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Thanks babe! Anytime I venture out of fds I regret creating a reddit account but you ladies are worth it. 🥰💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:53 AM
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In case any of those men are reading this - Hi, I only fuck hot men who are taller than me, have big, thick dicks, washboard abs, and huge biceps. I am not attracted to short men, men with small dicks, and men who are fat or out of shape. I could not care less if this makes you feel bad about yourself. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:28 AM
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My ex husband has 4 siblings. They all have different fathers, none of whom are involved in their lives in any way, and his mom gave each kid their sperm donor's last name instead of hers. Couldn't be me. I even struggle with letting the father have an equal say in naming the kid. He's not risking his life to bring them into the world. If I ever have kids I already have their names picked out and I'm not compromising on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:17 AM
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It's also important to know that it is not only men raised by conservatives, by religious parents, etc who are like this. Our culture fosters this attitude and MOST men internalize it to some degree. Not all of them will become abusive. But almost all of them will feel a sense of entitlement and superiority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:02 PM
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Another favorite male redditor circle jerk is how males are actually cleaner than women. It's complete bullshit but they love talking about this one dirty women's restroom they saw once or one woman who they know who is a slob.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 06:10 PM
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I need to know what he looks like. All men feel entitled to beautiful women and most of them don't deserve us because they aren't attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:47 AM
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Why Men Love Bitches advises doing this if your man won't step up. And if he won't do something you've asked him to, ask another man to do it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:43 AM
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Was this inspired by that front page ask men post? Oh wait, I should be more specific because redditors literally circle jerk about this bullshit every other day. None of the men I know irl are like this. They all have tons of friends and family, a variety of hobbies, and rewarding careers. These reddit losers do nothing but post on reddit, play video games, and jerk off and wonder why the world isn't handing them meaningful relationships and money. "No one cares about me," they whine while neve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:52 PM
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I laughed so hard at that. He is super pretentious and that's the saddest song he knows? Jfc, if you're going to act like your music taste is so much better than hers AT LEAST put on a Smiths song or something similarly lugubrious 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:55 AM
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I also think people who talk about how no one stays together anymore don't understand how hard it actually is to make the decision to end a marriage. It's not like people do it after one fight. Personally, divorcing my ex husband was one of the hardest choices I ever made because I still loved him but it was obvious he was never going to change. Three years later, he still hasn't, but I'm flourishing. But according to these idiots I should have stayed with him forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:45 PM
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They're so gross. I told my best friend that men don't wear sunscreen every day and she got this horrified look on her face and said, "Wait, are you serious?" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 11:46 PM
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They hated Gone Girl and Hard Candy so much. Elliot Page said something to the effect of how women have to put up with seeing female victims on TV and in movies all the time, but men freaked out when they were on the receiving end for once. And the men in these films weren't even innocent victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:26 AM
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Yeah, all the defensive responses to critical analysis of beauty culture are so shallow. "I did it for me! It's my choice!" People don't like thinking that they're not 100% in control and don't understand that nothing we do occurs in a vacuum. I wear makeup, have long hair, nails, will probably get botox in the future, etc but I acknowledge that I do this out of patriarchal conditioning. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:42 PM
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Of course you're not overreacting and don't let anyone try to tell you that you are. He didn't get you a Christmas present but he's spending money on this girl? It is 100% inappropriate. You don't need to talk to him, you need to dump him. He's disrespectful and he's not that into you. He's stringing you along. Please take care of yourself and leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:45 AM
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They also pride themselves on not ever fighting with their friends the women do and it's like...yeah, I would never have arguments with my friends either if we never discussed anything of substance and only got together to watch football and drink beer. No shit you never fight with your friends. You hardly even know who they are as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:41 PM
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"The One That Got Away" happens to them because they have their Dream Girl but maybe she weighs ten pounds more than he'd prefer or he likes blondes but she's brunette. So he think that since he already got her, it must be easy to get another one like her but with bigger boobs or whatever. He proceeds to dump Dream Girl but then gets hit with the reality that what he had with her was rare and special and that Dream Girl 2.0 does not exist. Or she exists but she wants nothing to do with him. Mean…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 02:30 AM
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Yeah I meet sooooo many men who are hung up on ex girlfriends or ex wives, often from a long time ago. My hypothesis is that since they only ever form shallow bonds with other males, they don't have anyone to talk to help them get over the breakup and talk sense into them the way women do with our girlfriends. Their friends' idea of helping them get over a breakup is taking them to a strip club when what they really need is someone who will listen to them and reassure them. So they stay obsessiv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 02:21 AM
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The amount of praise he got for that post is so depressing. He doesn't even view women as people but his fellow men are calling him mature for his age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 07:33 PM
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Wow what the fuuuuuck, I'm glad you dumped him. He totally tried to use you. I bet you anything that if you hadn't been laid off he still would have eventually suggested you move in with him and pay half.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 06:43 AM
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I'd guess it's a case of manic pixie dream girl appeal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:52 AM
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Yeah the men I date always tell me their guy friends tell them "Good job!" and the like after they meet me. It honestly makes me feel gross, like I'm a prize heifer or something. They aren't basing it on my personality at all because they don't know me and I am extremely stand-offish with men I'm not dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 05:49 AM
