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‘Yes’ is great, I like saying ‘I know’ because it means they are only confirming what you know to be true ,regardless of their comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:01 PM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:00 PM
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Work people ask me when I’m going to have children, like they don’t complain about their children while they scream in the background of the work zoom call. A part of me wants to say ‘why??? So we can both be as unhappy as you clearly are?’ Or ‘don’t get me wrong I like children but I don’t think I could eat a whole one’ but I like my job currently more than my need to be sarcastic. Let’s stop asking women about their reproductive choices, some women don’t have the luxury of choosing to have or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:26 AM
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If they compliment/flatter you, just say ‘oh I know’ THEY CANNOT HANDLE IT. You really get to know the ones that can not comprehend someone knowing their worth outside of their estimation / perception of you. It’s not what they think about you, it’s what you think about THEM. This mindset allows you to never feel inferior in any situation; personal or professional and focus on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:01 AM
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Beyond sad that her worth / will to live, is in conjunction with what men ‘prefer’, breaks my heart. All I read is a empty person, looking for validation and meaning from another human to cover up her loneliness and self worth issues. ☹️ Go to therapy. Get some hobbies, have a goal (climb a mountain, write a book/play/blog, start making more friends, travel!) , get a better job, connect with people and have some scope on how short life is & nothing being guaranteed EVER, every moment is borrowed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 10:45 AM
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33 & 5’0 and have a baby face (not that into makeup other than mascara but maybe one day?) get infantilised, patronised and stereotyped a lot by men especially at work. Assume I’m going to be some giggly, in need of validation girl. Nope. Have learnt over time how to assert myself & make it clear I’m not to underestimated or a child. Often the ‘wholesome’ side of my personality paired with how I look (high trust features) work in my favour with first impressions, a rapport of unearned reliabilit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 09:25 PM
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Exactly, the assumption everyone is operating from the same circumstances!? Yes I’m from the UK😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:22 PM
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Hey no, sorry, I’m not upset at your comment, I’ve just had to repeat to multiple comments about why and have been accused of ‘hero complex’ by one person, assuming I’m doing it out of a place if wanting to be ‘thanked’ ?! patronised & purposefully misunderstand and make it seem like I’m standing looking to fights to stop!? Despite my saying I only do it in public spaces with multiple people around and come from a country this is a rare occurrence and it’s mainly directed to minorities and not e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 09:48 AM
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So you hedged your bets and decided situationally weather it was an appropriate action. Weather it was impulsive or not, you comprehended the chances for yourself and your safety. Because your a grown adult who is capable to make these choices for yourself. I don’t know why I’m getting slated for practicing beliefs I have outside of the internet, using my own judgement? If something were to happen to someone from a marginalized community or a woman & everyone is standing around ‘it’s not my busi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:32 AM
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I’m a black woman and from the uk,I don’t fight anyone EVER or raise my voice or swear at people, it doesn’t help any situation., I stand between people before anything physical happens or help someone to gain distance from the person attacking them or call the police or film them or say ‘ stop doing that’ I grew up in a very physically violent household & experienced violent people, that have taught me the signs of situations rapidly escalating or when its at a point where my kind of ‘help’ is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:54 PM
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You know what ? I’ve already said my peace, and have consistently said ‘I speak for myself’. Throwing about terms like ‘hero complex’ when you don’t know me nor why I chose to do the things I do, isn’t helping either of us. I have autonomy to chose what I do in situations which YOU may find to be dangerous, I’m not walking around looking for fights to stop, much to your impression, you are purposefully being dense by not taking into account anything I’ve said about having TERMS to when & where t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:38 PM
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I only speak for myself, I personally assess weather anyone is in immediate danger and don’t encourage others to do the same if they feel uncomfortable or scared of what may happen: I would never get involved, if it was a situation that wasn’t in public and could result in death. Where I live lucky physical violence is seldom. I’m not some pickme, I don’t want to be thanked by anyone and it’s not some vigilante martyrdom, other peoples validation or thanks or clout means nothing to me in compari…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:16 PM
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I’ve been in a situations eg a man was roughing up his girlfriend and no one was intervening, so I stood between them, facing her and ignored him, so other people took intative to get him away from her. But physically have never taken part in any fight in my entire life nor want to as a pacifist and am very much a good ‘assessor’ in situations. I only speak for myself when I say this ; biggest hindrance & strength for me is empathy and being very ‘justice’ orientated as a person (infp & type 9 m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:07 PM
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Great advice and to be taken seriously, difference between life and death in some cases. The only instant I would disagree would be in a public space with multiple people around, like the time a police officer was being rough with a young black man and I stopped to film and ask why they were being so rough, he stopped it immediately (probably because of the camera) and told me it was a stop and search, reminded them he is not under arrest & they have to give him a reason as the officer was ignor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:39 AM
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The divide, the dissonance, the duality, the dichotomy. No philosophist or psychologist ever said that this kind of behaviour leads to anything bad huh ? How do you divide yourself so much, that it starts to become a ‘different’ version of yourself. The beginnings of a troll/creep/sex pest. Compartmentalising leads to shame, lying, justifying ‘dirty’ things that could be borderline illegal and where does it stop? If you do that online when does it become irl? Going to become cheat, be a bigamist…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:09 AM
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When you can make ‘I’ll pray for you’ sound like a threat. ‘It’s your decision, you can either split the money with hunter, the one that got you here, that helped you make it all the way’ 🙄if it’s HER decision why is he putting emphasis on his effort rather than her own!? Hate the host for piling on the pressure before she even decided but it comes as no surprise a man thinking physical work makes up for bad behaviour and language. It’s not a trade off. No one owes you anything least of all, on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:31 PM
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Do this for yourself too! You deserve to treat yourself as well. Buy yourself those nice flowers, use the nice candle and lush products you’ve been hoarding ! Cook a nice meal / takeaway and dress up! & when you meet that special person who will do this for you, remember you are also important and special to yourself !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 07:34 PM
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I use to go tits to the wall with these people and realised it adds nothing to my life or sense of humanity other than making me question why I’m a tool in a provocateurs agenda for their ego building. They are incapable of comprehension for others experiences, feelings and humanity. I just stopped subjecting myself to it, saw how they scramble to hook you back in, it’s about how they will be perceived to them, not the subject at hand. The worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:55 AM
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What a luxury to be working from hypotheticals and inexperience in difficult topics, that lead them to think they are pioneering thinkers, should go write a think piece in the recesses of reddit where other devils advocates can go back and forth with them till the end of time. Argument for arguments sake. The kind of people who wait to talk, rather than listen, think and talk. Don’t engage with these people; love the sound of their own voice and it only confirms their belief in their faux intell…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:37 AM
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Ugh same here in the uk, waiting for the lift in my building and a man, with no mask was in the lift & I told him ‘it’s ok you can go down first’, he honest to god said ‘what’s the problem?’ Not single concern, what an absolute fool if I ever saw one. I told him ‘you don’t have a mask on’ and he replied ‘ I don’t have covid ! You’re wearing a mask what does it matter?’ I sad ‘what if I have covid ?’ He press the button and I said ‘that’s what I thought’. Got the stairs down despite carrying some…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:24 AM
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They are! our boss gets them for clients & peoples birthdays and holidays. Got one last year and still think about it when I’m buying cheap fruit at the market 😩. Treat yourself !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:29 PM
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At 33 I’ve really accepted ageing as liberating and freeing; how I look & am perceived by people now ( ‘striking’ & ‘unique’ & ‘wholesome’ & ‘optimistic’ I get a lot ) is nice to know considering the dread we’ve all been conditioned to feel but I’ve always applied ‘what other people think about you is none of your business’ and it’s really been revolutionary in allowing myself self compassion. The underlining confidence I’ve grown, is attributed to my 20s being very very ‘people pleasing‘ centri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:08 PM
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This video had been misrepresented, I think you’d have to be a real piece of shit to actually read your own hateful messages to the victim of them. The sentiment still stands but these men are not the originators of the tweets. Original video : https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9tU-D-m2JY8
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:23 PM
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Hey OP this is from this video : https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9tU-D-m2JY8 And they were asked to read tweets people have tweeted to the women, not their own tweets. Just to clarify. This is why we should procure videos from the source. The sentiment still stands: no one should use abusive language to anyone online, that they couldn’t say in real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:21 PM
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1000% your right, amount of times my sister has been accused of being a ‘gold digger’ as a ‘joke’ by even people we know because she’s very pretty (but I’m bias) and her husband is 5 years older but also attractive and makes a LOT more money then her and they disregard that she’s a teacher and getting her therapist degree but hey! she married a man richer than her = single minded ‘golddigger’ it is. She tells me that she offended more by her achievements being undermined, that it ‘doesn’t matter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 11:49 AM
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Competency is just problem solving, it’s someone who won’t be ok with a problem, oh you lost your job & rent is due soon? apply for job in your field and in the mean time literally work in the first place that will hire you and not just borrow money from people. Pride is set aside for the bigger picture & integrity & the principle of being self sufficient. Being a go getter and proactive is attractive because people that are ‘doer’s’ in a world of ‘say-ers’ are the people that get things done & …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 11:00 AM
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I think a lot of people come to this space with bad experiences, which isn’t invalid but to always have the perpetual mentality of being on the side that is consistently dubious and projecting your own experience onto positive things breeds a culture of underlining negativity. Some people are mistaking this space as a space to just constantly devalue men, no ifs or buts, just spend their entire time trying to ‘catch’ other women out and be the one to ‘school’ them. Which isn’t what I think FDS i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:19 PM
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It’s an insult to your own intelligent by simplifying it to ‘horny ulta ego’. You are smart enough to know the effect alcohol has on you, so act on the same intelligence to commit to how you want to ‘deal with it’. Your halfway there already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:31 PM
