porn as sex ed. Or at least use porn inspired lingo and thought. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 04:50 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Why do guys approach women they cannot afford?the men doing it and the woman expecting anything are just being idiotic in my opinion. man is trying to fulfill the provider ego which doesn't work when she can provide for herself and him. meanwhile if she expects a guy to pay for her lifestyle that she's been paying then it's like, she has to have her standards set and any notion of less must be met with a firm no. if it's a random guy then that shouldn't be expected at all. a date is called a date because it's an appointed arrangement to fig… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 02:12 AM |
| – | How true is it that men pretend to be good boys at work but are totally different at home?Please, having privacy and a different approach to situations isn't hiding. Just because someone is an expert singer doesn't mean they'll sing all the time or that doing so is hiding it. It just hasn't been brought up or called for. There's barely a situation where anyone would devolve if they watch porn or not. Especially in a work situation, if you're that curious you could ask him but as you said he has a wife so there's clear boundaries there despite the work ones. It's the same reason you'r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/25 01:12 AM |
| 2 | Why are there never forums of people trying to decode men in the same way people try and decode womensir, I'm talking about cultural influence on people in general. People don't just resist cultural influences. People are susceptible, easily manipulated and confused. To assume otherwise forgos the extensive history of humanity. Like I'm not comparing the plights but the cause of em. Which is usually how people are raised and the long standing patterns caused by that. Just because let's say racist rhetoric and ect isn't as prominent doesn't mean that it doesn't continue it's influence. There's s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/25 11:16 AM |
| 1 | Why are there never forums of people trying to decode men in the same way people try and decode womenWe have that in abundance. You think we don't? If so I'd like to know what paradise you think this is. It's been a constant in its history as with the history of all of humanity. It just changes faces. As for why, again it's social system built on a ton of history which people will continue to question. It's just a conflict that won't reach a swift conclusion in the way you think. If it was then we all would have likely forgone religions and doctrines that harm as much as it did, prevented wars … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/25 04:37 AM |
| 2 | Why are there never forums of people trying to decode men in the same way people try and decode womenbecause they are raised too. It's a issue stemming from culture. Akin to how men are pressured to have kids, be masculine, and ect to their own detriment, to the questioning of their self worth and the damning of their emotions. Women are pressured to accept these things or have to find ways to adjust. You think most would want arranged marriages? No , they wouldn't. But many cultures have em because its a system that benefits the powers that be. Usually by giving those higher in a familiar hier… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/25 04:15 AM |
| 10 | Why are there never forums of people trying to decode men in the same way people try and decode womenI feel it puts into perspective not that it's a problem with either gender but the systems that influence them. The systemic, ideological, expectations and ideas on women are way more complicated or hypocritical than that on men. Women are expected to be treated like sexual objects but are also told to be nonsexual objects. To fend off tempting while tempting men. Women are told to constantly fear men and yet also fall in love with them. Any confusion on how anyone of any sex should act is roote… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/25 04:55 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Why aren't men as into Consensual Non-consent or raep fantasies as much as women?As a man who has rape fantasies as the victim. I assume it's because it's a level of trauma involved. Woman are usually taught to fear men for risk of these crimes, some men commit these crimes repeatedly, and ultimately many women feel powerless. This causes a desire to fantasize because it gives control over it. I had been exposed to porn at an early age, almost been raped two times by people in my own home, one was a man older then me and the other a female cousin younger, I was lucky to avoi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/25 02:54 AM |
| 2 | 'Manosphere' tactics don't work- They destroyed my relationship with the love of my lifeAlso note , he choose to ignore everything else you did for those perceptions of confirmation. You didn't lose interest when he cried and ect but he still perceived it as such because in his delusions he felt you should have done something when you were doing what you could. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/25 04:08 PM |
| 2 | 'Manosphere' tactics don't work- They destroyed my relationship with the love of my lifeI think this is also a fact of how negligence also ruins them, you saw the red flags and brushed them off when there should have been urgency. Love is blinding but that blindness makes us neglect very big flags. I agree these tactics don't work, and if they did there is something fundamentally toxic in both parties involved be it self harmful or harm inflicting behaviors. I just can't imagine hearing a guy say that and not be quick to call him out with logic. Like why TF would you be in a relati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/25 04:00 PM |
| 3 | If men don't want to date women over 30 because they're jaded, bitter and have trouble pair bonding, wouldn't the same thing apply to men over 30?I think it's because men don't put their value on those things, I have always valued these things and so doubt I'll find find a relationship until my 30s. The forced stoicism means men are less likely to be empathetic to a woman's problems and be insulted or disgusted when she expresses concerns because he won't. They also value themselves sexually differently. The disgusting master key vs keyhole analogy that some will use to justify male body counts vs female body counts is an example of such. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/25 06:11 PM |
| 1 | Women are attracted to toxic men BECAUSE of their toxic traits, not despite them.i don't think it's that , it's more so a case of an inability for people in general to decide when traits become toxic and to notice good traits. the man you just described would blend into the crowd. he is a well kempt, well mannered, man with no discerning features to catch attention. give him something to notice, does he play music and wears band shirts? does he read books and showcase that by reading one in public that a fan of those works would recognize? does he have a voice that people ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 01:23 AM |
| 2 | Why is it more rare for Women to fall for their guy friends?some part of me thinks it's how impressions change expectations. like if someone gives off the impression they intend to be friends then of course they'll be viewed as a friend. it's really hard to change impressions once they are set in stone. many guys assume giving off the impression of a friend = possibility for a relationship so long as they keep it hidden until "the moment arrives". aka emotional investment which isn't reciprocated. if they really want to let a woman have a different impre… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 11:16 PM |
| – | Its very rare for a man to find a woman who genuinely likes him for who he is as a human being, instead of what he provides.I think it's moreso , anyone who has a healthy view on relationships understands it's a matter of compatibility. It isn't a trade between who does what, it isn't a blind desire, it isn't a matter of who wants what, but if it's all simply compatible. Like I'm not going to be compatible with someone who doesn't value me. I as a human male have a self esteem which puts value on myself and want to be valued by someone who I as well value. Any other way is simply incompatible with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/25 07:09 AM |
| 3 | Where did the whole “women love bad boys” thing even come from? How true do you think it is?I feel it's moreso people just fail to set proper limits and pursue promise blindly. Traits are only acceptable with limits. There has to be a limit between narcissism and confidence , a limit between stoicism and emotionlessness, a limit between defensive and destructive. That's the struggle people face when judging character. when does narcissm bleed into confidence? There's a clear flags when it has crossed but where is it, is hard to judge. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/25 06:22 AM |
| 0 | Feminism has made men weakI'm sorry but I highly disagree with your reasoning. Has it made men weak? Probably in the aspect of men misunderstanding and not truly seeking equality then ya. But like, I think you've been in a bubble. Most people I know tend to want a bit of androgyny within their partners. That's my bubble, so it's likely baseless in your eyes but I'll share it. Women I know tend to be into men who have feminine qualities. Men I know tend to be into woman with masculine qualities. This pattern I see mostly … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/25 07:43 PM |
| 1 | Heterosexuality is not sustainable by red pill logic.Any enforcement or hyper specific view of heterosexuality is always unsustainable. We as individuals have different needs, desires and boundaries. This involves adaptation, flexibility, communication and effort. Otherwise we'd be stagnant or doomed to a set fate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/25 07:00 AM |
| 1 | Feel like corporate influence isn't talked enough herePeople have agency, no doubt but as groups we are susceptible. The jonestown massacre, witch hunts, and the Nazis paint clear pictures of such. Search up the jonestown massacre, I feel like it's horrifying show case of what people are susceptible of doing. A mass suicide caused by a cult leader. 900 dead. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/25 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Feel like corporate influence isn't talked enough hereI can see how it's not intended, I remember a story about how scientists were trying to reinforce damaged aircraft. They looked at all the planes that returned and thought to reinforce the damaged areas. However someone pointed out that they should reinforce the non-damaged areas because those would have been the planes to not return. If that wasn't pointed out, imagine how many would have still died the same deaths. So while they are providing a service that's meant to do something like get peo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/25 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Feel like corporate influence isn't talked enough hereNah just find it interesting, tho I guess there should be some incentive for risk taking. Regulations don't really incentivise risk unless it's to the detriment of specific companies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/25 03:23 PM |
| 1 | Feel like corporate influence isn't talked enough hereI agree with the feedback loop I just don't think it's only natural preference but an added loop of. Game is quality, kid finds game marketed towards them, and it validates some pre-held expectations. this seems to be a pattern among people in general. The amount of closeted gays that exist because they are validated for being "straight" is funny. Saying this from my own experience as a kid with friends who were in denial. The need to be validated is strong in the human psyche especially with th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/25 03:07 PM |
| 3 | Feel like corporate influence isn't talked enough herethink they might magnify existing preferences unknowingly? Mostly when it comes to products that have some social value. Clothing, video games, and other such things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/25 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Stating that sex and intimacy for men is a need, isn’t a proposal for sexual slavery. This is a common strawman that women propose because it would be ethically uncomfortable to acknowledge this being true.You acknowledged it by commenting on it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/25 08:39 PM |
| 2 | Stating that sex and intimacy for men is a need, isn’t a proposal for sexual slavery. This is a common strawman that women propose because it would be ethically uncomfortable to acknowledge this being true.It still isn't a need, it's a desire. Just acknowledge that, Those things are needed because without it a person dies. When it comes to sex, without it we can still find sexual satisfaction and even without sexual satisfaction we can still find meaning and satisfaction in life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/25 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Why do men believe virgin men are unattractive to women?Those that do tend to be in circles where male virginity is shamed and female virginity being maintained is celebrated. When the value of a man is dependent on his ability to gain a woman and the value of a woman is dependent on being pure until she finds the right man. It's a toxic culture that people don't realize the hypocrisy in and remain blind to because participating gives them validation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/25 05:43 PM |
| 1 | Madonna/Whore: the male dual mating strategy, and how women can protect themselves from male resentmentI'm not red pill so I don't really follow this well. I highly doubt men as a whole have a natural polygamous urge . People can have polygamous urges and that has been showcased in multiple cases within women and men. Probably because we as a social species benefit will from polygamy. There's also the matter of men and women wanting the most quality which I feel is false. It's a matter of compatibility, there is no inherent measurement of quality among people besides what is compatible. If a male… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/25 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Why don't males shoot their shot anymore?For me personally I just don't feel in the proper head space. I think that's also to consider in areas of self improvement. If you're in the gym, you're in it to improve and that means not really going for a relationship. It's assumed She's in it to improve her body and mind as well so it's very easy to assume she isn't looking for a relationship either or that she's so attractive that she's likely already in a relationship. There's also the matter of if he shoots his shot it can go completely o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/25 07:20 PM |
| 1 | How do you think porn is actually different from (stereotypically) women reading erotica/romance novels/smut?Ah thank you, I'll see if they read em. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/25 07:12 PM |
| 1 | How do you think porn is actually different from (stereotypically) women reading erotica/romance novels/smut?Oh that's cool, I might recommend a few to a friend who is into it. You have some titles you're willing to name? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/25 06:52 PM |
| – | Please explain more about "I want women to be honest about their preferences"Please explain more about "I want women to be honest about their preferences" Please answer the following questions: In what sorts of situations should a woman tell you about her preferences? In-person? Online? When she's comfortable. Preferably she starts out with what she's comfortable to express. If a woman rejects you, would you prefer her to be specific about why she is rejecting you? How would you like this phrased? For example if she does not date short men, would you prefer her to say "Y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/25 03:34 AM |
| 2 | How do you think porn is actually different from (stereotypically) women reading erotica/romance novels/smut?I think it's to do with purity culture and the massive amount of misunderstandings and butterfly effects that stem from it because double standards and the order of which they are introduced. Like let's say someone is introduced to the standard that men like women because they are always tempted by them By proxy girls must dislike men because they aren't acting like that. I say this because this was like 11 year old me being exposed to red pill, harem anime, and other stuff I shouldn't have seen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/25 01:07 AM |
| 2 | How do you think porn is actually different from (stereotypically) women reading erotica/romance novels/smut?I think it's because the imagination makes content extremely self aligned and can forgo or create context. You know how people are endlessly arguing about interpreting the Bible? Kinda like that. Like there's the reality of how sensations and situations are then there's the aesthetic, sexual, primal , idea of what they can be. if I were to say fat juicy ass. There's a very personal idea of what would constitute that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/25 12:53 AM |
| 2 | How do you think porn is actually different from (stereotypically) women reading erotica/romance novels/smut?Probably just the intended aspect to it. Works have intended audiences, will the works make sense to others? Not really. Like bl aka men loving men is extremely popular form of content for some groups of cis women. Alot of it isn't intended for gay men because culture surrounding it is homophobic and using them for fetish. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/25 12:23 AM |
| 1 | What’s your opinion on the 4B movement coming to America?people are liable to their own choices. it's a matter of if they can accept the outcomes and it is true to themselves. if the women are okay with this then they can go ahead. if it affects men then the real question would be why these men are chasing them? there's no point in such. i also question how this is anti patriarchy? it seems more like indifference. to be anti patriarchy would be to change the system but this doesn't really change it but is more of a way out. these philosophies of no br… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/24 08:08 PM |
| 3 | When men call women “illogical,” do they genuinely believe she is literally not following a rationale?I think when anybody says illogical they usually mean non beneficial. In what ways? Who knows but logic to many people is dependent on success towards a goal instead of rational. Like alot of people will call gay people irrational because to them the goal in life is making babies or some shit. When the rational is clearly they feel attraction towards their own sex, why would they seek the opposite? When someone actually questions logic they question the rational the person is having not the pers… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/24 01:52 AM |
| 2 | She isn’t “withholding” sex from you. She simply doesn’t feel like having sex.i agree with this. tho i think a problem is that some women treat themselves this way due to expectations from these men. like i'd rather not use give and get language with a partner when it comes to sex because that makes sex transactional and i don't desire that. i hope my parter feels confident enough to just say no, that they are not horny and ect, to not feel obligated to give me anything because i don't want to be given anything. sex is for us, not for one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 11:36 PM |
| 1 | "just treat them like humans"usually i envision this being in regards to putting yourself in their shoes instead of some universal treatment of humanity. the universal treatment of humanity is something we are taught to do as kids aka treat people with respect and empathy. however to treat people properly no matter who they are , we need to understand their values and situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/24 06:24 PM |
| 1 | Why do women require bottomless trust from men but don’t give an ounce to us?the reason this happens is because of the value behind the acts and resources. money is a resource and it's not an obligation of a relationship so it isn't valued as such. money is also valued for giving people autonomy, an act of insurance beyond anything. there's still the benefit of doubt as well that the off chance isn't the man's fault but circumstantial. he could have gotten in debt or had his money stolen. what can she do then? meanwhile fidelity has different value. it's not a resource b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/24 05:38 AM |
| 1 | Every time a male celebrity's nudes are leaked - women and gay men spread it, laugh about it, discuss it, critique it, shame it etc. with zero blowback.i doubt they ever been fans of him. usually if a anyone is shown to be harassed in these cases it's because they weren't liked by that community already and likely don't have the proper support behind them to gain any resemblance of protection. what people do to you on the internet depends on your protection. if you got none then you'll be driven through the dirt. you can clear your name and ect but once the voices of the damned are herd then it's hard to get rid of their words. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/24 06:45 AM |
| 1 | Is the the old cliché “you’ll meet someone when you’re not expecting it” true for men?i feel like it's more so focus on being your bestself then people will come for you. aka dress nicely, take care of your body, exercise, hobbies, protect your mental health and ect. people will become attracted to your positive qualities because there's a lot to work with not a lot of work to be done. i think that's the main difference between unattractive and attractive. you have to have a lot to work with, not be the source of work to be done. those who say “you’ll meet someone when you’re not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/24 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Men have "fetishes", women merely have "preferences"if anyone wants anything for pursuit of arousal then that's a fetish. if they get aroused by it but don't actively pursue it then it's a kink. if there's no arousal involved then it is what it is because then it's dependent on what desires are involved. like if someone wants high class then they follow hypergamy. people tend to assume what you are pursing when declaring a preference. if you want a girl with a big butt then people are gonna assume it's sexual, that you are pursing sexual gratific… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/24 04:19 PM |
| 3 | There is a correlation between women's gravitation towards Dark Triad personality traits, and their propensity for being victimsI feel like that should be obvious? The dark triad is easily mistaken as positivity by both sexes. It's usually mistaken as confidence, drive, priority, carelessness confused as stoicism, questioning of basic human emotions as innocence, outburst as vulnerability, manipulation as kindness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 09:25 PM |
| 4 | Sexual Selection in Men and Womenhonestly seems like cases of people just focusing on very specific aspects of sex or not putting much thought besides what they search for in it. like when it comes to your male friend, he is just looking for orgasm. he himself doesn't care how he gets it and probably just does what he himself needs to climax instead of enjoying the experience. meanwhile for your female friend , its hard to tell exactly what she looks for in sex. "good dick" can mean one that brings her orgasm or that gives her … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/24 06:31 PM |
| 1 | (fixed flair) It's easier for women to get laid, but they're much less likely to be satisfied with the experienceHow is ethnicity, gender and ect related to a punch? I said movement of the torso, maintaining posture, application of weight, and ect. This is stuff to increase the efficiency of a punch, be it force, speed, or precision. This goes for any punch not knock outs. similar applies for sex it's just that the goals are opposite. For fighting the goal is to damage and harm, for sex the goal is to pleasure and support. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/24 05:25 PM |
| 1 | (fixed flair) It's easier for women to get laid, but they're much less likely to be satisfied with the experienceThere is skill In most things. It's just usually subtle and hard to observe without experience or teaching. Like most people can't throw a proper punch unless taught or gone through multiple fights . There's a lot to a punch, movement of torso, maintaining posture, application of weight, and ect. Most tend to flail their arm because that's what they see. They only see the arm moving and assume that's just how it is. I'm willing to bet that goes for intercourse as well. What we see is a man inser… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/24 06:19 AM |
| 1 | How do we know what's natural to each gender, and what is the cause of society?We don't and without unethical testing I doubt we will. It's best to work with what we know of how things currently are and what influences that. So if men are more likely to protect, it's best to see what we as a society consider worth protecting because that influences that drive. If women are more likely to want stronger men, it's best to see why women feel so vulnerable without one. There's an influence for strength. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/24 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Some men aren't fit to reproduce or date and it's okay to say thateh? we are all fit to make the decisions we make. the question is only on likelihood of succeeding and desire. like our purpose isn't to reproduce, reproduction is just a byproduct of cause and effect. what stays just so happens to have stayed. doesn't change how precious life is. people will date whoever aslong as requirements match. aslong as they love,live, and do. even the ones who "shouldn't reproduce" will. there's no end to it and that means there is always chance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/23 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Chasing women is a huge waste of time.It's more so a matter of chasing things one has to do themselves. If a guy wants to be sexy and confident, then he has to make himself as such. Pertaining to others is ultimately succumbing and being something you are not. It's nice to like fulfill someone else's wants but it is best when both people's wants allign. That's what is important, men don't have to chase but align themselves. When you chase it's because it is getting away from you. When you align it is because it's in your reach. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/23 04:43 PM |
| – | How much do you think enforced sexual conduct affects men?Its weird cause it felt like many guys did and especially other kids my age. Alot of people in my gen were exposed to porn and nsfw content at unnecessarily young ages. Like I had interest in women for aslong as I can remember but the horny ness and shit was mostly a side thing. My main focus was always finding a companion. Whenever people brought it up, it always weirded me out because like "why is this so important? " I think it's just that I myself raised myself to have specific beliefs so wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Why do you think men are more likely than women to be attracted to only one gender?I think it's just a pattern of avoiding isolation and one group has managed to do that. People inherently try to fit in with what is common unless they know there are others like them. If bisexuality in men stays rare it's going to be rare unless enough men can form a big enough support group. women have kinda escaped the cycle of isolation and acceptance in this case. If it isn't that then I guess it's just a case of sexual characteristics being common or not? Like if most men find breasts attr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 12:55 AM |
| – | The most successful relationships are when both individuals are a similar level of attractivenessI think it depends on one's own beliefs of beauty. When one puts self worth based on the attention they get, then it gives toxic ideas. when one puts self worth based on who they get , it forms toxic ideas. In healthy relationship you're supposed to be proud of how you are and also proud of your partner, not make it fuel your ego and use it as an excuse to satisfy selfish desires. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/23 11:52 PM |
| 1 | If a man is the type to always want a paternity test, he should make that clear to his partner BEFORE they decide to have kids.That definition of trust uses consistency and confidence as its markers of trust. I'm saying that people in general will have different markers or trust. Usually by what they consider to be commitment and that medical advancements help expand that. What I'm suggesting is that these people give out their accusations and burdens out first so that a person can properly avoid or prove them wrong. To bring it after an action is basically a betrayal to the recipient. Like if I were to make something f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 09:09 PM |
| 0 | If a man is the type to always want a paternity test, he should make that clear to his partner BEFORE they decide to have kids.I think the simple matter of fact is that for trust to exist there needs to be proof. Women generally view the act of sex as that proof hence them refusing tests. Why prove what has already been proven? However because medical advancements exist, I can easily imagine many men and women using medical based interactions as the subject of proof. Instead of sex it's going to be something else. That's the problem and the only way to fix it is communication and honesty. like if a man now has the power… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 06:07 PM |
| 2 | If a man is the type to always want a paternity test, he should make that clear to his partner BEFORE they decide to have kids.I agree, let people figure out who their partner is before their partner reveals themselves on whims. If a woman and man still want to have sex afterwards then at least it won't be with false expectations. The reason women usually are insulted by paternity tests is because sex itself is viewed as an act of trust. To distrust the byproduct of that union is basically a slap to the face because it recontextualizes the act. Now they'll have the context before initiating sex. if they wanna prove trus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 03:40 AM |
| 5 | With women, you need to cultivate the vibe if you want a good conversation.A person who is toxic likely won't notice they are toxic. People in general don't notice when they are toxic. We kinda have to call it out and hope the person realizes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 10:10 PM |
| 2 | Men who want to be loved for "who they are" and not "what they provide" are not being reasonableI think a simple way to look at it is, who we are is what we provide. If we do nothing and there is nothing then like there's no point. The important thing to consider isn't what you provide to others but what you want to provide. If you love a friend, you'll want to make them happy. If someone gives you money, you want to give it back. There's also the fact you have to provide for yourself to live happily. You need to provide your own money to get into your hobbies. You need to provide your own… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 03:13 PM |
| 10 | There is a active push to limit the scope of socially acceptable venues to approach a womanI think these guys are unnecessarily adding outliers to their lists henceforth making it seem like a bigger risk than it actually is. They gotta look at where there is common consensus and the majority. The list of to do, will dramatically lessen. Like a majority of people agree not to bother someone who is preoccupied. The majority don't have a consensus on where to approach. So now you have a hard limit and a set of opportunities to act on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 07:04 PM |
