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you're not wrong. i'm not there though. knowledge is a drug for me. an escape. I got 10 seconds into that video before realizing oh shit. i'm doing it again. i'm confusing knowledge with progress. i'm letting thinking substitute action. maybe i'll come back to this when I balance myself out with enough action.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 12:10 AM
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zero. thanks for calling me on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 08:29 PM
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And you realized this by introspection on that process? all I know from a lot of wasted time is numbing pain doesn't work and chasing pain doesn't work. so i'm trying being indifferent to it. not ignoring or obsessing. listening when it's got something to say, moving on with my life when there isn't. In case you're interested, blarg, gtfo with that. you're a fucking drug dealer. of course i'm interested. i'm interested in everything that gives me an excuse to stay stuck where I am and complain l…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 08:26 PM
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Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 03:14 PM
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OYS 59 5’10” ???lb, BF 20% calipers Lift stats from ~2mos ago: DL 315 BP 185 SQ 225 OHP 100 Current lift stats: DL 185 BP 135 SQ ?? OHP 80 35yo, wife 33yo, married 11y, 4 kids 10yo 9yo 7yo 6yo Learned 2 things: I need to give my gifts. /u/Tyred_Biggums turned a lightbulb on in my head. I’m having a hard time “shitting” because I’m holding back. But what? My gifts. The bullshit I believed is I don’t have gifts to give. I do. They may not be the kind of gifts I want to be able to give, but that’s …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 01:01 PM
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OYS 58 5’10” ~190lb, BF 22% (photo method) Lift stats from ~2mos ago: DL 315 BP 185 SQ 225 OHP 100 Current lift stats: DL ?? BP 135 SQ ?? OHP ?? 35yo, wife 33yo, married 11y, 4 kids 10/9/7/6 GYM Biggest shit to own here. letting excuses get in the way. none are legit. just lazy, letting myself believe other things are more important. sorting out home gym delivery today, back to local gym today. Goal for end of Feb: cut 12lb, back to lift stats from ~2mos ago. WORK getting my feet on the ground. …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 04:52 PM
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This sounds like a covert contract. It does, thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/22 04:33 PM
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OYS 57 5’10” ???lb, BF 22% (photo method) Lift stats from ~2mos ago: DL 315 BP 185 SQ 225 OHP 100 Current lift stats: DL ?? BP 135 SQ ?? OHP ?? 35yo, wife 33yo, married 11y, 4 kids 10yo 9yo 7yo 6yo PHYSICAL Not satisfied with my gains over the last 2 years. I see 3 likely causes: Not enough volume. Found I can get a lot more total volume in at lower intensity, say 50-65% 1RM, vs 75-85%1RM. New focus: reduce working set intensity, shoot for >50reps each movement. Not pushing hard enough. Took som…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 06:06 PM
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my brain trying to rationalize LAZY behavior like eating too much, skipping the gym, dumping all your problems and insecurities on your wife in the name of communication. You know this too. spot on bro. thank you. edit it's fucking insane how I write this out, and I can consciously see how insane it is. and I wonder how the hell I ever got stuck believing it. but it's not until I write it out or say it out loud that I can really look at it and think "that's bullshit."
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 08:42 PM
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If I become an MRP man life will become easier? You may have misunderstood me. Shitting or getting off the pot is better than straining and waffling back and forth between deciding to take a shit or not. So yeah, becoming an MRP man will make life "easier" in that I will at least not be making things harder than they already are by constantly contradicting myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 08:23 PM
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you're right. I am afraid of finding what I want. As if I won't want...what I want. insanity.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/22 03:03 PM
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Action changes thinking, not the other way around. This goes 1000x for you. thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/22 02:15 PM
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"Finding new beliefs doesn't always mean sacrificing old ones." This looks like a big part of my problem. I see MRP and whatever-the-hell-I-believe (not quite christianity, not quite humanism) as antithetical. Like if I want to be a REAL MRP man I need to be red-sfpplus, divorce my christian wife, or whatever. I keep thinking too black-and-white, all-or-nothing. As I mentioned in a few other places, I need to re-frame MRP as a set of tools that enable me to become the man I want to be, whoever t…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 04:38 PM
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because I have a few deep-seated doubts about how trustworthy the MRP way really is, and how much I actually want to embrace it. I am afraid that going full-bore MRP will turn me into someone I don't want to be. Like I will regret it. This is bullshit and an excuse for inaction. How many times have you been told that MRP is just a set of tools, not an all-encompassing belief system? What the fuck even is "full-bore MRP?" Agreed. I can't let fear push me into inaction. And I need to re-frame my v…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 04:21 PM
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AR is much better at putting makeup on his hamster. Good way of putting it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 03:49 PM
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Yes, or too narrowly. Cutting through the societal conditioning, convert contracts, and ego to discern what you authentically want and enabling you to achieve that is what we're about. and what I authentically want might not be pure hedonistic selfishness, it might be to help others. I think I'm getting a better picture of what MRP is and isnt. thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 03:45 PM
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Have you thought that if you dont you might also lose? I haven't spent any time thinking about either. losing if I do, or losing if I don't. I'm just now waking up to the idea that fear of loss is at the bottom of my fuck-around-itis. MRP is a vehicle. It is not right or wrong. It simply shows you the path to become the real you. I never thought of it this way. I will work to re-shape my view of MRP like this. it's not turning me into someone I don't want to be. It's helping me become the person…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 03:32 PM
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are you back because you are afraid to fail? No. At least I don't think so. Fear of failure is an ego thing. I can't stand the idea of failing because it means I'm a retard or whatever. I still have some of that to work through, but that's not the issue at hand here. I do a lot better at just doing whatever and being willing to fail, because I have divorced my identity from my actions fairly well. Did fear lead you back here and back to a state of inaction? Yes. But not fear of failure. Fear of …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 03:10 PM
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Rather, I was afraid of taking yet another step to gaining more control. This resonates. I don't trust myself with power so I don't want to gain more power. But then I'm miserable without power because everything falls to shit. so the only way forward is to both become competent with power, and gain it. Because once I let go of everyone else’s expectations, everything is my fault. I don't think I have much problem with this--that everything's my fault. I like that, I like the idea that I can con…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 02:48 PM
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Jesus. fucking. christ. Gave myself another 2week time out after my last mental masturbation post. I want to say I understand my problem. I mean really understand it, internalized, to the level that I can change and get out of this endless loop of mental masturbation and excuses. I know how to tell you what my problem is. I know what you want to hear. But I don’t know my problem. I keep avoiding it, while telling myself I’ve dealt with it. Here’s what I think I know about it. I see fear. I think…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 02:12 PM
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Thanks for the questions. Does MRP not advocate optimizing influence? It does, absolutely. But (ostensibly) for the nearly exclusive purpose of short-term selfish gain. I might be wrong there though. Is our relationship to the universe and the things in it really "responsibility"? What does that actually mean in your thinking? I find meaning in successfully taking on responsibility. The kind of meaning that feels better than any orgasm, gym gains, or amount of money. I take the most responsibili…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/21 05:14 PM
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Trying to find this universal unifying philosophy just takes you to the purple pill circle jerk that is all talk and no action. Thanks for pointing out that danger. I don't want that. Is it possible to ask big questions and challenge core assumptions while also grinding away at what I know I agree with? Looks to me like it is, and that's what I'm aiming at, but I have seen how utterly full of shit I often am and I need help seeing through that. RP isn’t a philosophy. It’s a set of tools. it's a …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/21 04:47 PM
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this may be where it’s actually harming you to label. I think I see where you're coming from: don't label myself as autistic because when I do I will constantly doubt myself, can't be my own judge, and keep staying in other people's frame. Don’t castrate yourself by labeling yourself and thus making everyone else the judge of your social interactions. So, I could be wrong here--need to roll this around more--but my first impression is that the source of this is not the labeling, it's the lifetim…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/21 11:46 AM
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Does it help No. Thanks for pointing that out.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 11:13 PM
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Great work, thanks for the FR. My congruence is her mental health. Took a 3 month+ break from MRP to find that one sentence. that's it. the truth I needed to see. I am incongruent so my wife is insane. She's not insane because of her daddy issues or circumstantial bullshit as I would blame, nor my lack of white knight hallmark movie romance as she would blame. No. it's my incongruence. I lie, often. I say one thing and act differently. I act one way today, and totally different tomorrow. I lead …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 11:03 AM
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Lift stats unknown, haven’t lifted in ~2mos during move Since last OYS: stuff I did: executed plan to move across country moved into house ~30% larger for ~30% less than former house made 100k profit on sale of old house started 100% remote job, 75% salary increase from last job got snipped bought a home gym, coming in 15-30 days A while back I mentioned that I have high functioning autism. not just the kind all faggots have when they start MRP, the actual medical kind (Asperger’s syndrome). wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 10:39 AM
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not sure what you're getting at. they look like a contradiction, like how could they both be true. but they are. I am at different times both a needy beta bitch and a HVM who knows how to get what he wants.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 03:26 PM
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OYS 55 DL 315 BP 185 SQ 225 OHP 100 Just grinding. Fucking my wife and unfucking myself. Still weak as fuck. cause looks like laziness and poor recovery. not pushing hard enough, not disciplined enough, not getting enough sleep. trying some different combinations of work/rest days, tweaking my workout schedule, see if I can come up with something better. Patterns of ego and laziness everywhere. Neediness. Weakness. Whiny bitch mode. Hiding from it makes it worse. Beta/adhd/autistic mindset every…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 03:23 PM
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OYS 54 I use MRP/OYS for validation. so my OYS for a while will be brief and infrequent as I work on internalizing value & killing need to belong. Highlights from the past month: Fucked my wife bent over the sink of the bathroom in our hotel room on vacation, while the kids napped sex up from ~1x/wk to ~3x/wk PR deadlift 305, squat 225 executing 6-12 month plan to move across country 4+wks no whiny bitch mode -AR
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 03:21 PM
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OYS 53 Mid 30s, 5'10", 170lbs, 14%bf (Navy). Married 11 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. squat 195, bench 170, deadlift 280, ohp 100. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM, Obstacle is the Way got through a tough week with none of my usual crutches. shark week & covid hit last Sunday. working from home. shit tests and comfort tests and meltdowns, getting sick, sick family. frame held up. didn't go drunk captain. didn't pass the buck to FO. stayed active & on point. initiated & got bj. smooth fucking sailing. t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 03:29 PM
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What I am calling out is what I see in your words that you might have TOO MUCH of a covert contract, not that any amount is unacceptable. Got it. I will recalibrate & report back. This whole thread has been helpful. thanks for taking the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/21 12:19 AM
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Helpful, thank you. Easiest way to figure out your motivation here is to ask how you'll feel if she doesn't appreciate your effort at being the hardest working, most responsible member of the house. so far I have responded with DNGAF. Everything I've done has been because I want to get the "gym gains" of owning the fuck out of my household. not running away from responsibility. not giving in to the inner bitch. making it to the end of a very busy day with a solid, steady frame. doing whatever is…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/21 10:23 PM
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Are you taking care of personal responsibilities in order to get sex, or because it's what you want to do? After a day of rolling this around: I see both. Or at least, the possibility of both. I want to be the hardest working most responsible member of my family. It's rewarding. I have fought to get to this point for years. where I can keep going even when I'm wiped out, without dropping into whiny bitch mode or passing the buck to my wife. There's something meaningful and rewarding in it. That …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/21 03:15 PM
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Does it matter? Maybe not. You walked the journey that you could at the time. If you knew the way, you wouldn't have had to walk it. Good point. I'm not seeing what you would get out of going back and figuring out if there was an easier way. To avoid future waste of time. To avoid another cycle, if that is what happened, as some here believe. Fact is, I see a lot of bullshit and fear and ego in the path I took so far. I also see something of value. I keep wanting to clearly set them apart. I thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/21 03:06 PM
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Are you taking care of personal responsibilities in order to get sex, or because it's what you want to do? Do you want to be the hardest working family member because you want to, or because you want adoration from others? Thanks for the poke. I'm going to leave it at that & see what comes out next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/21 05:55 PM
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I'm making no implication, here, but offering a suggestion for reflection. thank you. I agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/21 05:47 PM
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the importance of building self respect. This is the core issue. this is what my detour was about. a baseline of self respect to build on. the only question is could I have gotten that in an easier, more direct, quicker way. now I'm working on bringing down my ego enough to look at that soberly.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/21 05:35 PM
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OYS 52 Mid 30s, 5'10", 170lbs, 14%bf (Navy). Married 11 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. squat 195, bench 170, deadlift 280, ohp 100. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM, Obstacle is the Way This marks 1 year of OYS. REFLECTION The first 6 months showed a ton of progress. The last 6 I took a detour, and whatever progress I made was not nearly as obvious or measurable. I've written a lot about how that detour into the past seems to have fulfilled a necessary, if not somewhat vague purpose. Most feedback I've …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/21 11:03 PM
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holy fuck thats a lot to digest. pun intended
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 06:39 PM
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good video, thanks. I think I have left gains on the table. I will dial up the intensity.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 08:29 PM
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OYS 51 Mid 30s, 5'10", 166lbs, 12%bf (Navy). Married 11 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. squat 195, bench 170, deadlift 280, ohp 100. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM, Obstacle is the Way Reassessed goal & priorities. decided I don't care about hitting 10% or 165, the purpose of my goal is fulfilled. I am no longer skinnyfat, just skinny. now I'm sick of being skinny. moving on to bulk. slowly increasing calories to hit target of 0.5-1lb/wk weight gain. so far looks like ~2200kcal/day but the real tell is…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 06:30 PM
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Is this social conditioning or is it a formula for a prosperous society? why not both? I believe truth to be objective truth may be objective yet not binary. most truths are some kind of blend between extremes. I almost got married because I just wanted to have sex speaking from experience: horrible reason to get married. I am only a Christian because I don't want to go to hell. speaking from experience: horrible reason to be a christian.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/21 08:31 PM
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6’2” 165lbs BF 20-24% at least one of those numbers is wrong. if ht/wt is accurate, you need to bulk. if BF is accurate, cut then bulk. I still approach it from a mindset of “maybe this will get me laid”. You have to kill this. maybe you use sex for validation, comfort, or whatever. Figure it out and deal with the root cause. your wife can sense your desperation and it's incredibly unattractive. for beginners, the more DNGAF you show her about sex, the better. I end up reading all the signs and …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/21 06:25 PM
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bodyfat scale Ignore those. wildly inaccurate. use Navy method or calipers (better). I'm lifting six days a week If this is working at all, this is not sustainable. Six months of work is nothing compared to the 14-15 years that I've displayed unattractive behaviors. keep grinding.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/21 06:09 PM
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I'd recommend reading the post shit I'm overdue for a re-read
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 10:08 PM
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I realize it may be our last chat. Men, call your Dad. Do it while you can. I had no idea I was saying goodbye to my dad for the last time. Reminds me, I need to call my mom.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 06:07 PM
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OYS 50 Mid 30s, 5'10", 166lbs, 12%bf (Navy). Married 11 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. squat 195, bench 170, deadlift 280, ohp 100. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM, Obstacle is the Way Goal: 10%bf by memorial day - 165# target weight Down 1#, 1 to go. Going to measure maintenance TDEE for a few weeks, then do clean bulk on PHUL. Time to take the training wheels off. Went back and forth with /u/Blarg_Risen, /u/EasyDaysHardNights, and /u/Ubermensch33 about the path I took over the past 6 months. They see…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 05:51 PM
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Maybe I'm being autistic but I don't see the stocks and bonds or jump I supposedly need to make. Like I hear from you and Easy and a few others that I'm blind and doing this all wrong, but I don't see exactly where.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/21 09:51 PM
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Would you say there's a pattern in your life of having distinct, separate issues (doesnt even have to be huge, childhood issues, or take 6 months to solve) that you do something...and then solve them? Yes. Well. try to solve them. I spent most of my life running down dead ends THINKING I had solved them only to find a fatal flaw in the process that meant starting over. As to the disticnt/separate emphasis...no, I tend to view myself and most things as holistically connected in some way. Sometime…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/21 05:44 PM
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you're DEERing your experience Holy fuck I am, thanks for this. one minute you're confident in it, and the next you're hedging that "it's early" and may not stick, begging for us to be your crutch. Again, spot on. I need to STFU about it, and let time sort things out.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/21 11:12 PM
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How does someone new to mrp move away from that? Read WISNIFG and practice. then practice more. fogging through a tantrum or ignoring a sideways look gets easier every time.
/r/askMRP30/04/21 04:15 PM
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how to explain it Don't. I told my wife I'm taking friday evenings to myself. she gets Tuesdays. it's not even a question, everyone knows Fridays are daddy's night off.