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They pay every time until you are in a serious long-term relationship and even then he should still have no problem paying for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 03:03 AM
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I'm adopted and I've had men say they only want kids that are their own because it's just not the same when they aren't "actually yours", which results in me instantly dumping them. It's extremely insulting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:54 AM
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These are the same men who will yank their dicks into uselessness while in a relationship. They hate that we use toys but it's 100% ok to constantly wank it to porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:28 AM
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No, he's with an older woman who he apparently resents for being more mature than him. He's a stoner and a gamer manchild. Also, what the fuck is up with men and the "midlife crisis". What does that even mean and why does it happen to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:44 AM
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My dad yelled at my school's principal because she didn't want to punish the boy who sexually harassed me. I have no idea what he said, but apparently he made her cry and she changed her mind and expelled him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:33 AM
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Men don't care. Men use rape as a weapon against women. When invading a territory men will rape the local women. Do you think educating these men will prevent rape? Of course not. They know it's bad, that's why they do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 04:18 PM
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I've never lived with a man I was not married to and during our marriage he happily paid all the bills. Seems like clownery to do anything else. Men are providers and if a man doesn't want to provide he can be in very loving relationship with his hand. Before marriage was invented the men who couldn't provide and protect did not have access to women. Marriage was invented so that every man, even the losers, could have a woman. And now look where we are. Refuse to date men who won't provide. Prov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 09:39 PM
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I think a lot of them REALLY want the validation. It's like all the women who post nudes on reddit. There is absolutely nothing they get out of it other than knowing redditors think they're hot. It's really sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:22 AM
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One thing that really made me no longer want anything serious with a man is how often I notice men checking me out when they are with their wives and girlfriends. They can't even give her that much respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 06:21 PM
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This looks like projection to me because almost none of it applies to me or my single female friends but all of it except the vibrator and cats applies to the single men I know. Also, what is the two blue check thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:24 AM
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Ah yes, my daily reminder to not date gamers. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:18 AM
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Yeah, I briefly dated a guy who would storm around, yell, and throw small things when he was mad. And he would get mad over very minor things. It was never directed at me but when I told my mom about it she said it would only be a matter of time before it was directed at me. When we parted ways he admitted that he has anger issues and should not be dating until he gets therapy and learns to deal with his anger in a healthy way, so at least there's that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:07 AM
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Last I checked I had over 3000 OLD likes. But according to them I've hit the wall because I'm in my mid 30s and men are repulsed by me 😂 It's all projection and cope. They can't handle that we are more desirable than they are and have men throwing themselves at us, taking us on actual dates, and buying us gifts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:26 AM
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That's exactly what she's saying. She's not being a pickme, she's being snarky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:20 PM
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Yeah exactly. If you're going to just give up like this at least fucking GET something out of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:56 PM
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This is mgtow/waatgm fiction. A man wrote this. They LOVE stories about women who were involved in the sex industry getting dumped by good men when the men find out about their past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 06:09 PM
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Not a movie, but the show Killing Eve is excellent. The main characters are both women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:13 AM
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This is one of the biggest lies I see repeated on reddit. No, women don't just need to be slender to be considered attractive. If that were the case instagram models, regular models, and actresses wouldn't bother with having healthy, long, shiny hair, white teeth, lip fillers, botox, perky breasts, perfect makeup, etc. These men are liars. If this were true they would be happy chasing skinny plain Janes. But they're obviously not. The women they lust after all put A LOT of effort into their appe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 11:42 PM
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I agree with that definition 100% The masculine men I've dated are like that. I love it and it definitely earns my respect. I honestly can't stand men who are not like that. The men who need to be told to do every little thing or just passively wait for someone else to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:25 AM
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I'm always funnier than the men I date. Always. Last guy I dated told me I'm the funniest person he's ever met. When men say they want a woman with a sense of humor, they don't mean a woman who is funny on her own. They mean a woman who will laugh at their Adam Sandler-esque middle school tier "jokes". And they generally do not appreciate clever, witty humor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:30 PM
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Not related but your username is awesome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:16 PM
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I'm so proud of her! He thought she didn't mean it and decided to pull her hair one more time like the obnoxious little manchild he is. And now he's lost his wife. Fucking dumbass. 😂 This is why we need to keep them on their toes! They need to never think that no matter what they do you'll stay with them. He obviously does not respect her but thought she was full of shit when she threatened divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:11 PM
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I know it's hard but please remember that most men on reddit are EXTREMELY low value, sex-obsessed, and just plain stupid. The men I've been in relationships with feel closer to me after sex. They want to cuddle. They don't like it when I get out of bed to go pee or get water and want me to come back as soon as I'm done. A good man will not feel anything but love and affection toward you after sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 10:36 PM
