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adorata/r/ExRedPill30/04/16 06:58 PM
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adorata/r/ExRedPill01/12/20 04:54 PM
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Thank you for your words of encouragement.
/r/ExRedPill03/12/20 07:27 AM
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I'm not saying she can't ever be a good person, but she's clearly got some issues that she needs to work out. She's generally a good person, just has her issues and weaknesses. I think I'd even be able to accept her son eventually if she could agree with me about having kids in future. But no means no. Having a family really all comes down to stability and income. Yes, I fully agree. Luckily, my life is pretty decent in this regard. you need to plain and simple put yourself out there. To be hone…
/r/ExRedPill02/12/20 07:38 AM
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Oh, I see. Haven't thought of that, thanks.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/20 06:22 PM
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80/20 is really only a thing on platforms that give women the selection choices. I firmly believe the same thing would pretty much happen with men if they got the selection choice on a dating app. Good point. I'm glad you're seeking therapy. To be honest, I haven't mentioned this to my therapist yet. I'm not sure how to spill the beans about RP stuff to some clueless person without looking like a nutjob.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/20 06:12 PM
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Not really, since on a rational level I fully understand how flimsy RP belief system is and how little it is based on real evidence. What bothers me is that it's sometimes emotionally appealing for me now.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/20 06:10 PM
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Good post, never seen it before. It really hits the nail on the head about the illusion of control.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/20 06:01 PM
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Thank you.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/20 05:59 PM
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Thanks for your kind words. Yes, I have therapy sessions every now and then, and generally I don't allow myself to wallow in negativity, but my return to RP thinking patterns bothers me now.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/20 05:58 PM
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Thank you. When this fact came out, she simply said that she couldn't have resisted being happy together for some time, even if at some point this should've ended. But anyway, that's in the past now and doesn't matter anymore.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/20 05:47 PM
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The Black Pill is one of the most horrid examples of a self-fulfilling prophecy. First you just dip your toes without any serious thoughts on the matter, then you notice a couple of 'confirmations' of this and you have an 'a-ha!' moment, then you begin seeing proofs of your new pet theory everywhere around you, and then it begins bending and shaping your own reality. That's basically what I've been doing from 25 to 30, and believe me - you really should avoid this. Only drug addictions are worse…
/r/ExRedPill30/06/17 07:39 PM
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Thanks a lot for your response. I'm 38, I just got engaged. I wish you the best of luck with you engagement. An interesting thing is that I don't feel anything bad towards people like you who can kinda understand what I'm struggling with. My envy is triggered by people who have this sphere of life on easy mode, have been having a significant other since they were 16 and have no idea what it feels like to manually control your body and your speech while talking to a girl in order not to make any …
/r/ExRedPill28/06/17 02:17 PM
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You're right, I'm definitely not in a good place now mentally, but I just don't see how I can increase my perceived worth while remaining single. I mean, what's the point of working on my looks if nobody will appreciate or even notice it anyway?
/r/ExRedPill25/06/17 11:08 AM
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Have you tried online dating? No. If I were a woman, online dating would be a huge red flag for me, because men who participate in it basically agree that they can't find a partner in any other way. Moreover, online dating is highly biased in favor of people who can make a good first impression, while I need time to become comfortable around people and to develop any romantic interest in them. This is not what girls go to online dating sites for.
/r/ExRedPill20/06/17 10:26 PM
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And try unpacking the negative feelings about yourself that come from knowing you are 30 and don't have a relationship. What about that makes you feel inadequate or unworthy or however else it makes you feel? I don't have any particular reasons to feel inadequate (and I cannot describe my feelings well anyway), I just feel shitty without a significant other.
/r/ExRedPill20/06/17 07:53 PM
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Choice is, well, something you choose when you have different options. I cannot make myself believe that my present situation is my own choice.
/r/ExRedPill20/06/17 07:51 PM
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Don't you think that being alone in between relationships is not the same thing as just being always alone?
/r/ExRedPill20/06/17 06:10 AM
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People having more than 1 partner per year? Unbelievable.
/r/ExRedPill18/06/17 12:55 PM
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Human minds tend to generalize things. If girls do not notice you, it's very painful to admit that you're unfuckable, so instead many guys assume that girls do not really like ANY men and this makes them feel a bit better.
