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FIELD REPORTalien_eater289/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 03:53 PM
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alien_eater289/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 07:07 PM
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You’re looking for r/femaledatingstrategy lol, which is toxic as fuck and I think has been banned from Reddit. Not healthy and yeah you’re not gonna find that on redpillwomen.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/24 02:37 AM
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Tbh you will probably get a better response to this question on r/vindicta, but I’ll share my thoughts. There is a moment in every single woman’s life where she will feel this way - whether it’s when you’re 12 years old or 30, when you go through a glow up. Tbh it just takes time to adjust. Keep playing with fashion and makeup in ways that feel fun and comfortable to you. By continuing to engage with the world you’ll grow and learn how to navigate the world and these new situations, even if you …
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/24 07:33 AM
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This is the same for me. It’s shocking how predictable I am with my cycle. I was on the pill for 15 years, went off the pill at the end of 2022, took a while for my cycle to normalize but now it’s like clockwork. During ovulation week my drive is super high. During the following week I basically have no sex drive at all lol. It’s so fascinating
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 06:27 PM
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Lmao I would probably be a little envious just because my husband, as much as I adore him, just isn’t affectionate like that and I soooo wish he was sometimes 😂 but I agree with the other comment, it’s more of a “couple goals” vibe than anything malicious.
/r/RedPillWives24/04/24 10:31 PM
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I’ve posted in this subreddit before about how learning to STFU was the number one thing I did that took my relationship from boyfriend/girlfriend to marriage. It was also my biggest challenge, but it yielded the most results by far. Honestly, the first step for me was understanding that this was the thing I needed to do. And what helped me understand that, was my husband (boyfriend at the time) told me that he couldn’t and wouldn’t put up with my nagging and complaining anymore. So I emotionall…
/r/RedPillWives12/01/24 05:19 AM
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LOL yes that was me! Clearly it’s still on my mind even though it was years ago. The thing that stands out in my memory was my ex telling me that his ex girlfriend was hotter than me. He would tell me stories about how men would just fall over themselves trying to talk to her, would grab her, constantly asked her out even in front of him, etc. When I would become distressed about this (feeling like I wasn’t good enough or fell short of her) he’d just shrug and be like “sorry, I mean, do you want…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 03:37 AM
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Well, for one I can tell you that this would devastate me to the point of probably not being able to continue the relationship in a healthy way. I struggle majorly with self esteem and value attractiveness way too highly; and if my boyfriend/fiance/husband said something like that about a woman that already makes me feel insecure I would never be able to let it go and it would cause fights and anxiety for years lol. In fact my husband made a comment about a model saying he thought she was “perfe…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 11:59 PM
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Sounds to me like you have a super hot boyfriend who loves you! There’s no reason to feel sad about that from my perspective. If you maybe feel like you’re taking opportunities away from him, don’t - he chose you and he’s still choosing to commit to you regardless of who comes to talk to him. Trust his judgment!
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 02:09 AM
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I wonder if you may have a history of eating disorders that you’re projecting onto him? It can be scary to see someone go down a path that may have been damaging for you, but being particular and focused on health and fitness isn’t a bad thing and doesn’t lead everyone into obsession. You have to just trust him on this one. If he’s not neglecting you and your child, or his job, then let him be into fitness. Ask him to teach you some fitness stuff or share what his macros are so you can be more i…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/23 06:50 PM
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Well, if this situation was a whole year ago the moment may have passed but it’s always good to remind your partner that threesomes are just a fantasy for you and you’d appreciate him not trying to make it a reality. And good for you that you recognize that! He may think that if you mentioned it’s a fantasy that maybe you’d be interested in pursuing it if the time was right so gently let him know that that’s not the case. You got this girl. Living in the age of social media it can be so hard mov…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 07:54 PM
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That’s interesting…he kind of brought it up himself tbh. Are threesomes something you guys had discussed/explored previously? Maybe he thought that he was getting a vibe and wanted to take a shot? If your friend was really outgoing he may have misinterpreted her friendliness. When I have flare ups or flashbacks to the time when my husband said that about the model, I can get really overwhelmed and intensely emotional and reactionary. I know that i base a LOT of my self worth on being attractive …
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 07:38 PM
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Hey! I struggle with this kind of thing too. Sorry you’re dealing with this. I know what it’s like to not be able to let something like that go and still get upset about it, even after a year. My husband once admitted to me that he thinks Emily Ratajkowski is “the perfect woman” and to be honest I STILL get upset about that years later lol. My first question is, why did your partner say that? Did you ask him if he was attracted to her and he answered honestly? Or did it come up out of the blue? …
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 05:24 PM
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I actually had a similar thought while watching the movie! For example when she’s texting him “how about we get out of the apartment tonight and get a hotel? My treat” I was like “noooo!!! Stop! Don’t remind him that you outearn him, tell him you need his help with something!” Lol. I mean honestly that guy outed himself as a shitty leader, untalented analyst and all around insecure manchild pretty immediately after her promotion and I was happy for her that they imploded before they ended up act…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/23 05:11 PM
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One of the most powerful things a woman can provide a man is emotional support and connection, “being a soft place to land”. We focus on that a lot here in this sub. Men generally want to play tough around other men, which I get. I think there are certain relationships men can have, like a mentor/mentee relationship, where they can sort of discuss real issues with each other, but overall if a man is gonna get real support I think it’s gonna come from his woman. That’s why when people ask “what c…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/23 05:48 PM
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Nothing happened per se…some subs have a way of tracking where their users comment and if you comment on a sub they don’t like they immediately ban you. I think it’s a way of preventing brigading (for example a liberal politics sub might automatically ban people who are active in conservative subs) but yeah it’s pretty unhealthy
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 01:55 AM
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Nope nope nope. I could never date a man like that. Once he’s an adult and especially once we’re married I expect my husband to be dedicated to me and our family first. Of course that’s not at all to say he shouldn’t be close with his family, but I would be so turned off by a man who couldn’t form his own opinions or go his own way. To me that is a huge sign of weakness and inability to lead, which is pretty much my number one dealbreaker.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 09:41 PM
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My husband and I lived together for years before we got married. To be honest, a big turning point in our relationship happened when I learned to cook his favorite meals (dishes from his culture that take hours to make) - as soon as I did that he became much more serious about me and proposed that same year. I was definitely doing a lot of cleaning, hosting his family, etc as well. So yeah, I would agree that there’s nothing wrong with showing what you can do before getting a ring. However my hu…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 04:43 PM
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I love this post but it’s not gonna get great reception in this subreddit lol. I was a stripper and poker waitress before I got married and have also always used these tactics to be successful at those jobs. I had to brush up on certain rpw aspects to turn my relationship into a marriage (learning to stfu was my biggest challenge and yielded the most results) but yeah, learning how to use the male/female dynamic to your advantage is a huge boon in sex work. But again, this subreddit isn’t going …
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 10:19 PM
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Hahaha this is what I tell myself when I get all dolled up to go out yet get approached by very few men 🥲 I don’t think it’s actually a real phenomenon. The extremely attractive women that I know get approached by damn near everyone.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 08:29 PM
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I don’t completely reject this line of thinking because of course everyone knows someone conventionally physically attractive who has had a very easy time at life - lots of friends, partners, etc. Of course being exceptionally hot will open those doors for you. But looks isn’t the only thing, and that’s where I pause with these arguments. To jump straight to an extreme example- I recently met a guy who had a pretty severe facial deformity. You can’t miss it - his face is quite deformed. He has o…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/23 05:39 AM
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& other stories, arket, reformation, weekend & beyond, aeryne are all good options!