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It’s a wick hamper with lots of different exotic fruits (also do seasonal veg or drinks or chocolate or beauty things) and wrapped up nicely, that people give each other as a gift. Eg : https://www.fortnumandmason.com/hampers/all-hampers/filters/sort/sort_by=price%20desc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:19 PM
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Buy yourself a ‘womanizer’ and be sober around men, in general it helps for a clear head and it hones you to things you would bypass by feelings of lust. Don’t drink with men that you are ‘friends’ or don’t know or romantically interested in, if you know it will lead you to want sex with them and that you can’t say no. (which you can, if your actualised enough for know what it is that makes you behave that way, you can say no to sex) Use it as a litmus test. If your drinking is connected to arou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:57 PM
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I think it comes from a place of : my sister is married to a man who I would deem as a HVM, who truly truly loves her and treats her in a way no less than I would expect of someone I love to be treated. They have been together for 5 years and we are very close as sisters, I have yet to hear or see her anger/cry/disappointment of him. She doesn’t even complain ! I’ve stayed with them multiple times, for different lengths of time and in stressful times. He is constant in his behaviour not just to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:20 PM
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Yes definitely making it a work expense! Going over his head is a big statement in our work environment but it has to be done out of the principle. Hopefully the optics of how he will sound, will be enough to deter it the blow back. Plus his boss has a deaf child! Let’s hope he understands during the presentation. & the client knows as I’ve jussst sent the company I want to use & given him the choice of who he wants lol I’ve clearly already made my choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:36 PM
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Your right, It’s been glitching more than usual ! & it just be in the air, something feels ‘off’ lately ? Hope you start to feel better, sending you positive vibes 🍀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:32 PM
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Just having a whine: Have a big work presentation this week, one of our clients I’ll be presenting to is deaf, boss thinks it’s a ‘waste of resources & time’ to get a sign language interpreter, like the utter ableist emotionally stunted dull human he is. He once spent £300 on a fruit hamper !!? Told me ‘ he can read the slides’ firstly if we got someone to interpret it would be only £90 for two hours, it shows inclusivity & that we go the extra mile for our clients and could possibly secure the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:29 PM
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I’m sorry for sounding so flippant and your right some people are new to this and unaware of the manipulation some men do. Sorry again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:03 AM
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Your right; I’m just sick of seeing 1000 examples of lvm and scrote behaviour. Just wish there were more positive reinforcement of FDS approved male behaviour. The constant barrage of the rape/misogyny/ racism/ bad behaviour....is getting to be too much, to the point of making me question if all men are really like this and thinking despite how much I hope, I end up with someone that doesn’t fall in line with men like this, that I will. Maybe I just need a break. Anyway I apologise for being so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 03:01 AM
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I don’t engage in casual sex/dating not saying it to be difficult or better than but if you follow the FDS ideals or your own, you weed out men who think in terms as simplistic and contrite as alpha/beta. If I keep reading posts like this it will only break me of the notion of ‘finding someone’ who is above this bullshit , their ARE men better than these complete weirdos who haven’t been near an actual woman in years and sell each other ideals and stories that are not based in the reality of wha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:00 AM
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I stopped reading after ‘beta orbitors’, I have obtained everything I need to know: unhinged constructs of their own sex. Nothing that is said after that, is worth reading. Nope. Invalid and unhinged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:49 AM
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I purposefully do not inhabit or look at spaces or engage with people ; which I know , are the ‘opposite’ of the ones I inhabit and look at. It’s counter productive & a waste of time. If the inclusivity doesn’t pertain to me, I assume the things I’ll see will be in line with things said to discredit people with similar ideals as mine. These spaces have posts that are purposefully provocative and contrary to engage people of a different mindset, for the ego building; back and forth they need to v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:57 PM
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She’s speaking the truth 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Just because it’s not ‘that bad’ doesn’t make it OK, it’s shouldn’t be ‘bad’ or ‘ok’ full stop. The bar is so low, that by meeting ‘it’ , doesn’t prelude to ‘making it’ it’s the bare minimum at best and we shouldn’t be congratulating anyone for basic human standards and equality. If women as a gender, stopped being impressed by things we deserve, by proxy of being human beings, the standard would have to be heightened to a degree that recognises the acute differen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:22 PM
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I’m from the UK and I keep hearing about those stupid women from call her daddy, from girls at work (& I call them girls because that’s what they are) who treat it as the second coming of satc (another problematic show 🙄) & who keep referencing it & telling me to listen to it.....honey no , I’m listening to a podcast about the matriarchal societies, I’m not going to be listening to a podcast about how women should ‘rank’ themselves amongst other women & to make up for it sexually if they deem th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:45 PM
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I actually love that series (mainly for Stella, she says some REAL truth ) but am sick to my stomach thinking about how many tweets and posts I see of people sexualising the character, when he is a literal serial killer of women. I don’t care who the f Jamie Dornan is but he must be a terrible actor if he can’t act without engaging in this kind of behaviour. I don’t care how ‘method’ you are, saying things like that, justify the action as harmless to people looking for any excuse. Yuck. “I’m sor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:57 AM
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Someone else’s fear being ‘psychological fun’ to you is one, in not that many signs of psychopathy. He thinks it’s ‘low level behaviour’ that poor CHILD was / is traumatised for the rest of her life. He has left a mark on another human beings existence and he thinks it’s ‘low level behaviour?!? These are the people that should be d*xxed and be on a watch list ! How long until that ‘low level behaviour’ becomes a physical act or perhaps has even committed acts they would deem ‘low level’ ? People…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:50 AM
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That’s a true comparison,the amount of people who claim to want to ‘help people’ and use such vile ableist/fatphobic/ insulting language in social media or their platform and often interviewed on tv shows about ‘tough love’ & ‘being realistic’ just amplifies you have to be built different to be able to justify degrading another human being and making a living out of it. And lead people to culture of shallow toxic regard for other people based on physicality, that is easily varied by many factors…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:05 PM
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It can go the other way as well, some of them get their thrills from thinking they are the Gordon Ramsey of PT, had a male trainer when I was trying to get my fitness level back up to how it was after a stay at hospital after an accident, which resulted in muscle loss (could nearly not walk without being short of breath) literally would yell at me and had to constantly remind him for the month I endured him, I was employing him and was not motivated by the possible ptsd he was going to leave me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:29 PM
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Gillian Flynn writes about the female experience in a way that even if all of it doesn’t apply, some of it will hit a nerve. The moment she wrote about the ‘cool girl’ really was pivotal in her saying to men; ‘we see you and it for what it is, don’t think we don’t’. She’s a very realised person who reflects society in her fiction. Where is the next book Gillian?!? She’s the Rihanna of the ‘female thriller’ books, drops a good one then dips for a couple of years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:50 PM
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I shine : you shine. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:01 PM
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Thanks babe 🥰, I think a lot changed when I stopped spending my weekends on curating pinintrest board of what I wanted life to be like in the mythical ‘future’ that NEVER seemed to be coming or watching people’s vlogs and living vicariously through them. I really think being mindful & present in cultivating a life & experiences is only on yourself to bring about and that it is whole enough; that should you meet someone the question will always be ‘has my previous peace been added to or disrupted…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:59 PM
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You have someone to share it with: yourself. Watch comedy films, make a nice dinner, chat to a friend while you cook it or have a podcast on. Save something for the weekend you enjoy doing. I have a book I only read on Saturday mornings, in bed with a cup of my favourite ‘weekend’ tea and have a shuffle of my favourite relaxing songs to play in the background. Make rituals and stick to them. For me Mondays are vegan fajita nights, Tuesdays watch an episode of ‘call my agent!’ (SO good I have to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:30 PM
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Sick of the normalisation of women in servitude mode for men who reside in the same house with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:04 PM
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When I went to buy paint when I first moved into my flat, looking and feeling like a grade A scrub (paint splattered & sawdust boilersuit & trainer combo, hair in french braids, spent a week doing DIY , ate one meal a day, haven’t showered due to the utilities not being on for a week & sleeping on the floor for because my bed was not delivered & on my period so PURE TRASH vibes) had a cashier offer to carry the paint to the back of a friend’s car I was borrowing, which I thought was customer ser…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:14 PM
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I cannot with this shit, I’m too anaemic for this. I’m putting baby in the corner and just try scroll past videos like this that highlight what disappointments some men are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:59 PM
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People who gain from a system often don’t see the reason to question it. I can understand why some engage in it (both the providers and consumers) from an empathy point of view, but it’s not justifiable when you still engage knowing the statistics and experiences of mostly women (male sex workers also suffer). It explains why some men don’t want to know or think beyond a very scripted ‘it’s empowering, it’s liberation, it’s normal’ point of view. Once you start thinking about the statistics and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:07 PM
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This is the reason so many of us women have intrusive thoughts, living in a state of hyper vigilance. When I use to go out before the pandemic the amount of ‘prevention’ scanning I engaged in, is not normal but needed: I literally size up men when walking & purposely walk slowly so they can walk in front of me so I can keep a track of where they are. Never sit with my back to a door in public places. Text my sister when I go out and when I’m home and she does the same. When I get the train, for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:15 AM
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Thank you I appreciate it. I’ve got a couple of appointments for this month so fingers crossed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:34 AM
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Hate to be cynical but probably self inflicted or to make sure other people don’t get ideas as someone beat them to it ?! They know they have messed up with having someone with two prior ‘instances’ of indecent exposure unaddressed on the force and didn’t account for escalation because his police status absolved him of being a threat in their eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:54 AM
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She’s a victim. She doesn’t know it but one day she might and that’s what she’ll have to recover from. Capitalism and the commodification of youth will leave a whole generation of people confused, depressed and angry on their future ; when age and the reality of how expendable you are in a market that values youth and beauty catches up with them. The spiritual and mental ramifications of existing in that space and encouraging others to join you when the cost could be life changing (death, bodily…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:19 AM
