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Field Reportarm_candy/r/askMRP13/04/22 05:22 AM
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arm_candy/r/askMRP27/04/19 05:51 AM
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if I cut her off from one source of spending, she is ingenious to find another that I am unaware of. How is hiding frivolous expenses not a hard boundary? I kind of wonder if you’ve sucked at creating a proper budget, though. Does she have a specific amount she’s allowed to spend on clothes or whatever? Does she know what that amount is and how to track it?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 11:52 PM
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That’s great feedback. I don’t want to keep lifting 7 days a week. That was a tactic and not the goal. But I should just own the choice to change tactics.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 11:29 PM
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OYS 7 40ish | 5'7" | 157.6 lb | OHP 100x5, BP 165x3, SQ 225x5 Fitness My "lift literally every day" plan has ground to a halt. I did this for about 3 months but it isn't sustainable anymore. I can't work, spend time with family, participate in kid activities, BJJ, go out socially, and lift every day. Not if I also want to get enough sleep (which I still have not improved much). It's also just been grinding me down, leaving me with persistent pains. I'm going to have to get on a more sustainable …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 03:17 PM
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The place for guys to complain about their wives is r/deadbedrooms. This place is for guys who want to take control of their lives. "It's all your fault" is essentially the foundation of mrp. Ownership is step 1.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 04:36 AM
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Thanks for answering. Nice work.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 04:29 AM
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You still think she's the problem, huh?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/22 04:29 PM
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I still love her. You misspelled "oneitis". You don't even like her. You've written that she's unattractive, unpleasant, and lazy. Name one good quality she has (for you, right now). I’m trying to let it be her thing, especially since she keeps “threatening” to get in shape. "Actions not words" is mrp 101. In two years she said she was going to lose weight but what she did was gain another 20 pounds. Pretty hilarious actually. Pretty hilarious that you're trolling r/Nude_Selfie to give camwhores…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/22 04:13 PM
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If you want more guidance on OYS specifically, you can skim this and read the links at the bottom: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/uj8kf3/its_not_that_complicated_one_mans_guide_to_oys/ It doesn't bode well that you can't find the "guide to oys" link on the front page of the subreddit, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/22 03:38 PM
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I'm set to surpass my target income of $20k from side hustles, and if I nail my current side project then that will set me up for next year's target of $30k. What kind of work do you do? $20k "side hustle" income is pretty decent.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 03:44 PM
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Dude. She says she doesn't feel connection so does not have sex with me as often as I need . In the past, I used covert contracts, manipulation, and gaslighting to coerce to get my needs met. In some cases I wasn't even aware of this. She also told me she has engaged in sex with me many times she didn't want. No rape or force.. she just didn't communicate. She brought it to my attention last year. She said that she feels anxiety around me when we are with our kids together and when we are being …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 02:38 AM
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I don't want to entertain what a grown ass man should do. That just creates another validation trap. You're the only one who said anything about what a man "should do". Instead ask yourself what you want to do. Getting to soft no is outcome independent. Pushing beyond a soft no, I become goal oriented. Nah. Getting to a soft no is easy on your ego. Pushing for a hard no means you have to take the rejection on the chin. You don't lose your OI. Your lack of OI just gets exposed. Express my genuine…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 03:50 PM
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You’re right of course. There’s no defense or excuse for me being up late wasting time.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 10:06 PM
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OYS 6 40ish | 5'7" | 156.7 lb | OHP 100x5, BP 165x3, SQ 225x4 Mental I need to own that I'm being lazy in some areas lately. I said last week I need to get some shit done at work. Well, I didn't. My lifting is similarly ongoing but not as organized and consistent as it needs to be to hit my goals. I'm up late wasting time on YouTube or Reddit, or occasionally reading, which sets me up for being extra tired and lazier the next day. I have to cut that out. I need sleep, and I need to get on track.…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 03:23 PM
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It seems to me like you should write about what you care about in your OYS. If the stuff you care about is stupid then maybe you'll get feedback on that. If you spend your time writing about the stuff you think the MRP audience wants you to write about, it what way can you possibly be your own mental point of origin? But what do I know? My OYS posts look like the cut-and-paste format that got so much hate.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/22 04:10 AM
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you can cry alone over your victim puke without embarrassing yourself Do it on your own time and leave it out of OYS. We don’t need to hear about it. If you're worried about embarrassing yourself, or you're cutting out things you care about to please MRP, you're writing for the wrong audience. Maybe go re-read that first reference you linked: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/sz6a0p/the_purpose_of_oys_a_reminder/
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 05:00 PM
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Good. I assumed you were going to say your inability to get laid when your wife is on her period.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 04:49 PM
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I wrote up a big reply about how you're wrong because you are by necessity giving her a microphone if you are interested in what's being offered. And that's true, but I also think I have a better mental model of where you're coming from now. Instead of offering "dinner for sex", if the same girl offered "crawl through a trough of pigshit for sex", the situation is very clear. You might care about the sex part still, but the offer is so unappealing that it doesn't merit consideration. The "dinner…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 04:48 PM
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Shut the fuck up about "swallowing the pill". That's not your problem. Your problem is the lack of work. Also the whole sidebar is in the wiki for people like you that can't find it: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/wiki/index
/r/askMRP06/05/22 03:21 PM
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You didn’t write a single thing that you did that wasn’t an in-the-moment reaction to her. This is a field report of what your wife has done. You’re not even the one who “honored the threat”. She is. She gave you an ultimatum and followed through. I have been steadfast in proceeding to get a divorce ASAP. What does this even mean? This is so vague that I doubt you’ve done anything except sit there while she proceeds with the divorce. What I find astounding about all of this, is all she had to do…
/r/askMRP06/05/22 02:17 PM
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Much like solving my sexual frequency problem couldn't happen until I stop focusing on it so intently this problem is likely the same. What precisely is "this problem"?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 04:56 PM
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you point at her with a grin and say "Breaking the fourth wall i see" I'm confused by this example. The rest this seems to be about learning to not play the game (or learning that you can play a different game), but this is very much still playing the existing game. Is this just advice on how better to play the game that's not supposed to be tied to the rest? flip the chessboard by just doing whatever it is you want to do. You might be trying to lead me to places I'm not ready for yet. I just ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 03:17 PM
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Wife made another hang out for sex comment last night and I explicitly shot it down. "I am not trading for sex." I did hang out with the wife. We played games and talked which was nice. Much nicer than sitting and watching a show together which does nothing for me. I'm trying a different morning routine with the daughter. I woke her up and gave her a specific time to be ready to go. She got ready. Part of what I changed is that I didn't serialize all the steps. "You need to finish X so I can get…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 02:10 PM
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You’re right. I am scoreboarding and that’s not the dynamic I want. At the same time, I do not like engaging in this “X for Y” barter. This was implicit in the original request. It was made explicit with the whole lingerie discussion. If I were dating a chick and she told me she’d have sex after I bought her dinner, I wouldn’t ask myself if I’ve got something better to do than go to dinner with her. I’d tell her I’m not trading for sex. I’ll have to think about this more. Maybe there’s more than…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 11:50 PM
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I phrased it poorly. The demand is for oneself, not someone else. You set your expectations. You set your boundaries. As you put it, you know what you want and how to get it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 11:29 PM
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OYS 5 40ish | 5'7" | 157.4 lb | OHP 100x5, BP 160x5, SQ 225x4 Mental I'm still buried under nice guy behaviors. My "selfishness journal" is mostly filled with tiny things or nothing at all on many days. Nice guy: Yesterday the wife asked if we can spend an evening together one day this week after the kids are in bed. Of course we can. That sounds fun, babe! Two hours later, driving back from hanging out with a friend, a very different answer forces its way into my brain. I offered an evening wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 05:13 PM
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Does it matter what she's doing? The real question is what are you doing.
/r/askMRP03/05/22 06:19 AM
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You're not asking how to handle her laughing at your shitty jokes. You're asking if maybe she's secretly in love with you still and wants to work it out. And no, she's not. And no, she doesn't. She cheated on you. You have already agreed to divorce. You're already selling the house. The uncharitable read is that she wants to keep you on the line because she doesn't have a replacement lined up. The charitable read is that she wants to maintain a good relationship because she needs to co-parent wi…
/r/askMRP03/05/22 05:36 AM
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I definitely appreciate the feedback. As you said, worst case I learn from this. I particularly appreciate you pressing me on "acta non verba" last week. I am happy with my plan here (now), but my mindset was initially too focused on doing this with her, hence no specific deadline for implementation at first. The mindset of doing this myself, for me, and inviting her to come along is quite different from the mindset of finding a solution for us.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 03:33 PM
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I took a day to think this over before responding, and my takeaway is still that we simply disagree on how best to proceed here. Maybe my wife won't get on board the same way ragnar's and fix-the-man's wives didn't, and I'll have postponed implementation for two weeks for nothing. Maybe she'll get on board and it'll be easier to implement with two consistent parents. I don't see it as a failure of leadership to attempt to lead my wife to a better solution. Could I have done this by just implemen…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 02:10 PM
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I hear you. I’ll implement regardless of whether she gets on board.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 07:00 PM
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So you really are cut and pasting your way through this. Are you also cut and pasting your OYS? Because that “we've had an amazing sex life in the past, and all I want is to return to that” but was also verbatim and it stuck that into the middle of your OYS. If you’re going to cut and paste, at least make it something that affirms your personal goals and not your oneitis. P.S. Almost every relationship starts with a great sex life. This isn’t unique to your girl or your relationship. This is com…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 04:22 PM
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would prefer to make this current relationship work. No. It’s all you want. You reek of desperation in everything you write about her. Last week: We've had an amazing sex life in the past, and all I want is to return to that. … The time we were together was spent fucking, cooking together, eating, fucking, watching movies, and fucking. Sometimes, we'd go out, try new things, come home, and fuck. I don't need anything beyond that from a relationship. Today: but we've had an amazing sex life in th…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 03:52 PM
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What is this called? An agreement. There's no covert contract here. And you will...? Implement anyway. I told her yesterday I'm doing it this weekend. Edit: There was a bit of a covert contact on timeliness. That was resolved by setting a time to implement.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 01:01 PM
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OYS 4 40ish | 5'7" | 156.5 lb | OHP 100x5, BP 160x5, SQ 225x4 Mental I started a selfishness journal a couple of days ago to encourage elimination of nice-guy behaviors. I'm recording the times I do something selfish: ask a friend to pick me up for a ride, ask the wife for a favor, decline a compliance test. I'm also recording the opportunities missed (to do better next time) and the small things I want along with action items to make them happen. Basically a daily mini-OYS specifically about do…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 01:00 PM
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"I read and began implementing 123 Magic." Acta non verba. This is entirely valid. But I want her sign-on. I'm intentionally giving her time to read this so she and I can be on the same page. I do need to put a deadline on this, though. I'll implement this weekend. Either she'll be ready or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/22 07:56 PM
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Remedy book: the subtle art of not giving a fck* I've read it, but it's been a while. Maybe it's worth a re-read.
/r/askMRP25/04/22 06:44 PM
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I'm resorting to the salicylic acid as recommended. Go look again. You were recommended the freeze treatment + salicylic acid. Salacylic acid by itself isn't great for plantar warts. I've used one of the freeze treatments before. It was effective but took a couple applications (plus I applied for about 100% longer than it recommended). Plantar warts are a bitch to get rid of because they grow so deep into the tissue.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/22 03:28 AM
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low threshold for bad behavior Just remember you're basically dealing with a toddler. Stuff like having trouble processing your question while the TV is on isn't necessarily bad behavior. It's just how their brains work. (Also, do you often ignore/tune out your kid when you're on your phone? If so you're modeling this behavior.) Consider whether your punishments are proportional or if you're actually escalating. Would pausing/muting the TV be sufficient to get your 3-year-old's attention? Are yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 03:54 AM
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My 3.5yr has big tantrums a lot and I have been feeling that it is my fault. I realize that I do not need to put up with that behavior and that is really what boundaries are, not putting up with behavior that you dont want to. I set firm, clear boundaries and stuck to them. If she is not behaving, Ill turn off TV, take away her tablet, leave from playing with her, etc. This seems like a good practicing ground for me working on enforcing boundaries as I have a lot to learn. I might be reading too…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 08:55 PM
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Fun for me. What’s the point of any of this shit if it isn’t fun? Thanks for the feedback on goals. I have not really shared those. I’ve already posted this week’s OYS but I’ll share more next time. I need to filter down the huge list to the ones worth discussing and focusing on.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 02:19 PM
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OYS 3 40ish | 5'7" | 155lb | OHP 95x6, BP 150x4, SQ 225x3 I wrote this up and realized I’m being very negative, approaching this again from an angry space. (e.g. I complained about only getting 3 on squats but didn’t say anything about OHP going up.) I’m posting this as I’ve written it but next week this will have a more optimistic spin and celebrate wins as well. Mental I got feedback from sea-tease on my last OYS post that I need to shut up more and that I’m pushing buttons trying to get speci…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 02:13 PM
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It’s not a huge milestone. That’s the point. It’s a nonissue to everyone except the person feeling like this. I posted this because I’m not the only moron who struggles with feeling awkward about things that are logically straightforward. Sometimes to the point that it impacts action negatively. Hopefully it’s helpful to someone else. If not, well, that’s why it’s in the retard playpen.
/r/askMRP14/04/22 02:08 AM
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I’ll keep that in mind for the next rental. Included access to a gym would be very helpful.
/r/askMRP13/04/22 10:12 PM
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I appreciate the feedback here. There is a lot of talking here. I also see a bit of the frame issue you mention. I’ll mull that one over.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/22 10:10 PM
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This seems really harsh, which means there’s probably some grain of truth here.
/r/askMRP13/04/22 10:07 PM
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That’s a great reframe. You’re right.
/r/askMRP13/04/22 10:06 PM
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A 40ish | 5'7" | 155lb | OHP 90x5, BP 155x5, SQ 210x5 Fitness I got up at 4am to squeeze in one more lifting session before flying out for vacation. I’ve exercised (bands and body weight) every day on vacation so far and expect to do the same the rest of the time I’m here. For some reason, exercising on vacation felt really awkward at first. I made a post about it in the playpen. Maybe it will be helpful for someone else to read. It was helpful for me to write. Fun It’s vacation so it’s not hard…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/22 05:27 AM
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And what’s your question? This is /r/askmrp, not /r/trainofthroughtrambling
/r/askMRP11/04/22 03:28 AM
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Stop worrying so much about whether BMI is accurate and worry more about the fact that you’re so overweight. You weigh 190 at 5’7” and you’re very weak. You are clearly very fat. Disagree? Go get a DEXA scan or a hydrostatic measurement. Or post a picture of yourself shirtless. But you won’t because you know you’re full of shit.
/r/askMRP10/04/22 02:42 PM
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Lots of fat guys are in the marines. And you’ve gained another 15 since the marines declared you “not quite too fat to serve”. Congrats.
/r/askMRP10/04/22 03:11 AM
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BMI is a rough estimate. It certainly has its limits, especially for very tall individuals or very muscular individuals. But that’s not you. Your BMI is high because you’re a fat ass. Go get a DEXA scan and then come back and tell everyone you just need to lose 15 pounds. I’m im still wear size 36 pants. I thought obese was closer to 40 inch waist. Bro, you are 5’7”. 36” waist is huge. But you don’t have a 36” waist. You have 36” pants, which are vanity sized like every other pair of pants in Am…
/r/askMRP10/04/22 03:09 AM
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Bro, if I give you the extra bump to 5’8”, you’re still only 7 pounds away from clinically obese based on bmi. You’d have to get all the way down to 164 to get out of overweight territory. If you were a bodybuilder, bmi would be a shitty metric. But you’re weak as hell which means bmi is going to be pretty accurate. You’re borderline obese. lifting 6 days a week should get me down to 175 Fuck, dude. Learn how to lose weight. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/tybnn7/60_dod_22_eatin…
/r/askMRP09/04/22 04:09 AM
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about 15 pounds over weight lol
/r/askMRP09/04/22 03:58 AM
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Why would she give me a blow job and then divorce me like that? Tasted worse than she expected.
/r/askMRP09/04/22 03:55 AM
