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| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceThanks for the response, appreciate it. And yeah, I hadn't thought about it that way, but if it's on it's going to be on whether it's a 1 mile walk back to your place, or a 20 minute drive. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 08:20 PM |
| 1 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceDo you live in a city, or is your place close to a lot of stuff to do? I live in Denver Metro way on the south side of town and since it's so big and sprawled out I always found it extremely challenging to find a place that is 1) convenient for both of us 2) has enough fun stuff to do to hit multiple locations and 3) close enough to either of our places to make it a viable place to go at the end of the night Any thoughts? | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 04:46 PM |
| 2 | I'm 30, average looking, a bit overweight but manage to do very well with Tinder - figured I'd share what I do for a point of referenceAny thoughts on low-effort responses, or how to respond? I'm debating if it's even worth it. For example I sent a message to a girl and made a funny observation about something in her profile (in this case it's OKC, but I feel like it's all the same), referenced something related from my own life and she responded with... "Hmmm" I've been out of the dating game for a bit and just getting back in after a long relationship that ended and I'm kind of rusty, so part of me is like "low effort respons… | /r/seduction | 18/09/17 07:46 PM |
| 1 | I've lost my desire to game anymore....What else are you doing? From your post it sounds like all you're doing is 'gaming', drinking and smoking, and (presumably) going to work. Are you going to the gym/lifting/running/exercise of some kind? Are you meditating and practicing mindfulness? Are you learning to cook? Are you trying new things that interest or excite you? Are you being social and hanging out with friends (other than just drinking and smoking)? Confidence, to me, is knowing who I am, what I want, doing things I want to do,… | /r/seduction | 13/02/15 05:32 PM |
| 1 | Why do you do it?Well the obvious answer is because it's innate. Humans are animals just like any other, our time on this planet is short, we are biologically wired to want to procreate. If I really think about it, my answer is because it creates a stronger connection. It's the same reason I hug my friends, why I touch a girls leg or put my hand on her lower back or kiss her. Being physical releases oxytocin which helps develop trust and empathy (see: The Moral Molecule). If I meet a girl I really like and want … | /r/seduction | 18/03/14 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Text game: Smiley faces?Do you use emoticons and smilies when you text with you friends? Do you like to use them? There is no right or wrong answer here, it is entirely up to you. I use them a lot, I think it suits my personality, and helps me to convey tone and intent via text. Sometimes I'll try to keep it to a minimum, but it feels disingenuous. Do whatever is genuine to YOU. | /r/seduction | 14/03/14 05:01 PM |
| 3 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/11/14bl1y's question is very pertinent, but I'm going to bet you need to be more physically aggressive on these dates. I had 6 first dates in a matter of a couple weeks not too long ago, text rapport going in was good, they seemed into me, we seemed to get along and have attraction, but I was having a really low (almost zero) response rate after that first date. Most recent date I kissed her part way into the date (did not wait until the end), held her hand, and other physical stuff, and I saw her ag… | /r/seduction | 12/03/14 07:44 PM |
| 3 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/11/14Calling her is a great idea! And you're right, I can't remember the last time I called instead of texted. If she doesn't answer would you leave a message, or just send a text? | /r/seduction | 12/03/14 06:12 PM |
| 3 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/11/14This is what I was thinking. Related: I haven't had sex in a while, and my overall experience is limited, as a result I have misgivings about my performance. Tips, thoughts? I do feel pretty confident in my foreplay skills... almost no experience with oral though. | /r/seduction | 12/03/14 05:06 AM |
| 4 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 3/11/14I just started seeing a girl and we hung out twice in two days. I've been screening pretty heavily on first dates, and this is the first girl I've really wanted to continue to see, but as a result I'm not really sure how to proceed. There's good rapport, attraction, we've kissed and made out a little, I met her (gay) roommate and best friend and he seems to like me, and all that jazz. I just don't want to come off as clingy or needy (this has been a problem with pre-Seddit relationships). Any gu… | /r/seduction | 11/03/14 09:34 PM |
| 2 | First time having unattached sex...Can you provide support for (1)? I've been thinking about giving it a real try and would really like to hear the other side (not in favor). | /r/seduction | 03/03/14 08:42 PM |
| 6 | How would you guys feel about a seduction Practice book that gave you fairly short segments of material to study, then a structured weekly practice routine to make sure you learn it?Wouldn't that just be Rules of the Game by Neil Strauss? | /r/seduction | 11/02/14 09:04 PM |
| 3 | First dates on V-Dayhaha, I was about to post this same question as this just happened to me, but I feel like I've already figured it out. Just do something that you would do on any other night. Do not go out to dinner, that's going to be a mess with all the couples out and about. Bars are probably going to be pretty empty, so that may be a good call. I do improv so I like seeing shows and found out there's a special Valentine's day show on Friday that I'm considering taking my date to (after drinks) - this wouldn'… | /r/seduction | 10/02/14 06:18 PM |
| 1 | What's the deal with Craig's ListNoted. | /r/seduction | 02/02/14 12:20 AM |
| 2 | You finally meet someone you actually really like, and catch yourself starting to backslide to your old habits - what do you do?Thank you for this, it is exactly what I needed to hear. Over the last few hours I was slowly coming to this myself, it was like I had just completely lost my head for a little while there. I am doing great without her, and will continue to be great. Relationships/women are not the whole cake, they're the icing. p.s. to everyone - before freaking out or making a decision you're uncertain about, or anything relating to anxiety: WORK OUT. Hard. Get all that energy out, you'll be clearheaded again … | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 01:15 AM |
| 1 | You finally meet someone you actually really like, and catch yourself starting to backslide to your old habits - what do you do?Yea, I know what you mean. I'd forgotten about that part of the book, and I remember that being the part that turned me from thinking "Game" was for sleezeballs to how it can be actionably applied in one's life as a good person. | /r/seduction | 26/06/13 01:09 AM |
| 2 | You finally meet someone you actually really like, and catch yourself starting to backslide to your old habits - what do you do?Thank you. I needed that. I haven't had oneitis since college... I forgot how much it sucks. | /r/seduction | 25/06/13 09:18 PM |
| 1 | You finally meet someone you actually really like, and catch yourself starting to backslide to your old habits - what do you do?That is extremely insightful. I don't want to say that any girls are 'better' than any other, but is there an inherent flaw in the belief that a particular girl is 'better for you' than any other? When I say 'actually really like' I mean a girl who hits all your mandatory checkboxes and many of the 'nice but not required' boxes too. Compare this to girls who are nice, and you have fun talking to them, or going out, or whatever, but at the end of the day you just know they're not what you're look… | /r/seduction | 25/06/13 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, lets compile a list of simple exercises that improve your game (and more)I've been meaning to start doing MWOD. What do you suggest to start? Just go to video 1 and keep going? | /r/seduction | 14/06/13 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, lets compile a list of simple exercises that improve your game (and more)I'm in agreement with you, friend. This guy must still be new to the program. | /r/seduction | 07/06/13 06:13 PM |
