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Omg watch the formula 1 Netflix show to see the most dramatic men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:10 PM
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I bet those friends didn't even do that, my guess is he went and complained and they said something neutral like "I can see where you're coming from" and he took that as them agreeing with him wholeheartedly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:55 AM
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YES! I've read this book and I LOVE that line. I quote it too! I don't know that I've ever seen it in the wild. I appreciate you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:32 PM
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Can people actually tell? With all the diamond substitutes these days, I've been curious if you can look at a ring and roughly tell it's value they way you used to be able to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:33 PM
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My friend is married to an awesome man who LOVES matching with her. He bought them matching pajamas! It was so wholesome and cute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:13 PM
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I'm so happy for you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:18 PM
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I made a guy move abroad for me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:57 PM
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Can you just redirect those DMs to the ticketing system? "Thanks for your question! We've changed how we handle queries so please go to [wherever] to post your question and a member of staff will be happy to help you" And then if they try to just be friendly with a "how are you?" Either still send the above message like you're a robot, ignore it (and DONT worry about if they can see you online and know you're not responding to them), or write back "Sorry, all communication now goes through X for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:09 PM
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I agree that everything you said is a possibility, but if he is actually a sociopath then he can twist literally ANY situation to paint himself in the best light. She cashes it and he wants to think negatively of her: He does what you said, decides she's a greedy gold digger She cashes it and he wants to think positively of himself: "See, now I've paid my due and absolved myself and my slate is clean" She doesn't cash it and he wants to think negatively of her: "Who does this bitch think she is,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:01 PM
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I don't think people are fully understanding what a cashier's check is. Yeah he might be able to find your address and harass you but like, he can do that anyway. I don't think the risk to you increases significantly if you cash the check, NOT cashing the check isn't preventing him from stalking you. You might as well have the money. Talk to a lawyer first though of course
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:15 PM
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That's incredible, I'm so happy for you! I hope you have the most wonderful of birthdays with the exhibit and the trip! Another green flag: It's easter today. My boyfriend came to where I'm having a little staycation and brought me: 3 easter baskets to do a easter hunt with, including a little vacation snack I love, a whole bunch of special chocolate I like (both hard to find), my favorite drink, and the little surprise that my mom used to put in my Easter baskets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 04:22 PM
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I love stories like this. Did he end up contacting you some other way after realizing he was blocked? Or did you tell him on your way out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 09:53 PM
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Exactly! Like you can communicate over how the effort gets displayed but there needs to be effort. If he's buying tons of chocolate (the kind that he noticed you like) you can "communicate" and say "hey I appreciate you thinking of me but just fyi I am trying to lessen my sugar intake so if you want to pick me up something random from the store I'd love a healthier snack" THATS what "he can't read minds" should mean, not "he puts in 0 effort until he's told exactly what to do"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 11:57 AM
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The matching PJs thing is SO cute!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:56 PM
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Right! I have a guy friend who is a HVM and whenever he tells me about his dates it's always like "She's so cool, she does X, Y, and Z and she mentioned she likes Mexican food so I'm thinking of asking her to [specific restaurant] but it's a bit out of her way. I'm happy to pick her up but I don't know if she'd be cool with that on a first date because she doesn't know me yet so I also found [different Mexican restaurant] near where she works" It's not hard to put some care, thought, and effort …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 06:17 PM
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Prepare for him to find a way to contact you, act shocked that you actually ended it, and spew a bunch of loving stuff he should have been telling you all along!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:27 PM
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I think there's a period of time where you can channel your emotions into something productive for a reason that you KNOW is unhealthy and have it turn out okay! Breakups are literal chemical withdrawal and a lot of that irrational stuff people do after breakups is a result of your brain being an asshole to you. (Only remembering the good times, making you unable to sleep, etc). If you can feel a little better during that period before your logical brain can really kick back in and be productive…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 12:05 AM
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This is an excellent point! I love her music (also her activism and her business acumen but who's counting :p ) and I still get shit for it from people. Most of the time it's like you said - they just want to hate an atttactive and successful woman, and pretend she's not smart, hasn't worked incredibly hard, and isn't talented. Like, how is her presence in this world hurting you???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:25 PM
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YES! FDS was the first thing I thought of when I listened to it, I'm so glad you posted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:20 PM
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Exactly! What does he get his mom? What does he get his best mate? Certainly not that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:02 PM