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Men: women are basic NPCs, they all like the same stuff Every man's OLD profile: I like sports, travel, video games, fishing, and hiking! Looking for a gorgeous woman to go on adventures with! Bonus points if you like scotch and IPAS. quote from some dumbass bro movie picture of him at Machu Pichu Seriously, they are all SO FUCKING BORING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:35 PM
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You're getting hate for this but you are right. We've known about the negative effects of excessive body fat for a very long time and new research is still coming out, especially about how adipose tissue effects hormones. Some overweight people get lucky and never develop joint problems, diabetes, heart disease, sleep apnea, and cancers. But there are some smokers who never develop lung cancer, and I don't see anyone in denial about smoking being unhealthy. None of this is misogynistic, it's rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:11 AM
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Men complain about this sub and think we are being manipulative, but what choice do we have when this is how they are? If we are honest about our feelings and show them how much we like them, it pushes them away. But somehow women are the complicated, irrational sex. You can't make this shit up. Why Men Love Bitches gets it right. Be friendly and sweet, but aloof. Don't reveal too much about yourself. NEVER ask a man out. Don't jump to respond to his texts. Don't always be available for dates. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:26 PM
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The number of men who try to get me watch football with them and then get confused when I tell them I will if they watch the Great British Baking Show with me is too damn high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 04:33 PM
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I know because my ex husband was like this and after I left him I went back to our house a few months later to get some things I had left there. It was a disgusting mess. He had not cleaned at all. The can of diet coke I had been drinking the night before I left was still right where I left it. The floor in the bedroom was barely visible. Trash everywhere. They will just live in their own filth. If you are in this situation, he won't ever get better. You need to leave. Let him rule as the goblin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 04:12 PM
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I've never had a man ask me on a walk date. Might be because I'm in my 30s and it would be pretty pathetic for a grown man in his 30s to not take a woman on a real date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 04:25 AM
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Yeah I'm the same way. It's hard to pull back but when I did I realized how many of them don't care about getting to know me as a person or just suck at having a conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 07:20 PM
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Some of the ugliest men have the absolute MOST to say about women's appearance and will pick apart gorgeous women. Until that stops I don't care about their woes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:06 PM
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That's exactly it! Men think rejection is shaming them. This sub is seriously the only place I've ever seen a lot of women openly discuss not liking small dicks. Everywhere else it seems like women are bending over backwards to reassure men that "Size doesn't matter!" So I really don't think men are constantly being bombarded by women shaming them. Stating preferences and having standards is what they're actually upset about...apparently women have to be open to dating a man regardless of what h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:04 PM
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No sweetheart you are not overreacting at all. He violated your boundaries during an intimate, vulnerable moment. I know it hurts but you did the right thing. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 06:34 AM
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It's all literally just dating advice you would get from your grandmother 😂 Stay salty, haters. I'll keep on enjoying my dates with men who actually care enough about me to pay for my dinners, open doors, bring me flowers, and treat me like a queen. PS, I don't hold men to standards that I don't even meet. Because of this, I'm allowed to have sky-high standards and reject men who don't meet them. Be fit, eat well, have a variety of hobbies (not video games!), have a career, dress well, and gener…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:54 PM
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That was an incredibly frustrating comment section to read and just reminded how socially inept the average male redditor is. Notice how they were all hung up on semantics ("You weren't in a relationship!") instead of the reality of their situation and the boundaries that were set. It does not matter that they were not in a relationship, what matters is the terms for their dating life they both agreed on, which was exclusivity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 05:35 PM
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Men have spent centuries telling us we are intuitive and that intuition, not logic, is our strength. And then when we actually use our intuition they call us crazy and insecure. We can't win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:03 AM
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Imagine being this thirsty for attention from society's bottom tier of men 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:46 PM
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JP would be great for lvm who want to improve themselves because he preaches tidiness, personal accountability, growth, etc. He has some views that make me side eye him a bit, like not believing in climate change. I've heard he has some misogynistic beliefs too but I don't know for sure. Also a lot of his fanboys have attitudes toward women that are toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:50 AM
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The boy mom thing is so dumb and annoying. I have no idea why giving birth to a boy would make someone feel special. As an aside, have you noticed that it is completely normal for people to say they would never want daughters, but if you say you'd never want sons people get offended or think you're insane? I once dated a guy who told me his mom was happy she never had daughters. I told him I was the opposite, I never want sons. He got upset and offended 😂 So the takeaway is that it's ok for peop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:33 PM
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Donald Glover has a standup bit about that. He says that it's weird that you never hear women describe their exes as crazy, but then he realized that if a woman has a crazy ex, she's probably dead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 05:40 PM
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She is full of shit. My ex husband proposed in a similar way and our marriage was a nightmare. If he doesn't care enough to propose in a meaningful way, he doesn't care much about you. And the whole point of love languages is to know how your partner feels loved and act accordingly, NOT to just bombard them with your love language and expect them to be ok with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 02:50 PM
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Cioran was important though. His position was that life is suffering and death is inescapable, so it is immoral to create new life because that new life will suffer and eventually die. He also called fatherhood a crime. I've read a lot of Cioran and it's pretty disingenuous to present these quotes with no context as if he just thought pregnancy was icky, like the screenshot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:49 PM
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Men are the sex who are known for having entire conversations consisting of nothing but movie quotes and they are often proud of it. The projection here is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 04:53 AM