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What does the doc say about your lifts? The big problem is the fact that every single week I waste about 60 hours of sitting behind my computer, during boring shit I don't want to do but I can't stop doing it. Content blockers. They won't stop you from accessing this stuff, but they'll make it harder. These will help break the habit, but you still have to make the choice to stop. 10 hours work on my disseration, 5 extra pages written. So your plan is 10 hours/week and you have a deadline in 2 mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/22 03:12 AM
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And I don't lie. Liar "I should have said 'no'. I apologize for wasting your time."
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 06:10 PM
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2017-2019 lifted about 2.5x/week. I'm pretty sure you're a fucking liar. You admit that you've been ignoring the advice to lift since 2018 but somehow you were lifting that entire year? Bullshit. Your ego is on full display here. It's not possible that you lifted 2.5x/week for 2 years and didn't surpass your 85lb squat max unless you were also undergoing chemo during that time. that's how f'ed up my brain was. But you don't believe that. On the contrary. I completely believe that your brain is f…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 05:06 PM
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LIFTING IS NOT A PANACEA. It is probably the most important thing for a person who is already mentally well. I will get to it in proper time. Lifting is associated with positive mental health. Stop trying to justify your inaction. The proper time is now. I've put effort into it before for protracted durations. Define "protracted durations". How long and what did you achieve in terms of lifts? I would be absolutely shocked if you ever achieved any significant results or stuck with it for even 6 m…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 04:41 PM
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Oh, shit. You're the guy whose wife hits him, so he writes her cease and desist letters. No wonder you're depressed. What are you wanting to accomplish here? I'm unclear from your OYS what your goals are or what steps you're taking. You got feedback about this on your last OYS but I don't see anything here about what you're trying to achieve. You mentioned a job previously. Okay, cool, but you don't need "red pill" for that. You just need training. Why are you here? It's not because you think th…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 04:31 PM
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You still are a pile of low effort shit just with an OYS 1 tacked to it. Just begin the process of moulding that low effort shit into gold. For sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 08:01 PM
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what's next if it's not divorce That seems like a great question. You write as if the relationship is officially dead, and yet you're not moving forward with the divorce. I have put it on hold until I can explore this further and make sure it's not just a last minute covert contract to whip her into shape. It looks like you've put it on hold because it's all a covert contract to whip her into shape, and you know the covert contract will collapse once you proceed with the divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 07:57 PM
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I was varsity weightlifting in high-school and I‘ve kept it up ever since. Holy shit your ego. This is nonsense. You very clearly have not kept up lifting since high school. You admitted that you haven't been lifting for 2 years. Most people need to learn to STFU to stop DEER from flying out of their mouths. You need to learn to STFU to stop the lies from flying out of your fat mouth. Even after being called out for it, you still don't actually list any lifts. You literally can't make yourself p…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 06:36 PM
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OYS 1 40ish | 5'7" | 155lb | OHP 90x5, BP 155x5, SQ 210x5 I haven't posted in OYS in almost a year and a half. There's no excuse. I needed to be posting and didn't. I'm not going to go count the previous OYS entries and I didn't number them so I'll just call this OYS 1 and start fresh. Mental/MAP I've spent the last couple of months trying to home in on what I want, where I'm falling short, and what I need to do to improve. I have a big doc full of my answers but there's nothing truly new here o…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 06:26 PM
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And don't say sidebar. I've read... And what did you do? I'd appreciate some specific direction. Try trying.
/r/askMRP27/03/22 03:17 AM
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You, right now. You've found the bare minimum that gets you sex. You're not happy with it. Maybe "bare minimum" is a poor goal.
/r/askMRP27/03/22 03:17 AM
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Going 5-6x a week And yet you don't list any lifts. Interesting, that. plus I average 12-15k steps a day But you call this out, which tells everyone that you're weak.
/r/askMRP27/03/22 03:14 AM
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Your life is the prize. It's all you get. This one insight is worth a million pseudo-philosophical ramblings about stoicism or leadership or STFU or just about anything else. You don't have to be her prize. You have to be yours.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/22 03:06 AM
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Love the arc here. "You're a good guy. You can do better." "You have amazing potential if you just tap into it!" "Nah, you're fucked."
/r/askMRP24/03/22 04:09 PM
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The real reason to switch to free weights is because that shit is scary for newbies. You're hanging out on the machines with old men and girls because it's less intimidating. Walking into the free weights where people actually lift is going to be humbling. You're going to look incompetent (because you are). You're going to be trying to figure out how to do the exercises and feel like everyone is seeing you fumble around (because they are). And you're going to be lifting tiny weights compared to …
/r/askMRP24/03/22 04:04 PM
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My GF gave me the ILYBINILWY a year ago.... We fuck every 2-3 weeks. She complains that I do everything wrong in the bedroom.... Have a tiny bit of self-respect. Even if she hasn't already cheated on you, she has no respect for you. She's not going to come around. She literally can't because she'll never believe you have any self-respect unless you leave her. You have no kids. You're not married. There's nothing holding you in this relationship except your terror of being alone. I know there was…
/r/askMRP24/03/22 03:58 PM
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That sounds a lot better than getting into an argument because you couldn't close your mouth. Autistic STFU >> Arguing like a bitch. Horns has a better response, but it has to come from someone with frame. If you don't have the frame to just shut your mouth, you definitely don't have the frame to tell her that her behavior isn't working for you. She's not going to hear that and just walk away chastised.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/22 03:29 PM
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I really wonder what you think a Team is. I also wonder how you've landed on this mental model that every interaction is purely transactional. This sounds like a pretty shitty and uninspiring way to live, and it reeks of insecurity. I'm very doubtful you actually live your life this way, but for some reason you think you should so you're larping autistic while layering over this with "altruism" and "benevolence" to appease your nice guy ego. But it really is different in many ways from the Jack1…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 03:27 PM
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I liked your last post better. At least there was some honesty and humility even if it was derivative. This one feels like you're trying to weave cultist/guru magic and convince everyone you have some unique insight. You guys simply are aligned in some interests and are getting what you want from each other. That's literally what a team is, bro. The rest of this is nonsense because you're trying to argue shitty semantics that the captain should really be a benevolent dictator, but that's exactly…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 03:54 AM
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This is an excellent impression of an incredibly stupid person.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 05:09 PM
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I read this a couple of days ago and it stuck in my head. Something about this was off, and not just the part where you're an idiot. It finally clicked. You're an abuser playing the victim. You're gaslighting your wife and misleading everyone about what happened. When your wife pulled out the knife, you didn't back away. You went on the offensive. You don't mention any actual fear, nor any injury as you might expect if your wife were actually attacking. You were more than happy to use your "body…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/22 05:31 AM
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after 3 days of no sex, and me ignoring her or pouting while telling myself I'm not, she tells me she will take care of me. … We go there. Once we arrive her mood takes a turn, ... I tell her "hey, I don't want to do anything we are not both into, we can do something else… Her mood didn’t take a turn. She literally told you she’d “take care of you”. She didn’t want it long before it started. But worse, where’s your conviction? You tell her you don’t want to do anything if she’s not into it, but …
/r/askMRP30/10/21 05:04 AM
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The confliction was pouring out of me. She asked me if I wanted to be with her. I replied, I don't know yet, my focus is on fixing me. You told Aloha “I've stated multiple times I do not want to get a divorce right now.” Per your comment there, you’re not even a little bit conflicted. So why can’t you just tell your wife “I want to make this work” if it’s what you want? You’re not conflicted. You’re afraid of taking a stand, or afraid of trusting your decision, or maybe afraid of being honest, o…
/r/askMRP30/10/21 04:38 AM
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“Good job title” and “high income” specifically are very blue pill ideals, though. How many guys come here with a six figure income, an impressive title, and a wife who won’t fuck them? Most of the rest of this is reasonable. “Job title” just got me triggered. Do all the rest of this stuff and no woman (or man) worth knowing will care about the lack of an impressive job title.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/21 06:18 PM
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That’s a whole lot of external validation seeking. Need $120k so women see you as “wealthy”. Need other “HVM” to see you as one of them. Need an impressive job title. This is some insecure shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/21 04:37 PM
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Thanks. I do not find this a compelling argument (if I looked down and saw a spade I might indeed conclude that I am a spade; I don’t see that observing a thing makes that thing external to the self) but I appreciate you pointing me to the canonical source.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/21 04:17 AM
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External validation - internal validation - letting go of validation This is an interesting split. That last one (“letting go of validation”) is still internal validation. If you have sufficient confidence in your ability or identity that’s you believe it without needing to prove it to yourself, that’s still internal validation. You “DNGAF” because you know. You validate through ingrained confidence rather than some arbitrary proof. That’s still internal valuation but it’s a secure validation ra…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/21 04:14 AM
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The difference is one PUA is doing PUA because they believe in order to be a PUA they need to practice PUA and get laid. The other is doing things that a PUA would do and getting laid. But he's not doing in an attempt to be. He's simply being. The fact that he also does is of no significance to him. Isn’t this just the difference between external validation and internal? The difference isn’t in ability or process or anything else so far as I can see. It’s just in self-confidence. The PUA who lac…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/21 11:00 PM
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All these things you can observe so they cannot be you. What’s the basis for the claim that “you” cannot observe “you”? Consciousness is literally awareness of self. To say that everything you can observe is by definition not “you” seems to deny the experience of consciousness.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/21 10:55 PM
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I feel like this is missing a huge piece of the story. actions [...] don't ultimately define us. if they do, we end up in this kind of subtle trap where our actions validate us. They do, though. You can be a “guy who fucks” without actively fucking right now. You cannot be a “guy who fucks” who is also a virgin. Your actions validate that your belief is true. If you believe something about yourself that you’ve never demonstrated, that’s likely just delusion. The goal is to make that one of the t…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/21 10:47 PM
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A part of me doesn't understand how guys get into these situations with their wives in the first place. However this alone tells me I have no business giving my input on these matters. I agree, but probably have different list of behaviors that I can’t understand. e.g. My wife has never been an unbearable harpy like so many men describe here. I don’t understand how any man can put up with that shit. My wife has also never thrown anything or given me the sort of nutso compliance test you describe…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 07:11 PM
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I appreciate the detail here and it puts your suggestion to Jerry in a very different light. Your original post didn't suggest confronting her or telling her to close the door the way you told your wife to clean up the broken glass. That changes the scenario a lot. Pretending you don't see the open door is extremely passive aggressive. Telling her to close it is not (though in Jerry's case might still be a bad move for the reason HoA called out). But also: If my wife leaves the door open out of …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 04:09 AM
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Are you actually claiming that your NGAF has reached the point that you don’t bother closing your front door? If you notice your front door sitting wide open randomly, you just don’t bother to close it? You just walk right on past it and enjoy the breeze? Or are you saying you just don’t care about it being closed when your wife is the one who left it open?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 12:34 AM
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I’m not talking about the package. I’m talking about your comment: I think I would have left the door open until she closed it herself. This is passive aggressive and petty. You lose by even playing this game.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 11:12 PM
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I stay 3 hours on the phone with her how are women so stupid? lol
/r/askTRP19/01/21 09:16 PM
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13 days ago: Does having a kid justify getting married?... I’ve known this girl for 7 weeks. Today: I’ve been redpill for about a year now. Nope.
/r/askMRP19/01/21 09:06 PM
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My read on this is very different from HoA. He says this is bad advice for Jerry because of where he is on his journey. I say it’s bad advice for Jerry because it’s bad advice for everyone. This kind of behavior is petty and likely to lead to a stupid war of wills where you both try to score the point for being the most stubborn. And guess what? Maybe your wife is a petty bitch for leaving the door open like that. But now so are you. Congrats in taking over the title of oldest teenager in the ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 08:32 PM
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sudden dominant, BDSM play can repulse her instantly Where did anyone say anything about BDSM? You think slapping your wife’s ass is going to look like BDSM play? This feels very much like ego protection and operating in her frame to me. “She doesn’t think of me as masculine. I better not act masculine so I don’t upset her.” How about you act masculine because that’s what a man does. She can react however she wants, but acting masculine is the fastest (only) way to change her perception anyway. …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/21 02:13 PM
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'just go for it' can actually backfire if done too soon with her attraction still low. How, exactly?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/21 10:10 PM
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Why do you care if she “brags”? What precisely do you gain from refusing to split costs? You can’t decide because you’re stuck trying to figure out which option will “stick it” to her more. Try doing what you want, dumbass. This decision clearly doesn’t even matter. You’ve turned it into tough choice because you’ve built your decision around her.
/r/askMRP17/01/21 01:12 AM
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Women don’t get sex hints Bullshit. Women ignore hints (as well as overt signals) from guys they don’t want to fuck. But they absolutely understand the hints for what they are. If your girl doesn’t “get your hints”, she’s rejecting your advances.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/21 09:08 PM
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Aren’t you the guy who posted the “I love my wife but I hate her” post? Did you seriously delete that when you posted this one? Go back and read the responses you got there instead of pretending that didn’t happen.
/r/askMRP14/01/21 04:42 PM
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I’m concerned that my account could be associated with a digital fingerprint and that information might be leaked in the future. What does this even mean? Are you under the belief that your ISP is directly working with Reddit to link your burner account to your physical home address or something? If you’re that paranoid, use a VPN. If you’re too paranoid for that, I guess you’re screwed. But seriously, what exactly are you planning to post that would justify anyone’s investment in linking your a…
/r/askMRP13/01/21 05:01 PM
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Here are the areas that have of late been consuming my work time Blah blah. Why don’t you pick one thing in your life you want to change, and then do the work to change that one thing instead of wallowing in your self pity? Although I graduated in May 2020 with my degree in biology, I have been working So you have enough time to be a nice guy and keep working for free for 8 months on a project that doesn’t benefit you any more, but not enough time to actually make any positive changes. That soun…
/r/askMRP13/01/21 04:50 PM
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Don’t listen to this guy. Your wife already hits you. You get physical in return and it’s going to escalate. You’re going to end up in jail on domestic violence charges, get divorce raped, and get supervised visits with your kids. What you should be doing is talking to a lawyer and lifting heavy weights.
/r/askMRP13/01/21 04:28 PM
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Can’t you read? He’s doing cardio now. I think this one might be a hopeless cause. He’s literally done nothing positive for himself in the 2.5 years since he “took the red pill”. Still 20% fat. Still can’t deadlift a plate. Still hates his wife. Still had no backbone. The only thing that’s changed is that now his wife hits him. (And apparently throws his keys in the toilet? What the fuck?)
/r/askMRP11/01/21 09:12 PM
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Dear diary. My wife hit me again. It’s time for the final option, the terrifying one I’ve been avoiding for months now: a strongly worded letter.
/r/askMRP11/01/21 08:20 PM
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This week I’ve been analyzing my bullshit behavior and stamping some of it out. I cut out Reddit, YouTube. I realized I’m also wasting time on the news, so I’m cutting that way back, too. Read the news for a few minutes in the morning and move on. I’m still not tracking my goals as closely as I need to. That’ll be the focus for this week. Track my progress better. Keep minimizing distractions. I am thinking a little bit about the best way to structure these posts going forward. I do these as par…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 05:10 AM
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Last week I talked about the importance of just doing the basics first, but the truth is I haven’t been doing that. I’ve been seeing patterns of behavior I don’t like but not fixing them. I’m also not closely tracking a lot of my goals, allowing them to slip day by day and then reconciling the truth at the end of the week. A big piece of this is just wasting time with distractions. Watching YouTube videos, reading and responding to posts in askmrp and mrp. I’m getting some value out of mrp but n…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/20 07:16 PM
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I could go the loser, wandering nomad pimp route aswell I would love to know what country you live in that “I’m a deadbeat” is a defense against child support. Honestly, I don’t know why you posted here. You don’t want advice. You want everyone to tell you that you’ve been dealt a rough hand and it’s not your fault. You haven’t even filed for divorce. How exactly do you expect this to play out? You still think this ends up with happily ever after one “she” changes, don’t you?
/r/askMRP01/11/20 09:34 PM
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You missed the part where you were so deeply unattractive that she couldn’t stand to be with you. But yeah, she probably needed more “beta caring support” and for you to “spin plates”. This sounds right.