/r/askMRP30/04/21 04:13 PM
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It's your responsibility alone to figure your shit out. .... When that happens, don't take that as just a suggestion. Take it as a 2x4 to the head that you're fucking up. I don't follow this. I'm supposed to figure my own shit out, but I'm then supposed to take advice from internet retards as gospel? my ability to bullshit myself Really, it's just this. No, it's not. It's not all bullshit. some is, some isn't. the trick is separating the two. The moment you say you've gotten your shit figured ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/21 03:53 PM
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shut the fuck up and get to work. lift, read, OYS, STFU.
/r/askMRP28/04/21 09:41 PM
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When you act with entitlement, you deserve disappointment. I was never alpha by any stretch, and never thought of myself that way. But sure as shit, I have often felt entitled. Took me a long time to see my entitlement patterns, and realize I had not actually earned the stuff I thought I deserved. The ego dies a slow painful death.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 09:38 PM
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good shit, thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 06:31 PM
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male main event Interesting, this resonates. That's not to say there are no small pieces of debris left over that we need to deal with after these events Also resonates. I don't feel "cured" in some woo-woo popsych way. I still have a shitload of work to do. But I feel like I CAN do the work, like the only things holding me back are the usual opposition to any kind of worthwhile change, not other hidden shit subverting me And you could be right that this wasn't a main event for him, but rather a…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 04:21 PM
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But I feel like you're full of shit. I might be. I mean I definitely am still in general, but I might be in this case too. If MRP has taught me nothing else, it's my ability to bullshit myself and everyone around me. And I like what you said elsewhere, that killing the ego means accepting the possibility that something, anything, could be me, even if I don't like it, and that doesn't mean anything about who I am as a person. The thing is, you're right. I have taken the whiny bitch route many tim…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 04:16 PM
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Ah I see. noob gains.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 04:04 PM
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The place I'm in now, I don't see a pattern. I see that I found a way to meet a need that had gone unmet since childhood. I needed to be a child. I was forced to grow up too early. But kids are still kids, not adults. And something about smothering those feelz as a kid didn't kill them, just put them on hold. Like...weird example...trapped gas. Dig it up, let it air out, it's gone. Ignore or bury it under more shit, it just increases the pressure and risk of explosion. if it comes up again, I wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 10:41 PM
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I'm talking adding 12-16lbs of BW and 50%+ to your lifts in about 3-4 months. Is this your bulk cycle?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 10:31 PM
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pattern to investigate it's too early to say for sure, but the pattern might be over. I don't have a clear enough picture to phrase it in detail, but I sense that whatever purpose the whiny-bitch-phase served has been served.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 04:14 PM
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Does it matter? not to me. I sense deeply that it was the path I needed to take, even if it wasn't the most direct or "correct."
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 04:12 PM
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OYS 49 Mid 30s, 5'10", 167lbs, 12%bf (Navy). Married 11 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. squat 195, bench 170, deadlift 280, ohp 100. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM, Obstacle is the Way Goal: 10%bf by memorial day - 165# target weight Weight unchanged but waist measurement is down, so -2%bf. i am not going to push through to 10% or less. Once I hit 165#, switching to clean bulk. I might test my TDEE for 1-2 weeks to see where my maintenance intake actually is. TDEE calculators show ~2500kcal maintenance…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 04:09 PM
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whatever gives you an average weight gain of no more than 0.5lbs per week plus 500kcal on workout days good stuff, thanks. what's your daily protein goal?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/21 06:11 PM
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Good post. The path forward is the same, regardless of our past, but shit from the past can do a lot to make traveling that path harder and slower than it needs to be. I went the gay psychoanalysis crybaby route. something about that seemed necessary to me. like giving voice to the very young child that never got a voice growing up. like I needed to accept my whiny-bitch-self. the irony is that not long after manifesting whiny-bitch-self, that part of me was like "ok, I have what I need, let's m…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/21 06:07 PM
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And you have to do it slowly. 300kcal/day surplus? In fact you have to drag that shit out as long as you can bear it. what do you mean by this? slow progress for as long as I can stand gaining fat?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/21 05:01 PM
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At a time when I needed patience and understanding and HELP from caring adults, I got, at best, feigned interest and a lot of empty words. I went through most life milestones effectively alone. Sure they were "there" (sometimes), but as hollow husks of what parents should be, not as real caregivers. Not as friends, mentors, coaches, or even providers..beyond the basic necessities of survival. this When I think about anger in myself...I immediately think about my parents divorcing, losing my dad …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/21 06:04 PM
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I could see their childishness in their arguing, their blinding ego, I felt like I was martyred on the altar of their selfishness. maybe this too Friend from kindergarten literally ghosted me before ghosting was a word. fiance in high school suddenly stopped returning my calls. no breakup, no explanation. household went from intact mostly-supportive mom&dad to shattered overnight.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/21 09:48 PM
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I felt extreme injustice at the fact that I was suffering the consequences of my parent's bullshit. here?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/21 05:45 PM
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Holding on to what's familiar, this idea that I'm owed something, like something will come along and pay me back for all the damage I took. Here?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/21 05:20 PM
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Here? It could be that my anger is ego defense, a way of creating a comfortable place. I certainly see that I tend to take the victim mindset, and have for a long time, probably starting with the divorce. Because I literally was powerless to change my situation, and as a child I was powerless to protect myself from the shrapnel. And I'm a lot more retarded than I am lazy, although I am both. I see lingering anger from what is essentially being a powerless victim as a kid. both to bullying and to…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/21 05:05 PM
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you must remain mindful of the trifecta; complacency kills. first time I"ve seen this, thank you.
/r/askMRP21/04/21 06:58 PM
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You create a story in your head about someone or something around you that gives you the excuse, the trigger, to enrage. That is more than just projection, where you see in others what you see in yourself, it is creating the reality that allows you to perpetuate the very thing that both controls you and you are most afraid of. You literally create the environment you need to feel comfortable in. One where you can be angry. I need to roll this around for a while. You might be right, but I don't s…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 06:46 PM
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And, if you're the type that blames yourself, understanding it wasn't all your fault is nice. This is me. think we can change ourselves completely, and essentially however we want to. Agreed 100%. Also agree that too many people internalize past experiences or behavior as their essential nature, thereby limiting their culpability or ability to change. For me, learning why I do something usually instantly defuses shame (something is fundamentally wrong with me as a human being, that is beyond my …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 03:02 PM
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there was something there for me to look at. I agree. I don't see it right now. I will keep looking though. I sense truth in your feedback but I can't put the pieces together yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 11:41 PM
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Really got your panties in a wad this week didn't you. looks that way. You see others as the obstacle to your progress. I do project my shit onto others, yes. (Kept looking for you to say you were taking your marbles and never coming back. Got close ... Didn't you). close, but then I see that would be the coward's way out You even have enough intelligence to lay out a bullshit story that you are at fault. And that you're "working on yourself." Which is a stall tactic to admitting the real proble…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 11:29 PM
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I'm not disagreeing with you. Making the choice to be different regardless of what happened before is critical. So is not getting stuck in old mental models of myself. But there is something helpful about the "why", as long as I don't stay stuck in it. It can be freeing. Like understanding that I bullied my daughter possibly because I was bullied can help me think "oh, that's where it came from, it's not that I'm some kind of monster, I was just living out a relic of my past that I wasn't aware …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 10:53 PM
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OYS 48 Mid 30s, 5'10", 167lbs, 14%bf (Navy). Married 11 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. squat 195, bench 170, deadlift 280, ohp 100. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM, Obstacle is the Way Goal: 10%bf by memorial day - 165# target weight Forgot to weigh myself this morning, no update on goal. Guess is 0-1lb lost, didn't cut as much last week due to vacation. Looks like the calculator I used was wrong, or navy BF% is off. 165# is about 12-13%bf, not 10%. I look a lot better than I did at 17+%, but as others…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 10:43 PM
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Why did you get triggered over some shit that came out of the mouth of a <9 year old girl? Also responding to /u/Blarg_Risen And you might also want to take a look at what the devil on your shoulder was saying when it convinced you to push a 9yo. I'm going to give you the most direct and honest answer I can, not the one I wish I could give. I was pushed around as a kid. bullied. silent, powerless. Had to put up with a lot of shit I would have rather pushed away. Something about her approach trig…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/21 04:05 PM
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Philosophize in your head for 47 weeks about why and how so you can figure it out so you can grow up. You know what /u/sea-tease? I fucking love MRP. /u/HornsOfApathy, /u/man_in_the_world, /u/weakandsensitive and even /u/red-sfpplus knocked me senseless, saw right through my bullshit, and set before me a vision of the kind of man I could become if I worked hard enough. Not only that, but a framework for how to get there. Lift. read. STFU. Become my own judge. Internalize value. No one in my enti…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/21 03:52 PM
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It is a fact that you have four kids looking for a captain. How does that fit in your mission? My mission is to become as strong as possible. Raising kids is a huge challenge that builds all kinds of strength. You said you can do better. Can you? Do you want to? I can, because I have. I don't always want to. I have yet to reach a place of fully accepting my role in life. this is not a binary decision but a gradual process of working this in over time, like learning anything really. I know it's n…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 09:49 PM
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OYS 47 Mid 30s, 5'10", 167lbs, 14%bf (Navy). Married 11 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. squat 195, bench 170, deadlift 270, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM, Obstacle is the Way Progress: Goal: 10%bf by memorial day - 165# target weight Down another 2#. Only 2 more to goal, 6wks early. Gearing up for a bulk. Felony cleared last week. Spent 5 days out of town, visiting family. Extremely helpful in un-fucking old mental models about myself. Perspective. Gratitude. Confidence. On the trip, several t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 06:29 PM
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dealing with body dysmorphia what do you think is going on with this?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/21 09:12 PM
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I'm on a body recomp to stay at 9% for the summer what does this look like?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/21 03:56 PM
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Elon I don't think he's such an alien. He's definitely exceptional in a lot of ways. But his level of output IMO has more to do with his ability to selectively focus on what interests him & delegate the rest. I doubt he has what it takes to lead a wife/family because he can't delegate the boring shit. Am I lazy or not? If i'm honest with my core, I know laziness is underneath my reluctance to fraction out my time to the things I know need it. I know I should ( as in, I know it would benefit me m…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/21 03:42 PM
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Do you consciously do this? Yes. More lately. It's not what I enjoy. Like you I prefer to give myself entirely to a task for as long as it takes to get the outcome I want. But I also don't like dealing with preventable crises, especially when those crises cause other people undue pain or stress, which ultimately adds more work to my plate, even if it's just the work of fogging through negative attitudes. If I spent that "fracture" of time in that area, would it go into crisis mode? In my case, w…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 03:37 PM
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step bulk I like this
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 02:53 PM
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OYS 46 Mid 30s, 5'10", 169lbs, 14%bf (Navy). Married 11 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. squat 195, bench 170, deadlift 270, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM, Obstacle is the Way Goal: 10%bf by memorial day - 165# target weight Goal progress: Down 2#. on track to hit goal 4-5 weeks early. gym 7/7 days, soccer monday. I like the way I look and feel. don't want to be 15%+bf ever again. I wasn't horribly out of shape but it's amazing what a few pounds do. I can get better form & volume on pullups/dip…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 10:47 PM
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We went on vacation this last week where we spent 100% of the time together as a family camping. awesome. My son opened up to me for the first time in a decade about how impactful the split of his parents was for him. He told me that he doesn’t remember anything before that day, and I believe him. Thanks for posting this. there are times when divorce the best decision, and we should never fear that outcome, but it's no fucking joke to the kids involved. depending on how it goes down it can serio…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 10:01 PM
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I had her sign a contract saying she would work to lose the baby weight within the first year omg cant believe that didn't work I can only work on myself, which is what I want to do. oh good, keep wanting to bro I am never going to get to have sex with an attractive woman ever again since my wife has I have become so lazy. ftfy it's all you. YOU are fat, lazy and unattractive. put down the fork and get to the gym faggot. then OYS and sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/21 09:01 PM
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made it to discord, what's next?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/21 03:25 PM
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so what are you going to do about it?
/r/askMRP31/03/21 03:30 PM
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Why don't you just try to gain more muscle at your current weight? bulking makes more sense. but I decided I am more likely to stay on track if I cut first. also cutting is a good exercise in tracking macros which I need to do a proper lean bulk.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 02:43 PM
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I’m not sure you got enough muscle to look good cutting that hard dude. i won't look great but IMO better than skinnyfat. abs/obliques look clean. its motivating to see "progress" even though I know I'm not gaining muscle. also it's exercise in tracking macros, which I will need to do a good clean bulk.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 02:35 PM
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What are you doing for conditioning? increase cardio, decrease time between sets lifting. metcon or HIIT seem like good options. I feel like you are beyond 'is this red pill' agreed, I need to stop doubting my core. are you sure there is no fear she might reject you for a BJ or that you 'shouldn't make your needs a priority' etc. there is some fear and autism in there. yes. but overriding that is the sense that I would rather wait for other reasons. at this specific time it's more congruent with…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 11:16 PM
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OYS 45 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 14%bf (Navy). Married 11 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. squat 195, bench 170, deadlift 270, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM, Obstacle is the Way Goal: 10%bf by memorial day - 165# target weight Goal progress: lost 7lbs/3%bf. i know that's not all fat, still faster than expected. best guess, TDEE estimator was wrong. Based on how I look now I might shoot for 8%bf before lean bulk. staying inside calorie limits turned out to be easier than hitting protein goal every…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 05:00 PM
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How has this stupid pandemic changed things??? only for the better. because I decided it wasn't going to make things worse. she never was a huge shit tester, and I'm 80% sure I'm passing them again lol right "lets figure out how to work on this." you don't negotiate desire. where I simply was not attracted to her and found her boring and sort of weak minded. surprise, this is actually YOU, projected into her, reflected back on you. It's all your fault. but that means it's also in your control. B…
/r/askMRP28/03/21 06:08 PM
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you see yourself as a unified front of one you, with a metaphorical demon as an error in that code I didn't want to expand on it then, as the sentence was already wordy enough, but actuallly no, I see myself as you put it: "a unified front of many individual parts of me." But you are correct that I do not see any of those parts of me as demons themselves, but rather potentially undeveloped parts of me, that may be attached to demons (errors), some of which are mature but many of which need coach…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/21 10:54 PM
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I know we're deep in the weeds but this is too much fun. it just doesnt seem to give enough credit to the agency to see my own faults, and choices to engage and make them better...or not. I think agency and introspection are a part of it. But my capacity for agency and accurate, helpful introspection are nonlinear, they expand with time and experience and maturation. so like as a kid, I had no fucking idea how to navigate life. I made a lot of survival decisions that, looking back on them, I can…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/21 10:57 PM
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people will decide not to walk a path JUST TO MAKE SURE that they still have the autonomy to say yes or no. I make it a point to read everything of yours I come across for shit like this.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/21 09:04 PM
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yeah I didn't update the macros when I changed my goal before posting. should be 145g protein 65g fat 73g carbs. this comes out to 1457, not sure why, that's what myfitnesspal says. one of the many reasons I built in a lot of headroom to my plan, even with some variance I should be able to hit the goal no problem
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 07:44 PM
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OYS 44 Mid 30s, 5'10", 178lbs, 17%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. squat 195, bench 170, deadlift 270, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM Down 2# last week Goal: 10%bf by memorial day - 165# target weight Breakdown: ~10 weeks to lose 15# = 1.5#/wk 15# fat * 3500kcal/# = 52,500kcal 52,500kcal / 750kcal/day deficit = 70 days TDEE estimate: 2180kcal/day maintenance 2180kcal - 750kcal = 1430kcal/day target intake Lifting/cardio will add a ~200-300kcal margin on those days Macros: 5…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 04:29 PM
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"special snowflake" you might be right. I keep this in the back of my head, and it gnaws at me often. But when I connect with my core, and really listen to that instead of whatever avatar of MRP I have floating in my head, I sense that I am working on something foundational, and that it happens to be something that isn't easily measurable in numbers or concrete milestones every week. although I agree that it's important to make measurable progress alongside whatever else is going on, hence gym/l…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/21 07:06 PM
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I rate myself good or excellent on all except these: strength: bench press at least body weight - about 15lbs short remain in your frame when someone criticizes you - sometimes good but often poor control your emotions, and controlled expression of emotion (Amused Mastery; showing controlled anger) - poor look your wife in the eye and say "Let's have sex now." - poor
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/21 06:54 PM
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OYS 43 Mid 30s, 5'10", 180lbs, 17%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. squat 195, bench 170, deadlift 270, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM so apparently I gained a lot more weight than I thought during my last bulk, never bothered to check. but I also must have miscalculated my bf% because even at 9# heavier I'm down 2%. judging by pics i'd say 17% looks right, & I'm probably down 3-4# from when I started cutting. Still doing IF most days. on track to PR again next week. got a c…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 09:50 PM
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conceptualizing it as a demon in the context of Taoist philosophy, and accepting it as is--that interests me. i spent a long time in the christian worldview that inside my head are voices that involve myself and god and demons (literally spirits from hell or something, not like you use the term) and who the hell knows what else. I came to the conclusion at some point, that everything within me is just me. different parts of me (and of course with the proviso that I agree with you that technicall…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/21 11:14 PM
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if you give a system way more data than it can handle, or give it data that is dependent on more variables than the machine has degrees of freedom in it's current model, it's not going to be able to efficiently (or at all) discern patterns out of that data. I'd wager that this is the kind of breakdown we see for children with the condition where they cannot develop because they cannot recognize and create base layers of social patterns from which to build a solid understanding from (and branch f…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/21 03:55 PM
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I am all but convinced I really do have some form of highly functional 'tism https://psychology-tools.com/autism-spectrum-quotient/ http://www.aspietests.org/userdetails.php?target=/raads/questions.php
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/21 03:48 PM
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I have some additional thoughts about this hit me
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/21 03:43 PM
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I sympathize with analysis paralysis, it's been a huge issue for me, I know it's not easy to see what you really want. IMO, if you don't know you have an idea that you're excited about, and a track record of grit & diligence to make it happen, starting your own business is not for you. if you're not convinced, keep your day job & try whatever you think you might like without burning bridges.
