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Personality disorders are medical conditions, which are a separate category when you want to talk about general gender-related behavior, imo. The definition of mental health rely on the definition of what's mentally "normal" for the majority of people, while your post is talking about "assholes" :P Sure women can bully, and be vengeful When a woman decides to bully someone, it's usually emotional abuse that crushes a person to the point where they're suicidal. Since the damage inflicted is not t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/17 10:50 PM
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The non-shiny type of silk material is really really soft and nice to wear. The shiny stuff is mostly satin or mixed. It would be ideal if you could shop for lingerie in person with your wife at a physical store where you can feel the cloth materials with your own fingers and see which you prefer. Most physical stores have higher prices (compared to shopping online) but if you're willing to pay the extra, it's best to go in person. Generally, you're allowed to try any item that doesn't touch the…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 08:26 PM
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Porn (showing/telling) is an easy way to find out if a potential partner has sexual hang-ups. Regular sharing/discussion about porn also keeps sex fun and interesting while in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/17 12:12 PM
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I think you'll have to add "high libido" to your vetting process then. ^ Pretty much. I've never managed a successful relationship with someone who isn't high-libido as well, because the obvious mismatch will only get more intolerable in time.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 08:12 PM
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Drink mint tea. Seriously, it'll lower your libido. Maybe this only works for guys, because I drink at least two teapot's worth of peppermint tea per day to regulate my hormones. Libido still happily raging. 2x/day sounds excessive and you're coming on too strong, scaring the men away. Wanting sex twice a day is normal for someone with high libido.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/17 08:06 PM
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He was easy on my eyes, otherwise I wouldn't have dated him, no matter how briefly. The random singing was creepy, not the guy himself. The issue here is more about an incompatible sense of humor, I think. I'm generally very appreciative of romantic gestures, and I'm generally attracted to weirdos. I just didn't expect random singing to gross me out, until I met him. For what it's worth, I don't enjoy musicals either :p
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/17 03:20 AM
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Yes, and it was unfortunately directed at me. The guy could actually sing well, but the randomness and cognitive dissonance literally made my skin crawl :( He didn't just do it once, it was more of a habit(?). I never got used to it, nor ever enjoyed it, but felt it would be rude of me to tell him to shut up with his love songs. He usually did his acapella serenades in noisy public places, so it wasn't drawing unwanted attention, thankfully. The relationship didn't last more than a few weeks, of…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/17 03:50 PM
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I thought so too. That made it particularly creepy when someone randomly bursts into song in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/17 03:25 PM
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Serenading.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/17 02:03 PM
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Personally I kept my virginity until my mid 20s, and that was a decade ago for me. No regrets whatsoever! The only downside was, I got shamed for being a prude (by other women) often. Just shrug off that noise.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 11:23 PM
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I would describe myself as very right wing, and mostly traditional Keep your virginity for marriage, especially when you're under 25.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 11:18 PM
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Depending on the fallout of the business failure, it could cost you more than an alimony.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 10:42 PM
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If you don't plan on having children, there's no reason to get married other than religious reasons. While this is true in a very-general western-centric sense (which is what RPW/TRP is about), it should be also noted that RPW/TRP is also family-centric, which often excludes beneficial advice for childfree couples (childfree is not quite "the norm", I guess?). I think anybody (childfree/religious, or not) should treat a marriage like a business partnership, where the "business" is "your life tog…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 09:53 PM
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Since I'm the one with more to lose in the contract, it would be helpful if you elaborated what's paltry to you?
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/17 04:16 PM
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Haha thanks! I'd imagine it sounds stressful to men who want a more traditional marriage with a cozy home and family life. However, your thread was empty with nobody biting after 3 hours, so I figured I'd rock the boat with my probably-very-un-RPW marriage goals :p
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/17 07:31 AM
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what's your motive Married = more able to move together, to whichever country our work takes us, having our life-partnership recognized by the laws of whichever country we're living at. What does your perfect marriage look like? Childfree, dual income from fulfilling careers, making lots of time for each other every day -- lots of sex and good food, lots of time spent discussing plans and ambitions (no stagnation). I do most of the cooking and cleaning because I'm better at it -- not much differ…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 10:06 PM
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You're most welcome! At the very least, thinking through everything that's frustrating you in an objective and methodical way will help you figure things out with better clarity, and hopefully you get ideas for solutions. I imagine him trusting me fully as to let me feel free in this relationship, to have the social life I wish for and to make me feel like it's natural to act RPW and not making me miserable. If he's a good boyfriend, he should actively work with you to help make this a reality. …
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 05:50 PM
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That's what he told me, if I give him happiness he will give it back to me. I'm not feeling it, though... When you imagine him giving you happiness, what do you imagine him doing/saying? I look like I am holding something inside and that I am not happy. They have all advised me to break up. Have you mentioned this to your boyfriend before? What's his reaction when he hears that your close friends (your only friends right now?) are all saying to break up with him? Have your close friends interact…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 05:17 PM
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No, I'm not as fulfilled now as I used to be when I would go out all the time, but I convinced myself that it's for the good of my relationship. You know yourself best (I'm just an internet stranger). Ask yourself why you're convincing yourself that something is good, if the only reason it's good is to maintain a relationship where you're unhappy. No, he didn't choose my friends, they are my closest friends As close/best friends, I imagine you can confide in them, and they know you well (both th…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 04:57 PM
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I no longer feel socially isolated because I stopped wanting to be social and meet new people. Do you find your new preference equally fulfilling? I have limited myself to a few friends now and he seems to approve of it. Did he choose these friends for you? He has given me some tips on how to feel better about myself and how to focus on my strengths and not my weaknesses. This sounds good, but if you could provide examples, it would help put things in clearer perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 04:34 PM
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Is he still socially isolating you? That was what I was referring to when I said "pet". What does he do to encourage you to be confident?
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 04:21 PM
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The thing is, a manipulative person will be very successful at making you doubt yourself, make you feel like everything is your fault, and make you think of them as doing things "for your own good". A manipulative person slowly breaks down your self-worth, until you feel lost without their guidance, and you will believe that they're not doing anything wrong. Everything the "new you" (your post here) have said is not contrary with what the "before you" have posted 7 months ago. The "new you" just…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 03:53 PM
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It seems I got lost in the semantics of your OP, but I understand what you mean now. Thanks for clearing it up. It's confusing as hell when some people insist I have an agenda when they're the ones asking me personal questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/17 05:05 AM
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I don't experience nurturing love very much. I'm not sure if it's because I've never been given any while growing up. It's one of the main reasons why I know I shouldn't be a parent. "Love" is rarely platonic for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/17 04:48 AM
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You asked a question if I still felt the tingles after all those years, didn't you? How am I not answering your question? Do I have to dumb everything down to a simple "yes", because my apology for lack of experience/perspective is my "shoehorning" my snowflakes?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/17 04:42 AM
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Let me rephrase that then: From my perspective, I've never separated "romance" from "sex life".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/17 04:28 AM
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Lots of kink and high libido, I guess lol I've never been in a vanilla relationship, so maybe I'm missing that perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/17 04:10 AM
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Longest is 6+ years living together. Childfree all my adult life, but took care of younger family members as a child (large family), if that counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/17 04:03 AM
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Yep, but I'd still fuck him if he can get it up and want some (not sure if tmi? sorry..). Current man would do the same for me, too.. >_> But what you said makes sense, and I now have a better understanding of "maternal"+"romantic love". However, sick-fuckings doesn't quite apply to "i love you but im not in love with you" .. or does it?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/17 03:50 AM
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for example, you dont experience the MATERNAL aspect of romantic love? I don't experience this either, despite having functional ovaries. All I can imagine is making out with puppies, and that's extremely confusing on many levels.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/17 03:24 AM
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I was wondering why you haven't mentioned trying to communicate this issue with him, because you seem like an intelligent woman, and the most logical thing is to talk to him first. Then I took a look at your post history for more details, and found this thread from 7 months ago (quoting what stands out most for me) : Since September we've been spending 80% of our time together, mostly in his apartment. For me this is not fulfilling since I am a very social and outgoing person (and so is he, used…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 09:21 PM
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your mindset in your current relationship I give of myself what I hope to receive in return. Happiness for me, is keeping things simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/17 07:03 PM
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like being too worrisome, unnecessarily imposing. haha I can see how it would seem that way. It's not so bad if it's only internal thoughts. Plus, like half the world is emotionally driven. F types. Probably more than half. But I'm still unsure what I think of MBTI "types". I consistently test INTJ (workplace seems to love that stuff), but I've come across way too many INTJs (too many to be a "rare type", in the first place) who are way too different from each other that I can't help wondering i…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/17 02:11 AM
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98% of her reckless blundering leads to fun adventures and silly good times I've only ever seen this in fiction. I'm jealous if you know someone like that in real life :p
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/17 01:51 AM
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Reckless is from being brave Reckless is a lack of calculation/consideration. Bravery with careful consideration of all options/odds is not reckless, even if it turns out to be a mistake. At least, these are my definitions. Disney characters and their emotionally-driven actions make me cringe every time. Things always turn out ok for them despite everything, but only because it's fantasy. Embrace your dark side. I'm out of cookies :( Sure, I'd say that damsel is too distressed. Examples of what …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/17 07:13 PM
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I didn't say constantly. I didn't say recklessly blundering. You said Disney characters. They recklessly blunder, and constantly. I'll presume you don't intend the hatred your post implies. Nah, hatred takes too much energy. I don't care that much :p I just have passionate disdain. Not sure what you're expecting me to gather from that. RPW concept of teamwork written to address the damsel metaphor for femininity. The "hero" as described in the OP also reeks of White Knight Syndrome btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/17 06:28 PM
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It gets women the men they desire, and married. Only if they want to marry insecure men who enjoys constantly "saving" needy useless women who thinks "recklessly blundering into trouble = adventure". A healthy relationship/marriage is about teamwork. You can read more about it here: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/6hkgqv/you_are_a_team/
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/17 05:46 PM
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its pretty much dead in my city. ahh That sucks. Get rich and move to a better city :p
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/17 12:37 AM
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On Fetlife, there are often events for people "under 35", or you can organize them there. I haven't been active in the kink community for some time now, so I don't know if that's changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/17 12:29 AM
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basically winning the lottery lol Not that rare :p I encountered open relationships most commonly among couples who were active in their local kink community, or in the swingers crowd. It's a great low-pressure relationship dynamic, but you need to establish good communication between everyone involved -- lots of upfront discussions to clarify boundaries and avoid misunderstandings.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/17 12:22 AM
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ahh lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 11:50 PM
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able to separate physical from emotional attachment Platonic emotional attachment would be a "best friend" for me. Good question, tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 11:49 PM
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why would you lie about your true intentions Please, enlighten me what are my true intentions, because I don't even have a clue.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 11:41 PM
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they tend to seperate sexuality from attraction Perhaps it's a matter of semantics? I'm trying to imagine attraction without sex, and I'm just thinking of objects/food, and not people lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 11:36 PM
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I start with friendship first, personally. My "friendzone" isn't a reject-zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 11:32 PM
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Not my opinion. Based on what you said, I guess the OP question isn't about attraction/friendship as a personal approach to the words? I figured if we're talking about dictionary definitions, the OP can just google or something :p
