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| 2 | Do I have to accept that learning "game" will be painful, embarrassing and overall mental torture?Change your standards for winning. Right now, you're doing the equivalent of expecting to beat the final boss of a video game in one sitting, anything else you can do, like go up a level, get to a checkpoint, beat a side quest, you're not recognizing as a win. Essentially, if you don't beat the final boss in a single sitting, you consider yourself a failure. I was so deathly afraid of approaching girls when I started that I procrastinated for an entire year. But guess what, when I finally went f… | /r/seduction | 27/07/26 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Does player really think all of the time about special opener ?Still false. They can decide to walk away from you or ignore you early on. But if they engage with you, they will decide based on the cumulative effect of the interaction, only when they're confronted by a decision. A woman engaging won't decide in advance to give you her number, she'll only grapple with that choice when you ask for it. Same is true for an date, instant date, etc. The idea you're parroting arrived in this community because someone misquoted research. The actual psychological phe… | /r/seduction | 23/07/26 11:53 PM |
| 2 | Does player really think all of the time about special opener ?You need to learn to think for yourself instead of always asking to be spoonfed. There's already an answer to your question in this conversation. Go ahead, think. | /r/seduction | 23/07/26 06:31 PM |
| 2 | Does player really think all of the time about special opener ?That's why it's called "observation." You should actually observe more closely. Man what observation can I make about a women wearing nothing but biking at the beach lying down tanning with her friends with headphones What, you can't make a guess about why they're at the beach today? But coming up to then saying hi to catch their attention to just say some cold read seem so wierd to me I don’t know I feel like it isn’t allowed A cold read is the example you gave me earlier. Like you're reading t… | /r/seduction | 23/07/26 05:45 PM |
| 2 | Does player really think all of the time about special opener ?That sounds like a cold read that you're only copying from someone. Again relying on lines. Why not just make your own observation about a woman in the moment that is phrased in your own words? | /r/seduction | 23/07/26 05:29 PM |
| 3 | Does player really think all of the time about special opener ?I can't read Hebrew. And someone else already said it, that's how direct works. She's either wants to sleep with you already or she doesn't. And if she doesn't, she'll reject you if you go direct. The biggest lie in recent years is that she will always make her decision about you in the first few seconds. Most of the time, women make their decision about a man a lot later on. Everyone who can perceive the world not through the lens of this echochamber understands this. | /r/seduction | 23/07/26 05:17 PM |
| 7 | Does player really think all of the time about special opener ?No. One of the biggest giveaways of someone that doesn't understand women is how they grossly overweigh the significance of one line or one moment. People who are actually good with women understand that you don't need to rely on a single line. What matters is the cumulative effect of your interaction. Even if you used the best opener in existence, if the ensuing conversation and attempts to flirt are terrible, you won't get anywhere. Many times I just start conversations with functional questio… | /r/seduction | 23/07/26 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Things go well in person, texting is non existentWhat is this? Things not going as well as you think. Inexperienced guys often confuse a woman's enthusiasm for their success. If the goal is getting her excited in the moment then yes, that's a success. If the goal is to actually be involved with more women, then what you did is not necessarily a success. I've been doing this since 2009 and it got to the point where other guys heard about my exploits and asked to see me approach. And there would be moments when I'd do an approach, she's very exc… | /r/seduction | 20/07/26 05:33 AM |
| 26 | Has anyone been able to seduce someone after they said they don't feel a spark?Move on buddy. If you actually want a better dating life, not just to luck into a relationship that when it ends you're back at square one, then don't try to fix your mistakes with the girl you made them with, learn from those mistakes and apply those insights to other women. Emphasis on the plural. Trying and trying and trying with one girl just means that if you succeed, you'll need her more than she needs you. You didn't prioritize getting better at seduction, you prioritized getting one girl… | /r/seduction | 20/07/26 05:09 AM |
| 4 | 3 dates and won’t do anything more than kissShe can think what she wants to think. If you already decided to stop seeing her, what does it matter? Your decision to stop seeing her shouldn't be a bargaining chip. You shouldn't just be feigning it and using that to manipulate her into sleeping with you. It should be real. And if it's real. If you've concluded that you're gonna stop seeing her regardless of how she feels about you, what does it matter if she thinks you were only trying to fuck? At that point you already decided she's never g… | /r/seduction | 18/07/26 07:16 PM |
| 11 | 3 dates and won’t do anything more than kissWhat's important is your standards for what you want to experience from dating. Compatibility goes both ways. Don't compromise your standards just to get your dick wet. If you don't like that she's only kissed you after 3 dates then stop seeing her. What if you stop and it turns out that she really liked you? So what? This is about your standards, not her's. A woman is certainly not gonna compromise her standards just because she finds out a guy really likes her. Have the same integrity. | /r/seduction | 18/07/26 05:56 PM |
| 50 | How to deal with aggressive female cockblockersPreempt it. For the majority of the history of the seduction community most of us always proactively worked on being good at approaching groups. And when we saw a girl we were interested in, we didn't wait until she was alone or get disappointed she's with people, we just went and approached. It's only in recent years where there are people emerging who think you should only approach a girl on her own. There is a wealth of knowledge across decades available to help you do spectacularly with grou… | /r/seduction | 10/07/26 07:43 PM |
| 3 | What is the next step after teasing and flirtingRegardless of whether the girl tends to be defensive or not, this is what I would do. Just asking her out is like playing poker relying purely on luck. Knowing how to get her more involved throughout the interaction is like actually knowing how to play poker, because you're deliberately skewing the odds in your favor. | /r/seduction | 07/07/26 11:04 PM |
| 3 | What is the next step after teasing and flirtingExactly. And that'll also mean the interaction is more stable. Less likely that she'd be willing to drop you for a random petty thing when she also put in a lot of effort to make it work. | /r/seduction | 07/07/26 10:33 PM |
| 7 | What is the next step after teasing and flirtingIf you laugh a lot, argue a lot, and she really likes to get on your nerves then the teasing has done it's job. But the next step is the step most people hate these days because it's the one that really separates the needy from the confident - Qualification. If someone's needy, they just wanna keep being a dancing monkey trying to keep her laughing so the idea of them actually judging her and letting her pick up the slack is too much to handle and gets them feeling really insecure, because they … | /r/seduction | 07/07/26 10:26 PM |
| 2 | Do I need to approach dating differently if I am only looking for casual relationships compared to long term?The only thing that's different is what you do after sex. You don't need to be overly romantic or caring if you want a relationship. And you don't need to be overly vulgar and aggressive if you want to hook up. Just bond on commonalities, playfully mess with her, genuinely assess how suitable she would be for what you're looking for, become more flirty if she lines up more and more with that until you get into sexual escalation and ultimately sex. That's what you do regardless of whether you wan… | /r/seduction | 06/07/26 05:39 PM |
| 2 | “Just friends”If she's frequently showing you any of these signs: -Moving hair behind her ear -Adjusting herself to be more attractive like straightening posture, fixing hair, smoothing out clothes, checking and fixing her face in the mirror, etc -Entering your personal space (less than one arm length in front of you) -Touching you -Laughing when you're not trying to be funny The key is frequency. If she only does any of these things once or twice then it means nothing but if she's always doing it when you're… | /r/seduction | 04/07/26 07:00 PM |
| 2 | “Just friends”I get to know her and decide from there. | /r/seduction | 04/07/26 03:05 PM |
| 3 | How do I keep her attention after opening with a compliment?Tone of voice, facial expressions, body language, and all the other non-verbals. That's why seduction isn't a skill like making spreadsheets. It's more like riding a bike. You get a feel for your balance over time and gradually get better at reacting appropriately to varying terrain and scenarios. Just like you get better at instantaneously sensing warmth even if initially you have to second guess yourself and inevitably make a wrong read from time to time. And no, I won't give you a list of the… | /r/seduction | 03/07/26 10:45 PM |
| 1 | What about men appeals to women the way a woman’s body appeals to a man?The Valentine's day thing happened over 10 years ago and that was like a week before I met my ex, so well before I even met my current girlfriend. Lol | /r/seduction | 03/07/26 06:08 AM |
| 47 | What about men appeals to women the way a woman’s body appeals to a man?Social proof and excellence. I do a lot of public speaking for my work and whenever my girlfriend gets to watch me do my thing, she's always ready to jump me the moment I step off stage. I'm sure it's even moreso with more popular things like music. Why do you think women throw panties at a bands when they're doing a concert? And sure, having a good body can do it too but I've noticed its more of a thing when the girl generally thinks you're out of her league overall. Girls who are more on an eq… | /r/seduction | 02/07/26 08:28 PM |
| 18 | How do I keep her attention after opening with a compliment?Depends on how you're doing it. I open with a compliment and then start walking away immediately. If she's responding blandly, I keep walking and approach someone else. If she's responding warmly, I let myself get reeled back in. The reason that hits harder is because the compliment doesn't feel like a bribe. You see, if you compliment someone and stick around, the compliment feels less sincere, like you're just buttering her up for whatever you want from her. But if you leave, you show her that… | /r/seduction | 02/07/26 07:30 PM |
| 14 | Questions to break the ice / silenceFeeling urgency to break that silence is insecure. You basically don't believe she's also feeling the pressure or wants to make it a great date for you too. And ironically, when that's how you think you will communicate that to her non-verbally and she will relax because she knows you're gonna look for a way to pick up the slack. But if you relax, she will pick up on that too and she will feel more pressure to do something. And it's a lot more confident to just sit comfortably in that silence. S… | /r/seduction | 02/07/26 07:11 PM |
| 2 | Texting vs in personPeople need to remember why the common recommendation for texting is to keep it brief and infrequent instead of just blindly copying the practice. The main reason is it's boring. Another reason is it can make you come off as needy. If you're in a circumstance where you can avoid both of those things, you can actually text more and it will benefit you. For example, if you really get along well with a girl and she genuinely wants to keep talking to you, texting you won't be boring for her. Most of… | /r/seduction | 22/06/26 05:44 PM |
| 11 | Game just comes naturally?It comes more naturally for SOME. What people fail to realize is that everyone responds to experience socializing and flirting differently. The differences between people is more apparent when it comes to sports and exercise. If you go to the gym, there's a small percentage of people who are in impeccable shape. Meanwhile, there are others who have been training just as long who are only in decent shape. Likewise, in sports, the overwhelming majority of people are only at the level of playing fo… | /r/seduction | 21/06/26 10:21 PM |
| 2 | What Do You Talk About When You Get A Woman’s NumberIts not for you to decide what's cheezy. It's for your results to determine that. Delivery is also much more important than the words themselves. I've used lines like that successfully countless times for 17 years. At the same time, I came up with that line in a few seconds, as I was writing my response. Best to learn how to do that instead of just copying and collecting lines that you try to remember. Finally, feeling like every move you make has to be worth it is a scarcity mindset, because yo… | /r/seduction | 20/06/26 05:04 PM |
| 6 | What Do You Talk About When You Get A Woman’s NumberA lot of my text game is set up from the first conversation. Doesn't matter whether it was a cold approach or a girl from an app. My mind isn't on just getting her contact in the first convo. I'm already focused on setting up a date. And in fact, a lot of my dates are already planned in the first conversation. So what I talk about when I have a woman's number is just continue the first conversation and branch off from that starting point. If we already have a date then I will just do a little co… | /r/seduction | 20/06/26 05:30 AM |
| 1 | What are your best picks for places for day game?You shouldn't listen to the people here who tell you to only practice. Only practicing flirting is like telling an aspiring boxer to just keep sparring with people without even learning how to properly execute a jab, hook, straight, head movement, footwork, distance management, etc. He's just gonna keep getting his ass whooped. So continue to practice but actually learn the correct execution of things too and have a way to get feedback, like filming yourself or going out with someone that's bett… | /r/seduction | 18/06/26 07:27 AM |
| 3 | I keep encountering this shit test?“I didnt say that. That was probably one of your other girls” Hahaha. I used to get this A LOT. I never viewed it as a shit test though. You do realize that she's expressing insecurity about the strength of her connection with you, don't you? What you do by treating it like a shit test is cause unnecessary trouble for yourself, because you put yourself in a position to be scrutinized. You can easily put her in that position by playfully leaning into it like saying, "Maybe 😉" And if she pushes fu… | /r/seduction | 16/06/26 06:38 PM |
| 2 | What are your best picks for places for day game?I've been direct but I've also been indirect. You're not limited in what approach you can use just because she has company. I just mentioned direct to make a point that it's not an issue at all. | /r/seduction | 15/06/26 07:33 PM |
| 3 | What are your best picks for places for day game?No. I've often even clearly stated romantic intentions for the girl I was interested in when I approached groups that are passing by. The only somewhat difficult situation is when it's only 2 girls. If there are 3 or more, it's pretty easy. The reason 2 is hard is because the other girl doesn't have anyone else to talk to while you're hitting it off with her friend so she's likely to get bored and jealous and try to sabotage you. You can mitigate that by making sure to give her attention too. An… | /r/seduction | 15/06/26 07:12 PM |
| 3 | What are your best picks for places for day game?Approaching girls with guys is no harder than approaching girls with other girls. You're just gonna leave if its her boyfriend anyway. And it's a lot easier to build rapport with a dude. I literally approached a girl with her brother once and my friend who watched the approach asked if I knew the dude because we hit it off really well. They even took a photo with me after I got his sister's number. | /r/seduction | 15/06/26 06:32 PM |
| 9 | What are your best picks for places for day game?Stop trying to look for easier situations. Actually do the work to develop your flirting skills instead. The guy that looks for easy situations will be severely handicapped in the majority of situations. The one who prioritizes the skill instead can make something happen anytime he comes across someone he's interested in. Besides, it can actually take longer to develop the skillset if you bias stationary girls, because the feedback is deceptive. They might spend more time talking to you but that… | /r/seduction | 15/06/26 03:12 PM |
| 7 | Is making a girl jealous a net positive?I was out with an FWB on Valentines Day giving away free hugs once, and a girl I used to go on dates with happened to be there and we hugged her too. A day after that she messaged me saying, "That girl you were with on Valentines day was hot." I just said, "Of course she is. You know me." And she kept messaging me and we ended up going on a date again later that week and having sex at the end of it. She also became my FWB after that. One of my best female friends in the world has helped me seduc… | /r/seduction | 12/06/26 10:05 AM |
| 3 | Online Dating Apps vs Daygame vs NightgameMy thing is, I will see a gorgeous girl in public and want to talk to her but I have just never done it. How do I change? By doing it. It sounds like you're putting too much pressure on cold approach to quickly get on par with your performance on dating apps. If that's the case, stop that. Accept that you will start much further back than you've been with dating apps. Accept that you will have to gradually build things up. We can use exercise as an analogy for this. We could say dating apps are … | /r/seduction | 11/06/26 10:08 PM |
| 5 | Validation blooms a girl, but keep falling into repetitive reactions to her pics.This is simple. In order for it to be appreciated, your validation needs to be earned. If we use her pictures for example, actually assess them and give her feedback and tell her you prefer some over others and actually give her meh responses to certain ones. You can also tell women how to do better and then praise them when they follow. If you just praise her for every picture she sends you no matter what then your praise will be taken for granted because you are in fact, granting it to her. Al… | /r/seduction | 11/06/26 08:12 PM |
| 2 | Day game success rate in 2026Do you keep your frame that you actually was interested where X is or you also transition in such or similar way? So far I used this one in foreign countries but I might as well try in mine as the beauty of it is that it is much easier to stop a girl which on street can be challenging. I transition but not in a similar way. I just thank her, make an assumption about her, and build a conversation from there. I don't tell her I wanna talk to her. I don't show that much interest initially. Instead,… | /r/seduction | 10/06/26 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Day game success rate in 2026You expect me to record multiple videos just for you? Or did you want me to congratulate you for telling me what you're looking forward to? And does aiming for numbers instead of just approaches increase or decrease the number or repetitions I get in a day? Also, does aiming for numbers stop me from going beyond the bare minimum required to get a number? | /r/seduction | 09/06/26 06:49 PM |
| 2 | Day game success rate in 2026That's from a post talking about frequency and the importance of practice, isn't it? Are you misunderstanding what those 5 approaches are a metric for? | /r/seduction | 09/06/26 06:29 PM |
| 5 | Day game success rate in 2026How do you manage such a high success rate? Do you approach only the girls you get signals from or any random girl you like? That's a good question. I pay attention to approach invitations but I don't depend on them. First, what qualifies as an invitation for me is a lot less than what most guys look for. Most guys wait until they at least have a girl holding eye contact with them. But I know that a girl just looking around, walking slowly, or maybe she's with friends but not really paying atten… | /r/seduction | 09/06/26 06:24 PM |
| 2 | how do you get over doing all the work?how do you get over doing all the work? I don't do all the work. If you're having an issue with girls just sitting on their asses when they're in a relationship with you then that's because you encouraged that dynamic and to an extent filtered for that by assuming you had to do all the work. I get what you're saying when you mention opportunities for improvement but you may be confused on how to improve these things. You don't improve them by rectifying your mistakes with the girl you made the m… | /r/seduction | 09/06/26 04:56 PM |
| 6 | Day game success rate in 2026My success is the same as it was 2016. Between 60% on average days and 80% on good days. (started in 2009 btw) That's the percentage of girls I actually end up seeing again. If we're talking just getting contact details, that hovers in the 90-100% range. Getting numbers isn't as hard or impressive as people these days make it out to be. Tons of guys who started around the same time as me were having that kind of success rate. Collecting numbers is not something we'd think much of back then. Beca… | /r/seduction | 09/06/26 03:43 PM |
| 3 | Guys That Get Women Over For First DateThere's no magic words. The words are hardly important. What matters the most in my experience is a degree of planning and handling logistics. People think that if they aren't living close to the lifestyle center of a city they're at a disadvantage. In reality, if where you live isn't convenient for pulling, you can plan around it. When I was a broke college kid who lived in an apartment with a very conservative landlady, I arranged dates so they would always go through certain hotels that I kne… | /r/seduction | 09/06/26 03:25 PM |
| 4 | Shy nurse I asked out for coffee is giving me an answer tomorrow - Need advice on next move.Best move is to assume she's attracted to you and subtly flirt with her like that's the case. Don't be glued to her for the whole day and don't flirt with her for the entirety of every interaction, just talk to her when you would naturally do so and just have flirting sprinkled into how you usually talk to her. And then at a high point in the conversation, maybe when she's laughing a lot, when she's really flustered from flirting with you, or acting really comfortable with you, confirm if she's … | /r/seduction | 05/06/26 04:32 PM |
| 60 | Guys 5'4 and below who get laid without a social circle, how do you do it?My friend is 5'4" dating a 5'10" German girl. Before her, most girls he's been with have been taller too. He doesn't try to play like he's tall, he leans into being short and uses it to his advantage saying stuff like, "You're lovely but you wouldn't wanna date me, I easily disappear into a crowd and next thing you know, some other chick is chatting me up." He also told his girlfriend when they first met that she may be too short for him and said he was unsure whether she could reach things for … | /r/seduction | 29/05/26 07:27 PM |
| 3 | How do you approach and talk about with girls specifically at malls ?More than the other shoppers the store workers who look like bouncers sometimes with gazing eyes. I've been doing this for 17 years and have approached hundreds of girls inside shops. 99.99% of employees only watched with curiosity or amazement or they didn't watch at all. I only remember one guy who blatantly glared at me and I wasn't even approaching in his store. He worked at a dessert place that I often had instant dates in, so he would see me with a different girl every time. And that's all… | /r/seduction | 29/05/26 05:39 PM |
| 5 | How do you approach and talk about with girls specifically at malls ?Most of the challenges you mentioned simply come from nerves. Girls in a store is only difficult because you're worried about other shoppers seeing you. Girls in groups is also nerves, because you have a bigger audience to talk to. But part of what you develop with cold approach is overcoming these nerves. Especially with groups, it's not only a thing in malls. Groups are actually the default, not girls on their own. It's very important that you man up and just approach girls in groups. Why? Oth… | /r/seduction | 29/05/26 04:32 PM |
| 2 | What do you guys do when you propose a meeting and she will "let you know" if she can?What do you guys do when you propose a meeting and she will "let you know" if she can? I continue dating like usual. The thing is, my "dating like usual" is me approaching, flirting, meeting, going on dates with, and sleeping with other girls. This isn't a reaction to her acting that way or any way at all. Odds are I'd be approaching someone else 5 minutes after I got her number anyway. If not that then I'd be texting a new match on a dating app. And these other girls will essentially be progres… | /r/seduction | 28/05/26 05:22 PM |
| 14 | It makes me more nervous to approach if she's wearing short clothes.Approach often. Approach regularly. And approach with the intention to find out the truth. All the feelings you mentioned are just hypotheses and you probably also have images and fantasies in your head about how women will react when you approach them while they show more skin. But that's all that they are right now. Just how you imagine it'll go down. So simply put those things to the test. And when I say "truth", I'm not implying anything. Just go into interactions with the mindset of figurin… | /r/seduction | 26/05/26 03:27 PM |
| 3 | I can get "good girls" but not "bad girls"Not really. That's more social media skewing or how someone with less experience would perceive women. Bad girls can have good girl aesthetics and even vibes, good girls can have bad girl aesthetics and vibes. That's what confuses people a lot. Also, when it comes to sex, I've had some really vanilla experiences with bad girls and some really animalistic experiences with good girls. Vice versa too of course. The way someone is outside the bedroom does not necessarily indicate how they are inside… | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 07:28 PM |
| 17 | At a club/bar, does this mean anything?Yes. Guys gotta understand that it's not just zero or 100. She probably doesn't want to fuck you just from pressing her back against you but she would at least be willing to dance face to face, and from there things can escalate from 10 to 20 to 50 and if everything goes well, all the way to 100. So don't be afraid if you're getting an indication that isn't so strong it doesn't feel like sex is really on the table. Things can and do build up along an interaction. Anyone who says she either wants… | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 07:02 PM |
| 17 | I can get "good girls" but not "bad girls"I'm guessing you're pretty thoughtful, caring and respectful. In general, as a person, not just with girls. That's the type "good girls" naturally prefer. I'm also guessing the girls lean more cynical or glass half empty, not necessarily depressed but they just have a tendency to lean that way. If this is what you're naturally like and you're already getting girls then maybe you shouldn't change, because these types are what naturally get along with each other. But if you want "bad girls", try b… | /r/seduction | 24/05/26 08:53 PM |
| 3 | My ex’s best friend became my best friendShe definitely will at some point but to stop it from hindering sex as things escalate in that direction, be the one who voices the objections while you're physically escalating. So lets say you've already started making out and it's getting hot and heavy, you could say, "this is bad" while you move on to kissing her neck, and then maybe saying, "we shouldn't be doing this" while mounting her on top of yourself, and so on and so forth. Make sure it's only the words, make sure that none of your a… | /r/seduction | 20/05/26 08:44 AM |
| 1 | Got my first number from complete cold approach (Field Report)I'm going to try being more direct. I think its an insecurity I have, that I need to find some way to naturally open the conversation and not just own my interests. It's the same thing behind not wanting to approach initially, and I will have to get past it. I definitely need to be more bold. If it's an insecurity of yours, you should definitely practice it but don't think starting convos more socially is bad or less ideal. When I was starting out I was exclusively forward and expressing intent … | /r/seduction | 20/05/26 08:21 AM |
| 7 | Convo is going great, we flirt, we have fun, she is responsive, then tells me she is meeting a male friend what is happening?So the fuck what? You haven't even met her in person yet. Some might be sleeping with those dudes, some aren't. But of course someone they already have a relationship with, even if it's just friendship, will trump any random dude from an app. It's not that big of a deal. You don't have any sort of relationship yet, so even if a girl is sleeping with other guys, if she's still showing you interest, like hitting you up wondering why you pulled back, then she's still interested in you. And if you f… | /r/seduction | 19/05/26 07:54 PM |
| 3 | Got my first number from complete cold approach (Field Report)Excellent work man! I like how you stumbled on something really important for your situation with the conversation with the older lady. When I was new to this I deliberately had conversations and quick interactions with people around to loosen myself up. I did them frequently enough that when a pretty girl showed up, I'd already have zero hesitation. You should consider doing warm up approaches deliberately too. For the girl with the earbuds, I know a factor was nerves, but for future reference,… | /r/seduction | 19/05/26 07:29 AM |
| 1 | Cooking classes and womenAll of this is assuming you actually pick a class that has the demographic you're interested in: A lot of people confuse how to navigate meeting women to date in these environments because they're used to the pace and practices of the most popular methods like dating apps, daygame, and night game and get confused why that doesn't work in a class. There's also the fact that most guys don't really know how to flirt. The extent of most men's seductive ability is showing interest. So of course if yo… | /r/seduction | 16/05/26 07:23 AM |
| 13 | How hard is it to actually seduce women consistently?The only reason it feels overwhelming is because blackpillers and other guys who find it hard don't do enough to develop this skill. That's it. Of course it feels like trying to climb Everest if you've done next to nothing to develop the skill. Trying to do a piano recital after just watching a few videos on youtube, reading a few posts, and only touching a piano when you happen upon one will also feel like an impossible task. The vast majority of guys I've encountered in seduction have it at th… | /r/seduction | 09/05/26 04:34 PM |
| 7 | Office Work Environment is all FemalesYou don't need to say anything clever to those compliments. "Thank you" is plenty. If you want to build rapport with them, get to know them and find commonalities then go out with a bunch of them to dinner or drinks or something. When you guys are outside of work, that's when you can get more flirty. | /r/seduction | 30/04/26 02:08 PM |
| 6 | How do I get better at recognizing when someone might be interested in talking to me and stop freezing in those moments?How do I get better at reading moments like this in real time, and how do I get more comfortable just starting a conversation instead of freezing and overthinking it? You get better by not trying to read them at first and just talking and flirting with girls you're interested in. If you don't have a lot of experience doing that then you trying to read and analyze situations as they arise will only lead to overthinking and missing opportunities. Also, trying to get accurate reads early on, when y… | /r/seduction | 30/04/26 03:45 AM |
| 1 | What do you think about the paradox of investment?I've maxed at 7 but usually it's more around 3. Nowadays it's just one though, because I'm in a monogamous relationship now. | /r/seduction | 29/04/26 01:33 PM |
| 15 | No-nonsense dating app pickup line to secure a date within a day or twoI don't rely on one line or even necessarily the cumulative power of what I say in conversation. Instead I focus my conversation on getting buy in from them for the date, so they have more ownership over the decision. You influencing someone else of something is ok. You getting someone to influence themselves to do what you want, that is what's really powerful. Its better if the date is a more collaborative effort than just all you. Like this. Stop looking for hard hitting lines, they will never… | /r/seduction | 28/04/26 07:41 AM |
| 48 | Good looking but afraid to make a movePeople often unnecessarily overcomplicate dating. I could tell you its an ego thing. That its because you already have an image of yourself as an attractive guy and shooting your shot naturally threatens that image. I could tell you I relate with that because I had a period where I was nervous to approach even though I was already openly sleeping with multiple women. And all of that can very well be true but the problem is, mental gymnastics or trying to find some deep corner of your mind that u… | /r/seduction | 27/04/26 02:57 PM |
| 5 | What necessarily is game ?Having game means being really good at achieving social outcomes. I don't just limit it to dating. I believe people who are great at selling have great game, I believe people who are really persuasive have great game, I believe people who are compelling speakers have great game. Of course, people who are great at pulling have great game too. | /r/seduction | 26/04/26 04:26 AM |
| 1 | Advice neededAlright. The other commenter is on point. Use what he said to identify the issue and address it. | /r/seduction | 24/04/26 05:13 PM |
| 4 | Advice neededWhy do you feel like you need dating apps when you get laid just fine in person? | /r/seduction | 24/04/26 04:21 PM |
| 1 | For those who are very experienced with women, has dating made you trust them less?I'm still in my mid 30s. I started with seduction when I was a sophomore in college. | /r/seduction | 24/04/26 12:58 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about the paradox of investment?I'm in a relationship now but I've been in seduction for 17 years. Earlier most of them were from daygame and night game but later most of the leads came from social circle. | /r/seduction | 23/04/26 11:21 PM |
| 5 | What do you think about the paradox of investment?I never did this. Well I never intend to. It does happen by accident. Because if I'm single, I'm always flirting, going on dates, and sleeping with multiple women. So if one of them starts pulling back, she's actually screwing up her chances with me, because I'm borderline overwhelmed as it is, so I'm relying on each individual girl to "remind" me about them. So I literally just forget about the one that pulls back. So I am matching how she's acting but it takes nothing for me to do so, because … | /r/seduction | 23/04/26 02:35 PM |
| 50 | For those who are very experienced with women, has dating made you trust them less?In some aspects I trust them less, in some aspects I trust them more. The basic naivete that most men have about women is gone. For example I used to think an innocent looking woman is actually innocent. On the other hand, I trust them more in that I don't try to prevent cheating. There's a lot of these, "if she goes to the club without you, break up with her" stuff on the internet nowadays. My thing is twofold. First, if I'm iffy about a girl cheating on me, she'll never level up past FWB anywa… | /r/seduction | 23/04/26 02:12 PM |
| 3 | How do you night game?Night game is actually amazing and you can get away with way more crazy things than you can with daygame. Initially, you wanna choose the type of night game you wanna do. I suggest deciding based on what plays to your strengths better. Generally night game can be divided into 2 categories, settings where it's easier to talk and settings where it's harder to talk. The latter usually comes with dancing. If you like to dance, then go with that, because in those settings, you should keep conversatio… | /r/seduction | 23/04/26 12:35 PM |
| 12 | How to escalate on first dates without coming across as pushy if my goal is to hookup?The problem with a lot of escalation advice these days is that the increments are massive now. A few years ago, shaking her hand was escalation. Lightly grabbing her forearm to emphasize a point was escalation. Now, "escalate" is basically synonymus with "kiss." And if you say you should be escalating from the first moment you meet in person people think you're saying to grope her the second you meet. The answer to your question is to be escalating from the moment you meet, but not the oversimpl… | /r/seduction | 23/04/26 11:41 AM |
| 5 | Attempting First Ever ApproachDon't try to do too much too soon. Especially if you have nerves, it's always better to physically approach than not at all. So literally something like, "Hey do you guys know the way to physics lab?" or something like that is totally fine. The words you start out with aren't important. Just make sure you are actually physically approaching someone. And if you can, don't stop there. You've just proven that you can cold approach. Now do another one with another simple, completely non-flirty quest… | /r/seduction | 22/04/26 11:38 AM |
| 2 | “Just friends”Making friends is more fundamental than getting a date. | /r/seduction | 12/04/26 05:47 AM |
| 2 | “Just friends”a "normal" guy who is mainly dating through OLD and is confused about a girl escalating a bit and then pulling back needs to understand that this is normal and to move on to other leads, not to expect to be able to parlay this into a source of new leads. Why not do both? That's what I've always done. In my original comment, I was only elaborating on one reason why it's silly to be too proud to be friends with a woman that you were interested in. I wasn't recommending you shift entirely from OLD … | /r/seduction | 11/04/26 07:20 PM |
| 3 | “Just friends”The main thing I wanted to highlight in my first comment here is developing a real friendship with a woman. As you can see, I spent a lot of time emphasizing that. What I touched on but maybe didn't emphasize enough was treating her like a male friend. I alluded to things like "not hiding your dick" by blatantly showing interest in other women right in front of her, and you can also openly talk about your sexual experiences. I spend entire conversations going through dates I had from start to fi… | /r/seduction | 11/04/26 02:36 PM |
| 4 | “Just friends”It depends. Usually, sympathy alone isn't enough. You need real rapport. | /r/seduction | 11/04/26 05:20 AM |
| 7 | Are flings a normal part of dating?Here's how I set up harems with full transparency: You can do so before or after sex. After sex is a lot more simple so let's start with that. First of all, you don't want to do it after the first time. Do it after the second time. Why? Because you don't know if you'll keep sleeping with each other after the first time. It might end up being a one time thing. And if it is, there's no point in clarifying the situation. So do it after the second time, because that's when she might be thinking of h… | /r/seduction | 10/04/26 09:34 PM |
| 22 | “Just friends”Excellent question. A lot of guys think it's lame for them to end up just being friends with someone they were interested in sexually but rejected/friendzoned them. To them it's like accepting defeat. Or it's just embarrassing for them to 'only' be the friend of a girl that is attractive. But that's just pride and maybe a bit of a scarcity mindset. Practically speaking, if you become really good friends with that girl that rejected you and she introduces you, maybe even wings you so you end up w… | /r/seduction | 10/04/26 08:45 PM |
| 54 | “Just friends”My girlfriend said she just wanted to be friends after our first date. We made out and even got topless on that date too. I simply agreed to being friends, because I understood the value of a female friend when it comes to getting other girls. This was 2019 and I've been doing seduction since 2009. I have multiple female friends who have intentionally or unwittingly been my wing girls. I literally have female friends who would send me pictures of girls they know and if I thought they were hot, t… | /r/seduction | 10/04/26 06:00 PM |
| 7 | Are flings a normal part of dating?To answer your question, yes, flings are very common in dating. Since you asked that question I'm gonna assume you're fairly new to dating. And if that's the case then I'm glad you haven't been able to nail any girl down yet. You need to gain more experience and realize the actual quality of women out there, because you're just scratching the surface right now. When I look back on the girls I fell hard for some 15 years ago and compare them to the girls I've been with now, they just can't compar… | /r/seduction | 10/04/26 05:27 PM |
| 2 | Girls love being approachedhow are they interested if they reject u I'm in a relationship right now. Is it impossible for me to be attracted to someone else as long as I reject them if they try something? and what you mean by it not being a failure on their part when they reject you? should it be? Re-read above. I was not referring to the fact that they're rejecting me. | /r/seduction | 30/03/26 01:47 PM |
| 2 | Girls love being approachedYou believe every woman keeps a pokerface when they're flirting? In thousands of approaches there's bound to be a few girls who aren't subtle about their interest. And that's not even necessarily a failure on their part. Some just consciously choose to wear their hearts on their sleeves. | /r/seduction | 30/03/26 07:10 AM |
| 1 | How do y’all even score second dates?The main thing is to realize that a first date doesn't necessarily go well just because it was pleasant or you both had fun. Ideally, there should at least be clear sexual tension there, like the girl always staying close to you, looking at you coyly, or finding excuses to touch you. And these have to be relatively frequent, not just present. If something like that only happens once in the date then it doesn't mean much. That is the bare minimum. If you have sex on the first date then even bette… | /r/seduction | 30/03/26 06:58 AM |
| 2 | Girls love being approachedKinda like when you're craving for a food but you resist so you can stick with your diet. | /r/seduction | 30/03/26 06:11 AM |
| 2 | How did your last approach go?Damn, alright man. I respect it. | /r/seduction | 17/03/26 05:41 AM |
| 2 | How did your last approach go?Damn, you don't approach for work anymore? I still do from time to time. | /r/seduction | 17/03/26 02:58 AM |
| 7 | Girls love being approachedThat's less important than the stuff I talked about above. I'm never immediately sold on someone just from seeing what they look like, no matter how hot they are. So I usually prefer to comment on the situation, ask a functional question like directions or the name of the street we're on or if there's a convenience store nearby, etc, or I give them a platonic compliment. I perceive the ensuing conversation more as me assessing them than the other way around and behave accordingly. In cases when … | /r/seduction | 13/03/26 08:13 AM |
| 2 | Is saying something along the lines of "i like you" always a bad idea?Damn. My mistake, I should have taken more time reading the original post. I'm sorry but I don't help people get in the way of relationships. As long as it's not coercive or violent, I prefer to let the couple sort things out themselves. I'll just leave my initial reply up because at least it clarifies the issue of saying, "I like you" and it can benefit others who wander into this post too. | /r/seduction | 13/03/26 05:54 AM |
| 2 | Is saying something along the lines of "i like you" always a bad idea?As a coach myself I can tell you, there's no wrong or right move, there's only a wrong or right time to do a move. Also, you have to be very clear about the outcome you want. I recently consulted with someone who, after some fairly serious probing, we came to the conclusion that he just wanted to express how he felt. He didn't even care if she liked him back or not. In that situation I told him, "Yeah, ok. Tell her how you feel." Because doing that lines up directly with the outcome he's looking… | /r/seduction | 13/03/26 05:27 AM |
| 40 | Girls love being approachedThey do, when you do it correctly. Most of the rejections I experienced in recent years were almost as warm as the girls who didn't reject me. It's still all smiles and giggling, some women even begrudgingly force themselves to say no. In one of my most recent rejections, the woman tells me she's married and then goes on to talk to me for 5 more minutes telling me I'm smooth and joking with me about picking up chicks. We're high 5-ing and stuff. If you watched us from a distance you wouldn't thi… | /r/seduction | 13/03/26 04:49 AM |
| 2 | College server: are we overthinking this?Is the risk of developing a reputation really that bad if these girls don't even talk to each other? No. Most advice for certain environments like colleges is based on generalizations, which is correct most of the time because they're appropriate generalizations. But if your situation is an anomaly then you don't need to follow the general advice for college environments. Just don't confuse your situation for the typical one. | /r/seduction | 07/03/26 07:35 PM |
| 45 | Night game sober is soo much harder but it’s got to be done.Yes. It's absolutely better long term to get good at it sober. That way you can always make something happen, even in the most unexpected situations where you come across a girl you're into. Besides, it's pretty pathetic to be like, "Oh there's a hot girl! Ah damn, I have no alcohol though..." lol | /r/seduction | 26/02/26 04:53 AM |
| 14 | Should I let it go?Don't do anything. Don't even actively wait. If she gets back to you, good. If not, good. No girl that you barely know is too good to pass up. The only girls that deserve your persistence are the ones who have proven a level of devotion and have built a good degree of rapport with you. If all she is is a pretty face who has shown a teeny bit of interest then she's no one to you. Lots of girls like that will come around as long as you continue to improve yourself, improve your flirting skills, an… | /r/seduction | 26/02/26 03:56 AM |
| 2 | When a friend says he’s not into a girl — then starts subtly competing for her attention. What's the approach?Any tips on this, how to get intimate quickly? The timeline from meet to sex is naturally quicker than you think. It's just that inexperienced guys make mistakes or have inefficiencies that slow things down. The last time I was single I was actually annoyed by this because I was at a point where I planned activity dates that genuinely appealed to me, like I'd really want to do them even if I was alone, but a lot of the time, girls would want to have sex before I can really get the activity going… | /r/seduction | 22/02/26 06:20 PM |
| 2 | When a friend says he’s not into a girl — then starts subtly competing for her attention. What's the approach?If you're not just choosing to delay, like I did. If you genuinely can't get her in a week and need to spend months trying, then you're not in the position to have a girlfriend yet. Even if in the end you're the one who gets the girl, that relationship won't be great, because you won't be on equal footing with your girlfriend, because your girlfriend had 2 guys fighting over her, whereas it took you months to get one girl. So she knows that if you broke up, you'll be lonely and miserable while s… | /r/seduction | 22/02/26 05:22 AM |
| 5 | High Attraction vs Depths of the Friend ZoneHow do you discern being deep in the friendzone from a situation where a woman is actually attracted but is unavailable right now for some reason or other - whether they just got out of a relationship, are going through something heavy, are traveling a lot in the next 6 months, or something else? How do you keep the ball moving forward without stepping on her stated boundaries? This is just the same as when women say "no hookups" on dating apps. Maybe they mean it, maybe they don't. Maybe they w… | /r/seduction | 21/02/26 04:10 AM |
| 2 | Texting before hangout?Its fine. You can text her. If someone runs out of things to talk about just because they have a little conversation via text then the problem isn't texting, it's that they suck at having conversations. Assuming everyone involved is an adult, you have at least 18 years each of life experience to talk about. Not to mention, an infinite well to pull from if you know what you're doing. More on that in a bit. Let me give you some tips in case you're worried that you won't have much to talk about on … | /r/seduction | 12/02/26 03:25 PM |
| 2 | Slept with 65 girls last year.. here’s what I learnedSure. I told this story a few times on this sub and it really illustrates how to flirt correctly, in a way that you get her going without showing any clear interest: I'm not proud of this story but it does a pretty good job of illustrating what flirting actually is and how it can be done just about anywhere... I was once extremely attracted to my cousin's girlfriend. And at that time I already got to the point of being able to openly sleep with multiple women, so my flirting skills were already … | /r/seduction | 12/02/26 02:37 AM |
| 5 | Girl in a groupIt's absolutely a win. You were unsure, you had no prior experience, but you went for it anyway. That's a winning attitude. Make sure you keep it up because you will be at a massive disadvantage if you don't get used to approaching groups. Girls in groups are much more common than girls on their own. | /r/seduction | 07/02/26 12:01 PM |
| 4 | Slept with 65 girls last year.. here’s what I learnedI've done what you're describing but I also often have my dates in places that isn't my house and I just pull one of them at the end of our night out. Also, it's not that awkward, because the girls talk among themselves and talk with my friends too. Often times no one notices me sneak away with a girl. It's not like we just get up and walk to my bedroom in front of everyone and they quietly wait for me and her to finish up. Lol | /r/seduction | 07/02/26 01:57 AM |
| 10 | Slept with 65 girls last year.. here’s what I learnedOn your point about the time commitment, I learned 2 ways to significantly reduce it from my 17 years in seduction and my 3 digit body count. 1 - Indirect and Group dates When you know how to flirt correctly, you can make a woman feel all the sexual and romantic feelings for you without making it clear that you're interested in her or put yourself in the position where you would be an asshole if you suddenly start flirting or even showing clear interest in a different girl. In college I literall… | /r/seduction | 06/02/26 04:06 PM |
| 8 | Is Cold Approach Even Effective in the Long Run?I started this 17 years ago, in 2009. My life only began changing in 2012, so that's after 3 years. Now, I've gotten everything I could ever want from my dating life and I'm at the point where I can reliably get girls that I want. But if 3 years is too long for you then don't make the same mistakes that I made. Don't... Be too proud to make it easy A lot of guys struggle with staying consistent in the beginning because its always a battle with nerves, awkwardness, or feeling like you come off we… | /r/seduction | 02/02/26 07:14 PM |
| 35 | to the pros here, You go to a house party you barely know anyone and in the distance in kitchen there's a girl all by herself.How many times have you actually approached a girl in this situation or have you just been guessing how you think girls are "likely" to react to different things you could say? | /r/seduction | 02/02/26 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Are these subtle indicators of interest?She is likely attracted to you. To further verify, pay attention to her laughing or giggling even when you aren't being funny, her adjusting her clothing or just generally adjusting herself to look more put together and pretty, her fixing her hair to reveal her ears like she's trying to hear you better, and her looking for excuses to touch you. That is definitely not an exhaustive list but those signs are pretty common. The most important thing though is not just the presence of one of those or … | /r/seduction | 02/02/26 04:19 PM |
| 8 | Thoughts on bringing your dates to night out with friends?Exactly man. If you actually have good friends, not just people you hang out with but don't really trust, you're golden. It can only help you to bring along your date to an environment where people treat you really good. And I'm glad you have female friends too. They're awesome when they're actually your friends. 3 of my best friends who always made me look awesome when I brought a date and helped my dating life more than any wingman could were women. | /r/seduction | 28/01/26 02:57 PM |
| 29 | Thoughts on bringing your dates to night out with friends?This was my standard way of doing dates when I was single. I routinely did this even for first dates. It's fine. Not everything needs to be overly intimate. And I don't get why the other commenters are being so weird about it. When I was doing this, a bunch of my friends were doing it too, at the same time, on the same nights. I still have single friends doing it to this day. We even celebrated one of our friend's birthday one time while all of us brought girls we recently started seeing. This i… | /r/seduction | 28/01/26 02:36 PM |
| 11 | Different views with hinge dateThis could go one of two ways with me. On one hand, I've learned through my decade + of experience that making a woman compromise on her values never ends well, even when she comprises them on her own because she gave in to temptation. I recently shared a story about that on this sub. But on the other hand, a lot of women only pretend to have serious values on something. For example the classic dating app "no hookups" in the bio. I can't tell you how many times girls with that in their bio have … | /r/seduction | 24/01/26 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Yo Y'all how to turn a cute girl on the street into your girlfriendIn hindsight, it was doomed to fail from the beginning. We wanted different things. She wanted commitment and to settle down together, I wanted to enjoy my youth and mess around with lots of girls. I was also really selfish, because the setup was that she was fully committed to me while I was free to sleep around. I really was an asshole taking advantage of the fact that she wanted to be with me. That's why even though our relationship was far from ideal for her, she agreed to it so she could be… | /r/seduction | 24/01/26 02:29 PM |
| 2 | Yo Y'all how to turn a cute girl on the street into your girlfriendIn hindsight, it was doomed to fail from the beginning. We wanted different things. She wanted commitment and to settle down together, I wanted to enjoy my youth and mess around with lots of girls. I was also really selfish, because the setup was that she was fully committed to me while I was free to sleep around. I really was an asshole taking advantage of the fact that she wanted to be with me. That's why even though our relationship was far from ideal for her, she agreed to it so she could be… | /r/seduction | 24/01/26 12:48 PM |
| 36 | Yo Y'all how to turn a cute girl on the street into your girlfriendMe and my friend, who also approaches, walked into a center square of an outdoor mall once and he pointed out a girl. She was sitting on this stage that other people were sitting around on and my friend said, "Hey, she's kinda cute. You should approach her." I looked to where he pointed, saw her, agreed with my friend and went over there. Once I got there, I got her attention and then this middle aged woman sitting next to her started to sit up and look over at me almost as if to say, "How can I… | /r/seduction | 24/01/26 04:30 AM |
| 3 | Why approachingIsn't it self devaluation because you put yourself in a position where she either choses you or not Whats the difference between cold approach and the vast majority of ways guys date? When a guy asks her out he's putting himself in a position where she either chooses him or not. Even when most guys go on dates, they're putting themselves in the position where she chooses them or not. As someone who has been cold approaching for 17 years, I will be the first to say - Cold approach is not a requir… | /r/seduction | 23/01/26 06:03 PM |
| 3 | Adam Lyons method anyone?I think you're using a newer version of Adam's Street Seduce because all it was when I learned about it, around 15 years ago, was a series of five 3 to 5 minute videos explaining the basics of attraction and cold approach that ended with an infield video of Adam picking up a Spanish girl. I certainly don't recall him talking about teasing or even giving many tips on openers. The opener he used in the infield was a situational one. I do remember him talking about investment and illustrating his p… | /r/seduction | 22/01/26 06:34 PM |
| 3 | What are some common first-time flirting mistakes to AVOID?It depends on the situation. If she looks like she's discussing something serious, I won't bother. If she's just laughing with a friend or calling someone she's supposed to meet up with, that's fine. If she gives me a sign of attraction while she's on the phone, even better. In the 'yes' cases, I mostly just approach like normal. I may bring in the person on the phone and playfully say stuff like, "Hi, sorry for interrupting but your friend is too cute, you can decide if we're right for each oth… | /r/seduction | 22/01/26 08:40 AM |
| 28 | What are some common first-time flirting mistakes to AVOID?Inconsistency. If you've decided to work on this but then you only actually flirt with a new woman once a month or less frequently because you just keep putting it off out of awkwardness, nerves, getting embarrassed, being overwhelmed by the social pressure, etc then that's basically as good as just not working on it at all. It's gonna be embarrassing. It's gonna be awkward. It's gonna be overwhelming. You just gotta bite the bullet and keep at it. And before someone comes in talking about how n… | /r/seduction | 20/01/26 02:08 PM |
| 4 | For the people that are successful when approaching girlsThe physical approach is much more important than the words. As in where you approach from, how much distance you give in the beginning, how clearly they can hear you, making sure they aren't blindsided, etc. Get those things down and you can say all the simple openers given by others here and they will work. You always want them to see you coming, so as much as possible, approach from the front. So if you're initially approaching from behind, overtake her first, get in front, before you try and… | /r/seduction | 19/01/26 04:43 AM |
| 19 | First time running a rotation. Got too invested in one girl and lost my favorite girl as a result.Any chance her and her man break up and I play the “Cry on my shoulder, he wasn’t right for you” card back into her life? What the fuck? Stop it. The only mistake you made here is not continuing to meet other women. It's ok to lose interest in women, regardless of how crazy they are for you. How much a girl likes you ≠ her quality as a sex partner or relationship partner. I was openly sleeping with 5 girls when I met my girlfriend. (She was the 5th) and besides her, 2 of the 5 we're openly sayin… | /r/seduction | 18/01/26 07:25 AM |