/r/askMRP11/03/21 03:42 PM
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Wait, do you actually want to start your own business? do you have an idea/goal & passion/dedication to pursue it, or are you just following TRP tropes?
/r/askMRP10/03/21 07:03 PM
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If I can become one with him instead of running from him, or erasing him, I become better. yes. awareness + understanding + acceptance looks to me like the right way through thsi stuff. WHen I say "let go" I mean letting go of specific expectations. which is itself kind of like grieving a loss, the loss of something that never happened. but the part of me that tends to project expectations into the future, I am training, more like re-parenting myself. i don't seek to let go of him, just train hi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 04:36 PM
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What does this mean? If you were to succeed in doing so...how would this change you? I don't know how to say it in a non-retarded way, so retard alert. i'm just stuck in the past. I had a super overactive imagination and projected all kinds of hopes/dreams/expectations into the future that never came true, or anything even close. recently i came to understand that those unmet expectations are still hanging there, waiting to either happen, or for me to let go of. maybe a dozen bigger ones, hundre…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 12:28 AM
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OYS 42 Mid 30s, 5'10", ??lbs, ??%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. squat 195, bench 170, deadlift 270, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM New deadlift PR. weight/bf% outdated, will update next week. sent off second round of paperwork to reduce felony. fun weekend with the family out of town. getting a dog in 2 weeks. back in therapy, helping to cut ties with the past. I expet to get shit for it, but this is what i am pouring myself into 100%. cutting ties with the past. i can't …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 11:16 PM
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"parents matter but they don't make a difference". that article is heavy on assertions and light on references. it reads mostly like the same bullshit ego-protecting attitude I see around here: its all genetics, so just don't beat your kids & let yourself off the hook. Parents with successful kids are likely to read to them, their kids aren't successful because of the reading. I can't think of a way one could prove beyond doubt that reading to a kid would or would not contribute to success. and …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/21 12:05 AM
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But it doesn't mean you have "no chance in life" as Horns said. Not even close. Agreed I had a pretty shit childhood ... I'm extremely well placed in life. is it possible you are projecting your own success into a skewed sense of how important parental involvement is? I"m glad you overcame a shit childhood, but how many from similar backgrounds end up addicted, homeless, incarcerated, dead or just nowhere near as healthy as you? most of the time you spend with your kids is when they are adults b…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 09:42 PM
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I saw the econlib one. interested in something more scientific. Findings from the literature point to the importance of father presence in children's lives and suggest that father absence has ramifications for children and adolescents. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1367493506067869 Active and regular engagement with the child predicts a range of positive outcomes, although no specific form of engagement has been shown to yield better outcomes than another. Father engagement seems to h…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 07:25 PM
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that's rough. I don't know much about what's going on, but I want to balance out the MRP zeitgeist of "you [parents/dad] aren't that important." maybe I'm coming from way outside the bell curve, but I don't get this at all. this smells like a bullshit cop-out of men who want to feel good about walking away from their kids when things don't line up the way they want. my kids are not the most important thing in my life, and yes I could absolutely live without them, but they rank pretty fucking hig…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 07:09 PM
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Point is just that it matters much, much less than what (we like to) think. I have a hard time accepting this, but could be my own miscalibrations. what are your sources?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 06:27 PM
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The success of kids eschews extremely heavily to a nature over nurture explanation. though it's probably not Horns' case, there are certain heritable natures that magnify the need for nurture to achieve successful outcomes.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 04:23 PM
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I went through your post history looking for context, did I miss something?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 04:19 PM
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she's been over to the house a few times, consistent IOIs. with a bit more anti-autism practice I could fuck her, if I wanted to nuke my family.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 07:12 PM
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OYS 41 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 195, bench 170, deadlift 260, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM Took some time off lifting, DNGAF why, just didn't want to. Back at it this week. PR'd bench & squat. focused my time/energy this week on social competence. being friendly & positive, in a masculine way that is authentic for me. lunch again with 2 more dudes this week, playing disc golf on Friday with someone else. got more…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 07:01 PM
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Man I want to go back in time and kick BP me's ass! you can't do that, but you can be different today.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/21 06:34 PM
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That's one of the reason's I'd list when people asked why I didn't have one, but realistically there was much more to it. Also me. I had all kinds of 'privacy objections' and an overall condescending attitude toward social media. realized that is about 1% of my actual reason for not doing it, 99% fear of wife's frame & social insecurity
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/21 04:48 PM
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u/ancient_resistance - how's the lifting going? it's not. got a dr. appt today to check out an ongoing, unknown GI issue that has fucked up my sleep/energy for a few weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/21 04:46 PM
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I just refused to participate in people's primary method of communication because I was afraid of my wife's reactions. this is exactly my situation. so far it has been only positive. not only as a gym for learning casual conversation skills, but as daily exercise in living in my own frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/21 04:44 PM
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OYS 40 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 190, bench 165, deadlift 260, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM So i"m keyed into something I can't explain. following internal compass. i dont know how this fits in to my MRP journey other than I feel connected to my core. opened a facebook account. realized I avoided it mostly out of fear & social isolation. using it to practice casual conversation skills, like a gym for learning how …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 05:19 PM
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If you actually DNGAF and thought my comment was totally full of shit you wouldn't reply. read it again. I do not give one fuck what you think. But I didn't think it was full of shit. It raised an interesting question that I wanted to venture one possible answer to, for my own satisfaction. I didn't think I made many mistakes. I was wrong, so are you. careful what you project into others. where do you get the idea I'm defending myself as not making any mistakes? I openly admit that I could be th…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 06:08 PM
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OYS 39 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 190, bench 165, deadlift 260, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM taking /u/ImpatientZen's advice, focusing OYS only on past-tense actions. bought new workout clothes & lifting shoes begun paperwork for clearing criminal record bought new storage & demolished old shed in back yard one solid, non-autistic initiation w/ wife opened accounts & sold 200$+ stuff on ebay started 16/8 IF no PMO …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 05:10 PM
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Your core points are true. I am the cause of my own unhappiness, I have a lot of work to do to become a real man, and to get there I need to focus on doing actual shit. you are way more patient than your username implies, and I respect you for taking the time to help me see my own bullshit. But I don't need anger at myself to spur action. That's the standard MRP response to weakness that I call bullshit on. I don't regret anything about the path that got me here. I don't give two fucks that I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/21 07:10 PM
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Maybe consider why you'd care take explain or rationalize this to me. you raise an interesting question, one that I want an answer to for my own information. I DNGAF what you think, I'm just using your comment as a place to write out my thoughts about myself because you brought it up. How does this help you? understanding a problem informs the solution.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/21 06:53 PM
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That is the two most incongruous things I've ever seen written on MRP. the incongruity isn't lost on me. maybe if my wife genuinely enjoyed my cock inside her, i might not feel like I am fucking my sister. but I know that her wanting my cock has everything to do with me, so i'm not blaming her, just pointing out one possible explanation for the incongruity.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/21 05:49 PM
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I can't really tell if I am out of my depth here I think youre on point. the kicks feel good man. 38 OYS so this may come across as more overthinking, and it may be, but fuck it, its important to me that I have a record of my timeline here. l didn't know it at the time, but looking back now I see I LARPed through my first ~25 OYS, until I realized I had even more basic shit than you mention to work through. I wont rehash it here but bottom line, a couple months ago I basically started MRP over a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/21 09:24 PM
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I dare you to focus your next OYS writing only in past tense about things you did out in the real world that moves you closer to your goals. None of this mental masturbation crap. I will try that. Ah, Madonna/Whore complex. ...She could've been and maybe was just as thotty at that age with a a guy just like that. And might be again with you, if you get your head out of your ass. ...Kill that TradCon idiot mental model. So I agree with all this. but in all my simp retard honesty, I don't know how…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/21 03:08 PM
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But what do you want and what have you done? There's what I say I want, and what I reveal that I actually want based on my actions. they are not the same. I act like a lazy entitled dopamine addict. I do things only when I see immediate, guaranteed, large reward. I lack discipline and am much weaker than I want to believe. As for sex concretely, what have you actually done - and what do you want? alright, full disclosure here. I want my wife to genuinely enjoy my cock inside her. I want to make …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/21 11:08 PM
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So you love her...but you're not in love with her? Yes. Exactly. Honest question...what are you looking for that isn't there, that might be in someone else? sexual attraction. the undefinable chemistry that drives two people to want to be more than friends. Men with this complex desire a sexual partner who has been degraded (the whore) while they cannot desire the respected partner (the Madonna). Freud wrote: "Where such men love they have no desire and where they desire they cannot love." holy …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/21 10:28 PM
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OYS 38 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 190, bench 165, deadlift 260, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM hitting some rough times. major internal conflict. on the one hand, I seem to genuinely want to finish what I started with my wife, and give my kids the healthy, intact household I never got. on the other hand, I seem to genuinely not feel any romantic/sexual attraction towards my wife, and even though I like her as a perso…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 05:20 PM
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I'm now a retard on 2 subreddits. join the club!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/21 04:42 PM
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for me, this is pure entertainment with no illusion that I would do anything but lose it all. This taught me a lot about my real motives, because if you asked me over the weekend, I would have said (almost) the same thing. Being a part of something big, making a stand against corruption, having fun, etc. but when Mon/Tues hit I realized i was mostly in it for the gamble of hitting another squeeze and making money.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/21 06:48 PM
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OYS 37 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 190, bench 165, deadlift 260, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM So I YOLO'd just over a grand on 4 shares of $GME Friday. Wouldn't do it again. but I'm glad I did it. I used to think losing was the worst thing ever. Now I see the worst thing is actually not to play the game and live in fear of loss, which ironically leads to more and more loss. I knew on Friday that I wouldn't resent my…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 03:37 PM
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OYS 36 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 190, bench 165, deadlift 260, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM 7/7 random social interactions. The one on Sunday I was proud of. spoiler alert, no I didn't end up smashing pussy, not really an MRP-worthy story, just a successful, natural, non-autistic interaction with an attractive woman I didn't know. Went hiking with a friend over the weekend. We roll up on a group of females, musta …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 12:23 AM
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I think the semantics are interesting, and get at some of the nuances here. highlighting the progression that /u/Blarg_Risen lays out: I spent years proving to myself over and over again that I am good at my job. it seemed like every challenge or problem that cropped up was another judge telling me Im not good enough, that I have to prove wrong by solving. (external validation) somewhere along the lines I realized that judge is inside me, and I've solved so many problems with such proficiency, t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/21 03:56 PM
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this is why anchoring identity in activities and externalities is dangerous. it's a natural trap we fall into, because actions do reflect on us, but they don't ultimately define us. if they do, we end up in this kind of subtle trap where our actions validate us. So the goal is not actually to become a man who fucks. The goal is to make that one of the things can I do, when I want to, because I have cultivated attraction and abundance rooted in a fully self-sufficient value based only on my own j…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/21 05:58 PM
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OYS 35 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 190, bench 165, deadlift 260, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM Got ready for the day, Looked at myself in the mirror and thought "damn, is that really me?" Arms and chest filling out, style on point, don't recognize myself. I noticed in the gym I get locked in a routine, and it becomes about moving through the routine more than training my muscles. In small ways I let form slide, or ju…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 07:33 PM
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At first glance I think I"m still too much of an autistic asshole to be able to grasp the nuances of using dread to inspire desire. But I'll see how it goes this week, maybe I'm selling myself short.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 11:13 PM
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OP lacks self-respect and self-awareness. sidebar/STFU/lift are the first steps in building those.
/r/askMRP13/01/21 12:49 AM
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OYS 34 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 190, bench 165, deadlift 260, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM Becoming strong means overcoming weakness. Overcoming weakness means first facing weakness. But if it's not OK to be weak, I will always run from it, deny it, hide from it, and never grow beyond it. I decided early on it's not OK to be weak, so I learned how to deflect, project, and blame my issues onto everyone around me. …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 12:39 AM
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I know there are still things to try as far as reining in my wife's behavior. wrong. you have zero control over your wife's behavior. you can only influence it with your behavior. The best plan I can think of is to write up a document saying no. set boundaries with your words. enforce boundaries with your actions. You yelling at me, insulting me, mocking me or otherwise talking to me in an unhinged way" waaah wahh faggot can't take shit from his wife, no wonder she's so neurotic she beats you se…
/r/askMRP11/01/21 07:33 PM
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ou've got such a bright path to ever higher peaks ahead of you my friend. Remember that at times when your sensation is running high in the negative side. good reminder, thanks bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/21 12:05 AM
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Now that you realize you're doing this lazy fuckwit/ego deluding stuff in those areas you mentioned above, how much of the "ism" stuff youve mentioned in your past OYSs do you think is just also more of the same ego protection/laziness? so for anyone following along, he's talking about my high functioning autism which i found out about last year. to answer the question, I don't know. the bullshitting started early and so subtly I question my own judgment. I come from a family history of mental h…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/21 05:34 PM
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Is it fear of rejection because "I'm oN My PeRioD!"? i think it's more like I know I have no reasonable expectation that my wife would want to blow me on her period because i haven't put in the work to be that kind of man. so instead of initiating i'm looking at why i haven't put in the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/21 05:02 PM
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OYS 33 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 190, bench 165, deadlift 260, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM Been thinking about what /u/Blarg_Risen said last week, about narrowing the focus of sex and not using it for things like boredom or loneliness. Shark week so no initiations but this gives me a fresh angle. Getting shame out of the way has helped me see that laziness is one of my biggest weaknesses. It's between that and fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/21 11:36 PM
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my issue is all about staying in my head and never engaging my core (instinct, subconscious, emotions, whatever). I "learned" MRP in about 3 months. but it was all mentally following checklists and very little unconscious action. Turns out this was based in fear of failure, which I wrote about as my biggest weakness. Then I spent most of the summer and fall pushing past unhealthy mental models wrapped up in shame and self-hate, until somewhere in December I got to a place where I (at least so fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 06:24 PM
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easy sex from thots is the result of a want/need and also really unsatisfying. women who have no self-respect are not attractive to me. I think that's part of the subconscious issue, I keep forgetting how much I didn't enjoy those experiences.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 06:18 PM
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Work on becoming more attractive, reliable, respectable, emotionally safe, and lively. I mentioned in another reply how lazy I am in this regard. I fucked a few women in high school, some of it mind-blowing, with next to zero effort. So I internalized that as "i'm just fine how I am, I don't need to work on anything because those women begged for my cock." Cue MRP, I get the attractive part, which I have actually nailed. Hygiene, style, lifting, all on point. but the reliable/respectable/emotion…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 04:08 PM
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I feel needy? Isolate yourself and kill that. I will work on this. There's still some little-kid-itis rolling around in me i need to deal with. Rolling this around more, it looks like a lot of this is laziness. In my early years I got spoiled with shortcuts. PMO is obviously instant zero effort orgasm. But I think what really fucked me up was a handful of thots that fucked me back in high school with zero effort. No gaming, no kino, no LMR, no challenge whatsoever. So I think I internalized that…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 04:05 PM
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I’ve been on thinking a lot of my inner self So I post about this but I'm not sure it's the best way to handle it. The less I think the more often things work out in my favor. My main goal is to connect with my core, my instincts, the center of my drive for being, and the best way to do that is to act, assess, adjust. Not think.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 03:56 PM
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OYS 32 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 190, bench 165, deadlift 260, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM I learned early on to use PMO (and later, sex) for comfort. It became my only real comfort, my stop-hurting button. When I got married, my wife and I made an overt contract that she would give me sex whenever I needed it, which worked out to about once a day. She saw this as her good Christian wife's duty, mostly out of fea…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 11:07 PM
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The Sniffer The Jalepeno The Provoker The Nazi The Disappointment Gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/20 04:55 PM
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more about understanding instincts, not really trusting or not trusting them. I look at it like accepting my instincts for what they are, so I can retrain them. Once it's OK to be a BP faggot I can see it for what it is, and make adjustments from a plain desire to be different, not out of fear or shame.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/20 07:38 PM
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OYS 31 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 190, bench 165, deadlift 260, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM More grinding, calibrating. Working on doing, not thinking. Not asking myself what I want, just do what seems the most interesting. Breaking the habit of over-thinking might be the hardest of them all. Engaging my instincts is so fucking foreign, so I have to break it down into the tiniest steps. But, it's working. With the…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/20 12:47 AM
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mid set, waving their hands vigorously in front of my face to get my attention and asking if they can take the weights I’m using, or asking how many more sets I have left on a machine and then proceeding to stand less than half a meter from me while I’m exercising and waiting the whole damn time until I’ve finished, deciding to ‘work in’ on a machine I’m using without first asking what the actual fuck? I have never seen that kind of behavior. If I owned your gym I would want to know about that r…
/r/askMRP17/12/20 09:12 PM
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OYS 30 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 190, bench 165, deadlift 260, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM Uneventful week. Put in a few upgrades at home, prepped for end of year family time. Finished all Christmas shopping a while ago. Something's going on mentally I can't explain. Don't know if I want to if I could. Feels like pieces coming together. Working on not thinking about it, running on instinct and intuition. Self-res…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/20 11:58 PM
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hitting 'next' is easy. start over, clean slate. staying with my wife means facing all the ways I made our relationship what it is, working out all the BP bullshit I worked into the fibers of our relationship over a decade of being a faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/20 11:13 PM
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OYS 29 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 190, bench 165, deadlift 260, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM Hit new deadlift PR last week. Last week I wrote about how my work on self-respect is paying off. My attitude toward myself has stayed positive, out of the downwards spirals that I used to spend months in. But fuck if life isn't trying to get me back into a downward spiral. I realized I use coffee to regulate my mood, so I …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 10:14 PM
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repost in /r/askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/20 05:44 PM
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Yes, it's healthy to accept the valid criticism of others insofar as it produces a better self. And it's healthy to allow a reprieve from the inner tyrant who's never satisfied, driving ones self regard into the mud with endless criticism. Great way to put it. I'm trying to re-train that tyrant into a coach. Coaches want the best from their players and the team.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/20 08:15 PM
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Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. I like the Gregory Hays translation. Heavy emphasis on separating oneself (one's self-value, worth, identity) from all externalities. The nucleus is that I need to build a core of self-value that is totally self-sufficient and self-sustaining. It's based only on what I think of myself. But I can't stop there. I have to think of myself from a baseline of self-respect. The biggest paradox--what I think puts off some men here--is that this nucleus of self-respect has…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/20 04:56 PM
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https://imgur.com/a/zoVPi5M
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/20 05:22 PM
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I want to fully accept myself and my wants and act accordingly. I want to act to get what I want, not avoid what I don’t want. To act congruently with myself, not taking onboard how others imply I should think, feel or act. Accept things as they are, not always looking for ‘something else’. What are some things you're doing to put this into practice this week?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 11:54 PM
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Sometimes there are 'things that happened' but I feel 0 need to post on MRP, I know what I wanted to do and I did it. I think that's a sign of maturing in the process. We become our own judge, less dependent on external input to calibrate our actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 11:47 PM
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5'11", 220 lbs priority #1 is not being so fat. I got told not to run, just lift. ... I need some form of cardio. Fucking retards. Everyone needs cardio. Maybe running is the wrong choice even for me. But right now, I feel like I need something to do between lift days. even as weak as you are, I would cut hard for a while, get at least <200lbs before bulking. Keep lifting the whole time but don't expect serious gains.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 11:34 PM
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Feelings are an instrument panel. Sometimes they get stuck, break, or otherwise give you false information. Most of the time they give you helpful information upon which you can make optimized choices.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 11:28 PM
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yet you want to fuck a woman who does?