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 11:30 PM
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OP asked for personal definition, unless I'm mistaken? General dictionary definition isn't mutual, for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 11:17 PM
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Attraction = mutual sexual arousal I don't feel attraction for someone who isn't into me. I can appreciate they have good looks/charm/etc in the detached way that I appreciate pictures of my favorite foods. Friendship = mutually-beneficial companionship "Best friend" and "close friends" are separate categories from "friend", for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 10:56 PM
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as soon as you get a girlfriend its jealousy, control, taking up all your time, gotta live with them, etc. There's a lot less jealousy/control/clingy if you discuss your relationship needs upfront. Of course, this will turn away the majority of people, but you don't want to date the majority anyway. i mean some do, but that isn't common It's common for people in open/casual FWB/polyamory relationships. when it ends, you don't just go back to casually fucking and having fun With a FWB, you can :p…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 02:34 PM
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the prize is a lie I agree with this. I agree that it's how things work, in general. I don't even expect to be any exception. I just choose to take calculated risks despite the general rule, because that makes life less tedious for me. go make a really, really good friend with a woman Tried that, always failed :( One particular friendship lasted about 11 years, but I think it lasted mainly because we were mutually "useful" to each other. I wouldn't trust her to show up on time, let alone help me…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 12:34 PM
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I mentioned dogs because I think dogs love more sincerely than most humans, regardless of gender. as long as people treat it for what it is, but they don't. It's the same reason people enjoy any fictional work (movies, books, games etc) that sell them the lie. People "want to believe" the lie. I can't say I'm any different. I think life is too short to not at least try for "the lie". If you don't gamble, you don't lose, but you also can't win. This is just how I see it. My personal motto is "do …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 11:37 AM
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I think every man should be provided their own sexbot if they can't afford one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 10:07 AM
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MGTOW often say dogs are better than women, and they're not wrong. I find it impossible to hate anything around a happy dog that's excited to hang out with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 09:58 AM
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i've always hated myself and several girls still "loved" me. i don't believe love is real anyway, Self-hatred makes you hide the real you away, and you could actually be successful with that frame for awhile. People will love the person they think you are, but not really love you for the actual "you", so their love is .. "fake" in a way. I'm not saying show your vulnerability either. Have a frame, but also work on yourself in private, and improve until you become that frame for real. This all so…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 09:48 AM
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no one will ever love me again You have to start by giving yourself some love first. Like getting help that you need. I know this sounds stupid .. but people don't love you if you don't love yourself. People suck like that. People suck in general, actually (including me, I guess :p). One of the best advice anyone has given me in life is: "be the change you want". If everyone sucks, then don't suck like them. This actually will help you attract people who don't suck. Improve yourself, remove all …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 09:22 AM
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yeah you're right, a female ruined my life I'm sorry. i'll stop taking it out on you Eh, I can take it :p i'll just fucking kill myself like i constant fantasize about. good day. No. Seriously: get help. Also, fuck that bitch. The best revenge is living well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 09:05 AM
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if you're going to complain about me doing it I did not complain. Maybe it's a matter of semantics, but you're assuming I'm complaining when I'm not. If your accusations weren't so entertaining, I wouldn't continue to reply you. its not like you made up anything specific I'm just going by the context of what you said. Given your reaction, I don't think I'm far off the mark. It's not about "a girl hurt you", either. It's about "hurt you so bad, that you're taking it out on internet strangers". it…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 08:52 AM
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please don't make up stuff about me I never said that. I said you're assuming. Feel free to continue making up stuff about me, actually. here is a bunch of stuff i made up about you Why not? You can dish it out, but can't take it? :p
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 08:42 AM
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You sound like someone who got burned badly by some woman before, and you're now projecting her "fucked up"-ness onto every other woman who remotely says anything that reminds you of her being a psycho-bitch. You also sound like you still have her in your life, which is why this burn is still so raw on you. Anyway, to address your concerns: got engaged to people you didn't really want to Pro-tip: don't pull surprise public proposals to pressure your girlfriend to marry you. If she doesn't want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/17 08:22 AM
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leaving three fiances? Huh? I'm not engaged with my current guy, and we're still together. We're both just talking about it because we're in our mid 30s. you aren't remotely normal, you're fucked up lol So.. in your world, marrying someone you don't want to commit your life to is the right thing to do? If taking marriage vows seriously enough to back out when I have doubts is fucked up, then I'm happy to be fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/17 01:52 PM
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Relationship "truths" are sometimes a matter of perspective. My ex'es would all agree with you, too. Objectively, a judgment of myself from my own perspective will always be biased, so any opinion I have is trivial.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/17 11:19 AM
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That's just on par with being a normie :p
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/17 10:43 AM
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If babies were all grown in tanks/pods, and everyone had equal rights to making babies, someone will still find something "unfair" to whine about.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/17 03:17 AM
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Define the goal posts, then. Because I'm obviously not following what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/17 02:56 AM
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as something you "want" Whatever someone "wants", doesn't mean they are entitled to it at all. In the context of a date: two adults who have agreed to go on a date will want to maximize their chances for establishing a relationship. I'm not suggesting faking interest. If there's genuine interest, I'd rather he doesn't hold back -- and I'm only speaking for myself. Also, I don't personally do fancy first dates/meetup. I prefer something cost-free/minimal cost for both parties. Until you've establ…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/17 02:23 AM
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Because genuine attraction from one side simply turns on the green lights, and doesn't guarantee reciprocation. I was just offering a woman's perspective in the context of the OP's topic. I'm questioning my communication skills now, as guys seem to have interpreted what I said like it was a pro-tip on how to get the wimminz.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/17 10:09 PM
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No man (average or otherwise) is strongly attracted to every "healthy woman of breeding age", because that's just hunger for pizza. But maybe my perspective is limited because I like pineapple on my pizza.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/17 09:42 PM
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being too appreciative of a not-too-remarkable woman prostating yourself at the feet of an average girl I'm not saying "fake it" or "put her on a pedestal" lol I'm saying genuine attraction is obvious from a woman's perspective. why should one give a woman who hasn't much going for her the unique special snowflake treatment? You shouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/17 09:28 PM
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Most guys act that way towards sex with most women. The thirsty ones, yes. Make up makes little difference with average men. Makeup, when applied with skill, can turn "ugly" into "pretty", and "pretty" into "gorgeous". Average men just don't know how it works :p
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/17 09:20 PM
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What you're describing is lack of discrimination -- general thirst, or general pedestalization of women. The PUA strategy of negging is supposed to help avoid this, to make the guy seem less thirsty. What I'm talking about is genuine strong attraction between two people who are compatible for an LTR. Perhaps a better analogy is the difference between a guy looking at a wrapped present (most people love presents, I assume :p), and his expression after unwrapping that present to find that it's som…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/17 09:03 PM
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“she's a healthy female of breeding age, she's good enough”. This is what turns me off fastest, especially during the first date/meeting. I don't want to be someone's "good enough". Even if they don't say these words out loud, I can tell by the way they look at me. When you're a guy's idea of "total knockout", he doesn't just look at you like a box of steaming pizza -- he looks at you like an addict seeing his drug of choice. Even if he keeps his expression cool and smooth noises come out of his…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/17 11:09 AM
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Thanks, updated my flair!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/17 04:59 PM
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I don't know! lol What do you call a lapsed-Catholic girl who wants to learn how to wife properly because the love of her life is talking about marriage, and she has a history of ditching fiancés, because she's marriage-phobic? I lingered at the "RedPillWomen" sub for awhile, but all the family-oriented trad-con baby-making stuff there is just not my thing. I feel like a lost mongrel sitting in a dog show -- the confused weirdo who don't care about the award ribbons that everyone's so excited ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/17 07:55 AM
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Intimacy is important to anyone, and sex is just one of the many ways to experience intimacy. Sex by itself isn't necessarily intimate, either. Some people just enjoy sex for the physical pleasure. I think sexual needs is less about gender, and more about sexual compatibility -- whether asexual, low/high libido, kink-driven, etc Biologically, there's also the "sexual peak" to consider. Here's an article that might be of interest: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4539874/ There are se…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 10:34 AM
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I think it's sexist to validate/encourage first world problems like being "inappropriately verbally complimented" or being defined by gender ("female"). Sticks and stones, and bon(er)s. It's as if people hate themselves so much, that they're desperate to find anything to project that self-hatred on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/17 09:55 AM
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When experiencing doom and gloom, the path of least resistance is to get online to find company for your misery. So are these people correct? They are probably correct in the context of themselves. Unless you're exactly like them, it likely doesn't apply to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 09:50 AM
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I am not sure what these anecdote based threads are supposed to prove. Not meant to "prove" anything. I was just sharing what I read there, because it seems like we're reading very different things from the same sub. I don't read the angst stuff, because empty vessels making noise isn't worth my time. Just offering a different perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 09:24 AM
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They do, actually. It's why I browse there, since I have no use for "male dating strategy" :p I didn't save threads specific to "scientific differences", but I could share some random threads that I've found interesting (in general), if you want to know what I read on there -- feel free to ignore this, of course, since I have no idea if this is useful/interesting to you -- https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/6mfaex/what_i_learned_from_not_reading_the_redpill_for_a/ https://www.reddit.co…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 09:11 AM
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As a woman working in a male-dominated industry, it would be ridiculous of me to completely disagree with you. I'm not dismissing your viewpoint at all. I'm just saying it's not always about absolutes. I also think censorship of something like TRP would only sweep the stereotype-related issues (for both men and women, really) it addresses under the proverbial rug. It would just fester and manifest in other ways until it's addressed. I don't see TRP as a bad way to bring some of the issues to lig…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 08:36 AM
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Morally questionable, yes. But not morally wrong. TRP isn't going to make someone more misogynistic than they already are, imo. Any decent person I know who is aware of TRP have said it's useful in some ways, but also silly and angsty in many ways. Most people don't mindlessly believe "truths" when real life experience says different. I'm aware that this is just my anecdote, but I also don't believe that the people I know are all exceptions to the general norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 08:02 AM
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No? Things you've said (partial quotes just to point out which paragraphs I'm referring to) : TRP has a habit of being anti-science.. promoting sexism based on dubious "evidence" and promoting overgeneralizations .. This is not about telling TRPillers to change their ways and be "PC".. ^ Your OP's main beef seems to be about TRP = promoting sexism. This assumes that everyone who reads TRP will take it as validation to hate women. I'm saying this isn't true. TRP (the concepts/etc) is just a tool,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 07:26 AM
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It's a logical fallacy to assume that every redpill-er is a misogynistic mouth-breather who would mindlessly "swallow" everything they're fed in TRP.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/17 06:40 AM
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That's true. Perhaps it's my religious upbringing influencing me, but I would never shame someone for inexperience, regardless of their gender. A quality man with low n-count could simply have been very selective of partners. Of course such men are rare, but they do exist, especially if they come from affluent families, and their "family name" is on the line. Also, a sexually inexperienced man who is intelligent, attentive, and empathic, tends to be an amazing lover, because he doesn't have prec…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 06:01 AM
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my sun and stars lol! I can't wait for the new season starting this weekend :D
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 09:27 PM
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I do think it's strange that we claim it doesn't effect men, at all. Yeah, it's the one thing I don't understand RP-wise, because I've seen that impaired pair-bonding in men all too often in real life, especially the multi-plate spinners that get too interested when they found out I'm bisexual.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 09:17 PM
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Sorry, I was just commenting in general, not disagreeing with your post. I should've clarified that.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 09:02 PM
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Haha yeah dogs are like cuddly fuzzy happiness-generators on legs! I didn't realize this until I cared for a dog for a friend while they were away on vacation. I didn't get any time to brood about anything with a cold wet nose constantly attacking me adorably.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 08:52 PM