| 4 | How much do you “talk” to girls?With me, girls spend the majority of the time talking. It's pretty simple, make them feel good about opening up. A good pre-requisite is to not be judgemental. Even if you're talking about someone else, if you start talking shit about that person for something they do or how they behave, or whatever then that is subtly hinting to others that you might judge them and talk shit about them behind their backs, that will keep them more guarded with you. And objectively, it's pretty fucking stupid to … | /r/seduction | 17/01/26 09:02 PM |
| 2 | 23M in LA, new to the game, approaching solo, need adviceIn 2009 there were tons of "lairs" that regularly met up face to face. It was as simple as typing your city into a PUA forum and you would already see a bunch of posts linking to your local lair's Facebook group or even their own local forum. I don't think that's still a thing these days. But I have to say, I still dealt with my nerves on my own. Guys were just as impatient to immediately hit homeruns then as they are now and it takes more time to find someone you really vibe with and has the sa… | /r/seduction | 17/01/26 06:34 AM |
| 3 | What to do after approaching girl from the side?I think I complimented them on their style. It's important to note, I gave them a compliment but that was actually an indirect approach. Immediately after giving the compliment I started walking away but continued to talk to them a little because they responded very enthusiastically. When I saw a real willingness to engage, I told them which way I'm going so they had the chance to continue the conversation. | /r/seduction | 16/01/26 03:32 AM |
| 3 | What to do after approaching girl from the side?That was 2 or 3 years ago but from what I can recall, their relationship as sisters, what they like to do together, music, TV shows, partying, planning to party together which led to exchanging contacts. There were also the random flirty remarks and playful challenges. It's really not that crazy. People talk for hours on a first date with someone they just met, why can't you talk for 20 minutes in a cold approach? | /r/seduction | 15/01/26 04:52 PM |
| 6 | Hot and cold girl. appreciate helpSeriously? There's lots of beautiful, awesome girls who live in the same city as you and you're trying to get with this girl that's far away, is stringing you along and doesn't even respect you enough to not play with your feelings? Imagine telling a guy to do that to a girl he's talking to. Think that would be a good idea? You've learned to put up with way too much shit because as a guy, having standards and being picky has rarely been emphasized to you. So I'm gonna tell you, have some fucking… | /r/seduction | 15/01/26 04:34 AM |
| 13 | 23M in LA, new to the game, approaching solo, need adviceSo you have strong butterflies but still managed to do 5 approaches? Hell yeah! Good work pushing past the nerves. As someone who has been doing this for 17 years and got everything I wanted out of it, I gotta tell you, my nerves persisted way beyond the first 5 approaches. It's a fool's errand to try to look for a way to remove the nerves without approaching and that will cause you to just waste a ton of time watching others enjoy the dating/sex life you want. Trust me, I wasted 1 whole year tr… | /r/seduction | 15/01/26 03:56 AM |
| 6 | What to do after approaching girl from the side?If we're going the same way then we'll definitely end up having a longer conversation. I've had that where I approached 2 girls in a mall. We started on one end of the mall, went up an escalator and walked all the way to the opposite end of the mall. Didn't even stop talking once we got there. We just leaned up against some railings to continue the conversation. But if your conversation and flirting skills aren't that good yet and you want to be able to bail quickly, don't walk with her, just st… | /r/seduction | 14/01/26 06:36 PM |
| 2 | How to Escalate when she gives no SignalsYou can still make the read for a kiss with the escalation steps right before it though and you can make a read about how quickly you might be able to take her top off by kissing her. I don't see why we would need to separate Probing from Escalation when you can probe with every step of Escalation. | /r/seduction | 12/01/26 05:27 PM |
| 3 | How to Escalate when she gives no SignalsSo people are changing the definition of Escalation in recent years. When I saw the title my first instinct was to say, "Just escalate and then she'll give you signs on whether you should continue or not." Your section on "probing" is what Escalation was defined as for decades. It was never big jumps that feel risky without clear signs, it was always smaller touches building up to more intimate ones. Just always do that and you should be fine with or without signs in the beginning. If a girl pul… | /r/seduction | 12/01/26 04:14 PM |
| 18 | Did finally getting a partner live up to your expectations?My neediness and paranoia just kept escalating, she felt so suffocated towards the end. Ironically, I was also pretty arrogant back then. We've been able to talk well after the dust settled and she said she would have tried get back together but before that could happen I bragged to a mutual friend of ours by calling out the fact that she would in fact try to get back with me. That friend told her and that's why she decided to force herself to really move on. That wasn't the coolest thing a frie… | /r/seduction | 12/01/26 05:00 AM |
| 35 | Did finally getting a partner live up to your expectations?Looking back on it, my first relationship was awesome for what it was. I finally felt what it was like to be really desired both physically and emotionally and to be cared for by someone who isn't a family member. It also taught me all the blindspots I still had as a guy, how needy I was, how bad I was at communicating, and how bad I was at reading social cues. And no, this isn't a fairy tale, that relationship didn't fix all those issues, I fixed them after it ended. On that first relationship … | /r/seduction | 12/01/26 04:29 AM |
| 2 | She asked me out but already had plans after, would you still go?Honestly, if I’m being real, I’d rather see the other girl if that ends up happening. Why wait for that? You've already expressed that this doesn't work for you. Let her know you aren't into it and if she doesn't offer an alternative that works better for you then just go do stuff with other girls who treat you better. As men, we're also screening women. You're not obligated to give her a chance just because she fits your physical standards and is making a move. If her move is not something you … | /r/seduction | 11/01/26 04:39 PM |
| 5 | Could a person with game do this?Can't share reddit links on this sub without messaging the mods here who take days to reply so I'll just copy-paste it: From the OP: "For the guys out there who are frue lotharios what is best method for getting women. If it's not cold approach then what is then?" My response: Social Circle. First I need to clarify what Social Circle Game is. Its not about seducing the friends you already have. It's about building a new social circle specifically to help you achieve your goal. And you can pick p… | /r/seduction | 06/01/26 06:08 PM |
| 8 | Just reading and no theory has been done. Anyone else have/had this issue?Its bad for a bunch of reasons. I know, I did this for an entire year before finally making myself approach regularly. First, its all useless information if you're not practicing it. You'll also forget most of it without using practice to integrate it. But the worst thing of all is the more you learn, the more you psych yourself out. You're reading theory and stuff on reddit? So that means you're constantly exposing yourself to how it's supposed to be done and probably a few success stories as w… | /r/seduction | 06/01/26 05:46 PM |
| 7 | Could a person with game do this?Yes but an average dude with game could never, in a million years, do it by just standing around. It'll take more effort. I've done it a bunch of times but I needed to work almost the entire room. First of all, if I can walk in with a bunch of other girls, I will. I explained how I got a group of 12 models to basically be my wing girls a while ago on this sub so if you wanna know about that, ask me and I'll send it here. That's a bit of a longer process though, takes a couple months. Worth it in… | /r/seduction | 06/01/26 05:15 PM |
| 1 | Learning and Feedback in GameThat's true. I often make the analogy that blindly approaching is like trying to be a successful boxer by just randomly sparring with people without actively learning anything at all about boxing. No understanding of how to throw a punch, or how to defend, or footwork, distance, etc, just trying to get by through feeling it. But regular approaching is still a prerequisite to identify what works and what doesn't. If you're learning and you're not approaching, you're not really learning and you're… | /r/seduction | 03/01/26 07:01 PM |
| 3 | Learning and Feedback in GameIts so easy to identify what works and what doesn't. Approach. Day in and day out. For years. The only reason people in this community are confused is because 90% of the people here only approach once every 3 months....on a good year! | /r/seduction | 03/01/26 12:40 PM |
| 1 | Girl I was dating kissed another guyYou just went out on some dates and messed around. I've had sex with a girl the morning after sleeping with a different girl. I don't expect commitment from anyone I'm just going on dates with until we mutually agree to it. Even my ex girlfriend had sex with 2 or 3 other guys while we were still in the early stages of going on dates, and I was still sleeping with my FWBs at the time as well. I also had 4 FWBs when I started out with my current girlfriend. Just keep meeting girls and messing arou… | /r/seduction | 28/12/25 09:42 AM |
| 3 | With a rich girl, should I hang out near her place/neutral/my place?Do stuff with her that you normally do. Even in terms of having the best impression possible, you're much better at doing that as yourself than some sort of character. Also, if you guys are already sleeping with each other, she clearly likes you as you already are, so just keep being that. Furthermore, in my experience, rich girls don't mind paying for the stuff that you can't afford and doing that plus helping you adjust more to that lifestyle makes them value you more, because the more effort … | /r/seduction | 22/12/25 07:15 AM |
| 5 | Trying to set up a dateDon't text her until she's back and in the meantime, meet, date, and sleep with women who are more available. | /r/seduction | 20/12/25 01:31 AM |
| 34 | Post-Hookup EtiquetteYou're good. I often send a text after a day or so simply because I put off texting when I can. I see the value of staying in touch and keeping up momentum but post hookup really isn't necessary to keep up momentum, her body will remind her for you. She doesn't even need certainty that you're actually into her. I had FWBs who had thought I ghosted them before I hit them up again and they still came around to have fun. As far as how to act when you guys do hang out, no PDAs. Don't hold hands or p… | /r/seduction | 14/12/25 03:39 PM |
| 6 | dating introverts and dead airDon't worry about her verbalizing her feelings, if she's trying to open up but is just shy then she's doing enough. Just move things forward and don't stop unless you get negative signs from her (backing away, stiffening up, and of course, her saying no). It's easier to look for signs of disinterest than signs of attraction so just keep escalating unless a sign of disinterest shows up. | /r/seduction | 14/12/25 03:25 PM |
| 7 | Good conversations but zero attraction , what actually kills sexual tension?I try and talk to them, but the conservations feels forced or girls just being that not interested after a while. That's how it is in the beginning. Social skills are actual skills. Keep practicing and keep trying to apply the good practices you learn. | /r/seduction | 14/12/25 09:57 AM |
| 13 | Good conversations but zero attraction , what actually kills sexual tension?Have you tried talking to young female soldiers? The people you described doesn't seem anywhere close to "almost everyone." Based on what you wrote above, it seems like you mostly talk to very disciplined, hardworking, and proper people, just of different ages. You can either learn to talk to a different type of person or just look for the type of girls who would be similar to the people you talk to. Also, are these young women cold approaches while the examples of other people you mentioned are… | /r/seduction | 14/12/25 09:07 AM |
| 4 | Am I onto something here?This is absolutely the correct way to go. You're rediscovering something that has been taught here for decades. Even if you don't shower her with praise for just existing, trying to be the most funny, most unique, most witty guy is still a losing strategy. First of all, you have no idea what other guys are saying to her so there's no way you can make sure whatever you send is better than what they do. Second, you're still putting in way too much effort for some random chick who might not even lo… | /r/seduction | 09/12/25 05:15 AM |
| 2 | How serious and fixed are Dating-Intentions on Dating-Apps?My only intention on a first date is to see if I actually like her. One time this girl I was on a date with was always acting slightly suspicious about how well I handled everything and just before I penetrated her to have sex later that night she asked, "Did you know this was gonna happen??" I said no, we had sex, after sex she brought it up again and I elaborated, "I didn't know whether I would have wanted to have sex with you tonight." Because that's how I genuinely feel in the beginning with… | /r/seduction | 07/12/25 01:21 AM |
| 1 | How much does mindset effect your dating lifeThen you have nothing to worry about. Inner game and outer game go hand in hand. Just get more experience and success and your inner game will improve. | /r/seduction | 07/12/25 12:40 AM |
| 4 | How serious and fixed are Dating-Intentions on Dating-Apps?Rather that caring much about what they have on their profile, I just constantly read the terrain with each individual girl and act based on the social cues I'm getting from them. I have to say though, in my experience, the majority of women don't really stick to the intentions they put down on their dating profiles. I have a casual polyamory setup when I'm single and at least half of the girls that end up as part of it were initially looking for something serious. If you're worried about how to… | /r/seduction | 06/12/25 01:03 PM |
| 15 | What is your success rate?If you're gonna listen to anyone on this thread, listen to this man. Btw, there's a reason he chose to focus on what you can expect in the beginning rather than telling you his current success rate. IYKYK. 😉 | /r/seduction | 06/12/25 11:27 AM |
| 15 | Done 2 cold approaches but bag was open…Anyway I realised that I can’t approach with people around so I’ve set a goal of doing at least one approach with people around so I can get over that fear. Another goal i have is to talk to a girl and make it last a few minutes because the first 2 cold approaches I done (these 2 make it 4) I couldn’t keep the convo going and ruined the approach. Excellent goals! I really like how you directly address something that makes you nervous instead of avoiding it. Don't be discouraged by the downvotes … | /r/seduction | 06/12/25 01:18 AM |
| 6 | How much does mindset effect your dating lifeIf you could somehow magically acquire these mindsets for real without any experience and success, sure. For example, one of the hardest mindsets to acquire without actual experience and competence is being the prize. Thousands of guys have tried and failed at adopting that. Oh you may be able to pretend in the moment you're currently talking to her. You may be able to say the "right" words but the emotions you feel and therefore your actions and non-verbals won't necessarily cooperate because i… | /r/seduction | 05/12/25 01:03 AM |
| 6 | I (M21) go out often but only occasionally get any action.Short answer - Game. I'm not gonna breakdown all of Game here but I'll give you an example so you have something to sink your teeth into. I matched with an 18 year old virgin with very little experience once. She got on Tinder because she was bored and had no idea how many people were getting involved with each other via the app. She didn't actually take it seriously. So when we matched, she thought she could just say anything and nothing meaningful would actually come of it. She was a waitress … | /r/seduction | 04/12/25 04:00 PM |
| 2 | I (M21) go out often but only occasionally get any action.It takes more than just making your intentions clear to lead an interaction to intimacy as best you could. Making your intentions clear is very much a numbers game. Showing clear interest does not build any attraction at all, it only capitalizes on attraction that is already there. And you won't necessarily pull even if she's attracted to you. Without much finesse you're essentially just hoping stars align. You've basically been relying on luck and looks and now you're learning that the latter i… | /r/seduction | 04/12/25 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Advice needed!!Bros before hoes, actually. He told you first, don't compete with him. A big problem among men is that we're a lot less united than women. Look at what happens when someone cheats. If a guy cheats with a girl that didn't know he was in a relationship, there's a chance that the girl might even tell the GF/wife if she finds out. If a girl cheats with a guy that didn't know she was in a relationship and he finds out, he'll just laugh about the BF/husband being a chump or something. And when someone… | /r/seduction | 04/12/25 01:24 AM |
| 7 | I (M21) go out often but only occasionally get any action.Do you actively know how to lead an interaction towards intimacy or are you just randomly vibing? | /r/seduction | 04/12/25 12:57 AM |
| 10 | When dealing with friends with benefits, should convo be limited to only setting up meets?I talk about everything with my FWBs. One of them literally encouraged me to get more serious with my now girlfriend. Yes. That means I even talk to them about the other girls I'm sleeping with. That FWB was someone I saw for a month once a year for multiple years btw and I've been able to have very long term FWB situations a lot, and in fact, some of my really good platonic female friends are former FWBs. The reason I'm able to have that is because I don't neglect the 'friends' part of "friends… | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 12:51 PM |
| 1 | Can’t pull girls from cold approachYou'll never improve with one approach a month. This is a skill. Treat it as such. | /r/seduction | 29/11/25 05:28 AM |
| 3 | Can’t pull girls from cold approachOh, I see. You're going for a same night lay. That's naturally more difficult than just pulling from a date. How long have you been cold approaching and how frequently? | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 04:39 PM |
| 7 | Can’t pull girls from cold approachActually, that's a good reason. I've used dating apps a lot too. Had some good success with it, even met my current girlfriend on an app but in my experience, my girlfriend is an exception, the girls I'm able to get with cold approach are generally higher quality than the girls I get through apps. How do you normally pull on a date with a girl from an app, and is it the same thing you do with a girl from cold approach? | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 03:14 PM |
| 16 | Can’t pull girls from cold approachAs someone who has pulled the majority of women he's been with from cold approach, I have to ask, why even cold approach when you pull just fine on dating apps? Yeah, I have great results from cold approach and very much prefer it but I'm not dogmatic. Whatever works for you, works. | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 02:16 PM |
| 5 | How many of you are 'mode1' super direct on your approach?Have you actually read Alan's books? I have and I did do Mode One exclusively for a month as an experiment years ago. Literally went as far as describing in detail how I would fuck a girl in the first minute of talking to her. It worked the way Alan described exactly one time. That's one time out of 80-100 approaches because I approached roughly 4 times a week and 5 times each day. What I mean by that is that she actually came with me to a handicap toilet to immediately have sex. 80-100 approach… | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 12:33 PM |
| 55 | Approached a girl with her motherMy man! 🔥 Thank you for being one of the newer guys who is pushing past this limiting belief. I just talked yesterday about a girlfriend I had from 2013 - 2017 who I approached when she was with her mom. Another notable experience - I just started sleeping with a girl only a week prior and one night she took me to this fashion show she was modeling for and her mom also happened to be there. She introduced us, I wasn't exactly sure what my girl told her mom about me, she didn't introduce me as he… | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 10:04 AM |
| 6 | Men who are into younger women age gapLast time I was single was 6 years ago, when I was 28, and I was sleeping with 18 year olds no problem. But maybe a lot has changed in 6 years. My friend though is currently 32, this year, 2025, and his girlfriend is currently 19 so.... 🤷🏻♂️ For what it's worth, I did get objections from the 18 year olds I messed around with at the time. My friend got objections from his girlfriend too. And I still successfully cold approach and instant date 18 year olds today. When I get their numbers it's alw… | /r/seduction | 28/11/25 09:27 AM |
| 4 | How do you pull someone’s leg without sounding grumpy or whiny if they’re late to a date or forget something they were supposed to remember?I don't do that passive aggressive BS. If I give a shit about them being late then I give a shit. If it's not a big deal then it's not a big deal. The real thing to work on is not being bothered by petty things. The things I give a shit about are things like a business meeting, an event I organized with people and an essential member of that is late, or like if I'm on a trip with friends, we have some sort of experience scheduled and one person is taking way too long to get ready. If it's someth… | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 06:53 AM |
| 6 | How cold approaching changed your life?Both direct and indirect works with groups. With my ex and her mom, I was direct. Hence, why I straight up told her I thought her daughter was cute and I wanted to meet her. When I do a direct approach on a group I usually do it like that. I address the friends first and then shift it over to the one I like by the end of the opener. For example, I had an FWB that was a ballerina. I met her when she and her friends just got out of ballet class. She was with 4 or 5 other girls and then I was like,… | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 12:47 AM |
| 2 | When seeking a casual relationship, do you let them know before or after the first time you sleep with them?Maybe if I get enough questions to understand what other details you guys could use. What part of flirting would you like me to go into more detail on? | /r/seduction | 26/11/25 11:41 PM |
| 5 | How cold approaching changed your life?Yes. And don't separate groups from solo girls. Approach all situations. You will fail in the beginning. That's not an excuse to avoid certain situations. Just keep going and learn how to deal with different situations. Don't be afraid to educate yourself as well. Experience is extremely important and you should try to stay as consistent as possible but knowledge is also extremely important. Knowledge can be the difference between wasting your time developing the wrong habits and maximizing your… | /r/seduction | 26/11/25 12:38 PM |
| 2 | How cold approaching changed your life?Sure man. | /r/seduction | 26/11/25 12:34 PM |
| 21 | How cold approaching changed your life?One benefit that most guys here probably don't experience a lot these days is having no problem when they unexpectedly meet a girl's friends. The community seems to have regressed. Most guys these days seem to only approach girls on their own. Between 2005-2015, approaching groups was just standard. The majority of attractive women you could meet have at least one other person with her. That was parroted repeatedly in seduction advice at the time. And in 2025 it's still true. Look around. You'll… | /r/seduction | 26/11/25 10:43 AM |
| 2 | Thoughts on Sitting w/Woman During Approach?I was out with two guys who knew about cold approach but have never seen it first hand. They were at the point where theoretically it made sense to them but it just hadn't sunk in because it wasn't real for them yet. So they asked if they could watch me cold approach to see it first hand. I already had 6 years of very consistent experience at this point and was pretty good at it so I obliged. We went out to this busy lifestyle center with lots of shops and restaurants. I wasn't looking for any s… | /r/seduction | 25/11/25 01:28 PM |
| 7 | When seeking a casual relationship, do you let them know before or after the first time you sleep with them?Very difficult to backtrack because showing your flaws and making it more challenging for her to be with you at this point will only make her want you more. You just gotta make it clear that you don't want to be with her. And maybe make sure that all your interactions are recorded to protect yourself legally. If she goes to insane extents you might have to get the authorities involved, but hopefully it doesn't come to that. | /r/seduction | 25/11/25 09:37 AM |
| 9 | When seeking a casual relationship, do you let them know before or after the first time you sleep with them?One question is how long would you keep seeing and sleeping with them after you established it's only casual? As long as it's still fun for both parties. I've had FWBs that have lasted for years. Usually it's around 3 to 6 months though. Sometimes it just quietly fades and we end up ghosting each other, sometimes someone clearly ends it, sometimes one of us pushes the other to someone else that's better for them. Happened with me when I met my current girlfriend. An FWB that I only saw for about… | /r/seduction | 25/11/25 09:24 AM |
| 34 | When seeking a casual relationship, do you let them know before or after the first time you sleep with them?In my experience, it's easier to manage with better timing and better execution. How are you planning to bring it up? "Hey, I just want you to know I'm not looking for anything serious"? There's a better way. I've set up casual situations from both before and after sex for around a decade. After sex is a lot more simple so let's start with that. First of all, you don't want to do it after the first time. Do it after the second time. Why? Because you don't know if you'll keep sleeping with each o… | /r/seduction | 25/11/25 01:33 AM |
| 13 | How can you get an FWB relationships while being nice?You can still be FWBs after going on a date. Just don't wine and dine her at a fancy restaurant. And really, the most important thing is talking about what you want out of the situation. In your case I would bring it up after having sex at least twice. Why twice? Because if it's just one time after a date, that may just be a one night stand. If she sleeps with you again on a separate occasion, that's much more proactive on her part and it's an indication that she would like to keep sleeping with… | /r/seduction | 22/11/25 04:00 AM |
| 5 | Approaching at the parkCan I turn directions and stop jogging and walk up and say hi? Yes. Just make sure your words match your actions. So in this situation, you should be direct. I've even done this while driving. One time, as I was driving to the beach to meet up with some friends, I saw two girls chilling at a bus stop on a side street. Didn't look like there was gonna be a bus for a while so I parked next to it and said, "Hey guys, I was on my way to the beach but I saw you guys and (addressing the other girl) th… | /r/seduction | 22/11/25 02:06 AM |
| 3 | Game on Concerts. Any tips on that?It would be easier if you can vibe. Unless a girl is immediately DTF the second she sees you, you will be taking value from her by interrupting her concert experience. Better to open by building on the concert experience so you add value. Since you don't know the lyrics you can try to dance along or play air instruments to the music, depending on the genre, and open girls by either nodding at them and dancing up to them, getting eye contact and copying their dance moves or playing an air instrum… | /r/seduction | 20/11/25 12:34 PM |
| 2 | Approach journey - Logging every interaction - Day 3Sure. You can't share reddit links on this sub without messaging the mods here who take days to reply so I'll just copy-paste it: From the OP: "For the guys out there who are frue lotharios what is best method for getting women. If it's not cold approach then what is then?" My response: Social Circle. First I need to clarify what Social Circle Game is. Its not about seducing the friends you already have. It's about building a new social circle specifically to help you achieve your goal. And you … | /r/seduction | 20/11/25 05:26 AM |
| 1 | Approach journey - Logging every interaction - Day 3Oh they do more than than. They can also proactively get you laid. The reason other guys may report not having experienced that is largely due to them not wholeheartedly just wanting to be friends. | /r/seduction | 19/11/25 07:20 AM |
| 5 | Yapping?People have it backwards. Its not be mysterious = she gets attracted to you. It's she's attracted to you = she thinks you're mysterious. When she's attracted to you she will naturally wanna find out about you, and when it's not that easy to dig up info on you, because you don't post your whole life online, because your social circle has higher standards and doesn't just open up to everyone, then she will also naturally think you're mysterious even if you do talk a lot. Think about what it's like… | /r/seduction | 19/11/25 03:33 AM |
| 4 | Approach journey - Logging every interaction - Day 3Only your 3rd day? Don't be confused by what others might say. It's incredibly unrealistic for anyone to expect to hit a homerun in the first week of this. It's even unlikely for the vast majority of dudes to hit a homerun in a month. The fact that you got a number at all on day 3 means you're well ahead of a ton of guys. Yes, a lot of the feedback on how you did in this approach is valid but don't feel pressured to integrate all of it and execute it all perfectly by your next approach, just con… | /r/seduction | 19/11/25 03:01 AM |
| 13 | At what point can you confess your feelings to a girl you've been hooking up with?Instead of making a big confession, just express how you feel as your feelings progress. I do that with every girl regardless of whether I end up wanting a relationship with her or not. Maybe in the beginning I express my feelings by saying something like, "Stop it. The way you're looking at me is so distracting." Then maybe towards the end of the date I might say, "I'm trying really hard not to kiss you right now." Then while we're having sex I might say, "Fuck babe, that's so hot." lol Then a … | /r/seduction | 18/11/25 01:31 PM |
| 2 | How do you “just do it?”It's just like cliff diving. The more you think, the worse it gets. Don't look for anything in your mind to justify taking action, don't wait for anything to feel "right", just force yourself into the situation, just like you would when you just jump off the damn cliff. Once you're falling through the air or in the conversation then you have no choice but to do what needs to be done. Think of the most common nerve wracking things in life. Do you really spend months meditating, doing affirmations… | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 05:51 AM |
| 2 | When the scarcity mindset is justified2009 was my sophomore year in college. By the time I was a senior I managed to sleep with a handful of girls from a few classes. Also, nothing is physically limiting you to approaching girls in class. In 2009, I never did. I knew I was too awkward to pull it off back then, so I chose safer settings around campus and outside campus altogether to build up to the point of being able to seduce girls in class. You go outside campus everyday because you commute. And I was also bullied in my younger ye… | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 03:23 AM |
| 2 | When the scarcity mindset is justifiedShut up man. If you count from the moment you wanted girls then I can also say I started when I was 10. Remember, I only counted 2009 because that's when I got the balls to cold approach consistently. If you're gonna claim that you've been cold approaching every week since you were 11 then that's 100% Grade A bullshit. Also, as a guy who regularly approaches in 2025, most girls in the real world aren't as crazy as the girls highlighted on the internet. You should also look into the Availability … | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 02:39 AM |
| 3 | When the scarcity mindset is justifiedJust bringing myself to approach is a war in itself. So Of course I don't have A crap load of approaches under my belt. That comes with the territory. I should have started in 2008 but the reason I didn't count that was because it took me a year to man up and do my first approach. The fact that you've already done a few dozen approaches means you're progressing a lot faster than I did. Just bite the bullet, be nervous but do it anyway. Unlike me in the beginning, you can already tell yourself yo… | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 02:11 AM |
| 2 | When the scarcity mindset is justifiedThe only difference that abundance will have on how you behave with a woman is how much respect you give yourself. You can just cut out the middle man and go straight into respecting yourself more. Even persistently pursuing a woman, continuing to text her after she's shown flaky behavior, falling for a woman that you barely know just because she's pretty and was nice to you, trying too hard to impress her instead of being able to sit back, tease her, challenge her, and genuinely judge her befor… | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 12:30 AM |
| 12 | When the scarcity mindset is justifiedDon't fake it til you make it. Actually develop more self-respect. Behaving like you have abundance ultimately boils down to that. Never compromise yourself for a woman, always choose someone who will actually treat you right. Don't wait around for the approval of others to treat yourself with the respect you deserve. Act regardless of other people and always treat yourself with respect. | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 03:19 AM |
| 1 | Talking feminism on datesI'll keep that in mind. 😄 | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 04:13 PM |
| 7 | Talking feminism on datesWell, Reactance is an actual psychological thing so it's fairly easy to look up. I've noticed it a lot over my 16 years of experience with seduction and have other things I often say too like, "Forget about it, you wouldn't be interested" to actually trigger Reactance and use it to my advantage and make someone listen to me more intently. What I did recently to understand it better was describe my experiences with things like that to ChatGPT and ask about the psychology behind it. That's how I f… | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 09:58 AM |
| 29 | Talking feminism on datesIn my experience, the ones who have really gone deep into the rabbit hole of feminism and might have gotten radicalized are few and far between. Most women are aware of feminism the same way you'd be aware of who and what's popular in music and movies. You know from hearing about it, but odds are you aren't extremely invested in it. The radical ones are the ones who proactively bring it up a lot and almost insist on talking about it, even when you redirect. That's easy to deal with, if I'm meeti… | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 09:35 AM |
| 3 | How To Raise Attraction Levels?If you're already making out then there's already enough attraction but if its not getting to sex then there's not enough arousal. If you can't turn her on enough by physically stimulating her because maybe the clothes get in the way then learn to dirty talk. Learn to vividly describe what you want to do with her. You can read a romance novel or a post on literotica.com to get an idea of how to do that. When you're good at dirty talk, you can make her as horny as you want without even touching h… | /r/seduction | 09/11/25 06:13 AM |
| 5 | Been at this for 11 yearsYou don't need 11 years to figure out the fundamentals. 11 minutes of Googling will already help you find resources for that. | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 05:46 PM |
| 3 | Been at this for 11 yearsBeen at this for 16 years and started frequently sleeping with new women 3 years in until that eventually turned into me having multiple FWBs who all know about each other. At what point do you keep getting stuck at? | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 04:30 PM |
| 30 | Girls take a day to respond.Don't stop approaching or swiping just because you got one number or match. I don't think about this kind of thing at all because I'm too distracted by the girls who are actually giving me timely replies. I just forget about the girls who take too long because I easily get overwhelmed when messaging multiple people. | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 04:24 PM |
| 4 | Does the Fear Of Rejection Ever Completely Go Away?Well for me its a lot less irrational now. I've been cold approaching for 16 years and was deathly afraid of approaching in the beginning that it took me a whole year to work up the courage to get started. But now, what I mean by it's not that irrational anymore is if it's a cold approach, I have zero fear of rejection, even zero fear of doing anything embarrassing in front of a bunch of people. I've already shown myself first hand that I can get the women I want countless times over. All that e… | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 02:47 AM |
| 3 | Halloween"Calm down. At least get me a drink first." But really, if girls initiate with a comment like that, it's not on you to try to impress her with your wit, it's on her to win you over now that she's initiated a conversation with you. That's why even my response is framing you as the prize. I would just as likely say thanks, sit back and just wait for what she has to say next. You know, do what girls do when you approach them. And from there I'll just give her props if whatever she says is good or c… | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 02:42 AM |
| 14 | What to do when a girl won’t do a simple task you ask of her?"Oh alright. Well I gotta get going now." Oh what, that means you don't get the girl? So what? Measure your success based on overall enjoyment, not just on whether you get the girl or not, because sometimes even when you get the girl, you feel pathetic and empty. I had a similar situation with a girl that was already sitting on my bed. She was sitting in front of a window and I asked her to open it while I was at the other end of the room. It wasn't sexual at all. Just totally practical. She ref… | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 01:54 AM |
| 2 | Contradiction?This is not an issue when you're genuinely selective, not just pretending to be just to try and impress her. Just judge them every step of the way before progressing. When I approach a girl, I'm not saying to myself, "I want to fuck her", I'm saying, "Ok, she's cute enough. Let's see if I like her." Then when I approach, I'm judging her based on her response before I decide to keep talking to her. For example, I like to ask for directions when I cold approach. When I do, I'm genuinely judging he… | /r/seduction | 01/11/25 01:46 AM |
| 2 | I don't think race that matters when it comes to seductionYeah and the guy that gets really good at game can hold on to his ability to get women longer and in more varying circumstances. For example I have a friend who has a great singing voice, think Axl Rose, and was shredded from being an athlete in high school and college and got a ton of women, but after college, when he started working, he steadily started ballooning and now he has a clear beer belly and he can't get girls anymore because his game was tuned to his awesome cards, not the new hand … | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 02:09 AM |
| 1 | What to say after kissYou don't need to pay. You can get access to more features by voting on others' photos. | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 10:47 PM |
| 4 | What to say after kissI'm not mad. I just saw your other comment as an opportunity to give advice. I meant everything I said above, you shouldn't put too much effort into trying to win women over. I'll start with your dating app question: First and foremost optimize your photos. Use photofeeler.com to help you identify good photos and if none of your photos rate very well then do your research and take better photos. Now for my advice on how to text girls on dating apps, I'll copy and paste something I shared here be… | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 09:45 PM |
| 2 | I don't think race that matters when it comes to seductionIts a balance between skill and the hand you get. A casual player can get a killer hand but if he's playing against professional poker player with a shitty hand, good money would still be on the pro. | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 09:22 PM |
| 2 | I don't think race that matters when it comes to seductionHahaha. What's up man? | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 09:18 PM |
| 2 | What to say after kissYou just gave me an example. Your question is so low effort I don't really understand what you're referring to because I explained a few things and already gave examples above but you didn't even put in enough effort to be specific about what you're asking for. So I'm just assuming. Your example is something more guys should do with women - Engage with them but make your engagement low effort. It might not lead anywhere? Who gives a shit? The problem is when guys just pretend to be selective. If… | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 09:13 PM |
| 52 | I don't think race that matters when it comes to seductionI was just talking about something similar with a friend a minute ago. Here's what I said to him: "Dating is like a card game. Some people get weak cards, some get strong ones, most get a combination. But at the end of the day, what matters is how you play with the hand you're dealt." Being a certain race in a certain environment can be a weak card, but you may have other cards that are stronger. And at the end of the day, what matters is how you play the Game. | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 03:57 PM |
| 15 | What to say after kissI often like to save the kiss for when she's back at my place. But in the times when I've kissed someone out in public, I just give them a sly grin as if to say, "I bet you want more" (because I always pull away first) and then continue talking and leading towards the pull. Pulling away from the kiss first is an essential part of that. It shifts the dynamic slightly to her chasing you for more and you calling the shots on the physical intimacy. After the first kiss I sometimes even look at them … | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 10:33 AM |
| 1 | desperately need this relationshipSent | /r/seduction | 19/10/25 09:58 AM |
| 1 | desperately need this relationshipSent | /r/seduction | 19/10/25 09:57 AM |
| 2 | desperately need this relationshipAlright. I sent them. | /r/seduction | 18/10/25 07:55 PM |
| 3 | desperately need this relationshipNot good enough. Reddit links don't go through on this sub without asking a mod to let it through manually, and it can take days or weeks before they read that message. So can I DM you links to posts that will be helpful for your situation? | /r/seduction | 18/10/25 07:40 PM |
| 4 | desperately need this relationshipThen you need to get better at flirting and escalation. | /r/seduction | 18/10/25 07:22 PM |
| 2 | desperately need this relationshipI've been with alot of women You mean having sex or just being in their presence? | /r/seduction | 18/10/25 07:17 PM |
| 19 | desperately need this relationshipYou don't need that relationship and you don't know what her personality is like either. Don't be reactive and only worry about doing well with women when one individual catches your eye, be proactive about improving yourself and improving your ability to interact with women by interacting with a lot of them so that once you meet someone that you really like, you can actually do something about it. | /r/seduction | 18/10/25 07:12 PM |
| 62 | do girls prefer guys that barely text them?This guy got it. The only thing I'd add to that is, in my experience, they mostly like it when they're already sleeping with you or when they already want you so much they would already sleep with you. Like this one girl who got "concerned" for me just because I didn't respond for a few hours. Also, you don't have to be that physically attractive for women to find you attractive, your looks are only one factor, there are many others in your control. And the idea that she makes her decision in th… | /r/seduction | 18/10/25 01:45 AM |
| 14 | What’s something oddly specific a girl did to flirt with you on a date that was memorable ?On dates: -While we were parked and chilling in the car by the beach, she gave me this shy but excited look and subtle nod to indicate she wanted to kiss. Hard to describe it but it was pretty adorable, like she wanted it but was too shy to just say it. -When we were chilling on a sofa in a lounge, she checked her iPad for a bit and rested it and her hands on my dick. This was before any kisses or anything explicitly sexual came up. -This one isn't exactly flirting but very memorable. She brough… | /r/seduction | 16/10/25 12:43 AM |
| 7 | Is a second date really necessary?Working to win them over? I don't know about anyone else but I don't view dates as an audition. More like something more mutual, like a planned hang out to keep flirting with each other. In fact, the way I carry out my dates make it more like the girls are the ones "auditioning." The way I see it, the second date is necessary only if you two are still feeling each other. If a girl is acting wishy washy after the first date, going on a second date doesn't even occur to me, I'd much rather focus o… | /r/seduction | 13/10/25 01:30 PM |
| 3 | How can I apply Speed Seduction system (from Ross Jeffries) as a spanish speaker?While I generally agree with u/becomesharp on this, I wouldn't say none of it is useful. You shouldn't use it as your primary tool for seduction but you can use some of the frame control stuff in certain situations and you can use some patterns for verbal escalation. But only do the verbal escalation when you've at least made out and it's clear you already want to have sex or with a girl you're already having sex with. Oh and if you focus on understanding the concept instead of just copying the … | /r/seduction | 10/10/25 06:40 AM |
| 2 | Arm around a girl, is this too next level for starter kino?Well if you're fairly inexperienced then excellent work! Hopefully your mindset is not to win this girl back and is focused instead on doing better with the next girl. Keep improving man. 👍 | /r/seduction | 09/10/25 07:03 PM |
| 3 | Arm around a girl, is this too next level for starter kino?Given all the other touches and proximity, the mere act of putting your arm around her to guide her like that wouldn't be an issue. However, since you are asking about it, you may have been a bit awkward with it and made it a bigger deal in the moment than it needed to be. That would be something that would make her feel uncomfortable. BUT even then, that's not enough to make a girl ghost you. I had an extremely awkward first attempt at a kiss with my ex girlfriend from years ago but she still k… | /r/seduction | 09/10/25 06:57 PM |
| 8 | she just wants to be friends but…You're friends, what is there to be done about it? Unless you're saying you want to stop being friends, which is contradictory to what you just said. | /r/seduction | 09/10/25 08:42 AM |
| 44 | she just wants to be friends but…She wants an orbiter that she can call on to make life a bit more convenient. I knew one guy in a similar situation who became her designated cat feeder whenever she went on vacation. You can make it so she's also useful to your life though. For example, she still hangs out with you and acts really close, right? Great! Hang out at a bar and let all the other girls see that so that when you approach them, they will be more receptive to you. You should do things to make her feel like you genuinely… | /r/seduction | 09/10/25 06:43 AM |
| 39 | Numb to getting girls numbersYou have to have a level of insanity to keep modern dating *A level of competence. You think you've pushed as far as you can go but you haven't yet. I've been doing this for 16 years, have spent a good amount of time at the stage you're currently in and let me tell you, there are a lot more stages after that,. This too shall pass. | /r/seduction | 07/10/25 02:32 AM |
| 2 | Just keep shooting?Yeah, just stay there and keep going. Just position yourself so you have something behind you when you approach to reduce the likelihood that other girls see you get rejected. Don't make a weird look that shows everyone you got rejected too. Just smile regardless of how they react and then move on to someone else in the venue. | /r/seduction | 05/10/25 08:41 AM |
| 34 | Does ignoring help?Yes. The problem for most guys arises when she starts showing a good amount of interest. Many guys here have talked about the sudden switch in women's behaviour when they start reciprocating her interest. That's because it doesn't make sense for you to show her interest at that point. You're skipping a step. If you acted disinterested and then suddenly flip to being interested in her, just because she showed you interest, you come off as extremely manipulative. You basically reveal that you were… | /r/seduction | 04/10/25 11:09 PM |
| 6 | General advice for clubs/bars?A cool thing you can do at a bar that you can't do in daygame is approach them, leave, and come back to them later. If you leave someone you approached in daygame they're gone. If you leave someone you approached at a bar, they're likely to still be in the exact spot you met them when you come back. What I like to do is give compliments or make small talk with a lot of people, just 1-2 minutes max and then move on as I'm making my way through the bar. Don't just randomly bounce around. Have dire… | /r/seduction | 04/10/25 08:29 AM |
| 2 | Is it common for you to get laid when you are least focused on it?This might be an unexpected answer but anything that I genuinely enjoy doing and in order to be a contender for the perfect date, it should also be something I can do with multiple women at the same time. The only traditional dates I've gone on in the past 10 years have been with my ex and with my current girlfriend. And I didn't go on traditional dates with them before they became my girlfriend. A date is not a requirement for sex. Its not a requirement for a serious relationship either. A date… | /r/seduction | 03/10/25 06:27 PM |
| 2 | Is it common for you to get laid when you are least focused on it?To me learning seduction is the education and practice of it. Education in that you learn from others who have codified dating before and used to it great success for themselves and/or for others. A lot of what guys on this sub struggle with is simply self-sabotage. They don't want to learn it broken down and seem to prefer just observing those that can't break it down for them and are just naturally good with women. But that just means you will be the one breaking it down yourself and that's a … | /r/seduction | 03/10/25 05:10 PM |
| 14 | Tips for breaking the touch barrier?Get used to talking with gestures. Get your hands out of your pockets, don't hang them on your sides or put them on your hips. Have them in front of you when you have conversations and allow them to move as you express yourself. You might start out with smaller gestures at first but they will naturally get bigger over time. From there, it's a lot easier to give friendly touches to the shoulder, taps to the arm, soft squeezes to the hand, etc. And the main thing is you don't think about it. When … | /r/seduction | 02/10/25 03:11 PM |
| 11 | Tinder openers"Do you want the good news or the bad news first?" Or anything similar that evokes a lot of curiosity. If you lean towards trying to be witty, charming, or funny you're just gonna be like the hundreds of other guys doing the same thing. And even if by some miracle you somehow manage to be the most impressive out of all of them without even being aware of what they're saying, you still won't be that engaging and hold her attention that well. Because trying to entertain women is like being a TV sh… | /r/seduction | 02/10/25 12:25 PM |
| 7 | How to get into the right mood before date or being social without alcohol?If your day was absolute shit then just raincheck. If its closer to more typical stress of a workday then what I've done was just compliment random people. You're cold approaching but you aren't really trying to get anyone's number. Just make someone happy and leave. Although I don't exactly avoid getting a number if I happen upon another girl I'm attracted to before a date. Either way, I've found that giving compliments and doing random acts of kindness has been really good for lifting my mood … | /r/seduction | 01/10/25 10:44 PM |
| 4 | Is it common for you to get laid when you are least focused on it?Just average. I met my girlfriend 10 years into learning seduction. I was doing everything right even when I wasn't trying to. I wasn't being treated by girls as good as I described above a year, 2 years, even 3 years into learning seduction. | /r/seduction | 01/10/25 09:20 PM |
| 18 | Is it common for you to get laid when you are least focused on it?There's no difference for me anymore. Nowadays, whether I like a girl or not, whether I'm focused or not, my behaviour doesn't change. Its partly because after 16 years, doing the right things is just automatic for me now. But also, I think being really bad with girls before I got into seduction helps me a lot now. Because I just appreciate everything. What I mean by that is, I'm already satisfied even when I'm just flirting with a girl I find attractive, because it's something I couldn't imagin… | /r/seduction | 01/10/25 08:51 PM |
| 10 | What’s wrong with me? There are girls into me but the ones I’m interested in are not interested in me?Same here. At least when I was in high school. Or so I thought. My first girlfriend turned out to be a girl that was crushing on me for 3 years and I had absolutely no idea. Women in general are a lot more reserved about expressing how they actually feel about guys. And the ones who are very open about it seem to be the ones who perceive you to be far out of their league. I know every girl I ended up getting intimate with would only call me "cute" at the most before the fact. Most hardly complim… | /r/seduction | 01/10/25 07:28 PM |
| 8 | Stop going to clubsThis is a personal preference thing. I don't believe any setting is required to meet girls. If you don't like clubs and prefer bars, all good. You do you. But it's inaccurate to say that all you can rely on in a loud club is your looks. When you really understand game and don't just have a rolodex of canned lines and routines then you can just translate everything to dance. Social Proof = Dancing with many people Approach invitation = Pointing, nodding, smiling, or gesturing at her from a distan… | /r/seduction | 30/09/25 05:10 PM |
| 5 | What do I even talk about?I usually have around 10 minute long conversations with women I approach but your plan is a totally solid one. I've been doing this for 16 years and even though my convos are longer now and we actually go into meaningful topics, my first 5 years was me doing stuff more similarly to what you're thinking of doing. There's pros and cons to both approaches. Conversational Pros: Higher success rate, higher conversion rate, more seductive (i.e. You can get her much more eager to eventually have sex wi… | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 06:39 PM |
| 2 | After Getting a Number Off Hinge/Apps Do You Call First or Text?There's an example from one of my conversations on Tinder in the link above. Pay attention to how un-entertaining I am and how I focus on getting her to prove herself to me instead. Only bit that was somewhat entertaining there was the joke about cheating, the rest is focused on getting her to prove herself to me and giving her approval when I like something she said, I even talk about the date as a screening tool, even the opener is asking her to prove herself. That's what I've found works real… | /r/seduction | 29/09/25 07:24 AM |
| 11 | After Getting a Number Off Hinge/Apps Do You Call First or Text?When I cold approach, I usually continue the conversation until we set up a date right then and there before we exchange contacts and if we both have time, we'll still keep talking afterwards. If I have the time to go on an instant date, I usually already have a plan with her and have her contact either before we do the instant date or at the beginning of the instant date, and then we can continue talking and flirting for another hour or two. The way I translated that to dating apps was I make p… | /r/seduction | 28/09/25 07:33 PM |
| 3 | Help me get back into daygame/improve my gameDo you have a stable job? | /r/seduction | 28/09/25 02:51 PM |
| 2 | First date nerves and what actually helpsFirst we need to get rid of this disconnected mindset. A date is not a requirement for intimacy, a date is just a McGuffin. Just something to help you progress things in certain scenarios. You really shouldn't be acting differently whether you're first meeting her or you're on a date. All that matters is that you're able to make her comfortable enough to hang around you, you're able to flirt and playfully challenge her and she responds and is engaging with you, and that you're able to escalate. … | /r/seduction | 28/09/25 08:14 AM |
| 2 | What would you consider a shot?I don't put much thought into this kind of thing, it's hard for women to keep my interest anyway because when I was single I put myself in a situation where I was always flirting with and sleeping with multiple women. So if a girl suddenly gets wishy washy she immediately runs the risk of getting lost in the shuffle. Back then I was often at the point where I got annoyed at hearing my notification sound and it caused me to develop a system where I muted notifications from all my girls for the wh… | /r/seduction | 26/09/25 08:31 PM |
| 39 | Dating a new woman who's hotter than what I'm used to. How do I get her to be more enthusiastic about giving head?I wouldn't be quick to jump to this being a hot woman thing, one of my more recent FWBs was smoking hot. She's the type of girl that every guy's eye followed and every girl tries to create the illusion of having her body shape with stuff like pushup bras, clothing that tapers towards their waist, and bottoms that accentuate their asses. She didn't have to do any of that though. Her silhouette is exactly the same naked as it is in clothes. And damn, she blew me really good. Basically pulled out e… | /r/seduction | 26/09/25 07:56 PM |
| 3 | Thing is...Absolutely not a guarantee that you will lose. I met a girl I dated for 3 years by approaching her on the street, as well as a ton of other FWBs. BUT...I have to agree that cold approach is a lower level to meet women from. Its higher than just relying on circumstances to magically help you meet people, but it's lower than situations where women you're attracted to regularly come to you. Its supposed to be even lower than Bumble but most guys don't know how to use that app properly and capitalis… | /r/seduction | 26/09/25 05:54 AM |