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I have TMJ disorder from dislocating my jaw after a accident 15 years ago and have had a male doctor tell me doesn’t ‘exist’ which my inflamed jaw, migraines and occasional lockjaw would beg to differ about. I haven’t chewed gum or a raw carrot in 15 years and can’t talk unless it’s in 10 minute intervals with rests in between. Have to sleep with a specialised foam pillow. Have an ‘emergency bag’ of ice packs, tens machine , external pain gel, soups, electrolyte drink mixes and painkillers to ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 12:01 AM
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The only instance I advocate for incest. Just marry your mother, cut the middlewoman out, no one will EVER be as good as your mother. How about YOU stay with your mama...forever! Spare womankind. So she can cook and clean for you and you can live out the oedipal complex instead of subjecting women to a life of servitude and pandering because you never learnt independence. He has mistaken his mother’s patience and nurture as a RIGHT to expect of women and with caveats?!? The entitlement. ‘Any wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:38 PM
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If that’s not enough to make anyone ACAB I don’t know what it could take.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:35 PM
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The law has a history of low prosecution rates in sexual assault, no sentiment in ‘pretending to care’ or moralising age to lawmakers is going to change that.if it hasn’t by now. In America : Prosecution rate Based on correlating multiple data sources, RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network) estimates that for every 1,000 rapes, 384 are reported to police, 57 result in an arrest, 11 are referred for prosecution, 7 result in a felony conviction, and 6 result in incarceration. Is that a s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:22 PM
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Their poor mother. https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/uk-news/2020/jun/26/met-chief-dumbfounded-at-officers-alleged-photos-of-murdered-sisters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:10 PM
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Sadly if someone wants to assault another person, consent doesn’t factor anyway, people like this don’t have the capacity to see anything beyond their own gratification by any means & the criminal justice system fails the victims & traumatised them more than it brings about any justice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:39 PM
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To them it is, to stop the tide of people who will take this exactly for what it is : a wake up call. And treat it as the violation to one’s humanity that it is. They know they will be held accountable & the time for platitudes will be over soon and want everyone to go back to a time where you could be a ‘lad’ and ‘boys will be boys’ with no consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:16 PM
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Makes me think of Nicole Smallman and Bibaa Henry, two sisters, who were murdered in a park; and two police officers took selfies next to their bodies and shared it on whatsapp. Even beyond death the dehumanisation of women is behaviour that isn’t examined, especially woc, there is no peace to be had from some men. Police officers! and now one being connected with Sarah Everard’s murder. Even in institutions meant to ‘serve and protect’ the public and the most vulnerable in society are overrided…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 08:08 PM
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Exactly anyone can read anything and find something to fit their narrative, just by looking at her social media anyone could find questionable things and spin it to look negative or positive but that’s just lazy ‘journalism’ & a lack of integrity in your own work. If she ACTUALLY read and wrote an article that was unbiased and rooted in the reality; her click bait headline would of been a subversion to the article and would of made a point. BUT she just had to be cheesy and unoriginal and go dow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:30 PM
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Anybody with reading comprehension skills could come here and see the stark difference in what she represented and the reality of FDS. But it’s all about agenda and hers was to misinform and misrepresent for the clicks. Congrats to her for getting the clicks but at what cost ? Because now everyone knows she’s a bum journalist (working for vice was the first bum note, in many to come no doubts) who doesn’t understand in the digital age, if you send a DM that purposefully misrepresents your intent…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:07 PM
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She needs professional help. The free kind and the kind you pay for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:32 PM
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Your right ‘patriarchy affects us all’ BUT let’s not simplify it to that degree. It affects men positively, YOU can build bridges if you want OP & that can be your ‘mission’ in life if you so choose but in a ‘women’s’ space you have to respect that some women don’t have the luxury or want to ‘build bridges’ or they already have ‘bridges’ and want to do it in their own way. Even if you are 20, your old enough to understand the concept of ‘self educating’ and to do it in your own space and time. N…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:47 PM
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Breaks my heart that she did all the ‘right’ things and yet.... And yet we have ‘not all men’ trending. Yes all men, if your not actively vetting your friends and pointing out behaviour and language they use IN THE MOMENT, to me that’s ALL MEN, the mere fact you do not rape, does not make you a ‘good’ guy. Bystander culture is ALL MEN culture. The culpability lies at the feet of men and the ones that are offended ? are telling us who and what they are and we should believe them! The men that rus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:06 PM
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Click-bait journalism. The readers: Vice is voyeuristic 'journalism' IF we can even call it that? for middle class hipsters who want to keep up to date, so they can feel 'woke' and 'informed' at the next dinner party without having to do any critical thinking. The site: Barstool sports: Hipster edition. Issue 342: internet/poverty/drug/sex/addiction/war 'pornography' in the comfort of your toilet seat. The journalist: Culture vulture for an article, pat on the back and you are a 'real journalist…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:59 AM
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Just goes to show, just how deep some women’s internalised privilege, misogyny and racism goes, to them a ‘the future is female’ and pink hat is the extent of their ‘intersectional feminism’. Performative feminism irl & anonymity based misogynoir online. The dissonance. This is why so many WOC are distrusting of some white women, we have to humanise our ‘plight’ and simplify it so they can understand from a women to women pov and yet to some of them, you just are the sum of your skin colour to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:36 AM
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I feel like a broken record but WHY WOULD SOMEONE FILM THEMSELVES BEING THIS TOXIC ? Does he have no context thinking ability ?!? Or is he so narcissistic and a gaslighter who thinks his emotionally abusive actions normal?!? ‘Do it for the vine’ but disrespect someone you are with, who owes you nothing ?! And yet you do it anyway?! Or is it all of the reasons ?! What’s wrong with people. You HAVE to be a psychopath to record yourself engaging in this kind of behaviour to another being!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:59 PM
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Wonder who did the market research to come up with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 11:00 AM
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I would of poured the water over the only spot of disappointment : him. It’s sad she attaches her productivity to what she does for everyone else to her self esteem. This is what happens when a man who should feel lucky and gratitude to his wife (and do his share of child rearing & chores) and turns it into automatic expectations (that we as women do without realising) and the right to critique. Hope she tells him what’s on her mind and if nothing changes she doesn’t waste anymore time on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:39 AM
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Utter pickme behaviour. Misogynoir is evident.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:11 PM
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I agree with everything you’re saying but I just hope the video gets lost on the internet and she never has to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:10 PM
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The poor child sounds absolutely traumatised. My heart was in my throat the first time I saw this. Hope she gets the help and support she needs. The woman who intervened is brave and a humanitarian with the way she felt the pain with the child and did what everyone should do, no matter who it is. Especially women: protect other women & girls, don’t rely on men to intervene; the amount of videos you see of a woman being abused and the men participating in bystander culture. Good vibes to her and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:12 PM
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Just goes to show how hard overt & internalised patriarchy & racism & sexism works,, even in this community. 🙄 happy international women’s day indeed. Boohoo we’re anti monarchy & hypocrisy ☹️.people going around downvoting peoples comments defending Megan because you don’t know how to respond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:22 AM
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Only one type of person can continue denying the media‘s real issue once Princess Michael of Kent wore the racist brooch to that event. A jack is a jack whichever way present it. It makes me sick how many people on here rationalising it as her being ‘an American’ and not a ‘HVW’ because she’s ‘ambitious’ ‘social climber’ (so what ?! begrudge her for what standards and ambition?!) or that she keeps Harry away from his family (if your SO had a toxic family & you were pregnant would you let your ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:20 AM
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Singing to the choir! They are hypocrites on all levels not just race. I sincerely do not think we will do away with them, at least not in my lifetime. The way they have harnessed the power they have is now at the point of no return. Things like ‘the crown’ (which come on they could of shut it down ASAP if they wanted to) makes them seem more fascinating then they are & try’s to humanise them for people who overlook just how rotten they are. The fact they now have Meghan as their flogging horse …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:47 AM
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100% sick to the death of them; the way they spun their colonialism into ‘commonwealth’, going to counties they still think they have power over; getting people to taking pictures as the indigenous dance and bow for them. The uncouth, simple minded and unfeeling of it all.The same family ; who financed the country preying on other nations infrastructures and resources: Who until recently have not recognised POC contribution to WW1 and WW2 ? The fact they never apologised for the monarchy’s hand …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:19 AM
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‘ The Brother ‘ ‘Nice Guy ’ different moniker same game plan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 11:16 PM
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When I use to rent a place without a washing machine, I would go to the laundromat and the number of times a random man who would ask to ‘borrow’ some washing detergent / softener. Why would anyone go to a laundromat without the very thing needed to achieve washing their clothes? I’d straight up ignore them ( got called a bitch / c word a lot) and went back to reading my book. The entitlement and the expectation to be relying on women to facilitate, helping you with your needs because you aren’t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:05 PM
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As a Black British person it hurts to hear people be horrible & racist (yes racist! They hide it under labelling her ‘american’) to someone who, no offence, could be white passing & has eurocentric features & not overly ‘black’ be discriminated against which tells me where other black women and I stand in the UK. No matter how much you assimilate, you are just another black person to some people. And if you do what she did, do what made her and her family happy, they will start a witch-hunt and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:30 PM
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Love to all the Gyal Dem 💋💋💋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 05:11 PM
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I agree with you, to me sex work, ‘tradwife’ , bimbofication, conservative movement all serve MEN. imo MEN gain from theses subgroups and women are the labour force! BUT some people see it as feminism and thats ok as long as it doesn’t infringe on me or others. BUT some do and that’s what makes feminism look fractured and to be commodified by men and in turn the reason why we have these subgroups. In the modern world some women play the card of male pandering and being pickmes because they are m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:45 PM
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At 33 I always think ‘ if I left the toxic environment of my family, how am I going to let anyone else talk or treat me with that amount of disrespect and a lack of love, like that ever again ? Never’ My sister is 31 and no lie when she got married at 27 people asked her after the honeymoon ‘so babies next ! Got to get a move on!’ Which goes to show you can’t win no matter what, she’s only trying for a child now with her husband at 31 because they are ‘financially and emotionally ready’ & not ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:35 PM