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As a non-American, the obsession Americans seem to have with defending high n-counts -- especially when justifying it for men, while shaming women for it -- is a mystery to me. Madonna-whore complex, perhaps? I'm not talking about the RP concept where "pair bonding is impaired" -- I completely agree with that. I'm talking about pretending that men aren't affected negatively by it, as much as women.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 08:39 PM
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Spend time with a dog. Either your dog, or the dog of someone you know, or go make new friends at the dog park lol It's impossible for me to be upset around a happy waggy-tailed slobbering dog. Organize quality time with friends who share the same hobbies. Get together to do something you all enjoy -- ideally an activity that provides an excuse for exercise (hiking/etc). Exercise always helps lift my mood, and doing it with good company makes the exercise non-tedious. Learn a new skill, or learn…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 06:25 PM
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men escalating quickly or making a bold overt/sexual move ^ not just this alone, but combine it with their lack of sensitivity to / awareness(?) of body language, and/or their body language not matching with what they're saying. Personally, I've never used the word "creepy" to describe someone else. I just call it gross, because being touched in a sexual manner by someone I'm not attracted to makes my skin crawl. I've actually been called "creepy" before, for just being myself -- being "too quie…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/17 06:23 AM
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Jeez, "Lesbian Bed Death" is such a morbid term for something related to sex, I doubt it could even sell necrophilia porn. I brought my ceremonial scythe and everything, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/17 05:31 PM
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Thanks for sharing this.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 05:08 AM
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"crabs in a bucket" mentality This cracks me up, because I've always described it this way when I'm cornered to explain my lack of close female friends. I thought maybe I'm just too much of a freak to know how to fit in properly. It's not for a lack of trying, either. It really makes me sad I don't have close female friends, no matter how I try to reach out and connect. I know how to get along in general, and close friendships would always start out great for a few weeks or more, then my lack of…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 04:45 AM
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Care to add pigs to the skies in that prediction? Heavy-duty drones delivering lively potential-bacon to the masses could probably be quite lucrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/17 09:38 PM
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put himself into situations where temptation is a real possibility This is a matter of integrity, imo. If a man can't master himself, he has no business being my master :p I also view it as my responsibility to remain attractive to him. It's not just my looks that I work hard on, I strive to always improve on what I can offer him as his partner. We always find more things to appreciate about each other, whenever we compare each other to other people, and we openly talk about this. You're somehow…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/17 09:02 PM
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you seemed to word it in such a way Haha I know, I'm sorry. I did edit for clarity, but I think I was a few minutes late. I mentioned cheating because it seems to be the concern in the OP (I think?), and cheating is something I literally don't "bother to do", because it seems such a hassle, to me.. but then again I've avoided marriage so far. assuming you were too intimate with another man And this would be a wrong assumption, which would be the reason for the dumping.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/17 06:48 PM
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Yes, I'm talking about impressions and perceptions. A person with paranoia means my perception of that person's worth is lowered. Whether anyone else is "better" or not, is irrelevant, because a person I perceive as of low value means I lose attraction to them. In such a situation, I'd just outright dump them and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/17 06:23 PM
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Keep in mind that forbidden things are always more attractive than they really are. Besides, if my man could be "stolen" by someone else, I no longer want him -- and vice versa. We both approach everything with abundance mentality. I personally think paranoia and insecurity is a self-fulfilling prophecy too, because it affects your partner's (subconscious?) perception of you. A paranoid man would be constantly giving me the impression that he's so inferior that I could easily find someone better…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/17 06:16 PM
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Are they all over each other in public? No, but there's always quick kisses and hand squeezing, and other small gestures of affection. Can you tell from their body language and nonverbals that there is just a lot of intensity/passion/fire there Definitely. They're both in their late 30s, but their interaction with each other are like teenagers who are each other's first loves. I think they've been together almost a decade now, approx. that they probably have mind-blowingly intense sex I met them…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/17 08:20 AM
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1: In a relationship/marriage, does the intensity/passion/fire ALWAYS die? It'll die if you stopped "dating" each other. By "dating" I mean continue to put in the effort you initially put in to attract/be attractive to them. 2: Do you know any couples for whom the intensity/passion/fire NEVER died? Just one couple I know, and they've gone through a lot together. They always make time for each other, for "dating"/romance. As far as I've observed, they are the exception and not the norm. 3: And wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/17 07:57 AM
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I find it highly entertaining that you're accusing me of projection (what am I projecting, exactly?) when you're the one projecting your wild assumptions on me. It's not my concern that you don't believe what I say. We are both too irrelevant to each others' lives for any of this to matter. I'm sorry life has been so cruel to you, that you'd react this way to a total stranger, in a thread that's been deleted half a day ago -- in case you haven't noticed, it's just you and me in a ghost of a thre…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 05:59 PM
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I'm so confused what you're getting at. But I've always respected your posts in this sub, so I will indulge you: My definition of n-count is how many different penises have entered my body. I have no idea what your definition of n-count is, because I'm lost trying to follow what you mean. I mentioned LTRs because I thought you were laughing at my unrealistic preferences or something. LTRs are not n-counts. Ever since I lost my virginity more than a decade ago, I've always freely talked about my …
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 02:21 PM
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I'm confiscating your laughing gas.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 02:47 AM
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What? I'm East Asian. I've only had LTRs, shortest one lasted 2-ish years, longest one lasted 6 years. Is this so abnormal?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 02:01 AM
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Yes. My own n-count is under 5, because I stubbornly kept my virginity until my mid 20s (until I was old enough to know wtf I was doing, because I've grown up around the consequences of people who didn't know what they were doing). Risk of diseases is a huge factor, but anyone who doesn't share my values regarding sex is fundamentally incompatible with me anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/17 01:31 AM
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You are assuming that all submissive women want to submit to any man. "Inspire to submit" is not the same thing as "fulfill a fetish/gender role". I don't even agree with "naturally" submissive/dominant. Submission and dominance are not traits that can be applied with broad strokes in life, unless you're (general "you") an idiot. People who constantly proclaim how "alpha" they are, are the most obvious idiots, imo. I'm submissive in a relationship with a dominant man, but outside my relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 05:51 AM
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A dominant man who prefers to lead in a relationship wouldn't pair up with a woman who is against submitting, because that would just be silly. This is why I chose the words "inspire his woman", and not "inspire any woman" :p
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 05:11 AM
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A dominant man will inspire his woman to submit. A man with no insecurities nor ego problems will not feel threatened by a woman who is perfectly capable of functioning on her own. A dominant man with no insecurities nor ego problems will inspire a woman who is perfectly capable of functioning on her own, to submit herself to him. Most guys in TRP are insecure betas-in-denial, so of course the only women they can manage to tame are the ones who are already docile. Any alpha guy would laugh at yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/17 12:08 AM
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The good news is that I'm very content with my life overall. If this is true, why do you care what Lauren Southern (or anybody) says? She makes it sound like if you don't get it right on the first try, you are a lost cause. You already know how ridiculous this sounds, without me having to point it out to you :P There's no "one true way" to guarantee happiness. But there will always be people who will lecture you on how to live, how to think, and that doing what makes you happy is "wrong". If you…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 10:22 PM
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Thanks! Relationships in general are a lot of trial and error for me, but I use all mistakes as lessons for improvement. I still make mistakes, but at least they're always different ones, so at the very least, it keeps things interesting lol That guy's wallet comment just brought back memories of when I used to work retail to pay for school, observing the antics of overbearing wives towing along their meek husbands (often as their pack mule). Those husbands sometimes make similar self-disparagin…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/17 09:58 AM
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She never brings her wallet when we shop. I never make my man accompany me when I'm shopping for myself. He's not my portable ATM, nor a holder of bags/things. When he takes me out for shopping, he's the one deciding where we go and what we/I buy. I never expect my man to read my mind. Neither of us assume anything. Fearless open communication is something we both highly value, because that makes our relationship stress-free. We've never had an argument/conflict in the 6 years we've known each o…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/17 09:20 PM
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That's a good general rule too, and more fitting for RPW. This is what I appreciate about your posts here! Personally, I don't feel any loss when I scare off guys by asking what they prefer/expect in advance (and discuss mutual needs, etc). After all, one of the perks of dating a 30+ woman is the self-awareness that comes from analyzing all my past experiences. I don't want to date guys who would be intimidated by my need for clear upfront communication, or are turned off by my preferences, or p…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/17 09:05 AM
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Do you consider the man paying the bill as leading? Yes, but not for first dates. This is for when things are on the level of "a promising almost-official relationship". Leading (in my PoV) includes deciding the time/day/venue, making the reservations and general planning, and paying for the date. I'm curious as to how women view this, with the bill, and why. Just speaking for myself (I'm not sure if I'm really RPW) : In a relationship, paying for me (in a social context) is a gesture of "owners…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/17 03:33 AM
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Ahh true. If I was a straight guy who wanted to weed out women with a Princess-complex, without excluding women who are looking for men who can lead .. it would involve some cost to be sure. And I imagine it gets costly the more actively you date to find the right woman. Personally, I just pull all the brakes first, and discuss everything (expectations/needs) in advance. However, most guys (in my experience) run away fast when I do that, because discussions aren't sexy I guess .. :P The few who …
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/17 12:06 AM
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I would never consider anything other than an even split on the bill, especially for a first date My preference for first dates is that they are cost-free for both parties. I don't know why people invest so much on first dates.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/17 11:14 PM
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Natural beauty, empathy, warmth, and creativity are a few feminine traits that I feel are highly attractive in women. These are attractive in men too :p I've found that I'm most compatible with men who offer the same traits I'm bringing to the proverbial table myself -- but that's mainly because I'm childfree, I think.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/17 11:09 PM
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don't like footing the bill This is something that I feel strongly about. I'm always very upfront about my need for a guy to "take charge" of a date, before any dates are planned. If they don't like footing the bill, they can go date someone else instead of wasting my time. If I intend to end the relationship after a date, I'll ask for separate bills and pay for myself. a lot of men have taken on a lot of unattractive feminine traits Yes. For every complaint about "females", I always think "pft,…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/17 10:40 PM
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It's only limiting if you limit yourself to "AWALT!" men for relationships. But since I avoid marriage and don't want/have any children in my life, it's a case of mutual (happy) rejection as far as those AWALT-types are concerned. AWALT is a self-fulfilling prophecy too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/17 05:44 PM
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more accessible to non-religious members I definitely agree with the need for this.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 04:12 AM
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The OP is religious (unless I'm mistaken), and many who post here sometimes quote the bible (lol). It's kind of nice to not have everything politically correct all the time, so I personally don't mind it, but that's just me. I can definitely see your point because I'm non-religious myself, so I'm not dismissing your views at all. I don't think the OP intend to use "God" in any way other than to explain it from his (religious) PoV, because that's his personal values/perspective. I'm sure he welco…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 03:36 AM
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I love this post! This especially gives me much to mentally chew on: One of the areas where men and women differ is that men are more endowed with the "go" emotions such as love, desire, generosity etc whereas women are more endowed with the "stop" emotions such as respect, nurture and maintenance. I've never thought of it that way before. I'm often asked why I enjoy pleasing my man (eager obedience/submission, attentive to his needs, remembering his preferences, etc), and my answer is always si…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 03:22 AM
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From the personal outlook of someone religious, "God" (regardless of which religion) influences how they see things, so they see other people/the world in the context of "God". I'm agnostic (raised religious, no longer actively practicing), and I interpreted the OP's use of "God" in a more abstract sense: "God" = "my personal values" Everyone thinks of their "personal values" as "good/moral/righteous". This is why the reference to "God" in this context is only focused on moral ideals.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 03:10 AM
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Maybe I missed it, as I didn't come across any while idly browsing for the past few weeks. It always irritated me when people whine and complain in your threads in this sub as well :p (those posts have been deleted in the latest thread).