| 1 | What is the Your Ranking of What's Important in a Relationship?Interest In each other aka commitment Communication and planning Chemistry physical intimacy with any of these things tho then a relationship isn't worth it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 01:51 AM |
| 1 | Men are not more v*olent for not getting sex. Most v*olence against women come from men they are partnered with, not from virgins menMost violence we are exposed to is from those we form connections with or are connected too in some way. It's honestly a tragedy from how people tend to want to protect their kin. Think of it this way, a family's goal is to protect the family. Usually the mindset is the individuals within the family hence the family accepting any wrong doing from their own. My problem is that these dynamics are usually in blind faith. Like, if a man or woman serves as a possible threat to the family then they sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/23 02:57 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on the concept of the 'Better guys" dating app? What does the design say about women's expectations in online dating?The reason this app exists is likely because of the amount of men pretending to be friends with women and therefore these women are trying to gear those men to women who would want them. I don't call it a bad system but the problem is that the system is gendered. Like if lonely men and women can't find a partner then they can find one through recommendations. It being gendered however doesn't necessarily give men many options in the app and doesn't really appeal to lonely women who are considere… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 03:53 AM |
| 2 | Women Choosing Better MenI don't think anyone should choose "better" but the partner they want. Those who say better usually put themselves on a pedestal or have very specific wants that they can't imagine being without. There are no inherent red flags on a man unless they contradict what you want. If you want loyalty and a man isn't loyal then yes, red flag. I think you should ask yourself why you didn't want these men and see how you can get closer to your desired outcome. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 03:21 AM |
| 1 | Many Men don't seem to understand the difference between sexualization and sexynessHow much sympathy people can have for others is based on if they experienced something similar. it's basically like expecting a farmer to understand the struggles of office work. Men generally don't experience being sexy or sexualized. Especially when it comes to their bodies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/23 12:31 PM |
| 0 | Many Men don't seem to understand the difference between sexualization and sexynessSexiness is usually the ability to bring forth arousal. If something is sexy it causes arousal or desire. We can't blame people for that. Sexualization however is relegating something to be a sexual. To treat its purpose as sexual or try to make it sexual. People generally don't want to be relegated. A person may want to give money to their family for example but if that family begins demanding, expecting or pressuring you to give money. It'll feel like they are degrading you to just that, a sou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/10/23 03:53 AM |
| 1 | CMV: If you choose to pursue trashy women over being single, stop expecting sympathy.being single is better than having bad company. Life is magnificent with good company. Honestly I feel like men are putting too much of their self worth in gaining company instead of what company they have gained. Good quality friends are way more important then having more friends. I think it just takes a lot of going through multiple people that we truly learn this. I think men just need to find multiple friends that are woman to like get rid of the need to find a woman. Once you experience en… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/10/23 02:38 AM |
| 1 | Women objectify men way, way more than the opposite.From what I can tell, no one is. It's just that we build things up because that is exactly what arousal is. The build up of sexual desire and what builds that up usually involves both natural desire and conditioning from nurture. I think it's just a testament to how much conditioning affects our minds. Like breasts are sexualized immensely yet it's been shown that at that same time they can be as nonsexual as a six pack depending on culture. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/23 06:55 PM |
| 4 | Women objectify men way, way more than the opposite.I think this stems from people lumping attractiveness with arousal. When a woman claims a man is physically attractive she usually means that he has a good looking body. However many men tend to assume she means he has a sexually arousing body. Attractive people are usually aesthetically pleasing not sexually arousing. Sexually arousing people are usually considered sexy and I think it's what alot of men mean when they call a woman attractive. It's just not something people tend to communicate b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/23 05:41 PM |
| 4 | Men do appreciate female friendship, but they often avoid it because it is costlyDude what you described is guys avoiding their crushes. Men avoid female friendships because of guys who follow their crushes ruining it for them. Those men who follow their crushes despite them being unavailable tend to be toxic or acting on resentments. Sometimes they are scum who try to ruin relationships or break boundaries. In turn men avoid female friends to not face allegations or misunderstandings. Like imagine how defensive and paranoid a person must be after male friend number 5 turned… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Are men more romantic?what I'm trying to convey is that a women's sacrifice is usually not treated as one because it's usually assumed to be in the interests of herself. A child is something one is supposed to be interested in for themselves not their partner. Looking good is supposed to be for oneself because a proper partner appreciates you for yourself. Taking care of a house is in your best interest because you live in it. Stuff like that is how people assume a woman is acting. They don't view it as her sacrifici… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 04:27 PM |
| 2 | Are men more romantic?I think it's mostly that men have more wiggle room when it comes to sacrifice. Due to how little society cares about our lives, sacrifices are one of the few ways we can gain validation and glory. Women however aren't treated that way and if they try to sacrifice anything it's treated like a tragedy or undermining her worth. This can lead to women being scorned by the many if she sacrifices anything. Say a woman tries to sacrifice home for work or work for home, either way people are going to be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 02:08 PM |
| 2 | Are men more romantic?I think the problem is that these sacrifices at the end of the day bring in doubt. It's not like sacrificing money or time. Things people usually keep for themselves and only themselves. Even then if a woman were to sacrifice these things, she is never treated with respect so there is no point in doing so. Especially when the ideal is that she does it for herself, not a man. A woman who has a child while not wanting one is going to be scolded. I would scold her too because to me that's something… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Would you date the opposite gender versiomof yourself?Yes and no? I'd have to see how things work out with myself because I doubt I know myself enough to make this judgement without experiencing me in front of me. Like I'd probably know my friends better because I experienced them. I have never experienced myself, just my thoughts and actions, not the reactions I would actually have towards myself. This can go from voice, mannerisms and subtle things like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 02:31 AM |
| 1 | men need to stop projecting and understand/accept that women’s sexuality will never be the same as theirsIn the end we are still human so the question still is on where interests align. What is universal to human sexuality so that we can come to understanding. I feel like human sexuality is mostly based on sensation, perception, validation, and belief. When anything influences that then how we react and respond changes. If I'm a gay man and I live in a homophobic culture then those things will be influenced because my natural sexuality is in conflict with the cultural expectations of sexuality. Two… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/23 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Men with low sexdrive. A dealbreaker?It's a matter of interest. Women and men want a partner whose interests align with themselves and in turn will hold off on things if those interests can potentially lead to a bad outcome or interests contradict. In this case women want a man who is interested in them for more than sex and in turn will hold off on sex because they don't want men who are only interested in sex. Ultimately this seems like a problem of communication and figuring out commitment more than anything. People are just poo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/23 06:23 PM |
| 1 | More women (than men) are seen as attractive by other women, because the standard of what passes as attractive man is higher and unforgivingYes, I think the impact of the ostracization is something to consider as well. Generally nobody wants to be validated by everybody. We want to be validated by those we have identified with or have come to value. In which case it'll normally be a case of trying to fit in with the same gender to gain their validation and to gain validation for those we value because they bring something to our lives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/23 10:19 PM |
| 10 | What portion of men are actually loathsome slimy creepy scumbags in your experience?I think the easiest way to tell is just seeing if they respect boundaries in positive situations. Like, ngl people who act kind will refuse to accept no for an answer if what they do is viewed as "kind". it's what I call false gestures because they aren't doing it out of good intent but ego. I remember one time while carrying laundry an older man offered to help me. I politely said no because I don't like bothering people. He proceeded to grab one of the bags and carry it with him. I urged him t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/23 03:15 PM |
| 2 | What portion of men are actually loathsome slimy creepy scumbags in your experience?If you were to think about it, a majority of scumbags would go for average women because it is safest. Average people when alone are likely to stay alone or not have as much support in comparison to someone who is attractive. It's like what the women said. When she is alone it happens more often. An extremely attractive person is going to have a lot of people wanting to talk to them and etc. Scumbags mostly care about themselves and in turn will do things to ensure they won't get in trouble. Whe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/23 03:06 PM |
| 3 | More women (than men) are seen as attractive by other women, because the standard of what passes as attractive man is higher and unforgivingTo me part of it is simply because if men were to try things the way women are expected too then they'll be ostracized by men. The same goes for women doing things that men are expected too. I have a friend from when he was little. He would get ostracized by the girls, he was assigned female at birth and generally had a tomboyish personality leading to him mostly only having male friends. He would be called lesbian and other shit, barely had a social life because of it. I was one of his only fri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/23 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Women say to look for signals to approach, yet there are no universal signals to approach a womanI think it's a matter of boundaries. Like normally one sets boundaries and if they allow others to pass those boundaries then it's pretty much a given that they accept those people. Just look at that and not follow a list of signals that others tell you. You look at what they shut down. Basically to figure out what's someones signal, you find out their boundaries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/23 03:02 AM |
| 2 | Men, have you, or have you seen, a man actually protect a woman/child from a predator?It isn't bs in my eyes because people in general freeze or lose thought in stressful situations. To blame them for it is cruel because at the end of the day the person to blame is the abuser. Besides that's kinda the thing. To simply react isn't really an option in alot of cases when the initial reaction can backfire. If a person touches me and I punch them, guess what? I'm the one who overreacted and the burden of proof is on me. I need to prove that they touched me, the blood on their face is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 03:01 AM |
| 5 | Men, have you, or have you seen, a man actually protect a woman/child from a predator?When one gets used to certain types of fear then they can act. When it comes to sexual assault then I guess because women grow up with the fear of it they are more likely to act upon it. I think some men in these situations are in shock,fear or denial, hence it happening without interference. Especially because when it comes to sexual harassment, we are poor at defending ourselves. We aren't taught too after all and so when a situation presents itself we don't know what to do. The main reaction … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/23 10:08 PM |
| 3 | In an age where you’re damned if you try to get sexual too quickly and damned if you stay platonic for too long, what’s the best approach?From what I can tell there is no best approach. It's dependent on the individual and people you are around. You know when you want sex and so you should approach the subject when it suits you and isn't inconvenient to a partner . If they say no or have no interest then it's best to not dwell further. If possible you could make arrangements. Build up temptation and motivation towards the act instead of seeing if you both match wits for the act. Like schedule sex basically in a way that It can be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/23 02:58 AM |
| 2 | Ever notice how it's always AI girlfriends in the news? Why not AI boyfriends?I guess it's because it reflects what both view in relationships and what they want. The same thing is said for the escort problem where female escorts are more common than males. It's also likely just how available what they want is. Women tend to gear towards erotic literature more so than men meaning they are less likely to look at AI for material. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 01:30 AM |
| 1 | What to do with the libido gap?I don't think it's a libido gap but an assumption of intent and value. I feel like when it comes to sex, men are assumed to be preying on a woman. As in he only values and demands sex from her. Meanwhile it is assumed that a woman isn't preying on her man but requesting something she "needs". Many people don't question a man having libido but they always question his intent when doing an action and if that action is motivated by his libido. In terms of advice for your situation, just communicate… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 11:17 PM |
| 2 | Why does this sub look at men willing to date single moms so negatively?There's literally not much wrong with dating a woman who has children unless you yourself are unwilling to take care of those children. I guess the assumption is usually based on if they were to be in that relationship it'll feel like the woman is using them for something besides the relationship. Usually men and women feel like they are using each other and the feeling of objectification is something we want to avoid. For women it's usually based on their sexuality, expectations to cook , clean… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 09:36 PM |
| 2 | what are the social circles where men and women meet and there are the highest chances of carrying on a relationship whether it be friendship or love?I feel like hobbies are the rarest because most hobbies are personal and private. Like bookclubs exist but bookworms normally want to keep whatever shameful or modest reads to themselves or find a place totally void of judgement. You have to like really put yourself out there to be part of the club basically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 08:47 PM |
| 2 | Does the fact that many children are raised in fatherless homes explain why most women want a tall man who 'protects' them? Are they seeking to have the father they never had?I doubt it has much to do with biology but what they are told and symbolism. Size and shape no matter what is used to communicate things in media. It's usually used to communicate ascension and security. Things people are taught to strive for. Smallness is considered the underdog, child like and ect. I think this reels into the subconscious mind changing how one perceives their situation. Have a tall guy barging into a bar and everyone is scared. Have a short guy and they laugh. I guess because … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 02:03 PM |
| 0 | Does the fact that many children are raised in fatherless homes explain why most women want a tall man who 'protects' them? Are they seeking to have the father they never had?Honestly I think this is just something most people do in general. Our parents or adults are meant to be the prime example of the opposite gender. Thing is they have responsibilities that a relationship obviously wouldn't have because you are a child. Your partner isn't going to be your grand protector or nurturer. They will protect you but aren't obligated to drop everything they have for something you want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 01:54 PM |
| 2 | The problem in dating is not toxic masculinity nor femininity, it's toxic positivityPeople are comfortable with their life styles. I think lockdowns helped make it worse because now everyone is comfortable by it and feel down by it. It isn't exactly about positivity but comfort and acceptance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/23 09:24 PM |
| – | Why are men here so obsessed with a woman’s past?Because people generally care about a person's past. It's just that people are told and believe in misconceptions on the sexuality of women and successful relationships. I think it has to do with the idea of woman being a "conquest" and once someone has "conquered her" then he "won". Like the typical idea in male centered romances is a guy getting the girl despite the odds of other suiters or circumstances were she won't show interest. I say this because a coworker of mine was talking about me n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/23 08:28 PM |
| 2 | The problem in dating is not toxic masculinity nor femininity, it's toxic positivityI think it's a matter of the fact people look at results as positive not the process and consistency being positive. If the body feels good eating candy then anyone who hasn't been educated on teeth rot, diabetes and ect will make their diet candy. On the surface it feels and tastes good but it isn't necessarily good. They might even ignore the side effects because how could something so good be causing all these bad things? Takes a lot of trial and error for us to realize these things and once … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/23 08:17 PM |
| 1 | Women's preferences in men wont allow us to reckon with toxic masculinity anytime soonIt won't because the toxicity has oozed. Years and millennia has gone by with it oozing and sealing itself into the dirt. The only ones left to clean it are the victims. Men need to be more proactive in being human with their kids, to be emotional because how they view us is how they'll want to view others. If you are stoic it's fine but most situations don't call for it. Woman and Men alike will insult and demean you but they are merely keeping the filth they have grown accustomed to. It became… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/23 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Your SO is not willing to do something sexual with you that they've done in the pastIf it's something they enjoyed and it's something I want to try then the question is just, why not me or why they don't want to try it? If it's something they don't want to try then understandable. We may like foods, shows, etc but don't have the desire for it. However if it's specific to their partner, it's kinda worrying depending on how the situation goes. If SO doesn't want to do an act with partner but wants to do that act again then red flag and it's how I imagine the insecurities from the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 01:14 PM |
| 3 | Most men would be resentful and disgusted by their partners if they were given a written or visual history of their past sexual experiences. CMV.I don't think it's that we can't live without ignoring part of them. It's just that we don't process our reactions in a healthy way. When something is visual or written we are taking in the information as it goes along, so it is as if we were there as if it was the present. Any reactionary emotion we gain is involuntary but what is important is what we do afterwards. it's like witnessing a spider vs being told a spider is there. When told, we can process it without reaction and collect ourselves… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 12:22 PM |
| 1 | Most men would be resentful and disgusted by their partners if they were given a written or visual history of their past sexual experiences. CMV.People would , the thing is when something is written or visual we are experiencing it in the moment so naturally our mind is reacting as if we were there as if it was the present. Of course we are going to be disgusted, it's like seeing an image of a spider or hearing a loud noise that makes our body jump. It's an involuntary reaction that we can come to terms with afterwards and that is what is important. It becomes irrational otherwise. You jump back at a spider doing what is doing and then y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/23 12:10 PM |
| 1 | Men's complaints about the state of dating all come down to this one inconvenient truth...I mean, who would want to make themselves a market? Women and Men both despise the idea of treating themselves like objects. It just so happens that treating ourselves as objects has been relegated to gender roles and so one form of objectification is more common in one gender while another form is common in the other. Viewing a woman as a sex object or a man as a status object has been common in a lot of societies. So it kinda stuck and now people are sub consciously rebelling. "Why should I pa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/23 08:52 AM |
| 1 | Women (most of the time) are REPULSED by inexperienced men.I don't think it's experience but just the idea of compensation. People in general hate the idea of compensating anything because we want things a specific way. If people for example want pleasurable sex right away. They tend to not want to put in the effort of teaching their partner or making sure a partner is comfortable. Many people also tend to think of compensating as settling so that might increase the dissatisfaction of a situation. When building up for something you are compensating unti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/23 11:56 PM |
| 1 | Men should just refuse to get marriedThat's you all's problems. You all are viewing marriage as something that involves benefit and reward when all it should be is a declaration of what is known. You know your girl and know she loves you? Marriage is a form of expressing that and to treat it other ways will involve people treating it that way. To use it as an excuse for sex and ect is just going to make others excuse it for different things. People should refuse to be married if there is any doubt because nothing is going to change… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/23 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Wouldn't it be so much safer for women if they started hitting on men?That's more on the line of doing what is expected to do. We as people want to feel validated by society and in our perception of ourselves. Because toys usually serve as a way of education and expression. Those who fit in with what is expected and express what is accepted usually gain attention. Attention that is addicting because we are still children. In specific societies, if someone does something unaccepted or different then they'll face backlash no matter how minor and that affects us. I d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 03:13 PM |
| 1 | It is not your parents' job to teach you how to attract a partnerIt isn’t their job but it helps. Think of it like this, you aren’t taking their full advice just whatever Is convenient for what you want. You yourself know what you want to attract and that’s what you should prioritize. Everyone else generally wants or have wanted to attract specific people. Like a guy may want a nurturing woman so his mom is an example and he asks his dad how to identify one. Both him and his dad recognize nurturing as attractive but clearly aren’t attracted to the same type o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/23 03:55 PM |
| 5 | Do men complain less about being used than women?I refuse to believe this notion. Many men do feel used. It's just that usually they play it off or treat it positively because others do. In the end it's mostly the culture, circumstances, and people around us that determine how common these things are. What we are encouraged to value. Men just usually aren't encouraged to value themselves sexually in the same way Women are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Why do men not like women "settling" for them if they are doing the same thing?Simply put people generally want to be the first option, not the only or good enough option. Especially when it comes to insecurities of loyalty and commitment. If they believe themselves to be loyal but are unsure of their partner, then settling becomes a bigger problem. We know ourselves (usually) but we don't fully understand our partner. That little bit of unknown leads to a vast amount of insecurity and fear. In my honest opinion they shouldn't be dating if they let those insecurities contr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 12:35 PM |
| 2 | What's the incentive for men not to be "toxically masculine", if that's what most women go for?The incentive is simple, why date an uncaring woman? If it's a turn off for her, then what makes you think she'll treat your friends, family, or children with care? Many of the hottest people tend to not care about those they have because they have an abundance of options. If they lose a friend another one will come and it's all superficial. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Can empowerment exist with empathy?I feel like in the end it's mostly about opportunity. The opportunity to act, feel, and interpret in specific ways. A person can be powerless but given the opportunity to do whatever evil act they want they'll do it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/23 12:27 PM |
| 1 | Can empowerment exist with empathy?No, not unless one acknowledges the fact that with power comes opportunity and with that opportunity comes the chance for abuse. Making things even in terms of power involves shifting that power and once that power shifts the opportunists will run. They'll run and throw others behind them in a desperate attempt to get the most out of it. What's important is maintaining what is right through that shift. Abuse is abuse, rape is rape, human life has value, gender does not matter in these. Otherwise… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 11:22 PM |
| 2 | If the average men of today live much easier lives than those in the past, why are women not satisfied?This question is kinda mute, no one is ever satisfied until they reach completion or acceptance. What constitutes a complete relationship? What constitutes a acceptable relationship? That's up to the individuals to decide and a lot of times we come to conclusions that just don't align. Usually from what I can tell it isn't an individual thing solely but also social. If a man is for example a stay at home husband or the wife is a worker, the question will arise on if they can manage the challenge… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 11:00 PM |
| 1 | How much do looks matter?I think looks matter in a society where looks dictate more than attraction. From story telling to expectations. we have rigid rules for what looks like what in the sense of constant examples. I think a big problem is people not objectively looking at those examples. A person towering over another in imagery for example is meant to show a sign of superiority, fear or awe. The only difference being context, posture, and color. However we don't really notice that as kids and many don't know that. T… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Do you think men's fashion really matters in attraction?I think aslong as a guy or women wears clothes that are aesthetically pleasing then they'll do fine. The fact of the matter is clothing is also a form of expression and what you choose to express in your clothing will dramatically change how people view you. Pink isn't inherently a female color but because it's associated with femininity, you'll have heavily divided opinions from people for just wearing it. Same goes for wearing a t shirt to a formal event. Some people will accept it while other… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/23 06:44 PM |
| 3 | At what age did you first receive sexual attention from adult men?Im male and while I haven't gotten sexual remarks I have had people try to ship me with older woman as jokes or older woman do that to me. I can most definitely tell sexual attention or exposure is common among young girls because of my experiences. My uncle would slap his daughters ass. A cousin of mine exposed to porn tried to coerce me, I saw a girl get a panic attack because a male teacher touched her shoulder. I assume the latter two examples come precisely from sexual attention or at least… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 05:32 AM |
| 1 | Why would a woman marry young if her husband will eventually end up lusting after younger women?Because emotions aren't exclusive. To assume so shows a level of naivety towards the human mind. Our emotions aren't our goals and our goals aren't our emotions. We value actions, gestures and ideas. Lust is merely sexual desire and desire isn't exclusive. We can desire multitudes of things but in the end we have goals that overcome desires, value actions and stick to ideas. Think of being a runner, your goal is to win the race however your body desires rest. Yet because you value winning, you h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Why do you think so many women are sexually attracted to K-pop male stars ?I think it has to just do with the fact people want acceptance. People tend to keep their sexuality and tastes hidden if it isn't accepted. Idols simply serve as a way to validate people and support already held desires. K-pop idols are one group of many that woman will find sexually attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/23 05:37 AM |
| 2 | Why is the sub have at least some men telling women what they are attracted to?Male, 5/10. I think too many people don't understand danger unless it is explicit. A saw cutting wood is explicit to the damage it can do. Meanwhile a boat drifting away from shore isn't. I think if any guy or women goes for the 9/10 they are basically a person drifting from shore because the water looks calm. They don't truly understand the dangers ahead, be it thirst, starvation or disease and if they do they still have that idea of salvation. That the ocean looks so calm that someone might be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/23 04:09 AM |
