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| 443 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of reference | _throwmeaway_2468 | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 02:31 AM | |
| 411 | Guys who openly target one-nighters from Tinder, what does that text game look like? | _throwmeaway_2468 | /r/seduction | 15/08/17 01:08 AM | |
| 13 | Is it normal to feel 'a connection' with every (good) date and/or sexual partner? | _throwmeaway_2468 | /r/seduction | 17/07/17 05:04 PM |
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| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceGlad you found it worth the read :) There are two parts to this 1 move to a new, more private location Once you're there and settled, just do it Now I know it's frustrating when people on this /r/ say "just do it" like it's that easy so let me explain a bit more. Firstly, moving to a new location is at least some degree of compliance. The point where you suggest going for a walk or whatever is an easy out for her to say she's tired or has somewhere to be so if she's coming with you, she's keen t… | /r/seduction | 04/10/17 08:57 AM |
| 1 | When flirting, is it best to avoid talking about relationships completely?Not sure why this isn't higher up. I want to be seen as the sexual creature that I am and a part of this is me bringing the topic up in conversation with a natural, casual kind of way. Depends on the context of course but it might be a joke or double entendre. Maybe even hinting at a sexual preference if the conversation makes it easy enough. Last weeks' example - she playfully shoved me and spilled some of the drink I was holding. Conversation went like this: Her: omg I'm so sorry, that was a b… | /r/seduction | 25/09/17 02:06 AM |
| 2 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceRight now? No. I'm leaving the country permanently in January and my profile starts with this fact. That means I expect to get a lot less matches than I might otherwise but at the same time, sex should be more possible/obvious for those I do actually end up chatting to (because presumably by that stage they've read my profile and are ok with it). With that said, my current mindset has almost nothing to do with sex. I love meeting new people and learning about them - I think it helps me to stay g… | /r/seduction | 25/09/17 01:29 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceNoooo! Guess I'll have to make the most of my remaining months then :( I'm headed for Calgary too. At least less dates will mean less money leaving my bank account every week! | /r/seduction | 21/09/17 07:04 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referencehey, thanks. I guess it's hard to be objective about yourself, right? | /r/seduction | 20/09/17 12:02 AM |
| 2 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceI strongly disagree but we're all entitled to our opinions. TL;DR: Inner game = Confidence. One of the most common compliments I get is that they love/are attracted to my confidence. If I don't have my head right, I'm not going to project that confidence that helps me so much and getting your head right is what we talk about with internal game. It changes how you behave and people will respond differently. The time I finally, truly accepted myself for who I am and grew comfortable with it is the… | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 03:08 PM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceSounds like your internal game may be the shortfall here. I'd say about 1/3 of my successful dates (as in k-close or better) are within women within 2" of my height. One of my regulars is almost exactly my height and my ex of ~6 years was my height too. I do agree that if you're noticeably short like 5' or something then you may struggle but if you're a fairly average height, don't overthink it. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 05:43 AM |
| 7 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceHere's what I wrote elsewhere in the comments on this topic: All but 1 were taken from a few feet away so my face is clear and easy to see No grainy or group photos Most are candid and so the smile and expression is genuine I'm smiling in all photos and well dressed in each. The level of dress varies from casual to suit jacket Most are from about the chest up and one is about waist up so it doesn't look like I'm trying to be deceptive. Also, if they're going to bail because I'm not in amazing sh… | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 05:32 AM |
| 3 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceTrue I suppose. I'm definitely not sharing photos of them out of respect to the women so I guess we'll never know lol | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 04:37 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceThanks, I suppose :) It has been motivation to get my ass to the gym though. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 04:04 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceAgainst my better judgement, here are a couple of photos of me. Only one of them is in my Tinder profile but they're both of me. I've lost weight and gained muscle mass since the photo in the jacket so I'm in generally better shape than that but it still gives you an idea. Average looking and in meh sort of shape. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 04:00 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceMe too, now. A few years back I'd make excuses to stay at home by myself because I just hated the idea of socialising, even with friends lol. Naturally, I was bad at it at that point too. