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Yeah, some of them just are a display of wealth which I find tasteless, especially as we are in a recession.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:35 AM
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Does this mean that the women who accuse you of bOdY sHaMiNg if you express any preferences are scabs? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 09:38 PM
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You can also want to look nice without being objectified. It’s actually super easy to find someone attractive without objectifying them! What the hell is so hard for these men to get?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:19 PM
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I live alone now and have done in the past and have always felt pretty safe, even when I was on the first floor of a house that was right on the sidewalk. However, I wouldn’t recommend the ground floor, as you have to be careful about leaving your windows open and whatnot. I think it really depends on the apartment itself — the neighborhood, the building, etc. If you’re in a decent complex in a decent neighborhood, there is a 99% chance that you’ll be fine. Obviously I’m sure others have had bad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:31 AM
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Yes, and being made to feel like a pretty accessory a man takes around actually sucks. Of course it is shitty when men hide their gf because she isn’t conventionally beautiful, but these are two sides of the same coin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:19 PM
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Damn, this is the truest thing I’ve ever read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 09:55 PM
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I remember a few years ago, when I was just starting to try online dating and was VERY naive, this guy invited me to his house to cook together (it was a few dates in, and he had female roommates, so I trusted that he wouldn't kill me). He basically just cooked a "stew" that was veggies in his fridge. Nothing wrong with that, if you're doing a "clean out your fridge" meal. Actually a good idea -- I hate food waste too! But for a date? No! But some of the stuff was going bad, so I would have to T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 07:04 PM
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The Born Sexy Yesterday trope seems relevant to this discussion: “Born sexy yesterday (BSY) is the common sexual fantasy depicted in films and television shows (created by men and for men), around female characters that exude sex appeal, but other than their physical aesthetic, they mimic the behaviours, intelligence and attitudes of a young child. This trope has been around for decades, but only recently has it started to be consciously understood.” I fucking hated the Fifth Element for this re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 02:38 PM
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As a beer budget and champagne tastes kind of girl, I totally understand the struggle! But for me, there’s a difference between buying nice things because you genuinely enjoy them vs. for validation from others, and social media accounts that focus on luxurious lifestyles seem to be doing the latter. It also seems especially crass nowadays considering the economic devastation from covid. So I don’t feel bitter, I’m more like, wtf. I guess I just don’t understand some people. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:42 PM
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To be honest, I find conspicuous consumption and the Trumpy aesthetic that goes along with it extremely distasteful (and low value AF). And I’m someone who loves makeup and clothes and is wearing perfume just to stay at home—by no means low maintenance lol. I honestly don’t think happy couples (or happy people, really) seek validation on social media for being big spenders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 09:08 PM
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WholesomeMemes is often surprisingly unwholesome. Like this (http://www.reddit.com/r/wholesomememes/comments/i0xuvo/all_we_want_are_cuddles/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) is just criticizing women for wanting a guy with his finances together and who cares about her pleasure. Sadly the stupid, false idea of a loving guy/hot, stable guy binary is everywhere. For some reason my link formatting wasn’t working.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 12:34 AM
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I care deeply about social justice issues, but I too don’t feel like the label “woke” fits me. It seems to better describe people who wish appear to care about such things, while in reality don’t put any real effort. I have been involved in some activism circles, and can also confirm these people definitely exist. Dudes who use the word “folx” unironically while treating women like shit. Who suddenly become an expert on classism and mental when topics like “why don’t men have bedframes” or “why …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 07:03 PM
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It is amazing how most women manage to make their place feel like a home, even when young and on a budget, while so many guys are content to let crap pile up and not give a single thought to making their place remotely hospitable. I wish you and the cats the best of luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:20 AM
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I’m not sure what she’s trying to say. It seems like some version of “women are so catty.” Definitely misogyny to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:13 PM
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Same, my ex would ask me to dress in a revealing way, saying he loved how other people would check me out. I dressed like a normal 20-something, so I definitely did wear revealing clothes from time to time, but I guess that wasn’t enough. He must have wanted me to wear straight-up lingerie. Fortunately I had the good sense to refuse. I have no problem showing off if I feel like it, but doing it for someone else just feels so gross and disrespectful to me. :( Like, how could anyone else possibly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 02:26 PM
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I dream of a world where I can look cute for myself, without having to deal with the disrespectful attention. I don’t care if a person of any gender looks at me for a few seconds, but I hate leering and comments. Meanwhile, random men still try to talk to me while I am wearing a mask.😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 02:59 AM
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This description of hell could give even Dante a run for his money!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:36 PM
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I told my therapist a while back that my ex was like a vampire, sucking the energy from me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 01:44 PM
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Great example of a straw man argument. I mean, yes, if we eliminated half the population, sure there would be chaos! Not wanting to date shitty men ≠ wanting half the world to disappear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:37 AM
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I like how the last guy doesn’t know what he wants beyond a woman who likes going out AND movies and cuddling. Also he seems to think they’re mutually exclusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:29 AM
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My therapist is very much Not Online and I don’t think she’d ever recommend a specific dating “method,” but she was the only one who told me I was settling. Like, a therapist can’t usually come out and say “you’re settling with this dude” (or come across as judging in any way, really) but they can say something along the lines of, it sounds like you’ve gotten used to settling for people who do not fill your needs because of x, y, and z.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:10 AM
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No one seems to be discussing that she met him in her “very early twenties,” i.e. 20-21, which would make him 35-36 at the time. Creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:49 PM
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Ugh, I dated someone like this. His personal hygiene was fine, but his apartment was a NEST. Never again will I explain to a grown man basic housekeeping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 08:41 PM
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All of my colleagues are in their 20s and 30s and not only is it difficult to determine people’s exact ages, it’s not like the 20-something women are all smoking hot and the 30-something women are haggard crones. I hate how so many women (myself included) have been convinced that turning 30 is the end. I personally think I get better looking every year because I learn new beauty skills and am more confident. :) I cannot wait for the day when creepy men will leave me alone in public because they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:17 PM
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Yeah, when a guy talks about stoicism outside of an appropriately philosophical context it usually means, “I am emotionally constipated and have never learned how to properly handle my uncomfortable feelings.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 11:53 PM
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🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:56 PM
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She passed the bar. He’s on a plate. What more can I say?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 12:42 AM
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