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He could have supported her by just giving her money. You know, like an actual friend and not a creepy disgusting cheater. He's 100% lying and was definitely in it for the nudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:04 AM
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No that was Sean Penn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 08:46 PM
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I started it this year and my skin has had a hard time adjusting. It is definitely doing what it is supposed to do but the redness and flakiness is very real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 01:03 AM
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It's...interesting (and gross!) that you've met some men who seem to have some weird breeding fetish involving tall women, but most men don't and never have had a preference for tall women. That's the point I was making.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 08:13 PM
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Sorry, but men have always preferred shorter women. They don't get their ideals of female beauty from fashion models and they never have. Aside from Victoria's Secret models, most men don't even seem to find fashion models attractive. It has always been the standard for models to be tall but it has never ever been a beauty standard for women. Models need to be tall to better show off the clothes, it's not about beauty. I'm saying this as a tall woman in my mid thirties. I don't recall a time in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 04:26 AM
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I know I shouldn't ever be surprised by male bullshit, but I somehow always am. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:09 AM
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I think in this picture it's more about her posture, clothes, hair, and no makeup. But the idiot who wrote this doesn't realize that, so he decided to body-shame her. If she went out dolled up he wouldn't have said that. Men say they like women who don't wear makeup and can just chill in sweats, but when we actually do that this is what happens!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:32 AM
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Did this happen in 2020? Because I wonder if he got covid-spooked. That just seems so strange that he would bend down but then not get it for you, you know? Maybe he thought you wouldn't want a stranger touching your soup or your hand when he gave it to you? Idk. Not making excuses for the guy, maybe he is just an asshole, but that's just really fucking weird!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:13 AM
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Any man in my life would at least offer to carry that water up the stairs for me. And I do mean any, including my elderly father and various other older and even disabled men. This guy is a major asshole and I bet he's like this with everyone. He probably doesn't even hold doors open for people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:01 AM
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My boyfriend is like this! He does not try to get me into sports because I told him I already know I don't care about them. And he's open to doing things I like that he has never tried. This Sunday we are going to do one of those wine and painting classes (his idea!) and a fancy fun pumpkin patch. He's not really a sip wine and paint guy or a Halloween guy, but he knows how much I love painting and Halloween, so why not try it with me? A HVM will do his best to make you happy, not turn you into …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:39 AM
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That's such a good point. A lot of this is stuff that benefits male sexuality. Notice how it doesn't say to go see male strippers or hire a male prostitute or watch men on onlyfans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:04 AM
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Uh, garbage collecting and sanitation services in general are super important jobs. Do you want trash just piling up everywhere? And they actually do get paid decently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:27 PM
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Exactly this. The moms think that a girlfriend and eventually wife will take care of their sons. I once dated a 35 year old guy (I'm also in my 30s) and his mom, who had always been a traditional stay-at-home mom, asked me when I was going to teach him how to clean. He was not messy or gross by any means, his house just was not super tidy all the time. But yeah...that obviously rubbed me the wrong way and when I told him about it he laughed and told me that he was not my responsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:02 PM
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Yeah no, sorry but this IS actually fucking crazy, low-value behavior. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure he sucks too, but showing up at your fiance's job during his shift and demanding that he marry you on the spot is not something a stable, well-adjusted person does. She should have just waited until they are in private to tell him she's leaving instead of making a spectacle and airing their dirty laundry in public.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 07:47 AM
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Yep. My boyfriend has a six pack and he's a wonderful man who makes me laugh all the time. We go to the gym together and on our own. If you're a couch potato then fine, don't date someone who has a lifestyle that isn't compatible with yours. But don't try to convince me that you actually prefer fat dudes who don't take care of themselves to men who do. I'm not buying it. Also, cuddling a muscular, cut man is every bit as comfy as cuddling a man with a dad bod. I honestly just think people tell t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 06:46 AM
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I agree, in my healthy relationships the honeymoon phase never ended. It's no coincidence that people say the honeymoon phase lasts 3 months. 3 months is about how long someone can fake effort and even a personality. It's not that the honeymoon phase ends, it's that the man was never who you thought he was in those first 3 months and now you're seeing who you're actually dating for the first time and it's disappointing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 12:27 AM
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I agree, it is insulting. I've seen a few comments on this sub putting down living in a van and it's like...Ok, if you don't want that, fine, but not everyone has the same values and philosophies toward life. I don't need a house and I'd rather own something useful to live and travel in than fork over my hard-earned money to a landlord. I know many people who live in vans, including one couple, and they are all wonderful. Just because it's an unconventional lifestyle choice that doesn't appeal t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:33 PM
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Lol. I've dated van guys and I've considered it myself. To each their own. It does not make someone low value. If a person's van-dwelling lifestyle does not appeal to you, your core values might not align with theirs and it would not be a good match anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:17 PM
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I think some people are just hardwired to be more sensitive and empathetic. As a kid I was like your brother (and I still am), while my sister has very few empathy skills. My parents didn't really teach us empathy or compassion because they do not value those traits and do not have much themselves, so I probably am just like this naturally. But I also think it is very possible to teach kindness, compassion, and empathy and even if they don't come naturally to someone, most people still have the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:22 PM
