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24

NO.
/r/RedPillWives28/03/24 10:20 PM
27

If you don’t want that lifestyle, you have to break up. You can’t talk yourself into being happy with something that clearly goes against your wants and needs. Otherwise you are just setting yourself up for a lifetime of heartbreak.
/r/RedPillWives28/03/24 09:08 PM
1

Try the Spicer app! It has suggestions of things to try (from mild to wild), and you each select “yes,” “maybe,” or “no.” Then, you can see a list of “matches” where you both said “yes” or “maybe” (all the “no” answers are hidden). It can open up some new possibilities, give you ideas, and be an easy way to start talking about these things.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/24 01:35 PM
6

Option C: None of the above. Find someone you can love and respect whose goals are aligned with yours.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/24 06:49 PM
6

Agree 100% with everything you said. Closure is mostly a myth - seeing him one last time isn’t going to magically make OP feel better. Acceptance will come with time - move on gracefully.
/r/RedPillWives16/02/24 08:30 PM
28

…. No? Why would you willingly let someone violate your trust and boundaries? If you’re talking about swinging/ polyamory where both partners have agreed upon the parameters and there is trust and honesty (a lifestyle that I would never want to participate in and wouldn’t recommend to others, but it’s a free country), then that’s a separate topic I suppose.
/r/RedPillWives21/12/23 11:05 PM
1

Men and women speak and interpret things differently. When you tell him you love flowers, he’s more than likely thinking you’re just expressing a preference. If you want him to buy you flowers, you need to say something like, “I’d love it if you surprised me with orchids sometime.” Now, obviously it’s better if you can find a way to drop it into conversation naturally … maybe you’re out at the farmer’s market and you stumble across a florist stand, you can mention it then. It is awkward if you j…
/r/RedPillWives06/09/23 04:17 PM
1

Have you mentioned that you love flowers or specifically that you love receiving them as gifts?
/r/RedPillWives06/09/23 04:08 PM
3

You can’t expect what you don’t communicate! Just tell him you love receiving flowers and I bet he will start buying them for you. As others have mentioned, though monthly “anniversaries” aren’t really a thing in adult dating.
/r/RedPillWives06/09/23 02:49 PM
14

People who have not been around these parts long might not realize that you have been putting in the work to try to improve your relationship for several years. Your situation is complicated and I don’t know that there is a good answer or tidy solution. I hope you can find some things that bring you joy and figure out some ways to fill your own cup so you are not totally burnt out from pouring your energy into your family.
/r/RedPillWives25/07/23 09:21 PM
9

Sending you lots of love and hugs. That sounds like a really tough stretch of days.
/r/RedPillWives25/07/23 02:14 PM
1

This is why we have the questions in the sidebar .. you haven’t given us enough context to provide any meaningful feedback.,
/r/RedPillWives01/05/23 10:50 AM
1

Addicts can and should have the freedom to make their own choices, just like everyone else. That doesn’t make it ethical to take advantage of their desperation.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 03:08 PM
4

Also … I’d venture to say that a lot of things that people blame on feminism (e.g. women not really having many valid choices with regards to career and motherhood) can actually be blamed on late-stage capitalism but that’s a whole other can of worms. 😬
/r/RedPillWives05/04/23 04:22 PM
7

I still identify as a pretty serious intersectional feminist and am a raging liberal, I have just benefited from this group’s focus on personal accountability when tackling conflicts in my own relationship. My husband would die of shock if he knew I belonged to a group with “RedPill” in the title.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/23 01:28 PM
6

So, alternative perspective. A lot of us here actually identify as feminist but participate in this group because feminist spaces don’t tend to support productive conversations around how to have a realistic, functioning male-female relationship.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/23 12:13 PM
28

My husband used to do nonprofit criminal defense, and after representing sex workers, he now believes there is no ethical way to be a male consumer in the sex industry - whether it’s going to a strip club, watching porn, soliciting prostitutes, or subscribing to OF - because you can never be 100% sure the woman is doing it of her own free will and not out of coercion or to support an addiction.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 11:40 PM
3

But he wasn’t faithful to the parameters that you set!
/r/RedPillWives31/03/23 07:18 PM
38

Why are you feeling bad about your perceived shortcomings as a wife to a man who can’t be faithful to you?
/r/RedPillWives31/03/23 02:23 PM
1

Wrong subreddit, dude.
/r/RedPillWives16/02/23 11:35 AM
13

First of all: RPW is not TradCon Also, we are working from a western perspective within a western cultural dynamic. What is traditional in one culture might be radical or transgressive in another. Regardless, a large misconception is that this community is for “traditional gender roles.” It isn’t necessarily, although many people here follow that dynamic in their households.
/r/RedPillWives10/02/23 11:10 AM
5