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 02:15 AM
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am trying to navigate the online dating scene am 45 I hate the fact that I am immediately out for having kiddos (don't get me started-I'll cry) You'll likely find more useful advice at r/datingoverthirty While age may not matter for many things, I think the best advice you can get would be from people who speak from actual experience. RPW has good tips on how to vet for the right man and how to maintain a happy marriage/LTR, but most people who post here are younger than you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 01:39 AM
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Alpha/beta/sigma/etc are all only useful terms for character traits, and less useful when describing a person, IMO. I mean, most descriptors in your "Sigma Male" link describes me.. lol Women who engage in LTRs with one of these often get bored of them. Personally, I find men with lots of beta traits (not "beta men", per se) to be prone to stagnating. The dating phase is when they go all-out to "win your love", then when they have "won" it, they expect you to hang around like a piece of furnitur…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 02:01 AM
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One of the "beta" characteristics (according to TRP) is being a good provider, so I imagine that's a basic requirement of a responsible father, especially if the mother is a traditional homemaker. Other "beta" traits are a willingness to compromise, give emotional support/validation/reassurance -- all traits that would be necessary to maintain a healthy family environment, I imagine (I imagine, because I did not grow up in such an environment). Either way, these are not traits I'm interested in …
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 11:49 PM
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I mostly posted this to explore other RPW relationships, what they are like I find that being childfree changes the whole "game" significantly, allowing me to be more long-term compatible with a man with almost no "beta" traits, because he doesn't need to be domesticated for fatherhood. He's "Master" to me, instead of "Captain" :p Maybe this makes me non-RPW, I don't know. (out of curiosity) what is a high RMV male to you personally? what traits does he possess? The most important traits I look …
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 10:28 PM
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that is why you offer help, but don't demand that they use it in a certain way. I've learned that people don't always see the neutrality of general phrases like "offer help", being unable to combine/connect it with "don't give directions". Perhaps Laura Doyle said what she said, because of this?
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 11:40 PM
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If you notice a weak spot in the enemies defense, you tell him about it. The goal is to win the game, not to test what your SO can do the game without any input. Thanks for clarifying the RP stance for this. I thought I badly misunderstood some core RP concepts, since this thread . While I learned some new perspectives from that thread, I was still left confused about the actual RP perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 11:44 AM
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tangibly the outcome is the same but the emotional take-away is different This probably sums up why I don't "get it" lol In my view of the two listed "Options", the problem isn't the translation of the instructions. The puzzle itself is the "problem", and the instructions are just an obstacle. As per the RPW concept, this is for those who want the problem to be solved by their partner. This still holds true (in my PoV) because they solved the puzzle themselves. I cannot relate to feeling a sense…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 02:38 PM
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A closer example I would use is if...your partner said something that upset you and they didn't realise. I would first quietly process why it upset me, and if it's just my own insecurities/viewpoint that's the problem, I'll just quietly fix my mindset myself. If it's something that upsets me because it's related to a tangible problem, I would bring it up by asking his opinion about the tangible problem (I consider my feelings to be my own responsibility to deal with myself). Or if you disagree o…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 01:04 PM
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For me it's just mealtime is not a problem It's a similar construct, which I used to explain a viewpoint (and I probably explained it badly, sorry). Pretty much everything we do in life is "achieving a goal", and the word "problem" is usually used to describe "a difficult goal". The level of difficulty/risks between making breakfast and figuring out how to pry a child out of a car wreck might be different, but you're still working towards a goal, or, solving a big/small "problem". I was specific…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 12:13 PM
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This metaphor is for when there is quite a problem. I agree, but I was using mealtime because I couldn't think of a better universally-relateable example. I'm open to discussing other examples. If it's relevant, I did ramble more regarding the metaphor in this comment thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/6gzlwj/a_little_metaphor_bring_your_captain_the_solution/divpdh8/ I'm pretty fascinated with the different views mentioned, including the parts about mothering, because it's no…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 06:18 AM
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the woman who doesn't know anything about the task but is anxious about it so she starts reminding him about things ^ Maybe this is the part where I cannot relate to. I'm the kind of woman who keeps my mouth shut when I don't have facts (facts = tangible, proven, objective). I don't consider my feelings/guesses/etc as things worth mentioning. Likewise, I consider anxiety unproductive and unhelpful, and never mention it. or the woman who has her particular way of doing the task and starts correct…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 04:17 AM
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No. OP says she collects too many calories, even when making great effort at avoiding them, to the point that it becomes a social problem OP says her diet is perfect and not to be analyzed OP doesn't mention exercise, nor how she's spending her calories this practical helpful advice by u/OwnedAndLoveIt is downvoted for no good reason at all: "Either find witty ways to blow off the comments or find new friends that support you. The "social pressure" is just other people trying to justify their ow…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 01:31 AM
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Sex (the type that feels like a full-body workout) burns a lot of calories. ^^ (I'll show myself out before someone throws a baking tray at me.)
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 12:19 AM
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it's just kind of a missed opportunity to build the relationship. I see what you mean, and I can imagine it would work for building attraction with some guys, but (just my personal irrelevant opinion --) I would always see it as insecurity. While everyone has various insecurities (and that's ok and normal), support for gender insecurity is something I didn't expect to find in an RP sub. Going back to the metaphor, and applying what I understand of RP: RP encourages people to embrace their natura…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 11:50 PM
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I do agree with what you said, which was why I translated "makes him feel masculine, strong, needed" from your previous post as "insecurity". Why would he feel emasculated/weak/unneeded if I simply offered information? Offering information isn't giving orders/direction. Information itself is neutral, as long as you don't present it with implied demands/expectations.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 07:07 AM
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Why not just wait for him to ask? My current man and I have a long history, so we've gotten good at anticipating each others' needs. Sometimes, I think I take it for granted that such things are normal for every couple, I guess lol I just don't like the idea of quashing a man's initiative. Instead of "the problem", how about we use "the breakfast": Offering in advance = You know what he likes for breakfast and what time he wakes up, and you cook it for him before he wakes up. By the time he's fi…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 06:47 AM
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So you're saying that you need to offer help? I offer information to save him time. Men feel achievement when they solve problems He solves problems much faster when he has more information to work with. Let's put it this way: anybody solves problems better when they have more information having to always ask for more information (instead of being given, when its available), is a chore ^ If you don't agree with this premise, then we couldn't productively debate further. I respect you spending yo…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 05:09 AM
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This isn't really a fairytale. This is a whole medieval era, like Chaucer's tales. .. you're referring to a romanticized fictional version of the medieval era. She isn't passive- she is supportive when he asks. That's the equivalent of being a square wheel -- you need to constantly kick it to get it to roll, because it cannot roll by itself. You can offer help without stepping on his balls every time, such as: "This is the problem. What do you think?" wait for his response, then: "I know [some l…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 04:42 AM
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Everybody has weak moments, even the smartest people. There is a difference between an idiot who has no strategy in life to a man who is intelligent and like everybody, has his moments. Sometimes it's longer than just "moments". Sometimes, even the best plans don't turn out as expected, so strategies only go so far (and strategies tend to be better when you collaborate on it, instead of expect him to come up with the solution all by himself, for his ego's sake :p) Sometimes, an "idiot" would get…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 04:10 AM
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just think on it more No no, that would be hamstering! :p Regarding the topic (metaphor) in this thread, I did outright ask my man what he thinks about it (since I'm here for self-improvement, I will always question my own views). He assures me that if he ever feels emasculated (even just the tiniest bit) by anything I did/said, he'd properly chastise me in a most unforgettable phallic manner. You seem like you have a great sense of humor! So do you! Sometimes it's way too serious here, and your…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 02:00 AM
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It's a shame that account's deleted. I've seen some good advice posted in old (archived) threads here by various deleted accounts, and I often wish I could search for more of their posts. My own post history is honestly mostly brainfarts while I'm twiddling my thumbs waiting in transit. I don't even want to look at it myself, so I don't blame you :p
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 07:22 PM
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No, I'm just me. My post history is pretty obvious, I'd think? Is that a good or bad thing? lol
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 06:11 PM
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It is not about whether the man is insecure. Isn't it? If a man is so insecure that he interprets anything non-passive as a threat to his manhood, even the most respectful actions/words would be interpreted negatively.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 05:51 PM
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I would just deal with it myself I do this most of the time. We still discuss things in advance, before making decisions that affect both of us. We also mention things we've resolved on our own, just to keep each other in the loop. I'm having a hard time understanding how men would find this emasculating, unless they're really insecure to start with. My man finds this reduces a lot of stress in his life, and we're always relaxed together because we freely talk about things.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 05:39 PM
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And if I still believed that my man needs my knowledge in order for me to be satisfied with the outcome, In my case, he seeks my knowledge to make a decision that makes him feel satisfied with the outcome. I'm only satisfied when he's satisfied :p "I do not trust you. I do not trust that you are capable of solving the issue without me. I do not trust that you can satisfy me." If this makes sense? It does make sense. It also really depends on personal outlook, I think? Seems to me like there's a …
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 05:27 PM
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In my relationship, even things I accomplish on my own are a reflection of him, as I'm his partner. His masculinity isn't threatened, because he views me as an extension of himself. I don't consider "feel masculine/feminine" when it comes to slaying metaphorical dragons, because you just get that done. It's not a competition when you're on the same team. If I'm the one who came up with the best solution, that just makes me more valuable to his eyes.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 04:37 PM
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In an ACTUAL life or death situation I think all of the above does not apply. Precisely. The metaphor isn't a mundane situation. And if fairy tale situations are suddenly RP-relevant .. then I guess I don't understand RP anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 04:14 PM
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I guess I've never been attracted to insecure men, sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 04:03 PM
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I would really not rather an idiot. He has already proven that he has done well under pressure and adapts to his environment. Spend enough years with the same man, and you'd know that there will always be times when he will be .. less than optimal. The RP term for being optimal is "hold frame". A good "Captain" works hard to "hold frame" in his relationship, and if they're honest with you, they'd say it's mentally and emotionally exhausting when expected to do that all the time. Acceptance of wh…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 04:00 PM
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Why would you want to be with an idiotic knight? As far as the metaphor goes, I would be grateful to ANY knight who would brave the dragon to rescue me :p This is another thing that makes the metaphor not work (in my PoV), when applied to RP.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 03:14 PM
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a smart man will probably ask for the damsel's view/opinion. She won't have to order and direct him So a weary knight who has traveled far, or a less-than-smart but brave knight -- would likely not ask. You're essentially saying knights are disposable, and the damsel should passively wait until a smart one comes along to ask the right questions. Because she doesn't share life-saving information, unless asked first. Btw, all my comments in this thread are simply challenging your metaphor, on the …
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 02:56 PM
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Maybe it's because I never order my man around, that I don't consider the damsel saying "the dragon can only be hurt if you pierce the red scale on its belly" as ordering. That information is life-saving. just wait for him to ask for it and don't order him around If I'm a princess, I don't want men to die for me while I passively wait for them to ask for help/information. Real life equivalent is warning him about something dangerous. I like to keep my man informed, so he can make good decisions …
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 02:27 PM
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My damsel is just offering information that he can use as effectively as a weapon. She's not trying to control what he does. Contributing to the relationship ("pulling your own weight") doesn't mean controlling the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 02:18 PM
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Why do you assume that the damsel is trying to micro-manage or nag or control, when she's just offering information? Is life-saving information so emasculating? I guess he should just be left to fend for himself and maybe die in the process. Are you saying men are disposable? The damsel simply demanding to be saved, and expecting the knight to figure it out on his own -- this doesn't sound entitled to you?
