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I felt the same way a year ago. I was the sole income (85K) with a SAHM to 4 kids, 2 of them starting college. Broke as hell and facing the impossible, but the constant fighting for months at a time while sleeping on the couch and being miserable eventually gave me the push to get out because I felt like I would actually die if I remained in the situation any longer.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/22 02:23 PM
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Yes sir. This is exactly why I started recording certain conversations with my STBX. I needed to confirm to myself that I am not crazy and I do remember what I think I remember about how our conversations go, and it usually didn't go the way she said it did. Mine will take one particular sentence attributed to me from our conversation and add a few curse words to it and repeat it back in Satan's voice and keep repeating that that's how I said it...... and then call me a gas-lighter in the next b…
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/21 02:25 PM
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Following this thread. In the same situation with a 20+ year gap on my STBX's resume.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/21 07:16 PM
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Thanks for the reply - My anxiety is in high gear just getting so close to filing. I want to be fair to her and I'm aware that I wouldn't be in the position I'm in without her supporting the needs of the family over the years while I focused on working. I am convinced that this is the way and not going through with it at this point will only lead to regret later.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/21 04:28 PM
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A little background: https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/p5q4tg/still_married_for_some_reason/h98ksnq?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3 https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/comments/kna83k/how_to_divorce_a_stay_at_home_mom/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/21 01:32 PM
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wants to change marriage counsellor because he/she did not take her side or held her accountable to her role in the decline of the marriage. That right there....
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 09:46 PM
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This is the 3rd time I've left, only to return and look back with regret at another few years of life gone. I have mentally turned the corner and have lost all hope or desire for reconciliation.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 05:22 PM
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Why are you even getting married if you're already making plans for when it doesn't work out?
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/21 03:17 PM
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2nd shot is scheduled.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/21 07:23 PM
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Apparently I've been 'grey rocking' for years, but she calls it 'stonewalling' and it doesn't stop her from talking. She talks for 45 mins at a time with maybe 10 words from me and without fail, if I try to speak, I'm 'interrupting' her and 'gaslighting' and being 'toxic' and 'defending abusive behavior' and a 'narcissist' and so on...... Someone on another thread called that Buzzword Bingo.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/21 06:13 PM
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I am fully vaccinated, but the fact that I was in a hotel room all weekend is what she is basing her fear on, and she has discussed that with the kids so they are worried about it too. The marriage is not going to be saved. I stayed in it and tried to make it work but always end up in the same place. I have put off leaving because I want to see my kids (2 adult age and 2 minor) everyday. I don't have an issue paying child support or alimony, but I do not make enough to continue paying the mortga…
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/21 06:00 PM
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thanks, I'm sorry to say I have recordings on my phone going back to 2017. I had to start recording because she consistently tries to rewrite our 'conversations' into 'she was calmly expressing a need and I completely lose my shit and start cussing her out in a rage'. I wanted to make sure that I wasn't actually just unaware of my own actions, and I'm glad I did. If I was the crazy one I wanted to know. The tape doesn't lie.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/21 09:53 PM
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I’ve already told her she can have the house if she had any way to afford it. I’ve also explained to her that in Texas she gets half of everything anyway. So half my retirement and 401k plus half of whatever we get for the house after the payoff. She went off into some crap about me “trying to buy my way out” of everything and “pay her off” with a measly quarter million dollars when she’s “sacrificed everything” so that I can have a career and I “wouldn’t be shit without” her.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/21 02:41 AM
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There is no chance of reconciliation. She told me she ‘fucking hates me’ last night. She hit me in October 2020 and went to jail after she called the cops on me while I was asleep on the couch because she wanted to document how scared she is of me. Sooo…. Nah, I think we’re done here. I’m just stuck for now because I won’t leave and have my kids struggling in poverty with their mom. It sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/21 02:01 AM
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I’m an incel for having an opinion about not having sex…..until we actually have sex, then I’m a fuckboy for deciding to remove myself from a conversation about my supposed tone about what’s for dinner, or some other ridiculous thing that truly doesn’t matter.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/21 12:29 AM
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For me to even start the process, I have to be prepared to pay my lawyer, then pay her lawyer to argue with my lawyer until the funds dry up. So I'm here and not going anywhere fast.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/21 11:37 PM
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Toxic and emotionally abusive guy here AKA Stonewaller/Narcissist/Gaslighter This got me: "they literally had to explain the difference between abuse and a disagreement!" Sorry you're going through this. I've put it off for years now because I am the sole income and my wife is delusional about what a divorce looks like.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/21 09:35 PM
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I'm that fuck, which I why I'm still here seeing my kids everyday in a loveless marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/21 06:38 PM
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