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151

I HuMbLy AgReEd. A lol if I’ve ever seen one. Poor woman. I hope that she’ll thrive after this ahole is out of her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 02:43 PM
20

I know that this is a writing prompt, but it still gives me the creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 03:15 PM
295

Where is her lunch? If it's sooo easy and small, give her it! How can this pickme be this delusional? She literally described most men, and yet she blames women for wanting uNcOnDiTiOnAL love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 10:32 AM
352

Congrats sis! 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:06 PM
9

Dumpizazzz!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 05:53 PM
3

I see this as a last resort for trying to fix their ‘relationship’. I’d like to imagine that this would be her last straw, and that she’s already one foot out the door and with an established plan to leave. She already has her ‘f¥ck off’ fund. Or at least, I can hope that’s the case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 09:52 AM
1

I’ve literally just typed ‘I am m34’ and I got a google suggestion for the post. Scrote is getting roasted 🔥 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 09:08 AM
1

Oh, she probably is, but she found us too late. After discovering FDS, I was with my ex scrote for another year before I left 🤡 We can see she plans for her escape. I can certainly see the hail Mary she’s pulling right now in attempt to save the ‘relationship’, but is already one foot out the door, which I’m sooo happy to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 08:58 AM
1

You make a good point…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 11:23 PM
6

She couldn’t come close to fulfilling his nEeDs, but his hand sure did, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 12:18 PM
8

I’d bet money that he proposed as a last resort to keep her with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 12:15 PM
8

Gross is the term you’re looking for. It’s bruto in my language, and I assume it’s similar in yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 11:45 AM
0

I mean… no hate to her, what she described is bare minimum, but wouldn’t we tore to shreds a bio written by a man in this manner? Like, seeing it like this seems a bit condescending. Besides, she’s making herself a target for misogynistic men. Also, I think that we should never allow a man to have a sort of a cheat sheet like this to have access to us. It would just help LVM to lie better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 11:41 AM
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I’ve did anal in the past, and I did enjoy most of it. I don’t want to do it ever again. It does not make me LV. My HVM (together for a year, still vetting) had anal in the past, but doesn’t want it any more. His description aligns with your bf’s reasoning, plus ‘I don’t want to do anything that would make you uncomfortable, and I have 0 cravings to do it again.’ I think that that is most important part of the story - doesn’t want it, doesn’t need it, and is not curious about it. Look, it’s ulti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 11:03 AM
9

Ah, you have a type! I too had a type exactly like that. Took me a while to unlearn it, a year on FDS to be exact. I won’t make (any more) assumptions and I’ll share my experience. I was really into very opinionated men, ya know, strong, stubborn, dominating, manly men types. It feels so weird to type it out now, and to see how stupid and naive I was, because the root of it was to be with a person who could protect me. Unfortunately, they were the people I needed protection from. Luckily, I esca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 04:40 AM
5

You’ve just described me back in my pickme days. Like, to the letter 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 10:51 AM
26

You reminded me of a situation with my NVX. He kept talking shit about my phone, that I should buy a new, expensive one. I brushed it off for a while, until I snapped ‘so buy it for me then! If it bothers you so much, buy it!’ He never ever mentioned it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 10:34 AM
1

Can we talk about how she was visibly sick and tired of his shit? She was in her jammies, worked her ass of at her remote job, dreading the moment she had to pick up the leech she calls her bf, when she thought ‘duck it, I’m just gonna go like this’. The public humiliation and risking her health aside (lol), he was dancing at the edge of a cliff already, and then he decided to do a flip. Props for the queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 12:14 PM
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🙋🏻‍♀️ Thanks to FDS I was able to leave my long term NVM, and I’ve focused on myself primarily. Then I started dating around, and vetted men left and right. One passed the tests, and is my HVM for over a year. He’s tall, handsome, works out, takes care of himself, is completely porn free, huge dick & knows how to use it, cooks, cleans, reads, has a good job, treats me like a princess. I get random gifts, I get taken out on dates, I get very thoughtful gifts on ‘big’ dates. His family adores me, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 02:14 PM
3

Hahahh, another LARP-er. Their writing prompts are getting more and more lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 09:46 PM
2

I’m very much for the male Birth control pills, and for them to be responsible. However, I’d never EVER trust that a man is actually taking it. I’d still be on my own BC. Just in case. Scrotes are baby trapping scum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 09:44 PM
9

Lol, well done queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 12:11 PM
69

Welcome sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 07:23 AM
3

Lol, nope he sees this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 11:10 AM
27

Yes, and that’s how boundaries are broken and girls and women slowly get groomed into prostitution. I think that emotional detachment from sex acts is the last step in that grooming: being in horrible situations for years ‘I might as well get paid for it’. Especially if the child/girl/woman is destitute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 09:39 AM
36

I did the same, and it saved me from a LVM. Always check, ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 08:55 PM
5

I used to pay for the whole thing, lol 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 07:44 AM
2

I’m so happy that the mask slipped in such a stupid way. I mean, can you imagine losing your meal ticket because of measly $30 takeout? 🤣 We’re all proud of you,sis! Well done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 06:20 AM
2

Title is very well written. They are both LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 10:27 AM
15

Hm, I don’t agree completely. If he didn’t have steady access to sex, he would’ve said all that she wanted to hear just to get in her pants. Being lukewarm is because he has other options, IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 08:03 AM
56

Projection. Nothing more than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 01:10 PM
13

I have similar experience. Only in my case he wouldn’t even get the substitute gift, he’d simply be like ‘oh, I was thinking of getting you this [shows picture], but it was out of stock’. And then nothing 🤣 I still weep for old me 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:03 AM
3

Dumpizazz!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 08:35 AM
13

I did the same thing with my current bf. He sheepishly told me that he doesn’t do that anymore. He used to, but it affected him mentally, and the fact that every time he finds a ‘favourite performer’, he’d google her and find horrific things about her life, was a major turn off. I believed him, but only because I couldn’t find a single dodgy thing on his phone or on his computer previous to our convo. Nor after. Trust, but verify 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 08:28 AM
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Thank you for your kind words, it really means a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 03:33 PM
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Wow! I never considered it that way. Now that I think about it, I realise that I went through similar thing, although not physical abuse. But yes, even if I did ‘obey’, the end result would still be the same. I would modify my behaviour, and I’d get nothing from him that was promised, then I’d lose my shit again, I’d scream and shout out of desperation, and he’d shut down again. Then I’d regret it and would think ‘oh, I should have endured a bit more, we were so close to improvement, this is all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:48 PM
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While I agree with the sentiment, I feel that you’re wrong about the strictness of this. Why? Because posting screenshots here of a snappy comeback is a step forward. End game is block & delete. First step is practicing on OLD guys. For a person that never really stood up for herself nor established clear boundaries, ceasing communication with them is progress. End game is not engaging at all. There is a pattern of women posting ‘can you believe this POS, and I sure showed him!’, and replies bei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 06:35 AM
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Start asking her questions where you’re the one ‘on top’, and see how quickly she cuts you out of her life. That way you don’t have to continue agonising about doing what’s best for you, despite the ample evidence that you should just disappear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 01:50 PM
2

Ikr? I think I have PTSD from that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 01:43 PM
1

I’m not attracted to men with poor hygiene either 🤨. Never in my life have I encountered something so dirty and repulsive, and I was shocked and appalled that I didn’t notice sooner. I’m honestly baffled that there are women out there that put up with it. I have no idea if that example was it, but since we broke up, I don’t find any woman attractive that way, and it’s been three years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 01:41 PM
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Hmmm, something just occured to me. ‘You should always assume best intentions’ is not for him, it’s for you. Assume that life happened, your horoscopes are not aligned, black cat crossed his path, or his gold fish dislikes you. All very much legit reasons to stop seeing someone. Thus, you can move on unbothered. Same as with fOrGivEneSs. You should forgive yourself, for your own inner peace, but ladies, don’t ever forget what the bastard(s) did. That way history won’t repeat itself, and you can …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 05:55 PM
8

I dumped a HVW because of the teeth brushing issue. It took me 6 months of pure bliss to notice that she only brushes once a day, before bed. Apparently, she has sensitive gums, and can’t brush too much or else her teeth will fall out 😳. Yeah, no. Even though it was a legit health issue, I couldn’t unsee it, and had to break up with her. I don’t regret it, we’re still friends, but the experience was so repulsive to me that I’m not attracted to women anymore. A year or so later, I ended up on FDS…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 05:44 PM
26

Never sleep with a man before he’s in love with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:59 PM
13

You’re on a roll 🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:46 PM
39

Ffs, I already gave away my free reward. Please accept this not-giving-reddit-a-cent gold 🥇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:44 PM
36

Don’t get hasty, sis! Maybe next year he’ll get better 🙏🏻 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 07:10 PM
126

GiVe HiM a ChAnCe! He’s got a lot of pOtEnTiAL. He will do better for sure! She just needs to cOmMuNiCaTe better, be patient for a couple of months/years, and they will be happy as a larry! /s, just in case
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 04:47 PM
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Happened to me. I used to travel for work a lot (pre covid), and I met a guy. We clicked, we spoke every day for weeks, and I decided to take matters into my own hands 🤡. I suggested that I can come over and visit him on my next work trip, and fly from there. So I would come over for the weekend, fly to the client, and return to his city for another weekend. He said yes enthusiastically, but immediately after our communication TANKED. The thing is, I knew in my gut that something was wrong, but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 04:38 PM
8

My current bf invited me for a walk date. End of January. I laughed and said no. I think that my laughter said much more than my ‘no’. The next words that came out of his mouth included ‘diner’. Even though I shouldn’t have, I did go out with him. I felt like I needed to practice my vetting, and the diner and drinks went great (he paid for everything). It turned out that pickmes had convinced him that diner was ‘too much’ for a first date, and he didn’t want to scare me away, and that it seemed …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 08:06 PM
34

Never used a background check, because I have no idea how to. I would if I could. What I did was, early into the relationship (like first or second time I came over) would go through everything I could while he was in the shower, or out to get me something that I ‘forgot’ to buy, but need urgently. I check his phone and computer the same way- first the gallery, then recent contacts/files, then chats. If I’m happy what I see at I glance, I go to the browsers and type ‘p’, ‘x’, or whatever key wor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 07:19 PM
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I do 🙋🏻‍♀️. And it’s not even almost. Sure, I’ll be sad, cause I’m still human, but that’s definitely best in the log run. But I don’t think I’ll get anything from him, tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 07:06 AM
35

Dated a scrote like that too. But of course, it only counted for him, I wasn’t allowed, lol. Hypocrite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 07:03 AM
37

This reminded me (tangentially) of a situation with my ex scrote. To keep it brief, I couldn’t buy a plan on my own in that particular country, it had to be on his name. Once he dumped me for a very petty reason (I repeat, he dumped me), he cancelled my plan! Not only did I beg him to give me another chance (🤡), we separated amicably. He canceled my fcking plan, knowing that I won’t be able to get one on my own. Mind you, I always paid my bill, and I had 0 intentions of leaving him with an entir…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 11:10 AM
2

This is very well said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 11:54 PM
71

I wish I could say something helpful, but I’m currently in the same boat. I’m arguing with my current BF about the fact that his brother is covering his friend’s affair. Even though they are both HVM in other traits, this has irrevocably shattered my opinion of both of them. His brother for covering a man wh0re, and my current BF for being spineless. I’m contemplating on throwing the whole relationship with someone who was, until recently, an amazing man and someone that I planned a future with.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 08:31 PM
96

I’m in the middle of watching S2. I really like it, and it shows a lot of FDS principles. Although the characters aren’t perfect, they show perpetual growth, which is very important, and I love watching their development.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 01:48 PM
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Oh, they do. But to them, it’s nothing short of hate speech 😂. How dare you to not be available to any man ever! That’s mIsAnDrY!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 10:10 AM
5

I know that the overall situation is shitty, but in the particular cinema example - I would have dumped her on the spot. Imagine the following scenario: you’re having fun with your friends, and after you have a lovely date with a guy you’re seeing (and still vetting). He shows up half an hour early and expects that you drop everything you’re doing and entertain him. Like… can you imagine the audacity? That’s what I’m seeing in his example in particular. For me is especially disturbing because I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 09:16 AM
5

It sure is, these are writing prompts of 13y olds. But the disturbing thing is: they want this BADLY! It’s their fantasy, their kink, and (as fake as this is) there are people out there that really do this. Vet, vet, VETTTT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 08:30 AM
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18-40 if they have a scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 03:48 PM
10

Hope she gets picked! Respect your self sis 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 01:58 PM
56

Imagine what the world would be like if men are held accountable for their actions 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 04:11 AM
3

I tried finding this post via Google, and I’m shocked and appalled that there is a metric tonne of crap articles and blogs dedicated to this topic. Like… fuck. On the other hand, why am I surprised? I should have known better by now 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 03:08 PM
2

Oh honey…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:59 PM
6

Likes-to-comments ratio on this post is hilarious. Scrotes mad. Good find, OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 11:24 AM
3

Yeah, I’d use some more colourful language to describe both of them. OP is a saint in my book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 08:09 AM
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I’m happy with the prospect. Let them be alone in their basement, let their porn induced ED fester, let them destroy every meaningful relationship in their lives, and leave the rest of us alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 06:22 AM
34

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 A quote to remember!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 06:19 AM
114

Oh, I’ve been there, unfortunately. This is exactly what’s going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 06:09 AM
2

I was hoping that she would chuck them out the window 😩. My disappointment in immeasurable and my day is ruined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 09:12 AM
0

I’m into martial arts my whole life, and I’m pissed beyond belief at this. Why in the name of fuck are you taking self defence classes if you feel uncomfortable with generic yelling? Oh! Maybe that’s why you are taking them… true, there is room for improvement. Now, what exactly do you think happens in real life situation? How will you overcome your fears if you don’t deal with them, in the safest possible environment, with an instructor you feel comfortable with? A PSA: No woman should use any …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 09:07 AM
18

God, I hope this tread ends up crossposted on a hate sub of some sort 😂 We could use more followers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 09:06 AM
34

I’d just like to add - …but not under all circumstances. So yes, be clear that you’ll be there for her, whatever happens, but set appropriate boundaries. You will not be dumping ground for toxic emotions and constant whining. You want to spend quality time with your friend, and not waste it on scrote stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 07:48 AM
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Scrote science 🤣👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 07:36 AM
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I love this kind of stories! They also remind me of my (newly found) standards, and I’m not lowering them for anyone. Because if I do, I’ll never have that 👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 09:42 PM
6

Just ask yourself if that someone should be anyone. If you’re desperate for a life partner and a family, I assure you, you’re not there yet, in terms of happiness and accomplishment. Now, if you really are ready, you’ll want to find a best partner for yourself, and best possible father for your future children. That means you will vet hard af, since you know exactly what you want in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 07:33 AM
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I agree with you, mostly. The advice given wasn’t bad per se, but I’m tired of the way that he’s coddling the scrote. ‘cOmMunIcAtE your feefees, and find the root of your iSsUe’ sounds much better than ‘Get fucked, you abusive man child’. The scrote was never called out on his bullshit. I digress, but one of the reasons I’m so mad about this article is that I’m very clearly seeing my old pickme self giving this kind of advice, feeling sorry for the scrote and his inability to process his emotion…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 08:58 AM
14

Great initiative, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 06:25 AM
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Thanks to FDS, I was able to apply this mindset, and I’m thrilled with the results. As a kind of a recruiting tool, I ask these libfem/pickmes will they also do 50/50 on pregnancy. I love the little lightbulb moment they get 💡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 05:46 AM
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I think that the artist was trying to convey that she is alternative, libfem and crazy cat lady. As a cat lady myself, I’m offended for the cat. But just look at its little face 😾😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:58 AM
13

But look at its little face 😭😾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:54 AM
41

Love it, I just want to add: A female barista making their drinks incorrectly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:42 AM
27

“You are stupid for not following these exact guidelines (that are very hard to uphold when you’re being socialised from your childhood to be a pick me) and let me tell you all about that from my high horse. Now I’m being called out very lightly, and I’m the victim!” 😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:26 AM
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She’s learning, as we all are. Leave her alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:01 AM
15