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Either way the choice is what feminism is. The choice to partake or not and not to think one must take it all to be considered what whichever branch of feminism or many someone is interested in. You can want marriage and kids and you can also let other women want to hoe it up. Feminism is sisterhood to protect other women from the patriarchy that subjects us all to their standards and their gain. As long as you get your choice and get to do it without consequences from the patriarchy & don’t hur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:18 PM
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She’s mistaking ‘feminism’ and connecting it to sexual liberation which can go together but are not mutually exclusive ?? Her example of going to eastern hemisphere countries and being stereotyped can be used visa versa, does she think westerners won’t think a religious woman of colour, is not going to be stereotyped as meek & repressed, & in need of ‘saving’ and she’s actively proving many of them wrong with how opinionated she is & she could give people from other countries the same piece of h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:03 PM
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The fact my own family have referred to me as a ‘spinster’ when I was 20 - 28 ( I estranged myself at 28 for my mental health and growth) & my own mother telling me ‘if you get married, have a kid and get divorced, people will leave you alone’ she would rather have me in a bad marriage and have society judge me as a single parent rather than shaming her by being single & mentally happy, educated, financially independent and have boundaries?? No common sense; moving your family for a better life …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:25 PM
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‘Does the claw machine, speak to the heart & spark joy ?’ Yes ‘Does your boyfriend, speak to the heart & spark joy ?’ No. Bye bye boyfriend. You can apply the KonMari method to humans as well !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 02:06 PM
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It tracks. All the girls who got married at 22 (a lot of my cousins ) who fell for the patriarchy telling them being married makes you better and offers you protection ; that made me feel unlovable by saying ‘ it’s just not your time’’ smugly , ended up getting divorced at 25-30. Except now they are in the same position as me but married & divorced in the same decade with two kids and sharing the kids with a ex who doesn’t pay child support or the mortgage and having to navigate dating with chil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:51 PM
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Why some people so ok with sharing, how they get disrespected on social media so freely. I would be dying of the shame and anger if a significant other referring to me in that way. Why would you be ok with people knowing that your alright with someone being that disrespectful to you? It sets the tone to how other people can treat you, seeing as someone that close to you does that and you think it’s an funny anecdote? Also reading that and the fact you think to ask your significant other that !? …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 01:01 AM
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I want this as a keyring or magnet. My sister got us matching somecards’s magnets that says ‘I’m not anti-men. I’m anti-stupid’ and I stand by it. Her husband told me anytime he asks something stupid ,she says ‘divorce’ and points at the fridge. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 11:07 PM
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Yeah it’s less about the aesthetics of the ‘elegance’ community I have a problem with but the connotation that ‘elegant’ is exclusivity, white centric, ridged femininity and classism. All for ultimately male validation? That’s not elegant that’s victimhood and brainwashing. It’s the tradwife & male centric bimbofication & conservative wives & the hash tag girl boss but marketed differently with the same goal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 10:52 PM
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I worked retail too at university and at a jewellery shop in central London, the amount of people that would come in who looked like they just woke up, with their Starbucks & slight hangover only, for them to purchase a £3,400 watch like it was loose change . I cannot tell you & the commission they give you just for treating them nicely. Or the amount of people who would save up, scrimp for a present for a loved one and we would pool our shop discount (everyone was a student or in their 20s ain’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 10:27 PM
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100% they have stigmatised ‘hell hath no fury like a woman scorned’ and replaced it with ‘smile and don’t be petty’ . There is nothing wrong with being ‘feminine’, but that fact all these ‘tradwives - conservative - elegant - women’ have weaponised and coopted the concept and deem any woman that doesn’t fit into that narrative to be less than a woman is disgusting. The notion you should do it to get you a man or keep one. Nope. I love manicures, dresses and skirts and getting my hair done but no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 10:24 PM
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It physically makes me cringe when people call themselves ‘elegant’ and ‘classy’ which just tells you they will be difficult and horrible in nature to perpetrate that image to other people who also think they are ‘elegant’ and ‘classy’. When I moved to my new job, I kept being called ‘posh’, I would be offended and people would say ‘why does it offend you!’ It offends me because being articulate and having a Received Pronunciation should not be attached to being ‘posh’ , your voice box and intel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 10:02 PM
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I’ve watched a couple of those YouTube ‘Elegance’ videos and the only thing I’ve taken away from them is it makes me seethe; the sexism, undercurrent of racism that anyone can detect (everything from looks to dress being Eurocentric centric) and classism. Elegance is not synonymous with wealth or class or race or sexual orientation or how ‘feminine’ presenting your are. Those videos are nothing but internalised misogyny at best. People who use the word in that way are misinformed and often not ‘…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 09:35 PM
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Who shows you time and time again what an attention wh*re John Mayer is and how much he likes the sound of his own voice. We shouldn’t be surprised at his own egotistical take on her writing a song about him and him in turn, going on a social media platform primarily used/targeted to young teen girls. 43 years old , milking a song that came out 11 years ago! for his own gain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 06:41 PM
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100% right. Painful but a must. Don’t wait for people to change themselves to meet you at your level, they are either there or not ( friends & family & coworkers too) that’s wishful thinking and a time waste. You only get the one life. Boundaries save you from heartbreak and make you decisive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 06:06 PM
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The fact anyone can even HYPOTHESISE about rape, let alone type it out and put in out into the public domain and what? Expect people to what? Agree ? Contemplate it? Do it? Whole new low of depravity unlocked. Fuck this person. Disgusting excuse for a human being and waste of air. Ugh. I understand your intention with this post but can we draw a line at rape posts by people like this? No one benefits from this, could trigger some people here and everyone reacts the same way. Please. Edit: As wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 04:27 PM
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She’s talking about the future and he’s talking about defecation. Imagine being married to someone who can’t hold a conversation beyond his ability to defecate or follow the thread of a conversation Instead of blurting the first thing that comes to their mind? Actually think he is saying it at as distraction to the notion of proposing to her. He is exactly like every barstool sports frat bro, disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 04:20 PM
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No problem, I’m going through reliving my obsession with Ted talks and what to drag everyone into it with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:14 PM
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Men really don’t need to make a concerted effort into ‘glo-up’ they just need to have the control that women have had to have from day one. I know women with routines and regiments but their men don’t even put on spf, lest the sun think it makes them ‘gay’ 🙄 All they have to do physically: take supplements, drink water, eat something green with every meal, hit 10000 steps, moisturise / spf, get a haircut every 6 weeks, sleep enough, go to the dentist regularly, shower...properly and smell good. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 01:01 PM
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Anyone with cognitive ability can understand the porn industry without having to do extensive research. Just by reading accounts and talking to people esp women & accepting how hard life is for women and look at statistics for sex trafficking, age and addiction in correlation to the porn industry. That would have to take; having to allow for the slither of empathy to cross their minds over horny and once it takes root it bloats to a size, that is unavoidable, that would make anyone question thei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:31 PM
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That would take having to dismantle patriarchal practices and would result in questioning if the hostility (men would have to rethink their roles & what they have to offer in society = cue the breakdowns eg violence ) from men would be something worth having to address, manage and contain the consequences, for them to invest in women and girls properly. History shows us how society has been beholden to men and priorities men and their choices / ideas that their violence, tyranny and ego have res…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:09 PM
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That’s what being part of this community is about. Questioning and being open to different povs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:15 PM
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You are right . It helps not perpetuate the ‘norm‘ for these challenges. Thank you for helping me see it from a different POV x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:06 PM
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😂literally what I said in a different post. ‘Feels good’ you first my man you first!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:56 PM
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Good for her but also the bare minimum, we shouldn’t congratulate men cleaning the house they also reside in !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:43 PM
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It speaks volumes I’ve never seen a Tyler Perry film and yet the way people talk about them has informed me of his most used tropes. If that’s how some women want to believe they ‘won’ honey let them have it but deluding others into thinking love is a worthy pursuit if it comes with a side of ‘difficulty’ ? We can’t accept that. I’ve struggled enough for myself, I’m doing my third degree self financed (& the other 2), chronic tmj pain, work full time and being really really REAlLY independent af…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:35 PM
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‘Successfully’ ? Debatable. Sarcastically ? Yep he was ‘successful’ in reaffirming a woman’s place is EVERYwHERE especially in policy and procedures and law making ! So people like this man don’t get what they think they want! The fact someone can be a representative and use a word like ‘good’ to try and make a point? I can’t. He can barely string two words together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:25 PM
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Imagine she said ‘ ladies with the 50k and their own houses and cars, help a girl out’ you know women would be giving her mad advice and opportunities. And she wasted it for male validation...?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:21 PM
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Well you can buy an arse but you can’t stop being one! Once an arse always an arse. Money keeps buttocks plenty warm; own your own house and paying your own bills & pay for a private trainer to build one if you so chose! But knowing your worth ? Priceless (MasterCard ad approved 😂) Enough not to do this kind foolish behaviour thinking disrespecting women doing better than you, will lead to anything but attracting other arses. ‘One dimensional’ just like her unoriginal take on her own internalise…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:01 PM
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The ‘I build him up’ narrative. No thank you. You should a fully formed, whole, self realised, self actualised person and working on it on your own, if your not ‘there’ yet. This saviour complex doesn’t serve people in building their own self worth in finding redemption, enlightenment and independent within themselves. But it does make money for people like Tyler Perry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:48 PM
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& Phylis Schlafly. They don’t get the irony of spouting about ‘women’s places being in the home’ while being the antithesis. The very thing you strive to stop is exactly what you are? Cognitive dissonance at its best
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:42 PM
