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YES!!!! my ex (who is heavily redpilled) used rp tactics on me since I was a teenager. I get that adult women would be able to spot the redflags, but my rp ex was coached by older family members. To this day the signs were extremely subtle - I have never heard him speak badly about women. He was coached to be extremely covert and to hide his political views/being RP. It was difficult for 14-22 year old me to spot the abuse, even when I knew things felt off, its easy to chalk it up to "oh he's ju…
/r/ExRedPill23/08/23 09:07 PM
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This is so good to hear!! I knew someone who became redpilled as a 13/14 year old, and now 10 years on he's too deep in that rabbithole to ever come out. I feel pretty certain he will spend the rest of his life redpilled and destroying everyone around him. I'm glad you found your way out its tough to do that!
/r/ExRedPill20/08/23 11:07 AM
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Wow, i've always hoped someone would publish a fiction book based on being radicalised by RP. As a ex partner of a redpiller, I'm glad your shining a light on this. What made you want to write your book about RP?
/r/ExRedPill11/08/23 10:45 PM
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I think it's a lot more than you think. I don't believe they are all socially awkward weirdo men sitting in mums basement, because all the men i've crossed paths with that have RP-adjacent/PUA mentality have all been good-looking, seemingly well-adjusted prior to being radicalised, have had gf's, go out alot, look extremely normal on the outside but are so incredibly radicalised on the inside but hide it well.
/r/ExRedPill10/08/23 10:21 AM
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He was extremely good at hiding RP language and terminology, but his attitudes plus the certain words he did let slip were quite ambiguous? No mentions of chads, or game or beta, nothing super obvious. "Cuck" was a big one, also "female nature" and "drinking your koolaid" - I know now that this is not just a RP term, but its just not something you would hear out of a brit's mouth. He would talk about his friends and how they needed to grow a backbone ALOT, I thought of how and why this would be …
/r/ExRedPill10/08/23 10:17 AM
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This is exactly what I did! Certain phrases, and frequent use of slang/terminology stuck out to me as extremely odd, so I googled and found out. I was floored
/r/ExRedPill09/08/23 08:24 PM
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Wow they all really follow from the same script. I felt like even things I said he would twist and contort them to fit redpill rhetorics and narratives that I was being manipulative, when in reality I hadn't said anything offensive and if I had it was unintentional.
/r/ExRedPill09/08/23 08:20 PM
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100% alot of RP missuse "broicism" for hedonistic goals
/r/ExRedPill27/07/23 11:30 PM
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Its okay, but I think stoicism or the redpill kind of stoicism tends to be used incorrectly. It's used in a manipulative "IDGAF" un-empathetic way. It's used alot to weaponised ghosting, or hurting the women your with. The redpills I knew used stoicism when being held accountable too, and pretty much would shrug off any issues their partner had and say "it is what it is". I think if you want to get into stoicism, then go for it, but the correct implementation - not the way that redpill says to u…
/r/ExRedPill27/07/23 11:29 PM
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this exact thing happened to me, my ex RP framed the ending of the relationship as something that I initiated, but refused to budge or take accountability of all the RP tatics which aided the demise of our relationship. Its crazy how they all follow the script to the T.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/23 11:17 AM
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I hate the fact there are hundreds of pua/redpills/exredpills that lurk here yet barely any of them have taken the time to let up on the tactics so many guys use to exploit people. I'm a victim of a rp, so here are the tactics that aren't talked about as much. False time constraint is when a guy will will hang out for maybe 30 mins/hour then leaves out of nowhere as if "something came up". It is so the guy is seen as a high value man and that his time is valuable. It also makes you feel of less …
/r/ExRedPill24/07/23 06:28 PM
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This sounds so eerily similar to my experience with a RP man. I felt in my gut he had to be learning these toxic tactics from somewhere, and then finally one day I found out about RP - it all made sense. The transactional and competitiveness of the relationship was alway so odd to me, he acted almost like we were competing to hurt eachother. If I ever did anything "wrong" or not to his liking, I almost could already sense a punishment was coming my way. In the end, I pity him because it seems li…
/r/ExRedPill24/07/23 05:32 PM
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The rp that I knew viewed the relationship almost like a competition, even meaningless things - he was so caught up in one-man-upship on pointless things between us, it was very bizarre. I wish they understood how they look from our eyes, its all very odd
/r/ExRedPill05/07/23 06:02 PM
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Yes, on one hand these resources help me to understand a RP man's mindset so in the longrun I feel more at ease that I wont encounter one again and it helps me understand why I went through years of RP abuse but on the other hand reading exredpill posts, or books make me feel ill and give me a lot of anxiety. I typically have to take breaks during reading because its all too much. It's a very weird/eerie feeling reading and understanding abuse tactics that my ex partner learnt about and used.
/r/ExRedPill04/07/23 12:35 PM
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I second this! I have been desperately looking for resources to help me - but theres not too much out there. There is a subreddit called r/Redpillwidows, which is for victims of RP men but its currently not too active, I think because not too many people know about it . Lundy Bancroft's Why Does He Do That gets recommended here all the time and also Men Who Hate Women - Laura Bates is also a great book about incels/rp men. I have read academic journals about RP men, and spent some time on the na…
/r/ExRedPill04/07/23 10:53 AM
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What were the downsides to PUA and why did you become less involved in the community?
/r/ExRedPill21/06/23 10:19 PM
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How long were you rp?
/r/ExRedPill19/06/23 03:27 PM
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So instead of self-reflection and a sense of remorse you instead reframed your shame into pride?
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 06:25 PM
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I was in an extremely abusive relationship with someone who was redpill for many years and I only found out within the last year. I just wanted to find out more about the damage RP does to men and why they result to it.
/r/ExRedPill18/06/23 02:21 PM
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Super in-depth response! Thank you so much - knowing what could be going on with their minds actually helps process things for me.
/r/ExRedPill11/06/23 09:58 PM
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I wrote this post as I was scrolling through PPD and was getting more and more flustered over the amount of justifications! its infuriating
/r/ExRedPill11/06/23 09:55 PM
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