Is this a kink thing? Not trying to shame, just would want to be aware of what I’m walking into.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/23 03:36 PM
2

You should read The Surrendered Wife and/or The Surrendered Single by Laura Doyle.
/r/RedPillWives26/01/23 06:35 PM
2

You can’t expect what you don’t communicate. Are you worried about seeming like you are nagging? Learning how to express your desires without making them seem like commands is a very important skill to develop - for your own happiness and his.
/r/RedPillWives26/01/23 01:56 PM
2

How about neither and find someone you don’t feel conflicted about choosing?
/r/RedPillWives19/01/23 07:37 PM
10

I assumed someday would be a few years … not a few months! Oh my dear … this is a very distressing and scary situation to be in and my heart breaks for you, but I have to add to the consensus that this is one situation where you have to put the well being and safety of your children first.
/r/RedPillWives01/01/23 03:40 AM
1

First of all, this sounds like a very difficult situation. Has your husband given you a timeline for when “someday” might be?
/r/RedPillWives01/01/23 12:15 AM
8

Do you have an agreed upon budget for household expenses? You can prevent a lot of disagreement and hurt feelings by agreeing on dollar amounts for different line items, including “fun money.” I believe everyone needs to have at least a little bit of money to spend as they please.
/r/RedPillWives20/12/22 06:39 PM
2

… I think we have all experienced that! 😅
/r/RedPillWives18/12/22 12:50 PM
10

While I don’t agree with your husband’s behavior, I don’t think it’s helpful for any of us to bash or insult him. I respect that you want to honor your marital commitment and I’m very sorry that it seems your husband has so profoundly lost his way and is not being a good protector or leader in your household right now. I will say that it does appear that there is a unanimous concern for your safety so I hope you will be receptive to feedback.
/r/RedPillWives27/10/22 04:36 PM
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The dynamic you are describing is not at all one we would prescribe or advocate for - this doesn’t sound like “traditional gender roles,” this is controlling to the extreme. In fact, if you take some time to read through the sidebar this is why we don’t recommend that women pursue relationships with men who are heavily into male-targeted RP content. I’m very sorry to hear that you are going through this.
/r/RedPillWives27/10/22 04:13 PM
3

I am so happy to hear the good news! You have really persevered through this difficult time.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/22 01:28 PM
3

I have no advice, only wanted to chime in and say that I love your username!
/r/RedPillWives01/04/22 10:50 PM
1

You’re right!
/r/RedPillWives20/03/22 03:17 AM
1

I live in a cold climate and have some permanent faux floral arrangements in my dining room and bedroom - good fake flowers are expensive but worth it for the quality.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 09:25 PM
1

I don’t think you would find many Faith Goldy fans around here. We’re women seeking a specific relationship dynamic, not white supremacists.
/r/RedPillWives17/01/22 06:23 PM
2

I hope they are able to give you some answers!
/r/RedPillWives14/01/22 01:31 PM
6

That sound like a terrible experience. I’m not a medical professional by any means, but it sounds like vaginismus, which is both quite common and treatable. You should ask your doctor for a referral to a pelvic floor therapist.
/r/RedPillWives12/01/22 09:05 PM
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Nun mode is for single women.
/r/RedPillWives01/01/22 02:53 PM
1

Meet him in a public place first and clearly outline your boundaries. Don’t go to his hotel room. You need to vet him in person - even if you feel you know him from your conversations.
/r/RedPillWives31/12/21 10:39 PM
4

If she cheated, we’re not the one she should be asking for forgiveness.
/r/RedPillWives27/12/21 08:41 PM
5

Then what would be the point of getting a prenup? They only protect the property/assets that you have prior to the marriage (exception - things like an expected inheritance).
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/21 11:55 PM
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What exactly would your pre-nup protect? Does one of you have assets like a trust fund?
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/21 11:41 PM
2

Yes, u/estrellasdemar the questions are important because they help give us more context about your relationship.
/r/RedPillWives17/12/21 02:10 PM
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There are women in this group with relationship dynamics that would make Lori not just blush but balk. We’re here because we want a specific dynamic in our own relationships, not because we think it’s what’s best for everyone else.
/r/RedPillWives07/12/21 09:42 PM
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Yeah she’s …. a lot. Also kind of a hypocrite, given that she says women shouldn’t be outspoken or have careers … and yet she herself is extremely loud, opinionated, critical of her husband, and clearly is very invested in her work. She also does not seem happy in her own marriage and isn’t someone whose relationship I would want to emulate!
/r/RedPillWives07/12/21 06:36 PM
2