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Here's a good one instead! "I think he knows" by Taylor Swift. There's a line that goes, "I think he knows he'd better lock it down or I won't stick around because good ones never wait" Such queen energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 02:02 PM
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To those lurkers: men who ask for shared custody tend to get it. There are more mothers with more custody because those fathers do not want or seek custody. This isn't the "gotcha" you think it is 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 11:42 AM
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This is completely up to you, but you have the grounds to make a police report here. He touched you sexually without your consent, and continued to do so after you made it clear you were not okay with it. That's sexual harassment at the least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:47 PM
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I'm laughing so hard at this guy pretending to be a car to help you practice. I don't know if he made sound effects but I'm picturing him going, "beep berp"!" periodically lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:18 PM
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My goals for the rest of 2020 are LASIK and a new job because I just got my masters! (Do we have any sort of FDS networking chat?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:22 PM
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I agree! I used to live in a city with terrible traffic and I just told men I could only meet in X area. All I had to do was walk down the street for my date, it was glorious. If they KNOW it's by your apartment though they could get the wrong idea, I usually just said I worked in the area. On the rare occasions they tried to walk me somewhere I'd just say "Which way are you going?" at an intersection and after they chose a direction, say "Oh I'm heading the other way, great to meet you, enjoy t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 10:41 AM
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So I used to talk "like a guy", I confidently made statements that I knew were true, etc. It didn't go well, people are so used to a woman coming in softly that I was labeled as abrasive, uptight, arrogant, unfriendly, you know what I mean. After observing how other women talk in my masters program, I have tried to emulate them and have gotten MUCH better results. As much as we should be able to speak our minds politely and be taken at face value like a man would be, expectations are so differen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:56 PM
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I would LOVE to hear how the conversation goes when he finds out you bought a duplex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 06:11 PM
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I think you can take the high road while still standing up for yourself. Tell your friends that you're disappointed his brother thinks it's ok to share private moments you had with your ex, and a bit about the relationship - enough so that they know he's lying or showing only a half picture when he does slander you. Maybe even request they don't engage with this tasteless gossip, if you think they are willing to shut him down. I'm so sorry you're going through this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:01 PM
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Both your goals sound awesome, and I'm imagining you in the future taking some incredible pictures of yourself on that sailboat!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:20 AM
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I am laughing so hard at this. He was so bad at creating fake intimacy lolol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 12:16 PM
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Your writing is incredible. Just wanted to say!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 09:18 PM
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I've also done this! When I was on online dating I'd always get coffee at a place down the street from my apartment. I was in a big city and always made the men do the big traffic journey to me, so I could sashay down the street and not waste more than an hour and a half of my day. It worked well for me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 09:32 PM
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I can definitely see this going two ways. He could be spineless and over accommodating to everyone in his life, or he could be more laid back in general, but without hesitation to stand up for himself or for someone else when it matters. And people can take awhile to show different sides of their personalities - he could be a badass at work but a sweetheart to you. I'd address only the part where it affects you directly, and see what happens. Tell him, "Hey, there's no need to apologize for thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:59 AM
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You were firm and classy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:03 AM
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Noooo, I was giving examples of those pickme comments lol, and saying there's no way to please everyone no matter how fancy or not fancy a ring is. Just expanding on her 'damn ladies, it's not a competition' frustration!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 11:08 AM
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WEIRD!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:36 PM
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I'm so intrigued and slightly baffled by everyone's responses about their height, weight, and size. I'm 5'2", 108, and wear a size 4! What's going on with that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 11:57 PM
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I was agreeing with the poster's rant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:23 PM
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Edit: Apparently my words are being super misconstrued. I agree with the poster! I find it frustrating that women (the 'pickmes in the comments') are rude to other women about engagement rings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 09:42 AM
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"you aren't allowed to make more money than me because men are supposed to pRoViDe but we're still gonna split everything 50/50"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:03 PM
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My boyfriend's Instagram has more pictures of me than him 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:52 AM
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Thanks, I sent an email just asking about why my grade was lower than the group grade, I don't want to argue specifics before I know what they're thinking. I'm so sure nothing will come of it other than my own embarrassment but I'm trying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 09:37 PM