/r/askMRP01/12/20 11:23 PM
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I make good money for my age, I'm in a local rock band, I'm building my own business, I live alone, I race motocross, I backcountry ski, and the idea of trading all this freedom so soon into my life is turning me off to the whole idea. So don't do it. Not yet at least. The fact is, marriage and kids are a huge investment. They will take time and money away from hobbies, but they will also give you things and experiences that nothing else can, especially into old age. The advice here is solid--do…
/r/askMRP01/12/20 11:21 PM
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Exactly, but the real kicker is: fear of what? for me, and shit..maybe lots of men here, is not fear of the outcome but fear of how I internalize the outcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 11:01 PM
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OYS 28 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 190, bench 165, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. I spent a fair bit of the day wondering what to write about. Somewhere I decided that every OYS needs to outdo the last one, with some major insight or achievement or shit to own. The more I thought about it, the more I believe that's based in validation-seeking than an actual desire to improve. I have decided that OYS don…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 09:41 PM
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We stopped by a gas station and there was this weird ass homeless dude. Who passed us a blunt. I didn’t hit. But she did. that's real LTR material
/r/askMRP01/12/20 12:06 AM
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I’m already at 16% bf and I don’t want to get too flabby, but what the hell. "To improve body composition in the long term, you must forget about body composition in the short term." source
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/20 11:59 PM
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Makes sense to apply that to myself too. what you describe here is the essence of what has taken me out of the worst aspects of self-hate, and into a baseline of self-respect.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/20 11:07 PM
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My past several OYS have focused on my mindset, deep shit about my subconscious, childhood issues, etc. This week I focused on physical progress. So it's not that my brain is actually not thinking/saying anything, but that I shifted focus to something concrete, tangible.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/20 11:02 PM
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I still embrace the ability to think way more thoroughly through all aspects of life than others. I've learned to live with it, rather than ignore it. I definitely embrace this as one of my superpowers. I have mental stamina that I haven't seen in most people I know personally. But I think Horns' point is that I'm off the cliff overthinking everything. Part of the RP journey, a HUGE part, involves developing instincts and subconscious thinking that can only happen when I tone down my hyper-analy…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/20 10:56 PM
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OYS 27 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 190, bench 165, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. MENTAL Taking Horn’s advice and telling my brain to STFU. PHYSICAL Hit new PRs today for squat and bench. I saw this guy at the gym the past few weeks. I call him Beast Mode. Probably mid 40s, 5’10, 250lbs+, sub 10%bf. This guy is jacked, easily competition level lifter, or fitness model, or both. He ran sets on leg press …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/20 03:35 PM
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Fighting is the result of you mismanaging a conflict. bro. I needed this, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 09:22 PM
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Now that you know you have an issue sure as hell helps to know why the fuck I have such a hard time with something that comes naturally to most people. use your disorder to your advantage. Yes .. I do need to think of it this way. It does have advantages, and I can train myself out of the disadvantages.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 09:11 PM
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go all crazy aspie on building a PC, ... internet reading for hours on one topic ... If this is you... It was me. Fuck, it was. for years, decades....it isn't now. I have come a long, long fucking way. Thanks for helping me see that. Tell your mind to STFU, and get on with your discipline. this is the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 09:04 PM
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Count it as progress not to regress. this is exactly what I'm telling myself. thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 08:54 PM
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short-term: just keep going. keep grinding, keep lifting, keep building self-respect. i'm in that part of the process that feels shitty because nothing seems to be changing, but one day I'll clear the peak, get perspective, and look back on how far I came. I can't see beyond that right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 06:09 PM
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I'm legitimately interested in this, not criticizing, what if you can't bring yourself to change your behavior? What if you are still lazy 5 years from now? What happens with the self-respect? If I'm still a lazy fuck 5 years from now, I won't like that because I don't like the consequences of being a lazy fuck. But I won't hate myself for acting like a lazy fuck. I will examine myself and my motivations, and make an honest (well, as honest as I can get) assessment of why I didn't do what I know…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 05:28 PM
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OYS 26 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 170, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. MENTAL I'm late to OYS because I didn't want to write one. I didn't want to write one because I want to hide. I want to hide because I don't think anyone here will understand, because I'm afraid of being judged or more accurately, misunderstood. But if I can't be vulnerable anonymously to a bunch of retards I'll never meet…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 05:07 PM
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OYS 25 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 170, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. MENTAL For all of you that ignored my last OYS, thank you. I needed that. I posted it with hidden expectations of approval and validation, but I didn’t know that until the post went unnoticed. Deep in the grinding phase. Consistency is all that matters. Slightly less of a fat unattractive autistic faggot than I was last we…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 11:01 PM
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When I first began dabbling in this community just a few months ago (May 2020) 6 months and no OYS, you get what your faggot ass deserves. I got hit by a fucking MACK truck just over 1 week ago ... How the hell can she do that and still act like nothing happened? You give WAY too many fucks... I really thought I had a unicorn even after learning that there is no such thing as unicorns. ...have oneitis... sucka_chump ...and zero self-respect. So I realize I am still dealing with anger and a varie…
/r/askMRP04/11/20 10:14 PM
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There is a decision I need to make, that I will respect myself and who I am, independent of my behavior. that's it, right there. It has to start here. Building a baseline of unconditional self-respect is the best way, maybe the only way to actually improve over the long haul. It seems backwards, that I need to accept myself today to become better tomorrow. It seems like that's just bullshit excuse to stay fat and unattractive. And I'm sure many people would use it that way. But I have found the …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 05:45 PM
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Are you basically just able to do 2 different jobs and maybe they save hiring 1 person? No. The role is specifically geared towards unique value that only someone with both skillsets can provide. I would be joining a team with the same combination. How do you add value to them? Didn't think of it that way. I don't have a good answer now, thinking on it. What is the longer term upside? Are you trying to extract maximum salary now or is there space to grow in the future? What does your next move l…
/r/askMRP03/11/20 05:13 PM
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You are new in an uncommon field, don’t discount learning and growth (bigger payoffs down the line). A bleeding edge salary requirement might jeopardise this. This is where I left off. I would be willing to take a modest salary increase for the opportunity of advancement that this presents. But I also don't want to bank on empty promises. Do I ask for annual reviews/raises in my contract?
/r/askMRP03/11/20 03:07 PM
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This is helpful, thank you. Hopefully you were not enough of a dumbass to tell them your current pay otherwise you're fucked. I am said dumbass, but I did not disclose my current pay.
/r/askMRP03/11/20 03:04 PM
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OYS 24 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 170, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. PHYSICAL Started 5/3/1 Beginner routine last October. Fact is, I did it all wrong. I didn’t track macros, I let COVID set me back 2-3 months, and I lost another 6 weeks to vacation and eye surgery. I could have added volume and more variation to assistance work, my form needs adjusting, and I totally slacked on cardio/cond…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 03:01 PM
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I've lost 22# since the beginning of August. I'm on top of my diet. Not fucking around in this area - it takes time. Well done. Keep at it. I think my self-respect has been pretty solid until I started getting laid a lot. I think most of us go through a dancing monkey phase--early gains blow up the ego without a foundation of frame to keep us in check. MRP isn't about getting what you want, it's about becoming the kind of man who respects himself enough to earn and take what he wants. This kind …
/r/askMRP30/10/20 02:32 PM
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You feel like a dancing monkey because you are a dancing monkey. Give it time. you're on OYS3, fat and weak as fuck, bro...this shit doesn't happen overnight. Focus on you. Not her, not her friends, not even the sex, because you're still too weak and unattractive to expect gains there. What are you doing to take care of yourself, build strength and self-respect?
/r/askMRP29/10/20 10:40 PM
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I met up with /u/red-sfpplus while here and he recommends carrying around a fanny pack purse for big balls and butt plugs. don't forget the lube and coke
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/20 03:23 PM
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I've been lurking MRP/TRP for a little over 2 months and yet, not a single OYS. How many times did you have the read the books and sidebar until you were able to internalize what you're reading? reading by itself doesn't do shit. internalizing anything takes practice. see your ass in OYS, faggot.
/r/askMRP28/10/20 10:53 PM
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Pumpkin pie for every meal is probably a bad idea and NGAF starts to look like just being an idiot. You're not wrong. But I tried it anyway. I had pie for after lunch for like 4 days in a row. Found that I just don't like it that often, I enjoy it a lot more once in a while. I self-corrected without any further coaching. But yeah, carrying a bunch of toxic shame about occasional unhealthy choices does not seem productive for most people, though it seems to work for a select few. I can't speak fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 06:14 PM
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I ask myself, “Is this conducive to my goals?” Then I have my answer. Sometimes I still do the thing I probably shouldn’t. But often an honest evaluation is all I need. It's an honest appraisal of the facts to encourage healthy behavior, but it's also a healthy DNGAF when you choose unhealthy behavior. Taking an example from your reply: Like so fucking what, you ate a god damn cookie. what is that, like 100 calories? not even 5% of your TDEE. Just enjoy the damn cookie and move on, don't beat yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 04:19 PM
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On the one hand, I am focused on what I want and I’m getting it but I want something more, and I don’t know what that is, or how to create it without falling back into BP thinking. I think this is an inevitable and necessary part of the grinding phase. At OYS44 you are well past the high of noob gains, now it's all about working the new mental models into all aspects of your life. This is hard work without short-term reward. I was also scared to fall back into BP thinking. Eventually I accepted …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 04:11 PM
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If you didn't lift (or whatever) for 3 weeks not for any 'real reason' but because you couldn't bring yourself to do it, do you think that would lead to a loss of respect for yourself? Actually I am going through something like that now, it's personal so I won't get into it, but I am doing something I know I would be healthier to take a break from. I know a lot about why I still want to do it even though I think it's causing weakness in me, and for now I've decided to use this as another test of…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 03:33 PM
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Why are guys who are red pill married? MRP is red pill on hard mode. I want strength. Strength takes challenge. Constant, evolving, unrelenting challenge. My wife provides that better than any tinder thot could. I’m 24 and wondering about my future. So what do YOU want?
/r/askMRP28/10/20 02:14 AM
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A few months ago she was angry at me for something stupid and decided not to dress up in the lingerie I bought / make a porno. Twenty minutes after the issue, I said, “You expect me to respect your emotions as a woman and I do. However, in return I expect you to respect my needs as a man. In the same way that listening to you shows you that I care. It’s important that you show me you care by taking care of my needs. And ‘this’ is how you show me you care.” And since that day, she’ll still dress …
/r/askMRP27/10/20 10:58 PM
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I'm concerned if I become okay with that then I'll slide into not doing the things I want to do. How have you dealt with this? I was hoping someone would ask, I want to develop this further, and dialogue is a good way to do this kind of sharpening of ideas. I have two angles here: Selective DNGAF What I'll call "self-coaching" (sounds fucking gay, bear with me). Selective DNGAF is about applying a sort of give-no-fucks attitude about my failures. The more I give myself permission to fuck up, the…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 10:28 PM
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Mission - To be a man I respect. To enjoy life. I've seen a lot of bullshit missions here. This is not one of them. part of MRP is losing that fear and that doubt without requiring alcohol. Good observation, and even better I don't sense you beat yourself up over needing alcohol to show you that. Think of it like a preview, what you will accomplish when you put in the work. It was hard to believe my sweet wife could talk that dirty and do the sexual acts we did. Amazing what happens when we act …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 05:54 PM
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I somehow get it right - whatever that means - I'll get the connection I want. Great observation. I think it's more accurate to call it the connection I (we) need. Humans are the most social creatures that ever lived. We need connection, it's not optional. Those of us who didn't get it during early development fall into all kinds of traps trying to manufacture it. I think for redpilled men, the goal is not so much to make external connections, as to develop an internalized source of what we need…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 01:53 PM
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where is the question here?
/r/askMRP27/10/20 01:44 PM
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OYS 23 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf (Navy). Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 170, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. MENTAL We talk about the importance of frame. That frame is the foundation of everything we do here. But in all my time here, trying to bootstrap frame from zero and failing over and over, I have come to see that self-respect is the foundation of frame. Self-respect is the foundation of everything. From OYS16: By far, bigg…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 01:29 PM
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First off, I agree with your assumptions: mental models are plastic and interchangeable, but with nuances that complicate things. That given the requisite conditioning, anyone could adopt any possible mental model, with varying difficulty, owing to our individuality. I also agree with your main point: that the most important question for men is whether or not our mental model of our relationship is based on who we want to be, and not based on what works. I would extend this to everything, not ju…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/20 04:34 PM
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it's still too focused on your wife: When I get it just right though, she’s a different person. Sunday morning she wanted to fuck in the shower The temptation here is to calibrate against her. To play it like a video game where if you play her well, you get the prizes. Good catch, thank you. Keeping DNGAF at the front.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 09:01 PM
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OYS 22 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 170, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. MENTAL Been playing with an idea /u/Blarg_Risen gave me a few weeks back, that one of the foundations of maturity is not just how to say no, but also how to respond when the world says no to me. I grew up thinking I had to accept “no” at face value. This might be the core of victim mindset. We all start out powerless. At first, a…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 01:16 PM
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jesus the fucking ego here. get your ass to OYS like everyone else, faggot. oh and spoiler alert: you're a validation whore, not a unicorn former alpha.