Dumphizazz! You know you can do it, we’re all rooting for you. Also, delete the photos from everywhere you can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 08:03 AM
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I agree 💯 with you. I’d just like to add that abortion as a procedure is completely painless, during it you’re under total anaesthesia, and after care doesn’t even involve pain killers. Unless you had the misfortune to encounter a butcher instead of a doctor, abortion is perfectly safe and painless. Source: me, a year an a half ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 08:33 AM
2

Sorry that your post was removed. I think it had a really good point 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 07:52 AM
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You just made me realise another HV trait of my foot-taller-than-me boyfriend 👌🏻 Great post, I appreciate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:44 PM
13

‘What have you done for me lately?’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:43 AM
2

I read it, smirk, and block. In 90% of the cases it’s some sort of a invitation to a debate. Lol, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 08:23 AM
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Very close, another Slavic country. But I wouldn’t be surprised that they use it too 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:31 PM
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There’s a saying in my country, that goes something like this: “Poor men invented love so that they could fuck for free”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:38 PM
10

Sis, same… glad I found some sense along the way 😄👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:33 AM
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Sis, you have all the support you need right here! Let the scrotes and pickmes be mad, the women here are proud of you, and taking notes 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 08:19 PM
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It has been discussed here A LOT. It’s a part of the vetting process, spotting a gold digger, preparing a pre nup, and also getting your affairs in order before leaving your LVM. Lately, the sub has been swamped with examples of scrotacity, and sadly the real advice is buried. Hopefully, we’ll go back…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:09 AM
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‘…It’s not 50/50 when I end up paying more.’ I got flashbacks. This could be me, but luckily, I escaped in time. I can’t express how much I want to slap some sense into this woman. For anyone curious, it’s a no, you can’t change a 50/50 man. I tried with everything I had back in the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 05:38 AM
2

I felt this in my soul 😫 Shame…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 10:47 PM
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To use some incel vernacular: This is lifefuel 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 10:51 AM
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‘The thing’ 🤣👏🏻👑 Edit: Scrotes mad, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 04:29 AM
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I think it was supposed to represent a libfem, or maybe a stereotypical insecure woman that feels that she needs to overcompensate for her ‘lack of value’, aka not being conventionally attractive. Maybe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:34 PM
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No lies there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:31 PM
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I don’t think that happened here. She is def not competing for a cheating scrote, but wanted to help a sista out. Failed, sure, but tried. Cudos to her 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:24 PM
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I can’t call them ‘signs’ per se, because I couldn’t really tell until we started having sex. MY. GOD! The sensuality, the fact that he enjoyed every inch of my body, rock hard dick, which is also sensitive. To clarify what I mean by that, he is able to cum without a ‘helping hand’, but has stamina and is very willing to please me. I swear, he enjoys my orgasms more than I do. Also, he never ever even mentioned nor hinted any depraved sex acts, no anal, no face fucking, no strangling, no slaps. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:20 PM
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In the first few months of my relationship with my HVM (I’m comfortable with calling him that, after a year of vetting, and 7 months of relationship), I went through his phone and PC. ALL of it. Every browser, every chat, Instagram following, downloads folder, email, bank account, tried typing ‘p’ in search bar. Nothing. Zilch. Zero. No porn, no contact with exes, no depraved Insta accounts, no suspicious payments. So no, if you are with a HVM, you won’t find anything, no matter how hard you try…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 12:28 PM
30

This should be top comment 👌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 08:55 AM
14

If he goes to jail, does she, as his spouse, gain control of all his assets? Just curious to know, if there’s a lawyer in this tread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 08:54 AM
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What? No! You’re not doing anyone a favour by burying your head in the sand. I don’t know exactly how close you two are, but can you really keep quiet about a life altering decision, that you know she’ll regret eventually? I personally would beat myself up if I didn’t do everything in my power to stop a friend’s downfall. Tell her how you feel about it, send her sources that this thread has provided, and hope that she’ll take it seriously. That is all that you can do, and even though it’s not a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 08:48 AM
7

A plate AND a table 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 07:13 AM
10

It’s women’s BiOLoGy to help out a wounded scrote 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 04:20 PM
183

‘So you agree?’ 🤣 Scrotes are a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 03:38 PM
3

Smart 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 08:45 AM
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I never heard about this before, but I looked it up, and damn, isn’t it funny! We need a separate post about this 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 06:16 AM
3

Girl, same 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 04:52 AM
17

Lol, please share the hate mail that you’ll inevitably get 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:29 PM
19

Nobody mentioned deception. There are a lot of ‘ifs’ involved, and in the vetting stage, there’s no way to tell if he’s HVM for real, or just has his mask on tight. If he seems like a HVM you actually like, there’s nothing wrong in letting him spoil you. I think that’s what OP was telling us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 11:47 AM
21

“Mistake”, lol. Go get that coin, sis, yours and his 🪙
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 11:43 AM
59

Yup, I got the same lesson. Clean, and without rips 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 11:33 AM
13

No, it really was the last time. Real Queen energy 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 05:46 PM
14

Hahahaha, I love this so much 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 09:02 AM
2

I’ve finally accomplished my childhood dream of being a crazy cat lady! My NVX made fun of my love for animals, but since I dumped him in January, I’ve set up my own rescue shelter. I’ve got 9 cats in it (in recovery, or disabled), I’ve found home for 8, and I’ve spayed/neutered 14 street cats since May. My veterinarian is concerned for me, bless his heart, that the vet & medicine bills, and cat food will eat up my income, but I’ve supported a leech for years, and now that he’s gone, I’ve got SO…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:49 PM
1

Wow, this is a great idea. Your writing style is excellent, I really like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:48 PM
1

It’s not correct. https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/hung-or-hanged I only looked it up because of your comment, I had no idea 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 01:39 PM
2

I went through her profile, she’s a pick me 💯 Some people are beyond help, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 07:05 AM
2

I think that context here is important. Like, I’m not in contact, let alone friends with my ex fiancés, but I am friends with men that are HV, but it turned out that we weren’t compatible. And I’m talking after a few dates, maybe even a couple months fling. Of course, I never stayed in touch with those who disrespected me or have cheated on me. That would be weird, and a massive 🚩 on my side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 06:52 AM
30

Oh honey… She’s not asking for his $300 allowance because she needs it, she wanted to see if this leech wants to contribute ANYTHING to the relationship. Been there, done that, unfortunately 🤡. Luckily for me, I run away from the scrote before we moved in together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 07:53 AM
86

Being a broke student at 28yo is so cringe. Fckn parasite…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 07:44 AM
42

I hate being called out like this… but I can’t deny it. Fortunately, I’ve learned my lesson, and it’ll never happen again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:40 AM
116

‘No, I’m not. I simply leave.’ I said that with my best resting bitch face, and let me tell you ladies… the squirm was out of this world. 10/10 will do again 👌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:51 PM
29

Are you me, but more articulate? You described me and my NVX to a t. Congrats for getting out too! I’m still in the process of healing though..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:40 PM
10

You should do a separate post about this. I find your level up story very interesting and motivating, others will too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 10:41 AM
3

It was after our breakup, when I started dating other people that I realized how fckng much he hated me. It started to dawn on me gradually, like: I got taken out on dates, and I was in shock and awe that they would pay, no questions asked, no splitting the bill, no ‘forgetting’ wallets. Huh. Who knew that can happen? /s I got a gift from someone because I simply pointed to a book and said that I loved that particuar book and writing style. Next date he bought me all books from that author that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:10 AM
272

A scrote is running his and his wife’s business to the ground. His kids are being scarred for life, just because their dad couldn’t think with his upper head for once. This tik toker has excellent grounds for a bankrupt-inducing discrimination lawsuit, I can hear the layers salivating over this case. Ladies, please PLEASE never stop vetting, and please have a ‘fu#k you, I’m out’ money stashed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 11:22 AM
191

Wait until you see how they feel about us liking big dicks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:02 PM
71

I think that’s not it. ‘Ask him questions that he can’t answer without alienating you’ is the full sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 12:38 PM
3

With today’s hookup culture, and pickme libfems, I don’t find that number incredible at all. I used to date a man w#ore for a few years, he was decent looking, and since the bar is SO LOW for men, he had plenty of pickmes to choose from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 09:00 AM
3

Please tell us what happened next
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 08:30 AM
96

Forgive yourself. That should be the end of that sentence. Forgive yourself for all the stupidity, pickmeism, and willfull blindness to red flags. But never forget. So it doesn’t happen again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:33 PM
2

In their defence, my parents taught me self respect very early on, I just didn’t wanna listen. Fell for the ‘cool girl’ narrative 😒. I thought that they’re old, have no idea how the world works now, I have all the answers 🤡. Wish I listened, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:40 AM
3

Yup. My NVX did that, allll the fricking time. I’m actually happy that I can’t remember the specific instances anymore, it means that I’m not only healing, but also forgiving my poor old self 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:34 AM
1

So… he came home, greeted her, got no response (because she’s not allowed to respond back, according to him), didn’t think that anything was out of the ordinary, and then proceeded to get as disgusting as possible in front of her. Yeah, this is a writing prompt if I ever saw one. The more concerning things are the real responses to this fiction. God save us…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:35 PM
3

Yeah, I did the almost exact same things, except for the piercings. Full scholarship, car, an apartment, cats instead of dogs tho… I bought an apartment ‘impulsively’ right before the pandemic, because I’ve predicted that the real estate prices would drop, and they did. I was able to pay in cash, and I became a homeowner before 30. My life savings didn’t fall from the sky. My career didn’t appear randomly. I’m fairly confident that hers didn’t conjure out of thin air neither.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:19 PM
5

‘You think about other men’s dicks a lot’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:22 AM
25

Very well said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:46 AM
8

Sorry OP, but this tale makes me so happy. I’m smiling ear to ear. What a pathetic, petty excuse for a human being. A giant turd in a bag of skin. Conveniently, the turd bag took itself out. You dodged a missile, and I’m always happy when I see my sisters avoiding shit men, one way or the other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 04:56 AM
1

Your comment encompasses the sentiment of this post entirely. The thing is, we ARE the common denominator. But we have learned and we removed ourselves from the equation all together. When an appropriate nominator comes along, we’ll try math again. Scrotes mad, tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 06:40 AM
10

Ladies, I have the weirdest, pettiest and stupidest example of this tactic that I heard from my NVX. Shortly after discovering FDS, I realized that there are some things that I shouldn’t put up with, and I started making some changes in my behaviour and calling out on his. One day, I asked him (quite nicely, if I may add) if he should maybe, like… reduce his porn watching. He EXPLODED! I should have known then and there that he’s an addict, but I didn’t take FDS learning to heart yet, so I was v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 06:14 AM
2

Didn’t you know? REAL men are waterproof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 11:51 AM
6

That part just shows how non existent her self esteem is. There is ALWAYS a way back. Starting from the bottom? Sure. More difficult, of course. But impossible for a PhD holder? Def not. I’ll extrapolate and say that she’s clinging to this scrote because she’s convinced that he’s her ‘last chance’ to have a family, and that no man would want her. It didn’t even occur to her to try living with him first for a couple of months and THEN to make a decision. Poor thing, I hope she sees the light befo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 04:04 PM
58

I just remembered a story with my NVX, hope you don’t mind that I share. He hated umbrellas with a passion. He stopped carrying them with him, because he’d always forget them somewhere along the way, so he never bothered. My old pickme self didn’t mind that, but what I did mind was that, if it were raining and I had an umbrella, he would refuse to get under it. Like, he would just walk next to me, rain pouring on him, making him look like a bum. I still can’t even imagine what were other people …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 03:42 PM
6

The cheapest bills you will ever have to pay are your own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:56 AM
2

Same thing happened to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:51 AM
2

This was my last relationship to a T. Everything, including the amount of money I lent him. Of course, I won’t see a cent of it. I don’t even wanna get started on the lost wages, because I chose to stay in my city because of him, instead of traveling for work 🤦🏽‍♀️ Oh well, a-hole tax needed to be paid, I guess…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 09:37 AM
12

Yes, THIS! I’m in a relationship for a few months (still vetting, don’t worry), but before that I was genuinely happy with my life that was exactly as you described + strong HVW support network.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:52 AM
13

Message on the wall written in her blood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 08:42 PM
90

Sure, men should feel desired. But let’s not forget the part that they need to be desirable first. I’m not getting wet for a fat, smelly, infantile scrote. Hit the gym and take care of yourselves. It’s not that hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:16 PM
378

First off, quit it with self-deprecating words. We’re all works in progress. This is a step forward, as you see things clearly now for what they are. Second, give him all the space he wants. All of it. Forever. You deserve respect. Good luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:29 PM
3

They did. Try to endure the first 10mins of the video, the rest is pretty good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:23 AM
2

I’m glad that I watched it till the end. This is NOT a video about endorsing OF. It shows a negative side and I especially liked the part about the rich & famous prostitutes deal with fraud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:21 AM
1

Queen s#it right there! Congrats 🥳🙌🏻👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 10:43 AM
14

Just to add, big and hard penis. There are a lot of well-endowed guys that can’t achieve full erection. Such a shame...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:55 PM
18

I’m a girth girl myself 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:52 PM
5

Venn diagram would be a circle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:59 AM
50

I’ve seen this years ago and I remember how upset I was, but for the wrong reasons. My old pickme self took that as a warning that no man would pay attention to me if I don’t look like a super model 🤦🏽‍♀️ I’m sooo happy that I’m able to look at this through a different lense. Yay progress!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:51 AM
2

I did not expect that! Thanks for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:17 AM
2

It’s the lurkers, it always is. Don’t worry about it. I’m actually being very entertained by opening the same post multiple times, just to see the votes count fluctuate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:58 AM
1

🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:49 AM
2

I love it when the turn tables. Glad you got out sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:19 AM
5

I don’t think she was advocating for it, but that she described her thought process at the time. And also finding excuses to accept the ‘arrangement’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:19 AM
18

90% of the article is a good read. Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:30 AM
1

I got burned pretty badly in my last relationship with my NVX gold digger, and I’ve told my now-boyfriend that we will live in either mine or his place, 100% ownership. That way, if something happens, either of us can leave without any constraints. Also, we won’t share a single thing until we’re married. Those were my demands, and he’s ok with those. For any lurkers, I’m very well off, and I own a few properties (bought and inherited) which I rent out. He doesn’t have anything on his name, but h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:59 PM
10

Good point. There are laws about the blade size, and blade shape, and as for pepper spray, there are various types disguised like common items, like lipstick, pen, deodorant, etc. You can find them on amazon or aliexpres.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:34 AM
0

Hmm, interesting. I didn’t think about it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 10:24 AM
16

Go into martial arts, BUT DO NOT USE THEM! You need years of training just to have a chance against a man, let alone multiple attackers, and let’s face it, scrotes usually attack in pack. What you CAN do, and what is remarkably effective, is to gain confidence. Rapists are cowards, and they won’t go against a woman who even APPEARS that she can fight back or hurt him in any way. How can you do that, you ask? Carry pepper spray and those pop-up knives*** (I don’t know the term in english, sorry),…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 09:02 AM
25

You were right, I was SHOOK! Whatever more depravities lurk behind the scenes?? 😱 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 08:27 AM
3

Pay attention at how she’s trembling. She’s absolutely horrified, and yet sticking to her guns! I’m so proud of her, and I’m wishing that I had fraction of her courage at that age. There’s hope for the next generation, for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:13 PM
32

I like this story a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 02:48 PM
99

They put back on their dirty clothes after showering 🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 10:07 AM
18

I like this initiative a lot. Sometimes I forget that there are hot men out there who care about their appearance. Also, it’s a fun break from the misery of the posts that are reminding us of omnipresent scrotacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:38 PM
5

You did the right thing. Also, 2 months is NOTHING compared to the possible outcome if you didn’t know how to vet him properly. And I’m sure that you didn’t twiddle your thumbs waiting for him during that time, but that you lived your life and that he was a minor side character. You go sis 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:24 PM
14

Wait for a while, until he gets comfortable. This will probably give him time to try to cheat again, and if he by any chance he confronts you about it, you can play dumb and tell him ‘it wasn’t me, must have been some other girl you chatted up’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:19 PM
4

I like that. I like that a lot! Very well said 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:13 PM
12

I think this has more to do with him being old, and well, as we get older, we are attracted to men similar to our own age. I just looked him up, he’s fking 55yo. 55! There are 20yo dudes that can’t wipe the dirt off his shoes. This is the man that scrotes look at when they say that men age like fine vine and then extrapolate to themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:10 PM
62