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No one is blaming little girls for wanting to dress a certain way. She's saying that PATRIARCHAL VALUES cause it. Obviously little girls don't know better and they're just trying to dress how they see older women dress. And older women dress that way because patriarchy tells women that the most valuable thing we have to offer and the most important thing about us is our physical appearance and that our physical appearance needs to appeal to men. This is very basic radical feminist theory. Even i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 07:43 PM
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100%. I don't have kids but when there are kids in my life who I care about I spoil them and want to do things that make them happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:12 AM
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It was awful. I had been out of town visiting my family for months and was planning on staying longer, so I was really looking forward to flying home to him for his birthday. I missed him a lot. But every time I called him to nail down concrete plans he didn't really say much. So finally I told him, hey, I need to buy my plane ticket soon, let me know what's going on. And then he told me he didn't really want me to come because he was already planning something with all his friends (including hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 07:09 PM
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That is a great point and you just made me realize that a good personality should be the bare minimum we require from a man (or anyone we allow into our lives!). You don't get cookies for being kind, sweet, loyal, responsible, etc. That should all be a given if you want to date. If you aren't there yet, work on it until you are there. We all obviously have flaws and I'm not saying they have to be perfect but they should be striving to be the best they can be, always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:57 PM
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Maybe! If you live in a major city in the Pacific Northwest I'd say there's a good chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:05 PM
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It's so so incredibly painful to see them ultimately treat their friends better than they treat you . The final straw for me was when he didn't want me at his birthday because one of his friends who I had major issues with was going to be there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:03 PM
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I said the same thing about my ex husband. The divorce was emotionally awful because I was losing my best friend. I was done with him as a husband but we still had a lot of great times and a lot of fun. He still did sweet, thoughtful things for me from time to time. But yes, like your ex, mine couldn't step up when it mattered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:54 PM
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I think women tend to get over breakups quickly because most of the time by the time we actually break up with the guy we've been unhappy and checked out of the relationship for awhile. So when it's over it's kind of just a huge relief. Also we can instantly just go out and get male attention if we want it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 07:39 PM
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It's funny because as much as men LOVE justifying their shit behavior with "But it's in our nature!" they sure do get pissy when things that are actually the way they developed as a sex are brought up and it's not in their favor. The males of most species ARE disposable. Take it up with mother nature if you want to cry about it but that is just reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 07:27 PM
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Ask yourself if you'd want someone to treat your mom (or any woman in your life who you love and respect) the way you're about to treat a woman. If the answer is no, re-evaluate your behavior. Remember that we are people, just like you. In your life you will meet shitty women and women who do shitty things. But just as with men, that doesn't mean all women are like that. There are high value women and if you ever want to land one you need to be a high value man. Work on your goals and do well in…
/r/askFDS25/08/20 04:38 AM
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That's actually a really great smartass way to talk about it with him before leaving him. Tell him "Well, you're giving money to these other women for their nudes, so I think I deserve compensation for sex and seeing me naked irl. Oh you don't agree? Thought so, have fun with your divorce lawyer and onlyfans girls in Alaska."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 08:39 PM
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They also want us to have feminine energy and then completely devalue feminine traits and mock us for being empathetic, nurturing, and caring. You can't win, so don't even play their game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 08:25 PM
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I love this sub, you ladies crack me up. This comment has me actually laughing. 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:17 AM
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Preach. My boyfriend is almost forty and he wakes up at 5 every day, even on weekends, to workout for an hour. And that is exactly what I want in a partner, someone who cares about their body and appearance and who can keep up with me physically. No couch potatoes, no dad bods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 07:48 AM
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Wooooahhhh I had no idea. OF COURSE there's more to the story than just "Cardi B drugged and robbed men". When that came out the were posts about it on the front page every day full of men talking shit about her because that's what happens on reddit anytime a woman commits a crime typically committed by men. But they never mentioned why she did it. Typical reddit scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 08:49 PM
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Unrelated but I love your username 😂💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 08:44 PM
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Nobody is defending Cardi B drugging and robbing men, but you can easily replace her name with another female rapper who is open about her sexuality and everything still applies. Men hate women and they hate our sexuality even though they are obsessed with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 08:16 PM
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It's definitely a throwback to when getting married was THE lifetime goal for women. Now it just seems super cringey and makes it seem like everyone who participates is desperate to get married. I would not do this at my wedding and I never take part when I go to weddings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 08:08 PM
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Am I crazy or are no women losing their minds over the fact that to be muscular you have to work out a lot. We're not stupid. Maybe men don't know that their favorite porn actresses aren't naturally perfect with no effort put into their appearances but women definitely know that it takes work to look good. Gym, hair salon, nail salon, nice clothes, shaving/waxing, makeup...color me unimpressed and unsurprised when it takes men 8-12 hours per week to have a nice physique.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:16 AM
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Just your average redditors upset that women aren't swooning over their dad bods while still expecting us to look like ig models, which we can't really do without surgery and/or photoshop. But yeah, keep whining about how the buff men we like are using steroids and how none of us want your short, bald, pudgy asses. This platform is a male clown convention, I swear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:00 AM
