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I might be too late, but I would say something along the lines of: "Do what you want to do, but know I'm not comfortable/on board with you going." If she still goes knowing that you're uncomfortable with it, then demote her. If she hooks up with someone else then it's obviously a hard next. Keep that attitude of "people do what they want to do." For example, if a guy I was with told me he wanted to hook up with someone else, I'd say something along the lines of "Thanks for being honest. Do what …
/r/askTRP29/05/15 07:28 PM
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I don't think this is an obvious next if the friend is a girl and they are trying to do a fun girl's weekend focused on the nice hotels, spas, and fun shows and shopping in Vegas as opposed to the partying and gambling.
/r/askTRP22/05/15 07:31 PM
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Her: "But do you tell your friends when we are out together?" Her: "Do you show me off to your friends?" Translation: are you a clingy beta? This also could have been a way to feel out if there was a possibility of her "ex" finding out/hearing that you guys were seeing each other. It really does seem like she was thinking about whether or not she should branch swing.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 01:28 AM
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That really would have been the right way to phrase it. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/15 12:39 AM
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I agree with what you say here.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 11:34 PM
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Thanks. Good advice. Edit: I realize it was stupid. That was the point of my field report. Dont compete with your man. Compete with his admirers.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 11:08 PM
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Yeah I mean part of the problem I think might be that earlier on I agreed labels don't matter and that people are just people, and now we're both sort of skirting around labels even though we have a rough definition of the relationship. I honestly think regular use of the words are on the horizon as we sort of joke about the term in a playful way.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 09:32 PM
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I agree I should have accepted his proposed solution. The issue has since been dropped though and I don't want to bring it up again unless I see him actively try to hang out with her.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 09:03 PM
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When I initially posted the original post that this is updating, the automod caught it but it was eventually allowed.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 08:50 PM
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Thanks. I really am regretting that. I guess my reasoning was that I wanted him to use the information that I didn't like him talking to her to decide on his own to tell her off instead of me telling him to do so but since he offered that was his own decision that I refused. Yet part of me still thinks I'm making a bigger deal out of texting than necessary. He has cooled off a bit with her from what I can tell.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 08:36 PM
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He is the one that brought up being exclusive and has repeatedly chosen me over others so I consider that to be a commitment. I'm just insecure about it. I guess part of it is the "notch" but the other part is my standards matching up to what's appropriate for me. If I next this guy, I'd probably have to be single for a long, long time before my standards can acclimate back to what I can get. I wouldn't want to date a guy I didn't respect/look up to as much as I respect the current one. I'm 24 t…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 08:20 PM
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Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 08:06 PM
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I see. Thank you. I guess I'm having trouble with how referring to me as his girlfriend sparingly makes it any less real. He spends all of his time with me, drops money on me, and makes date plans with me in advance, talks to me all of the time, and his friends see us as together. We're expressly exclusive, but if I am still a plate it's one he would have to have a formal break up discussion with. I guess...what kind of security/behavior should I expect from a "boyfriend" instead of a "main sque…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 07:54 PM
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Thanks a lot for the ninja edit. I'll keep that in mind. You're right this girl would drop her panties in a heartbeat if he hit her up. The thing is, he hasn't yet but he does still respond when she hits him up. And yes, his dread game is definitely working and my counter-dread made him jealous and upset with me and that was wrong. He knows I don't like her and said he wouldn't hang out with her, but he still likes the attention from her. I guess what bothers me is he never really told me about …
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 07:41 PM
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Can I ask why you think he's using me? He agreed to be exclusive. Are you telling me to break up with him because he's flirting with someone else/has a strong dread game?