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 02:18 PM
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No knight wants to come home and admit that his success was only because the damsel gave him the cheat sheet. Obviously I suck at being a proper damsel, because I don't want my beloved to risk his life for me when I have the cheat sheet handy. My man would view the cheat sheet as teamwork, instead of emasculation.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 01:15 PM
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I have no problem with the RP advice. I do have a problem with this metaphor :p This "defeat dragon" metaphor requires teamwork for survival and success -- "us against the problem", because it's a matter of life and death (of much greater importance than deciding dinner plans). The real life equivalent would be a life-changing decision.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 01:13 PM
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She says 'Help! I need help, save me!' A damsel really worth his time would observe the dragon for weaknesses in advance, and inform the knight how the dragon can be killed efficiently, with minimal risk of the knight's demise. This ensures the knight's success, and her own rescue. The Knight figures out (or travels to discover) what he needs to do to get past the dragon and saves her This is such a waste of time. Why can't the damsel make use of her time already spent trapped with the dragon, t…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/17 12:59 PM
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Some women prefer to call it "bacon flaps" instead of "pussy", too.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 10:16 PM
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You're not married dummy If all marriages are like yours, only dummies get married.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 08:46 PM
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From your description of his level of stress, he's probably trying his best to secure another job in the country to stay with you. If you know of options, or have suggestions, you could bring it up as a potential solution too. I agree with u/rivertorain 's suggestion about planning a fun outing together. A relaxed setting would be the best way to talk about the relationship in general.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 08:35 PM
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Sometimes the best support is patience and loyalty. Be available to him when he needs you, but also give him some space to work things out himself, instead of constantly prompting him for solutions and reassurances. The thing is, I really, really want to talk to him about this asap. It's driving me crazy. At this uncertain point in his life situation, any "talking" done would only give you empty reassurances at best. It's ultimately a waste of time to talk, until things are more certain. He tend…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 08:06 PM
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Sounds like you have no idea what marriage is actually like Oh, I really have no idea (never married :p). I literally get off on pleasing my man. He's also very good at communicating his needs and preferences to me. Either way, marriages are also as varied as methods of cooking bacon, surely?
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 09:13 AM
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I'm absolutely fascinated how you managed to marry your wife when you're not even comfortable communicating to her how much bacon means to you, that even a single morning of bacon deprivation would make you upset enough to question your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 05:29 AM
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lol Actually, it is a lifetime :p I've had one LTR almost that long. What I meant is don't compare your own timeline to others, because what other people do in their own relationships are ultimately irrelevant to your own relationship needs. If you're someone who needs a faster/slower pace, someone compatible with you would want the same pace.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/17 05:06 AM
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A person who cheats QUIT on their partner. Precisely. I don't know why many people do not see it that way. I know how stupid this sounds, but I also see marriage as a "word of honor" promise to your partner to never give up on them -- a promise that you keep for life, and something you stake your very dignity on. Because of this, I will never understand why people rush for marriage thinking that's their ticket to "happily ever after" (like it's some life achievement), or out of fear -- to confor…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 07:08 PM
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Do all women here rely on their SOs in dangerous situations? Nah, I'm not attracted to those superhero-type guys :p Opinions? Even if you live a safe charmed life, it's always good to prepare for the zombie apocalypse.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 07:24 AM
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I will argue I'm not staying in my comfort zone at all. A "comfort zone" is what/where you feel safe at/doing. For some people, constant traveling and actively participating in social work is their comfort zone. For example, being a digital nomad (which can be a stressful lifestyle for other people) is my personal "comfort zone". In your examples, there's a third option -- "Person 3" is a passionate driven person who helps run Person 1's NGO and is kept busy applying their language skills and kn…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/17 06:03 PM
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Does anyone else take life in a relaxed manner? I don't actively practice any religion, but I was raised religious, and I still retain a lot of religious values that I think are sensible, such as "have faith" (believe in yourself, try your best, and accept that it's beyond your control after that, and there's no point stressing about it). I plan for all likely outcomes, and prepare to adapt to unexpected outcomes. Also, I never view self-improvement as a "little goal" -- it's more of a permanent…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/17 09:42 AM
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deep down I'm so terrified of rejection Being afraid of rejection tends to affect your body language when interacting with people, projecting the message "you won't be interested in me, nothing of interest here, I'm waiting for your rejection", which would influence the way they respond to you. The words you say have a far less impact on their impression of you, compared to that. I'd rather play it safe This also affects your body language. You'd be telling them they're something "to settle for"…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 11:24 PM
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You're not wrong. SMV is defined that way because personality and skills only help when a woman is at least a 6 (a healthy 5 can easily be a 6 with "temporary enhancements" like good makeup). OP says she's 7+, so I'm going with that.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 11:23 PM
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I see people talking about dating for SEVEN years. I'm confused why this matters. Everyone has different priorities and goals. Marriage is not something to aim for with the assumption that it would ensure commitment or happiness. relationships you've seen People I know who married young (22 or younger) tend to end up divorced (or wanting divorce) by the time they reach their mid to late 30s. Not to mention cheating, or trying to have an "open marriage", or staying miserable together because of r…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 08:35 AM
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[Probably unpopular opinion..] Some days, this sub almost feel like r/relationships, so I appreciate OP's post even though it doesn't apply to me (I don't want to reproduce).
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 04:14 AM
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Your "league" is mainly about physical charisma (not exactly your looks alone, but the sum of your appearance, mannerisms, your general "vibe") and your personality (social skills and intellect). And don't write off all "hot" guys as "players", even if they're openly flirtatious with every girl. I'm in an LTR with a hot guy who is a way more awesome monogamous partner for me than any of my fanatically-monogamous ex'es. I find most people receptive to flirtation if you do it with good humor and m…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 03:43 AM
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When you say you tried your best, what sort of strategies did you use? For things that's been bothering me for a long time, and difficult for me to express, I write everything down to organize my thoughts properly (usually on my phone, for easy access and editing), so I can communicate clearly without rambling and losing their attention or confusing them. I might spend days thinking over things, and putting them to words. I might practice it on close friends, and ask them if they understood what…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 12:39 AM
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Personally, I'm keen on cohabitation, but I'm also not all that interested in marriage. If I do marry, it would be more of a celebration of a thriving LTR. The thing is, it's a novelty for me, not an active goal. For someone who is keen on marriage (I get the impression marriage is important to you), I strongly recommend not cohabiting. This thread might be of interest to you: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/6dem19/cohabitation_prior_to_marriage/
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 12:11 AM
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I'm trying to balance his values and mine If I understood correctly, you're saying you don't share the same values? I don't know how else to compromise Just my opinion: there are some things you do not compromise in relationships, and one of those things are your personal values. Someone who is compatible with you for the long term (or for a lifetime) will be someone who (at the very least) shares your values.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 11:54 PM
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I'm not sure handle foot dragging or abuse of my flexibility In general, if you need to apply pressure to a guy to propose/marry you, it's not a good idea to proceed with marriage/cohabitation. Cohabitation is especially a bad idea in this case, and I would not do it, if I were you.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 11:47 PM
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Marriage, like children, are not life-events that fixes any existing relationship problems. Communication sounds like the root of your problems, from the things you've mentioned. For me, if I can't establish fearless open communication with someone I consider my life-partner (usually after trying my best for months), I'm gone as fast as I can pack. I'm not immortal, and my life is too short to waste on someone unworthy of my time.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/17 03:26 PM
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Ahh I see what you mean. I'm the type of person who, when presented with the choice of "Good or bad news first?", I'd pick the bad news first. From what I understand, you're saying "enjoy the good news first" (correct me if I'm wrong). Maybe because of my background (grew up in an environment that's the outcome of a really bad marriage between two people who refuse to divorce), I've always been interested in the "ugly realities", more than anything lol
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 02:59 PM
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You need to be aware, he will never ever be this perfect ever again, so enjoy the attention and the love-goggles. Maybe it's just me, but this sounds pretty bad if you want to keep this guy around as a life-long partner lol The best long term partner becomes increasingly more compatible with you in time, as you learn new things about each other, and you create this "perfect match" together, in time. I believe "true love" is something you build together, not a random thing that fell out of the sk…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 02:37 PM
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any sort of dance where you are very flexible and active in the hip area Yep! Hula dance is great too.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 01:50 PM
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Like I read somewhere on reddit, that dancing doesn't add to a woman's smv unless the guy is already attracted to her. Nah, that's not true at all. Dance, when done with intention to seduce, can turn a 7 into a 10. Especially in low light conditions haha :p Example: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tekB-szWbvc (warning: loud music) Dancing can be both fun to do, and also serves as visual foreplay. Downside: If you're doing that at a club, make sure you're not there alone (ideally be always around…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 12:09 PM
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what would I say if someone asked my opinion You could make your answer a question instead: ask them if they think they have vetted properly, what their relationship has been like so far, etc. -- on a case-by-case basis. Encourage them to think about what's best for themselves, instead of looking for magic formulas/guides to something as variable as relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 02:35 PM
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sympathy was more "I feel bad for you", and empathy was "I know how you feel" ^ This is a great description. Empathy on its own does not include compassion. Sympathy is about compassion. Most people have a combination of both sympathy and empathy, and outwardly it might look like the same thing. There's a lot of misinformation about this, especially the movie/tv trope of "no empathy" = "bad person" -- this isn't true at all. For example, people on the autism spectrum tend to not have empathy bec…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 02:21 PM
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I didn't wait but idk if it was a good thing or not. I don't think there's any "right/wrong" way to do it. IMO, do what is right for you, and not care about other people saying what you should/shouldn't do, because other people aren't the ones living with the consequences of the life decisions you make :p A lot of good things in life also require a leap of faith. You know what they say about the best-laid plans of mice and men.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 12:04 PM
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You got it! Like any other interpersonal skill, it can be learned and fine-tuned through practice. How did you vet for the trait of being grateful and appreciative? I think a lot of it relies on a person's life experience (not age) and whether they have the maturity to process that experience to learn to be grateful for things most people take for granted. Someone who has had a comfortable sheltered life can also be appreciative of what they have by having enough empathy with others to realize t…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 11:28 AM
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Going on vacation reveals so much about a couple's patience, conflict resolution style, and leadership/followership ability. Yes! You said it better than I could.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 04:40 PM
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I suppose one could look at RPW as a fundament, the basic education for all women, but what you specialize in is unique to you. Well said! I'm curious, what do you think is your edge? Flexibility, I think. I don't expect my man to adapt to me; I adapt to him. I quickly pick up on things from observation and interaction, instead of constantly asking for information. This applies to everything from initial conversations to anticipating their needs while living together. The downside (with my ex'es…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 04:18 PM
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looking for someone who doesnt take themselves seriously like him I've found that people who need to say "don't take things so seriously" (and any variation of it) are people who will also say "Just kidding! Why so serious?!" when they say/do anything thoughtlessly, with bad consequences. It's a lack of willingness to take responsibility and no wish to commit themselves to anything. Decent people who actually don't take themselves too seriously, will not go out of their way to declare it. They'l…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 01:01 PM
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simply great qualities in any person of any gender. Passionate people are never boring Yes, exactly! Passion also brings out your individuality, instead of limiting your attraction factor to some "Stepford Wife" stereotype (which I'm sure appeal to some men, but it's not exceptional on its own, imo). In RPW guidelines, there's (imo) a disproportionate obsession with "femininity" that, while it's all nice, it's also rather myopic for life in 2017. For example, I do housework, but I also use home …
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 12:18 PM
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Entirely depends on the individual. When someone describes a woman who is "full of life", they are referring to the attractiveness of a passionate woman. For example, some men are attracted to women who can keep up with them in their passion for adventure. Hiking and mountain biking are hobbies that are fun to do with a partner, and is also a bonding experience. Physical fitness is not only great for health, it can also enhance sexual satisfaction (for example, endurance and flexibility). Having…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 09:58 AM
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Even if you do everything right in the vetting process, people can still change -- especially if their life situation unexpectedly improves, and (for some people) it's goodbye well-intentioned-attempts at maturity and introspection. Of course, cohabitation guarantees nothing. But it's a method (for me) to gather (seemingly trivial) information about a person that would give a pretty good idea of someone's range of inclinations. It's the little things that add up. But that's just me. For anyone w…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 12:09 AM
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but the basic premise is that you are ALREADY happy, but are you OK with what you attract even with your best self? ^ This is contradictory. If you're actually happy, then why wouldn't you be more than just "ok" about it?