| 3 | Why is the sub have at least some men telling women what they are attracted to?It's a human urge to understand things, how we understand it is dependent on our own personal experiences,biases, and observations. It just so happens a lot are close minded in their ways. To make sense of a hard to ignore observation, to fulfill a bias or the inadequacy of an experience might make us defensive, to deny another possibility because the pieces aren't there or the picture we want isn't there. I'm a guy but from my observations people generally want the same things it's merely circu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/23 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Q4M - an average looking girl is DESPERATE to date you. How do you feel about it?It depends, if the desperation is self harming or obsession then yes. If she's obsessed and willing to give everything up for obsessions then once the obsession is over it leads to a lot and I mean a lot of problems. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Men certainly don't need to be more in touch with their emotionsBeing in touch with ones emotions is the way to benefit others and yourself. A man or women who isn't in touch with their emotions are basically a liability and hazard. They'll need an outside force to stop them from committing acts of uncontrolled aggression and malice. They'll need to constantly be pressured to gain the motivation to do anything. They'll be unaware of things going around them because they haven't properly processed what they feel. if I'm angry I have to accept that I'm angry a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 05:05 PM |
| – | WOMEN DONT ENJOY SEXThe guy you had sex with. Like can you trust some stranger not to talk about the experience? Protection also isn't a 100% thing. You can still gain STDs and become pregnant. Protection mostly lessens the odds to an acceptable degree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/23 03:26 PM |
| 6 | WOMEN DONT ENJOY SEXThey do, you're just confusing gain vs consequence. Women don't willingly have sex because of consequences. You honestly expect someone to just drop their pants if they know about STDs, pregnancy, abuse and ect? Do you honestly believe someone is going to drop their pants with the risk of being ostracized by society or losing their own integrity? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/23 03:12 PM |
| 1 | A lot of women, especially those on the younger side, crave excitement and adventure, not stabilityIn my personal opinion they crave stability it's just that indicators for stability aren't exactly something taught to either women or men. They go for the traits that are related to social popularity because that's what we have been taught to be stable in society. How to appeal to the group isn't a stable way of living with an individual or prioritizing yourself in relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/23 06:20 PM |
| 1 | What are your best wingman/woman stories? WEEKLY DISCUSSION TOPICI only have one and it was a fail. I had a friend, very heavy. He had a crush on a girl and everyone knew about it because he tried to confess on Valentine's day. She ran off and rejected him. They still were friends and I being a middle school romantic would just wonder hmmm, maybe this can work. In turn during a school field trip where we were in a restaurant I tried to make him sit next to her. He was cautious and shy and I was telling him how it could be a good opportunity. Then the class cl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/23 06:09 PM |
| -1 | Would most men cheat on their partners if given the chance?It's a tricky question because anyone would cheat if there are no consequences. I consider hurting my partner a consequence, betraying my morality a consequence and ect. If everyone were to have no conscience then we'll be acting on whatever comes our way. We see a shiny object then we'll touch it, forget the fact it's gonna kill us. If we were to think of no societal consequence then no. Most men wouldn't cheat. People tend to want to be loyal to their partners out of mutual understanding that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/23 03:49 AM |
| 1 | Asking your partner not to dress provocately in a serious relationship is not toxic.It's not toxic but your ideas on why kinda fuel it. If it's about commitment then you just see what they do. A person who isn't committed is going to quit and at that point you can quit. Why stay with someone who is uncommitted. To me it's a matter of safety more than anything not commitment and even then it's debatable because rapists and harassers will do it even if a person is wearing the ugliest clothes imaginable. If I request them to wear less provocative clothing then it's me fearing for … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/23 04:01 PM |
| 1 | What are “boundaries” to you?I think a good way to imagine these things is like a bucket. Think of standards as the goal of how much positive liquid one would want in a bucket. Sometimes we might have to lower the goal in order to match what is available. However boundaries is making sure toxicity and harm doesn't overflow. It's the boundary of the bucket. Once things go past that point then it is no longer acceptable. We can't lower our boundaries without risking toxicity. We can try to get a bigger bucket but then we'll h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/23 12:34 AM |
| 8 | What women like vs what men think they likeI'm a guy and I generally think women just like well proportioned, well kempt guys with true or false indicators of anything that suit their ideologies and beliefs. Just like men do. It's just that men and women tend to come to their own conclusions or follow societal misconceptions or truths. If a women has a hard jawline, then people assume she is fierce when she can easily be one of the softest people in the world. If a guy has soft skin then people might treat it as him being feminine or a s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/23 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Seeing all the benign and insignificant reasons women say they have gotten "The Ick" makes it hard to believe they care about men's mental healthNo we are. I'm just saying people generally want someone who cares+ to have their priorities straight. It's just that negative traits such as not caring are easily confused for that since similar actions will be taken in specific situations. Narcissism for example being an extreme form of confidence. We want confident people who won't let others bring them down. A narcissist will also not let people bring them down. So how do we tell which is normal confidence and narcissism in that situation? I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/23 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Seeing all the benign and insignificant reasons women say they have gotten "The Ick" makes it hard to believe they care about men's mental healthIt's never a lack of concern for others. The moment anyone catches that they tend to split. It's just hard to catch because it's easily misinterpreted as having their priorities straight. People want a person who is caring but also has their priorities in check. This means they want a person who won't willingly sacrifice things. For example If one had a partner that constantly gave money out to others then the worry of poverty arises. Lacking concern and prioritizing oneself tend to lead to simi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/23 05:08 AM |
| 3 | Seeing all the benign and insignificant reasons women say they have gotten "The Ick" makes it hard to believe they care about men's mental healthDark triad traits to me are merely positive traits to an extreme. It takes time for the mind to set limits on anything that looks positive. We don't know the limit on money because we want more. Only those who have seen what happens with too much money will set a limit on it. People are blindly ambitious, it's why it is important to tell them boundaries. Otherwise they are Icarus. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 02:27 AM |
| 8 | Seeing all the benign and insignificant reasons women say they have gotten "The Ick" makes it hard to believe they care about men's mental healthI doubt this has less to do with a man but how we treat beings of varying sizes. It just so happens men are usually bigger than women. We do the same things for dog breeds. A Chihuahua is able to be as emotionally charged as it wants, it can bark all it wants. However A pitbull isn't, it's bigger and so people fear it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 02:23 AM |
| 1 | what do men really think of female virgins?I think the problem is that people are unwilling to improvise or handle situations? I assume the reason men might want a virgin is because it is assumed to serve as like this ultimate safety net and idealization. Whatever it protects and whatever those ideals are it will usually be based on maintaining the relationship or making it more special. Take it one wants a virgin because they highly romanticize the idea of being the special one in a person's life or one wants to hide the fact they are b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/23 01:26 AM |
| – | How can women tell if a guy is 'inexperienced' or a virgin if he lies?They can't it's just used as a way to insult a person's ego because being considered inexperienced or a virgin in some mindsets is worse than being called shit. If not they are sugarcoating to avoid as much reaction from the shitty partner. People generally have a hard time heading towards critique that isn't an insult. It's kinda hard to do so because we want to get a message across with impact. Problem is this isn't something one should do with partners because a partner should be one who list… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/23 03:11 AM |
| 3 | How the hell can women commit to a man they don't lust after?They do those that don't tend to leave once they realize they do lust after a man. The difference is how that lust is usually achieved and if it is accepted. Remember technically speaking subjects of lust are usually considered taboo unless they are expressed in a specific way. A man's lust for a woman must also be in line with the ability to prioritize and care for her. If a man doesn't feel that way then he'll be ostracized. The same can go for women who don't want to dwell into their desires … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/23 05:18 PM |
| 3 | Do women typically not like the guys in her social circles?It's usually more common for a man to be in a women's circle then it is for a women to be in a man's circle. Mostly because of interests within those circles. Usually from what I have seen when a women is in a male dominated friend group it is precisely because she is looking for people to share a hobby with. The hobby usually being male dominated means a. Guys will fawn over her because they have a person of the opposite sex that likes what they like and b. she isn't exactly pursuing a partner,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/23 12:41 PM |
| 1 | Many men still clueless as to how to attract/date women, despite there being more information than ever on how to do so - why?Simply put all the information contradicts because the goal is always different. When one thinks of attracting a specific gender they think of a specific group or individual within the gender. not the gender as a whole and if it is as a whole it'll be assumed as common sense because thinking of our own sense as a weird isn't common. Hence common sense isn't common sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/23 11:36 PM |
| 5 | Nonverbal consentNonconsent isn't different from verbal consent the difference is just how you make requests. Say you want to touch someone's hand, you don't grab it. You give them time to react to your hand going near them. You can even have your hand be next to theirs. You then read their reaction because the reaction is the response. If they pull their hand away it equals no. If they let your hand be next to theirs it doesn't equal yes but it doesn't equal no it means tolerance. At that point you can go for a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 09:32 PM |
| 2 | Theories on why so many guys here insist not to factor in personality in the topic of dating.I personally think it's just people not having a coherent definition for personality. Values aren't personality, behavior isn't personality, neither are hobbies it's a mix of things that is kinda hard to define. We can easily define traits but a whole personality is so much harder unless you want to dwell into archetypes and simplify a person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 02:21 AM |
| 1 | Question for men: do you think your life would be better if you were less horny?I doubt it. I think it's just mindset. Hornyness is basically an emotional response. how we interpret and act in our emotions changes its impact. If I'm easily able to get angry for example then it becomes a question of if I interpret my anger negatively and how I act when angry. Some people might feel less rage then others but act violently because of what they know. . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 05:32 AM |
| 1 | CMV: “Men and women are different” is just an excuse to rationalize hypocrisy.The way I see it is that men and women aren't inherently different mentally. However we do face circumstances that divide and group us. The change our bodies go through is one of them. Our bodies are technically their own circumstances and to treat it as such should be the goal over treating ourselves as "hey different body, different mind." Different body = different circumstance and that means a person has to adapt to this way of life. The same goes for culture and ect. We all adapt to the thi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/23 06:43 PM |
| 1 | The no-fap movement has noble purpose, but it is based on a delusion. Porn is a necessary evil for the good of most menPorn is not a necessary evil. It doesn't even do what you claim. The no fap movement isn't even a noble thing. Some people need sex, people aren't sex crazed maniacs. To think we are completely ignores that the only reason people become sex crazed is because a.they are encouraged or b. Delusional. Porn in alot of cases makes Men or Women assume sex is supposed to be a specific way and that can cause problems. It's a lack of open mindedness, empathy and realism that is a problem. Porn is basicall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/23 05:25 PM |
| 3 | Q4M - How would you advise your daughters to navigate the dating scene?I'd first tell her respect isn't based on image, gestures, or manners. They are important for a functioning person in society but they don't decide character. What's important is that they respect your decisions, boundaries and agency. bad guys will generally pressure you into doing things quickly, he might even use societal expectations and pressures to his advantage but do not faulter. Keep your strength and maintain yourself. Girls and Men alike are going to blame you for not doing what they … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/23 01:55 AM |
| 2 | The way women behave with men they’re genuinely attracted to is very different compared to the way they behave with men that have merely grown on them.I doubt it's a byproduct of attraction. There are other emotions at play besides attraction. There's two main ones that come to mind. that's comfort and acceptance. Think of it like this, it's very hard for anyone to orgasm unless they are comfortable. Ya there are men and women who can achieve orgasm when uncomfortable but they aren't the majority. Meanwhile there's a matter of if someone can truly accept their attraction or circumstances. Take it you're in a society that demeans others for bei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/23 12:30 AM |
| – | Men and women need to respect themselvesYou know what, you're right. I'ma go piss on everyone's lawns. Thanks for opening my eyes to this revelation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/23 12:17 AM |
| 1 | CMV: It's perfectly valid for men to want a low N woman BECAUSE he's insecure about his sexual performance compared to all of her other loversWell the questions are under the assumption a guy does ask. If he asks but still does things wrong due to lack of knowledge , then it's her job to tell him "hey this is wrong". If he doesn't listen then ya, he is just shit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 08:23 PM |
| – | Men and women need to respect themselvesI said when, of course there are plenty of women who do respect themselves. It's just that from what I have seen many don't respect themselves because manners give the illusion of it. Whenever I hear a family member say to another " a man respects you if he opens the door for you." It makes me physically cringe. Those are manners, manners don't mean respect in my eyes. It takes too many experiences for a person to realize that and go "hey this person is shit". It just seems to be more common amo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 07:12 PM |
| 0 | Age gap relationships are fine if the older party isn’t misrepresenting the relationship to the younger party.I'm sorry but just because someone younger wants something doesn't mean someone older should give it. It doesn't matter if they are more mature for their age. People are still going to treat you with seniority. I don't mind it if the age gap has adults that are above their 20s but below that and it becomes extremely creepy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Men and women need to respect themselvesWhen it comes to the romantic gestures I meant it in the way that too many people confuse good manners for niceness because they are what is expected of a person to do, but what is expected isn't always wanted. Just cause it is expected for me to like video games doesn't mean I want them and if one has to properly consider me, they have to ask or see through observation. Ya it's a communication and boundary issue but it's also a consideration issue. In order to set these boundaries one has to co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 03:39 AM |
| 3 | Men and women need to respect themselvesYou have opened the opportunity to search for a more tolerable job. You aren't getting an improvement in life but you are removing the bad. Why keep so much bad when you can just lessen it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 02:05 AM |
| 6 | Men and women need to respect themselvesRespect oneself socially means that you value your social life. Social life is something that we all earn through interacting with people. It doesn't matter if you are a hobo or not because we all still have social lives that we had to start. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 01:58 AM |
| 3 | Men and women need to respect themselvesRespecting yourself acts as insurance. Doors are closed but others are opened. You may have lost something but at the same time you have opened the opportunity for more. The same goes for loving yourself, when you love you know you can love again. If you never love yourself and only love another. How can you know you'll love again when they are gone? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 01:37 AM |
| 5 | CMV: It's perfectly valid for men to want a low N woman BECAUSE he's insecure about his sexual performance compared to all of her other loversif she is willing to insult you for not being talented or ect then why stay? If she has a problem with my performance, why can't she tell me? Does she not trust me? Does she just expect me to fulfill her needs without knowing them? She's an individual, it's her choice to tell me if I'm up to par or not. If she decides to tell others but not tell me that I'm the problem then I'll just leave. I'd rather be in a relationship where a partner trusts me and doesn't want to socially insult me than a re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/23 11:54 PM |
| 11 | CMV: Men here don't understand that the age gap discourse is not mainly about the age gap itself, it is about men fetishizing women fresh out of high schoolI'd never date someone more than 5 years apart from me because I value that we have similar hobbies,interest and ect. I doubt many men who do that are trying to find a women like them but instead are trying to fulfill a specific checklist set by themselves or social group. Societies thought out history tended to prioritize the idea that women look "young" or are "fertile" and that causes the fetishizing of the idea of youth. To me the age gap is just inherently wrong. Men and women shouldn't be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/23 12:10 PM |
| 7 | Is it me, or has toxicity towards men been normalized?Toxicity towards men usually involves connotations. That's kinda the problem. if a man expresses he feels insecure they will interpret his insecurity with the negative connotation instead of looking at it objectively. Insecure has like three connotations and the one people focus on is what causes terrible reactions. If a man says he is insecure then instead of looking at it objectively. They'll just go for whichever comes to mind for men. Insecure men= bad Instead of looking at it through a more… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/23 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Who's more aesthetic: men or women?There's also symbolism, sexualization and societal values. In my opinion both are equally aesthetically pleasing because quite literally both body plans are human and symmetrical. Just that one is more rectangular and the other is more circular. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/23 12:00 AM |
| 4 | What would happen if men were as picky as women?Now that I think about if men are picky this way, sex would be seen as more of commodity then our climate. I know sex isn't that but that isn't going to stop society from treating it as such. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/23 11:51 PM |
| 10 | What would happen if men were as picky as women?It'll solely depend on what they are picky on. In terms of looks? Then many women would demand that men lessen their standards just like men do. In terms of personality? Then there'll be arguments on what makes a good man or women when it should be what makes a good person. All in all ideally I would prefer men just be picky on who they bang. For their own safety, for whatever possible child and the safety of their partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/23 11:50 PM |
| – | If women leaving jobless men is okay because no money, men leaving sick wives is ok because no sex. Either both are ok, or neither are okAgain, why assume the reason is for sex? To assume these are their reasons for leaving doesn't show the big picture that these situations have Multiple reasons for leave. Men's interest isn't just sex and Women interest isn't just money. It's a lot of things, from financial stability, social acceptance, tradition and dependence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/23 11:38 PM |
| – | If women leaving jobless men is okay because no money, men leaving sick wives is ok because no sex. Either both are ok, or neither are okThese arguments don't make sense because comparing one thing with another doesn't make it equal. Sex is not equal to money and vice versa. it's pretty subjective. In my subjective opinion. It's more understandable to leave for money than it is for sex. Money guarantees a higher chance of success for a lot of things in life. Sex does not. If men are leaving sick wives why assume it is for sex? It can easily be that she is also a financial burden. Women and men alike leave when anyone is a financi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/23 11:27 PM |
| 1 | Who's more aesthetic: men or women?In terms of what is common. It's more common for women to maintain themselves in turn keeping an illusion of being aesthetically pleasing because keeping the body aesthetically pleasing will make everyone view you as such. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/23 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Who's more aesthetic: men or women?Neither, quite literally the human body plan is symmetric and familiar which in general is aesthetically pleasing. It's just a matter of how well one maintains themselves, society, and genetics so as to not get deterring features. If one isn't sexually attracted to male or female genitalia they'll generally view it as an extra weird body part to look at. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/23 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Why aren't men hypergamous?Hypergamy is just following what society values. What ever makes a high value man or woman is completely dependent on what society wants. If society deems women with bushy beards as valuable then a good amount of men are gonna go for them even if objectively those traits aren't beneficial in the grand scheme of things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/23 04:45 PM |
| 1 | If women aren't sexually motivated like men are, what motivates sex drive in women who enjoy sex with multiple different people? If not those people being endowed with certain bodily blessings?From what I can tell when people say a man is a visual creature, they mean it in the look first at what catches the eye kinda way. It's one aspect of being visual but the other aspect is scanning. Scanning a person is kinda like chemistry because you are putting things together. It's matching things to see if they fit. Everytime something matches it creates a positive feeling which pulls one in. Might even cause excitement if enough fulfills the checklist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/23 01:21 AM |
| – | PPD mens hubris of the false notion that women cannot survive without menMy problem with these arguments is that they assume that because there is a status quo it means it is a necessity or that one is entitled to things. Just because a monarch has been born throughout time from a great line of monarchs does not make them necessary for the function of a nation and entitled to the people's trust. It's always something we gotta keep on earning. You may be a man or woman, but it doesn't mean I have to treat you based on the accomplishments of those like you. Women and M… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 10:19 PM |
| 1 | Can somebody explain to me the difference between ghosting someone and giving them a vague rejection?the difference between ghosting someone and a vague rejection is simply. A vague rejection is just keeping the reason why you rejected them vague. Ghosting is flat out leaving. saying "I don't like you because of things you do." Is vague. Saying "I don't like you because you constantly call me insults." Isn't | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 10:00 PM |
| – | CMV: if a woman is financially dependent on a man she doesn’t love she’s completely justified in cheatingIn a selfish sense it isn't justified either. Cheating completely ruins any future endeavors of a relationship. If the guy is well loved, prepare to have your reputation ruined. You'll have to move in order to form a social group otherwise risk any future partners finding out that you cheated. You literally have two people capable of spreading word in the best case scenario. Two people too much in a world that hates cheating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 06:54 PM |
| – | CMV: if a woman is financially dependent on a man she doesn’t love she’s completely justified in cheatingShe's justified in leaving not cheating. Cheating completely ruins any future relationships you'll have and makes others question your integrity. It's like the difference between being fired and quitting a Job. Quitting a job is overall better for future endeavors than getting yourself fired. Even if you leave off poor. If one is going to use people for money then you might as well leave then ruin your chances of using other people for money. I honestly don't get why under any circumstances peop… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 06:49 PM |
| 1 | What is the source of men's motivation for working hard?Anything they value. It just happens we are encouraged to value certain things or are not. It's a basic human thing. So far many men are encouraged to value things in a specific way while women value things in another way. It causes incoherentness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 01:56 PM |
| 0 | Why do so many men here want casual sex?I think because of social standards and self esteem many women just don't have the drive to pursue men they personally find attractive. It's what I'd like to call accepted arousal and it's something both sexes probably experience. Basically when a form of arousal or attraction is accepted by society. It makes one more likely to act on it. If person X finds person Y attractive but society calls person Y ugly. Person X might face a ton of emotions and doubts which prevent them from pursuing Y. On … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Most PEOPLE are undateable. Women are just held to a lower standard when it comes to undateable behaviorMost people aren't ideal, doesn't mean we can't appreciate them for what they do bring. The matter of the fact is no one should date what they are unable to appreciate. We can learn to appreciate things but there is a limit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/23 10:43 PM |
| 1 | Is it “pre-selection”? Or is it simply he’s an attractive man and thus attracts more women than unattractive men?I think it just affects them differently. Women for example are hypersexualized. It might make many men feel enabled in their ability to be aroused or attracted to a woman. Meanwhile men aren't hypersexualized. In turn there might be less opportunities to be enabled if one is attracted to a guy. This causes two problems. Guys who feel enabled but don't control themselves and women who are unable to express themselves. Take those scum who actively sexually assault women and then go "officer she w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/23 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Is it “pre-selection”? Or is it simply he’s an attractive man and thus attracts more women than unattractive men?I think It's what I call accepted arousal/attraction. People are inherently attracted to specific things and when society deems it acceptable to be attracted to those things. It serves as a motivator and enabler to indulge or act. If someone is attracted to something that society has no interest in or deems unacceptable then it can easily make one not act. It'll make one question their own place and normalcy. Like take it that you are attracted to a person that everyone else calls ugly. Unless y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/23 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Women love one night stands as much as men doI think it's the fact men just aren't heavily sexualized so arousal is less common. Women are heavily sexualized and this will cause people to feel more arousal towards a woman if she has sexualized traits that they find attractive. It's what I like to call accepted arousal. If society deems something sexually attractive and you yourself find it attractive then it'll feel as tho your arousal is accepted. That it can be indulged. People usually express guilt or disgust in themselves when they are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/23 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Confused about how open and emotional guys are expected to be?It's quite simple, it's about expressing yourself in the moment. If you see something funny but are unable to laugh then you just tell people it's funny. This also goes for negative emotions like sadness and anger. "Yo that dude over there makes me annoyed because he is being loud" As long as you read a situation then you'll be fine. Like don't mention trauma unless you know someone is in a mood to listen to it or it's actually affecting you in the moment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/23 04:08 PM |
| 1 | what's the deal with "nice guy" stereotype and why there isn't an equivalent term for women?I think it's because of how manners are ingrained into society. The thing is due to stereotypes, traditions and expectations it changes how both sexes are supposed to treat the other sex. It's just that when it comes to interactions towards pursuing a relationship a man is supposed to be courtful. It breeds nice guys because being courteous isn't exactly based on respect. These guys might be up to standard or do the gestures expected by society but they aren't exactly respecting boundaries and e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/23 03:56 PM |