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/23 09:48 PM
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Tbh it sounds like he’s competitive with you about cooking? Since you said he praises his own cooking in an over the top way, and it sounds like he criticizes yours in a very dramatic way too (which sounds so hurtful, I’d be crushed if my husband was like this). Maybe you can try asking him about that…it’s definitely weird and hurtful. Maybe he’s negging you with this, trying to make you feel bad.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 06:25 AM
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You don’t need to keep growing. Just stick to a comfortable weight, or do body weight movements for upper body like push ups, etc. I recommend Pilates for body toning - I do a split of a few days weight training, a few days Pilates, and it works really well for me. I also don’t like looking bulky and people have definitions of bulky that don’t match mine lmao
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/22 05:26 AM
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Blowout your hair! I wash my hair about twice a week and blow it out each time and it just makes such a huge difference in how good I look.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/22 08:31 AM
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So, i agree that you should ask him subtly for feedback during pillow talk after bedroom activities, but if you’re looking for potential ideas to trigger a “next time” - First start by walking through the conversation you were having before you first got that reaction out of him. What were you talking about? Were you laughing at his jokes? Did you touch him, maybe put your hand on his shoulder or leg? Were you playing with your hair? If you can’t remember, I would try any of those things I just …
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/22 04:55 PM
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I like Weekend & Beyond, they’re based in Europe and have a lot of nice feminine things - they also have a fair bit of menswear inspired pieces but don’t let yourself be turned away! There’s also a European brand called Aeryne that I like but they’re a bit pricier. I think a maxi or midi pleated skirt with heeled knee high boots and a nice sweater would be a great feminine winter look if you get actual cold weather :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 04:45 AM
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I just asked my husband for his perspective and he said that he “feels loved and respected, likes having a hot woman to call his own, likes feeling cared for, and wants to grow with a partner and have kids one day”. Which is fairly similar to what your man said. I don’t think the fact that your man specified whether or not he loves you and loves spending time with you necessarily means anything…I don’t think men think in those terms the way women do. There was a thread on this recently.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 09:06 AM
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Does he express being physically attracted to other women at all? Or does he just not talk about that kind of thing?
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/22 02:30 AM
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This is pretty much what I was gonna say - invest in some quality basics in neutral colors. That way you can look casual, feminine and polished very easily. Hard to mess up an outfit when all your stuff matches 😌
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/22 11:25 PM
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I think this happens to everyone now and then. It happened to me before with an ex (actually it has also happened with my husband) and honestly, I just make a note of it and move on. Some people can be hard to buy gifts for, and in those scenarios it may be easier and/or better to gift experiences instead - take them to a new hot restaurant, or to a concert for their favorite band, or to do an activity they’d enjoy. I don’t see what bringing it up to him will do aside from make him feel like he …
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/22 09:45 PM
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I don’t agree that he’s exhibiting learned helplessness because op said that he can cook and clean up after himself, he just doesn’t want to do it for her (or anyone else). I think he’s just kind of selfish and perhaps is afraid of being “taken advantage of”. I agree with the rest of your comment though, he should care a little more.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/22 11:46 PM
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I feel motivated to dress up and look good because people treat me better and I feel better about myself. If you lean into it you might find the same, and that’ll help you get into the habit. And it doesn’t have to be time consuming. Figure out your five minute makeup routine and build out a strong wardrobe that makes it easy to put together a good outfit, and it’ll be easier to incorporate into your life.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/22 01:11 PM
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I’m tall-ish for a woman at 5’9 and I dated a guy once who was 5’7. And I always wore heels around him so I was usually considerably taller than him when we were out. Tbh I kinda liked it because it gave me mafia boss with his hot, tall model wife vibes. I had a friend with a similar issue and I told her that and it changed the way she looked at it lol so hopefully it can help you too.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 03:48 AM
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I’m not the original commenter but I think because when women engage in hookup culture she’s a slut, if she doesn’t she’s a prude; when men partake in hookup culture, the more women they get they’re considered a stud.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/22 04:21 PM
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I don’t know about fun per se, but I’ve been making breakfast stuffed bell peppers almost every day for about a month now, they’re just so good and so easy! Cut a bell pepper in half, bake at 350 F for 15 minutes, then load it with a sprinkle of shredded cheese, crack an egg into it and top it with some sausage or bacon, then bake it for ~25 minutes and voila 😌 so filling and so tasty.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 05:18 AM
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I’m in a pretty similar situation with my husband. We don’t have the same job, but we’re in the same field, and we have the same dynamic you described in your post- for me, work is something I have to do to live in society, for him, work is something he needs for his own self worth and confidence, not to mention he loves his job. When his work isn’t going well, he can become extremely depressed, stressed, and anxious. Personally, I see it as part of his manliness, which I love about him. He take…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 05:16 PM
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This has been my experience as well 😅
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/22 04:55 PM
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What does your husband contribute to the relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/22 01:44 AM
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I’m just a woman in my 20s, but I think something a lot of people don’t realize is that love is a choice. You fall for someone, everything is amazing, and eventually you get comfortable and that brightly burning flame of passion starts to dwindle. People see that as “falling out of love.” But its then that you have to actively choose your partner, every single day. My husband and I have been together for seven years, we just got married a few months ago. During the course of our relationship, we…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/22 09:58 AM
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To be fair, I work a lot less hours than him, and he does help with cleaning as well. I just take on more of the cleaning/cooking.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/22 07:51 AM
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And the French accent 😍
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 07:59 PM
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I’ve recently discovered the food side of YouTube. So many amazing channels with cheap, easy, and delicious recipes. Check out Joshua Weissman, Sisi Jemimah and Helen Rennie!
