Confused

hunterpua · 2024-10-02T16:22:06+00:00

Likely because you're not making them earn it.

We all value things we work for and we all take for granted things that come easy.

If all she needed to do was ask or show some interest to get you then of course she'll lose interest.

Its like you trying out a video game for the first time and feeling like you can beat it with your eyes closed. You'd probably not bother to continue playing it.

If she's making a move on you, don't immediately say yes and don't take the reigns and be the one who works on setting the actual date up.

When girls so much as just message me first on a dating app, I already make them work for it.

If she sends me a decently witty message, I don't try to send one back and then try to show her how funny I am.

I give her a tiny bit of props for the message but then challenge her further with something like, "So how many guys have you sent that to?" to imply that I think its a copy/pasted line and she isn't actually that clever so she's challenged to show me more.

I've had women basically saying they're DTF and I still make them earn it.

One interaction I had like that went like this...

Me: What do you do for fun?

Her: Cuddle naked.

Me: Nice. I like to do that too. 😏

Her: We should do that together 😏

Me: Eh, I'm kinda picky about who I do that with.

Her: So what would it take for you to pick me?

Me: Hmm...do you have good control over your hips?

Her: I'm a dancer! (proceeds to do a dance move with a lot of hip movement)

Her:....so, are you picking me? 👉👈

Me: Hmmmm....spit or swallow?

Her: Swallow daddy.

Me: Ugh. Tempting. You ready to go right now?

Her: Well I'm gonna have to check with my friends first.

Me: Oh, nevermind then.

Her: No no! I'm good to go! I'll just let them know I'm leaving.

Me: 2 minutes (starts walking to leave the club even as she's still talking to her friends)

Her: (runs after me after she finishes telling her friends)

Just because she's showing interest doesn't mean you should take the burden of the interaction from her. If she's the one trying to smash then she should be the one working to move things in that direction.

Yes, the manly thing is to lead but leading doesn't mean doing all the work. As you can see in the example above, I still led, but she did most of the work.

MrAnonPoster · 2024-10-02T20:52:09+00:00

They were not interested to begin with. They just wanted attention

321sleep · 2024-10-02T15:30:55+00:00

Something in your game is preventing you from hooking their attention and maintaining it long enough to lock in the date. Tell us a little about what’s going on specific

Electrical-Farm8527 · 2024-10-02T15:33:54+00:00

Idk, try to stop asking women out on dates and invite them somewhere your going. Or just ask them to come over, you’d be surprised. Makes sense though if your a busy women, why would you go on date for 3hr. with a guy 1 on 1 when you was just trying to smash casual anyways, and you don’t want to be tied down. And yes generally younger women think a date means relationship.

vladiVP · 2024-10-02T15:48:36+00:00

We need more details to give some sort of answer. Simple guess is you do not build rapport, you look hot but your personality is not as hot, you do not capture nor lead their imagination. No way to really tell.

Title	Confused
Author	vladiVP
Upvotes	6
Comments	24
Date	October 2, 2024 3:10 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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