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Hey, 100% if it’s not a two way street of support and empathy, your just playing hype (wo)man to someone who doesn’t love or respect you enough to see themselves in the equation. The fact she was critical of birthday post not being as lengthy another but failing to see her own lack of reciprocity tells you you are better off! Moving helped me realise in my new friendship group (not new but you know what I mean) things that were taken as ‘a given and expected’ from my old friends are now treated …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:08 PM
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Hey sorry that happened, yeah I’ve always been interested in interpersonal dynamics and doing a degree in psychology, so have always been aware of codependency and how it informs my interactions with people. I sense your case is when a ‘mom’ friend is possibly her not actually being that kind of person in the first place but it’s how she wants to be perceived without actually doing ‘the work’ using that moniker to validate her standing with you and in turn being ‘the victim’ in every situation g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:50 PM
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Hasttag GiRl BoSs , the precursor to the Karen, if you think about it ‘get the manager’ makes sense to them, it’s progression to them. They only talk to other managers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:29 PM
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If she wants to live that way she should but the irony that she should have ‘CEO, researcher & consultantt’ on her profile while telling people to lack ambition beyond child rearing and the nuclear family seems somewhat odd? What a hypocrite, you don’t get to that level (unless she’s lying 🤥) in life without having ambitions beyond ironing your husbands shirt. She wasted time with her children typing that? Shouldn’t she be ‘making dinner’ by her standards ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:18 PM
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Why do you think the governments talk about the birthrate ? Because it depends on it to increase the countries GDP and resource the future workers and consumers by encouraging narratives that include women having children as soon as possible and facilitating it via the gender wage gap, that then allows society to equate a woman’s worth with her reproductive organs & the yield because if you can’t beat or be equal to them (being equal to a man lacks ambition imo) you have to make them. It’s all c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:57 PM
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I understand what you are saying; the onus should still be on why the men are purchasing it, if they were not, there would be no market for it. Children don’t make the best choices compared to one of a adult man. It’s not normal for men to do that! It’s not! Saying that normalises it and makes it seem that the child is at fault. They are children and no matter the reason ( trauma , financial, coercion, sexual abuse, sexualisation & the normalisation of this behaviour & Adverts like in OP’s post)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:54 PM
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I think it’s less about why the girls are doing it (we could hypothesise but ultimately they are children) but more about what makes a grown man chose to buy the underwater of a child...knowingly? Why is there a market for children’s underwear? Perhaps the sexualisation of school girls via manga and anime? I could think of a million reasons and none of them are good enough origins of why any person would engage in doing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:36 PM
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I watched a documentary, can’t remember the name but it mentioned in Japan, they have used underware vending machines!? They have a term for it : Burusera. And the most common type of panties people purchase, are the panties belonging to ‘school girls’. Which just goes to show, if you subliminally market things, via adverts and jokes, it serves to make things like this normal, it becomes ‘acceptable’ and normalised in wider society. Then the distinction between buying the panties of a consenting…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:26 PM
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This was me most of life until my mid twenties. Until I stopped, had to get to being rundown and emotionally sick of playing nurturer to people who put very little effort and emotion into maintaining our relationship without me being the driving force. I would always be a shoulder to cry on....every time. I would drop my own pursuits to be ‘there’ emotionally & physically & financially. Offered my help & always kept my word & promises and gave advice that would be ignored but they would enjoy th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:37 AM
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Disgusted but not surprised. Conditioning humans that need protection, nurture and understanding from such a young age to follow narratives that have not progressed humanity nor enabled it to inspire anything other than enforced stereotypes and deep unhappiness. You only get the one life , unless you believe in Hinduism, Buddhism, Jannsm or Sikhism and even at that; you probably don’t want to waste a life, doing things that fail to serve you and result in anything less than happiness. Whomever c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 11:45 PM
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The societal bias in thinking ‘men=logic’ & ‘women=feelings’ which dictates the ways people react to things and the consequences that follows. They simplify it because something being all encompassing and that could leave SUCH a mark on your life, is too much for some people to comprehend. It’s easier for people to have a formulaic answers / solutions to hard subjects, rather than listening and accepting there are no answers sometimes..How often are women who have been sexual assault survivors t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 11:27 PM
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🎶I do it for the girls and the gays, that’s it. The queens and the queers, yeah, they loving my shit 🎶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:55 PM
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Hard to believe you’d want to be near anything with a reflection while feeling big feelings , if I’m upset, I’m ugly crying and have a puffy face & migraine to show for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:29 PM
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Sex traffickers / kidnappers are no joke. Stay safe ladies. Never talk to random men esp when alone or tell them your plans or that your alone, always say your meeting your boyfriend /husband / dad/ uncle (men respect other men more than they respect you). Report any Uber or business you patron that makes you feel danger for your wellbeing and safety, think of the next woman and be the reason they can’t do that shit again. When I use to travel for work and get dinner in a bar or restaurant alway…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:23 PM
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It’s just baffling behaviour to me, akin to in films when someone cries in front a mirror ? When has anyone done that ? Sure you can be in the bathroom crying and see yourself but you don’t stand there looking at yourself crying because your too busy actually crying no?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:08 PM
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They only cry at the prospect of losing something or being caught in something, true meaning of ‘weaponised tears’. Watch YouTube apology videos and you learn all the tells of someone fake crying, to not be accountable & distract people to making it about how they feel rather than the subject at hand. After a while you realise what crock, someone is trying to sell you and how it translates to people doing this irl. side note : performative crying & then editing it?!? Super manipulative and psych…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:00 PM
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Exactly right; you don’t need to do anything to secure someone, all you have to do : be yourself. No adjustments, no running after someone and no simpering after people who don’t want you back. Obviously if you are insecure, not self sufficient, unfocused and not clued up,? work on that as once you are with someone, you need to be the best ‘strong ‘version of yourself, so you know what you ‘deserve’ & know that in any bad situation, you can walk away because you had yourself before they had you.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:10 PM
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Exactly, why does vulnerability align / equate with sexual domination for some men ? Every orifice must be claimed like they are Armstrong on the moon !? To achieve the ‘deep vulnerability’ it has to involve a woman giving up her boundaries ??! Off we pop to buy the dildo and use their own spit for lube & get them to bend over first, if it’s your idea ; you first I say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 11:57 AM
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All I hear is ego: I’m the exception, girls who previously hated degrading acts, have changed their views because I’m just so good at manipulating them into liking it. Making assumptions about women’s love of appendages being rammed into their mouths & putting my dick deeply up their asses is a ‘ deeply vulnerable’ act that only serves to free women of the notion their reputation & sexual boundaries not being as important as my dick . Being degraded & ignoring a woman’s boundaries by way of mani…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 11:42 AM
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Child free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 09:28 AM
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‘I would not marry her unless____’ great way to start a marriage : ultimatums and one that he changed his mind on, despite it not being his body and now he ‘regrets’ it, despite him not being the one paying the price physically or emotionally or having to do the labour of looking after his children because his mother is raising the kids he doesn’t know (his wife has ptsd, chronic pain, trauma and depression....what’s his excuse? Regret ?!) or put any effort into knowing because he is too busy fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:12 PM
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I agree but it shouldn’t come at the cost of taking the choice of away from people but to have a space for people to put thought into why and how to have children on a way that insures the best possible outcome for both child and parents & not to demonising them for having children aka what David Attenborough does by signalling out non western communities to critique and labelling it ‘population control’ when its eugenics, when in factuality the cause of pollution, health inequality, famine, lac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:17 PM
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Either way you blocked him, the critique shouldn’t be on you, supporting each other, for doing it, in our own ways with the same ultimate goal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:12 PM
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So he knows ; she’s not the one and set a precedent for that kind of behaviour, so next time, he thinks twice before inserting his unwanted thirsty attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:08 PM
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The pandemic has highlighted the STARK realities of the socioeconomic and mental fortitude people with children have (have to have) and question in the world ( the way it is today, not some far future) is it moral to bring a child into the world knowing what you know of the world we reside in currently?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:21 PM
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Oh I get what your saying but the government just like the church should have no say in a women’s reproductive choices, should not be endorsing people, in any way, to have children when they don’t know what to do with the ones that they have been given to look after and failed themselves (poor quality foster homes & not protecting children from harmful home environments & putting children in cages !? for examples). Women’s choices on their reproduction and having children, should not be up for d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:19 PM
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I get it , but to think : I’m going to get pregnant, for the birth rate.....to increase for the government !? Ultimately for my country’s GDP?! For capitalism ?!? The very same government run by a majority of men?! That govern women’s bodies ?!? The same government that has gaps in the justice system that allows the men to sherk their duties and get away with crimes ?!? On a planet with dwindling resources?!? In this economy ?! With how many children parentless and in the fostering and adoption …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:11 PM
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I present Lonely island - I just had sex (satire that some men treat as a blueprint & on some level based in reality. Buy something from Lelo? , some nice smelling candles and get comfy 😉& spare yourself ladies) : So this one's dedicated to them girls That let us flop around on top of them If you're near or far, whether short or tall We wanna thank you all for lettin' us fuck you She kept looking at her watch Doesn't matter, had sex But I cried the whole time Doesn't matter, had sex I think she …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 06:21 PM
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Wish I were into women because really men?! At what cost? At what COST?? Men like this think women are cannon fodder for their own fantastical narrative , on how they view & treat women, as objects in their ‘growth’ or ‘exploration’ or ‘expirences’ until he meets the illusive (but only till he turns 40 & his ready to ‘settle down’ with a 22 year old ‘I’ve only had one boyfriend’ girl because that’s what he thinks he ‘deserves’) ‘one’. Cue the cliche affair with his receding hair & pot belly and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:41 PM
279