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 03:57 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceOh? Care to elaborate? | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 03:56 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceI've literally never had them message me first lol. Maybe because I get in fairly quickly? Who knows. Anyhow, you're a little faster/more forward than I am but that's not inherently bad. So much of this is about personal style and attitude than anything else so what works for me definitely wouldn't work for someone shy because the delivery just wouldn't be there. Same for someone naturally very forward. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 03:55 AM |
| 2 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceAgainst my better judgement, here are a couple of photos of me. Only one of them is in my Tinder profile but they're both of me. I've lost weight and gained muscle mass since the photo in the jacket so I'm in generally better shape than that but it still gives you an idea. Average looking and in meh sort of shape. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 03:51 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceAgainst my better judgement, here are a couple of photos of me. Only one of them is in my Tinder profile but they're both of me. I've lost weight and gained muscle mass since the photo in the jacket so I'm in generally better shape than that but it still gives you an idea. Average looking and in meh sort of shape. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 03:51 AM |
| 2 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceAgainst my better judgement, here are a couple of photos of me. Only one of them is in my Tinder profile but they're both of me. I've lost weight and gained muscle mass since the photo in the jacket so I'm in generally better shape than that but it still gives you an idea. Average looking and in meh sort of shape. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 03:51 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceAgainst my better judgement, here are a couple of photos of me. Only one of them is in my Tinder profile but they're both of me. I've lost weight and gained muscle mass since the photo in the jacket so I'm in generally better shape than that but it still gives you an idea. Average looking and in meh sort of shape. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 03:51 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceAgainst my better judgement, here are a couple of photos of me. Only one of them is in my Tinder profile but they're both of me. I've lost weight and gained muscle mass since the photo in the jacket so I'm in generally better shape than that but it still gives you an idea. Average looking and in meh sort of shape. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 03:51 AM |
| 2 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceAgainst my better judgement, here are a couple of photos of me. Only one of them is in my Tinder profile but they're both of me. I've lost weight and gained muscle mass since the photo in the jacket so I'm in generally better shape than that but it still gives you an idea. Average looking and in meh sort of shape. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 03:48 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceAgainst my better judgement, here are a couple of photos of me. Only one of them is in my Tinder profile but they're both of me. I've lost weight and gained muscle mass since the photo in the jacket so I'm in generally better shape than that but it still gives you an idea. Average looking and in meh sort of shape. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 03:48 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceAgainst my better judgement, here are a couple of photos of me. Only one of them is in my Tinder profile but they're both of me. I've lost weight and gained muscle mass since the photo in the jacket so I'm in generally better shape than that but it still gives you an idea. Average looking and in meh sort of shape. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 03:48 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceAgainst my better judgement, here are a couple of photos of me. Only one of them is in my Tinder profile but they're both of me. I've lost weight and gained muscle mass since the photo in the jacket so I'm in generally better shape than that but it still gives you an idea. Average looking and in meh sort of shape. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 03:48 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceJust added a couple of photos of me in the comment above. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 03:47 AM |