That tread is a cesspool! So many people saying that she ‘won’ because she is married to this trash. This tale is PROOF of ‘if he wanted to, he would’, and is a first hand experience of how a man treats a woman he actually wants and how he treats an option. And yet, so many people praise 50/50 and asking/sending nudes. Goddamnit, I need to stop visiting other subreddits, because I keep getting disappointed with people’s mindsets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:58 PM
6

I’d say it’s fake. Too many very convenient details. 2 small kids and pregnant? Check. Saddest possible relationship development? Check. I think this is some kid’s fantasy of what’s happening in adult world. Or I should say, I hope it is...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:40 PM
13

I think so too. There is just too many convenient details. Still, this exact scenario has happened to someone somewhere for sure 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:35 PM
9

She is describing a dog. An untrained dog, to be precise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:39 AM
12

I earn twice as much as my HVM (still vetting, but being comfortable with saying it out loud now), and he STILL pays for everything. Why? Because he wants to. I can’t imagine that he would ask me to do 50/50 relationship, even though in our case and financial discrepancy it wOuLd Be fAiR. I hope she wakes up...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:19 PM
10

Just last week I said the exact same thing to my girl friend, and her eyes went WIDE! I could hear the level up happening in her head 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:12 PM
18

I’ve been closing and opening your post for like 10 times, and I’m amazed with the fluctuation of votes on it. Scrotes MAD mad! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 09:25 AM
14

This sounds so much like a fiction, which is sad on multiple levels. Main one being - THIS is her best case scenario? THIS is what she fantasises about? She conflates being pathetic with empowerment just because she has the last word. Ffs...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 06:34 AM
10

You can be polite, without initiating. That’s all there is to it. Pleasantries can be exchanged, when she asks a question, you answer. As far as scrotes go, they’ll do that either way. And they know what they’re doing. No need to justify anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:50 PM
5

I just realised that I wouldn’t be a virgin only because I was bisexual. Huh, funny how that goes...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:14 AM
28

Hi sis! I’d like to point out a few things about this post that irk me. I hope I won’t offend you, and please keep in mind that its coming from a good place. (Also, I don’t know how to do quotes on mobile, so bear with me) ‘Maybe some scrote will say it is PMS...’ Nobody cares what scrotes think, and neither should you. We don’t want scrotes validation in any single sphere of our lives, and that goes double for weaponising perfectly normal functions of the women’s bodies. Delete that s#it, it do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:48 AM
16

A man hater, huh? Well, #NotAllMen 😁. Just the abusive, low effort man-babies. I’ve been there, and trust me, the self doubt wears off quickly. It took me almost year to go full FDS, and in that time I’ve learned how to talk to my pickme friends. A piece of advice that’s often mentioned here - don’t judge them, don’t over-explain, just repeat after them. Ask them if they think of a certain incident that they’ve described. Talk to them about your positive experiences with levelling up. Watch as t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:20 AM
15

Very well said! 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:09 AM
10

Relax sis, it’s only fake internet points. Also, have in mind that we get brigaded a lot, so it’s very much possible that you were downvoted by some type of MRAs (just because), while women here stayed neutral.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:13 AM
131

This is a ‘what have you done for me lately’ mentality. Ironically, this is something that women are being accused of doing, remember that trope from oh so many sitcoms? Another scrote projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:00 AM
2

Ooooh, that’s what you meant! In that case, I agree 100%. I misunderstood your comment above. Thanks for explaining it to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 11:49 AM
3

Eastern Europe. I love your username, btw 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 11:47 AM
3

I will have to respectfully disagree. I don’t know where you’re from, but in my country there is a custom to bring a gift when you go to someone’s home for the first time. Usually chocolates, bottle of drink, pack of coffee. It’s tied to superstition which goes along the lines of ‘may the new people in your life bring you fortune’. I agree with not going off the rails, but showing up empty handed to someones home would be considered extremely rude. Hell, I would dump a guy who did that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 11:01 AM
9

I scored 0 for mu current relationship. But oh boy, would the result be different just a little over a year ago... Yay progress! 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 08:56 AM
13

I just had a flashback. Not for the shit part, thank god, but for ‘it is what it is’. It really was, and I put up with it for so long. Ladies, this is why I love this sub. A lot of support, sprinkled with reminders of male depravity and entitlement. I’m finally able to recognise and, subsequently, get over some old trauma, which I wasn’t even aware I had. Thank you all 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:33 AM
78

I hope not. He’s over 70 and obese, he has couple more years left, and then she gets all his shit (if he even has anything left). If she initiates divorce, he’ll probably drag her through mud, sue her and make her life an even worse hell then it is already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:27 AM
118

I was cringing until the ‘waaaaa laaaa’ part. Then I simply died.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:20 AM
4

If the genders were reversed, she would be torn to shreds. Actually, I’m getting ahead of myself, if it were a woman, she would have common sense NOT to post publicly that she is trying to be a gold digger. The audacity of losers never ceases to amaze me...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:56 AM
55

I’ve applied a strategy from a sister here, and it works like a charm. The other day I was going out for a walk with my friends, and a friend’s roommate joined us. He’s not the kind of person that I’d like to hang out with, but fine, it can’t be that bad, right? Wrong! He made a lot, and I mean A LOT of crude comments and sex ‘jokes’, and was being an ass in general. My responses ranged from visible eye rolls, simple ‘OK’s followed by topic change, or (my personal favourite) long stare combined …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:12 PM
33

I would rather sit in a 6 hour accounting lecture AGAIN than spend a minute on a scrote like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:52 PM
8

Chiming in to add ‘why should I have help you with something you brought on yourself?’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:37 AM
9

Like literally ANYONE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 11:33 AM
7

Pedophile, you meant to call him a pedophile. Things should be called for what they really are. I’m tired of those cutesy, non-threatening names, like ‘minor attracted person’, ‘sex worker’, ‘sex addict’. No. It’s pedo, prostitute and depraved, cheating low life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 10:37 AM
3

This 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 10:11 AM
37

Better than the odds that this fantasy is real. But I’d LOVE to see that unfold
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:46 AM
101

I wonder if she was the ‘dream girl’ while they were dating, or did she become the ‘dream girl’ after the break up and after she became the ‘one that got away’. Lol, jk, we all know she wasn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:05 PM
8

There is a good chance that she still has no idea. Hopefully, she’ll see him soon in all his glory and drop him like a used one ply paper towel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 11:40 AM
3

I’m gonna cherrypick so hard on this post. I like the message. I feel it in my soul, just with genders reversed. And without the passive-aggressive thankyous. I want a man in my life who will behave like this, who will cherish me, and I’ll make damn sure to reciprocitate. And then there are the last two sentences, and I just... damn girl...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 09:23 AM
27

You’ve come to the right place, sis. This sub can really help you to come out of that mindset, and I will make a logical leap to say it’s somewhere along the lines of ‘I like doing things for free and kissing frogs, because I don’t think that I should inconvenience a man to court me properly, and him spending money on me would mean that I owe him something.’ There is nothing wrong with walking, coffee, or being outside in general, but there is a problem with a man wanting access to your body, mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 09:14 AM
23

You’ve actually covered everything quite nicely. I’d love to do exactly that one day, hopefully with a SO, but if not, then with friend(s). It’s actually on my bucket list. That being said, would you live in a van during winter, like this scrote does 🤡? This post and subsequent (well deserved) shaming are about him being cheap and probably unemployed and STILL feeling entitled to every woman he deems attractive enough to duck. If he didn’t, he wouldn’t complain about it publicly. He literally on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:25 PM
20

Well done sis, I’m so happy for you! Keep spoiling yourself, and keep levelling up 👏🏻💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:07 PM
67

My (suspected) HVM is THRILLED that I’m with him by choice, not by necessity. He is very much aware that I was happy to be single before him, and that I will be happy (single or not) after him. He knows that he’s a positive addition to my life and he wouldn’t have it any other way. My LVXs? Hah, no. Some of them were pushing me to drop my career and be a housewife, who can somehow still support them 😂🤦🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 05:38 AM
12

Congrats on your levelling up, sis! I have to ask you to elaborate a bit more on your antidepressants use. Why was it so ineffective for you? Are you sure that you were on the right medicine/dosage? I’m asking, because in my personal experience it was a COMPLETE opposite. I was numb without them, and they were letting me FEEL things, good and bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:39 AM
7

WhileI agree with you, I think (from my own anecdotal experience) that OP is not telling us everything regarding her antidepressants use, maybe for brevity. From her description, she was either on wrong meds, or using them wrong, and I can tell you that if I’ve seen this story few years ago I’d think twice about seeking antidepressants from my psychiatrist (because this is feeding directly into stereotypes). That’s why we think that the OP’s story might be harmful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:35 AM
12

I know that you’re joking, but I like the idea. Although, I wouldn’t get rid of the binary system, but I’d use a scale as an addition. For example, I want to tell a personal story involving my NVX (-1) , and you ladies know exactly where he stands, without me mentioning too many boring details. I think that the scale should be described in more details.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:20 AM
1

That’s... why we’re here. A small progress is still a progress. Don’t shit on the small things that makes us proud of our levelling up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:18 PM
3

We met when we were both 18. I understand that we were both kids, and that we weren’t mature enough to cope with certain things. I advanced massively in every way, got my masters, established career, while he remained an 18yo kid. The thing is, MY behaviour changed after the proposal. I expected for him to change. To get his degree, get a job, stop being a leech. On the other hand (I’m not sure if this behaviour existed before the engagement, or did I just became hyperaware of his scroteness) he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 07:20 AM
9

I hope you do write it, it will definitely help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:02 AM
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sigh First one was after 10 years; Second one was after a year; Third one after 3 months. None of it worked out. I’m now in a happy relationship with a (seemingly) HVM, and he’s hinting at a proposal within of a year of us dating. I want to add that every single of my engagements fell apart because they felt like they owned me after I said ‘yes’. Most, if not all, effort stopped, arguments began, as well as moving/stomping on my boundaries. I’m terrified that I’ll go through it again...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:46 AM
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Sis, no. We don’t waste time on scrotes for a free meal and some generic gifts. I understand the bitterness, trust me, but this is not healthy mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:24 AM
8

It boils down to this, yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:25 AM
2

I’m not living with my bf yet, but so far, it looks like our life together would be at least 50/50, but there is a great chance that he would do more. For now I spend a lot of time at his place, and his flat is always immaculate. I cook, he helps with the prep, or does most of it. If I don’t cook, he orders take out. Both groceries and take out are ALWAYS paid by him. The faith I have in the 50/50 division with him is the way he sees chores. For example, he’s allergic to dust, and he’s cleaning …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:17 AM
37

Wait, why? It’s true. I know we don’t support it, and I shudder at the thought of doing that again, but that’s the thing - I did that, it’s very likely that all of us here did something along those lines at some point, and women are doing that, without being aware. This post points that out, without approving it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:45 PM
117

Wait, wait, I’m provided by a fully furnished house, payed bills, and a loyal, caring man? Sign me the f up 😂 Hell, I’d be quiet as a mouse if men would treat me like a fellow human being. I’d be the happiest housewife there is. But they don’t. And I’m not. And I won’t be quiet. F*ck pickmes that pull us all down with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:29 AM
75

Ah, you need to cOmMuNiCAte better! I’m 100% serious about this. I’m not sure what your goal is, but as far as I’m concerned, I’m on a rescue mission. Most of my gfs are HV, but unfortunately they have some internalised misogyny and some pickme traits, which I want to remove from them. I’m making my attitudes known, clearly, but I’m aware that I won’t do anything by attacking them. What I do, is make them think about what they said/did, and leave the seed to grow on it’s own. Dumb example: I had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:23 AM
4

I’m stealing this! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:16 AM
7

I read a statistics long time ago that 70% of women change their appearance after a break up. Dunno if it’s true, but I’m taking SOOOO much better care of myself after dumping the scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:35 AM
4

That should be a flair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:46 AM
4

I’m so glad to hear that women are speaking up for each other, more and more frequent. Well done sis, real queen energy 👑 You did what you could, your role/help/kindness ends here. The rest is on her. Hopefully, she’ll wake up some day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:31 AM
15

You did try to help, your conscience in clean. She was a pickme, she got her grand prize. I do hope that that was her wake up call, tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:28 AM
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Hey, hey, not all pickmes!! Nah, just kidding, she can rot in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:16 AM
8

Brava 👏🏻👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:17 PM
3

Hell yeah! Queen energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:23 PM
18

It’s a kink that we have
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:53 AM
9

I don’t agree with this. I’m not sure if I got the meaning of your post in full, but here’s my opinion. I’m NOT going to dress down. I like to look nice, and I love to feel beautiful. I like to wear good fitting sun dresses at summer, I love dressing professional during the work week, I love matching shoes and purses, and I love the feeling of empowerment that it brings me. Yes, empowerment. People (men and women) look at me with more respect, and most scrotes don’t even bother to approach me, b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:33 PM
9

Exactly! I’m not gonna waste my time on someone that I don’t even deem worthy of dressing up for. I mean, I’m not going to wear a ballgown, but sure as hell I won’t present myself as a slob.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:17 PM
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Yup, you’re right, insanely rare. And I have never ever met a hyper-sexual woman who wasn’t a victim of severe mental and/or sexual abuse. So yeah, another thing for those scrotes to think about. Lol, of course they won’t 🎪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:03 PM
7

I have a feeling that she’s about to cry. Like... she knows it’s a cope, and she’s trying to convince herself that whatever she’s saying is true? Or is her voice cracking because of the great injustice inflicted on men?? Both? I guess we’ll never know. I almost feel sorry for her. Almost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 01:06 PM
17

Oh no sis... I’m so sorry that you went through this. Admitting embarrassing moments and learning from them is great progress, keep going forward 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:57 PM
12

Yay progress! Well done sis! I’m proud of you 🤗 Just keep going forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:09 AM
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I’m childfree, and I intend to stay childfree forever. That being said, I vet harder, exactly for the reason you described in your post. I do have a strategy, though. During the vetting phase, I sway the conversation to that topic, but in that way that HE is the one who mentions children first in that manner. I do that by asking about his siblings, their families, ask him about their kids, and carefully watch his reaction. There are a few reasons for this: 1) I’m not giving him a weapon to use a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:52 PM
9

Not OP, but I just went there for this exact reason. All comments were supportive of OP’s suspicion, and advised her not to go. I guess my bar for redditors is so low that I’m pleasantly surprised by this. Btw, OP posted an update that she called him out, he had a lame excuse, and she ghosted him. Story with a happy ending.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 11:07 AM
10

Hey, I don’t know what did you suffer from, but if you’re feeling nauseous, it’s always better to throw up if you can, instead of holding it in. The urge to let it all out is because your stomach is full of stomach acid, and your body wants to get rid of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:48 AM
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I’d like to point out how women’s collective criteria is getting lower with time. Like... what is this crap? ‘I hate that he watches porn, but at least he doesn’t pay for it, doesn’t subscribe to anyone’s onlyfans, and only follows insta models’ ‘I hate that he paid for that girl’s onlyfans, but at least they don’t know each other in real life’ ‘He pays for onlyfans of several of his friends and acquaintances and leaves thirsty comments on their instagram pics and is DMing them everyday, but at …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 08:03 AM
11

Broke scrotes and dumb pickmes, that’s who 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 10:00 AM
16

Oh no, he didn’t order anything. Just left seconds before it was my turn to order. I just remember that that was a thing he used to do - he ‘hated’ eating outside, because it was uNhEaLtHy, so we never went out to eat, unless I insisted, and in that case it was conveniently my treat. I was too meek to call him out on his ‘health’ habits, because he would stuff himself with mayo sandwiches at my place. Healthy, right! /s You gave me good (and hilarious) advice, however, I will never ever put myse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 09:15 AM
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Oh, I have a cringefest, and the best part is - it all happened at once. My relationship was obviously coming to an end, but I wanted to be ‘at peace with myself’ so I’d know in the future that I did everything I could to save our relationship 🤡 I was returning from a road trip with my family, asked them to drop me off when we reached the city so I can see my bf. we didn’t spend much time outside of my house, so I jumped on any opportunity to hang out with him 🤡. Once we met, he semi casually dr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:53 AM
22

Me three. Oh, the cringe! 😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:24 AM
10

No no, butt CRUMBS! I mean, I’m sure there was crust as well, but damn, you made it even worse. Nice 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:22 AM
3