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My take on it would be him trying to be humble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:08 PM
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Thank you, I appreciate these scripts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:06 PM
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Thanks for your support! I'm going to try, but my hopes are on the ground. I'm pretty sure they'll just see me as "Oh she was a bad group member and is now upset about the consequences".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 11:31 AM
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Haha, you actually hit the nail on the head for why I posted here. I went into a shame spiral of "Oh no, I must not be as nice as I thought / people don't like me / I could be nicer / I need to change everything about myself / if I don't take this to heart then I'm refusing to be self aware / only bad people just declare they're right in the face of evidence" And posting this is in part trying to sell a different narrative to myself (and the support helps a lot!) I'm not perfect - and I apologiz…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 11:24 AM
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You're so right, and I definitely learned my lesson there! It was sold to us as more of a 'be honest about each other so everyone can receive feedback and improve', but I am definitely going to suggest to any future groups that we just mark highly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 11:17 AM
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Here you go! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YtqfWK0dkq0
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 11:16 AM
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Don't beat yourself up over it. You're taking all the right steps, some of it will just take time. I know it sucks, I'm sorry it hurts. You're becoming better during it though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 11:56 PM
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Emma Watson talked about this! In an interview she was discussing the differences between British and American men. I don't want to make generalizations but I'd assume most of FDS is American and is skewing their advice towards American cultural norms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 09:29 PM
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I fully agree, but it's SO funny to watch them realize he ain't shit as soon as the show is over and he's not in the spotlight with all the power anymore. The guys almost all get dumped by the 'winner' afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 12:03 PM
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" Michelin star restaurants" - YES, queen! My current boyfriend took me to my first on Valentine's day and WOW, what an experience! I'm glad your man is treating you right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:48 PM
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It's totally reasonable to want a cushion that will help you get through the finances of divorce and starting over. I want to add though, it's probably worth consulting a lawyer in your area. Get a head start on what to expect from the divorce, and see if there's any advice they have for how you can protect your money/assets, or stack the deck to receive what is equal from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:00 PM
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Loooove my magic wand! I have the fancy cordless version - my boyfriend actually bought it for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:47 PM
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Turn situations around and look at the effort you are putting in and make sure it's being matched or exceeded. You care about someone so you bake them their favorite cookie, or you remember when they see something they like at a store and buy that for Christmas, or you drop your plans if they are having a bad day and could use the company. Or whatever it is you do that makes the people in your life feel special! Any HVM partner will also do those things - not exactly the same, but the effort wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 11:02 AM
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Right, you can responsibly play video games the way I responsibly watch TV. Do I binge sometimes? Absolutely. Am I in a good place in my career and friendships and don't let TV run my life? Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 10:59 AM
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OH MY GOD, I had a LVM ex's low value mom confront a current (at the time) HVM boyfriend's high value mom. The high value boy's high value mom defended me, it was glorious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:05 PM
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I got a nice giggle imagining him using this trick on you and it not working haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 03:40 PM
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The first several times I had sex with my boyfriend, he didn't finish. He said it would take too long and make me sore. I of course coming from a low value mindset tried to tell him that was okay, but he gently told me that he didn't need to finish for it to be a good experience and he wanted to focus on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 12:10 PM
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My brother is a bit more chaotic and sometimes probably is really unsure what to get, but he never acts up and just takes some alternatives home, so he’s sure the thing that I want will probably be in there. My boyfriend does this! If I don't specify what kind of mushrooms I want he buys me all of them just in case haha. (Not in any way passive aggressive, he genuinely wants to make sure I get what I wanted)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 10:11 PM
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If he's hardworking, striving toward a better life for himself, and treats you well then I don't see the problem! You should be having fun *now* though, don't wait for your relationship to *start* in a year, do you know what I mean? If you enjoy being with him now, and it seems likely he will be in a better career place in the future, all systems go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 06:02 PM
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I'm probably a dissenting opinion here but I'm personally okay with ladies picking up some of a date as long as the man pays more without complaint.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:05 PM
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I didn't grow up here, but I have never heard of this or experienced it and highly doubt it is a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:37 PM