/r/askMRP01/11/20 09:25 PM
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Why are the only options that your wife and kid need to stay with your mother or your kid never meets the mother? You have willingly trapped yourself into a no-win situation because you’re more comfortable playing the victim. Other options: Buy formula and go with your kid Have your mother visit Have your mother visit but stay in a rental nearby Travel with your wife and kid but stay in a rental Travel somewhere for a vacation with everyone. Two rentals. Grow a pair and stop blaming everyone els…
/r/askMRP01/11/20 09:20 PM
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3 years in we move to a different country... And she finally saw through your PUA veneer to what a loser you were underneath. I am increasingly disgusted by my wife. ... I thought it was already overdue time to get kiddo number two. You’re a special sort of moron. I probably should’ve left the orbiter orbit and maybe then now I’d still be expecting a child. So you would rather be expecting a child with this women who was clearly cheating on you? Are you really this stupid? I keep rejecting her u…
/r/askMRP01/11/20 09:13 PM
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He's not ready for this. You’re right. But she is and it seems like it’s about to come to a head. He should figure this shit out quick.
/r/askMRP30/10/20 04:26 PM
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It is literally this and Viagra. So in the last two hours you sat down with her and asked her what she’s talking about? Doubtful. You’re set on your interpretation of her feelz. Now I initiate 3x per week and if I want a BJ I let her know. So 3x/week? Not literally every day like your post indicates? (“have pushed for BJ's in between sex days this past week”) Initiate if you want to, but why are you denying the actual frequency? Everything you say seems half-truth.
/r/askMRP29/10/20 09:37 PM
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Is it really just about TRT? Why don’t you ask her what she’s talking about? My bet is she had a laundry list of Rambo shit you’ve done (and possibly that you’ve hidden) and this isn’t just her Feelz.
/r/askMRP29/10/20 07:31 PM
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I can’t do the line by line thing. I just don’t have enough energy for your particular shit show. But this: It is no longer a partnership, you are going ahead making choices and deciding how you want to live your life without involving me Your wife is asking for you to give her a narrative for why she should follow you. What are you going to tell her? What kind of life do you want to live? Do you want a partnership? It’s time for you to own your shit. Do you know how to answer her authentically?
/r/askMRP29/10/20 07:28 PM
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So what’s your plan for that? What you’ve written here makes it seem like your primary plan is to just nag your wife for more sex, or possibly “dread” it from her. I don’t see any attempt at captaining.
/r/askMRP29/10/20 04:37 PM
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You’re dancing. Why are you still so wrapped up in her and not what you want? You’re measuring your success based on her response rather than outcomes you can control. The thing I slack on is hobbies So fix it. If it’s something you care about. Wife out earns me by 100K Out of curiosity, does this mean she earns $750k or $120k? Because one of those indicates a problem. Yesterday I initiated for another BJ, which caused her to blow up and come at me with the same old shit about our relationship o…
/r/askMRP29/10/20 03:59 PM
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The bro science bit is the idea that powerlifting vs calisthenics has any significant effect on fast twitch vs slow twitch fibers. I’d love to see the peer reviewed paper indicating that calisthenics grows slow twitch fibers significantly faster than weight training. I think your calisthenics “energy” is probably misplaced. At the same time you started focusing on calisthenics, you lost 20lb and started cardio. No shit you feel more energetic. If you do a similar workload for weights as you do f…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/20 02:55 PM
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Earlier this year, I was hovering around 190 lbs with 1RMs in squat of 300 and dead of 340. Where are your 1RMs now? You only lost about 20lb. I switched gears from powerlifting to calisthenics for the increased work on slow-twitch fibers, which have more mitochondria. This sounds like ultra bro science. Powerlifting doesn’t to my knowledge have any meaningful effect on fast vs slow twitch. Do what you find enjoyable and effective, but maybe not because you think it does mitochondria magic.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 05:21 PM
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“Healthy NGAF” obviously depends on how often you choose the unhealthy behavior. Pumpkin pie for every meal is probably a bad idea and NGAF starts to look like just being an idiot. But yeah, carrying a bunch of toxic shame about occasional unhealthy choices does not seem productive for most people, though it seems to work for a select few.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 05:17 PM
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First "successful cut". But it came at a cost. I dropped all my main lifts to significantly lower weights and complicated my routine for reps and intensity. (I used to lift intermediate loads when I as fatter - I'm still fat.) You’ve mentioned this a couple of times. How did your lifts drop from intermediate to novice from a cut? Add your weight drops, so do the intermediate lifting expectations. How much weight did you drop and how fast? How much did your lifts go down? I don’t know if you’re d…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 01:31 PM
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when I’m acting like a man and leading my family we have a good sex life Careful with that covert contract. Own your shit for you and find a way to judge your work for its own merit, not how your wife reacts. If you start heading down the path of doing it to get sex, you’re going to be pissed off when you hit a dry spell.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 01:24 PM
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Hints like that, tell me she wants to be dominated but I feel a lot of deep, real resistance. Yeah, I hear you. My wife is exactly the same. Sometimes I feel like she’ll allow the marriage to fall apart before she gives me what I want. At first I thought that this was resistance from her. Wait. What? But that’s BS. Its from me, its my fears of really pushing the limits. Damn it. It’s still my fault.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 04:36 AM
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It's about drawing attention to the actual consequences (mental/physical health), not trying to manufacture secondary consequences (shame/self-hate etc). I love this. I’ve had good effect doing this on a smaller scale. I’m contemplating a decision: Should I have a drink? / Eat this cookie? / Bang this club skank? (Okay, that one doesn’t happen.) Then I ask myself, “Is this conducive to my goals?” Then I have my answer. Sometimes I still do the thing I probably shouldn’t. But often an honest eval…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 03:24 AM
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Needy and forced. Work on that. I am leading a little less and doing a little less. That could be it. I don’t know your history, but it could also be that your improvement itself was novel and causing attraction for a while. If your improvement has leveled off, the novelty is gone. But yeah, engage in kino when you want to. Don’t force it if you aren’t interested. But don’t hold back because you’re afraid, either. Learn to do it authentically and without expectations.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 03:15 AM
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The best way I’ve seen it explained is that TRP is about appearing high value. MRP is about becoming high value.
/r/askMRP28/10/20 03:09 AM
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Are you on mobile? The first link is to theredpill, which is quarantined. Maybe you haven’t accepted the quarantine warning so it’s failing to load. Maybe try navigating to theredpill directly, accept the warning that they’re dangerous degenerates, and then see if the link works.
/r/askMRP28/10/20 03:05 AM
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I’m definitely not a tax pro, though I know the basics. Blarg gave you the right answer. Don’t buy shit just to reduce your tax burden. Companies that play that game are often doing it in more complicated ways. Shifting tax burdens across fiscal years, taking advantage of other incentives, etc. For most small business, running like a family budget (buy only what you need, set aside for taxes) is probably the way to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 03:01 AM
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I gave you real advice. Optimize for the thing you actually care about. If sticking it to Uncle Sam is your primary goal, yeah, optimize for minimal taxes. Give away all your profit. If that’s not your goal, then optimize for your goal. I don’t particularly care about criticizing you. The point is that you seem to have some broken mental models around taxes. Whether you pay 25% or 50% in taxes matters a bit when debating whether or not to make a deductible purchase. Get an accountant/financial a…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 12:26 AM
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Yes, I absolutely wanted sex. The point wasn’t to try to convince her to have sex, though. The point was to not let her rejection shut down my sexual nature, to end the interaction knowing I was authentic with my expression. My goal was met whether we had sex or not. Sex would have been a nice bonus, though. “Who said anything about sex” was a disarming remark, with the same rough intent as your “stop kissing me”, though obviously less effective. I played that as an alternative to just telling h…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/20 12:15 AM
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I went for some light kino which was not welcomed at the time. Was your kino playful or needy? If my wife shrugs off kino, I’m probably going to slap her ass. If she accepts kino, I’m probably going to slap her ass. The point is that I don’t really care. 6 months ago I got the same responses. 3 months ago I could get away with any kino at any time of the day with no issues. Work to do. What happened to your attractiveness in the last 3 months? I feel that there is a 3 second window for me with i…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 11:00 PM
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Do you always assume that people giving you advice are morons? The question is do you need the shit you’re buying? If you’re buying stuff primarily to deny Uncle Sam the tax revenue, then yes, the joke’s on you. From what you’ve written, it sounds like you’re focused on minimizing taxes rather than putting money in your pocket. I am curious how much you’re bringing home, though, because 50% implies you are bringing in 500k/year and you live in state with >10% income tax. Are you really top tax b…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 10:29 PM
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I don’t think you need this much detail on your lifts/fitness. More people will read (and possibly reply) if you summarize and hit the highlights. “Xlb, BP:Y, SQ:Z, DL:W. Down 5 pounds on the scale; BP up 20...” How is your DL so much lower than your squat? She said squats wouldn't give her the body she wanted, so I sent several before and after squat pics of women and she got on board. Good to lead her here. Just make sure there’s not a covert contract around this. Lead her here as a gift with …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 10:16 PM
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I don’t understand how inaccurate language makes sense to you, but whatever. It sounds like you’re overly concerned with trying to minimize your taxes rather than maximize your returns. If you take in $5k and spend it all on deductible purchases just to avoid taxes, you didn’t get one over on Uncle Sam. You literally didn’t make any money. Make sure you’re optimizing for the right thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 09:26 PM
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So why are you trying to avoid bumping into the next tax bracket?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 08:42 PM
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Last week I had a bunch of nighttime meetings so my schedule was off. I didn’t plan or adjust well and stalled a lot of my progress for the week. I got my lifting in, but still very haphazard how I did it. I didn’t really push anything forward at work. I didn’t push much along at home either. I turned an annoyance (shifted schedule) into quite a bit of wasted time. In the future I need to do better to adjust and still be productive, still be moving forward. I have been journaling almost daily. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 08:31 PM
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After speaking with him and asking direct questions about my promotion it turns out I have to tuck my tail between my legs. I’m still supposed to get the promotion. This is one of many reasons why you shouldn’t be reacting to things like this so emotionally. You built an entire narrative in your head about your boss intentionally fucking you over when you had no idea. You literally got angry at your imagination. One of the primary questions I am trying to ask is “can I deduct more than I earn?”.…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 07:32 PM
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That’s a whole lot of words that say “do it for her”. Have some self respect instead. Improve for yourself.
/r/askMRP27/10/20 04:48 PM
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I don't know why I'm so hard on myself. Are you serious with this shit? Exactly how are you hard on yourself? Nowhere in all of your posts and replies have you taken any blame for your shit relationship? You’ve 100% laid the blame on her. You should be harder on yourself. Take some fucking responsibility.
/r/askMRP27/10/20 04:44 PM
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Why do women use your love triggers against you? Oh I know he hates when I walk out on him, I'll do it more. He hates when I hang up on him, I'll do it more. He hates when I threaten to end the relationship.... FTFY. You didn’t mention any sort of love there. Just you being a reactive pussy. Oh, and she does it because you’re a reactive pussy. She wants you to experience her disgust.
/r/askMRP27/10/20 04:35 PM
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That’s a great question. Are you going to answer it?
/r/askMRP26/10/20 09:59 PM
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The woman who knows how to match boobs with her style I’m pretty certain this doesn’t mean anything. Stop trying to overthink this crap. the fact that you need to go through this discussion to try to rationalize getting a tattoo says something.
/r/askMRP26/10/20 09:59 PM
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Agree it’s almost certainly a waste of my time. Trying to give advice to idiots online is one of my vices that I need to learn to control.
/r/askMRP26/10/20 08:20 PM
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I wish I liked hockey and cared how cars work, but that isn't my nature and I'm not going to pretend to be a guy I'm not. So you’re one of those guys. Your problem isn’t that you’re too smart or that you have too much money. It’s that you’re elitist. You can’t engage in “common” hobbies because your ego is based on you being more intellectual than other men, more discerning than other men, more selective than other men. You believe you’re special and your specialness is intrinsically tied to the…
/r/askMRP26/10/20 07:50 PM
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How was it hard when you didn’t even try to diet? You’re lazy and delusional. Will double my efforts. 2x zero is still zero.
/r/askMRP26/10/20 06:51 PM
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tell her calmly and directly that the way she is speaking to you is disrespectful and unacceptable. And then what? She knows full well he'll keep accepting it. If you can’t get her to stop speaking disrespectfully to you, you may need to take her to a counseling appointment eventually Try flowers and chocolate first
/r/askMRP26/10/20 06:41 PM
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All the MRP stuff seems to be very passive . Just go work on yourself and lift and things will fall in order . What am I missing? The work. You're missing 100% of the fucking work. It's not passive to work on yourself. It's active. Shutting the fuck up instead of getting "triggered" is not passive. It's active. It takes active effort to shut your fucking mouth when you know opening it will make shit worse. It takes active effort to learn when you should open your mouth (you're not there). It tak…
/r/askMRP26/10/20 06:38 PM
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This first experiment feels like tattoos make life even easier when shown appropriately in the right situations. This meets my goal of increasing value without taking away time from enjoying life. On the flip side I hear a lot of cautionary tales about tattoos. On the flip side, it sounds like 90% of the reason you want tattoos is to hopefully impress some chicks.
/r/askMRP26/10/20 04:06 PM
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No, dumbass. Figure out your exit plan first. Talk to your landlord. Figure out how to exit your lease and what it means for you financially. Find a new place to live, even if it’s temporary. Moving back with your parents is a better idea than living with this chick after you break up. Read your lease and understand it. It should plainly state what the early exit penalty is. Can you just swing that? Can you ask your parents to borrow that amount? Can you get a part time job delivering pizza to s…
/r/askMRP23/10/20 03:24 PM
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She wishes I was more mature instead of acting childish with the teasing and jokes. No she doesn’t. She just wants you to stay quiet and not talk back. Break up you moron. She cheats on you and treats you like shit. Have a tiny bit of self respect.
/r/askMRP23/10/20 03:16 PM
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Own your shit. Take care of what needs taking care of. Do the stuff you care about. If #1 is done, proceed to #2. If she doesn’t want to watch her own child, then that’s her issue. Lifting lands in both categories so lift. (Obviously if you’re out drinking until noon the next day, you’re probably just not owning your shit, so go back to #1.)
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/20 03:51 AM
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It’s in your frame as long as it’s smaller than your dick. At least I think that’s how this works.
/r/askMRP22/10/20 08:50 PM
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Your correct in that she is a SAHM im learning the fine line right now. The other day I was flamed for using my baby as a bargaining chip. So I tried to swing the other direction and just take full responsibility. The only time I couldn't is during the workout. So she now even is trying to say I am leaving her alone and making her have to watch him alone which is some giant burden to her. Last week I was flamed for telling her to watch him while I went next door and took care of bills without he…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/20 08:48 PM
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100%. That's my biggest fear in all aspects of life. Innoculation to this is simply doing/asking more right? Half of the antidote is to be authentic and initiate when you want to fuck. The other half is to learn to let rejections roll off your back.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/20 02:15 AM
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So all our income minus groceries electric water and internet is ours to keep. Are you actually on track to save $350k in 5 years or is this an aspiration? If you’re saving $70k/year, I don’t understand how spending $2500 on a vacation even merits mentioning. I feel like there’s some disconnect here. Also you’re the ultimate beta bucks. 6 figure income tax free and you can’t lose your job. Your wife probably masturbates thinking of your paychecks. Yes both arms will be in a sling for 3 months. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 08:40 PM
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Had a talk with my GF tonight, I told her exactly what I wanted her to do: block some guy she was flirting with (including one she cheated me with), and take an appointment with a therapist. ... She ended up leaving to a friend's house for tonight You can’t be serious with this. She went and got some dick.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 04:06 PM
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My relationship with my wife is dramatically better when I take care of my own shit. The best sexual events that have happened in the last few years have been immediately following times when I showed uncommon leadership. ... Weekly Goal: manage our family calendar and make sure that the things I want to have taking up our time are what actually take up our time. Set a weekly schedule for all common household tasks. Good luck with that covert contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 03:48 PM
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Drinking and eating in excess is in my wife's frame not mine. What the fuck? This is on you, and blaming it on your wife’s “frame” is beyond retarded.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 03:45 PM
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Until 10 days ago I have been drinking a minimum of 6 beers a night every night. Have fun ruining your life and liver. I'm either drinking everything or nothing. Eating perfectly or completely like shit. Studying like a demon or not at all. My life has no balance or consistency. That’s because you have motivation instead of discipline. You go 100% when you’re feeling motivated but completely stop as soon as the motivation dissipates, which it inevitably will. His first response to anything is al…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 03:43 PM
2