| 9 | Seddit, lets compile a list of simple exercises that improve your game (and more)Learning to pick up girls may have been why I originally got involved, but it's not what's been important to me for a long time now. Sure, I talk to girls more now, go on dates, stuff I was too chicken-shit to do before, but that's not the point. The point is I'm happy with myself and my life. I'm confident. I work out because I want to work out, because it makes me feel good, healthy, I LIKE IT, and my clothes fit better. I eat well because it fuels all the activities I want to do. I am more my… | /r/seduction | 07/06/13 02:54 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, lets compile a list of simple exercises that improve your game (and more)You obviously miss the true point of Seddit. | /r/seduction | 07/06/13 02:02 PM |
| 163 | Seddit, lets compile a list of simple exercises that improve your game (and more)Here are some exercises from The Charisma Myth, one of the best non-seduction books on seduction I have ever read: Presence Set a timer for one minute. Close your eyes and try to focus on ONE of the following three things: the sounds around you, your breathing, or the sensations in your toes. Responsibility Transfer Sit comfortably or lie down, relax, and close your eyes. Take two or three deep breaths. As you inhale, imagine drawing clean air toward the top of your head. As you exhale, let that… | /r/seduction | 06/06/13 08:18 PM |
| 12 | After the opener, some of us freeze up and don't know what to do. What are some great transitions?Read this: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ovaar/since_seductionreview_went_down_i_thought_id/ This might help too: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/wz2nf/conversational_threading_never_run_out_of_things/ | /r/seduction | 29/03/13 05:32 PM |
| 14 | If you could sum up everything you have learned here in one sentence what would it be?Don't let anyone else dictate how you feel about yourself. | /r/seduction | 08/03/13 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?I would really like to know more about neurofeedback - I'm assuming you have to go somewhere to do this. Have you found it to be effective? Is it expensive? Time consuming? I just read a little about this online and it sounds like it could be very useful for me - I was diagnosed with adult ADHD in college and find it still poses challenges as I am working on grad school. Also how did you get started in mentalism? I've been trying to find (albeit not with a lot of effort) to learn more about prac… | /r/seduction | 08/11/12 02:18 PM |
| 1 | "Your thoughts are not you" OR "Stop listening to your scumbag brain"Thanks. Now if only I was a little better at following my own advice, lol. | /r/seduction | 08/11/12 02:15 PM |
| 3 | How and what are the steps to improve my life?You make a great point, but I feel it goes even further than faking a persona. By acting like a 'nice guy' a man establishes a relationship with a woman in which he essentially becomes a 'girlfriend' (for lack of a better term). She thinks "this guy is so nice and a really good friend, I can tell him anything and we help each other with problems, etc. etc. etc." All this time he's secretly in love with her and wants it to be more than a friendship, but he keeps acting the nice guy and reinforcin… | /r/seduction | 08/11/12 12:54 AM |
| 15 | How and what are the steps to improve my life?Well your title and post are asking two separate questions, so I'm going to address the title: Eat better/healthier Quit smoking (if you smoke) Start exercising - running, lifting, and yoga are a good place to start, climbing is good too. Get some hobbies (video games and movies/tv at home don't count) - http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/10g9t5/seddit_what_hobbies_and_activities_do_you/ Make some new friends (you can be whoever you want with new people, so be the person you want to beco… | /r/seduction | 07/11/12 03:00 PM |
| 8 | Text/phone game: Airplane mode is your friendI've been experimenting a bit with scheduled texts and kind of like it. It has some of the benefits of responding immediately (not dwelling too long on what you write before you do it), but also let's you maintain a time frame. However, it does mean that you are gaming instead of being genuine, but I guess most of the strategies we employ from turning your phone off, going to airplane mode, or just having some self control and waiting a while are just dumb games anyway. Really you should just ke… | /r/seduction | 05/11/12 05:44 PM |
| 2 | Text/phone game: Airplane mode is your friendWhy put it in airplane mode over just shutting your phone off? In airplane mode you won't get emails, be able to access the internet, or have access to any other data services, and if they try to call you it will go straight to voicemail either way. If there's some benefit I'm not thinking of please let me know, but in that mode you may still check your phone out of habit (and to get that dopamine hit just from turning the screen on), but if you turn your phone off every time you check out of ha… | /r/seduction | 05/11/12 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Louie CK Demonstrates How NOT to Ask Someone OutEvery time I see an example of someone doing a really good job, or a really bad job, at game I always try to remember those examples. Watching Episode 4 of Season 3 of Louie I saw a cringe worthy example of how to NOT ask someone out. Whenever I see something like this I flash back to times when I'm sure I was almost as bad. Seeing this kind of stuff helps me to stop myself whenever I start exhibiting my own "chode-like" behavior. The key takeaway from this: You are awesome! Don't dwell on your … | /r/seduction | 25/10/12 01:13 AM |
| 2 | Do YogaIndeed. | /r/seduction | 22/10/12 02:35 PM |
| 3 | Help me with something that bothers me Inner Game wise.How long have you been practicing? It sounds to me like you're still just a beginner (like most of us) and learning the ropes. It takes time. It probably took you a while to get to where you're not afraid to do anything, and now it will take a while before you figure out how to really be confident in yourself and your abilities, figure out who you are, what works for you, and even what kind of girls you like. In the beginning it's about talking to everyone, then it's about talking to all girls, … | /r/seduction | 19/10/12 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Why every Sedditor needs a "PUA vacation" in SE Asia.I'm way behind on this post, but do you have any tips for planning such a vacation? I have a sabbatical coming up next year (month paid vacation with option to use saved vacation to extend up to 6 weeks) and Thailand was actually where I was thinking of going. But I'm feeling anxious. I don't know how to plan a vacation, let alone to somewhere on the other side of the world. I've never taken a real vacation as an adult, and I want to have the best time possible. Any guidance you could provide wo… | /r/seduction | 19/10/12 09:10 PM |
| 1 | [Outer Game] - Does anyone use tricks, games, or puzzles? How well does it work? Let's hear some stories!Human smokestack/chimney Human Jack-O-Lantern Human Blockhead | /r/seduction | 19/10/12 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?I still work at the same company, actually. Now I do internal mutual fund support - if anyone in the company has questions about or issues trading mutual funds I am who they call. Even thought I hated the call center job, I would have never learned enough or had enough experience to do what I do now. I also doubt my game would be where it is today (not that good, but much, much better than it was) if I was still stuck in my old position. | /r/seduction | 19/10/12 02:22 AM |
| 4 | Above The Game Part 1: Primer On Who You Will BecomeFantastic as always! Just curious if you have an anticipated time frame on the rest of this? Are we talking a post a day, or should we expect a larger gap as we get into the more complex topics? | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 09:29 PM |
| 6 | My biggest problem is actually going out.... I don't know how to? (if that makes any sense)Says you, and what do you know? You're not them. It's all in your head. Work on your inner game and stop worrying about what they think so much. | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 09:23 PM |