I think it’s important to note that RPW and tradwife are not synonyms. There may be some overlap but it’s more of a square-rectangle situation.
/r/RedPillWives07/12/21 06:34 PM
3

I think you are thinking of The Surrendered Wife, the book by Laura Doyle, not the Transformed Wife, the persona/Twitter/blog/book of/by Lori Alexander.
/r/RedPillWives07/12/21 05:28 PM
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I don’t have anything to add, just that I admire your persistence.
/r/RedPillWives06/12/21 03:22 PM
1

Don’t you think showing him these things would be emasculating? Isn’t it tantamount to saying “you aren’t manly enough; be like these guys?”
/r/RedPillWives29/11/21 08:29 PM
3

We keep a list of things we want to do/places we want to go to on our phone - add ideas as they come, and then pick at random when it’s time for date night. Prevents decision fatigue.
/r/RedPillWives27/11/21 11:46 PM
1

I think there are a lot of us here (myself included) who straddle that line! I’m a career woman and consider myself a feminist and fairly politically liberal - yet this is the relationship dynamic I prefer for my own marriage.
/r/RedPillWives09/10/21 12:49 PM
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Sorry, but as a man I don’t think you can speak to women’s experience in this situation. Not that I think it is ever okay to hit your partner, but even if a man may prefer to be punched in the face, he is not generally going to be in as much physical danger when his wife hits him as she will be when he hits her. Most men are bigger and stronger than most women. Even if I tried to hit my husband as hard as I could, I’d barely leave a scratch. If he went at me with his full strength, he could easi…
/r/RedPillWives06/10/21 07:33 PM
4

That’s not a “harsh truth;” that’s the kind of damaging rhetoric that abusive and narcissistic people use to justify their actions.
/r/RedPillWives06/10/21 06:53 PM
5

I can’t tell you what to do, but my advice is not to involve yourself in his recovery, simply for your own emotional and physical safety and well-being. I am very sorry that you have to go through all this.
/r/RedPillWives06/10/21 06:11 PM
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One of the ways abusive people take advantage of their partners is by making them feel like they are the ones causing the problems and making them react poorly. I helped a good friend leave an abusive marriage a few years ago - on the outside, they looked like they had a picture perfect life and that he was a fantastic husband - wealthy family, high powered career, very generous and charismatic. In reality, their home life was a nightmare and it took a long time for her to understand that even i…
/r/RedPillWives06/10/21 05:59 PM
6

This is extremely unhelpful to someone whose physical safety is in danger.
/r/RedPillWives06/10/21 05:54 PM
2

This is true. The only person whose behavior you can change is your own. That is what appeals to me about this ethos - it freed me of being nagging and controlling. As a result, I am much happier- but only because I never needed to be nagging or controlling in the first place. I was making myself unhappy. If, however, you are trying to change or fix your man - you’ll just wind up disappointed.
/r/RedPillWives19/09/21 05:23 AM
2

Why do we suddenly have an influx of men posting/poking around?
/r/RedPillWives10/09/21 07:24 PM
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Good! Be the change you wish to see in the world!
/r/RedPillWives08/09/21 02:34 PM
10

The culture “glamorizes hedonism” yet your Reddit display name is Texas Playboy? Pot, meet kettle.
/r/RedPillWives08/09/21 02:25 PM
5

Oh you poor thing! Sending you lots of internet hugs and support.
/r/RedPillWives06/09/21 04:41 AM
9

Based on your posts over the last year, you seem like you have been working really hard to improve, but there seems to be lingering resentment on both sides. Do you feel you are able to be emotionally honest and vulnerable with one another? If you can both find a way to wipe the slate clean and just focus on moving forward, that would obviously be ideal, but I know it is hard to let go of past hurts.
/r/RedPillWives05/09/21 08:27 PM
1

GB is a scary diagnosis! I’m so sorry to hear that he is going through that. I’m sure we are all sending you lots of virtual hugs and prayers.
/r/RedPillWives30/08/21 01:43 AM
3

Accomplished, educated men, for the most part, want accomplished, educated wives.
/r/RedPillWives25/06/21 04:34 PM
2

Is this a troll post? Also, dude, if you had bothered to read the rules, this is a space for women.
/r/RedPillWives25/06/21 03:39 PM
2