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 01:58 PM
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If two adults are honest with each other This is the key factor, imo. Lots of people aren't even honest with themselves :p Both parties would need a certain level of maturity and self-awareness too, on top of honest communication. Worst horror story I know: my own parents :p They married in their late 20s and never cohabited before marriage. Some forms of mental illness are easy to hide when properly diagnosed and correctly medicated, and my dad knew his own (hereditary) illness well enough to m…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 06:12 AM
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Well said, as always! I have something to add to this section: Entering any LTR will require a leap of faith to one degree or another. If you're going after a hot guy who has lots of options, and you want him to seriously consider being exclusive with you and wait for sex, you absolutely need to be able to offer something (that he thinks) no other woman can offer him. In this case, you need to know what your "edge" is -- something unique to you (or at least very rare where you live), and know ho…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 06:23 PM
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Awesomeness! Thanks for all your contributions to this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 09:41 PM
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Ahh, I was wondering about what the actual RPW stance on the topic is. So "token resistance" games aren't RPW, and "no" really means no :p Perhaps that writing could use an update with more specific examples, for better clarity? u/anothdae 's view is certainly common enough in my experience, whenever I was single and looking. I've always wondered about other people's perspectives of such games. Personally, I don't even indulge in "escalation" games. I'd just chalk it up to the guy not being on t…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 09:21 PM
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Long story short, it's irritating when a woman says "no always means no, and if you don't respect that, it's a red flag", then other women (who are also RPW) say "wellllll.... there are times when no means no, and other times it's a "soft" no, or it just means not right now. " This would make a good discussion thread, actually.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 07:17 PM
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Maybe I should've clarified: Because I rarely say "no" in a committed relationship, there's no "soft" or "hard" versions of "no" when I say it. Any sexual boundaries I have in the initial dating stage is for me to protect myself from things like accidental pregnancy (birth control is great, but call me paranoid), or because of health-related reasons (probably TMI: I need a lot of prep before anal). If a guy thinks I'm saying "no" to play games, especially when I always give valid reasons, I'm go…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 07:05 PM
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But realize that you are in the minority. Of course. Most women want to be married and have kids. My flair is intentionally honest to give context to my posts. I expect my opinions to be disregarded as irrelevant by those with different priorities in life. Most women want a man that is at least sometimes aggressive. As far as sexual compatibility goes, I'm only attracted to aggressive men, as I'm aggressive myself. But bashing objects in rage is a huge turn-off for me. First: it doesn't solve th…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 04:18 PM
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Show me a man who never has gotten pissed and been physical with something. They exist in real life. I've had LTR with several, and I'm also in an LTR with such a man now. You can't. Such men don't exist in movies/shows, so I can't link you a youtube of it, I guess. the majority of women absolutely want you to disregard I'm not the majority of women. What the majority does is irrelevant to my private life. I'm just speaking for myself in my post. Your opinion that my preferences are "wrong" seem…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 03:50 PM
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"Red-flags" that would make me immediately dump them: Physically lashing out in anger (at anything, objects/plants/pets/people). Disregard for my boundaries (some guys seem to assume that "no" means "try harder") Other traits don't make it past my initial vetting stage to the "dating" stage.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 12:05 PM
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Someone who isn't subservient to their cat(/s).
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 11:19 AM
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It's ok, I wouldn't be hanging out at redpill subs if I was easily offended or take anything personally. I wasn't sarcastic when I said it was hilarious lol Everyone's entitled to their preferences when choosing their partners, and I don't think of it as discrimination. To me, discrimination is when people who aren't part of my private life are treating me differently just because of my race. It seems to be some weird thing on red pill that they think all western men are going for Asian women Lo…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 08:55 AM
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well some men don't want to stare at an asian's tiny eyes for the rest of their life. My sides..! Laughed myself pink lol I wasn't expecting to find such a comment while reading a thread like this. I've always known my tiny eyes don't fit ideal beauty standards, but I had no idea they were offensive to look at :p
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 07:46 AM
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would make them more excited/motivated Kink does that :p It's how you rock their world and keep them coming back for more. Do it right, and you can change a man to the point where you "alpha-widow" them when you move on (I have no idea what the male equivalent of "alpha-widow" is called lol). But there's also a wide range of kink. Mine's more on the "weirdo" end of things, which makes finding the right man rather difficult when I was single, despite it being a useful filter.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 10:10 AM
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They are able to wait because they secretly have lots of other women on the side "Secretly" doesn't stand up to more than a few weeks of scrutiny, imo. Having plates is pretty obvious, because every human being only has 24 hours to use per day. For what it's worth, I'm sorry you're having so much frustration. What works for me may not work for you, since we're probably attracted to very different types of guys. I have some pretty specific (re: sadistic) kink needs that I bring up on first dates …
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 09:14 AM
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I've lived in various crowded cities, so I can see your point. But if you intend to find a keeper (LTR or marriage), the withholding of sex is also the best way to vet someone's ability to commit. This has worked for me all my adult life (all LTR relationships, most of the time living together, shortest one lasted almost 3 years, longest one lasted 6 years, and I was usually the one who ended those relationships when they couldn't keep up with me and I felt weighted down). [Disclaimer: No idea i…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 04:57 AM
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if the affair was over and none of these were risks Until the test results are conclusive, it is always a risk when your partner stops being sexually exclusive, even for just a one-nighter. Many people aren't even aware they are asymptomatic carriers, so malicious intent isn't even required as a factor. "Blissful" ignorance is how STDs/STIs are so prevalent despite the availability of options to detect and prevent passing it on. Back in my early 20s, I shared an ex (with mutual consent for an op…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 06:47 AM
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guys just want to fuck and dump? Well, if you don't fuck them, they literally can't fuck-and-dump you.. :p
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 01:46 AM
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The potential for STDs/STIs and random pregnancies are far more serious concerns than my feelings/values.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 01:30 AM
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We both have high libidos, so all my nicknames are obscene! He only uses my name (all formal-sounding) when we're not alone. As for swoon: every time. It's less about the words he uses, but more about his voice.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 12:34 AM
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Some creeps will take any acknowledgment as an invitation to bother you more. I find that body language (and tone of voice) speaks louder than any words you say. Meek/shy/docile body language/tone should be limited to only situations involving polite company. Any sketchy situation would require you to channel your inner Sarah Connor or Daenerys Stormborn (of the House Targaryen) by default (just IMO).
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 06:19 PM
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Coolness! I think it's a great feature.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 06:04 PM
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Does it only show up on a thread that you post (where you're the OP) ? I haven't started a new thread anywhere in ages, and I don't see it lol But I know reddit sometimes roll out new features only to a few users at a time, so I can only speculate. Definitely interesting, either way!