/r/ExRedPill07/05/17 06:31 PM
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Redpill teaches you to hate. I don't think it's hate. It's more like dehumanization, where you need to apply some set of rules to get what you want from other human being, and to do this successfully you need to ignore like 90% of their personality that only gets in the way. To make this even more toxic, some people do this to have their revenge on that girl from high school who ignored them, but the dehumanization is still the core issue here.
/r/ExRedPill02/01/17 05:41 PM
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I'm afraid that any attempt of a rational discussion on the subject of men's rights and issues inevitably comes to the simple fact that men are cheap in evolutionary terms, and that they are pretty much disposable in any society known to us, from tribal warfare to modern welfare states. Who cares if 7 men out of 10 are emotionally numb/depressed/isolated? They can easily be replaced by other men, even from other countries if necessary. The only system where the majority of men had any objective …
/r/ExRedPill02/01/17 05:32 PM
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I think that for vast majority of people avoiding the immediate pain (physical or emotional) is way more important than getting some distant reward that might not even happen. Rejection is not a source of such pain for someone with a lot of experience and strong sense of self, but for someone without this foundation rejection really hurts since it questions their value as a human. So, while there are unique cases every now and then when someone breaks through this wall of initial rejection on a …
/r/ExRedPill08/07/16 06:45 AM
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Sounds fine in theory, but good luck trying to find someone who will not be creeped out by a 26 y.o. male without any experience. Such things are not imaginable for general public.
/r/ExRedPill07/07/16 11:05 PM
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Well, I do not blame women for the fact that they do not like me (anyway, attraction is not something you can make rational choice about) and I'm certainly not advocating raping anyone.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/16 08:10 PM
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I doubt I will be able to work on self-improvement without feeling envy about the guys who get all their social success for free while I have to work for it.
/r/ExRedPill28/05/16 06:28 PM
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you have to remember that the present moment is not going to be your reality in the future Dunno, I think that future me is solely based on who I am today. Change over time is a certainty and one of your closest friends. This is a logic you can be certain of that doesn't involve cognitive dissonance. And there's a certainty that not all of that change will be bad. No one is "unlucky" forever. The problem here is that TRP has a ready set of 'arguments' for this as well. Yes, you're more likely to…
/r/ExRedPill09/05/16 05:24 PM
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I appreciate your attempt to challenge my fallacious beliefs, but pretending that humans exist in a vacuum of sorts doesn't help much here. Why would things that are desirable to me be desirable to my sister, or to you or to anyone else? Because nobody has truly indepentent tastes, and the vast majority of people prefer tall over short, fit over obese, rich over poor etc. What is "social status" and why would what you value be the same as what I value? I'm not qualified to talk about women on th…
/r/ExRedPill05/05/16 09:33 PM
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Yes, I don't like tobacco anyway. Advice about hygiene is kinda insulting (not for me, I mean generally). I think everyone older than 16 is perfectly aware that you should be clean etc., and if a person ignores that, mentioning this openly won't help either.
/r/ExRedPill04/05/16 06:41 PM
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But there are lots of functional adult males (and females) who do not have partners. I think only an asexual person (both in physiological and in emotional sense) can be fully functional without a partner, and these people are a minority. because you don't feel like you, yourself, have yet reached some arbitrary definition of "functional"? It's not arbitrary, it's more or less the same throughout the history of our species: self-sufficiency, strength, good genes, social status and other desirabl…
/r/ExRedPill03/05/16 05:14 PM
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You see, another possibility here is that people who genuinely enjoy some activity do not treat it as a possible way of making social connections, which makes these said connections happen smoothly. If you think 'okay, I'll go to cooking classes and maybe find some friends there' your desperation will be obvious. Another thing here which I can identify is some perceived inequality: like, 'high-value people' don't have to bring anything extra to the table cause they bring themselves and that's en…
/r/ExRedPill03/05/16 05:12 PM
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You're treating a significant other as though they're some trophy awarded to Standard Male Clones, and that's somehow a good thing. Great point. For me is like an ultimate reward for being a functional adult male (because tbh dysfunctional men rarely have decent relationships, if any). Don't mimic others expecting to find the happiness they have. But isn't that how people generally operate? I think that only some rare individuals can define their values and goals independently, and an average jo…
/r/ExRedPill02/05/16 07:04 PM
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Yes, I think the reason for this binary view is that I don't differentiate between happy couples and not-so-happy ones because I don't see their inner workings, but only their happy social media facade. For someone like me TRP provides a simple explanation of how things work, and after some time you begin to see the 'proofs' for this theory in the world around you.