| 6 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceAgainst my better judgement, here are a couple of photos of me. Only one of them is in my Tinder profile but they're both of me. I've lost weight and gained muscle mass since the photo in the jacket so I'm in generally better shape than that but it still gives you an idea. Average looking and in meh sort of shape. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 03:46 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceI present myself as who I am. A clean cut professional with a good sense of humor that loves trying new things and meeting new people. Here's a response I'd provided elsewhere regarding my photo choices: All but 1 were taken from a few feet away so my face is clear and easy to see No grainy or group photos Most are candid and so the smile and expression is genuine I'm smiling in all photos and well dressed in each. The level of dress varies from casual to suit jacket Most are from about the ches… | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 03:44 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceMy age range is set to 26-37 (think I put 27-37 elsewhere in the comments but just checked my Tinder) and most of my dates are in the 27-30 range. I'm leaving the country in January and say this right from my bio so relationships aren't a possibility for me. That means sometimes they get a bit attached and we go our separate ways and other times they know what this is and are happy to have some fun. I do have a handful of regulars that almost feel like relationships where we'll usually spend the… | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 02:37 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referencePerhaps. I'm moving to Canada permanently in January so this is not what I wanted to hear. That said, maybe I can post a follow-up of how I go there for comparison? haha | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 01:37 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceI haven't included photos for the sake of anonymity here but it's seemingly like maybe I should go against my better judgement and post at least a couple :/ I'm in Australia and I'm the slightest fraction short of 6'. Also, I'm a random guy on the Internet. I take no offense to your skepticism but I also don't really have a way to offer solid proof. If I decide to post photos I'll drop a reply here for you. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 01:36 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceSorry but I want to keep this account anonymous. I have a lot of friends on Reddit and there's a good chance at least a few are in here :s What I can tell you is that my bio could definitely do with some work. It was put together quite hastily and I've barely tweaked it since. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 01:27 AM |
| 2 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceI have actually, yeah. Not a steep decline but certainly less. I figure it's because there are only so many women using Tinder in my set radius. That's ok though because I have a lot of regulars now, old matches where we've struggled with scheduling and still enough matches that between the three, I honestly run out of days in the week. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 01:26 AM |
| 3 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceSure. My most successful is this. I warned you it was intentionally bad. liteskinnded, I have an important question for you: How does a penguin build his house? [Wait for either an attempted answer or "I don't know, how?" Igloos it together! The gif that goes with this is one of Pingu clapping furiously. I'm only interested in talking to fun people with a sense of humour so if they ignore me after this or they don't even bite at the initial question, I'm not sad to see them go. That said, it's a… | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 01:23 AM |
| 2 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceBeyond avoiding the stereotypical mistakes (shirtless photos, photos with sunnies on etc) I really haven't done anything outstanding with my profile. In fact, I think it could really benefit from some work. It just has a small amount of info about me, lists some bullet points of interests and says something to the effect of "I'm up for trying almost anything beyond lengthy text convos. If we match, let's meet up and talk like real humans" | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 01:21 AM |
| 2 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceAs /u/The_Reddit_Jester pointed out, attractiveness is subjective but I'd class these women as 7-9s. I did try my hand at a 10 for the first time a couple of weeks ago and I'm amazed at how well I handled it but ejected when she said I should buy us drugs and we could head back to hers. I don't necessarily object to drugs but I have some hangups about gold diggers and all I heard in that proposition was "buy me something and you'll get lucky". 10 or not, I don't need that. In hindsight maybe I r… | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 12:43 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceWho knows, maybe I'm undervaluing myself or something. It's hard to be objective about yourself. These women are in the 7-9 range. To be fair, I'm not sure I can believe it either. I've never been like this in the past and having just come out of a very LTR I wasn't sure I had any game to give. There's been a definite change in me because even female friends from different friends groups have started flirting very obviously with me lately and become some of my easiest f-closes so far. Confidence… | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 12:34 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceThese days I'd just ignore something like that. If all can you be bothered replying with is "hmm" then it's time to move on. Having said that... a lot of my current ability is the result of trial and error. I definitely played with responses to things like this and figured out what