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 06:19 AM
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It has happened to me in the past. Personally, I understand if someone has an issue with it, and I’m willing to be open and honest about it, talk it through with them, but in the end they have to accept it. If they can’t, that’s okay, but we can’t be together. My husband doesn’t have an issue with it though, so I’m all good there.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 09:02 PM
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I’d say I’m probably…30% trad? I’m not religious, slept around a lot when I was younger, big time party girl, etc, now I’m college educated and making pretty good money. My trad side comes in because I believe in/feel very comfortable with a male-led relationship, I value my role as the woman of the house in that I cook, clean, and support my husband wherever and however I can, I believe in keeping myself fit, feminine and attractive, and I can’t wait to have kids and be a mom.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 07:30 PM
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I started trying to build a quality wardrobe about four years ago, and I feel pretty satisfied with what I have now. I think I must have spent at least a full twelve months doing nothing but watching YouTube videos about this. Look up Lydia Tomlinson and Audrey Coyne, they’re my favorites. Watch videos about building a capsule wardrobe. My advice is, start by identifying your color palette (google “color season analysis”), this will help you figure out which colors you want to buy, which will na…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/22 05:31 AM
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There’s a major logical leap from “men don’t necessarily want sex from someone who gives it up too quickly and easily” to “men hate consensual sex”. I can kind of see where they’re coming from, but just because a man pursues a woman for a period of time and she turns him down at first, that it can never be consensual after that and it’s the “coercion” that turns him on. That’s ridiculous obviously.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 05:59 PM
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My husband is also currently going through an intensely stressful time, so I’ve been treading carefully and being aware of my actions so as not to increase his stress. Things that I’ve been doing: making a conscious effort to not complain, even just off-handedly about small things. giving him lots of space, but when he does express that he wants to talk, I usually drop what I’m doing and make time for him taking care of the small things. Picking up his things without comment (he gets messy when …
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/22 10:53 PM
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I saw a video recently where a person stated: if another human can determine the state of your inner self, is this not the ultimate slavery? I’m not an expert on this topic, but I think the basic advice is to work on becoming comfortable with who you are. This can look like taking time to truly determine your value system, reflect on your beliefs, and commit to living by those - and if someone rejects you based on that, it’s not necessarily a personal rejection but a sign that they don’t align w…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/22 09:30 AM
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The qualities my man has that make him traditionally high value are: - his height - high earning career - very high intelligence - very loyal I think a lot of woman may not recognize him as high value unless they know him because he’s not super fit, he doesn’t necessarily seem “high value” at a glance, but anyone who knows him knows how high value he really is. I mention that only because so many women judge men based on a glance when there can be so much more to the story when you get to know t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 07:09 AM
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I want to preface this by specifying that these are rules I apply to myself and my relationships only - in no way is this universal. In my marriage, I hold myself to a standard of emotional care for my husband and making his life as easy as possible. Making food I know he likes, supporting him in the ways I know he needs (knowing his love languages), and not nagging. In the future, bearing children and primarily caring for them will be included in the duties I expect of myself. I trust in my man…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/22 11:05 AM
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There are several great YouTube channels for this sort of thing. When I first started working on getting in touch with my femininity I listened to Dr. Michelle Daf and Lisa Hart. They give a lot of good tips.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/22 05:38 PM
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I’m also left leaning and I love this sub. I’m so glad the advice here is helping you. Welcome!
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 03:42 AM
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People post about those topics here fairly often, and in a fair bit of detail tbh. I think you’re good to post here!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/22 08:48 PM
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This is not an explicitly conservative sub. I’m left leaning, but still subscribe to rpw - I usually say I’m traditional in my relationship values with my husband but that doesn’t make me conservative. Please don’t bring politics here. I really love that this sub, even if it may be mostly right leaning, doesn’t feel the need to bring politics into it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/22 05:13 PM
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I’m completely open with my husband about everything. Sometimes I think I should be less so, to keep some mystery alive lol. But yeah, he’s my best friend. That doesn’t mean I tell him every detail of everything - when I go out with my girlfriends I don’t feel the need to recount every detail of what we talked about and did, but I would never keep anything from him.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/22 07:43 PM
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I’m similar to you. Raised by my dad to be strong and independent, with a husband who is super sweet and amazing but also seems to need me to clean up after him all the time. I struggled for a long time with my husband’s messiness, before we were married. I used to get so frustrated and upset, I’d ask him to put his coffee cup in the sink in the morning or his clothes in the hamper, and still end up with coffee cups in the most random places and clothes all over the floor. I’d nag, but end up cl…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 08:20 PM
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That is the hardest part, for sure. A big one for me is to use the rpw tactic of “stfu”. When he comes in and he’s in a bad mood, and I feel the need to immediately address it there and then, or if he says something snappy that rubs me the wrong way and I want to respond in kind, I just stfu. Take a second, don’t speak, and let my emotions pass. When the immediate reaction of “ugh, this again??” passes, then I will calmly say something to the effect of, “did you have a tough day?” Or “is somethi…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 10:39 PM
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My husband is very similar. He’s wonderful in every way but he’s highly emotional as well, mostly just with me because he feels safe to be vulnerable around me and he knows that I know how to handle it. I’ll go ahead and throw it out there that if you prefer the “strong silent type” it may not work out long term. But if you love this man and want to make it work, it’ll serve you to learn his moods and how to handle them, just as he (hopefully) does with you. When my husband comes home upset, cra…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 04:56 AM
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Dread game is a trick for men to play though. I’ll admit, I phrased it wrong in my original comment and had a poor understanding of it. But a quick check of red pill YouTube channels shows that it’s a “tactic” to be used on women in order to make her more into you, and it’s purpose is to cause her anxiety that she’s losing you so she’ll chase after you instead of the other way around. I first heard of it through a self-proclaimed red piller who would brag about his “dread game” while he was cons…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/21 06:46 PM