Reading at least 5 pages a day. So it’ll take you well over a month to complete the 200-page Mindful Attraction Plan. This isn’t even 10 minutes a day.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 03:27 PM
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going to be both shoulders at once, in a sling for 3 months Wait, what? You’re going to have both arms in slings for 3 months? No point to argue with. Make my side known and listened to her side for the validation she needs, repeat my point of view and stopped trying to argue with the hamster. That sounds like it’s about your validation. Why are you repeating your point of view? This is commonly known as arguing. And it’s about you getting validation by feeling “right” or getting in the last wor…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 12:25 PM
2

Yeah. Just get the mri.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 07:53 PM
2

I guess what improvements? You still can’t lift. I would personally want it checked out more in depth. I’m not a medical doctor, but then neither is your PT or chiropractor.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 05:56 PM
2

10 weeks? Get it properly evaluated.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 05:47 PM
2

I’ve made it my goal to take his job. This seems like a really shitty goal, born out of a place of bitterness. How is this even supposed to happen? You’ll be so awesome that he’ll get fired and you’ll be put into his role? You know that’s not how it works, right? If you’re that fucking awesome, he’ll get promoted for the awesome work happening in his team and for doing such an amazing job of growing your skills. Or do you plan on trying the political avenue? Where you poison the team against him…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 05:25 PM
2

I’m feeling a bit aimless. Looking over my last week of journal entries, I have nothing extremely interesting to share. The common theme is that I need to figure out what I want in life. I’m looking for some adventure or something. Stuff is generally going fine, but that’s not enough. I’m not feeling extremely engaged in work at this point. It’s busy but not unbearably. I’m getting my stuff done. But I’m not feeling connected to the work aside from using it as an avenue to practice better skills…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 05:09 PM
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Bullshit. Just post your stats. You don’t need to write another OYS to admit that you’re weak. Everyone can already tell. Also 6kg gain in a month? Unless you’re on gear or emaciated, that’s way, way too fast. You’ve probably put on 4kg of fat in the last month.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/20 05:03 PM
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This was 100% victim puke. What have you actually done? Name one single thing you’ve done to improve yourself. It just seems as if my wife is done with sex. I want that back in my life So go have sex. She’s so certain that 1) you can’t fuck someone else, and 2) you will never leave her, that she literally gave you permission. My wife has shut me down and has plainly shown no interest, does that give me a ticket to go and get my needs met? Or is this some other control game? Who cares if she’s pl…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/20 04:59 PM
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Glad to see you posting in OYS.
/r/askMRP15/10/20 12:57 PM
2

Then there’s 10% who go “man that sucks, tell me about him”. I need to remember this for next time. I’m 100% in the group of people who would tell you that sucks, or that I’m sorry for your loss. Asking about the humanity of your son and your relationship instead of the loss is something that wouldn’t even occur to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 06:12 PM
1

In reality my business does better when I'm not hands on micromanaging people. Are you choosing between micromanaging and not managing, or between micromanaging and managing well? You should be setting your people up for success, but giving them opportunities to succeed or fail, and then working with them to improve their skills/mindset/effectiveness/etc. If your lack of micromanagement feels like doing nothing, it might be because you’re actually doing nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 03:47 PM
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Document, record if possible, file for divorce. If my wife were hitting me, I’d probably install nanny cams and do my best to be in front of them wherever she got angry. I’d sure as fuck be done with the marriage.
/r/askMRP14/10/20 03:23 PM
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The problem is I'm back to my old weight level but keep stalling. I need to eat more up 5lbs in 3 months it's slow. Where are your lifts now? 5lb in 3 months is slow. You probably do need to just eat more. Are you putting on more muscle than fat? I have left the wife to sort herself out, at the moment her illness consumes her and she cannot work but me stepping back has meant I no longer carry that weight of fixing it What is your end state here? I doubt that playing celibate nursemaid for the r…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 01:31 PM
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While I get regular duty sex, blowjobs have been off the table for years. I have yet to generate either the dread or desire necessary to make them come back. Have you tried just telling her to suck your dick? I went multiple years with no blowjobs. I’m not getting the enthusiastic ones I want yet, but I do get my dick sucked now, because I just bring my dick to her face before sex and tell her to do it. I’m literally 100% successful at getting my dick into her mouth before sex when I tell her to…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 01:21 PM
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I see a Ph.D psychologist twice a week and a psychiatrist twice a month. I'm religious about telling them what is going on and following their advice as closely as I can. Good. Are they helping you? I've done DNP before and it is very dangerous if not treated with utmost respect. That shit sounds very risky to me, but you do you. Personally I’ll just cut hard when I need to. I did do lifting today for the first time. Looks like my long term goal is get my shoulder surgery... Good. Do what you ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/20 04:50 AM
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but know I wont be doing cardio like I need over the winter or lifting anything worth noting until summer next year. “Hey, guys. Doctors say I might need 3 months to recover. I figure I’ll devote as least 9 months to doing nothing positive in my life. Any suggestions?” Yeah, go fuck yourself. If you want suggestions on how to not be stupid, start by trying to not be stupid.
/r/askMRP14/10/20 04:38 AM
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Okay, so it sounds like you have some real physical/mental shit to deal with. General advice on that: Make management of your issues a top priority. Are you working with a psychologist and psychiatrist to figure out what medications work best for you? Keep working on identifying your triggers and learning coping strategies. If your psychologist isn’t teaching you actual skills, find a new one ASAP. Sounds like you have a legitimate need to rely on her at times. Given that, own it. Make your need…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 10:50 PM
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The thing bouncing around in my mind the most lately is still mission. I got great feedback last week and I pushed back on whether I even need to have a mission right now vs just making myself more of the person I want to be. I still think there’s some truth to that, but now I’m starting to worry that I won’t just achieve that and say “now what”, but will reach that and say “what a waste”. I can work on myself while I do more than that. In particular, I want to work on bringing adventure into my…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 10:18 PM
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Makes sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 07:26 PM
1