| 2 | How much differently do women treat you when they think you have money/good job etcand i understand you took a religious girl's virginity, but it is questionable how many morals and values she really had if she gave it up to you. I don't wanna sound like an asshole but this is necessary for this conversation - that's usually what inexperienced guys tend to think. And it's not like I was never in the same boat. I used to be naive and inexperienced too, I lost my own virginity at 21, so I know what it's like to think like you're thinking and realising how wrong I was looking bac… | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 08:30 AM |
| 2 | How much differently do women treat you when they think you have money/good job etcIf she's not in your social network and you two don't go to the same place everyday (i.e. work, school, gym, etc) then you're better off just moving on. Also, if you simply mentioning that was enough to ruin things then you would greatly benefit from actively improving your ability to flirt and seduce women, because women are a lot more forgiving when you're a lot more charming and seductive. I mean look at what I got away with with the religious girl who was saving herself for marriage. Not onl… | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 07:07 PM |
| 33 | Any guys 5'4" or shorter doing amazing in dating ?My best friend and one of the best seducers I know is 5'4". He's known among our circle for dating girls taller than him. He doesn't try to play like he's tall, he leans into being short and uses it to his advantage. He always says stuff like, "You're lovely but you wouldn't wanna date me, I easily disappear into a crowd and next thing you know, some other chick is chatting me up", he teases girls by calling them his mom, he playfully guilt trips them by saying stuff like, "Oh sure, push around … | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 04:01 PM |
| 6 | How much differently do women treat you when they think you have money/good job etcI copy-pasted this from another comment I made before because reddit links don't go through on this sub: First of all actually practicing, as in talking to people a lot is extremely important. But theres another side to that coin that I believe is equally as important: Actually learning HOW to have conversations. You know, you can get pretty good at moving a car around by stepping on the gas pedal and turning the steering wheel but if you don't actively learn things like Right of Way, the meanin… | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 10:09 AM |
| 3 | How much differently do women treat you when they think you have money/good job etcWe matched on Tinder earlier in the day and she told me I could come meet her after her shift ended in the restaurant she worked in. Apparently she was joking so she was surprised when I actually showed up. That's when she told me she wasn't going anywhere with me, but she did. | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 08:56 AM |
| 0 | How much differently do women treat you when they think you have money/good job etcI'm in my mid 30s and the answer to all of your questions is to get good at seduction. Its probably harder for most older guys to get younger girls but I was regularly sleeping with 18 year olds when I was 28, before I met my girlfriend who is closer to my age, and I have a friend who is similar age to me whose girlfriend is currently 19. Game is also the difference maker for religious girls. One of the 18 year olds that I was actually sleeping with all the way until I finally decided to commit … | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 07:44 AM |
| 6 | How much differently do women treat you when they think you have money/good job etcWell I've been doing seduction since 2009 so all those "high value behaviours" is just how I am when I'm chilling nowadays. That and the fact that I am in a better place financially now. I'm also a watch guy so even though I hide most of the things that clue people into my financial situation, the watch I wear might be a giveaway to some. It could be the clothes too but probably to a far lesser extent, because you don't have to go that expensive to get very comfortable clothing, and comfort and … | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 05:41 AM |
| 4 | How do you guys start conversations at the gym with pretty women?Lean Beef Patty? Anyway, you know how you see a dude using the equipment you want and you ask if you could work in or you see him struggling with a weight and you give him an impromptu spot? Then the next time you see each other you give each other a nod. Then in a few days that progresses to a "hey man." Then in a few more days it progresses to asking each other about each other's workouts. Until eventually you're just boys. Yeah, the same exact thing happens with girls you start off talking to… | /r/seduction | 24/09/25 04:08 AM |
| 8 | Day game tips?You know how when you start piano lessons they give you something simple like Twinkle Twinkle Little Star? Yeah, its the exact same thing for cold approach. If you expect to feel like a chad on your very first time doing it you're just setting yourself up for failure and you'll just end up whining on this sub about how game is a scam not because it's true but because you failed to be realistic with your expectations. There's also a very good chance that both of you will be too scared to do anyth… | /r/seduction | 23/09/25 03:22 PM |
| 4 | What does it mean when a girl describes me as “intimidating?”I started doing seduction in 2009, the date I'm talking about happened in 2017. So 8 years of experience. People don't want to accept this because they want an excuse not to work on it but seduction is a skill just like riding a bike or dancing. And when you get stories here like, "I did 100 approaches and it made no difference" you realise very quickly when you put it into perspective that 100 approaches is only 3 approaches a day for one month. No one expects to get good at the piano with only… | /r/seduction | 20/09/25 09:08 AM |
| 2 | Crush on classmateGet to know her during the semester but actually get to know her. Guys have to learn that just because she looks good doesn't mean she won't be bad news. Don't be trying to talk to her to win her over, really come from a place of finding out what's up. And don't just assess whether she's a decent person, also assess whether you actually get along. That means, don't modify your conversation to be more agreeable with her, just do your thing and if she fits in with that then there may be something … | /r/seduction | 20/09/25 06:37 AM |
| 14 | What does it mean when a girl describes me as “intimidating?”In my experience it just meant they thought I was out of their league. Similar to how some guys would be intimidated by really hot women. I called out a girl for looking nervous at the beginning of a date once. She denied it in that moment. Later in the date, after we had sex, and we're just hanging out in bed talking, it comes up again and she explains exactly what I said above. She told me it was her first time going on a date with a guy who was so at ease, who looked like he knew exactly what… | /r/seduction | 20/09/25 05:25 AM |
| 3 | When a friend says he’s not into a girl — then starts subtly competing for her attention. What's the approach?Tell him to back off in private. If he still pulls that subtle shit then stop being friends with him and just consider him competition from that day forward. Oh but there's a bigger problem here - You're underperforming. If you've been flirting with her for months then you should be able to just choose to pull her right now. If you can't then that's what gave your friend the encouragement to try it out with her. I've taken my time with girls in settings where I get to see them often too but that… | /r/seduction | 19/09/25 05:23 AM |
| 2 | What to do when you have multiple date options? How do you go about your selection process?You don't need to overthink it. If you can get multiple date options then you can get multiple date options. Just pick on a whim and if you accidentally leave out some of the better ones, no big deal because you can always get new options. You can also raincheck on the ones you decide not to come out and see this week. If that turns them off and makes them stop communicating with you, no biggie because you can always get more options. Also, you don't need to commit to anyone just because you wen… | /r/seduction | 18/09/25 10:19 AM |
| 66 | At what point do you decide to close the door forever?After the first instance. See, the problem is not your ability to maintain a girl's interest, it's you not being able to afford saying no to women. Instead of focusing on doing better next time she comes around, focus on getting even better at meeting women and getting dates and pulling. The mistake guys often make is they pause for months after managing to just get a date with one girl. What you're supposed to do instead is right after you get a girl's number from cold approach, you walk away a… | /r/seduction | 18/09/25 09:17 AM |
| 2 | Rapid escalation?You nailed the issue of rapid escalation. If you don't pull that nighr, she's very likely to flake on you when you text her. That's because attraction and arousal is fleeting, comfort is more long term and makes you feel like a real person to her. When you text her, she's no longer in the highly aroused state you got her in the night before. She's probably at work, eating, doing chores, driving, etc. And if you have no comfort with her, the first thing she'll think when she sees your name pop up… | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 06:06 PM |
| 27 | How to respond when girls compliment you?"Thank you" and then continue flirting with her. Its not a big make or break moment. Just accept the compliment and carry on. | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 06:17 AM |
| 8 | She rejected you but now wants you back - here is what you should doDon't make assumptions based on previous behaviour, just judge all women you're flirty with on what they show you now. First of all, if she rejected me before then her coming to me is a non-negotiable. Why would I feel respected if a girl is the one who wants to try again but then expects me to make things happen? That goes for any girl in that scenario, even if I was the one that cut things off. But even when she does come over, I won't just immediately fuck her. I'll talk to her a little first… | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Do we really have any control over if they message us after we get socials?Absolutely. | /r/seduction | 16/09/25 04:41 AM |
| 20 | Coffee date etiquette?Forget expectations or official dates or whatever. The only girl I've went out on "official" dates with in the past 10 years is my girlfriend. Before she became my girlfriend, I also never went out with her on things that were clearly dates. And most of the time, when I went out with girls as a single guy, it was always with a group, and there were often multiple girls that I was flirting with in that group. Making someone understand that something is a date won't magically make them feel an emo… | /r/seduction | 15/09/25 05:58 PM |
| 2 | The problem with today's dating...This isn't new. I started in 2009 and this was already happening. Women aren't any worse now and they're not as terrible as you think in general. What's worse is the skewing of your perception because of social media. | /r/seduction | 14/09/25 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Do we really have any control over if they message us after we get socials?Do we really have any control over if they message us after we get socials? We do. Everything from how you're interacting when you meet her to what's in your social media profile to when you send your message to what's in the message you send affects her willingness to respond to you. The biggest factor is what you did when you met. Focusing on sexual tension really isn't great for making a woman want to respond to you. The way men are wired is like if a woman was ovulating everyday, and we can … | /r/seduction | 14/09/25 03:49 PM |
| 3 | Being Told That you Lack a "Romantic Connection".You need to address your self-esteem before you worry about what you're doing on dates. | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 06:51 PM |
| 3 | Being Told That you Lack a "Romantic Connection".Escalation is not a performance. Its interactive. Its less of you being a dancing monkey and more like an actual dance between the two of you. | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 06:46 PM |
| 8 | Being Told That you Lack a "Romantic Connection".That just means they haven't been turned on enough by you. Its just that, that feeling of being turned on is still in the early stages so it's not that intense yet and it doesn't immediately occur to them that what they're feeling is arousal, that's why they look for a label for that feeling and it usually ends up being, "Spark" or "Romantic connection." And its not about a lack of attraction. If they show up to a date and are actively engaged with you at the date then attraction is there. Its a… | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 06:35 PM |
| 6 | Hygiene. PLEASEYou can get away with murder just from very basic hygiene. Last time I was single, I had 5 girls sharing me and all I did was... -Shower with soap at night, sometimes shampoo too. No loofas, just hands. -Shower just with water in the morning. -Style my hair (blowdry + product) -Use deodorant and apply a single spray of cologne to my chest before going out -Brush twice a day -Carry around breath spray for when I'm out and about -Shave and get regular haircuts -Cut my nails once a week -Wipe my fa… | /r/seduction | 09/09/25 02:08 AM |
| 58 | What is the best first date?You may be thinking about it from the wrong perspective. You're looking at a date as one your ways to impress a woman and you want to stand out by offering unique ones. Instead you should be looking at a date as a way for YOU to spend time getting to know her and assessing her. When I'm interested in a girl enough to ask her out I'm not thinking, "Ok, how do I seal the deal with her?" My mindset is more, "Ok, she's on the shortlist. Lets see how far she can get." And there are definitely multipl… | /r/seduction | 06/09/25 02:19 AM |
| 11 | Let’s Settle This Once and For All…Its hard to answer that question outright because one has a bigger skill factor than the other. You really won't be able to enjoy the benefits of Cold Approach without getting pretty good at it. And another thing that gets in people's ways is their misunderstanding of the skill of cold approach and their much more emotionally charged attitude towards it vs other skills. Its very rare for someone to just be pragmatic about cold approach. Sooner rather than later, people have to bring their feelin… | /r/seduction | 04/09/25 08:50 PM |
| 2 | How to become more attractive as a manI approach coaching like a workout. If a client can't handle a certain amount of volume or intensity then we make adjustments and work from there. Of course, like a workout, more experience is more data, so I don't just make one adjustment, its an ongoing process of modification and refinement. | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 05:47 PM |
| 1 | How to become more attractive as a manLove this question. In terms of just a method for getting girls, I'd say cold approach and dating apps are about the same, they're on lower levels, as in you're not meeting women from the strongest position that you can come from. But in terms of character building, Cold Approach dwarfs dating apps. Compared to cold approach, there's almost no social pressure involved with dating apps. Yeah, you can have jitters before a date but that still doesn't compare to approaching in public, where others … | /r/seduction | 01/09/25 05:30 PM |
| 4 | How to become more attractive as a manThis is a question to ask a lawyer. If others see your question and are inclined to answer it, they may give you more emotional, gut-feeling answers based only on their personal experiences. Even I'm tempted to tell you how legally unscathed I am after 16 years, tens of thousands of approaches, and pushing the boundaries and bordering on being a public disturbance from time to time with my antics. But I believe in getting actual answers to questions, and I can't give you that for this particular… | /r/seduction | 31/08/25 10:33 PM |
| 27 | How to become more attractive as a manNot a good question to ask someone who has been doing this for 16 years. If you tried to copy me as an inexperienced guy, you'd have trouble finding your footing. What you can default to when starting out is a Drive-by Compliment. Really simple, just compliment a girl and walk away. If she's responding warmly to you, turn back to talk to her, if not, keep walking. Why walk away? One of the reasons compliments don't work with women is because they don't feel very sincere, they feel like you're ju… | /r/seduction | 31/08/25 07:59 AM |
| 127 | How to become more attractive as a manCold approach. Yes, you gain experience flirting, you develop skills as a seducer and all that stuff but I'm actually talking about it from a different perspective. I'm talking about it from the perspective of building character. Most guys don't like to do cold approach because it's a kind of stress they can't handle. A lot of guys would rather do a Leg Day Dropset from hell that leaves them crawling out of the gym than to be consistent at cold approach because physical pain and fatigue while av… | /r/seduction | 30/08/25 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Most of the girls have bfI responded to another person asking the same question. You'll find it on this thread. | /r/seduction | 30/08/25 09:38 PM |
| 1 | Most of the girls have bfI responded to another person asking the same question. You'll find it on this thread. | /r/seduction | 30/08/25 09:37 PM |
| 5 | Most of the girls have bfJust the usual. You'd probably see similar lines all over this sub: "I just thought you were really sexy and I wanted to see if we would get along." That's not something I prepared by the way. I'm not even sure I'm quoting myself 100% accurately. The point is just to express your attraction and intention. Oh but you don't have to do that. I've had tons of success approaching more socially too like asking directions, making comments on situations, or giving non-sexual compliments. I just happened… | /r/seduction | 30/08/25 09:00 PM |
| 14 | Most of the girls have bfCould u give some tips or advices for signs to look for when the women is interested in you 5 Signs I've used reliably: She's looking around Sometimes paired with walking slowly and aimlessly. Sometimes she does it when she's with friends too, where she gives less attention to them and keeps looking around, which actually makes it a stronger sign. The movement is kinda sweeping. Like she's scanning the area. This isn't an invitation directly aimed at you but it is an indication that she'd be mor… | /r/seduction | 30/08/25 08:51 PM |
| 14 | Most of the girls have bfThey're easier because you always know what to transition to after the opener, you can buy more time with them, and you can play them off of each other. What to transition to after the opener Unlike a girl on her own where you have to come up with something based on observing her, which can be difficult if nothing stands out to you, with a group you can always talk about their relationship with each other, what they're up to, and what their roles are in the group. Examples for each: "I have a fe… | /r/seduction | 30/08/25 07:24 PM |
| 208 | Most of the girls have bfJust approach them. I met an ex girlfriend who I dated from 2013 to 2017 when she was with her mom. I had a long distance FWB from Sweden who I approached in front of both her parents and I straight up told them I was interested in her when I did. I've also been with many girls who seemed to be with their "boyfriend" when in reality it wasn't a boyfriend at all, only a male friend, her brother, an orbiter, a suitor, their sister's boyfriend, etc. One time I was checking out a botanical garden wi… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 10:36 PM |
| 4 | What Are YOUR Best Questions to Ask Women When Getting to Know ThemAttraction isn't based on pleasing someone. A lot of guys here complain about the women they're talking to while still looking for ways to progress further with them. On other dating subreddits women complain about guys they're attracted to while still looking for ways to get or keep them. I'm not saying to deliberately try to offend her, but you shouldn't be coming from the place of trying to please her as best you can as well. Asking someone if they like their job is a fairly innocuous questio… | /r/seduction | 29/08/25 10:13 AM |
| 69 | What Are YOUR Best Questions to Ask Women When Getting to Know ThemThe initial questions are never as important as the follow up questions. For example, a mistake guys make is not just asking about work but where they take it after that first question. Most guys that bring up work end up talking about the technicalities, where she works, how's the benefits, they compare duties, they compare working conditions, etc. It's almost like they're trying to figure out if they should jump ship or poach her. When in reality, you can turn a question about her work into on… | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 06:44 PM |
| 2 | Calling out ghosting successfullyI have many lines that reliably get a girl responding again without even needing to call them out. Me and my friends actively split tested a bunch to solve this very issue. One example is, "I just realised something about you...and it's kinda scary." But I stopped using them completely in 2015 because I realised I was being way too persistent for chicks that I hardly know. Why are they worth the effort if you've only known them a couple of weeks? Better to put that energy into meeting new girls.… | /r/seduction | 21/08/25 11:20 PM |
| 3 | What to talk to girls about? (girls at work)Instead of "how's your day going?" tell them about your day first and then use that to come up with a different question. For example and I'm taking this from my actual day today - "I was more active than I have been in over a week and felt a lot more like myself today because I had just recovered from having measles, have you had measles? What was it like?" Just share about your day and use something related to what you said as a jumping off point to get into a conversation. Oh and measles not … | /r/seduction | 21/08/25 09:35 PM |
| 8 | The girl at BKYou've worked in restaurants, are there places employees typically go before, after, or in the middle of a shift? Meeting her in one of those places would be your best bet. I have a friend who has slept with a lot of strippers because he went to the same diner they often went to. I've been with a lot of nurses because I used to live near a hospital and frequented the same coffee shop they went to. | /r/seduction | 21/08/25 08:22 PM |
| 7 | Felt like chick disrespected my time by rushing through date to “go to the club with a friend”I want to say that "look I fell like you were to rushed for our date, we can try again when am back town in 2 weeks, r tell me if you're not interested." Or just see he accepts another hangout? Fuck all of this. Don't hit her up ever again. Flirt with new women. She just went out with you for kicks. Any chemistry you think was there is you making it up because you're starved of female attention. And that's largely because you only take a few shots and stick around too long with women who don't t… | /r/seduction | 17/08/25 06:27 AM |
| 1 | Can anyone become good at the game?I don't understand the question. If you're asking me for advice on your particular situation, then you will have to tell me about yourself. And be specific. Short, tall, skinny, muscular or fat? Financial situation? Social situation? Mental health situation? | /r/seduction | 03/08/25 06:39 PM |
| 26 | Can anyone become good at the game?Yes, just like anyone can become good at any other skill. The learning curves and ceilings vary from person to person though. Best practices can vary too. Get the fundamentals down but try not to totally copy someone that's very different from you. Don't try to use game like that person, use it for you. For example, one of the best seducers I know is only 5'4" and he doesn't try to play like he's tall, he leans into being short and uses it to his advantage saying stuff like, "You're lovely but y… | /r/seduction | 02/08/25 05:39 AM |
| 7 | Where do you guys go on Saturday nights to pick up girls if you hate nightclub and bars?Why go out at night? If I'm not in the mood to go to a bar or club then I'll go to a shopping district in the afternoon, which is packed with women on a Saturday, and then cold approach - instant date - pull. If you can pull same night, you can also pull same day. If you need to rely on women having had some alcohol or being in a setting where it's more expected to be flirty and sexual, then your ability to flirt with women still has room for improvement. | /r/seduction | 27/07/25 07:42 AM |
| 3 | Texting a girl againJust respond normally. Don't take over the lead, don't push for anything. Ball's in her court now. You're not any less of a man for not pursuing her, you're the Man for being pursued by a woman. Just see what she has to say and if it turns out to just be small talk, be too busy. Prioritise other things and other women in your life. Really. Its been 3 months. You should have other women you're flirting with. Heck, you should have had that 3 months ago. If she does ask you out, ask about the place… | /r/seduction | 24/07/25 12:17 AM |
| 2 | Examples of a horror wingmanWell, you're already on this subreddit so get some advice, or even just read what's already posted here. The next most important step is to get started in approaching. | /r/seduction | 22/07/25 11:22 PM |
| 2 | Examples of a horror wingmanYou're the kind of person that Game is for. When I started in 2009, it took me a year to get over my nerves. I didn't get good quickly too. The story I'm sharing here happened around 2013-2014. Game is like a social workout. Saying you need to be confident to do it is like saying you need to be strong to go to the gym. | /r/seduction | 22/07/25 11:16 PM |
| 4 | Is it rude to approach someone at a restaurantMost of the negative reaction comes from two things - being blindsided and feeling like they're stuck with you. Take those away and you're fine in 99% of situations. The first one is easy - approach from the FRONT! Its wild how many guys I've met who don't realise that approaching outside a girl's line of sight or worse, that tapping her from the side or the back is creepy. You do that with a friend of yours, not with a stranger. "I thought we were supposed to act like we're talking to our frien… | /r/seduction | 22/07/25 10:25 PM |
| 2 | Anybody have good 3rd date ideas?Isn't asking her to come up with date #3 low energy? Yeah. There's a time and place to be low energy and be the one chilling. Heck, I start the first date off low energy by creating an awkward silence on purpose so that she has to put in some effort to get the conversation going. That's what I'm saying in the previous comment. You don't always want to be the one performing, you want her to take that role from time to time so that she puts in some effort too. Idk how to float it to her without it… | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 06:47 PM |
| 7 | Examples of a horror wingmanI have a story about a shitty wingman...and an awesome one. I started learning seduction in 2009. Back when there were actual communities. I mostly hung out with 2 guys. We got along the most and had very similar philosophies when it came to seduction so we always went out together and basically grew together in all aspects of life for over a decade now. These guys are 2 of my best friends. We would get hit up from time to time by random guys from the community wanting to go out with us because … | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 06:35 PM |
| 9 | Anybody have good 3rd date ideas?By the 3rd date me and the girl are planning it together. Sometimes the girl just asks me out for something. Improve on your conversation and seduction skills, not your date planning skills. And that's more necessary than you think. Because you want your interactions to be more collaborative with the girl, not like you're going through different rounds of auditions and trying really hard to get a callback all the time. Otherwise, there will be way more effort coming from your side and way too li… | /r/seduction | 21/07/25 06:15 PM |
| 14 | Should I approach a girl at the pub if she’s there with her familyIn 16 years, I've only seen one approach where the family reacted negatively, and it wasn't even my approach. It was an approach my friend who learned game with me did. He saw a girl from outside a restaurant, went right in, walked right past the hostess, and went into the middle of the girl's group, that had extended family, because there were at least 15 people in that group, and did his approach. The craziest part is, that wasn't the time he got a negative reaction from the family. The negati… | /r/seduction | 20/07/25 03:28 AM |
| 5 | I find dating extremely exhausting and confusingWell if you really digest the Evolution of Desire you should be pretty good at identifying other resources that are legit because David Buss is an actual evolutionary psychologist. If you want a recommendation, also read another book from David Buss - Why Women Have Sex. Those two would be a good foundation to start off from. By the way, be careful with Models. Its teachings on rejection might have you lowering your standards and avoiding responsibility for your dating life as a lot of its teach… | /r/seduction | 18/07/25 10:48 PM |
| 5 | I find dating extremely exhausting and confusingSeems like you have everything else, the looks, the good career. All that's missing is more experience and more education. ls dating supposed to be this tiring? Not when you know what you're doing. Believe it or not, situations with women are a lot more repetitive than people like to admit. Actually, situations with people are a lot more repetitive than people like to admit. Because its also true with men and anyone else regardless of how they identify themselves. Yeah, yeah, yeah, there's indiv… | /r/seduction | 18/07/25 09:58 PM |
| 3 | Who lies more, men or women?I gotta get back to my friends but I need a quick opinion, is kissing cheating? Its something me and my friend Neil have been debating. | /r/seduction | 17/07/25 07:59 PM |
| 1 | I started reviewing my dates and it has changed everythingSure man. Hit me up. | /r/seduction | 16/07/25 02:32 PM |
| 10 | Do women really like men who are players, or have opinions?Most are attracted to players/guys with lots of options. Not all of them like it though. There's a difference. You can't help who you're attracted to. Just like how you can be attracted to the most toxic, irresponsible, and entitled women around. The meme, "I can fix him/her" is based on reality. Attraction isn't a conscious decision. Being around someone is a conscious decision though. Thinking about a person is a fairly conscious decision. Investing time and energy in a person is a conscious d… | /r/seduction | 16/07/25 09:49 AM |
| 20 | How To Tell When A Woman Is Unsatisfied In Her Relationship?I don't know. I've never tried to learn how to mess up a relationship just to get my dick wet. Not only does that make you a piece of shit, it's also pathetic. Because that means you're so desperate you have to go for someone in a relationship when there are so many single options for you to choose from. | /r/seduction | 15/07/25 09:18 PM |
| 1 | I started reviewing my dates and it has changed everythingYeah, I'm interested. | /r/seduction | 15/07/25 08:46 PM |
| 19 | I started reviewing my dates and it has changed everythingThe mindset behind this is what separates the guys who will be successful and the guys who are constantly gonna be confused. Seduction is a skill. Plain and simple. Anyone claiming it doesn't work when they aren't putting in consistent practice, getting feedback, reviewing dates and approaches, and becoming more knowledgeable in tangible methods is akin to claiming Boxing doesn't work because they tried to throw a jab and it didn't work, after only seeing it in a video one time. | /r/seduction | 15/07/25 06:58 PM |
| 5 | Can putting standards in your dating app bio (ex. No _, must be at least _) make you seem like a higher-value male and give you more matches?Don't put in what you're not looking for. Only put in what you are looking for. | /r/seduction | 12/07/25 08:35 PM |
| 1 | what draws the line between funny guy and an entertainerIf you're doing everything and she just sits there are says yes or no. Even if you aren't being particularly funny, just cracking a few jokes here and there but you're also trying to show off other cool things about yourself the entire time without giving any thought to what's even cool about her you're already being too much of an entertainer. Its like the guy who sends a detailed message on a dating app, gets a one word reply and then sends another detailed message because he thinks the first … | /r/seduction | 12/07/25 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Would you ask out a girl from work to a date?Just noticed this reply. 2009 wasn't fresh for seduction. It started in the 90s with Ross Jeffries. I started with Mystery Method like most people from that time but then I started learning from guys like David Wygant, PUA Training in the UK, James Marshall from Australia, Alan Roger Currie, Gareth Jones, etc and came up with a method of my own. My advice for anyone who wants to make up their own thing - Get good with an established method first. If you're inexperienced and have only gotten luck… | /r/seduction | 08/07/25 09:08 PM |
| 2 | What’s the best way to react when a lady friendzoned you a on date?I wish it did happen to me. Hear me out. When I started in 2009, I was so socially awkward that women didn't even want to be friends with me. It took 2 years of approaching regularly before I lost my virginity. Immediately after I got through that hurdle it wasn't exactly full speed ahead, it was either I get intimate with a woman once every few months or they'd just reject me and dissappear. I never had the middle ground of being friendzoned and getting a new woman in my life until a couple mor… | /r/seduction | 06/07/25 05:44 PM |
| 49 | Why is this sh*t so hard?You said it yourself, you've been a nice guy for most of your life. That's what, 20 years of habits to undo? It takes time. | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 02:35 PM |
| 2 | How To Apply Seduction to A Busy Person?No, I agree and I'm extremely happy to get a reply like this, because I thought everyone here these days was of the false mindset that you can't build attraction. When I say "first impression" I mean everything that happens when you first meet. So from the moment you open to the moment you walk away from each other. All that happens in that time is game. | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 10:49 PM |
| 3 | How To Apply Seduction to A Busy Person?I've dated accountants, lawyers, and medical professionals just starting their careers (they usually have less workload later in their careers). The only reason someone might be too busy for you is if they have you lower in their priorities. So if your motivation is actually to become a better seducer like you say and not just because you're fixated on a particular girl, then you gotta work on making your first impression (as in everything that happens from when you meet to when you exchange con… | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 09:08 AM |
| 1 | If a woman sets up a date and then suddenly cancels saying she is no longer interested and the "vibe is off", how do you guys react?I think i'm applying it all correctly, tbh What a novice thinks doesn't mean much. I can think I'm doing a handstand progression correctly but that doesn't mean my gymnast friend will agree. I think there's another subreddit on Game that takes it more seriously than this sub. Maybe try posting infields there and ask for feedback. Tom torrerro for example had cold reads as a massiv part of his 'attraction material' but i've never had a girl become sexually attracted to me from making cold reads a… | /r/seduction | 01/07/25 06:52 PM |
| 1 | If a woman sets up a date and then suddenly cancels saying she is no longer interested and the "vibe is off", how do you guys react?Nah. You have Joshua Pellicer, Todd V, Gambler, and Adam Lyons in there. Its not an issue of the material, it's an issue with the way you've been practising. You know, there are many people who learn to dance through youtube for example but not everyone who does that actual gets good at it. Seduction is not plug and play. Its a skillset. You can't just read something, do your interpretation of it, and expect it to work the way it's described in the material, because your interpretation of it mig… | /r/seduction | 01/07/25 06:39 PM |
| 1 | If a woman sets up a date and then suddenly cancels saying she is no longer interested and the "vibe is off", how do you guys react?Ok. Give me a list of what you've read. | /r/seduction | 01/07/25 06:33 PM |
| 2 | If a woman sets up a date and then suddenly cancels saying she is no longer interested and the "vibe is off", how do you guys react?I spent 2 years approaching consistently before I lost my virginity and the position I was in when I met my girlfriend was 10 years after I started improving my dating life. If you haven't put in that much effort into improving yourself, you shouldn't jump to the conclusion that your looks are the problem. Improve your looks, yes. But don't act like your game has already peaked and there's nothing you can do to take it any further. In fact, most guys I've met in person who have done game and bla… | /r/seduction | 01/07/25 06:23 PM |
| 5 | Would you ask out a girl from work to a date?Ok. If you wanna do as good as me, focus on improving your game (social skills) instead of your looks. Girls coming to my desk asking to hang out after work isn't because of my looks but because of how I built rapport and flirted with them. | /r/seduction | 01/07/25 04:31 PM |
| 10 | Would you ask out a girl from work to a date?Wrong question. Been learning seduction since 2009. Took me 2 years of consistent work before I lost my virginity. If you haven't put in that much effort, it isn't time to start blaming your looks. | /r/seduction | 01/07/25 04:24 PM |
| 15 | Would you ask out a girl from work to a date?I would if I wanted a relationship with a co-worker, I just never felt that way for anyone I shared an office with. I have hooked up with a good number of co-workers though. But I didn't need to ask any of them out. I'd just naturally develop a work clique and we'd often go out after work for some food or drinks. When we're out, of course the vibe becomes more informal and you can get more flirty. So I made it more flirty with the ones I was interested in. And sometimes the others are busy and t… | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 08:56 PM |
| 7 | Do you think you can bypass women’s standard with game/personalityfor example let's say a women likes tall white guys is it possible for a short Asian to possibly override her standards as long as his personality/game is top tier? Yes. At the end of the day her type is only a mental shortcut to infer the quality of the guy she'll be with. If you have enough game (social skills) to make her enjoy getting to know you even when you aren't her type and when she does get to know you, you actually rock her world, while overcoming possible objections from her social … | /r/seduction | 30/06/25 07:50 PM |
| 3 | If a woman sets up a date and then suddenly cancels saying she is no longer interested and the "vibe is off", how do you guys react?Hell yeah! | /r/seduction | 29/06/25 12:20 PM |
| 3 | If a woman sets up a date and then suddenly cancels saying she is no longer interested and the "vibe is off", how do you guys react?Haha. Thanks man. I've actually been active a bunch of times this month. Been a while since we last talked though. Did you take a break from the sub or something? | /r/seduction | 28/06/25 09:58 PM |
| 4 | If a woman sets up a date and then suddenly cancels saying she is no longer interested and the "vibe is off", how do you guys react?Nah. I spent 2 years approaching consistently before I lost my virginity and the position I was in when I met my girlfriend was 10 years after I started improving my dating life. If someone hasn't put in that much effort into improving themself, they shouldn't jump to the conclusion that their looks are the problem. | /r/seduction | 28/06/25 09:28 PM |
| 5 | If a woman sets up a date and then suddenly cancels saying she is no longer interested and the "vibe is off", how do you guys react?If a woman sets up a date and then suddenly cancels saying she is no longer interested and the "vibe is off", how do you guys react I'd be pretty excited. When I'm single, I'm never just talking to one woman. I always have multiple women ready to go on dates or ready to sleep with me, simply because I flirt with multiple women. The problem with guys is that they wait for a rejection before talking to another girl. Me, I talk to another girl 2 minutes after I walk away from the first girl I appro… | /r/seduction | 28/06/25 09:00 PM |
| 15 | How do beginners improve their conversation skills after learning to approach?First of all actually practicing, as in talking to people a lot is extremely important. But theres another side to that coin that I believe is equally as important: Actually learning HOW to have conversations. You know, you can get pretty good at moving a car around by stepping on the gas pedal and turning the steering wheel but if you don't actively learn things like Right of Way, the meanings of the different traffic signs, the visual markers for parking or keeping a safe distance, how to use … | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Booked a date, asked for number and got ghostedMost guys have no idea this subreddit even exists. If you're here, I'm assuming you're putting in the effort to have a better dating life than most guys, otherwise, what's the point of asking for all this advice? | /r/seduction | 22/06/25 11:03 AM |
| 22 | Booked a date, asked for number and got ghostedYou're on Tinder. You should have been swiping in between exchanges with this girl. You should have more than one match. You should have been messaging them at the same time as you were messaging her. She ghosts? No big deal, you got 6 other matches that could still go on a date with you. I wouldn't send another text to her ever. I would be busy with other matches though. You should be too. | /r/seduction | 21/06/25 07:13 PM |
| 2 | Lady Killers of Reddit. Whom have slept with a lot of women and had a lot of girlfriends. Do you still cold approach? Why or why not?When I started learning seduction in 2009, 16 years ago, I had just moved to a new city where I knew no one. And I was terribly afraid of approaching women that it took me a year to overcome that. The stuff I'm talking about above started happening in 2013, which means it took me 4 years of working hard to improve myself alone before I could pull that off. Do you want my advice or do you just wanna whine and feel sorry for yourself? | /r/seduction | 21/06/25 03:47 PM |
| 6 | Lady Killers of Reddit. Whom have slept with a lot of women and had a lot of girlfriends. Do you still cold approach? Why or why not?you must be handsome as hell!! lol Hell no. I'm not bad looking but I'm pretty average. You can achieve a lot if you don't oversimplify dating and allow yourself to put in enough thought. A problem I've seen here recently is black and white thinking. People saw in the past that guys overcomplicated things but their crappy solution was to swing the pendulum over to the opposite extreme into over-simplifying things and anything that isn't as overly simplistic as that is considered overcomplicated … | /r/seduction | 21/06/25 10:30 AM |
| 125 | Lady Killers of Reddit. Whom have slept with a lot of women and had a lot of girlfriends. Do you still cold approach? Why or why not?For the guys out there who are frue lotharios what is best method for getting women. If it's not cold approach then what is then? Social Circle. First I need to clarify what Social Circle Game is. Its not about seducing the friends you already have. It's about building a new social circle specifically to help you achieve your goal. And you can pick people from existing social circles or new social circles to create that new one. Here's an example of a non-dating related social circle I'm a part … | /r/seduction | 21/06/25 12:04 AM |
| 14 | Did my 23F coworker only like the chase? Did she give up once I showed how much I actually liked her and only wanted attention ?Her lack of interest in you is because of this right here. I'm referring to what you just showed all of us in your post. You're getting way too neurotic over someone you've never kissed, probably never even hung out with outside work, or even in the break room at your office. Its all that desperation that makes her lose interest in you, because that shows her that if you ever got involved, you won't have any real power. You won't ever be able to put your foot down, because you'd be too afraid th… | /r/seduction | 16/06/25 07:24 PM |
| 39 | How to push myself to approach?When I started more than a decade ago I was in almost the exact same position. I realised it's an ego issue, just one that most people don't realize about themselves when it comes to dating. Its not an ego issue in that you're afraid to be embarrassed, but in that you're too proud to make approaching easy enough to do. This issue is more commonly recognised in the gym, with newbies being embarrassed about lifting "light" weights. But nobody looks down on them for that, so you shouldn't look down… | /r/seduction | 15/06/25 11:18 AM |
| 3 | How many girls have you met in your life with whom you shared intense emotional connection with?I gotta say, it's refreshing to have this kind of conversation on this subreddit, because I've noticed a trend towards oversimplification here in recent years. I'm glad there's still people who actually like to think here. I don't really try to increase the duration of my interactions just to increase the time investment from the girl. It just so happens that my interactions tend to be longer because of what I'm doing in them. I try to set up dates when I first meet someone. As in, not just an a… | /r/seduction | 14/06/25 10:38 PM |
| 56 | Being mysterious is not about being quiet, it's about being hard to read to pull her inPeople have it backwards. She isn't attracted to you because you're mysterious. She thinks you're mysterious because she is attracted to you. When you're attracted to someone, you naturally wanna learn more about them. That's why some of us spend a lot of time trying to speculate what a particular girl you're attracted to is like. And the more desperate ones straight up stalk them on social media. That's all there is to it. Don't try to be mysterious. Instead, get more experienced at dating, dev… | /r/seduction | 14/06/25 05:49 PM |
| 2 | How many girls have you met in your life with whom you shared intense emotional connection with?Or shorter interactions like a 2 min convo off an approach All of the examples I gave above came from cold approaches. First, if its so hard for you to talk for more than 2 minutes, either you need to take a step back and examine what you do early on or you need to work on your conversation skills. If every girl wants to leave in 2 minutes then either she isn't really hooked or you run out of conversation that quickly. All the examples I listed were cold approaches that lasted for at least 10 mi… | /r/seduction | 14/06/25 04:34 PM |
| 2 | How many girls have you met in your life with whom you shared intense emotional connection with?Only thing that flags me here is driving around buying food from random places for a chick who said she’s tired of typical date ideas First she sounds like a princess and bitchy, driving around buying food from random places is doing way too much for a first date and sounds like you’re trying to entertain the girl rather than her investing. Gotcha. Without going into detail on that, it would be easy to misinterpret. Remember what I said above, I don't ask what we should do for a date, I just mak… | /r/seduction | 14/06/25 04:34 PM |
| 24 | How many girls have you met in your life with whom you shared intense emotional connection with?I believe the main thing that separates what I do from what's popular in the seduction community is that I value Investment more than Attraction. What I've observed in being involved with Seduction for so long is that most guys are too caught up in trying to prove how cool they are to the woman. Oh they also try to make it look like they aren't trying and they may succeed at doing that, but at the end of the day, if you look at a lot of the questions asked here or the discussions being made, you… | /r/seduction | 13/06/25 08:34 PM |
| 51 | How many girls have you met in your life with whom you shared intense emotional connection with?A lot of women. (background: been doing seduction since 2009) In my experience, I was only able to connect well with women after learning seduction (definitely not the old school Mystery Method, not the newer stuff like Mark Manson either) because it turns out, I used to have a few habits that got in the way of a good connection. It's only when I learned seduction and cleaned those up did I have the power to choose and the ability to maximise my connection with a girl I'm talking to. Also, it tu… | /r/seduction | 13/06/25 04:55 PM |
| 3 | Is maintaining frame the only way to prevent your girl from cheating?Don't worry about her cheating at all. The relationship in and of itself is like a test for the girl you're with. If she cheats, she fails. That simple. Dump her. Get a new girl. There's two people in the relationship. You're not supposed to do everything. She has to carry her own weight along with at least half of the effort it takes to make things work. Its not your responsibility to ensure she doesn't cheat, it's her's. | /r/seduction | 13/06/25 05:36 AM |
| 2 | Do you make sexual comments or innuendos while in the texting phase while online dating?I've actually used this a lot before travelling somewhere, to already have a girl when I arrive and possibly a place to stay for free. Its not an issue as long as you aren't neglecting the other parts of dating and seduction. Also, anyone who has had sex knows that touching yourself or just fantasizing about sex doesn't release tension anywhere near as actually feeling the person that you have all this tension with. | /r/seduction | 12/06/25 06:57 PM |
| 3 | Do you make sexual comments or innuendos while in the texting phase while online dating?Of the times that this was successful, i.e. It got to the point that it did in these screenshots, I can recall only 3 times when I didn't meet up and sleep with the woman I did this with. 2 were of women who lived in different cities. I flaked on one by cancelling my travel plans to her city, I was a dick and ghosted the other just because she fell alseep on me at 3am one time (which I should have been more understanding of), and the 3rd one was a virgin who felt like she was falling in love wit… | /r/seduction | 11/06/25 09:50 PM |
| 3 | Do you make sexual comments or innuendos while in the texting phase while online dating?Edited my first comment with an imgur link. | /r/seduction | 10/06/25 07:53 PM |
| 18 | Do you make sexual comments or innuendos while in the texting phase while online dating?Do you make sexual comments or innuendos while in the texting phase while online dating? Yes. Women do it too. A friend of mine just had this conversation with a girl on a dating app... Her: I'm very possessive Him: I had a feeling. Do you get aggressive or just throw tantrums when no one else is around? Her: I get aggressive, very aggressive 😏 Also, guys who haven't experimented enough will find this hard to believe, but you can even sexually escalate, just thru texting, to the point of making … | /r/seduction | 10/06/25 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Being horny while getting to know new girlsMeditation. Not really but also, yes. The main thing is to learn to appreciate the little things. One thing I've noticed is that if it isn't a number, or a date, or a kiss, or sex, guys don't appreciate it and think they dropped back down to zero if they get rejected for any of those things. But that is just straight up false. You need to learn to appreciate how much better you're getting with women, even if it's just your wit getting quicker, your understanding of women getting better, you're b… | /r/seduction | 10/06/25 09:02 AM |
| 1 | Being horny while getting to know new girlsAlmost feels like I might be trying too hard and outcome-oriented and then they sense that and they pull away. Any advice for just being in the moment while still moving the interaction fwd/escalating? Yes. Don't lose sight of the fact that there's two of you in this. If I'm coming into a date with a girl that seems super into me, I cool things down on my end a lot, because she's already sold on me so I can focus on figuring out how sold I am on her. And I sit back and actually let her put in so… | /r/seduction | 10/06/25 08:47 AM |
| 23 | Approached a group of 3 women for the first timeSerious question - Do you guys not count something as a cold approach if you don't show any sexual intent or at least compliment her on her looks? After reading your post and your comments here, it's clear that you have no interest at all in Z, meaning you chose to mislead her with your opener just so you can get into the group and go for X. Also, what was the practical purpose of saying that to Z when you wanted X? It would have made a lot more sense if you just said that to X. As long as you t… | /r/seduction | 10/06/25 08:31 AM |
| 84 | Being horny while getting to know new girlsBeing horny is not the issue, being desperate is. I was horny for the majority of the time when I was single and meeting women. It had zero negative impact on my interactions. In fact, it helped by giving the vibe of my interactions more sexual undertones. If the girl you're talking to doesn't make you horny, why the hell are you even talking to her? When you get desperate, that's when you screw everything up. When you have no belief that you can actually get girls like the one that's making you… | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 07:53 PM |
| 8 | How to escalate from conversation to good timesHey Guys, T have been in situations where T am vibing with a girl and she drops hints on being interested in me. But 1 always miss out on escalating further. I want to know how to escalate physically If that is the situation you're in and she's willing to move to a setting more private then just asking can work. Alternatively, the sexier option is to get consent by telling instead of asking. I just say I really wanna kiss her or I'm trying really hard not to kiss her, and if she's interested, sh… | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 06:44 PM |
| 2 | How hard is it really to get consistently hot girls?All the books, really? What have you read? I find more value in milking one resource for all it's worth rather than just collecting as many resources as you can. I have a bunch of friends who are self-improvement bookworms and in my conversations with them I like to sometimes make reference to popular self-improvement books like 4 Hour Workweek, Rich Dad, Poor Dad, How to Win Friends and Influence People, etc but when I do, I'm often met with blank stares from them, even when I know they've read… | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 04:43 PM |
| 7 | How hard is it really to get consistently hot girls?It's not hard to consistently get hot women, it's not even hard to develop the ability to do so. What's hard is the decision to commit to developing that ability. Most guys here like the idea of being able to get all the girls they want. But most guys here also wish they were just one of the lucky ones who were born with that ability and don't have to work much for it. When push comes to shove, only about 10% of the guys here are willing to commit to the work this entails, willing to approach mu… | /r/seduction | 07/06/25 07:45 PM |
| 2 | How to Actually Build a Rotation, A No-BS BreakdownI fell in love with a monogamous girl and ruined her by staying polyamorous. I didn't want to do that to someone again. So after that relationship fell apart, I vowed that if I ever fell in love with a monogamous girl again, I'd be monogamous. In comes my current girlfriend. | /r/seduction | 07/06/25 07:11 PM |
| 129 | What is the difference between quiet and mysteriousPeople have it backwards. She isn't attracted to you because you're mysterious. She thinks you're mysterious because she is attracted to you. When you're attracted to someone, you naturally wanna learn more about them. That's why some of us spend a lot of time trying to speculate what a particular girl you're attracted to is like. And the more desperate ones straight up stalk them on social media. That's all there is to it. Don't try to be mysterious. Instead, get more experienced at dating, dev… | /r/seduction | 04/06/25 03:41 PM |
| 17 | How to Actually Build a Rotation, A No-BS BreakdownHere's how I've built rotations: Option 1 Casually bring up the fact that I am seeing multiple women, just as natural part of the conversation. I'm not saying I want to do it with her, I'm just sharing something about myself to make conversation. Then I proceed with seducing her like normal. If things get to sex, she knows exactly what she's getting into. But I clarify afterwards anyway. Just to make sure. Option 2 For whatever reason, the conversation didn't flow in a direction where I can brin… | /r/seduction | 04/06/25 08:27 AM |
| 1 | Is it a bad idea to offer options within the date or is that too indecisive?If you're in a situation like that and you're confused about what she'd prefer then you didn't get to know her well enough before the date. I get to know women so much they're the ones who literally sell me on dates. For example, a girl once told me about this world traveling bookstore on this massive ship that was gonna be docking in our city. She told me about how they have a museum, a cafe, and a bunch of other things she found interesting. She told me how much she'd like to go to it when it … | /r/seduction | 31/05/25 08:00 AM |
| 72 | Any tips for winning her back while we are still in touchYou won't like this advice but if you follow it, odds are, you will get her back. Don't initiate contact. Ever. Ever. Even if months go by before you talk again. Even now. The more you do it, and I know you're doing it, the more you reduce the odds of you getting back together. And if she initiates contact, be polite but don't be excited. Here out what she has to say. If all she talks about is fluff, politely excuse yourself. Just be too busy to talk any longer. And then leave it again. No matte… | /r/seduction | 31/05/25 07:36 AM |
| 1 | Can you overcome her preferences?Thanks. It means a lot coming from you. | /r/seduction | 29/05/25 03:52 AM |
| 3 | Approaching groups,while the goal is only one of them(not engaging with entire group) is the hardest thing everQualify and make plans. 1, when you qualify the one you're physically attracted to, you naturally encourage more interaction between you two. Just so there's no confusion, when I say "Qualify" I mean to challenge her to see if she's actually someone you'd want to get involved with. 2, when you do that in front of her friends, they can see in real time your growing interest for each other, because the more she proves herself to you, the more interested she looks, and the more you approve of her, … | /r/seduction | 28/05/25 07:19 PM |