I hope you are having a better day today!
/r/RedPillWives17/06/21 01:48 PM
8

A job loss is extremely stressful for everyone involved; do you think he is truly happy with the situation or just putting on a brave face? Either way, I’m sure your trust and support means the world to him. Can you “fake it ‘til you make it” by frequently telling yourself that he is in control of the situation and you value this time together as a family? Even if you don’t believe it now, if you keep repeating it in your mind, you’ll likely get yourself to a better place mentally and emotionall…
/r/RedPillWives16/06/21 03:22 PM
1

I’m sure you are just devastated. Are you by chance your husband’s first sexual partner? This is giving me shades of John Ruskin and Effie Gray.
/r/RedPillWives06/06/21 06:23 PM
1

Hey, so did I There are dozens of us!
/r/RedPillWives08/04/21 06:02 PM
2

I have no interest in participating in men’s spaces; I don’t know why they are so keen to participate in ours. Maybe it’s because I went to a women’s college, but I really value single-sex communities and I can’t make sense of the insistence that every group has to be open to both men and women.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/21 04:46 PM
1

I think it’s hard for us to tell you how much to spend as the cost of groceries can vary wildly depending on where you live - but a good first step is to look back through your credit and debit card transactions to see how much you’ve spent on groceries and household items over these past three months. Knowing your spending patterns is the first step to figuring out a budget amount that is realistic for your lifestyle.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/21 12:49 AM
3

I mean, I think the sidebar says it all? “We agree with the original Red Pill ideas presented nearly a decade ago, which rest on the differences in male and female nature, as well as the competing sexual objectives of each gender. We believe that embracing traditional dynamics within our relationship yields harmony, and that mainstream relationship advice is unable to provide realistic pathways to happiness.” We accept the reality that men and women are fundamentally different from one another a…
/r/RedPillWives06/04/21 05:12 PM
5

I think that’s being a bit unkind. She’s being vulnerable and asking for help, not for us to pick apart and criticize her husband.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/21 02:24 PM
1

Do you already have a clear idea of the traits you are looking for in a future partner and the kind of relationship you would like to have? I think good vetting starts before you even begin to seek connections.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/21 12:05 PM
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Actually, in most cases, a man involved in RedPill/the manosphere is not going to be a good match for the kind of women who post here - their relationship goals and priorities are too different.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/21 11:59 AM
2

Take everything I'm about to say with a grain of salt, because I'm a stranger on the internet and I don't know the details of your situation. The good news: you're budgeting, you're saving, you seem to be on the same page for your goals for your family! He's increased his income by several thousand dollars each year! The only behavior you can control is your own - you cannot change or control your husband. Since you're here on RPW, I'm assuming it's because you don't enjoy feeling this kind of s…
/r/RedPillWives14/03/21 12:45 AM
1

You say you don’t see potential for growth - is that because of the type of job/industry he works in? Or because he is happy where he is and isn’t interested in pursuing a promotion or higher earning position?
/r/RedPillWives11/03/21 12:08 PM
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Your post history documents a frequent cycle of explosive arguments... have you been able to implement any of the advice you have been given here in the past?
/r/RedPillWives24/02/21 03:27 PM
6

Maybe I’m an outlier but ... I was excited to turn 30? Nearly every woman I admire has told me that her 30s were much better than her 20s, and so far (global pandemic notwithstanding), it’s been true for me as well (I just turned 32). You won’t turn into a hag overnight. Just keep taking care of yourself and wear sunscreen! I’m sure your husband still thinks you are beautiful and will appreciate anything you do to keep looking your best.
/r/RedPillWives23/01/21 07:17 PM
4

Half the people you are impersonating from that discord don’t even have Reddit accounts, so not sure what your goal is.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 04:15 PM
8

This a troll post.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/20 04:07 PM
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“That’s where the conflict is. It’s either I listen to my husband or to my parents.” From your post history, this seems to be a recurring issue for you. What do YOU want in this situation?
/r/RedPillWives19/12/20 05:59 PM
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I would never respect (or feel respected by) a man who needed to discipline me like a small child. It’s one thing if it’s part of a kinky dynamic that both parties enjoy, more power to them, but this is not something that I think would work for people who aren’t into BDSM.
/r/RedPillWives10/12/20 12:38 PM
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I mean, they say it isn’t sexual, but ... Different strokes for different folks, I guess! It’s a free country and they can live how they want, but I don’t think this is necessarily part and parcel for most RPW relationships.
/r/RedPillWives10/12/20 04:15 AM
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I think this is a sex thing that works for some people but not necessarily a dynamic I want for my own relationship.
/r/RedPillWives10/12/20 03:40 AM
3