| 1 | [FR,MV] Enjoy Your Minor Victories!Victories can come in all shapes and sizes, I'm just interested in establishing some terminology for a very specific type of success. | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Should I always wait for a girl to text me unless I'm trying to make plans?I'm just trying to keep the attraction going. She kissed you, it's unlikely she's not attracted to you. I feel since we kissed though going a day without talking would send a bad sign to her. What? Why? It's one day. You're not in a relationship, there should be no expectation of daily contact. You're a busy dude who has his shit together and is calm, cool, and collected - you shouldn't even be thinking about this. | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Should I always wait for a girl to text me unless I'm trying to make plans?To try to clarify your point (and correct me if I'm wrong here): If you want to tell her you had fun last night - go ahead and text her and tell her you had fun last night. If you're asking if you should start asking her what she's eating for breakfast or something - don't. If you just want to chat about life, the universe, and everything - call her, or save it for the next date. Personally I'd save it for the next date. If you want to set up another date - SET UP ANOTHER DATE! | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 09:13 PM |
| 2 | My biggest problem is actually going out.... I don't know how to? (if that makes any sense)Who cares how old they look? Go to the bar. First girl you see who you think is attractive or looks interesting, go talk to her. Wash, repeat. You can't get better at this if you don't practice. | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 09:05 PM |
| 2 | My biggest problem is actually going out.... I don't know how to? (if that makes any sense)Quit with the negative self-talk, dude. You're getting some great advice, but if you're just going to make excuses and disagree you will NEVER make any progress. | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 09:03 PM |
| 2 | [FR,MV] Enjoy Your Minor Victories!I think baby steps are forcing yourself out of your comfort zone. They're usually something you have to think about and make yourself do. It might be making small talk with someone in line, maintaining eye contact with a stranger, or just saying "Hi" to a cute girl as she walks past. These are things you maybe don't want to do, don't feel comfortable doing, and think are going to backfire. This is a very, very important step, but baby steps are about making progress to expand your view and help … | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 08:54 PM |
| 1 | [FR]Speed DatingAwesome FR! I've always been curious about speed dating, and after reading this I'm going to look for one and give it a shot! I would definitely like to see some follow up once you hear back. Since you tried different things with different women I'm very interested to hear about what worked and what didn't - granted what didn't work for one lady might have really appealed to another, I am really looking forward to hearing more. | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 06:07 PM |
| 3 | Remember, 80% of game is innergame.And 15% is just going for it. | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 05:50 PM |
| 2 | Above The Game: Intro & My Story (Preview of My Upcoming Seduction Guide)I am very much looking forward to this! TofuTofu gives some of the best, most concise, clear, useful, practical advice I have ever had the pleasure of reading. | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 05:40 PM |
| 6 | Magic TricksI was the OP of that previous thread and after our discussion can't agree with puaCurveBall more. Since we talked about it I tried it out a little bit and here are some conclusions: Tricks can be good for opening sets of guys, or if you aren't interested in any of the girls in the set. It will help you establish social proof. Drunk people love tricks, their minds are blown. Puzzles are good for friends, or to create a distraction. I had some friends working a coin puzzle for a solid hour. I'm su… | /r/seduction | 18/10/12 04:46 PM |
| 2 | Paying for dinner. Yea or Nay?I love the idea of cheap shows, but don't you run into the same limitations as going to the movies? Sure you may be able to kino more, but you can't talk during a show. I guess if it's a venue change... maybe grab drinks, go to a show, then something else after that. Actually that sounds like a pretty awesome night. | /r/seduction | 17/10/12 11:39 PM |
| 2 | [xMODx] 85,000 subscribers! Announcing new Seddit feature: Bi-weekly "Simple Question Threads"Awesome, I'm looking forward to it! | /r/seduction | 17/10/12 04:16 PM |
| 2 | I was watching Tyler's Noobie video and realized the biggest thing I need is to become "in the moment". How do I train myself to be in the moment by default?Meditation! Sit for 20 minutes and just be aware of the present. When you notice a thought, acknowledge it, and let it go. Don't focus on it, just be aware of it. I'm reading a great book called The Charisma Myth by Olivia Fox Cabane, that suggests when you notice that you are not in the present moment to focus on one of the following three things: the sounds around you, your breathing, or the sensations in your toes. The very next time you're in a conversation, try to regularly check whether yo… | /r/seduction | 17/10/12 04:14 PM |
| 1 | good opener from last night (field tested)http://www.iwaha.com/ebook/blbook/index22.gif | /r/seduction | 16/10/12 08:17 PM |
| 1 | good opener from last night (field tested)http://www.iwaha.com/ebook/blbook/index22.gif | /r/seduction | 16/10/12 08:16 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, do girls really want your $0.02 for an interesting conversation, or do they just like to be heard?What exactly are you asking? I feel like you're comparing apples to oranges. If you're talking to a girl and she's saying how her boss, or a co-worker, or some friend, or her parents, did something that frustrated her, or how they didn't understand, then nod, be sympathetic, make the occasional comment, but don't try to fix it - essentially keep your mouth shut. Things like "How did that make you feel?" or "Really? That's unbelievable!" are fine. Maybe even "I wonder if they meant it like this..… | /r/seduction | 16/10/12 08:05 PM |
| 1 | [Inner Game] How do I get out of my head and stay in the moment? Any tips to help you stay on the right track?Oh, good point, I didn't think of it that way. And you are right, there have been plenty of times when I didn't feel like going out early, but once I got dressed, maybe had a drink, and left my house not only did my motivation return, but I would wind up having a pretty good night. Even if you tell yourself you can leave in an hour, you're still getting out there which helps change your mindset. Until you know the difference between "I'm reverting back to my reclusive state" and "I'm really wipe… | /r/seduction | 12/10/12 11:05 PM |
| 2 | Texting PrimerWhat sort of things do you send for something like this? I'm assuming you wouldn't want to go straight for the "I'm doing this, you should come" so is this basically like an opening at a bar? Maybe a "I need to buy my sister a present, any ideas?" or "Did you know that (some random thing you found out that day that you thought was interesting)!" Are these the kinds of questions and non-sequitors you are talking about? | /r/seduction | 12/10/12 09:33 PM |
| 6 | Texting PrimerI'd like to hear more about zombie game. Does this actually ever work? What's the point? I always look at someone who didn't get back in touch, or flaked, or whatever, as someone who wasn't worth my time anyway. | /r/seduction | 12/10/12 08:40 PM |
| 2 | [Inner Game] How do I get out of my head and stay in the moment? Any tips to help you stay on the right track?Ding ding! When I'm not feeling "on" I just don't worry about it. I do what I want and take opportunities if they present themselves, but don't try to force myself to do things I don't feel like. Maybe this is just me, I'm sure some people would say "just keep doing it!" but if I'm not feeling it and try to hit the bars to talk to women I'm going to fall flat and it might hurt my confidence or whatever - it'd be like taking one step forward and 2 steps back IMO. I take these times (I'm in one ri… | /r/seduction | 12/10/12 08:29 PM |
| 1 | [Outer Game] - Does anyone use tricks, games, or puzzles? How well does it work? Let's hear some stories!Ok, now I'm on the same page with you, this makes a lot of sense. I was looking at it from a completely different perspective. I'm rather disappointed! I was hoping rekindling my hobby would be a great ice breaker! What about using them as a way to establish social proof? Approach a mixed set that you aren't particularly interested in, do something quick, talk to them and engage briefly, maybe get a free drink, then break off. If you're opening a ton of different sets maybe only do something lik… | /r/seduction | 11/10/12 07:03 PM |