worked for me. The most successful for me (and YMMV depending on personality) paying them out a bit for it. Something like "a blank profile and just a 'hmmm' as your reply? Not sure how I'll get a word in edgeways!". … | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 12:11 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceThis is one of the things I'd left out because the post was so damn long - I live about 15 miles out of the city so for an added level of difficulty, 100% of my f-closes have been at their house. You're absolutely right though that being smart and working on those logistics goes a long way. For me, working my way to their place is similar, just harder. I open a series of doors for them to invite me. Sometimes it's as subtle as saying I'm headed the same way and they might offer to share an Uber.… | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 11:37 PM |
| 4 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceAlmost 6ft exactly. | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 11:12 PM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceThis is true. General info about my photo choices: All but 1 were taken from a few feet away so my face is clear and easy to see No grainy or group photos Most are candid and so the smile and expression is genuine I'm smiling in all photos and well dressed in each. The level of dress varies from casual to suit jacket Most are from about the chest up and one is about waist up so it doesn't look like I'm trying to be deceptive. Also, if they're going to bail because I'm not in amazing shape, I'd r… | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 11:06 PM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceYou're right but what I said is still accurate. I was very shy (scared of being judged) AND introverted (preferred to spend time alone/in relative quiet). | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 10:35 AM |
| 4 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceOh? I actually lived in Sydney until a few months back and that was the first time I ever used Tinder. I found Sydney to be better than Brisbane for it! Again, maybe it's a demographic thing here though. If you're younger or targeting a different type then YMMV. | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 06:50 AM |
| 4 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceOh absolutely. By no means was I trying to put you down or disagree with you. Right and wrong rarely exists with this stuff and as you say, if it's working for us then why change it? Happy Tindering! | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 06:47 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referencehey, thanks very much. I appreciate it. It's been a long journey from super shy introvert to my current state but honestly, right now is the best period of my life so far - and that's not just because of my Tinder success. Interesting enough, I STILL cannot approach women cold. So weird. Give me the slightest opening and I'm usually good from there but if requires me walking up and saying hi I'm a total wreck of self doubt. We all have our things I suppose. | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 06:39 AM |
| 5 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceInteresting. I do tend to move to a second location the second I feel a drop in energy but I aim a little differently here. This isn't to say that either of us are right or wrong here; maybe it's different demographics :) I don't plan the second location, I make it up as I go and it's usually relevant to one of our conversations or something else contextual. If she's wearing really uncomfortable looking heels I'm not going to make her walk 2 miles with me to the next place but if she mentioned a… | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 06:34 AM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceI am in one of Australia's cities but it doesn't compare to most US cities. LA is considerably larger and more populated than here. You definitely have a valid point though either way - if you're living in the middle of nowhere then you're going to have a bad time. | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 05:00 AM |
| 7 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceHmm, I try to keep this account very anonymous since I have a lot of Redditor friends but I'm in Australia. | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 03:49 AM |
| 25 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceLike most things, you just have to think about it the right way. The old cliche is true here that you miss 100% of the chances you don't take. If you get matches and don't talk to them Tinder is going to be a frustrating experience so saying literally anything will be a step in the right direction :) And for asking girls out in general, is saying to check out a new place better than saying it's a date, I'm in college if that matters I can't accurately answer this question for you unfortunately. … | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 03:37 AM |
| 1 | Guys who openly target one-nighters from Tinder, what does that text game look like?I guess my main difference is in sales I can rely on being an expert I guarantee nobody knows more about you than you do. You know your unique selling points, shortfalls and suitable environments back to front! to build my story and draw my expertise Your story is probably boring to you but is it to someone else? Even if it's mediocre, an ok story told well is still engaging and that's what you're looking for in the beginning. I also don't have to flirt or become "real" friends with these people… | /r/seduction | 18/08/17 12:19 AM |