Have you thought about trying a discovery set? Usually for between $25-$50 you can get small sizes of several fragrances from a brand. Sephora usually does a deal around the holidays that includes travel-size fragrances from various brands and a gift certificate you can redeem for a full size of one of the selections. Fragrance is so personal that it is hard to recommend something for someone you don’t know ... trying samples is the best way to discover what you like and don’t like. Can you name…
/r/RedPillWives08/12/20 06:16 PM
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What price point are you looking for? Expensive can mean different things to different people.
/r/RedPillWives08/12/20 02:36 PM
1

Sexual incompatibility can be a big obstacle to overcome ... hopefully you can work it out! I am the more adventurous and higher libido partner in my relationship and have definitely had times where I’ve felt frustrated.
/r/RedPillWives03/12/20 02:35 AM
2

How explicit have you been with him about your desires? Can you write him a steamy letter detailing a fantasy you want to act out and leave it under his pillow? Being together all the time during the pandemic can make things feel less exciting ... can you create some mystery in your relationship?
/r/RedPillWives03/12/20 02:24 AM
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I have no interest in ever again kissing (or doing anything more than that with) any dude other than my husband, but, if for some reason I did, I wouldn’t tell him because I wouldn’t want to hurt him. The guilt would be my burden to carry. Similarly, I do not think that my husband would ever be unfaithful-physically or otherwise, it’s just not in line with his moral character or personal beliefs- but, if he were, I would NOT want to know about it. I don’t think I’d have the grace to let go of it…
/r/RedPillWives01/12/20 08:44 PM
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If you’ve made it clear that there’s no pressure, and he keeps coming to see you, it means he wants to see you. He’s a grown man - he can take care of himself and clearly wants to spend time with you! If you insist too much that he doesn’t need to come see you, he may interpret that as you not wanting to see him. Trust him to make his own choices. He’s smart and capable.
/r/RedPillWives16/11/20 01:57 AM
3

Have you considered mutual masturbation as a way for you to both feel satisfied while maintaining a sense of intimacy and connection?
/r/RedPillWives12/11/20 12:25 PM
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I have no idea why you are getting downvoted. I think your take on this situation is correct - the root of the issue seems to be a perceived unfairness.
/r/RedPillWives12/11/20 12:23 PM
1

Best of luck with your journey!
/r/RedPillWives09/11/20 09:50 PM
3

I’m a bright winter and hot pink is one of my favorite colors to wear! Actually, 99% of my wardrobe is hot pink, navy, or charcoal. Getting draped was one of the most fun things I’ve ever done and I could have hung out with the color analyst for hours.
/r/RedPillWives08/11/20 04:29 PM
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You should wear whatever colors flatter you; when you are in your right color palette, people see YOU and your welcoming face, and not your clothes, which I think is much more feminine than just wearing pastel pink (and I say that as someone who loves pink).
/r/RedPillWives08/11/20 01:09 PM
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My dear, from your post history it sounds like you have had a rough time with your parents. I can’t imagine how hard that must be and I hope you find a path to happiness. I’m curious - what makes you think you need to explain your desires to them? Do you still live at home? Are they financially supporting you? Do you come from a cultural background where unmarried daughters are expected to live with their parents until marriage? I would hate to see you pushed into law school and a career in the …
/r/RedPillWives06/11/20 12:49 AM
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No one should go to law school unless they are 100% passionate about a career as an attorney. Law school is time consuming (three years plus another six months before you can actually work as you prepare, sit for, and await the results of your state’s bar exam), expensive (looking at around $150k just for tuition) and no guarantee of meeting a mate or getting a high paying job. The legal industry is being faced with a reckoning and very few law school graduates are able to get prime jobs as the …
/r/RedPillWives05/11/20 04:36 PM
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I just realized I didn’t actually answer your question. What do I expect from my husband? I expect: Love and companionship Mutual respect and kindness Alignment of major long-term goals Sexual and emotional fidelity (non-monogamy may work for others but is not what I want) That he will work hard to protect and provide for our family (whether that is just us or any potential children).
/r/RedPillWives18/10/20 08:04 PM
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I think it’s important to remember that RP and the manosphere have competing and conflicting sexual strategy and goals from RPW. An RP man isn’t always going to be the ideal long-term partner for an RPW. If his long term desires do not match yours, then I’d reconsider the relationship.
/r/RedPillWives18/10/20 07:24 PM
2

You are welcome to join us on The Tea Room discord!
/r/RedPillWives17/10/20 03:57 PM
2