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 05:36 PM
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I agree that I'm often too nice to random strangers :p Not because I'm reckless, but I tend to think the best of people unless they go out of their way to show me they don't deserve my consideration. The car guy scenario depends on location and many other factors. I grew up poor (+abusive family, the whole slum package), so I have a well-developed gut instinct for people who mean harm, and those who don't. Many times during my teen years, I had to make my way through some extremely questionable …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 05:24 PM
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I think you're overthinking/overanalyzing things that don't need to be complicated. I think the "range" strongly depends on personal priorities in life, as well. For example, I don't need a rich man as I can make my own money. I just need my man to be financially stable and prudent with expenses. My priorities in a partner is someone who can (at the very least) keep up with me, if not take the lead. He should be someone who wants to go the same direction I want to go in life. Every other trait i…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 06:51 AM
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this question is about utility, NOT social/emotional value. I fix stuff (mostly electrical devices and computers, and anything around the house that you can fix with supplies bought from a hardware store). I'm a fast learner for any required skills that I don't already have. I easily adapt to new/unexpected situations (part of why being a digital nomad suits me), and I'm results-oriented. I get shit done because I'm resourceful with finding solutions. Has reddit always showed how many times a po…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 06:30 AM
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I'd like for everyone to share their own personal links to stimuli that helped a little step with their development. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Handicap_principle The handicap principle is a hypothesis originally proposed in 1975 by Israeli biologist Amotz Zahavi to explain how evolution may lead to "honest" or reliable signaling between animals which have an obvious motivation to bluff or deceive each other. Example: The tail of a peacock makes the peacock more vulnerable to predators, and m…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/17 06:15 PM
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I try to act serious and not be affected by his charisma but it’s driving me crazy inside. I feel like I’m slowly becoming crazy with all of the pentup energy from this. You sound like you're going to explode if you don't find a release valve :p Why not release some of that tension by flirting back the same way? I'm an outrageous person, so [disclaimer] this may not be good advice, but this is how I would flirt back: "How do you make working out look so good!?" "That's because I get to look at y…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 08:36 PM
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Say "no, thank you" with a polite smile, then move away as soon as you can. If you're trapped as a captive audience to their small talk, just keep your responses vague, short, and polite. Body language is very important to not encourage interaction. A few days ago I was walking in the street and some guy asked me if I want a lift in his car. He was much older. I am 22 but look much younger. If you were walking in a bad part of town, he could be concerned for you and is socially awkward about try…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 02:18 PM
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IMO, your post needs to be top comment.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 01:08 PM
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Then you've definitely come to the right sub. The advice here is more often about maintaining a harmonious married family life, but self-improvement tips can be applied to most things in life as well.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 01:04 PM
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First met about 6 years ago, became good friends (met via mutual interests+friends, we were both dating other people at the time), friendship lasted strong for years of daily contact. After a few years, he broke up with his LTR gf and stayed single, I broke up with my LTR bf a couple years afterwards. We started spending more time together since we're both single and are best friends. We always assumed the other only wanted a platonic friendship because we're both dense about picking up signals.…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 12:28 PM
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It certainly has many parallels lol But RPW is more focused on family, I think? I don't fit very well into most RP "guidelines", so don't take my view as typical of RPW, or RPW at all.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 10:44 AM
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I just refuse to let horrible people take the word and what it means to me away from me. For a time, I felt the same way, but.. the cold truth is that words change meaning according to popular use. Language has always been something that evolves according to usage. I would only worry you might be a doormat if you don't practice self care. My choice is based on my preferred relationship dynamic (let's just say I get off on it, and leave it at that :p). I do practice self-care, and practice it so …
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 10:24 AM
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(Probably unpopular opinion) : I think feminism is a good thing that got ruined by women who are rabid man-haters and women who want to dictate what other women should/shouldn't choose to do in life. Feminism used to be a word that stands for giving more choices to women, and also giving women proper education to ensure they make informed choices. Feminism used to be about empowering women without emasculating men. These days, if I'm stupid enough to say that I choose to prioritize my man's need…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 10:02 AM
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To me that's fine, but doesn't mean that I'm allowing him to control me? Think of it from his perspective: as his wife (/wife-to-be), you represent one of his major life-choices (and likewise, he represents your choices, as your husband/to-be). How you present yourself in public is a reflection of him. He's not trying to "control" you in an oppressive way, it's more about him wishing to be proud of you as his chosen life partner. And what if other women notice that, should I tell them because my…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 10:09 AM
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Parents/society should be more concerned about encouraging/educating how to separate fantasy from reality, because this is a basic definition of sanity, and also important for critical thinking. I grew up watching Disney cartoons (like anyone who grew up in the 90s), and I've never taken any of the characters as role models. In fact, I don't have any fictional character as role models. If entertainment is limited to only showing wholesome things, that would be intellectual lobotomy. Good stories…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/17 06:57 AM
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Maybe I'm indifferent to media because I've never been much of a looker. I actually look better now in my 30s than my 20s/teens because I have better grooming skills, and I'm more informed about nutrition and health-related things. I think my ugliest years were my teen years because that's when my cystic acne problems made me look like a pizza gone bad. If you tossed me into a post-apocalypse world with lack of proper food and no skincare/makeup/etc, I'd probably have the looks to wilt a cactus.…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/17 08:03 PM
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But how might you cope with while he does love your look, you've been told that all those women with a different feature than you are conventionally attractive, and men always want them? Are you asking how would I cope if my man said those things to me? If so, I'd cope by telling him to date someone else, because I'm obviously not enough for him lol If you're asking how I'd cope when other people (family/friends/media/etc) tell me I'm not conventionally attractive.. well, from my point of view, …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/17 07:38 PM
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How do you deal with the messages that certain things about you are not feminine, how do you stay feminine and not believe the hype? Rock my natural beauty (optimized health = natural beauty -- this applies to literally anybody, as far as I'm concerned) I only need to be attractive to someone who likes my "type". I don't need to conform to some cultural/popular "standard" because i don't have to be attractive to everybody.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/17 05:56 PM
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It's always said that as women, we should know what we want in life and in a marriage before we enter any relationship with potential. This is the main reason why I didn't want to marry (fully commit) until my late 30s when I'm old enough to (presumably) know what I'm doing. But I have this luxury of time, because if there's anything in life I'm absolutely sure about, it's that I don't want children. could be happy if you didn't have your ideal situation? Minimum happiness requirement would mean…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 12:23 PM
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Thanks for posting them, they are a great resource!
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 11:57 AM
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Can you explain how RP advice helped your relationships? It didn't :p RP stuff is just what I've always done in relationships, but had no idea what it was called, nor how/why it worked. u/loneliness-inc wrote a lot of good posts about marriage and LTR (in this sub) that helped me understand why I craved a certain dynamic, and how others made it work for them, and such. RP is more of a revelation/fascination for me. My relationship priorities (as you can tell from my flair) are not a good fit wit…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 11:38 AM
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I don't "get" this at all. Why does a relationship need a driver, manager or pilot? Isn't the goal to be harmonious partners? That's probably because you're lucky to have met someone who is what people mean when they say "soulmate" (cheesy concept, and people who have not met such a person will say it's a myth because it's something no rational person would believe until it happens to them). Most people don't have fully-compatible relationships, as far as I've observed, and you need to compromis…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/17 07:31 PM
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As always, thanks for sharing your insight! This dynamic has been something I've always had in my relationships (probably greatly influenced by my religious roots), and I learned one thing the hard way (through various live-together LTRs) : This dynamic only works well when both partners are always healthy (mentally and physically). Temporary health-related problems would require some blurring of the roles/responsibilities to help each other, and long-term health-related problems are likely to d…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/17 05:33 AM
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Thanks for the clarification!
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 05:18 AM
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The book was way better. I definitely agree with this! The movie wasn't disappointing for me, but maybe I was too distracted by the eye-candy CG lol Still can't believe we don't have a "sci-fi" movie on the use of thermonuclear weapons. It's sad, yeah. There are thermonuclear weapons used in various movies/shows, but only as weapons, and not much focus on the technology behind it. being child free does that mean you don't want to raise kids or you dont want to have kids? For me, yeah, no kids ev…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 05:08 AM
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If being Red Pilled requires a woman to want children and a wish to marry early, then I definitely don't belong here. I do agree with everything else, which is probably how I ended up here.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 03:49 AM
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Why do you like sci-fi? Is too cringy in my opinion. lol Yes, but "cringy" can describe many shows/movies in any entertainment genre, and even good shows/movies have scenes/dialog that are cringy one way or other. I don't know what shows you have watched, but Dr. Who is an example of popular sci-fi that makes me cringe. I prefer sci-fi that explores "what if" scenarios that are set in space/other planets/involves actual aliens. Two of my all-time favorite sci-fi movies are "Event Horizon" and "S…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 03:33 AM
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A dress with long sleeves, combined with leggings, can be very effective for warmth in a month like May. Something like this.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/17 02:13 AM
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it takes me so long to warm up to a new person because I'm shy lol. I have a lot of friends but I need a lot of space in a relationship, especially at first. I worry this will make, not just him, but other men run away. Uh.. just tell him? Why would he run away? "I need some time before I warm up to a person because I'm super shy, especially in a new relationship" "Oh.. well, waiting around sucks. Good luck with the next guy!" ^ ? :p I've had men wait around after I've said far more outrageous t…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 10:36 PM
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Yeah I'm always disturbed how many people don't bother educating themselves outside of just watching porn. Especially STD/STI prevention, and basic information about human anatomy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 12:31 PM
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crazy weird creativity Doesn't need to be "crazy" or "weird". What I meant is some variety. Different locations, different timing, different approach. Otherwise, what used to set the bedroom on fire becomes as routine as a (still-enjoyable) chore after you've lived together for a few years. This wasn't something I expected until I experienced it lol It's good to let the guy take the lead, but helping him with suggestions would also show enthusiasm.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 12:26 PM
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Socialize via hobbies and interests. Find information for where/when online. Go out often to do things, and you'd have more people to hang out with, than you could shake a stick at. Be selective of the company you choose to keep, or you'd get overwhelmed.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 05:41 AM
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This only applies when you already have a partner, and I don't know if this is RP (honestly, I don't think I'm very RP), but I almost never see this mentioned around here: Improve your sexual creativity. Avoid putting all the burden on your man to come up with new things to try. You also need to be slim and fit to maximize your options for sexual positions. Being knockout-hot helps too. But it's not all about physical things, either. Learn how to dirty talk in the way that he likes. Words you us…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 05:19 AM
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That's completely understandable. I don't watch many shows, but I mainly pick up sci-fi shows because I like the genre. I just think it's refreshing to see female characters who are strongly loyal to the people they love, or to their superiors whom they chose to serve. My favorite female character only shows up in season 2 (Drummer).
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 04:17 PM
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I really like the main cast of female characters in The Expanse. They are very selective of who is worthy of their respect and loyalty, and they are capable of getting things done without clinging to a man. But it's a sci-fi show, so it might not be the genre you'd want to watch.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:56 PM
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oral sex isn't a piece of mediocre chocolate cake that you accept for fear of upsetting your hostess, y'all. My sides! Have left orbit. Tears! Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 04:30 AM
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People are good at putting on their "best face" (best behavior, careful check on mannerisms, appear logical and reasonable, etc) when dating you. That façade will fall apart quickly when you uproot them and drag them out for an adventure. Go for a vacation together for at least 2 weeks, to somewhere far away from where you both live. Don't go out in the middle of nowhere, unless you're both seasoned adventurers lol Go somewhere that provides reasonable safety and comfort, but in a completely for…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 04:02 AM
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It really depends on the individual, imo. I saved mine until the first time I got engaged (a few months before marriage). No regrets! Going for a test drive saved me from an unhappy marriage :p Saving until marriage, or going around "exploring your sexuality", are two different extremes, and like most extremes, the results will tend to be extreme too (glorious/disastrous). I'm not the kind of person who would gamble on that. I was raised religious, and I take marriage too seriously imo. I wouldn…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 04:45 PM
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We've known each other for almost 6 years now (daily contact, hang out often). We only started romancing and sexing each others' brains out this year, and the level of familiarity with each other makes everything kind of mindblowing. He's my age, and we've both had rough patches in life, so, sometimes, a relationship is only logical to attempt when both parties finally have their ducklings in a row to make it happen on a serious level. I'm a digital nomad, so life is a matter of juggling time (a…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 04:21 AM
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As the RP saying goes: Learn how to fish from a fisherman. Don't ask the fishes. You're also asking the wrong fishes here, imo. Are most girls that aren't red pilled at least on some level amused, or maybe intrigued, by guys who can't get a girl? If a guy has been friend zoned by a girl, what goes on in her mind watching him continually fail to attract someone of the opposite sex? I have no idea what goes on in the minds of the typical girl who would "friend zone" a guy while observing his failu…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 10:25 PM
