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Haha good for you, dodged a bullet 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:24 PM
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Jeez, I'm really starting to think some of you dated my ex. My ex would say the same thing. He didn't 'care' for people and saw every connection he did have as simply an exchange of benefits. They were not 'friends' but simply means with goods/services. He even said this applied to his mom and brother. I think he tried to have this as a mysterious edge about him. 🙄😒😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:15 PM
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Right! I feel like it's really rare for a mother to admit her own son is a bad man. I never really knew what was so bad to make her say this but I could tell they definitely had a strained relationship. Regardless, I didn't want to stay any longer to find out. Within the year I was with him, I saw enough. And she was definitely right. ✌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:09 PM
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Yes, it was pretty bad. She kept repeating that he is a bad man and stated too that he doesn't deserve me. And that was really surprising seeing as her and I weren't all that close and that was one of the few times she spoke to me. I definitely got out of that relationship after some struggle of letting go (I think I was trauma-bonding) and honestly I'm surprised by how peaceful the post break-up was for me. I didn't really feel much of anything. Not much sadness, loneliness, etc. I felt at peac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 05:58 PM
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Yes!! Had an ex force his sexual fantasies of MMF threesome onto me (which I NEVER did) but then he would have "post nut clarity" and go on about his guilt and how he was so ashamed of himself. He'd cry "I am a believer of God and this is a sin!!! I will never want to share my precious woman with anyone! I am so ashamed... forget I ever wanted that babe" Then bring it up again the next day, and the story repeats itself.😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:35 PM
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Did we all date the same person?!?! LOL we are all living separate but similar lives. 😳😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:31 PM
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This is creepily accurate to my last ex. He would always say he was a bad guy with darkness surrounding him and trying to 'take control of him'. He always said he was trying to fight the darkness with the light but sometimes the darkness wins... 😐 I used to think that this darkness was his life and family who was very abusive and manipulative, taking a lot of his positivity and making him into a drained and miserable person. For that reason, I sympathized with him and felt sorry for him that his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:29 PM
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Such a good point!! Yeah, I would much rather give up some friendships than my own personal sanity... thank you so much. I doubt he will record it though... he is not very confrontational. Plus, I don’t want to get into the legal aspect of things... unless I feel truly threatened that is! But yeah, thank you sooo much for this! I need their support or the friendship is a dead end unfortunately 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:47 PM
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Wow yeah! Thank you so much for this! Honestly, reaching out to my ex or his brother doesn’t seem ideal because I feel as though this is a trap of some kind. So... I will tell my friend to please stand up for me or I will be forced to disassociate for my own sake. Thank you for understanding. This is in fact very stressful but all of this advice made things much simpler. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:41 PM
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True... you are right... I should and I will keep away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:37 PM
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Completely agree... I have to cut ties to protect my heart and mind. Thank you Phoenix 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:34 PM
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Thank you. I won’t! I have been on a beautiful path these past months without him. I feel like he senses that and is trying to take me off track. Not happening!☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:33 PM
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Nicely said because this is exactly how I feel... put into words haha.. thank you so much!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:31 PM
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Yes I feel this. He probably painted a very ugly picture of me to his brother and friends but this I could care less about. What I care about is when it gets too personal or when it comes back to my friends that I DO care about. But I try to remind myself that at the end of the day... it’s okay. He and I know the truth... and he will have to live with that truth no matter how hard he tries to cover it up with lies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:30 PM
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Thank you so much. I will do this exactly. I was wondering how to go about it without having to contact my ex... even thinking about contacting him made my physically sick... I was scared because he’s so unpredictable I didn’t want to heat him up even more. But I also didn’t want things to escalate and more be exposed. But this is perfect. I will talk to only those who matter. My close friend... and tell him my side without exposing and disrespecting his privacy. I don’t want stoop to their leve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:28 PM
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Yeah, I tried doing everything right. Blocked, deleted, zero contact! Yet they still find a way to reach me...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:24 PM
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Good point. I actually took what you said and did it right now. Voiced my perspective without digging too deep into the details. I need to find that balance between standing up and saying too much. Thank you for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:23 PM
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Yeah I think that’s exactly what I need to do. Btw I love your reddit name. Always had a deep love for Pheonix’s and wanted to get one tattooed. Haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:22 PM
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It is pretty stressful because I have no idea how far they’re willing to go. But as for my friends sticking up for me, it’s one guy vs 4 of them. And I know that that is no excuse at all. But he is a very non-confrontational person so it’s hard for him to speak up... even if it’s something against him. He’s very sincere about things though. Extremely supportive and helpful but yeah, it would be nice if he stood up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:21 PM
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I already have them all blocked! But because they’re still a part of a mutual friend group I still hear of them. I just want that chapter closed for good without gossip and problems along the way. Why can’t it be that simple?😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 03:44 PM
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Damn right! 👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 04:58 AM
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This was a sign for you, for sure. 💕💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 04:11 AM
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Thank you! And honestly, I even feel that same regret too... questioning why I even let him have me or have access to my energy for so long! But life is really all about learning from our mistakes. And despite them treating us so horribly... we can walk away knowing we have hearts of gold to be able to give up so much with so little in return. Now it's just a matter of us placing that love inward instead!💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 12:54 AM