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Yeah earlier this year I was being courted by a man who seemed high value. We had been dating less than a month and he planned a huge Valentine's Day for me that involved going out of town. It was all very thoughtful but also expensive and too much for having only known each other a few weeks. When I ended things a few weeks later I saw his ugly loser side when he started complaining about the friend zone and talking about how no other man would put as much effort into courting me as he had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:34 PM
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When I was still OLD I was amazed at how many flabby men with dad bods messaged me. I'm in shape and I'm slender. I don't want to date a couch potato because I'm active. They really do feel entitled to a beautiful thin woman even if they are overweight themselves. My boyfriend is really fit and works out daily, which is exactly what I want in a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:39 PM
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Right. I think it all boils down to what you want out of life and where you're at. For awhile after my divorce this was all I wanted and that's what I did. I needed time to heal and sort myself out but I still wanted to be taken on dates and have fun. And now I'm at a point where this sounds extremely unappealing because I'm ready for more. And it sounds like that's what you want too. It's probably also what your friends actually want but boys your age are largely awful, so they tell themselves …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:44 PM
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Yeah what she's describing is kind of the ideal high school dating experience. Nothing serious, just having fun and not getting bogged down with relationship stuff while you're young. I'm in my 30s and I would not want this now, but as a teen this would have been great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:27 PM
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Why are you getting downvoted. This sub needs to get its act together. OP, you fucked up when you kept talking to him after he demanded you meet him. And then you texted him a paragraph after HE rejected YOU. This is not FDS material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:02 PM
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Yes!!! I LOVE doom and sludge and black metal and I don't fit into the box those men want to put me in either. I also love yoga, painting my nails and doing my hair, going to art museums, and camping. I am a complex person. I can be super girly, I can be smart and sophisticated and classy, I can be earthy and spiritual, etc. I feel like a lot of men think of women as high school stereotypes and not actual people. I get manic-pixie dreamgirled A LOT and it's because these men live in a fucking fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 09:52 PM
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I honestly have been getting sick of this sub because of all the posts and comments from women who don't really seem like they belong here. I'm also REALLY over all the posts looking for validation for witty retorts to LVM on dating apps. Girl, no one cares that you "put him in his place" and it honestly just comes across as pathetic that you kept talking to a man who disrespected you instead of instantly blocking him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 09:02 PM
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Same with me, tall and slender with very small bone structure. Always with the model comments. Honestly I just think if you have some obvious trait that makes you stand out people will comment on it. I don't particularly like the comments about my weight and how tiny I am, even though they're compliments, but whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:26 PM
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I'm the same way. In high school I had so many crushes on good-looking guys who ended up having terrible personalities. After finding out that they were douchebags, my attraction completely disappeared. But most men pretty much only care about looks, so a woman can have a rotten personality and as long as she's hot they'll still want her. Puddles have more depth than the average man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 05:42 AM
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Oh got it. That's so common with them and I think it's gross. They share nudes they receive too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 08:18 PM
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Because there are enough Cool Girls who will go along with it. Based on what I read from the women of Reddit, there was a greater chance that she would have laughed and sent him a nude than block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 08:04 PM
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I am of the opinion that any woman should be able to talk about it because we are all negatively impacted by it and it is ruining dating, relationships, marriages and lives. I'm sick of porn being shoved down my throat and I'm sick of being expected to be ok with strip clubs. I'm sick of the normalization of this stuff. I don't want to raise my future daughters in this world. We as women are under zero obligation to go along with the whole "don't talk over sex workers!" thing when so many choice…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 07:43 PM
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Irl I've seriously never paid for a date and I've never heard a man complain about paying for women, but Reddit is full of low value manboys who worry about gold diggers even though they have no gold. The other Reddit talking point that I never hear brought up by men irl is "equal rights equal fights". I don't know a single man who thinks it's ok to hit a woman even if she his you first because we are still smaller it's easy to just restrain us or get away. So yeah, Reddit is Reddit and the men …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 05:23 PM
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There's a libfem halo surrounding women in the sex industry. You don't need to worry about talking over them. Do you honestly believe that being a good partner means going to strip clubs and having sex with prostitutes? It's obviously bullshit but these women need to tell themselves and the world that because that's their job and if everyone found it morally repugnant they wouldn't make money. A lot of the ones who chose to be involved in it are Pickmes and they are obviously not the same as the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 04:25 PM
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That date is literally just a regular weeknight after a long day of work when you're too lazy to cook. He should be ashamed and so should she for settling for that nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 05:18 AM
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There's a post on the front page right that's a video of a son knocking out his stepdad for slapping his mom. One of the comments was a mini rant calling him a simp. I can only hope it was ironic, because imagine thinking that a son defending his mom from an abuser is a negative trait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:21 AM
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No, it's not you. There's a lot of reasons this happens. They cast a wide net and match and message almost every woman. They overestimate how attractive they are. They are not attracted to the women who are their looks match. They've been conditioned by media to think that ugly or average men can get beautiful women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 05:18 AM
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You asked for a solution for LVM and I gave one. Frankly I could not care less if men have masturbation material because your orgasms mean nothing to me. You can jerk off without porn. Porn has a very negative impact on women and children and I care way more about that than I do about LVM and their orgasms.