| – | Most men and women are really bad at detecting flirtingWell it's a matter of the fact the most common way to identify flirting is through what one would do as an individual. If one is willing to only give a girl flowers because they view it as a sign of affection and ect towards an individual they have romantic feelings for. Then one will see that as flirting in situations where it might not be. If you have a friend who doesn't talk a specific way to a sex unless to show interest. In all likelihood when someone else talks that way towards a specific… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/23 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Study show that straight women are disproportionaly more likely to search porn with violence against women and where they are being raped abused and endure physical violence, than straight men do.I think it's more of a way to regain a sense of control then liking the act itself. I myself am a guy and I have rape fantasies. Fantasies of being raped to be precise. I absolutely hate it in reality and that's something I would never allow happen to me. It's just that when it comes to a fantasy it feels mutual because practically your mind is what is driving the story. Everything is in your own agency and your control The rapist is basically a character of your own creation following your will… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 11:09 PM |
| 1 | Are women actually attracted to toxic men?People generally have an attraction towards an abundance of a trait. The main struggle for most is figuring when the abundance leads to problems. A bucket of water that if full is helpful, but once it starts to overflow it becomes a problem. Since we can't really quantify or visualize traits as easily it leads to us easily being trapped or tricked. This is why boundaries as a concept I feel are important. Standards are one thing as they are what one wants in a relationship and they can totally l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/23 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Men dont actually care about a women being healthyPeople in general won't care about actual health unless told it's unhealthy because what is considered healthy is usually based on instinct before education. What a man or women find appeasing/ attractive doesn't mean jack shit in terms of health but they will insist unless told otherwise. It's the same thing people do towards spiders, and other things. A spider may bring forth feelings of disgust or fear but that doesn't mean that the spider is a determent to ones own health/livelihood. In fact… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 12:40 AM |
| 1 | I think it's bullshit that there's a "compliment gap" between men and women. What these men really want is sexual validation.I think one thing to consider is that society doesn't really have a way to discern when someone's compliment is sexually charged towards a man. we can do so for women because a lot of a women's body parts are heavily sexualized. The chest,hips, and ect. If a man were to compliment that then people can easily assume it is meant in a sexual sense. Meanwhile men don't have that. The abs? Not really something that brings sexual desire to many women. The dick? It's harder to say because It isn't real… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 08:52 PM |
| 1 | All humans (to variable degrees) value something that is more scarce. And all humans say that they value authenticity. Which is the way in the context of dating?The importance of authenticity is basically just a way to know what one is doing. What one signs up for. When we start a relationship we need things to expect,accept and avoid. If a person doesn't initially show us something we have to avoid they are a danger. If a person doesn't show us something we can accept it shows they view us as danger. If a person doesn't show us something to expect then we are acting on the unknown and that leads to recklessness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Modern men are NOT protectors or providersI have doubts on these statistics because of some underlying problems. Especially the abuse one because when it comes to abuse statistics it's based on what is reported. You'd then have to consider how likely one is to report, why and what is likely to be accepted. Men do to toxic masculinity and other factors are simply less likely to report abuse on their part. I experienced this from a cousin of mine, she physically choked me. When I told her dad, I was called a liar. "How can a little girl h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 03:01 PM |
| 8 | Women objectify themselves.I think op is confusing eliciting a response with the response itself. Objectification is usually the response. Making oneself look pretty isn't objectification. How others respond to the prettiness is what will decide if it is objectifying. If you yourself have the response then you are self objectifying. If everyone else has it then they are objectifying you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 06:02 PM |
| 3 | Women objectify themselves.I doubt people understand what true objectification means. Making yourself attractive isn't objectification. Having sexual interest in another isn't objectification. At minimum it's when you compare a person to an object. At maximum it's when you treat them like one. With the in-betweens usually basing a person as an object of emotion or focusing on a specific quality to the point of absurdity. The feeling of objectification usually comes from not being valued in a way that feels human. Being se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 05:50 PM |
| 1 | How can both sexes specify what they mean and communicate without backlash?For the top one I meant in group settings. There is little changing the individual backlash from rejection. The group backlash comes from the fact that nice guys are usually loved by the group. If a guy is "nice" it's because he is courteous aka well mannered. The thing is this blinds them to potential problems and saying "too nice" only enforces the groups belief that he is a good guy. Potential problems can range from ambitionless, to disregarding personal boundaries or wishes. A person can st… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 12:25 AM |
| 1 | How can both sexes specify what they mean and communicate without backlash?I mean it like when she tells it to others if they ask. Usually men and women might defend a man if he treats everyone with courtesy. The feelings that come from gestures and etc are just that high that they'll fail to see a negative that another has seen. It's like how you said when a person who declares themselves as nice isn't probably nice. Everyone else will probably just see it as a declaration of a person expressing themselves but you yourself question why would they declare it at all. Ev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 12:11 AM |
| 2 | How can both sexes specify what they mean and communicate without backlash?usually from what I see the communication is purposely vague or a lie. Like It's easier to say "too nice" because saying disrespectful brings forth backlash. A person can be nice by opening doors or giving out gifts but respect isn't inherent to that. When I say lust I mean it in terms of lacking romantic desire or love. yes, sexual attraction is important but wanting to care is different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 11:54 PM |
| 1 | How can both sexes specify what they mean and communicate without backlash?I think they can. it's just the amount of pressures, standards, experiences and expectations that have built up causes a distance in communication. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 11:40 PM |
| 1 | In dating, whats the biggest - men/women say they want X, but their actions suggest otherwise?These are things that go for both of them. Respectful when they mean obedient Kind when they mean well mannered Confident when they mean Ambitious Support when they mean protection The list can go on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/23 12:07 PM |
| 1 | No one ever seems to want to acknowledge that women consistently go for abusive, bad natured men. If you bring this up all they do is shame you to silence the discussion, and this is probably the most prominent example of gaslighting in dating/gender dynamics.Women without guidance go for bad natured men just like unguided men go for bad natured women. Women who generally have good friends or family will tend to do way better. The reason for this is that ideas of respect when in the hands of bad family and friends become corrupted. These bad members began to demand obedience, fake smiles and ect as signs of "respect" and "good nature.". In turn their victims have a wrong sense of these things. If for example a person demands obedience but instead say… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/23 11:48 AM |
| 31 | Did having a sibling of the oppostie gender make you more sympathetic of the struggles of the other gender?I think this only works in sibling dynamics where they support and care about each other. In the ones where they are rivals or uncaring then no. I've had terrible family members and good family members, I view my cousins as my siblings and the one i view as a sister has been a nice person to me. I think a simple thing to note is that people associate negative emotions for the wrong things. If a woman for example sees men do terrible things. Then the object of emotion will turn into men and not t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/23 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Is aiming at 50/50 ever going to be fair to women?That's assuming a relationship is like two machines with one singular goal. In which it would make sense to Split it however relationships aren't that. A relationship should be built on appreciation and reciprocation. 50/50 in that instance would be impossible as you are putting your own values in what you find appreciative. In this case people shouldn't settle for what they can't appreciate. If they do then they are setting themselves for unhappiness. If someone can't appreciate their partner t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/23 01:47 PM |
| 8 | If you stay in the friend zone hoping for action, it’s on you.I think the problem is that people aren't't taught to not settle for what they can't appreciate. Many men are told they are scum for rejecting a women and that makes them think that they should settle no matter what. All I have to say is that these men need go the distance. The " I can't get a good girlfriend because I'm unattractive" mentality is bullshit. Like if you think of yourself like that then find a partner who at least appreciates you. Never settle for less then that because at that po… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/23 10:15 PM |
| 0 | Q4M: if a husband cheats, does that mean he doesn't love his wife?In terms of love being a form of attachment, attraction, and adoration, then yes. In terms of love being a form of prioritization,respect and care, then no. When people say that a cheater doesn't love their partner it's because they don't respect or prioritize their partner. In which case I agree. When people don't have those things they might be affected by your death but they are also so willing to toss you aside, to let you die. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/23 01:30 PM |
| 0 | CMV: It's possible for a man to get used for sex by a woman.Yes it is possible but what you explained isn't that. Being used for sex is basically making false promises, manipulation and only interacting for sex with no aftercare or before care. It seems like you made assumptions and those assumptions were probably way too much and too fast. You basically gave her too much in a short period of time. Imagine going on a first date, having sex, then having to see them cry, then you get a request to instantly be gf and bf. All of that is way too fast for most… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/23 11:10 AM |
| 1 | Women who call all other women 10's/perfect/gorgeous are engaging in intrasex competitionWell anyone would go to the point of irrationality when overcome with paranoia and doubt. I know plenty of women are generally just positive towards others for the sake of it but there are most definitely women whose self esteem is so fragile that they depend on acting nice. That dependence on acting nice to ensure others treat them nice. The problem is that this might lead to a trap I call courtesy without respect. I think many people of both sexes think that being courteous= being respectful. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/23 08:03 PM |
| 1 | I think most men don't truly understand what being attractive is, and can be just as entitled delusional as the women they complain about.Well what is described in these posts isn't based on attraction. Neither is what you Described. You described peaking interest, this is different from attraction. I think a better way to look at it is that people put high standards or boundaries. There's plenty of cases where men or women find someone attractive but generally won't do anything because of those two things. The problem is that boundaries and standards aren't aligned for both sexes. This causes a lot of problems. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/23 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Genuine question, do men love women as much as women love them?I don't think love is the right word. Love is based on connection, that will always take time. I think it's just that women are more likely to not solely pursue men for relationships. There was a study somewhere where women weren't attracted to their male friends but their male friends were attracted to them. But this might just be a problem with samples. The study that I saw was like undergraduates meanwhile the studies you shown seems to be a super small sample with only one chubby guy and wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/23 02:14 AM |
| 1 | What advice do you have for women to avoid being pumped and dumpedThe three date rule and the holding off rule to me are stupid. Patience does not test character and Agency does not test character. They are things that people do in order to achieve something. They are like both sides of the same coin. If someone wants sex really badly they'll act within agency or patience. If you want to test character, test their words and integrity. If a partner says they love you for your personality for example then question them about your personality. See what they prior… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 10:56 PM |
| 1 | Women who call all other women 10's/perfect/gorgeous are engaging in intrasex competitionI don't think it's intersex competition. Just fear of being called out and being judged by others. When people insult others they usually expect to be insulted back. So they just don't. What's the point of insulting someone else if it leads to you being treated the same. Only exceptions being when a person knows things others can't deny, are inconsiderate or entitled. for example a man has a ton of money and someone goes "you're cheap and poor asf." to insult him. There's literally nothing at th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Women saying it's hard for them to find a man to 'commit' is pure hypocrisyHaving a hard time figuring out which commit you mean. Do you mean a man to commit to or finding a man who is committed? Usually in both these circumstances it's under the implication of someone they are mutually attracted to. A person can't be considered on the list unless they are attractive in some way. So it's not hypocritical but it is worded very poorly. It would be hypocritical if they expected men to consider them on the list or demanded the man to do something he can't control in order … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/23 06:38 PM |
| – | What's some things people confuse for other things?Imagine the Convo people to be had if someone goes " I had tons of experience in bed, still am shit tho." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/23 04:06 PM |
| 1 | How do you think society treats both sexes?The limited resource one comes from how people constantly treat a person's age, virginity and ect as if they were limited resources. I think a better way to have worded it would be diminishing? Like how the value of an object diminishes after being used,scratched and altered henceforth making its value limited. This is how I see many men and women comment towards others. Especially traditional mindsets. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 03:29 PM |
| 2 | How do you think society treats both sexes?Seems like the easy solution would be to just prioritize the problem as a whole then to like focus on one side of it. If there are two victims then they need help but if their helper prioritizes one over the other it's like the helper doesn't care or worse yet betrayed them. In return they try to hinder the helper and other victim. Try to make the helper help them. In the end nothing gets done. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 02:17 PM |
| 2 | How do you think society treats both sexes?Um, I don't think people put women on a pedestal. You are viewing this from a grass that is greener from the other side perspective. Both are treated like objects. They are just different types of objectification. Both include pressures and mistreatment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 01:48 PM |
| 2 | How do you think society treats both sexes?nah people care about men. Also woman are fighting to be treated better. Men are too. It's just all... Divided. People in general are focusing on their own groups. If you aren't part of the group then you aren't of priority. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 01:29 PM |
| 3 | How do you think society treats both sexes?That's a nice way to simplify it. It just doesn't communicate how dehumanizing it is in both instances, only one of them. Dear usually has a positive meaning. As in something one cherishes. Cherishing is something that keeps on going. Even when a relationship ends, we can still cherish it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 01:07 PM |
| 2 | How do you think society treats both sexes?To me that's how society is gearing towards. It's not really there yet. As gender norms are becoming less, more people are going into the work force. If men and women continue to vent their frustrations then there possibly might be a mutual culture of both making sacrifices and maintenance. Worse case scenario an abundant mindset of treating people like resources when they should be treated like people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/23 11:55 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men who need love the most are repulsive to women. Women who need love are extremely privileged by contrast.I think you're wrong in these regards. Neediness is despised by both parties. The only difference being what they are allowed to be needy for and what people fear that neediness leads to. Many Men for example don't want a women needy for money because it brings in the fear of her being a gold digger or cheating for someone with more money. Its safe to assume the reason women don't like needy men is the stereotypes of men being sexual predators. Predators usually being portrayed as needy and poss… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/23 01:11 AM |
| – | Do woman shame men more for their preferences?The first is from the assumption that the age of consent exists because age=experience, experience= power. Therefore the relationship with a age gap will always be wrong especially if the goal is sexual. The stigma of men being more sexual then women playing into this ick factor. The age of consent exists because brains are underdeveloped and are going through vigorous change. When we get older our brain is developed and biological change becomes less. The second one is more about the fact men a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/23 05:43 AM |
| 3 | As a woman, getting married before having kids is a better indicator that the man will stayI don't think an indicator to stay should be the priority. Loyalty ≠ capacity to stay. Terrible people under pressure will just conceal their shit instead of letting it out of the open. He isn't leaving the relationship but that doesn't mean he won't try to do shit. Nobody should stick with shit is what I'm saying. Marriage makes that process harder. But since this discussion is about the best indicator for staying. it should be if the Man wants a child and has shown to prioritize children. This… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/23 01:21 AM |
| 1 | Rules/Structure are falsely equated with masculinity and that's why the patriarchy isn't real.Masculine are things commonly associated with men not what are men. Men are the sex with a penis and ect. Being strong is associated with men but many men aren't strong. Also yes a leader is disposable there are always others ready to take his place. A leader is important but their importance is also based on them being disposable. Think of it like this, you are the leader. You are willing to be sacrificed for the greater good. In order to do so, you raise your child or closest confidant to be t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 09:58 PM |
| 2 | Rules/Structure are falsely equated with masculinity and that's why the patriarchy isn't real.While I agree with your conclusion I just don't agree with your logic. Masculinity ≠ men nor does feminity ≠ women they are just associated with two and are vague + different between cultures. Men have just been in the top because of a mix of factors. Connections, disposability and competition. A person can only become leader through connections. A leader is also thought of as disposable. In order to become a leader one must be competitive. It's safe to assume that at a time where women were mor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 05:30 PM |
| 1 | What are some good standards men could have for women they date?Sympathy, care, respect of boundaries and willingness to protect. These are the four standards that men and women need to share. I think men tend to disregard these standards for themselves. This is because of gender roles which aren't healthy. When men are viewed as protectors in a traditional culture the question then becomes "who protects them?" Nobody, it makes men alone. If a man gets sexually assaulted who protects him? If a man needs a hand to talk to, who does he talk to? Yes a man can t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/23 01:00 AM |
| 1 | What frustrates me about PUA is it's effectivenessIt's only effective to a select group of people. mostly people who don't really think. People who take outside appearances, people who don't like actually know to identify red flags. Here are the two main tactics anyone like a Pua would use. Style and body: do to society's common notions of how you look= who you are, People become judgemental based on how you look. If you are a woman and have a big chest it's very easy for others to shame you despite it being out of your control. These people us… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Chat GPT - Is there such a thing as a "right" or "wrong" sexual strategy? Discussion ThreadI don't think there is an innate sexual strategy mostly sexual responses and wants. We quite literally don't know how to attract the opposite sex and any ideas we have is based on what is expected or acceptable around us. Like people are stubborn enough to assume what they find attractive is what another will find too. So it's clearly not something we have an aptitude for. Best we can do is communicate and act on the responses of others. Like if person A knows that person person B responds posit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 05:37 PM |
| 2 | Practically no men are "obsessed" with sex, they just can't satisfy their healthy, normal desiresNo many have it as an obsession. Saying it isn't forgets that many men regret it, want to control it or let it destroy things. if a man were to betray his integrity for some sex just like one would when addicted to drugs? Are these not obsessions? Breaking the boundaries and respect of others, is that not an obsession? Even when it comes to needs we despise people who follow these desires because they are obsessions. Mass consuming food is wrong , being overprotective is wrong, being sexual to t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 02:33 PM |
| 3 | In complete honesty…what exactly do most of you on here want?I just like to see thoughts and express my own so I get on these places. I want a partner but I'm not exactly searching. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 01:52 AM |
| – | Women lie about their partner preferences. They self-report preference for intelligent and ambitious men, but they chose the most attractive ones ignoring other traits.I think that's because of common notions of how one presents themselves = how they are. If a man looks ambitious and intelligent then that's easier for the brain to process then to objectively look at their actions. This is how woman are usually treated as well. If a woman wears clothes and her boobs are a bit too big. It doesn't matter if the clothing she is wearing is modest, people are gonna call her a whore,slut and ect. So despite being modest, everyone considers her the opposite. This is w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 11:26 PM |
| 2 | Men using women for their bodies is basically the same as women using men for their resources (money, status, attention and so on), in terms of how it feels.Both aren't exactly equal. From a personal point of view, yes they are similar. From a social point of view they are different. society treats sexual value as a limited resource. it treats productive value as a disposable resource. this means the way they are celebrated are different. If a man is overproductive then people will support it, his value is being fulfilled and they get what they need. He is disposable like food which is more valuable in abundance but so easily consumed. Supply is con… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 10:29 PM |
| 2 | CMV: The only way to stop misandry is to stop misogyny firstDude, they are both the same problem. One does not derive from the other, they mutually come off each other. The root is simply sexism. the only way to stop both is to target the actual root of the problem. Just because one is more prominent does not mean that it is the cause. They are part of the same coin. Whatever side the coin flips does not change who flipped it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 10:05 PM |
| 1 | If men were less horny, what would happen?I don't think things would change much. Being less horny doesn't change societal values, influences and what we are attracted too. There's a difference between eagerness and willingness that people don't think of when it comes to hornyness. When we are horny we are eager for sex. However there are plenty of people willing to do things without being eager for it. This usually stems from outside influences and standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/23 01:17 AM |
| 1 | CMV: We have turned relationships into leisure, most relationships are no longer focused on starting a family or working towards a common goal, as a result people are naturally gonna get pickier with their optionsIt isn't that they are for leisure but that there is less value in them The reason for marriage basically boiled down too, safe sexual partner, source of income, someone to do house chores, someone to protect you, and ect. With the advent of technology, laws and information those things aren't as valued. Sex is safer because of the advent of medicine and contraception. Both sexes are in the work force so income is less of a worry. People are encouraged to be able to do house chores on their own.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/23 12:37 AM |
| 2 | Why not look for a woman with a career?I don't think it's a big problem when people are stable and reflective. Ultimately toxic femininity and masculinity are brought on by outside pressures. Outside pressures in turn make the relationships unsatisfying as one is constantly reminded that people don't want them for them but for a forced upon role. It then makes us doubt our partners as valuable because everyone else is constantly telling us they aren't. If a woman goes "oh my husband does work at home." She'll constantly be told it's … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Women giving dating advice to men doesn’t work because guys ask for vague advice.Asking anyone for advice doesn't work unless they have an extreme understanding of themselves or others. In my own opinion, women and men alike need to learn to understand themselves before even entertaining the prospect of dating or at least before giving advice. If you say confidence but don't explain why or say boundaries for that confidence, then red flag. Too many people have gotten victim to A. Becoming a egotistical or B. Being used. there was no clear idea for what and why so people got … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Why do you think men tend to accept bisexual women far more than women accept bisexual men?I think it's just stereotypes of men and women + inaction leading to misunderstandings. If a women for example were to grope another women, in most cases nothing happens. This inaction by everyone involved leads to it being acceptable despite it being sexual assault. It probably stems from wrong ideas of women being viewed as less sexual in nature despite them being heavily sexualized. Meanwhile a man who likes men is viewed as feminine. Some People don't want to go through negative traits assoc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 07:42 PM |
| 7 | Why not look for a woman with a career?I think the reason is that women with careers typically are gonna want to plan for retirement more so than men. Career oriented goals don't mean much when the brunt of society is constantly shoving the pressure to get kids, take care of em and ect. This means that a woman who is cis, works and wants kids eventually will have high standards and these guys don't want to live up to those standards. This problem can probably be mitigated if men are encouraged to also be caretakers and household clea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 07:02 PM |
| 1 | New research helps explain why relationship satisfaction tends to be lower in role-reversed heterosexual couplesThis stems from perceptions more than if the relationship would work or not. I'm going to be blunt here but unlike what most people think. Relationships are affected by pressures of those around us and end because of them. If a man or women for example have strict parents best believe a good amount of them to end their relationship if the parents demand it. The same for friends and other family members. Traditional mindsets are more common to most people in general and so trying to be modern wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 08:56 AM |
| 2 | Men seem to spend their energy convincing bitchy women to fuck/date them.Men with disregard tend to do that. It's very easy to notice when a person disregards things. Disregarding social cues, disregarding space, etc. meanwhile these women tend to disregard their own self worth on things and instead try to make themselves look at what they perceive to be valuable to others. Since these people disregard a lot of things they tend to put themselves in shitty situations or become shitty themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 03:59 PM |
| 1 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeYa I think it's just hard for people to do that with constant reminders of that possibility. We have so many stories of people being victim to abusers that the fear bleeds into our daily life. It's basically an indirect form of propaganda that instills fear and doubts. Mostly because this isn't something I feel isn't talked about enough but stories cause trauma. It's not the same as living through a trauma but it does cause trauma. Especially hearing it over and over again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 03:50 PM |
| 1 | What is something that men find attractive about men that women are generally indifferent to? What is something that woman find attractive about woman that men are generally indifferent to?Men and women generally find what is their own ideal version of themselves as attractive. That's why we tend to be indifferent to everything else. Like if men with a beard are cool to me, it's because I want a beard. This is different from the idea of an ideal partner but both can intercept. Like if my ideal partner is respectful and my ideal me is respectful then being respectful is a super mega duper attractive trait. If not it'll make our brains go googoogaga when someone fulfills one of both… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 06:14 AM |
