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I'm generally never considered to be gay by anyone, but still at one occassion a girl asked me if I was gay. IT IS NOT THE FACT THAT YOU COME OFF AS GAY. The reason they think you are gay is most of the time because they don't understand why you don't make a move on them. So they assume you are gay... Probably in part as a way to protect their own ego.
/r/seduction27/10/19 09:37 PM
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"I don't know what you're intentions are, but I got a boyfriend where I'm living" This is either a shit-test or an invitation. I'd say it's an invitation. She's basically saying "I'm down if we can do it at your place". I doubt she even has a boyfriend. For whatever reason she just couldn't go to her place with you, that's why she said it. Baked in might be a shit test. You can't be too direct and say "we can go to my place", because then you validate her and she will instantly lose interest. In…
/r/seduction11/08/19 05:42 PM
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When she says she doesn't like how she looks, tell her she's beautiful while looking into her eyes. Let her know you find her attractive. She's obviously very insecure, so she needs some positive reinforcement. This doesn't mean that you go and throw compliments at her. It means that anytime she shows signs of insecurity, you let her know she has no reason to feel insecure. IMO, she probably wasn't on her period. It's just a bullshit excuse most of the time. It can be easily overcome by showing …
/r/seduction21/06/19 08:47 AM
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How to love yourself: Realize that you are ENOUGH as you are. You do not have to fit into other's idea of who you are. You can be whoever the fuck you want to be and no matter what, you'll always be enough. It doesn't matter if someone is better at this or that. It doesn't matter if they are taller, better looking or whatever the fuck. YOU ARE ENOUGH. ALWAYS.
/r/seduction21/06/19 08:27 AM
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Sounds like you're insecure and have low self-esteem. Think about it... Why would you ever be scared of dating anyone? Because you are afraid that you are not "enough". You're scared that she won't like you. Why would you even feel that? It comes down to a negative self-image. At some point in life, something happened that made you think you're not enough. Let that bullshit go. You're enough. She already fucking likes you too. Let go of all these toxic insecurities and just go do whatever the fu…
/r/seduction21/06/19 08:19 AM
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the issue is that she absolutely is against me coming over to smash unless we're dating anti-slut defense. she doesn't actually mean that shit, she's just saying it to not seem like a slut just go out for drinks with her, take her home, smash. not harder than that tbh
/r/seduction14/02/19 02:54 PM
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I'm in my mid 20s. Most of my friends are just settling into comfortable lives. I always suggest random, fun, off the wall shit to do, but they always decline. It kinda sucks. I'm thinking i'll probably start doing shit by myself. Getting to know new people is really hard where I live though, as people have a tendency keep to themselves or their past social groups. I'd consider myself a natural when it comes to pickup though, so often I don't really need to do much. I think my biggest issue is j…
/r/seduction09/11/18 05:58 PM
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what did you do to git gud that quickly? go out 3x every week for 3 months?
/r/seduction08/11/18 09:26 PM
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Feel ya. The dating game is really counter-intuitive at times. The less you do, the more she wants you. The more you try, the less she wants you. Female psychology omegalul.
/r/seduction08/11/18 05:29 PM
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If she didn’t respond to your suggedstion of a place, why would you send something again? You will just come of as desperate. Don’t send her any text until she texts you. You fucked up and now you need tp back away. She will probably text you within 2 weeks. The more you TRY to get her to chase, the less she will chase.
/r/seduction08/11/18 12:12 PM
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definetely not. you don’t want to set the frame of you chasing her.
/r/seduction05/11/18 01:15 AM
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Good, Denying that you are just friends fails the test. Confirming it also fails the test. Ignore.
/r/seduction05/11/18 12:59 AM
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ROFL. There's some truth in your joke though ;)
/r/seduction30/09/18 02:42 PM
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Women are insecure by nature, some more than others. Just brush of her excuse. If she insists she can't make it, just say "alright, let's just do it some other time" and move on. When a woman won't meet you out you DO NOT EVER give her free attention. Women want your attention always, and if you give it to them, they have no reason to meet you IRL. Did you make a move the first time you hung out? Sounds to me like she was really into you but since you didn't make a move or text her, her insecuri…
/r/seduction29/09/18 01:45 PM
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Cut contact. She'll probably contact you again within a week or two. When she reaches out and tries to start a conversation ("streak" on snap doesn't count"), set a date. Go on the date, escalate, have sex. Women naturally pursue, you just need to set dates and keep things moving forward. That's your responsibility.
/r/seduction29/09/18 01:30 PM
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So wait... You texted for 2-3 weeks, facetimed and didn't meet a single time? Then when she went 12 hours without texting you, you got insecure and started chasing her? Not trying to be a dick, but man the fuck up! ​ - You failed to set a date and became her pen pal - Just texting all the time and never setting a date comes accross as weak and is unnattractive as fuck - How the fuck do you become emotionally invested in someone when you didn't even meet them IRL much? - When you spend a lot of t…
/r/seduction29/09/18 12:45 PM
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Good thing you went for it IMO. The details really makes the difference in a situation like this. If the woman makes eye contact, breaks it looking down, and then meets eyes once more and smiles, you're in. If she just breaks it and looks down without meeting your eyes again, the eye contact was probably just accidental. Nothing lost from talking to her though :)
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 05:12 PM
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What person would get jealous over an exchange as innocuous as that? Women. By far the most jealous creatures. The hotter, the more jealous of when others get attention.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/18 05:08 PM
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Honestly, I feel like they put out a lot of good self-development stuff for free, especially Owen. Their PUA stuff that is free is pretty meh. Never paid for anything from them but why would I? You're essentially paying someone to help you push your comfort zone. You still have to put in the work no matter what, so why not do it yourself? ​ Learn the basics. Go out and try what works.
/r/seduction13/09/18 02:22 PM
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Some people just can't get a hard-on when they are on adderall. For me, it's super easy. However, cumming is almost impossible. I need to have a death grip and jerk it at the speed of light for 10 minutes straight. You literally get exhausted and have to take breaks. ​ Yeah basically just going through 200 tabs of porn, lol.
/r/seduction12/09/18 05:14 PM
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No one told me before i jacked off on adderall... I sure wish they would've.
/r/seduction11/09/18 11:55 PM
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Except for when you go on an eight hour fap-athon.
/r/seduction11/09/18 10:19 PM
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Rofl. Guess i'm not the only one who finds this question ridiculous.
/r/seduction07/09/18 12:30 AM
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Fear of intimacy. Fear of getting hurt. Fear of getting rejected (in the future). It's one of these. Either that, or you just aren't into them. I'd say it's most likely fear of intimacy though.
/r/seduction06/09/18 06:35 PM
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Act as if nothing ever happened. Be positive, smile, say hi, move on with your day. You shouldn't be avoiding them. The fact that you can say hi to them with a smile on your face after being rejected just shows them what an awesome person you are.
/r/seduction06/09/18 01:25 PM
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I've always thought Corey has very solid advice. Would love to get your opinion on the stuff of his that you don't agree with?
/r/seduction06/09/18 01:23 PM
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When women lose interest, the best things is ALWAYS to back off. If there's enough attraction left, she'll eventually contact you. I find that when i'm moving forward in life and making a lot of progress, a lot of the women i've been with in the past magically re-appear. It's like they realize how awesome I was (and am) compared to all other guys. Make progress in your life and the women will come :)
/r/seduction06/09/18 01:22 PM
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But she just got out of hospital and need my support This is what you tell yourself because you WANT and NEED to see her. Stop putting so much pressure on her. Love is meant to feel freeing, not suffocating. I don't know what your situation is really? Have you dated? Had sex? When did you last talk to her? When you text, who initiates? Is she still showing interest? I'd probably back off for a week with no texting and then set a date with her.
/r/seduction06/09/18 01:20 PM
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You're making it personal. You're ALLOWING it to affect how highly you value yourself. You can't do that. YOU ARE YOU no matter what. What value other people see in you DOES NOT MATTER. You need to see your own value and KNOW IT. Soon enough you will realize that your value is whatever you believe it to be. That's why confidence works so well with women. When you're confident, you KNOW that you have high value. People can sense this and thus, assume that you are high value. When you're not confi…
/r/seduction03/09/18 12:19 AM
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This shit is just ridiculous. It's not actually rejection that creates anger or aggression. It's ANY NEGATIVE EMOTION. Furthermore, it's not just the negative emotion itself, that leads to people taking out their pain on other people. It's a lack of control of ones own emotional state. So how do you feel now, talking about rejection as if it was nothing? Learning to face rejection is a way to learn emotional self-control. Going out KNOWING that you are going to get rejected, you ACCEPT it. That …
/r/seduction31/08/18 05:07 PM
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The thing is I detect she's very attracted to me and gave hints that she sees me as a long term partner. I get it, but you're not in a relationship yet. When you're in a relationship sending something like that maybe once every week is a good thing. When you're not yet in a relationship, letting her wonder about you is going to increase her attraction level more. I just thought a nice/flirty text later today to show I think she's sexy and had a good time last night would be good. Trust me, LET H…
/r/seduction29/08/18 06:46 PM
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Might be. Probably depends on the country/city too. I'd imagine it's worse in the US than in many european countries.
/r/seduction29/08/18 06:30 PM
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I personally would not, but should be fine if you do. If you don't she'll get back to you sometime during the week and then you can just set up your next date. That's the best way to go about it IMO. If she doesn't send you anything in 3-4 days, just hit her up for a new date. If you do decide to send that message, you need to lay back more after it. If you shoot her too much attention over the phone, she's not gonna be as enthusiastic about seing you in person. Give her less attention on the ph…
/r/seduction29/08/18 05:43 PM
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A girl was chasing me for 6 months and I wasn't really that interested at the time. A month or so after she stops chasing me, I shoot her a text asking to meet up. She flakes. A common friend told me she had said that I was "needy". ROFL. Literally only sent one text at one occasion. Girls who are 18-21 man holy shit hahaha. Her chasing me for 6 months wasn't needy, but me shooting her one text apparently is.
/r/seduction29/08/18 05:38 PM
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Yeah, sounds like you're on the opposite end though. He's being ridiculed because he doesn't know how to handle it, which makes it feel really bad. You know how to handle it, so with your friends it just becomes friendly banter instead. The real advice here is that OP needs to learn to make witty comebacks.