He ghosted her because he felt nothing for her; only to ask her for coffee, for what? To humiliate her? ‘Ill never forget how hurt she was’ what did he expect?! ‘ it stings to this day’ talks about how hurting her, hurt him and still didn’t leave her alone by giving her what he instigated (time and space) but instead choosing to meet her in a public place to reject her and rehash what was implied, which he already did by ghosting her, for his conscious?!? and so he gets a post & story out of it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:32 PM
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I’m a single childless woman, wanting to be with a single childless man, is that such a horrible notion?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:58 PM
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Still being triggered despite how long ago it was isn’t right. What a dickhead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:52 PM
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‘Is all’ the whole ‘’aw shucks’ of it ! Self infantilising and trying to come across as harmless. The nerve of him. Disgusting. I hope you are ok and take some time to take care of yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:26 PM
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I get where you are coming from; we have to allow for the possibility of people being smart enough to know the difference between the internet persona and the reality. Yes younger people are impressionable and your fears are justified and right. my rational is if you think this way, you are probably in the echo chamber that facilitates it anyway ( community, family and friends) and at some point it’s weather you accept it or question it? younger people are more informed and know how to resource …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:01 PM
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There will always be agent provocateur’s in society and once the attention stops they are reduced to being a blip of bad judgment, embarrassment and misspent time. People like this come in cycles and they think they are original but the slight nuisance between her & nichole arbor and whoever was before her....and after and so on. Before tiktok and YouTube ; they would of been on big brother, had their five minutes under the sun and faded back into obscurity. But now because they get comments & l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:42 AM
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The entitlement 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:14 PM
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Why I never believe anyone’s faux ‘naivety’, if I’m Intelligent enough to do it, so are you my friend, don’t ever let this happen at work, home or socially. Man or woman. Friend or family or coworkers. People at my job try this sometimes ‘ I don’t know how to use the scanner, can you show me?’ I tell them to find a manual, sure I can show them but no amount of being considered ‘nice’ is going to get me to do anyone’s emotional/ physical / financial/ intellectual growth for them. Let them do it w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:55 PM
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I’m truly obsessed with them, Any recommendations?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:03 PM
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Podcasts : Ologies (education on ologies) Slate culture (mix media reviews / opinion pieces) Being well with Dr Rock Hansen (Mindset / coping mechanisms/ positivity/ psychology terms and theories) Purely being guided meditation(meditation) Personality hacker podcast (myers brigg and enneagram) Stand alone podcast (estrangement from family) Slate : working (Different people’s working methods usually people in creative industries) Joan Podcast (mental health) Mythology (mythos form across the worl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:01 PM
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100% pandemic has made me realise how ‘stingy’ I’ve been with myself in ways other than financially. That I never gave myself a chance and that: ‘comparison is the thief of joy’ for me. Limited myself by talking myself into believing I wasn’t ‘that’ kind of person and robbing myself of experiences I wish for everybody and most of all myself. I haven’t bought it yet but my sister keeps telling me how amazing they are. I literally have a ‘kindle’ tab on my online banking that I transfer money to f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:27 PM
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Hey, I have my ‘moments’ too and I find that even if you have the glass of wine and a nap, it’s your body needing it and to honour it, is another form of caring for it. The key so to learn for yourself when your being too ‘easy’ on yourself, when you start to think ‘ well the days ruined because I didn’t meet a:b/c’ that’s when you have to reel it back in, as it spirals from then on; to ‘good’ and ‘bad’ days. The splitting it into a negative or a positive sets you up for failure. Calling it a ‘m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:13 PM
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Heyyy! I got a cheap little pedometer wrist tracker thing, try to do 10,000 before work on the am and 10,000 before sunset after work ( usually means walking around my flat/dancing before bedtime) and find my motivation from thinking ‘this time was ‘allocated’ for me after years of saying I don’t have time to do a/b/c and now I don’t have any excuses, why not reset myself into the person I want to be by building the willpower I lacked before’ and truly believing that something has to come from t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:03 PM
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If you can’t solve it out between someone, who stood in front of your family and friends and claims to love you.....I don’t think social media is going to have your back. They may empathise but pity is the worst feeling anyone can have for you and it doesn’t bestow you the self respect you have by doing things on the low ; weather that be leaving him or telling him to sort his shit out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:50 PM
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Hey, live alone, work from home in my new place / city for the past 6 months, haven’t seen any of my friends or family in 6 months. Literally go for walks and to the shops and that’s it. Don’t date or do online dating currently. Strangely OK? for someone who hasn’t touched another human in 6 months, lol. ~ wraps weighted blanket around herself ~ I’ve been reading like crazy, listening to a lot of podcasts & audiobooks whilst doing face masks, cleaning , cooking and have made 20,000 steps everyda…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:45 PM
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Exactly it’s cringes me out that people’s go to when they are wronged is to put it on social media, you should save that for the lawyers you hire. Society will judge her harder than they will him at the end of the day, not fair but true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:36 PM
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I’m a believer in flirting but flirting isn’t flirting if it’s one sided and the aspect that blames women for flirting and a negative outcome coming from it is wrong. You can flirt and it go wrong but you also shouldn’t be blamed for it, other people’s intentions for you have no reflection on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:32 PM
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I think the onus they should of put on the men; if a woman doesn’t respond or responds in a negative way, assume it’s not her flirting with you, make sure not putting women in a position to have to follow stupid rules that they ‘should’ follow so they don’t get victim blamed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:29 PM
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I hope you don’t think I’m being flippant and can 100 % understand training goes a long way as well as people’s restraint on using guns as a last measure. If it makes you feel it’s the best way forward for you, all the power to you girl! Also the fact you have a choices that empower you in terms of protection means your a lot more clued up on guns than any statistic and antidote/ story I could relay. Xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:15 PM
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Hypergamy Is not a alien concept for society (it happens everywhere and has happened since time momentum) and is not a surprise to any person who knows of the wider socioeconomic disparity in pay between the sexes. You could also see it from a biological imperative point of view, that men are more inclined to take on the provider role and it extends to that of financial matters as well, it allows men the opportunity to showcase their standing in future with you, any individual that begrudges you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:04 PM
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I live alone as well and I I protect myself as best as I can by way of, self preservation and I don’t think it takes a gun to do so. If a gun makes you feel safe, great for you but you cannot rule out that a gun adds, an element of a more deadly outcome for even you, not just those you seek to protect yourself from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:40 PM
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I live in the UK (wouldn’t carry a gun as a pacifist regardless) but the chances of your own gun being used against you is high as well and what’s stopping from the perpetrators carrying guns either? Nothing. If anything it allows them more ammunition (no pun intended) to carry out bodily violence against those weaker than them, using the gun as a tool to subdue the victim out of fear. Ultimately as you say it’s having to be always be vigilant & prepared constantly. It’s sadly the reality of bei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:22 PM
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I’ve been a ‘ evening workout ‘ person all my life, in the winter now it gets dark so quickly, that despite living in a city with cctv and lots of lights, people tell women not to go for runs/ out/exist when it’s dark. Makes me feel so sad for humanity as a whole, that we have a group of people that use daylight as an indicator that allows them to commit crimes against people. I’ve quit going to the gym as people don’t follow Covid rules and also as a woman going alone , also quit running outsid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:55 PM
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Imagine letting a bum like this get you pregnant and having to preface the reddit post thinking you are the asshole ‘My husband who I love and who loves me’ . He knows that you are pregnant, not keeping his phone on or nearby, when everybody knows pregnancy can result in complications & death at even the healthiest pregnancies, no matter how far along you are. Has made you feel / let it known his work is not available or open for your presence or enquiry. Expects you in LABOUR to come to him, at…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:23 PM
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If my partner ever made a social media post of my behaving like this or I made one of my partner behaving like this, I would be ashamed of myself. Surely a conversation before doing this, then a ultimatum and then divorce. They are your equal not another child. Shaming someone doesn’t change the behaviour and doesn’t correct the behaviour.Some people are built different. All it does is build resentment and make light of it. I would not be on social media commiserating with other people in the sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:55 PM
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The entitlement reeks. He thinks 3 months has been a long time, for him, to not date, shows how much he should spend time alone. Having ‘active listening skills’ is not a skill, it’s the bare minimum. ‘Pissing women off’ because he is ‘truthful & honest’ aka ‘my thoughts mean more than other people’s feelings as I want to say what I want without your feelings getting in the way or denying me sex’ & also the reason why his previous relationship has been ‘dom&sub’ (and I think we can guess which h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 04:31 PM
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Congrats! As someone that did the same thing last year, moving into my new 4th floor apartment on my own in the height of the pandemic in a new city with no help, I feel your pain. Get yourself some Epsom salts/ wash for your bathroom setup, a fluffy robe ,sofa blanket, candles & cup of tea and allow yourself to relax. You’ve done so well for yourself, be proud :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 04:21 PM
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It’s not ‘flirting’ it’s catcalling and street harassment. Calling it ‘flirting’ makes it seem harmless & normalises aggressive verbal behaviour that, has been the catalyst for women being killed & bodily harmed & verbally abused & emotionally traumatised and stalked for ignoring / rejecting men for to be called ‘flirting’.’ Flirting is reciprocated. Harassment / catcalling isn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 04:11 PM
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After all this time knowing my being labelled a ‘bitch’ was not true, was just me having standards & ideals that 133k women also share having as a mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:54 PM
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I’m so glad I’ve always lived alone. I would of just been in my room for the rest of our cohabitation.Poor girl. Spare her a link to here (after deleting this post obviously) 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:29 AM
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If they single you out consistently or carve out time to be with you alone. Go out of their way to say good morning/ goodbye to you. Linger around your desk, try to make eye contact with you eg in meetings, from across the room. If you start noticing they leave the same time to have lunch as you, trying to create a dynamic for you to have ‘in jokes’ or a sense of secret-ness that tie you together. Give you a nickname, gifts you would deem more than the usual office gift people get each other on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:07 AM
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& to you! 💐 It’s hail-ing and raining sideways outside and was planning on riding my bike to a local french patisserie. I’ll prob just stay in bed & have a coffee, save my money to buy the discount unsold flowers tomorrow. Hope everyone has a good one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:38 AM
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Also let me just say : Gillian Anderson, Angela Bassett, Bérénice Marlohe, Shohreh Aghdashloo, Keri Russell, Yetide Badaki, Golshifteh Farahani, Freema Agyeman, Michelle Yeoh, Sarita Choudhury, Juliette Binoche, Danai Gurira and Sonoya Mizuno to name a few. You don’t get to 30 and turn to dust. I promise. It’s arbitrary. I always think ‘If being queer/ bisexual/ a lesbian was a ‘choice’, like all the homophobes ‘think’ it is, MANY women would choose to be attracted to other women’ & I WOULD. One…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:20 AM
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I spent my teens & 20s HATING how I looked, having a very ‘unique’ face: very big cheekbones! As a gawky teenager having a skinny face with massive cheekbones when everyone else looked like English roses..ohwee does that do a number on you! My nickname amongst my friends use to be ‘Hannibal’ due to having the same face structure as Mads Mikkelsen?! Being 5’0 doesn’t help when everyone I know is 5’7 +. Now at 33 I think I’ve grown into who I am by accepting I’m lucky to not look like ‘everybody e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:05 AM
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I hope men like this get exactly that and worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 09:18 PM