/r/ExRedPill02/05/16 06:54 PM
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First of all, thanks for your well-thought-out answer. The only way for any of us to find love is to love ourselves. That's correct, but I need some solid basis for loving myself, some qualities about me I'd find valuable and worth nurturing, or something like that. I don't see anything like that in myself. Even my looks, which can be improved by style and working out, still fall too short of my expectations of what a man should look like. And here's where 'all or nothing' mentality kicks in - i…
/r/ExRedPill30/04/16 11:39 PM
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I'm 29.
/r/ExRedPill30/04/16 07:45 PM
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You say 'accept happiness' and 'make people happy' as if it's a simple act of will, like someone can wake up one morning and decide to feel joy for no reason even if their whole life is in shambles. You can't simply have confidence if there's no evidence behind it, and this applies to happiness too. If you look like an Orc's ass and make people inspired or happy to be around you they will say "That guy might look like an Orc's ass, but I can't get enough of him." Sometimes I wonder on which plan…
/r/ExRedPill06/04/16 09:31 PM
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your feelings of torture come entirely from your penis This penis torture is only a general and easily understood symbol of feeling rejected by society. Even after your hormones cool down, being effectively deprived of any kind of intimacy doesn't make one feel very good. Sorry to sound flippant, but not every one of us has the potential to be some kind of club-dominating, tinder-tyrant just by learning how to flirt, unbuttoning our shirt a couple inches and making duck faces. Yes, and that's wh…
/r/ExRedPill06/04/16 06:45 PM
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The problem with sex is that for a male it's a basic need. I totally understand that nobody is entitled to it etc etc, but it's like preaching to a hungry crowd that first of all they should appreciate the gourmet subtleties of some dish they don't even have. without knowing how to make those connections, you have a very, very hard time getting to the point of physical intimacy with anyone Please don't tell me that people who have a lot of sex have it because of their ability to form deep emotio…
/r/ExRedPill05/04/16 07:31 PM
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Sounds right, but don't forget that love and support are mostly available to people who don't need them so desperately in the first place. It's like banking, where nobody gives you cheap money when you need it the most, but everyone is throwing loan offers at Elon Musk.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/16 09:26 PM
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It's obvious that authors of this bullshit regard men as nothing more than amusing animals, but what is usually ignored here is that it is equally damaging to women. 'Be passive', 'be aloof', 'don't initiate' are applicable in very specific situations where the sexual dynamics are already in play, but if a woman (even a gorgeous one) rigidly uses this behaviour without giving back anything, only the abusive relationships would work for her. This almost makes one wonder whose agenda it could be t…
/r/ExRedPill28/03/16 08:36 PM
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Remember that I'm just a random internet nobody who doesn't know your situation, but for me it looks like she's dragging her heels in this relationship and she a) wants you to be an exciting and neverending source of emotion for her (which I guess you're not); b) wants you to get a hint and end this misery for both of you. Maybe it's possible to re-kindle such situation, but I have no idea how you could do it, or why you even should.
/r/ExRedPill28/03/16 08:19 PM
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It is INCREDIBLY hard to get over TRP thinking. Exactly. I'm actively resisting these thoughts for quite a while now, but sometimes they still go on auto mode in my head and I ruminate on how women love jerks and how someday it'll be my turn to deprive them of my attention. This shit is really toxic. let people in I guess it's even harder. People in TRP community don't usually have good social skills, and I doubt they will risk losing their social circle by expressing unpopular ideas or by openi…
/r/ExRedPill16/03/16 06:58 PM
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Really, I never understood how this advice to lower one's standards is going to work. It's like "you need to stop liking what you like now and begin liking what you do not like yet, and this is a key to success". Gee, who would've guessed. Probably the main idea behind that is sound, but it should be expressed as "give it a try even if you're not really into this girl from begnning". This could be a recipe for disaster as well, but at least it's not so arrogant and unrealistic.
/r/ExRedPill15/03/16 08:31 PM
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