/r/askMRP14/10/20 07:29 PM
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jesus that's a shitload to digest. for me, the problem was (still is) overthinking. the inevitable irony of MRP is that it tries to teach us how to act (build instincts and intuition) through an almost exclusively cerebral method: reading and writing. it's therefore easy to end up with head full of knowledge, yet still effectively clueless. give yourself space and permission to just...be. don't think, don't analyze, just do. acta non verba. consider a break from MRP/OYS for a week or a month. th…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 07:16 PM
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take this shit to /r/askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 05:03 PM
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I ignored the first half in my reply, but it's even more profound than the second. I keep turning it over in my head, every time it gets more profound. it might be one of the best ways to frame my whole life: learning how to deal with "no." And the inverse: how to get to "yes" when everyone says "no." How to make "yes" happen myself, instead of waiting for other people to. maybe that's what MRP is really about at its core: figure out what you want, and how to get to "yes" even when everyone says…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 04:50 PM
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what sidebar material have you read?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 04:12 PM
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Update, part 2: The picture is pulling into focus. I need to let go. I'm still holding on to the idea that I can do what I did on vacation at home. I'm afraid if I don't power through it, I will lose touch with Little Hero and lose another year to avoidance, ending up back where I started, but with more shit added on. Understandable, but I'm beginning to see the falsehood in that. Living with 1 foot in his world and 1 foot in mine, trying to hold onto both, is tearing me apart. He doesn't want t…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 04:08 PM
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My main problem is that I cant leave my house. Wrong. Your main problem is you have trained your wife into throwing tantrums as an effective way to control your behavior. I dont want to fight in front of my kids. So why are you? Leave, DNGAF. Sidebar, hard.
/r/askMRP14/10/20 03:39 PM
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OYS 21 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 170, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. PHYSICAL Eye surgery 2 weeks ago. Doc cleared me for stationary bike & light-intensity free weights. Back to regular lifting in 1 week. I am pleased with how well I handled this unexpected setback. A year ago I might have made a mountain of it. 6 months ago I might have made a mountain first, then remembered it’s just a molehill.…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 12:14 PM
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But look who showed up instead. You. Yeah. that's where the healing started. I came back for him. He's not alone anymore. You'd think I would get used to it by now, but it's still weird that anyone understands this shit. Glad to be back.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 05:46 PM
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It needs to be acknowledged. It needs to be raised and guided. You can't expect it to fend for itself. And you can't release it because it's weak. Embrace it, and it will grow into it's own man and lend you it's strength when you need it. Jesus, I didn't expect anyone to understand as well as this, but here it is. Thanks bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 05:30 PM
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OYS 20 Mid 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 5-9. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 170#, bench 160#, deadlift 250#, ohp 95#. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. PHYSICAL Had emergency eye surgery last week for a detached retina. No injury, just genetic lottery. No lifting for another 2-3 weeks. MENTAL Working on STFU inside. Stop thinking so god damned much. Quiet inside. Find my flow state. Give instincts space to breathe and grow. Acta non verba, at the deepest level. Doing this sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 05:17 PM
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OYS 19 Early 30s, 5'10", 171lbs, 19%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 4-8. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 170#, bench 160#, deadlift 250#, ohp 95#. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. PHYSICAL Lost ~8lbs. Gym closed then reopened again, back at usual lifting routine. No gains but no losses. Added 2 days cardio. MENTAL I’ve been a scared, hurt, lonely little boy all my life. I became ashamed of him, tried to become someone else, bullshit my way out of that identity. Eventually I cut him off and became som…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 02:01 PM
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You've inspired me to revisit their albums. Good shit. Ixnay is my favorite. What are the ZMA supplements for? Zinc, Magnesium, and I think Vitamin B6. Supposed to help with immune function and workout recovery.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/20 03:24 PM
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Look honestly at yourself Recognize you aren't where you could be and you have bullshit insulating your ego Own that shit honestly, directly, but without shame or attention-seeking.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 03:09 PM
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And I’m angry that my only tool right now is to blow the whole goddamn thing up, and how can that not scare the shit out of her given what that would mean for her life and lifestyle?! Get out of her head. Get out of her frame. This life isn't about her so stop acting like everything revolves around her. It’s all my fault, and I need to get my shit together. It's one thing to know this, it's another to put into practice. I know, I'm in the same boat as you. Taking several steps back from the rela…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 05:28 PM
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Exactly what shit are you owning here? you started something like an OYS but didn't get far.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 05:20 PM
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After a few days I decided I should tell my wife about his affair. Why the fuck would you do that? How does that help anything? Honest question. Her “yes, I admit there is less masculine energy in the world today than there was 100 years ago but it’s not needed now because women can do any job a man can do.” Me: “yeah, you’re right good point.” What the fuck? How is that even remotely a good point? She doesn’t care about the modern plight of men No shit, why would she? Man the fuck up and deal w…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 05:19 PM
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OYS 18 Early 30s, 5'10", 179lbs, 19%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids ages 4-8. 5/3/1 PRs (5-rep): squat 170#, bench 155#, deadlift 250#, ohp 95#. Reading WISNIFG, MAP. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. PHYSICAL Hit new PRs on squat and bench. Had incorrectly marked my bench PR as 160, was actually 150. Went up to 155. Workout recovery improving. Better sleep, ZMA supplements, hitting protein goals. MENTAL Stayed in self-respect. Took a shitload of focus to block out external validation, while trying …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 01:23 PM
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Nice new flair ya got there Keep chipping away brother. Likewise.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/20 05:27 PM
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do 1K a month in blow What's that, like an ounce or two? fuck bro, hope you save some brain cells for your 50s
/r/askMRP11/06/20 01:36 AM
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Shit I did: Lost ~10lbs, ~4%bf, and maintained all lift numbers. Back at the gym posting gains. Switched to IF/keto diet. Installed a fence, fire pit/patio, swingset, and tool shed. Dialed in hygiene and style with new shampoo, body wash, boots, and shoes. Maintained haircut with at home kit. Built a cornhole set. Increased emergency fund. No new debt. Improved a public codebase that adds value to my resume. Set boundaries with wife and kids. No longer allowing open disrespect from either. Worki…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 04:18 PM
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Yes. Funny you mention it. I thought about that for the first time in years on my way up to the camp site. I did shrooms during my early 20's massive binge on all kinds of unhelpful shit, so I wrote them off along with all my other drug abuse when I got sober. But I remember liking them, and no side-effects.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 03:26 PM
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OYS 17 Early 30s, 5'10", 179lbs, 19%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids. 5/3/1 PRs: squat 160#, bench 160#, deadlift 250#, ohp 95#. Reading WISNIFG, MAP, Extreme Ownership. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. MENTAL My time in the mountains showed me I have become a dancing monkey, doing everything for the approval of either my wife or MRP. Approval from others is so enticing because I spent most of my life hating myself. Both hating my life's circumstances growing up, and hating the ways I made things wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/20 12:18 AM
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She has me by the balls here because I love my son and I hate to be apart from him. Stop being such a bitch and maybe she will stop treating you like one.
/r/askMRP04/06/20 03:41 PM
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play as a child does, with glee, total in-the-moment abandon, and authenticity with your young children, thus learning to integrate these powerful child-like traits into your adult life. Gold, thank you. I will work on this. Don't go alone into the wilderness to dwell on your sorrows I think I understand your point, but my plan was not to dwell on my sorrows. This trip isn't even about my inner child, it's about my inner adolescent that I ignored and actively suppressed. I'm thinking of it more …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/20 01:03 PM
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EFT (emotionally focused therapy) Fuck that feminized bullshit. Like women know what they need or even want in a relationship. need to apologize a lot to my wife so she can feel comfortable again I stopped apologizing in words to my wife. The best apology is being a different person. If I decide I was wrong, I say "I was wrong. I own that." I never, NEVER say "i'm sorry for what I did." Women actively resent verbal apologies. They may say they appreciate it, but deep down they know it's weak and…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 07:59 PM
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Cue a shitty attitude and several blatant disrespectful tones and comments. I looked right at her in the eyes and with a firm and slightly louder voice: “You need to check your bitch attitude right now.” This is it. Right here. Exactly how I need to handle my wife when she gets out of line. The past few shit tests i"ve come close to this and been surprised at how well she responded. Like she secretly knows she's wrong, begging to be put in her place. I need to dial it up just a notch. Set bounda…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 07:20 PM
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OYS 16 Early 30s, 5'10", 179lbs, 19%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids. 5/3/1 PRs: squat 160#, bench 160#, deadlift 250#, ohp 95#. Reading WISNIFG, MAP, Extreme Ownership. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. MENTAL Third week back in the rabbit hole of inner child issues. Revisited an idea I started developing 2+ years ago: that most of my inner conflict arises from living out of two different personas. The first is the identity I took on straight out of my teen years: husband, father, Christian plowhors…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 03:09 PM
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Do you have a link? Couldn't find them
/r/askMRP29/05/20 07:39 PM
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Move on. I noticed this gets easier as I build RP into my life. Less shit to regret. More shit to look forward to.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/20 05:26 PM
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“How can I quit fucking up my own abundance, so I can keep this up all the time?” For too long I made the mistake of putting my household budget above my own needs - never realizing I should have been able to fund both without compromise. Self-focus, awareness of options, no fear of loss. Authenticity is more important than popularity I'm taking notes bro. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/20 10:16 PM
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Men need sex Fuck man, not to hijack your comment but reading this gave me a flashback to my BP days when I actually thought this was either not true or not supposed to be true. God I spent so much time and energy hamstering away that shit. So fucking grateful for MRP.
/r/askMRP28/05/20 09:21 PM
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You've got the shop manual now and know how to fix your engine and take care of it properly and this likely had everything to do with your latest journey here at MRP and little to do with medication and therapists. This is the point I was after, in spite of my poor phrasing. MRP has taken me out of dependence on meds/therapy into the beginnings of self-sufficiency. he just needed to find himself This is a good way of summarizing my goal, although it comes across as oversimplified He wasn't socia…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/20 09:14 PM
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OYS 16 Early 30s, 5'10", 179lb, 21%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids. 5/3/1 PRs: squat 160, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Reading WISNIFG, MAP, Extreme Ownership. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. MENTAL By far, biggest shit to own is how much I fucking hate myself. And I mean hate in the most vicious way. Internalized so deeply i can't see the ends. Deep down I hate myself more than I thought anyone could hate someone. Anyone, let alone myself. The hate started so early, I can't remember ever not …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/20 09:54 PM
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In this climate, seems better to hang on to the $50k. Keep it semi-liquid in case the markets don't perform to historical standards, or have I missed something?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/20 02:45 PM
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repost in /r/askmrp Edit: repost in /r/redpillwives or /r/redpillwomen
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 09:49 PM
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Instead, I take the 5% down payment, some tiny amount of PMI due to my credit score, and keep an extra $50,000 cash on hand to invest in stocks. It's the same reason I have car payments. Could I pay off the car completely? Sure, but why would I want to? Interesting. Do your investments consistently outperform the extra expense (interest+PMI) of carrying loans?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 03:21 PM
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If you don't think you overshot, then it sounds like bullshit on their end. I agree with the advice you gave yourself elsewhere: give less fucks. Abundance mindset. Maybe the job wasn't what you thought. Maybe it had nothing to do with you. Maybe you dodged a bullet. Next. In this economy, downplaying your creds is a good idea. Dial back the rockstar image into something "safe" and ordinary. Once you have income and shed the stress of a sinking ship, you can focus on finding the role you actuall…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 08:30 PM
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I made it clear the major priority for me was building something entrepreneurial and that was my goal. But was that their priority? Did you let them define the kind of role they were looking for, and tailor your approach to that? Sounds like you overshot the mark. I read desperation here. Let me know what blind spots I have in this new plan. Poke holes in it, please Cranking up the bullshit will only throw up red flags. No moral objection, but the more you flat-out lie about your position, the m…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 06:19 PM
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OYS 15 Early 30s, 5'10", 178lbs, 21%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids. 5/3/1 PRs: squat 160, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Reading WISNIFG, MAP, Extreme Ownership. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. PHYSICAL Goal: 165# by July 4th. MENTAL Taking HOA's recommendation from several weeks ago, I'm diving into inner child issues. This is a stream-of-consciousness shit dump that I plan to sort through in the coming weeks. I am still focused on external validation. Validation from my peers, my wife, or any…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 03:24 PM
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In general I see it as weak, so I don't use it. Used in small doses it conveys humility and can disarm certain manipulative tactics, but overused it conveys low self-esteem.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/20 03:10 PM
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repost in /r/askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/20 04:56 PM
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IME it's usually some problem with the guy, but maybe your wife is sort of autistic or has learned shit communication or social skills and needs some open coaching. I can see both in play here. Now you know the general principles. Figure out which ones you think might best apply to your situation, try some shit, see what happens, and correct course as needed. Thank you for the orientation. I found the linked article enlightening as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/20 06:27 PM
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Your points about defending respect as a means of salving ego and garnering validation ring true. A high value man generates respect from others through constant display of self-respect. The only time you might need to defend yourself or demand acknowledgement is when someone substantive is openly attacking (not pretending to joke) your reputation. This is what happened with my wife. She knows little of respect and until recently, I let her openly disrespect me. I could be wrong, but I sense she…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/20 12:23 PM
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Insightful and helpful. Thank you. Just as soon as I sense from someone's words or behavior that they don't value what I'm offering, I'm immediately out and on to someone or something where value is exchanged or produced If your wife disrespected you, would you respond only by withdrawing your attention?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/20 11:29 PM
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Solid plan
/r/askMRP13/05/20 03:30 AM
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I laid out the scientific evidence and argued hard Huh, surprised that didn't work. there was nothing I could do Accept and internalize that.
/r/askMRP12/05/20 09:49 PM
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Oh for fucks sake. WAS should have banned you for Rule 9 violation. You're right, he should have. Glad you got here first.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 09:42 PM
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you can't negotiate respect I've seen good results from setting boundaries. It shows her I respect myself, and usually she follows suit. Also, I'm not telling her to respect me, I'm telling her not to disrespect me. Or have I missed something?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 04:41 PM
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Be sure to pack tissues. He's going to break you down with how much he loves you. When I first met that inner child in April 2019, I was prepared to treat him like a PTSD victim or an entitled brat. He wasn't. Even after decades of neglect, all he wants is to hang out and enjoy the time we have left. No anger, no bitterness, just love. Cried like a little girl for an hour. Dealing with the present-me, the bullshit persona I adopted as I pushed away the inner child, turned out to be way harder. C…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 02:54 PM
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OYS 14 Early 30s, 5'10", 179lbs, 21%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids. 5/3/1 PRs: squat 160, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Reading WISNIFG, MAP, Extreme Ownership. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. MARRIAGE Update from last week: Wife started her cycle a couple days after last OYS. MRP hasn't come up since we last spoke about it. Started tracking her period on my phone. Another couple tests of frame and boundaries came up. Wife started bitching about something, don't remember what. Ended up calling…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 12:09 PM
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Vulnerability is ok, weakness is not. The key difference is control. A weak man cannot control display of his weakness. A strong man can selectively reveal his vulnerability when appropriate, and return to strength afterward.
/r/askMRP11/05/20 03:30 PM
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this resonates. Never thought of it like this. Returning to a life unencumbered by social pressure and responses to pain. Learning how to become myself, who I already am, or at least was.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/20 03:24 PM
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But lots of guys are stuck in the idea that their wife is naturally bitchy and low libido, which is just wrong. Can confirm, was said guy. My wife is a totally different person than she was in December, when I was sure we would need to divorce to be happy. Now I'm sure we don't. What changed? Spoiler alert: it had nothing to do with her, and everything to do with me.