Off to get my blood work done to start TRT next week. Out of curiosity, why? Listening into the OYS podcast a couple of weeks ago, you indicated that getting significantly stronger wasn’t a goal for you anymore. Presumably your dick is working fine. So what’s driving you to TRT?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 03:46 PM
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I’m in no way a seasoned vet, but here are my quick thoughts. You are absolutely in her frame. If you have to say that you aren’t in her frame, you are. So many of the things you do are literally framed around her. e.g. “...not react to her so she can't see her emotional rants effect me” This sounds like you’ve dug yourself into a big hole. This behavior from her didn’t just start. This shit has clearly been going on a long time. There’s not going to be a quick fix. Why are you not distancing yo…
/r/askMRP13/10/20 04:41 AM
1

Is that how you wanted those interactions to go? Assuming not since you’re here, where did you fuck up?
/r/askMRP13/10/20 12:07 AM
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Technically you’re right. You did write two lines about what you did. Compare that to the number of lines you’ve written about her separation anxiety and codependency and comfort testing. Also you very much wrote about yourself in a passive/reactive way. “She did this, and so I did this.” There seems to be little specific intent in your actions. Rather it’s just reacting to her behavior and emotions.
/r/askMRP12/10/20 10:45 PM
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It’s definitely harder with covid. Try to find some outdoor stuff to do. People are less concerned about covid in outdoor settings. Hiking, fishing, construction projects (wasn’t kidding about that deck, or build a shed/fence/whatever). Something physical that can be done with a friend or two. Honestly, everyone I know is feeling stir crazy and would probably be happy for an excuse to get away from their house and family and engage in some form of adult interaction with someone else. If a friend…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/20 08:32 PM
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every single day I can't for the life of me find the motivation to do... anything You’re depressed and grieving. You should take the time you need too grieve and you shouldn’t feel bad about being depressed. Feeling bad about feeling bad isn’t going to help you and there’s nothing wrong with feeling bad right now. You went through real stuff here. I’d be a fucking mess if one of my kids died, too. I think you got some good advice and you should follow it. Find a good therapist. Find a support gr…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/20 08:07 PM
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I am attracted to her ... as long as there is no resentment and frustration towards her There you go. You’re not low libido. You’re butthurt. Fix the butthurt and suddenly you’ll probably want to fuck more. My T levels however have taken a hit because of the pandemic What the fuck does this mean and how has no one called you out for this bullshit? Did you *get * COVID and have lingering effects? Because if not, the pandemic has nothing to do with your testosterone levels. Have you even ever had …
/r/askMRP12/10/20 03:55 AM
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The constructive criticism is that you are in her frame and that you have been spinning your wheels. He did give you that. You got caught up in your ego and responded to your bruised feelings instead of the meat of his comment. You’re starting at level 0. STFU, lift, sidebar, and OYS.
/r/askMRP12/10/20 03:49 AM
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Sure, learn the tools from WISNIFG. But you’re looking for tactics and you need deeper work. So much of what you’ve written here is about her. You haven’t written anything about you, which says it all. You wrote about how she screamed at you to come to bed every two hours all night long in front of your friends. You didn’t write a single line about what you did or didn’t do, what you learned, or what you should do next time. It’s just what she did and how can you fix her “separation anxiety”. Yo…
/r/askMRP12/10/20 03:42 AM
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Nice DEER. Notice how your current chick is also broken? At some point it’s just you. Maybe your last wife was just batshit. That doesn’t explain why you’re still here asking the same god damned question 3 years later.
/r/askMRP11/10/20 09:01 PM
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Wow. This dude is a train wreck. In three years he ruined one marriage (because she was BPD of course), got divorced, “spun plates”, married a new chick, and has now restarted literally the exact same cycle. Oh, and he’s been married to this chick less than a year. Holy shit. https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/dxwv6f/comment/f7yfn4p /u/kendallb183 Why even ask? You’re not going to do the work.
/r/askMRP11/10/20 08:07 PM
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My eyes glazed over while reading that pile of garbage. So you don’t lift and you read incessantly instead of applying. I think I see your problem.
/r/askMRP10/10/20 05:37 PM
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Motherfucker you posted that enormous wall of bullshit and didn’t say anything about your lifts, your weight/height, or what you’ve read. You were asked about you and responded with your amateur analysis of your wife. Fuck off.
/r/askMRP10/10/20 03:51 PM
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I appreciate the thoughts. Especially this: Instead, I realized I get to share my interest and hobbies with my kids
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/20 03:42 PM
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Start by not escalating arguments any more. There’s nothing good that comes from arguing with her and you’re actively making it worse by escalating. If your finances are fucked, set up a budget and stick to it. Given that she has threatened to return her ring and literally walked out of the house abandoning her child while you worked, go speak to a lawyer (or 3) about divorce. It might come to that so be prepared. This is a giant train wreck and might be unsalvageable. And follow the plan. STFU,…
/r/askMRP08/10/20 04:06 PM
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Now this stung, as since we knew each other I was going after "our money" angle and made arrangements to make my bank account accessible to her. Never cared that I earn quite a lot comparing to others in my country. On multiple occasions she behaved like we had separate budgets and I corrected her every time stating that this is no the way to go forward with such thinking.Last night felt like last straw on the matter and I said calmly I will revoke her accesses to my account. This has absolutely…
/r/askMRP08/10/20 03:40 PM
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Totally valid feedback. I appreciate it. I think I’m concerned more with my own approval than anyone else’s, but I’ll think about that. Making yourself a better beta with some alpha characteristics, without your own purpose clearly in mind, may not lead you to a better place in the end. This especially hits home. My goal is my own fulfillment. I need to make sure that’s the destination I’m heading toward.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/20 01:50 AM
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Look, I mostly want to write you off as another fuckstick who'll just delete his account in a week. But some stupid part of me wants to give you the advice I think you need, so here goes. You wrote this in your one and only OYS: I have to admit that this subreddit is attractive to me. It's methodical and subversive. It seems to self-select for people who are serious about shit that matters. But it's also at times just dumbly machismo. I get we all have to LARP at times to level up, but there jus…
/r/askMRP07/10/20 10:22 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. I agree that I'm not at the point where I can really look outward for my next challenge. I have a lot of internal work. Your mountain metaphor is good. In my journal I sometimes talk to it in terms of swimming. I feel like I'm treading water, sometimes barely keeping my head up. I need to progress to swimming toward a new point. Maybe find myself a boat. And I agree that MITW's questions are still good. My discomfort with answering them tells me that they hit on meaningf…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/20 08:53 PM
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Absolutely, some people undoubtedly grow through pursuing their mission. In no way did I mean to imply that this wasn't a viable (or even the best) path. Right now I feel like my mission is to grow myself. Get to the point that I'm the person I want to be. At some point, I'm going to say, "now what" and that's presumably where the next/broader/deeper mission really starts for me. Mentoring is something I have a growing interest in, and I do think I need to start pursuing more opportunities there…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/20 08:44 PM
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Mostly I think you’re delusional. I didn’t even call you dumb. I said you have some dumb ideas. But like so many guys you can’t handle feedback that your ego doesn’t want to hear. Of course you love what HoA said. You take it as evidence that you’re hot as fuck and you just need some “tactics” to fix your wife. Meanwhile you’re still fat and butthurt and your wife is pushing back because you just aren’t attractive enough. On the other hand, you dismissed Red’s feedback because you couldn’t incor…
/r/askMRP07/10/20 08:19 PM
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Dilemma... The real dilemma is that you haven’t actually done any reading, which is obvious from your incessant misuse of terms and your stupid ideas. She (her ASD) comfort tests hard and frequently, overtly focusing on the dirty talk and dominance in sex This isn’t a comfort test. It’s a shit test. and wanting covert contracts (keep having more sex if we dial down the D in DEVI This is not a covert contract. It’s literally the opposite: an overt contract. A covert contract is something the othe…
/r/askMRP07/10/20 07:51 PM
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Yep. Why not just lift in the storage area? Lots of guys have set up storage unit gyms because they didn’t have a garage or extra room.
/r/askMRP06/10/20 10:54 PM
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Tyler and Taylor. For real with this? Are you actually trying to fuck your twin sister? Because I’m pretty sure there’s a different subreddit for that.
/r/askMRP06/10/20 08:40 PM
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Some of the stuff I’ve started is beginning to run on autopilot. My mailboxes are cleaned daily so that I’m not getting buried anymore. Nor am I missing stuff because it gets lost in the thousands of unread emails I used to have in my inbox. I’m also going over my todos daily and making progress, although not quite enough. I’m going to either need to find more time, delegate more, or cut some stuff entirely. I’m totally swamped at work these last few weeks. I’m making good progress with the care…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 04:48 PM
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They are attacks. That’s a lot of what this place is. That doesn’t mean there’s no value contained in them. If someone online calls you an asshole, you probably don’t give a fuck. But if someone calls you an addict, you get upset and lash out. Why?
/r/askMRP01/10/20 09:53 PM
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Learn to read with your brain instead of your emotions. He absolutely gave you advice. He told you to stop lying to yourself. But you couldn’t handle the ego blow so you told yourself there was no substance in his reply.
/r/askMRP01/10/20 09:07 PM
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Every time you get defensive, you need to realize that this is your ego protecting itself. You get pissed off when people poke at you because you lack confidence in yourself and your choices. You’ve been going to relationship counseling the entire time you’ve lived with your wife. It sounds like you’ve been in counseling since before you were even married. You obviously don’t know what you’re doing so check your ego and listen to the messages you are getting instead of trying to defend your frag…
/r/askMRP01/10/20 09:02 PM
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I was also in a long distance with her for 5 months during covid. How the fuck were you with her for a year but then didn’t get together for 5 months? She moved on, dude.
/r/askMRP01/10/20 04:31 PM
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LOL, no. You're just such a giant sack of shit that I’m actively rooting for you to fail. You’re such a lazy, passive-aggressive cunt that you left a dirty pot in the sink for months. And then you come here to whine about how your wife sucks. Go fuck yourself.
/r/askMRP01/10/20 04:11 PM
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Of course that’s what you’re leaning towards. That’s the option that lets you avoid taking any sort of responsibility for the marriage you’ve created. See you in 5 years when you’ve recreated this same shit with someone new. Maybe you’ll be ready to check your ego and listen then.
/r/askMRP30/09/20 04:17 PM
1

I absolutely lack any form of mission. I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about this and come up with nothing. Advice is welcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 03:52 PM
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Am I just being naive? Naïve probably isn’t the right word. Try immature. You basically told us you can’t get hard for a girl without makeup. If you think this way, you’re still putting women on pedestals. Your mindset is totally fucked if you can’t be attracted to an actual human instead of a facade. Wait until you realize that women also poop.
/r/askMRP30/09/20 03:50 PM
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You should divorce her. She can do better.
/r/askMRP30/09/20 03:42 PM
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You’ve been here for two years and you’re still asking this stupid question, and you’re gossiping about celebrity relationships. What the fuck is wrong with you?
/r/askMRP30/09/20 03:27 PM
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Last story: this one probably too far. We were at a restaurant and her napkin flew off of her plate since she didn't put anything on it to hold it (we were outside and it was windy). She asked me to get it, and I said "I am not the one who forgot to put something on their napkin." She made some crack about chivalry, but went to get her napkin. I’m curious why this was “too far”. My metric for “is this request reasonable?” is “would I make this request?” I wouldn’t ask my wife (or anyone else) to…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 07:53 PM
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Since last week: I've made progress on my work stuff (it's essentially a bunch of career growth/feedback exercises I promised my team). I've gotten through 20% and will tackle the next 40% this week. So far these exercises have been extremely well received. I found a few things no one was handling at work and took them on. I want to do more of this. I certainly didn't manage to do this every day. Made most of my commitments to myself (e.g. task list management, lifting, journaling). I didn't run…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 07:01 PM
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She wants me to figure out how to show I care. Your problem is that you do care. The only thing dumber than her “feeling like trash” because you looked at some fat asses online is you feeling bad about her feeling bad. Your way forward is the same as everyone else. Start here: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/acvzgx/steels_guide_to_married_red_pill/
/r/askMRP28/09/20 06:24 PM
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I've tried to maintain mass while staying light and agile Then why do you weigh 200lb with those lifts? This might be a compelling argument if you were lean and hitting the court at 170. But you’re 200lb and have a squat that’s early novice level for a 165lb male.
/r/askMRP28/09/20 03:10 AM
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Well you sound like an idiot, so it seems par for the course. I don’t know how else to parse “she knows and acknowledges the injustices of her mother”. That’s some strange shit to say about a 5 year old. At the very least, you seem to be getting validation from your daughter “siding” with you.
/r/askMRP28/09/20 03:03 AM
1

My mistake then. I must have misunderstood or misremembered your comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/20 02:57 AM
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I have a great relationship with my 5-year-old daughter and she knows and acknowledges the injustices of her mother. It sounds like you are bad mouthing your wife to her daughter and need to shut the fuck up. You shouldn’t be talking about this shit to your daughter. Get a friend to talk to. Don’t be discussing the shortcomings of your children’s mother with your children, dumbass.
/r/askMRP28/09/20 02:48 AM
2

What the fuck is an assisted bodyweight pull-up?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 10:51 PM
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Then go to a fucking doctor instead of self diagnosing as “need to jerk off”.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 10:53 PM
1

True enough. My lifts do suck.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 08:41 PM
2