/r/askFDS16/03/20 03:32 AM
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I love that self-improvement never occurs to them. It's either you're born a man who women want to have sex with or you aren't and if you aren't, watch porn for sexual satisfaction and make yourself even LESS appealing to women. Brilliant.
/r/askFDS16/03/20 02:14 AM
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Tfw your own dad told you, "Men are animals. Do not trust them," when you were 13.
/r/askFDS14/03/20 06:06 AM
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We're talking about genitalia and the "burden" is on anyone who has genitalia that would alter regular penis in vagina sex (or whatever kind of sex they will be having with their fiance in the case of same sex couples). So...trans people, women who have a condition that makes penis in vagina sex impossible, men with small dicks. I'd say men with abnormally huge dicks should disclose that too because I would be crushed if on my wedding night my husband revealed a penis that would make sex with hi…
/r/askFDS14/03/20 03:19 AM
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I'm very sorry for your loss. I am going to answer honestly and I hope it does not come across as harsh or critical towards you. These answers are not a judgment of you or your character. I would be worried about whether or not you've processed your grief and trauma with therapy. If you haven't gone to therapy that would be an instant no from me. I'd wonder if you're even ready to date or if you're using dating as way to deal with your pain. MANY men use their girlfriends and wives as therapists…
/r/askFDS14/03/20 03:04 AM
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Let Pickmes have the micropeen if they want it and let all these nanoprick losers throw their mantrums. You can't go a day on reddit or in real life without reading and hearing all the specifics about what men want in a woman physically, INCLUDING OUR GENITALS, but the second we say we like tall men and big dicks it's oppression. Fucking cry more. They're all jerking it to instagram models who are so photoshopped they don't even look like real humans anymore so now they want us to be slender but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 03:28 AM
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Women are also naturally hypergamous, so it's ok if those men are rich, hot, funny, smart, and caring. What's the big deal? We aren't cheating, we just have the natural biological urge to replace you with someone better who can provide for us and our babies. But since we're committed to you, we can't. If you dont let us have the fantasy we are more likely to cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:33 AM
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Oh yeah there are poly bullies. They never shut up about how enlightened and special and amazing they are for being able to love more than one person and how everyone else is just insecure and stupid. If you don't want your man fucking another woman, there is something wrong with you. Nevermind that monogamy makes you perfectly happy, that doesn't matter. You're just closed-minded and jealous and probably voted for Trump and like to trip little old ladies while they cross the street.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 02:21 AM
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Have I got a story for you. Ten years ago I worked in a very large hospital. One day during my shift a security guard who I was on friendly-ish terms with approached me and told me there was a way I could be making more money. Apparently he had a pimping side hustle that set up nurses, techs, cafeteria workers, and cleaning ladies with doctors. The women would give him two photos, one fully clothed and one in lingerie, and he would show them to interested doctors so they could choose. Turns out …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 11:46 PM
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That's exactly what happened when a guy I was dating decided he wanted an open relationship. I agreed to it because I knew that it would go down this way. He was so devastated that I was scoring dates left and right but he was getting no action at all, even from me at that point because I was getting mine elsewhere. Served him right. I will never agree to it again because ultimately I want monogamy and stability, but it was pretty damn funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 06:58 AM
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Imagine wanting to sit in front a screen playing games for 7 hours instead of spending time with your family. I'd feel bad for their wives but they are obviously pickmes. These men need to be deleted from the gene pool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 11:43 PM
75

SJWs' new favorite thing is to tell women we're racist or transphobic for having boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 11:10 PM
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Men: Women don't care about looks so after I marry her I can let myself get fat, go bald, and dress like a slob. Also men: Why won't my wife have sex with me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:41 PM
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I'm the same height as you and I have no problem dating shorter men, but I've had the same experience. They are so insecure about it that they try to make me feel like I'm somehow the bad guy for being a tall woman. Yet they also always whine that women won't give them a chance because they're short. What they really mean is that short women won't give them a chance, because my observation has been that tall women are more willing to give short men a chance than short women are, but short men ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 09:36 AM
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This is how men on reddit really are. Most of them look like a crusty foot but they are hyper-critical of famous, beautiful women. Unless this guy looks like Henry Cavill his opinion on Natalie Dormer's...eye spacing (seriously? Nitpicking eye-spacing?) doesn't mean shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 09:07 AM
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I used to be like this. What worked for me was changing my body language to be more "open" and my facial expressions to be more friendly. Smiling more helps a lot. I don't mean walking around with a big grin all the time. Even just smiling with your eyes will do it. If you're a fast walker, slow down. If you see an attractive man who you wouldn't mind being approached by, make eye contact with him and smile very slightly. I don't know your style, but dressing in more feminine, soft clothing in l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 04:35 PM
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Only if you're engaged with a date set. Otherwise you're the bangmaid. I know so many women who cohabitated and still have no ring. And once you're living with him it will be harder to leave if he never actually commits to anything beyond living together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:42 AM
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Thank you! Did you see that post on here the other day someone made about how much her beauty routine costs? It was absurd. All I could think was about how little time and effort men spend on their appearance. Furthermore, most of the stuff women do with their appearance to attract men isn't even noticed or appreciated by them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:31 PM
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Another reason to not share your sexual history with a man. Apparently if you did anal with an ex once that means you're obligated to do it with every man you date from that point on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:33 AM