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One funny thing I noticed is that guys who think they know "dating truths" also like to pretend bisexual women don't exist. And guys who encourage women to date guys from their "friend zone", will also get insecure when their girlfriend has a lot of guy friends. Videos like this make me thankful that I cannot relate to such woes :p A person's gender doesn't concern me, if I find them attractive. My "friend zone" is my "vetting zone". I've only heard of "friend zone" problems when social media be…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 09:50 PM
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I'm already dating my ideal man. He's: punctual (life is too short to tolerate people who don't value time) incredibly good looking (to my eyes) great voice (my panties would mysteriously fall off even when he's just reciting a grocery list) not too tall (so I can get kisses and hugs without feeling like a little kid trying to get something out of reach) appreciates me as much as I appreciate him (takes nothing for granted) sexually compatible (high sex drive, kinky) intellectually compatible fi…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 04:51 AM
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If you feel strongly about wanting children, you owe it to yourself to speak up about it with your husband. Don't pressure him, just tell him that it's something that's been on your mind, and you need to at least talk about it, because this topic is directly relevant to his life. I'm childfree. This is a decision I made since highschool, and a decision I stubbornly maintained despite how it limited my options for partners. But I still make "children" through my work (entertainment industry). Aft…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 03:47 AM
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the difference between the intimacy of friendship and the intimacy of sexuality and how they're almost impossible to live together I agree that applies to most relationships, as a good general rule. I think the difference in my case is that I'm not fussy about gender when selecting a partner lol I tend to end up with men, because lesbians tend to not want to date women who swing both ways, which is why you see bisexual women more likely to be dating men (it's kind of a cliche). I'm also a good f…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 08:23 PM
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Quoted from your linked writing (I'm not disagreeing, just pointing out how our different viewpoints don't necessarily conflict) : The stability of marriage and family is the opposite of the fun adventure of sexual lust and drive. You can have both stability and fun lusty adventures, at the same time, surely? Maybe I'm having trouble imagining this because I don't have children (never want to). When sex happens within a LTR, it is able to build and grow and deepen with the passage of time. The s…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 06:16 PM
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That's an interesting analogy, and I've given much thought to what you said. However, I'm having a hard time (I'm not smart lol) imagining how too much excitement could conflict with stability, within a relationship. Perhaps some examples could help me understand better? Different perspectives fascinate me, and I'm always interested to learn how others make things work for them.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 04:43 PM
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Excitement is the opposite of stability Conversely, a steady supply of "excitement" can provide stability, because it negates the need for seeking thrills outside the stable relationship. Sex and commitment, while very important, isn't enough to hold a relationship together if "excitement" isn't there. I've noticed that a relationship is strongest when two people often share moments together that make their hearts pound with adrenaline -- some form of excitement that usually involves physical ac…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 06:40 AM
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According to TRP preachings, I'm already way past my "wall" (because over 30, or is it 25 now? I haven't looked there in awhile), and not to be associated with, or risk erectile dysfunction. I don't go to bars, but I get guys approaching me in random public places to ask me the weirdest questions, or have the most head-scratching small-talk with me (especially when I'm a captive audience belted into a plane seat on a long flight.. ugh). Sometimes I laugh at them, and they'd assume I think they'r…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 08:35 PM
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Monogamy is super rare in relationships where kink is a "lifestyle" (instead of just bedroom roleplay). "Lifestyle" types are usually those in Dominant/submissive or Master/slave relationship dynamics. I've only known one monogamous couple who lasted past a decade. They're my age, and still married, so might last a few more decades too! If you're interested to learn more, Fetlife.com is a great place for info and other resources (join their "Groups" area, for discussions). Most people there are …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 07:57 PM
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Did/do you have such a relationship for the long haul? For me, the shortest one lasted almost 3 years, longest one lasted 6 years. Mostly living together. Breakups are usually because of conflicting life goals (both parties wanting to go different directions in life, to different places), or communication issues (incompatible cultures), or simply not compatible to live together (a combination of many small reasons). Do such relationships tend to last longer or fall apart faster? Neither. IMO, ki…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 06:45 PM
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You see why I had to google that :p I couldn't spell that even if I knew the word.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 06:13 PM
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Wasn't UD, unless that's where wiki got that quote from .. which is likely lol From here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cuckquean
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 06:08 PM
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That's basically the female version of a cuckold, isn't it? Googled result: A cuckquean is a woman with an adulterous husband. In modern English it generally refers to a woman whose fetish is watching, and deriving sexual pleasure from watching, a man having sex with one or several women besides his girlfriend, fiancée, wife or other long-term female sex partner. I have no interest in male cucks, and I don't attract men who want open relationships. The more partners you add to a relationship, th…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 05:53 PM
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However, I've rarely been approached by the alpha male types ^ Sign of either not attractive enough in your appearance, or mannerism/personality. You can make up for the lack of these with a (subtle) display of talent/skill (don't be a show-off, because that will be repulsive at best, or make you look desperate at worst). and rarely go dates with them; when I do I can't seem to keep their interest ^ Definitely sounds like you're lacking in conversation skills, or you're not able to read non-verb…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 02:48 PM
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Thank you for this insightful post! Just speaking for myself (I know this doesn't work for everyone) : I now finally realize why having a bdsm dynamic always resulted in very fulfilling relationships as far as sexual satisfaction and commitment goes. Within the context of that dynamic, sex is something that's always provided (even during the female-monthlies, if he's not squeamish about blood) with excitement and creative enthusiasm, while commitment is always provided, because of the strong (of…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 02:43 AM
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Good leaders will keep you in the loop, even if they have the final say on the decision. Manipulators keep you on a "need to know" basis, so you're easier to manipulate, often using "lying by omission" too. Good leaders will delegate tasks to people who are more qualified to do the job, and are more concerned about the outcome/result, and don't mind that you use your own methods. Manipulators will be control-freaks, getting upset when you don't do things exactly the way they want it done. Good l…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 04:14 PM
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Losing weight takes a lot of dietary discipline. I go to these subs to find ideas on what to cook for my guy (who is trying to reach a healthier weight). Maybe you'd find them useful if you're cooking meals: /r/EatCheapAndHealthy /r/fitmeals r/HealthyFood /r/MealPrepSunday Keto is good for ideas too, but beware of the cheese if you're not doing full keto. /r/ketorecipes I generally don't buy into fad diets, but they are good sources for info. I just use what works for me, and leave the rest. I m…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 01:20 PM
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She just shouldn't be even more terrified by the idea that it's too late. Sorry, wasn't my intention! lol And yeah I meant no more delays. My Ob/Gyn kept reminding me that it's more risky after 32 or so (early 30s, and only for a first-child birth, and he thought I wanted children because I had a long term partner). But I used to have some hormonal issues (now resolved), so perhaps that only applied to me.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 12:46 PM
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I don't disagree that different strategies work for different people, and I can certainly agree that your method would work best for many people. But I'm the kind of person who prefer not to shun anyone my friendship if they were the "wrong gender". And on that regard, it would be very wrong of me to tell my guy "I'm not going to accept you being close friends with other women" lol I strongly believe in fairness. For what it's worth, in all the LTRs that did not work out in my past, cheating was…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 03:32 AM
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want at least 3 kids and want to start trying relatively soon Since you mentioned you want children, you have a biological deadline to consider, and you should not be wasting time on anybody who drags their feet on marriage. Three years is long enough for anyone to decide if and when (specific date) they want to marry, and start putting plans into motion. The women I've personally known who gave birth to their --first-- child in their early 30s, tend to have childbirth complications, and some of…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 01:31 AM
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Things that are "forbidden" becomes more attractive than they really are. I wouldn't forbid my man any friends of any gender, just as he's accepting of me having male friends. We trust each other not to stray nor cheat -- it's as simple as that. If I have even the slightest doubt that he would emotionally/physically betray me, I'd be gone faster than he could come up with an excuse. I know this is probably not aligned with RPW values, but I'd rather die alone than waste any portion of my life de…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 07:48 PM
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are there situations where you should be totally unauthentic? Work environment and work-related situations. No reason to bring up irrelevant things like personal views/values, only to cause conflict with people who feel strongly against it. I also put all my shields up when dealing with anyone I'm blood-related to, because they're the type of people who would kick newborn puppies just for shiggles.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 12:18 AM
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Some people can grow old, but never grow up. Not even in their 40s or 50s. Some people in their 20s, especially with the right life experiences, can be very mature. I tend to be attracted to guys older than me. The youngest I've dated is 3 years younger than me, while the oldest is 22 years my senior. That said, I don't recommend dating with a wide age gap if you're aiming for long term. The wider the age gap, the more difficult it is to bridge differences in "generational culture" (interests, r…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 11:46 PM
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Yeah, I particularly like this part: the Red Pill philosophy isn’t about submitting to all men, all the time, no matter what they want; it’s about using your femininity and SMV to attract a man who’s worth submitting to. This is a great nutshell of RPW. I don't care for anything from TRP, but RPW is a great resource for my goals of self improvement.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 08:00 AM
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Fed-up with being treated like a piece of meat, a Melbourne artist has gone vegetarian in the name of feminism. Madison Griffiths, 22, refuses to eat meat as a way to protest male attitudes towards the 'consumption of women'. She says she has become a vegetarian in a stance of solidarity between women and animals – both of which are seen by men as 'appetising conquests'. What kind of cannibals have she been dating? Also, why is she equating women to animals? That's beyond hilarious.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 06:11 AM
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I think it was a reference about holding off sex for an extended amount of time? I don't know, I can only guess lol Old fashioned for me is holding off on sex much longer than "the social norm" (to the point where potential partners wander off, which is fine by me), and having expectations for the guy to be a gentleman (instead of a pushy posturing "stud"). I only pay for myself in dates when I want to end things, or when I have no intention to reciprocate anything. I notice the trend now is to …
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 05:44 AM
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What a hilarious myopic article! RedPillWomen preaches an old-fashioned approach to relationships. Like, archaic. "RedPillWomen… advise that unless you want to have sex with a man, try to [engage only in] dates that are not conducive to sexual activities," Lauren explains. The article's author says this, as if being old-fashioned is a bad thing lol I have enough experience with LTRs (relationships ranging from 1 year to 6 years) and dating in general, to confidently say being firmly old-fashione…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 10:58 PM
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It was definitely hard to hold back my nuclear meltdown, but only the first time when I put my mind to it. It's definitely easier the next time! I don't believe that bottling strong emotions is good for you, and "STFU" doesn't apply when some things need to be said/action taken. For important topics, it's a lot easier for me to organize thoughts, when I can read the written version first. A lot of communication problems are simply choosing the wrong words, or not thinking clearly enough to expla…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 04:28 PM
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Using a (digital) diary to pour everything into would help the transition from rambling anything that comes to your mind, to be more mindful of what you say. I only speak up immediately for things that need urgent attention, like "please remove yourself from the BBQ grill, because your pants are on fire". Anything that isn't immediate, I'd chew over it in my head first, to organize it properly, and decide if it's worth mentioning (in a TL;DR version) at all. I rarely lose my temper, but I have a…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 02:07 PM
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But, if you will ask a question, be prepared for an answer you don't like. I completely agree with this. But this is also a truth: everyone has weak/sore spots. Weight happen to be OP's weak spot, and her SO knew it, and chose to use it to hurt her (at least, this is what I gather from OP's post). Being honest can be done without being intentionally hurtful to someone you supposedly love. Congrats on your efforts to reach your healthy weight! It's definitely hard. In my relationship, it's my guy…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 01:36 PM
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If my man retaliated that way to any sensitive topic (and I only bring these up politely), I'd pull everything to a screeching halt and re-evaluate if he's worthy of me. I don't mind if my man tells me to lose weight (I'd just work on losing it, no issue), but I wouldn't be ok with him using that as a cheap retaliatory insult -- because that's the kind of behavior exhibited by low quality people. Even if you brought up the sensitive topic without tact, he should've been a better person and not r…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 12:10 PM
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Life situations, preferences, and habits might change, but personal values tend to stay the same once you're past 25. According to my personal observations of people I know, anyway. I'm optimistic enough to think there are always exceptions, but I won't risk any emotional (nor financial) investments on my optimism for exceptions.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 12:34 AM
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Disclaimer: Redpill men turn me off, but I'm here because I find posts here very relevant to maintaining healthy LTRs. I was a stereotypical "catholic virgin" until my mid 20s. I kept my vaginal virginity until I was engaged, and pretty sure I wanted to marry the guy, before giving it up to him. The relationship fell apart when I realized we were very incompatible in bed lol As for the benefits, the biggest benefit for me is: I've never gotten pregnant :p I don't ever want to be a mother, becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 11:02 PM
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A man who commits himself to you for the long term will be patient enough to give you time to learn how to be good in bed. If he has unrealistic expectations and expects you to be amazing from the get-go, I'd drop him faster than I'd drop a rat on fire. Men who are sexually experienced will know that many women find it difficult to orgasm from vaginal penetration, and will want you to show them how you give yourself orgasms, so they can give you orgasms too. It's all about communication and real…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/17 10:34 PM
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