| 1 | [Outer Game] - Does anyone use tricks, games, or puzzles? How well does it work? Let's hear some stories!Eh that was probably a bad example, I was just trying to think of things that create their own audience. When I think of 'opening' with a trick, I don't think of it the same way as actually opening a set. I guess I think of it more like "hey, one more cool thing about me is I know some tricks. Here's a weird one!" and starting with something pretty attention grabbing to bring them into your reality where tricks are ok. Does that make sense? I haven't tried anything in the field yet so I may be t… | /r/seduction | 11/10/12 05:06 PM |
| 2 | [Outer Game] - Does anyone use tricks, games, or puzzles? How well does it work? Let's hear some stories!Thanks for the response, I'm sure you have a unique perspective as a professional magician. I haven't tried doing any of these anywhere yet, and I feel fairly comfortable with regular 'game', but maybe you can help me better understand your perspective or explain where my thinking is off. So basically if I want to go have a fun night and do tricks to try to get free drinks go for it, but if the objective of using them is to try to pick up girls it's better to put it on the back burner? I want to… | /r/seduction | 11/10/12 05:03 PM |
| 1 | [Outer Game] - Does anyone use tricks, games, or puzzles? How well does it work? Let's hear some stories!What you are saying is one of my concerns, but I really feel like how you approach it, how you handle it, and your attitude could make a big difference here. I love tricks and puzzles for the sake of seeing something fun or cool, and if your whole gag isn't doing these things, but just a way to add value and make everyone else have a better night out they could be beneficial. I don't really have much AA anymore, but I want to experiment with opening sets, and gaining value in different ways. The… | /r/seduction | 11/10/12 02:21 PM |
| 1 | [Outer Game] Improving your fashion senseI'm mostly a t-shirt kind of guy. Lots of graphic tees, maybe a sports jacket on top if it's cold. I've gotten positive attention for some of them in the past (this one especially http://s3.amazonaws.com/wootsaleimages/xxmvlDetail.png) and they fit my personality, so I just try to make sure I look nice and go from there. Last weekend I was feeling kind of classy and wanted to 'dress up' a bit so I wore a 'casual' button down shirt with a blazer and got an unbelievable amount of attitude, snark, … | /r/seduction | 09/10/12 07:57 PM |
| 2 | Is it just me or when people hate on PUAs it's only on neggingI understand why you're saying this, I do see a lot of comments about PUAs and negging in other subs, especially OKC. I actually commented on a FR the other week where someone kept talking about how they were constantly "negging" the girl, here's what I wrote then, and how I still feel about it: I hate the phrase "negging." I love to joke and tease, and it's something I've always done naturally with no negative intent. "Negging" implies you are being disingenuous, and saying those things to inte… | /r/seduction | 09/10/12 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Let's talk Halloween Costumes.Mad Hatter. I picked up some pinstripe pants, a colorful dress shirt, vest, long coat, weird scarf, and an awesome hatter hat. Everything looks super dapper, which is one of the major benefits of this costume - you can do it up however you want (I don't like the Johnny Depp version much, so I'm not doing the makeup or crazy red hair). Oh, and I'll carry around a teacup and saucer. | /r/seduction | 09/10/12 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Due to the recent influx of questions, I figured I'd finally input some of what I've learned over the past year or so of lurking here.Absolutely I want to read more, this is fantastic! The more the better! I had a couple crummy nights this weekend and I'm feeling a bit dejected, but I find that reading (detailed) field reports of successes or failures always helps me get back on the horse. | /r/seduction | 08/10/12 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Internal Conflict between inner game and actively approaching womenYou may find this helpful: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/10kvh6/your_thoughts_are_not_you_or_stop_listening_to/ I had a very similar experience. I started working on me for me, then things sort of spiraled into discovering the community. I thought I knew what was up, how to change my brain, what I needed to do, but it wasn't until I looked at all I had learned from psychology, Buddhism, neuro science, and pickup from a new perspective where all of these things were the same that it … | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 08:47 PM |
| 4 | Don't Focus on Meeting Women, They tell MeWell said. | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 08:38 PM |
| 5 | I don't want as many women as I can handle. I just want one. Someone I can love and treasure until I die. How many other sedditors are looking for monogamy?This is certainly my long term goal. In the meantime I'm going to keep trying them out until I find the right one. No reason I should settle for anything less than the perfect one for me. No reason to rush into something, especially when you consider how high the divorce rate is. I would rather it take me until I am 50 to find the 'perfect' woman than convince myself I've done it and wind up getting divorced. So every woman I meet, date, hook up with, whatever, until then is a learning opportuni… | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Curious as to what other sedditors are looking for when meeting women.That is an interesting thought and something I've actually been contemplating for the past week or so. Initially I want to say no, there may be some traits that I do not have that I would look for in a partner to help "balance me out". The more I think about it, though, I think it's really that the traits become incredibly specific. I'll have to give examples to clarify. There are certain traits that I sometimes think I lack, or are weak. I have poor impulse control. I'm not consistent about kee… | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, what are your daily hobbies/activities?Don't think of them as DAILY hobbies or activities, just think of them as things you do regularly. I can't think of anything I do every day, but there are lots of things I do at least one day during the week. I work out at least 3 days a week, sometimes more if I feel like it. I have improv class once a week, and sometimes will attend improv shows on other nights. I try to do yoga once a week. I'm trying to learn (teach myself how) to draw. I've started working on learning some card and coin tri… | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Since it's October, can anybody enlighten me about the October man sequence?Awesome! I couldn't have said it better myself. A million times this. | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Am I too high maintenance?Do you think you are too high maintenance? Does it negatively interfere with your life in any way? Are you happy with your current routine, or do you feel like you are wasting time/money/energy being concerned about these things? If the answer to all of these questions is "no" then you're fine. I remember when I was 15, my routine took quite some time as well. At the time I loved it - when I was done doing everything I felt like a million bucks and I looked and felt great. Nothing wrong with it … | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 05:17 PM |
| 1 | Curious as to what other sedditors are looking for when meeting women.I'm still working on figuring out and refining exactly what I am looking for. It is in a state of constant modification - not quite change, but just getting more clear and more specific. For example I know a girl who is pretty cool, she's very smart, and is a pretty big geek. Not too long ago if you had told me you were setting me up with a girl with these qualities I would have been ecstatic and done everything in my power to turn it into a relationship, which I would have stayed in as long as … | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Curious as to what other sedditors are looking for when meeting women.Wow, this was fantastic to read. A lot of these are the qualities I look for myself, but you've done a much better job verbalizing them than I have ever been able to do. | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 04:45 PM |
| 1 | Got banned from a subreddit for defending /r/seduction. But do they have a point?I wouldn't worry about. I've never seen that sub before but I read some of the content and would steer clear. It looks like most of the advice in there is from women, and we all know that what they say is much different than what they believe or respond to. The guys giving advice are either naturals who don't realize they do this stuff without needing to think about or be aware of it, or they are AFCs who got lucky and found a girl who would overlook their beta-nes. Or they are AFCs who read thi… | /r/seduction | 05/10/12 04:36 PM |