| 1 | Conception should be based on consentNah he wouldn't appreciate this, they barely acquired "taste". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 05:31 AM |
| 0 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeRemoving the possibility of doubt makes it so it is never brought up again. You are cleared forever, the trust then becomes permanent in that regard. Without it there is still always a possibility. Possibilities always exist in people's minds because the unknown is what leads to suspicion. Removing the unknown removes all suspicions. Like we can trust doctors with our lives but we still fear the possibility of failure in an operation. It sucks this happens but that's how women and men function a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 05:17 AM |
| 2 | Conception should be based on consentOne could turn around that logic and go "conception is 100% a women's responsibility as it only occurs after she lets a man inseminate her." It doesn't work. In a healthy relationship it's both people's responsibilities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 04:53 AM |
| 1 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeTo me it shouldn't be assuming someone has done anything but like proving what was already there. It basically should just be a strengthener for trust. It's like how you still would have to go to court despite everyone knowing you are innocent. It's to remove the possibility of doubt. The problem is obviously almost nobody does this lol. society treats court cases as guilty until proven innocent when the motto is innocent until proven guilty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 03:53 AM |
| 2 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeYa a relationship not built on trust is faulty in nature but without any evidence to fulfill that trust and obstacles that trigger mistrust it's very hard to do so. Trust isn't something that just comes and stays. It's something that changes based on information we gain. Like We trust our parents but then it takes one thing for that trust to be broken. At the point of sex there is trust but later on it can be broken. If you say we should fully trust, that's telling us to be blind. To be naive an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Are men seen as expendable?Men's lives are expendable but what society assumes they provide isn't. Meanwhile what women are assumed to provide is expendable but their lives aren't. This is mostly about what a person provides socially. If men are likely to work, take labor, gain status then they are irreversibly valuable in society. Women don't provide much socially and when they do, it's usually undermined. A woman who does labor or who has high status isn't sought after because people value them biologically. It's the re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Conception should be based on consentHow is it realistic for it to impact the grandparents more than the direct parents? The main parents are usually the ones impacted first. The mother being the most impacted and so having the final say. Tho it is a good idea to encourage the involvement of grandparents into their grandchildrens lives after birth. That's if the grandparents aren't terrible people. Usually parents don't ask them for help or grandparents don't actively help out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 02:22 PM |
| 1 | Conception should be based on consentBecause in the end it'll lead to something that impacts all three people. Ya the fetus isn't in the mans body that's why the women should have final say when it comes to aborting it or not but I feel like having that be encouraged would at least make the relationships healthier and feel less one sided. Mutualistic agreement is something that should be encouraged in relationships even when one has the final say on anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 11:24 AM |
| 3 | Conception should be based on consentIt'll become a child, but that logic kinda fails when you think of the sperm and the egg. They'll both become a child too. At this point it's just a question of when it is the child and when it isn't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 04:09 AM |
| 2 | Conception should be based on consentNothing, this is more of a social idea than a law one. We can't force people to do anything but we can support those who make those decisions. It's like admirable whenever a partner respects their spouses wish. Especially when it's on a decision that'll affect both of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Conception should be based on consentMy position is based on the idea of a fetus technically not being a child yet. I don't think of it as a child. In turn it's practically still something both the mother and father should agree on, just like sex has to be agreed upon. in the end it's leading to a child. I don't think it should be forced. thought I made it clear but I forget people skim read and so should have probably repeated it a few times. I personally don't like the idea of men leaving their kids once they are born but it seem… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 03:54 AM |
| 1 | Conception should be based on consentJust telling people it's better to mutually decide a baby with their partners. Communicate that a child needs to feel wanted and that an unwilling parent is a detriment to that child's development. If they respect their partners wish. we give them proper support for making the hard decision to abort. Stuff like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 03:41 AM |
| 0 | Conception should be based on consentWhen I say encouragement I mean support or persuasion. When someone does something positive we encourage it. I think you're confusing coercion for encouragement because people be using them synonymously when they are pretty different. Coercion being persuasion through threats or force. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 03:19 AM |
| 1 | Conception should be based on consentIt was meant in a similar way to how sexual consent is conveyed. I probably should have said withdraw. It's just that revoke and withdraw being synonyms made me say one over the other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 02:12 AM |
| 2 | Conception should be based on consentIt's very horrifying with the degrading ways of referring to their "livestock" and the "upbeat" nature bringing an uncanny valley effect. It's all implicit but subtle at the same time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 01:28 AM |
| 0 | Conception should be based on consentJust to tell people it would be better to be mutual with their partner when it comes to having a baby. giving support if a woman makes the hard decision to abort because she respects her partners wishes. Stuff like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 01:04 AM |
| 1 | Conception should be based on consentI specifically said it shouldn't be forced precisely because it's a violation of a person's body. Just something to be encouraged. I like really hate the idea of forcing people into things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 12:48 AM |
| 2 | Conception should be based on consentBasically is, just that I feel like mutual consent between partners is important. We shouldn't force either parent to become a parent. If one isn't ready then it shouldn't happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 12:06 AM |
| 3 | Conception should be based on consentSaid we shouldn't force it. Just something to be encouraged. Forcing people to go through that is a violation of their body. Imagine the excuses people without hearts would use "hey we can force women into getting unconsented surgery, lets do it for other reasons!" Hell on earth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 11:43 PM |
| 2 | Conception should be based on consentI prefer people gain freedom whatever it may be as long as they don't hurt others. I don't consider removing a fetus as bad because it still hasn't developed into a child. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Conception should be based on consentYa, that's true. It's just that usually people tend to downplay risk heavily because condoms and pills have a 90% rate of working. 10% is still a lot. Play any rpg video game and 10% chances happen quickly after doing the same task. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 11:28 PM |
| 0 | how much do men really care about body?You shouldn't worry about the idea of settling and ect. In the end he chose you, that doesn't mean you are less it could have easily meant that the other options weren't good and you were the best out of them. Nobody in the long run cares about the body, no relationships can function without people being compatible. The women you are talking about aren't really being put on a pedestal, they are being sexualized or garner attention. Attention ≠ pedestal. Sexualization≠pedestal. Most men don't tre… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 10:46 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: Are hot girls / handsome guys less loyal than their average / ugly counterparts?No, thinking so would imply if you were either ugly or attractive (whichever stance you choose) it would be reasonable to cheat when it isn't. I however think it's easier to catch a cheater when they have options. An ugly girl or guy can't exactly pursue as many options and so are probably less likely to be caught. They are still disloyal it's just harder to catch em. Cheaters basically function on having to manage multiple people. The more they have to manage the more likely they are to fail. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 01:58 AM |
| 3 | Why are so many men against abortion given that most them just want casual sex?They shouldn't be forced, but it should be encouraged that people think this way. If a woman or man wants to be a single parent then there are facilities and people who are willing to help out. They don't need to tie someone who is unwilling. A sperm donner for example is still consenting to having his children conceived by someone else even if he won't be involved. Also If men don’t want to be fathers, don’t have sex with women you don’t trust Is the same logic pro life people use on women. It … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 10:05 PM |
| 3 | Why are so many men against abortion given that most them just want casual sex?Probably because the idea of having a child for so long was preferred to be a mutual choice. Both parties agree to have protection if they don't want a child and if both parties want a child then they discard protection (when it existed) and before then it was just plainly having sex or not. Basically sex and having a child were both seen as choices that have to be mutual (in healthy relationships.). However now the dynamic is changed and the choice isn't mutual. In the end it's the woman's deci… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 08:39 PM |
| 3 | Question regarding why men are less pushed to have kids than womenWell right now people are encouraging women to work in a lot of spaces even if they aren't getting equal treatment. It brings a little bit of a self esteem boost to celebrate being in a job. People want to be rebels and being a rebel is sometimes fulfilling. I honestly feel like the problems will arise once it becomes the absolute norm. Instead of being celebrated for getting a job everyone is treating it like a chore, a necessity and ect. It is a necessity but like sometimes we gotta celebrate … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 06:31 PM |
| 4 | Question regarding why men are less pushed to have kids than womenMen are less pushed because society right now has the idea that women can't get pregnant past 40 and that if the woman wants to have a child she needs to be quick. There's also the very stigmatized pressures that women must look young and ect. Women are basically pressured to assume they are in a time limit because the way they are valued by a lot of cultures don't allow for it. Men for the most part are thought of as labor to provide stuff like money or safety by most cultural traditions. It do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Whats ideal female body and face for you?Depends on what I want? I personally never cared for looks unless it's to jerk off but even then I got too much variety with what actually attracts me usually being mental. Trying to think of like an ideal women body or face is practically hurting my brain lol. I guess it's just the extreme ideas of romance I had since a kid makes me think blank. In terms of finding out for others that's kinda easy. First you have to acknowledge a sense of symmetry, shapes , purpose and contrast. Some people lik… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 04:07 PM |
| – | Why are unattractive ugly people treated so harshly?People don't typically like dominance. They like normalcy. If somebody is to be dominant then responsibility goes on them and they are treated harshly in turn. Everyday is practically walking on eggshells. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 03:55 AM |
| – | If it wasn't for sex, most men would not bother with women.No... If it wasn't for us being a literal social species we wouldn't bother with each other. Men and women will want the opposite sex for reasons that aren't sexual because they are also sentient people. We have desires for power, money,fame, sex, companionship, importance, fun, beauty, comfort, trust, commonality and the list just keeps going. The thing is society values women a multitude of ways that make men desire them and vice versa. The only difference being how common those values are to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 12:21 AM |
| 1 | Results from a survey with an (approximately) 25k sample size about sexual happiness, cheating, and satisfaction in long-term hetero monogamous relationships.I think we would need to consider a few things before saying anything else. Age range, beliefs , role in household, attraction towards partner, time spent with partner and ect should correlate with cheating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 09:51 PM |
| 2 | A lot of the toxicity around pill spheres has to do with missing out on young love and stunted social development as a resultThat seems to be from societal pressures. Most stories depict teenagers or young adults. In turn it enforces the idea that those are the prime-time of our lives. That our special moments will be in that time. If most romances are in a high school or college age range then, that becomes the dream to most people. You never see stories of old middle aged men or women getting into a relationship because they aren't the main demographic. They usually are already in one and so won't find interest in t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 02:54 PM |
| 2 | Men are more likely to cheat when they make significantly more or significantly less than their spouse. For women, breadwinning decreases their chances of cheating, while being a stay at home spouse increases it.That seems to be from stigmas around men and women or who is likely to be what. People can't exactly leave their breadwinners without tons of preparations. Meanwhile many people expect men to be unable to hold in their pants or to provide and if they don't provide then that means he failed as a partner which excuses cheating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Men are more likely to cheat when they make significantly more or significantly less than their spouse. For women, breadwinning decreases their chances of cheating, while being a stay at home spouse increases it.Ya also people tend to blame their partners first. Alot of cheaters use the excuse that they don't spend enough time with their partner and that's why they cheat. It's bs, but that's how cheaters function. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Why can’t women be good judges of male attractiveness?this is a problem I see common in both sexes. If anyone wants to know what is attractive to whom, they need to ask instead of letting someone else dictate it for them. Many women get pressured by other women that being overly skinny will get them a man. Meanwhile Many men pressure other men into being overly buff to get a women. When there are so many scenarios to the contrary. It's like they are blind to the couples around them or something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 08:01 AM |
| 1 | Why can’t women be good judges of male attractiveness?Well it's hard to communicate feelings in general unless there is a prime example. There are plenty of prime examples of "attractive women" just not men. They usually are just power fantasies/moral compasses. As more prime examples pop up, as time goes by I feel like things will change. One could probably make a small list of currently attractive male archetypes right now and see how it changes/grow's in the future. Like idol groups is probably the biggest one on the list I would identify. Those… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 06:13 AM |
| 1 | Why can’t women be good judges of male attractiveness?First, attractiveness isn't what you defined. It's just the ability to pull people towards you. Second, there is no clear marketer for what makes a woman attractive. What you described isn't universal, people are attracted to what is supported, available or their instinct. Like let me ask you this? Do you think a fat women or man is attractive? If not that's you but in the past they would of been considered desirable. The same is for the idea of small penis men, ancient greeks valued small penis… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 01:07 AM |
| 5 | What (do you think) causes some people to want role reversal in a relationship?I think it's just what they feel like they can provide and what they need. If a guy wants to be the caretaker but needs a breadwinner it could just be because he likes to take care of others, feels confident in taking care of others or is used to it. In which case they would want someone to compliment that. They can't be a caretaker and a breadwinner at the same time. Meanwhile people who want a partner just like them are those that want a extra hand. Aka a booster. They both can be a jack of al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 04:29 PM |
| 1 | You are responsible for your orgasm. CMVOh I'm talking about the people who pursue it but they just aren't compatible. Being incompatible isn't bad, it just means ones have to keep looking. Maybe even go on a path of self discovery because self discovery is their own responsibility. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Men are more likely to cheat when they make significantly more or significantly less than their spouse. For women, breadwinning decreases their chances of cheating, while being a stay at home spouse increases it.I think that's just a matter of time to oneself, the likelihood of a partner is to follow their spouse to work and how likely one is to follow their suspicions. When a man makes significantly more or less then his spouse it is safe to assume that he has a lot of time to himself. (When I say time to himself or herself I mean time away from spouse not free time.) If he takes the role of househusband then he can use the time his spouse is at work to cheat. If he is the breadwinner then during the t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 04:12 PM |
| 0 | You are responsible for your orgasm. CMVThat depends. Like sometimes what causes one to orgasm isn't in their control. Some people need their partner to do certain things to reach orgasm and a partner might be incapable of doing that. What we are responsible for is not blaming our partners when we aren't sexually compatible. People who complain about it just need to realize they aren't compatible with their partner. That is it, no need to ruin the partners reputation and ect. If you want your partner to spank you, and your partner doe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 03:53 PM |
| 1 | This video explains why the way men look at women creeps them outI don't think it's that at all. It is expected for men or women to pursue/entice people they are attracted to. That's what I assume he means by "hunting.". The reason is just that people just don't want to be pursued or enticed by those they have no interest. A woman can feel safe around a man and vice versa but if they aren't interested then it'll feel uncomfortable when the opposite sex shows interest. Staring is just usually interpreted a multitude of ways and those ways bring forth the same … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 03:39 PM |
| 22 | In all seriousness, Men what do you want from women in regards to solving the modern dating problems ?I don't see a dating problem, it's just people prioritizing things based on our current environment. We aren't pressured to find a partner as quickly as possible because that isn't how society is currently built. Also guys who think men are simple, want just love, and ect are projecting or misinforming. if that's your perception of yourself that is fine , but don't sugarcoat and make one sex less heartless than the other. Both are filled with good people, people with hearts, and they deserve all… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 12:01 AM |
| 1 | How come men cheat more than women but men are much more sexless than women?If the spouse finds out. Not when they don't. Of course things will go well if no one finds out anything. There's little consequences when no one finds out. The consequences of being caught is what a possible cheater will consider and the chances of that happening is extremely high if If The person they are cheating with has a moral compass their spouse is suspicious 3.unknown factors (chance basically) Ego If Friends have moral compass | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 11:48 PM |
| 1 | If A GF Can Post Bikini/Half Naked Pics, Can Her BF Like Other Women's Pics as well?Id say, ya. In the end they both can do what they like. It's just a matter of trust, if you don't trust your partner or yourself then it is "different.". I think the common notion is that women aren't really interested in followers meanwhile guys are assumed to want to pursue the woman whose pictures they liked. In reality it's kinda bs because it doesn't mean anything unless they actually act on things, aka dms. However if you want your partner to value you a specific way or want to value your … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Female culture in the US perpetuates damaged womenI think it's more along the line of safety and interest than actual randomness. Men will be feared by many women and many women aren't interested in a guy who doesn't look good and even if he looks good, she might not care about those looks. It's basically a role of the dice. Also Many Men do want assertive women, they are just shit at identifying assertiveness. Everyone is shit at identifying assertiveness and confidence if we are tbh. Like seriously the amount of narcissists,abusers and egoman… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 05:39 PM |
| 1 | "just date women your own age" is harder than you thinkIt isn't hard and it isn't for the reasons you listed. It's just that attractive qualities are more common in specific age ranges. if you want to attract people you gotta emphasize your attractive qualities. If you say there aren't any, don't. There are, it's just a journey. don't down play yourself and keep trying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 05:27 PM |
| 0 | How come men cheat more than women but men are much more sexless than women?I don't know if these statistics are true but if they are it would be safe to assume that simply put, cheating is overall less risky for men then it is for women. Cheating will be a risk for women in social and biological sense. Especially in a traditional setting. If she gets pregnant then she has to figure out who the father is and that is risky in itself. If the spouse finds out then he can deny her claims that he might be the father. Unprotected sex in general is always a risk for women and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences.Our icks and etc are brought on by our experiences,expectations and instincts. Instincts usually just being a byproduct of what has worked beforehand evolutionarily. So we can easily try to rationalize or find an explanation for why we might want, do, or see things. Women and Men who are able to rationalize their desires are better able to control or pursue their desire. To say we shouldn't rationalize or understand them is basically going in blind and ultimately makes one vulnerable. purity is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 03:17 AM |
| 6 | What are some double standards you’ve noticed with men and women’s standards/preferences for one anotherFrom my community it's a lot of the basic "men shouldn't cry." "Women should know how to cook" Speil which annoys me. I try to encourage people to cry to let their feelings out and rather people in general know how to cook. It doesn't have to be their role but they need to know it for any situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Why would the most attractive guys consistently go for a normal girl?I don't think you have mediocre looks, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and you yourself just don't view yourself as beautiful. Generally men and women have different standards for what makes an attractive woman or man. So there is also that to consider. In all likelihood they are just pursuing a long distance relationship with you because they assume you are modest or humble. If you are shy it makes you seem humble or modest to most men despite those things not correlating. People don't ins… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 08:03 AM |
| 1 | CMV : Women are so militant and unforgiving with guys they're dating because they’re almost 100 percent confident “their perfect man” is waiting for them in the futureNo, it's a mix of low self esteem, confidence, miscommunications and etc in each individual. To simplify things as "confident they'll get a perfect man" assumes most women are narcissists. Some are, there is no doubt about that but it's a case of different problems yielding similar results. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 07:48 AM |
| 1 | do you agree with chat gpt on bodycount?It depends on you as an individual and what you are willing to use to test trust, comparability and etc. If body count is your way of doing it well that is you and isn't something that is mandatory to everyone. I personally don't mind body count as long as my partner communicates it and gets tested. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Women should take seriously the question if they want to have children or not early in life and stick to it to avoid suffering.Well the question will always be serious, they will always think of this question. It's just a matter of decisiveness which isn't something most people have. So many just let things flow. Women and men need to make a decisive decision, yes they need to worry but making no decision at all is the equivalent of standing In front of a gun. Doing anything at all is better than nothing, you see a gun you have so many options to avoid or confront it. Do nothing and you get shot, the bullet being realit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Would you be okay with your partner having a good friend of the opposite sex?I would be ok, I think it's a matter of figuring out what exactly is considered exclusive to the relationship and what isn't. What one considers intimacy and ect are very important to figure out. Typically our insecurities come from the fact our identity is part of the reason we expect our partner to want us. If your partner shows interest in both sexes openly because they provide things like hobbies and ect then it is nothing to worry about but if your partner has only shown interest in the opp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Would you be okay with your partner having a good friend of the opposite sex?I agree, personally I think the best way to deter a cheater is simply to have trust in people as a whole and have connections. A cheater has only two options, to isolate or to lie extremely well. Both are easily circumvented when others are involved. A cheater can't lie about circumstances if there are witnesses and you can't be dependent on them if you have friends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 12:38 AM |
| 1 | The current dating situation is the result of women's free sexualityTo me it's more on the line of there being less pressure. Men and Women don't have as many pressures as before. Many Families don't want to pressure their kids into marriage, men and women alike don't pressure themselves to pursue, just that in the past women weren't pressured to pursue as much as men. in all likelihood many women and men just need to learn how to pursue if they want a relationship and when to give up so as to not waste opportunities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 02:41 AM |
| 3 | Men who think that a woman should be open to every man’s advances. Can you explain why?Well I can make more up with mental gymnastics because like it's an individual thing. Everyone has different interests after all. Like a guy might be unattractive but he can still offer an infinite amount of things which can benefit different people for a short time or he offers nothing and it is best to just leave him and not waste time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/23 08:17 PM |
| 1 | Men who think that a woman should be open to every man’s advances. Can you explain why?I don't think this, nobody should be open to anybody that they don't desire. Yet if I were to guess a reason besides the one you put out it would be safety? Like it would be in a womens best interest to figure out the men that are pursuing her, the reasons why men might find her attractive and to figure out a plan in order to escape a potential creep because knowledge is power. With any potential knowledge she can better gravitate towards what she herself desires. This is assuming she doesn't ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/23 05:43 PM |
| 2 | Why aren't men's bodies lusted and desired as much as women's bodies are lusted and desired?From what I can tell traits that are sexually attractive are more common on women than they are in men. If lets say a good percentage of men are attracted to breasts, then most women are gonna cause those men to feel arousal. Our sex drive after all acts in response to stimuli. It's not really more hornyness but what causes hornyness for one party is more common. I think a large problem is what causes arousal for women isn't explored much or men aren't encouraged to have high beauty standards th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 03:00 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever met a man that you felt was "too nice"?Too nice is just a safe way of saying being blank. If a guy is blank, then he is of no interest. Like no attractive physical features, no attractive personality traits and etc.. He isn't deterring but there simply is no attraction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 11:10 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men want relationships (romantic) with women more than vice versaDepends on culture and upbringing. Honestly, romance is dependent on ideals. If there are no ideals then we just go with what feels good in the moment. This can be money, sex and ect in a relationship. If a women or man are raised without the ideas of what a relationship should be they'll think of what they already like and make that the focus of the relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Could it be that women just do not like men that much?Simply put women can like and love men, it's just that they won't find most men sexually attractive. Men typically view most women as sexually attractive if they are casually fit. When it comes to libido that is kinda hard to discern because our sexual drives will always be in response to stimuli. If someone is sadder then others it doesn't always mean they feel sadness frequently but that what causes them to be sad is frequent. This is how I view the sex drive difference between men and women a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 08:08 PM |