/r/askMRP08/05/20 08:05 PM
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I lift, I'm fit. Everyone stand back, we have a fit lifter here I don't come here often. Makes sense, you have your shit on lockdown [divorce] would be easier to boot ... The divorce has been expensive and acrimonious. That's surprising Wanna learn how to get good at free throws ? Shoot a thousand hoops every day. Only a thousand? Seriously? I made mistakes early in the relationship that made it hard to change things later on. Lesson learned. I agree, it's best to quit when things get hard. If I…
/r/askMRP08/05/20 03:23 PM
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I want to avoid this from snowballing if possible That ship has sailed A big fight with her could have serious consequences for me as I'd be the one leaving and that would basically fuck up my whole life You have enslaved yourself to her with this attitude. As long as you see things this way, your family will be miserable. Here's your plan: I ignore her, STFU, lift, sidebar, and keep on with my interests and work and son until she tries to come back This is about you faggot. It's your fault. Thi…
/r/askMRP06/05/20 05:22 PM
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I'm not advocating pushing the button. Nor am I condoning it. Keyword from the title: you must be willing to nuke your family. She needs to know the option is on the table. It's in the cards. That her trump card went up in smoke. In my case I didn't even have to threaten pushing the button, let alone push it. Just show her that it's there in subtle ways over a few months, and I'm not afraid of pushing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 03:19 PM
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Repost in /r/askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 12:56 AM
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Choosing the feeling she has of no power is submission. I saw it play out as powerlessness, then submission. She never wanted it anyways, and its your fault for giving it to her in the first place. Facts.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 11:50 PM
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How was adjusting to OMAD? I get a dip in energy at the end of my fasting interval on 16/8 IF.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 11:16 PM
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Reading assignments: Everything again plus Going to write list of 10 hard things and accomplish Start slow. Set the bar low, get some gains under your belt, then ratchet up expectations. Shooting too high too early is an easy way to go Rambo. There's always more than meets the eye to any behavior pattern, changing them doesn't happen overnight.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 11:12 PM
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Only when you no longer need her or your nuclear little family will she understand that you have the power of choice and she can NO LONGER hold the power of the nuclear family hostage against you. Fuck, this is so on point. She needs to see, no, to feel she has zero power in order to push past her solipsism into submission. No amount of dread, boundaries or DHV will matter until she sees how powerless she is. Without supreme DNGAF it will always be a power struggle.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 10:41 PM
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If i can hear it, she can sense it. It sounds fake, huh? Like I'm trying to convince myself. You might be right. The bullshit runs deep. I will keep this in mind this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 09:54 PM
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Thanks Stoney, but I can politely ask my own wife to stop nagging. I youtubed a new footrub routine that makes her do whatever I say.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 03:41 PM
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So this is all entirely contingent on your wife playing along What gave you that impression? I am walking a fine line. I mentioned it in my last OYS. Her cooperation, submission, sex, and approval does pull me toward the dancing monkey/plowhorse mentality I came from. Career beta runs deep. That said: I am in this for me, and what I think is best for my interests. Becoming a competent captain and leading my family well is rewarding and meaningful to me. It is making me strong in ways I couldn't …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 03:05 PM
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SO YOUR WHY MY HUSBAND STOPPED GIVING ME FOOT RUBS!!@!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 02:33 PM
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WHO THE HELL IS THIS?? WHAT KIND OF INTERNET NAME IS BLARG RIZEN? WHAT ARE YOU MEN POISINING MY HUSBANDS MIND WITH??
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 01:55 PM
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She didn't ask me why I was on reddit. She wondered why I panicked when she saw a tab open on my browser that said "Sexual strategy for married men." At that point is STFU like a paint-eating autist still SOP? Honest question. I didn't tell her it's this secret fight club I'm a part of that I participate in every day. I told her it's a part of reddit, like many others, that I read. Still taking her reactions at face value? No. But it hasn't come up again in several days, mood/demeanor back to no…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 01:54 PM
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OYS 13 Early 30s, 5'10", 179lbs, 21%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids. 5/3/1 PRs: squat 160, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Reading WISNIFG, MAP, Extreme Ownership. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. PHYSICAL Got back to discipline on TRX routine. Still needs tuning but consistency on track. 16/8 IF going strong. My body seems to respond best to keto, though it's the hardest diet for me to follow. Still shooting for minimal carbs, high protein, moderate fat. MENTAL Accepting the life I've built. Arri…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 10:28 AM
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then we get caught in a negative emotional loop Your STFU and frame are weak as shit. You don't get "caught in a negative emotional loop" like it's a run of bad weather. You actively participate in an emotional dialogue by taking bait and running your mouth like a bitch. Wife gets emotional? STFU. Listen. Fog. Remove yourself. Do not engage her drama and it will die.
/r/askMRP05/05/20 01:17 AM
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tl;dr you failed multiple shit tests/comfort tests, your frame is shit, you lack self-control, you're a shitty leader, and your wife is suffering because of it, but you don't understand why because she still fucks you for some reason.
/r/askMRP04/05/20 11:40 PM
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hen I got push-back on the first post I immediately went defensive/passive aggressive like a bitch. That is not the man I want to be. If you can't handle pushback from anonymous retards on the Internet, how are you going to handle your wife, colleagues, or clients? where I have a pretty good handle on things, but you'd never know it because I fail shit tests You don't have a handle on things until you pass shit tests consistently. I let people walk over me ... I logically know I am the prize How…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/20 08:24 PM
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Impedance scales are shit. I'm no expert but 5'11" @158lbs is probably sub 15%. Navy method is OK, DEXA scans are best. Just need to grind for a while. Work on a rhythm: read / practice / read / practice / etc. Too much of either will end up off course.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/20 05:41 PM
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Women depend on their man for the physical and emotional strength they lack. Depending on her for core emotional support will only trigger anxiety and resentment from her. Be the oak.
/r/askMRP03/05/20 03:49 PM
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Let's hope I don't have some faggot behavior to report in my next OYS You will, or you'll be bullshitting. Embrace the faggot, own that shit. When it's time, he will disappear.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/20 04:49 PM
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God dammit Horns, there you go again with your fucking insight. Do you have any idea how much time you just saved me? I started a writeup on the evolutionary basis of insecurity as a first step in understanding confidence... but it's cool. just cut straight to the chase in 10 words, that works too.
/r/askMRP01/05/20 02:56 PM
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I see the same thing I see in myself, and in plenty others here: Externalized sense of value. Seems like a major trap. Get some MRP noob gains, start getting the sex/social status we crave, then use that to validate ourselves, suddenly we're back to LARPing faggots. I don't see a clear path to it yet, but I know the MRP endgame involves a fully internalized sense of value.
/r/askMRP30/04/20 04:44 PM
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I think, I'm on the right path. My question: [no actual question] I read your whole fucking post ready to offer advice, but then you ended with this. Three pages of puke followed by arrogant self-deluded bullshit about how "I got this." At least most losers who wash up here know they're fucked and have the balls to ask for help, not tell us how well you have everything figured out. Fuck you, faggot.
/r/askMRP30/04/20 01:43 PM
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I aimed my last question at his leadership recently, not throughout the relationship, which he admitted was poor. Or are you talking about something else?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 10:25 PM
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Your example of self-control in the face of disrespect is instructive and helpful. This is the nail on the head for dealing with that shit I can remove my time and attention, and I can manage my own emotions. Couple questions: My in-laws are older (and therefore a higher risk) and so early on in the quarantine, I reached out to Rambo FIL and let him know that they should come stay at our house until things blow over. Why does your FIL need to stay with you even though he's higher risk? I had my …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 04:08 PM
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so I’ll own the shape of vase now How do you know you won't do the same thing to the next LTR? I’m not seeking a weaker woman, but one whose definition of the good life is at least mostly aligned with mine or at minimum is willing to follow mine How did you arrive at the conclusion that she is unwilling to follow yours? Have you consistently lead her as a captain worth following?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 03:26 PM
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this is the first step to getting it If you keep working, you won't recognize yourself in 6 months.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 03:21 PM
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if i slip a bit she is like a shark on blood Fog through that shit a few times, see what happens.
/r/askMRP29/04/20 03:19 PM
1

Interested in other men's experience. Do hobbies help a boring but otherwise worthwhile job?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 03:16 PM
1

What do you want $1M question, not just at work but everywhere in my life. I lived through a borrowed framework of ideals for so long, still a long road ahead to finding what I actually want. At the very least, I want a more consistent challenge with peers that can challenge me, and an opportunity to advance pay and responsibility. I am the most technically advanced member of my organization and I would enjoy working with other men who know more than I do. I am executing a 2-3 year plan that tak…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 01:53 PM
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That was a weak statement What's weaker: framing your wife's mood in terms of you, or pointing out that you did? I'm not exactly trying to rush back in. She's been cleared medically, and I guarantee you can find 20 minutes somewhere in the day without your son. So don't use either as an excuse for not fucking your wife. How about you read the book before you make judgements about its value? I don't give a shit what it says. It's not on the MRP sidebar and you're on OYS3. You're a man, do whateve…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 01:36 PM
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I let her go and then said "are you done?" to which she laughed and said yes. Behold the power of STFU. Well done. said "I'm not going down to your level" and STFU (not sure if I even should have said that first part since then it's not true STFU). Work on internalizing that. Saying it will only provoke her. For something as trivial as getting the wrong bologna, I would just smile the whole time like it was a joke, then kiss her when she snaps out of it. said thank you for apologizing. Internali…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 10:37 PM
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every woman i've ever known wants to think she is special to her man. you don't have to actually believe she's on a pedestal to make HER FEEL like she is on one. Making her feel special (i.e., showing her that she is, in fact, adding value) is not the same as putting her on a pedestal. in the modern world, there are lot of women that honestly want both to be someones prize and be their own prize. I think almost all women, if somehow given firsthand experience in both, would choose to pursue a wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 10:24 PM
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just boring as fuck with a side negativity/narrow mindedness that really bothers me. Have you read HOA's posts on how your woman is one of your greatest creations or that it's your fault for creating a depressive and anxious wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 10:00 PM
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How could any woman be a high-value man's prize? Treating any woman like a prize is putting her on a pedestal. Being a HVM has everything to do with becoming one's own mental point of origin, internalizing a sense of value, producing value and displaying it, becoming competent in all areas of life, and pursuing a mission. None of that depends on a woman. IMO a hallmark of BP faggotry is treating women or their vaginas like a prize to win. Worthwhile women assist our mission and bring value in ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 09:50 PM
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...my short and long term goals which further my mission. Right now I think I can achieve more in my life not spinning plates. I spent more than a month sorting through whether or not I wanted to plate. Every single time I concluded that it would distract me from more important personal goals. It would subtract value from my life. Too many faggots here don't understand long-term reward. Measure themselves through n-count, have pussy on a pedestal, validation through sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 06:44 PM
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Unfortunately I don’t think her mood has much to do with me. Get the fuck out of her frame. I’m sure this will come back soon once the baby can be left alone for a few hours at a time. Cut the bullshit. Like you need "a couple hours" to fuck your wife. Newborns sleep 18+ hours a day. Half finished MAP. Currently reading King... How about you put down that mental masturbation theory book and get back to the actual sidebar material. It tasted gross and I could feel it pollute my body. I still had …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 06:29 PM
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I'm 5"11", 72Kg/158lbs (down from 73Kg). 20.3% bodyfat there must be a typo somewhere. How the fuck are you 5'11, 158lbs and 20%bf? I need to find a way of gaming my wife in a subtle way ... I need to apply game without being annoying, which I'm finding tough ... I need to find a way of being fun and light without being a bother. Slow down Rambo. Faggots don't jump straight into subtle gaming. Forget about your wife. Focus on you. STFU, lift, read. Passive dread. DNGAF. Personal ownership. Learn…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 06:20 PM
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It's in her nature to need a prize to aspire to so that she feelz like she is. That's good enough for her and all she wants ... Women who aspire to be the prize are always deeply unhappy. I had a front row seat to this during quarantine. Once my leadership and SMV exceeded my wife's, she became a different person overnight. I am now a prize worth striving toward, which channels all her focus and energy that would other wise leak out in all kinds of bitchy ways. What I can't believe is it's not e…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 05:41 PM
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So I will isolate them one by one, and introspect why I don't have them figured out, what I want my "right" to look like, and how I'm going to get there. Glad to see you're taking it seriously. Be prepared for the possibility that the need for validation from women takes you to some deep, dark places. Interested to see what you turn up. Also, while I maintain that your plating is mostly a distraction from deeper issues, you're still clearly gaining skills and confidence which will carry past wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 03:05 PM
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Why you must be willing to nuke your nuclear family or you will fail Why I choose not to spin plates (right now) Those are my votes
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 02:57 PM
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OYS #12 Early 30s, 5'10", 181lbs, 21%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids. 5/3/1 PRs: squat 160, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Reading WISNIFG, MAP, sidebar. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. MENTAL / PHYSICAL I was a total fucking faggot this week. Lifting, reading, and STFU -- all shit. Inconsistent TRX routine, slow as fuck reading, chattier than a sewing circle with my wife. Letting gains in other areas distract me from core RP discipline. Frame is weaker than I think it is. Letting the wife's gro…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 01:12 PM
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both are trainable and both of their tantrums are my fault as captain of the ship You're on track. Sidebar, lift, STFU. This is the way. Everyone has their own blind spots and I'm sure I have some big ones We all do. How do you think I spotted yours so easily? I will be looking for you in OYS tomorrow.
/r/askMRP27/04/20 09:23 PM
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Your ability to bullshit yourself for ego-protection is almost as strong as mine. Even if true, all you said was you can't handle your wife's tantrums instead of your daughters, and your daughter still learned that she can manipulate daddy by throwing a fit. I've seen enough horse shit parenting and devil children to know not to give in to their whining or tantrums or you're training them to act that way to get what they want. And yet you did exactly that.
/r/askMRP27/04/20 06:29 PM
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trying to save myself some aggravation You just put aggravation on high interest credit. You taught your 3yo that she can get her way by throwing a tantrum.
/r/askMRP27/04/20 03:20 PM
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Hanlon's razor
/r/askMRP27/04/20 03:11 PM
2

Does anyone else have a hard time finding shirts that fit? Large fits my shoulders, chest, arms and torso length, but assume you're a fat fuck in the middle. Mediums are better in the waist but often too short in the sleeves and torso.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/20 06:09 PM
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My condolences.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/20 03:50 PM
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The last 36 hours have been completely smoke free, Jesus christ, my condolences. Stay strong brother. "If I can quit even while going through the divorce and this quarantine and all my other bullshit, then there is nothing I can't accomplish." That's the spirit. Few men will know that reward.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/20 03:42 PM
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I avoid conflict because I don't believe I am capable of handling her anger/outbursts and then she'll use shame/guilt to manipulate me by planting more seeds of doubt. Fuck if this wasn't me 6 months ago. May be a long road out of that mindset, but there's no way to the other side except through it. Face her manipulation directly. Fog through it and STFU. Over time it will get easier. As your frame grows, start setting boundaries. Start gentle and basic. Be ready for at least one shit-fit from h…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/20 03:36 PM
1

I pretend I'm a magician Took me too long to discover this. Way more powerful than I would have guessed.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/20 03:27 PM
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unnecessary BRUTAL If you can't deal with this shit from retards on the internet, how the fuck are you going to stand up to your wife and kids? Or other men when they are actively tearing you down? Take them, but disregard the tone. Fuck no. I used to think this way until a few red berets kicked my ass and the lights went on: this shit is training me for the actually hard shit in life. These high-value men are taking time out of their busy day to knock sense into me. Nobody does that out of mali…
/r/askMRP26/04/20 03:14 PM
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Im getting sick of it and just want to fuck a hottie ... I just don’t want the divorce rape as I own a successful business. You obviously have your priorities in order. The one is totally opposite of my wife ... My wife has no confidence in herself and is still fat. She has lost weight and looked great but now has gained it all back. Shut the fuck up about your wife. What about you? Lift stats? Sidebar material? Why do you think you deserve to fuck hot women?
/r/askMRP26/04/20 01:47 AM
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How's about you just do you and she gets to come along for the ride should you deem her good enough. Hmm? This is correct, I was wrong.
/r/askMRP25/04/20 07:31 PM
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Solid advice overall. Penalties and negative consequences do not change future behaviour for the better. It damages relationships, builds resentment and can just teach the person to hide 'negative' behaviours. True only for excessive penalties. Properly calibrated penalties work well. Parents need the carrot and the stick, but you're right -- the carrot should be much bigger than the stick [insert sexual innuendo joke here]. I use an attitude tracking chart for my 4 kids (ages 4-8). We move them…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/20 04:53 PM
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I also just bought NMMNG on kindle so I'll plow through that this week. Next up: WISNIFG. I stood up and she says "are you done being crabby?" to which I ask her "are YOU done being crabby?" with a blank face. Still engaging at her level. STFU, STFU, STFU. Better response: confident smile, then kiss her.
/r/askMRP25/04/20 04:43 PM
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they are just riding their emotions, all logic is ignored Wrong. True only superficially. There is an underlying logic to their behavior that we can understand and manipulate for everyone's benefit take into account as we lead.
/r/askMRP25/04/20 04:39 PM
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Have had tons of arguments in the last 6 months, screaming at each other, Why the fuck are you screaming at your wife like a bitch? Shut the fuck up. Tonight I'm trying to get my 3 year old to take a bath but she doesn't want to for some reason, and is crying so I dropped it. Your 3 year old's frame is stronger than yours and your wife is giving you shit? No way, really? But my wife is now freaking out and launching into the whole 'I had to work all day ... RAAAAA' that I'm sure many of you have…
/r/askMRP25/04/20 02:06 AM
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This is the way.