| 4 | Guys who openly target one-nighters from Tinder, what does that text game look like?Working at that law firm was fantastic for personal growth and general conversation skills with women who were "way out of my league" (they weren't, so I found out later but at the time I didn't realise) but that was a while ago now. My own self-doubt aside, it was helpful because I got used to being around 9's all the time so they weren't a deity to be worshiped and groveled after, they were just people with the same gripes and insecurities as the rest of us. I'm currently 30 and was about 24 w… | /r/seduction | 17/08/17 11:18 PM |
| 2 | Guys who openly target one-nighters from Tinder, what does that text game look like?Actually, that's been my experience too come to think of it. At my worst I reached 320lbs and hated myself. The class of people that were interested in spending time with me at all are very different to today. That's not all about weight of course but with self-hatred comes true ugliness. Fortunately for me, I got into much better shape and spent 2 years really working hard on every aspect of myself. I then landed a job in a law firm which was ~70% young, classy women. I'm so grateful for that b… | /r/seduction | 17/08/17 10:23 PM |
| 1 | Guys who openly target one-nighters from Tinder, what does that text game look like?Are you sure? From Wed - Sat this week I've had/have 6 dates. Maybe it's an age range thing or I might just be excluding the bots with judicious swiping but I've never come across one. I'll always swipe left on someone that's got the insta-famous look which I suspect is what bots will typically be using. | /r/seduction | 16/08/17 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Guys who openly target one-nighters from Tinder, what does that text game look like?I figured as much. I probably just need to think things through a little and have some kind of plan to fall back on until I get better at it. Last night I was ready to close but we'd ended up sitting next to each other in a booth at this cool bar. Fine for touching etc I guess and she was receptive but there seems to be no gracious way to initiate a kiss when you're sitting next to each other like that. Ended up leading her outside and initiating but it still needed that awkward transition of st… | /r/seduction | 16/08/17 12:21 PM |
| 2 | Guys who openly target one-nighters from Tinder, what does that text game look like?To be honest, I really don't know. I tend to think of it as "at least attractive enough" rather than a specific digit since 'attractive' is so subjective. Even if I was a 3, what am I going to do about it? The same thing as if I were an 8, right? Try to take my current self and improve on it as much as possible. I suppose I could PM you one or two photos if you really want to see. Obviously I'm on a throwaway for a reason here so I don't want to go dropping a bunch of FB photos in the comments. … | /r/seduction | 16/08/17 12:06 PM |
| 3 | Guys who openly target one-nighters from Tinder, what does that text game look like?It's a very valid question. Really, the answer is to keep improving myself. I recognise that it's a different type of game and that I know little about it. More like a skillset I'd like to acquire than a need for more sex. My journey with this stuff has been a matter of learning one portion of it at a time. Health and fitness to get into better shape, style/fashion to better highlight my improved (not perfect) shape, inner game to truly accept myself and realise that I'm worth being around. This… | /r/seduction | 16/08/17 11:57 AM |
| 1 | Guys who openly target one-nighters from Tinder, what does that text game look like?My age range is set to 25-35 and most matches I close successfully are 28-32. If yours is set to 18-25 or something then yeah, you're going to be limiting yourself. | /r/seduction | 16/08/17 11:50 AM |
| 4 | Guys who openly target one-nighters from Tinder, what does that text game look like?hey, thanks for your input from the other side of all this. These examples are great. I know one area I can definitely improve is the timing and delivery of my close. I do ok but I know I tend to wait for too much confirmation before I go in. Do you have a preference in terms of the guy just going for the kiss vs the examples of the verbal initiation you gave? I'd imagine it's probably more about the delivery than the method? | /r/seduction | 16/08/17 11:46 AM |
| 1 | Guys who openly target one-nighters from Tinder, what does that text game look like?Hey, thanks. We're all here to improve so I'm glad it made you think about your own efforts too :) | /r/seduction | 16/08/17 11:38 AM |
| 7 | Guys who openly target one-nighters from Tinder, what does that text game look like?Mmm, I'm not sure I qualify as being good enough to hand out advice. What I can tell you is how I handle things. I'm not perfect by any means which is exactly why I'm here. The below is not advice, it's just what I currently do so everyone feel free to tear it to pieces constructively. I'm judicious with my swiping. Unlike friends who just about like every person they see, I'm not interested in just anyone, I'm using the swipe for it's intended purpose - the first round of qualifying. I want to … | /r/seduction | 15/08/17 10:58 PM |