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For dread: if a man is high value, most women already understand he could get another woman any time he wants. It gets talked about all the time in this sub. The insidious part about dread game is that it keeps the woman in a state of anxiety about it. “If I do/don’t do x he’ll leave me.” There’s a difference between understanding that you have to put effort into a relationship and having a fear that if you don’t go to the gym enough or clean the house every single day your partner will leave yo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/21 04:16 PM
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One example is “dread game”. One of the darker aspects of men’s red pill IMO. The idea is that the man constantly hints or displays that he could and would get another woman any time he wants if his woman doesn’t toe the line and do what he wants. Another one is negging, where the man will subtly insult the woman to make her feel insecure and therefore make her want to win his affection or attention.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/21 06:26 AM
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I use it all the time lol. I have a terrible habit of saying mean or passive aggressive things when I’m in a bad mood or if something rubs me the wrong way. I used to just say it, start a fight and deal with the consequences. Now I realize that usually if I just stfu, the feeling of anger or annoyance passes within a few minutes, I don’t ruin the mood, and everything’s great. If it was really a problem and I’m still upset about it after a little while I have calmed down enough to express myself …
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/21 08:08 PM
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If you’re in a relationship with expectations of sex, and you don’t like having sex with him to the point that you avoid it “for as long as possible”, you need to get out of that relationship. To be honest there are multiple red flags in this post. Sex and intimacy are not something you should be “depriving” your partner of, or withholding from them. Of course that doesn’t mean you must have sex with them whenever they ask, if you’re not feeling well or whatever you can express that, but the gen…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/21 05:47 PM
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Not sure why the “red pilled” and “blue pilled” terminology came to refer only to relationships rather than the things you’re mentioning based on the movie. It was just appropriated that way. Wikipedia defines it as “a metaphor for the specific moment [men partaking in the men’s rights movement or the manosphere) come to the belief that certain gender roles they are expected to conform to, such as marriage and monogamy, are intended solely to benefit women, rather than for mutual benefit”. Just …
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 12:06 AM
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I had a problem like this with my fiancé back when we first got together. It’s more common than we’re led to believe and not necessarily a reflection on you. I know it’s so hard not to take it personally but remember that he’s a person with feelings and he’s likely nervous which can really impact performance.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 09:42 PM
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Firstly, I’m so sorry you went through so much trauma as a teen and young adult. That’s really awful. Secondly. I had a very wild past when I was a teenager/early 20s as well. I dated an older man who was very insecure about it. I was very open with him about what kind of things I’d done, how many people I’d slept with, etc and he didn’t take it well - I’m not sure if it was a “special” thing but it seemed to make him feel inferior. And all I can say is, it was a big red flag and manifested itse…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/21 11:11 PM
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Definitely an extremely common viewpoint.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 04:14 PM
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Dr. Michelle is a good one, and Lisa Hart!
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/21 09:10 PM
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I’m a big fan of Move with Nicole on YouTube. I injured my hamstring a few months ago - not as serious as herniated discs, to be fair - but it’s bren really great helping me to lose weight and tone up. As others have said, it’s more about your diet. Your workouts will just help you create more of a deficit to potentially speed up weight loss, and help you tone up, but they aren’t the main driver of weight loss. Focus on maintaining a slight calorie deficit.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/21 06:02 AM
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Audrey Coyne has a video on YouTube called “attractive voice tips”, check that out for help with your voice!
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/21 06:50 PM
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A lot of it is just making the habit and getting over the initial hump of “I don’t wanna”. Maybe try getting a trainer so that you’ll have someone to not only hold you accountable but can also guide you so that you’ll see results faster, which will be a huge motivator. Once you start and start seeing and feeling the benefits and differences in your body you’ll be hooked. And also, find a type of exercise you really enjoy. It doesn’t have to be typical gym stuff. Pilates, boxing, rock climbing, d…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 09:16 PM
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I don’t understand this mindset at all. I’ve lived with my fiancé for a couple of years now, and all of my engaged and married friends lived together before marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/21 07:16 PM
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Dr. Michelle Daf has a good channel about femininity. She’s also a Christian and speaks a lot about having a relationship with god and letting your faith guide you which may appeal to a lot of rpw in this sub. Lisa Hart is another good one. She’s a little on the sensual side but still extremely classy and elegant.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/21 08:39 AM
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I am. She may not have quit but she did make a whole video about how she thought for years she wasn’t able to get pregnant, but once she became more lax about her diet she was able to get pregnant fairly quickly.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 05:49 PM
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One of their most famous models recently quit modeling because it made her unable to get pregnant. She made a video about how she took a few months off modeling, are a normal amount and got pregnant very quickly after not being able to for years.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 06:19 AM
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I’m not sure how old you and your boyfriend are, but you don’t need to settle for someone while you’re in college. So much growth and change takes place after college when you enter the workforce - for a lot of people it officially pushes you out of that young person mindset and finally makes you grow up. If he seems unambitious now, it’ll only get worse when he’s working a 9-5. Just because he’s a nice guy doesn’t mean he has to be the one. But also it is important to not let people get in your…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 03:23 PM
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On YouTube I follow Audrey Coyne and Lydia Tomlinson, they’re both so stylish and fashion forward but still modest.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 10:38 PM
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Yeah, I think you can explicitly offer that. Just don’t be too pushy. Something like, “I’m here for you. If you’d like I can come by and help take care of things, make you lunch, anything. I also understand if you want space right now. Just let me know.”