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When a friendship is one sided and you always being the nurturing/ organised/ encouraging one, it gets old quickly and I commend you for sticking it out for so long. I think if you’ve been put into that box, you tend to naturally have to be the ’strong’ one in the group and that comes with the assumption of you always being ‘ok’. Try and find friends by doing things that you enjoy and will be a shared interest (obviously after pandemic or online) then you’ll be on an even field, try to be emotio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:28 PM
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I test my brother in law on the weekly ~evil laugh- despite them being together for 5 years & feel bad about it, with how earnest his replies are. Got to make sure he is gone for my sister, she’s the only one I have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:03 PM
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I jokingly asked my brother in law what he thinks he is getting as a v day gift from my sister, he laughed and said ‘she is THE Gift & I’ve never thought to have or ask for one....it’s not how it works’ when we were discussing the men I saw at the supermarket scrambling for flowers today and asked if he was prepared and he said he ordered all his stuff at the end of January because ‘she’s not an after thought to me ’. I know I liked him for a reason 👌🏾.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:50 PM
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It’s the same type of men you see in the middle of snowy weather wearing shorts. We get it, you THINK getting pneumonia, makes you a macho macho man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:44 PM
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Man children. I have no problem if you enjoy those films (despite how inane they are) but the amount of men I see in their 20/30/40/50 who think liking marvel/ dc / superhero films, is a substitute to having a personality. I actually cringe when people openly state their love of those kind of franchises, because that’s exactly what they are franchises, that cater to short attention spans and lack the depth of reflection of the realities of life, to make money by shilling mass manufactured (using…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:20 PM
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Exactly. Realising in my early 20s no matter how much conforming to caucasian standards (straightening my hair poker straight, having a RP English accent and having to rationalise, explain and dissect myself in regards to my intellect / money / looks to people to be considered of meeting the most basic ‘good enough’, when we all know, some people will always see me as just a ‘black woman’ with no nuisances for being more than what they know of being a ‘black woman’) doesn’t mean I’m worthy to da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:47 PM
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Living in a society that normalises women dressing in uncomfortable clothing, waxing, starving themselves, working out to stay skinny but also have ‘curves’ and not being too opinionated or too cleaver to be attractive to men and to be seen as worthy of love in society. Just so we can settle on some schlub in a iron man T-shirt who thinks complimenting and not talking over their date is ‘nice guy’ behaviour, that warrents a women, when its the most basic HUMAN behaviour you treat anyone with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:36 PM
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Frustrating? try dating as POC woman in a city that is not diverse, in your early 30s, having never been married, with no children and being told to settle for entitled men like this. Edit: no one has the monopoly on frustrations dating but to expect it to be easy because you meet the norm is a sign of entitlement to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:06 PM
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No don’t be ! The sentiment still stands 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:37 PM
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Men who ‘break women’ are the ones who like to use the concept of a ‘broken woman’ 🙄 they did someone dirty, know the ramification it has on a person and now think they can start over and find someone they deem to be ‘free of trauma’ worthy of them and naive enough to mistake them a good person by virtue of being a ‘renaissance / old fashioned’ man, aka a heteronormative imposing man child who wishes to revert to the relationships he has seen modelled in the 1950s & despite a life time of runnin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 05:32 PM
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I agree, I just mean if he does book a restaurant don’t feel compelled to go out of gratitude or the effort, for the sake of your health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:42 PM
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When he keeps saying ‘it’s rare’ it implies a sense of his own self importance, his feelings should be prized as if she should be flattered to garner his connection. Very red flag to me is : when someone tries to remind you how lucky you are to be in their gravitational pull, also the type of people who will exit using the same connection as an excuse, when it doesn’t lead to you being smitten by them quickly. The rush in meeting or speaking makes him seem intense....which never led to a bad thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:17 PM
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My interpretation of this quote : if your not classically attractive, you provide men stability by not being coveted by others and wanting him for his heart but in turn your demeanour has to be one of unchallenging, gratitude, not be abrasive and be willing to build him up, to be worthy of being his equal and to garner his affection? ........What if we let people be unattractive or attractive and they be worthy of someone without having to be either attractive but difficult or unattractive but a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:07 PM
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I unconsciously do the standing, one hip lower than the other, at work because my heels hurt and I'm trying to rest each ankle at the end of the day. I'll be actively going out of my way to NOT do it ever again. Imagine tailoring the way you stand/walk/exist.....breath!? to cater to catching a man!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:26 PM
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Not to be difficult but knowing your worth can also be choosing not to go to a restaurant during a pandemic. Your health is more important than a romantic gesture & if they are a good person they won’t be offended if you chose not to partake. (I agree with your sentiment)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 11:35 AM
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The fact she refers to her husband paying one of “my bills” rather than “our bills”..... tells me what the dynamic is. He won’t be buying her flowers anytime soon. Life is too short, to be married to a man who puts bills over £10 flowers that will make you happy for a week just by having them on the coffee table. Too short.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:24 PM
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Society makes it difficult for a woman to be single but don’t make it harder for yourself by buying into your happiness being connected to another individual. You can either accept you are single and spend the time learning about who you are devoid of others & improve and hone yourself that when your not single, you know your worth enough not to stick around for moments like this where you think being single was ever the problem. Or you could spend this time fishing for someone to fill in the ‘m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:16 PM
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He doesn’t have on a shirt on his profile picture, which tells you EVERYTHING you need to know about what he wants. That’s the red flag even before he messaged you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:10 PM
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Well done on no longer putting up with someone who treats you as if your invisible and that you have to tip toe around. No one needs that amount of dead weight ! Here’s to putting yourself first 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:40 PM
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I predict online dating is going to be a bust for the next couple of years (while pandemic is happening and period after) due to the amount of men who will be in ‘catch up’ mode with sex & will be taking advantage of the women who are seriously wanting to date to meet ‘the one’ or who feel their on a timer with marriage / children because society has deluded them with thinking you expire after 30. Never a good combo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:59 PM
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Happy for you, prioritising your happiness & well being first and if someone comes into it who is worthy of your best self and adds to it, even better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:53 PM
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Never, he just cycles through women until he has found one, who will mistake his lvm tendencies for hvm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:43 AM
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Me minding my own business waiting for the light to change to cross the road, wearing face mask, sunglasses and headphones. Man: can I talk to you...excuse me can I talk to you....Hello! Me: - takes one head phone out : No Man: I just want to talk to you! Me:- puts podcast on higher volume and walks away. What’s more of a ‘come talk to me’ sign than a woman who’s got headphone and sunglasses on? They don’t get it because to them women are a commodity that solely exist for them. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:38 PM
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Really trying to tap into the Aryan crowd huh? He probably wants a legacy of mini hitler youth. A pandemic is a great time to start a family when you have not done it sooner, now your almost 50 & in the risk category, so you can knock someone up for your ego and lets not forget blue eye legacy to live on because your going through an existential crisis and who cares if the woman you miraculously have a child with ends up having to raise a child solo because you have osteoarthritis and will be ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:54 PM
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A man who has issues with kissing you during sex & mocks any part of you during a intimate moment has no business being inside you, let alone in your bed. I bet he was kissing , cuddling and mooching up to you before sex right? sex isn't an act that cannot be halted during it. Any man that does this, should be kicked out asap, no matter if he was going to 'finish' . He can buy a blow up doll if he wants 'unclingy' and no kissing and play moaning from porn on his laptop, like he did before he was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:44 PM
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I love my sister so much and sooo happy for her, that the first person she dated became her husband who treats her like the gem she is. When we were growing up, she would be punished for refusing to iron my brother and fathers shirts and was labelled as 'unmarriable' by our father who would enforce us girls having to do all of the housework, every time I facetime her now, she has on her robe with a facemask on, carrying a glass of wine and I say hi to her husband stacking the dishwasher. We joke…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:09 PM
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I've made my peace with being labelled as 'icy' because I don't show my warmth, it doesn't serve in a male dominated workplace, lest you be accused of being emotional....and they will, with men who I have in my proximity due to our mutual need of currency. I didn't chose them and they didn't chose me, we happen to exist in the same place. Its a shame you felt you had to be with a co-worker to be left alone. It helps me to compartmentalise my life as 'people I chose to be around get my full perso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:48 PM
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My sister’s husband puts her clothes on the radiator, so she has warm loungewear to put on when she gets home from teaching , starts their dinner and pours them glasses of wine so they can talk about her day while he cooks. Makes her a coffee to have in bed every morning despite the fact he can start his workday whenever he wants. Knows she hates anything involving water & chemicals when cleaning so he cleans the bathroom and kitchen and does the floors. The most I’ve seen her do is hoover the o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:08 PM
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Exactly! I’ve had a male coworker tell me ‘’it’s offensive: you don’t have to try but your also picky’ when I told him I didn’t want to ‘hang out’ with him because I don’t entertain any male at my workplace that allows me financial security and that’s more important to me than some short lived 2 month fling he has with almost every new woman coworker/ client / freelancer. It’s our prerogative and just shows how shallow and entitled men are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:56 PM
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100% ! rechargeable, reliable, smart looking and won’t lead to humiliation and not many men you can say that about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:38 PM
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Tell her to Buy this: https://www.womanizer.com/uk/premium Yes it’s expensive but not as expensive as your heart or disappointment And a romance book 😉. Imagining being so scared to be alone on a day created by conglomerates to make money? Never could be me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:34 PM
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I don’t plan on having sex with anyone I’m not engaged/ married to and it’s not a hardship for me as I’ve done it for the past 32 years. I live alone & have a successful career & fulfilling life. I’ve been working from home for the past 6 months and the only time I go out is for a walk or to the store. None of my friends live by me or my family, don’t have a social bubble I can safely interact with. Work friends have families and I can trust them but I don’t know their kids / partners / bf & gf …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:48 PM
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So the moral of the story: He wants to behave as if he is playing Pokémon go: Women Edition? until he commits to a woman only to leave her for a 'Cool Girl' tm? To read Cosmo and take advice from them .......In 2021?? Yikes no thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:52 PM
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100% this is a reason 2000s pick up culture was a thing, some idiots weaponised compliments and it worked on the pick me’s & insecure women. They do it for an easier life too. There is a guy at my office that all the women have figured out, will spend the day before a big project really buttering up women, then think he can cash in, his one day worth of attention, to doing his work for him. We actively keep him away from the interns that he will try and take advantage of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:03 AM
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He blew his life up for his ‘kink’ and got away with it for years despite being in the public eye, now think what the everyman sadist is getting away with!?! & we’re supposed to excuse it as ‘kink’ this man wanted to Consume women, it’s bad enough some do it in other ways and now we’re going to call someone literally wanting to eat another person a kink? It’s common sense that if you talk about an act, you’ve either done it or plan in doing or want to do it but don’t due to societal ramification…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:27 AM
10