Overall, I would say our relationship is now just pretty peaceful and I view it as a refuge of calm and happiness from the outside world. I do think she makes it seem a little too simple and easy, and it’s important that you read it from a place of wanting to change your own behavior rather than trying to change or “fix” your husband. I can’t speak to The Empowered Wife or The Surrendered Single, but at least in SW, she doesn’t got into enough detail about some things. For example, when we read …
/r/RedPillWives10/10/20 12:52 PM
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Learning to keep my mouth shut has been the single biggest quality of life improvement I have made. I’m still far from perfect, but I am much more mindful when I speak to my husband, especially if I can tell that I am in a heightened emotional state. I actually found RPW in 2016/2017 by googling Laura Doyle after hearing her speak on a podcast. I was initially pretty resistant to her ideas, but, as I read The Surrendered Wife and started applying those practices in my own life, I quickly became …
/r/RedPillWives09/10/20 01:47 PM
1

Did you find that the narrator for Outlander had a super grating voice? I tried to do the audible edition and ended up returning it because I could not stand her. I also found the book a little bit too romance novel-y for my personal tastes but I do enjoy the television show!
/r/RedPillWives05/10/20 02:10 PM
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I think you already know what you have to do. Sending you lots of hugs and support!
/r/RedPillWives02/10/20 04:50 PM
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I think it’s important to point out that romance and intimacy is more than just sex ... just taking time to be focused solely on one another without outside distractions is the thing that keeps us close. Sex is great, and all, but there are other ways to stay emotionally connected!
/r/RedPillWives02/10/20 01:38 AM
1

