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Very good stuff I find myself caught in that negative thought loop and this is perfect to get me out of it. Thanks!
/r/seduction30/06/15 05:04 PM
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Thanks man this is fantastic advice! I really like your like about being the boss of your own company, in fact I wrote it and put it up on my wall next to all my motivational post-its. I realize it's all practice and honing skills through experience, but thanks a lot man you've given me hope and a clear direction. :)
/r/seduction19/01/15 01:43 AM
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That sucks man, where do you live?
/r/seduction18/01/15 10:14 PM
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How can I start seeing myself as the prize? I guess visualising and faking it (till i make it) is the way about it. But yeah you're totally right, so thanks for your input bud.
/r/seduction18/01/15 10:13 PM
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That's really encouraging thanks. I'd consider myself a 6/7 (depending on the lighting haha) so it's good to hear that there's still a chance. I guess tinder has killed my self esteem somewhat.
/r/seduction18/01/15 10:12 PM
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Yeah thanks for this. I definitely am, and I also do take rejection way too personally. I'll definitely apply your advice next time I go out, sounds like a win/win!
/r/seduction18/01/15 03:15 PM
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Haha cheers buddy :). I guess negative reinforcement has beaten away that 'you are the prize' mentality. Any idea how to get back into that mindset?
/r/seduction18/01/15 03:13 PM
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Yeah that's a really good point. Meditating has taught me the same thing, but I guess I never put 2 and 2 together in this scenario. Thanks, this will definitely help!
/r/seduction18/01/15 03:12 PM
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Yeah but someone like Chris Hemsworth is pretty universally attractive. Most people in the club are better looking than me, so why would they ever pick me?
/r/seduction18/01/15 03:10 PM
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Yeah it's definitely a poor self image, I don't really see myself as attractive (so why should anyone else, right?). I actually recently have gotten out of depression and some anxiety (plenty of stress in college), through reading books on CBT and talking therapies through the phone. It's helped me massively and I'd say my mental health is really good at the moment. The issue isn't really that I sit around all day and mope in my mind about how bad looking I am. I suppose it's something I've just…
/r/seduction17/01/15 05:31 PM
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Damn man, that's a really good point that's never occurred to me. I guess my way of making this negative would be to say that 'what if that applies to other, more attractive guys, but not me?'. I used to approach a lot more in the past when I was first getting into game, but I very rarely got a girls number (like twice) and with things like a heavy lack of matches on Tinder I really don't feel like I could possibly be the kind of guy that a girl hopes they'd dance with. Know what I mean?
/r/seduction17/01/15 01:52 PM
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So how do I ignore that negative non-sense? I mean I do tend to do a lot of thought balancing in my head when I'm thinking negative, I meditate too. But there's this kinda gut feeling when I'm out in the club; it's not that I'm thinking loudly in my head 'DON'T APPROACH HER MAN', it's more like an underlying feeling of fear and the things mentioned before. Thanks for replying btw :)
/r/seduction17/01/15 01:49 PM
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Thanks for your reply So strong eye contact, reach out hand, then spin. Ok, and so would it be cool to dance for a few minutes then take her to the smoking area to talk? Also, any tips on getting that confident mindset?
/r/seduction18/07/14 04:21 PM
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Yeah, I guess I might need to make some changes. I can be flirty and teasy to one girl, then the next I'm like Brick Tamland from Anchorman.
/r/seduction24/02/14 06:38 PM
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Good point mate. I suppose I'm always looking for people to look up to (absence of father growing up) so thinking in that way helps me understand things better. I agree that this thinking is toxic, though.
/r/seduction24/02/14 08:16 AM
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Sure, but the vast majority would. You can't deny that a lot of people have this innate charm that makes them seem much more interesting than others.
/r/seduction24/02/14 08:09 AM
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Yep that's true; nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you have any articles or pages you'd recommend on how to get better at the things you listed? I think I'm pretty good at teasing but not so much at being 'exciting'.
/r/seduction24/02/14 08:07 AM
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So talking about these things will work on college girls in bars?
/r/seduction24/02/14 08:04 AM
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Yeah but isn't a conversation with her supposed to make her excited and happy? I mean if Sean Connery or Robert De Niro started talking to a girl there's no way she'd get bored from that (even if they weren't famous). Though I totally get what you're saying; its her fault not mine, but I can't help but feel like it's down to me when all statistics point that way.