Depression, sleeping disorder, anxiety, symptoms of bipolar disorder, all gone within mere WEEKS of leaving my NVX. Also, as a very pleasant bonus, my period doesn’t hurt anymore. Funny how your body works well when the main stressor is removed from your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 12:04 AM
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Hey, sis in training! Well done, the progress is showing already. Don’t be too hard on yourself, you will get better and better with each day. Here’s to levelling up 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:39 PM
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Multiple reasons, all equally disgusting. Main one is the fetish thing, a trophy, if you will. Woman’s virginity is a prize to be won. Second one, ‘purity’, inexperience, not being able to compare them to anyone else. Virgin women are more likely susceptible to manipulation, again, due to the lack of experience. Third, to fulfil their dream of a meek, obedient trad-wife, because that’s the only trait that is worthy of marriage in their depraved eyes. Of course, those reasons aren’t mutually excl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:29 PM
8

Very well said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 07:07 PM
12

This was an amazing and very educational read. I should definitely re-read this at regular intervals. Thank you so much for your effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:57 PM
4

Well done! It took a lot of strength to reach this point, and your levelling up will continue exponentially.Keep it going!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:34 PM
46

This is great advise! Smart words that come from experience, unfortunately. I genuinely hope that your situation will improve. Sending virtual hugs 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:31 PM
137

Another male scrote’s fantasy. I’m sure that prostitutes are these wonderful, empathetic, magical beings, which are doing their jobs for the love of it, and charity. They lay awake at nights just thinking about these poor, poor men that crave basic intimacy so much that they HAD to buy them. I’m surprised that the post doesn’t say anything about wives’ cheating on them for years, and that it was that man’s first time wandering outside of marriage. Of course, just for hugging and cuddling purpose…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:28 PM
139

Wow, I love this post! As a ‘90s kid, I didn’t think about the rise of the pickme culture as much, especially not that that’s when it started, so it was pretty much normal. Which is sad, when you think about it... Thank you for this wonderful explanation, now some things make more sense to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:21 PM
55

Well done sis! I’m so happy to hear about your progress. True queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:56 AM
20

Oh no! I hope he’s an ex, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:57 PM
105

Not at all, I love reliving my most embarrassing moments! Because of LooOoOVe 🤢. I was convinced that love shouldn’t come easy, and that we need to struggle and suffer. With the HVM it all went too easy, effortless even. I was young and stupid, and didn’t know what trauma bonding was. To be clear, I did the right thing with HV ex, we weren’t a good match in the long run, and I wasn’t into religion as he was. And his family hated me for that. It’s the scrote part that makes me cringe to this day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:32 PM
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Wow. Such an inspiring story! She’s a true queen. I’d just like to point out how strong is cultural misogyny when you had such an amazing example at home, and yet still resented her when you were younger, and thinking she was the crazy one, and that she is somehow failing in life because she doesn’t have a man! I’m guilty of a similar thing as well. What collective brainwashing...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:23 PM
2

Great progress sis! Keep it going, we’re all rooting for you 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:08 PM
4

Sure, but why? So she can do all the work by herself? I too prefer to be pleasured by a man without me putting in an effort 🙄 Also, doing it every time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:58 AM
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The title! I’m experiencing that right now. It’s so new to me to actually experience ‘if he wanted to, he would’, but you know, from the other side of the spectrum. I’m so happy, and I’m rooting for you, sis! Keep us updated with more HV stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:39 AM
166

Hell yeah! Spoken like a true leveled-up queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:30 AM
33

I love this! I was at a similar place, and I’m so grateful that I’ve not only discovered this community, but that I was actually ready to listen, take advice and IMPLEMENT it. My life is 100x better because of this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:25 AM
3

I hope that FDS twitter is having a field day exposing them. On the other hand, it might be beneath them, because it’s so easy to bash VICE. Like, they don’t even have to try.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:11 AM
8

Hahahah, nothing but truth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:07 AM
35

Yes, we are! And I’m so proud of us, and on this supportive community. More meanies, please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:48 AM
11

Only volcels here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:44 AM
11

It’s an automatic flair for the new joiners. Nothing personal, and you’ll get more flattering flare in time and with more activity. I actually think it’s very symbolic, because (almost) all of us here were pickmes, and it takes a while to unlearn these behaviours. And also, after a person gets a new flair, like Newbie, Apprentice, Strategist, they don’t get demoted, they get banned for inappropriate behaviour. Which I think is beautiful 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:42 AM
16

Or add ‘allegedly’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:33 AM
13

Yup, happened to me. Came because of the bad press, stayed because of the hard reality check. I can honestly say that a year later, I’m a new person, happy with myself, and with high standards, which may or may not be met by a man in the future. And I’m perfectly content with that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:31 AM
41

I know you’re joking, but there are men out there who actually believe this. I’m laughing-crying right now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:20 AM
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This is some queen advice, right there. Confession time: I had that. Rich, successful, head over heels In love with me HVM (by what was shown at that time). And I chose a broke scrote over him whom I had to financially support and beg to text me back🤦🏽‍♀️. But hey, lesson learned!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:55 AM
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I’m honestly surprised with the lack of ‘fEmALe’ in that misogynistic rant. Oh, and men’s day is in November 19th. But I guess that self proclaimed non-human doesn’t know that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:32 PM
3

Ohhh. Thank you for explaining.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:22 PM
2

I am sooo happy to hear that. Us women need to stick together like that much, much more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 11:01 AM
3

Can you tell me what does the status change mean? Was he privileged somehow? More sheltered? I’m not familiar with military terms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:55 AM
5

I used to love that show, but I watched the later seasons, and I don’t remember all the toxicity. I do remember that the ‘makeovers’ were very traumatic for most contestants. Like, the models were just pushed to the extreme, male and female alike. The tipping point for me to stop watching it was the blatant favouritism in a season where the theme was ‘something different’. They had beautiful women of all ages, body types, flaws and colours. I’m talking 42yo gorgeous, black mother of 5 (what wall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:18 AM
8

Oh sis, I’m so sad you went through that. I hope you are in a better place now 🤗💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 09:57 AM
3

Wow, such audacity! Did she take him back?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 09:46 AM
12

Wow! So inspiring!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:51 PM
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Hahahhah, scrotes mad because of a CARTOON! Wearing more clothes! Their pee pee has difficulties getting hard because of it. Hahaha, and they are telling on themselves. I just can’t stop laughing about this. Omg, I can’t believe the world we live in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:27 PM
1

It amuses me to no end that those men think THEY’RE the ones who are against reproduction. It’s their achievement that there are less babies in developed countries, yes! It probably has nothing to do with the fact that women are saying no to having kids with losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:36 AM
12

Back in my pickme days, I wanted to be liked by all, even the guys that I wasn’t into. Just wanted to be an epitome of the ‘cool girl’. Lolol, what a dum dum I was. Anyway, I was hanging out with friends and suddenly remembered ‘oh no, I forgot to call ZVM and his friends to hang put with us, and I promised that I would!’ My HVM friend responded with ‘Chill, if he wanted to, he would’ve called you. He has a phone too.’ I was MIND. BLOWN. That moment was a turning point and a seed for ‘if he want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:48 AM
17

Aesthetically challenged!! I love it 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:35 AM
9

Oh no no, you’re missing the point! Make OTHER men wait for sex, not ME! Those OTHER men won’t respect you, but I’m not like other men! Better yet, don’t sex those other men, only sex me. It’s only logical!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:26 AM
13

Haha, they’d hate to see it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:57 AM
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70+ yo are being treated like that because they are a huge demographic that is VERY easily manipulated into voting for whomever is best at propaganda. They don’t fact check, they just want to see a ‘strong’ leader, and that’s enough for them. It’s happening in my country, it’s happening in US, it’s happening in UK. Sad really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:50 AM
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How sad is this that ALL of us went through this? Yes, all women go through at least one derivative of the ‘cool girl’ phase. I can’t emphasise enough how happy I am to be here, on this sub, among my sisters. Nothing but levelling up! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:03 AM
3

Welcome, sis! Here’s to levelling up 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:46 AM
20

I’m looking forward to the moment when AI will get so advanced that the sex dolls will start rejecting scrotes. On the other hand, I hope that moment never comes, and the scrotes would weed themselves out of the gene pool, and leave the rest of us alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:32 AM
4

You are absolutely right! I’m sad that we had to go through that...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:08 PM
1

Hey... that’s a brilliant take that I never even considered! Wow. I’m shocked at how accurate that is. Thanks for enlightening me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:06 PM
1

Scrotes mad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 12:12 PM
1

🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 12:11 PM
2

You can go to Google images, drag & drop an image in the search bar, and it’ll give you all the places where that image (or similar one) was posted. Try it out 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 10:20 AM
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I remember that a fee years ago I’ve read something on AskReddit, along the lines of ‘what’s the worst thing you constantly see as a psychologist/therapist?’ ‘The amount of women making excuses (analysing every single detail from their interactions/social media) for men who obviously don’t care about them is staggering.’ This post reminds me of that. A lot. I hope she finds us soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:55 AM
2

You’re right, I’ve edited my comment, sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:48 AM
2

You are absolutely right. Apologies, english is not my native language, it didn’t turn out right :(. I’ve edited my comment to correct myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:47 AM
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Nothing but truth, sis! I can confirm from my experience that this strategy WORKS! I only ‘lost’ on scrotes that wanted to use me, and every HVM that I’ve met/dated had 0 issues to wait until I was ready. Zero!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 11:02 PM
2

Amazing work sis! I’m so happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 10:57 PM
42

Girl, no! It’s a trick, and you know it! The poor girl doesn’t even know what’s she going into. Don’t look at their social media, you’ll only see things that they want you to see (and everybody else, for that matter).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 08:50 AM
34

They only listen if it comes from another man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 03:52 PM
4

Queen! I strive to be like that one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 11:18 AM
13

Oh yeah, that. I always forget about that detail 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 10:28 AM
3

Me too. I’d just like to add that I talk shit about anyone without being afraid to repeat it to their face. I know that it’s a LV quality, but I’m very proud that I’m able to do that now, because I was a doormat most of my life. levelling up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 10:17 AM
2

Why are men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:22 PM
79

Lol, bridge troll has a job 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:53 AM
10

Hell yeah! You are so brave! Welcome sis 🤗💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:39 AM
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‘You want a maid, but can’t afford one’ Sooo true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 02:34 PM
5

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:49 AM
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Exactly! I remember I read an article a long time ago about some rock star from the ‘80s, who stopped showering just to see how far can he go until groupies stop having sex with him. His goal was to humiliate them as much as possible. Oh, and he showered once a girl puked all over him while giving him a blow job. Nothing but depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:00 AM
143

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:56 AM
25

Not only that, her gifts to him are more expensive or higher value than his. I’ve heard this speech a couple of times, but this is the first time I’ve noticed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 11:06 PM
11

Oh ok, let me go back in time and fix all that! Of course, it’s MY fault for not knowing any better when I was 16, half my life ago. And sure, blame me, not the ‘grown ass men’ that were willing to date a teenager. Just to be clear, I never promoted that behaviour, I shared my own experience from long time ago. And yeah, I’m very aware of how lucky I was to remain unharmed during that time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 10:52 PM
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You know who DOES use men for free meals? Teenagers. Also broke college girls. Ask me how I know... 😫 Since I started earning my own income, I never even CONSIDERED to go out with someone just for a ‘free’ meal. And I don’t know any women who would do that. My time is far more valuable than his loose change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 05:08 PM
42

Oh sis, no! You are sorely mistaken. How do I know that? Been there, to the letter! Except for me, the scrote drained me for almost a decade. I was looking at myself in the mirror, and saw an old, spent crone. Dark circles around my eyes, crow feet, uneven skin tone, blemishes, deep forehead wrinkles. That’s what years of stress, anxiety and lack of sleep will do to you. My self care journey started a little less than a year ago, and now I’m GLOWING. My face looks better than ever, I exercise re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:32 AM
6

Good for you sis! I know exactly what you mean and what you’re going through. ‘Reaping all the benefits, while I’m getting nothing but his company’ resonates hard with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 06:29 AM
2

Way to go, sis! I’m so happy to hear that! Sending virtual hugs 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:16 PM
3

Same girl, same 😩 I’m sorry you went through that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:05 PM
7

Oooh, I like that a lot! I already imagine myself telling off a scrote: ‘Your budget is not my problem’ Unfortunately (/s), the ladies here had taught us well, so we will never be in a situation like that in the first place 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:01 PM
11

It’s elementary, my dear. Rapists simply can’t reach a tall woman’s vagina. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:58 PM
2

I’m going to see a play. First valentines day in over a decade where I won’t be disappointed in a man’s choice, nor be nagged about mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:09 AM
9

God I hope she got rid of the scrote instead. The AUDACITY!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:11 AM
21

From my (sad, sad) experience, it’s because they can’t move in with you. I’m living with my parents by choice, and when I look back, that had saved me so much heartache. I lived abroad for some time, and when I got back to my home country I got back to my parent’s place. Big house, 4 bedroom, 2 bathroom, big backyard, rent free (I’m taking care of all costs and expenses, don’t worry). I didn’t feel the need to be ‘independent’ in a crappy and ridiculously expensive one bedroom appt, I wanted to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 09:02 AM
2

Ooh, I was even worse than that. I feel ashamed, but not afraid to admit it anymore, not in this safe space. I was torturing myself with the thought that he’ll treat someone better, that that someone else will get easily all the things that I begged him for. All I had to do, of course, was to endure and be a better girlfriend. That’s all it takes. eventually, he’ll see my value and start treating me right! What a naive fool I was. I’m so glad that I’m out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:42 AM
1

Volcel. Haven’t heard of it before, and I love it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:35 AM
18

Oohhh, I missed that for 30 years! English is my second language, and I always thought that ‘fare’ meant ‘beautiful’. It’s PALE! It means PALE! I’m laughing at myself, at so many movies/shows that I misinterpreted. Whit things like these, I wonder what else have I been missing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:17 AM
18

I hope you are doing well, sis. Virtual hugs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 08:00 AM
22

👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:44 AM
15

Ladies, form an orderly line to the left. No cutsies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 07:41 AM
17

Hell yeah! Congrats sis, and welcome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:02 AM
114

Well done, sis! I’m glad you’re out, and I’m sorry that you went through all that. Most of us here has a similar story, so you’re not alone. Things will get better, I promise. Sending virtual hugs 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 01:50 PM
18

The AUDACITY!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:50 PM
8

You should be looking your best for YOU. Him being impressed will be a side effect, but the important thing is that you level-up for you, not so that he can see what he’s ‘let slip through his fingers’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:13 AM
15

Girl, stop thinking about him. Why would you want to impress that scrote? He doesn’t deserve another minute of your time. Move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 06:54 AM
16

You just don’t get it because women aren’t funny. It’s called dark humour sweaty, look it up. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:22 AM
21

Can he provide like King David?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:47 AM
14

Scrotes: ‘Don’t hate the player, hate the game, tee hee!’ FDS: Well, we don’t want to play your games, begone scrote. Scrotes: No, not like that REEEEEEEEE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:33 AM
19

And then block him anyways, while he’s still typing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 01:03 PM
57

It’s projection all right. Porn sickness as well, there is a trope of ‘changing’ lesbians and asexual women with their magic peepee. Their reasoning is correct, a good man will ‘change your mind’ (in my experience), but def not in the way they think. I had loads of sex, and I was insatiable with some men, not because of life changing dicking, but because of strong emotional connection, trust, and their very strong urge to please me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 12:49 PM
3

Oh please, do not threaten me with good time 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:50 AM
-8

Weeeell... I support Trump very much, but not for the reasons you might think. It sounds terrible, but just try to see it from my perspective. He is a narcissistic idiot, who was (and still is) willing to destroy his country to keep himself in power. Awful, right? Sure, but the alternative in 2016. was Hilary, whose husband declared war to my small country and destroyed its economy. It was Bush who declared war to the middle east, and Obama who continued it, and launched missiles to at least 7 c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 12:10 PM
17

Oh, no! You’re being given negative fake points from deprived, anonymous scrotes! How will you ever recover?? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:48 AM
10

Op said ‘better’ chance, not ‘only’ chance. In that manner I agree completely. I have a scrote for a sperm donor, and I am strong, self sufficient and confident. Not thanks to him though, but despite him. My path to success would be much, MUCH easier if I had any amount of a good paternal figure, because he had really set an ‘example’ of what is normal for a woman to put up with from her partner. Thank god that I had my eyes opened, even if it did happen in my 30s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:30 AM
7