/r/seduction29/08/18 05:30 PM
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Basically, these are shit tests. Girls aren't the only ones who shit-test, guys do it to. Everyone does it. They will continue to shit-test you until you start passing their shit tests. The only way to stop it is to pass their shit test over and over again and eventually they will stop doing it as much. See it as funny when they say that shit to you. Take it as an opportunity to fuck with them. Have fun with it. “shut up OP you virgin” You're just mad I fucked your mom ;) This needs to come off …
/r/seduction29/08/18 05:26 PM
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Don't beat yourself up bro. Look at the conversation. What the actual fuck did she contribute? You asked all the questions. YOU were driving the conversation. She didn't even try to get it going. If the person you're in conversation with doesn't even try, it's really hard to get the conversation going.
/r/seduction29/08/18 12:35 AM
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Corey Wayne on youtube.
/r/seduction27/08/18 11:28 PM
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How would you ask out a friend whom you haven't seen for a long time? Asking out women should be no different. For me that'd be just like hunterpua said in his comment "WE SHOULD". "It's been a while, we should grab a drink some night. When are you free?" Always suggest rather than ask. Also don't ever say "if you're free", "no pressure", "only if you want to", etc to women. It implies that you think they don't want to see you. I know... As a guy those extra phrases don't mean anything. But wome…
/r/seduction27/08/18 07:42 PM
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Good shit right here.
/r/seduction27/08/18 04:53 PM
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It's worth it if you're willing to lose her as a friend. The fact that you're even asking just indicates that you really aren't that interested in her as a friend, but more in a sexual way. If your main interest in her is sexual, I honestly don't know why you wouldn't make a move. I recently made a move on one of my long term female friends. She quickly changed subject and moved on - REJECTED. I cut contact with her. She tried to get my attention back by sending memes every day for 2 weeks with …
/r/seduction27/08/18 04:51 PM
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It's all situational. Make your own rules. I never buy drinks for people I don't know. I occasionally buy it for friends or girls i've already had sex with. They need to EARN the drink before you buy it for them, otherwise they'll disappear the moment you buy them the drink.
/r/seduction27/08/18 04:28 PM
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Your mindset is what makes it creepy. If you're just looking at it as giving it more time, it's not creepy. You're getting to know eachother more over a drink since she isn't completely comfortable with you yet.
/r/seduction27/08/18 04:25 PM
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Getting to sex is a process. She isn't going to ask you to fuck her the moment you say hi to her.
/r/seduction26/08/18 07:04 PM
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No... I'm saying she is testing you. And you need to learn to pass that test. If you pass that test, your value will, in her eyes, go up.
/r/seduction26/08/18 06:47 PM
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Women always try to put guys down, that's what shit-testing is. They try to put you down and when they fail to do so, your value and attractiveness goes up in their eyes. The reason you're getting more shit than others is because you're short. It's 100% INSTINCTUAL for women to test men. They will test you for the shit you seem the most insecure about. The weaker you seem, the harder they pick at you. Whether they are fucking bitches or not doesn't really matter, accept nature for what it is. Ne…
/r/seduction26/08/18 06:41 PM
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They are testing you and you're failing their tests. It's that simple.
/r/seduction26/08/18 06:15 PM
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Some women are just going to give less obvious signals. When you feel it's right, say "hey" or something like that to get her to look into your eyes. Then just hold eye contact and the tension will naturally lead to kissing.
/r/seduction26/08/18 02:56 AM
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Of course you still want to be coordinated, you can't rush it. When you feel it, make eye contact, hold, look at her lips, back in her eyes, pull her in, kiss. Just make it feel natural for yourself. Most girls won't go on more than 2 dates if the guy doesn't make a move. They assume he's not interested or just weak and inexperienced. This is probably your last chance to make something happen, no pressure.
/r/seduction26/08/18 02:05 AM
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That's because you're inexperienced.
/r/seduction26/08/18 01:56 AM
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Also, make her compete for you. Show her you've got other options. When women see that other women want a specific guy, they all want him.
/r/seduction26/08/18 01:56 AM
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If she's doing a lot of body contact and touching, that's a signal to go. Most feminine women don't give too overt signals. The issue is that you're not completely comfortable going for it. You missed your window of opportunity for the kiss, which is why she lost interest later in the date. You need to cut down on contact, make a real date and make real moves. I doubt she'll put you into friendzone, however she might make you an orbitier, which is why you need to lessen your texting.
/r/seduction26/08/18 01:54 AM
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Doubt it had anything to do with his breath. Pretty sure he just missed his window of opportunity for going for the kiss, after which she lost interest slightly. Also, don't ask her. Shows insecurity, which is really unattractive to women.
/r/seduction26/08/18 01:51 AM
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Sadly, we all do this when we are in scarcity.
/r/seduction10/08/18 09:41 PM
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This is so fucking true. Good shit.
/r/seduction09/08/18 07:39 PM
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rofl
/r/seduction07/08/18 07:47 PM
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No offense but this advice is really bad. If a man doesn't make a move within the first 2-3 dates, women generally move on to the next guy. He should DEFINETELY make a move on this date. I'm not saying to rush it, but it should happen sometime during the 4th date. OP paying for stuff is not going to guarantee she is into him, i'd say if anything, it's the opposite.
/r/seduction07/08/18 01:55 PM
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Either you're escalating too quickly and you need to build more comfort first, or she's not that interested. More time and more flirting before escalation. Think of it as either she's into it, or she's not. There's no in-between. You'd know if she was into it.
/r/seduction07/08/18 01:53 PM
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Sounds to me like you're just failing to make a move. The women seem to be really into you but you're just waiting for something to happen. As the man, it is your duty to make something happen. When you're really close to her, try looking at her lips. Then back to her eyes. Then lips, and eyes again. If she does this too, go for the kiss. Romance and attraction is not logical so stop trying to make it a logical agreement. You need to slowly move it towards your bedroom. Get close to eachother. K…
/r/seduction07/08/18 01:49 PM
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Either it's a shit-test or she genuinely isn't interested. If she agrees to go out 1 on 1 with you when she doesn't know you... Yeah she's probably down for more than something platonic. But if you agreed to something platonic, then you failed her shit-test.
/r/seduction07/08/18 12:51 PM
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The best way to meet quality girls is to go out and meet girls. You're probably looking for an easy way out where you don't have to put in hard work and risk rejection. You just need to get out there and meet a lot of women. That's truly the easiest way.
/r/seduction07/08/18 01:31 AM
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All guys are told that women are innocent creatures who only have sex when they are in a relationship. That's how we grow up. But when you go out there and get shit done... You realize that every girl is a hoe deep down, just like us guys.
/r/seduction06/08/18 09:56 PM
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This will be your last date with her if you don't make a move. Most women don't go on a 3rd date if you haven't made a move yet. Most women sleep with a man by the 2nd or 3rd date. You HAVE TO kiss her on this date. Then take it from there.
/r/seduction06/08/18 09:39 PM
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Which is exactly why she should come to you. You don't put yourself out there for women who don't respect you. If she wants anything, she has to come get it.
/r/seduction03/08/18 04:07 PM
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Just focus on having fun and hooking up. The man should never be the one pursuing a relationship. If you let her come to you at her pace instead of trying to force a relationship, who knows what will happen. Maybe she'll fall for you. Stop talking about your emotions and focusing on a relationship and just focus on having fun together instead.
/r/seduction03/08/18 04:05 PM
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Just get her to hang out one on one and make a move. She's clearly really into you. She's just putting up resistance. Get past that resistance by making it seem like you're just hanging out and having fun. When you put it that way, that also makes her "not her fault" when she "accidentally" sleeps with you. NEVER let her know you're into her through text, so good job on that. If you let her know how you feel, she will INSTANTLY lose attraction. Let your actions show how you feel instead.
/r/seduction02/08/18 02:58 PM
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There is no definite way to tell... You've got to go based on the vibe that you guys have IRL. Does she seem into you? Don't project your interest onto her. Make a realistic assessment. Is there sexual tension? Have you been friends for long? Does she look at you with the "anime eyes"?
/r/seduction02/08/18 02:50 PM
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If you think this is cringe that would explain why you're not having any success yourself.
/r/seduction02/08/18 02:47 PM
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Being physically attractive gets your foot in the door but you will still 99% of the time need to take the same steps a less attractive man would have to do. You still need to tease, get her to qualify, etc. Your problem is that you're attractive, which gets womens interest, but then you fail to capitalize on that interest. Learn to tease, flirt, getting her to qualify, etc. Be a challenge.
/r/seduction02/08/18 02:43 PM
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A woman doesn't know if she WANTS to have sex with a guy with the first two seconds. She knows if she WOULD have sex with a guy. Subtle, but very different.
/r/seduction02/08/18 02:41 PM
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Seems like all of this is basically just your theory on why your life got worse. Something tells me that your life getting shittier has to do with you getting complacent and picking up bad habits again rather than the crops or meat being bad. Have you had your T-level checked up? Might just be ageing too.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/18 03:38 PM
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How to pick up girls at the beach: The same way you do it anywhere. Kind of pointless content tbh.
/r/seduction01/08/18 01:25 AM
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Damn that's true. Never thought of it that way. I've been working on removing porn, masturbation and sugar from my life. Never thought about it before but really, it's only because I know i'm addicted to them. Being addicted to shit puts you in a weak state where you're always dependent on something outside of yourself. You're hooked on a low-vibration energy. Good shit, i'm cutting out youtube next.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/18 12:46 PM
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You can overcome anything as long as you put the work in.
/r/seduction26/06/18 04:19 PM
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Stop fucking around, go out and grab drinks with her.
/r/seduction26/06/18 11:17 AM
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I want to make her attracted to me again but fear I may only get this one chance, I feel I need her to leave wanting and needing more, any advice? Only advice I have for you is to NEVER let fear control your actions. Nothing good ever comes out of it.
/r/seduction24/06/18 10:53 PM
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Please don't do this... At least lock eyes and dance with her normally first and THEN escalate into grinding. Just imagine if a 2m tall muscular dude started grinding on you in a club, how would that make you feel? That's how it makes most women feel.