| 1 | What does ‘feminine’ mean to you?When I said ideal mother figure I mean it as an ideal mother for ones own children. Not that you look at her like mommy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Male Birth Control Will Never Be Commonly Usedthese reasons don't really reflect why male birth control won't be used. Most Men aren't conscious of their testosterone and I highly doubt they care because it doesn't reflect their own idea of manliness. Testosterone as an idea of "manliness" is pretty recent. men do get sex at frequent rates, it's usually older men in comparison to young men. Young men don't get much sex because they are at a time of their life where they are inherently just not valuable in society's eyes aka stable job and e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Analogy: Male attention is like air for women, Female attention is like food for menNo attention is just a showing of interest. When one does not reciprocate that interest then that just means they don't want the attention from you specifically. Attention is always valuable the thing is it depends on who it is from. Most women aren't fawning over most men and many men are fawning over multitudes of women. We seek attention because it overall makes us feel valued when someone of value actually shows interest. Many men just aren't getting attention from friends , family and so th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 04:00 PM |
| 2 | Stop telling men they need a woman, and how much better a wife will make their life.I think people who say women need men or vice versa assume a person's loneliness can be solved if they have a significant other. A person's loneliness can only be solved if they make connections or accept being alone. Sometimes a wife or husband won't be one to solve our loneliness especially if the type of companionship we seek is different than that of an intimate relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 10:53 PM |
| 10 | What does ‘feminine’ mean to you?While I hate the terms feminine and masculine, I personally just think feminine is commonly just used to describe an ideal mother figure or traits commonly associated with women that men can't replicate, aka their anatomy. So like the hourglass figure is feminine because most men can't or won't gain that body type. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 10:33 PM |
| 9 | Is the virginity rate among women rising too?I expect it to do so. People are more selective in general. There isn't any social pressure to get kids as soon as possible, families aren't pressured to arrange dates. There is less pressure in general when it comes to forming a relationship and more so pressure into fulfilling ones own standards of an ideal relationship. This is why people are willing to complain so intensely about options because standards for oneself are high. Misogynist will complain about how it's women not fulfilling stan… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 09:21 PM |
| 0 | [Q4A]Do you believe that genuinely ugly people exist?To me personally for a majority of things, no. I have seen stuff like John carpenters the thing, a real life sheep heart in person and stuff like that but never felt disgust. only had the thought of "oh man I know most people would be horrified or disgusted by this." The only time I felt true disgust was from those honeycomb like holes on people's bodies. Funnily enough I know and can identify what most people will find extremely ugly. It's just mediocre ugly that I have trouble identifying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on the future of RP?While I'm not redpill I view relationships as transactional. Now how I view it as transactional is basically. How positive I feel towards a person, how comfortable, how grateful, how many experiences I have with them, and ect while in return I expect them to feel some of those things. Like if I'm attracted to someone I hope they are attracted to me, Basic reciprocation. In terms of the future of redpill, it'll probably just be an echo chamber for frustrated men fueling echo chambers for frustrat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Men aren’t creepy or gross for preferring young adult womenI'm arguing it shouldn't be a norm not that it isn't a norm. It isn't a power gap for men but that these relationships inherently bring forth a power gap. When there is a power gap the ones likely in power are to be blamed. This means that men if they are to date those younger than them in turn will inherently have more responsibility, power and blame in the relationship. Yet are most men prepared for that? I highly doubt it because it's an attraction, we as people will blindly follow our attrac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Men aren’t creepy or gross for preferring young adult womenWell the demonization comes from a self fulfilling cycle. Most known abusers are gonna become men because most men are put in a center of power but that does not mean men are bad. It's like looking at history and saying that men make for terrible leaders because all the bad leaders were men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Men aren’t creepy or gross for preferring young adult womenYa collateral is the factor that deems if it is acceptable enough. Ya a power dynamic itself isn't a big enough collateral, people are willing to accept being submissive to a partner or in control. Yet power dynamics don't work when so many are capable of abusing that power. Abusing their partners. Also when it comes to what young men are sexually attracted to, I used porn statistics so I probably have different inferences and the most searched results have stuff like milfs and ect. The reason i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 06:31 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Being a strong independent woman is no big deal at all.I think they view it as a big deal because instead of looking around themselves they look at narratives. Most of those narratives are probably women staying as housewives. In turn they view themselves as a minority when they aren't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 04:26 PM |
| 0 | Men aren’t creepy or gross for preferring young adult womenKinda is, it's an age gap that creates a power dynamic. if they are 5 years apart it can be sorta understandable but any higher and it becomes extremely predatory on part of the older person. ya the biological stoppers aren't there anymore like an underdeveloped brain but the mental stoppers are still there. Any man or woman significantly older than their partner has more experience, even if the partner is more intelligent, adaptable and ect. While it isn't out of the norm for men to be attracte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 04:23 PM |
| 4 | Men aren’t creepy or gross for preferring young adult womenEven if someone is naturally attracted to a demographic shouldn't mean it should be the norm or accepted. Pedophilia, beastiality and ect are things we shouldn't accept. When it comes to women being attracted to older men, I don't think it comes from any idea of masculinity. It is just that older men typically can prey on specific things women are interested in. The ways I see this come about is through money, experience ( as in to bring fourth sexual pleasure or emotional satisfaction), and the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 02:53 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men are frustrated, and potentially giving up, because of wildly differing opinions from women on the core aspects of relationships.Ya the thing is it doesn't have to just be sex, but emotions,roles, identity and ect. Some men and women consider forming attraction to another as cheating , some consider acting like housespouse to others as cheating while some consider hanging with people of specific identity as cheating. The identity one I feel is more common than people are willing to admit. The reason why is because we expect our partner to want us for us, the things unique to us and our identity is part of that. If a partn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 11:34 AM |
| 11 | There is no easy way to get women other than going after very unattractive womenthat doesn't work because most women already suspect this. People in general have standards, if you assume desperation is gonna lower those standards then I'm sorry to tell you it only happens for a select few. Even then, are you desperate enough to face the problems? Does settling down for less means you are prepared for the sacrifice and ready to commit? Can you truly live knowing you aren't attracted to the woman in question? then you ask this same question for any woman interested in you, is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 12:40 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Men are frustrated, and potentially giving up, because of wildly differing opinions from women on the core aspects of relationships.Honestly the thing people need to talk about before any relationship is probably the idea of exclusivity. Values and ect can be discussed but that doesn't really hold a relationship together because unshared values happen a lot. Relationships are kept together through exclusivity, now what that is can be different but those are usually what has to align. It can be having emotions be exclusive to each other, exclusive roles in life or identity. Sometimes a woman or man wants to be the only man or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 12:10 AM |
| 2 | How should a man respond when a women (intimate parter)is physically attacking him.Anyone who is getting hit should instinctively run. In all likelihood one should flee to those they are safe with, in this case if the man has a trusted friend,family or trusts the police then he shall go there. Witness testimony is very much important, probably more so than visual evidence like cameras because people need some to feel some form of connection to you the victim. They don't have to witness you getting hit but your importance as an individual with emotions and worth must be known. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 09:21 PM |
| 2 | Signals it's overOof ya that stings | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 03:07 AM |
| 2 | Signals it's overPeople don't seem to have much empathy in general, the trick is identifying who is empathetic. In order to do that you need to see people in actual social settings. The problem is women and men alike are encouraged to not socialize with the opposite sex because of so many factors. This can be jealousy, avoiding assumptions of promiscuity or fears. So how can a man know a women is empathetic towards men if she never hangs out with men? How can a women find out if a man is empathetic towards women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 02:51 AM |
| – | PlaybooksThree is one I highly disagree with because a faithful man should be one that has proven to be so. Connections are what are important in that aspect. If you isolate your man or isolate yourself then you can't leave him if he is unfaithful and it becomes a waste of time. It also brings fourth insurance because if he was to ever be unfaithful then his coworkers,kids or anyone of note will tell you. Cheaters and those that are unfaithful are likely to fail the more they have to manage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 12:57 AM |
| 4 | Signals it's overThis is only if the woman you are with is overall unempathetic and has toxic views on what a man should be or in general never found you attractive. Like if she never found you attractive then she was just waiting for any excuse to leave that she can blame on you. If she has toxic views then nothing can change that unless they are challenged and almost nothing can change a lack of empathy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 11:49 PM |
| 2 | are a smaller percentage of men considered attractive compared to women?Ya that's the ideal usually but isn't what always happens. Love fades or it grows. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 06:31 PM |
| 2 | are a smaller percentage of men considered attractive compared to women?Well because it's still mutually exclusive. Exclusivity comes from the relationship itself not how it came to be. You are both mutually exclusive to each other in that moment and nothing can change that. (Besides cheating and ect) So who's to judge if I didn't find my possible future wife attractive initially? I want and choose to stay and that is the decision I have made. One can easily leave for something more but in the end we choose our partners and those partners should be of priority unles… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 06:29 PM |
| – | Most women sexually desire the same small percentage of men the most, based on the data. But most women aren’t dating those same few men. Does that mean most women are settling in their relationships for men they don’t find sexually desirable?Well people judge confidence based on what you are confident in, not the confidence itself. This is why if one is to be confident they have to be confident in the good traits they have (or at least the ones society encourages). It goes for both women and men and it very oppressive. It just so happens many men here are interpreting it as being confident in general which isn't the case. It's why they'll be called egotistical, desperate and ect. Women do judge a man's actions it is just also in cor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 06:17 PM |
| 2 | are a smaller percentage of men considered attractive compared to women?These analogies aren't comparing you to a fruit, it is comparing desire and emotions one would feel and how these emotions are expressed. When we look at something sometimes it doesn't catch our eyes or bring out those emotions but over time it will. Especially if it is good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 05:50 PM |
| – | Being single as a man outweighs being in a relationshipWell for a lot of of people a relationship isn't really about the sex or ect. it's about the type of sex, the choice, the commitment and more. The exclusivity as well. To some people it's exclusive actions,roles,emotions or identity. Some men or women want to be the only one of their sex in their partners lives while others just want someone to fulfill a specific role in life. Sex also feels different depending on circumstances and has different meaning for people. To you it's just casual and th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 03:59 PM |
| 3 | are a smaller percentage of men considered attractive compared to women?Well most people want that but it isn't reality, just like how one might not know how good a fruit tastes until they try it. A fruit has no strong odor or stand out look but once it is tasted it becomes a favorite. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 10:51 AM |
| 3 | are a smaller percentage of men considered attractive compared to women?Well there's two ways to look at this, do you want to inherently be attractive to your partner or do you want your partner to value you through experience. Many women and men come to value their partners through experience. The experiences in turn make that partner even more valuable in our eyes and in turn we become attached and attracted to them. People usually misword it as convince and ect when in reality it's just experience. There isn't a force making a person want another, it's just them … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 03:46 AM |
| 1 | thoughts on babytrapping and sextrapping?It's something I'm going to suspect to happen because it is extremely possible. If people are willing to poke condoms and ect to baby trap, who's to say it won't happen on this spectrum. The main difference being one has an extreme consequence and the other is basically betrayal of trust. I got the idea of it from a TikTok where it was played off as a joke where the caption is "she wants a baby but she has no idea I have a vasectomy." and they are recording a conventionally attractive woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 09:26 PM |
| 2 | There is no such thing as "free sex".I honestly feel like sex ed would have to be perfected first. Alot of common ideas about sex ed makes children susceptible to groomers. Like the fact my Pe teacher tried to teach it as "when two people love each other" during middle school erked me because I knew all too well love and sexual desire are different. It's a delicate topic because words like that are what groomers and pedos take advantage of. Imagine how many victims got manipulated because they thought being sexually wanted= love. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 09:14 PM |
| 1 | The Manosphere (Red Pill whatever you want to call it) is a movement that is more about woman slander than helping men and boys.That's why I said any, not all. Of course not all movements are gonna be like that but any can especially if the leaders are constantly changing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 08:03 PM |
| 1 | The Manosphere (Red Pill whatever you want to call it) is a movement that is more about woman slander than helping men and boys.That's the thing, any movement will grasp at straws to survive. So in turn it'll try to convince people that a correlation or byproduct is the problem over the problem itself if it doesn't fit it's goals. Think of how throughout history minorities will be blamed when in reality the problem is that of mismanagement or corruption. The real question would be what are the goals of these movements? To fight an enemy it most certainly is not because they will continue to shift blame even after a perce… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 06:49 PM |
| 2 | There is no such thing as "free sex".The way I see it is that men have their conditions more available. If one where to like get turned on by breasts then what turns them on is more accessible because literally half the population has that. This is probably why it's so hard for many to understand why someone isn't turned on. They have their conditions easily fulfilled and in turn assume It is easy to get turned on when in reality it is just them. This is why it is important for people to communicate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 06:25 PM |
| 0 | There is no such thing as "free sex".Everything we enjoy is transactional. If we want to watch a movie then we are willing to use up our time for that movie. The only difference is worth . Sex is extremely, extremely valuable, fantasized and personal. people don't want any type of sex they want it their way. For some it's with a person they spent all their time with , for others it's with someone super hot. As long as it is gratifying in some way it is worth it. If not it is considered demeaning or unsatisfying. Something can be pl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Most women sexually desire the same small percentage of men the most, based on the data. But most women aren’t dating those same few men. Does that mean most women are settling in their relationships for men they don’t find sexually desirable?I don't think some guys are initially attractive. It's more of a, through experience the women comes to be attracted to him. A man kinda has to prove his worth, if that makes sense. The easiest way to prove it being stuff like confidence. Confidence isn't attractive in itself but it emphasizes your traits. If you for example are confident in your voice you will speak without stutter and in turn instead of a person trying to focus on understanding you they can focus on how sweet you sound. Confid… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Is raw confidence only an aphrodisiac if there's already a fair level of attraction?In my opinion, confidence puts emphasis on traits. If someone is for example a leader and they aren't confident, you won't know they are a leader until push comes to shove. However if they are confident, one can notice their leader qualifies sooner. However this also goes for negative traits. If you for example are confident and have yellow teeth, because you are likely to speak more due to confidence, people are more likely going to notice them as yellow. think of how usually the prettiest woma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 12:18 AM |
| 1 | Men are more superficial but women are more shallow.um no. This is mostly based on how they perceive their self worth and what they themselves value. People will see breasts, butts and ect as valuable because their attraction makes them view it as so. However to those who don't value those things it'll feel demeaning or disrespectful. It's like if someone were to constantly compliment your nose when you want to be valued for your biceps. it feels as if your biceps become unimportant despite them being important to you. the few ways to mitigate th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/23 07:48 PM |
| 4 | Which man would you pick?beauty is the bait, attraction is the pull and attachment is the glue . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/23 07:22 PM |
| 0 | Most women sexually desire the same small percentage of men the most, based on the data. But most women aren’t dating those same few men. Does that mean most women are settling in their relationships for men they don’t find sexually desirable?I think a good way to interpret the data is that those are men they find the most sexually attractive. Just like how a lot of guys might find porn starts as more sexually attractive in comparison to most women. It doesn't mean the men are settling down nor the women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/23 06:57 PM |
| 1 | The Manosphere (Red Pill whatever you want to call it) is a movement that is more about woman slander than helping men and boys.Most movements are built on the idea of having a common enemy as a motivator. Problem is there aren't many options for enemies when it comes to sex and in turn we get this divide. We either view men as the problem or woman as the problem Instead of going on that the powerful are the problem or ourselves. I don't really feel like I belong to each movement because feminism that I have seen denotes men, and the manosphere denotes women. They just do it in different ways that lead to similar outcome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/23 12:44 PM |
| 2 | Why do men watch porn?The body acts sexually in response to specific stimuli, now what stimuli that is, is dependent on individual to individual. Porn, erotica and ect conveys those specific stimuli in a way where men or women don't really have to put in effort. It's as close to the sensations they want to feel or it helps in their effort to imagine other sensations. Sexual pleasure itself is addicting, the problem is how one expects that pleasure to be and how they assume their partner would want to be pleased. Porn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/23 12:08 PM |
| – | If you're talking too much with a girl, does she have no romantic or sexual interest in you?Men don't want to date themselves, they want to date someone who adds into their life what they lack, two confident people will just be butting heads. Confidence does not mean ignorant or prideful. If two people are confident it means they know their ability and won't be stopped by indecisiveness or fear. Its this belief that leads to increased divorce rates and breakups Increased divorce rates come from lack of commitment. Both parties have to be equally committed. Because you keep telling men … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/23 01:21 AM |
| 2 | Do men really want traditionalism more than women?People want what they want, they just use words like traditional and ect to express it in a way that is broad with the intention of only taking aspects of the words they say. They don't want true "tradition" but the aspects they find beneficial. Only a minority wants true "tradition" if everyone did then there wouldn't be the popularity of critiquing and rebelling against the status quo. If anyone says something vague like "I want a traditional ___." Don't take it as the answer. They need to be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/23 11:26 PM |
| 2 | Adults of PPD, do you have friends who just can't get a relationship despite being good potential partners?personally i think there are two types of people. those who form a strong foundation for themselves and those that don't. most don't form strong foundations, leading to being a terrible partner or being incapable of forming a relationship. they get one thing right but the other things wrong. it's like having one pillar be unstable but the other is stable. it is going to inevitably fall and collapse on one side. your friends who are desirable as life long partners are probably super stable in bei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/23 04:27 PM |
| 3 | There is no such thing as "free sex".free to alot of people is subjective that's probably why. if someone where to offer me a cup for a leaf it'll feel as though the cup was given to me free of charge because what i did was basically worthless to me. however if i valued the leaf, it'll feel as if i'm doing a great cost. what you are observing is men and women valuing actions and sex differently. the men who go " it's always costing something" are the ones who view stuff like dating as a chore, as a great enough cost for sex. mean w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/23 03:59 PM |
| 4 | If you're talking too much with a girl, does she have no romantic or sexual interest in you?in a relationship both parties have to be confident in some way so as too not to be dependent on it. men don't have to be the leader, they just have to be competent and many men aren't. many women also aren't competent. the main difference being it is expected for women to be incompetent and that it is expected for a man to be competent. it forces woman to have an idea to prove themselves unnecessarily while on the other hand it forces men to do reckless things so as to not loose the illusion of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/23 02:18 PM |
| 4 | If you're talking too much with a girl, does she have no romantic or sexual interest in you?many guys want confident women. it's just that confidence easily leads to insecurity. confidence is a very valuable trait but when faced with poor confidence in ones self it becomes a liability. guys aren't taught to be confident for simple things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/23 02:04 AM |
| 5 | New study finds men are leaving the workforce en masse, why work hard if you are not entitled to a wife nor children? This already happened in Japan by men turning into Hikkikomori and japanese economy is in the brink of collapse, men have left the plantation since there's nothing left for themthis isn't a problem from men being unable to pursue families but that our self esteem was built on that for so long. learn to gain self esteem for other things. our duty is to the family we have, not to build one. we can and may but it isn't a duty. forcing the idea we must build something new without proper foundation leads to ruin. if men are leaving the work force it shows there has been no foundation for men. there is no support, there is no confidence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/23 01:50 AM |
| 10 | If you're talking too much with a girl, does she have no romantic or sexual interest in you?those are only shy girls. anyone who is easily shy gets flustered around those they like. men do this too. just so happens many guys are interested in girls with a hint of shyness while many women aren't really interested in shy guys or hope the guy will ask her out, eventually.... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/23 11:17 PM |
| 6 | Modern dating is better for liars due to the lack of vettingyou don't love her, you just want to posses her or are unnecessarily infatuated. there is no respect, there is no trust, and care. you aren't even yourself. you are a fabrication that will never be true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/23 11:07 PM |
| 1 | What are your perceived benefits of being female?alot of the negative parts about being a women. really anything negative can easily become a positive when you think about it. it's just isn't when you want something specific. being overly sexualized? if I want excessive attention and sex , it makes it easier. being viewed as less? whelp now I get to be treated like a baby, fuck my self worth. people expecting me stay home? yay im always home, forget the fact i want to travel and have ambitions. being prettier? less go i'm not lonely, such a pi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/23 10:31 PM |
| 2 | Are women really not able to love unconditionally?I don't think anyone loves unconditionally, love is just ever persevering. it takes a lot and I mean a lot for love to fade once it has been formed. it's why it is so hard for men and women alike to break up despite knowingly being wronged. the love is strong and is fighting against our decisions. we just say it is unconditional because it feels like that, it feels as if there is nothing we can imagine that can take that love away. yet that's only because we as people don't want to imagine the s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/23 10:20 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend/Husband Material Men Getting Less Than What Other Guys Goti think it is that physical stimulation is prioritized in a lot of men because it is easier to grasp. women are likely to read erotica and ect more which provides more mental stimulation while men who watch porn gain physical stimulation. it's basically the idea of which do you prefer? thoughts rushing, or head empty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/23 09:58 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend/Husband Material Men Getting Less Than What Other Guys Gotthat just derives from of both wanting different things. the women in this scenario doesn't want a relationship for sex. she wants one for comfort, to be validated and to be secured. meanwhile the man in this situation, wants sex and played a loosing waiting game. don't play the waiting game unless there is something you can 100% attain. it's clear that everything wasn't guaranteed the moment she set that limit. she was also playing a loosing game because the man and men she had set out on weren… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/23 09:49 PM |
| 8 | Modern dating is better for liars due to the lack of vettingwell i just have to ask you, are you ok with having a victim as your partner? does it feel good to know that if she ever finds out all trust is lost and you easily loose her. if people run from you it's a reason and it is clear. you lie to your partner and it indicates you lie to others or there are harsh truths which you are refusing to share. people can see that and that is probably why they ran. stop lying, leave this relationship. you need to stop this compulsion it's dangerous and it will d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/23 09:18 PM |
| 3 | What do you think has lead to a decline in men "putting themselves out there"?well i think its a mix of fear in some and also change in wants for the rest. the fear one is the most commonly expressed but that has been around since most of history. men fear women because of the specific leverages they had over their hearts and social standing and is probably going to be the one commented here most. meanwhile the other side of the coin is a change in wants. since the idea of "equality " is becoming popular many men want to be pursued instead, many men want to be asked out a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/23 08:55 PM |
| 1 | The people saying "your league is who you can attract" forget they're giving this reply to men who can barley attract any women at allthere is no quote on quote "league", if there is it's based on ones own personal feelings and ego. if person 1 has a overly High ego but has an also High crush on Person 2 then the feelings balance out and they'll feel as tho they are in the same "league". which goes into that those victim to be rejected will have their self esteem lessened. in their eyes those who rejected them despite their feelings are outside their "league" when in reality people just reject those they are uninterested in. w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/23 08:42 PM |
| 1 | It is OBVIOUS why there is not a body positivity movement for both gendersweird, most guys i know generally don't care how others look or are positive towards other guys. like we don't pick on each other like that. it usually the girls i've seen that like to insult how people look especially those in my family. My aunt be saying guys with longer then average hair are ugly and ect. i guess it's just community | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/23 02:00 AM |
