Phrasing..

WIA20XX · 2018-08-27T21:13:30+00:00

First, User Get in the Van just put out a video on this topic, scroll down and you'll find it.

Second, Disagree with Hunter on this one.

Establish her schedule first.
Know your own schedule.
Then propose the meet, if your schedule lines up.
Don't schedule anything more than a day or two in advance. Something more important (read as fun) always comes up.

Finally, As for the low pressure angle, I usually go out and I just tell the chick to meet me at my pre game spot of the night.

I'm gonna be at such and such, COME BUY ME A DRINK.

The "buy me" part is a small challenge, and setting the frame.

Invite her into your life, rather than rearrange your life.

hunterpua · 2018-08-27T18:14:33+00:00

"We should grab a drink some time this week. What does your schedule look like?"

Its a little weak to ask when she's free because that means everything will just be done according to her schedule. When you ask what her schedule looks like its more like you're going to compare her schedule to yours therefore including your own availability in the equation so you show her that you also care about your own time.

africanpyjamas69 · 2018-08-27T19:42:43+00:00

How would you ask out a friend whom you haven't seen for a long time? Asking out women should be no different.

For me that'd be just like hunterpua said in his comment "WE SHOULD". "It's been a while, we should grab a drink some night. When are you free?" Always suggest rather than ask.

Also don't ever say "if you're free", "no pressure", "only if you want to", etc to women. It implies that you think they don't want to see you. I know... As a guy those extra phrases don't mean anything. But women read into it and attribute everything a meaning. You saying shit like that makes you come across as weak and insecure. It's the kind of message where she goes "aww, you're so sweet, but i've got a boyfriend". Either that or she cancels last minute.

You need to just straight up say something like what hunterpua said, "We should grab a drink some time this week. What does your schedule look like?".

If the woman isn't interested, she will find an excuse no matter how you put it, so just put it out there with confidence.

Title	Phrasing..
Author	SabbathBlo0dySabbath
Upvotes	1
Comments	3
Date	August 27, 2018 5:49 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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