/r/seduction23/06/18 08:16 PM
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Good shit. Being playful always works.
/r/seduction22/06/18 07:23 PM
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Woman 1: Should not bother you. You are awesome and your life is awesome. If you see her again, simply say "hi :)" and move on with your day. Woman 2: Was probably having a shitty day or was just a bitch. It's really hard to not take that kind of shit personal but trust me, it's not personal. Never let anyone diminish your value. Woman 3: Good job bro :)
/r/seduction22/06/18 07:22 PM
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You're probably initiating too much contact. If you're always available to her, she won't value your messages or your time. If you're unavailable a lot, she will be the one pursuing, and she'll be quick to respond to anything you send. The woman should always be the one pursuing.
/r/seduction12/06/18 03:27 PM
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She avoids eye-contact, but still puts herself near you by her own choice? Receptive to kino? She initiates contact? What more signs do you need? x) Women who are into you often avoid eye-contact with you when you are with a group of friends. They do this because they don't want everyone to tease them for liking you. They also don't want to come off as too eager. She seems into you, and is probably just waiting for you to make a move.
/r/seduction31/05/18 10:29 PM
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If a girl is really into you and is shy, or wants to "hide" it, she may avoid eye-contact. Normally when they do this though, they look down, not to the sides. Looking to the sides is more like "whoops I don't want that eye-contact". Just because she liked you 2 years ago, that doesn't mean she still does. However, it's hard to say really. What feeling do you get when you interact with her? Does it feel more like she goes shy, or does it feel more like she's avoiding you? Not just in this intera…
/r/seduction31/05/18 10:20 PM
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How well do you know her? Do you have a past with her? Would you say she is a shy girl (if you don't look at this particular interaction)? When she looks away, does she look down or to the side?
/r/seduction31/05/18 10:13 PM
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If she is COMPLETELY avoiding eye contact, i'd say it's because she doesn't like you, you're giving of a creepy vibe, or she knows that you like her. If she gives you really short eye-contact, that could mean that she's into you. It could also mean that she's not comfortable with you. It's really hard to say without context, body language, etc.
/r/seduction31/05/18 10:08 PM
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Can't speak for him, but IMO, there's definitely something to it. If you are always responding within 5 minutes, you're going to come off as "eager", "needy" or "desperate". It's fine to get back to her within a few minutes every now and again, but if you're always doing it, that's just going to come off like you've got nothing going on in your life.
/r/seduction31/05/18 09:35 PM
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Setting up a date 2 weeks ahead of time seems like a guaranteed flake unless she thinks you're like a 10/10.
/r/seduction27/05/18 03:45 PM
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You're probably sending snaps/texts with the hopes and expectations that certain people will reply. Stop sending shit just because you want peoples' attention. Send shit because you find it funny. Right now it seems like you're focused on GETTING. You WANT their attention and validation because it makes you feel good. Instead, start GIVING. Give by sending whatever the fuck you want to send. By doing that, you won't care about them responding.
/r/seduction27/05/18 03:44 PM
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Statements of intent are great when you're just meeting a girl. When you already know them it doesn't quite work the same way. Also, it's really all in HOW you say it. Hey, I know you probably don't want to hear this but i've thought for a long time that you are really pretty. I'm sorry I just felt like I had to let you know vs Holy fuck you're hot Which one do you think women prefer? The insecure guy who needed weeks before he mustered up the courage to apologetically compliment her? Pretty sur…
/r/seduction27/05/18 03:36 PM
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Showing intent is perfectly fine. Telling them how much you like them in a really insecure and weak way like OP did is not fine. Not if you want your interaction to go anywhere at least.
/r/seduction27/05/18 03:29 PM
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Yup, kinda cringey. Women don't want you to puke your emotions all over them. The whole point of seduction is to get her attracted to you and then make a move. You should never need to tell a woman how you feel about her.
/r/seduction27/05/18 01:59 PM
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Why the fuck would you say "since my friends are busy". Would you want to hang out with someone who said that to you? Disrespectful as fuck. Just ask her to hang out because you want to hang out, no need to justify your actions.
/r/seduction24/05/18 05:05 PM
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It seems like you have unrealistic expectations. This understanding and these changes aren't going to come instantly. Like any good thing in life, you have to work to get good at it. Keep studying and try things. Look into Corey Wayne on Youtube, highly recommend all of his stuff. He has great stuff for guys in relationships too.
/r/seduction22/05/18 10:40 PM
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Great advice. As long as you don't care about your age, neither will the girls. They might be surprised, but if they are attracted to you, they won't care. Don't show hesitation when they ask your age, that shows insecurity. No need to tell them your age, that just shows that you're insecure about it. Let it come up naturally in conversation. If they ask, you simply answer it like you would any other question.
/r/seduction22/05/18 10:37 PM
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"Hi". Really. The hardest part is always approaching. Remember, humans are social beings. Socializing often takes care of itself if you just let it. Just say hi and take things from there. Don't put pressure on yourself to take it anywhere. It can just be casual conversation. If things go well, that's when you take it up a notch.
/r/seduction22/05/18 10:35 PM
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I think it's fine as a general rule, but if you actually did something wrong you need to take responsibility and say sorry. However, never go back on your negs and teases. Saying "just kidding" is a way of saying sorry. Saying shit like that is just a way to defuse tension. Tension is REQUIRED for attraction. Don't. Fucking. Release. Tension.
/r/seduction22/05/18 10:33 PM
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Although I do agree with you, no need to put him down. We're all at different points of this. Let's try to help eachother instead by giving constructive criticism.
/r/seduction22/05/18 10:31 PM
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Something that seems to be echoed in this sub is "the night starts when you leave your house" and that's the fucking truth. If you start talking to people and start having fun the moment you leave your house, people will naturally end up being attracted to you as the night goes on as you will exude fun, happy, confidence.
/r/seduction22/05/18 10:28 PM
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Go anywhere drinks are served. Approach people, talk, have fun.
/r/seduction22/05/18 10:26 PM
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You feel creepy because you're hiding your real intentions. Your biology tells you to say go up and talk to her but you force yourself not to. Simply say "hi". That way you won't feel weird walking past her later. You don't need to do anything beyond that. You're both people.
/r/seduction22/05/18 10:25 PM
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Wrong.
/r/seduction22/05/18 10:09 AM
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"You'll have to ask all these questions when we meet on friday ;)" Don't confirm the date. It shows that you are unsure of wether she's coming or not (which most of the time leads to her not coming). If you really feel like you NEED TO confirm, do it in a different way. "I'm running 5 minutes late" "Wear something sexy tonight ;)" The point is that your "confirmation" can't seem like you're unsure of wether she's coming or not. If you show that kind of weakness you are going to make her become u…
/r/seduction22/05/18 10:09 AM
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Teasing is fun. If a woman takes it personally, it's because she's insecure. Trust me, you don't want to be with an insecure woman. They take all of the fun out of romance.
/r/seduction22/05/18 10:05 AM
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I'd say she was interested up until OP opened his mouth. "I haven't stopped thinking about you since I met you" Come on... You can't say this after you just made it seem like you forgot her. Women don't ever want to hear this shit coming out of a man's mouth. It makes you seem needy, weak and desperate. You're trying too hard to get with her again. You should just engage in normal, fun conversation with her and the rest will come naturally.
/r/seduction22/05/18 09:43 AM
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Crazy was just jealous. When you gave her validation she lost interest. Then you kept trying again, again, etc. You seemed to be doing alright otherwise. I'd personally focus less on finding girls and more on finding some awesome people to have fun with and then take it from there.
/r/seduction21/05/18 09:12 AM
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The whole point with getting rejected over and over is coming to the realization that REJECTION IS JUST REJECTION. It is not a reflection of your value. You need to start drawing your value from within yourself. What makes you fucking awesome? Just because some stranger can't instantly see your value, that doesn't mean that you have no value. Find the things that you love about yourself.
/r/seduction21/05/18 09:05 AM
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Completely depends how far you've gotten with her, how into you she is, how sexual she is, etc, etc.
/r/seduction21/05/18 09:02 AM
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Expecting all the answers to be dropped in your lap is definetely not the way to go. Make some research. Check the sidebar. If you want to get better at something you need to put in the effort.
/r/seduction20/05/18 05:54 PM
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When she says IHABF, brush it off like it's a shit test and continue the conversation. "Are you suggesting a threesome?" "Wowowow, calm down tiger, so aggressive!" "I have 3" "He can keep you busy when you're not with me ;)" ETC. You can really say whatever the fuck you want to as long as you say it the right way. Also, make sure it fits the vibe. Something as a aggressive as the first one isn't going to work if there's a really non-sexual vibe. Anyway, just continue the conversation and move it…
/r/seduction20/05/18 04:50 PM
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It's fine to open up the conversation any way you want, but it should lead to asking her out on a date within 3-4 texts. Women appreciate men who don't beat around the bush. She knows why you're texting her and when you're making a long-ass conversation instead of getting to the point it just makes you seem weak. Texting any more than 5 texts is just going to lower your chances IMO. Open up in a natural way and then get to the point. If you haven't built any rapport in person, the flake rate is …
/r/seduction20/05/18 04:29 PM
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It's referring to the guys that OP wrote about in his post. It has nothing to do with what 9-5 guys are like in reality.
/r/seduction17/05/18 09:22 PM
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You're probably just texting and snapping a shit ton without taking it anywhere. If you don't make a move she'll assume you're weak and move on. She's probably going to be pretty flaky at this point, but you should make an attempt to meet her. "hey, we should grab drinks later this week, when are you free?" Stop trying to "keep it going" over text. Make a fucking move, invite her out.
/r/seduction17/05/18 09:06 PM
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This is actually the most valuable thing any man can learn. The moment when you realize that it's all in your head... It's all how you see things. When you realize that, you become a free man. It is literally the craziest thing i've ever learned and I can only hope the same for every other person on this planet. Your beliefs shape your thoughts. Your thoughts manifest themselves in how you present yourself (in terms of behaviour). Your behaviour shapes how people see you. When your beliefs are p…
/r/seduction17/05/18 08:49 PM
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"You're not too bad" with a sly smile. Don't take it seriously. Have fun with it.