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/21 07:14 PM
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Check in with him. Let him know you’d like to be there to support him, help handle the little things. If he says he wants time alone or just with his mother and his son, respect that, but try to make yourself available. Follow his lead on this.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/21 05:40 PM
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Wow, I’m so sorry to hear this. Best thing you can do in a situation like this is be empathetic and “hold down the fort”. Make sure that while your boyfriend is handling the fallout from all this, you’re making sure he has food in the fridge, meals cooked, house cleaned, chores taken care of. Basically try to help with all the daily stressors that will cause this situation to be even more overwhelming. Additionally, be empathetic and ready to listen but don’t try to force a conversation until he…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/21 05:08 PM
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I’ve known plenty of men who are 5’8 who have no problem dating, as long as you have other qualities.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 09:49 PM
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Seems like this could easily become an issue though through no real fault of her own. Say her man makes a date at a restaurant for them, she takes a look at the menu online and sees that there’s nothing there she’d be able to eat. This is “making him responsible for finding foods she can safely consume” but it’s also just natural that he tries to set up a date for them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/21 06:38 PM
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I agree with most of the advice here about making him feel like a king, but I think the most important thing is you’ve gotta try to change his perspective. You didn’t settle for him, he won. Out of all the other guys you’ve slept with or gone out with, he’s the best one. This is advice coming from my man. I have a high n-count too that he knows about, but he doesn’t feel insecure about it because he sees it as he won out over all these other guys. Good luck!!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/21 04:23 AM
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I mean I do think she was overreacting a bit, but she looks quite young so that’s normal I guess- but he was also being creepy. The monotone voice and total lack of ability to read social cues (or just not giving a shit in general) made him super creepy.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/21 09:42 PM
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I just looked at your post history and I think this would be a great place for you. Definitely do some research on what the “red pill” is but this particular subreddit is a place to help work through marital problems like what you described in your other post. Basically that user was saying you’re going to push your husband to have the mindset that women (or wives, and domestic life) are life ruiners and he needs to take back his manliness or something. This subreddit focuses on traditionally fe…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/21 06:42 PM
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It’s not wrong at all to enjoy attention and feel an ego boost from a man flirting with you. As long as you don’t cross any boundaries there’s nothing wrong with it. No need to feel guilty. In my opinion (and experience), sometimes it helps fill in the gaps where I don’t feel like I’m getting enough attention from my man, especially when he’s really busy with work, I get a little emotional boost from other men hitting on me - but that doesn’t mean I pursue or allow anything to go too far.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/21 04:51 PM
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Lots of good responses here but I’d also like to suggest Arket. Very fashion forward modest items
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/21 04:16 PM
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Lots of good responses here but I’d also like to suggest Arket. Very fashion forward modest items
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/21 04:16 PM
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An idea might be to find a workout plan that you like, on an app or something, and then you can just complete the workout at a park or in your yard, or something like that. I use the Good Fitness app which has a no equipment version (they recommend resistance bands but it’s not necessary) and I get great results. Could be an option! It’s not a video you have to follow, just an exercise plan that lists sets and reps of different moves.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 04:37 AM
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Can you expand on what you mean by “can’t do” YouTube workouts? Is it an issue with your internet? There are tons of apps and Instagram pages that stream workouts but that might be tough if it’s a problem with your internet. Do you have any experience with exercise? I would recommend buying a pair of dumbbells and going to a park or something to get some exercise in but that depends on if you’re familiar with different weightlifting exercises.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 02:33 AM
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Thank you so much for sharing this! Would you mind expanding on what else you put in meatballs? I make meatballs often and I’ve never thought of adding spinach! I just include bread crumbs, Worcestershire sauce and some spices.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 03:19 PM
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Try edging. Tell him when he thinks he’s about to cum, he has to stop. Once the feeling has subsided you start again, then right before he cums he stops again. Do that over and over for at least thirty mins. There are also numbing creams that will help him he less sensitive you could try.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 04:44 AM
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This is so lovely, thank you for sharing. I’m grateful for my fiancé’s patience and ambition. Today we talked about our plans for the future and I feel so fortunate to have a smart hardworking man in my life.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/21 01:26 AM
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Try Arket, Sezane, & Other Stories, Zara, or Revolve, all online. Super gorgeous feminine options. For inspiration check out Lydia Tomlinson, Audrey Coyne or Coco Beautea on YouTube.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/21 06:24 PM
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Ugh, I had an experience this past weekend that relates to this. I’m in my late 20s, and I was chatting with a woman in her early 20s that I met through a friend. This woman was STUNNING. Perfect body, gorgeous face. She told me she doesn’t work out, never has, never will. My jaw basically dropped because she has a super small waist and big butt and all that. I work out all the time just to keep the slightest curve to my butt and keep my waist cinched. The next day I found myself in a mindset of…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/21 03:41 AM
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I was raised by my dad, who isn’t exactly an old fashioned kind of guy and was actually more of the tough guy biker type, but had some pretty old school ideas about relationships. He encouraged me to go to school but always said that being a SAHM was a very valid and positive life choice; he thinks it’s “nice” when people settle down, get married and have kids fairly young (early to mid twenties), and always said that a woman’s “superpower” is to be sweet and charming to get what we want and tha…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 04:48 AM
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Ok this is a wall of text so I didn’t read every word, but, quick question:is he circumcised? If not it’s very possible you tore his frenulum which can cause a lot of bleeding. It’s not a major injury and will heal.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/21 06:43 AM
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There’s actually a great video specifically addressing this on YouTube. Check out Jamila Musayeva, “how to have good posture and walk elegantly”. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/21 06:45 AM
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Can you cook at least a few basic meals? Can you maintain a clean space, whether that’s a small apartment or a whole house? Are you healthy, emotionally and physically? Do you actively work on being healthy, emotionally and physically? Can you care for someone or something other than yourself, even if that’s a pet or a plant? Are you always trying to grow yourself mentally and expand your horizons? Are you a kind person? Are you overbearing and aggressive or are you soft and feminine? Do you alw…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/21 11:01 PM
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Don’t overthink that. I know this isn’t very “rpw” of me but I don’t really buy into the whole “sex with multiple partners damages pair bonding” thing. I was like you and was very promiscuous for the same reasons and it does not cause issues in my current relationship with my fiancé. What you need to be more concerned about is overcoming and managing your self esteem and body image issues, as well as learning healthy coping mechanisms. That’s what will cause problems in your relationship if not …
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/21 11:58 PM
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I agree with this. When you first start trying to figure this stuff out it can be very time consuming, but once you get comfortable with it it becomes much less stressful. OP, once you get your wardrobe settled and your hair and makeup routine down and figure out the best way to deal with your eating habits, it all becomes easier. Stick with it and be gentle with yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 12:55 AM
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Lol well I guess maybe not always especially since I’m working from home right now, but I try to look my best whenever I leave my house. Now that I’m in the habit of it it’s just part of my routine, but to get into the habit it’s just about creating the time and space in your day to do it. When I have some free time I’ll usually play around with my clothes and come up with nice outfits that I can grab when I’m in a rush and want to look nice. I also have a basic makeup look that is quick and eas…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 06:42 PM
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I love this community. I like that the ladies here encourage us to look inside ourselves and ask what we can do to improve our relationships rather than constantly just telling us “dump him he’s trash”. I was able to apply a lot of the advice from here to my relationship and it took my man and I to the next level. We were struggling at one point but after reading RPW our relationship improved and now we’re engaged. My man specifically attributes my change in behavior to the shift in our relation…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 06:30 AM
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Check out Jamila Musayeva on YouTube. She’s an etiquette consultant and has written a few books on the subject, but you can check out all her videos for free on YouTube!