Acceptable levels are based on your size. Again, I don’t care if you bulk, but if you’re losing 1/3 lb per week, you’re just not cutting as hard as you think. If you don’t want to cut more calories, add in exercise. 2000 calories burned running/walking/cycling/rowing will have the same effect as cutting another 2000 calories from your weekly diet. Except your cardio health will probably be better. By the way, be careful with your bulking calories. If you’re not losing at 1300-1500 calories, then…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 06:15 PM
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Last week I was called out by /u/johneyapocalypse for basically engaging in a self-inflicted pity party. I dumped a big list of stuff I’ve been fucking up, with the intention of being honest about the work I need to do. Maybe I did that, but I also excluded almost anything positive. At the end of the day, the “I’m so honest about my shortcomings bit” is still feeding my ego, isn’t entirely honest, and isn’t solving any actual problems. I was asked to provide five examples of self control, along …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 05:32 PM
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We did not have sex during those four days ... yesterday when I got a dull throbbing pain in the prostate area. Last night I woke up to go to the bathroom three times. Experiment is over and it seems unsafe to resume. No jerking off for 4 days and suddenly you’ve got prostate problems. I don’t think so. I don’t care if you jerk off or not but this is ridiculous. Your experiment was presumably intended to make you hornier. It sounds like it succeeded. Somehow you’ve decided that feeling is unsafe…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 05:24 PM
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i need more muscle as I am probably tapped out on how low I can go without more. ... lowest BF in decades (13-17 depending on method) How are you “tapped out” at 13-17% BF? What does that mean? Bulk if that’s what you want, but I don’t understand how you can’t get to a lower BF. Eat less, exercise more, same as everyone else. If you’re not losing weight, you’re eating at TDEE (or above). Or alternatively you’re just holding a lot of water weight, but that’s doubtful given 9 weeks and only 3.5lb …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 04:52 PM
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I've wondered about the lull, I don't see exactly how covid would be causing it, figured there would be more British cigarettes sitting at home with time and splooge on their hands. A lot of people have essentially just shut down during the semi-quarantine. I did for too long. /u/RoccoPinkman admitted the same. I’ve seen this in many other people I know. Only a few have thrived. The rest are just surviving and largely stuck in a “shelter in place” mindset, occupying themselves with television bi…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 03:43 PM
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able to go to work and thus continue posting You can’t post without leaving the house? My wife doesn’t know I read or post to MRP and I do that from the house. If you’re around your wife 100% of the time, you might want to fix that.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 03:37 PM
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Sure. I focused more on what I’m screwing up but next time I can provide some examples of where I’m not a total train wreck. And thanks for clarifying.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/20 03:22 PM
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I appreciate the feedback. Do you have the character to restrain your impulses, to respect yourself, to respect the one body you were born with, or don't you? Obviously I don’t. My post is about wanting to build that. Laziness is by far my biggest problem with myself and it’s what I need to fix. Your intro actually disgusts me. Viscerally. You’re right. It’s disgusting. When I decided I needed to start posting OYS again, the intent was to be honest and I’ve honestly been stagnant. And it’s disgu…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/20 03:13 AM
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I have been slacking off hardcore for the past 6 months. No excuses. I stopped lifting for several months, stopped pushing myself socially, made zero progress on projects around the house, made little to no real progress at work (though somehow in the middle of all this I got promoted; it helps to have a crew capable of taking the wheel when the captain goes AWOL). I also stopped posting OYS, partly because of laziness and partly because I wanted to avoid the judgement of others while I was igno…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 05:04 PM
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Technically he’s intending “negative punishment”. i.e. Punishment by removing something desired. Unfortunately for him, he’s not desired so his quiet withdrawal actually is positively reinforcing her interruptions. She’s being trained that if she interrupts him, he’ll go the fuck away for a few minutes.
/r/askMRP13/09/20 03:03 AM
4

But how else are you supposed to make a “show of affection” toward someone who bit part of your nose off? Flowers in the lap are the perfect balance of “I’m slightly annoyed that you’ve disfigured my face” and “I’m so fucked up that my first thought is how I’m still lucky to have you “.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/20 08:37 PM
8

It’s not about the flowers. You’re right. But this post is also not about just giving a gift without expectations. If you want to tell that story, you say something like, “So I bought some flowers the other day for my wife because I wanted to. Didn’t expect anything in return. Didn’t get anything in return. Turns out you can give a gift honestly and it doesn’t make you a simp. The end.” If you instead write a long story about how you bought your wife flowers “just because”, but then you slyly se…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/20 08:31 PM
8

This story is literally “I soothed my wife and showed my appreciation by buying her flowers”. Buy flowers for your wife if you want but I’m not clear what red pill knowledge is being shared here. I guess it’s supposed to be “don’t have a covert contract on flowers” but that hardly seems like it needs a top level post.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/20 03:02 PM
1

You’re not dealing with “awalt” if what you’re saying is true. These are just stupid people and you sound not be surprised (or care) when stupid people act stupid.
/r/askMRP10/09/20 02:45 AM
1

Her sisters say the way I treat her is mentally abusive.... Mind you [DEER] The fact that you feel the need to justify how you treat her, and that you do it by saying saying you’re wealthy and she’s stays at home, makes me think you probably do treat her like shit. On the off chance the sisters are really the crazy feminists that you claim, just tell them to get the fuck out of your house when they start bad mouthing you. If they say something like she should leave, tell them she’s welcome to le…
/r/askMRP10/09/20 12:04 AM
4

Get back to fucking work. The standard line is that the feminine grows from praise and the masculine grows through challenge. Who exactly grows through mandate? Your comments here don’t read like “honest feedback” or “tough love” or whatever. They read like you attempting to boss someone around with authority you do not hold. There’s a lesson here for you about authority and control. And also too much GAF.
/r/askMRP08/09/20 01:29 AM
0

Lol. I’m sorry the Jews gave you bad genes.
/r/askTRP06/09/20 06:14 PM
1

Fuck off Mr Victim. You’re a giant whiney cunt who can’t accept any responsibility. You even blame Jews because you can’t get a promo at work. You poor little nazi bitch. Red pill doesn’t work for you because you don’t want to take any responsibility.
/r/askTRP06/09/20 03:36 PM
2

How bad are your genetics? Extra chromosomes combined with a disfiguring disease or just not white, handsome, and tall? Realistically the vast majority of people are capable of finding sexual partners and developing relationships if that’s what they want. The set of people who are incapable of getting laid no matter what they do (short of paying) is nonzero but very small. Black pill is just people whining that they don’t get to play on easy mode. It’s difficult to take some responsibility and d…
/r/askTRP06/09/20 01:42 PM
4

Redpill works only for a specific subset of men What does this even mean? The problem with “black pill”, aside from all the losers and loser talk, is that it lacks any notion of a middle ground. Essentially, it says if you can’t be a male model, you’re fucked and doomed to be celibate and alone forever. This is akin to saying if you can’t be Bill Gates, you can’t be successful in business, or if you can’t be a literal rock star, you can’t be successful socially. There’s a lot of area between inc…
/r/askTRP06/09/20 01:36 PM
2

I slept with about 5 different women in between that time. I didn't take the first piece of pussy that jumped at me. I've been "spinning plates" since I was in college. Stop DEERing. You were fucking 5-6s. Internet adjustment means you were probably fucking 4s. You haven’t been “spinning plates”. You’ve been taking absolutely anything you can get. Tattooed my name on her after 2 months. The ONLY problem is when she's drunk, she rages. The only problem is that she’s clearly fucking insane. Who th…
/r/askMRP06/09/20 04:11 AM
3

Why are you using past tense? You are trying to “save” a relationship with an alcoholic who treats you like shit. You left your own house at 1:30am rather than kick her out. You are an enormous pussy and you still have oneitis for this shitty person.
/r/askMRP06/09/20 04:02 AM
3

Everything was going good until week 2. Only two weeks in you were crying and begging her to stay because you had an argument. Fuck it. Buy her flowers and a bouquet of cheap whiskey to make up. Put a ring on it because she is exactly what you deserve.
/r/askMRP05/09/20 10:34 PM
1

You are stuck in a victim mentality and failing to take any ownership. You’re blaming this guy instead of yourself for flirting inappropriately at work. I’m not going to break down everything that was your fault because it’s depressing and frankly probably not helpful for you in your current place. I will say that you need to learn to take some responsibility if you want to improve. You will forever feel powerless and broken until you decide to take some responsibility. You mention your “mind he…
/r/askTRP03/09/20 03:34 AM
1

I feel like if I saved and made like 50k a year and put 10k aside for bills and saved up 40k for 4 years summing 120k. If you make 50k a year and spend 10k on bills and save the other 40k, do you know what happens? You go to jail because you’re not paying your fucking taxes. Also where do you live that 10k will cover your bills for the year? Also also 40k * 4 is not 120k. You should seriously enroll in a finance class because you don’t seem to have any notion of real-world expenses or savings.
/r/askTRP03/09/20 03:01 AM
1

People don’t dislike you because you’re successful. They dislike you because you’re you. You said yourself that even other successful people don’t stay in your life. You drive literally everyone away and insist it’s because you’re so awesome. If someone disagrees, you try to turn it into a pissing match where you assert how awesome you are, because you can’t admit the possibility that people would dislike you for any reason other than envy.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 01:36 AM
1

Ok. Then if you’re not telling people about your success, then that’s not what’s putting them off. It’s just your personality.
/r/askTRP01/09/20 01:32 AM
1

If you think 80k is “a large savings account“, you need to talk with anyone who actually has money. You are utterly lacking in perspective. Good for you for saving 80k. That is better than average for a college student. It’s probably better than average for the average adult in general. It’s still not an impressive sum and this lack of perspective matches perfectly with everything else you said. I also wonder how many people you’ve told this little tidbit to. How many of the people you’ve driven…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 09:10 PM
0

This was the expected response. It’s far easier to dismiss criticism than to consider that maybe your ego is out of control and that maybe your situation is your fault. The interesting thing about people like you is that you can’t distinguish actually impressive feats from claims that are just stupid, which is why everyone can see you for what you are. You proudly told us about how you got kicked out of multiple career fairs because your resume is just so goddamned awesome that no one believes i…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 08:56 PM
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No, dude. You’re clearly delusional and everyone you meet sees through your bullshit. You essentially say you’re so awesome that it drives people away. That’s not a thing. Actually successful people don’t complain that everyone avoids them due to their success, but that everyone wants something due to their success. Successful people have hangers-on of all kinds and have trouble separating legitimate friends from those who just want to leech. They don’t have a dearth of companionship. Your probl…
/r/askTRP31/08/20 04:03 AM
1

When someone "takes a shit on me," I tend to grow roses and shove them right back up their ass. No kissing necessary. This is the stupidest thing I’ve read all day. Like “16-year-old thinks he’s clever” levels of cringy and retarded.
/r/askMRP29/08/20 12:17 AM
1

No, dude. What you proposed was literally a covert contract. “I will do X and they will do Y, except they don’t know about this deal.” Your example of a “real” covert contract is not a covert contract because it’s not a contract. It doesn’t involve anyone else at all. It’s an expectation that something you do will affect you, which is pretty reasonable. Hit the sidebar and learn what you’re talking about.
/r/askMRP29/08/20 12:13 AM
2

Ah, what the fuck. Another complete time waster bullshitting everyone.
/r/askMRP28/08/20 06:14 PM
5

Hey, what the fuck is up with the MIL/BIL shit? You said this chick is your girlfriend. You don’t have in-laws if you aren’t even married. Are you another of the morons who think of their girlfriend as their wife and then wonder why the relationship is so fucked up?
/r/askMRP28/08/20 04:34 PM
2

How about ... you listen and actually offer solutions and fucking HELP. This is some deep Nice Guy shit. You want to help a friend with their wedding because you’re that kind of guy? Go for it. You want to manage a bunch of bullshit for a brother in law you don’t even like because you think it’ll make you an “alpha that everyone wants to be around and respects”. Fuuuuuuck that. That’s just a huge covert contract.
/r/askMRP28/08/20 04:32 PM
1

This isn’t really the place for lazy questions. Use the search. I probably shouldn’t, but here’s one obvious result: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/6jnysd/kino_for_hard_case_newbies/
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/20 03:43 PM
4

Reread WISNIFG.
/r/askMRP28/08/20 02:05 PM
3

He probably didn’t. Someone downvoted every comment here. Votes don’t matter for shit, though, so whatever.
/r/askMRP28/08/20 02:00 PM
1

Comfortable with what? Not whining about others? You did bail, and that’s fine. (You probably shouldn’t have gone, because it sounds like you got exactly what you expected.) Your problem isn’t that your action was wrong, but that you are too caught up in others’ expectations. Reread WISNIFG.
/r/askMRP28/08/20 01:59 PM
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I’d probably bail. My point is that you are entirely too concerned about the fact that he was blaming you. You care so much that you made another post just to tell us how mean he was to you.
/r/askMRP28/08/20 01:38 PM
9

You care too fucking much. likes to single me out for criticism. Boo hoo
/r/askMRP28/08/20 01:18 PM
4

Too vague. What concretely did you fuck up? Ubermensch33 is prompting you to own your shit and you’re just parroting the high level observations others in this thread have made to you.
/r/askMRP25/08/20 04:36 PM
2

Paging /u/dongus88. You’ve had time to post 7 comments in the last hour but not a response to the one that matters.
/r/askMRP25/08/20 04:04 PM
2

So essentially the entire time you were with this chick, you were unemployed. And she still married you. I still think you are leaving out some major info that explains this. But regardless your path is unchanged. There’s no salvaging this train wreck, regardless of whether it was caused by her supposed mental problems or your colossal fuckups.
/r/askMRP25/08/20 03:40 PM
4

You’re right. Some major shit is being left out of his story. He didn’t crash this plane this fast by just getting angry at random shit. She got major buyer’s remorse for some reason.
/r/askMRP25/08/20 03:37 PM
3