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I was thinking the same thing. Even if I have absolutely no plans, I will tell a man that I'm only available two specific nights per week (I usually pick Wednesday and Friday). And pretty often I'm truly not available for a few weeks. This doesn't put them off, they still want that date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 03:17 PM
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In my experience the men who love tall women think our long legs are sexy af. Plus, models are tall, so there's that association.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 02:52 AM
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Why do they think this makes them sound cool? It reeks of insecurity and desperation. This is seriously the male version of Not Like Other Girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 02:45 AM
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They think that if they use terms of endearment we'll believe that they care about us and will have sex with them sooner. Literally no HVM I've dated has done this but tons of LVM who hit me up do. At this point I feel completely comfortable just ghosting them if they pull this. The pattern is there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 06:58 AM
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I think we're all seeking a man who loves us as much as Niles loves Daphne. In the last season there's an episode when he and Frasier are standing on Frasier's balcony. Niles looks into the apartment at Daphne holding their baby and says something about them being the most beautiful thing he's ever seen. Now think about the LVM you've met. Would they ever look at their wife and child and say that? Probably not. That thought probably wouldn't even cross their mind. You see it on reddit every day.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 03:08 AM
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Haha I'm experiencing the same thing while rewatching it! I used to think Roz was empowered, and now I just want to shake her by the shoulders and tell her to love herself. And I appreciate Lilith so much more now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 02:52 AM
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It's funny that so many men on that post are saying that this sub advocates making men take us to super expensive restaurants. I don't think many woman here expect that. I recently had a man take me to great little Ethiopian restaurant in the back of a convenience store. He knew I was vegan and knew I would have options there and that the food was good. We had also previously talked about how hole in-the-wall restaurants always have the best food. It really is about the EFFORT. It takes zero eff…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 08:57 PM
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For coffee and drink dates- "No thank you, I'm avoiding caffeine/alcohol right now/on weeknights/whatever." This usually gets them to step up and ask me to dinner. If they suggest that you drink decaf or get a mocktail, just unmatch. He's low value af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 05:31 AM
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I think we attract all kinds of men, but the LVM lose interest pretty quickly while the HVM stick around. That has mostly been my experience, anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 05:22 AM
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And men in that while thread are soooooooo upset that women have standards and are calling the women they work with superficial and hypocritical for discussing how attractive or unattractive certain men are. As if that isn't standard locker room room talk for men. They hold us to standards they don't even hold each other to. And they're mad that women get away with talking about bald men but men don't get away with talking about women's bodies. Maybe it's because the woman is talking about the l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 05:12 PM
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Yep! About ten years ago I was dating a guy who always paid. One night I told him I was taking him out and that I would be paying. When the bill came he still insisted on paying it because the thought of me paying just didn't sit right with him. Since then I just sit back and let men pay. High value men are proud to be able to pay for us. They want to take care of us. The guy I'm seeing now always pays for everything and seems very happy to do so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 06:54 AM
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I love your response to her telling you he's nice. The bar is so low that a man being nice is a selling point, apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 02:07 AM
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I recently went on a two dates with a man who possessed all of those traits but was ultimately low value. On our second date he decided to get very drunk and do cocaine, got handsy with me, and tried to make me jealous of another woman he is interested in. I'm also currently dating a man who has all of those traits IN ADDITION to traits that demonstrate that he might be high value. He has only taken me to vegan restaurants (he knows this is extremely important to me), makes sure I have enough to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 04:57 AM
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Thank you. Are men really disposable? No, I don't think so. I've been in relationships with high value men who treated me like a queen. They were not disposable. My ex husband is not disposable. My dad is not disposable. My male friends are not disposable. Just because there are a lot of low value and misogynistic men out there doesn't mean men as whole are disposable. What a horrible attitude to have toward people. I agree that we shouldn't waste time trying to teach men how to treat us properl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 09:00 PM
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Yes! I was in your exact position a few years ago. I'm 33 now. I've spent the last few years losing weight, landing a job I love, making new friends, and developing new interests and hobbies. And now I'm dating several high value men who regularly tell me they're very impressed by me. Work on yourself! You have time! I know there's that panicky feeling we get in our 30s that it is too late for us, but it isn't true! I get hit on, checked out, and asked it more now than I did in my 20s. Ask yours…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 05:41 AM
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Anyone else sick of the women on reddit who jump at any chance to tell women in OP's situation that their BF/husband is obsessed with porn and it's ok because they're a cool girl who isn't jealous or insecure?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 07:51 PM
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I've been the female BFF. I made sure to also be friends with the girlfriend and invite her along whenever I hung out with him. I got close to a few of them and we are still friends even though he broke up with them. I actually stopped being friends with the guy because he did something super fucked up to one of them who I had grown very close to. But I don't think that most female BFFs are like that and you are right to approach with caution. Maybe test things out and see how she is with you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 04:03 AM
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Well damn if this isn't the most accurate thing I've read 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/19 04:25 AM
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