| -1 | Why women aren’t having kids and settling down young.i don't think it's about population crisis at all, i think its just the assumption that what leads them to happiness is what will lead others to happiness. if a man or woman feel happy having children and it is intrinsic to them, something they dreamed of for so long and something they can't handle being robbed from them. they'll bite at the possibility of someone else not being able to share that same "happiness". its blatant disregard of the idea that people are different and will have differe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/23 01:52 AM |
| 1 | Eye contact means ioi? Indicator of interest? Since when?it depends on how one interprets eye contact tbh. usually consistent eye contact is considered one of two things. a sign of respect , or a sign of affection. reason for this is because keeping eye contact means we are giving the person attention and acknowledgement. problem is attention itself is commonly associated with love. we can't love a person without giving them attention and when we love them we also want their attention. if a person assumes you are interested that's because they are mis… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/23 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Dating is just a waste of time and money these days.people just don't express and communicate properly which is why i think the transactional form of dating is terrible. men and women inherently don't trust each other and that leads to them being shady. we trust brands more then we trust the opposite gender and that's because they usually tell us side effects and cost or at least are compelled too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/23 12:01 AM |
| 1 | What do you think of same sex cheating, compared to opposite sex?way i see it, it depends on how one would view their worth and how they value their partner. Like i think something that isn't talked about is the fact we as people value our identities. when someone of similar identity is with our partner they'll instantly feel like competition because they can fulfil a similar niche, we loose that sense of specialness. its why many are less affected by their partner cheating with the opposite sex while others are more so. like lets say i'm a homosexual male, i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/23 11:46 PM |
| 1 | Are jealousy and insecurity more represented in men?well usually people can be attracted to more then one thing. like if i find intelligence attractive but i also find a hot body attractive two things can be true. the intelligent girl next to me is more attractive then the dumb girl next to me but the dumb girl having a hot body is also more attractive then the intelligent girl next to me. they are both technically more attractive but in different qualities. if not it can also be attachment vs attraction? like we are more attached to those we are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/23 10:49 PM |
| 2 | Dating and biology - why women don't want men/relationships anymoreway i see it it's none of this. simply put woman are just having varying standards and there isn't as much of a mold that men can satisfy while in turn men are stagnant because they are still trying to satisfy a previous held mold. men need to make their unique qualities known instead of fitting a one track mold. they just need to adapt. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 11:56 PM |
| 1 | Are jealousy and insecurity more represented in men?im guessing it's because what they mean by primal is in some way disrespectful to their partner. for some reason people tend to view primal = lesser or view things that are animalistic as dehumanizing. if not it can be something that is taboo because society doesn't like people acting like animals. from what i can tell they are probably refering to the fact the strangers are more attractive and in turn their instincts are stronger. there is too much for me to infer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 11:44 PM |
| 2 | Nice Guys, Assertiveness, Passiveness and Simp: Why men NEED to be assertive in datingyou seem to be confusing passivity and assertiveness. the passive guy is being dismissive showing that she isn't priority. the nice guy is entitlement obviously. the simp is more passive because he isn't forcing anything but is still showing interest. while the assertive guy is just passive. an assertive guy would flat out just ask if he could help her out or ask if he can date her in a nonconventional way that is convenient . now this isn't simping, simping is discarding all your self respect b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Women should definitely be shamed for settlingI don't think anyone should be shamed for settling, what people should be shamed for is not communicating what they want and not improving themselves for a better result. You live through life never improving yourself to get the type of man or women you want, you ain't gonna get them. You live through life not communicating exactly what you want and instead dodge questions and answers in order to keep reputation or ego then you ain't gonna get those who are gonna fit a mold. If you do both impro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/23 08:13 PM |
| 2 | Im a woman who like traditional relationships with masculine and dominant men but there are simply not a lot of these types of men out thereThe best you can do is form a basic checklist and then look for men who fit that mold. Ask things directly and indirectly to find consistency in the men you socialize with so you don't get a man who misinterprets himself. A lot of things that are submissive and dominant are up to interpretation. Like lets say a guy appeals to others. Alot will consider it submissive but others will consider it as dominant because of their own values. Also ask them in what way they are dominant/ submissive and th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/23 05:01 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Where does this hostility towards men today really come from?A lot of these just come from paranoia and still seem to be a minority of circumstances. Obviously they are big enough to where it affects many men but it's usually not based on being a man but overall how they look and behave. If you are a man who is attractive, charismatic or ect then you'll get away with a lot. Those traits let some serial killers mask their crimes for so long without anyone being none the wiser until it's too late. Ted Bundy for example still has secret admirers and it's cre… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/23 03:32 AM |
| 1 | What do men actually find attractive in a woman's personality?I'm not part of any pill but I just want a woman that's interested in at least one hobby of mine, affectionate and protective. The reason for that is because I want to protect a person I love and I want them to protect me in return. Problem is that it's pretty rare to find people like that because most relationships aren't gonna be built on that type of trust nor are there many opportunities to see if someone is protective. For other traits that would be a plus I would say confident, assertive, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/23 03:19 AM |
| 2 | Only 20% of men are SexlessWell Incel usually is used as a way to insult men who can't keep a relationship or get the sex they specifically want. Anyone can get sex with a few dollars and going to their local prostitute but many won't or won't feel satisfied that way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/23 07:43 PM |
| 1 | This is why women have become more choosy (from the perspective of studies and experiments).Yes because the type of status is different. Throughout history physical attributes associated with specific status/attributes were of great novelty and desire more so than your own actual profession. In Greek times having a small penis was considered more attractive than a big one. In an ancient japanese culture having black teeth and extremely white make up was considered attractive for women. Specific African tribes where they prioritize specific ear shapes or neck sizes. Ancient ancient time… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/23 07:11 PM |
| 0 | This is why women have become more choosy (from the perspective of studies and experiments).I don't think that's the case from my interpretation of these studies because height is also interpreted with status in our current way of story telling and cultural ideas. If you wanna convey threat or security in a story it's not through musculature but through position,size and height. Women never needed men to survive, they needed men for autonomy. The reason I assume women are more choosey is because they simply have more autonomy and society encourages independence over the idea of family … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/23 04:14 PM |
| 1 | If it were more normalized for men and women to be friends, subs like this wouldn’t existIt's not an inexperience with women it's simply an inability to project efficiently. You can have all the experience in the world talking to a women or men but still be unable to understand them. Sometimes we need clarity and to look at things through different lenses. The main problem when it comes to men and women to me is that people confuse objects of emotion for an emotion, don't acknowledge different interests and assume their own logic as inherent. People need to learn to project an emoti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/23 02:20 AM |
| 4 | Why are men here so opposed with being the nice guy a woman means and ends up with later in life?I think you're confusing a nice guy for an unassertive guy. A nice guy is someone who treats other well but doesn't mean they won't pursue or get a partner. If a guy likes a women or if a women likes a guy they have to be assertive be it with bluntness or nuance. Also people generally want to be desired and prioritized by their partner. they don't want a partner who settled with them by filling out what remains of a checklist because that implies that they are of least priority. Like ya you are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/23 03:05 PM |
| 5 | CMV: men/women are incentivised to act unethically when datingActing unethically only works in the short term. Every lie, every threat, every minute that an individual acts unethically increases the chances of them being caught and in turn discarded or fought. Like Cheaters have to manipulate others, if you wanna combat cheaters don't be possessive. Just make connections and eventually someone who is reliable will tell you or the amount of people a cheater has to manage will be unmanageable. People just need to change their focus from finding a partner , t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/23 05:32 PM |
| 3 | Study finds that being muscular does not increase attractiveness for short men.The way I see it, the reason tallness is attractive is because it's commonly associated with alot of things and I mean alot. So even if a person who isn't tall where to have one quality associated with tallness it doesn't change the overall fact it is associated with so much that you won't seem like a good option. It's kinda like how being fat makes people assume so much about you when it really doesn't say much. I think it's because Symbolism messes with people's judgement. If you wanna convey … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 12:29 AM |
| 2 | If a woman's sexual past shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, would you, as a woman, consider dating a man who has previously been sexually dominated by 10 men?the question is under the assumption that women and men are interested in a specific idea of masculinity/ feminity when to me it just seems to be basic competitive/possessive behavior and a person assuming their own value to be a specific amount of things. Like If a person assumes their value is in sex then they will in turn view any person a spouse is sexually attracted to as a threat to their value or maintenance of relationship. This increases stress and lessens confidence. They feel as tho t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 12:41 PM |
| 1 | Women are far more practical than men when seeking out qualities in a long-term partner.This is assuming those are the only reasons to have a relationship. Like yes we can all value financial gains and stability but at the same time some don't value that in an individual over their own ego (providing) or just want a partner that is comfortable to be around with. If both partners work it is easy to imagine plenty of talk about work and if you wanna escape the idea of work with your partner then that relationship won't be functional. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/23 12:41 PM |
| 1 | Not tonight honey…I think the problem stems from the fact sex is expected in a relationship and is assumed an obligation because of it. This is the expectation regardless of gender. If a women denies her man then other men get angry. If the man denies his woman then other woman get angry. Yes Individuals of a sex will get angry for the opposite sex but they are those who typically express empathy or seen the hypocrisy. People also won't announce what they want in a relationship is sex because it's taboo despite i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/23 12:24 PM |
| 1 | Besides sex, do you even like women?ya. It just depends on interest. don't know any guys irl who view women as something for sex. It just seems to be a crowd that lurks here to vent out their frustration on getting something they want but won't get as a guarantee. In terms of connecting, it's very easy to do if you are empathetic and even if you don't feel emotions it's still possible to view things in an explainable way. All you have to do is imagine interests that aren't your own. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/23 12:10 AM |
| 2 | Promiscuity should be frowned upon by both sexesNo it's mostly they don't want harsh expectations, to satisfy their partner (can't exactly do that if the partner is hard to satisfy) and are loyal. Generally traits people want in general. It's the basic "We satisfy each other , can be comfortable around eachother and together till death <3" idealization brought on by society Many men are just letting their fear overcome them because they are interpreting the experiences as inclining towards negative outcomes. They need to learn to handle that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/23 01:23 AM |
| 1 | Promiscuity should be frowned upon by both sexesI don't know about the idea of men liking inexperienced women. I think it is in more inline with how specific experiences bring forth different qualities. Many men assume a women who experienced multiple men will have one of these different qualities due to that experience. Harsher boundaries and expectations Readily be able to leave Unable to be satisfied But that's not really the sole case when it comes to experience but a lot of men will have this in mind. When it comes to some specific media… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/23 11:00 PM |
| 1 | How do women benefit from having a hoe phase?I personally think it's just an extreme idea of testing the waters and gaining experience. Getting with more partners is usually viewed in two ways. You are terrible at keeping a relationship or you are experienced with having relationships. If these women were to have multiple relationships then they'll gain experience for what they might want to maintain or want. The problem is predators prey on the inexperienced and you'll also face others who are inexperienced. If you are trying to gain expe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/23 06:21 PM |
| 0 | Does cheating solely involve physical acts?Depends, if you have the intent to break up then it isn't cheating because the relationship is already predetermined to end and you are just weighing options. However if you are keen on keeping it while having others that is cheating because you are practically seeking others when you already have a willing partner who you don't want to part with. This can all flip on its head if you simply ask your partner what they accept and don't accept but act under the assumption they won't accept it becau… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/23 07:22 PM |
| 2 | Are many men really relocating to developing countries to find women to marry?I think it depends on the individual in question and the expectations for a specific sex. Any women who travels is gonna face the expectations of the culture she travels too. Many cultures get discouraged by the type of women who travel because simply put they want stay at home wives. However many cultures don't discourage the type of men who travel because they want men who are providers aka those who make money. So if a woman were to do the same thing she can but it's gonna lead to a less succ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/23 05:56 PM |
| 5 | Why do some women claim they want something serious while still sleeping with fuckboys on the side?It's called testing the waters. They are seeing what guys are perfect for them and etc. The problem is they assume most guys do this when in reality a lot of guys don't do that because they aren't encouraged to find multiple options or aren't used to the idea of having multiple options. There's also the depressing expectation that men are likely to act on lust which is why it might be frowned upon for a guy to test the waters because it's under the assumption he is only gonna value his women for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/23 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Is it possible to find men who do not put a huge emphasis on looks?I don't know , personally I don't care about looks and that has caused discourse among me and some family members as they themselves care about looks constantly telling me to wear specific clothing or to cut my hair which I don't view as that long. my brain basically becomes avoidant when people talk about their own looks since I don't know in which ways I can provide input or I don't see anything wrong but they constantly talk as if something is wrong. Like a friend of mine constantly complains… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/23 07:59 AM |
| 1 | Are men really struggling to get sex/relationships in real life?I think it's just a vocal group type situation. Guys in relationships don't really have much to complain about when it comes to pursuing a partner because they are preoccupied with maintaining their current partner. In which case they are more likely to complain about their partner over the process of getting one. It's just that the internet really causes vocal groups to be so vocalized that they seem bigger than what they actually are. Every lonely guy would have complained to his friends but n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Women need scarcity to respect and love a man. Men need abundance.It's not scarcity. People generally value things that are substantial. Scarcity is just one of many ways that makes a specific object of value more substantial. If A let's say values B for sex, typically A will make it substantial by making it exclusive to themselves. The reason for this is because what A wants is sex, but it won't hold the same value if others can freely get it as well. However B might value A desiring them. In order to have A desire them more they'll make sex scarce as they as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/23 02:05 PM |
| 1 | The Value of SexI don't think it's about the sex itself but more on being valued. If A wants B to value them more for something they provide then A will hold off on providing it. The less they provide the more valuable it seems to B individually. However all that goes down the drain if B finds out about the past which is why A might try to hide it. It's more on a byproduct of women being oversexualized and thinking sex is something they have to provide in a substantial way to properly be valued. If they give se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/23 12:52 AM |
| 1 | What are the signs that a man doesn’t “get” women?There isn't much. simply put people don't generally get others unless through sheer exposure and experience. If a man doesn't "get" women it's because he isn't exposed to them and so is ignorant,anxious, distant or without experience is lacking sympathy, knowledge and isn't acting within expectations. Then there is the other side of the coin where the claim is baseless because it's used as a way to insult a guy one doesn't like. It's extremely common in social groups where men are expected to ge… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/23 03:37 PM |
| 2 | The wall for women isn’t when they hit their 30’s, it’s when they hit motherhoodI don't think it's pure lust but mostly misidentification. Many negative traits are super easy to view as positively as long as you don't think about it or there isn't a set of standards to bring forth limits. If a guy is one to insult, then there is the assumption he is honest. If a guy constantly compliments himself it is viewed as high self esteem when it could very well be a narcissist. If a guy is aggressive he could be viewed as protective when in reality he is hateful. The same goes for m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/23 04:29 AM |
| 1 | The wall for women isn’t when they hit their 30’s, it’s when they hit motherhoodHonestly the wall is whatever anyone doesn't want. If you want to keep complete unburdened freedom then like ya it's fine to view children as your own wall but I don't think that goes for everyone. People just need to think things through before making a decision. Overall a lot of people assume being single as the wall while others view having taxing responsibilities as the wall. It's just a byproduct of us being individuals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/23 04:20 AM |
| 0 | What do men mean when they want a “submissive” wife?I myself don't want a submissive wife however I think the reason is because submissiveness is correlated with supportive and insightful . Since most men that are traditional are expected to focus on providing they need someone who'll support them at what they'll lack like the home or give them insight on things. There's also the idea that a successful relationship is one where parties don't argue which I consider kinda pointless because we are people and people argue. Basically the boxes to many… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/23 02:05 AM |
| 1 | I’m surprised they allow purge week on the sub when this week shows how unregulated red pill ideas absolutely stomp all over the blue pillMale dominated societies don't generally have high success because that's been most societies and all of them have failed because all societies fail. I highly doubt any society built on domination will have any success in the long run because that causes the formation of enemies. When your only interest is power or your own family, competition becomes rampant, war becomes rampant. Also on the topic of logic, logic isn't inherent to women or men it's dependent on a goal. Women and men generally h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/23 03:33 AM |
| 2 | I’m surprised they allow purge week on the sub when this week shows how unregulated red pill ideas absolutely stomp all over the blue pillI highly disagree with these notions, men and women are both compassionate but that compassion will manifest differently based on the fact that they experience different things. There's another thing and that compassion is often confused with appeasement. Appeasement is a form of manipulation different from Aggression. Men are more likely to use aggressive stances to manipulate or get what they want while women are more likely to use appeasement tactics. Appeasement as a whole is rarely talked a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/23 02:48 AM |
| 1 | Oh no sisters! we got too cocky..I don't mind it as long as they themselves actually respect and treat the child with care which is different from actually feeling the emotion. We can still do things out of obligation or moral compass despite not having an active urge to do it. It's like how we can feel fear but still act regardless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 09:23 AM |
| 1 | Oh no sisters! we got too cocky..In all honesty for me personally, if a person doesn't want or wants something don't go through irreversible means. It's gonna really bite if you change your mind. Also get as much education as possible when it comes to these things, some forms of contraception are generally less known then others and that can lead to poor decision making. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Oh no sisters! we got too cocky..Only if they like have the capacity too tho. The problem is a lot of people won't take care of anything correctly unless it has a specific meaning or traits. Lots of women or men won't feel the urge to take care of even their own child if it doesn't look like them. Is it wrong? To me personally it's not wrong because it's something they can't control but those people do need to recognize they have the obligation to take care of the child they brought in this world or bring that child to a safe g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/23 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Women when they complain about "harassment"In what regards? I said a lot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/23 02:27 AM |
| 2 | Women when they complain about "harassment"Personally to me attractiveness blinds. It's a high on drug that unless the person brings out a trait that is inherently a red flag to your very being or values, it is hard to realize the truth. Many women and men will fetishize criminals, assholes and ect. especially fictional ones where there is no real damage or possible consequence to liking them. Sometimes it goes to the extremes where they fetishize actual convicted criminals. I'd say it isn't wrong to be attracted to those things as that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/22 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Why is niceness so harmful to romantic relationships?People confuse submissiveness, appeasement and vulnerability for nice. When a person is truly nice they are empathetic and respectful not one of the above. It's ok to be vulnerable inside of a relationship but that's something that has to be set by both partners because what they might seek might be different. Overall the common misinterpretations of niceness are easily exploitable. If you have a partner they are either gonna abuse you or be preoccupied preventing others from abusing you and tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 06:30 PM |
| 1 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?Well I'm just trying to draw sexy guys that appeal to a wider demographic since I myself am not attracted to guys. Do you have any descriptors? Tho personally from what I can tell, when people are down bad for an individual they lose all respect or decency no matter the gender they are. I've seen both attracted to those who do terrible crimes and actions and it's downright depressing. The amount of guys claiming another guy is lucky for being sexually assaulted and the amount of women fetishizin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 05:21 PM |
| 2 | "just be a good person" and other stupid shit that people give as adviceTelling people to be a "good person" assumes you share their morals, values,interests and etc which is pure ignorance. Instead of giving rational advice towards a specific goal, telling them to be "good" makes people susceptible to making the same mistakes. Being assertive is a necessary trait in getting what you want, however advice givers will use that synonymously with good. that doesn't work, if the person receiving advice views being unassertive as good then they'll continue to be unasserti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/22 04:14 PM |
| 1 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?I think that's because there's two different ways to view sex. As physical stimulation and as mental stimulation. There's the high of knowing you're with someone who isn't gonna do anything to you. Then there's the , I want to touch this part of the body while looking at this other part. Guys that are attracted to breasts and asses have more to look at while doing the deed so it's easier for them to imagine it being a pleasurable experience. Especially when people consider the possibility of for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 08:19 PM |
| 1 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?I can kinda understand not being turned on by looks but that's mostly because I can get turned on by ideas and imagining emotions. I also don't think women are not visual creatures cause I firmly believe many people as a whole are visual. the only difference is what they'll visually be interested in. To me Men don't seem to be just visual, and women don't seem to be just complicated. It's just a matter of perspective and values. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 07:40 PM |
| 2 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?I don't know but that's probably because I can see a difference between them. The hard part is exactly identifying what parts exactly are the constants. Usually it seems to be more on how things compliment. Like on the Take Alan Tudyk, I checked the pics from his two different roles and there are differences. Obviously he has the same facial structure and hair color but how his hair is styled to his base facial expression makes a big difference in how he looks and feels. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 07:09 PM |
| 1 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?Ya that's understandable. I just asked for physical features cause I wanna draw conveniently sexy men from imagination and it's easier for me to have mental notes instead of constantly looking at pics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/22 07:05 PM |
| 1 | How do you envision growing old in relationship?I think the matter of the fact is people aren't really considering one simple emotion. Attachment Like I want to envision myself with someone I'm attached too. Attraction fades because not everything is gonna constantly be pulling you in anymore so it's sometimes best to just glue yourself to what you have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/22 07:48 AM |
| 3 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?From what I heard/seen the female gaze just seems like basic romantic story telling. Meanwhile the male gaze is basically just pandering to male attraction by emphasizing the parts men are attracted too aka specific parts of a woman's bodies or what guys consider their own dream body. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/22 07:35 AM |
| 3 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?Had to search half of what these mean lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/22 01:32 AM |
| 1 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?So basically a bear bod? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/22 01:31 AM |
| 1 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?id just like to have a mental note of what exactly makes those pics attractive instead of just copying the shapes without thought. Like obviously one can see a pattern through references but one could easily as well misinterpret the pattern. it's like looking at pics of dinosaurs not knowing what makes em cool and assuming what makes them cool is the scales when it could easily be their teeth or ect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 06:39 PM |
| 7 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?I don't think it's status but the facial structure. A blocky or sharper head contrasts nicely with flowing hair. Most men can't exactly change their facial structure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 05:12 PM |
| 2 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?It's not about looks but drawing is basically looks lol. Thanks for the input. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 05:06 PM |
| 4 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?The pouty musicians have an air of confidence while the other guy has the bad boy to good boy feel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 04:45 PM |
| 1 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?To me sometimes a body type helps enhance an action. Like for example if you wanna feel dominated then a guy with a broader build or posturing himself higher will fulfill the role. I'm looking at this through an artistic lens so I might be wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 04:42 PM |
