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| 1 | Does waiting for sex make men actually respect you more?Men want easy sex but not an easy wife. So if you are easy men will put you in the category of someone to use for sex and not someone to commit to. This is biological because women are the ones who get pregnant and men are the ones who provide and men don’t want to be cuckholded. Having a promiscuous wife means you could end up paying to raise someone else’s child. Also the more sexual partners a woman has, the less strongly she’s able to bond with the next partner so choosing a wife with many p… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/10/21 01:33 AM |
| 1 | I cannot overcome my subconscious misogyny.Work on building up your self esteem by becoming good at something, learning useful skills, and whatever else you need to do to feel confident. It sounds like you are a) scared of being judged or manipulated by women and b) resentful of not being desired by women even though you desire them, so being around them brings out your insecurities and frustrations. I honestly think when you feel better about yourself, your negative feelings towards women will dissipate at least to some extent. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/10/21 10:17 PM |
| 1 | I hate societal pressure to work a regular job as a woman.Having my own family is just so important that I can’t care about any job. I really relate to this. I just want to have kids right now so it bugs me when the people around me want me to focus on a career. I want to have 4 kids as well. But I’m 26 and single and worried about finding the right guy. It seems rare to find traditional men in my city. It’s sad that modern culture discourages us from doing what we were designed to do as women and tells us to waste our prime childbearing years. And yes… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/06/21 03:27 AM |
| 1 | Baby in bed, no intimacyYour doctors are telling you what you want to hear to keep you paying them. It's an undisputed fact that breast is best. Anyways I'm not trying to attack you I just hope you reconsider for the sake of your child. | /r/RedPillWives | 09/09/20 02:57 AM |
| 2 | Baby in bed, no intimacyYou should look into all the benefits of breastfeeding. Saying you don't care about it is like saying you don't care about your child. Seems pretty selfish. It would sad if your child got leukemia or had a lower iq than they could've had because his mother cared more about superficial things rather than the health of her child. | /r/RedPillWives | 09/09/20 12:52 AM |
| 2 | advice appreciated ❤️It sounds like he is relying on you to make the decisions for him and you also feel like this is your responsibility. However, the reality is he is a grown man who agreed to move to that city with you of his own accord. There's no need for you to feel guilty. Next time he complains about missing home, direct the conversation to what solutions he can think of. Maybe both of you can go back for a visit, maybe you can even transfer to a college closer to his hometown. Also what is going to happen l… | /r/RedPillWives | 02/04/20 10:22 PM |
| 8 | Badly need HELP: How do I keep him interested and convert from non-serious to serious?What you need is therapy. You've been dating a middle aged married man since you were 16 for over a decade and now you've moved on to being obsessed with this guy. It sounds like you have daddy issues and seek out unavailable older men. Look into your attachment style and heal from your childhood. You need to work on yourself before trying to date. Your thought process and approach towards dating/ relationships seems unhealthy. I do my best to be as feminine as I can be. Chasing men is not femin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/20 10:46 PM |
| 1 | Uncomfortable situationIf I were you I would want my SO to protect me from things like this. No need for him to get in a fight but he could've firmly changed the discussion topic or gave an excuse to leave and led you out of there. It sounds like he was just as uncomfortable as you and didn't know how to handle the situation. At the end of the day he's your boyfriend so it's up to you how feel about that. Something to consider is, was it just a one time thing or does it reflect his overall personality? Like is he gene… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 09:50 AM |
| 12 | Femininity shouldn’t mean materialisticExactly, thank you. Like, I can eat ramen for dinner everyday and live in a dingy apartment with no furniture but I wouldn't want that kind of life for my children. If you want your kids to live in a safe neighborhood, and eat healthy food, afford college if they want to go, etc. then you will need money. Money doesn't just mean designer bags, it means being able to afford opportunities and a high quality of life. Wanting to marry a man with money is natural for women because it stems from our m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Do you care about the intelligence of your partners?Well to be fair, if they're smarter than you, their discussion would be over your head because it's too complex for you to understand so of course you would find it boring. Highly intelligent people tend to find talking to people of lower intelligence just as annoying and boring. Overall, it's best for people to date within the same IQ range. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/19 06:09 AM |
| 4 | Stop judging other womenSorry but this doesn't make much sense. There are a lot of logical fallacies throughout this post but I won't go through them. Disagreeing with what someone does or how they live their life doesn't mean that you're secretly insecure or jealous, sometimes you just disagree. You have to constantly make judgements about the world and people in order to literally think. It's natural that a sub encouraging committed relationships is going to discourage promiscuity. "Stop being unnecessarily harsh" or… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/19 10:57 PM |
| 2 | Do short girls have higher SMV?Generally, men don't tend to care as much about height as women do. Unless the women is extremely tall or extremely short, it probably doesn't affect smv at all. However, because women generally date men who are taller than them, shorter women statistically have more options than taller women. It could also affect the kind of vibe you give off for example: cute and dainty vs. striking and majestic, and you might attract different kinds of men because of that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 03:44 AM |