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:09 AM
15

I watched one series of girls and couldn’t understand why the character of Adam existed, nothing likeable about him & it was normalising such bad behaviours. Also the girls in Girls where insufferable, none of them that likeable or relatable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:03 AM
19

Men who mention letterbox, criterion collection, ‘foreign’ cinema (it’s a film with subtitles you don’t have to call it foreign, to congratulate yourself consuming media outside of the Western Hemisphere ) and not liking romcoms because they hold no ‘merit’ will make you sit through a 3 hr samurai western made in the 30s so he can base his personality around being the only won who ‘got it’ & will use it on his dating profile as his favourite film to mansplain it to some poor girl. You dodged a b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:00 AM
21

Garden state came out when I was in in the first year of university , you could tell which of the women based their personality off that film and engaged in a lot of ‘I’m not like the other girl behaviour’. It’s been programmed that some women think always moving from one turmoil filled relationship to another is a sign of their own importance and ‘main character behaviour’ which explains why the Kardashian’s & the simple life , also both. came out in the early 2000s, has affected all the vocal …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:48 AM
37

I've never seen that program but I automatically hate it on principle, nothing worse than a self insert. I think HBO's Girls has a lot to answer for. a generation of men believe women want these man children and a generation of women accepting it because it's an 'experience'. I'd sooner eat glass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:22 AM
46

Pure Machiavellianism, nothing more and nothing less. It's an exchange for them and the reward is your body....if it were up to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:04 AM
145

This is some true Garden State indie film bullshit. Josh come collect your beanie hat and hiking boots you wear in the middle of the city??! Your hipster Jim Carrey with a manbun, who has a non ironic Instagram dedicated to sushi when you can't diffenantiate between Asian cuisine, you think Wagamama is the pinnacle of food, you are not taking anyone to a expensive restaurant! You work for your dad because you left university to 'find yourself' in Thailand aka walk around with a camera bought in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:59 AM
149

- Flattery coming from a man is hollow, they are just trying to sus you out and see if you in turn are easily swayed by some pretty words, not even original ones and take it as an indicator of how far they can take it. - Just by witnessing how quickly men's behaviour changes when I don't react in the way they expect and being declared a bitch at a drop of a fedora. Negging is a child of flattery. - Any remark about my looks, hold no water with me, in an age of Instagram, You could go on a page o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:32 AM
125

Men will sooner post about their own shortcomings than actually do the work!? You can take it out and take a picture but can’t clean it? To brag about your own ineptitude is still a thing I cannot get my head around. Where is your shame at not being able to function in a world where you have to do literally the bare minimum in order to not die from a machine fire ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 07:47 PM
54

Men dictating what the parameters for what a 'real feminist' is? Pitting women against each other with the tool of validation for one group and weaponized scorn for the other ? wow that's some real 'under his eye' realness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:50 PM
10

Some men believe women are the weaker sex. UNTIL it's about the subject of rape, then the onus is placed on the woman , what she may have done / said/ wore/ walked / consumed and the man's role in this exchange is one of being implored/having no choice but to act, in the eyes of some men and women, society and intuitions, this belief system allows for there to be a nuance in rape, a grey area that doesn't exist....should not exist in an ideal world. To dissect the intention of rape, is to humani…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:28 PM
3

Put a plaster over every piece of technology you own, keep a written account of all the invasive behaviour, report to the police even if they can’t do anything tell them to make a note of it, if it escalates you have a paper trail of you having wanted it reported and them not doing so, in the court if law it stands as the police not doing their due diligence and heaven forbid it gets more serious, the onus will be on what they failed to do, go to a lawyer see where you stand legally, delete all …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:07 PM
187

What they should of included is the mug shots of those 40 men next to this photo. Name and shame and prosecute. AND celebrate the goodness of this man and his courageousness and restore peoples trust in humanity by promoting positive humanism based acts whilst highlighting the consequences of your actions good and bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 10:46 AM
28

When a man says something like this he is trying to pre-emptively put women in a position of feeling judged lest she 'talk too much' I say double down. Watch me talk more than I have ever done. Had a male co-worker tell a female co-worker and I on our lunchbreak, that we only talk about the fact we both had Peloton's and which classes we did. Which was not true, it was literally once, he was being bitter that no one asked him about his weekend/problems/opinions that he would inflict on us withou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:41 PM
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