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 07:35 PM
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I just saw your edit. Yes, it was my fault I started as a plate but I hadn't really gotten to know redpill at that point and now know how to not deliberately place myself in this situation. The issue is what to do once you find yourself in the situation, and thanks to this sub I am out of the plate zone.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 07:25 PM
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I don't understand why you would say that. If people on here don't think I'm being sincere I can go back to /r/asktrp. If you think my post has bad advice I'd like you to please tell me so I can work on it and you can bring it up with the mods.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 07:21 PM
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The question is more from the last post but I wanted to keep the same title so people knew what I was updating. You're right that I don't deserve anything, but I was having trouble with where to set boundaries since I was starting at a much lower position. Every person I've hooked up with without demanding exclusivity lowers my SMV (as I guess also my past LTRs), but also unfortunately makes it harder to lower my standards to my SMV and be able to respect someone more appropriate for me. I just …
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 07:19 PM
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Thanks for your input. To be honest I'm not sure how much self worth I should have or the best way to go about asserting it. I told him I felt he was either leading me on in telling me that girl didn't matter but continuing to talk to her or, in the alternative, leading her on but he didn't react well to those statements. I will say he seems like the sort of person who has a "marriage or bust" mindset and so this "trial period" really means I just feel that our relationship is more fragile than …
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 07:06 PM
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Thanks. You're right that I am better off without him if he prefers the aggressive girl over me and I definitely am trying not to sound naggy and needy and holding a poised frame (saw that post earlier). It's just so much harder to hold it as my feelings grow stronger. I will say though that he does bring out the best in me, and if I do have to walk away, it will be absolutely comforting to know there was nothing I could have done better, or at least had the ability to do better at the time. So …
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 06:53 PM
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Thank you for your response. I agree I need to be honest and I shouldn't con him or any future guy into committing blind.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/15 09:19 PM
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Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/15 07:22 PM
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Thank you for the analogy. You're right that I don't deserve it, but I'm hoping I can convince him to be generous.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/15 07:14 PM
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Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/15 07:06 PM
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That is nice to hear. I really hope you're right. I'd really rather not say but it's close to double digit territory.
/r/askTRP27/03/15 11:00 PM
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Sorry sorry sorry. I wasn't trying to say anything about breakups just the language back then. Communication was more clear. I also was trying to say that back then, things weren't necessarily more simple even though I contradicted myself by admitting that communication was simpler. EDIT: For clarification, the "let's see other people" was just an example. I'm not hung up on that being a way to break up. In fact, I hope to never hear that.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 10:53 PM
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What I meant was it's better because it's not cryptic. Obviously for my mom (and most other girls), they didn't like that he wanted to see other people and so she did break up with them. But I don't like how in this day and age, a full, confrontational break up/break off/ is harder to find. Guys don't want to flat out reject you/end it because it's easier to fade.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 10:01 PM
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Thank you for saying this. You're exactly right I'm in a high risk/high reward scenario.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 09:59 PM
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Thank you for your honesty, and I don't mean to sound like a know it all, but I already know I can't get a quality man and that's precisely why I wrote this post. Which is why my dilemma is do I hold on to the plate situation with this alpha while it lasts or drop it so I can find the best "average frustrated chump?" Obviously I would need to be single for a while to make my standards go back down, because it's very important to me that I look up to the guy and respect him. I'm not sure I have t…
/r/askTRP27/03/15 09:57 PM
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Wow thank you so much. Tons of helpful stuff here. I will add that I LOVE The Rules Revisited. The one I have saved is on playing hard to get and how basically not to do it. I think you're right that I need to be confident that he deserves me without trying to act like he deserves me/act entitled. Hopefully being confident will help me show him that I'm wife material. And, of course, I agree I need to focus more on my core and realize that 100% of my happiness should not depend on a guy. Thank y…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 09:47 PM
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I like that a lot. I might have to use that line later on down the road if it comes up or when I feel I've put in enough time and it's nearing decision time. Thanks for that.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 09:44 PM
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I think it's good news, but I do sometimes sense that he is trying to have sex with other girls but is perhaps being unsuccessful or just doesn't try hard enough with them. I might just be paranoid and insecure though. I really don't know when he'd have time to pursue them, though, and if he does, they're not getting prime time slots.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 09:41 PM
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I don't know about that. My mom was telling me that this guy she thought she was going to marry met a girl at a party (that he TOOK my mom to) and then asked if he could see that girl on the weekends and my mom on the week days... At least back then "let's see other people" didn't mean "let's see other people and stop seeing each other" and people in general were more straight forward about communicating...but her situation was obviously still messed up
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 08:47 PM
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Sorry, what I meant by that is neither of us are having sex with anyone else. There is no agreement to be exclusive, so he could have sex with anyone else and technically I couldn't be mad. We agreed on "no expectations or limitations." But if it's my insecurities running away with me and I'm reading the situation wrong, that would actually be wonderful news.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 08:45 PM
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Hey also, sorry, but why did you think my post was a troll?