| 21 | Approaching groups,while the goal is only one of them(not engaging with entire group) is the hardest thing everApproaching groups is arguably easier than approaching one person. With the exception being 2 people. Of all the possible scenarios, I think 2 people, especially 2 girls, is the one I dislike the most, because you have the least amount of maneuverability in that situation, because you can't ever leave the friend alone, unlike with bigger groups. But groups of 3 to...1000 is happy days for me. The thing you need to realise is, engaging in the entire group is so easy, because there is always gonna… | /r/seduction | 28/05/25 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Can you overcome her preferences?Yes and it can be worth it depending on how you address the issue. If you address the issue by just working harder than normal to get one girl who prefers something else then it isn't worth it. But if you address it by developing your overall skill at seduction and develop that skill by gaining experience with multiple women and not putting any extra importance on any of them in particular then it's worth it. As long as you're chasing the skill instead of just one woman, it's fine. Having the sk… | /r/seduction | 27/05/25 06:32 PM |
| 2 | Approaching an f as a mf coupleTell me the set up you have with your GF so I can tailor it to you instead of going through all the situations I've experienced in 15 years. | /r/seduction | 23/05/25 01:24 PM |
| 7 | Approaching an f as a mf coupleFormer Polyamorous guy here. If you're gonna immediately proposition someone for an MFF threesome then the other commenter would be right, its a hard sell. You'll probably get better luck putting that on an online dating profile. It also depends on the setup you have with your GF. When I was polyamorous, I didn't have a main partner. All my sexual partners were basically FWBs and I always added new girls into it while previous girls also left from time to time. That allowed me to just seduce a w… | /r/seduction | 22/05/25 08:59 PM |
| 67 | What to do with shy girls who don’t talk back much?As someone who has a friend who used to be a dick to women like that, literally telling them to their face that they don't know how to have conversations and then walking away, I've figured out how to deal with them. It helps to look at your conversational questions like requests. Some questions are smaller requests, some are bigger requests. So for example, "Do you like Italian food?" is a much smaller 'request' than "What is your all time favourite food?" With shy girls, it usually helps to st… | /r/seduction | 22/05/25 01:31 PM |
| 7 | I flirt with 2 girls that are friends, but i didn’t knowI feel like if they ever talk about me - which is pretty likely - X is going to be really disappointed. First of all, so what?? You've only stated what you're both looking for from dating, you've only seen each other twice, nothing exclusive has been established, and you clearly have no problem seeing other women. Just continue seeing other women and if it doesn't work out with X, you got other women who might be better fits. From my own dating life, I've noticed that the people who have no prob… | /r/seduction | 22/05/25 01:11 PM |
| 12 | What to do when you go blank in the conversations?What to do when you go blank in the conversations? Shut up and think. You'll be surprised how much you can get away with by just being comfortable in silence. When there's an awkward silence, you don't have to be the one on the spot. It just ends up that way because you start looking awkward and she relaxes and mentally puts the responsibility on you. If instead you were the one who relaxes, she will be the one feeling awkward and she will be the one feeling an urgency to break that awkward sile… | /r/seduction | 20/05/25 05:13 PM |
| 3 | Girl sending mixed signalsi just think my communication skills especially while texting are lacking massively. Do you have any advice on that? This is gonna sound completely opposite to what you're asking but I've taught people how to seduce someone without saying a word, purely by dancing. Here's what I said in the most recent time that I gave that advice: To open, you have a few options. You can wave or make a friendly gesture to them and if they respond positively, continue dancing as you go up to them. You can also b… | /r/seduction | 19/05/25 12:54 AM |
| 4 | Girl sending mixed signalsWe went on a Date which i would say went very well, we cuddled and talked a lot, we were vibing good. Unfortunatly i didnt kiss her then as i didnt find the right moment (my mistake i know theres not the right moment its just she was sitting to the right of me and i always do my move with my right hand so i didnt wanna be clumsy or something) The lead up to a kiss doesn't have to be a moment either. It's not like the movies where you stare at each other with desire or do an elaborate move to ini… | /r/seduction | 18/05/25 11:02 PM |
| 16 | Would it be better to limit how much I talk to my woman?It really just depends on how well you get along with a woman. If they get bored from talking to you that just means there isn't much a connection outside of a sexual one. And if you're not sleeping with them yet and they're getting bored then maybe you're just moving way too slow and/or you don't know how to escalate faster. I've had women who I didn't really enjoy talking to and just wanted to shut up and fuck. But I've also had women who had endless conversations with me without either of us … | /r/seduction | 18/05/25 08:07 PM |
| 1 | How to approach regaining trust after an overly-emotional reaction?Yeah, it's not a problem at all. | /r/seduction | 15/05/25 08:25 PM |
| -1 | Is it a red flag a woman, you're not in relationship with, is still in contact or hangs out with an ex?I agree with VelvetSinclair. If she refuses to stop even when you guys are in a relationship then that's the red flag. If she's just seeing her ex while you two are just flirting then nah. My ex was obsessed with me and she fucked her ex while me and her were going on our first few dates. She told me that when we were already in a relationship and it didn't bother me at all. When she did it, we were flirting but we were still both single and were both free to sleep with whoever we wanted. I know… | /r/seduction | 15/05/25 08:19 PM |
| 1 | How to approach regaining trust after an overly-emotional reaction?Before I do that, I want to know if the situation is fixable in the first place. If it's not then I'll just force myself to move on. Good news is, you don't need to choose between the two options. Like I said above, even when things are going great, I still meet other women. I'll talk to you about this specific situation and its possible there's something that can be done to sort it out but regardless, you should still go and meet other women. With that said, did she stop talking to you? Did she… | /r/seduction | 15/05/25 08:06 PM |
| 7 | How to approach regaining trust after an overly-emotional reaction?If by "getting overly emotional" you only mean venting frustrations via text because a girl you've recently met gives you one word answers, takes days to respond to you, or seemingly ghosts you then just move on. She's not special. She's not irreplaceable. Replacements aren't hard to find either. The more you move on, the more you will learn this. The age old quote, "There's many fish in the sea." never really sunk in for me until I was able to 'swim' with a good number of those fishes. So do yo… | /r/seduction | 15/05/25 07:50 PM |
| 3 | Should you be open with your intentions?That’s why I think most of the time this question is a red herring — the guys who are most likely to ask it need to think more in terms of learning how to meet more women and present themselves in an attractive way rather than thinking about “intentions” and so on Exactly. A lot of guys who ask this question are getting way ahead of themselves. | /r/seduction | 14/05/25 09:03 AM |
| 9 | Should you be open with your intentions?What I do is I just start talking about how I'm currently running my dating life. I don't bring it up from the very beginning. Of course, I approach first or there's an introduction first and then we break the ice. But once the conversation is flowing, I can just direct it towards dating and then bring up how I'm currently just messing around casually. I don't tell her I wanna do that with her. I don't tell her I'm looking for that. I just tell her this is what I'm doing right now. I might even … | /r/seduction | 13/05/25 05:59 PM |
| 3 | Am I overthinking date ideas? Does it really matter what you do?Not something to pre “hint” before hand right Definitely not. Its something you should be developing from the very beginning. That's the purpose of flirting. The issue is, people confuse flirting with hitting on someone. An easy way to understand the difference between the two is to think of them like movie trailers. A bad movie trailer is one that reveals the entire plot. It makes you feel like you've already seen the whole movie just from the trailer. A good one is one that gets you intrigued,… | /r/seduction | 09/05/25 08:55 AM |
| 23 | Am I overthinking date ideas? Does it really matter what you do?You are actually the best person to identify what kind of date to go on, because you are the one getting to know her. It's really that simple, if you want good date ideas, find out by finding out about her. You shouldn't just be having random conversations that you forget about 2 hours later. You should actually be learning things about each other. And here's a pro tip, instead of talking to her to try to find out what she likes, talk to her to find out what both of you like. In other words, thi… | /r/seduction | 08/05/25 06:50 PM |
| 3 | How to achieve a good date?The other commenter made a few good points. She doesn't deserve the amount of effort it takes you to take her on an awesome date yet. Focus on having sex on the first date rather than trying to get a "callback" for a second date. If you guys have sex, the odds of her wanting to see you again will be much higher anyway. His general idea for how to handle a date is also excellent so let me give you a different option. This is probably my favorite way to handle dates. Its really efficient. It allow… | /r/seduction | 08/05/25 05:40 PM |
| 7 | What’s your go-to move that actually works?Hey! That's awesome man! I'm glad I found someone that came up with the same thing. | /r/seduction | 07/05/25 06:15 PM |
| 170 | What’s your go-to move that actually works?Having a seduction playlist. It isn't just sexual songs. It escalates, just like physical and verbal escalation should. I don't put it on shuffle. I play it in order. The first few songs are just current popular songs, completely non-sexual. Then a few songs after that are popular songs that have some sexuality but it isn't the main theme of those songs. Then songs that are more playfully sexual like No Diggity by Blackstreet, or the more upbeat Ariana Grande or Silk Sonic songs. Then the really… | /r/seduction | 07/05/25 05:56 PM |
| 6 | How to get laid while travelling?Oh damn. Glad I got into a relationship before they made that change then. | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 04:24 PM |
| 21 | Doing everything ‘right’ - so why am I still invisible to women?For this situation, it's better to think of seduction the same way you think of training in the gym. One of the most important parts of training in the gym is tracking progress. Tracking your lifts and tracking your body composition and seeing whether things are trending in the direction you want or not and then making adjustments from there. If you're still invisible to women then you aren't doing everything right and you need to make adjustments. Change some stuff up and then take note of the … | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 04:20 PM |
| 80 | How to get laid while travelling?I second this. I traveled a lot when I was single and it was the only reason I paid for Tinder Gold, because that allowed me to change my location to anywhere. So what I did was change my location to the place I'm gonna be traveling to and then seduce the matches I get from there while I'm still chilling at home. I've been able to stay in foreign countries for free doing this because I'd sometimes manage to seduce girls enough thru text that they're ready to just skip going on dates and go strai… | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 02:46 PM |
| 50 | What’s the one piece of advice that changed everything for you? We’re all drowning in seduction content, most of it we’ll never use. Share only what truly made a difference.Don't be in your feelings about seduction. Its a skill like any other skill. Don't approach dating in a romanticised way, an idealistic way, a dogmatic way, a self-pitying way, or a fearful way, approach it in a pragmatic way. The moment you commit to approaching Seduction the way you approach learning the piano, learning to dance, and especially learning a martial art, is the moment your progress will take off. | /r/seduction | 05/05/25 02:17 PM |
| 9 | How to deal with loud nightlifeIf you're out dancing, you wont need to talk until much later in the interaction. You mentioned that you try to suggest going somewhere quieter but there isn't enough of a vibe to get them to agree yet. Well, you can build that vibe entirely through dancing. If anything, trying to talk to someone who is having a hell of a time dancing is actually taking value from them, because you're interrupting them as they're doing something they're really enjoying. Here's what to do instead: Start by dancin… | /r/seduction | 04/05/25 04:38 PM |
| 15 | how do you hold eye contact?That's fine. You built the habit of avoiding eye contact over years, so it gonna take at least a few weeks to a few months of deliberate effort to become comfortable with a directly opposite habit. What you're feeling is a natural part of the process of building this new habit. Just keep at it and things will get better. The only thing that makes you perceive this as worse than other new habits is the fact that you're developing it in front of people. But notice how self-conscious you are? Yeah,… | /r/seduction | 04/05/25 04:11 PM |
| 73 | How to tell a girl that you don't drink alcohol without killing the vibe?The only time I deliberately drank any alcohol in my life was when toasting my friend successfully proposing to his girlfriend. I just tell people straight up that I don't drink, in a very matter-of-fact way and then carry on like normal. In my experience, guys make a bigger fuss about it than girls. Just don't make a big deal of it, tell her like it's nothing and then immediately carry on flirting. | /r/seduction | 04/05/25 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Anyone could tell me from where !?That's a natural feeling but there is countless evidence on this subreddit that it has been done successfully. Why not just acquire the courage to do it anyway? | /r/seduction | 03/05/25 04:53 PM |
| 2 | Anyone could tell me from where !?From where to get girl to try to talk to them!? From the street its not logical that much!! Bars ?! Shops?!! What else You already mentioned a few options, why are you still looking for something else? | /r/seduction | 03/05/25 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys approach looking rough or you try to look your best?💯 | /r/seduction | 29/04/25 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Why does no one show me their interesting side?Eh. There's a lot of psychology that backs up the stuff we do. Most people just never take the time to actually look into it that deeply. There seems to be a lot of dogma around dating, and people are very much in their feelings about it, probably even moreso than exercise, diet, and sports. Anyway, what I'd recommend you do is start off with building Comfort. You don't need to get into a very deep conversation about hopes and dreams, just make her comfortable with your presence and generally ge… | /r/seduction | 29/04/25 08:29 PM |
| 75 | Do you guys approach looking rough or you try to look your best?For people who don't have a lot of experience, you wanna eliminate as much obstacles as possible. So dress well for now. Smell good too. After you sleep with a few women and feel like you've gotten the hang of this, you'll notice that you won't have to dress or groom as well and you'll still be able to get the women you want. | /r/seduction | 28/04/25 02:53 PM |
| 27 | How do FWBs start/come up?For me, it often comes after we've had sex a few times. Don't stress over how to set it up in the early stages. I do nothing differently at all whether I want something casual or I want something serious. The question of, "What are we?" will naturally come up once you guys start having sex. I find that for best results its better to answer that question preemptively. So, some time after we've had sex for a second time, maybe the morning after or the next time I'm hanging out with her, I just tel… | /r/seduction | 28/04/25 02:41 PM |
| 1 | Why does no one show me their interesting side?I mean, I don't reapproach the same girl if she wasn't interested. Me neither. When I accidentally approach a girl that rejected me in the past, I don't remember her at all. You wouldn't remember any of the girls who rejected you if you were doing enough approaches. Its the girls who remind me that we've met before. Most of the time, I do bail right a away if it's clear she's not interested. But other times, I'm like can I really say I'm "putting the reps in" if I bail every set at the first sig… | /r/seduction | 27/04/25 07:59 PM |
| 4 | Why does no one show me their interesting side?Ok let me share this with you: I've been doing this since 2009. I've had experiences where girls who have rejected me before ended up sleeping with me years later and knowingly choosing to be part of a rotation of multiple girls that I'm sleeping with. That didn't happen because of persistence or anything like that, when they rejected me, I thought we disappeared from each other's lives forever. I certainly never tried contacting them ever again. They only ended up coming back around either beca… | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 08:19 PM |
| 8 | Why does no one show me their interesting side?You're the one initiating. You're the one trying to make something happen. Its on you to facilitate the conversation. If they were the ones DMing you or approaching you then it would be weird that they aren't talking much. So when you talk to someone and they give you one word answers. Respond to those answers with a statement of your own, maybe an assumption or relating to them, then ask them an open ended follow up question that digs deeper. Don't constantly change the topic. Stick to one and … | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 10:34 AM |
| 45 | How is head usually initiated for you?I have 2 ways of thinking of this. First, if a girl doesn't want to give me head, I'm good. In my experience, girls who have good head game are not that common. And with girls who aren't good at it, I'd much prefer to get to her pussy as soon as possible, because that has a higher likelihood of being good. If she usually refuses to give head, she may lack experience at it and not be that good at it. So for me, if she doesn't blow me, that's a win win. Second, in my experience, the hornier you ge… | /r/seduction | 22/04/25 05:13 PM |
| 2 | Are You Guys Even Enjoying Yourselves?As someone who has been doing this since 2009 I can confidently say that if you strike out 1000 times you aren't doing everything right. A mistake I've seen with a lot of guys is that they use their own opinion to identify whether they're doing something right or not instead of using their results to indicate that. In the gym, you do use your results to indicate whether you're doing things right or not. You track your lifts, you track your body composition, and if things aren't trending towards … | /r/seduction | 05/04/25 06:11 PM |
| 12 | Are You Guys Even Enjoying Yourselves?If you’re going home seething, furiously masturbating and punching holes in the dry wall, it’s time to take a step back and reevaluate things. Just because you react this way to being intentional about improving your flirting skills doesn't mean everyone does. To me your post reads like, "Are you guys even enjoying yourselves when you make it a point to go to gym on a schedule and have goals in mind?" Why is it that it's totally fine to be intentional and make time for other self-improvement act… | /r/seduction | 04/04/25 04:28 AM |
| 3 | What’s the most bizarre fantasy you’ve convinced someone to try?When I was younger, my first time having sex with someone usually happened in a public situation. I was a broke college kid who had a lot of difficulty taking women back to my place because I had roomates and a very conservative landlady, so I basically mapped out a bunch of spots in my city that had really clean handicap toilets and just made sure I was approaching and doing my dates close to those spots and I would pull in one of the toilets. | /r/seduction | 01/04/25 07:20 PM |
| 9 | How important is age?Game overcomes a lot of things. Age happens to be one of them. Btw, before people start to think I'm talking mysticism, when I say, "Game" I don't mean Mystery Method or any other shallow, mainstream representation of Game, I mean having above average social skills. You know, like that one person you know who can just convince anyone of anything, or that one person who can sell stripes to a zebra. And if you have that level of social skills, you're much more likely to have the ability to effecti… | /r/seduction | 01/04/25 07:05 PM |
| 53 | How to adopt the bad boy personaAs a guy who is naturally a bad boy, I have to say this is a misconception. There are actually 3 archetypes that are really attractive to women: The Bad Boy The Leader The Nice Guy Didn't see that last one coming, did you? The Nice Guy is actually also attractive as long as he is nice because of his principles and values, not because he's pandering for acceptance, and as long as he isn't a bitch. What you wanna identify is a combination of where you naturally lean and what kind of girls you pref… | /r/seduction | 31/03/25 01:28 PM |
| 2 | Stop Overthinking and Start Bombing: The Real Path to GameIf you can do that regularly for multiple months straight then sure. Bombing 20, even 50 times in a single day isn't gonna make any difference. | /r/seduction | 30/03/25 11:03 AM |
| 15 | Stop Overthinking and Start Bombing: The Real Path to GameWhat you said here is exactly like trying to hit the pinata without tapping anything else to look for it. If you can't read situations then all the more reason to risk bombing, because taking those risks is what improves your ability to read situations. | /r/seduction | 30/03/25 08:58 AM |
| 114 | Stop Overthinking and Start Bombing: The Real Path to GameI believe the majority of people on this subreddit have little to no real world experience and most of the ones that do only meet someone new anywhere between once a year to once every 3 months. So it may be hard for most of you to conceptualize what is being said in this post. So let me give you an example to hopefully illustrate OP's point. I know someone who does meet new women often and somewhat regularly, he meets anywhere between 5 to 15 women in a week. But he's hardly making any improvem… | /r/seduction | 29/03/25 09:05 PM |
| 2 | What's a good spot to meet a woman and still have some funYou know what I always say in these situations? You're supposed to be the best person to answer this question, because you know her a lot more than random people on Reddit do. But I'm not gonna blame you because most guys are taught wrong. I'm gonna teach you what to do next time. When you're flirting with a girl and getting to know her, instead of just getting to know her randomly just for the sake of making her feel comfortable and so you can get your jokes & flirty lines in while not really c… | /r/seduction | 28/03/25 07:01 PM |
| 2 | She has a BF, she agreed to a coffe with me, now what? How to escalate, how to steal her?And you think being a bitch and taking whatever you can get is the right move? Make no mistake, this will make you more of a bitch. Because even if you somehow pull it off and pull her, you will be her bitch, because you will hang on for dear life to your one source of intimacy in years, and because of that she will lose respect for you and she will cheat on you with another little bitch. | /r/seduction | 28/03/25 07:31 AM |
| 12 | She has a BF, she agreed to a coffe with me, now what? How to escalate, how to steal her?So your options are so scarce that you'll take whatever you can get, even women in relationships?? | /r/seduction | 28/03/25 06:42 AM |
| 5 | To Master SeducersI agree with u/Defiant_Spread8459. The only thing I would add to that is go and seduce a bunch of other girls too. You should never stop doing that unless you get into a committed relationship. If I cold approach someone and get her number, I don't skip home all giddy, I go and approach another girl. | /r/seduction | 27/03/25 10:05 AM |
| 28 | To Master SeducersSince you're asking this question, odds are the only way you've behaved with her have been either aloof and sort of disinterested, or respectful and caring. There's a middle part between the two attitudes that you skipped over. You can't just suddenly switch to being nicer to her, she has to earn that privilege. And its not misogyny nor is it pride. It's just reasonable to want to enjoy dating and hooking up as much as possible. That's where Qualification comes in. I'm not gonna break it down te… | /r/seduction | 26/03/25 08:30 PM |
| 2 | Slow repliesYour profile and your flirting skills are you first impression on dating apps. Improve those. | /r/seduction | 24/03/25 06:30 PM |
| 4 | Slow repliesSo I just want to know if I can eventually do this or no You can but don't try to fix it with her, try to fix it in general, by practicing on new girls. Whenever you have a girl that takes long to reply, always try to fix it with new girls, not the same girl. If she is not taking her opportunity with you seriously, she doesn't deserve you to be persistent with her. So just keep working on your first impression from your body language, look, to your flirting skills, because the stronger the first… | /r/seduction | 24/03/25 05:56 PM |
| 12 | Slow repliesWomen aren't stupid. They know that if they take long to reply there's a bigger risk that a guy will just lose interest. Its not on you to make her wanna text more frequently. Its on her to do what she will with her opportunity with you. Just move on. Lots of hotties in Korea. | /r/seduction | 24/03/25 05:05 PM |
| 2 | What should I do if I like the girl phisically, but don’t like her personality and she is in love with meEasy. Move on. There are many women that would fall into the category of someone you like physically. Just go for the ones who wouldn't be heartbroken when you're not willing to be anything more to them than a fuck buddy. And you can also go for the ones you are physically attracted to and actually want to commit to as well. | /r/seduction | 21/03/25 05:56 PM |
| 1 | How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want?This might help. | /r/seduction | 04/02/25 06:37 PM |
| 0 | First MessageJust continue a conversation you had with her last night to start. I like to send a message like this... "So it turns out that couple we saw last night were actually cheating with each other. One of my friends knows the girl. (my name)" And then have a bit of an exchange about that before transitioning into setting up a date. Feel free to ask me how I would go about that and I'll explain in my reply. But the reason I want to start out like that is that I like to reinforce the connection. A messa… | /r/seduction | 04/02/25 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Any1 know how to talk mean or be more aggressive/confident?Habits, look, opinions, preferences, stuff she's doing or has done. For example, I made fun of a girl for liking matcha recently. Its not about trying to find stuff that will be safe to joke about with every single person on Earth. It's about learning to read people and get a sense of what would be acceptable when interacting with them. That's where you develop the skills in "Social Skills." | /r/seduction | 01/02/25 07:58 AM |
| 2 | Pursue without “chasing”?Pursue is still bad. You don't want to pursue, you don't want to chase. You want to SEDUCE. Seduction is not about showing how much you want the other person and trying to make it past her resistance. Its about making them want you. It's about enticing and tempting them to sleep with you. You don't show her interest for the purpose of making her aware that you're into her, you show interest at the right times to tease her. Imagine a girl winking at you but either carrying on walking or just look… | /r/seduction | 01/02/25 04:12 AM |
| 2 | What keeps you going after all the L’s?Having a clear picture of where I'm at and why I'm taking L's. If I can see that I'm making progress then the rejections won't bother me as much because I can see that I'm eventually gonna experience less of that. People who don't understand what's going on don't have any sense of progress and don't know when they're repeating mistakes or fixing them. This is why its important to also be educated in how this stuff works. Yes, experience is king but if all you're doing is going out and flirting w… | /r/seduction | 28/01/25 05:15 AM |
| 2 | Any1 know how to talk mean or be more aggressive/confident?From there you can just start messing with her to get the flirting going. For this example, you can mention something about her stream, like, "Btw, you did something on stream that kinda cringy" then proceed to make fun of her and maybe add in something like, "You know you're kinda cute when you get defensive." You don't have to be showing a ton of interest to be actively seducing her. The conversation above was totally fine as long as you follow up with something like the examples I gave you. B… | /r/seduction | 27/01/25 10:47 AM |
| 4 | how to master sh***t tests which you can hardly win?"Depends. What do you like to do for fun?" It doesn't have to be that question, it can be any question that makes her feel within the context of the sentence that you're getting her to prove herself to you. That flips the script on them and puts you in the position to judge them based on their response. | /r/seduction | 27/01/25 09:37 AM |
| 6 | Men who have been in many relationships, would you say most women have anger issues?Let me guess, you're generally kind, considerate, and caring. Basically a nice guy. I don't mean that negatively or to imply that you're a pushover or something. As long as the niceness is genuine and you're not doing it just to get approval you're golden. The reason I'm guessing that you are a nice guy is that moody girls and nice guys tend to naturally gravitate towards each other. If you are a nice guy then this is natural. The stuff that drew you to her just comes with her moodyness, and you… | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Any1 know how to talk mean or be more aggressive/confident?Describe a typical scenario for you where you're being passive. | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 12:03 PM |
| 1 | how to create sexual tension with wordsYou need to have a flirty vibe in the interaction before this... (she does something cute, adorable, sexy, seductive, basically anything physically attractive) You: Stop that. You're making me want to do nasty things to you. Her: What kind of nasty things? You: Forget it. You wouldn't want to know. Her: What if I do? You: Nah. You'd just judge me and call me an asshole. Her: What is it? I won't judge. You: You sure? Her: Yes. (you whisper this to her or say it really quietly so others can't hear… | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 01:14 PM |
| 0 | How did #metooo effect your dating life and approach to women?It became easier. I was already seducing women in a way that has them putting in a lot of effort to win me over, so they do their fair share of pursuing me, and during the sexual stages I was getting them to literally beg me to put it in long before the #metoo movement started. So consent wasn't really an issue for me, because girls are the ones who ask for my consent. This approach is also pretty good for weeding out the crazies who will accuse you anyway even if they're the ones who begged for… | /r/seduction | 13/01/25 04:45 AM |
| 2 | Specific girl sees me in a patronizing wayWhy don't you go up to her one time when she's by herself and ask her about a cute friend she might have and get her to help you get with that friend? If you're as good with women as you make it sound then that side of you should naturally shine through when you're talking about getting with one of her friends, because you would shift into that "mode" when you're having that kind of conversation. | /r/seduction | 04/12/24 04:54 PM |
| 2 | ex invited me for lunch. now im confused ?Just figure out how you feel about the possibility of getting back together, and if you want to get back together, don't be afraid to shoot your shot and express that to him, regardless of how he might feel about it. If it turns out that he was just being friendly then you'll get rejected. No big deal. Just dust yourself off and move on. | /r/seduction | 04/12/24 04:48 PM |
| 3 | What are they saying!?But in the real real world, having belief in yourself is what matters. That's part of Pete Davidson's appeal. But yes, looks matter way more on the apps. Way less in the real world. | /r/seduction | 28/11/24 11:29 AM |
| 6 | What are they saying!?Women also check out guys who don't look that great. The biggest fallacy that's been pushed on this sub in recent years is that women care about looks as much as men do. There are so many guys women lust over who look like crackheads or insomniacs. Guys like Pete Davidson who looks like he's never even seen a weight gets tons of women and nobody can use the celebrity excuse with him because the women he gets are far bigger celebrities than he is. | /r/seduction | 28/11/24 10:26 AM |
| 44 | What are they saying!?You might not have caught everything that happened in those situations. I've done things like this and I've said things like, "I just came over to tell you to stop staring at me like I'm a piece of meat." That's delivered playfully btw. Hopefully no keyboard warrior comes up with a very inaccurate image of how that went down. But anyway, a line like that only worked because she was in fact periodically staring at me from a distance before I came over to approach her. That communication before th… | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 07:50 PM |
| 3 | Reaching out to her after 2nd date?Because I don't say I'm screening them to go out with me and my friends or anything. They don't even know about what I have planned with my friends while I'm qualifying them. I qualify them first before I bring it up. The qualifying questions also fit very well into being playful and flirty and just general conversation like, "What do you do for fun?", "Are you into XYZ?", "What's your favourite XYZ?", "You seem pretty cool but maybe I just caught you on a good day", "I bet you're secretly awkwa… | /r/seduction | 18/11/24 06:55 PM |
| 2 | Reaching out to her after 2nd date?You can get the girl to invest from the very beginning and certainly invest even in setting up the first date. Usually, my first "dates" are just me doing what I was already planning to do with my friends anyway and then inviting along all the women I've met recently. So if I'm going to an event, party, night out, fun activity, whatever, then I just invite all the women I'm currently flirting with to the same thing. That's hardly an investment on my part because if one girl doesn't show up, it d… | /r/seduction | 18/11/24 06:40 PM |
| 5 | I Walked Out on a Date and Met Someone Better 1 Hour LaterIt benefit's both the approach and the date. Gets you warmed up for the date and the fact that you know you have a date in a few minutes makes you less needy and more confident and challenging for the girl you approach. I also like to do that when I'm so busy that I only have weekends free. So that I don't have to choose between going on a date or meeting new people, I can do both. But here's what I really wanna say about that: A lot of guys grossly overcomplicate abundance. You can start buildi… | /r/seduction | 15/11/24 07:11 PM |
| 5 | does "you give me good emotions" is a good enough evaluation and excuse for a date with a girl?Ideally you'll have a longer conversation with her where she puts in some effort to impress you and win you over before you ask her out. If that can happen then even if you just say she gives you good emotions its likely to go your way. If you can't do that then just be direct and ask her out because you think she's hot. Yeah, odds are slimmer with the second option but that'll be your best shot given the circumstances. And if it does go your way with the second option then that means progressin… | /r/seduction | 15/11/24 01:03 PM |
| 18 | I Walked Out on a Date and Met Someone Better 1 Hour LaterThis happened in 2015, I started learning seduction in 2009, so I already had 6 years of practice and experience before this date. I also believe that a lot of guys these days have so many mental blocks, because I did a lot of simple things that you can literally do today but I hear so many men making excuses as to why they can't do those things. For example... Showing up early to a date location to cold approach others. Cold approaching multiple women in one day. Choosing to cold approach group… | /r/seduction | 14/11/24 07:48 PM |
| 18 | I Walked Out on a Date and Met Someone Better 1 Hour LaterThere's many options. I can be very forward or I can start out being more social and conversational. My favourite might be what I call a Drive-by Compliment where I compliment someone and then I walk away immediately. When I give them the compliment, I observe their reaction, if it's dull, I just keep walking, if it's very warm, I turn back and continue talking to them. | /r/seduction | 14/11/24 07:44 PM |
| 55 | I Walked Out on a Date and Met Someone Better 1 Hour LaterYes! That's how you do it! 🔥 Me personally, if I'm going on a date in a busy area, I like to go there early to cold approach other women. Its just a first date anyway. Its not like you have any obligation for commitment at that point. Your story reminded me of a similar experience I had. I cold approached her in a mall about 10 days before our date. She looked very much like the stereotypical model, tall, slender but still had curves, think less fashion week and more Victoria's Secret. She ended… | /r/seduction | 14/11/24 06:00 PM |
| 4 | Should you skip a week of dating?I don't know what you're trying to do but if this is just about sex let me tell you this - Personally, I usually I start sleeping with a girl on the first date, sometimes the second. Not because of anything magical that I do or because I have crazy high SMV or anything. I simply arrange my dates to be moving towards my place, so every date I go on ends there. So if you just want to improve your ability to get to sex, focus more on logistics and having more of a plan during your dates so you can … | /r/seduction | 13/11/24 06:07 PM |
| 3 | Avoidant peopleWhat do you mean when you say you can talk? As in you're good at carrying your end of a conversation? Because being a good conversationalist means you can actually facilitate the entire conversation and make the other person want to talk more and open up and reveal what makes them interesting. And to those who don't know what that looks like, it's not as one-sided as you might be imagining. When done right, it's actually a lot of effort for the other person, because you're not facilitating the c… | /r/seduction | 07/11/24 05:21 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with regret of not approaching?On one hand, you should feel bad that you didn't go for it. Avoiding discomfort is often a more powerful motivator than running towards pleasure. On the other hand, the more you do approach and the better your track record is for taking opportunities over the years, the less the instances where you don't go for it will bother you, because the fact that there will always be other opportunities will have sunk in for you. So the solution really is to just go for it whenever an opportunity presents … | /r/seduction | 03/11/24 02:41 PM |
| 9 | Don't get itStarting conversations from behind can always be sketchy, it's generally better to start a cold conversation from the front. That's not to say that you can't start a conversation from behind, it just takes more to do well than an approach from the front. You may have also been nervous and in the beginning of an approach, people tend to mirror you, which could be the reason she became uneasy around you. | /r/seduction | 27/10/24 03:33 PM |
| 2 | How do you deal with the rejectionWhatever you call it, it's all just perception. How someone feels about you is always subjective. | /r/seduction | 20/10/24 04:28 PM |
| 16 | How do you deal with the rejectionI've been doing this long enough to where I've been able end up with girls who previously rejected me years prior. Not through persistence with them or anything like that but just through accidentally approaching them again or coincidentally getting introduced to them by a mutual friend. There are so many factors outside just you that causes rejection and even if we only consider the 'you factor' it's actually impossible that the problem is you, because you cannot be condensed down into a week o… | /r/seduction | 20/10/24 05:55 AM |
| 7 | Your Experience & Learning-Being opinionated -Being in their feelings about important issues -Unwillingness to openly and calmly talk about important things, whether that has to do with our beliefs, the world today, or simply our relationship with each other -Immediately wanting to be the center of my world and constantly top priority even though we just started seeing each other or assuming they should be that for any guy they're seeing -Expecting things from me that she's unwilling to give herself -Saying all her exes … | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 06:35 AM |
| 67 | 2 random signs of attractionAll signs of attraction can be just coincidences too. The way you determine which is which is by looking at frequency. If for example, you get one supposed sign of attraction every hour, then she likely just does those things with everyone or felt like doing whatever she did for other reasons. If you're getting a supposed sign of attraction every minute though, odds are, those are actually signs of attraction. | /r/seduction | 17/10/24 08:54 PM |
| 88 | Laughter being anti-seductiveFirst of all, try to get a friend to observe you as you're flirting with a woman. A lot of people don't realize how often they actually smile. There's a chance that you do in fact smile when you think you don't, because a lot of the time, people only count when they're putting on a shit eating grin, not when they're smiling mischievously, seductively, or even just socially. For example, a lot of guys don't realize that they actually smile when you tell them to make sexual eye contact with a woma… | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 08:05 PM |
| 4 | Is it possible to recover from cringy beta insecure texts?Hookup or relationship, this is too much effort. The example I gave you was on guys in relationships wasn't it? You're still thinking in terms of what most guys do, because most guys are in fact willing to put in this much effort for someone they want a relationship with. we're also in the same field of work and have good chemistry. You're seeing what you wanna see because you're already too attached. If you actually had good chemistry you would have already gone on a date in May. Move on man. I… | /r/seduction | 13/10/24 09:35 PM |
| 19 | Is it possible to recover from cringy beta insecure texts?Is it possible to recover from cringy beta insecure texts? Yes, but you shouldn't. This is a situation of even if you win, you lose. The amount of effort you're already putting in for this girl is disproportionate to how far you've gotten with her. Only a girl you're at least having sex with deserves this much effort. To go beyond this and put in the effort necessary to fix this situation would be even worse. Why is this important? Its not about pride. It's about staying level headed and objecti… | /r/seduction | 13/10/24 08:24 PM |
| 83 | how to break into the top percentile of women?This is the mindset I've had on dating for more than 10 years now - If she likes me, she likes me. What I'm reading from you here is that you're struggling to find a reason why a 9 or 10 would be into you. Me, I don't care about figuring that out. If I flirt with a girl and she's into it then that's that. My friend who is only 5'4 was a short king long before that became a popular term and he's the one who taught me this mindset. The majority of women he's been with are taller than him and tons … | /r/seduction | 13/10/24 07:56 PM |
| 8 | Thrown off by change in partner's sexual behaviour upon self-improvement.This is very simple, even you have done things like this without noticing. Being too busy is a myth. No one's too busy. Its all about what you prioritise. For example, anyone can be too busy for a woman. All you need to do is prioritise watching your shows, scrolling on social media, doing your hobbies, chilling out, doing household chores, walking your dog, etc over her. You don't need to add anything, like some people say, to keep yourself busy. All that happened here is she bumped you up her … | /r/seduction | 13/10/24 09:04 AM |
| 5 | What is your take on yoga classes and success with women?If you know what you're doing it will be beneficial, if you just try to hit on women in that class then it won't work as well. This includes choosing the right types of classes to meet people in your preferred demographic btw. The actual approach needs to be different too. I never went to a yoga class to meet women but I have dated women who simply went to the same gym as me. What you wanna do instead of just straight up hitting on them in the gym or class is just be social to everyone and build… | /r/seduction | 10/10/24 10:36 PM |
| 6 | Whats your BEST opener you use to force yourself to say sometthing when at the spur of the moment you come accross a babe walking your way?Yeah, I've dated lots of women who I've asked directions from. Even asking things like which way the toilet is. If you think you have to be a performer and try really hard to impress women to get anywhere with them then you will struggle a lot at dating. The only purpose of an opener is to get into a conversation with someone. You don't need to express your attraction for her or even necessarily talk in the context of you being sexually/romantically interested in her to make things progress in t… | /r/seduction | 09/10/24 09:47 PM |
| 89 | Whats your BEST opener you use to force yourself to say sometthing when at the spur of the moment you come accross a babe walking your way?Having a default opener isn't what I did to solve this problem. Cold approaching regularly and developing confidence and competence through experience is what I did. If you still need to force yourself to say something then you're still dealing with nerves. Just keep proactively cold approaching and those nerves will go away over time. ive learned women dont like being approached based off appearance and i understand its really challanging for us, being men. so this post is a call to all the vet… | /r/seduction | 09/10/24 09:38 PM |
| 23 | Striking the balance between not being eager but not being standoffish?The key is Qualification. The problem is, its grossly neglected by the vast majority of people who are trying to improve their dating life and even by people who give dating advice. Qualification in a nutshell is getting the girl to prove herself to you. Its important not just to make you look like some kind of "high value" guy with standards but it also serves to make it clear why you're interested in her. If you just show interest without qualifying her, your interest feels less sincere and sh… | /r/seduction | 09/10/24 06:04 PM |
| 2 | Should I have approached?You should have approached. You can either go with something like, "You have a nice smile" or commenting on something she's doing in the gym like the exercise she's doing or what her training looks like to you. I've never had a bad experience when seeing the type of signs you just described. | /r/seduction | 07/10/24 03:54 PM |
| 4 | How Can I Maximize My Overall Game?Its simple. You're just not used to hooking up with girls from bars and other open social settings. You can either work to get used to it or be ok with the fact that it just isn't your thing. You don't have to meet women at bars. If it does bother you that you're not as confident as your friends in those settings then consider limiting yourself to only meeting women in those settings for a period of time. Stay away from meeting them through apps and social media. Once you get used to it, you sho… | /r/seduction | 05/10/24 07:18 PM |
| 2 | Why girls like being ignoredI never said women take us for granted on purpose or that they do so to deliberately hurt us. I'm only describing how all the things we have today makes it easy to take men for granted and explaining why there are women who respond well to being ignored. Similarly, today's world also makes it easy for all of us, men and women, to take technology for granted. Does that mean there is a secret society that has malicious intent towards tech? | /r/seduction | 05/10/24 06:45 PM |
| 5 | Why girls like being ignoredI am the OP of this post. Also, I do write about how to progress things in this post. I don't just say to ignore her indefinitely. | /r/seduction | 05/10/24 05:55 PM |
| 7 | Why girls like being ignoredDefine "manipulation." When it was believed that women responded well to flowers and serenades, didn't men do that too? Was that also manipulation? If you're seducing with the intention of falling in love then you won't try to make things happen with just any random girl. Like I said above, if you don't like this, hold out for the women who appreciate engaging conversation more. So if interacting with a girl like this doesn't appeal to you, don't try to seduce women like this. These types would … | /r/seduction | 05/10/24 06:47 AM |
| 21 | Social Anxiety ▶️ Social ButterflyGood work man. Most people here are too immature to appreciate this progress but progress is progess and everyone's journey is different. Keep it up! | /r/seduction | 03/10/24 08:41 PM |
| 1 | Confused"I would like to go there woth u" To this I've said things like, "Oh, you like X too?"; "What's your favourite X?"; "What is it about that that makes it your favourite?" Those questions are not so I can get to know her, getting to know her better is only a side effect, those questions are to make her prove how much she wants to go with me. You can also keep the focus on you instead by asking something like, "Why do you wanna go with me?" "I am at X, you can come" To this I've said things like, "… | /r/seduction | 02/10/24 06:49 PM |
| 6 | ConfusedLikely because you're not making them earn it. We all value things we work for and we all take for granted things that come easy. If all she needed to do was ask or show some interest to get you then of course she'll lose interest. Its like you trying out a video game for the first time and feeling like you can beat it with your eyes closed. You'd probably not bother to continue playing it. If she's making a move on you, don't immediately say yes and don't take the reigns and be the one who work… | /r/seduction | 02/10/24 04:22 PM |
| 25 | What’s your biggest “I screwed up”?What’s your biggest “I screwed up”? When I seduced a girl who ended up having amazing sex with me, got extremely attached to me, and I just dropped her for something as petty as falling asleep on me one time. And I did it through text too. And then when she came crawling back after about a month or so (which I shouldn't have let happen either), I just acted like nothing happened and greeted her like, "Hey, its been a while!" Man, I was a fucking dick. This wasn't really what you were asking for … | /r/seduction | 30/09/24 05:33 PM |
| 5 | Controversial: I don't think we, as men should worry about unintentionally making women uncomfortable at all.Women who say "I don't know" to you asking for directions? That's easy. Her not knowing and whether she's interested in talking to you or not are completely separate things. She could very well want to talk to you but she just happens to genuinely not know of the place you're asking about. Just stop talking about directions and go into a different topic. You can make an assumption about her and talk about that instead. Even if you get the assumption wrong, like you tell her she seems very artist… | /r/seduction | 29/09/24 06:14 PM |
| 12 | Can talking to too many girls at a club sabotage your chances?No. The more women who are seen being warm with you, the more appealing you come off to everyone. Even that one girl who got upset with you. There is a level of popularity with women that you can reach that she will be willing to let things like your lack of commitment to her slide. Besides, if you really think about it, she wants to be the only girl you're talking to when you just met and talked for an hour tops? Being involved with a girl with that kind of mindset will stop being fun real quic… | /r/seduction | 29/09/24 05:51 PM |
| 11 | Controversial: I don't think we, as men should worry about unintentionally making women uncomfortable at all.The great thing about Compliment openers is instead of trying to use them to start the conversation, you can use them as a test. A test to see how receptive she'll be to you. The default should be - you compliment her and then immediately walk away. If she responds very warmly to your compliment then you can turn back and have a conversation with her. If she responds blandly, just keep walking. Its that simple. Looking for non-verbal cues before approaching is awesome but there are scenarios whe… | /r/seduction | 29/09/24 05:31 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys juggle dating multiple girls?How do you guys juggle dating multiple girls? I tell the truth. The whole truth, including the fact that I don't have much time on weekdays if that were the case, and how many girls I'm seeing. In my experience that causes them to manage themselves. Yeah, they'll hit me up but they know not to be too demanding. And the ones who insist on being demanding I just stop seeing. You can always get new ones. And if say, you're seeing 5 girls at a time, is dropping down to 4 really that bad? when they t… | /r/seduction | 25/09/24 06:02 PM |
| 5 | Approaching a girl from a carI've approached from a car a few times, and really, the only way that makes sense to me is going direct. Just expressing your attraction and intentions. Something like, "Hey, I just had to pull over real quick because I think you're so sexy and I wanted to get your number and find out if we'd get along." That's not a script, just an example. Express your feelings the way you would. I'm not overly experienced at approaching from a car but there are 2 scenarios that I have typically encountered - … | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 06:23 PM |
| 156 | Is there a nice guy game?Does anyone think the nice guy is better at pulling certain types of girls? Yes. Women who are generally more pessimistic tend to gravitate more towards nice guys. That's not a shot against nice guys. I'm being serious, and the women don't have to be downright depressed or emo goths or something, just women who lean more towards seeing things as glass half empty rather than glass half full. I'm sure you already know people like that who are generally cool but just have a more pessimistic outlook… | /r/seduction | 13/09/24 10:20 AM |
| 2 | Has your views changed since learning gameBut if you don't have options, you'll be going after average just as much as above average just to get some so it's hard to qualify and be choosy in that regard because you're coming from a place of scarcity by default. That's where the self-respect comes in. With some self-respect you would rather not get laid at all than get laid with someone you'd consider subpar. You're not forced to sleep with whatever you can get just because you aren't getting any. You're just tempted to do so, it's not s… | /r/seduction | 11/09/24 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Has your views changed since learning gameYou can still have standards even when you don't have options if you just have some self-respect. There are other benefits to Qualification as well like making the connection more solid. You know how sometimes with a girl it feels like one random, petty, little thing can ruin everything and cause her to ghost you forever? The more you've qualified someone, the less likely that'll be a thing, because she didn't just sit there chilling while you did everything and then at some arbitrary point just… | /r/seduction | 11/09/24 10:50 PM |
| 37 | How to answer the "what are we question"?I bring up being casual very early on. The latest that I would bring it up is after we've had sex for a second time. The earliest is during the first conversation. Sometimes they even find out before actually meeting me. How does that last one work? When I'm single I'm extremely open about the fact that I'm casually sleeping with multiple women. I make it clear to my friends that they don't need to hide that fact for me. So when I'm in a social gathering and someone introduces me to a girl, ther… | /r/seduction | 10/09/24 01:19 PM |
| 50 | Has your views changed since learning gameI’ve had more successes having casual sex than forming a relationship. This is common for dating in general. The vast majority of people you meet regardless of whether it be through dating apps, introductions, colleagues, cold approach, etc are just gonna be people you're involved with for a bit but it doesn't work out long term. That's what makes women who are wife material special. My views on dating since learning game have mostly changed for the better. I've basically lost all of my naivet… | /r/seduction | 10/09/24 11:01 AM |
| 1 | How would guys start from 0 again?The Natural by Richard la Ruina is a good one to start with. | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 10:30 PM |
| 5 | How would guys start from 0 again?Do you still remember most of the theory you learned before or do you still have the books/videos/etc you learned from back then? If I were to start over after 10 years of meeting no new women then I would still remember everything I learned about seduction because I regularly teach it. I could literally answer any question I might have as I'm starting over. So for me, it would really just be a matter of practicing all of it again. On day 1 I'd likely start by just complimenting people to warm u… | /r/seduction | 09/09/24 12:08 PM |
| 775 | I approached a beautiful woman on the train today, here’s how it went.Fucking excellent! Good work man! I especially love how you messaged her quickly while waiting for the next train. Some people say to wait a few days before you message someone to avoid looking needy but that just causes her excitement to die down and for her to forget how she felt interacting with you in person. I'm glad you haven't fallen for this. | /r/seduction | 07/09/24 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Does direct opener in cold approach only build attraction within 7 seconds?Thanks man. | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Does direct opener in cold approach only build attraction within 7 seconds?Hey man, don't wanna be a bother but I just shared another link in my latest comment and it's still not showing up. Do you mind? | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 09:26 PM |
| 5 | Getting a fwb through cold approach?What I'm gonna teach you is how to minimize (but not eliminate!) skill and experience as a factor in finding an FWB. You can do this during Daygame but its much more effective if you do this during Night Game. The night game version would be to go to a spot that has a dance floor, and go there early, before the place really comes alive and then look out for certain women. Look for the women who are in a group but looking outwards more often than looking at the people she is with. It doesn't have… | /r/seduction | 05/09/24 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Does direct opener in cold approach only build attraction within 7 seconds?Thanks man! | /r/seduction | 30/08/24 06:37 AM |