Yup. Wasted years on a guy with ‘potential’. I’m very successful, and I projected that on him. What he projected on me, however, was being a gold digger and a cheater. Funny how that works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 10:26 PM
3

It is a common denominator, well put. None of the bad experiences that I had with people would have happened if I left at the first ATTEMPT of disrespect. I wish that I have known then what I know now. And that I had the self esteem that I have now. Oh well, we live and learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:41 AM
7

You have no idea how sad that actually is. I’m Eastern European, and i know plenty of examples of western men coming here, meeting ‘the one’ and staying indefinitely. All they had to do is not be an ass, and have reasonable amount of money. That’s it, that’s the bar. They are being rejected just because they can’t meet that criteria. Also, women being able to work and earn good money helped 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:32 AM
8

Oh boy, do I have stories to tell. Posting about my pre FDS educations feels like cheating, so here’s a more recent one. I was looking into real estate on a well known ski resort in my country, and I met a guy who was a realtor (I’m not sure if this is a correct term, he’s an owner of a company that builds and sells apartments in that area). He was immediately interested in me, showed me around, we clicked, and he invited me over to his place. Sure, I’ll drop by for a drink. His apartment was sp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 08:01 AM
7

Nice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:36 AM
2

Welcome sis! Advice: focus on yourself. You come first. Levelling up. Healing. Being better and kinder to yourself. I want to know, how did you find us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 09:32 AM
5

We live and we learn 🤗. Don’t blame yourself, you know better for next time, and that’s all that matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 09:28 AM
8

Lol, no. Demanding respect and equality of opportunity is not being radicalised, and I’m sick and tired of it being painted as such. Radical feminism would be shooting up a school and leaving behind a manifesto because we can’t get laid with HVM. Or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:49 AM
25

I mean... it was effectively communicated to me that I shouldn’t piss on the floor, and some people didn’t have that privilege. Men aren’t mind readers, how can they possibly know this if no one told them communicatively? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 10:44 AM
5

Go get it girl! You’ll improve in so many ways, and you won’t be able to recognise yourself in a year or so!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:52 PM
7

Once you go FDS, you never go back. I look forward to the hate cross posts which will promote this sub even more. Hell, that’s how I found this sub in the first place. Someone was whining about it, I wanted to check it out for a laugh (I genuinely thought that this is incel equivalent for women) and two posts down I was hooked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:41 PM
1

Sensually, as one of the scrotes suggested 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:55 PM
8

Good looking men in UAE? Where? I worked there for 2 years, and I’ve seen 1 (one) guy that looked like had seen a gym from the inside. I guess I was really unlucky at that aspect...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:10 PM
9

They are triggered. Literal minutes later I found a post titled something like ‘buying a fleshlight changed my perspective’, and the post was the same, just replaced dildo with pocket p*ssy. Scrotes mad again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:55 PM
10

I’d LOVE for it to be a choice...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:48 PM
18

I love this excerpt. All of it, a guy explaining an obvious thing to 30something old women, the coddling of her friends, the automatic defensiveness of the younger women, but mostly the clear, clear message: Interested men don’t send mixed signals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:14 AM
35

My ex yelled at me for hours for brushing my teeth. He felt that that time would be better used cuddling with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:09 AM
27

Same girl, same 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:07 AM
5

I know that this doesn’t match your question exactly, but I feel the need to vent. I have a story, but unfortunately not the take out the trash one. It should have been that kind of story though. My NVM ex wanted to ‘do something nice’ for me and make me my favourite dessert from scratch. Now, in my mind, I thought that he was supposed to BRING the dessert to me, but no, he wanted to MAKE it at my place. I asked him not to, but of course my ‘no’ wasn’t respected, so this freelancing scrote (read…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 09:53 AM
19

Pickmes don’t think that far ahead, and scrotes know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 09:04 AM
71

While I agree, I wonder how to avoid sounding like a LV pickme while asking this? Sure, I’ll out scrotes, but I feel like I’m risking devaluing myself in HVM eyes. Like, on an off chance he’s an actual HVM, me mentioning porn (especially at the early stages of dating) should put him off. And me deflecting with a derivative of ‘HA! That was a test, and you passed. I too dislike porn’ makes me sound like a pickme chameleon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:21 AM
37

Hell yes! This is also a reason why LVM don’t want us to have a lot of friends, especially strong ones with strong women, because we have an amazing support system and peer-reviewed bullshit detector. Scrotes mad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:13 AM
6

I agree, but have in mind we’re all still work in progress. And OP Is progressing, one step at a time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:06 AM
96

I misread the title at first and was like ‘kinKvoice? Yeah, makes sense that they would do that’ but then the reality hit me... This is insane! Wtf reddit? They present themselves as KIND and SUPPORTIVE community. Whatever atrocities you might have posted, the real reason is your post history. I wonder if they are as diligent in weeding out incels and pedos from their community. Welp, I guess we’ll never know 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 08:00 AM
15

It is, but just in theory. The reality is that the woman will alway give more in the relationship, one way or the other. The post was about how men don’t want to live with other men because they don’t have access to other benefits, such as listed above.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 11:04 AM
114

I don’t know what a dv is, but I’m assuming it’s some sort of a safe house? Unfortunately, there is a reason for that. I hope I won’t offend you, it’s not my intention. An anecdote from an acquaintance of mine, and one of the biggest misogynists I know. A woman. A female woman. She used to volunteer in a women’s shelter. She had a kind heart, and was the nicest, most humble person I know. The pickmes have destroyed her empathy. Some women (not all, but too many) were going to a safe house as a t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:13 AM
9

I have never ever in my life went out with a man who suggested first to split the bill. I had my fair share of shit men, but this had never happened [to me]. This so called test is there as a catalyst. I don’t have time nor the energy to wait for him to show his true colours. If he’s more than happy to save some money while ‘taking me out’, then I don’t want anything to do with him from then on. If the bar is so low at the very first stages of courtship, then I’m not gonna sit around and wait fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 11:35 AM
22

I do this a lot (well, did, before the pandemic). It’s a test. If he ‘lets’ me pay after me politely offering, then that wasn’t a date, and there won’t be another randez-vous. ‘But wait! What if he’s a fEMiNiSt, and rESpEcTs your wants?’ Haha, still no. We all know that male feminists are just cherry picking the parts of it that they like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 11:27 AM
124

This. All of this. I wish I had this energy many years ago, when I let a parasite live off of me AND treat me like a nuisance. And for all disagreeing with me, here’s an explanation for my attitude: Nah, jk. It is what it is 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 11:17 AM
13

Overwhelmed? Stressed out? Aren’t we all tho? Unless he’s gonna live a total hermit life for the next few months, he’s a lying liar that lies. And you know this in your gut. This means he’s seeing someone else and he’s trying to keep you on a back burner. Or he has a girlfriend and you were a potential side piece, and he needs to keep a low profile. Either way, you don’t want him anymore, trust this internet stranger. Ghost & block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:50 PM
23

How old are you? You don’t need to answer, but that question is actually crucial. I struggled with the same thing until I’ve ‘hit the wall’ (lol), aka reached a ripe old age of 28. Some of my friends matured, and I started making girl friends that were 30+ yo, and accomplished in their respective fields. In short, try to find older women to befriend. Second thing, and equally important is to vet your new acquaintances by their partners (if they have partners, that is). One of the best vetting to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:37 PM
9

Welcome sis! Congrats for levelling up 🤗💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:54 AM
2

Girl, you just gave me flashbacks, and yet another realisation on what my LV ex did to me. Thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 09:38 AM
54

I’m entertained, but I’m pretty sure that what she did was a crime. I’m curious to know what happened after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 09:13 PM
68

Ooh boy! I have a theory, hear me out: The wife is taking the nuclear option, because she’s being desperate. She just wants her leech of a scrote to step up and be a provider. Making twice his salary? She’s obviously highly educated, and is/was career oriented. Maybe she even comes from a wealthy background. She is giving him an ultimatum - either he becomes a productive member of society, or he shows his true colours and leaves when his lifestyle starts suffering. She got tired of being a bread…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 02:25 PM
84

I love how my perspective had changed. A couple of years ago (who am I kidding, just 8 months ago, lol) I would think that this was sooooo romantic. Now I see it as it is - a pickme retelling how she ‘escaped’ the forever girlfriend zone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 02:10 PM
17

He’s just trying to keep her down, along with him. Because if she’s finally confident AND smoking hot, she will quickly realize that he’s trash. I used to be against plastic surgeries, and then I realized why was I so adamantly against it. It’s because I was told that guys like natural girls, no plastic, no surgeries, only naturally hot, low effort girlfriends. Wtf was I thinking?? I laugh at my old pickme ways. I hope she goes through with it, for her own sake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 02:03 PM
68

Well done! And welcome to the community 🤗 Also, I’d love to hear an update when you find time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:17 PM
15

Hell yeah! Congrats sis 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:15 AM
7

No, no, he has a point. Not for him though, but I think that what he said is very applicable to us. I’m gonna cherry pick a bit here: Attraction? Hell yes, first thing I want from my man is to be attracted to him. Also, his physical appearance tells me quite a lot about him and our compatibility from the start. I’m fit and outdoorsy, so if he’s scrawny, fat, of skinny-fat, we have no future together, no matter how NiCe or fUnNy he is. Two dates part? That’s a lol. The next two are how a ‘get to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 08:22 AM
17

I used to try to defend myself, and gave lengthly replies, but now a simple ‘Have you met men?’ ends all discussion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 01:50 PM
14

No, she was clarifying that they were playing non-sexual games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 06:52 AM
3

It seems to me that you really, really don’t want to tell her. You’ve dismissed every good advice here, and made a lame excuse. Why are you here? Stop wasting our time and go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 06:41 AM
8

Anymore! You forgot that part 😂 He’s able to change, see!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 10:42 AM
1

Well, in that case, yeah. It makes more sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:47 PM
21

I think so too, but only because it sounds like it needs to be done in the span of days. Also I think that this is for OLD, when you have no way of verifying info given by him. I’d dump a guy immediately if he called me at work, instead of contacting me on my cell (it’s a control thing), but calling the reception, asking for him, not giving your name, and then hanging up... sounds ok if you don’t know ANYTHING about the guy. The parents thing and drug test is a bit much, imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:39 AM
5

A half pickme is a full pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:22 AM
44

Well done queen! I’d love to hear an update on this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:50 AM
2

Lol, I got my period when I was 16, but I was still sexualised way before that. WAY before that. I just love how much effort this pedo had put into research to defend his pedophilia. The words he used have more letters than his dream girl’s preferred age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:24 PM
2

Yup, a similar story. Met a guy, went to his place for a drink, snooped around his bathroom, and saw feminine hygiene products. That means: 1) he lied about not seeing anyone 2) that’s not his place 3) all of the above ✅ I left pretty quickly afterwards. I have another one. I went to an ex fwb’s place (girls got needs, ya know) after a party we went to together, and I went to the bathroom before bed. Lo and behold, a toothbrush with traces of lipstick on it. Oh hell naw, he lied about not seeing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:17 PM
2

Hahah, I love that top comment. /s The fact that she’s GONE, and that the other scrote is like ‘she needs to put effort too and apologise if she wants to be with you’ is hilarious. The audacity is astounding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:32 AM
2

I’m going against the grain here, and say that I almost exclusively made the first move on the guy, and that I had positive experiences. I don’t recommend it though, and I’ll explain why. I want to stress that I was smart about it though. I was a pickme most of my life, but the thing is - nobody knew. I made elaborate plans how to ‘accidentally’ run into my crush, made friends with his friends before approaching (decade later, I still friends with some of those people), did my research beforehan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:49 AM
6

No need for the right woman, just a ‘better’ one. And for most scrotes ‘better’ just means ‘anyone else’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:27 AM
7

Oh wow, so that’s where the pickme ‘speech’ was from. I had no idea, thought it was just satire. Come to think about it, it actually is...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 05:50 AM
5

1) depends, do you still plan on being friends with him after? See his reaction during the break up, I think you’ll find your answer (on both counts, friendship and watch issue) there. 2) honesty is the best policy. Tell him what you’ve told us. You gave plenty of reasons not to be with him, and keep in mind that only ONE of those is enough to end a relationship. Don’t be condescending, don’t be rude, and don’t let him change your mind, your decision is made. I’m not saying this for his sake, bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:02 AM
2

Get busy. In any way, shape or form that you can. I can’t stress this enough. Read a book, watch a movie, exercise, go for a run, open youtube rabbit hole and laugh your ass off (or pick up a new skill, hobby, whatever you feel like at the time). Level up education wise, there a re TONS of free materials (or very cheap courses/certificates) online that you can immensely benefit from. You don’t feel like being productive? Spend a few hours pampering yourself, all those beauty routines that you do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 07:51 AM
4

I love thrift shops too, it’s like a scavenger hunt. You never know what you’ll find, and it’s good for the environment (and your wallet).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:02 PM
16

Eh, it depends. I think that the most important thing is that he’s actually willing to satisfy you, and not just use your body for masturbation. From my (limited) experience, older guy had more patience, although I must admit that he sometimes had issues with maintaining an erection, but that was a rare occurrence. In every other instance it was mind blowing, and in terms of quality it was better than younger guys, and just slightly behind him in quantity. Of course, everything stated goes to he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 03:59 PM
180

Ladies, before FDS I would be so triggered with the content of this post. Now, I just have to laugh. The insecurity, straw grasping, the projection - everything is just ridiculous. The cherry on top is that this is typed out by teens who have no idea how the world (nor aging) works. They’ll be up for a rude awakening in a few short years, with their entitlement, empty wallets, ED and cold, cold bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 03:50 PM
5

Congrats sis! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 03:43 PM
3

Omg, that’s a hilarious take that I’ll have to use whenever the opportunity arises!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:33 AM
13

Oh yes, they are sexy as hell! But have in mind that those are the selected few from the era.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 06:18 AM
6

Hell yeah! Keep up the good work! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 10:27 AM
1

Oh...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:09 PM
5

Seriously? Getting Emma Stone drunk so she’d sleep with Jonah Hill? I think it had more rapey vibes, but I can’t remember atm. The movie is funny because the boys are so incompetent in being rapists. And oh, at the end, the boys are rewarded with ‘getting their girls’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:51 PM
14

It’s when individuals act on material non public information that they’ve obtained somehow. Ex: a company had massive losses, but it’s quarterly report hasn’t been published yet, and you decide to sell the stocks before that info was disseminated. Once those losses are known, the price for that stock will drop, meaning that everybody else who owns the stock will lose money. Ex 2: American congressmen selling their stock because they’ve known that the covid would have massive downward impact on t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:40 PM
26

First I found it funny, and as the list progressed I got increasingly furious. Have sex with a toxic ex and/or have a threesome with a him, leave immediately after sex with a rando, hookup with old people, fuck your boss. That’ll teach ‘em!! So empowering! /s The cherry on top is the last advice ‘Remember, sex is as much for your own pleasure as much as it is for your partner’s pleasure. I wish I learned it sooner. I had so much bad, people pleasing sex and I will never get that time back.’ Grea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 09:44 AM
42

I agree that PMing would get you less hate, but I think you did the right thing for posting it publicly, because you never know who might see it that might need it the same (or even more) than the person it was meant for. Especially if you’re not afraid of losing some imaginary internet points, or salty incels sending you hate messages. Unfortunately, in this instance no one gets to see it, because taking care of yourself is oppressing, apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 10:23 AM
6

I get bored easily. Anger issues. I can hold a grudge for decades. Other than those teeny tiny things, I’m all good 😩 I’m working on it, I really am. Therapy, self-care, doing sports, everything that takes the pressure off and keeps me levelled. It’s freaking hard, because sometimes nothing helps. Sometimes I feel that it’s getting worse, but sometimes it improves. And for those other ‘sometimes’ I get glimpses of hope that one say I would finally be able to put all the broken pieces together. S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 05:30 PM
59

Wow. Just wow. This is the lowest level shit that I’ve ever seen from a ‘strong, independent woman’. ‘The great thing about athletes is that they can’t be seen with me. So most of the time they don’t take me anywhere.’ Oh yes, she’s living the dream! I too want to be a free prostitute for douchebags who are ashamed of me. /s ‘They want to act out fantasies and they want to use me to get that to happen.’ She actually sounds sad that this is happening. Erm, stop doing it maybe? The whole article r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 10:06 AM
6