/r/askTRP27/03/15 08:16 PM
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Thank you so much for posting here. You've inspired me to work my ass off.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 08:01 PM
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Thank you.
/r/askTRP27/03/15 07:45 PM
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Thank you. I agree I need to show that I'm wife material. If this guy settles down for me, that's what he'd be doing most likely...slightly settling down. I think he'd do a good job at maintaining the upper hand and reminding me that I wouldn't be able to get better than him. I used to think most successful relationships had the guy being obsessed with the girl because only guys cheat right? From lifelong observation I realize girls are really the more likely to cheat and ruin the relationship w…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 07:42 PM
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I guess that's my issue. There really is no well defined "together" time but let's put 2-3 months on it (top plate status being slightly less) but talking for longer.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 07:35 PM
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Thank you. I had a PM where someone got out of the plate zone into marriage territory so it's nice to see success stories, although I obviously acknowledge that they are rare. I'll remember to play by HIS rules. I think that's what I need to focus on the most. And yes, I think if I'm still a plate a couple of months from now I'll have to cut it off.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 07:30 PM
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This sounds awesome. Thank you so much for the idea. I'm definitely doing this.
/r/askTRP27/03/15 07:06 PM
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Thank you! I would love to learn how to sail those! Maybe that will be my summer project.
/r/askTRP27/03/15 06:54 PM
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Yeah it's pretty funny how feminism ruined my life.
/r/askTRP27/03/15 06:48 PM
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I know now how to not become a plate. I feel my question more deals with how to handle the plate zone. Also the items in the list in that article for "How do you know if you're a plate" don't check out for my situation, except that perhaps I put more energy into the relationship but that's mostly internal energy thinking about it. I haven't met the parents either but he's mentioned it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 06:47 PM
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I think he does have a slightly higher SMV, but to be frank, it sort of seems his SMV is not as high as he thinks it is, otherwise he would have replaced me for someone better on tinder. I think his SMV would be higher if he worked out a bit more. I'm unfortunately at my peak in terms of physical attractiveness (unless I got a nose or boob job) but can obviously work on character traits.
/r/askTRP27/03/15 06:40 PM
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Thank you. I actually posted there first and it was suggested I post here, as this was for those "newer" to the red pill.
/r/askTRP27/03/15 06:35 PM
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I agree. I tried to post there.
/r/askTRP27/03/15 06:34 PM
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I tried to post in RedPillWomen but my account didn't have enough karma. I have been lurking over there for a few months, though, and upvoting things. You're right that the time is NOW which is part of why I'm pretty distressed bout this. I like the advice you give. I should ask sooner rather than later just so I KNOW. But I do want to make that "afterglow" the best it will be before doing so.
/r/askTRP27/03/15 06:34 PM
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I think you're right that I am carrying baggage from my previous LTR. I will say my last LTR started after I was single for quite some time so you're right that I need to get that foundation back. My main hobby is rowing (I'm not a 6 foot amazonian goddess woman, though) which takes a lot of time and I also like to hike, but I haven't been doing that as much lately. In the winter I mostly read and right now I'm studying for a bar exam. I haven't tried MeetUps, but perhaps I should. EDIT: also I …
/r/askTRP27/03/15 06:31 PM
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Thank you for this response. I think you've pretty much hit the nail on the head on my guy analog, even though obviously I'd like to think I'm interesting and blah blah blah, and am definitely placing too much weight on finding a partner to defining me.
/r/askTRP27/03/15 06:26 PM
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Yes.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 06:21 PM
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