| 1 | Does direct opener in cold approach only build attraction within 7 seconds?Hey man, just wanna let you know I can't see any of my comments that included a link I shared. | /r/seduction | 29/08/24 07:17 PM |
| 4 | What Was the Best Pickup You Ever Had?Was approaching with my friend at a mall. When we first got there I wasn't quite feeling it so I decided to start out by just complimenting people and walking away immediately afterwards to get my juices flowing. She was the 2nd or 3rd girl I had complimented. Thought nothing of it, walked away like I intended to and didn't so much as glance back. Then suddenly I feel my friend grabbing me. "Dude. Wait. Look." He points at the girl who is starting at me from about 25 meters away. She's looking a… | /r/seduction | 29/08/24 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Does direct opener in cold approach only build attraction within 7 seconds?Thanks man. I appreciate that. | /r/seduction | 29/08/24 12:49 PM |
| 1 | How do you pump your positive energy up before going out?There are tons of books, videos, and digital products on dating. There's countless advice on this subreddit too, like this. | /r/seduction | 29/08/24 02:59 AM |
| 2 | Does direct opener in cold approach only build attraction within 7 seconds?I explain flirting in this post. | /r/seduction | 29/08/24 02:57 AM |
| 2 | Does direct opener in cold approach only build attraction within 7 seconds?It’s been some time since I’ve seen you commenting here. Haha. Never thought you noticed me around here. | /r/seduction | 29/08/24 02:56 AM |
| 1 | Does direct opener in cold approach only build attraction within 7 seconds?I can DM you a link to a post I made on this subreddit explaining it. I can't share links in comments for some reason. | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 04:58 PM |
| 2 | Does direct opener in cold approach only build attraction within 7 seconds?Yes. More often than not, a direct opener on a girl who has no initial attraction for you will burn the opportunity, so better to go Indirect if you don't think there's any initial attraction. | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 04:56 PM |
| 3 | Does direct opener in cold approach only build attraction within 7 seconds?so direct opener won't burn the opportunity even if she is not instantly attracted to me? It will. If you're not sure if someone has initial attraction to you, better to do an Indirect approach and then flirt to build attraction. | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 04:49 PM |
| 5 | Does direct opener in cold approach only build attraction within 7 seconds?A direct opener doesn't build attraction at all. It only capitalizes on attraction that is already there. That means either she noticed something about you before you approached or when you approached, how you speak, how you look, how you carry yourself, etc caused her to feel attraction for you. If you wanna test this, only do a direct approach on women who either glance at you multiple times or women who hold eye contact with you for more than 3 seconds. Her smiling is not required. Then only … | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 04:40 PM |
| 32 | How do you pump your positive energy up before going out?If you can smile, laugh, and make others laugh then the issue is not that you can't get even more high energy, it's that you don't know how to have an awesome impression on people on command because you don't know what it is that causes that in the first place. I've had amazing interactions that went my way when I was sleep deprived, I've had them immediately out of the gym from a hard leg day, like actually hard, not the kind of workout where you feel energised afterwards, the kind where you're… | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 04:25 PM |
| 2 | How do you manage 2+ girlsYou want them to find out, ideally as soon as possible. When I'm single I'm always openly polyamorous. That means a lot of my friends know and practically every girl I ever flirt with knows often before they've even kissed me. This makes time management and managing the rotation a walk in the park, because they already know that they're not the only one, so they know to be understanding when I don't have much time for them and they basically manage themselves. I don't text these girls for conver… | /r/seduction | 06/06/24 05:39 PM |
| 19 | How do you maintain a rotation?By telling the truth...proactively. As in don't do the whole, "Don't ask, don't tell." Tell even if no one asks. When I'm single I'm always openly polyamorous. That means a lot of my friends know and practically every girl I ever flirt with knows often before they've even kissed me. This makes time management and managing the rotation a walk in the park, because they already know that they're not the only one, so they know to be understanding when I don't have much time for them and they basical… | /r/seduction | 04/06/24 07:20 AM |
| 9 | Asking for consentMy thing is putting her in the position to ask. Similar to what you do, I tease her, get her really aroused and craving a kiss, penetration, or some sort of bigger piece of escalation but never going through with it until she asks for it or admits she wants it. For a kiss I usually talk about wanting to kiss her and then maybe elaborate on what I'd want to do after that but without actually doing anything, its all just words at that point, and then I'll say something like, "I don't know if you r… | /r/seduction | 01/06/24 08:03 PM |
| 5 | New to a community college, need help.It sounds like you're not naturally good with women, you've got pretty bad nerves around talking to them, and you've never approached them before but now you're placing massive expectations on yourself. What did you expect from the responses here? People here telling you a bunch of flowery words that make you feel awesome about yourself as you read them but do fuck-all for your nerves when you're actually out there seeing the women you could talk to? If going around saying hi to people is too ha… | /r/seduction | 28/05/24 08:07 PM |
| 4 | “Going for it”FR 3Ask her to show you around and get her to show you other places before you ask to see her room. The more someone does for you, the more they will be willing to do for you. She'll be much more willing to show you her room after she has shown you a bunch of other places. You can also make big escalation moves, like kissing her, in other parts of the house that are a little more private. If she reciprocates, that will make her even more willing to show you her room. | /r/seduction | 25/05/24 05:53 AM |
| 3 | Conversation dies when I'm alone with my crush.Why don't you just start by having a normal conversation where you ask about what she's into? When you find out what she's into then you'll find it easier to identify shared interests and identify what kind of humor lands with her. Also understand that when there is a silence, both of you feel awkward and both of you are thinking that it's your fault. If you get visibly flustered by the silence then that puts her at ease and she starts to think the silence isn't her fault anymore and just blames… | /r/seduction | 25/05/24 05:43 AM |
| 1 | Approaching mixed groups directly?and I pulled around 4 am to a starfish. You know you've had a very safe experience with Game when out of the two stories this is the most messed up thing that happened to you. 😄 Man, you made me remember a funny experience I had. I was on the way to a girl's apartment to have sex with her but couldn't quite find it so I walk over to an outdoor bar nearby to ask for directions. I approached a table of all guys, big muscly and tattooed, ask the guy closest to me, "Hey man, do you know which way so… | /r/seduction | 19/05/24 02:22 PM |
| 1 | Approaching mixed groups directly?What about bigger groups? I once heard the opener "Hey guys, is any of you handsome men coupled up with this beautiful person here?" or sth along that line.... If something like that aligns with your personality, sure. But personally, I'd just say, "Hey guys, can I talk to her real quick?" and if they say yes then I deliver my direct opener. You can then use the "is he your boyfriend?" line later if one guy tries to get more involved than others. And you never have to have a hint of aggression b… | /r/seduction | 17/05/24 06:03 AM |
| 11 | Approaching mixed groups directly?Are you asking for help with your nerves? Because practically speaking, it's actually easier than approaching an all girl group. You said direct, right? When I do a direct approach on a mixed group that just has one guy in it, I open with, "Is he your boyfriend?" If she says yes, I move on. If she says no, he basically gets shut down and will lose face if he tries to interrupt, especially if he's actually a suitor. Outside of being her brother or her boyfriend's buddy, he can't really be the one… | /r/seduction | 16/05/24 06:38 PM |
| 1 | A lot of women I've spoken to recently don't go out of their usual routineI only used looks as an example in my first comment because people on this sub seem to be obsessed with it but travelling and doing interesting things definitely falls into the same category. Hence why from the very beginning I said you've worked on those things enough and now it's time to work on your game. Besides, the things you mentioned at the end is basically just a lack of comfort, something you can use game to build too. | /r/seduction | 17/04/24 04:27 PM |
| 2 | A lot of women I've spoken to recently don't go out of their usual routineThere are two ways to look at this. The first way is, you can be not that appealing and pull it off by being what you call "relevant". For example, I'm big on Social Circle game (most people don't actually understand what that is) and you can do that so that the women you flirt with will share the same network as you. The second way is you can be very appealing and just get women to deviate from their routines. I personally do both together, to varying degrees depending on the situation, but wha… | /r/seduction | 17/04/24 03:49 PM |
| 1 | A lot of women I've spoken to recently don't go out of their usual routineEven if you've been qualifying, attracting etc. I think relevance is the one thing needed to get them out. I'm pretty sure I mentioned building rapport in my original comment. Stop imagining Mystery Method because that's not what I'm suggesting. Comfort is part of game and comfort is part of what I was referring to when I told you to improve your game. And you can in fact build a lot of comfort through Qualification. The people who tell you to qualify her on random standards you have just to sho… | /r/seduction | 17/04/24 03:04 PM |
| 3 | A lot of women I've spoken to recently don't go out of their usual routineBy work on game you mean first interactions in day game? I mean everything that has to do with your ability to actively charm and arouse women. You still need to be able to do that on a date and beyond. Isn't that a lot to achieve in a short interaction? If by "short" you mean 1-3 minutes, then that's the first part of your game that you need to work on. If all you know to do when you first meet someone is tell them how attracted you are to them, talk some fluff that you don't really care about,… | /r/seduction | 17/04/24 12:36 PM |
| 7 | A lot of women I've spoken to recently don't go out of their usual routineThe Natural by Richard la Ruina. | /r/seduction | 17/04/24 10:35 AM |
| 15 | A lot of women I've spoken to recently don't go out of their usual routineThis is an indication that you need to put more priority into working on your game now. If you're getting to the point of setting up a date with a good number of women, that means your looks and other external things that you improved on are already fulfilling their purpose, now you need to work on how you're emotionally stimulating women with your words and actions. Showing your intentions and being man to woman is only the bare minimum. You need to move past that into things like being able to… | /r/seduction | 17/04/24 10:19 AM |
| 38 | How do I open with this girl ?Just sit next to her, open her casually, and flirt. The reason you may be nervous about doing that in a classroom setting is because you're probably not that good at flirting but you're pretty good at hitting on women. Hitting on women is something you can get away with in bars and clubs because its more blatant and that kind of thing is more acceptable in those settings. But Flirting is acceptable everywhere because its a lot more subtle. I'm not proud of this story but it does a pretty good jo… | /r/seduction | 16/04/24 04:36 PM |
| 5 | How to get your ex on a date?She just reached out. If you ghost her starting right now, she's likely to reach out again. Also, this really is most effective when the outcome you're aiming for is not necessarily to be with her specifically but when the outcome you're aiming for is to be in a better situation than the one you're currently in. That goal is so broad that it doesn't need her for you to succeed in that but ironically, thinking of it like that is what will give you the best chance of getting her back. And that's y… | /r/seduction | 03/04/24 06:12 PM |
| 16 | How to get your ex on a date?If you want to end up on a date with your ex, behave very passively with her and wait until she asks you out. What's going on at this point, when your breakup is still fairly fresh is that both of you are still trying to adjust to life without each other. The reason she's hitting you up and saying all these things isn't necessarily because she actually wants to see you but because getting some attention from you in this way makes this adjustment period much easier for her. Think of it like she's… | /r/seduction | 03/04/24 05:46 PM |
| 16 | Everyone keeps telling me to meet people through hobbies. Where would photographers hang out?I'm a very casual photographer. Like I only shoot stuff every couple of months or so but I have friends who are more into the hobby and I've learned through them that you can usually find groups in a city that organize "photo walks" where a bunch of street photographers get together to shoot stuff. You don't have to shift to street photography, you can just use that as a way to meet other photographers and go from there. Chances are, a lot of them aren't purely street photographers either and/or… | /r/seduction | 03/04/24 03:43 PM |
| 8 | I asked her out today, she told me she had a coffee with a friend but they’d love If i join. What do i do?I have been. Its all over this subreddit. Just check my post and comment history. 👍 | /r/seduction | 02/04/24 12:07 PM |
| 72 | I asked her out today, she told me she had a coffee with a friend but they’d love If i join. What do i do?As long as you're not expected to buy, it shouldn't be an issue. Every interaction you have with someone matters and every interaction you have with someone can move you closer to intimacy with them. If you have to be alone with someone to feel like you can do anything meaningful then you don't really know how to flirt, you just know how to hit on someone. Flirting is when you do and say things that make a woman suspect you're into her or suspect you're having naughty thoughts about her but you'… | /r/seduction | 02/04/24 11:23 AM |
| 12 | She broke No contact after ghosting (5weeks)Just do exactly what I described above and you should be fine. Especially the part about getting involved with other women. | /r/seduction | 26/03/24 10:36 AM |
| 64 | She broke No contact after ghosting (5weeks)what would the best thing to say Nothing. If whatever she messaged you on had read receipts, even better. An easy way to know what it's like for a woman to be in the role of the pursuer is to think about what you were like in high school. Or basically, think back to when you had just started dating. All the mistakes guys make in the early days of dating like double texting, doing grand gestures, etc, women still have the tendency to do now. The reason most guys with some experience know better t… | /r/seduction | 26/03/24 10:05 AM |
| 15 | a practical problem - cant even startThis isn't a special problem. This is just like stage fright. Tons of guys experience this. And like stage fright, you just gotta keep exposing yourself to it until you get over it. Courage is not the absence of fear but the ability to act even when you're terrified. The only thing that's making you a coward right now is the fact that you're not acting in the face of fear. You become a winner the second you stand up to that fear, even if the girl ends up rejecting you. Don't wait until the fear … | /r/seduction | 19/03/24 04:02 PM |
| 3 | 50 women in one dayYeah but why not that number spread out over multiple days instead, like 5 a day for 10 days? Getting 50 in a single day won't really make a difference on your nerves around approaching. You'll likely stop being nervous temporarily on that day but the nerves will come right back the next day. This is coming from a guy who has done this since 2009 and who has met 100k+ women at this point. You don't get confident in a day. It takes consistent practice over a long period of time. | /r/seduction | 10/10/23 06:31 AM |
| 13 | 50 women in one dayWhy do you want to approach 50 women in one day? Genuinely interested in understanding the reasoning behind it. If you look at my post history, you'll see I'm also someone who advocates for approaching a good number of women regularly but I haven't gone as far as deliberately approaching 50 women in a single day. | /r/seduction | 09/10/23 12:14 PM |
| 39 | Sex for women is too emotional to accept a one night standWhen you get more experience, you'll be surprised how many women would actually be down for one night stands. I've had women be the ones to tell me they didn't want anything serious. We need to stop assuming that just because women's emotions make them feel one thing means they can't do the opposite of that thing or that there is only one way to respond to those emotions. Anyone who works out, man or woman, does the opposite of what their emotions tell them to do all the time. Majority of the ti… | /r/seduction | 28/08/23 05:24 PM |
| 67 | Would you consider it a good thing if women often think you are an athlete when they meet you?Anytime women think you're something that society generally considers cool, that's a good thing. | /r/seduction | 18/08/23 06:43 PM |
| 6 | Help. I Friendzoned a girl and now i think I like herIf she's really your friend, just talk to her about this. Like, what you said here, bring it up with her. You're not even sure what you want with her so I don't think giving you seduction advice would be appropriate right now. I'll say one thing though - attraction is not based on how much attention you give someone or even you reciprocating how they feel. Think about it, there are women you're attracted to who don't even know you. And women are definitely attracted to guys who don't even know t… | /r/seduction | 15/08/23 05:00 PM |
| 13 | THE SEX GOD METHOD: How Can One Avoid Overdoing Dominance During "Token" Resistance?Losing control over your aggression is not masculine at all. Its a very feminine thing to be easily affected by your emotions. Its more masculine to stay level-headed and objective. You may be losing control more because you think getting angry is a good thing so you put in very little effort to keep that under control. Sort out your perception of masculinity so you can have a better understanding of what to encourage and what to discourage yourself from doing. | /r/seduction | 15/08/23 10:22 AM |
| 3 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEIts literally what I explain in the post. | /r/seduction | 31/07/23 07:27 PM |
| 2 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEOh definitely. I think it's just a semantics thing because I don't call that verbal escalation, I call that praising her when she does something you want and proper flirting, which I would put under the umbrella of qualification rather than escalation. To me, there's a difference between that and just stating your intentions. I outlined the difference between this and proper flirting in a separate post. What I consider verbal escalation is dirty talk, which some on this sub write off as only som… | /r/seduction | 31/07/23 05:19 AM |
| 5 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEOh. So kinda like when I pretend to admire the material of her clothing to playfully touch her ass? | /r/seduction | 29/07/23 11:00 PM |
| 3 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEHey, I've never heard of the innocent card. How does that work? | /r/seduction | 29/07/23 08:22 PM |
| 4 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEJust to be clear, I only mention the moments when we touch because I'm illustrating how things gradually escalate but that doesn't mean there aren't a lot of moments when you aren't touching as well. For example, when she's the one talking and I'm just listening, I'm not touching her. If we walk towards somewhere or if I'm interacting with something, I'm not holding her hand or leaving a hand on her while I'm doing something else, especially if we just met. And even those quick touches that are … | /r/seduction | 29/07/23 08:02 PM |
| 2 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEI don't think it's the norm in my city (NYC). And I'm friends with a lot of women and I don't hear of them being asked to go on many quick first dates like this. I don't care about norms or what's popular, I just do what works. That's very interesting about the quick 15 minute coffee date for people you meet on apps. One of the reasons I do that is because I've figured out a way to get them to agree, in fact, to pursue that date very quickly, inside 5-10 exchanges on the app. So we really don't … | /r/seduction | 29/07/23 07:47 PM |
| 3 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEThanks! My girlfriend's similar, she gets overwhelmed easily by physical contact so she really appreciated how seamlessly things escalated between us. | /r/seduction | 29/07/23 09:16 AM |
| 3 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEIt can be overbearing for some I'd reckon? It really isn't. My examples were focused on the moments when I do touch her but it's not like those are constant. There are also moments when we don't touch. Like if she's the one talking and I'm just listening, it's not like my hands are rested on her in those moments. I gave a lot of examples of how to touch her to illustrate how things escalate, not to tell people to never lay off for even a second. Or do you just continue doing this and rather read… | /r/seduction | 29/07/23 09:13 AM |
| 2 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEYes. As long as you understand the concept and adjust it to the context instead of just copying my examples. | /r/seduction | 29/07/23 08:57 AM |
| 10 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEGood job man. | /r/seduction | 28/07/23 08:20 PM |
| 3 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEI actually had an ex who would do that a lot. she was a really physical person in general. played a lot of sports, danced, had ADHD, was sort of always moving. I get it. I have a cousin who's like that and her sister's boyfriend is like that too so when we're together and we're standing, waiting for something, everyone else is just stationary but the two of them are always walking back and forth. 😄 I don't think I'm someone with that same kind of natural physicality (she was abnormally physical)… | /r/seduction | 28/07/23 04:38 PM |
| 10 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEYes, indeed. Such a shame almost no one knows about it now, judging by the comments here. | /r/seduction | 28/07/23 02:15 PM |
| 9 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEThis starts the moment you meet her face to face. So if you cold approached her then you immediately start escalating from that moment. If you met her on a dating app then you start this the moment you meet up. | /r/seduction | 28/07/23 02:14 PM |
| 14 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEGo meet other women and practice this stuff with them. If you keep at it you'll get it eventually. | /r/seduction | 28/07/23 09:44 AM |
| 4 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATELike it's actually hard for me to picture doing this without it being really awkward. It just might be too unnatural for me personally to put into practice Yeah, I had a hard time properly illustrating that part. But it's touches you see all the time in social environments. You know, when people are just naturally gesturing while talking and those touches are sort of like extensions of their gestures. I don't know if that's enough for you to picture it but let me know. It'll also help me describ… | /r/seduction | 28/07/23 08:23 AM |
| 4 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEThe way I've always put it is, "When you're single, act like you're single." Even after having the most amazing date ever, if I'm on my way home and I run into a girl I find attractive, I'll still approach that girl, escalate on her, set up a date with her, get her contacts, and if things move in that direction I'll sleep with her too. In places where there are lots of pretty women, I regularly cold approach another girl immediately after walking away from the first girl I cold approached. On on… | /r/seduction | 28/07/23 06:26 AM |
| 3 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEManipulative Time wasters don't sleep with you, if you read it they take advantage of the possibility of sex Yes, I was joking about the sex part. meaning indirect guys like yourself would believe that she will sleep with you if you spend more time with her by escalating, flirting with her but in reality she isn't interested and using you, it's called manipulation for a reason that's the end goal of just using you. Yes, I agree but again, she'd just lose my interest to the other girls who are sl… | /r/seduction | 28/07/23 05:43 AM |
| 2 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEyou wouldn't know that if you are vague You'd know when she lets you escalate all the way. You don't need to "ask the question" with your mouth, you can do so with your actions. Unless its at the point of sex though. I personally prefer for some verbal consent to happen before sex but if me and a girl have gone all the way to foreplay I prefer to just tease her until she verbally asks for sex. A manipulative time waster the woman takes advantage of the possibility of sex who would you deal with … | /r/seduction | 28/07/23 05:07 AM |
| 24 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEThen you need to work on your approach and first impression first before you worry about escalation. | /r/seduction | 28/07/23 12:31 AM |
| 23 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEYou don't need to determine what kind of relationship they'd want to have with you before you escalate, you escalate immediately. What I described here happens from the moment you meet. | /r/seduction | 28/07/23 12:25 AM |
| 74 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEBe in the physical presence of a woman. | /r/seduction | 28/07/23 12:04 AM |
| 8 | Do you guys rack up bodies with girls you aren’t extremely interested in?It was the right call because I'm the kinda guy who tends to procrastinate a lot when he isn't doing anything. Like if I don't shower as soon as I get home, I could waste hours on meaningless bullshit like scrolling on my phone. So when I was working on improving my dating life, it was definitely much better to be sleeping with women than not doing so. The neediness thing was also pretty spot on. | /r/seduction | 14/07/23 08:28 AM |
| 141 | Do you guys rack up bodies with girls you aren’t extremely interested in?Wondering if I am being to picky by your own subjective standard. No way. You sleep with who you want to sleep with. You don't owe anyone anything and if you're able to get with the ones you really want, what benefit is there to sleeping with women you're not that interested in? Body count? That's what entrepreneurs call vanity metrics. It might give you bragging rights, maybe but it offers no real benefit. My main question is about do you smash less than ideal chicks? I've lowered my standards … | /r/seduction | 13/07/23 05:43 PM |
| 37 | If men started to respect themselves more, we would have a much easier timeI'll take it a step further and say that if all men stopped chasing women, women would be the ones chasing us. | /r/seduction | 15/04/23 04:30 AM |
| 12 | [M34] Was rejected badly a few days ago and having a hard time getting over it.So I've been doing this for over a decade. If I were still thinking like you I'd say my worst rejections were that one time a girl only paused to look at me weird without any acknowledgement whatsoever for what I said or that one time when a girl responded to me with an aggressive tone. But having done tens of thousands of approaches, maybe even more, your perspective drastically changes. I've found that the vast majority, like 99% of women will generally respond nicely to you, even if they aren… | /r/seduction | 01/11/22 04:51 PM |
| 63 | Am I being unreasonable with my standards with this girl ?Am I being too much of a bitch? You can never be a bitch for having standards and preferences. People who tell you to suck it up in order to get laid are only trying to reinforce a scarcity mindset in you. That said, I'd recommend you go with how you feel about her in person rather than how you feel about how she looks online. | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 04:49 PM |
| 8 | Do you think this could be a sign that the woman wants you to ask her out?Kinda sounds like she's the one asking you out already. That said, in reality we need more context to really tell whether she's interested in you or not but either way, you should take her up on the offer. Seducing a woman is not about making it clear that you're asking her out or that you're interested in dating her. That will only increase your chances of getting intimate with her by about 2%. The thing that really matters is how you behave when you show up. So don't even officially ask her ou… | /r/seduction | 13/10/22 10:56 PM |
| 17 | locking eyes? is it a good sign?Her locking eyes with you is a good sign but an even better sign is the fact that she approached you asking for help. Asking for help is actually one of the most common excuses women use to talk to a guy they're into. There are no guarantees but if I was in your shoes I would've liked my odds. | /r/seduction | 24/09/22 12:36 PM |
| 4 | Came off too desperate to a girl, should I just ghost herJust try to actually go on the date with her and asses from there. If it's on, it's on. If it's not then that's when you move on. My attitude has always been, "let's find out". Whenever I think a girl won't be into me or she won't like it when she sees me naked or she won't be impressed about something I do or she's gonna be a bitch to me if I approach her or I can't please her sexually or whatever I'm just like, "Well let's find out! 🤷♂️" Back in 2017 I had my first date in a while after just … | /r/seduction | 24/09/22 11:51 AM |
| 43 | Don't women get bored of the same questions.It depends on the context. Let's use an even more boring question. Lets use "What do you do for work?" If you're having a somewhat awkward conversation where it's like you're grasping at straws to get something going and you ask, "So......what do you do for work?" of course that will be boring as hell. If instead you're in an engaging conversation and you're laughing about people and situations that come up at workplaces and she shares a funny experience she's had at work then you say, "Haha. No… | /r/seduction | 24/09/22 11:41 AM |
| 24 | Women staying more loyal when they think you're a catch?I know a young married couple where the guy beats the hell out of his wife but he's also a deadbeat loser who can't hold on to a job and sells things around the house to support his drug habit. He has very low social status, the only people that like him are other druggies, he's as skinny as Machine Gun Kelly but with even less muscle tone and no tattoos, he doesn't dress well either because he doesn't care about much other than getting his next fix. His wife is almost his height and she has won… | /r/seduction | 24/09/22 11:26 AM |
| 4 | I invite you to discuss about the truth of seduction.It's a little disturbing that I read you thinking I was reading the rationalization of a player, and notice after your name is hunterpua. I don't know about that. I've been in a really damn good exclusive relationship for the past 3 years. We've had disagreements but never really had a fight yet and we adore each other even more than our first year together. Her friend has even called our relationship a one in a million thing. And I have had a relationship before I learned game. It was toxic as … | /r/seduction | 24/09/22 02:22 AM |
| 4 | I invite you to discuss about the truth of seduction.Ok so let's suppose dating is a skill, where do babies come from? Huh? The first baby in a tribe or city, whoever did it didn't have experience, nor skill. So what happened there??? Sex. If you don't have high standards then you don't need high skill. You may not even need any skill whatsoever if you're just willing to take whatever you can get. Remember, I only said seduction is a set of social skills. Seduction isn't the only thing that can get you laid, someone can just be attracted to you be… | /r/seduction | 24/09/22 01:20 AM |
| 14 | I invite you to discuss about the truth of seduction.What is the most true thing you know about anything more or less related to seduction? Seduction is just a particular set of social skills and social skills are developed like any other skill. If certain behaviors feel unnatural that doesn't make them necessarily wrong, all skills feel extremely unnatural when you first try to do them. If you remember trying to drive a car for the first time you should remember it feeling so alien. There would be a lot less guys here struggling to improve their … | /r/seduction | 24/09/22 12:43 AM |
| 7 | What should you do, if your personality doesn't really work?You can change your personality. It may never be a complete overhaul and you may retain a few things over your entire lifetime but you definitely can change parts of yourself and add things on to your personality, like a sense of humor. I have a feeling that you're just hesitant to try to change because maybe you're worried about being seen as cringey and embarrassing yourself in the process but that's just something you're gonna have to deal with if you want a better dating life. Social skills … | /r/seduction | 17/09/22 10:54 AM |
| 3 | Does day game/cold approaching work well because women aren't approached at all anymore outside of bars and apps?but i feel like mostly women on reddit are feminists i can be wrong That could be the case but also, they could only be thinking about the times when someone did a shitty job at approaching them. And it's rough but cold approach is a skill and like every other skill, everyone does a shitty job at first. So I'm telling you right now, odds are, women will think you're creepy in the beginning. But you just gotta bite the bullet and keep practicing so that you get better at it. This might help you o… | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 06:01 PM |
| 12 | Does day game/cold approaching work well because women aren't approached at all anymore outside of bars and apps?Daygame has pros and cons. One of the pros is what you're talking about because it's definitely true that women get approached far less often during the day. I've had women tell me that us meeting was like a scene from a movie. But one of the cons is very few people go out in the daytime for the purpose of getting approached or socializing. Unless you approach people at pool parties that happen during the day. But if you try to meet people on the street or in a park or in a shopping center, they… | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Are there women who pretend to like you for the sake of attention? And if so, do you call them out on it?There is but you shouldn't think like that. That's the kind of thinking that gets guys into relationships where they're taken for granted and not respected properly. If you think you have a problem with nerves, don't try to overcome that to get this girl, try to do better with the next girl. | /r/seduction | 08/09/22 03:10 AM |
| 3 | I look better in real than in my pictures?Just say "thanks" and continue flirting with her. You looking better in real life is no big deal as long as your pictures get you a good number of matches on dating apps. | /r/seduction | 07/09/22 09:40 AM |
| 20 | Are there women who pretend to like you for the sake of attention? And if so, do you call them out on it?So have you guys ever encountered a woman like this? Definitely. And I guess the next question is do I call her out on it, or do I just enjoy the flirting for what it is and not act or move on it? Calling someone out on this behavior doesn't really help you apart from being able to vent your frustrations if you have any. Me personally, I never just see one girl at a time when I'm single. For example, if I have a date set up with one girl for later this week that doesn't mean I'll just avoid meet… | /r/seduction | 07/09/22 09:32 AM |
| 1 | Do you go for the kiss even if the date isn't going that well or the vibes aren't that great?No, I wouldn't. That advice is only good if you're still timid about your sexuality and you still can't read social cues very well but it'll only help you pull the trigger more and improve your ability to read situations. It won't help you to actually have good dates and escalate well in the short term. Its like, I tell guys to approach girls without giving them any advice whatsoever but that doesn't help them actually succeed, it just helps me guage where they're at so we can work from there. I… | /r/seduction | 07/09/22 09:19 AM |
| 4 | How long will you put in effort with a bad conversationalist on tinder?I don't really try to have unique conversations on Tinder. Well, they may seem unique to girls but to me its usually a variation of things I've talked about lots of times. Most dating apps are set up to get guys to spend as much money as possible. A dating app that makes it easy for a guy to quickly get what he wants is just bad for their business because there will be no incentive to spend on it and even keep the app installed in your phone. Because of that I approach online dating with a more … | /r/seduction | 02/09/22 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Here's the god honest way to stop being needy and have girls chasing youbut it is quite a lot of work to draw a reasonable number of first dates just from cold approaching, that’s why I like the idea of social circle game :) Awesome. You should try the stuff I wrote on here then. | /r/seduction | 30/08/22 07:45 AM |
| 1 | Here's the god honest way to stop being needy and have girls chasing youProbably I am again just looking for an excuse to not take action/responsibility 😅 That's alright. Just like the gym you can go in small, incremental steps. Have you been approaching regularly already? | /r/seduction | 30/08/22 07:33 AM |
| 1 | Here's the god honest way to stop being needy and have girls chasing youKnowing the destination doesn't necessarily make the journey less fun. Most guys work out with the destination in mind. You know, their programs are optimized for their goals. They don't just walk into a gym and blindy run around and lift things but yet, how many gym bros do you know that hate working out? The incremental growth is still fun even if they know exactly what they're working towards. Also, if we talk about actually traveling to a destination, can't the trip be fun if you know exactl… | /r/seduction | 29/08/22 06:51 PM |
| 2 | Should I just start cold approaching in college?Well then you might be at risk for all the cons you listed. Anything that involves you talking to a stranger counts as cold approach, even just noticing a girl dropped something and returning it to her. Don't get caught up in PUA/Red/Black/whatever pill dogma. Limiting yourself to only showing intent is like only using a hammer for every single household job. You need to be able to adapt to whatever situation you're in and let your approach suit the situation. I can cold approach a girl at a fun… | /r/seduction | 28/08/22 04:44 AM |
| 1 | Should I just start cold approaching in college?Do things with them all at once. Like parties, events, trips, etc. You don't always need to hang out with every single one at the same time too, you can have different groups like one group is your photography/model friends, another is your hiking friends, another is the friends you do volunteer work with, etc and you can invite all of them to the same thing every once in a while. They don't all need to be your best friends, they just need to think you're a cool guy that's fun to hang out with. … | /r/seduction | 28/08/22 03:58 AM |
| 13 | My school is having a welcome week event. Any advice on what I should do to maximize my chances of getting a number/date/laid etc.Be less sexual/forward and more social/friendly when you approach. Also don't get too caught up in closing. Focus more on mingling and talking to lots of people. Allow yourself to talk to a girl you find attractive and walk away even before you get her number. You all go to the same school and you'll all be going to the same events. Chances are you'll see each other again, so you'll be able to get her number some other time. You'll be better off connecting with lots of women because that will le… | /r/seduction | 27/08/22 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Should I just start cold approaching in college?Depends. What do you think counts as a cold approach? | /r/seduction | 27/08/22 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Should I just start cold approaching in college?Social circle game isn't limited to the friends you already have. A big part of social circle game is making new friends and expanding your network with the kind of people you want to have in your life. Its also a much faster method of meeting women because if you can expand your circle indefinitely that means you can increase the amount of people who can introduce you to women indefinitely. So your ability to meet new women isn't dependent only on when you set out to meet them but also on the h… | /r/seduction | 27/08/22 07:02 PM |
| 1 | “No contact rule”Yes. It works even better in that scenario. | /r/seduction | 27/08/22 06:50 PM |
| 2 | What’s your guys processes for being a good wingman?I've had wings since 2009 when I first started learning how to talk to girls. One of the things that I've found has helped me improve the most is actually competing with them because it just added pressure not only to bring your A-game but also so that we waste less time, throw away less opportunities and are less likely to pussy out of talking to someone. Because of that we had a very good idea of how we measure up with each other. So I know when the guy I'm with isn't as good as me and when I'… | /r/seduction | 26/08/22 03:53 PM |
| 3 | The only women I can get online are women I would have never approached IRLDon't know what the landscape of online dating is like right now but last I used it was 2019 and the girls I got were pretty hot. Definitely girls I'd approach IRL. Used Tinder and Bumble, Bumble was free and I already did well, paid for Tinder Gold and boosted occasionally, also did the usual optimizing of photos and bios for both. That said, I've been approaching women and learning female psychology since 2009 so that likely helped me make the most of my matches. What has changed with online d… | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 02:49 AM |
| 33 | Men of Reddit, what are some of the best places to meet and interact with women?They don't require you to leave the house but you certainly can attend things outside your house for that. Reading? Book events, author signings, conventions, etc. Writing music?? Seriously, lots of hot girls like music. How about you do an open mic, attend classes, and attend other social events for musicians? | /r/seduction | 21/08/22 03:29 AM |
| 129 | Men of Reddit, what are some of the best places to meet and interact with women?What places are just filled with interesting and attractive women? What's interesting and attractive is very subjective. Wanna learn how to find women who are tailored to your preferences? Then actually try to figure out at least 3 things you want in a girl. And don't make it easy for yourself by listing basic shit that anyone would want. Don't just say you want someone who is thoughtful, hot, and respectful because every dude wants a girl who has at least those 3 things. Those are the basics. T… | /r/seduction | 20/08/22 08:19 PM |
| 4 | I operate stag so how do you deal with girl pairs?In a way, approaching a group is easier than approaching a girl alone because you have lots of built in topics like how they know each other, what their roles are in the group, how they met, etc. There are also more girls to talk to so if you find yourself running out of things to say with one girl you can always shift your attention to another and talking to her for a while is usually enough to help you come up with more stuff to talk about with the previous girl. They can also warm up to you f… | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 07:12 PM |
| 5 | Cold approachingJust regular old flirting. The problem is most guys don't actually know what flirting is and often confuse it for something else. I made a post a while back clearing that up. | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 05:41 PM |
| 14 | I operate stag so how do you deal with girl pairs?When I'm talking to 2 girls and I feel like the friend is gonna be a hindrance one thing I do is get to know her a bit then tell her my friend who was supposed to come out with me that night would really like her but he couldn't make it because he had a modeling gig/is performing surgery/is working on a big legal case/etc. Essentially you imply that you can set her up with a high value friend of yours. She'll usually be good after that. When I first started saying that it used to be just somethi… | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 05:20 PM |
| 15 | Cold approachingIf you're inexperienced then its fine to do that just to get yourself started but it's not the best way of doing things. I would actually advise it because one of the biggest things most guys who lack dating experience struggle with is showing interest and showing their sexual side in general. But once you get comfortable doing that, move on from it and refine your ability to communicate with and seduce women further. You should strive to get so good at flirting and seduction that it won't matte… | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 05:10 PM |
| 4 | Tips on making statements?When the other person hasn't said anything yet you can just say "You look like..." or "You seem like..." and then fill in the blanks with whatever you can come up with in the moment. It doesn't need to be any more scripted than that because the more you do it, the better you'll get at actually guessing things right. Now whether you guess wrong or right doesn't make a huge difference in terms how the convo progresses, if anything, guessing wrong lends to more conversation because she could get cu… | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 09:37 AM |
| 7 | Does it mean anything if a girl asks you why you get nervous and if you have a gf?I just answered a post like this yesterday. Check it out, it might help clear things up for you. | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 09:19 AM |
| 3 | How to not lose frame?Intelligence is an attractive trait. You don't need to change the things you like in order to attract women, all you need to change are behaviors while also developing certain social skills. So you change things like being shy, quiet, reaction seeking, desperate, insecure, a lack of empathy, while improving things like your understanding of female psychology and your ability to flirt and escalate. If you're losing interest when you go into a topic that only really smart people can relate to and … | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 07:19 PM |
| 2 | what does a sub male do in a relationship?I've only looked into it a few times out of curiosity because I haven't really gone deep into BDSM yet but you'd probably find more people who can point you in the right direction over at r/sex instead of here. | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 06:45 PM |
| 3 | what does a sub male do in a relationship?There are lists on the internet about this but you don't have to do every single item, you're free to pick and choose because at the end of the day it is about enhancing your enjoyment of sex/relationship dynamics and you're probably not gonna enjoy everything you see on one of those lists. If a girl insists that you have to be all of it then she doesn't really know BDSM. Professional BDSM sex workers will basically tell you the same thing I'm telling you. | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 06:39 PM |
| 8 | Is someone complimenting your posture an IOI or no?Anything that can be considered an IOI can also be just a coincidence. A girl touching her hair could mean she's interested in you or it could mean it's annoying her and she's adjusting it to get more comfortable. A girl entering your personal space or touching you could mean she's interested in you or it could mean she's walking through a narrow passage and you just happen to be there. A girl laughing at a cheezy joke you just made could be interested in you or she's just laughing at how cheezy… | /r/seduction | 21/07/22 06:26 PM |
| 1 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateLike I said, some. | /r/seduction | 13/07/22 12:26 PM |
| 1 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateThat signals to me that some women treat sex as a doling out of favours rather than a thing to be enjoyed in and of itself. Some. I've been with lots of women who just wanted casual sex. | /r/seduction | 12/07/22 10:32 AM |
| 1 | How you can build up the confidence to approach beautiful women.That I can agree on. At least having those things will make it easier for women to give you the time of day. | /r/seduction | 08/07/22 02:30 AM |
| 2 | How you can build up the confidence to approach beautiful women.Confidence without anything to back it up is delusion Exactly. And muscles, money, and lifestyle don't make you a good seducer, communicator, boyfriend, or lover. They don't even do much to improve your "conversion rate" in how many girls you actually end up seeing again after you've cold approached them. It might make women more approachable at first but past that point its more or less the same. That said, muscles will probably improve your conversion rate if you just use Tinder/online dating.… | /r/seduction | 08/07/22 02:26 AM |
| 2 | How you can build up the confidence to approach beautiful women.Are you speaking based on experience or based on imagining how great things would be if you had those things? Personally, I've gone out with lots of guys who have an abundance of those things and I've been in positions where I was relatively much better looking and higher status than everyone around me too. Those things only make you think much higher of yourself, it's essentially an inflation of your ego. You may have some temporary confidence because of that but as soon as your idea of yoursel… | /r/seduction | 07/07/22 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Maintaining the skills within the relationship (M25)My question is how do you maintain your frame and skills, be it in person or via text whilst maintaining a relationship? Let's face it, practicing with your lover isn't exactly ideal as they will not take you too seriously and they know they have you. I haven't really experienced this in my own relationship. I'm currently in a relationship and we've been together almost 3 years and I still "maintain the frame". What does that mean btw? Still be respected? Still have her valuing you and holding y… | /r/seduction | 07/07/22 05:45 AM |
| 4 | How you can build up the confidence to approach beautiful women.Good job! I used a similar approach when I started. You can't really build the confidence to talk to beautiful girls without actually talking to them. No amount of muscles or money or lifestyle upgrading will really give you that confidence. Gotta just go out and actually talk to people. Keep it up man! | /r/seduction | 07/07/22 04:50 AM |
| 76 | She was doing this to me at the beach, does she like me?She likes you. One of the things women do when they're attracted to you is touch you a lot. Women are very sensitive to getting touched by guys and naturally avoid getting touched by guys they aren't into. Women sometimes even recoil or jerk away when a guy they aren't into touches them. Not all women will be the ones initiating touches with you though, some will just be willing to let you touch them, it depends on the individual woman's personality. Also, the stuff we used to do as kids when we… | /r/seduction | 07/07/22 04:36 AM |
| 6 | People of seddit who've "made it", what's the most crucial piece of seduction advice that helped you succeed at seduction?Seduction is not magic and it's not a numbers game either, its just a social skill and social skills are like any other skill, you need to practice them before you can be effective with them. If a technique that has worked for others is not working for you theres probably nothing wrong with the technique, there's likely something wrong with your execution of it. Techniques not feeling natural is also not a good reason to avoid using and practicing them because all skills that are new to you feel… | /r/seduction | 02/07/22 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Saying/texting something stupid, now what?This would be off putting and make her feel like you could be a creep but can be salvaged especially if you often get to see each other around other people. How did she say, "Are you following me?" | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 06:09 PM |
| 1 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateDoesn't that assume women don't actually enjoy sex in an of itself? | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 08:14 AM |
| 1 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateHey, if you like deluding yourself you're totally free to do that. 🤷♂️ | /r/seduction | 24/06/22 08:10 AM |
| 1 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateSo if you steal something and no one finds out you didn't do anything wrong? If you kill someone painlessly and they and everyone else never finds out it was you, you didn't do anything wrong? When did I ever say my intention is to not cause the boyfriend pain? Don't you know the difference between good pain and bad pain? Do you think exercise is not a good thing to subject yourself to just because there's pain involved? Are we just not supposed to deliver any bad news whatsoever because it coul… | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 08:18 PM |
| 1 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateFair enough. 👍 | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 01:31 PM |
| 1 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateBecause you're helping her betray someone. 🤷♂️ It's also pathetic. You remember we're on r/seduction right? We should be working to build ourselves to be above that kind of scarcity. I didn't spend a decade building abundance and learning to seduce women just to feel like sleeping with a cheater is an opportunity I can't easily pass up. | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 10:55 AM |
| 1 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateDepending on how much I know about their situation I would either out her or just reject her. If I know too little about a given situation and I end up telling the boyfriend and that causes trouble for them (and maybe me) that's on her for telling me so little. There is no scenario that justifies you fucking that girl. Even if she turns out to be someone you fall madly in love for, you would be wrong to not tell her to end it before you two do anything physical together. If she's in an abusive r… | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 10:18 AM |
| 3 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateMoving on a male friend of yours' woman is a dog move. You can't hope to remain friends after that. Otherwise if you don't know the guy then it's all good. Who cares? Even if she's married... I mean, she promised HER HUSBAND fidelity. She didn't promise YOU anything... and if she's willing to break promises then perhaps you shouldn't promise her anything either! In that situation you probably won't even find out that she's married. If I find out a girl is in a relationship then I'm ditching her … | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 08:42 AM |
| 2 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateOnce, ages ago. Since I started dating in around 2008-09 and now I've only been in 3 monogamous relationships because I've mostly been in polyamorous relationships so I allowed my girls to sleep around while I did the same. I don't consider any of that cheating. Been learning seduction since 09 and I've been cheated with more than I've been cheated on and immature me used to used to think I was completely justified that's why I'm calling people out, I'm teaching them a lesson that I wish someone… | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 08:34 AM |
| 3 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateMe and my GF just had a leg day yesterday, not a euphemism, we really trained legs. Now we can barely walk 😄 You don't need to be unhappy to call people out. Look at my profile, I spend 99% of my reddit time on r/seduction so I'm just calling people out based on the trends I've been noticing. | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 08:26 AM |
| 3 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateI'm not talking about a specific situation I was in. I wrote this because of a trend I'm seeing on this subreddit. But regardless of whether I was close with the guy or not I would rather conspire with him to get her dumped than fuck her. | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 08:11 AM |
| 3 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateI encounter quite a few women who are in relationships, who want to have sex with other guys, but it is as part of an open relationship, Well I get that. I was polyamorous for years and always made it clear that my girls were free to sleep around too. My issue is only with the guys who think they're justified in having sex with a woman who is in a monogamous relationship. | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 08:02 AM |
| 6 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateShe still gets something though. Its not like only the guy gets something out of sex. Rejecting her and getting her dumped is a much more impactful lesson because not only will she feel disposable, she'll also feel undesirable. | /r/seduction | 23/06/22 07:56 AM |
| 1 | Seducing ex-gf who is trying to friendzone.So she was never your girlfriend? | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 06:47 PM |
| 6 | Seducing ex-gf who is trying to friendzone.You were already with her for 7 years and even hooked up a few times after the break up? Dude....go find other girls. You're waaay overdue to move on. You think she's hot now but I promise you, if you had just been working on improving your dating life and meeting tons of girls after you broke up I promise you she wouldn't be even close to the hottest option you'd have. In fact, if you had just been working on you game all this time you could just pick up a girl to hook up with at the hotel rest… | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 06:12 PM |