/r/askMRP25/04/20 01:56 AM
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Some of my indecisiveness came out of not spending enough time understanding myself. I internalized a sense that my preferences and needs are not important. I started growing out of it when I decided that they are important to me, and set aside time to figure that shit out. A lot of introspection, trial-and-error. Some of it also came from fear of being wrong or alienating people. DNGAF.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/20 06:32 PM
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It sounds like you are serving them well That's the irony that few outside MRP get, that I can best offer my gifts to the world when I take care of my want and needs. I have had trouble finding clarity on my mission - it is a big part of the work I am doing here. Take your time. I don't have a mission yet. I don't have the quote, but someone said something like you need to be a man before you can be a man with a mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 07:59 PM
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My Mission: To be a servant leader to my family and community. This sounded so lofty to me when I first heard it in the church years ago. It's a beta bullshit idea, that real men become plowhorses for their wife and kids. I spent 10 years trying to do the "servant leader" thing. My wife and kids were miserable because I was a miserable dancing monkey. Putting other people first doesn't work. Almost 3 months into MRP, I'm more selfish than ever, but my wife and kids are happier than ever because …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 06:19 PM
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I finally realize now I do not have to win her approval for anything I'm doing and I don't have to try to win an argument with her (which will never happen, anyway). A few hours later she's friendly again; And if she isn't, who cares. Quite freeing, isn't it? Easy to realize, hard to internalize.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 06:04 PM
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My wife has shown with her actions that she can be an absolute selfish vindictive cunt. AWALT. Shitty leaders make shitty marriages. I have no doubt she would move far away and no laws prevent me from stopping her. (Confirmed with Lawyer UK, I can contest but I would still be liable for alimony and full maintenance). But part of me is thinking so fucking what, get me out of this cage already. Ask yourself who put you into that cage, and who is keeping you there. There are no guarantees this won'…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 05:37 PM
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Lift stats? Every time I get mad or I push back There's your problem. Why are you giving her traction? Read WISNIFG, learn fogging. Sounds like your wife knows how to better than you. I don't know what is reasonable/unreasonable behaviour from someone else. Focus on yourself, not others. Read WISNIFG. STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 05:32 PM
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instead I have the knowledge to avoid that trap Do you? Looks to me like you're walking straight into it. This is the most attention I've ever gotten from the opposite sex in my entire life. That's not a brag, its a fact meant to give you context for where I'm starting from, like -5 compared to most guys in this particular facet of life. This reeks of desperation. Also, you're not a snowflake. Lots of us are career betas who LTR'd the first pussy that floated our way. You do not need plates righ…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 05:24 PM
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Beware hysterical bonding and a big covert contract. “This MRP shit” doesn’t work if your wife starting to fuck you half way decently was the catalyst. A clear sign of guys being way over their skis is bragging about shit they did with or any other actions from their wives. Good shit, thanks for giving me something to think about.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 05:15 PM
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what I'm working through is that the external validation is still a strong pull that if I'm not careful would continue to be a stronger motivator than that sense of self worth. If it's still that strong after as much time as you've spent here, you have deeper issues you need to look at. Seems to me more like your internalized value is paper thin. Didn't get validation from mom and dad, didn't get it from STBX, now you're getting it from plates. When my manager or wife gives me approval, I smile …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 05:00 PM
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Need to suck it up and initiate. My wife has been dropping weight and I find her much more attractive than I did before So you want sex and your wife is attractive, why the fuck aren't you initiating?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 04:28 PM
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The external validation is like meth, extremely addictive, and it had been so long since I've felt a woman's interest, it was like being a first time user. You've been at this for a fucking long time to still be addicted to external validation. Ask yourself why you don't have a fully internalized sense of self-worth by now, and see where that takes you.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 04:20 PM
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gives him all of this attention She gives it to him because you aren't worth paying attention to. You're her husband, not her fucking child. You're supposed to lead and protect her, not use her as your emotional tampon. Shut the everloving fuck up around her. Save your feelings for a journal and a male therapist. Get to the bottom of your childhood shit and man the fuck up. Get over your ego and get help.
/r/askMRP21/04/20 04:12 PM
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she initiated sex with me after I told her about my emotions. She may be manipulating me but i think she may just be into emotional stuff. She's not. She may think she is for a minute, but no woman is sexually attracted to an emotional man for long. I'm jealous of the attention she gives him when he vents to her. You have validation needs left over from childhood. You need your mom/dad to listen to you, they probably never did, and now you've projected that need on to your wife. I don't currentl…
/r/askMRP21/04/20 03:24 PM
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I want more peace in my life, the opposite of anxiety. I've always been struggling with this feeling and running away from it. You gave away the answer. For men, anxiety comes from: Not following clear goals to completion Not aligning those goals to a purpose that gives meaning to their lives Avoiding anything, especially hardship or uncertainty You are a man. You are built to face the void. To make habitable order out of chaotic potential for you and your family. To get shit done for the sake o…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 12:22 PM
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I, perhaps foolishly, said that I think she should trust me to lead the relationship and marriage. Not because I have been a good leader but because I will be. She was extremely sceptical. She is a control freak and have trouble letting anything go. Wrong. You're a shitty leader so she needs to take control. Why would she trust you? Trust is instinctively built with actions that demonstrate leadership competence and high value, not with empty words. STFU. My current plan to build my frame and re…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 12:06 PM
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OYS #11 Early 30s, 5'10", 181lbs, 21%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids. 5/3/1 PRs: squat 160, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Reading WISNIFG, MAP, sidebar. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. PHYSICAL Still rolling with projects around the yard. Had to put a french drain into my new fire pit's seating area, installed a play gym for the kids, got the foundation ready for my new tool shed. Took a shit ton of digging, hauling rocks, rototilling, leveling dirt. Easily 4-6 hours of work every day this week…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 11:50 AM
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I modeled when I was younger and always found myself with a well-to-do woman who would buy me whatever and such, thus there was never a necessity to develop career building skills...so I just woke up to my life as 40, stay at home dad, no career, cold marriage, been totally buried by my kids. Jesus christ man, what the fuck did you expect all those years? Do you really think women are attracted to men who let them pay for everything while you stay at home with the kids doing all the cooking and …
/r/askMRP20/04/20 08:10 PM
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I think men should be allowed to surreptitiously check up on the status of that relationship. You have my permission to do whatever the fuck you want, but if you need to check up on your wife on anything like a regular basis, you lost a long time ago. Due diligence is building frame, DNGAF, passive dread, setting boundaries, passing shit/comfort tests, and gaming her. Do that right and everything she does will become transparent.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/20 05:58 PM
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Neither did I. But I make investing in myself a priority unlike faggots. I have a power rack. Faggot here. Jesus christ my mental models are so fucked. Thinking I got shit covered with a half-assed bodyweight routine and a fucking log for squat/ohp. Thinking this shit will blow over & I can get back to the gym in a month. Lifting is not something I do. Lifting is who I am. Fuck my faggot excuses, im building a home gym.
/r/askMRP15/04/20 06:26 PM
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Why can't you workout at home? To say I can't is bullshit. I can, I just don't want to. I don't want to because I don't have a space set aside for it, I'm tripping over all my kids shit, I have no gear, and I dont want to work out while my wife watches through the window. Yes, all that's bullshit too. Im working on plans to build a bodyweight home gym. What's the game? Lead my wife and family. what's the prize for winning? Raise competent kids, come home to a hot submissive wife, home/finances i…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 04:58 PM
1

Step 1: learned anger is weakness thanks to you and MitW. Step 2: Got a taste of what it's like to own my life, get strong, drop excuses, become my own judge, build my frame, lead my family, and get shit done. hard to stay angry with so much empowerment.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 04:44 PM
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OYS #10 Early 30s, 5'10", 181lbs, 21%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids. 5/3/1 PRs: squat 160, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Reading WISNIFG, MAP, sidebar. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. MENTAL Frame holding up, but harder to hold this week. Lost STFU a few times. Realized how much I depended on starting my day at the gym for mental strength. Something about physically moving myself into a different space, a space dedicated 100% to making me strong, helped me get mentally anchored for the day. Wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 01:59 PM
1

I'm always picking up after them...work for like 3 weeks then they start doing it again. You're the problem. You taught them by example to leave a mess, and dad cleans it up. I would be surprised if they stopped leaving messes. Simple: you don't take care of your shit, you lose it. Set clear expectations for when they will clean up (ideally right after they're done, but also at the end of the day). Anything left out goes into toy time-out for the next day. Second offense: a week. Third: trash/th…
/r/askMRP12/04/20 05:00 PM
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OYS #9 Early 30s, 5'10", 183lbs, 21%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids. 5/3/1 PRs: squat 160, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Reading WISNIFG, MAP, sidebar. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. MENTAL I'm lazy as fuck, always have been. But selectively lazy. Work my ass off on a few things so I can bullshit myself into thinking I'm not lazy. It's fucking disgusting. Always an excuse, ready to DEER my way out of anything I don't want to do so I can complain about how hard life is, how unfair. Blaming fear…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/20 02:55 PM
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Yes, thank you for reminding me. After passing the comfort test I addressed it directly. I will not tolerate disrespect in front of the kids. She agreed fully. I agreed to extend her the same respect. Later in the week, I was working with the kids and my wife scolded me for something I said. I told her "do not scold me in front of the kids" and she instantly said "oh, sorry, you're right" and dropped it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 02:58 PM
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OYS #8 Early 30s, 5'10", 190lbs, 23%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids. 5/3/1 PRs: squat 160, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Reading WISNIFG, MAP, sidebar. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. MARRIAGE Picking up from OYS7: So my wife slept on the couch for 3 or 4 days. Held OI frame. Said she wanted to talk again. Another fog session. She tried to push her frame on me, this time with less judgment, more desperation. Things got better, then she brought it up again. More pushing her frame on me, judging …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 01:14 PM
1

TRX straps are cheap, easy to set up and store, and cover a lot of movements.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/20 10:04 PM
1

Burpees for days. Just don't eat too much spread
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/20 09:42 PM
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Yard work.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/20 09:41 PM
1

One time a long time ago she covered up my eyes while watching a movie and let me know when it was "ok" to look. Jesus Christ, I hate that version of me. Like a fucking child. Same. until you are to the point where you are your only judge, you are by definition in someone else's frame. Free your mind. This is a great way to boil down this week. Getting out of her judgment and into my own. BP me wouldn't have even considered watching Avatar (come to think of it, that's why I hadn't seen it until …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/20 06:35 PM
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I was able to boil [my mission] down into three statements and it has brought clarity. What are they?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/20 06:25 PM
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A lot of #2, with a touch of #1. I haven't seen my wife that way before. I also don't remember exactly what she said to my daughter, I may have exaggerated, or not. I think what I saw, was desperation at her frame crumbling. She sees she's losing control over me, so she pulled out all the stops. It's understandable. I let her control the shit I did and didn't do for a very long time, based on her ideas of what's "appropriate." She's used to being able to guilt/manipulate me, especially on issues…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 11:07 PM
1

Might be for me too.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 06:16 PM
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Edit: meant to reply to Tyred_Biggums. Yeah it's fucked up.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 06:15 PM
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"don't ever let a man treat you like this, you deserve better, blah blah blah"
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 04:04 PM
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OYS #7 Early 30s, 5'10", 190lbs, 23%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids. 5/3/1 PRs: squat 160, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Reading WISNIFG, MAP, and sidebar. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. MENTAL Read another 2 chapters WISNIFG. Started MAP on Sunday. Also reading Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink. Depressed as fuck. Almost nothing about my life is the way I want it. It’s all based on fear, or who I thought I should be, not who I really am. Anger was a way of deflecting the intense pain, withou…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 01:13 PM
1

Taking the opportunity to suck less at leadership. We've been planning a cruise since December, sacked up and cancelled in the face of a lot of opposition from family. Preparing to shelter in place. Working towards 6-8 weeks of supply stockpile, about halfway there.
/r/askMRP13/03/20 06:35 PM
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Good point. If I had gone into Christianity with the understanding that it's a pretty good but still flawed collection of traditions and beliefs, I might have a very different outcome. I followed it as the infallible, unquestionable, eternal Word of God. That might be my main gripe with it actually. not that it's fallible, but that they sell it as infallible. The denial of fallibility, not the fallibility itself, is what bothers me.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/20 03:12 PM
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Good luck. There's some deep, insightful, truthful, helpful stuff mixed in with all the shame, manipulation, and falsehood.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 04:41 PM
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Blaming is shame avoidance. Anger is shame avoidance. Laziness is shame avoidance. Addiction is shame avoidance. Good shit, thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 04:38 PM
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stop thinking so much This is so much harder than it should be for me
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 03:10 PM
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Also note - in many churches, shame is its vehicle for control. Not God's, IMO, but it is for the group of people who make up the church. My experience was opposite. The people never tried to shame me, or at least not consciously that I remember, but I saw it everywhere in the bible. Constant emphasis on the depravity of man, desperately in need of a savior, never good enough except through Jesus, etc. Regardless, this point stands solid: And I think you've maybe internalized that and point it a…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 11:31 PM
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You're right. This post is deluded and lazy. I could have made the same point in 2 sentences and moved on to more constructive shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 08:02 PM
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This bath of shame you poured on yourself is nothing but a show. It does nothing to help you ... This is probably true on some level. Not true entirely. I didn't write this to shame myself, but to re-frame my anger with ownership. So far it seems helpful. but it sure makes you feel like you look tough and mean business to the new congregation you're trying to impress......randos on the internet. Shifting the approval you seek from your old church to this new one is an end that is just as dead. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 07:26 PM
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order it today. Done. Come back next time with a MAP of what's yellow/red and get to work. Copy. In OYS#2 you stated you didn't like your wife. Can you see through that bullshit now too? I see that most, if not all, of the things I don't like about my wife are my own fuckups that I either project onto her or have trained into her.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 05:46 PM
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God dammit man, I thought the same thing before I hit submit. You know what? It might be. but somewhere beneath that bullshit posturing is this fucktard's best shot at owning my shit. So maybe it's a horrible attempt but it's the least-horrible I can manage right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 05:38 PM
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You can focus on a couple of areas of specific improvement you know are positive and work on them before you understand everything. I am. The last 2 weeks I haven't shared them because my ego is out of fucking control. My life is going better than it ever has, but if I talk about it I'll self-destruct with a nuclear ego. now start to add some specifics you are going to do to move forward. When my ego is safely disarmed, or at least not an A-bomb on a hair trigger, I will.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 04:48 PM
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Do you see that direction, power, knowledge and restraint that both MitW and I held against your rationalization engine and constant DEERing? Do you see how effortless that seemed for us? Do you see how angry we didn't get even though you really deserved one of us bashing you over your thick fucking retarded man-skull until you could unfuck your mental models? Do you see how effortless that was for us? You didn't get angry because you know that anger is weakness. It's a weak man's last attempt a…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 04:39 PM
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I was hoping to see something better from you this week but it's still a whiny puke. A lot less victim in the puke this week. Improvement. You listed nothing you're working on, just rehashed puke. That's exactly what I've been working on. Moving from anger/victim to stoic/responsible is a fucking lot of work. Take it out on the iron and try to focus on improvement rather than dwelling on all this. I can't improve until I understand and own all the ways I self-sabotage. Blaming others for my life…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 03:50 PM
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OYS #6 Early 30s, 5'10", 190lbs, 23%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids. 5/3/1 PRs: squat 160, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Reading WISNIFG and sidebar. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. Last week I victim puked a bunch of rage directed toward the church for leading me down the wrong path. Then a couple red berets kicked my ass trying to show me that it’s really all my fault. I DEER’d and redirected rage toward them in self-defense. Ego-defense. Here’s my victim puke again with a lot less victim in …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 01:45 PM
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Fuck off until you're ready to accept personal responsibility, both for your past and for your future. Looking at this again after several re-reads and reflection. You know what? You're absolutely fucking right about this. I need to own my decision to follow the church for so long. I could have walked out at any time. It wouldn't have been easy, but I could have. I saw the cracks growing, even early on, but I didn't want to believe what they could mean, because that would mean giving up the one …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/20 02:54 PM
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Secretly deep in your ego you are angry that you needed [unconditional love] and do not like that about yourself. Now that's the nail on the head. I have felt anger toward myself for needing unconditional love. I worked through a few waves of it, but quite possible there's more down there. It's not wrong that you needed it, but it is a very blue pilled mental model full of victimhood and no abundance. I see it as a childlike view of the world, which is perhaps by default blue pilled, or at least…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/20 09:40 PM
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Take a loooong time. Take forever. Nah. I'll give myself maybe another couple weeks. And some here claim that the human male is the naturally rational gender! LOL I don't. Men and women are naturally run by their irrational and emotional limbic system. Men have a generally higher capacity for managing, owning, and shaping their limbic base with their cortex into something that approaches rationality, with great effort. No, it's actually not. It's the final barrier a man's ego throws up in resist…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/20 09:02 PM
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Took a walk, cooling down I want to take another look at this. What /u/man_in_the_world is trying to accelerate for you is this: The anger phase really isn't about being angry at everyone else. Agreed. No dispute here. It's really about being angry at yourself. Right now, this looks more to me like I'm angry as a secondary emotion to intense sadness from the grief of loss. Loss of my worldview, loss of years of my life, loss of my community. It's a generalized anger, more like anguish actually. …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/20 07:07 PM
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What /u/man_in_the_world is trying to accelerate for you is this: The anger phase really isn't about being angry at everyone else. It's really about being angry at yourself. Cognitively I'm there. Emotionally I'm not. Not yet. Bro, you always had a choice. Did Neo have a choice before Morpheus gave him the red pill and unplugged him? Fuck no. He was born into the matrix. Never knew anything else. Just had a strange feeling that something's not right, this doesn't all add up, so I'm going to keep…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/20 05:39 PM
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I'm describing the trajectory of my life here in broad brush strokes, you're picking it apart in surgical detail. this shit doesn't happen overnight and I didn't think for a second I'd just suddenly turn my ship around. Quit that sanctimonious bullshit attitude that I'm doing myself favors by feeling bad for myself for all the ways I've fucked up my life by playing the victim. My anger phase is not about playing the victim or wallowing in self-pity. Although it may sound like it, that's not the …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/20 04:43 PM
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not like those who seriously wrestled with God's Word to seek His truth. Oh I see it now, makes perfect sense. You're one of them. did you then question your faith, or dig deeper for the hard answers, or wrestle with the ideas to reconcile them with the world you saw, or struggle with the ideas to make them your own? No. No, you didn't. You STILL don't know jack SHIT about me and my history with the church. you have no FUCKING clue how much work I put in, how much I struggled and wrestled at eve…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/20 04:27 PM
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Fuck off until you're ready to accept personal responsibility, both for your past and for your future. You'll make no real progress until you do. This is my ANGER PHASE motherfucker, don't you fucking take this from me. Yes, I know the next step is personal responsibility. I know if I hold on to my anger I will spin my wheels. Venting, ranting, puking is part of the process of moving from victimhood to responsibility. You CHOSE to "believe" them because it was easier than thinking for yourself. …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 06:57 PM
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You're reading way the fuck too deeply into a keyboard mashing victim puke. don't react to the people who were running your life before Right. reacting is weakness. But... Your anger here is certainly understandable. But it's also pointless. ... Don't get mad at them ... FUCK you. spoken like a true church faggot. I'm mad as a motherfucker, and I will be for as long as I need to be. What do I DO with that anger? THAT'S what matters. Do I become bitter, resentful, outwardly angry at those people?…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 04:27 PM
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Sounds like you're just starting. It's slowly unwound over the past 2 years. Since starting MRP I have a new view on how deep the bullshit goes. But I get it - it hurts to realize everything you've learned, your entire foundation, is sand. fuck yes it does. Now what are you going to do about it? Take my cup of STFU to the gym
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 10:51 PM
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This is the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 10:49 PM
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It's fucking institutionalized, ritualistic, psychological abuse.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 10:49 PM
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OYS #5 Early 30s, 5'10", 190lbs, 23%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids. 5/3/1 PRs: squat 160, bench 160, deadlift 250, ohp 95. Reading WISNIFG and sidebar. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. Updates Coming off TM test week, set new PRs. Did a bunch of shit I don’t need to tell you about because fuck my ego. I didn’t blow anything up. Broke STFU with an argument with the wife on Saturday. This week’s biggest challenge: Building my frame and staying in it. Around every turn is another way to slip back int…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 01:31 PM
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I also don’t worry about the small pot holes in the road. Am I on the right fucking road is all I need to fucking know. This is gold for faggot n00bs like me who want to overcomplicate every god damn thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/20 06:49 PM
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I see a guy trying to split hairs about topics he has very little understanding I see that now too. This whole post is just another one of my bullshit ways of seeking validation (fishing for upvotes for sparking an "insightful discussion") and distracting myself from actual work (retreating back into my hyper-intellectual ego protectionism).