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 07:51 PM
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I wish I was 5’10. I’m 5’8 and would absolutely love to have those extra two inches. My good friend is 5’10 and not “model” thin (but not overweight either) and let me tell you, she does not have a bit of trouble getting guys. This is a personal problem you’re having and it has nothing to do with height.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 05:48 AM
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I wish I was 5’10. I’m 5’8 and would absolutely love to have those extra two inches. My good friend is 5’10 and not “model” thin (but not overweight either) and let me tell you, she does not have a bit of trouble getting guys. This is a personal problem you’re having and it has nothing to do with height.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 05:48 AM
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Thanks for your response, it’s interesting to get your perspective on this because yeah, you’re gorgeous! I mean, something that really blows a hole in my theory is that my beautiful friend that I mentioned in my original comment, who is also really smiley and sweet, gets approached pretty often. There are some nights that people just flock to her. So vibe definitely has a lot to do with it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/20 05:34 PM
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In my experience it is true. I’ve spoken about this to lots of people and most men confirm that they would sooner approach a more average girl than one that seems unapproachable or otherwise out of their league.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/20 10:10 PM
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No idea if there’s any science behind this, but for some attractive people they’re always valued for their looks and it actually causes them to be hyperaware and hypercritical of the way they look, which can make them have low self esteem. The most beautiful woman I know personally is the sweetest and most down to earth about it, while my other friends (still pretty but not model pretty) are always talking about how so-and-so is clearly into them and how could he think he had a chance? I’ll also…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/20 09:13 PM
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You haven’t had sex with him and you already feel no passion? Plus he’s pressuring you to do something that you’ve made a conscious effort to avoid and overcome? And you’ve only been dating a few weeks? Yeah, time to let that relationship go. Doesn’t seem like you have very much in common.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 10:54 AM
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Audrey Coyne for fashion advice, Tara Radcliffe for cooking, Alexandra's Girly Talk for all things feminine (beauty, fashion, poise), and Jamila Musayeva for etiquette. Highly recommend all of these channels.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 07:57 PM
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Reformation has some cute 'loungewear' that's still very stylish and nice. A little on the pricey side though, but highly recommend it if you're able to afford it!
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 07:49 PM
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How long were you two talking? If you met online during the pandemic, it can't have been for more than a few months. That's not to say your feelings weren't valid or were abnormal, but I agree with the other comment in this thread that says perhaps you started to move a bit too quickly for him. That's okay, it's a learning experience. Also there is a huge, huge difference between someone in their early twenties versus someone in their early thirties so there was most definitely a maturity differ…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 07:27 PM
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I work full time and generally do a little cleaning every day to keep up with the house, and my fiancé cleans on weekends. I do all the grocery shopping and cooking though.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 01:09 AM
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You’ve received some great responses here already, but I’ll chime in. Let’s recap your post: you’re tall, you’re a model so probably very attractive, you’re outgoing, you’re driven and accomplished. And you’re wondering why men your own age don’t approach you? Girl, you’re intimidating in the best way...you seem unattainable because you’re just that awesome. I want to strongly caution you against trying to dull your shine and come off as less intimidating. Older men might be more willing to appr…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 08:45 AM
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I didn’t expect this to get so much attention, but I just want to say THANK YOU EVERYONE!! I appreciate the love and support so much!!
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/20 02:56 AM
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Since so many people are asking I’ll just post it here! Hopefully it’s helpful! I think it all starts with a good sense of self awareness. Obviously it’s hard to check yourself if you lack the awareness in the first place. If you feel that you don’t have a strong sense of self awareness, I’m a big believer in therapy or meditation to bring attention to the self and help you begin to tap in to your own mind. I also found that to stop nagging, I had to let him know, clearly and succinctly, what my…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/20 02:55 AM
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If you can, you should try going to a Pilates studio where they have the reformer machine. I’ve done mat Pilates for years but the reformer really kicks it up a notch! I knew a woman who was a Pilates instructor and I can tell you, she had an incredible figure, posture, and grace
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 10:46 PM
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I think barre would be a great option for what you’re describing. So would Pilates!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 09:29 PM
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Thank you so much!’