I’m so sorry to hear that!
/r/RedPillWives26/09/20 12:47 AM
7

As others have said, it sounds like he’s being unreasonable and you should just attend the event without badmouthing him. If anyone asks why he isn’t there, just say he couldn’t make it. I think the more pressing issue is to get to the reason why you are having these kinds of explosive arguments. Is there a particular issue at the heart of your disagreements?
/r/RedPillWives25/09/20 05:47 PM
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u/S-Soda1, you are going to love Rebecca! One of the all-time greats and perfect for fall nights and chilly weather (assuming you’re in the northern hemisphere). I think it’s going to give you some opinions about Armie Hammer’s casting as Maxim in the new Netflix movie, though! I’m a voracious reader and usually have several things going at once: something I’m re-reading, something nonfiction, some kind of literary fiction, and something more pulpy that I’m listening to as an audiobook. Currentl…
/r/RedPillWives22/09/20 11:27 AM
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This is so great! Pre-COVID, we went out a lot for work and charity things, even though we are homebodies by nature. Our favorite at-home date nights are pretty specific to our (niche, sort of dorky) interests: *Legos & Wine - We get to build something together/use our hands and have quality conversational time. We just finished Hogwarts and are getting ready to start the Disney castle. *Dancing - My husband loves to dance (and is way better at it than I am). We dim the lights, push all the furn…
/r/RedPillWives20/09/20 01:26 AM
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I’m sure he still thinks you are lovely! But, especially with breastfeeding and having small children, he may be taking a cue from you on how much physical contact you want to avoid making you feel touched-out. I bet you can make his eyes sparkle by just elevating the level of physical touch the throughout the day! I don’t even think it needs to be overtly sexual - quickly squeeze his hand when he walks by, lightly touch his arm, brush his hair off his forehead. As women we are often so much mor…
/r/RedPillWives20/09/20 12:04 AM
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Are you showing romance to him? Making him feel wanted?
/r/RedPillWives19/09/20 11:20 PM
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Regardless of your own faults and mistakes, this is domestic assault, plain and simple. Do you have a safe place you can go? Can you take the dog with you? EDIT: I helped a friend leave an abusive marriage. The final straw that pushed her to leave was when he tried to harm her cat. Please do not assume that he will not try to hurt you or the dog. Right now, he is feeling guilty and will likely try to make himself feel better by love-bombing you. Please find a way to leave and do so safely. Not s…
/r/RedPillWives19/09/20 10:47 PM
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I’m a misfit because I identify as both liberal and a feminist but prefer a traditional dynamic in my own relationship. I’m 31 and work in consulting and have been married for five years, together for 7. I found RedPillWives several years ago by googling the Surrendered Wife, which I learned about from a podcast. I am mostly a lurker but learned a lot from posts by other members when this sub was more active.
/r/RedPillWives19/09/20 05:06 PM
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This is an amazing description!
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/20 08:42 PM
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Idk, it’s not something I have found valuable to my life or relationship. I’m more interested in material aimed at women - like The Surrendered Wife - and have found that applying those principles has made me a better wife/partner.
/r/RedPillWives16/09/20 08:31 PM
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I think reading things like Rollo Tomassi and the male RP subreddits can be really disheartening. I do not think that relations between the sexes are universally as dire as they make them out to be. Keep in mind that much of this is written by disillusioned and unhappy people.
/r/RedPillWives16/09/20 06:00 PM
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Discovering something new about yourself is always exciting, but some people in your life may not be ready to hear it. This is, unfortunately, one of those circumstances where I would advise against shouting it from the rooftops and making a big deal of it with your friends and family. Your mom and friend may need some time to sit with and accept this new information.
/r/RedPillWives10/09/20 09:49 PM
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Come and join us! I promise we’re a friendly group :)
/r/RedPillWives10/09/20 06:23 PM
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In my head, this reads like the opening to Immigrant Song by Led Zeppelin.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/20 10:33 AM
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Yeah! I should add that I just do these as an easy way to increase our veg intake and lighten up heavy dishes, not necessarily to “hide” veggies, but they end up being practically unnoticeable and make your food still feel indulgent. Sub black beans for flour in brownies - makes them super fudgy Chickpeas can also be a good flour substitute (they are good in chocolate chip cookies and pancakes) Finely grated or mashed cauliflower is a great emulsifier that can lighten up and help thicken dairy-b…
/r/RedPillWives31/07/20 03:48 PM
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I would also add that I don’t think chocolate zucchini muffins are a form of “lying” to him - like my husband doesn’t ask me what every ingredient is in a recipe and as long as it tastes good he doesn’t really have any interest in hearing how I thickened the gravy with puréed roasted carrots instead of cornstarch or whatever. And, let’s be real, chocolate and zucchini are a magic combination! I think as long as you don’t pull a “gotcha” on him and make him feel like you were trying to trick him,…
/r/RedPillWives31/07/20 02:39 PM
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First of all, you have my sympathies, because picky eating is my #1 turnoff and pet peeve. Even if he doesn’t like something, he should be able to eat it without pitching a fit. I don’t think you should treat him like a child and try to trick him, because I think that would lead to resentment. I would just try and cook a variety of foods and let him choose to eat it or not. If you took the time to meal plan, grocery shop, and cook, he should at least make an attempt to taste it so as not to be w…
/r/RedPillWives31/07/20 01:11 PM
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I think what we’re saying is, we don’t care if it’s an “equal” piece of the pie. I don’t want 1/3 or 1/6 or 1/9 of the pie - I want the whole pie!
/r/RedPillWives01/07/20 03:40 AM
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Absolutely NOT. Well, for me, anyways. I would not feel loved, protected, or cherished if my husband wanted another woman.
/r/RedPillWives29/06/20 03:20 PM
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Wouldn’t you want him to ask you if the situation were reversed? I think in a partnership, you always want to check in with each other. I don’t see it as asking for permission, it’s more about making sure you’re on the same page. We don’t ask each other if we’re allowed to do something, but we do make sure there aren’t any conflicts or issues if one of us is planning to go out of town. I (normally) have to travel a lot for work, so in those cases I’ll tell him, “I need to be in Phoenix for a wee…
/r/RedPillWives15/05/20 01:07 PM