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I live in Ireland. Absolutely not the norm. He's a piece of shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:12 PM
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I have a lot of friends in medical school, it is NO JOKE regardless of who had to get loans and who didn't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 02:18 PM
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Would it be helpful to look at pictures of some tall women role models to try and retrain your brain? Taylor swift is 5'10" and gorgeousssssss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 06:10 PM
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I'm so glad they were able to help you and that you and your child were able to leave. I hope you're doing well now sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 10:16 AM
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No. There's no custody order so you are not kidnapping your own child. I would reach out to a local domestic violence shelter or advocacy group. Even if that's not your exact situation they will be able to point you toward resources in your area and hopefully get you some legal help to guide you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 10:45 PM
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Hahahahaha. Well shit. I didn't even know it was that bad. God that's frustrating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 09:48 PM
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YEP! When's the last time you heard a man complain that his coworker is 'nagging' that he isn't pulling his weight on a project?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 05:27 PM
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YES!! Listening is a high value trait. My one male friend (he's single, ladies) will literally say "great question!" (And mean it) when he's explaining something to me and I catch something that doesn't make sense at the outset or want more info. Then he answers the actual question, or says he doesn't know the answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 09:40 AM
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Nope, she can do it exactly how wants. She can ask the old producers to come back and produce it and try to make it sound as close to the original as possible if she wants. Will she? We don't know! But yeah, her contract states she can't re-record until Nov 2020, after then it's all fair game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:47 PM
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Ugh. I made more money than my boyfriend during the first year of our relationship and he still paid for most things. No hesitation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 11:45 PM
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Yes! May I recommend that you go try some new things when your daughter leaves? I don't know what you're into but some ideas off the top of my head: - take a barista class - take a glass blowing class - screenprinting class - train for a big hike somewhere - get into knitting, drawing, juggling - learn how to sail -learn how to build stuff and upgrade outdoor furniture or build a mini pizza oven if you have the outside space. - make mead or brew beer - try out for a community theatre play One of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 10:08 AM
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A female MI6 (the British CIA) agent trying to catch a female assassin. It has Sandra Oh in it if you've heard of her. I started it in quarantine and quickly got obsessed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:47 AM
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This is my FAVORITE THING and I am a huge fan so if anyone has questions about what's going on I'm happy to talk about it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 11:05 PM
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My current boyfriend took me to my first Michelin star restaurant for this past valentine's day. He called around asking various restaurants in town if they catered to my dietary restrictions, and I got a special menu. He also took me to a nice brunch, because the dinner wasn't on literal Valentines Day as he had an evening work commitment that day, but he wanted to do something for me on actual Feb 14. It's not about the money, of course, he could have put thought and effort into a nice date in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:54 PM
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That is so hard to do and you're a badass for standing your ground and not excusing that person's behavior even though your family probably just wants it to fade away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 01:41 PM
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I love it, this is so true. My dad did my taxes for awhile (during college it made sense because I was still a dependent and then he had all the info so he just kept doing it) and I'm taking them over this year. I sent him a thing about a certain exemption I qualify for and he responded "I don't think that's how that works" ... but it was very clear in the research I found. I had always thought (reinforced by him) that taxes were this HUGELY complicated thing that you needed years of accounting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 11:45 AM
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Wow, congrats on getting healthier! That's fantastic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 09:21 AM
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I hate the whole 'drama' thing. It's either a weird, gendered way to dismiss legitimate conflicts ("Oh you came to me and calmly expressed that you disliked another girl was flirting with me, come on baby don't start DRAMA") or a way to show off superiority ("I don't waste my time with drama, I'm sooo much better than that") which is exactly your point of, if it's not a problem there's no need to go on about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 12:33 PM
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I agree. LVM's don't have any true female friends, because they either don't respect women, are trying to fuck their friends so it's not a real friendship, or both of the above. HVM who see women as people will have female friendships, will ask for advice on things she is knowledgeable about the same way they'd ask their male friends, and won't ever be sleazy about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 10:59 PM
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One of my best friends is male. He's definitely high value, and I'm honestly shocked he is single. But he doesn't put up with low value women or pickmishas, so that cuts out a lot of potential mates. I don't love the myth that men and women can't be friends. Low value men and women can't be friends! That's not the case for everyone. He's a truly awesome person and when he finds a partner I'm sure she will also be awesome, and I can always use strong women in my life so hopefully we'll get along,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 10:54 PM