| 13 | Is a man who approaches by being sexual worth pursuing?Why are you so scared to lose the interest of some sleazy guy you barely know? The language you use sounds very desperate (pursue him, persuade him). Let men pursue you. If you have to chase or persuade a man, he doesn’t want you. This guy is now giving you ultimatums because he sees how desperate you are. He wants casual sex, you want a serious relationship, move on. Raise your self esteem and your SMV if you think this is the best you can do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/19 05:23 PM |
| 2 | [23/F] I think my boyfriend (19/m) might be cheating, but am i just jumping to conclusions?My original comment was not referring to his "goodness" as a person (way too nebulous a concept). I was saying based on what she already knows, he sounds objectively ill-suited to a committed, monogamous relationship with anyone. No red-pill minded woman should date a man who is flirting with and feeling up her mom. I judge character traits and it works for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/19 06:57 PM |
| 6 | [23/F] I think my boyfriend (19/m) might be cheating, but am i just jumping to conclusions?Not trustworthy to her. Yes, it’s just her opinion but it matters. If she claims he is generally a “horndog” and thinks he’s capable of doing something as egregious as she suspects, then this is not a guy she should be dating. She neither trusts nor respects him and the relationship is going south regardless of whether he’s actually doing what she thinks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/19 07:16 AM |
| 3 | [23/F] I think my boyfriend (19/m) might be cheating, but am i just jumping to conclusions?Aw, well, you're still young, give yourself some more time. Work on improving yourself and try online dating, you're guaranteed to match with some people. You don't want to settle with the wrong person out of desperation. Good luck. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 11:01 PM |
| 23 | [23/F] I think my boyfriend (19/m) might be cheating, but am i just jumping to conclusions?It sounds like he's definitely attracted to her, can't say for for sure if they're having sex though. What's more important is the overall fact that he's not trustworthy and you have a low opinion of him. Red pill women is about seeking commitment from men and striving towards marriage. Your boyfriend doesn't seem interested in that (most 19 year olds aren't) so this relationship is most likely a waste of your time. Try to date men who are your age and up and look for signs of good character. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 02:12 PM |
| 14 | long lasting nail careTbh men definitely notice and compliment my nails when I have them done. It’s not a huge deal, probably not a make or break factor when dating, but it plays into your overall look. Little details like healthy, well-groomed nails can make your hands look more feminine and, more importantly, show that you put effort into taking care of yourself. I do mine myself so it costs me nothing. We can certainly work on both our inner and outer beauty at the same time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/19 11:34 PM |
| 13 | Why do women, including myself, enjoy being feminine?Because femininity is the inherent nature of women. Femininity helps women achieve the things we most want in life: to look beautiful, attract the best possible mate, be a good mother, have fulfilling relationships etc. Your behaviour is now in accordance with your female physical form so it feels intuitively right. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/19 11:12 PM |
| 3 | Music/artists that make you feel all ~feminine~?Yes! I often listen to Sabrina Claudio while I’m showering or getting ready for bed. Makes me feel so calm and feminine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/19 05:30 AM |
| 3 | The give and give, not give and takeYou're not married and you don't have any kids with this man, he has an alcohol addiction, and you've dated him for five years without it going anywhere. I think you need to move on and stop wasting your time. If all he does is take from you, there's literally no reason to stay. He's dealing with substance abuse so he can't even give to himself much less to you. This relationship is toxic and you sound very emotionally attached so you may not be able to see it right now but one day in the future… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/19 05:29 PM |
| 3 | How can I make myself look more feminine?This girl (AlexandrasGirlyTalk) has dark features and shows how she lightens her eyebrows. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_lPKK71ie8U She says it gives her face a softer look. You could try that. Feminine looking hair is usually healthy and long, it doesn't have to be light. Dying your hair will damage it and probably look unnatural with your phenotype. Try finding out your Kibbe type. That will give you recommendations on how to dress and do your makeup in a way that will bring out your specif… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/19 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with a sleepy (or dead) bedroom RPW styleCan you explain what you mean by this? there is usually an underlying component of faulty C/FM dynamics that for some men can kill desire | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/19 03:05 PM |
| 2 | Update: Marriage / Engagement Discussion TimelineHonestly it sounds to me like he's stringing you along. Is he aware of the Red Pill or MGTOW communities? Maybe he is one of the many men who believe that marriage is too much of a risk these days and that's why he's reluctant about the whole thing. It's tough because since you live with him and share finances, you're already doing everything that a wife would do with a husband so he really has nothing to gain by marrying you and everything to lose. If he talks about children but avoids the topi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/19 11:25 PM |
| 6 | Are the brains of males and females different?This is a good article laying out the gender differences between girls and boys. Also studies show that even if you give monkeys the choice between playing with a plush toy (stuffed animal/ doll) or wheeled toy (car, train etc), they show the same gender-based preferences that humans show. This indicates that the differences are likely inherent in primates' brains and not a human social construction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/18 11:04 AM |