Nope. Returning from the honeymoon I change jobs, there's lots of packing and stress so sex is naturally less frequent. I recognized I was beta backsliding (lost my temper, broke frame, covid left us with housing and employment issues...) You’re glossing over some real shit here. Housing and employment issues, temper problems. You came back from your honeymoon and sex was already ramping down. it was a very bad time in my life What are you leaving out? You’re talking about a period of two weeks …
/r/askMRP25/08/20 03:32 PM
14

quintessence of passive aggression self-abnegation for plaudits. In hindsight their estrangement was progressive. Emaciated it seems he has lost the will to live. He was no exemplar of rectitude Jesus Christ please stop. You sound like a pretentious douche. Veritably do your compositions all thusly read. Write like a person, not a try-hard. And you can’t save your dad. His life, his control. You can give him a book (NMMNG?). That’s all. You on the other hand could sidebar, lift, and STFU.
/r/askMRP25/08/20 03:05 PM
1

Thinking that all women are bad, makes me feel that I’m an incel. That’s because that is incel thinking. Believing women are all bad is just bitter and pathetic. Women are women. Some are shitty people. Some are great people. They’re all still women. Playing “power games” doesn’t make them bad. It’s just part of who they are. Framing their actions as bad or malicious is largely a reflection on the guy. e.g. Some guys see shit tests as a manipulative tactic to “beta-ize” men. Successful guys see …
/r/askTRP24/08/20 04:06 PM
2

Pretty sure she’s already got another guy living there. But she’s into open relationships so....
/r/askMRP21/08/20 06:31 PM
6

There are a bunch of people who come here just for this. They see it as some sort of penance. It absolves them of their feelings of guilt, and it’s a lot easier than doing any hard work.
/r/askMRP21/08/20 05:42 PM
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She bought a house as a backup. Holy shit this chick knows how to create abundance. You should reach out to her for advice. She sounds pretty red pill.
/r/askMRP21/08/20 05:35 PM
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Half of your comments are “lol”, “lmao”, or “this”. You bring absolutely no value.
/r/askMRP20/08/20 11:15 PM
2

Godspeed Mr Machiavelli.
/r/askMRP18/08/20 09:43 PM
3

Aww, don’t stop now. Please regale me with more of your badassery.
/r/askMRP18/08/20 08:28 PM
1

Honest question, is English a second language for you?
/r/askMRP18/08/20 08:27 PM
1

Of course you were focused on the boyfriends instead of the girls. You’re clearly flaming.
/r/askMRP18/08/20 07:31 PM
4

This is beautiful. Thank you for brightening my day with your cringy larping. You’ve truly brought me a gift from the depths of your bitter incel heart. I'm highly Machiavellian, very low empathy, high reflective skills, meaning I can perfectly mirror normal human beings. In short then I have been analysed and found to be borderline sociopathic. I'm highly successful only because I believe in an honour system.. Lol I'm highly skilled in infiltration and computer espionage, do you want me to fixa…
/r/askMRP18/08/20 07:24 PM
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She wanted to show you off Yeah, fuck that bitch! How dare she like you!? Or go along and shut up and be prepared to clock the first fucker who's mouth gets engaged before his brain I like how you’ve stepped up the incel energy by being bitter against women and men. It’s pretty amazing that you imagine that everyone at this hypothetical event is an asshole just desperately trying to get you upset. You might want to consider that when everyone you encounter treats you like shit, you’re the proble…
/r/askMRP18/08/20 04:26 PM
2

They absolutely target muscles to make them larger. Larger muscles are stronger. Yes, aesthetics are not the primary focus. If you get stronger and more muscular, though, you will be more aesthetic (unless you also become a fatass). And most people don’t recommend powerlifting for SMV. They recommend lifting. If you’re doing Staying Strength or StrongLifts and think you’re powerlifting, think again. You’re just doing a basic beginner routine. Training for powerlifting and training for bodybuildi…
/r/askMRP13/08/20 09:34 PM
1

All powerlifters with any notable success do specific work to target specific muscles. (Successful) Powerlifters don’t just go into the gym, crank out a dozen sets of bench, squat, and deadlift, and then go home. Powerlifters in the heaviest class tend to be fat, because it’s advantageous to the sport. Successful powerlifters in other weight classes generally aren’t. It’s not even a little bit hard to find power lifters who are aesthetic. https://kabukistrength.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/duf…
/r/askMRP13/08/20 07:15 PM
2

This whole thing with sarcoplasmic vs myofibrillar hypertrophy isn’t backed by science. Studies indicate the effect is quite small relative to the general hypertrophic effect of lifting. the result is that puffy type of muscle that noticeably deflates after several days of rest. I’m surprised an author with any knowledge in the space actually put this shit in writing. This is c-level men’s fitness magazine bro science. Bodybuilders don’t have puffy muscles and they don’t deflate after a week of …
/r/askMRP13/08/20 06:57 PM
1

With powerlifting you don’t really have an aesthetic body Yeah. Look at this unaesthetic powerlifter. What a fat ass. http://imgur.com/DzxceGA.jpg
/r/askMRP13/08/20 06:50 PM
1

Why does her intent[1] have anything to do with your authenticity? [1] or what you assume is her intent
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/20 08:19 PM
1

I was lacking the context of Rian’s post when I wrote my original response, which is exactly why I asked Rian what he meant. I didn’t realize he was talking about the literal John Hamm, and read his comment as saying that it can be authentic to LARP alpha so long as you’re aware that’s what you’re doing. Certainly, John Hamm can play a part from an authentic place. That doesn’t mean authenticity is black and white. And we can agree to disagree on that point.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/20 08:04 PM
1

Of course there are levels. Almost nothing is truly black and white. “Pretty black and white” means “not black and white”.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/20 06:24 PM
1

Authenticity is the decision whether you want to know you're playing a character or not I’m curious what you mean here. This sounds like awareness that you’re playing a character makes it authentic. While that’s more authentic than ignorantly playing a character (e.g. saying shit the internet told you to say because you think it’ll get you laid), it still seems far less authentic than simply not playing a character at all. My goal is to be myself, better, not John Hamm.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/20 04:24 PM
3

It’s not really about being a dick, although yeah, don’t do that. It’s about being authentic. You’re acting like a dick because you are don’t know how to behave congruently within the act you’re putting on. You’re afraid of honestly communicating so you force an awkward persona because you think that’s what you need to do. Maybe some Chad archetype would respond the way you imagine, but you aren’t that guy and your facade is crumbling because it’s so poorly constructed and so far away from who y…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/20 04:02 PM
3

Remember when you started and were afraid of responding with AA? You got over that fear by doing it anyway, right? Guess how you get over your fear of authenticity.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/20 03:22 PM
3

Why not just say that? If your natural reaction is to be a needy or whiny, yeah, STFU and work on that. But you don’t have to hide everything behind an alpha facade. But unless she asked this question in the middle of a giant bitch fest, your hypothetical responses seem more asshole than anything. Even in the midst of a bitch fest, “I hope you don’t die” is still a perfectly reasonable response.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/20 03:11 PM
19

It’s slow because it’s so inauthentic. Why are you still trying so hard to impress your wife with your aloof cleverness? There’s something wrong with your mindset. You’re not saying this sort of stuff to her because it’s fun for you, but because you think it puts her in her place. You’re scoreboarding. We all have to go through a phase of “fake it til you make it”, but you’re still faking basic interactions. At some point you need to find a way to interact that’s authentic for you so and stop tr…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/20 12:32 PM
1

I fully agree that OYS is for me, which is why it’s fucked up that a piece of me is wanting to filter them like that. I tried taking a break from OYS a while back and found that I was really stagnant, not because I was lacking feedback but because OYS creates structure for me to honestly assess where I’m making progress and where I’m not. I am familiar with the Eisenhower Matrix, though I didn’t know that name until now. I think part of my problem right now is that I’m not driving toward anythin…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/20 01:25 PM
1

I failed to post last week. No excuses. I could have found the time and didn't. I find it odd that I care at all about the judgement of Randos on the internet. I'm sitting here thinking about what's gone well and what hasn't over the past couple of weeks and some pathetic part of me is thinking shit like "no need to mention that you still haven't journaled; they won't know". What the fuck? Why is there this validation goblin inside me? I should care whether I journaled like I'd planned. I should…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/20 04:35 AM
1

Sure. I’m also evaluating two different groups and deciding which one to join. Presenting is restricted to members. But yeah, I’m definitely not getting all the value out of this yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/20 03:46 AM
1

I’m back from vacation and getting back into the grind. (Didn’t post OYS during vacation. Probably should have.) I haven’t been journaling the last couple weeks. I really should have been doing that during the vacation. I took it too easy and slacked off more than I should have. I have still been virtually social media free, which has freed up a fair bit of time for reading real books and generally not feeling like I’m wasting hours a day on garbage. Heath 37, 5’7”, 147lb Weight is down presumab…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/20 04:03 PM
1

I cut out social media at the end of last week. This is my first time back on since last Tuesday. It’s been liberating how much time this has freed up. I noted in my journal that it’s much the same experience as cutting out the daily drink when I get home. There’s a strange feeling as the habit is being broken. With the social media, I’m also finding it leaves me feeling “stretched” as I’m busier all the time and have to find something more useful than social media to distract myself. Makes the …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 09:38 PM
2

Fair enough. Sounds like a train wreck with no good outcome. Lesser of evils indeed if you’re trying to salvage this.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 12:15 AM
1

What the fuck? I feel like there must be a big backstory here that I’ve missed. Why is it not being garnished from her wages since she lied? I feel like you fucked up something big here.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 09:45 PM
1

You live with your wife. You’re still married. You’re paying child support. What?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 07:46 PM
1

Ups and downs. Not the same as last week but the same pattern. Heath 37, 5’7”, 148lb Still mostly in maintenance. My weight has been fluctuating a lot lately. In the last week I’ve weighed add little as 145 and as much as 149.5. I’ve also been really hungry lately. I don’t know what that’s about. I stitched from a PPL split to upper/lower for the efficiency. In full transparency I’ve been fucking around in the gym this past week again. I’ve had days where I felt like I absolutely killed it and d…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 04:57 PM
1

I didn’t say your comments weren’t on topic. I said that they aren’t connected to the relevant parent comment. Literally they are not connected. They aren’t in the comment chain. No one can look at your top level “replies” and see what comment you were responding to.
/r/askMRP10/02/20 07:58 PM
1

I think we are mostly caught in a semantic issue. I literally gave my definition in the first comment you replied to and stated that outcome independence is (by my definition) not the same as simply not caring.
/r/askMRP10/02/20 07:54 PM
1

Orphaned meaning they aren’t connected to the relevant parent comment.
/r/askMRP10/02/20 07:44 PM
2

Can you seriously not tell the difference between replying to a comment and creating a top-level comment? You have created at least 4 orphaned replies here.
/r/askMRP10/02/20 07:27 PM
4

Ugh. RP buzzword bingo. You’re too concerned about “her”. What do you actually want? Aside from validation from Internet retards.
/r/askMRP10/02/20 07:23 PM
4

Congrats on being openly racist. As a white man, should I be upset at the cultural appropriation, though? That’s historically our thing.
/r/askMRP10/02/20 05:57 PM
9

You were planning to marry this woman and because some internet morons tell you not to, suddenly you’re not a one-woman man. Are you actually not capable of thinking for yourself?
/r/askMRP10/02/20 05:49 PM
-4

“Plucking her flower”? Are you writing a romance novel?
/r/askMRP10/02/20 05:17 PM
34

this isn't another unicorn circle jerk session Clearly it is. What you’ve told us is that she’s a unicorn and you’re nice guy. You left out all the stats and facts, so we can assume that this is a new relationship still in the honeymoon phase (you say LTR but it sounds like you haven’t been fucking for most of that time), that you have no abundance, and that you don’t lift. You’re now considering marrying a practicing Muslim while you apparently aren’t religious because you feel guilty. This is …
/r/askMRP10/02/20 05:07 PM
1

That's what I mean when I say "I don't care if this job doesn't last." I am again left feeling like this is not what “don’t care” means. You clearly do care to stay in your job. You say so explicitly in your last paragraph (and implicitly everywhere else). Being outcome independent is not the same as being apathetic. If I want a good sandwich for lunch, but the logistics don’t make sense (no time to drive to the sandwich shop I like), I have a pretty high level of outcome independence here, but …
/r/askMRP10/02/20 04:15 PM
1

Post history confirms.
/r/askMRP10/02/20 04:06 PM
2

‘thinking your way to insight’ rather than ‘learning’. The ability to differentiate the two isn’t a given. You don’t learn skills by thinking. You learn by doing. Want your kid to learn the alphabet? You don’t explain what the alphabet is and show them. You practice it over and over again until they are pointing out letters on signs and singing the song in their sleep. Reading about public speaking won’t make you a good public speaker. You might memorize some helpful tips but you won’t meaningfu…
/r/askMRP10/02/20 03:50 PM
1

Maybe we just mean something different when we say “don’t care”. “Don’t care” to me is a statement of apathy. You seem to mean extreme outcome independence. Or maybe as you are saying, I just won’t understand until/if I get there.
/r/askMRP09/02/20 05:43 AM
2

If it’s not a defense mechanism then it’s a poor choice of words. To not care about something is to be truly disinterested in it, apathetic about it. It doesn’t simply mean that you’ll survive or even thrive without it. That’s outcome independence. Someone who says they don’t care if they get fired from their job is either bitter or defensive or both. Someone completely divested from their job would simply stop working the job, because not caring about keeping the job means it brings no value. I…
/r/askMRP08/02/20 09:18 PM
7

It’s just so bizarre. He’s engaged to be engaged to be married.
/r/askMRP07/02/20 08:26 PM
2