| 13 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateYup. Being famous doesn't mean being immune to desperation or selfishness. He was probably trying to make up for lost time when girls used to ignore him before he was famous. Theres also something to be said about sleeping with a girl who you didn't know had a BF. That's a completely different story there. | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 04:54 PM |
| 22 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateExactly. | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Friend who posts dates on snap story to make other women jealousThis is really a question of comfort and how much someone likes you. The more comfortable they are with you and the more they like you, the more comfortable they will be with you posting them on social media. Its not even necessarily attraction, just a general liking. And you absolutely can get that comfortable after just meeting someone, I've bumped into friends while cold approaching and they thought I was on a date because of how comfortable me and the girl looked even if we only met 10 minut… | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 04:47 PM |
| 6 | Friend who posts dates on snap story to make other women jealousYes! This is the right question. It doesn't really matter where I meet these girls. I've done it with girls I met on dating apps, cold approach, or who were introduced to me by friends. Whenever I meet a girl I always try to do it socially, some people call it "indirect" but I think that's a misnomer but essentially I start conversations based on observations, making friendly small talk, etc. The impression I want to give women is that we just met because I'm a friendly guy. Within that conversa… | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 04:11 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about this situation?That's absolutely true. You don't really know what you want yet, your judgment is askew because you can't get that many girls yet. Come back to her after you've been able to date multiple girls at the same time on multiple different occasions and you'll see the difference. | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 03:06 PM |
| 4 | Shower thought: would you approach a girl you found really attractive but was giving you some serious bitch vibes?Just the resting look on her face. The way her eyebrows are shaped makes her look like a bitch when she's just putting on a neutral look. | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 02:06 PM |
| 10 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateI'm in a committed relationship now so I don't really find myself in a position where a girl could cheat with me anymore. I'm just giving advice that I think is appropriate for the guys in this sub. | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 01:39 PM |
| 6 | You're not doing a guy a favor by fucking his girlfriend, you're just desperateI don’t think the dude cares about doing the boyfriend a favor lol There are guys who use that excuse. Or maybe you just wanted to smash a bad chick who is throwing it at you. That means you don't have enough "bad chicks" in your life yet. | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 01:01 PM |
| 6 | Friend who posts dates on snap story to make other women jealousI started in '09. Woah. Same here man! Glad to see I'm not the only one here. | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 12:09 PM |
| 9 | Qualification: The Most Neglected Step in PUAMost inexperienced guys these days are automatically repelled by anything that sounds technical and anything that sounds like old school PUA stuff and they make up the majority of the members on this subreddit. You need to look for ways to present your message so it sounds more "normal". For example you could say something like, "The goal of qualification is to be able show her that you're genuinely interested. If she has proven all these things to you and you express how much that makes you lik… | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 12:03 PM |
| 10 | Qualification: The Most Neglected Step in PUAI agree that qualification is definitely one of the most powerful but most neglected aspects in seduction and I'd go so far as to say it's what separates guys who are good and guys who are great. But the thing is, the way you presented it here won't get it a lot of love on this subreddit. | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 11:37 AM |
| 2 | Saying/texting something stupid, now what?Be more specific. What did you say exactly and how exactly did she react? | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 11:32 AM |
| 58 | Shower thought: would you approach a girl you found really attractive but was giving you some serious bitch vibes?If you lack experience your idea of "bitch vibes" is usually waaaaaay off. When I was fairly inexperienced I once approached a girl who I thought looked like the meanest bitch ever. I was terrified but she was gorgeous. When I went for it she immediately melted and we ended up spending the entire day together. I chose not to try anything though because I learned that she had a boyfriend. But I only learned that because we met up with one of her friends that day who outed her. We became really go… | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 10:20 AM |
| 32 | Friend who posts dates on snap story to make other women jealousYou should definitely do what the first friend does. One of the things I like to do is not have dates but just invite all the girls I'm talking to along to whatever I got going on, be it some kind of event, party, activity, or when I'm just going to a bar or restaurant with my friends. That means they all show up at the same place at the same time and I flirt with all of them. It definitely makes seducing them easier. I've had girls blatantly telling me why I should go home with them. I've been … | /r/seduction | 22/06/22 09:55 AM |
| 1 | Welp, that was a failure.Idk. It's fucking hard to have any hope. Well yeah, 2 straight years of rejection. And that's with me going out multiple times a week, talking to multiple women a day sometimes from 2 in the afternoon to 2 in the morning. Even if we be conservative and just say I went out once a week and talked to at least 5 girls every time, 52 weeks x 5 girls = 260 girls who rejected me in a year, now multiply that by 2 and keep in mind I'm lowballing. Not all men struggle with dating but all men have somethin… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 09:41 AM |
| 1 | Welp, that was a failure.Well what are you doing about it? I may make it sound easy now but when I started out I spent almost 2 years just getting rejected before I started seeing any success. | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 06:56 AM |
| 1 | What's the correct approach to go from a dating phase to being in an official relationship?Just tell her that you think its time that you're clear about where you're at with the situation between you two. Let her know that you want to find out how she feel but go first and tell her your side first. But also, try to be a little more honest with yourself and try to be a little more accurate about how you describe your feelings. For example, you're not really 100% sure that she's the one you wanna be committed to. You've only been seeing each other for 2 months and some couples even take… | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 06:05 PM |
| 7 | Welp, that was a failure.Sometimes being egotistic means being too proud to do something you perceive as too easy. In reality there is always a step that's easy enough for anyone to take, most people are just too proud to take that step. You could've started by nodding at people. You could've started by asking functional questions like where the bathroom is, where do you get the drinks, etc. You could've allowed yourself to just ask one question or make one comment or gesture and not pressure yourself to get into a full… | /r/seduction | 18/06/22 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Not sure how to use the ‘no contact’ thing here, would appreciate advice on how to approach this situationI don't know if that's how the no contact rule works from whoever made it up but I do agree with part of what you said here - If you're still not that good with women and you're still desperate enough to fall for anyone who is available who you somewhat vibe well with then maybe cutting contact would be best. Because it is likely that your feelings for that person and the actions you may take because of them will get in the way of your progress. I was speaking more from an intermediate/advanced … | /r/seduction | 06/06/22 01:26 AM |
| 1 | Not sure how to use the ‘no contact’ thing here, would appreciate advice on how to approach this situationFirst of all, what you're planning is a recipe for disaster. Putting that much effort in for a girl who has fucked your brains out one time will already nuke your self-esteem and make you a desperate mess, let alone a girl like this who you haven't even kissed. The best thing to do with a girl who friendzones you is to take the friendship very seriously and treat her straight up as a friend and nourish that friendship so you guys regularly hang out again. Theres no secret seduction beneath the s… | /r/seduction | 03/06/22 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Why does most of the usual advice backfire when I use it?Here's the thing, some girl you just met isn't your whole world, just because you're acting differently with a few girls here and there doesn't mean you're losing yourself. You can still revert to the social skills you have already polished when you hang around your friends, family and others who have already been part of your life, and they're the people who matter more anyway. You can wait until your new social skills are polished before you expose the important people in your life to them. Al… | /r/seduction | 26/05/22 10:20 AM |
| 0 | Why does most of the usual advice backfire when I use it?It doesn't work the same way a jab you only practice 5 times won't work in an actual sparring match against an experienced partner. What you're learning here are skills, and like every skill, you will always suck in the beginning unless it turns out you have a talent for seduction but most people don't have that. So your results are typical and expected. Like any other skill you just gotta make the mistakes and forgive yourself for doing a crappy job, even if its embarrassing sometimes, until yo… | /r/seduction | 25/05/22 07:06 AM |
| 1 | Confused guy here. Help appreciatedIf you just like to keep the possibility of intimacy between you two then just be flirty. That's all you need to do to maintain the possibility that you two could get it on. Don't do anything else as long as she's still with her boyfriend. And if they'll be together forever then never try anything else. If you have a problem with that then you don't have enough abundance yet. That's the real problem. If you just had enough abundance you wouldn't be worrying about how to attract a girl who's alre… | /r/seduction | 25/05/22 06:41 AM |
| 6 | What would you say to start a conversation with a girl at the gym?Nah, you just need to make sure they're generally aware that you're there so you don't startle them. | /r/seduction | 24/05/22 08:18 AM |
| 1 | Sending memes to OLD girls you haven't met yetYes you were but did you use what you learned about her to inform the memes you'd send and how many of them to send? | /r/seduction | 23/05/22 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Sending memes to OLD girls you haven't met yetOh, you were already in conversation with her? Then it would be 10 times easier to find out which memes would be appropriate to send and how often you can send them before she gets tired of it. If....you actually spent your conversation getting to know her, paying attention and actually remembering the things you learn about her. To me, the way you described the situation seems like you were only doing what you felt like doing, not necessarily what you thought she'd actually enjoy so of course s… | /r/seduction | 23/05/22 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Should i date a girl I find average?For a serious relationship you should never settle. Before I met my girlfriend I did multiple FWB-ish relationships and most of girls were actually pretty darn cool and would have made decent girlfriends but that was just it, they were only decent, which is why I was only with them casually. My girlfriend was and still is a "fuck yes!" and that's the only way you should have it. You can actually still be with girls that you are just somewhat happy with without having to be tied down to them by j… | /r/seduction | 23/05/22 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Sending memes to OLD girls you haven't met yetLove it. Used to do it all the time because it made the whole process a lot more fun for me. But like any message on OLD you gotta test a few to see what works best. I feel like you just send whatever you feel like and that's why you haven't been getting good responses but if you're willing to run thru trial and error I'm sure you will find a few memes that will be well received more often than not. | /r/seduction | 23/05/22 05:50 PM |
| 1 | Managing multiple RelationshipsWhat I did when I had multiple relationships was just have a schedule for messaging girls. I literally wouldn't even allow my phone to give me any notifications from them until about 7 or 8-ish in the evening after I've had dinner and only then do I respond to all their messages. The great thing about this is that more likely than not, I won't be getting their messages in real time so I can take my time responding to each of their messages. Now, they will realize I finally have down time and I'm… | /r/seduction | 23/05/22 05:34 PM |
| 2 | “Let’s Keep Talking And See How It Goes. Won’t Promise You Anything. One Day At A Time…” = “Not Interested In You. Go Away.”?Depends, some are, some aren't. Its more validating to get attraction from someone you actually find attractive. Besides, validation seekers can't really lead you on without showing some interest. If a girl just gives one word answers in every exchange most guys will lose interest very quickly. | /r/seduction | 23/05/22 02:39 PM |
| 1 | “Let’s Keep Talking And See How It Goes. Won’t Promise You Anything. One Day At A Time…” = “Not Interested In You. Go Away.”?It's not a waste of time because developing these social skills translate to so many other areas of life like business and networking, you don't only improve your relationships with women but in general too, with your friends, family, and mentors. You also learn to be more persuasive in general and the ability to have your way more often can drastically improve the quality of your life. Not to mention that when you're good at game you will end up sleeping and getting involved with these girls wh… | /r/seduction | 23/05/22 02:12 PM |
| 3 | “Let’s Keep Talking And See How It Goes. Won’t Promise You Anything. One Day At A Time…” = “Not Interested In You. Go Away.”?Validation seekers usually lead you on like telling you they'd love to hang out but never nail down a specific date. This girl literally set his expectations and told him she won't promise him anything. You can also assess things based on how she messages you, like if she never opens up and her messages never become long-winded or she never double or triple texts. If things are actually going good girls will have no problem sending you multiple messages in succession. Other signs to look out for… | /r/seduction | 23/05/22 01:44 PM |
| 2 | “Let’s Keep Talking And See How It Goes. Won’t Promise You Anything. One Day At A Time…” = “Not Interested In You. Go Away.”?Exactly. | /r/seduction | 23/05/22 01:39 PM |
| 3 | “Let’s Keep Talking And See How It Goes. Won’t Promise You Anything. One Day At A Time…” = “Not Interested In You. Go Away.”?This is what you call a "Maybe-girl". Generally speaking, the game is played with Yes- and Maybe-girls and it's only the "No-girls" who are not worth trying with. If you usually struggle with Maybe-girls then it doesn't mean these girls are bad or that they're not worth trying with, it means you still don't have the social & seduction skills to be really good at this. Don't be misled by multiple positive situations with Yes-girls, you're not that good, you were just lucky. This is where the idea… | /r/seduction | 23/05/22 07:39 AM |
| 38 | What would you say to start a conversation with a girl at the gym?but I can never think of any excuse to talk to them. Any advice? In the gym?? There are countless reasons to talk to people. The first thing you need to realize is that both of you are gonna be in there for at least an hour and odds are you're gonna see each other again...and again and again. Most people who are around you in a gym are regular members and its easy to notice when someone is just in there for a session. This means you can take your time! You don't need to go from open to close in … | /r/seduction | 23/05/22 07:38 AM |
| 2 | Unlike the reverse, Why are the vast majority of women not interested in casual sex with their male friends?I always hear from reddit and other places how women are just as sexual as men and desire sex and are even capable of being sexual predators but honestly, these type of women just seem to be a minority. Women generally dont't seem AS sexual as me. Again, I feel guilty for even thinking of making a sexual advance on a woman I found attractive, as if i was trying to put the burden of sex on her. You just haven't experienced the realities of female sexuality yet but that doesn't mean women aren't a… | /r/seduction | 23/05/22 06:02 AM |
| 3 | Cold approach: Got the first numberThen a few minutes later I saw a girl sitting on a bench with a Louis Vuitton bag, which is kinda girl I don't like (no offense to Louis Vuitton lol), but I thought it's just a practice and went to say hi. The response was not that positive (she kept looking at her phone), so I walked away saying have a good day. This is the right attitude to have. Seduction is a skill and you're doing a good job of treating it as such. 👍 | /r/seduction | 23/05/22 02:13 AM |
| 1 | How do you know if your girl bsf is falling for you?Forget how she feels. If you want to be with her then you owe it to yourself to try. | /r/seduction | 22/05/22 07:11 AM |
| 7 | Is it worth moving near a university campus to increase my odds of getting laid a lot?Is it worth moving near a university campus to increase my odds of getting laid a lot? Yes, it'll be easier to sleep around a lot when you're in a location where there are lots of girls around but you're the only one who can decide whether moving there would be worth it or not because moving anywhere doesn't just affect your sex life. | /r/seduction | 21/05/22 07:32 AM |
| 6 | How do you know if your girl bsf is falling for you?You shouldn't be afraid to hurt her feelings, if she's really your friend then she'll eventually get over it and things will go back to normal. And ultimately, you shouldn't go for what'll appease the most people, you should go for what you want. If you want to be with her then go for it, if not then risk hurting her feelings and go for other girls. If the roles were reversed, would you really think she's a bad person if she goes for anyone other than you? | /r/seduction | 21/05/22 06:54 AM |
| 1 | Need help upping my gameI can send you some links but I'd have to DM you because the mods will take it down if I send it here. | /r/seduction | 04/05/22 02:31 AM |
| 3 | Should I text her? Or wait? Weird situation..Just fully leave it. You guys are barely involved and you're not actually that close even if it feels that way sometimes. You don't need to be actively concerned about her health just yet, save that for a girlfriend. | /r/seduction | 03/05/22 10:21 AM |
| 1 | Need help upping my gameWhat should I do or where should I go to improve my luck? Blame yourself. When you take responsibility for your current situation you empower yourself to change that situation. Also, it seems like you're just trying to wing it with your dating life. Since that doesn't seem to be working for you I'd suggest you properly learn Game. | /r/seduction | 03/05/22 09:48 AM |
| 2 | I feel like a loser!I used to feel that lots of times. Don't worry, if you keep it up eventually it will hurt enough to motivate you to change. | /r/seduction | 03/05/22 09:41 AM |
| 5 | Should I text her? Or wait? Weird situation..Don't send her anything and don't actively wait for a reply, don't keep an opening on your schedule either, just carry on with your life. You guys will either meet up again or you won't. Also don't save yourself for her, meet new girls as often as you normally do and if you have a chance to go out with a different girl before she gets back to you, go do that. Ball's in her court now and you don't have to wait intently for what she does with it. Only give her back your attention when she actively… | /r/seduction | 03/05/22 09:37 AM |
| 1 | Agreed to make out with my friend but I'm nervous I can't make him happy. Are makeouts in movies real or is it supposed to be awkward irl?Are makeouts in movies real or is it supposed to be awkward irl? There are people who can create those movie moments in real life but I'd say most "beginner" makeouts are awkward. Will a guy get discouraged if they makeout with first timers who's very naive in this thing? Depends on the guy. Some guys won't like it but some guys are into "innocent" girls who don't know what they're doing. | /r/seduction | 03/05/22 09:30 AM |
| 1 | Even tho its a game I hate feeling like this, the moment I text something and 1 min later I realized I said the wrong did or said something trash, I realize I failed and the convo is over. I hate itI can't tell for sure because I don't know what you're specifically learning. If you don't really have proper resources from a book or a dating coach (not necessarily paid stuff, you can start with free content) and are only getting little tips here and there on reddit or a random selection of articles/videos then I would sort that out first. Doing that is like picking up random tips from multiple musicians rather than just going deep on a single music class to learn an instrument. Even those wh… | /r/seduction | 30/04/22 09:02 AM |
| 1 | How much rejection is considered normal ?Not really. | /r/seduction | 29/04/22 11:02 AM |
| 0 | How much rejection is considered normal ?That's only one of the things. | /r/seduction | 29/04/22 03:50 AM |
| 1 | How much rejection is considered normal ?That means you still need to work on your first impression. | /r/seduction | 29/04/22 02:32 AM |
| 2 | Even tho its a game I hate feeling like this, the moment I text something and 1 min later I realized I said the wrong did or said something trash, I realize I failed and the convo is over. I hate itYou gotta learn to get over that because like every skill, you're gonna have to make a ton of mistakes before you get good at it. Also, you probably only hate it now because you're not getting that many girls yet, this will be nothing to you once that starts to change. | /r/seduction | 29/04/22 02:09 AM |
| 1 | How much rejection is considered normal ?I feel like I go through way more than other guys I know who have a way more successful dating life than I do. Well yeah, because they have a more successful dating life than you. How much you get rejected in the beginning varies from person to person. You shouldn't be concerned about the fact that you get rejected a lot, you only need to be concerned if the frequency of the rejections is not lowering over time. If you're not making any improvements, reflected by less frequent rejections, or you… | /r/seduction | 29/04/22 02:03 AM |
| 5 | No social media in college?Depends. Are you happy with the results you're getting or not? If you're happy with your dating life or it's trajectory then there's no need to add or change anything. any tips on making quality friends would be appreciated as well! As far as this goes, this might help. | /r/seduction | 28/04/22 11:44 AM |
| 1 | Tinder date / CARwhat about touching? This will help with that. You can also touch her at your different stops. | /r/seduction | 26/04/22 09:33 AM |
| 16 | Paying for sex, am I a loser?Having sex with a prostitute doesn't make you a loser, trying and failing though, by definition makes you a loser. But being a loser doesn't have to be permanent. The majority of the most successful people from entertainers to athletes to entrepreneurs have far from perfect records and most of them spent more time losing than winning in the beginning so they've been losers too, at multiple points in their lives, they just kept persevering until they got those big wins that makes us think of them… | /r/seduction | 26/04/22 09:04 AM |
| 4 | A relationship with 14 years.You're only 14 years old? Yeah, take the chance. I'm a firm believer that there are some lessons that we can only learn by screwing up so I'm telling you to take the chance knowing that you're very likely to screw it up because I know that screwing this up will be good for you in the long run. | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 04:15 PM |
| 63 | Does a girl expect you to become angry when she rejects you?So this is what 'being a jerk' is all about? No. For most girls it's refreshing when guys are unfazed by rejection. The guys that get annoyed turn women off because it usually comes from a place of desperation and weakness. Bad boys don't get angry because they can't give 2 shits about rejection because they genuinely don't care what other people think and they aren't desperate too because they know that if they get rejected they're just gonna immediately walk up to a new girl right in front of … | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 04:04 PM |
| 45 | Getting called annoying is often a good signThis only applies to this particular situation. If you were annoying her by making irritating noises or something that wouldn't be a good thing. | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 03:54 PM |
| 2 | A lot of your dating problems will be solved if you just knew how to actually flirtso I guess I have no option here other than keep trying. Yeah dude. Don't let the rejections get you down. Seduction is a skill just like any other skill so you should expect to fail a lot in the beginning. And even if you understand concepts really well, odds are in practice you're gonna mess it up, much like understanding a jump shot isn't gonna make you that much better at it without you putting in the practice. | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 03:37 PM |
| 7 | A lot of your dating problems will be solved if you just knew how to actually flirtBeing witty is like being physically strong, its something you can actively develop. | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 03:34 PM |
| 5 | A lot of your dating problems will be solved if you just knew how to actually flirtGood question. Depends on where you are in the conversation and how well you read the situation. You're also not limited to the examples I gave which is why I spent more time helping you understand the concept rather than just giving examples. Flirting is only one aspect of dating. There are also things like building comfort, escalation, and leading that you need to learn. There isn't gonna be one post that'll magically give you all the answers. Notice I said flirting will solve "a lot" of your … | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 03:32 PM |
| 2 | A lot of your dating problems will be solved if you just knew how to actually flirtThe intentions behind what you're doing. As long as you aren't deliberately leading someone on you're good. | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 02:57 PM |
| 1 | A lot of your dating problems will be solved if you just knew how to actually flirtThat's a good insight. | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 08:50 AM |
| 1 | A lot of your dating problems will be solved if you just knew how to actually flirtYes! | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 08:49 AM |
| 3 | A lot of your dating problems will be solved if you just knew how to actually flirtWhether it'll be corny or cringe depends largely on your delivery and the context. | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 08:48 AM |
| -5 | A lot of your dating problems will be solved if you just knew how to actually flirtThere are examples in the post. | /r/seduction | 22/04/22 11:18 AM |
| 1 | [META] Recently A lot of posts on this subreddit have been particular to one or two girls and not about game at allHere's the one on flirting. | /r/seduction | 22/04/22 11:04 AM |
| 11 | Wish me luckGood luck! And this might help! | /r/seduction | 22/04/22 06:03 AM |
| 6 | Is it a shit-test when a girl is trying to make fun of you and a little roast?If it's not mean spirited or as if she really intends to get under your skin then it's not a shit test, she's actually flirting with you. The way you respond to that is by also messing with her in a light hearted way. | /r/seduction | 22/04/22 05:59 AM |
| 2 | [META] Recently A lot of posts on this subreddit have been particular to one or two girls and not about game at allJust noticed they were deleted. I'll turn them into posts sometime instead. | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 02:43 PM |
| 5 | Advice (simple and blatant as possible please)Or is there a more efficient way? Yes, don't just blindly practice, practice Game. | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 01:00 PM |
| 1 | If you’re still seeing a girl as a friend for a hobby, should I try weaving something that tells her I know she’s not interested into the conversation?It’ll be a constant reminder whenever we meet up that somebody was better than me, at least to her if that makes sense. That's the point, to her. The only reason why that would hurt for you is because of your ego. Did you actually expect to be everyone's first choice? Dating is about compatibility, not about choosing someone that the majority of people would say is the best. So all that means is that she thought someone else was more compatible with her, it doesn't mean that dude is better than … | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 08:33 AM |
| 14 | Advice (simple and blatant as possible please)You have made no mention about your social/flirting skills. You already have some external stuff to you that makes you seem like a good catch but that hasn't been enough to help you so it may be time to improve your ability to communicate and seduce women. | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 08:20 AM |
| 6 | If you’re still seeing a girl as a friend for a hobby, should I try weaving something that tells her I know she’s not interested into the conversation?Just keep building up that friendship if you're fully ready to stop trying with her and move on to other girls. Eventually you'll get close enough that she'll have no problem breaking down why she wasn't interested. | /r/seduction | 21/04/22 08:02 AM |
| 3 | Studying theory does not ingrain techniques.. Experienced this on a dateIts like reading books on boxing, you wouldn't expect to have a good jab after just reading 10 books on the topic would you? Game is a soft skill which means practice is an absolute necessity to make the things you study applicable, you can't avoid that. Just don't swing the pendulum all the way to the other extreme and only practice. It can't just be one or the other, learning the psychology of dating and practicing it goes hand in hand. So keep learning the theory but add in real world practic… | /r/seduction | 20/04/22 08:49 AM |
| 2 | I need help to get to know a girlYou sure its a connection that you're feeling? The friends that you currently have are your friends because you have a good connection and I'm pretty sure you didn't have to actively try and befriend them. And if you really have a connection with this girl she would have felt it too and will also naturally gravitate towards you. If she doesn't then the connection that you think is there between you two isn't actually that great. You can actively build that up but I suggest trying to be more soci… | /r/seduction | 20/04/22 08:35 AM |
| 7 | Having some negative thoughts about LTR's and datingYou're just dating the wrong person. Judge her as an individual, don't judge women in general for the actions of this one woman. Are there more women like her? Sure, even much much worse. But are there also women who would commit to you in spite of the temptations and be a much better match for you in general? Definitely. Don't get mislead by the instinct/evolutionary arguments that say that women can't commit or will cheat because laziness and wanting to gorge yourself on food also comes from a… | /r/seduction | 20/04/22 07:51 AM |
| 3 | What kind of behaviors/tendencies would you expect if dating this kind of woman?Have you seen some warning signs pop up already?Because if not, spend time getting to know her first before you commit and just be honest and straightforward about that fact. In my experience, women who have been thru a lot of shit appreciate honesty a lot more even when the thing you're being honest about is not something they necessarily like or find ideal - like telling her you can't commit yet and want to continue being able to date other people. And the reason I tell you to spend time getti… | /r/seduction | 20/04/22 07:36 AM |
| 2 | Hookups or get official? How do you decide when to get into a relationshipIt seems this girl will only accept exclusivity at this point. If I suggest no exclusivity after just talking to her about it she'll likely detach and fade out. Then ending things altogether will be best. You don't want to be an asshole and cheat on her but you also don't want to just commit to someone you don't even work that well with just because you haven't had enough of her. That's just desperate. And ultimately, one of the best ways to cure desperation is to show yourself that you can be w… | /r/seduction | 20/04/22 04:01 AM |
| 1 | Hookups or get official? How do you decide when to get into a relationshipSounds like you're only holding on to her so much because you're not very confident that you'll find someone better. I hoped that we could have dated more before becoming official so I could meet other women, but she felt I was using her for sex even though I spent all my weekends with her, took her on outings and cooked for her etc. Also, this to me sounds like your chemistry as partners isn't as good as it needs to be to justify an exclusive relationship, because if it was she wouldn't have mi… | /r/seduction | 20/04/22 03:15 AM |
| 5 | Ran first iteration of novice daygameOne of the reasons guys spend months studying theory is because its a way to put off actually approaching because of fear. Understanding the psychology is definitely a good thing and the more you understand it, the better off you'll be but only when it's coupled with action. I would go so far as to say that ideally day 1 of learning the psychology should also be day 1 of approaching. Good job finally mustering up the courage though! It can be pretty hard to do that especially on your own. | /r/seduction | 20/04/22 02:22 AM |
| 9 | Girl troubleThis and this. Also be intentional about directing your conversation into topics that let her reveal her hobbies, preferences, and stuff she likes to do when she goes out, use the information you get from that to suggest going out to do something with her that you know she'll like once you can see that she's replying faster and her messages are longer. | /r/seduction | 20/04/22 02:15 AM |
| 1 | [META] Recently A lot of posts on this subreddit have been particular to one or two girls and not about game at allI have kissed multiple girls, have oral sex with a few, never had enough privacy to have penetrative sex. I understand. Try going back to their places instead. No I understood. I liked it too, but the question is more about, I fear coming across as "the guy" on college campus and I wanna get over that? Thank you for your input though, I appreciate it very much. So you're also afraid of coming off as popular? | /r/seduction | 18/04/22 01:25 AM |
| 1 | Would you make a move?Was it right not to make a move or I was just looking for excuses( to be honest I am still a little coward talking in nightclubs ...)? You were just looking for excuses. You should have at least talked to her. In a nightclub, I would have definitely talked to a girl who was doing that with me, heck, I usually talk to the first person I see when I enter a club. Its not like you can't leave without her number if you went over there, talked to her and realized you really don't like her. And in a ni… | /r/seduction | 17/04/22 12:50 PM |
| 1 | [META] Recently A lot of posts on this subreddit have been particular to one or two girls and not about game at allAlso, please read this, can you provide some insight in this? I read it. Have you ever kissed or had sex with a girl? Can I still escalate? Can I create abundance still? I'm living in University hostel so the logistics are a bit skewed for me. Yes, you can escalate, you can even escalate on multiple girls in front of each other if you do the smooth escalation I decribed in the link, not the jumps in escalation most people do. Save the kisses for private time though. And you can definitely create… | /r/seduction | 16/04/22 11:39 AM |
| 6 | [META] Recently A lot of posts on this subreddit have been particular to one or two girls and not about game at allHere are a few things: Learn to become comfortable approaching women. Learn to identify the signs girls give you when they want you to approach them. Learn to keep conversations going indefinitely. Learn the proper way to flirt and infuse that into your unending conversations. Learn how to escalate smoothly. And learn to develop a lifestyle full of beautiful women so that all the people you meet as you're developing these skills don't get put to waste. This is not even close to an exhaustive lis… | /r/seduction | 16/04/22 07:10 AM |
| 1 | Affect of sleeping badly on daygameCould this sun communication of bad sleep have a large negative impact on my results? In my experience, short term, no long term, possibly. First of all, being high energy is overrated. The key isn't actually being high energy, it's just holding attention. You can do that by being all bubbly and shit but you can also do that by knowing how to act and speak in a way that holds attention. Secondly, some of my best experiences approaching girls have come when I was severely underslept or exhausted … | /r/seduction | 12/04/22 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Is this code she does not want me?You've known her for almost 2 years and have admittedly kept in touch for that time. You should know her enough to know whether she's just making up excuses or this is actually how she is by this point. What have you been doing the whole time you've kept in touch? Just make jokes and try to be flirty the whole time? You haven't gotten to know her in some meaningful way at all? | /r/seduction | 12/04/22 06:11 PM |
| 6 | [META] Recently A lot of posts on this subreddit have been particular to one or two girls and not about game at all99% agree. One sec... And the truth really is, you can't seduce anyone you want to so specific advice on this sub won't do anything. *you can't seduce EVERYONE There, that's better. You can learn skills that let you increase the number of women you are able to seduce but since nothing and no one is perfect you won't ever get the ability to seduce absolutely every single woman you want. Also, the reason specific advice won't do anything is usually because like you said most of what we learn in se… | /r/seduction | 12/04/22 05:19 PM |
| 3 | Difficult past and weird dating anxiety. Any suggestions?There is a right time and context within a good seduction to reveal your insecurities and issues but not being that good at dating and seduction is not your biggest issue at the moment. Sort out the mental health stuff first then work on your Game because I promise you, it'll be very hard to develop good game or even decent game when your brain tries to sabotage you at every turn. | /r/seduction | 10/04/22 05:45 PM |
| 2 | Difficult past and weird dating anxiety. Any suggestions?Well, you can find expensive ones that are crappy too. How to interact with their patients so they build rapport with them is part of their training, if he's already failing at that with you then you guys just aren't a good fit. Try looking into others. | /r/seduction | 10/04/22 05:37 PM |
| 3 | Difficult past and weird dating anxiety. Any suggestions?Different psychotherapists have different capabilities and some are more competent than others. Some also generally care more than others or enjoy the work more than others. The one you're seeing sounds like someone who just puts in the minimum amount of effort required just to hold on to his/her practice. Finding a better shrink would be a step in the right direction but if you're just barely able to afford one which could be why you ended up with a crappy one in the first place, I would recomm… | /r/seduction | 10/04/22 05:22 PM |
| 6 | Road tripIf you're driving just gesture while you talk and touch her from time to time to get her used to your touches. These touches aren't "making a move" or intended to deliberately turn her on, they're only to make you seem like a touchy guy (work on being an actual touchy guy too and just do this with everyone) and so she gets comfortable being touchy with you. If you're confused about what points in the convo to touch her at just think of when there would be a question mark or exclamation point. So… | /r/seduction | 07/04/22 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Should I text in between date?You just met. Text her while you're away. She'll forget whatever feelings she had for you if you don't. | /r/seduction | 07/04/22 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Is it normal to be a super fun and cool dude when hanging in group and be boring when alone with someone ?Then work on changing that. Try deliberately to be more playful when its one on one. | /r/seduction | 06/04/22 02:26 AM |
| 5 | Is it normal to be a super fun and cool dude when hanging in group and be boring when alone with someone ?What would stop you from taking your girlfriend out with you and a group of people? Being serious does have a time and place and there are many situations where its much more appropriate than being funny. Also, its not like you can't develop your behavior so that you can be serious and playful in any scenario. | /r/seduction | 05/04/22 04:26 PM |
| 4 | how to get rid of the fuck boy stigma i have around me?In the few years before I met my girlfriend, most of the women I got involved with, including her said I gave off serious fuckboy vibes. It was true though, I was seeing multiple girls at the same time and constantly adding in new ones. But that never stopped her and other girls from really wanting to be my girlfriend and I believe that's because I also know how to create relationships. Not romantic relationships per se, more like long term connections, like just making sure that a person will b… | /r/seduction | 31/03/22 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Is this the right way to ask a girl out through text?Again, that's fine for you and this girl specifically. It sounds like she's still the main person you're going out with while your roommate and his girl are the ones tagging along so it wouldn't exactly be like what I do but for this situation she seems like she likes you enough for that to work. I've also done obvious dates that hinged on the girl showing up when I've felt like the girl I'm seeing already likes me enough and they usually work out fine when that's the case. | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Is this the right way to ask a girl out through text?My approach to dates in general is a little different to what you'd commonly find here but for the majority of situations, I've found that just having stuff going on in your life and inviting the girls you're seeing to those things works really well. When I was single it was even a regular practice for me to invite multiple girls to the same thing because I never rely on creating the perception that we're actually on a date. As long as I have time to hang out with a girl, get to know her, flirt … | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 05:45 PM |
| 1 | How To Reply To Sh&t Test From Old Popular GuyYeah, I get it but one of the best ways to get your mind to catch up is by resisting that temptation to try and prove yourself. | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 05:19 PM |
| 1 | How To Reply To Sh&t Test From Old Popular GuyDude just don't respond and ignore these guys. Why do you feel the need to even humor them? | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 05:11 PM |
| 44 | What's the truth about height?Height is only one of the cards you're dealt, your success at dating is dependent on how you play all of your cards, not just one of them. Also, you need to understand that what appeals to the algorithm and what gets upvotes isn't necessarily good advice, you're gonna need to think a little harder to identify what's helpful advice and what's not. Some people come to this sub not to better themselves but to keep people down with them and theres enough of them here that they can occasionally bring… | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 05:08 PM |
| 3 | Is this the right way to ask a girl out through text?This wouldn't work that well if the girl isn't that into you yet, and girls can definitely not be that into a guy even after they've hooked up. But in this situation it looks like she's quite into you judging by her replies and how she offers up the times she's free without you asking so I'd say the way you set up the date with this specific girl is fine. | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 04:38 PM |
| 1 | how do you get it out of your head when someone you dont even know seems to go out of their way to avoid looking at you...?You know this self-conscious feeling you're feeling right now? Yeah, that's how 99% of society feels. Odds are she turned away because of something she made herself feel, not anything you made her feel. Also, you were doing legs and you still noticed this?? You probably need to train harder. When I do legs I can barely see 2 feet in front of me nor would I even care to try to see that far because I'm too distracted by feeling like I'm dying. 😂 | /r/seduction | 29/03/22 04:27 PM |
| 3 | Could someone tell me the next step ?Just plan to meet up again and make it close to your place so it'll be easy to get intimate should it move in that direction. If she's flirty from the get-go just eat your meal or whatever and then invite her to hang out at your place then you escalate from there. | /r/seduction | 28/03/22 04:57 PM |
| 6 | How can I talk about my job in a more interesting way?Its not about whether your job is interesting or not, in the beginning most people don't really give a shit because they barely know you and people generally tend to care more about themselves anyway. When people ask things like the typical question "What do you do?" they care more about furthering the conversation to avoid causing an awkward silence to save themselves from shame rather than about what your career life looks like. I mean, why would they? You're just someone who just started talk… | /r/seduction | 28/03/22 04:35 PM |
| 17 | As a nerd how does one go about "Just be yourself" ?By all accounts, I'm an awkward stereotypical sci-fi anime nerd introvert minus the obesity. I'm excited about giant robots, epic space battles, and spending days diving into the lore of stories like Star Wars. An ideal day for me right now would be being at home and enjoying a good game like Horizon Forbidden West. There's a difference between hobbies and behaviors. You can be yourself in that you can keep your hobbies. You can keep the sci fi, the anime, and the video games. But you can't keep… | /r/seduction | 24/03/22 03:24 PM |
| 5 | Advice after admitting you came on too strong.Getting other girls shouldn't be a reactive response to when one situation starts to go cold, it should be something you proactively do regardless of whether you're already seeing one girl or not. How often do you guys see each other? If it hasn't been too long compared to your usual frequency I wouldn't worry yet if I were you. | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 02:29 PM |
| 15 | Advice after admitting you came on too strong.Have you hung out since this text exchange? Btw, you guys aren't girlfriend-boyfriend yet. One secret (that nobody's hiding) about guys who never lose their "cool factor" is that they're always seeing multiple women when they're not in a committed relationship yet. Don't pretend to be someone who has abundance, be someone who has abundance. ... This part is for everyone reading this comment If you find this advice helpful and want to be part of a Facebook group that believes in finesse over brut… | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 02:20 PM |
| 4 | Am I correct in my behaviour or am I passing up opportunities?You're passing up opportunities and you're too quick to assume you're just gonna get rejected. I suggest you spend less time on the internet and more time out in the real world actually risking rejection by actually trying with girls. Also, its hard to tell by just reading a post you wrote on reddit but I'm suspecting there may be some mental health issues here too. If that's the case, handle that before you do anything else I mentioned above. | /r/seduction | 21/03/22 02:15 PM |
| 2 | What should I do in a situation like this?The way you described all your feelings and the way you've handled this situation tells me that you're not in a good position to be with her yet. You could probably pull off some miracle and end up with her but it won't be the right relationship for both of you because instead of being someone who can make her a better person, you will only be at her mercy because you'll always be terrified that she'll leave you so when you can challenge her to step up, you won't, when you can stop her from goin… | /r/seduction | 20/03/22 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Tips for casual dating/ hookups for a guy who doesn’t drink?My go-to is just dessert. I have also invited girls back for movies, board games or just decided to drive around town with her and just "happen" to pass by my place while "randomly" driving around, sometimes we end up at my place just because I've challenged her to show me how adventurous she is. I can't really condense everything I do when I'm seducing a girl in a single comment on reddit but there are multiple layers to this, not just the sequence of locations we go to. In one layer there's th… | /r/seduction | 18/03/22 02:40 PM |
| 24 | Tips for casual dating/ hookups for a guy who doesn’t drink?I've been sober my whole life, the only time I got any alcohol in me was when I was tricked into it and when I had a tiny sip to toast my friend successfully proposing to his then girlfriend. And apart from the one girlfriend that basically just fell on my lap in high school I never really dated before learning game so I don't even understand how the get-drunk-and-hookup stuff works because game is not reliant on that at all. If I wanna hook up I just approach a girl, (daytime, night time, bar, … | /r/seduction | 17/03/22 03:06 PM |
| 3 | Causal spots to get to know someoneIf you've already gone out with her before just do something active this time around like go to a zoo, go bowling, ice skating, theme park, mini golf, whatever then afterwards you can just go to a fastfood place or if those places you go to serve food, just eat there and talk. Those are still casual but much more conducive to actually getting to know someone because they put you in different scenarios so you can actually see how each other acts in those different scenarios, rather than just sitt… | /r/seduction | 15/03/22 05:44 AM |
| 3 | How do I look more approachable?No, you're good, just keep working on the eye contact. Most guys are too scared to approach a girl without getting some sort of signal from them so being able to make eye contact with them will be quite helpful for you. You don't even need to hold eye contact when just signaling guys to approach, you can simply glance at them and try to make sure they catch you doing so, try to smile when you do this as well. Finally, if you're up for it, you can also just make the first move yourself. You can w… | /r/seduction | 13/03/22 02:59 AM |
| 4 | How do you change the way you interact with people in a club, bar or pub type environment?What can one do to be a better conversationalist in a bar type environment? Really, the short answer is just "learn game". Learn to build rapport, learn to playfully break it, learn how to roleplay, learn how to push-pull, learn how to tease her, learn how to playfully challenge her, learn how to qualify her, learn how to verbally escalate, etc. And that applies to any interaction you have with any person in any environment, not just the girls you want to date. Other than sexual escalation, a lo… | /r/seduction | 13/03/22 02:41 AM |
| 3 | What's your usual method during a first date?Whether its for a hookup or a relationship the way I carry out my dates is the same. I prefer more active dates where we don't just sit and eat/drink the whole time but we actually do stuff like attend a concert, go to a zoo/aquarium/amusement park, go to some sort of exhibit, go ice skating/bowling/mini golf/laser tag/escape room, etc. Then I suggest a place to eat afterwards, it's a place I've pre-planned to be closer to my place, sometimes if the place we do the activity is close enough then … | /r/seduction | 12/03/22 07:42 PM |
| 3 | Why does working on yourself feel so lonely and hollow?Well the people that are close to me nowadays are the ones who are on similar paths. I used to try and drag along old friends but eventually learned that very few people have the actual desire to improve much so I only hang out with them occasionally these days. I don't really know your situation but maybe you should stop trying to make it work with old friends who don't really work on themselves as much as you do and get new friends who are much more like-minded. | /r/seduction | 12/03/22 06:34 PM |
| 23 | Why does working on yourself feel so lonely and hollow?Are your good friends on similar paths? Maybe you feel alone because you're the only one you know that's improving to this extent. I know I've felt like that a few times. | /r/seduction | 12/03/22 05:33 PM |
| 20 | How to Sexualize a conversation in a date / Cold approach / warm approach ?"You should stop doing X, its making me think very inappropriate thoughts." "I'm trying my best to not think about having my way with you but when you do Y its far too tempting." If she asks you to tell her what you're thinking tell her you don't think she'll actually wanna hear it to bait her into saying something like "Try me" and when she says that you describe exactly what you want to do to her in great detail. If you use words that not only describe actions but also sensations and emotions … | /r/seduction | 12/03/22 04:50 PM |
| 100 | How to respond to girls at work who keep asking if/who I'm fucking?Why stop messing with them? Its a lot of fun. Seriously, you don't have to give them a straight answer. If you're attracted to one of them just do the usual flirting and escalation then suggest a bunch of you co-workers go out together, maybe to a bar or restaurant, there you can flirt harder with the one you're into and if you two are feeling it, you can always separate from the group. ... This part is for everyone reading this comment If you find this advice helpful and want to be part of a Fa… | /r/seduction | 09/03/22 03:04 PM |
| 3 | Got the number butIs it really just a numbers game Its only a numbers game if you don't put in the effort to refine your ability to communicate with women or if you do but you measure that not with how women react to you but with the opinions of other dudes. Anyone who has been cold approaching for a while will know that getting numbers is the easiest way to make people think you're a ladies man even if you've been on a dry spell for years. Getting a number doesn't really mean anything and shouldn't be your goal,… | /r/seduction | 09/03/22 02:39 PM |
| 1 | Is "who are you?" and "do i know you?" basically a FMs way of saying F%$ O%$ to a male?That's exactly the point I'm making in the first 90% of my comment. | /r/seduction | 03/03/22 10:37 AM |
| 5 | Is "who are you?" and "do i know you?" basically a FMs way of saying F%$ O%$ to a male?You can salvage it from here but I don't think you would want to. Approaching DMs like this where you end up having to explain yourself from the very beginning puts you in a very inferior position in her mind. First of all, you'll have to justify your interest and its basically 100% on you to keep the interaction going so to her, you are a given. If she's ever in the mood to get with someone like you she can just say the word and you're all her's. That means she'll take you for granted, without … | /r/seduction | 03/03/22 04:31 AM |
| 3 | My struggleMatch your level of interest to her level of engagement with you. So if she's giving you one word answers or doesn't react much when you guys are talking then it wouldn't be a good time to show her a lot of interest. | /r/seduction | 03/03/22 03:59 AM |
| 2 | How to balance Vulnerability with being "the man"?One, you don't need to just pour out all your vulnerabilities on a woman in the first 2 minutes of talking to her. Just because you're accepting of who you are doesn't mean you should just shove all that down everyone's throats. Let people earn things from you, including your trust, respect, or whatever your criteria is for choosing the people you open up to. As long as you're not hiding your vulnerabilities out of insecurity you're good. Second, just because you have fears and weaknesses doesn'… | /r/seduction | 20/02/22 03:10 AM |
| 8 | Women’s gym apparelRegardless of how sexy it looks to you, there are some girls that just wear what's comfortable, some that wear what's trendy, and some wear what attracts the most male attention, among other things. Just like dudes, different girls wear things for different reasons. You don't really need to concern yourself with trying to analyze why a girl is dressing the way she does because that's an unreliable way to deduce her intentions/how she's feeling. Instead look at their actions, if girls are dressed… | /r/seduction | 26/01/22 02:46 AM |
| 128 | I finally asked her out!Great feeling just taking the shot, isn't it? Good job man! Keep pulling that trigger with other girls that catch your eye. | /r/seduction | 26/01/22 02:32 AM |
| 4 | Slept with her in the past but don’t know if i can againSounds like your dating life is just getting a little dry. If you were messing around with other girls you wouldn't be concerned enough about a girl who can't make you cum to ask for advice about this situation. Pick things back up with your dating life and these thoughts you're having will disappear. | /r/seduction | 17/01/22 07:45 AM |
| 8 | Game is over for the 5th time in row that it ends after the 2ed date and I must be doing it wrong recently…Your dates shouldn't just be mindless go-with-the-flow stuff. You need to always have a concrete plan to gradually move women from where you're having the date to back to your place. Don't just show up to a date trying to be as fun and flirty as possible doing whatever seems like fun and hoping for the best. If you want to maximize the experience for her as much as possible then you need to set up the date in a way that it makes following thru on how you both feel very easy. And you said that yo… | /r/seduction | 14/01/22 08:43 AM |
| 12 | Best ways of flirt and escalate with a girl?This. | /r/seduction | 30/12/21 08:20 AM |
| 2 | Why do I pull hot girls but i can’t make them stay?Yeah, I figured that part needed some further elaboration. It wasn't just me talking to them and sharing things with each other, it was more of us really developing our friendship over the time we were sleeping together. So we did things together that weren't about sex, things they were into that I was also into and basically did all the things buddies do with each other, I've even winged some girls and had them wing me. So I was actually friends with my FWBs. I was already in a very good place … | /r/seduction | 11/12/21 03:58 AM |