/r/seduction17/05/18 08:39 PM
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I can see how it would seem that way as a beginner. Corey Wayne's content is all about you learning to be a man and what it entails to be a man. The "text a girl after this long" is just a technique for people who are just starting out. When you fully understand the rest of his content you won't need those techniques anymore.
/r/seduction17/05/18 08:11 PM
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I'd probably write "I just want to hang out, have fun and let whatever happens happen. If you aren't down for that, that's fine."
/r/seduction17/05/18 07:09 PM
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Looks pretty solid. How did you meet her the first time around? Also, to give some criticism: If you haven't built enough comfort yet, the woman isn't going to be comfortable going straight to the bed with you, even if it's just sitting on the bed. You need to take small baby steps. Get a glass of wine, sit down on the couch and talk. Get closer, touch, kiss, THEN you move it to the bedroom. You've got to ease them into it. You could've probably closed that. She came into your place knowing what…
/r/seduction17/05/18 05:09 PM
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The only thing you can do if you're interested in her is to say the following: "I get it and it's fine that you feel that way, but i'm not interested in being just friends. If you want to get together and have fun some time, hit me up :)" Then you DO NOT text her again. If she is still interested, she will come back to you (probably within 7 days). If she does, set a date and this time ACTUALLY HAVE SEX. I can read between the lines and see that you aren't escalating enough. She wants to have se…
/r/seduction17/05/18 05:00 PM
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Is it just me or does it feel like these kind of posts are upvoted by bots? Almost all of the "marketing" content that leads to youtube or other websites almost always get more upvotes than all the other posts despite providing real shit content.
/r/seduction17/05/18 03:25 PM
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Completely agree with you. People always look for the easiest way to get something. What's easier? To go out there and take actual risks, or to USE THESE 3 MINDBLOWING TECHNIQUES. In reality it's easier to build confidence than it is to fake it, because once you've learned confidence you can't unlearn it.
/r/seduction17/05/18 03:11 PM
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Thanks man, appreciate it. Certain techniques will always be useful, however I think they serve mostly as a good starting point. They give you something to work with. As you gain experience, you start moving away from techniques and more towards understanding what the underlying reasons for attraction are.
/r/seduction17/05/18 09:39 AM
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Women respond to the energy behind your message. Feminine energy is unsure in it's nature. Most of the time, women don't know what they want to do, so they take social cues from other people to make up their mind. Often times, they will go along with whatever the most confident person thinks they should do. This means that if you ask a open-ended question where you're not leading and she has to make a clear choice, that makes it hard for her. Women DO NOT want to make the decisions, that's for t…
/r/seduction17/05/18 09:32 AM
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After you've been into game for a while, you learn one thing. Manipulation and techniques work in the moment. You may be able to get a woman in bed. You may even be able to get her into a relationship, but that relationship is either going to go bad or not last. Instead of learning techniques, it's better to adapt the right state of mind. That way you don't have to think about things as they will come naturally to you. My belief is that brutal honesty, emotional strength, going for what you want…
/r/seduction17/05/18 09:18 AM
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Let me guess, you're either 12 or a woman? Probably daddy issues too.
/r/seduction16/05/18 06:05 PM
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Go troll somewhere else.
/r/seduction16/05/18 05:41 PM
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I'm not here to learn, i'm here to help others who are in the same place I used to be. You clearly don't know anything about seduction if you think it's about "being a decent human being". And you're right, i'm not sorry.
/r/seduction16/05/18 05:15 PM
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People come here to learn how to get women to have sex with them. To get women to have sex with them, they first have to learn how to get women to become interested in them. That's why this subreddit is called seduction and not sex. If people came here wanting to learn how to have sex they would go to /r/sex. Sorry, but this thread is entirely fucking pointless.
/r/seduction16/05/18 05:07 PM
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Not because they are 9-5 guys. If they are fucked it's because they are deseperate and don't act like men. Validation is something most guys give when they WANT something. If you completely unapologetically say "holy fuck you're sexy, what's your number?" with COMPLETE CONFIDENCE, she will love that. That does not come of as validation because you're not trying to please her. You don't want anything from her. You're just stating your reality and you don't care what she thinks about it. You're co…
/r/seduction16/05/18 05:02 PM
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I think it's pretty obvious to everyone that seduction is not the same thing as sex. Sex is the goal with seduction (for most people).
/r/seduction16/05/18 04:56 PM
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Not sure how this post gives any kind of value?
/r/seduction16/05/18 04:45 PM
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Women care A LOT LESS about looks than you'd think. Start developing your personality. Talk to everyone. It's easier said than done obviously, but I think that's the best thing you can do. Us guys fall for women based on their appearance. Women fall for us based mostly on our "confidence".
/r/seduction16/05/18 12:01 PM
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Honestly bro... I'm sorry. You've shown too much weakness. She is 110% NOT INTERESTED. Move on.
/r/seduction16/05/18 11:57 AM
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Completely agree with you. She is unhappy in her current relationship and is probably trying to get her current boyfriend to "step up". That's probably why she's taking all of those selfies. If he doesn't step up i'd say you have a good chance OP. If he does step up, it's unlikely anything will happen between you. She is definetely using you though (by getting you to pay for shit). You accepting to pay for it, knowing she is in a relationship, is just weak as fuck though so I doubt she wants to …
/r/seduction16/05/18 11:54 AM
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I told her that I wanted to see her soon Yeaaah. You needed to be more direct than that. "Let's go grab drinks sometime this week, when are you free?" She definetely seemed interested. However, you've clearly acted weak around her before so her interest is going to fluctuate really easily. I would wait for her to text you back. Don't send another text. If she doesn't send anything within a week, call her and set a definite date. Continuing to chase is only going to make her lose more attraction,…
/r/seduction16/05/18 11:51 AM
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If you are having a hard time attracting women it is most likely because you are acting too timid and feminine around them. Women want a man who goes for what he wants. It's about learning to not give a fuck about others opinions about you. Knowing your own value and that your value is ENTIRELY dependent on your own thoughts about yourself. Knowing this, you can do anything you want. You can go up to a girl and say "Holy fuck, you look amazing. We should grab drinks sometime, what's your number?…
/r/seduction16/05/18 11:46 AM
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Women are attracted to MEN. That's really all it is. So what qualities does a man have? Emotional Strength Social Dominance Self Respect Confidence in his sexuality Don't give a fuck attitude Goes for what he wants and doesn't beat around the bush Validation is really a misunderstood part of seduction. Women LOVE validation, but the guy who validates her is not going to be the one who fucks her. A man doesn't validate women. He goes for what he wants unappologetically and doesn't give a fuck if …
/r/seduction16/05/18 11:36 AM
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Sexual and Emotional = Hopeless Romantic/Relationship that's destined to fail Agree with everything you said except this. If the woman is sexually and emotionally attracted to you, she will want to make it work no matter what. At least if you are doing everything right in the relationship.
/r/seduction15/05/18 11:00 PM
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How to meet women in a #Metoo Era: The same way men have always met women.
/r/seduction15/05/18 02:15 PM
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7/10 is shit? I'm like 5/10 ROFL. Stop being an insecure little bitch. Man up.
/r/seduction15/05/18 11:37 AM
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Can I just say that the only way your relationship will last until marriage is by you standing up for what you want. If you aren't interested in waiting with sex until marriage, let her know. Stand up for what YOU want. A woman will never respect you if you don't stand up for what YOU want. And she will never love a man she doesn't respect. That doesn't mean that you should pressure her into it. It means to say "This is what I want, and if you aren't interested in that, so be it; i'm moving on".
/r/seduction15/05/18 11:36 AM
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Constantly looking over my shoulder to see who I'm texting (mind you this is by the third date) I don't know why you're texting when you're on a date, but women who are really into you will always want to see who else you're texting with. Women are jealous creatures by nature and naturally want to make sure that they get a man they are really attracted to for themselves. This one is a compliment, not a red flag IMO.
/r/seduction15/05/18 11:33 AM
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The only times you should be texting her is if You found something funny that you want to show her She contacts you You want to set a date If you meet eachother often IRL I don't think rarely talking over text/snapchat is a problem. If you don't meet often IRL and she doesn't text you much, her interest level in you is probably pretty low.
/r/seduction15/05/18 11:28 AM
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A lot of answers here that don't really get to the bottom of the issue. Being needy is rooted in not feeling fulfilled without having someone else in your life. It's thinking that you need someone to complete you and your life. When you feel that way you are naturally going to be chasing people, trying to force them into what you want, etc. You should present what you want to the world and wait for the world to get back to you. If the world doesn't give you what you want, that's fine and you mov…
/r/seduction15/05/18 11:24 AM
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Now you might say that the solution is simple. That I should just stop seeing my stutter as a problem. It's not that simple. Now that I '' see it '' I cannot unsee it. Seems to me like you already know the answer but you just don't know how to get there. Some women are going to dislike your stutter. Most are not going to care. But IF you are insecure about it, every woman you meet is going to dislike it. It sounds really counter intuitive but this is just how women work. Think about it. If you a…
/r/seduction15/05/18 11:20 AM
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Cut the small talk. You need to just go for what you want. "Hey, it's been a long time, let's grab drinks soon, when are you free?" If she says she is unsure when she is available, simply let her know "Alright, well get back to me when you figure your schedule out and we'll do something then" Then cut contact for good. If she is even remotely interested to you she will get back to you. If she isn't interested at all, you'll never hear from her again. For the love of god, don't keep doing small t…
/r/seduction15/05/18 11:14 AM
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Get hobbies. Hang out with friends. Hang out with your friends' friends. Go to concerts. Start talking to people wherever you go (not just women).
/r/seduction15/05/18 11:10 AM
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Approach women who are approachable. If you startle a woman she isn't going to be receptive to meeting you anyway.
/r/seduction15/05/18 11:09 AM
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Bro... Stop being insecure. That's the only thing that is killing you right now. You look good, i'd say 7/10. Women aren't assholes. If they are going to talk shit about you and laugh at you, they won't do it in front of your face. The only reason they would do this shit is because they find you attractive. Women will tease and be mean to guys they like, that's how it works. You're just letting your insecurity get in the way.