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 06:19 PM
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Thank you! I will inbox you!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 06:19 PM
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Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 06:18 PM
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Thank you!!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 06:18 PM
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Thank you so much!!! You will get there! All in its own time ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/20 06:18 PM
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Same here! Also a theatrical romantic! Audrey Coyne (one of my favorite youtubers and with so much to offer from a RPW perspective) did a recent video on this.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 02:30 PM
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For me, I find that changing my outfit/hair/makeup etc helps me to shift mindsets. From work outfit to my gym clothes to my home clothes, it helps me compartmentalize. At home, I try to put something on that is cozy and comfy but also sexy in one way or another - my man likes it when I put my hair in a ponytail, pull my bangs around my face, wear some little short shorts (or form fitting sweatpants) and a tank top, and just wear very light and natural makeup. Then I’ll have a glass of wine or cu…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/20 12:13 AM
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100% this, I feel the same way. Im very attracted to feminine women and manly men - they both have so much to offer and appreciate. Personally, I don’t think you should think too much or too hard about “whether you fit in here” 100% or not. I love this community even though I don’t share all the same values - I share enough that I love coming to this subreddit for advice and input. We don’t all have to think the same way about every issue.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/20 07:35 PM
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I can relate. My LTR went through the biggest and worst rut of his life when he was unemployed a few years ago. It was genuinely awful and he was very, very depressed. We were still able to live on our own - I can’t imagine how much worse he would have been if we’d had to live with his parents. So, regardless of what your boyfriend says, I would definitely assume that he’s depressed right now. However that does not excuse his laziness. The part of your post where you say he was “very masculine a…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/20 03:19 PM
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I’m gonna be honest, pretty much every red flag for cheating is here in what you’ve described. Even if it’s just online. Some people use that as an excuse - maybe this person they’re flirting with is halfway across the world, it’s not like they’re ever gonna meet up, so having a little flirtatious fun is harmless - or so they tell themselves. My advice would be to take a moment to decide what your boundary is, and then enforce it. Be sure of yourself first though or he will make you second guess…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 03:31 PM
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Him requesting screenshots of your conversations while being secretive about his own is a huge red flag for cheating. The fact he doesn’t trust you is projection because he knows he can’t be trusted.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 03:25 PM
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This sounds delicious
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/20 04:12 PM
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I had a dinner win this week. I made shrimp fried rice and when my man finished it he said “...did you really just make this from scratch?” I said what do you mean? He said “it really tastes like restaurant quality”. I was pretty pleased with myself lol, still riding that high. We also made a kbbq inspired galbi beef with kimchi and soba noodles that tasted pretty good - he grilled the beef for that one so it was a team effort.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/20 04:10 PM
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Sigh. We get sooooo many young women saying the same things here. Listen, I was the same way. When I turned 24 I had an anxiety attack on my birthday because I felt like I was getting old. Then when I turned 25, something just....changed. Like a switch flipped for me. I actually felt young again. This might sound dramatic but I felt almost reborn. No longer was I an “old young person,” I suddenly felt like a young adult. Also, let me tell you something. I’m 26 now, almost 27, and I’ve never felt…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/20 11:21 PM
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I’ve gotta admit you are brave for asking this question in RPW, lol. I love this community but I am far from a conservative person myself, I just like being the best wife/girlfriend/woman I can be. So with that said - I’ve been pole dancing for about seven months now and it has changed my life for the better. I love it. I have become so incredibly strong and I can do some amazing things I never thought I’d be able to do and I still have a long way to go. I highly recommend it to anyone who wants…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/20 03:19 PM
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I think if you’re up by 7:30 and you’re not able to make the most of your day, you might try managing the time you already have better. I have the same wake up/bed schedule as you and I’m able to put in a 9 hour work day, workout, cook, clean up a little and spend time with the boyfriend each day. Maybe try a planner or something? If you really want to start getting up earlier I think you might try immediately turning on a light after your alarm goes off, and drinking a tall glass of water right…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 07:23 PM
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I’m not the person you responded to, but there are YouTube channels that talk about stuff like this. Try Charisma on Command to start!
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 05:28 PM
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I just want to chime in on the part about telling him not to worry too much about your needs when you have sex. I told my man the same when we first became intimate. He worried so much about my needs that it was difficult for him to be in the moment, so I told him not to worry- do what makes him feel good and I can take care of myself. It’s not necessarily bad advice but I will say that he kind of swung a little too far in the other direction and can sometimes be a little too selfish and neglect…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 06:04 PM
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I got the strangest craving last night for Polska kielbasa and spaghetti squash. Like I sat straight up in bed and said “I know what I’m going to make for dinner tomorrow.” Sprinkle a little nutmeg on that spaghetti squash (after oven roasting of course). I’m excited.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/20 04:23 PM
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YouTube!
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 01:32 AM
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Monica Bellucci! Agreed there. The definition of sexy but elegant.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 08:20 PM
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Aritzia, madewell, sezane, and & other stories!
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 02:55 AM
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Absolutely! I recently had to reckon with that with my LTR. He has a lower sex drive than me, and though he tries to meet my needs, sometimes I’m left wanting more. For quite a while I had to seriously ask myself if that was something I could live with for the rest of my life, or if I should move on. I came to the conclusion it was something I could live with, after a lot of soul searching and sitting with my thoughts and feelings. But I think I came to that conclusion because he meets my needs …
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/20 02:11 AM
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I agree that people’s needs can be so vastly different. I require a LOT of time and attention and I’m very physically affectionate and don’t hesitate to voice my affections as well. Oddly enough, I tend to go for people who are more reserved in their affections when it comes to affirmations and physical affection, but that doesn’t change that I want to see them every day, and if we can’t see each other for whatever reason, we talk all day through text. I go crazy otherwise, or my connection with…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/20 12:25 AM
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I’m the type who walks around the house naked in front of my man a lot. I can confirm that he got tired of it and actually asked me to wear clothes more often; to keep the mystery alive lol. Seems like a lot of people in this thread feel the same way. So as with everything, moderation is key :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 07:32 PM
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Well it certainly sounds like you’re a victim of their xenophobia, which is incredibly unfair. If you think you’ll be forced to maintain a social relationship with them, which it seems like you will be, I can only recommend that you assert yourself a little more and hold your head up high - from what you’ve written here, it sounds like you have a level of class that they lack. When they begin to speak a language you don’t understand, politely interject - “sorry, what was that?” Stay polite but d…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 12:32 AM
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Taking ownership and responsibility for your health and well being makes you more high value, not less. You said yourself that not taking these meds causes stress and tension with your SO. Seek treatment, take your medication, and don’t allow anyone to make you feel bad for it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 06:21 PM