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Thank you so much!! 🤗💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 07:19 PM
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Yes I'm so proud of you!! Especially considering you were married. It is already so challenging to detach oneself from a toxic boyfriend/girlfriend let alone a husband/wife. I am so happy you didn't get trapped... good for you!! And for the last statement... I second that!😊😊🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:46 AM
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Yes it actually makes sense. I've witnessed that myself also! Actually, it was only until after the breakup when I started to be able to piece things together and realize certain things just didn't add up or make sense!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 02:45 AM
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Yes!!! Its such a beautiful feeling. I've never been happier. I'm glad you are with me on this journey !💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 01:59 AM
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Actually this is a perfect depiction of it... I was on the verge of depression and it was only then when I decided "No. I can't let him do this to me... I need to get a grip". If I stayed any longer, I would have likely gotten depressed and he would have had an even stronger hold on me. And it's crazy... while in it all, I would talk to friends asking for advice and truly believe he wasn't all that bad. I would say all the things he's done wrong and then end it with "but hes honestly a good guy …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 01:58 AM
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Awwwh... :') Thank you. So true... I really appreciate that. I always did deserve to be this happy. I am just so glad I finally got here. It was a long time of heartache... now it's just so peaceful. FDS is a miracle lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 12:41 AM
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And did you see how Stephs friends were reacting on the catch-up? So obnoxious, rude, aggressive, and embarrassing. Meanwhile Erika's friend was calm, respectful, etc. Its as though their friends were the exact reflection of themselves. Its as the saying goes "you are who you hang out with".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 02:32 PM
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Haha this is both hilarious and cute.😂💕 love this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:07 AM
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Yes girl!!! I completely agree. I actually love being able to say with love and confidence "No. He is not what I want or what I'm looking for in a man" rather than just taking what I can get so I am not "alone". I refuse to be with someone who will drain my energy or break my heart... nobody is worth that, especially the person willing to do it to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:02 AM
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I love this!! I am on the journey to doing this as well! I am really excited to just get comfortable with myself like this. It sounds beautiful and peaceful. I already sense it coming... now I just have to put it into action!😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:33 AM
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Are you dating a human or your student loans? hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 06:15 PM
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Omg... the comment section...😧
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 04:57 PM
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You're amazing, honestly. Thank you so much for this. I think I needed to go through this relationship to know the flags for the right one. I think I'll stay single for a while and heed your advice until the right one comes naturally! Thanks so much for taking time out of your day to help me. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 04:24 PM
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Thank you SO much... this really makes me feel so hopeful that this does exist and that I can get the same energy and love reciprocated. I have tried my best to reshape myself to be someone that is easy to talk to, expressive, patient and understanding - not solely for men but for everyone I connect with. This was hard to do... I had to get out of some really bad habits that I learned for years. But I knew I had to do it and the people I cared for deserved nothing less from me! Now, I expect tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 03:33 PM
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I dealt with these same problems... practically everything. Yeah, I couldnt handle that anymore. It was so difficult... I need to know that the person I am with will talk through problems with me, know what he wants and chases it, etc. I don't want to have a relationship filled with fighting and stress. What kind of relationship is that anyway?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 03:21 PM
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So true... I don't really know what he is dealing with. If it is intentional or if it's a personal struggle like you said. But regardless I shouldn't allow that to make me feel guilty for everything I do or dont do... thank you. I did leave the relationship, now it's just a matter of trying to not feel bad for doing it. Thank you very much for making me feel better 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 03:04 PM
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You're right... it seems so blatantly clear that I shouldnt be dwelling and feeling guilty about this but it's just not how my heart works (right now). I agree.. he did play a lot of mind games even if he may not have meant to play them. I was constantly confused being with him because his mood was always fluctuating. One day, so cute and kind, the next so distant and cold. I will try to remember what you said the next time I am feeling guilty... thank you so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:47 PM
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This is so helpful... I really appreciate this because by doing this reflection I feel like I'll be more rational with my emotions! At times I have done this and it worked... I would think "Why do I feel bad when he did x". But I was never consistent and thought of it as a form of reframing or therapy... now I will be more committed to doing this. Thank you very much.💕💕💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:04 PM
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Thank you very very much. Your insight was greatly appreciated. I hope so too and I am glad you got through this yourself.🤗💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 01:33 PM
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I actually really appreciate your insight a lot. This all makes sense! I dont believe it's related to insecurities, however. In fact, I never found him above me. I am a confident women and have built myself to never let a person shape my image of myself. He has actually brought this up while we were dating. Even if he were to talk about my flaws or other women, I wouldnt be defensive and sensitive but rather, I would have open discussions about it and agree with most of what he was saying. For e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 12:53 PM
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Thank you so much for this. I actually do believe that this can be a serious factor. Mind you, I don't know if it was how I was brought up because I don't see this in any of my other family members, but then again, I do believe that it could have happened subconsciously without me even knowing it. I am one step closer to understanding now. Thank you :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 12:35 PM
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I remember I was at a party with my ex - it was his friends party and I went without knowing anyone - and I asked him before we walked in if he could introduce me to people before leaving me alone so I don't feel uncomfortable. He said "of course" and when we got there he ditched me right away. I tried talking making conversation with others but they fell flat and I felt super uncomfortable. He didn't even care to check how I was doing so went up to him again and told him "please stay by me for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 03:58 PM