| 1 | [Lesbian] How I used confidence to beat oneitis and the friendzone.I don't think I've ever listened to a podcast on pickup, any you would recommend? | /r/seduction | 04/10/12 08:42 PM |
| 7 | What are some common hoops to present women?If someone asks me to hold their drink, guaranteed I am going to drink some. I usually don't even say anything - they ask, I take it while simultaneously saying "what is this?" and taking a sip. "How about you buy me a drink and we'll see how it goes." I find it's easy to not wind up as the requestee if you are the requestor first - ask her to hold something for you or buy you a drink before she has a chance, you set the tone and get to see how she responds to your "test" to determine interest. … | /r/seduction | 04/10/12 08:40 PM |
| 2 | What are some good games or routines (like The Cube Game) that can be used to fuel conversation?What sort of responses are typical? I'm imagining things like "Oh my god!" and "This is beautiful". Also, do you wait to explain what each one means at the end of the entire thing, or do you get a response and then say "this is how you feel about x"? I might try this tomorrow... | /r/seduction | 04/10/12 08:32 PM |
| 1 | [FR] 2 #'s, 1 Doctor's office. Alternatively, always be a gentleman.Agreed! I use the scale as established in the FAQ on the sidebar which sets the numbers based on how approachable the girl is. Not only does this not make me feel like some dirty skeezball rating women on their appearance, but it's FAR more useful for understanding a given situation (and giving advice). | /r/seduction | 04/10/12 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Honest question: Why do you meet new people?I don't find this to be particularly common, though it does happen from time to time. It could be something you are doing, it might have to do with your approach, or the attitude/air with which you present yourself. It might just be the people you are interacting with - for example there's a specific bar I go to sometimes where it's almost guaranteed that people are going to be jerks and I'm going to get blown out, I don't go there very often and don't experience the same problems elsewhere. Try… | /r/seduction | 04/10/12 05:47 PM |
| 3 | Honest question: Why do you meet new people?a) You can never have too many friends or know too many people. b) You can learn something from everyone/everyone can teach you something/everyone has something to offer. c) I'm a pretty awesome and unique individual, I'd be doing them a disservice if I didn't give them the opportunity to get to know me. and most importantly Why not? It sounds to me that you're not having trouble convincing yourself that you want to meet other people as much as you're doing an excellent job at convincing yoursel… | /r/seduction | 03/10/12 07:34 PM |
| 5 | [FR] 2 #'s, 1 Doctor's office. Alternatively, always be a gentleman.Awesome field report! Reading things like this really helps me adjust my perspective on where you can potentially meet people. You'll have to follow up once you've gone on the dates, I'm curious to see how they go given you're talking about two women in different areas of healthcare (and I have an affinity towards nurses). | /r/seduction | 03/10/12 06:43 PM |
| 2 | I Can Usually Approach, But I Eject Way Too Quickly. How Do You Push Through The Awkwardness?This is really good advice. I was out the other weekend and opened a 2 set who were immediately non-receptive, insulting, and outright mean (well one of them - girl who acted like a HB9/10 but was more like a 7, and with her attitude more like a 4 - the other was rather quiet). I had been talking to a lot of people at the bar that night (I was mostly working on approaches and conversation, was not trying to pick anyone up) and was really appalled by the attitude this girl took to a stranger. So … | /r/seduction | 03/10/12 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Adult Sedditors, can we establish some guidelines about what is and isn't shitting where you eat?I can't agree enough with your last point, I learned the hard way not too long ago. It wasn't someone at work, but I hooked up with a friend who said she wanted to do a FWB kind of thing. It had been a LONG time since I had hooked up with anyone, and was really uncertain how to handle a FWB situation, and I didn't think there would be any problem talking to some other friends about it... I should have kept my mouth shut. She found out and we haven't hooked up since. I'm not even sure where we st… | /r/seduction | 02/10/12 04:05 PM |
| 5 | Halloween advice? costumes, routines, and tipsIs there a story behind that? I've seen that picture a lot lately, and just assumed the guy was with his girlfriend... if not and he was using it to get to make out with hot chicks, that's one BAMF. | /r/seduction | 02/10/12 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Adult Sedditors, can we establish some guidelines about what is and isn't shitting where you eat?Excellent points. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 02/10/12 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Adult Sedditors, can we establish some guidelines about what is and isn't shitting where you eat?So it's just a matter of finding that balance where you can still escalate, but not in a way that results in you coming off as a dick. I do know a lot of people who met at work. I guess it's stupid to disqualify someone simply because of proximity. | /r/seduction | 02/10/12 01:56 PM |
| 1 | Adult Sedditors, can we establish some guidelines about what is and isn't shitting where you eat?This is exactly the reason I wanted to have this discussion! I've been seeing a lot of comments telling people not to go for such and such a girl because of potential future conflict, but unless I'm intentionally going out to a bar or some event, or am lucky enough to see someone I am interested in when I'm out and about during the day, it really does limit your selection criteria (especially when you're tired of bar game). Thanks for mentioning this! | /r/seduction | 02/10/12 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Adult Sedditors, can we establish some guidelines about what is and isn't shitting where you eat?Good point. | /r/seduction | 02/10/12 01:42 PM |
| 1 | Adult Sedditors, can we establish some guidelines about what is and isn't shitting where you eat?Thanks for this response, this helped clarify things. So just like almost everything, it's a matter of making sure you have the right frame for the situation. I know for me it took a while to get a frame where I could approach comfortably (day or night game), but that really is a "who gives a fuck, I have nothing to lose" outlook, which can still be applicable in social situations, but you do have to be significantly more tactful and give some fucks. Whenever I see the comments of "don't shit wh… | /r/seduction | 02/10/12 04:20 AM |
| 1 | Adult Sedditors, can we establish some guidelines about what is and isn't shitting where you eat?Excellent response, much appreciated! I guess it's partially about having the right mindset, as well. We talk about "if you're going to be kicking yourself about it later if you don't do it, just go talk to her" so much it's easy for your frame to become "if I don't talk to every girl I'm interested in, I will kick myself later" which may not be appropriate at the work or the gym, so it may be a matter of adjusting your frame for those situations. Thanks! | /r/seduction | 01/10/12 09:02 PM |
| 8 | Simple and basic approach strategy in public transportPretty sure he meant that you are saying that about yourself, as in: Him: Want some chocolate? Her: No thanks. Him: Good choice, I wish I had your willpower, I'm fat enough as it is!! (Grin, laugh) Though I know Seddit is not a fan of self deprecation. | /r/seduction | 01/10/12 08:30 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Class Game, number closeHA! | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 11:43 PM |
| 1 | "Your thoughts are not you" OR "Stop listening to your scumbag brain"Real Social Dynamics | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 09:17 PM |
| 2 | "Your thoughts are not you" OR "Stop listening to your scumbag brain"Awesome :) | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 09:16 PM |
| 6 | Which do you think are the most attractive skills in a man? Why?I think you're looking at it the wrong way - what skills do you want to have? Then you'll find a woman who is attracted to those skills, and by extension you. You should do things for you, not for someone else. Read this for ideas: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/10g9t5/seddit_what_hobbies_and_activities_do_you/ | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 09:12 PM |