| 3 | What do men think about women who are unemployed or SEEMINGLY lack "career ambition"? (but instead focus on learning, life experiences and relationships)It’s notoriously hard to find employment with a sociology degree. If you’re going to back to university you should probably do it sooner than later. I’m kind of confused because on one hand you say you’re happy and fulfilled and don’t need a job, then on the other hand you say you feel stuck in a rut and have low self esteem about it. First step is to be honest. Seems like you’re telling yourself you don’t actually want a job to feel better about the whole thing. Also kind of high horse-y to loo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/18 02:29 AM |
| 3 | ConfusionHence why I said: “Dating a younger man can only work if that man is mature and knows what he wants.” We seem to be agreeing on that. The fact of the matter is older men generally tend to be more mature and sure of their goals then younger men. The early twenties are a time of self discovery for many people. Some people have it all figured out by that age and that’s great too but many don’t. This guy (like most young men) isn’t ready to settle down at 22 but in later years he might be. The OP ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/18 09:37 PM |
| 8 | ConfusionHe's too young. The problems you're dealing with come from him being fickle and immature because of his age. Dating a younger man can only work if that man is mature and knows what he wants. I suggest you find someone who's on the same page as you in terms of mindset and goals. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/18 05:06 PM |
| 22 | How do I let go of my pride? ( Being afraid of looking like an idiot).I think your fear of looking like an idiot is warranted. He basically openly told you he is going to cheat on you. He sounds quite manipulative too. Being in a relationship with him would make you anxious and insecure. You seem to already be developing an inferiority complex from being around him. Alpha male or not, have some self-respect and move on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/18 04:42 PM |
| 9 | How To Overcome These Hurdles In My Marriage (NSFW)I agree with the comment that says he is most likely gay. Has he ever complained about knee or hip pain before this? That sounds kind of bogus because it's simple enough to just switch positions to one where he doesn't have to move very much. Honestly most heterosexual men would probably take a little pain to go through with it anyways. He can do oral sex but when it comes to vaginal sex he tries to avoid it and has never orgasmed from it? Complaining the entire time he's having sex with you? An… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/18 07:22 AM |
| 2 | Is it too late to repair what I've done?That's great! I'm so glad my comment could help you. It was a huge breakthrough for me as well when I first found out about attachment styles. It is possible to get to a secure attachment although it does take some time and a secure partner. I wish you the best with it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/18 05:49 PM |
| 7 | I’d like to clarify my understanding of women being at a disadvantageA high status man may be capable of getting casual sex from women but what kind of women? Probably not the wife material variety. The women that men have casual sex with are typically not the same type of women they want to marry. There are benefits of marriage for a man like being able to lock down a high quality woman in her prime, gain her devotion and have her bear children exclusively for him. Yes, it's true that men love sex but contrary to stereotypes I don't think most men ideally want t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/18 05:01 AM |
| 4 | Is it too late to repair what I've done?When the relationship started out you were in the honeymoon phase but it's normal for that to end at some point. The talk of marriage and love happened a few months in and those words might not hold true anymore. You were probably somewhat idealizing each other because you didn't know each other that well yet. It doesn't sound like you did anything particularly horrible to ruin the relationship. It may just be that after dating for a while he came to the conclusion that you two are not as compat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/18 06:04 AM |
| 5 | Dating a mgtow!For women, the goal of a red pill sexual strategy is to gain commitment from men, with marriage being the highest form of commitment. In that case it seems quite incompatible with the mgtow mindset. If he is truly mgtow he will never marry you, fully trust you, or put himself in a state of interdependence with you. You will have to decide if you can have a healthy relationship with a man like that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/18 06:26 AM |
| 10 | FAQ: What makes a man a Captain?Independence, leadership, intelligence, strength of character, responsibility. Ability and desire to protect and provide for you. Someone who you can respect. Someone who you would trust to lead you and make decisions on behalf of you and your future children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/18 04:18 PM |
| 2 | I love him but...Yes, well said. "He's so nice" is the other one that also makes me cringe. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/18 11:51 PM |
| 4 | I think I have steadily losing attraction to my SOI’ve seen a lot of relationships fail because the woman didn’t vet properly, ignored red flags and tried to force a relationship with someone she just wasn’t compatible with. You are young. It’s definitely not too late but if you wait until you are married and have kids with this person it will be. If this has been going on for two years it’s probably not going to change. Your lack of attraction is a visceral way of your body telling you this is not the man for you even if intellectually your mi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/18 09:36 AM |
| 17 | Modern women choosing traditional masculinityInteresting observation. As an educated woman I have been considering doing this myself for a while. It’s hard to find truly masculine men on my university campus. In general, most of the educated, modern men of today do not have Alpha qualities. I may need to delve into a different pool of prospective mates. The “rough and tumble” practical type of guy who is good with his hands has always been very attractive to me. Also manual labour and a high salary are not always mutually exclusive, especi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/18 08:43 PM |
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