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My current boyfriend is bisexual and I think it's the best of both worlds. He's a classic masculine man in many ways, but he's not afraid of emotions or to show me and tell me that he loves me. He has incredible fashion sense. He's a great cook. He's caring and thoughtful and listens well. I don't know what, if anything, is attributable to bisexuality, but I think his attraction to men did rob him of internalizing a lot of the toxic masculinity lessons that might otherwise have shaped him. I'm s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 10:17 PM
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I KNOW, these were the worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 12:48 PM
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I didn't realize this until your comment but it's totally a case of weaponizing and distorting therapy language. Love languages used to be something helpful to assist couples in understanding each other but now it's a terrible excuse for no effort that is hard for a lot of women to argue against.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 11:25 PM
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I think you're so right about using 'not good at gifts' to cover up laziness. Basic gifts are not hard at all! You can freaking google "gifts for wife's birthday" to get ideas. Even if it's not super personalized, get SOMETHING. Something other than 'I stopped at the gas station on the way home', that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 11:16 PM
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The rule is if you're a woman you need to stop being so hysterical and suck his dick. If you're a man, remind her that she's a woman and she needs to stop being so hysterical and suck your dick. This is amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 11:12 PM
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<3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 11:12 PM
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You are so articulate! I really appreciated your thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 08:17 PM
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I had an ex who fit the persona of "nice, quiet nerd". The kind of guy who reads Vonnegut but if you asked him what he thought of a book he wouldn't have anything to say, because he only read it to be seen as the kind of person who reads Vonnegut, if that makes sense. We worked together (I know this was dumb on my part, but not an excuse for his actions) and he treated me horribly when we broke up. But anytime I tried to point that out to any mutual friends he would hide behind "sHe MaKeS mE uNc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 11:31 AM
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I have had this experience too!! So glad for the reminder that it's a good thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 04:55 PM
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He did... I want to say he stepped up after she gave him the speech about 'I may be spoiled but I intend to continue being spoiled' which is a HVW talk in my book. Also, when Jess is complaining to Luke about not treating her right and how he didn't want to be a 'doormat' like Dean, and Luke said, "Dean had that girl for two years" and set Jess straight. Love Luke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:39 PM
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My boyfriend took me to a Michelin star restaurant for this past Valentine's day and all but insisted I get the 6 course meal and the wine pairing instead of a cheaper al la carte option I automatically drifted toward. Ladies, the waiter brought me a new glass of wine with each course! I was raised to be frugal so this blew my mind, haha. It was a wonderful experience to have together and he wasn't show offy about the money he was spending, he was just excited to share the fancy dinner with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 07:22 PM
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So many people hate her because she's an intelligent, talented and powerful woman. She gets hate from both women and men. But she keeps supporting female artists and speaking out about feminism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 08:34 PM
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I really resonated with all of this!! Thank you for posting it. I'm in my late 20's and in the last couple years had a few friend groups fall apart - mostly surrounding similar dramas to what you wrote about. I had never lost a friend before and previously was 'friends' with all my exs. It was really hard to lose people, or to know they were talking badly about me for something I never think I deserved. The whole 'good girls are nice to everyone / good girls are liked by everyone' thing made it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 11:13 PM
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Haha right? I did things in college that I'm not proud of now, and I'm the first person to admit that I've changed for the better. Why is that so hard for men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 07:49 PM
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UGH, a few years ago an ex who cheated on me and hardcore manipulated me/ put me down / convinced me I was worth very little / you know the drill in college reached out to try and be friends again. I was very generous - I said that was a long time ago and I know you could have changed a lot. I'm happy to put it behind us and be friendly again, but since I never got a true apology from you, I'd like you to acknowledge that your actions back then were bad, and that you've changed and grown into a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:42 PM
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Did you decide what to do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:00 PM
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Oh, and I’m sure that the ex will leave you alone after that, so win-win. It's also likely that he might attack the OP - I just want to remind her that we never are obligated to answer messages. Especially if he gets mean, just leave him on read/block, and move forward. Not only will you be taking the high road by not engaging, it'll bother him so much more than if you answered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 02:31 PM
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I feel this! I really hit a gold mine in befriending a true HVM, and it helped to show me how sadly bullshit a lot of other male friendships were. It's so hard because you are telling the truth and upfront about where you stand, but end up getting hurt anyway because someone who is supposed to be your friend lied about where THEY are. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:22 PM
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I was so furious at this one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:03 PM
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