| 8 | Stop deluding yourselves that cold approach isn't necessaryThis might help you acquire that courage. | /r/seduction | 10/12/21 06:39 AM |
| 29 | Why do I pull hot girls but i can’t make them stay?I think my mentor put it best when he said being in a relationship is like "Friendship+". The "+" being all that sexuality, arousal, excitement, etc. You're good at that part. Now it's time to work on the friendship part. If you're worried that you might not pull as much then you can start out by getting to know each other better and developing that friendship after sex. I've actually had quite a few really good conversations while lying naked in bed with a girl right after sex, a lot of girls a… | /r/seduction | 10/12/21 03:26 AM |
| 5 | If you’re very excited to meet this girl should you suppress it in order to appear cool and masculine?Depends on how far into it you both are. If you've been sleeping together for a while and vibe really well with each other and she regularly shows excitement to see you too then you can show her your excitement. If you're only headed for your first date then being cool and masculine are only so-so reasons to not show excitement. The bigger reasons are for your own well being. Like being respected by her. If she'll see that you've already fallen hard for her she might not treat you very well, she… | /r/seduction | 03/12/21 12:43 PM |
| 148 | Well I asked out my classmate today.Good job in going for it! Keep it up with other girls! | /r/seduction | 03/12/21 03:19 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]She's just coming off a breakup. People react to that differently. The same person can even react to each break up they go through differently. Getting wishy washy is certainly not unheard of for someone in her position. You can try and contact her again but keep her current situation in mind and manage your expectations accordingly. If you think you couldn't help but get attached if you got involved any further then I would recommend you just move on. | /r/seduction | 02/12/21 03:15 AM |
| 3 | Texting girls of few words... help please.Why should she qualify herself to this guy when she has 99 guys not asking for the extra work. Because the guys who barely demand anything from her are boring and impossible not to take for granted. In my experience, she has to be emotionally invested, before any kind of "qualifying" actually works. Yeah, you really do have a ton of leverage when she already values you in some way. But one of the best practices with qualification is asking for small things in the beginning to make it easy to com… | /r/seduction | 29/11/21 04:02 PM |
| 2 | How can I deal with half-assed texts? are they shit tests?You're welcome. By the way, I disagree with the others, your opener was actually pretty decent. | /r/seduction | 29/11/21 12:59 PM |
| 2 | Texting girls of few words... help please.To some extent I dont want to put in a gigantic amount of effort for it to turn into nothing That's when you should move on, when talking to her starts to feel like a chore. Remember, you're also dating for your enjoyment, not just to please girls and you should also be enjoying the things that happen before sex. | /r/seduction | 29/11/21 12:56 PM |
| 24 | How can I deal with half-assed texts? are they shit tests?That was just an initial response, if you've been doing online dating for a while you'd know that's pretty typical. Here's how I suggest you get her to open up more. It's worked really well for me and the guys I taught it to over the years. | /r/seduction | 29/11/21 09:53 AM |
| 23 | how do you not allow rejection not eat away at your spirit/self esteem?How old are you? At least 18? That means you have at least 18 years worth of life experience that shapes you. In order to reject you they'd have to actually know you. Do you think a girl can really get an accurate idea of who you are in a few minutes of talking to you? Even people who have been in relationships for years have been mislead and discover what their partner is truly like very far down the line. The reason all the rejection never really got to me when I was starting out is because I'… | /r/seduction | 29/11/21 08:55 AM |
| 8 | Why is ignoring/not showing interest so powerful?Or abundance. Its a lot easier to not give women too much attention when you have abundance. | /r/seduction | 19/11/21 10:00 AM |
| 34 | Why is ignoring/not showing interest so powerful?It's because it gives them space to put some effort in. If they have to put in something like time or energy just to get your attention, let alone get anything else from you, like your affection, then they will value you more. This isn't the "Oh just be high value" stuff. Its just simple psychology. Its basically impossible to value something that requires zero contribution from you. If something or someone will always be there for you no matter what and you always get whatever you want from the… | /r/seduction | 19/11/21 06:17 AM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]You only come off as needy when you're the kind of guy who'd need a few months to find another girl. If you're the kind of guy who can get a new one in a few hours then it doesn't really matter whether you initiate cuddling or not, all your other behaviors will naturally imply to her that you aren't cuddling with her because you want to hold on to her like your life depends on it, you're just doing it because you like cuddling. It's kinda like food, when you're starving you'll want food but when… | /r/seduction | 04/11/21 06:58 AM |
| 3 | Advice for pick up in New Zealandhttps://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ojcmfo/want_to_be_more_than_friends_after_first_date/h510a8j?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3 | /r/seduction | 02/11/21 03:23 AM |
| 5 | Advice for pick up in New ZealandDepends on how you approach. As long as it's socially acceptable to approach someone you don't know in some shape or form cold approach is viable practically anywhere. In New Zealand, is it acceptable to approach someone you don't know out in public to return something that they dropped? Because if it is then you can make cold approach for dating work there. I know people who have made cold approach work in much more conservative countries like India, Singapore, and even the Middle East and I've… | /r/seduction | 01/11/21 03:24 AM |
| 5 | The results of not pulling back (she ghosted me)u/moreisbetter94 If you do this then you make how she treats you irrelevant. A man shouldn't be the sole person putting in an effort to start and maintain a relationship, a man shouldn't even be the sole person putting in an effort to create a casual situation. And becoming someone else, like "the unattached man she needs" is absolutely being the sole person trying to make something work. You'd literally be changing who you are just for one girl and what's she gonna do? Just spread her legs and … | /r/seduction | 27/10/21 02:30 AM |
| 13 | The results of not pulling back (she ghosted me)Although I don't believe dating in general is a numbers game, there is one aspect of it where I do believe that's the case. And that is when it comes to finding someone who will be good to have a serious relationship with. In most other situations in dating your actions do affect how things will end up but when it comes to finding someone worth committing to they don't really affect that very much. Why? Because they have to actually be the right person too, they have to not screw up as well. Rea… | /r/seduction | 26/10/21 10:18 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]If that ain't true then how tf am I supposed to unlearn that? By having real world experience. A lot of the things you wrote sound like they're only speculation at this point. Ultimately you're gonna have to pluck up the courage and make a move and when you do, you'll have a much more accurate idea of how dating really is. You're gonna have to risk getting embarrassed, cringed at, made fun of, and even getting kicked in the balls. Courage is another quality confident guys have and courage isn't … | /r/seduction | 26/10/21 09:46 AM |
| 1 | How do youDM me. | /r/seduction | 25/10/21 09:01 AM |
| 9 | How do youThis is pretty easy to do when you know how to actually flirt. Also, you can show interest and not care. As in not care whether that interest is reciprocated. Think about it, is there only one girl you'll ever find attractive in your entire life? What about at a party, will there only be one girl you find attractive in that environment? What about walking on the street, will there only ever be one girl you find attractive there, ever? No? So it's easy to not care even when you show interest beca… | /r/seduction | 25/10/21 08:50 AM |
| 7 | On a party, how can I approach a girl I like and maybe go further?At a party? Its pretty easy. Just talk to anyone and everyone there. Doesn't matter whether your interactions last 10 seconds or 2 hours, just make sure you're able to talk to the girl you're into before she leaves. The more people you talk to, the easier it'll be to talk to her because 1, you'll be in a much more talkative mood and will be much more free-flowing in your conversation. 2, she'll eventually notice how many people you're talking to and if the interactions are good she'll think that… | /r/seduction | 25/10/21 06:32 AM |
| 3 | [FR] I'm so good on the dance floor but I can't talk to any girls while dancing.You shouldn't talk to any girls while dancing, that'll kill the mood. Just dance with them. You can still challenge, tease, and flirt with them using only your body language by doing things like making them try to copy your dance moves, challenging them to do riskier things on the dance floor like getting on top of things, having them move around with you, moving in close and making things sexual and then doing a dance move that has you moving away and turning your back on them, etc. If you real… | /r/seduction | 21/10/21 09:23 AM |
| 8 | Advice for keeping things Casual?While I know their feelings are not my responsibility and are their own, and me being honest and upfront about everything is basically all I can do Yes but you can be more honest by making sure you're not only making the situation clear with your words but also your actions. I also like to see multiple girls casually and I've had similar experiences as you where the girls almost inevitably want something more serious and they end up getting hurt in the end. Over time I learned that you should tr… | /r/seduction | 21/10/21 09:14 AM |
| 1 | How can I change the way I see myself ? As I read if you see yourself as confident you will be confident . So how can I change the way I see myself thanks guys . Thanks guysIts the same answer I gave in the previous comment. Do the uncomfortable thing. In this case, do something you'd do with people you're close with but instead of doing it with them, do it with people you aren't close with. For example if you speak differently around your friends or you do something dorky like making dad jokes around them, do that with people who are not them. It'll be uncomfortable to do that with people you don't know very well but that's just how it goes. You gotta just bite th… | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 12:11 PM |
| 5 | How can I change the way I see myself ? As I read if you see yourself as confident you will be confident . So how can I change the way I see myself thanks guys . Thanks guysIts harder to think your way into being than to be your way into thinking. If you try to make a switch in your mind to somehow convince yourself that you're confident you won't get very far with that because you will be met with resistance from your mind and its very easy for that resistance to win. Why? Because you know anything you tell yourself is BS. If you have no memories of you acting like a confident guy in the real world then your mind will know that because your mind is where your memo… | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 10:18 AM |
| 7 | Ghosting, the right way about it?Is that the best way? Yes. Just move on. She's barely even an acquaintance, no one is worth chasing at that point. | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 10:10 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]"Ooh. Lucky me. At least we know it'll take a lot to get you tired. 😉" The question you're thinking about is also good to add to this conversation because playfulness alone is just like icing on a cake, actually getting to know someone is the cake itself. That said, you gotta learn to talk to girls. You can't just ask reddit to have conversations with girls for you, eventually you gotta have the ability to come up with good things to say on your own. | /r/seduction | 20/10/21 07:09 AM |
| 6 | Guys dating multiple females what do you tell them?You can still set it up well after having sex but ideally you want to let them know before having sex. The best way to do it is by not making it about what you want from her but by just telling her how you've decided to carry out your dating life. You can start by making general conversation about dating and relationships, sharing stuff with each other around those topics so you can smoothly transition into telling her how you've decided to be polyamorous and prefer to date multiple women at the… | /r/seduction | 19/10/21 06:32 AM |
| 3 | [deleted by user]With her ex, she wanted something serious, he didn't. With you its the other way around. People aren't one dimensional, we all have the ability to enjoy multiple kinds of romantic relationships even when they have stark differences. Just be honest and tell her something like, "Sorry, that's not what I want." If she insists or gets mad after that then she would be the one being unreasonable. If she tells you you're rude or you're a dick when all you did is straight up say how you feel without usi… | /r/seduction | 18/10/21 04:26 AM |
| 2 | Honestly taking the leap is the one thing that's really holding me backThis might help with that. | /r/seduction | 12/10/21 06:53 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]You're still single, you could have been seeing other girls while even planning your first date. Just do that now but not to move on from this girl, just to be a single person that's dating coz that's what single and mingling people do. She is probably seeing other guys too, and there's nothing wrong with that if she is. Also, if you date around you won't feel like you're wasting any time wondering whether someone's flaking on you or not because it isn't stopping you from meeting others. So just… | /r/seduction | 10/10/21 11:25 PM |
| 8 | [deleted by user]Rest stops on hiking trails and just the trails themselves for hikers and hostels for backpackers. Online groups for those things too. If you use less of a "one shot, one kill" style like most people do for daygame and club game and instead just be more social, build rapport with lots of the hikers and backpackers you meet you should find it easier to eventually turn things intimate with a few of them and they can also introduce you to other women. It'll actually be pretty weird if you try to pi… | /r/seduction | 09/10/21 04:36 AM |
| 1 | Why do some girls that find you attractive never give off signals???I'm just gonna speak to the signs women would display to initially indicate that they'd be willing to talk to you, not gonna go into signs you're more likely to notice when you're already talking to her. You probably already know the obvious one of her holding eye contact and smiling. That's one of the least subtle signs and that's a strong indication that not only would she be willing to talk to you but that she's already quite attracted to you and if you have decent social skills that interact… | /r/seduction | 08/10/21 05:25 AM |
| 10 | Why do some girls that find you attractive never give off signals???Uh...exactly what I said. For most guys, you won't be able to identify the signs just on your own without learning what to look out for. For some who are very experienced they think they have a 6th sense that lets them know that a girl is interested but the reality is just that because they're very experienced they're able to unconsciously pick up on the signs that are coming out. If you just look at how many people there are in the world you'll realize how hard it is to have that great a varian… | /r/seduction | 07/10/21 04:38 PM |
| 4 | Why do some girls that find you attractive never give off signals???No. | /r/seduction | 07/10/21 03:55 PM |
| 77 | Why do some girls that find you attractive never give off signals???They do. Most guys just don't know what to look out for. | /r/seduction | 07/10/21 03:17 PM |
| 19 | Had terrible sex now I think I'm being ghostedI mean the sex was bad for both of you, you should be glad she's not talking to you anymore. With both of you lacking experience you wouldn't be able to help each other that much anyway. So don't try to take the easy way out and pester this girl into giving you another chance, you won't come out of that any better than you are now, regardless of whether she gives you another shot or not. Instead move on and don't put off the work you need to do to improve yourself in this area. By the way, I kno… | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 04:12 PM |
| 2 | I think she's testing me, but not sure. Maybe lost interest?Its likely not something she's actively doing to test you but there is a wrong way to respond to this situation. Kinda like how a girl who is still friends with her exes isn't a shit test but you can still react to that the wrong way. Theres no active response necessary to what's going on. Just carry on like this is a typical girl you're setting up a date with because the reality is, what's happening is typical, most girls are going out with lots of guys, this one is just open about it. The appr… | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 09:59 AM |
| 4 | I think she's testing me, but not sure. Maybe lost interest?I meant ambiguous in your telling of the story here. Being ambiguous about your interest for a girl is a good thing. We've heavily flirted but haven't meet up in person yet. Was going to ask her out next week. This clears things up though. If she's still flirty and receptive over messaging then there's still a chance. I've gotten involved with girls who were already sleeping with other guys before our first date. Its only a chance though, the possibility of things not going your way is still ver… | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 09:39 AM |
| 5 | I think she's testing me, but not sure. Maybe lost interest?You're being too ambiguous. Have you had sex or made out already? If not then all these things probably aren't tests, she just thinks of you as a friend. | /r/seduction | 30/09/21 09:13 AM |
| 11 | [deleted by user]All that's necessary is that the girl you're talking to doesn't feel like you're desperate to sleep with her. That means all you need to do as an inexperienced guy is not fixate on one girl. You can want sex, just don't be try-hard about getting it with a particular girl. So with every individual girl you talk to approach it with the attitude of, "If I'm not getting it from you I'm gonna get it from another girl." There are probably hundreds of women who you could find attractive in a given city… | /r/seduction | 26/09/21 02:40 PM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]If you want to just have casual situations with girls like that then its fine, you probably won't be able to get as many as fast through social circle type stuff but you'll still be able to hookup with girls like that here and there with stuff like cold approach and online dating. If you want long term relationships then it'll depend on how different both of your lifestyles are, if there's barely any crossover and you barely get to enjoy anything together other than having sex then that won't ma… | /r/seduction | 25/09/21 02:08 PM |
| 8 | Social tips to make women feel good ?Well if its a legitimate good feeling, not the ego boost she gets from guys simping over her then yeah, you're more likely to attract her. The way you do that is by making her feel like she has earned every bit of validation that you give her. The way you do that is by shifting your mindset from, "What can I do for her?" or "What can I do to get her?" to "Is she even someone I should get involved with?" and then get to know her with that in mind. That should naturally cause you to watch for thin… | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 03:12 PM |
| 5 | Mindsets, tips and tricks for haveing fun while cold approaching?I have a habit of doing random acts of kindness for people and that puts me in a really good mood. It also makes me cold approaching a more natural thing because of how I'm so used to talking to strangers just to do something nice. I do this with anybody, not just girls I'm attracted to. Also, even when you want something in retun like a date or whatever, focus on doing something to improve her day with whatever you open with, it makes approaching a lot more enjoyable and increases the success r… | /r/seduction | 07/09/21 01:22 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]I might take the next few days off. She got me burnt out That's alright. By all means, do that. What if a girl is worth committing to but you fucked it up? You can't force someone to like you. Maybe circumstance will give you another chance but the best thing to do is always to move on because the quicker you do the sooner you'll find someone else worth committing to. Besides, if you can't move on from a rejection, imagine what it'd be like trying to move on from a breakup with a girl you adored… | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 02:59 PM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]If she was petty enough to need to know you were sleeping with other girls to want to keep sleeping with you then she doesn't deserve you liking her. Just be annoyed and let those feelings naturally dissipate while you continue to enjoy other girls. You should probably be disappointed too because she wasn't as good as you thought she was but don't worry, there are girls out there who are actually worth committing to. You'll have more close calls like this one but you'll also get the real thing. … | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 02:40 PM |
| 7 | [deleted by user]Girls are so annoying Why care about what she does when you're getting what you want regardless of her? | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 02:28 PM |
| 7 | [deleted by user]Do I unadd her? Nah, just leave it. When I run into her, should I bring it up? No. Be serious? Joking? Very cold? Be warm with her, as if nothing happened but don't just assume things will go back to the way they were, they might or they might not. Just read the situation and act accordingly. Again, it's no big deal either way because you shouldn't be walking around wasting your time hoping to bump into her, you should be talking to other girls. | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 02:21 PM |
| 12 | [deleted by user]You're probably not the only one she was sleeping with or seeing and maybe she ended up preferring one of her other guys or she needed to prioritize and you just weren't one of the guys she wanted to keep around. Its not wrong, its just a single person being a single person. My advice is to do the same. Don't stop being single just because a girl gives you the time of day. Don't stop being single just because she goes on a date with you. Don't stop being single just because she touches your dick… | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 02:04 PM |
| 4 | Should you wait for a signal before approaching a woman?Ok, you asked for it... So, what you need to understand first is, as far as the subtle and often unconscious signs are concerned, there is no one sign that definitively indicates that she wants you. Most of these signs are non-verbal and the way you understand non-verbal communication is very similar to the way you understand verbal communication. One sign is like one word, multiple signs is like a sentence or a paragraph. If someone says one word without any other context its very hard to assum… | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 06:07 AM |
| 1 | Should you wait for a signal before approaching a woman?Are you asking how to tell if positive sign is genuine or just a list of what could be considered positive reactions? Because the latter can be misleading if you lack the social skills to tell what's genuine and what isn't. | /r/seduction | 05/09/21 06:16 PM |
| 3 | Im coward and not confidentSame thing people do for other fears they wanna overcome, face them. You can do it slowly and systematically but at the end of the day you still gotta put yourself in the situation that you're afraid of over and over so that you'll develop the courage to handle that situation. Try doing this, it might help. | /r/seduction | 05/09/21 02:17 PM |
| 18 | Should you wait for a signal before approaching a woman?Not necessarily. If you don't get any signal you can still test to see how receptive they'd be with you. Just make a quick comment to them or give them a quick compliment and immediately go back to minding your own business or walk away if you had to walk over. How they react to something like that will give you a good idea of whether they're interested in really getting into a conversation with you or not. And if they are, you can just walk back to them and get into an actual conversation. Alte… | /r/seduction | 05/09/21 02:08 PM |
| 9 | Help me respond to this textWell I wouldn't make doing something with a girl I barely know the thing that determines whether I had a worthwhile trip to a different city. Just acknowledge what she said and then message her when you have plans for what to do while you're in her city. Make the plans independent of her coz again, you shouldn't just be there for her. And it would be better if you had other people involved like friends who are going on the trip with you or other girls from that city that you met, etc. Doesn't ma… | /r/seduction | 05/09/21 03:06 AM |
| 1 | What's the best way to maximize results from cold approaches?Yes. Look at their free or cheaper stuff first. They usually have Youtube channels or they post on Reddit, some also share posts on Instagram and Facebook. If those free/cheap stuff produce tangible results, not just feeling better about yourself but actually stuff that can be quantified like getting more girls wanting to go on a date with you or you becoming more consistent and seamless with your escalation then there's a very good chance you'll benefit from signing up with them for coaching. | /r/seduction | 02/09/21 03:26 PM |
| 2 | What's the best way to maximize results from cold approaches?I imagine that's why its said to always cold approach over and over, as eventually you'll learn your craft and fig out what sticks Like I said, that's like punching a heavy bag without knowing the proper punching form. Odds of that succeeding are low. Approaching over and over is not a good idea if you're not doing it in an educated way. You need to be learning the psychology of dating at the same time that you're going out there and approaching. Don't practice just anything, practice the right … | /r/seduction | 02/09/21 01:54 PM |
| 6 | What's the best way to maximize results from cold approaches?Learn game so you can self-diagnose and come up with a tailored strategy that best suits you or get someone to teach you game, a dating coach that doesn't just have a good dating life but also one who has a good track record of getting the people he teaches an amazing dating life or a friend who is not only good with women but who can also break down exactly what they're doing and who'd be willing to take you under their wing. Approaching and approaching without educating yourself is like punchi… | /r/seduction | 02/09/21 01:46 PM |
| 2 | The funny “suppose to” RuleIts also easier to bail on a conversation you don't like over text than it is over a phone call. ^ This? I was just explaining why people are generally more comfortable texting. Besides, in that context, if you bailed on a conversation odds are you'd never wanna go back to talking to that person and you'd move on to talking to other people. | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 04:48 PM |
| 3 | The funny “suppose to” RuleYou go out of your way less to text someone than to get on the phone with them. For one, when texting you don't have to be on your phone for the duration of the conversation. You can leave your phone to do something else anytime in the middle of it. Its also easier to bail on a conversation you don't like over text than it is over a phone call. I know it sucks that most women can't bring themselves to reject you outright and have to make excuses or just quietly go away but things just are the wa… | /r/seduction | 31/08/21 04:19 PM |
| 1 | How should I naturally start convo with a girl on ig?Do you have maybe any idea how to make her interested for me? Can't answer this question in one sentence. Not even a page is enough to answer this. But if you want a quick answer - get good at game. | /r/seduction | 28/08/21 01:21 AM |
| 1 | How should I naturally start convo with a girl on ig?Say what comes to mind when she said she was still filming. For example what's coming to my mind right now is, "Damn, filming seems like such a tedious process. Is this a one time thing or do you do this a lot?" I don't know her like you know her so that's based on what little information you gave me so I don't think you should copy my example word for word. But there, I started with a statement and then followed that up with a question. But even if you leave out the question she's likely to res… | /r/seduction | 27/08/21 04:33 PM |
| 1 | How should I naturally start convo with a girl on ig?From where you stopped you could've replied with a statement and then talk about the picture for a bit before asking another question. You were already having a natural conversation with her, you just didn't know how to keep it going. As long as you respond to her statement or something she shows you with a statement of your own before asking a question you can keep a conversation going indefinitely. Odds are you do that unconsciously with close friends, I just brought it to your conscious atten… | /r/seduction | 27/08/21 02:50 PM |
| 7 | Are we going on a date or just friendly meetupDoesn't really matter whether it was declared or implied to be a date or not. Even if it was made crystal clear that its a date, that doesn't do much to really help you move things closer to intimacy. You shouldn't get caught up in labels or connotations because attraction and relationships are not deals to be negotiated. Its not like, "Ok so we've both agreed that this is a date so things should take a sexual turn." That's not how it works. Focus on what really matters - how you make her feel. … | /r/seduction | 26/08/21 01:30 PM |
| 3 | Went to dinner with a gal I just met that day, got a numberFucking amazing! Keep up the good work! | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 01:33 PM |
| 9 | FlirtingThis might help. | /r/seduction | 20/08/21 03:14 PM |
| 15 | How do i get/develop big dick energy?Experience and knowledge. There are many ways to appear confident but there's no shortcut to the real thing. | /r/seduction | 16/08/21 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Are dates supposed to feel draining?Wouldn’t that create an uncomfortable situation when they talk among themselves and it becomes clear that none of them have met you? I haven't experienced that. They actually don't get to talking much until I introduce them, after that they get into their commonalities more than how they all know me. But even if they did talk about how they know me I don't see how it would be awkward because I don't hit on them when I first meet them and I'm not sexually aggressive, I'm not like, "Hey, I thought… | /r/seduction | 14/08/21 02:52 AM |
| 8 | Are dates supposed to feel draining?When I'm single I talk to lots of girls at the same time and I never do traditional dates, instead I just do fun stuff with my friends and invite all the girls I'm talking to, to those things. It makes things very efficient coz I get to see them all at the same time instead of having to go on 20 dates throughout the week. Theres also no pressure to keep conversations going coz theres lots of other people there for them to talk to and I'm outnumbered by them so its usually them who are competing … | /r/seduction | 13/08/21 08:25 AM |
| 27 | How to build interest after only 6 messages and a number close from Tinder?Its better to just immediately continue the conversation you were having previously when you get to texting. I would have said something like, "You look like a nachos girl to me" and just put my name on the bottom and I would have sent that a minute or 2 after she gave me her number. With this, since you opened with your name just respond to her "Hey" with that nachos assumption or something similar and carry on with the appetizer topic then transition into other topics from there. Whether I mee… | /r/seduction | 10/08/21 02:01 PM |
| 25 | how to build sexual tension with someone you've been with for a while?Do you still genuinely wanna fuck her? Because if you do all it takes is for you to express that outside the bedroom to build anticipation. Look at her like you want her, slap her ass, secretly touch her in public, use innuendos, when you're apart or when you're in a place where you can't act on your desires you can even straight up tell her what you really wanna do to her once you two are in a more conducive setting for it. You can also tease her when you do have the opportunity to have sex. Do… | /r/seduction | 03/08/21 02:14 PM |
| 2 | Brain Freeze in setApproach more often so you get used to it. You can't think your way out of this. There's no breakthrough that you'll make by disappearing into your bedroom and working things out in your head. The only way you'll stop your brain from freezing in this situation is to put yourself in this situation more often. Its kinda like driving, even when you get to a point where you no longer feel your heart beating out of your chest or hands clamming up doesn't mean you'll be able to think of everything in … | /r/seduction | 03/08/21 02:59 AM |
| 2 | I need helpFlirt with her. | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 02:12 PM |
| 1 | Have trouble keeping her attraction after 1/2 dates. How do you keep someone attracted?DM me. | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 02:09 AM |
| 17 | Have trouble keeping her attraction after 1/2 dates. How do you keep someone attracted?This is actually quite simple, it was like an emotional bait and switch for her since you said you reverted to your "true self" some time after sleeping with her, which implies that you were presenting a different persona before that point. Theres nothing inherently wrong about being sweet and empathy is one of the most powerful things for communicating with women and people in general because if you can accurately tell what people are feeling then you'll be much better at making the right decis… | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 02:35 PM |
| 3 | "Do you approach girls like this often"Your responses are fine. They're similar to what I would have said. The real answer to this question is best saved for when they're more enthusiastic about listening to what you have to say. For most people when we're first meeting someone we kind of go through the motions of listening to someone or we ask questions not necessarily because we really wanna absorb the answer but simply to progress a conversation, that's why its rarely a socially intelligent move to explain this when you first meet… | /r/seduction | 26/07/21 03:41 PM |
| 2 | Should I go in with my deep voice a stern frame or come in easy and comedic like.I don't think the voice is the issue. There have been times when I spoke too softly when starting a conversation with a girl that she doesn't even notice I'm talking to her so I correct by repeating myself louder and I sometimes overshoot to the point of shouting and every time that has happened the girl melts. I have a deep voice too so maybe them melting, as in basically swooning, has something to do with that but I've also seen speaking "too loud" go well for other guys with all kinds of voic… | /r/seduction | 24/07/21 02:51 PM |
| 46 | Isn't "the game" just a way to manipulate someone?If its a change you genuinely wanna make then it is authentic. Its like working out, your body doesn't look a certain way and you want to change it in the hopes that it ends up looking the way you want it to look. Is exercising to change your physique inauthentic? Also yes, the reality is, there is a lot of manipulation in game. Sure there's some people's interpretation of Mystery Method where they more or less lie to get the effect they're looking for but there are even ways of doing things tha… | /r/seduction | 21/07/21 03:29 PM |
| 5 | What is a cold approach?I've always defined it as simply starting a conversation with someone you don't know. | /r/seduction | 20/07/21 02:24 PM |
| 4 | Trying to let this girl goYou should have been talking to other girls from the moment you met her, at the very least. I guarantee she's been doing that with guys too throughout this whole month that you've been trying to get her out. You're probably not even the first one she started talking to when you first started. This isn't wrong nor is it a negative reflection on her or society/culture. This is just a single person being a single person rather than prematurely committing to someone who doesn't even want to go on a … | /r/seduction | 20/07/21 08:03 AM |
| 8 | What do you do when people flirt with you?I agree with everything you said. I'm not saying that with a woman who has never made moves on you that you shouldn't do a damn thing, what I'm saying is what to do in the event that they have already started making moves on you. I'm well aware that the majority of the time men have to be the one to start things. But once women start making moves, whether on their own or because of what you've done to attract them, its time to stop trying so hard and just encourage them to continue down that pat… | /r/seduction | 17/07/21 06:53 PM |
| 23 | What do you do when people flirt with you?When women do things that move the interaction in a sexual or romantic direction flirt with them to encourage them to continue, and make sure you do so only when they do these things. Don't just do it all the time. This is specific for girls who are already making moves, you can totally flirt with other girls at different times, even girls you're not attracted to, just for fun but for the girls who are already making moves, only flirt when they make those moves. The guy who said you weren't actu… | /r/seduction | 17/07/21 04:38 PM |
| 3 | Feel like I’m losing the ability to socializeDo you have any advice for social media and dating apps or whatever? because my profiles always been basically empty and literally everyone uses it to socialize these days, When you get a social life going you'll have a lot to post about on social media. | /r/seduction | 14/07/21 09:04 AM |
| 6 | Feel like I’m losing the ability to socializeAnd I just moved to a new place so I don’t know what’s around here even. This is one of the best times to socialize. Just explore your city and try a bunch of different things, you'll meet people along the way. Also try to find social gatherings around your hobbies, one of the easiest is working out because there are tons of group classes or gyms with more of a community feel available. Even in a regular gym you can make friends. There can be a few stuff for video games and anime too like compet… | /r/seduction | 14/07/21 08:30 AM |
| 34 | Beach day outThat piece of advice you gave her was actually also beneficial to you because now you don't come off as desperate or overeager. This was a good date. | /r/seduction | 14/07/21 08:21 AM |
| 1 | How do I get rid of the inertia to initiate a conversation and why do I still deal with this issue despite doing well socially in other aspects?Exactly. Successful people don't wait to feel confident, they act regardless of how they feel. | /r/seduction | 13/07/21 12:10 PM |
| 14 | How do you prevent yourself from being nervous around extremely attractive people?How do you prevent yourself from being nervous around extremely attractive people? Interact with extremely attractive people often. Confidence is really a matter of getting used to doing something, just like driving, when you first drove on the open road you were probably so scared and it required all of your focus but if you're used to it now you can probably have conversations and sip on a coffee while jamming along to music when driving these days. | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 10:31 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Well really, all you gotta do is test it. You can be more careful at first but if you find that most people are still reasonable then you can start slowly ramping up to the way you did things 8 years ago. Feminism is maybe buzzing a little bit more these days in the media but my real world experience hasn't really matched up to the vibe that the internet gives off. I slept around a lot from 2017-2019 after a breakup and before I met the girlfriend I'm with now and I haven't really found anyone w… | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 09:52 PM |
| 2 | My "good looks" are my worst featureWell some parts of game are fairly basic to understand but challenging to execute properly and with consistency. It's like trying to spin a book on your finger. The concept is easy but the first time you try it will be very awkward and it will take a few repetitions before you can even get it going for a few seconds before it flies off. And like spinning a book or boxing or dancing, some people will get it down quickly others will need more time to work on it. The reason some people think you ju… | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 08:40 PM |
| 3 | My "good looks" are my worst featureLike is there a secret that would make the process more efficient than a brute force trial and error that you've experienced? Yeah, game. A brute force trial and error approach is trying to train yourself for a boxing match without learning any of the proper techniques for boxing. The equivalent of that is just going out there and talking to people without learning game. A finessed approach is learning from someone who knows what a proper jab, straight, hook, & uppercut looks like, what good foo… | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 05:47 PM |
| 6 | My "good looks" are my worst featureWell the short answer is, learn game. For all the shit that's talked about game, when it isn't coming from some marketer trying to make a buck but actually someone who really knows what they're talking about then game is simply the psychology of dating. And if you understand the psychology of dating then you will be able to self-diagnose and sort out whatever the issue is. We can try to immediately give you an answer to what we think your problem is but at best that would only be a shot in the d… | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 04:28 PM |
| 9 | How do I get rid of the inertia to initiate a conversation and why do I still deal with this issue despite doing well socially in other aspects?Just do it more. Contrary to what some may have you believe, confidence is very specific. You can't work on one thing expecting it to make you feel confident about an entirely different thing. Even if you do really well learning to drive with zero traffic you'll still be nervous the first time you have to drive on the open road with all the other cars. Just like even if you're really comfortable with making people laugh for example doesn't necessarily mean you'll be comfortable at starting conve… | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 01:17 PM |
| 1 | How to project a strong positive energy and vibe what are the things you can doIf you really are positive and you're not shy about sharing that positivity with everyone, not only girls you're attracted to, then it'll shine through. | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 12:53 PM |
| 1 | My Weird Sleeping habits.Sounds like a mild case of Sexomnia. A friend of mine has it but its more severe, it can basically be like sleep walking with the intent to have sex. My friend can even talk when he's having an episode. His partner has told me the funniest stories about them having sex in the middle of the night and him not remembering a thing the next day. | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 08:17 AM |
| 5 | How to enter peoples' social circles?Don't do one on one hang out sessions. Have a lifestyle where you go to events and have activities that can be done with groups of people and just invite them and tell them to bring their friends. You can also host get togethers and do the same thing. Once they have that kind of relationship with you and you actually get along with each other then they will start inviting you to their stuff. | /r/seduction | 09/07/21 06:31 PM |
| 3 | Finding balanceIn general I've found that simply scheduling everything has really helped me have more time for more things. I noticed what was making the difference on days when I just let loose and not schedule anything. On those days when I felt like just taking a break and doing whatever I feel like, the day usually ends with me not being satisfied with the fun or relaxing things I've done or even completely missing out on what I wanted to do. Then I realized what was happening. On days when I do schedule t… | /r/seduction | 09/07/21 05:57 PM |
| 2 | Going out tonight for July 4th. How do I pull on the dance floor. Do I just approach and start dancing, ask for a dance?Do what you need to do to remedy the nervousness because that seems to be the actual issue. The right dance class could certainly help with loosening you up and I do believe that the best way to become confident at something is doing that thing so I wouldn't be opposed to you taking classes. | /r/seduction | 08/07/21 10:41 PM |
| 3 | Advice to approach someone ?This might help. | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 07:45 PM |
| 2 | 25 year old virgin here. Been with people a couple times but have never gone all the way. Have a date tonight and then Netflix and chill. Any advice? Anything is appreciated.When did I make that statement? You didn't but you don't like what I said to OP, which was all about screening for a girl who'd actually give you that so I think it was a fair assumption on my part. A girl that doesn’t respect you won’t let you fuck her So girls can't use guys for sex? Lastly, OP is inviting a girl to HIS house for the first time and HES gonna be fucking HER. With HIS dick. As stupid as this sounds, she is literally risking her life for this and you want her to make you feel saf… | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 06:49 PM |
| 2 | 25 year old virgin here. Been with people a couple times but have never gone all the way. Have a date tonight and then Netflix and chill. Any advice? Anything is appreciated.So you'd rather be with a girl who doesn't respect you or give a damn about your well being? | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 06:01 PM |
| 9 | 25 year old virgin here. Been with people a couple times but have never gone all the way. Have a date tonight and then Netflix and chill. Any advice? Anything is appreciated.You think comfort and sexual tension are mutually exclusive? If a girl is uncomfortable with you that means she's creeped out by you. If she's creeped out by you how in the world will you get to the point where you can even have sexual tension? | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 05:55 PM |
| 3 | Help with a replyShe started the conversation and she's the one throwing out a pickup line. You don't need to try and impress her. Give her some props for the line and challenge her to make her want to put more effort into the conversation. Its harder to take for granted or let it go of something you've put a lot of effort into. If you try to be witty back you stop her from putting in the effort she was gonna put in and you just become one of the thousand guys who are competing for her. If you challenge her to b… | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 03:13 PM |
| 5 | Is sex important and decisive in a relationship?Well by the numbers alone there will always be more people who will just want to have sex with you than there will be people who you really connect with. A real connection is not just something you can find whenever you feel like it. Every time I became single, I went through hundreds of girls over multiple years before I found someone I really connected with. You need to understand that what you're looking for is someone who can connect with the parts of you that even some of your closest frien… | /r/seduction | 06/07/21 07:39 AM |
| 7 | Specific advice on flirting?There's usually 2 ways the word "Tease" is used in a dating context. One is when they're referring to just messing around with a girl, winding her up a bit, pranking her a little bit, creating this tense but playful vibe between you two. The purpose of that type of teasing is to get her to engage more, become more animated, and ultimately invest more in the interaction which is important because we value what we invest in. The second thing the word "Tease" refers to in a dating context is when y… | /r/seduction | 06/07/21 07:04 AM |
| 2 | My Most Successful Cold Approach TechniqueA parting enquiry, I'm not sure I understand the connection between hitting 10 girls at the same time and "not being an asshole". Like how does that correlate to not getting friendzoned? That was just an elaboration on how flirting works with the method I described in the first comment you replied to. | /r/seduction | 05/07/21 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Going out tonight for July 4th. How do I pull on the dance floor. Do I just approach and start dancing, ask for a dance?DM me. | /r/seduction | 05/07/21 03:48 PM |
| 5 | My Most Successful Cold Approach TechniqueActually, hitting on someone is simply making it clear that you want them. Flirting is a way to stimulate similar feelings but never letting them be certain. Think of flirting like how a series or a cinematic universe teases some sort of event that could happen in that universe or a possible addition of a certain character/s to that universe. It gets people excited and thinking about it a lot to the extent that some minor media outlets' sole purpose for existing is to come up with theories on wh… | /r/seduction | 05/07/21 03:35 PM |
| 2 | My Most Successful Cold Approach TechniqueDo you know the difference between flirting with someone and hitting on them? I'll need to know where you're at with that before I can explain. | /r/seduction | 05/07/21 01:26 PM |
| 2 | Going out tonight for July 4th. How do I pull on the dance floor. Do I just approach and start dancing, ask for a dance?Is that all you got from it? Because that may be why you're having a hard time figuring this out. | /r/seduction | 05/07/21 05:54 AM |
| 2 | Going out tonight for July 4th. How do I pull on the dance floor. Do I just approach and start dancing, ask for a dance?Actually, everything I wrote in my original comment was me explaining how I charm women on the dance floor. | /r/seduction | 05/07/21 05:17 AM |
| 3 | Going out tonight for July 4th. How do I pull on the dance floor. Do I just approach and start dancing, ask for a dance?You don't have to be good at dancing, I suck at actual dancing, my girlfriend even went so far as saying I didn't have a dancing bone in my body. All I'm really good at is charming women on the dance floor which doesn't really require dancing skills other than being able to move in some sort of way to the beat and being able to keep up with her movements when you're pressed together and dancing more sexually. Just let loose to the music and move however you wanna move. As long as you're enjoying… | /r/seduction | 05/07/21 05:02 AM |
| 8 | Going out tonight for July 4th. How do I pull on the dance floor. Do I just approach and start dancing, ask for a dance?Dance on your own first so that when you approach a woman you're not taking value, you're adding it. If you just walk up and approach a woman that's having fun and with the intention to hit on her you're basically saying, "You have what I want and I want you to give that to me" before you have ever given her anything. Just enjoying yourself on the dance floor is likely to attract women's attention anyway. Some of them are likely to look over and enjoy you enjoying yourself. And if you notice tho… | /r/seduction | 04/07/21 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Asking for a girls snapchat over her phone number?If you prefer snapchat then go with snapchat, doesn't really matter how you stay in touch. If both of you actually use that method of communication socially and on a regular basis then you can certainly use that to progress things. | /r/seduction | 04/07/21 04:27 PM |
| 1 | To those of you who have frequent ONS, do you bother trying to learn the other persons sexual preferences?Before you get to this point I assume you take your top off when you're making out - do you then take hers off or wait for her to take it off herself? Either works, for both my top and hers. At the end of the day, your dick & her pussy just need access to each other. How clothed or naked you want each other to be just depends on what you two feel like doing in a given sexual encounter. It doesn't really matter who takes off what and you don't always have to be fully naked. The important thing is… | /r/seduction | 03/07/21 06:28 PM |
| 2 | I'm 26 and I realized that I can't chase or hit on women because I have nothing to offer. I'm like a guy knocking on your car's window at the intersection without nothing to sell. Any advice?most people , even here on this sub say that all these feelings are what the woman should feel with a man and not vice-versa e.g : how would a man feel safe with a woman ? , so how does this work actually ? You should also be screening her and looking at whether she makes you feel these things or not, you shouldn't just be overeager to sleep with her without even knowing if she's trustworthy at least. You do that by literally just getting to know her so you can get an idea of what she's actually… | /r/seduction | 03/07/21 04:43 PM |
| 7 | I'm 26 and I realized that I can't chase or hit on women because I have nothing to offer. I'm like a guy knocking on your car's window at the intersection without nothing to sell. Any advice?If you can fuck and relate to a person then you have more than enough to make someone happy. All those other things you mentioned aren't the cake, they're just the icing. The real shit is in the connections you form. If you have the capacity to connect with someone and you have a dick that works then there are girls out there who'd love to be with you. That said, what about what you want? Don't lose sight of your own happiness and well being and understand that a pretty face and hot body won't b… | /r/seduction | 02/07/21 07:05 PM |
| 4 | To those of you who have frequent ONS, do you bother trying to learn the other persons sexual preferences?could you briefly run through what you would do after say getting to the stage at which you either finger her, go down on her, get head etc. Would you do what you want and see how she responds? I think it would be better to explain what I do a little bit before that point. Lets say I'm at the point where I'm making out with a girl and all she's wearing are her panties, while playing with her tits and touching, kissing, licking, or biting her on different parts of her body my hand would eventuall… | /r/seduction | 02/07/21 06:25 PM |
| 6 | To those of you who have frequent ONS, do you bother trying to learn the other persons sexual preferences?Well seeing the girl in utter euphoria really gets me off so even if I were to be completely selfish I would still try to find out what a girl is into even on a one night stand. You don't necessarily need to have a discussion to find out how she likes things though, just explore her body, take your time, and just transition slowly between the different things you do to her. Going slow and savoring every moment will give you all the time you need to pick up on the different cues she gives you, es… | /r/seduction | 02/07/21 10:14 AM |
| 3 | Are these techniques used by all?Are these techniques used by all? Absolutely not but not everyone uses the same public speaking techniques, teaching techniques, or sales techniques either. All of which are techniques for specific social scenarios just like the techniques for seduction are. So maybe other people who do well with girls don't use the techniques you use but they still use other techniques that happen to work for them. Game is not only Mystery Method, RSD, or Mark Manson, the different methods in the seduction comm… | /r/seduction | 01/07/21 08:20 PM |
| 5 | How do I kiss a girl I’m taller then?Its not a big deal. Most girls are shorter than the guys they date. Just bend down or make whatever adjustment you need to make so you can line up your lips. If she wants to kiss you she'll also lift her head and even get up on her toes to reach you if she has to. | /r/seduction | 30/06/21 01:15 PM |
| 6 | How to get over my fear of rejectionYour self image could be the issue. Not in thinking too little of yourself but maybe in thinking too highly of yourself. You think of yourself as a charismatic guy who is well put together and probably fairly muscular and you also think that a lot of girls like you. And maybe you have it in your mind that of course if you really went for it most women will end up sleeping with you but the thing that actually scares you could be the possibility that you're wrong about that. Maybe you've built you… | /r/seduction | 28/06/21 07:56 PM |
| 2 | Prom DressHell yeah! Good job! | /r/seduction | 23/06/21 07:52 AM |
| 7 | What's the best timing and content to message someone with whom you interact on social media but don't talk or haven't seen face-to-face for ages?Just make a comment on one of her posts that would hint to her that you have something she could want and she might even message you. Here's an example off the top of my head: Lets say most of her posts are beach and nature photos, you can comment on one beach post, "This reminds me of that exclusive resort I stayed at last year." Of course you gotta know how to transition to different topics so you're not talking about resorts all day. ... This part is for everyone reading this comment If you f… | /r/seduction | 23/06/21 07:49 AM |
| 17 | I did a successful cold approach!That's the spirit! | /r/seduction | 22/06/21 05:30 PM |
| 86 | I did a successful cold approach!Good job! Try approaching multiple groups in one day next time. | /r/seduction | 22/06/21 04:06 PM |
| 3 | Day Game Dilettante Looking for HelpThe only thing I've been able to do is to ask 2 chicks who were trying to take a selfie of themselves together if they'd like me to take their picture for them So you may have gone out 4 times but you only practiced once. Would you expect to be ready for a dance recital if you've only ran through a dance one time? Your lack of progress is normal for the few minutes of work you put into it. Communicating with people whether you're learning to sell a product, speak in front of a crowd, or charm a … | /r/seduction | 21/06/21 08:11 PM |
| 9 | My Most Successful Cold Approach TechniqueYou don't need to. Expressing your attraction for a girl does nothing to make her attracted to you in return. Just find commonalities with all of them, tease and challenge all of them, get them all comfortable touching you, make them all happy to do things for you and when some start trying to get your attention more it'll encourage the others to do the same and the fact that they have to compete with each other to get your attention will just increase their attraction. When all of them are real… | /r/seduction | 21/06/21 02:25 PM |