| 4 | Guys who openly target one-nighters from Tinder, what does that text game look like?Hahaha I suppose the dick pic route is one way to go about it. As for saying she's hot, I've steered clear of that on the assumption that it's overused - maybe I'm wrong? I mean, I'll never compliment her on the usual stuff like "you're beautiful" or "you have nice eyes" because she's heard it a zillion times and I can be more creative than that. In face, how she looks is something I never even mention. | /r/seduction | 15/08/17 04:12 AM |
| 4 | Guys who openly target one-nighters from Tinder, what does that text game look like?See, I'd been in a LTR since just before Tinder was released. I'd always been intrigued by it but obviously never got the chance. Over that whole time all I heard was how it was so rough for guys and only the Zac Efrons of the world get any real luck with it. My experience has been very different. I scrub up ok but I'm no 10 - I have 4 dates in the next 3 days and 2 of them have text me in the last hour saying they're excited for it and want to make sure I'm still keen. I'm no pickup artist by a… | /r/seduction | 15/08/17 04:03 AM |
| 43 | Guys who openly target one-nighters from Tinder, what does that text game look like?"you're so busy it'd be best if she just comes to hangout at your place" This is the part I just need to push past and experiment with. In fact, I think I'm going to steal your air guitar line and play with it a little. "I'm stuck at home tonight tuning my air guitar for a gig tomorrow but come around and we can jam". | /r/seduction | 15/08/17 03:49 AM |
| 33 | Guys who openly target one-nighters from Tinder, what does that text game look like?Hey, thanks for the detailed response. Looking at your advice along with others here, it actually looks like I'm 80% there, I just need to take the gamble, keep doing what I'm doing but be more direct about my intentions. My profile works, I escalate to phone number and invite fast after qualifying and I start the invite with "let's go to ... Wednesday and...". The response to "what brings you to Tinder" seems to be where I've got to change. I'm leaving the country in about 5 months and my profi… | /r/seduction | 15/08/17 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Don't spend too much time on this sub. It can be counter productive.I was literally thinking about exactly this today. I came to this sub about 8 years ago. At that point I was the definition of beta. I was as close to being the gay friend with women as any guy can be without actually being gay. Naturally that meant I needed help and this sub definitely pointed me in the right direction. The trouble is, as I started to improve I started to spend increasing amounts of time here and ended up over-analysing my every move. I'd be mid-conversation with a girl at the … | /r/seduction | 15/08/17 12:54 AM |
| 1 | Is it normal to feel 'a connection' with every (good) date and/or sexual partner?So now I have a very acute perception of what I want and don't want in a woman This is definitely something else that I need to figure out, for sure. I'm also 30 but having been in a few LTRs I've been with a limited number of women (~10). What I feel like I want is an impossible mess of contradiction which tells me I don't actually have a clue. | /r/seduction | 21/07/17 05:33 AM |
| 1 | Is it normal to feel 'a connection' with every (good) date and/or sexual partner?Thanks, I appreciate it. I almost deleted this post multiple times after hitting submit but it's comforting to know I'm at least somewhat normal. | /r/seduction | 21/07/17 05:29 AM |
| 2 | Is it normal to feel 'a connection' with every (good) date and/or sexual partner?Ask yourself how much of it is truly feeling connected in a way that could lead to something deeper, and how much is just affection or the emotional aftermath of ending your recent long-term relationship. I think you may have summed it up right there actually. I'm still having my ups and downs in terms of dealing with my previous relationship being over and it may be that I'm just that bit more caring and accommodating in an attempt to fill the void some days. The end of the previous relationshi… | /r/seduction | 21/07/17 05:28 AM |
| 2 | Is it normal to feel 'a connection' with every (good) date and/or sexual partner?To be honest I really can't even figure out if it's a problem for me. I suppose I just feel weak laying here thinking about last night's hookup when it seems other guys have moved on by the time they fell asleep. Fuck it, I'll admit it here... I miss her a little and wish she was here. No, I'm never going to convey that in any way to her but it cannot be healthy. I think my life is genuinely interesting which is great for intrigue. Combine that with the fact that I really do want to know about t… | /r/seduction | 17/07/17 05:25 PM |
| 2 | How to resist the temptation to Eject while talkingAgreed. Rightly or wrongly, my usual go-to if it's a longer pause is to ignore it initially, looking around the room at what else is going on. It's not up to me to carry the conversation. If it starts going too long, I just look right at her with slightly raised eyebrows and a smirk that says "well, are you just going to sit there?". It's playfully acknowledging the silence and that action in itself can be an easy opportunity for them to launch from. Always works for me but this sub is about adv… | /r/seduction | 17/07/17 05:15 PM |
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