I would love to hear the back story. Sorry for being intrusive, but I just love stories with happy endings 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 01:24 PM
29

Omg, I really lol’d. I’m entertained, your sister is a queen, and scrote is mad. I just love stories with happy endings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 09:28 AM
3

While I agree with you and the sentiment you expressed, I still think that you should reply to her saying that. Not to change her mind, no, she’s a lost cause unfortunately (until she decides on her own to level up). But for the audience. Other people will see your comment and think ‘damn, she’s right, this never occured to me before’. There are loads of people who are ‘on the edge’ about some particular issue, and sometimes all they needed was to see a thunderbolt in the darkness so they can fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 06:35 AM
14

That backpedal tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:45 AM
47

Every sitcom wife is a Pickme. Oh, what crazy antics will the fat, lazy, selfish, and (usually) broke husband will get into this time, and how will he be able to get his wife to forgive him? I was yearning that the wives from The Simpsons, Everybody loves Raymond, According to Jim, etc would just once say ‘I want a divorce’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:43 AM
7

I read you comment several times, it’s spot on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:11 AM
22

Welcome sis! 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:06 AM
4

Have you introduced her to FDS? If she refuses to improve herself, then unfortunately you can’t help her. You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make her drink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:35 PM
3

God forbid that he actually invest something in getting to know you 😂. I bet he’d expect for you to pay for your own coffee as well. You’re not some sort of gold digger, right?? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 11:36 PM
3

This is a pickme’s wet dream. I hate it so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 11:25 PM
11

I’m all for block + delete on the first red flag, but I just LOVE to look at the scrotes backpedaling and getting smaller with each word when being called out on their behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 10:23 PM
5

Oh no, that part was the sexual innuendo. It would have went over my head too, if it wasn’t for the 😋 emoji.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 10:15 PM
70

(1) Killed the friendly joke on your side (2) just to be condescending (3) and to throw in sexual innuendos (4) which can be easily turned against you if you call him out on it. In second paragraph there is the (5) ‘not like other girls’ trope, and to me the word ‘naturey’ is just out of place, but maybe not a red flag itself. Did I get them all? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 01:21 PM
194

I lol’d. Another scrote dangling the carrot of ‘I’ll treat you right’, but you have to earn it first. And of course, when the first date is free, why would he pay for a second one? Are you a gold digger or something? /s ‘Predate’ is a fantastic term for setting the bar so low that ants can’t crawl under it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 01:11 PM
12

Yes, I’ve heard that before. I take it as a compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 07:45 AM
27

It could be, but I got the impression that they aren’t friends, but in the ‘getting to know each other’ phase. The demand that she brings him food is rude in itself (and also implies the ‘come over’ vibe), but the big mad that he displayed when she wasn’t going to indulge him is a giant 🚩. Also, it shows that he wasn’t joking about the first sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 07:39 AM
2

This. All of this 👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:29 AM
16

You’re cruel, but I love your style 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:28 AM
14

I hate that you stated that to be a man’s first choice you have to be beautiful first, and smart 4th. I hate it so much, and I know that it is true 100%. Nothing else matters to them! Sure, they’ll pick you to be a ‘good’ wife, but will cheat at every opportunity, and they’ll make it your fault because, despite everything, you’re not attractive enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:56 AM
14

Why are you still trying to salvage that relationship? He clearly is not the right guy for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 08:19 AM
14

Sis, this should be a post of it’s own. More women need to se it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 06:37 AM
12

I’m surprised that nobody mentioned the ‘my boyfriend lives with me’ part. Obvious loser, consumed by jealousy, brain rotten from porn, what a catch! /s. I hope she leaves him, like yesterday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:41 PM
7

I’m willing to bet real money that the thought wouldn’t occur to him if it was his mother who should sleep on the couch in her own home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:39 PM
118

Canceling a date is ok, as long as it’s done in advance and he offers an alternate date, and doesn’t do it again. I bet this is one of those ‘gIrLs aRe AlWaYs pLaYiNg GaMeS’ guys 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:56 PM
17

It seems to me that you DID keep him intrigued 😂. How the hell did you do that without sleeping with him immediately? That doesn’t make any sense! And btw,I’m confused and appalled by your lack of compassion for his peepee! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:47 PM
13

Nah, he needs to have sex first. With a person. And that’s not happening obviously 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:41 PM
9

I think so too. It’s got the trifecta - islam bad, woman obviously TA, suffering child. But I can’t help but think that (even though this is probably a writing propmt) this situation has happened to someone somewhere. That makes me sad beyond belief...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 08:51 AM
2

I’m glad that you found your crown 👑 Sending positive vibes, good luck on your journey!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 08:26 AM
2

Ok... why would a bot ask you to elaborate on your story? Maybe it’s my english skills, but I don’t know how to word it differently. Also, I’m sorry if I offended you somehow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:21 PM
3

This is the first time that I’ve heard of something like that. Can you please give us an example? While I haven’t encountered that myself, I’d really appreciate if you would share some of your stories so I can learn to recognise the warning signs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:01 PM
14

You didn’t give a lot of details in your previous post, but I feel like this was a compatibility issue. Breaking up was a right thing to do, now you both can find someone who can fulfil the expectations, instead of settling. Good luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 06:07 PM
3

You’re neither old nor stupid, and neither is OP. You are both here because you needed a mind shift and a support group, and we’re here for you. Read the handbook, and start applying it to your life. Good luck sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:55 PM
53

Lol, if any man would put me on any test like this, he’d be kicked into the stratosphere and be blocked before he gets back. Come to think of it, this is quite good. The trash takes itself out immediately. I wish that all LVM would follow that advice so we can weed them out quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 11:30 PM
13

Dishonour on him and his cow!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 10:56 PM
8

What a lovely wholesome story! I love a happy ending like this. Laughter all around! /s I just can’t think of any words that would even remotely describe how I feel about this story, so I’m just gonna leave it like this, unable to express my frustration. Just like that poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 10:52 PM
56

If it has ANYTHING to do with vaginas, women are surely enjoying it! If you’re not having orgasms every time you insert a tampon, then you’re doing it wrong. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 10:49 PM
69

I agree with most of your points, and yes the show’s messed up and the message is, well, nonexistent. I want to add something about Barney’s arc, and I’m ready to get downvoted to oblivion. I think that (at least I want to believe that) there’s more substance behind creation of his character than meets the naked eye. He’s a disgusting, misogynistic ass who preys on the weakest women he can find (stupid, easy, etc). And he serves as a warning to us all. Because from his conquests’s perspective, h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:56 PM
20

Someone posted a link to his twitter in the comments, take a look if you need a laugh 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:41 AM
26

But the other girl is more likely to put out. At least in his mind, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 05:36 AM
6

This is brilliant! I’m using this for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:49 AM
24

Can you elaborate please? I’m learning a lot from this tread 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:48 AM
7

Hell yeah!! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 09:33 PM
1

I love love LOVE these stories 🥰. Hope she dumps him first!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:06 PM
3

Lol, no. EE women are stubborn as hell, and VERY opportunistic. Of course there are exceptions, like in any country/region/race/whatever, but most of my countrywomen that I’ve encountered are everything but docile and meek housewives. Sure, we have more ‘traditional’ values compared to the west, but those values are predominantly because we expect a provider, and the hookup culture is not yet as prevalent as libfems would like. Others here have already debunked the poor and servile EE women, and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 12:19 AM
1

Stopped paying attention after ‘females’. You just know that nothing good can come out after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 09:57 PM
2

This is so cringe and painful to watch, I loved it 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:22 AM
29

‘You are not like other girls. I actually respect you. Now, entertain me woman!’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 08:25 AM
2

That’s a great take! Didn’t even occured to me that THAT was happening to me previously. Thanks sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:29 PM
6

Me too 🙋🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:10 PM
4

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this, but I must say that I feel your queen energy is oozing from my screen. You are amazing and you know it! Drop the dead weight and shine!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:07 PM
13

I agree. More queens, less scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 10:42 PM
44

KickHimOut2020 He doesn’t deserve you. You deserve better. Please break up with him and make sure to change the locks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:13 PM
20

Even if he did it on accident, what difference does it make? Block and delete sis, you’re much better than this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:09 AM
4

Good for you! Stay strong 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 02:49 PM
7

In other words, real therapy costs money AND brings risk to being called out on his bulls#it... I can see why he’s opposed to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 03:34 PM
103

Lol, any man who asks those things doesn’t do them in the first place. Either because it’s obsolete (jars? bitch please, there are like 10 ways to open a jar effortlessly) or they’re too lazy to do it (gutter cleaning), or because they don’t know how so you need to hire someone (proper yard work has much more to it than just cutting grass with a lawn mower). All plumbing, electricity related work or renovation is being outsourced for the last 30 years at least. So... what’s left for them to do r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 03:31 PM
52

As I fellow female myself, I too support free prostitution that damages my mental health, self-image and reputation. All of us females should be engaging in demeaning, male pleasing activities. For free, of course. /s, just in case On a more serious note, no way that was written by a woman. I’m sure that there are pickmes who share that sentiment, but this particular word vomit’s author had never even passed by a woman in his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 01:25 PM
41

That poor thing is desperately clinging to last string of hope (hair, if you will). My heart is breaking for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 11:08 PM
60

A lot of men hide their true colours until the woman is ‘trapped’ with them, and they are sure that she won’t leave for one reason or another. That’s why a lot of abusers start dissing abuse when the woman gets pregnant. I think one of the reasons could be that they haven’t lived together before getting married, so she couldn’t see how he really is. But I might be grasping straws at this point. While I’m at it, I want to mention that not living with your partner before marriage is the only thing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 10:51 PM
18

Well she did get picked! And she got to enjoy her prize, 50 years with a fat, ugly, disrespecting scrote! Take notes ladies! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 10:44 PM
3

It was, but it wasn’t exactly a bad thing in this situation. In the movie, Pocahontas was 19, that is ‘of age’ to be married, and Kocoum was chosen by her father. He chose THE BEST available for her, the strongest, bravest warrior, suited for a husband and the next chief. Also, a total snacc, who had eyes for Pocahontas only. You say controlling, but if I remember correctly, he ‘forbade’ her from leaving the village, because there were predators just outside the cornfields. I do have a feeling i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 12:38 AM
11

They really want a smart woman, but not smarter then them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:47 AM
33

You want to see him, and you want him to convince you that he’s changed. No amount of roasting will change your mind. You just want to hear your opinion from us. That’s not gonna happen. No, don’t see him again, cut contact and block him. He’s sad and alone, and even if he had ‘caught feelings’ in the past 7 months of not seeing you (lol) it was just because he lost power over you. You’re better than this, you deserve more. No more games. Move on. Good luck sis. You got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 03:36 PM
3

Been there, done that. Only advice I can give you is not to give up based on assumption that something will go wrong/not how you planned it. If you’re anything like me, it will eat you on the inside for not doing everything that you could to make things right, and to make your voice heard. Good luck sis, we’re rooting for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:02 PM
24

Wow. Pickme hall of fame. And she still won’t get picked...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 07:38 AM
22

Do you realise how lucky you actually were? No permanent physical and psychological damage, no exposing what you did to your friends and family, no long-term consequences to you career? Your comment sounds exactly like recruiting propaganda (or at least a plot of the tv show ‘girlfriend experience’) that is really appealing when you’re a teen. $9k a month, tax free, and I’m getting wined and dined by nice and decent men that don’t want anything from me? Hell yeah, sign me up!! /s Stop it, just s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 07:31 AM
31

I agree with most of what you said, but please have in mind that for poorest of the poor, prostitution and sex work isn’t exactly a choice. They’re either forced by starvation or by someone. Look at how (most) sex work is being glamourised. Strippers earn shit ton of money, they’re smart entrepreneurs, and nobody is molesting them, not customers, not their bosses, ever! Cam girls, onlyfans, and instagram ‘models’ earn shit ton of money, and there are never ever any consequences for it! Every por…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 07:15 AM
32

Correlation =/= Causation. Lets imagine for a moment that this is not an incel fan fic (no sane person would ask for an asshole advice worded that way, and no woman would write it with such obvious misogynistic undertone). She didn’t owe him shit! But only if he cOmMuNiCaTed better with her that he’s hungry, thirsty and tired, she would obliged! Not only that he didn’t plan ahead, he EXPECTED her to accommodate him, since he didn’t stop along the route to a grocery store, gas station, nor a fkin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 07:00 AM
22

Ah, but the thing is, he didn’t even ASK! He was implying that he’s thirsty and tired. It was expected of her to say ‘oh you poor thing, let me get you water, fix you up a plate, and give you my bed for the night so you can relax and replenish your energy to get back to your pregnant girlfriend, for whom you betrayed me and destroyed our marriage.’ If the genders were reversed those same incels that are reeeeeing in the comments would say that she deserved it and that she should have died.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 06:51 AM
5

So much this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 09:58 PM
12

That’s a very good take. When you say ‘sex work’ it sounds much tamer and more appealing. Something like strippers being ‘exotic dancers’. Or soldiers having PTSD, instead of being shell-shocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 09:39 PM
59

I find the explanation for this trope hilarious. Apparently, their girlfriends are very average looking, but in their eyes, those ladies are perfect 10s. I don’t know if I should laugh or cringe...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 10:26 PM
2

Is he wearing mask at bars and in parties? Like mask over his face and drinking beer from a can trough a straw? Without ever taking the straw from his mouth? I highly doubt it. Blocka blocka sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:05 PM
6

No no, he has a point. His point, that is. Only lowest of the low pickmes would indulge him, which is what he’s actually looking for. Similar to the ‘Nigerian prince’ scam, where their messages/emails are deliberately riddled with typos/grammar error so that only the most naive of the bunch would fall for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 11:45 AM
16

I’m really glad to see that ‘she’ has been called out A LOT in the comments. Honestly, I’m a bit surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 11:32 AM
4

This 👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 07:26 AM
56

Ladies, the important thing is that he’s SAFE and at home with his family where he can relax and be SAFE! From all the temptresses that want his lame dick, that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:57 PM
1

I do the same with IncelTears. It’s a subreddit where people post the depravity they find all over the internet. If you have time (and nerves), check it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:17 PM
1

Yes, exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:15 PM
11

‘Friendly’. Go away scrote! Love your queen energy! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:04 PM
5

I just love the comments. Even though EVERYBODY knows that it’s a shitpost, people are genuinely tearing the idea apart. I’ve learned a lot about other stupid ideas, the potential logistics needed, and that there are so many different kinds of mold 😂 And also that such delusions can be a sign of schizophrenia, which I find fascinating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:02 PM
7

Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 12:17 PM
34

And yes, it’s the same men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 11:56 AM
4

You said it yourself, he replied after a long day of work. Of course, we can never be 100% sure of something, but in this case, I do think that he deserves a pass. You sound like a hypocrite, rules for thee, but not for me. He did reply, he apologised for it, gave you an explanation, and from what I understood, he didn’t hit you up with ‘wyd’ at 1am, or said ‘sry, I slept for 18 hours straight’. I am aware that I’m being irrationally angry with this issue, and that has everything to do with my p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:21 AM
6

I’m sorry, what? You can text back hours late, but he’s not allowed to, he should reply immediately, even during work hours? Have I misunderstood the question?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 10:38 PM
28

Mine too. And I was happy about it 😒 Luckily, we both know better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:28 AM
139

Love your responses. To be honest, I behave exactly like that guy (pre covid though, haven’t been out in a while), if I have a two hour opening in my schedule, I ring up a few people to see who’s free. The difference is though, I don’t do that with people I date, and especially not with people I’m genuinely interested in. Sorry to say this, but he sees you as nothing more than a pass time, and if sex falls out, even better. To sum up, block and delete. You deserve better 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 10:35 AM
12

I see no lies there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 10:29 AM
2

Thank you for your support and kind words. It means a lot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 07:13 AM
11

I can tell you what I did. I wasn’t really looking for more girl friends, but I’m happy that it happened. In short, I started pole dancing. I met LOADS of confident, educated and supporting women of all ages, and I couldn’t be happier with my choice. Especially since it came from a bad place. Longer explanation: I was curious about pole dancing ever since I’ve seen this video. I never perceived it as a sport before and I thought it was sooo cool. Tried it as a student, was too expensive, gave up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:42 AM
55