| 2 | FR first post, beating AA and the resultsI think Jake says it best :) | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 08:49 PM |
| 2 | FR first post, beating AA and the resultsWay to go dude! I'm glad my post helped you out, I know the feel - sometimes I don't take my own advice, lol. I feel like your open was pretty good given the circumstances. We both know it would have been smoother to say essentially the same thing if you hadn't gone to your car first and just approached, but you did in the end and that's all that really matters! I would have maybe not said "I chickened out," but I'm having a hard time thinking of an explanation to why you walked to your car then… | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 08:40 PM |
| 12 | [FR] Class Game, number closeOh, if only I had known some of these things when I was in college... it would have been like shooting fish in a barrel :) | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 08:18 PM |
| 9 | Which do you think are the most attractive skills in a man? Why?It's going to depend on the girl. I know girls who are more attracted when I say smart things, and I know girls who are turned off by that. Playing an instrument might be attractive to a lot of women, but there's going to be a difference in who finds the guitar attractive versus who thinks the oboe is sexy. I was tempted to say that being physically fit is universally attractive, but I know there are women out there who are really into big fat guys. Some girls might love close-up magic, but I ha… | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 08:02 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Discovering the Importance of Kino and Taking Charge on a First DateGreat report, I enjoyed reading it. Sounds like you've made some fantastic progress! One note (and a question at the end) - I hate the phrase "negging." I love to joke and tease, and it's something I've always done naturally with no negative intent. "Negging" implies you are being disingenuous, and saying those things to intentionally try to throw her off her game and put you into a position of power. When you are "negging" you are INTENTIONALLY trying to LOWER her self-esteem to knock her out o… | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 07:54 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Overcame some AA, lined up a date with a blond cutie HB7Awesome field report! I haven't been courageous enough for much day game yet, but this was really motivating. Good luck on the date! | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 07:40 PM |
| 1 | "Your thoughts are not you" OR "Stop listening to your scumbag brain"Great point. I guess I made an assumption that most people would be familiar with the sentiment behind the words, as opposed to the words themselves. Thanks for the clarification! | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 07:15 PM |
| 2 | A Sermon: Louie CK, the inner/outer game divide, and why you are here for the wrong reasons.Yea, I have a tendency towards hyperbole :) I probably should have added that once they get over that desire for validation they should have a much easier time finding that place of inner happiness and contentment. | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 07:13 PM |
| 7 | [IG] Not Tying Your Value With Success With Women? What Exactly Is Value?Whoo boy, I'm not sure how well I'll be able to explain this so my apologies in advance if this gets rambly. We're going to have to approach this from a number of different perspectives, this will all be relevant. Value is a measurement of worth. Value - relative worth, merit, or importance. Worth - good or important enough to justify; having a value of, or equal in value to. Exchange value OR price Things have value because of relative scarcity and supply and demand. Gold is valuable because th… | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 07:11 PM |
| 2 | A Sermon: Louie CK, the inner/outer game divide, and why you are here for the wrong reasons.I enjoyed reading this, I can't really disagree with anything here. One point I think needs to be made, though, is for some people it isn't until they get some validation from women that they realize the validation wasn't necessary in the first place. It's shitty for those people because they're going to have to commit to outer game A LOT and be someone disparate from who they really are - they might get laid, but once the novelty wears off they're still the same unhappy person they were before.… | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 06:05 PM |
| 2 | Seduction Addiction?lol, I read the first paragraph and was like "oh, I can help!" Well, I've learned something about jumping ahead without finishing :) It is true, though, it absolutely works both ways. Sometimes I am totally wiped out and really just need some ME time, and it really is a perfect night to stay at home and read, or watch some tv, or just go to bed early. But then my brain is telling me if I don't go out, I am failing at what I am trying to accomplish. But when I do go out on these nights, often I'm… | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 03:23 PM |
| 1 | "Your thoughts are not you" OR "Stop listening to your scumbag brain"I can't wait to read your [FR]! | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Seduction Addiction?I wrote an article about this yesterday, give it a read and see if it helps: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/10kvh6/your_thoughts_are_not_you_or_stop_listening_to/ | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 01:49 PM |
| 6 | "Your thoughts are not you" OR "Stop listening to your scumbag brain"You've got to grab your readers attention! | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 04:17 AM |
| 3 | "Your thoughts are not you" OR "Stop listening to your scumbag brain"I've read books about decision making and habit, neurobiology and willpower, how we think and why we are irrational, how happiness works and why it doesn't last. There's a million memes about your scumbag brain, and most of us can relate to most of them. Every day I see posts about the guy seeing some girl and being to scared to approach and beating himself up later, or saying something that the he immediately knew was a mistake. Put all of this together, and I stand by my statement - your brain… | /r/seduction | 28/09/12 03:33 AM |
| 1 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?I tried an isolation tank once, absolutely loved it. I wish I could go more often, but the only place in my city that has them is pretty far away. | /r/seduction | 27/09/12 10:17 PM |
| 2 | Where can I find A LOT of PUA video content? I learn best from watching, not reading.It can also be motivating! I remember there was a night when I really didn't feel like going out after work. I was browsing Seddit and someone had linked a video of Keys to the VIP (I hadn't heard of it before). I watched a little bit and saw Cajun in action, and decided I had to go out. | /r/seduction | 27/09/12 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Where can I find A LOT of PUA video content? I learn best from watching, not reading.I totally agree, but I see where the OP is coming from. Sometimes I really just want to see it in action, and it can help me internalize it better. I was learning jiu-jitsu and it was great fun to go to class and practice the moves, I learned a lot, but I had to think about everything I was doing before I would do it, and I'm sure it looked stilted. One day I'm watching UFC and I see a fighter start working for the exact choke I had learned earlier in the week, and suddenly I understood what I w… | /r/seduction | 27/09/12 08:58 PM |
| 1 | [X-POST from front page] allegro_con_fuoco drops some truth about self-imposed limitations.And now I've learned there is a sub on nootropics, awesome! | /r/seduction | 27/09/12 08:35 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?At a certain point you just have to force yourself to do something. At first it will not be fun, it will not be easy, you will not like it, you will want to give up - you just have to keep going. Start using a calendar (I use Google calendar so I can see it from any computer, and it's front and center on my phone whenever I pull it out). Put all your normal stuff on there - work, classes, appointments, whatever - but then start putting other activities on there. Designate times to go for a run, … | /r/seduction | 27/09/12 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Learning more about someone?You, sir, need to learn about conversational threading! tractPua did a good job of giving a generalized overview, but here is a fanstastic post from a while back that explains it in depth: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ovaar/since_seductionreview_went_down_i_thought_id/ To give an example in your conversation you could talk to him about photopgrahy, fashion, what makes something fashionable, if it's weird to ask a stranger to take their picture, what was the most recent example/wher… | /r/seduction | 27/09/12 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Learning more about someone?Conversational threading! | /r/seduction | 27/09/12 04:25 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?I feel like meditation helps a lot. So does anything that keeps you busy, of course, but there are certain things that might work better than others. Writing, drawing, music (guitar or uke for me) or other creative/artistic endeavors can help mitigate some of the desire while allowing you to express your feelings - especially discomfort. It's kind of eye opening to read multiple pages about how much you want to smoke and how it's making you feel - you start to realize the power and control you g… | /r/seduction | 27/09/12 03:54 PM |