/r/seduction15/05/18 11:08 AM
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Great advice. To add to this, DO NOT be just friends with her if you don't want that. You need to respect yourself. If you don't respect yourself, neither will women. Women will NEVER be romantically or sexually interested in a man they don't respect.
/r/seduction15/05/18 11:02 AM
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Women think they want one thing, but respond to something completely different and you're a great example of that. If you saw someone with a Beatles shirt, you might think "ughh" because your association with that is weak guys. If confident man wore that and you actually got to talk to him you'd probably be all over him.
/r/seduction15/05/18 10:51 AM
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Wtf HAHAHAHA this is actually hilarious. Don't do this OP.
/r/seduction15/05/18 12:47 AM
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This is what it means to become a man. With all that strength and confidence comes a completely different way of looking at life. You learn to take pleasure in other things in life. Seeing your friends. Working. Listening to music. Going to the gym. All these things become 10x better but sadly the drug that is love becomes 10x weaker. You've gotten to a point where you KNOW you can get anyone and so it just isn't EXCITING anymore. It's the unknowingness of attraction and love that makes it so mu…
/r/seduction15/05/18 12:38 AM
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Fuck yes bro. This is what you need to do. If she won't give you what you want, you walk the fuck away. Respect yourself and love yourself always. Don't be surprised if she becomes interested in you when she starts hearing you're hooking up with other women. The reason she doesn't want you as anything more than a friend is because she doesn't see you in a sexual light. That changes quickly when she realizes you're out there fucking other women.
/r/seduction15/05/18 12:31 AM
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Looks is A part of it, and a very small one at that. If you're not a 9 or a 10 you aren't going to have much of an advantage over anyone else. I'd say race may matter more, however i'd say that it's very likely to be closer related to the personality differences that often come with the races rather than the race themselves. For example, shy asian men (who fulfill the stereotype) are going to have a harder time finding women that confident asian men. Women care a lot less about your looks and ra…
/r/seduction15/05/18 12:22 AM
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Definitely. You literally don't know eachother. Treat her like a person. She won't go out with a guy who's pushing her to do something she isn't comfortable doing. Don't make it a big deal and she will totally go out with you.
/r/seduction15/05/18 12:18 AM
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It's almost impossible to create attraction over text. Women don't operate that way. Get out there in real life bro, you're going to have 10x the success. You'll also learn 10x faster. If you're unable to get them to meet you though, i'd say it's most likely because: You haven't built enough comfort You're pushing for something she's uncomfortable with You're pushing too hard or acting desperate They are bots or catfishing you Say hi, have a good conversation, let her know "hey you seem like a c…
/r/seduction15/05/18 12:05 AM
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No. Women don't give a flying fuck about what your interests are as long as you OWN IT. If you're even a tiny bit insecure about what they will think about it, they will detect that insecurity and it will turn them off. Get comfortable with it. KNOW that women don't care as long as you aren't insecure about it.
/r/seduction14/05/18 11:59 PM
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Easy to say, but hard to in practice. The easiest way to actually apply this is to think "What would I do if this was X?" in any situation. X being a girl you aren't attracted to.
/r/seduction14/05/18 11:55 PM
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That's a complete shit attitude. Most women don't give a fuck about your looks if you're above 5/10 and just act like a man. Hot girls never date down in the social hierarchy, but looks isn't even a part of that.
/r/seduction14/05/18 11:53 PM
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I'd say that there is ONE fundamental that everything goes under and it's BE A MAN. Women are attracted to your strength as a man. Every single thing that you mentioned could be attributed to being a man, it's just a matter of how far you want to break it down.
/r/seduction14/05/18 11:51 PM
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Almost never happens to men. ANY MAN would fucking love that, no matter if he's interested or not. We wouldn't think it was desperate, we'd think it was awesome. Honestly men are really simple. The one thing every man wants is an attractive woman. If you look decent and take care of yourself i'm sure you'll do well with any man you walk up to. I'd say only really confident men who have met a lot of women would want a very submissive woman.
/r/seduction14/05/18 11:47 PM
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He followed us around and and never participated in conversation. He might aswell have not been there. He just didn't have any presence. I don't know about you but to me that just screams beta. If you aren't engaging in conversation why are you even there? I wouldn't listen to other people have a conversation for hours and I don't think any self-respecting man would.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/18 12:07 AM
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LOL. Yeah that's one way to see it.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/18 11:04 PM
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This woman was clearly unhappy because she had too much control in her relationship. I feel like it all started out as a test for her boyfriend to try to get him to not be a beta cuck. When women have too much control they are unhappy. What a fucking whacko.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/18 06:52 PM
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We all do this whether you belive it or not. Men may however not do it to the same extent that women do. For example, let's assume you told a person coke is bad and you even proved it to them. They would most likely continue drinking coke because they want it so badly. The rationalization might be "noone else is getting sick from it", "i'm not gonna get diabetes", "you're exaggerating", "just one last coke", etc. We are built to want and seek out certain things.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/18 10:16 AM
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Sure, I agree with you on that. What i'm trying to say though is that our short term thinking and way of life reinforces certain neural pathways. A lot of us get used to wanting the instant gratification and consequently anything else that should give a noticeable dopamine release (feel-good hormone) just doesn't do as much as it should. Obviously this varies from person to person, but I know that for me it's a struggle. I don't procrastinate because i'm scared of failing or because i'm scared o…
/r/TheRedPill09/05/18 05:01 PM
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Don't know if i'd believe that personally. I think it has more to do with the fact that instant gratification is everywhere. We're all dopamine junkies. That's why we eat and drink and masturbate when we're bored. It makes us feel good NOW. Why would you wait to feel good when you can feel good right now, with little to no effort?
/r/TheRedPill09/05/18 03:30 PM
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uhh... make sure it fits into the conversation or you say it just as you greet her or else it's going to come off as incongruent or creepy
/r/seduction08/05/18 11:53 AM
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If she cheats because you're not giving her attention... Throw that bitch in a garbage can lol.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 09:00 PM
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When you're scared of her cheating, you're subconciously going to act in a way, and say things that show that you're scared of losing her. By doing this you're showing weakness and insecurity, which is a huge turn off for women.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 08:59 PM
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2 weeks? I go 3 days and I'd be willing to fuck a toilet paper roll.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/18 01:11 PM
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You say you're not a texter. You make explanations as to why you don't have time to text, and then you still initiate meaningless texting on Wednesday? Looks like you're changing your behaviour for her. Stop being weak. Do as you please when it comes to asking her out. I wouldn't set a new date after she ditches on you and does other shit though. I'd let her know that something came up and that I won't be available much this week.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/18 01:46 PM
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I'd argue it isn't disrespect at all. Someone whom I've never met says i'm "not amazing"? That literally means nothing to me. Sounds more like OP got unnecessarily butthurt. If i'd known them, sure then i'd consider it disrespect.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/18 04:59 PM
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Applies anywhere you're forced to continue meeting the people you're flirting with. Especially at work, because there it is going to affect your future. In high school I don't know really... I think it's fine to flirt with the girls there, but you might get a bad reputation if you go around flirting with everyone. Would do better meeting girls elsewhere.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 08:53 PM
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Oneitis is a phenomenon that has a direct correlation with a scarcity mentality. IMO it comes from believeing that THIS SPECIFIC GIRL is better than all other girls; that you won't be able to get anyone like her ever again. That's something you only believe in when you're in scarcity. When you're in scarcity it's so hard to see your own value too, so it all becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Get out there, meet more women and you'll soon realize that she's just another girl. She's no different …
/r/TheRedPill14/04/18 06:38 PM
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It just goes to show what this subreddit has become. I mean just the other day a post about "5 cheap first date ideas" got over 100 upvotes. Like come on, how does that even qualify as content?
/r/seduction12/04/18 11:40 PM
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Your message is fine.
/r/seduction11/04/18 10:16 PM
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Well if she was all over your cock on the date i'm sure you're gonna hit that tonight. Have fun.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/18 09:37 PM
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Did the dinner date happen? Depending on who suggested it I feel like it might fall through despite you holding a great frame. When you're on a date and the man pushes for a date the next day, women have a tendency to flake unless they are super attracted to you or just want your cock.
/r/TheRedPill11/04/18 09:15 PM
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I miss you, I wish you were here with me "so for what time am I invited?" "all you have to do is ask ;)" "i'm free after 8, your place?" Point is to respond with confidence, while also making sure to set a definite time and place. let's chill, I'll be over in 30 Works fine, but since you're going to her place you kind of need to make sure she's there when you come, so say "i can be over in 30 if you're at home then?" or something like that instead. you make my bed comfy This isn't really an invi…
/r/seduction11/04/18 02:27 PM
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Completely agree with you on everything you say, but please don't use “Cool if I head over in a few mins?” It's the same as asking for permission. It's just going to make her unsure about the vibe. Take charge ffs, know what you want and show what you want. Your 2nd suggestion was great.
/r/seduction10/04/18 06:29 PM
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It's too early. The start of your relationship is for fun and romance. Being together for a week straight is a bad idea this early on in your relationship. Also, she will 100% say no anyway.
/r/seduction10/04/18 04:13 PM
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Completely agree, but I feel like escalating all the way to sex without kissing would seem unnatural for the woman. The natural progression (for me at least) is light touching -> hugging -> -> kissing -> touching ass and thighs -> -> heavy petting -> sex The point where I generally move over to touching ass and thighs is during the kiss. That's the only time it feels natural for the woman to be touched by you like that (unless you're already in your bedroom somehow). The woman will only allow yo…
/r/seduction10/04/18 02:20 PM
2