‘You knew what I was like, you don’t get to complain now.’ I’ve heard that one too many times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:10 AM
79

Wow, every line is a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:02 AM
11

Do it! You’ll regret it either way, and I prefer to regret about things I did, than to regret about something I didn’t do. Worst case scenario, your suspicions are confirmed, and you save a lot of time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:34 PM
19

Not even his hairline wants to be involved with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:43 AM
7

I know this is satire, but I’m pretty sure that some scrote just found his fetish, and a pickme will be like ‘hmmmmm...’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 11:40 AM
59

I think that the point of that part is not to sign HIS prenup. A lot of mildly successful men think they are the shit, and want to ‘protect their wealth’ from a money hungry gold digger, so in case of divorce she gets next to nothing. Therefore, if he offers a prenup, you vet that shit thoroughly, and/or offer yours. Hell, if I ever get married, there’s no chance whatsoever that it’ll happen without a prenup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:49 PM
36

She was happy to go halfsies, but the point is that he should have insisted to pay for both, which would be a sign that he’s willing to invest in her. And the ‘pretending to pay’ part - it’s all about the ‘check dance’, where you both reach for he wallet, and he is supposed to say ‘no, this one is on me’, and you do whatever you feel is right (‘thank you’, or ‘no, I insist’). I’ve had my share of men who would just toss their half on the table. Back then I couldn’t verbalise what was bothering m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 08:18 AM
7

I was asked that once. I was stunned, and honestly I still don’t have reply on that, except ‘fuck you’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 08:07 AM
1

Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 07:48 AM
6

I notice that farts get A LOT of hate here, but I honestly don’t understand why. It’s a completely natural consequence of a healthy digestive system. We all fart, some less, some more. That being said, it’s all about respect. If one partner musters up all his might to fart as loud as possible, than that’s a 🚩. Dutch oven would be a deal breaker for me. An occasional toot? No problem at all. Hell, I’d be VERY offended of one of my toots was held against me, or if I was ever called disgusting for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 11:23 PM
14

😂😂😂 This! All of this 👆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 11:04 PM
16

This is a hard one... such conundrum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 11:00 AM
14

A bird PERSON
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 08:01 AM
13

I came here to say this. Well put sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 08:09 AM
1

This man is clearly 9/10. Ask any incel, he’ll confirm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 10:28 PM
16

Don’t be fat to date, but she can be fat for fucking. The only real criteria is to have a hole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 05:45 PM
8

Preach 👏🏻👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 10:37 AM
11

Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 08:00 AM
5

I’m so sorry that you went through that. Virtual hugs sis 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 11:52 AM
6

I feel you, but I have to say ‘not all French men’. Just the Parisians, who are admittedly the majority of French men that travel. I work with French people, so I have vast experience with them. Literally every Parisian I’ve ever met was trash, and literally every other type (specie? sort? I dunno...) of French was kind, sweet and generous. In conclusion, if you encounter a French guy, ask him where he’s from, and if he says Paris run like the wind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 11:45 AM
17

Great, concise and true comment. Should sting a lot! Mind if I use it from time to time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 09:32 AM
25

49 cent ring. I’m sure that he was creative in the cheap department... goodwill, garage sales, finding old trinkets in his mom’s basement, etc. She’s soooo appreciated, we should all be jealous /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 09:30 AM
43

Oh wow! That man is a true poet. So much pain built up in that sentence. All that coming from his peepee not getting wet. Such tears, big sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 09:26 AM
3

Welcome sis! 🤗 You came a long way, and we’re all proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 09:23 AM
13

There was a reddit post a while ago which was basically saying ‘for $xx, I will pose as a marriage councillor and tell your spouse that he/she is wrong’. Your story makes me think that someone actually took him up on his offer...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 08:08 AM
10

You know that the answer is no, and that what you’re hoping for is just wishful thinking. He’s not going to change unless he sees the need to. Maybe that need will arise when he realises that he’s losing you. I’m talking from experience. My dad is LVM now, and always was. I am ‘grateful’ though, because he taught me from very early age what are LVM traits and how to spot them. The sad thing is, once I stopped caring, once I stopped seeking his approval, and started calling him out on his bullshi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 10:07 AM
3

Ignore her, if it’s possible. There’s no bigger punishment for entitled people than being ignored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:56 AM
2

Yes, exactly! I’m only splitting the bill if I’m not interested in a guy*. If he wants to split it, I’m no longer interested anyway. *What better way to show disinterest, than to blatantly tell him ‘I don’t want you to provide for me’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:54 AM
1

I agree with you, except for your last sentence. Doctors are known to have a god complex, similar to lawyers and brokers. While having a high-paying job is HV per se, I think that those particular career choices attract the lowest of the low, personality wise. I actually think it’s a miracle that only 80% of doctors you encountered are trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:38 AM
10

This was really hard to read. I like how the article was written. The journalist emphasises over and over again how kind and good person she was, how big of an ass he is, and how nothing that she did was ‘helping’ him. Maybe this is just my wishful thinking, but I think that the world is waking up to all the bullshit we’re being exposed to, and that something is being done to stop it. Baby steps, but steps nonetheless. Just a year ago, this article would be ‘stupid woman let herself be killed by…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:14 AM
10

That’s... pretty solid advice actually!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 08:49 AM
2

As someone with an awkward sense of humour, I’d say don’t drop him just yet. I’ve honestly recognised myself in making those jokes, however, I don’t insist on them, nor do I repeat it to death. Even HV people have their flaws. You should definitely confront him, pay attention to his reaction, and see if his gaffes happen again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 11:01 AM
89

Those poor girls! But don’t they know, putting out to undeserving men iS eMpOVeRinG!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:46 AM
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I’m glad that you got out of that situation. It took a lot of guts, strength and clearheadedness to handle it the way you did. This internet stranger is really proud of you. Sending positive vibes and virtual hugs 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:03 AM
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Omg, I actually laughed out loud. This story is amazing, and (sadly) I believe every word of it 😂 I understand your confusion, because I’m still confused myself. Is he for real? Was he joking? Is that his idea of a date, dumpster diving? Or was he genuinely thinking that he was helping a poor cashier put to survive? Is he a rapist? Does he think you’re an idiot? Was that some sort of a new MLM scheme, where you give him a percentage of your trash? I feel like I’m rolling a 20sided dice, and all …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:52 AM
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GOOD! don’t let anyone neg you. Glad you kicked his sorry ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:37 AM
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This is one of the pickme things that we were taught while growing up. Those bubbly, outgoing girls are easy and promiscuous, the quiet one is tame and a good (house)wife material. Once he has his fun, he’ll find a good, quiet girl that will never talk back, and he’ll settle for her. Chances are that eventually he’ll start cheating, but it’s ok, ‘as long as he gets home to me’. That’s the pattern that they wanted us to follow. Be silent, and you’ll earn crumbs of his attention once he’s done wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:33 AM
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That’s actually a really valid point! Thank you for your explanation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:21 AM
30

That poor girl probably thinks she’s being helpful. Giving ideas to other less successful ladies, ‘if I could train my shit stain of a husband with demeaning acts, so can you!’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:19 AM
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I agree that it depends on the guy. I was able to even enjoy it with one ex, but I never loved it. I could cum from anal and clit play, but I’d never choose anal over PIV sex. It was just something that I did back when I was a pickme. I disagree with ‘some girls love it’ part. Some girls can put up with it, some can enjoy it eventually, but I haven’t met a SINGLE woman who can honestly say that she prefers anal. Hell, I know gays who don’t do anal, and that pretty much says it all about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:15 AM
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Came here to say this. Don’t waste your time on temporary scrotes, but the one that wasted year(s) of your life - tear him a new one! I’m glad that OP took some time to process before dumping him, because she let her emotions settle down, and at the end she was calm, matter-of-factly, and oozing the queen energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:03 AM
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That’s a big stretch. Bro code is strong with scrotes. There is a chance that they knew and supported him, if not directly, then by silence. The painful truth is that a lot of men don’t see anything wrong with cheating, unless a woman is doing it. Remember, LVM don’t surround themselves with HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:00 AM
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Yeah, no, I disagree. First off, she wasn’t thinking, she reacted on impulse. Further more, it probably wasn’t the first time he did that, or something similar. Second, can you imagine him going to the police, telling them that he was bitch slapped by his girlfriend without her even leaving a mark? They’d laugh him out the station. Also, everywhere but the US, no one would be doing anything about a ‘lovers quarrel’, so one broken phone/laptop isn’t that serious, in legal terms. It should be, tho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 09:27 PM
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I love those stories! And usually the wife gets all the attention and the line of suitors for couple of blocks, and the scrote regrets it sooo much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 10:14 AM
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Oh, I’d love to hear the details! I’m a sucker for stories with a happy ending 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 12:34 PM
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Wait, what? What does hair colour has to do with femininity? Or professional image? There are loads of stereotypes about dumb blonds, feisty reds and stable serious brunettes. None of those hold water IRL. Listen, the only good reason for dying your hair is because YOU want it. That’s all that matters! You wanna go blonde? Go for it! Pink highlights? Hell yeah! But if you think your life will improve after you change your hair colour, you are mistaken. Maybe you’ll get more attention, but have i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 09:27 AM
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I think you’re mixing up the premises. Men are not mind readers, but sure as hell aren’t toddlers either. Communicate your preferences (gimme flowers yes; ears no touchy), and don’t communicate basic empathy, household maintenance, depraved sexual acts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 04:06 AM
5

A sexist joke. A stupid joke, on top of it. Not the first sexist comment or neg that he made with me, but it sure was the last.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 10:30 AM
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I see that no amount of block and delete comment will persuade you. So I suggest a bit if a different approach. Since you guys are engaged, I suppose you have a lot of mutual friends? First, send him screenshots, maybe curse a bit, and block him. Second, is notifying your friends and family before he does, so he can’t turn the narrative around. Tell your mutual friends what he did, how disappointed you are, and all the things you wanted to tell him directly. Trust me, the convo will get to him. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 09:11 AM
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Yes, do it!! Spite is one of the best motivators there is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 08:52 AM
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I do this, and the only ones that are offended are LVM. Can confirm that your strategy works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 08:43 AM
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Yes and no. I like to call that adapting, but in my teens I was the biggest pick me, but I like to think that it was low key (lol). Examples: 1) (I was 14 at the time) I was very shy, and timid beyond belief while I was growing up. I’ve seen a guy (not even met him, just SEEN him), that was way out of my league, and I HAD to find a way for him to notice me. I did a full 180 on my behaviour, and that ‘fake it till you make it’ thing really worked for me. Because of a worthless, cocky, nationalist…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 06:43 AM
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You did well. I’m proud of you sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 10:30 PM
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YAASSS QUEEN 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 08:58 PM
3

Let her give you advice. Then do a complete opposite. I do that with my mom. She does not like that at all. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 12:22 PM
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Yup. ‘You knew how I am, I told you at the beginning’. Heard this one too many times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 12:02 PM
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I’m glad you responded. I see you got some hate because you didn’t just ignore him, but I disagree. Sadly, there are a lot of men who feeds off the feeling that they’ve ‘won’ by leaving you speechless. Your reply was savage, and he got a reality check, and a mirror held up at his face broke his fragile ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 11:59 AM
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I agree with everything, except advice #2. I see where you’re coming from, and the intention behind it, but I don’t think that children should be hid. They are your kids, an integral part of your life, and the sooner you tell him, the sooner you can start vetting him properly. If you tell him you have children later on, you need to vet him again, from the top. Disclaimer: am childless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:33 PM
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Small dicks? No. Nobody said that ever ffs! But I’d choose average sized rock-hard dick over a big dick any time. In my experience big dicks are either painful, or can’t get fully erect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 03:21 PM
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I can smell this picture 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:37 PM
4

I’m proud of you! Just a small heads up about accutaine, you might start losing your hair, but don’t worry, it’s only temporary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 01:11 PM
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Nah, it’s an old joke, allegedly based on real interaction. This one did make me cackle, since it’s a reality for lots of women on OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 08:25 AM
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Blessing in disguise. Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 09:33 AM
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I hope you blocked him, but I also secretly hope that there are more nonsensical texts that you can share with us 👀. These are hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 09:30 AM
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Welcome sis! We’re proud of you ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 09:26 AM
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Do whatever you can. Stay strong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 05:47 PM
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Ugh, you should tell her. Whether or not she’s a pick me, she deserves to know what could happen to her. If she tells you to fuck off, that’s on her. If she ignores you, you did what you could. If you wake her up, than you are a hero. Worst case scenario is for you to do nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:20 PM
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Oh.. I think that his heart is in the right place, but his head is up his ass. He’s trying to boost your confidence, but in the worst way possible - by placing your self-worth on your appearance. Why am I jumping to this conclusion? Forgive me sisters, I have sinned. I did the exact same thing with my sister when she was a chubby teen. I thought that I was doing the right thing. I still cringe when I think about the damage I could have done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:15 PM
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She did well, and she’ll do even better next time 🙂. I feel like we all went through that learning curve. From arranging a meeting, to calling, to texting long paragraphs to explain our feelings, to snappy responses, to finally blocking them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:01 PM
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Don’t give them ideas!! Scrotes are always lurking here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 11:52 AM
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You mean on her public account? 😁 Tbh, if I were a doctor (of any kind) I would want the world to know. I’m working towards an important certificate, and this post gave me an awesome idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 10:59 AM
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You won’t always be, and that’s why you should keep dating. You only need ONE HVM. Keep your head up sis, you got this! ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:29 AM
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You know the answer to this. In short, (some) men are pigs. Longer answer: he’s keeping you around for easy access to sex, while waiting for someone better to come along. What bothers me the most is that for most men, ‘better’ means ‘hotter’. He thinks he can do better, so he won’t settle until he’s sure that he not only can’t do ‘better’, but when he also has zero other options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 11:20 PM
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Level up sis, congrats! Just block him, no need to waste more time on him. Good riddance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 11:12 PM
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🚩 🚩🚩no man that has that attitude can even dream of being a HVM. I lost a very good friend for this same reason. He sad the exact same thing. I stood up, gave him a piece of my mind, left, and never contacted him again. This came as a really big shock to me. He was young, educated, employed, living in the city capital. There was no excuse for his attitude. Just blatant misogyny. I still get mad when I remember that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 11:08 PM
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Yeah, an interesting phenomenon. A friend of mine had a grandfather who was like that. Literally on his deathbed, he asked his nurse to ride his dick. In front of his family. I repeat, the man was dying. It’s clear that that was a sad attempt for a power move, and even sadder fact is that THAT’S what that man considered to be a power move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 10:54 PM
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This is so sad... the pure happiness on her face, the joy in her eyes, just wasted. Instead, she’s due for another disappointment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 10:43 PM
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Oh the toxicity of this sub! /s Virtual hugs to all my sisters 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 10:41 PM
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That sounds a lot like my point #1, psychopath who shouldn’t be taken seriously. You’re giving in, and that’s what feeds him. Try not responding to that. Try not sitting down. Try walking away. Try saying ‘I’m not Martha’ if you have to. Try smirking, sipping your tea, and walking away in the middle of his rant. It WON’T work the first few times, but in time it will. Please trust me on this. It will get better! You just need to make it better. Also, why tf are you sitting through 20min rants abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 11:19 PM
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Seriously, what did you expect?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:56 PM
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You did the right thing. You paid for a ‘date’, and you’re even. There shouldn’t be a second date. Now you can block him and not feel guilty one bit. Don’t waste you’re time, it won’t get better. He was trying to figure out whether you’re a gold digger. Cheap LVM are always afraid that you’re after their 20$ trust funds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:54 PM
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I was in the exact same situation, and I’m still proud of how I handled it, 7 years later, so I hope my experience will help you. I’ll skip the part where I describe the problems that I had, and get straight to the point. First of all, you need a certain mindset. A ‘not giving a fuck mindset’. You’re out, so you’re half way there. Second, you need an attitude switch, but that’s not easy, right? Here’s what helped me: 1) At first I wondered if he’s acting like this towards everybody. If he was, t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:43 PM
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Wtf? Like seriously, wtf? No sis, you’re not overreacting! You know how that should have went? Him challenging you, you guys arm wrestling, and him letting you win. And than saying ‘wow, that was amazing, you’re amazing!’ Why am I saying this, something that is seems very misogynistic? Because biological differences exist! That doesn’t mean that he should make you feel like shit. If he’s at all sporty, he fill be stronger than you, and that is a sad, miserable fact, and also a topic for a differ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:20 PM
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They don’t love harder, their egos are just bigger and very easily bruised. That’s why we have emotionally crippled men today, because they were hurt in the past. That incident being rejection in middle school or something. Nope, his fragile feefees aren’t getting hurt again, no sirree! Edit: forgot to add, she’s confusing men being hung up on the girl they can’t have [anymore] with ‘loving harder’, while promptly forgetting that women do not ‘love lightly’ just because they can and will get pas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 07:57 AM
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Deep deep down inside 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 07:53 AM
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Ugh, I remember doing that back in my pickme days. Just wanting to prolong the convo. Texting first, double texting, asking questions, and replying even though I wasn’t asked anything. Suggesting first that we should get a coffee or go for a walk. Lord, I’m embarrassed! Getting back to the topic, if he wanted to keep the convo going, he would have. If he’s that immature that he’s not aware that the conversation is a two-way street, you don’t need him. It’s not your job to teach him to cOmMuNiCaT…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 07:34 AM
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That’s beyond sad... thanks for sharing the info
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:00 PM
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Yes, always a prenup. If he offers one to you, you get a lawyer and double check that. Best option is for you to have one on your own, so you’re positive what’s inside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 10:17 PM
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I don’t know where you’re at, but I’m almost certain that the assets earned before marriage are not divisible in case of divorce, if that’s your concern. You keep yours, and he keeps his. You need a prenup for what you’ll both earn during the marriage. The only thing to worry about is that, if he moves in with you, and you kick him out, then you’ll be paying alimony to him. We don’t want that to happen ever!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 10:11 PM
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Oh, he cheatin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 05:04 PM
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You did good. Keep it up 👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 10:42 AM
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Haha, I did not expect that. That was pretty funny. Thanks for the link.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:20 PM
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I never said it was direct empowerment. Do you have an issue that the song is popular? I don’t get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:35 PM
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Greetings fellow females! As a female myself, I think that the rampant man-hate has to stop! We can’t expect too much from poor, invalidated men, such as basic decency and respect. It’s called misandry, look it up sweaty. /s, just in case
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 10:27 AM
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I love this song, and I think can be very empowering. Hear me out: A woman is begging a random pretty female to leave her man alone. Once this is said out loud, it sounds pathetic. Like really. Unfortunately, a lot of women need to hear these words out loud, because that’s a wake up call. As in ‘wtf was I thinking??’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 02:53 AM
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That way I’m not giving him the pleasure of thinking that he had bought me for pennies, or that I owe him something. And besides, what can be a stronger signal to a guy that I don’t like him than ‘I don’t want you to provide for me’ ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 10:12 AM
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What the title says is pure gold. I use this as a sort of test (I’m in a relationship rn, so i haven’t used it in a while). When the bill comes, I immediately grab my wallet, with full intention on paying for both of us, and his reaction tells me enough. There are 3 ways how this will play out: 1) He is shocked and appalled by the idea that I’ll pay for him, and covers the entire bill. I let him, because I like him. 2) He is shocked and appalled by my suggestion, wants to pay for the date, but I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 11:47 PM
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Oh honey. There’s nothing that any of us can say that you don’t already know. Stay strong, listen to the BLOKA BLOKA lady, and soon enough you will move on, and won’t give those low lives a time of day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 08:05 AM
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Have you tried to communicate with him? I mean, he maybe has no idea that you’re bothered by his flatulence. /s I started typing that out sarcastically, but it took a more realistic turn along the way. He’s testing your boundaries, and you should call him out on that. Important info: is he doing that on purpose? Like, musting up his strength for the loudest fart possible, or is it a toot? I think that the answer lies in that distinction. As a Farty McFartface myself, sometimes it ‘slips’, but I’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:53 AM
1