/r/seduction24/02/14 01:00 AM
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Yeah you're right. I'm always approaching girls as if I wanted them to be friends. I don't go for the ballsy approach because I'm in college and not that good looking so I feel like I'd be a creep.
/r/seduction24/02/14 12:56 AM
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So true man. I'm filling up my time like crazy constantly learning and experiencing new things. The only thing is, I don't see how talking about my interests surfing or literature can possibly be useful in a seduction context.
/r/seduction24/02/14 12:55 AM
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Could you elaborate on what building attraction means? I'm guessing you mean kino and openly flirting but that stage is hard to get to when you're obviously not clicking already.
/r/seduction24/02/14 12:54 AM
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Great point. This is exactly how it is. It's actually quite fun to use it to your advantage - telling a girl you lost your friends, describing some of them, then segueing onto a conversational topic. It helps get a conversation going (we all know what you say isn't important unless you go full retard).
/r/seduction13/02/14 10:25 AM
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Great, bro. I'd highly recommend it to anyone thinking about trying this. I'm an introverted, reserved guy at heart, but I found the free aspect really liberating and most people there were really friendly. People go to bars and clubs because they want to meet people like you, once you realise that, it destroys your AA. At the start I was a little lost and the smoking area was empty, so I opened a couple sets at the bar, just casual not looking for anything. Got a good couple of conversations, b…
/r/seduction13/02/14 10:23 AM
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Yup, I'm only feeling these things now that I'm back. While I was there I found outcome independence to be really really easy to have. When some bitchy girl told me to go, or I found out a girl has a boyfriend, I just laughed it off and went on.
/r/seduction13/02/14 10:16 AM
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Towards the end of the night I did this. Felt pretty good dancing and not caring about friends or how I look to them. Didn't really get anyone approaching me though. I'm a decently good-looking guy, but I think my dancing is a bit full on when i'm having fun haha.
/r/seduction13/02/14 10:14 AM
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Yep, nobody actually asked me that. In fact I made use of it by saying I can't find my friends, and sometimes I opened by telling them this and describing them. Worked really well at getting your foot in the door!
/r/seduction13/02/14 10:13 AM
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Mostly the opposite here. There are mostly clubs and like two bars. The club I went to yesterday had a really cool bar area though so I could talk and approach there quite comfortably.
/r/seduction13/02/14 10:10 AM
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Ah see I live in a college town, and clubs are really the only place to meet women. Do you have any other suggestions? I don't feel ready to try day game, since I like in the UK and talking to strangers is much more awkward than in the US.
/r/seduction13/02/14 03:47 AM
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That's a great way of looking at it. I definitely felt like this was a good decision. I grew as a person by being independent and carefree in an environment where most people are just looking for a good time. I stayed until closing time, didn't get any numbers or anything (my game is lacking, my conversations are boring) but I definitely felt like I made a step forward.
/r/seduction13/02/14 03:45 AM
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Yep, took this to heart. Talked to everyone. Made friends with a bouncer, talked to tons of people, got tons of free cigarettes. The first time I talked to someone was at the coat rack, and I just randomly said hi to a dude and it went on from there. The only thing is, I felt like the conversation was forced, and he left soon after he put his coat away (he was in front).
/r/seduction13/02/14 03:43 AM
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Thanks buddy! Just got back. Didn't f or # close but that's OK! Talked to a lot of people, mostly guys because they're so much easier to talk to. A lot of the girls I approached were in groups, and while I hit it off with some of them, they always had some bitchy friends trying to cut it off. All I can do is shrug it off but it's frustrating as hell when a girl tells you to 'fuck off' when all you've done is said hi.
/r/seduction13/02/14 03:41 AM
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Wow man wasn't expecting a post so detailed and insightful, thanks a lot man! You've definitely opened my eyes, as this has been my largest fear when trying to mingle with a crowd! :) (just got res so saw this comment)
/r/seduction04/02/12 09:41 PM
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Easier said than done; how do you come up with/ drop the funny jokes into a group you don't even know?
/r/seduction16/12/11 03:26 PM
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