You have an endless stream of limiting beliefs. You're telling yourself "it's this way, and therefore it's not my fault and I can't help it". It's just an excuse for you to not improve. Your ego exists to protect you. When something is wrong in your life your brain will find a way to rationalize why it's okay. You need to take ownership of your life and make it what you want it to be. Stop accepting these excuses for why it's okay for you to fail. Make yourself proud. You don't need to trick you…
/r/seduction10/04/18 02:15 PM
1

Spend time with her, flirt, tease, show that you're a sexual person. Once you think she's interested, you ask her out. Worst thing that can happen at that point is she says no, and you simply respond with "your loss ;)" and move on with your life.
/r/seduction10/04/18 02:02 PM
3

Alan Watts is great. The only issue I have with him is that it's all very philosophical and not at all practical. It provokes ideas and points out problems, but doesn't offer a way to solve them.
/r/seduction09/04/18 11:13 PM
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Really hard to say if you're still on IMO. I feel like no matter what you say she is gonna flake just based on her behaviour. After she flakes (which she probably will) you need to tell her "alright no problem, let me know when you've figured out your schedule" or something like that. Then just stop contacting her. When she contacts you after that, set a date with a specific time and place. After you've set the date, don't contact her. If you want to make sure you're still on, just text her some…
/r/seduction09/04/18 10:10 PM
1