/r/askMRP27/02/20 04:22 PM
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I read this comment about 50 times before realizing it's by far the most helpful. Thanks.
/r/askMRP26/02/20 10:24 PM
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The healthy vs. unhealthy / true vs. false comparison makes sense. I understand the ideas and rationale behind ego-killing a lot better than rational egoism.
/r/askMRP26/02/20 08:25 PM
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You are your own first priority, not because of some superficial self centered ideology, not because you want people to perceive you a certain way, but because you are the greatest gift to the world around you and the people you interact with by being the best version of yourself that you can be, and without tossing aside all the bullshit defense mechanisms and validation seeking behaviors that encompass your “ego” you can never be that person. This helps. Thank you.
/r/askMRP26/02/20 05:23 PM
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every single man here who went through that journey found a similar little boy at the bottom. Lean into him - he is the man you will want to grow and has the most potential. Not the bullshit man you are now. Holy fuck man. What the fuck did you just do. I have to go rethink my life now.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 09:22 PM
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OYS #4 Early 30s, 5'10", 187lbs, 23%bf. Married 10 years, 4 kids. squat 150, bench 150, deadlift 230, ohp 95. Reading WISNIFG and sidebar. Read NMMNG, Meditations, TWOTSM. Ego & Bullshit A few posts this week have brought up the danger of ego. I’m not yet unplugged but I’m dreaming of being Neo in the lobby scene. Looking at my ego has the same effect as looking at my bullshit, it’s another realization that threw me into a tailspin of self-realization. I guess ego protection is what my bullshit …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 02:41 PM
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I can't be a high value man if I'm stuck on mommy's approval.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/20 11:34 PM
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As you lift, sidebar, read, STFU, ... your woman still appears clueless to your changes. I have the opposite problem. My wife has noticed, so she heaps on compliments and approval. This feeds the dancing monkey's hunger for validation. You’ll likely build resentment overtime for her lack of approval which is a step in the process most men go through. This is all part of her masterful plan and beautiful test to get you to your own mental point of origin. I resent her approval. I'm actively pushin…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/20 10:58 PM
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Jesus, how long does it usually take for us faggots to realize we're not a snowflake? I can skip ahead, im not like the other faggots, hold my beer, trust me i am very smart. fucking unbelievable. So, focus on building frame, lift, STFU, internalize NMMNG/WISNIFG, then MMSLP. Save TWOTSM/48LOP for later. I know I've seen this before, off to the side, in a bar somewhere...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/20 01:19 AM
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So it's not that your overall plan was fucked, but the ego issues that showed up once it came time to pull out the ace?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 11:40 PM
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Deep down, my fantasies of living in pain and disappointment and then concluding with a triumph have not been productive. I do this because I do not experience any rejection in my life whatsoever anymore in my relationship and after years of conditioning to live like that… I continue to battle the mental need for it. I’m chasing another dragon. I need to work on just being happy. This entire time searching for a job I could have made a call to my best-friend of 20 years for a VP role that would …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 11:02 PM
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I occupy someone's frame. I'm not sure I have my own. Or maybe I do, but I just started building it like 3 weeks ago, so it's weak and fragile. I've lived 10 years in my wife's frame, so that's definitely the most dominant frame i live out of at this point, and I feel constant subtle pull to return to it. The biggest way I can see this fucking things up is my new frame is not strong enough to support even myself, let alone my wife too, so drawing her into it will collapse it and send me back to …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 06:00 PM
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What kind of frame do you think you're inviting your woman into? How could that fuck everything up (right now)? I have no frame so leading her into it is like leading her (us) off a cliff.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 04:20 PM
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OYS #3 STATS: Early 30s | 5'10" | 187lbs | BF: 23% | Married 10 years | 4 kids LIFTS (5/3/1 AMRAP): SQ 150 x5 | BP 150 x5 | DL 230 x5 | OHP 95 x3 READING: Sidebar | WISNIFG READ: TWOTSM (audio) x1 | NMMNG x1 | Meditations x5+ (ongoing) MISSION: Rebuild my frame as an independent, competent, and attractive man. SEPTIC PUMP Where I dump the overflowing bullshit in my head so I can see clearly enough to get to work. I live nowhere near my edge. I have completely insulated myself with safety and com…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 01:39 PM
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Real successes are self-validating. Fuck, I needed to hear that.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/20 07:14 PM
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Is there a name for the phase in the MRP journey where every link, comment reply, and sentence from a sidebar book drops an A-bomb of holy fucking shit enlightenment?
/r/askMRP13/02/20 04:38 PM
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Mostly, growing up believing that doing what pleases me is not fulfilling and ultimately leads to hell. Also codependence. Edit: Brevity
/r/askMRP13/02/20 04:06 PM
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It’s not about doing something incredibly special or doing nothing at all. True. what do you want to do? Getting in touch with this is exactly the trick. I've blurred the line between my wants and hers so long I actually don't know what the fuck I want. They don't come much more blue-pill than me. Sooo many times I've done something I "want" to do, only to find out post-hoc that I just made myself a tool again. I would rather do nothing than end up there, and I'm fine with that. As my frame grow…
/r/askMRP12/02/20 11:34 PM
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“how can I show my wife that she means something to me without losing sight of myself at the same time?” I'm a clueless fucktard new to MRP so beware of the possibility of flying bullshit. I might be doing this for approval, but I think this might help you, so fuck it, here goes. I dread v-day for the same reasons, that if I don't show some gesture, I will have transgressed some unwritten law of the universe, feeling both a desire and obligation to show appreciation, never sure how to sort it ou…
/r/askMRP12/02/20 10:58 PM
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I don't know why I need to say this.. but it seems to be a prevailing thought with newer people ... Being nice to your wife does not equal being a beta pussy. Speaking for myself, it's not at all obvious how to be nice to my wife without also being a beta pussy. I've literally always done the former because of the latter. My frame is paper-thin. I have only the faintest glimpses of the real man I am behind all the layers of fear and insecurity, and what he really wants. All my motives are suspec…
/r/askMRP12/02/20 09:43 PM
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Just do it because it is fun for you, not to earn her approval. or avoid her scorn.
/r/askMRP12/02/20 09:24 PM
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Your woman is a reflection of you. If you don't like her, look in the mirror. Do the work and build yourself into a man that you can look into the mirror and actually like. Once you like yourself, it's easier to be truly objective as to whether you like her. God damn, I have waited SO long to hear this kind of truth. Thank you. Back to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 07:40 PM
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anger at his wife (which was really anger at himself) ... Your woman is one of your greatest creations. I suggest you take a step back, take stock of what you've created, and see if you're willing to see if you can create something better. ... My gut? It tells me you've got a woman who likes you, is pretty much a halfway decent human being, but has failed being a good woman because you have never given her what she needs - a strong man with frame - to fulfill her largest desire in life to sail w…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 07:35 PM
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FTFY. Look man, you're making excuses that the church has made her this way with indoctrination...do you know how many good church girls get fucked in the ass the moment Chad shows them interest? A lot. Do you know how long I've waited for someone to call me on my bullshit? A LONG fucking time. Thank you. I think your best bet is to work more on not being a faggot and increasing your SMV. Copy. Do you like your wife? No, I don't. She's a whiny, depressed, emotional puddle on the floor most of th…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 05:07 PM
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Onto greater things brother, initiate when you need to have sex. Tone it down a little, don't be desperate for it and initiate like a man. Got it, thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 04:28 PM
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If you want to fuck your woman, initiate and fuck her. She wants that kind of sex too, believe it or not. That's what she is wired for. I don't want a moratorium. I want to fuck her. Hard, in the ass, minimum 3x weekly. We're a looong way off from that. I'm getting better at initiating with confidence. She responds positively, but with the usual predictable yawn starfish sex we've always had. She has her hard-wired sexual desires deeply repressed thanks to the church and my beta bitch unattracti…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 04:27 PM
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OYS #2 Stats: 33M/31F | 5'10" | 187lbs | BF: 23% (Navy method) | Married 10 years | 4 kids Lifts (5/3/1 AMRAP): Squat 135lbs | Bench 135lbs | DL 205lbs | OHP 85lbs Reading: Sidebar | WISNIFG Read: Meditations x5+ | NMMNG x1 BEFORE I BEGIN Earned my askMRP flair with this askMRP post, which opened my eyes to how completely and utterly full of shit I am. May it stand forever as a monument to where I started my journey. Cleanup starts now. Watch out for flying shit. All my stats from OYS #1 are all…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 10:39 AM
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OP, sounds to me you are a validation seeking faggot. Bingo. Not just from her, but from everyone, everywhere, all the time. It's coming out my eyeballs.
/r/askMRP09/02/20 12:50 AM
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as one of the inspirations for this post, Thank you for helping me see a bit more of what a complete dumbass fucktard I am before I did something even more retarded than posting what I did to askmrp. I will now take my cup of STFU back to OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/20 01:12 AM
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This thread showed me how utterly unaware I am of the depth of my bullshit and insecurity. It's shocking and hilarious and sad and motivating at the deepest levels. So yeah, I am having a hard time thinking about anything else, because I want to be different, and I know I will see her in the gym soon, so I want to be 100% clear on how to act. But point taken. I need to give it a rest and focus on sidebar.
/r/askMRP07/02/20 11:50 PM
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I am so completely full of shit I can't see straight. Thanks for calling me on it, all of you, seriously. I feel so much better. For my own edification, the least-bullshit clarification I can come up with: I try my hardest to ignore her at the gym when she's doing her routine in front of me so I can not look like the beta fucktard that I am, because deep down I really can't get enough of her attention-seeking behavior because I'm even more insecure than she is, which is why I want to be at home …
/r/askMRP07/02/20 11:33 PM
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This is the attitude I am shooting for in the gym with HB7. If I knew my ass from a hole in the ground, and I didn't have bullshit coming out my eyeballs, I could have phrased my OP better. HB7 is trying to get my attention at the gym and I don't know what to do about it, because I'm an insecure beta who likes attention from basically any female. I'm a beta rambo fucktard kid with dynamite thinking I can plate her or game her or whatever. Thanks to you all here, I see the answer is NO. Ignore he…
/r/askMRP07/02/20 11:09 PM
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Thanks man. And at the gym, same deal, right? Don't approach her, if she approaches me be polite, "how's it going, have a good one", back to lifting. She is not a prospect, I am not going to game her, STFU lift read repeat.
/r/askMRP07/02/20 10:59 PM
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Even if mods don't give it to me, I know it's there.
/r/askMRP07/02/20 10:54 PM
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Your so beta that you are visualizing your failures Yes
/r/askMRP07/02/20 10:53 PM
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Got it.
/r/askMRP07/02/20 12:28 AM
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God dammit. you're right. I'm so full of shit it's coming out my eyeballs and I can't see straight. I do give a fuck about her. smh
/r/askMRP06/02/20 11:50 PM
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You understand that flirting with other women is dread level 8, right? That explains a lot. Back to the sidebar. As in 8 months from now is when you should be thinking about this, Rambo. This is not an "opportunity." At this point you can only fuck it up. STFU, be polite, let them have their little party. Make yourself scarce. Copy.
/r/askMRP06/02/20 09:56 PM
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This is the answer I was looking for. Thank you.
/r/askMRP06/02/20 09:37 PM
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Is there a way I can use this experience as practice for how to not look like a beta fucktard? I'm fine with looking like a beta fucktard while practicing how not to be. Got it, thank you.
/r/askMRP06/02/20 09:21 PM
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So, say literally nothing the whole time? Nevermind. I won't be there.
/r/askMRP06/02/20 09:20 PM
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You've got a wife at home who I presume you're fucking. Yes. You've got a wife at home who arranged a kids' play date with some woman Yes. who happens to go to the same gym as you. As far as I know my wife doesn't know she goes to the gym. I haven't mentioned it. And you're worried about how some woman will perceive you? Am I understanding this shit? No, you're not. I don't give a fuck about this specific HB7 and what she thinks of me. I care about learning how to change the way I act around wom…
/r/askMRP06/02/20 09:18 PM
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write down a mission based on "I want," and start simply acting in your own best interest I have long, long way to go. A lifetime in the church taught me that pursuing self-interest is evil, and the pinnacle of manliness is complete and utter self-sacrifice to everyone else, and to all but ignore my wants and needs. For me, it even helps to use the words "I want" frequently when asking for stuff. It's fucking incredible how hard that is for me. I keep filtering and editing what comes out, almost…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 04:14 PM
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OYS #1 Stats: 33M | 5'11" | 188lbs | BF%: 18% | Married 10 years | 4 kids Lifts: Squat 180lbs | Bench 175lbs | DL 265lbs | OHP 110lbs Reading: MRP sidebar posts | NMMNG Background Lifelong faggot. Constantly blaming, always looking for an excuse. Expecting others to give me validation and identity, confused and angry when they don't. Found TRP/MRP mid-2019, went rambo, got my ass ripped apart, ran away in shame. Coming back to face my shit and make something of myself. My Shit I am a whiny, self…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 08:23 PM
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