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Good luck! Decorating is such a journey and nothing is ever really “done.” I hope you can find some joy in it and make a lovely nest where you both feel relaxed and happy.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/20 02:43 AM
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The great thing about paint is that if you don’t like it ... you can always repaint. I feel like we’re all super tense right now and he may not have meant his comment to come off as critical as it seemed. Have you thought about using something like Havenly? I have not used them, but they’re an online design consultancy who can look at pictures of your space and help you brainstorm ideas.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/20 02:26 AM
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What led you to SF in the first place? Trying to break into the tech industry? That place is so awfully expensive I couldn’t imagine living there as a couple unless our combined income was at least $500k/year. I’d move to Portland just to save money - and Portland ain’t cheap! Compared to San Francisco, though, the cost of living is more reasonable. If you were at UC Berkeley or Stanford, I’d tell you to stay in the Bay Area and finish your degree, but if you’re at a community college, I’d think…
/r/RedPillWives09/04/20 02:33 AM
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That is adorable. I hope that the world is back to some semblance of normalcy by the time your little one arrives!
/r/RedPillWives09/04/20 02:24 AM
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I met my husband when we sat next to each other on one of those party bike pedal pub things organized by a friend of mine (they were law school classmates at the time). I’m pretty sure we’re one of the few (only?) marriages to come out of a pedal pub ride. Thank goodness we met in person, because I would have NEVER been interested if he had messaged me on a dating app (then again, I never used any dating apps other than The League, and even at that I only went to one mixer and thought it was ful…
/r/RedPillWives09/04/20 02:15 AM
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This puts you in a really tough position. I have no good advice to offer, but send you loving support and good wishes!
/r/RedPillWives06/03/20 02:39 AM
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Totally respect that. I do think if it makes you feel that uncomfortable, you have a right to not do it. I love and respect my husband, but there are things I could not do to/for him sexually because they would not make me feel like I was loving and respecting him (e.g. cutting/burning/electrocuting him, humiliating him, etc.). I feel like those kinds of things are on a different level than when men complain that their wives won’t give them blowjobs.
/r/RedPillWives06/03/20 02:32 AM
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Do you feel comfortable sharing what he is asking you to do that doesn’t feel right to you?
/r/RedPillWives06/03/20 02:10 AM
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If you live near a Trader Joe’s, the Honeycrisp Apple candle is to die for and is only like $4!
/r/RedPillWives05/10/19 09:58 PM
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Yes. It is painful to watch a friend sabotage their own future and happiness while they completely ignore your advice. She still has her gorgeous engagement ring tucked away in a box and cries over it occasionally.
/r/RedPillWives04/09/19 07:44 PM
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Fairly recent example: One of my best friends from college is beautiful (like, supermodel beautiful, she’s a dead ringer for Blake Lively), accomplished, and successful but has always been deeply unhappy with herself. In grad school, she starts dating this guy we’ll call D. D is good looking, hard working, Ivy League-educated, and kind, but doesn’t have the “bad boy” appeal. After dating for several years, D is now on the executive fast track at a big 3 accounting firm, earning great money, but …
/r/RedPillWives04/09/19 12:35 AM
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I am definitely the higher libido/more adventurous partner in my relationship, and I understand where your frustration is coming from. However, reading your other comments, I can see why some of your suggestions made him uncomfortable. Talking about porn at dinner at a restaurant? Sexy in theory, but even if there was loud music, I work with children in a visible role in my community and I would absolutely die of embarrassment if someone who recognized me from work caught even a snippet of that …
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 11:13 PM
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Have you always been frustrated with the sexual component of your relationship or is this a more recent development?
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 10:21 PM
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This is such good advice! I think the “seven year itch” is pretty common (hence the famous play/film of the same name), but I really think it starts with being bored and frustrated with ourselves and projecting it on our partners. We can’t look to our husbands for all of our happiness and fulfillment; it starts with us making the choice to be an active participant in our own mental and emotional wellbeing. I hope OP can heed this advice and find something that makes her happy in lieu of walking …
/r/RedPillWives03/09/19 08:42 PM
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Those feelings hit HARD. Be nice to yourself and try to do something fun today. In my experience, sometimes our friends or other people we talk to (like your colleague) want to bolster us up, don’t want to hurt our feelings, and will tell us to not give up in situations like these. It’s not kind, however, for anyone to give you false hope and encourage you to keep chasing him. I hope you can grieve the loss of this possibility and move on so you can be healthy and happy for when the right guy co…
/r/RedPillWives24/08/19 02:39 PM
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If you have to “try to date” someone, it just isn’t meant to be. Looking at your post history, you’ve posted 15 times about this guy in the past month. That level of obsession isn’t good for your happiness and wellbeing. Workplace romances are super messy as is, so find a way to give yourself some emotional space and be glad it hasn’t gotten out of hand. Rejection never feels good, so you will probably feel shitty for a while. Do something nice for yourself, or try a new hobby, to take your mind…
/r/RedPillWives24/08/19 02:28 PM
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I personally find sheet masks to be helpful in balancing my combination skin, but I import them in bulk from South Korea because they are so ridiculously marked up in the US. When I see masks selling at Sephora for $5-$7 a pop that I know I can get for less than $1 overseas I cringe at the expense.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/19 01:30 PM
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Tater tot hot dish?! I can always spot a fellow Minnesotan in the wild :). Seriously though, it is delicious!
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 01:05 AM
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It’s a bummer it’s so dead. I basically made my reddit account so I could lurk there. Really helped me understand how to relate to my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 01:21 AM
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I have long, thick hair that holds on to the smell of woodsmoke like no other, and this is the only thing that I have found that will get the odor out. Do a cider vinegar rinse, let it sit for about five minutes, and then rinse your hair several times in water that is as cold as you can stand.
/r/RedPillWives07/05/18 02:04 AM
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