So what exactly happened when she "went cold on you"?
/r/seduction09/04/18 10:03 PM
1

She asked you out a few days ago and has gone cold on you? Doesn't sound like you've made a specific date. If you haven't set a specific time and place it's not going to happen. Also, it sounds like you're continously contacting her? Bad idea. After you've set a date you shouldn't keep snapping her. Also all of your options were kinda bad :P
/r/seduction09/04/18 10:00 PM
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Keep flirting with the girl, when you've built attraction, ask her out. When it comes to the guy, what he's doing is essentially shit testing you. He has no power over you unless you give it to him. When he says "you're too short" flip it on him. Don't just take it. Answer with something like "you're just jealous you aren't as good looking as me", "that's not what your mom said yesterday", etc. Whatever works for you.
/r/seduction09/04/18 08:47 PM
1

Say whaaaaat. I'm not sure many women would fuck you if you didn't kiss first. Kissing is a natural part of the escalation that leads to sex. Without kissing I doubt i'd be able to make the woman horny enough to want to have sex with me.
/r/seduction09/04/18 08:43 PM
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This could work well. I'd take a different approach though. Personally i'd reply "Too bad you feel that way. I'd love to see you again but if you're not feeling it, take your time and get back to me if you change your mind" This way you show You are interested in her You are giving her the freedom to choose to come back in the future You are speaking your truth but remaining outcome independent After that, don't contact her. Let her come to you. She will come back if she is still interested. The…
/r/seduction09/04/18 08:39 PM
3

Perhaps you could say that actual social status doesn't matter, but there's no doubting the fact that perceived social status does matter. It matters both in the long term and in the short term. It's going to be easier to fuck chicks quickly if you have high perceived social value. It's also going to be easier to keep them around. So why not just fix it instead of faking it? Start assuming that you have high value and act accordingly, then you'll never even have to worry about it.
/r/seduction09/04/18 03:16 PM
4

You're completely irrational. Why should it even bother you that she says other guys give her affection? Be self-assured in the fact that she wants YOU. When she says that other men give her affection just show her that it doesn't bother you. When you start thinking of other men as a threat, that's when they become a threat. If you see them as a joke, that's what they become.
/r/seduction09/04/18 03:13 PM
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This post is just straight up wrong. You're giving a blanket statement without any reasoning behind it. You do need to offer something.. but rest assured it's not about social status, money, or what you can contribute to society. Women don't require any of those things. End of story. You clearly don't understand the way women view the world. You're saying social status doesn't matter, so why does pre-selection work? Why do actors and artists get so much success with women? I'm not saying you hav…
/r/seduction09/04/18 01:56 PM
1

That's probably why she started distancing herself - you started pursuing too much. Are you guys still seeing eachother or just texting? If you can't get her to see you anymore i'd cut contact completely. When she reinitiates contact you should ask her out on a date. Try to let her come to you instead of you chasing her. When the woman is already attracted to you, you really don't need to do much. If (and when) she reinitiates contact you set a date. You should be having sex on the next date IMO…
/r/seduction09/04/18 02:19 AM
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You're obviously physically attractive enough to the point where they'd be willing to see you IRL. If they become disinterested after a date, that indicates that you're doing something wrong on the date. Maybe you're boring. Maybe you're weird or awkward. Maybe you're not escalating.
/r/seduction09/04/18 01:16 AM
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Is she just sending "mass-snaps"? The kind that people send out to everyone? If so, just open and then ignore it. Is she sending something specific to you? I think it's fine to answer it, but don't get into a conversation. If you feel like you're getting into a conversation, say something along the lines of "you're going to have to wait until friday to find that out ;)". Find a way to shut down the conversation that can still help build anticipation for the date.
/r/seduction09/04/18 01:06 AM
1

Brooo! She's getting distant? Did anything happen before she started getting distant? As in did you do anything dumb/stupid? Have you started initiating texting more since she started getting distant?
/r/seduction09/04/18 01:00 AM
1

Bad response IMO. By saying that you're implying that you don't and can't meet other women. I wouldn't answer it seriously and instead say something like "it's because i'm secretly gay".
/r/seduction09/04/18 12:57 AM
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I will honestly never understand guys who make their own looks a big deal. I'm 6", babyface, semi-fat and I have a crooked af nose. STILL women like me. Women give next to no fucks about the way you look as long as you put some effort into looking your best. You know what they do care about? HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOUR LOOKS AND HEIGHT. If you think you're too short, guess what? You're too short.
/r/seduction09/04/18 12:55 AM
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Direct may or may not work in daygame when they are by themselves. Either way, your chances are way better than when you approach her in a direct way when she's in a group, because she's not scared of being judged the same way she would be if you approached her when she was with her friends. Saying "you're cute" is fine here IMO, just make sure you move on quickly from that compliment into some real conversation. Once again, don't ask if she's single. If she isn't interested, or she is in a rela…
/r/seduction08/04/18 11:18 AM
1

Start talking to them. Build rapport and attraction. Make sure they respond well to you, and THEN you can pull up a seat.
/r/seduction08/04/18 11:14 AM
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That's the right way to go. Women will never fuck a guy who is willing to invest that much straight of the bat. Men who take women out for expensive dinner are literally proving that their own value is lower than the woman's value. In attraction the woman always has to be the one who proves her value to the man as women naturally seek partners who are higher value than themselves.
/r/seduction08/04/18 12:48 AM
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Stop opening with "hey you're cute". Why? It displays low value and also puts a lot of pressure on the woman. You're literally telling them that you're going up to them just to get laid. It's super desperate UNLESS done with the correct frame (which you clearly don't have at the moment). It is especially desperate and low value when you ask if they are single afterwards (lul talk about shooting yourself in the foot). If you approach a woman who is in a group in a very direct way she will 100% re…
/r/seduction07/04/18 11:43 PM
1

Ask her out instead. Disappearing or ignoring her isn't going to work, especially if you haven't met IRL. You're just going to kill your chances with her.
/r/seduction07/04/18 11:25 PM
1

Scumbag move? Yes. Sit down and tell her boyfriend? Yes. HOWEVER. A woman who is in a relationship will not have sex with someone outside of the relationship if she is happy with the state of her current relationship. This was bound to happen sooner or later. IMO you did them both a favor. Talk to her boyfriend and move on from there.
/r/seduction07/04/18 11:23 PM
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I'm still blocked by her on all social media etc. but a friend showed me her profile picture where she had a big makeover and the text "your waifu is trash" written under her pic. You're blocked by her. Why would "your waifu is trash" have anything to do with you? If anything is gonna happen between the two of you, let it happen naturally. She has to come to you. Talk to her as if nothing happened when you guys start working together. If she asks about your girlfriend, casually tell her what's u…
/r/seduction05/04/18 10:31 PM
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That advice is really general and not at all helpful IMO.
/r/seduction05/04/18 09:44 PM
1

“We should hang sometime.” How would you say women react to this? I feel like they'd say "yeah for sure!" basically no matter what. That's just the way women are; they don't want to hurt your feelings, so they'll find a way to slither themselves out without rejecting you (if they aren't interested that is). And because you didn't set up anything specific, there's no need to "reject" you. Because you didn't set anything specific up you'll be left wondering if she is actually interested or not and…
/r/seduction02/04/18 11:47 AM
10

Been experiencing something similar with alcohol. How would you say it affects you, personally, in the following days? I mainly notice high irritability, mood swings, depression, apathy and fatigue... It's probably time to quit or at least cut down on it.
/r/TheRedPill28/03/18 10:04 PM
4

LOL! Exactly what I was thinking.
/r/seduction20/03/18 07:31 PM
8

Women for the most part don't really give a fuck about muscles. Working out is more about developing a mindset IMO.
/r/seduction18/03/18 07:22 PM
2

You probably took too long. She either lost interest or got hooked on some other guy. You could still ask but i'd say once you've lost their interest your chances go wayyy down.
/r/seduction17/03/18 09:49 PM
15

