Yup

PutSomeRespectOnIt · 2021-01-15T23:32:10+00:00

Truth! Plus the emotional labour since N/LVM are often man-children who have unresolved issues / baggage that they drag into their relationship and expect their wife/gf/fiancée to help them unpack and resolve.

sunologie · 2021-01-16T06:46:34+00:00

My ex was talking about buying his first house (we are in our early 20s) last spring and said “when I buy one you can rent a room and stay with me” and I looked at him crazy cause like ??? You’re my boyfriend and you own that house why tf would I “rent a room” from you????????????? Am I your girlfriend or roommate ? Especially when he made significantly more money than me!

_nylea · 2021-01-16T01:37:18+00:00

This is painfully true, but I laughed at that last part. Every man I’ve ever seen living with other men does 0% of the chores (like the rest of them), and the place is a complete pigsty.

Fitncurly · 2021-01-15T23:29:52+00:00

All. Of. This. ☝🏼

And think of it this way, why pay half and have to do all that for him and be monogamous to him when you can pay half with a female roommate, spare yourself the extra work and be with whatever guy whenever and keep vetting 🤷🏻‍♀️

_fuyumi · 2021-01-15T23:33:17+00:00

Or you can be a dumbass like me in my last relationship. Doing chores for a man I didn't live with bc he was "having a hard time." Then he didn't wanna reimburse me for the groceries bc I ate some of them too (bitch, I'm cooking them, aren't I???) and he never wanted to go to mine bc his was bigger. This man told me I'm always at his apartment and not paying rent.

Anyway that's when I realized his delusion was off the charts, and happily stayed home at my "small, crappy" apartment. I moved a month later, while he was still calling and texting me begging to come over. Like sure, but I don't like there anymore lol. And guess who's still paying the full rent for his apartment and not getting free sex, backrubs, meals, cleaning, dog walking (I really miss that dog), and grocery delivery anymore?? So much easier taking care of ONE household rather than two.

_boring_daven_ · 2021-01-16T00:57:34+00:00

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AnneRB13 · 2021-01-16T01:30:55+00:00

And if pointed out anything of this "but I do help at home"... Yeah if you call it help you are probably not doing even half the chores and still letting all the weight of childbirth and childcare to your wife/partner while making her work full time. Childfree is the way if you can't survive only in his work.

hotfuzzindahouse · 2021-01-16T02:44:09+00:00

This incident happened close to the end of the relationship. This ex that was long distance and only got to see each other on weekends. Two male roommates moved into the spare rooms in his house. He constantly had people over for suppers and bonfires since the farm he was working on does exchange programs with different countries.

One day we were having a conversation before one of these suppers, and he said he was expecting that he would be in charge of the outside chores and I’d be in charge of the inside chores because that’s what they do In Switzerland.

Um excuse me what?? I don’t even live here, there’s 3 grown ass man living here. If I wanted to clean a house, I would have stayed at home and spent the weekend cleaning my own house. Oh I was pissed. I don’t mind helping out but don’t expect your gf to be a maid wnd cleanup after everyone when she comes visits on the weekends.

This is also coming from the guy that “helped” cook supper from all these people. He just fried some hash browns over the fire and when it came time to clean since he “cooked” he figured he didn’t have to. I was helping putting stuff back in the house and this new girl who just arrived from Germany that day was in the house cleaning his friggn pots. Where was he?? Visiting outside with the men. The relationship ended very shortly after that (There other reasons to) but that was a huge red flag. Just utter ridiculousness. (Sorry for the novel haha)

NotGoingOutsideAgain · 2021-01-15T21:59:44+00:00

I never quite got to the final thought so articulately, but this is spot on the money

purasangria · 2021-01-16T03:38:39+00:00

We do a lot more caretaking and household labor, which is why they should pay for everything.

Otherwise, I'm happy keeping it simple and running my own house where I pay for everything, the household runs for my comfort and convenience, and I do whatever the fuck I want, when I want. But I'm not paying half and doing all the housework, ever.

alivebut-justbarely · 2021-01-15T21:39:27+00:00

I've never lived with a man I was not married to and during our marriage he happily paid all the bills. Seems like clownery to do anything else. Men are providers and if a man doesn't want to provide he can be in very loving relationship with his hand. Before marriage was invented the men who couldn't provide and protect did not have access to women. Marriage was invented so that every man, even the losers, could have a woman. And now look where we are. Refuse to date men who won't provide. Providing is in their nature and if they suck at it they are defective.

QueenNoir21 · 2021-01-15T21:21:55+00:00

Cleaner is a full time job. Chef is a full time job. Therapist is a full time job. If I’m going to be all those things for you I reckon I deserve the combined salaries of ALL these jobs.

yourscreennamesucks · 2021-01-16T02:50:45+00:00

Nah they just let the house get trashed.

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2021-01-16T00:39:11+00:00

I would rather die and donate my body to science than pay for anything in a relationship, ever

astromuc · 2021-01-16T08:41:48+00:00

Ive never paid 50% and even though so, I dont offer free meals, free sex and free labour, either. I cook for the ones I love, when I feel like, make loving with the man I am in love with. If you cant feel it, dont be in a relationship. Why do these women have to be so bitter. If a man does not treat you the way you want, cut him off. Why the hell do you live with someone and feel like you "have to" do housework, cook for him and give him sex as a gift. Its so wrong. Be alone. Sex should be magical, for both. Its a joy for both people. I'm all in for FDS and finding the HVM, but bitter feelings dont help. Love yourselves first.

LilyFuckingBart · 2021-01-16T03:18:25+00:00

Wait... I’m confused... are roommates not a thing anymore?

Confection_Efficient · 2021-01-15T22:56:41+00:00

I think you better call Tyrone.

pinkcloudzzz · 2021-01-15T21:31:45+00:00

Exactly.

peachpy54 · 2021-01-21T02:06:20+00:00

UUugh men don't want to live with other men because.... MEN are terrible to live with! They know their own kind better than we do!

SrUnOwEtO · 2021-01-16T06:20:52+00:00

Accurate. My husband and I split chores. And bills.

ChocoBananza · 2021-01-16T04:28:07+00:00

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Title	Yup
Author	ColdxConfection
Upvotes	1929
Comments	78
Date	January 15, 2021 9:13 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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