| 13 | My Most Successful Cold Approach TechniqueIn a way, meeting girls in a group is easier than meeting them alone because you immediately have something to talk about: their relationship with each other, how they treat each other, and the different roles they play in the friendship. Also, if you have difficulty talking to one of them there's always the others that you can shift your attention to. As opposed to meeting a girl alone where you have to pull a topic of conversation out of your ass and if you start to run out of things to talk a… | /r/seduction | 21/06/21 10:57 AM |
| 6 | [ADVANCED] Need help managing multiple girlfriends.I don't sugar coat it at all. I find that what helps is being open about the situation from the very beginning. Its not always clear to people how a relationship like this would go so at the very beginning I make sure to lay it all out and as I'm explaining things I give them examples of different scenarios like when I'm with someone else. Being open from the very beginning is key because that instantly sets their expectations and it won't be so jarring when they find themselves in a situation w… | /r/seduction | 16/06/21 06:52 AM |
| 6 | [ADVANCED] Need help managing multiple girlfriends.I've managed up to 10 girls easily. The key is just to be completely open about the situation and don't worry about trying to keep anyone around. If a girl is fine with the amount of attention you're willing to give her then she'll stay, if she isn't then let her be free to leave. If you make compromises you don't really wanna make and stretch yourself thin that will only lead to resentment which won't be good for anyone. If a girl is unhappy with the situation and you let her leave knowing you'… | /r/seduction | 15/06/21 07:21 PM |
| 3 | Isn't it to desperate?If you have a lot of experience approaching girls you should have no problem waving at her from a distance on your bike or rolling past her and saying hi just to guage her receptiveness. If she reacts in a way that shows you she'd be interested in talking then it wouldn't be desperate to stop or turn your bike around to talk to her. | /r/seduction | 15/06/21 05:49 PM |
| 3 | Gym Field Report: first time actively attempting approachesGood job! Btw, I've been with lots of girls who I've met with their moms. One of the girls even became my girlfriend for a few years. It sure as hell can be done. That might be a little scary for the stage you're in so just focus on continuing to build on your current momentum and if you just keep going eventually you'll be able to meet girls in all kinds of situations. | /r/seduction | 15/06/21 05:40 PM |
| 8 | How would you approach or try to seduce a woman with autism?The short version is, she will show you how. The best way to charm someone is not with a pre-planned strategy, it's by being able to read, accurately interpret social cues, and respond appropriately. Yes, you'll need to understand the psychology of attraction and dating, know how to progress things toward a more intimate direction, and have a general idea of how you want things to progress but you shouldn't have a rigid plan so you can respond to things as they arise. The big picture plan should… | /r/seduction | 15/06/21 07:37 AM |
| 6 | How to deal with the “I forgot I had other obligations” on the day of dateConsidering I tend to be the one to set up dates with lots of other people around, I would have absolutely no objection to a girl bringing a lot of people along, let alone just one. If it upsets you to have company or you think that a date becomes more difficult with other people around you may be caught up in the 'what-to-do' instead of understanding the 'why' behind the different things that you do and realizing that theres multiple ways to achieve the same goal. What's the purpose of going on… | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 07:28 PM |
| 3 | To bother with pubs and clubs if I don’t naturally enjoy them?Get into something new that does. Lots of things are fun out there, you don't need to limit your enjoyment. I always like to try foods that I've never tried before, why treat activities differently? | /r/seduction | 10/06/21 06:59 PM |
| 2 | Starting Easy - Asking the timeThis is exactly what I did to get to the point where I'm at now, always with multiple girls at the same time when I'm single without having to hide it, having girls ask me for sex, able to meet lots of girls without necessarily having to approach, etc. When I started I was a virgin around your age and deathly terrified of approaching too but I decided to let go of my ego and realized that taking action is more important than my pride. Its much better to be talking to women at all regardless of w… | /r/seduction | 10/06/21 06:26 PM |
| 4 | To bother with pubs and clubs if I don’t naturally enjoy them?Unless you're in the industry or your a big into the party scene yourself its rarely the best place to meet girls. You wanna meet girls in places where you can easily predict what they wanna talk about and you like talking about that stuff too. So essentially, meet girls in social gatherings around your hobbies. Its gonna be so much easier to talk to those girls coz you already know you have things in common and they do too because you just being there shows them that you're into what they're in… | /r/seduction | 10/06/21 06:14 PM |
| 10 | Just did my first cold approach in my regular gym of all placesGood job man! I hope you approach tons over the weekend! | /r/seduction | 10/06/21 03:48 PM |
| 1 | How do I improve my appearance?What can I do? I’ve lost 10 pounds over the last month and am lifting. How can I continue to improve? What can I do regards to my hair or style? Continue the lifting and weight loss. Educate yourself on men's style, my suggestion is start simple with plain neutral colors and focus on the fit of things. For your hair go to an expensive stylist and get it done one time. After that one time take pictures of it from every angle so you can go to cheaper places to maintain the style and they can just … | /r/seduction | 10/06/21 03:36 PM |
| 2 | How to stop feeling insecure when looking at people’s pictures on Instagram?I go on "dates" with multiple at the same time and I make sure the ones I'm already sleeping with know that they're not the only ones I'm seeing and that I'll keep adding more so they don't demand too much of my time. | /r/seduction | 10/06/21 01:41 PM |
| 4 | How do I keep her interested?If you're only interesting to her when you're actively trying to be then there's no way for you to sustain that forever. Just think of this girl as one of the people who helped you work on the social skills that you are working on right now and just keep meeting new girls and keep working on those social skills. If you play your cards right you'll eventually get to the point where keeping someone's interest will just be as effortless as talking to them whenever you feel like it. I've met girls o… | /r/seduction | 10/06/21 07:49 AM |
| 2 | How to stop feeling insecure when looking at people’s pictures on Instagram?Yeah. | /r/seduction | 10/06/21 06:27 AM |
| 9 | How to stop feeling insecure when looking at people’s pictures on Instagram?Read up on the availability bias because that's how Instagram is giving you a skewed perspective of the world. You have to understand that Instagram is not the real world, profiles are curated to manipulate your perception. And the algorithm seems to be set up to do that as well. The only things you see are the highlights, you don't see all the other parts of someone's life that'll put things into the proper perspective. I have lots of successful and very talented friends and I have been with hu… | /r/seduction | 09/06/21 07:46 PM |
| 6 | I DİD MY FİRST APPROACH!!Good job! Keep up the momentum and approach someone else quick! Approach 10 someone else's! If you don't capitalize on the momentum you'll go right back to being as scared as you were before you did this first one. Trust me, I know the feeling oh too well. This might help you power through this nervous phase too. | /r/seduction | 09/06/21 07:21 PM |
| 3 | Sorting Through The FakesOh, why'd you ask for this advice then? | /r/seduction | 05/06/21 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Sorting Through The FakesAh, I see. Here's what I did with girls I met through online dating: I'd talk to them about people they've met and share experiences on online dating and I'd let the conversation go to us talking about our negative experiences and how crazy things are online and then I'd tell them about how I've decided to deal with that... I deal with that by meeting a girl for a quick 10 minute coffee somewhere in a place with lots of people around just to verify whether they are who they present themselves to… | /r/seduction | 05/06/21 07:20 PM |
| 9 | I cold approached women wearing face masks.Cold approach thing works in India (if u play it right), I used to think because of socio cultural factors, women are different in India. I am wrong. SOCIAL CONDITIONING IS FUCKING REAL & SCARY. 100%. It has to be illegal to do something as little as asking for directions from a stranger for cold approach to not work in a given city. As long as you're allowed to speak to a stranger in some sort of context, you can make it work. All it takes is creativity, resourcefulness, and knowing how to lead… | /r/seduction | 05/06/21 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Sorting Through The FakesWhat do you mean by fake? As in being fake about what they want or basically just being a catfish? | /r/seduction | 05/06/21 06:30 PM |
| 6 | Women and Nice GuysIf you're being nice because you're kissing ass and trying to get something in return then women won't be into you. What's attractive is a man who is nice because of his principles. Here's how you tell the difference: The ass kisser will always agree with the girl he likes and the people he wants something from, the guy with principles won't. He won't always agree with them because their opinions and beliefs aren't what dictate his actions, he's dictated by his own opinions and beliefs. ... This… | /r/seduction | 31/05/21 07:41 PM |
| 3 | I feel that if I had spend more time watching movies like 50 shades, twilight, crazy stupid love instead of Saw, Fast and furious, MCU I would have been better with girlsAs someone who's been watching those chick flicks as a 20 year old virgin all thru me getting good with girls and always having multiple friends with benefits at the same time in my mid and late twenties I can tell you, those movies are very unrealistic. Besides, I'm 30 now and in a serious relationship. My girlfriend very much prefers the MCU over all those other movies you mentioned. The MCU is also the very first thing we bonded over and its what made her want to go on our first date. Not say… | /r/seduction | 31/05/21 07:25 PM |
| 3 | How good is a mall for PU compared to other spots? How does PU work at a mall?A mall used to be my favorite spot to meet girls for years. I've done some of the craziest pickups inside malls like walking into a shop just to start a conversation with a girl I like in front of the shop keepers, making out between book shelves in a bookstore, having sex inside handicap toilets, etc. Malls are really great for instant dates and creating situations where you have sex on the same day too because there are so many options to go on an instant date and they're all conveniently near… | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 08:50 PM |
| 3 | I'm very good at attracting girls in the moment, but they almost NEVER stick with meIt could be that you're not developing enough of a friendship with them. As in maybe you're not finding commonalities and reasons to hang out besides sex while you're having conversations with them. If you're flirting and turning them on, its ok to build a friendship at the same time. It won't hurt your chances at getting things intimate at all. And its doesn't have to be one or the other, it can be both at the same time because flirting is not topic dependent. You can still blatantly check her … | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 05:36 PM |
| 12 | How patient are you guys willing to be?I don't know if you can call what I have patience because I don't actively wait for a girl who I've never met and just DMed. As soon as any message to any girl who isn't my girlfriend or another important woman in my life gets sent, I'm moving on. Heck, I sometimes worry they'll reply to soon. By moving on I mean sure, do other things but also, maybe DM other girls or if I'm going out probably meet other girls. Regardless of whether a specific girl replies or not, if I'm single I'm still gonna b… | /r/seduction | 26/05/21 08:37 PM |
| 4 | 2 great dates and ghosted?But from what I've been reading girls like a guy to chase them?? So is she expecting me to double text? Girls also like when guys buy them everything and basically be their servant. Girls also like when guys throw money at them on streaming services and Onlyfans. Just because its something a girl likes doesn't mean it'll get her to respect you and treat you the way you want her to treat you. What likely happened with this girl is things just went better for her and another guy. Its not that thin… | /r/seduction | 26/05/21 08:57 AM |
| 2 | fame, friends, popularity, talent, gf, money i have none of those and i also base my self worth on how much attention i get. i want to get better.Talk to girls and people in general and consume resources on social skills and dating skills. There's lots of those. How to Win Friends and Influence People, Charisma on Command, and there are dating coaches who are legit and can help with that. My advice for the latter is to try to find guys who feel more social and who approach dating in less of a "my way or the highway" kind of mindset. You wanna avoid those who say things like "Talk about whatever you wanna talk about" and instead follow guy… | /r/seduction | 24/05/21 05:45 PM |
| 3 | fame, friends, popularity, talent, gf, money i have none of those and i also base my self worth on how much attention i get. i want to get better.CAN ALL MY PROBLEMS GO AWAY BY SELF IMPROVEMENT? IM TIRED OF FEELING LIKE A BORING GENERIC LOSER "NICE GUY" Only if you count improving your social skills as self-improvement. If you don't then you'll only get better at the things you work on. Like if going to the gym and eating better food is the only thing you count as self-improvement then you'll only get better at that, not at dating, not at your social life. | /r/seduction | 24/05/21 05:33 PM |
| 2 | Being confident is hardJust keep going. Confidence doesn't come overnight and I think you're expecting it to come for you a lot quicker than it actually will. Also, talk to girls now. Even if you end up having an 8-pack and 5 MMA wins under your belt you'll still get nervous once you get around to talking to them. Looking better and being skilled at something doesn't really make a lot of difference in your confidence when its actually time to talk to them. If anything it'll make talking to them more daunting because y… | /r/seduction | 24/05/21 05:23 PM |
| 3 | How can a girl seduce a guy friend?Have conversations with him about activities he enjoys and places he likes to frequent/he finds interesting. Learning what cuisine he prefers helps too because it'll be easy to figure out what food places he'd find interesting if you're familiar with his taste in food. Learn all that by having a conversations with him about these things, not by quietly researching him. While learning about the things he likes, try to find those that you also like and focus more on those things you have in common… | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 06:29 PM |
| 14 | InsecurityTake care of yourself first and foremost and definitely do things to continue to develop yourself. That said, now you know that women are humans too and they have just as much capacity to do unpleasant things as anyone. So you need to see them as the fallible creatures that they are. Whatever messed up things you see and hear guys doing, recognize that women are just as capable of those things. With that, be more selective. Take your time when deciding if you want to be in a serious relationship… | /r/seduction | 20/05/21 02:00 PM |
| 3 | Need some adviceYou shouldn't think of sexual desire as anything more meaningful than craving for junk food. All you wanna do is fuck your mother-in-law but you have your girl who looks just like her but is much younger and can give you much more satisfaction for that. Plus, you do claim to love her. Is passing up on junk food that only smells like your favorite junk food, while you're still free to indulge in your actual favorite junk food as much as you want, too much of a sacrifice for someone you want to bu… | /r/seduction | 20/05/21 09:57 AM |
| 2 | Is game a matter of SMV?Passive attraction, as in the attraction you have just going on in the background like your lifestyle and looks is a matter of SMV. That's not game though. Passive attraction is like your resources, game is your resourcefulness, your ability to make the most of the resources you have available to you. Its like, a random lottery winner could probably not do as much with $100M as Warren Buffet could do with $10M because Warren has better "money game" than him. But if you have a high SMV its just l… | /r/seduction | 19/05/21 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Girls that looks at you for a while when you walk.Maybe or maybe not. It's gonna be different for every situation. That's why you're not saying hi to get a specific outcome, you're saying hi simply to test the waters. | /r/seduction | 19/05/21 09:21 AM |
| 14 | Girls that looks at you for a while when you walk.Say hi but keep walking. If she gives you a warm response and looks like she's willing to engage with you then you can always turn back to talk. Contrary to what some people believe, there is no subtle sign that she wants you in that situation. All the signs she can give you that really indicate she wants you while you're walking past are anything but subtle. She could be the one to start the conversation with you, wink at you, or overtly check you out, among other things. Those would be the sig… | /r/seduction | 19/05/21 07:08 AM |
| 5 | Having a hard time with touchThis will help for the beginning stages. And this will help for the later stages. | /r/seduction | 13/05/21 04:18 PM |
| 2 | Met a girlJust make them aware that you're seeing other girls. It'll also be easier in terms of maintaining all those relationships. If you've already slept with them at least twice then calmy tell them about it some time while you're just hanging out. So maybe while you're out somewhere together or the morning after if some of them like to sleep over. Just make sure it's not too public where others can overhear you or something. Just say something like... "Hey, I just wanna talk about where this is going… | /r/seduction | 13/05/21 08:55 AM |
| 3 | Met a girlShe seems like she just wants to have fun sleeping around for now. She shouldn't mind if you're sleeping with other girls while doing it with her too. You really don't need to think much of this, just enjoy the sex while its still enjoyable and have fun with other girls too. I had girls like this before I met my girlfriend and it was chill. There was zero drama when I told them I'm gonna stop seeing them. That's how you wanna play this. | /r/seduction | 13/05/21 07:10 AM |
| 2 | Hey gentlemen, this is my first time posting here and i hope you help me in this one.Depends on how your restaurant works. My friend used to work the bar and restaurant in a resort and what he'd do is just match however friendly the customers are and add a bit of flirtiness to see if they flirt back. What usually happened for him is that if the customers like him, they're the ones who call him over or tell him to stick around. Some also tell him to loosen up, some even ask him to share a drink with them after hours. That's when he gets license to be more informal and flirty. Fro… | /r/seduction | 12/05/21 08:37 AM |
| 5 | Asking her over to your place or on a date?You can phrase it like, "How do you feel about us just chilling at my place with some XYZ?" You're asking how she feels about it, not whether she'd be down or not which is lower pressure and also lets her give you an answer that lets you guage her willingness better. Because sometimes if someone says yes, it can either be a 'hell yes' or a very hesitant yes, the same is true with a no, you might take it as a downright rejection when in reality she was just on the fence and chose to err on the si… | /r/seduction | 12/05/21 08:14 AM |
| 9 | Direct or Indirect open - What's brought you more success?I get what you're saying but I don't think calling them indirect and direct is the most accurate way to describe these different approaches if you're congruent when doing both. See "indirect" would imply that you feel a certain way but what you're communicating isn't necessarily in line with that feeling. But if you're someone who has tons of options, are genuinely picky and not someone who is quick to settle for just any girl, even if she's hot, then doing what most people call an indirect appr… | /r/seduction | 09/05/21 06:28 PM |
| 1 | How to accept that straight men's sexuality depends only on the sexual availability of women but straight women's sexuality depends on more than the sexual availability of men? Men in Muslim countries have sex with men due to gender segregation & sexual repression & the women don't with womenWouldn't that make it more meaningful if a guy chooses you? If a guy goes for you because he barely has any options does that really speak to how special you are or to the fact that he's just tired of going through the trouble of finding someone to date or have sex with so he might as well settle for somebody? Versus a guy who has tons of options, who can afford to be as selective as he likes, and ends up choosing you. What does that say about you if out of all the people he's attracted to, you'… | /r/seduction | 09/05/21 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Too many questionsDefinitely. Sort out the abandonment issues first. As in, don't look to dating advice or dating experts to help you with these things, its outside their area of expertise, look to experts on self-esteem. I believe looking into Brene Brown would be a good place to start. Also check out Jordan Peterson to get a better idea of what you should look for in a therapist because they're not all the same. Now, don't assume that this will solve all your dating problems. If you want to develop an exception… | /r/seduction | 05/05/21 04:36 PM |
| 33 | Is there anyone here who actually went from "Zero to Hero"? Anyone who went through massive dry periods, but then started dating with ease? How did you do it?Yes, me. I've been dating (or attempted to date) since junior high but only lost my virginity in my 20s and only after learning about game, going through tons of resources on dating and psychology, and going through tens of thousands of weird, awkward, embarrassing, heartbreaking, and sometimes even fucked up situations. Nowadays, I always see multiple girls at the same time if I'm not with a girl who I consider special enough to commit to and they all know that's the case often before we even k… | /r/seduction | 05/05/21 04:14 PM |
| 3 | How to approach women at grocery stores/malls public areas in general??Stores like groceries and malls are some of the best places to start conversations because they give you a lot to work with. See, one of the best ways to start a conversation is by commenting on what's happening or what they're interacting with in the moment. And in malls there's always tons of things happening, in grocery stores, there's almost always something to interact with because you will constantly be looking at the different products and food to buy in there. Just use those things to st… | /r/seduction | 05/05/21 06:01 AM |
| 1 | How do I get girls to like me (wanna date me)This might help. | /r/seduction | 05/05/21 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Too many questionsAh, why do you think you're doing that? Are you worried people won't be interested in your life? | /r/seduction | 05/05/21 05:24 AM |
| 2 | Too many questionsAre you unable to think of something to say or are you deliberately just asking questions to avoid saying anything to them? | /r/seduction | 04/05/21 01:20 PM |
| 1 | Do you answer questions from girls with vagueness to stay mysterious?Send me a message here, on Reddit. | /r/seduction | 02/05/21 03:31 PM |
| 24 | How to stop hating myself and develop some self confidence?You don't need to wait for a feeling to go do something, you can just go ahead and do stuff and let the feelings follow. The most successful people in the world don't rely on emotions to drive them forward, they put systems in place that make them move regardless of how they're feeling. Successful businessmen schedule basically everything with everyone involved so that their mentors and the people they do business with show up and they're forced to work regardless of how they feel. Pro athletes … | /r/seduction | 28/04/21 07:04 AM |
| 7 | How to go about getting to know a girl way out of my league without coming off as a creep.How do you know she's out of your league if you're still getting to know her? What does follower count indicate more, a woman's character or her ability to play the social media game? You don't know her yet but you're already assuming she's good enough for you. Does 11k followers guarantee you'll get along? That she'll respect you? That she won't do anything fucked up to you? Its easy to not be creepy in this situation, just don't interact with her like she's already won you over, come into it w… | /r/seduction | 28/04/21 05:41 AM |
| 9 | Do you answer questions from girls with vagueness to stay mysterious?Depends on how well you know each other. Some people when they first meet you, only ask questions because they think its what they're supposed to do, not because they really care about the answer. It would be a waste to give a serious answer to someone who'll forget about it in 2 minutes. What I do to test whether they're actually interested in what I have to say or not is respond with a joke or tell them straight up that they wouldn't be interested. If they push for my real answer then I know t… | /r/seduction | 28/04/21 05:12 AM |
| 1 | Looking to seduce two bisexual men into having sex with meNormally I'd recommend social gatherings where it's likely that you'll find lots of people who could be bisexual like gay bars or events for gay people or people of similar sexual orientations. But considering that pandemic restrictions probably make it near impossible to find those at the moment I'd say the next best thing is to make a post on an r4r subreddit saying that's what you're looking for. There may even be a subreddit dedicated to MMF threesomes. Just look around this site, you might … | /r/seduction | 21/04/21 02:11 AM |
| 1 | How to approach women in bars during COVID?In night time social environments, pandemic or not, it benefit's you more to work the room rather than just try to go for "one shot, one kill". So even if in the whole bar there's a girl you prefer over everyone else, there isn't just one pretty girl in the whole place unless you're going to a really dead place. So just wave at whatever cute girl you can make eye contact with first and if they respond positively, start talking to them. Talking to another pretty girl only increases the odds that … | /r/seduction | 18/04/21 05:27 AM |
| 1 | How to approach women in bars during COVID?Wave at them. If they smile or wave back or give you any positive response, approach. Not too complex. | /r/seduction | 18/04/21 04:45 AM |
| 1 | Does she like me or am i overthinking things?All these signs don't necessarily mean she is into you but they do mean you should get her alone and escalate. If she resists, stop, if she doesn't, keep going. Just hang out with her some time and let things move to your place or her place, whichever is more conducive for getting intimate. | /r/seduction | 18/04/21 04:38 AM |
| 1 | How do I be more confident around women?DM me. | /r/seduction | 16/04/21 11:30 AM |
| 1 | to the men here, what you'd love to experience in online dating? what would you want your long distance girlfriend to do?If you're very open with your communication and willing to figure things out together and actually meet him in the middle for everything then that should naturally orient you in the direction where he'd be more interested because he'll literally be telling you how to make him more interested. If he is the one that isn't very open then you gotta be the one that helps him open up more because you're the one here, getting this advice. And one of the best ways to encourage someone to open up is to n… | /r/seduction | 14/04/21 05:11 AM |
| 6 | 20+\M Year Old Virgin Looking for some advice.I can figure out the social aspect, but I wanted to know how I should approach the sexual aspect of dating without knowing how to kiss or have sex. What are some tips you would all recommend? Or am I gonna have to go in there honest, kissing like a fish out of water? Lol. Thanks again. Be honest not only about your inexperience but also about your concerns and the things you might be uncomfortable with about sexuality at the moment. Also be honest about these things with yourself so that you don… | /r/seduction | 14/04/21 04:44 AM |
| 11 | How do I be more confident around women?It's the same as everything else you're confident at, just get experience and competence. The reason you're confident in other areas of your life is because you know that you know what to do and that's backed up by multiple experiences where you did things right. This is the kind of confidence that works even if you really care about the outcome. Confidence that comes from simply not giving a shit is very limited because as soon as you care about a girl it'll all come crumbling down. And not car… | /r/seduction | 14/04/21 04:24 AM |
| 3 | Can we fake Sexual Frame?That's why you can't show sexual interest. Go find a girl who actually turns you on. | /r/seduction | 06/04/21 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Can we fake Sexual Frame?Do you feel sexual interest for her? | /r/seduction | 06/04/21 06:50 PM |
| 3 | Can we fake Sexual Frame?Why don't you want to? | /r/seduction | 06/04/21 06:43 PM |
| 2 | Nauseating feeling when a girl give a sexual vibe continuouslyIts simple. Think about how this would be viewed if it was the other way around. If you've initiated kisses before and you've had girlfriends or sex partners who you've had sex with countless times before then this is not performance anxiety, she's just making you uncomfortable. Its ok for a man to be uncomfortable with a girl. She's just as likely to do something messed up as a guy in the workplace is to a girl. She also needs to make you feel comfortable around her and win you over. It's not t… | /r/seduction | 06/04/21 06:22 PM |
| 1 | Can we fake Sexual Frame?Why? If she doesn't turn you on and you still trying to have sex with her you're doing it for the wrong reasons. | /r/seduction | 06/04/21 06:20 PM |
| 3 | How to take a girl out for a date over Snapchat?She responded with “if you’re lucky”. Which i have no clue what the hell that means. That means she's not that into you. If you're a shooter, go shoot your shots with other girls. | /r/seduction | 27/03/21 02:41 PM |
| 1 | What does "I'll hit you up" really mean?Everything needs to be taken in context. If you're the only one who starts conversations between you two then odds are she didn't mean it. If she already does hit you up regularly to start conversations then odds are she meant it. | /r/seduction | 25/03/21 03:17 PM |
| 1 | New to the sub not sure if this is the right flair but how do I approach a girl when she is with a group of friends? Like what do I say?You can be more straightforward and say something like, "Hey guys, can I talk to your friend real quick?" and then turn to the one you like and state your intentions. Or you can be more social and comment about something they're doing, the way they dress, the way they seem, or something that's happening around you. You can also compliment them. And you don't necessarily need to speak to the entire group from the very beginning. You can start talking to one and others will usually join in or at l… | /r/seduction | 25/03/21 03:08 PM |
| 1 | How do guys go about accepting the idea that there are a lot more girls out there?even though I KNOW I can get 10 numbers in an hour if I want to. Why do you think that's something you know? | /r/seduction | 25/03/21 11:11 AM |
| 1 | How do guys go about accepting the idea that there are a lot more girls out there?DM me. | /r/seduction | 24/03/21 03:11 PM |
| 1 | How do guys go about accepting the idea that there are a lot more girls out there?Well I do have a facebook group for things like that. | /r/seduction | 24/03/21 07:24 AM |
| 1 | How do guys go about accepting the idea that there are a lot more girls out there?Cold approach mostly in the beginning then when online dating became a thing added that in but the thing that made the biggest difference for me is social circle game. | /r/seduction | 24/03/21 03:04 AM |
| 1 | from tinder to textJust continue the conversation you had on Tinder. I text a girl pretty much immediately after we exchange numbers on Tinder. Its the same conversation, just on a different medium. Let's say the last thing you talked about on Tinder was pizza. You can just continue by saying something like, "So Chicago deep dish or New York style? -FLFinest3" And off you go. No need to start over. That doesn't make sense because you were already talking. Just continue. | /r/seduction | 23/03/21 04:34 PM |
| 19 | How do guys go about accepting the idea that there are a lot more girls out there?First of all, abundance is a lot easier to come by than most guys think. All you need to do is not stop meeting new girls just because one of them gives you a chance. As in for example, if you get one girl's number, get another one's number 2 minutes later and another one 2 minutes after that. If you go through the process of dating with one girl and she rejects you, it won't indicate a lack of abundance if you have a bunch of other girls you've also been talking to and seeing at the same time. … | /r/seduction | 23/03/21 03:53 PM |
| 12 | Help: Girls keep thinking that I'm gay! What can i do?Yes, I made out or had sex with some of the girls that told me about the gay thing. While it wasn't a problem for them, I know for a fact that one girl wasn't interested in me because of this. So it may not bother all the girls I'm interested in, but still some. Can't make everyone like you. 🤷♂️ That was just one girl. The multiple other girls you had sex with or kissed are more significant than a single, solitary girl. In addition, it drives me crazy that it seems something so obvious about my… | /r/seduction | 21/03/21 04:51 PM |
| 12 | Help: Girls keep thinking that I'm gay! What can i do?I'm a 27 year old man, and at least 5 girls I dated have told me that they thought I was gay or bisexual. "Dated" as in went out to one date with or got involved with and regularly had sex with for a period of time? Because if its the latter then you seeming gay isn't a problem coz you still ended up with the girls. If its the former, how did those dates go? They did agree to go on the dates so if it was clear to them that you asked them to a romantic date and they agreed to it that means they d… | /r/seduction | 21/03/21 02:40 PM |
| 3 | Matched with a stunnerEveryone has unique traits and preferences. If she's into you, she's into you. Just meet her and go find out. Besides, you need to remember that you don't know her that well either. You need to find out whether she's actually good for you or not before you start looking at her like some utterly amazing human. It takes two to tango, it's not only your job to make something happen between you two, half of that responsibility is on her. | /r/seduction | 21/03/21 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone had a successful cold approach with covid mask on?I run one. | /r/seduction | 10/03/21 09:31 PM |
| 3 | If i try to impress everyone, then who the fuck is supposed to impress me?Good. Don't focus on impressing anyone. Focus on making people feel good about showing off what's impressive about themselves to you. | /r/seduction | 05/03/21 11:01 PM |
| 1 | I took her number and texted it but no answer. What should I do?I took her number and texted it but no answer. What should I do? Forget about her and meet new girls. | /r/seduction | 04/03/21 09:19 PM |
| 5 | For those in their 40sYes, you can. If you're 40 and not doing well with girls then your age is not the issue. Best to recognize that now so you can address the real issues like how you present yourself and how you communicate. Some older guys fixate too much on their age and blame that for all their failures while they dress like crap, have 20 nervous ticks, and communicate in a way that is alienating and creepy regardless of age. As long as you sort out the important stuff, your age is a small issue. | /r/seduction | 04/03/21 10:28 AM |
| 2 | Freezing up around girls I'm attracted to?You're welcome man. it's actually turning my thoughts into actions that seems to be the problem right now. I think what I need to do is figure out a way to just say the things I want to, like imagine that she's just a friend or coworker, I shouldn't have any worry about it, I should just say it. And this is still a question of nerves. The reason you can let loose when talking to a friend or co-worker is because you're comfortable in that situation, with a girl you're attracted to, you aren't tha… | /r/seduction | 26/02/21 09:23 PM |
| 3 | Freezing up around girls I'm attracted to?How can I stop doing this? Deliberately try and meet multiple girls you're attracted to often. You'll be scared in the beginning, its unavoidable, and you'll waste a lot of time trying to look for ways to not be scared without having to talk to a bunch of girls. There is no puzzle piece in your brain that you can will your way into making fit so that you magically get over that fear, the only way you can make that mental shift is through the action of actually talking to women you're attracted t… | /r/seduction | 26/02/21 08:28 PM |
| 10 | Keeping eye contact?If a girl holds eye contact with you for about 5 seconds then theres a good chance she'd be willing to talk to you. So if that happens, you might as well talk to her and work on your eye contact while you're talking. | /r/seduction | 24/02/21 07:42 PM |
| 2 | What are the top 3 internal qualities you look for in an intimate partner?Would you actually get along with someone whose morals or lack thereof you disagree with? | /r/seduction | 24/02/21 11:06 AM |
| 2 | What are the top 3 internal qualities you look for in an intimate partner?Gets along with me Gets along with me Gets along with me Its not enough to prefer qualities that apply to millions of girls. You have to be so specific that there will be some other guys who might have absolutely no interest in a girl who has the qualities you want. When you're with a girl who just fits in with you that much then all those other cookie cutter qualities are almost a given. | /r/seduction | 24/02/21 09:28 AM |
| 2 | Jawline help?Look up Mike Mew on youtube. And no, he's not some random "influencer", he's an actual doctor who specializes in facial shape and improving your jawline without surgery or drugs. | /r/seduction | 12/02/21 09:56 PM |
| 3 | A Girl accused me of doing Pick Up but we had a nice conversationThis just goes to show that if you have good game it doesn't matter whether a girl knows you've learned this stuff or not. I'm very open about having learned this stuff because I know how to communicate in a way that it's never an issue. I've slept with girls who I not only admitted learning game to but who have even been by my side as I was picking up a different girl. One of my exes sat in on a bootcamp I ran before she became my girlfriend. A girl I know who works with dating coaches and know… | /r/seduction | 09/02/21 10:29 AM |
| 1 | Books about human psychology in a broad sense?That's true. Our psychology is the same but the world around it is changing. | /r/seduction | 07/02/21 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Books about human psychology in a broad sense?This generation and probably 10 others will be long gone before current human psychology becomes outdated. Humans don't change as fast as you think and even if on the outside we seem to be different, on the inside we're still the same as people who lived 100 years ago. The only updates we really need to make are on learning about how our psychology interacts with mediums of communication that didn't exist 20 years ago. Like dating apps and social media. But our brains haven't changed. We just ha… | /r/seduction | 06/02/21 06:28 PM |
| 2 | Men in medieval times used to be powerful and strong over females now women are powerful due to all sophisticated culture & systems what to do?Its simple, really. Get good with women. Develop yourself into the most attractive package you can be. Not only in your looks and financial status but also in your social life. Also develop your ability to communicate with them. Learn to keep conversations going as long as you want. Learn to make conversations playful, funny, flirty, challenging, and persuasive. Learn to read and appropriately respond to different social cues, both platonic and romantic. And learn to escalate smoothly in a way t… | /r/seduction | 04/02/21 03:23 PM |
| 5 | I feel like my thoughts & my body are not connected when I'm on a dateYou haven't had sex with her yet? Because if that's the case, odds are you're just naturally uncomfortable with someone you don't know that well. Yes, it's natural because you also only know her as much as she knows you. She's also someone who has to earn your trust and make you comfortable with her. Dating is two way street. The best way to sort it out is to just move things towards sex, as long as she wants it too. Girls get a better experience anyway when you spend some time stimulating other… | /r/seduction | 04/02/21 12:11 PM |
| 2 | Do girls at the gym intentionally try to 'get in front of you' when they're interested?Here's how you can differentiate between coincidence and her intentionally doing it to get your attention: Frequency Note, it's not quantity it's frequency. That means if she gets in front of you and gets into a position that's somewhat sexy and does it 30 times but its every 7-10 minutes, that's probably nothing. Your workouts probably just happen to have you going through adjacent paths in the gym. If she gets in front of you and does something kinda sexy only 10 times but those 10 times are o… | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 08:00 PM |
| 1 | She told me "there's no chemistry" after 4 awesome datesDo architects work for free? Do they not consider multiple prospects before deciding which ones to work with? Reciprocity is not the only concern when you're first seeing someone in a romantic context. The overall trustworthiness and compatibility are bigger factors. If you wanted to buy a house, would you buy the first one you look at? | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 07:13 PM |
| 2 | She told me "there's no chemistry" after 4 awesome datesYou think you know someone well enough to give them your loyalty just because they've agreed to go on a date with you? You think you can trust someone you've only known for 2 weeks just because she has tits and a pretty face? How meaningful is your loyalty when its so easily given away? And if its so easily given away, wouldn't that also mean someone else can just easily take it from the first person you've been giving it to? | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 06:57 PM |
| 3 | How do I approach a girl from another school?When I first met one of my ex girlfriends the very first thing I did was let her know I was interested in her. Not only didn't we know each other that well, we were complete strangers to each other. We didn't go to the same or neighboring schools, we didn't see each other on social media. I literally had no idea she existed nor did she know I existed until the day we met. Guess what, that lead to a relationship between us. Are you desperate? Have you been going through years long dry spells? Bec… | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 05:13 PM |
| 2 | How do I approach a girl from another school?Why don't you just let her know you're interested? Its not something I exclusively recommend for all situations but it can work. | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 04:40 PM |
| 8 | She told me "there's no chemistry" after 4 awesome datesI'm not really getting the picture of the awesomeness of these dates but this might have more to do with how little you described them than what actually happened. The thing is, if you're really into someone or you're new to someone as pretty as her being into you then there is a tendency for you to think the dates were more awesome than they actually are. Go into more detail on these dates you went on so I can better help you understand why things went the way they did. what should I do next? A… | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 04:29 PM |
| 3 | Any tips to not be nervous around girls?Construct your life so you're around more girls as pretty as her all the time. | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 04:13 PM |
| 17 | How to handle this shit test feel like I don't have a good comeback?"You'll find out in a few minutes." | /r/seduction | 02/02/21 07:52 PM |
| 2 | Girl I approached gave signs of liking but had a ‘fiancée?’I'm indifferent to sexism myself. Just trying to help everyone get a clearer picture of the psychology that goes on with this stuff. | /r/seduction | 01/02/21 12:22 PM |
| 2 | Girl I approached gave signs of liking but had a ‘fiancée?’People are biologically programmed to express liking regardless of whether they want something to happen between the person they're interested in or not. We either can't help or often not notice when we're showing signs of attraction to someone because its typically something we do unconsciously. When people decide to be in a committed relationship with someone, its a conscious choice. Attraction is not. Just because you have a wife, girlfriend, fiancee, whatever doesn't mean you won't be attrac… | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 08:39 PM |
| 5 | How to not get invested easily?How good are you with girls and how often do you meet new ones? If you struggle to find girls who would be willing to give you the time of day then it makes sense that you'd easily get invested in rare one that does. The solution: Get good with girls. Do all the self improvement stuff like going to the gym, dressing better, improving your skills, improving your career, working on mental issues, etc but also get better at communicating with them. Get good at conversations, understanding the right… | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Dming/messaging on girls story... what to say?You can actually gauge interest on social media just like you can in person. The way you do it on social media is to comment on a post first and see if she goes into a little back & forth with you in the comments. If you have this 2 or 3 times with her then your odds of her wanting to talk to you through her story are a lot higher, just like your odds would be with a girl who smiles at you before you approach her. As for what to say, don't try to think of anything impressive or clever to say. Ev… | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 10:06 AM |
| 1 | Is slipping someone who's working my number a bad ideaAwesome man! | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 09:49 AM |
| 1 | How to improve my chat conversationsActually, my point is to see whether he even goes into topics like that. Usually when someone is good at in-person conversation but bad at messaging they rely on pulling out surface level topics from the environment or they rely heavily on non-verbals. Its a good thing to know how to communicate non-verbally but you can't really connect that well without getting into topics that allow you to actually get to know the girl you're talking to. When you know how to actually go into topics instead of … | /r/seduction | 30/01/21 09:23 AM |
| 1 | How to improve my chat conversationsThe last girl you had any conversation with, messaging or in person, do you know what her favorite food is, or what kind of movies/series she likes, what kind of music she likes, how she spends her free time, what she plans to do in the future, what's the best place she's traveled to, etc? Btw, relatives, long time friends, and girls you've been seeing for months don't count. I mean girls you've recently met and are interested in romantically. | /r/seduction | 29/01/21 06:49 PM |
| 11 | What to do with Eyes when Hot Gym Girl is Doing Sexy Workout directly in Front of You?Just focus on your workout and let your eyes go where they naturally go. People can tell the difference between when you're really looking at them and when you just happen to be facing in their direction. I don't know about you but I almost space out when I'm training. It's like I see all the hot girls before and after my session but during it, suddenly they're invisible. | /r/seduction | 28/01/21 09:42 AM |
| 1 | Is slipping someone who's working my number a bad ideaGood luck man! | /r/seduction | 27/01/21 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Is slipping someone who's working my number a bad ideaNah, it's fine to have it ready. | /r/seduction | 27/01/21 10:03 PM |
| 7 | If you can't be totally yourself around someone you like, move onThis is true. To add to this, if you can't totally be yourself with someone you're interested in then that feeling you have is one of two things. Its either simply that you just wanna fuck them and you're mistaking that for having special feelings or you're not seeing them for who they actually are but instead you created a fantasy of who they are in your head and that fantasy is what you're drawn to, not the actual person. If you get into a relationship with that person and they start acting di… | /r/seduction | 27/01/21 10:00 PM |
| 1 | Girl doesn't like to get teasedPreferences still do exist man. Its like, some girls are into butt stuff, others aren't. Odds are, there's nothing wrong with you, you're just not with the right partner for the thing you wanna do. So you can exercise your preferences, if she's not into it and you only wanna do the teasing stuff with girls then just go for a different girl who would be into it. Btw, r/sex are very welcoming of discussions like this, yes, even from a heterosexual man, so don't worry that you posted there too. | /r/seduction | 27/01/21 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Is slipping someone who's working my number a bad ideaWell you can try but if you're not noticing these signs then your odds are lower that she'll call or text you. But you know, anyone can win the lottery. 🤷♂️ | /r/seduction | 27/01/21 09:44 PM |
| 3 | Girl doesn't like to get teasedTreat girls as individuals. Yes, there are things that apply to everyone across the board but preferences still do exist. If she just wants to get fucked already then she means it. As long as she's consenting, you're good to go. | /r/seduction | 27/01/21 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Is slipping someone who's working my number a bad ideaI don't see anything wrong with it legally and it probably won't get her into trouble at work if it goes unnoticed but if you want to have better odds of it going your way then at least try to see whether she's interested in you. Some things to look at that might indicate that she is attracted to you are whether she is: *Subtly or not so subtly swaying in place while talking to you *She's adjusting her clothes or hair to look prettier around you *She looks for excuses to touch you *She volunteer… | /r/seduction | 27/01/21 09:34 PM |
| 1 | Do girls like dad jokes?If a girl respects you and she laughs when she's with you then you're doing well. It doesn't matter if she's laughing because your joke landed well or if she's laughing because she thinks its cheezy as hell. It doesn't even matter if you aren't the source of the jokes, even if you just watch something funny together and you're laughing together that already means things are going well. Being humorous is helpful but you don't need to be the funniest guy around to get girls attracted to you. A sen… | /r/seduction | 27/01/21 08:00 PM |
| 1 | How can i stop to show needy per text?Challenge her. | /r/seduction | 27/01/21 07:53 PM |
| 7 | How do you pickup girls on a walking/jogging path ?Here's the thing, there are people who would advise against approaching joggers because they think most won't be into it but that's the key word right there, "most". People who give you that kind of advice are just generalizing. They're not being extremely precise about what you can and can't do. When we get right down to it, whether you approaching someone while they're jogging will be received well or not depends on the individual. Will some be very unhappy that you approached them? I'm sure. … | /r/seduction | 27/01/21 11:22 AM |
| 2 | If I had girls into me in the past is that valid at allCan I get myself back to that level with the right amount of work? You can surpass that. Here's what I would suggest you do. | /r/seduction | 24/01/21 10:24 PM |
| 1 | If I had girls into me in the past is that valid at allI think one factor we haven't considered yet is your social circle and environment. It could also be the cause for your lack in confidence. Maybe back in school you had a lot more friends, having a lot more fun with your friends, and doing a few "popular guy stuff" but now, you've all been separated and making friends nowadays as an adult isn't really the same as it was back when you were in school. I've seen tons of instances where the popular guy and the loser kid switch roles in adulthood bec… | /r/seduction | 24/01/21 09:40 PM |
| 1 | If I had girls into me in the past is that valid at allAlthough I’ve lost some of the confidence I had back then. Maybe this has somewhat affected how women react to you. Are you noticing differences in how they treat you now than back then? | /r/seduction | 24/01/21 09:30 PM |
| 1 | If I had girls into me in the past is that valid at allWhat else is different besides you being older? Because early 20s and high school is not that far from late 20s. Did your body change significantly? Have you been under a significant amount of stress these past years and that has made your face look older than your age? Did you become broke? Has your posture changed significantly? | /r/seduction | 24/01/21 09:11 PM |
| 1 | If I had girls into me in the past is that valid at allHow are you different now compared to back then? | /r/seduction | 24/01/21 08:54 PM |
| 18 | How do you guys cold approach during the pandemic?You can actually gauge interest like how you would through eye contact and smiling by actually talking to someone. Just make an off the cuff comment or give what I call a drive-by compliment to the girl you're interested in. A drive by compliment is when you simply give a compliment and leave or go back to minding your own business, you don't expect anything else beyond that. Same with an off the cuff comment based on something in the moment, just throw it out and get back to doing your thing. D… | /r/seduction | 23/01/21 09:20 PM |
| 10 | Don't talk about...After the first time I have sex with a girl, while we're still laying there naked, I often ask, "When did you realize you were attracted to me?" and there have been a few times when the girl said something like, "When I saw how passionate you were about your work." Your best point is this: Point is, talk about sh*t that excited you/is interesting to you/is fun for you/is funny to you. The thing is, sometimes, the shit that excites you, is interesting to you and is fun for you is your work. | /r/seduction | 23/01/21 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Receiving weird answersThat assuming stuff only works when your know she's into you. If she isn't yet then you're better off making sure she actually agrees to a date and the parameters around it. | /r/seduction | 22/01/21 06:30 PM |
| 9 | Why can’t I overcome approaching?The same reason a beautiful woman still gets nervous if she has to be the one to approach a guy she likes. Having a great personality and a great look doesn't automatically give you the confidence to do everything. Contrary to what others believe, confidence isn't general, it's specific to whatever you're trying to do. For example, it doesn't matter that you're good looking, charismatic and popular if you've only started driving a car 2 days ago. You will still shit yourself if you had to merge … | /r/seduction | 20/01/21 04:42 PM |
| 10 | Why do guys who get good at pickup develop a toxic personality?I don't know how many guys you know that started learning this and got really good at it but I've been doing this for 10 years and know a ton of guys who got good at it, even some of well known ones. A lot of them don't have the traits you described. I know I don't have those traits. What I have that's somewhat similar to what you're describing is this attitude of, "You need to want to help yourself more than I do otherwise I just won't help you." Because I used to be the exact opposite. I looke… | /r/seduction | 20/01/21 04:28 PM |
| 6 | I can’t “seduce” women who I perceive to be better looking than me.Only talk to women you perceive to be better than you from this point on. You'll eventually get used to it and ease up when communicating with them. Just don't go into it expecting not to get rejected while you're getting used to it, its a natural part of the process. | /r/seduction | 19/01/21 08:53 AM |
| 1 | Universal recipeSuccess as a man? That to me has nothing to do with women and simply not focusing on them to focus on what you need to do is not enough. Lots of people who are trying to succeed are already focused on what they need to do yet they still don't succeed. And you can give some of your attention to women and still be successful. For example, a man who cares deeply for his wife can sure as hell still be successful. As far as a "recipe" is concerned I believe actual humility is an important ingredient.… | /r/seduction | 17/01/21 12:23 AM |
| 4 | How much do you think being attractive is just being in good shape (for men)?but I am almost coming to the realization (at least for men) being in shape is the biggest way to improve. Its not the biggest way to improve but its the second fastest. Why only second fastest? Because the fastest is changing your look through clothes, hair, and grooming. You can literally come out looking like a completely different guy after only a day of shopping, getting your hair done and fixing up other grooming stuff. With getting in shape, it'll take some time before you really see resu… | /r/seduction | 26/12/20 07:41 PM |
| 5 | Is it more important to “be in the moment” or “say the right thing”?The actual right thing to say will only reveal itself to you if you are in the moment with a girl. This isn't some woo woo "the now is all there is" stuff. This is actually very practical. Because put simply, you'll need to listen and digest what she says to know how to respond back in the most appropriate way that would affect the interaction positively. If you're trying to think of the right thing to say and not paying attention to what she's saying and doing or what her demeanor is like then … | /r/seduction | 26/12/20 07:20 PM |
| 1 | This post needs professionals players!When you said you have a lot of value, what do you have that makes you think that you do? | /r/seduction | 19/12/20 09:18 PM |
| 3 | This post needs professionals players!She's not as attracted to you as you think. When she says its a waste of time because you can't communicate she's saying you're not worth the effort it'll require to work around that. | /r/seduction | 19/12/20 08:55 PM |
| 6 | Approached girl for the first time at almost 2 yearsGood job! Keep it up! | /r/seduction | 17/12/20 10:08 PM |
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