| 1 | "I'm bored, entertain me." When a girl says this to me, what should I say back?That's probably how I would handle it, though it's hard to say if something different would happen in the moment. Of course it depends on the girl and how interested you are in her. If this is someone you would be potentially interested in a relationship with, this seems like a viable option since relationships (and life) are full of the mundane, so why not see if you like doing menial chores with her. If it's just some girl you met at the bar, or FWB, or something else, you may need to take a d… | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 09:19 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?Great story, that's pretty awesome! I'm a strong believer that anyone can learn anything, but there are some things that seem more daunting than others. | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 08:36 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?I really need to take singing lessons, as I'm pretty sure I can hardly carry a tune :) | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?I've been working on it. I have yet to be able to keep it in my house without using it. I like having it sometimes, especially those weeks when I'm really busy and know I'm going to be at work, the gym, my house, and almost nowhere else. I find it helps me to think more clearly (sometimes) and I've had some pretty big realizations as a result. But I just can't go out. I start to get too paranoid, or self-conscious, or too up in my head. When I started getting back into it again it was exactly th… | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 06:46 PM |
| 5 | "I'm bored, entertain me." When a girl says this to me, what should I say back?I can't remember the last time I heard this, so I'm just doing stream of consciousness here, bear with me. My first thought was "only boring people get bored" which you might be able to say in some playful/fun way, but there are certainly risks. The biggest problem I see with this is she's asking you to entertain her, so if you DO you could be potentially lowering your value/raising her value (it's your responsibility to entertain her). Alternatively, this could be a good way to escalate sexuall… | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Why I hate RSD. My experience.This is happening to me right now. I'm a couple hours in thinking "so... he's just saying be yourself and be confident in who you are?" which is fine and good, and makes total sense, but wouldn't have if I had watched this a year ago before I started approaching or trying some of the stupid, contrived PUA stuff. Maybe I'll watch a little here and there to see if it gets any better, but so far I am not impressed. | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 01:55 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?Exactly! And this is one of the main things I see missing from this sub-Reddit - we're a huge group of like-minded people with knowledge, wisdom, and experience that we can share with one another to be better people. | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 01:48 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?This is a habit I need to work on. | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 12:35 AM |
| 1 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?LA and improv... you lucky bastard. also pick up, I guess... | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?Nope, that's the right book. You have to REALLY be into biomechanics and stuff to enjoy the majority of the book (I do, I've read it a few times), but the workout is somewhere in the back. I lent my copy to a friend so I can't check. He essentially explains how to workout and how to progress - beginner's something, I think. It's important to read the chapters on each lift, at least enough to make sure you are doing proper form. And don't say "I lifted in ______ (high school, college, whatever)!"… | /r/seduction | 26/09/12 12:30 AM |
| 1 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?Climbing is kind of a funny sport, as it's not really that expensive to buy shoes, a harness, a chalk bag and chalk, but if you're doing indoor climbing the memberships (and even day passes) can be kind of pricey. Good luck with the MT! I really enjoyed it when I did it, but between scheduling conflicts and a minor labral tear in my hip, I had to step down. Hopefully I'll be back at it one day! | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 09:22 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?My job is by no means something that I love and am totally passionate about. I don't usually bring it up with friends/family/strangers or spend too much time talking about it when it does come up. It's a job, it pays the bills, it sounds professional, I can read books or browse Reddit most of the day... so I guess it's pretty good. My last job was in a call center for a very large brokerage firm, and while the pay was good I hated my job and just making it into work every day was a struggle. Tha… | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?I go to Bovine Metropolis. I'm in a Level 1 improv class right now (did a few levels earlier in the year, took the summer off, so I decided to start back at the beginning for a refresher.) I've been looking at Impulse Theater for classes as well, just can't make it work with my schedule right now. You ever go to any of the /r/Denver meetups? Also /r/Denverseddit really needs to get up and running... | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 09:12 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?I actually did Muay Thai for almost a year, dabbled in BJJ. I really enjoyed them, but classes conflicted with other activities. The biggest problem for me was spreading myself too thin - I started MT, then started lifting, and both suffered. I took a break from MT to focus on lifting, when I started MT again, they both suffered. I love doing physical stuff (well, now that I'm actually in decent shape and have dropped a ton of weight) and it certainly sounds like you'd have success with women by… | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Note to newbs: It IS okay to get bummed out every once in a while.Well said. | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 09:01 PM |
| 3 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?I'm not really surprised or disenfranchised by this. We're all on Reddit, and we all want to be the best, most successful, happiest versions of ourselves we can be (whatever that means on an individual level). There's a lot to be learned from the fact that so many of our hobbies overlap. | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 08:47 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?I just found an improv theater in my city (Denver) that offers classes, signed up and started going. http://lmgtfy.com/?q=improv+classes+(your+city) | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 08:18 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?When you say "a book" do you mean a novel, short stories, non-fiction, or something else entirely? I was (and still am) interested in learning kung fu, but I couldn't find any classes to fit my schedule (also hard to tell if the place is good or not). It always seemed more concerned with poise, grace, balance, flexibility, agility, and power than something like Muay Thai, and those characteristics are really appealing to me. | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 07:50 PM |