Remember: it’s about you making sure everyone is having a good time and you giving off fun energy to feed off of. This. I still remember nights when i've been ON FIRE. One time I was dancing arabic dance wearing my scarf as a turban in the club. Keep in mind I was 18, i'm white as fuck, but my energy was just insane. Literally all the girls on the dancefloor were eyefucking me. A girl I hadn't even seen before pulled me off the dancefloor and made out with me. If your energy is right, the girls …
/r/seduction16/03/18 04:00 PM
5

It's actually really cool if you think about it. Literally none of the 9's and 10's are actually 9's and 10's. They're just wearing makeup that compliments their appearance really well. Having had that realization, you come to the conclusion that no girl is too hot for you.
/r/seduction10/03/18 12:02 AM
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Be sociable, but don't give up too much information about yourself. For example when I worked at a restaurant, the people there had no idea I had already studied 2 years in uni until they had known me for about 1½ years. When women ask you "when did you last have sex" you don't give a serious answer. You can say "tonight", "I don't kiss and tell" etc. By not giving a serious answer you increase her attraction AND her curiousity towards you. Being mysterious is really the same as making her wonde…
/r/seduction09/03/18 03:18 PM
1

If you've known her for 2 years already, i'd say it is pretty likely that she sees you just as a friend. However, if you are going out to dinner together, just the two of you, that might imply otherwise. What feeling do you get with her? Does she seem interested? Does she give positive body language? Does she seem excited to see you? Does she give resistance to meeting up just the two of you? Proclaiming your interest in her is not likely to work either way. Go out and grab drinks with her and e…
/r/seduction09/03/18 01:38 PM
3

You told her to let you know when she's free. If you keep asking for dates now, you're most likely going to chase her away. If she is interested, she will contact you - however it is likely she won't because the rapport you built with her was not enough. Keep going out and meet new women. If she contacts you in any way, ask her out again.
/r/seduction09/03/18 01:30 PM
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You show the real value you have by being yourself and going on with your life. Get a good group of friends and be the highest value in that group, and that value will often transfer into other environments too. If you want to show a higher value than you actually have, you need to make sure that you are seen having fun, at awesome places, with awesome people (preferrably hot chicks). By doing this you'll also get more life experiences that will give you more stories to talk about and thus in ge…
/r/seduction09/03/18 12:31 PM
2

It's not about being cool, it's about being confident. You shouldn't give a fuck if she thinks you're attractive. The only thing that matters is what you think about yourself. Let's put your alternative of asking "Do you find me attractive?" Vs "Are you free saturday night? Let's grab drinks" Both of them give her the opportunity to reject you. One of them communicates what you want unapologetically, whilst the other is validation seeking. From a womans point of view, validation seeking is quite…
/r/seduction07/03/18 04:57 PM
5

No real man would ever ask "Do you find me attractive?". It reeks of insecurity. Ask her out on a date instead. If she flakes she's not interested - it's that simple.
/r/seduction07/03/18 04:41 PM
4

It's real. Women shit test to figure out what kind of person you are. If they say he seems like a fuckboy, that's probably the assumption they make about every guy that walks up to them. "Act more normal" is probably the worst advice you could give TBH. Always be charismatic, take nothing they say seriously, and never forget to have fun. That's the real way into their bedroom.
/r/seduction04/03/18 01:12 PM
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Always give value and expect nothing in return - This is big. When you approach and give value to the girls you're talking to and they're still not interested in hanging out with you later, there's really nothing else you can do so just let it go and move on. This doesn't just go for women. Giving value IN GENERAL will increase your own value (don't overdo it). Think about it, what kind of person gives value to everyone and wants nothing in return? It's not the nice guy, that's for sure. It's so…
/r/seduction04/03/18 01:06 PM
2

She wants to see if it makes you jealous. She wants to see how much of a beta you are. Ignore her and move on. Those shit tests are just disrespectful and reacting to them will only give her more power.
/r/seduction04/03/18 12:58 PM
2

You're telling her one thing but your actions aren't congruent to what you are thinking. You met her once and you're pissed she goes out with other guys and flaunts it in your face? Stand the fuck up for yourself dude. Either you don't care about the other guys cuz you're just in it to fuck, or you do care. If you do care, move the fuck on because this girl is in no fucking way LTR material. Don't tolerate her walking all over you, have some self-respect.
/r/seduction04/03/18 12:56 PM
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What is every single guy that walks up to a 9 or 10 doing? They're being agreeable because they think it's going to help their cause. Being agreeable is the same as being boring which is the ultimate attraction killer. When it comes to attracting women, it is important to show that you don't just agree with everything she says. That's going to instantly set you apart from all the other guys and show that you, unlike them, actually are a man with your own opinions and boundaries. Being brutally h…
/r/seduction04/03/18 12:35 PM
1

Yes. Women don't really do any "work" on their eyelashes except put on mascara or fake eyelashes. However, all women put effort into making their eyebrows look good. Because it's something they put work into a compliment about it means so much more than any other compliment would. I personally still don't think complimenting someone is a good way to start a conversation though. Start it by being fun and flirty instead - that's much more likely to get you a conversation that's longer than 2 messa…
/r/seduction03/03/18 07:21 PM
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To add onto this: Show interest and expect nothing in return. Show her that you want her by being flirty and fun. If you're flirty and fun, girls will often start liking you. Initially women don't chase because they aren't invested and they have a shit ton of options. You just need to show that you're awesome and fun and NOT DESPERATE. Basically imagine what you'd do if you had a shit ton of options. After sex girls will start hitting you up saying "was fun seeing you last week :)" etc. At that …
/r/seduction03/03/18 07:14 PM
13

Eye contact - don't fucking break it. Sly smile. If you make eye contact multiple times and she smiles, signal her to come over to you. Imagine how you would do it if you already knew she was willing to fuck you. YOU KNOW she is going to come over. If she doesn't agree or seems hesitant, go with the attittude of "no problem, I know you'll come around".
/r/seduction03/03/18 07:06 PM
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Yeah, you're right. I figured she just wanted attention, but either way I don't fuck with other people's relationships so i'm not touching that either way.
/r/seduction02/03/18 01:46 AM
5

Every rejection is a win ;)
/r/seduction01/03/18 10:49 PM
1

If a girl I know and whom I have flirted with a lot, but haven't seen for a few months, contacts me asking what i'm up to - why would you say she's contacting me? She has a boyfriend and has had one for the 6 months i've know her. My best guess is she's currently feeling unhappy in the relationship and isn't getting the attention she wants from her boyfriend, so she's looking at me for that since she knows i'm a potential sexual partner.
/r/seduction01/03/18 10:48 PM
1

Building sexual tension without releasing it... I like it.
/r/TheRedPill01/03/18 04:11 PM
9

Everyone needs to start somewhere.
/r/seduction28/02/18 12:32 AM
4

Honestly never seen RSDLuke successfully pick up any girls. He looks so harmless and nice that all the women don't even have any bitch shields up and just friendzone him immediately. That's why he does "social circle game" - he doesn't actually have to fuck the chicks to prove his "results".
/r/seduction28/02/18 12:31 AM
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Ultimately, that's a choice you're going to have to make yourself. Most people on here would probably say to find someone new. Once trust has been betrayed it's a thousand times harder to rebuild it. It will never be the same. Besides, womens emotions change all the time. That's what she feels like right now. 2 weeks back into the relationship and she might already be bored again. There's a reason she ended the relationship. Right now she's just scared of not finding anyone else as good as you a…
/r/seduction27/02/18 01:46 PM
7

"No babe, you'll have to do that yourself i'm gonna hit the gym right now" You don't want to be unnecessarily offensive or butthurt, but you want to set your boundaries. You could either use that first one or say something more fun and flirty like "I would find it more exciting to be watching you assemble the bookshelves" For the first one she will probably wonder what she did wrong for you to stand up to her. Wouldn't be surprised if that leads to sex that night. For the second one you're setti…
/r/TheRedPill27/02/18 01:40 PM
1

I find this concept so hard even though it sounds so easy... You need to show that you want her, but you can't make it too obvious. If you make it too obvious she will have "gotten" her validation and won't want to spend more time with you. How do I find the balance? For example: chick who wanted my D in the past puts up story on snapchat of her in a bikini, posing. Can I send her "Dat ass ;)"? This sentence is obviously very sexual and suggestive, but is it giving too much validation? Obviously…
/r/seduction27/02/18 01:08 PM
3

He's 48 though. Lookin' hella good for his age.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/18 12:57 PM
0

"Na. If you're wondering why i'm not hitting on you, it's cuz you don't live up to my standards ;)" Flip that shit right on her bitchy ass.
/r/seduction22/02/18 04:10 PM
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