It’s an old joke, an old comic. In it, the roles were reversed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 11:54 PM
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I hate this argument, mostly because the scrotes have no idea what age of consent means. In most countries the age of consent is 14, but there’s a frickin reason for it, and it’s not for them!! The LEGAL age is 18, where everybody can have sex with everybody (above 18), and the age of consent is there so that children who sleep with other children don’t get punished by law. Ex, both kids are 14, that’s legal. In my country, the legal limit is up to 2 years difference between sexual partners. Ex …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:58 PM
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It’s good that he’s able to move on. Soon, it’ll be like nothing ever happened. What’s important is that he shouldn’t feel bad about the whole unpleasant ordeaRE FUCKING KIDDING ME?? Sick scrote and parents to boot. Why are people like this?? Who shits a fuck that the little girl is scared for life, what’s important is the boy’s fee fees! This is probably a fake story for attention and internet points, but these things happen. This is real. Shit that has happened to someone somewhere. There are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 12:11 PM
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If he treats you right, and bashes other women, take it as a preview how he’ll treat you once he realises that he had put you on a pedestal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 03:13 PM
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Same girl, same...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 10:07 AM
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Even if this particular post isn’t real, you just know there are people like this out there. Have you seen the cOmMuniCAte comments? Like there’s something to communicate about. I’m glad to see that those are finally getting downvoted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 09:17 AM
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Girl, we’re gonna need more details... is he single? what do you do? What does he do? Is he your superior? Does he have a more senior role, but he’s not your direct superior? Is there a ‘no dating’ policy at your company? Is there an age difference between you? I’m asking about this because I’m tired of that ‘don’t shit where you eat’ narrative. It’s a good narrative, but not really. I’ll try to explain, please bear with me: In today’s day and age, there are more ways and opportunities than ever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 09:00 AM
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I see your point, and I politely disagree. All I see here is hAvE yOU tRieD tO cOmMuNicAte?? I feel that your threshold of ‘making a fuss’ is skewed. Even if you’re not a ‘making a fuss’ kind of girl, an acknowledgement and a token of appreciation is the bare minimum. Tbh, the older I get, the more I want to be pampered, and I want to have a person by my side worthy of pampering back. Btw, is your mom an Arab? I’ve seen a lot of that behaviour in their culture, a ‘birthday month celebration’ is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 09:02 AM
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How about a foot up your butt? 🦶 Levelling up is difficult, but I’m sure you’ll make it! Dumping him is easy, the hard part is staying consistent when he inevitably wants you back and showers you with attention, affection and promises. Do what’s best for you girl, this internet stranger believes in you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 03:58 PM
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Congrats! This internet stranger is proud of you! 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 09:51 AM
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Had me in the first half, not gonna lie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 09:07 AM
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Ooohhh! Makes sense! Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 03:17 PM
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To answer your question from the title - yes. And I almost got killed. Stay safe ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 02:15 PM
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Can someone explain this to me? English is not my first language, and I really want to know what did she mean by that :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 02:13 PM
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It’s all about the confidence. There’s a chance that you’ll never be happy with the way you look, but that should not stop you from living your best life! Example: my mother is 56 yo, and 115kg. Yeah, that’s a lot of kilos. She has this incredible charisma (that I hope I’ll develop with age) and she has so many admirers! So many! People are just drawn to her and to her energy. A lot of scrotes would be shocked and appalled about a woman ‘hitting the wall’ and still having the AUDACITY to have se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:52 AM
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Man marry who they want, out of the subset of women who they can sleep with. For a lot of men, that’s not really a good thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:28 AM
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I’m really proud of myself for what I did during quarantine. I was studying for my exam, working from home, working out almost every day (and I’ve managed to get my sister involved as well), I’ve read circa 10 novels/books, finished a couple of online courses, AND started implementing FDS in my love life with my LT boyfriend (disclaimer, he’s not LVM, but he’s not exactly HVM yet). I feel that I should elaborate in the boyfriend part of the levelling up - I got a feeling that he stated taking me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:54 PM
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You don’t NEED to change anything you don’t want to, this whole sub is about figuring out what you want and raising your standards. You do you, but I’d like to give my 2 cents on this. I never wanted to get married, but I’ve changed my mind once I realised that a marriage is simply a business transaction. In the past I was terrified of it. How do I know if my future husband will be ‘the one’? What if I change my kind? What if he cheats? What if I stop loving him? Etc, you get the point. You know…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:50 AM
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Why? In the words of my ex scrote ‘Because I could’. Welp, now he can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:14 AM
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Her first mistake is having a 2nd child with him. The signs were there after the 1st.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:46 PM
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Oh. My. God. This just gave me an epiphany. I can’t believe that I haven’t seen this before. This exact situation happened to me too. That ex is the reason why I’m in this community right now. Thank you sis, this was equally helpful and mind-blowing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 02:31 PM
1

Exactly what I thought. This should be further up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 11:57 AM
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No response is a response. You know your worth, queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:58 PM
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You already know the answer to that. Tell her, and no matter what happens with them, you know that your conscience is clean. If she starts attacking you, that you know that they deserve each other. If she hears you, and acts upon the info received, then you help a sister out. Either way it’s a win for you. Oh, and I’m sure that the ex will leave you alone after that, so win-win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 01:56 PM
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LORD GRANT ME THE CONFIDENCE OF A MEDIOCRE MAN! First time I’ve heard this, but I’m going to use it extensively. Thank you for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:33 AM
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If you genuinely like the ring, really, if you like it and if it suits you, why would that be a pick me move? I would just like for you to think about the real reason you like it. Do you like it BECAUSE of the low price? Because he’d prefer it like that? Or you really want it. The real pickme trait lies there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:09 AM
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I love the stories when trash takes itself out ♥️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 06:23 PM
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He lied by omission, how did you missed that? I agree wholeheartedly with the initial agreement, he pays for the tickets, she pays for the hotel. The fact that he didn’t pay a dime and she is covering HIS costs without even being given the choice is beyond rude and manipulative. To explain better, the choice being that he told her upfront for the free tickets, then she could choose whether to pay the full cost of the hotel. Like this, she would probably feel obligated to pay for some extracurric…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 06:09 PM
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Yes, that happened to me! Exact same thing (except for the age gap). He was shy, very genuine, very attractive, and for a reason unbeknownst to me - single. Because he’s picky, you see. We clicked instantly. We were both smitten with each other. And we only had one date after we met through a mutual friend. In that particular situation, it was an act. We than talked for a month, every other day we had hour long conversations, until I pressed for more. We live in different countries, but it’s not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 05:49 PM
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I’m just glad that this course exists at all! Baby steps! On the other hand, maybe my expectations of humanity are very low, which is sad on itself...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 01:32 PM
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The phrase is a relic of the old times. In the olden days, girls were a burden. Another mouth to feed, and they couldn’t produce as much as men could (with their labor, I mean). For rich families children, girls especially, were used as trading tokens. Forging and/or strengthening alliances, political goals, going out of debts, etc... The saddest part is - those horrors still happen today, and that mindset didn’t die off completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:07 PM
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‘With a cringe’ is a right answer. That means you’ve grown. I treat it as a lesson, how never to act again, what never to do again. Knowing that no way in hell will I let those thing happen again is liberating, and that’s the feeling that I let overwhelm me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 06:30 PM
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I am happy :). I made my choice years ago, and I haven’t regretted it. On the other hand, I never wanted kids, and I’m terrified of marriage, so for me, this life is perfect. A lot of my coworkers pity me because ‘being married is amazing, and I’ll never know true happiness, until the moment I hold my baby for the first time’. Yeah, bull. All those holier than thou are miserable in their marriage and can’t stand their kids. Usually i get that spiel in between ‘my wife don’t understand me’ and as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:23 AM
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It does mean that. But the guys who say this, lie. Especially if they’re OLD. They just want to rope girls in ‘a relationship’, and after the deed is done, they’re just not ‘feeling it anymore’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 08:38 AM
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I second this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:13 PM
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I’m in a similar, if not worse, situation. I travel frequently for work, but no longer than 6 months at a time. So I can’t move somewhere permanently (not that I want to, I’m just putting it out there :) ), nor offer my partner some level of stability. What I can advise you is, yes, of course, give him time to think. You’d like some as well, wouldn’t you? Now, don’t wait months for him to decide, give him the info, and let him do with it as he please. Trust me, you’ll know very soon what he real…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 09:07 PM
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Her place, so she doesn’t know where he lives. Also, he might me hiding a whole other life at his place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 02:31 PM
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She had me in the first half, not gonna lie. I see a lot of hate towards video games, but they are a hobby as much as watching sports is (I know, I know, the irony is palpable) , but I personally don’t think that doing something you like is a waste of time. However, this post is just... no honey, just no. I can’t even put it in words how I feel about that. Shocked? Appalled? Anger... that’s the one, I’m angry. Neglectful LVM scrote. But let’s not forget, the important thing is that he’s SAFE! An…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 07:37 AM
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I’m wiling to put money that the developer of that app was a woman. “Girl, upgrade NOW!!! You can and should do better! Block this mf, and find someone who deserves you! Upgrade, upgrade, upgrade!!!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 07:26 AM
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Two months supply is not hoarding, a lot of people are doing it on regular basis. Of course, those are the people who can afford to buy non-perishables when they’re on sale.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:58 PM
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I agree completely. Not just that, women were indoctrinated to want that for themselves. Is was fine if he screws around, beats you up a little and provides little to no income, but ‘at least I have a man, unlike you hoes!’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 10:10 AM
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SLAY girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 09:55 AM
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It seems to me like a double edged sword. I mean, men are sex crazed these days, and not giving up sex is a major no-go in their book. On the other hand, the men who would be into her because she’s saving herself for marriage are some of the lowest, filthiest, most manipulative and insecure predators that you can imagine, and that’s horrifying! How can she get what she wants without compromising her values and believes? Seriously, I’m asking because I have no idea...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 04:04 PM
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If you have textbook depression, find a psychiatrists. He/she will give you a proper therapy. Now, I’m talking from my personal experience. I’ve seen multiple psychotherapists in the past decade, and most of them has seen me as a cash cow. They all have known that I was suffering from depression (and if they didn’t, wtf kind of experts are they?), but never gave me medication, because that would mean I won’t be back. I am aware that certain types (levels? I’m not sure can it be measured) of depr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 03:59 PM
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I’ve read somewhere a long time ago as an ‘advice’ to men,I’m going to paraphrase it: If you want to check out a cute girl while you’re with your girlfriend, you should check her out, turn over to your gf and say something along the lines of ‘OMG, did you see what she is WEARING?? And her makeup is AWFUL!!’ Your gf will immediately jump on the bandwagon and start gossiping about the said hottie, and you can continue looking at her like a bauss! Yass king!! So yeah he was trying to gaslit you, he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 07:20 AM
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I don’t see how taking care of another human being makes you a pickmeisha. He didn’t ask you to, there was no entitlement on his side, just bare need. I feel like that if the tables were turned, that the guy was over at his gf’s place while she’s sick, and didn’t feel like taking care of her, this post would explode with ‘dump him gurl’ comments. Again, take care of your fellow human being. You don’t need to get invested emotionally by making someone else’s misery less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:45 AM
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Men do have a problem with appearing non-masculine. I think you did a great thing, he needed some help, but not too much. You found the balance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/20 10:35 AM
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Of course he wanted to go. But the thing is - he didn’t. You told him how you feel and he respected that. I don’t see how would that make him LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 08:00 PM
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Something similar happened to me, like a year and a half ago. On my birthday, literally every single one of my exes has popped in my fb messenger. I really mean EVERY SINGLE ONE, including those that I only held hands with. All of them wanted more from me than just to wish me a happy birthday. I felt like I was in the twilight zone. Get back in the no-go zone from which you tried to escape from 😊 Apologies for bad grammar, english is not my first language.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 10:53 AM
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I think it’s an appropriate metaphor. Dogs run around and show love and affection to whomever, but return home when they’re hungry and let the owner deal with all the crap he pulls into the house (mud, leaves, fleas, smells) . So yeah, men are like dogs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 07:52 AM
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“May the bridges you burn light the way forward”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:58 PM
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Look, I hate Dr. Phil as much as anyone, but I think he made a powerful point there. He asked her that for a reason. The shitstain of a husband would commit to anything now, just to keep her under his boot for a little while longer, but now it’s HER choice. Maybe his choice of words was a bit off, but the following is true: this woman was a Pickmeisha her entire marriage, and even some time after. For a Pickmeisha to truly ascend, the choice of it needs to be hers. And didn’t all of us here went…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:44 PM
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