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You're so kind!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 02:57 PM
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Everytime I get a moment where I miss my ex I just go on this page and lose that feeling so fast. 😂 Thank goodness for FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:46 PM
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Thank you very much!!💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:21 PM
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Awwh you're so kind... thank you so much!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:14 PM
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Thank you so much for the silver award!💞💞💞💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:02 PM
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Thank you so so much. I am so happy so many people like it...💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:01 PM
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Yes. I am sorry for what you went through and I'm just glad you got out like I did💞💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:01 PM
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Completely agree to be honest...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:30 PM
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I can totally relate but in a different way. My ex would pressure me to do a threesome with another man and I had explicitly told him how uncomfortable it was. He would still do it and would pressure me to imagine men having sex with me. It was disturbing. He tried pressuring me for over 6 months. And it got worse and worse. Then every time he was satisfied with the fantasy he would tell me hes disturbed by his actions and hes not proud of it. He would act so apologetic and say hes sinning again…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:08 PM
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I am so shy too and I would have so much trouble getting out there like that but I want to do it and break all my fears! I also struggle with the same things. I like doing different things that most of my friends arent into. Either they party or they never go out LOL. So I feel your pain!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:02 AM
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Yes this year I really want to push myself out of my comfort zone! I never even heard of slam poetry but I just read about it right now and this is something I can totally try out! Thank you for having so much faith in me, you're wonderful!😊😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:36 AM
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Wow thank you so much... 🙈🙊💞 that really means the world to me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:53 AM
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Yes. They lift you up to make you feel special and also feel as though you have a standard or expectation to maintain. When you don't meet these expectations you're stripped of this so called uniqueness. Thankfully I was confident enough to not take anything he said personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:35 AM
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This is exactly what happened. It was always about his feelings and never mine! He would always express his feelings and I was there to listen and always see what I can do better to make him feel better. But when I expressed my feelings - which was very rare - I was self centered and nagging. It's a lose lose situation with these kinds of people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:33 AM
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So very true!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:12 AM
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That means so much! Much love!!💞💞💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:12 AM
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Thank you so much. Yes the women here are a group of beautiful souls! They're part of the reason I was able to detach myself from the horrible relationship I was in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:24 AM
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Omg your words mean so much to me... thank you so much. I get so shy expressing myself but you all have given me so much courage. As for your current situation. Do not feel alone. I am also getting over a break up with my ex LVM. It's only been a week and we dated for a year and 3 months. I felt every single emotion you're currently feeling right now. Every word. But one thing you need to remind yourself is that the way he treated you is the way he will treat the next woman. No woman can fix a m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:23 AM
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Thank you both. It was a sad and pathetic mindset I used to have and I'm just grateful to see the changes I've made. I feel more whole inside.💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 12:36 AM
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Thank YOU for your support on my writing. I truly appreciate all the love!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 12:35 AM
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Thank you so so much!!💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:57 PM
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Thank you so much. That means a lot to me. I am finding courage in expressing myself (which has always been hard) and it really makes my day knowing someone out there loves my work hehe. 💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:41 PM
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I know this isnt the best writing but I wanted to express myself and let my feelings out today :D Onto bigger and better things.💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:03 PM
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Omg if you were to look at my profile youd see that I made a post about this very issue just a day ago. Wow, if this isnt a sign I dont know what is. Hehe. :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:37 PM
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Everything you said is so true. And what hurt me the MOST was that not only would I always try to avoid making him feel insecure, but I would always boost his confidence and tell him anything I could to make him realise just how amazing he is. And that was what I received in return. When he did that I just sighed and said "I'm done". And yes the book is just amazing. I am reading with my face like this: Ö Thank you by the way... it feels so good to be able to talk to someone about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:48 PM
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Jealousy games ARE the worst. I am a pretty confident woman so his games never got under my skin as he hoped they would... but I would get upset that he was even trying to hurt me in the first place. I've had many opportunities where people would try to flirt with me and I would: Diffuse the situation immediately and show zero interest. Never use it as a way to make him feel jealous or unsafe in being with me to benefit myself. Anyways, I am actually already reading it! I am on the part of the m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 04:51 PM
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You are very right. Thank you so much. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 09:37 AM
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So true...you truly relieved me of a lot of guilt and burden. I need to go out again and live life and avoid toxicity. Thank you so much! I greatly appreciate your advice.😊😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 01:12 AM
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From Lundy Bancroft? I will for sure. Thank you so much for your advice. I know what's best for me... now it's just a matter of staying strong and controlling my vulnerable emotions that's the hard part. Thank you again.😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 12:30 AM
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