| 2 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?Well there seems to be outliers who derive sexual pleasure from pain,disgust and ect. Obviously that isn't the norm but it's something I for some reason have in the back in the head when thinking about these things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 04:36 PM |
| 3 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?Dad bod to me it me is more like experienced bod. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 04:13 PM |
| 3 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?Well something can be both as well, it's just easy for people to confuse the two if they haven't felt one or the other or derive similar feelings from either or. Usually when I think of aesthetically pleasing it's something that is beautiful while sexually is basically just the body becoming horny in response to specific stimuli be it an idea or physical traits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 04:11 PM |
| 1 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?It's not really stupid because like of course muscles can bring out fear we wouldn't survive if we couldn't identify what exactly can harm us. Like people naturally fear bears, wolves and ect doesn't mean we are prejudiced or hateful towards them. Only when they start acting aggressive or something is when we can then act on the fear. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 03:51 PM |
| 0 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?Nah beautiful fingers totally make sense to me in a strange way. Like fingers sometimes help convey emotion and can tell us a lot of what a person does with their hand plus what they can do with em. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 03:41 PM |
| 1 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?Oh alright | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 03:38 PM |
| 3 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?Understandable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 03:37 PM |
| 1 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?Just means a guy is smooth all around. Like his skin is smooth, no bumps on his body. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 03:31 PM |
| 1 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?I can see that, there's a difference between cute and sexy. Most people LOVE cute. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 03:28 PM |
| 2 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?So a smooth all a rounder. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 03:26 PM |
| 2 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?Wdym by body fat percentage? Like an actual percentage based on a doctor's note or just that the guy looks like he has a bit of fat but it's not so much he looks bloated and not so little he looks starved. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 03:25 PM |
| 2 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?What type of cheekbones? Like the deep ones or are they faintly noticeable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 03:08 PM |
| 1 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?Mostly to draw with a mental note instead of looking at pics of what are considered attractive males since I might misinterpret what exactly makes those males attractive as I myself am not attracted to males. Like what guys consider sexually attractive, physically. is mostly documented based on the fact so many guys talk about it in not so hard reach places. When it comes to personal tastes I'm mostly factoring what is most common. Will ask this question in other reddit threads when I get time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 03:06 PM |
| 5 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?If so what makes a guy aesthetically pleasing then and what personality traits to go along with those aesthetics? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 02:56 PM |
| 5 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?I'm taking things at face value, not really gonna assume if you are lying or not because obviously people have their own tastes. I'm just gonna look at the comments that are most frequently similar and see from there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 02:50 PM |
| 1 | what makes for a sexually attractive male?His hair looks majestic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 02:49 PM |
| 2 | It's bad for men's mental health to tell them that women like sex as much as themThat can be an option but feels a bit excessive to appoint a shot and constantly walk to the doctors. especially since it lasts 3 months in which case either party could easily change their mind and go "hey I want a baby.". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 05:37 AM |
| 2 | It's bad for men's mental health to tell them that women like sex as much as themThe funny thing Is, female condoms exist but they aren't popular . I feel like if just a male condom is already a high enough chance of success for it to be acceptable then female condoms would increase the odds. Basically both parties put on condoms. Could increase trust as well now that I think about it because both parties wearing a condom means there is less chance of either side baby trapping. For example pills, vasectomies, and having an untampered condom are things a person can easily lie… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 04:44 AM |
| 2 | It's bad for men's mental health to tell them that women like sex as much as themIt's not difficult but most weigh their options and act accordingly. The thing with the human psyche is that it prefers to take no chances. If people hear that a item has a 10% chance of failing then unless the item is worth more then something else that Is valuable people will not take the item. The chance is just too high for many people despite it being low. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 04:23 AM |
| 2 | It's bad for men's mental health to tell them that women like sex as much as themThe thing with birth control is that it's a recent thing and It's freely available but it's not free in terms that it is without cost. Pills affect a person's mental state, abortion is dependent on the women and what she views as a child and condoms well there isn't much cost to them except that they can fail. Lastly they obviously cost money and unless people can gain sexual gratification from a person or thing(porn) they won't view wasting money as worth it. i personally don't like the saying … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 03:24 AM |
| 1 | It's bad for men's mental health to tell them that women like sex as much as themIt honestly depends on the women, heck testosterone therapy doesn't work on all women only specific women. In my opinion it seems a lot of hormones don't increase sex drive they increase how you or your body are likely to respond in specific situations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 01:45 AM |
| 1 | It's bad for men's mental health to tell them that women like sex as much as themI think you're kinda misunderstanding the idea behind it. Women love sex just as much as men does not equal that they constantly crave it or are as easily attracted to most men / easily satisfied. Like a women will and can ask for sex if it comes from a man she is a. Extremely attracted too or b. Gains immense satisfaction from. Just so happens many men aren't exactly sexually attractive to most women or women are prioritizing different things in a man because well pregnancy is a thing men don't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/22 01:32 AM |
| 1 | Why do you require someone who is “college educated”?I don't but I imagine because it fulfills an idealized life and status requirement. Ya you can still achieve things without college education but people might still view you as less because you are quote on quote "uneducated". Education quite literally being viewed as a privilege in most societies and cultures implying some form of status to those who get any type of education that is unique. Basically pecking order usually goes Uneducated home education Basic education private education college… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/22 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Q4M question for males: you meet your dream girl, but then she ages and is no longer the girl you met?A dream girl is different from the girl I choose and the girl that chooses me. Overall when it comes to hentai and ect it's mostly based on a set of Japanese expectations and you shouldn't expect it to happen in other cultures. Like in Japan it's easier to look younger than let's say in America because of diet and genetics. Overall if a guy leaves a woman because she isn't attractive it is usually frowned upon because attraction is only supposed to be the pull to start a relationship not the glu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/22 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Are men and women biologically incompatible for long term relationships?People without equal or shared interest will inevitably separate. Most marriages are probably brought on by a shared interest that changes as the relationship evolves. This can be overall being infatuated with each other or financial gain. Yet once anything like that falters its likely both or one want to leave the relationship. If a guy is let's say interested in a woman that makes money and a women is interested in a guy that's hot. The women is rich with a job, the guy is attractive so they d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/12/22 05:30 PM |
| 1 | People dating need to be realistic with their expectationsPeople don't need to be realistic with their requirements but they do need to be realistic for the outcome. If a guy or women want a specific type of partner then go for it, it's your dream and desire but acknowledge that you might not get it . If I want a near perfect partner I'm in my right to pursue that partner but I myself have to acknowledge the fact that they might not even exist or who I am will never attract them without serious change. That way you don't blame people, people are not to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/12/22 05:14 PM |
| 1 | Which of these two men are more attractive to women?Honestly if you are gonna do this, get random pics and don't specify who they are. People are gonna look for character first because that's what society encourages. Heck take pics of you and friends then ask who is more attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/22 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Women often use fear as an excuse to be rude to men even though men have assaulted/victimized more men than womenIn my opinion this is more of a problem of expression then anything. Many Men don't express their fears and doubts and need to do so otherwise despite statistics the emotional weight of it all will not be communicated. If most men get into fights and don't complain about fights then to most observers it'll seem as if it doesn't impact men. Impact always calls for action if nothing seems impactful then there will be no action. We see the impact of sexual assault but not the impact of physical ass… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/22 08:40 PM |
| 2 | Pre-Selection and Social Proof are real but everybody gets it wrong. Both concepts only apply when it involves the same group or circle of women.Play/fake flirting is common among groups of guys and girls as long as they assume the other isn't actually interested in them. Many guy groups fake flirt with eachother pretending to be gay. It's when an actual gay guy comes up that alot of them panic or act disgusted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/22 02:31 PM |
| 2 | Women are attracted to height because it is correlated with fighting success.I don't think using these mma statistics is reliable because there are strict rules. Any sport rules causes specialization. With any form of specialization it leaves you vulnerable to things outside of what you specialize in. Of course against the average Joe you are way better off but that's because they don't actively train so aren't a jack of trades or a master of anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/22 01:29 AM |
| 2 | Why do women hype each other up only to never be friends or talk to each other anymore?I think it has to do with the fact that the more attractive you are the more likely the people pursuing you are likely to be extremely superficial, desperate or jealous. They aren't gonna be centers of actual support in the long run because those negative emotions build up. Being attractive is a different type of loneliness because you'll always have company but it'll never be reliable company. Note: for the last sentence when I say being attractive I don't just mean physical but also status and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/22 11:28 PM |
| 1 | Pre-Selection and Social Proof are real but everybody gets it wrong. Both concepts only apply when it involves the same group or circle of women.Now what makes a person comfortable around you does not mean it'll get you close to them. It just lets them act around you without restraint. Also acting gay doesn't do much cause acting can be felt. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/22 08:53 PM |
| 7 | Pre-Selection and Social Proof are real but everybody gets it wrong. Both concepts only apply when it involves the same group or circle of women.It could also be that they are just more comfortable around men who are already taken? Like think of it like this, you don't want to be pursued so you actively avoid men. Man has women meaning he is less likely to pursue you. Meaning you don't have to actively avoid him. It's the same reason girls are so friendly with gay guys because simply put they know they won't be pursued or that they don't bring forth specific avoidance instincts. From what I observe stuff like body proportion and vocal to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/22 08:45 PM |
| 0 | Is it just me or there's a certain type of woman that loves to bully single men specifically?Anyone with power over another likes to bully, just so happens a lot of guys are giving those types of women the power because they haven't learned to judge a person, set boundaries and are too desperate for a relationship when they should instead be looking for a good relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/22 08:31 PM |
| 1 | Men are 10x more obsessed with penis size than womenWhile many claim it's an ego thing , I personally think it comes from a misconception on how sex is supposed to be. Guys without egos assume they can't please their partner because they got a small pp, why? In my opinion I think it's because most porn and visual forms of nsfw depicts sex as a rigours intense activity. So to any guy watching it they will assume more intensity equals more pleasure, in turn they assume a bigger penis will bring forth more intense stimulation to their partner. a lar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/22 07:09 PM |
| 0 | Is it unethical for men to purposely seek out women with less life and relationship experience than them? Why?It's unethical for anyone to do that. The reason for that is simply put how easy it is for someone with experience to coerce someone who is younger. It's just more common for men to do it because there is less cost when it comes to autonomy. Pregnancy as a whole removes a womens autonomy as they'll need to depend on others and someone younger is not someone you want to depend on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/22 10:09 PM |
| 1 | my thoughts on sex drive and attractionsAll the qualities you mentioned are what I consider traits. Anyways what are your viewpoints then? I'm curious about your thoughts because I know attraction isn't just sexual it's just hard to talk about sex drive without sexual attraction since to me sexual attraction isn't really based on gender but overall what traits cause sexual excitement it's just easier for people to use gender because gender is typically associated as a culmination of traits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/22 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Attractiveness doesn’t exist in a vacuum. So if most men are unattractive to most women then most men ARE below averagedisagree with you on the if attractive men disappeared from the earth then no man will be attractive. it'll only be for a generation that it'll be like that before the standard changes and people become attracted to what is around them as What is considered attractive usually changes from generation to generation and can be equated to the fact individual traits will be interpreted differently. today people know being fat is a sign of unhealthiness and are deterred by it , however in the past whe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/22 04:44 PM |
| – | Thing about women loyalty....People cheat because they are addicted to specific feelings, overall alot of them want to keep the relationship because it satisfies the other feelings or needs. As a hypothetical assume N has everything they want in relationship but are addicted to being complimented. When N gets used to compliments from Q they seek compliments from someone else. N doesn't want to leave because Q satisfies everything else, So N hides it. N gets further into the obsession for compliments doing extreme acts like … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/22 01:09 PM |
| – | Thing about women loyalty....To me Cheating is just a form of addiction or dissatisfaction, it's when a person craves specific stimulation or constantly wants the same type of stimulation. This can be from feeling genitals pressed against genitals to being given compliments that satisfy their own self esteem. The only difference I can possibly see between the sexes when it comes to cheating is that they both do it in pursuit of different stimulation. I assume most men view sex as physical stimulation while most women it's m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/22 12:57 PM |
| 1 | my thoughts on sex drive and attractionsIt usually depends on the woman herself tho when it comes to testosterone therapy. Testosterone and estrogen usually change moods and the likelihood of how you are to react to things so I agree it affects libido but to what degree I'm super unsure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/22 08:11 PM |
| 1 | my thoughts on sex drive and attractionsMore frequency means higher. When there is starvation and poor mental health (less) there is a higher frequency of feeling hunger in response. When there is a high abundance of attractive traits (more) there is a higher frequency of hornyness. The best way to look at it is by imagining a graph. When x is negative and y rises is the first example , and when x is positive and y rises is the second example. The constants in these examples being y aka emotions responding to x being the state of a si… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/22 04:19 PM |
| 2 | my thoughts on sex drive and attractionsOh ok now I understand what you are saying, what I said isn't based on increased availability but frequency. When there is constantly less of something or more, people will respond in specific ways more frequently. it's because I said it after an initial statement that it was misinterpreted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/22 03:28 PM |
| 1 | my thoughts on sex drive and attractionsIt's not contradictory or disagreeing. People act in response to things. When starvation and mental fatigue are common we become hungrier. When what causes attraction is common we become hornier. Your train of thought is just different than mine which is understandable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/22 01:32 PM |
| 1 | Remote work - one more thing that is killing family unit.Personally I view it as not being attracted to them as an individual man but simply what he provides. Traditional values value men in terms of providing not in terms of companionship so traditional women will do the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/22 01:08 PM |
| 1 | my thoughts on sex drive and attractionsTestosterone does so in men but women can still feel extreme bouts of hornyness without much testosterone. There is even a cycle where women are more likely to be hornier but I don't like thinking about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/22 01:07 PM |
| 3 | my thoughts on sex drive and attractionsOh thanks, well this isn't exactly change my view but I'm curious in others thoughts | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/22 01:03 PM |
| 3 | my thoughts on sex drive and attractionsDon't know what that means, the terms list in this thread doesn't exactly show it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/22 12:58 PM |
| 2 | Female women, do you find it weird that men are unable to "turn off" their attraction towards women most of the time?Oh ya another thing about attraction is that there are different types. There's a difference between seeing someone as beautiful vs seeing someone as sexy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/22 04:13 AM |
| 4 | Female women, do you find it weird that men are unable to "turn off" their attraction towards women most of the time?People can't turn off their attractions. From what I see it's just that what attracts men is more available than what attracts women. Like I rarely see women describe exactly what they are attracted to that doesn't involve personality or status. While many guys can easily point out the physical features they are attracted too. However both will commit extreme behaviors once they find someone they are extremely attracted to, be it constantly asking or being overly assertive. At the absolute worst… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/22 04:06 AM |
| 4 | What do you agree with about the RP, and what do you disagree with?I disagree with their interpretations, I agree that women and men are different but only in that biological traits cause ripples in psyche which can still be understood if you actually try to sympathize. Like it's not hard to imagine a change of priority or values as long as you yourself recognize that what you want or prioritize isn't the same as other people. Like one interpretation I see many people claim is that "men are hornier" when from what I can tell it's not that they are hornier it's … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/22 02:00 AM |
| 0 | Do you know anyone who is in a one-way open relationship?Well society's current idea of love is mostly possessive in nature trying to view individuals as a novelty. Wanting an extra person is seen as disrespectful or undervaluing because at that point the original partner isn't a novelty anymore and possibly won't be prioritized when it comes to attraction,sex,care or trust. Id say open relationships can only work when you put trust in the group over an individual and the group agrees to follow rules as breaking those rules leads to being kicked out. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/22 12:30 AM |
| 2 | What opinions are you tired of hearing here and what dismissals are you tired of hearing?honestly I don't care if a person is a virgin or not but I like thinking of why people think certain ways so let me think of some reasons. If people learn a person has done a behavior beforehand they are likely to do it again, these guys probably assume if a women has had sex before with a guy she'll do it again and end the relationship eventually. Insecurity, guy won't feel like he can live up to the expectations of other men or will constantly be compared too other guys. They know sex is addic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/22 10:24 PM |
| 0 | Isn't it counter-intuitive for men who want sex to shame women for having sex?I see both sexes do it, it's just a constant cycle of slut shaming. Only difference being the social group. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/22 10:14 PM |
| 1 | It's not about women vs men, It's unattractive+entitled vs attractiveI don't think it's just that. Ya pretty privilege and entitlement are big asf problems but there is more to it. Miscommunication , misinterpretation and instinctual bias play their roles as well. When I say instinctual bias I mean it in terms of how we react to specific traits. If something looks cute for example people instinctually will want to protect it or at least adore it, doesn't matter if it doesn't care about you or does morally questionable things. Like looking at a cat kill a mice , w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/22 02:59 AM |
| 1 | how individual traits influence people really isn't talked about enoughBasically a trans person identifies as female did surgery and ect, they still have a squared chin. Person they confess to isn't attracted to those with squared chins and sees it as a "manly" quality. person rejects them not because they are trans but because of their chin. That's assuming they aren't transphobic obviously but I don't think most people are, they're just attracted to specific things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/12/22 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Why are women more sociable than men on average?I don't think women are more sociable than men. It's just a case of where you are and the environment. However in terms of who is more comfortable to be around with by most of society that's a different story. Like generally speaking most women aren't comfortable being around a stranger that is male compared to vice versa. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/22 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Prediction - In the near future, porn tech will get exponentially better and might kill dating & relationshipsThat's assuming relationships will continue to be built on sexual gratification or intimacy. Most in today's society that are built on choice will be based on if a person is sexually attracted to the other or be able to be intimate. this doesn't account for people who might want different things in a relationship like a child , loyalty or more companionship. If possible instead of tech out right replacing people it would probably support people. A prostitute could probably just buy the tech and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/22 09:52 PM |
| 1 | If your partner is an adult and doesn’t live in their head in the clouds then they’ll know that your relationship can, will and should end if they’re not making you happy and vice versaYa that's valid, I just feel as tho people should be more specific in what they want and clarify what they view as love. If they want someone to bang, someone that does a specific hobby or ect that's reasonable, they just need to express that clearly. There are so many angry guys and girls unsatisfied feeling unloved because their idea of love is different from their partners and they never communicate it to each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/22 02:49 PM |
| 2 | If your partner is an adult and doesn’t live in their head in the clouds then they’ll know that your relationship can, will and should end if they’re not making you happy and vice versalove to me is just the desire to be compassionate, protect and provide for a person. It's not about happiness because we can feel those desires even if we dislike a person, think of how siblings constantly fight but still feel empathy for each other, protect each other and will try to provide advice to each other. Other forms of love already have their own words we just don't use them commonly. Attachment being the desire to stay with a person or have them while attraction is being pulled toward… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/22 02:32 PM |
| 2 | Does giving women less attention work?It works on both sexes if they are addicted to you or what you provide to them. Think of it like this, a person is addicted to a drug. When they are without the drug they suffer from withdrawal and when they regain the drug they feel immense satisfaction. They can always learn to cope and live without the drug but many don't , some move on to a new one(making a new relationship) or get used to the drug not feeling the same highs possibly craving more but not wanting to leave their own supply. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/22 01:00 PM |
| 1 | Men who don't have sex equate having sex with self-worthThe way I view desire is that it acts in response to things it's not something that just appears. We lack energy, food is energy so we seek food and feel hungry in response. When it comes to sex our bodies act in response to stimuli that is pleasant be it a persons beauty to how they smell or feel so we crave more, we crave that satisfaction. Being unsatisfied tho, that can easily be mistaken for the feeling of worth because feeling worthy involves some type of satisfaction. A person who craves … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/22 02:15 AM |
| -1 | Sexless marriage is a form of abuse.Marriage doesn't promise sex. Marriage is just a formal type of vowing. If you want sex both parties have to had agreed to it beforehand and promised each other for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/22 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Do women choose partners based on sexual satisfaction more compared to men?I think it's simply for a person to gain sexual gratification they have to be attracted,infatuated or extremely comfortable with the person in question. It's not just doing physical or mental acts like foreplay or roleplay tho those do a big role. If you simply aren't attracted to your partner then the sex will be less satisfying. You'll just go through the sensations but like not feel the emotional rush of it being someone you can oggle at. From what I can tell what causes guys to be attracted … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/22 12:14 PM |
| 2 | Can men not use all gender bathrooms?It's honestly sad how paranoid people are but it won't change as long as we have abusers. Alot of women and men are simply gonna take the better safe then sorry approach when it comes to the opposite sex. Honestly I feel as tho all gender bathrooms are safer then single sexed ones in public places as it increases the likelihood that someone will come in and help against problems , that is assuming of course people can overcome their fear of the opposite gender and treat it like a norm. | /r/MensRights | 07/11/22 11:34 PM |
| 2 | Which woman hasn’t been bombarded by unsolicited help from men? | Rebecca SolnitMany people view selflessness as weakness while many view it as over inflated ego it's kinda sad. | /r/MensRights | 21/10/22 06:02 PM |
| 3 | Which woman hasn’t been bombarded by unsolicited help from men? | Rebecca SolnitI think this is an overall larger problem then "men undermining women" it's simply this writer assuming help is a flexing of power. Help can be power it's not an extension of power if you gain help that means you have power over people. Children know this very well but are discouraged to value it because our society is more individualistic. A person who helps others might be doing it for superficial gain but usually they are doing it because they feel empathetic and what causes empathy is a bunc… | /r/MensRights | 21/10/22 12:16 AM |
| 1 | I asked why is rape coercion only rape when it’s done to a woman and lost a friendI'm guessing it's because it is seen as a mans duty to put on a condom even if the woman takes a pill. Most feminist from what I can tell are against the usage of a pill. I kinda agree with not using a pill but if they aren't gonna use a pill they should use female condoms yet I highly doubt most people will agree to that. For some reason lately I have seen support for vasectomies which I'm also against. I'm just against general surgery and pills as a form of contraception as condoms get the job… | /r/MensRights | 11/10/22 12:01 AM |
| 2 | Women are biologically driven to self preservation and have a bias to agree with other women. Men are biologically driven to protect women and most of the time agree with the opposite sex over their own.I don't think that's a biological instinct but just how ingrained it is into society. people always sympathize with what is perceived as the underdog and in our current society woman are viewed as the underdog. We have an instinct to protect what is human like + fragile it's why some pet owners are willing to give their lives for their pets since most pets have child like features them being big heads and eyes. To me the main difference between men and women is just their thinking on risk. Men g… | /r/MensRights | 21/08/22 01:37 AM |
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