| 19 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?I know what you mean, you make an excellent point! I've (mostly) stopped using the phrase "self-improvement" because that makes it sounds like you weren't 'good enough', so you have to do something to become 'better' - and that's not what I'm trying to do. Now I prefer to look at it as being the best version of myself I can be, that version that always existed somewhere inside, but I was too scared, stupid, anxious, nervous, full of myself, or embarassed to let him out. | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?I know what you mean about bar food and beer - it can be fun sometimes, but when it starts to become a regular thing the negatives can start to outweigh the positives. At least you gave it a try! That's kind of the point of all this anyway - try new things you might not otherwise try, take what works and what you enjoy, forget about the rest. | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 07:40 PM |
| 1 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?Pool league? Is that playing pool on a regular basis / with a team? Any particular reasons that you think rock climbing and (especially) meditation didn't work out? I'll admit I skip climbing more than I should, and it can be difficult to start a practice of meditation, but I find these activites have a very positive influence on other aspects of my life. I'm always curious to hear about the experiences of others. | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 06:39 PM |
| 13 | Seddit, what hobbies and activities do you regularly do NOW that you didn't do before to improve yourself and keep busy? What did you try that didn't stick? What do you still want to try?Improvisational acting/comedy classes. The most recognized is something in the style of Whose Line Is It Anyway? which is short form - basically individual games. I really enjoy long form improv, which is basically starting with a blank slate and a set of rules (a lot of which are based on short form games) then creating an entire scene, or show, out of nothing. It really helps you be more open and flexible, think on your feet, listen better, how to maintain focus, give and take (push/pull)... t… | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 06:36 PM |
| 2 | 12 Products That Make Me Feel AttractiveI totally agree! I remember being worried about it at first, but I wear these things all the time, and really believe in them, so if I meet some girl who is shallow enough to not talk to me because of my "weird" shoes, I'm better off anyway. As long as you're confident in your decision, you're good to go. | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 06:14 PM |
| 6 | 12 Products That Make Me Feel AttractiveI have and do! Either no one notices them, or I get lots of questions. I usually only wear Trek LS' when I'm doing something like that; they're leather and have laces, so they tend to go under the radar. | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Don't be afraid to be ridiculous! Alternative title: How bad does an opening line have to be to get a "confident" guy instantly rejected?A few weekends ago I tried two stupid lines that worked well enough: "Is it someone's birthday, or is this the worst bachelorette party ever?" "What time do you wake up in the morning?" | /r/seduction | 25/09/12 03:23 PM |
| 2 | Inability to make friends.Yea, we're really weird. | /r/seduction | 22/09/12 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Watch what happens.. How did he manage to do this? Is that Alpha?I'm a little confused by your questions. Can you elaborate? | /r/seduction | 22/09/12 01:26 AM |
| 1 | If you are 22, is it wrong to sleep with a 17 year old?Is it WRONG? No, I don't think so. Would it be weird? Yea, could be. I'm 26 and if the situation came up I would certainly consider it. Other factors would be more important than age. | /r/seduction | 21/09/12 08:39 PM |
| 1 | If you are 22, is it wrong to sleep with a 17 year old?hm... 26/2 = 13 13 + 7 = 20 ... I would probably still go for it. | /r/seduction | 21/09/12 08:38 PM |
| 7 | Where are good places to meet girls at college, outside of a frat?Barack Obama was in your frat?!?! | /r/seduction | 21/09/12 05:55 PM |
| 0 | [FR] Baby steps and k-close a strangerAh, ok, I absolutely understand now. Thanks. | /r/seduction | 10/09/12 03:50 PM |
| 1 | I'm not having fun. . .I love that quote, though my favorite delivery is "Don't take life so seriously, you'll never make it out alive." :D | /r/seduction | 10/09/12 02:52 PM |
| 0 | [FR] Baby steps and k-close a strangerCan you elaborate on the second part? I've seen a lot of stuff saying to open with physical contact, but something really neutral like a hand on a shoulder or center of the back to start building comfort immediately. I can see where you're coming from, but I feel like doing that right off the bat really seems to exude confidence. I'm here to learn. | /r/seduction | 10/09/12 02:52 PM |
| 1 | I'm not having fun. . .I mean make it real and true for you all the time. So that whenever you start to worry too much, become outcome dependent, over think, clam up, whatever it might be, that as soon as it happens you immediately recognize how this will be damaging or cause you to not succeed, and you almost instantly change your mindset. It's like... you start to worry about what to say next (for example) and as soon as you start to worry you have a little voice that goes "hey man, don't worry." That's when you kno… | /r/seduction | 06/09/12 01:27 PM |
| 2 | I'm not having fun. . .If you're not having fun, take a break. Sometimes it's nice to relax at home and not do anything - you just have to make sure it doesn't become your normal. Are you going out all the time? I'm down to only going out 1 to 3 nights a week, and it works pretty well for me. Take a break, re-frame, work on your inner game, and relax. Then get back out there, and do it again. And reading all that stuff isn't going to do anything unless you internalize it and make it real. It's hard. I've been studying… | /r/seduction | 05/09/12 09:02 PM |
| 0 | Girl Here. How do I get back out after a long relationshipOh, and something about pics and we'll be the judge... eh, my hearts not in it. | /r/seduction | 30/08/12 09:16 PM |
| 2 | Girl Here. How do I get back out after a long relationshipAgreed with the other posts, sidebar will help a lot. Personally I say read it all, but if you're mostly concerned with self esteem, anything and everything on inner game is fantastic. | /r/seduction | 30/08/12 09:16 PM |
| 1 | My oneitis dropped the bomb on me this morning. I have never felt more motivated in my lifeOh, and do only one or two things at a time. I quit smoking THEN I modified my diet THEN I started working out THEN I started trying things I was interested in. I had a rule that if there was something I wanted to try, and 30 days later I was still thinking about it, I had to try it. Not only does this expand your experience and horizons, it's interesting and exciting. I was experimenting with telling people about my rule, and I never met a single person who wasn't fascinated by that. To top it … | /r/seduction | 06/08/12 09:19 PM |
| 1 | My oneitis dropped the bomb on me this morning. I have never felt more motivated in my lifeThe most important thing about baby steps is you are making small, manageable changes that can stick and become permanent. I'm at work and was doing stuff as I wrote it, so all said... maybe 30 minutes. I'm really passionate about finding ones best self, and know how much support can help the process. | /r/seduction | 06/08/12 09:14 PM |
| 2 | Effective seduction routine for Sedditors: "psychology of pickup without pickup".I really enjoy psychology and have found myself doing this without realizing it. All the seduction/PUA material just gave me a different lens to look at it through. On that note - You Are Not So Smart is a great website and book to learn about cool psychological concepts and some of the history behind it. Also great for inner game. | /r/seduction | 06/08/12 08:48 PM |
| 3 | My oneitis dropped the bomb on me this morning. I have never felt more motivated in my lifeI was in a very similar position to you a little over a year ago. I hope my experience and self-experimentation can help you. Do it for you. Because you want to be happier, healthier, feel better, look better, and be more confident. There is no end, no destination, all there is is the journey. Enjoy it. Learn from it. Be honest with yourself. When you mess up (and you will) accept the mistake and move on. You can do it, it just takes time and dedication. Personally I believe this community is ab… | /r/seduction | 06/08/12 08:34 PM |
| 1 | As a man, what's better: a male or female wing?Can you elaborate on training/utilizing a female wing, or a link if there is already a post somewhere with some good material on this? I've been trying to search, but I must not be using the right keywords or something... | /r/seduction | 06/08/12 02:46 PM |
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