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My boyfriend is Persian (though I’m not), and obviously loves it when I make Persian food for him. Unfortunately though, Persian food takes hours to make so while we were both working full time in the office I never really had time to learn! So one of the nice things about the lockdown has been that now since I’m working from home, I’ve learned to make a few Persian dishes. Nothing makes his day like coming home from a long day at work to a home smelling like ghormeh sabzi and a hot plate of tah…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/20 05:20 PM
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I’m so sorry. That’s awful. Please just know you have a community here, and hopefully in your personal life, who care for you and want to support you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/20 04:48 PM
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You have some terrible friends. When I was younger I dated a man who was 5’8, I’m 5’9. And he loved it when I rocked my high heels around him. He was totally secure with his height and no one ever said anything to us. One day one of my girlfriends texted me and said she was interested in a guy, but he was an inch shorter than her and she was asking how I dealt with the height difference. “You always seem so confident about it,” she said. I told her that’s because I was confident about it. It nev…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/20 07:29 PM
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Sezane and revolve are my favorites :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/20 01:32 AM
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Is the implication here that women are only as valuable as their SMV? Which only lowers after the age of 20? Because if so, that’s the whole reason we get so many posts here from ~24 year old women expressing distress about “hitting the wall”. In my experience women really don’t start losing their good looks until well into their 30s, first of all, and secondly there really is something to be said for maturity. Have you ever hung out with a 19-21 year old woman? They’re very young. If you’re a m…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/20 05:03 PM
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You have aired two different problems here. The first, how to get rid of bad posture, is something that can be fixed with yoga, Pilates, barre, or just plain exercise. You need to strengthen your core and back. Getting tired after standing straight for a short amount of time is not healthy and you will cause a lot of problems for yourself in the long run. Please start working on that right away, for your own sake. The second is how to build self confidence. That is something that is so often tou…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 06:34 AM
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Excoriation disorder, also known as dermatillomania. It’s a legitimate psychological disorder, if you’re picking to the point of bleeding you should seek professional help. If you google it you might find some coping methods that could help you. Good luck, I also struggle with skin picking.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/20 03:00 AM
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I’ve talked about this on this sub before, but it bears repeating. I used to be aggressively critical of my looks and extremely insecure. Think regular crying, covering mirrors and sometimes refusing to leave the house because I felt too ugly. Those feelings started when I was 13 and continued until I was in my early/mid twenties. I don’t know what it was exactly, but suddenly one day I was in my mid20s with a graduate degree, a full time, well-paying job, a healthy long term relationship, lots …
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/20 06:13 PM
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If it’s at all financially possible for you, I highly recommend getting a trainer. I’ve been a “gym goer” all my life, but getting a trainer completely changed the game for me. Since you’re a total beginner, it’ll be a huge help with keeping you accountable, making sure you don’t hurt yourself, and guiding you through the extremely confusing world of fitness. Trainers can be pricey but I have found trainers that you can do a thirty minute session with once per week for very reasonable prices. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 10:53 PM
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Yes, big agree here. Sezane is a great brand.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 09:56 PM
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I just bought my first bra from Third Love this week and it fits really well! They have a “fit test” on their website to help you figure out your size, although that doesn’t take the place of getting measured - you should definitely do that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 02:17 AM
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For me, I invest in a good razor (nothing too crazy, I love the Gillette Venus), good shaving cream, and use really hot water on the razor when I shave. Always shave with the direction of the hair at first, then reapply the shaving cream and shave against. When you’re done splash with cold water and apply Vaseline to help close the pores so you don’t get bacteria in there which can contribute to razor burn and ingrown hairs. That’s what works for me! I’ve found that the key really is getting a g…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 09:35 PM
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After reading what you said, it sounds like you have all the makings of a “sexy” girl. Hourglass shape, long thick eyelashes...you’ve got it girl. Not sure what your hairstyle is but having long, layered hair would also be helpful. Indian women usually have thick, gorgeous hair. In that case, sexy really is an attitude. But you’ve got to find it within yourself. For me, that usually means watching movies or music videos that feature sexy women. Listening to sexy music. Sometimes you’ve just gott…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/20 04:44 AM
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I'm also curvier and what I've found works best is vintage/pin up style dresses! They were made with your body type in mind. Someone in this thread also mentioned wrap dresses and you can't go wrong with those.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/20 07:12 PM
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I’ve always been the same way. I’ve actually been on the extreme end of the spectrum - I was so insecure and placed so much of my self worth on my looks that I would sometimes cry when I saw an attractive woman or refuse to leave my house because I felt so ugly. Fortunately I can say that that has faded as I’ve gotten older. Having a full time job, a home to care for, and a man to love has made me feel that as long as I stay up on my fitness and beauty routine and look my best I don’t have to ne…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 09:50 PM
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I used to be awkward too. What I did was I spent a couple of years quietly observing charming people. That includes real life people and people on tv, in movies and in books. I took note of charming, smooth small talk and behavior and tried to emulate that in my conversations with men. There’s actually an entire YouTube channel dedicated to this kind of thing - Charisma on Demand. Check it out, maybe it’ll help. In any case, you probably will have to spend a year or two laying low and learning b…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 04:20 AM
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Personally looks are bottom of the barrel for me. I mean I guess if I truly find him unattractive then it wouldn’t work out but looks are some of the last things I care about. Caring too much about good looks will cause you to miss out on some great people. Sounds like you’ve met a pretty ideal man - I’d go for it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/19 08:20 PM
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I recently discovered Mrs. Midwest, and she has this video about how to speak more femininely!
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/19 03:59 PM
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I appreciate this post. I’m a young woman who expects to get married to my long-term boyfriend within the next 2-3 years and have kids a year or two after that. I didn’t have a very traditional family growing up (broken home, messed up mom) and I feel like I can’t even wrap my head around what it’s really like to be a SAHM. My boyfriend knows me better than I know myself and he says I’d be bored to tears without a job, even though personally, I think it sounds amazing.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 04:52 AM
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Personally, I feel my best and most “glowed up” when I’m in touch with my femininity and sensuality, or what I think of as the ‘feminine divine’. I feel completely out of whack and honestly pretty terrible when I’m not in touch with myself in that way. To get there, I pursue a few different things: - Exercise, particularly dancing, yoga, and stretching, makes me feel very sensual and kind of sexy and brightens my mood. Sometimes I just need to go practice my splits and flip my hair around a litt…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/19 03:55 PM
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Honestly; this can also be taken totally wrong by a guy, and I wouldn’t give this advice to most people. Some guys interpret this as controlling. Granted, it might also be a sign that you’re correct about assuming that he’s having thoughts about this other person - just want to caution that this might spark a conversation neither party was prepared for.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 10:55 AM
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