If I suddenly found myself divorced, I wouldn’t remarry at all. I can’t imagine why I’d do that at this point. But if for some reason I was looking for that, I’d find someone who was always DTF, hot, smart, fun, self-sufficient in terms of earning, responsible with money but not cheap, not clingy or dependent, not constantly flirting with other guys, emotionally stable, and polite. Oh, and no power/control games. Did I mention always DTF?
/r/askMRP07/02/20 03:57 PM
10

Wait, you made the engagement public before you were actually engaged? What the fuck is this?
/r/askMRP07/02/20 03:35 PM
1

Interesting. I could have sworn that this was in MMSLP. I read them back to back so I guess I got them muddled together more than I realized. Maybe there’s more value in the MAP book than I’m remembering then.
/r/askMRP06/02/20 03:46 AM
3

I don’t think it’s worth the bother. Mindful Attraction Plan was mostly a redundant book. It was explicitly intended to take the concepts in MMSLP and apply them more broadly, which is fine, except that it doesn’t really contain anything new vs MMSLP. It’s just not phrased so directly in terms of improving yourself to get laid.
/r/askMRP06/02/20 01:58 AM
1

You sure he’s talking about Mindful Attraction Plan? The MAP is a core part of MMSLP.
/r/askMRP06/02/20 01:55 AM
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OP says he’s “flooded” with information and you chime in to say you’re in the same spot. Then you turn around and ask for someone to throw even deeper knowledge your way. How the fuck do you need more info when you’re drowning in what you already have? Did you read Steel’s guide like the top-rated comment told you to do repeatedly? No. You decided to deepen your self-inflicted pit of data overload and ask for someone to spoon feed you because attempting to understand the basics would be harder. …
/r/askMRP06/02/20 01:53 AM
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Babysitter: I have a fetish I want to tell you about. 00Pi: Oh, cool. What is it? Babysitter: Unprotected sex leading to pregnancy. 00Pi: Let’s fuck right now. Please tell me you’re ovulating.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 04:01 PM
1

Poor bastard is left with nothing but fat horses.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 05:30 AM
4

Why the fuck are you engaged to this chick? You’ve been with her six months or less. And you have a wedding date less than six months away. WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU?
/r/askMRP05/02/20 12:31 AM
1

Good. I suspect you’ll need them. But hopefully I’m wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 12:20 AM
1

Have you discussed this with your lawyer? I don’t think this is going to play out the way you imagine. “Oh, we’ll just keep living exactly the same way after the divorce.” -> “We’re divorced. Get the fuck out.” Don’t think that’s going to fly. Her lawyer and the judge will both see this coming and put an end to it. I also don’t think your wife is likely delusional enough to believe what you’re selling anyway. Maybe she’ll just move in with Chad and be happy with that arrangement, but you should …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 09:04 PM
1

But they’re all terrible!! Didn’t you read his MGTOW rationale? I see garbage everywhere nowadays. Henpecked fat beta men are everywhere and the ones that aren't or are younger are so feminized. Older post wall women thinking they are God's gift to men. Shrill wives belittling their spouses in public. Men off to work like cattle to be net taxpayers for a world that punishes them. What could he possibly do except MGTOW? It’s not like any of this is his fault. MGTOW Shark
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 08:40 PM
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She’s not going to buy that. No chance she’s going to really believe she’s going to live for free in your parents’ house after the divorce is final. Especially with the fact that you had her sign a lease recently. Better figure out plan B.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 08:30 PM
1

Overall feeling relatively positive this past week. Some areas improved but others declined. Heath 37, 5’7”, 146lb Weight is mostly flat. Up and down a bit but essentially maintaining. I’ve been slacking in the gym. Missed a couple of days, largely due to frustration with the prosthesis. That’s my biggest lifting issue right now. I need to get that resolved so I can get back to bulking. I’ve been following up with the local prosthetist as the remote specialist has been too much hassle. I have to…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 04:54 PM
1

I’m weak still, so grain of salt here, but why are you doing such a wildly different rep scheme for pull ups/chin ups? If you were doing 3x5 you’d need way less assistance and you’d probably be getting a more appropriate stimulus. I also find it a little strange that you have no rows but you have two pull up variations.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/20 12:29 AM
1

I have this OCD style of thinking that only allows me to focus on 1 or 2 things at a time at the expense of everything else. Is that actually a problem? Fix 1-2 things then put them on autopilot for a bit. Fix another 1-2 things. I haven’t read your past OYS so maybe I’m missing a lot of context but it seems like you’re stressing about literally nothing here. Or maybe you’re stressing about something else that you’re not talking about.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 04:16 PM
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The problem I'm having is I'm thinking about this so much that I feel it's preventing me from progressing. What exactly are you not progressing in? What about the pill are you not swallowing? What are you not practicing? Your wife is hot, fucks, and is trying to make you happy, so I don’t think the problem at this point is your relationship. What is the problem? What do you want? I understand the concern with MRP. It’s very easy for it to become a distraction, a place you sink endless time becau…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 04:38 AM
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Married. My brain says I’m an idiot who was stressing for no reason. My gut doesn’t know shit. If she wants to cheat on me, she has plenty of opportunities. But she’s given me no legitimate reason to think she’s actually cheating. I actually found the cycle of negative thoughts interesting from an observational sort of viewpoint. I could see myself stressing out, logically knew it was bullshit, but still couldn’t get myself to stop.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 12:28 AM
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She probably sleeps like a baby when I’m out late. But at least she still needs me to open pickle jars for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 12:24 AM
1

I still feel like I’m in a slump, but climbing out of it at least. Heath 37, 5’7”, 147lb Weight is fluctuating more than usual as I’m closer to maintenance so I’m not perpetually topped off with glycogen. I’m going to cut calories a bit more without going into an aggressive cut because I’m still unable to get the prosthesis on some days. Yesterday’s push day was garbage because I literally couldn’t get it back on after the first working set (I take it off during most rest periods for better bloo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 05:04 PM
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I need to find a new plate. Maybe get snipped first, dad.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 03:55 PM
2

I initiate but get No’s and told that she doesn’t want to be sexually harassed. You’re 21, not married, no kids, and not even living with her. You’re remaining exclusive with a girl who doesn’t want to fuck you and you don’t even seem to like that much based on the fact that you tell her to fuck off when she texts you. Why exactly do you need this particular chick by your side on your fantastic journey, aside from the fact that you have no sense of abundance? The phrase you need is “I don’t thin…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 03:53 PM
2

For example: If I make a pass, I am told after the kids are sleeping (obvious), but then she wants me to put the kids down. The word you’re looking for is “no”. If you want to put the kids down, then do n it, but not because you hope it will get you laid. That’s choreplay and it’s unattractive as hell. You should know this if you’ve been “RP for 8 months”. Read the sidebar dumbass. But yes, a year long sex hiatus is a great idea. She’ll probably be delighted not having to put out for you any mor…
/r/askMRP27/01/20 03:55 PM
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Motherfucker, you aren’t even married. What the fuck is wrong with you? Why are you lying to us? 136 days ago you said you’re getting married next summer. Unless you’re in Australia, you haven’t gone through a summer since you wrote that. So you’re calling you’re calling your long distance girlfriend who’s fucking every other guy she knows your “wife” for some stupid reason. You’ve apparently “had this nagging feeling that she's cheating” since the moment you were telling that other idiot that t…
/r/askMRP22/01/20 04:56 PM
1

Maybe I should try 6 cups. Sometimes I feel like I need more anxiety. Pretty sure I’ll get palpitations before anxiety though.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 04:26 PM
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Start here: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/wiki/index Scroll down to “divorce advice” Edit: You’re not even married, huh? You hopeless fuck.
/r/askMRP22/01/20 03:09 PM
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You can’t possibly be this fucking dumb. Of course she’s pissy. You almost caught her sucking his dick. Time for the lawyers to get involved.
/r/askMRP22/01/20 03:06 PM
1

Is 6 cups really that much? I don’t drink that much but 3-4 a day is pretty typical.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/20 02:11 PM
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My point is that you’re lying about whether you care if she leaves. Nothing happened in the last 24 hours to drastically change your frame. It’s good that you are recognizing your weak frame but you also need to recognize that you’re lying to yourself. You care a ton and you won’t get your mind into a better place by pretending. You have a lot of work to do, as do many of us. You should start by (re) reading the early books. NMMNG, WISNIFG.
/r/askMRP22/01/20 06:46 AM
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You deserve better than that. No one deserves shit. Go get what you want.
/r/askMRP22/01/20 12:41 AM
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He got perma-banned? I saw his account was deleted but I didn’t realize that was a response to a final ban. Not surprised that he immediately created a new account. He was posting in RP for his validation fix during his ban, deleted all the posts when his ban was lifted here.
/r/askMRP22/01/20 12:39 AM
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EDIT: Thank you all for your comments. I think I do not care if she will leave me or not anymore. She asked me what I want to eat for dinner. She does not seem like she wants to leave. I think all of her threats are just bluff. I don’t care. Oh, wow. In only 12 hours you found your balls and frame? That’s pretty amazing progress! Did you manage to read the entire sidebar during that time? Go out gaming and build abundance? Hit the gym and build some muscle?
/r/askMRP22/01/20 12:33 AM
1

Easy target.
/r/askMRP21/01/20 09:57 PM
1

Maybe he can tell you about the step stool he uses when he fucks them standing up.
/r/askMRP21/01/20 09:18 PM
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My wife was able to follow simple instructions "take your top off your getting a massage" refused to lay down or have her tits touched. Why are you giving her unsolicited massages when she’s being a cunt?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 08:53 PM
1

I was not expecting 10x10 when you said low volume.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 08:43 PM
1

Out of curiosity, what does your routine look like? Upper/Lower? And yeah, hamster is getting pretty buff at this point. Probably getting more IOIs than me.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 08:28 PM
1

Hookers
/r/askMRP21/01/20 08:19 PM
1

Lifting in the evening leaves me wired. I used to lift in the evening and felt constantly exhausted because I couldn’t get to sleep afterward. Plus it still has the same problem with social activities. Hard to be social when all I do in the evening is lift and go to sleep. My only real concern with drinking right now is lazily drinking at home. I don’t feel like social drinking is negatively affecting me. I don’t actually think that having an occasional drink at home negatively affects me either…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 08:11 PM
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Fair enough. I guess I’m just being a pussy. I’ve definitely been a pussy with squats. Haven’t pushed those since I injured my knee over the summer. Got to get those back on track. My gym routine is starting to look like fuckarounditis lately.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 07:24 PM
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Agree. I’m trying not to imagine what’s in her head. Thankfully no whales to watch out for on my boat. Plenty of other hazards, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 07:20 PM
1

You’re still aiming low even for 4x8. That’s only 65lb across 3 lifts over the next 5 months. That’s less than 5lb/mo on each lift for a novice. As for drinking, yeah. Drinking most of a bottle is a bit different. That sounds like a serious issue. On the bright side it sounds like you’ve drastically reduced your intake, so time for the next step.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 07:19 PM
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What is with the upvotes for this angry MGTOW retard?
/r/askMRP21/01/20 06:11 PM
1

I've allowed myself to fall into a slump over the past week. I started downhill when I was working from home at the beginning of the week, then younger kid got sick and I’ve been up at night dealing with that. But mostly I just allowed myself to slack off and get nothing done. I’m the cause of my wasted week. You can stop reading here if you’re hoping to see where I’ve made progress this past week. Below is just me listing where I’ve fucked up. Health 37, 5’7”, 145lb In put the cut on hold after…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 06:05 PM
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500 club on big three by the summer seems reasonable. You’re aiming too low. Honestly you’re probably in the 500 club now if those are your 4x8 numbers. Max out and find out. No way it should take you months to get a 500lb total from where you are now. I was still drinking 2-3 drinks a night right before bed. [...] And each day starting last week I bought one little bottle and that's it. I have done that for a week now and it's worked well. This doesn’t sound like alcoholism. This sounds like yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 05:11 PM
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Feel guilty for what? Do you legitimately not see that her reaction is bullshit? Why would you be obligated to tell her that you talk to people online? Unless you’ve left out some really important details, this is one enormous shit test. The problem isn’t that you give relationship advice on some web site and didn’t tell her, but that she sees you as her bitch.
/r/askMRP21/01/20 04:52 PM
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hit the dating scene as the best man I can be You won’t be hitting the dating scene as the best you can be if you put off gaming for literally years, and you know it. Get out there and game and fuck some new women. You’re already planning on leaving your wife. What exactly is the negative of her finding out that you’ve cheating? You’re hamstering that it’s fine if she catches you with a hooker but not in an affair. This makes no sense at all.
/r/askMRP21/01/20 02:33 PM
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Show her the email of the sign up date. Or stop DEERing instead. She’s already convinced this guy is her bitch. No need to further demonstrate.
/r/askMRP21/01/20 02:05 PM
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The problem is about her. It really isn’t.
/r/askMRP21/01/20 02:02 PM
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He only addressed the skepticism about his lifts, which is the low hanging fruit. He hasn’t responded to anything else here.
/r/askMRP20/01/20 10:34 PM
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He’s a whiny bitch and doesn’t deserve shit. “Deserve” is a word for people who choose to be victims.
/r/askMRP19/01/20 04:32 PM
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You give entirely too many fucks. How did you get from “don't ask don't tell” to “She refuses to talk again about this subject“? You’re strongly in your frame. It’s just that your frame is “insecure bitch”.
/r/askMRP19/01/20 04:31 PM
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He missed the chance for a great troll. Should have posted that garbage and ended with “So anyway, should I eat ass on the first date?”
/r/askMRP19/01/20 02:04 AM
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How to be the man that my parents and sister aspire to listen to? I seek MRP advice to find better way to execute my plan in a masculine manner, to keep my family respect and lead them to better situation. What do your parents and sister have to do with your plan? I honestly don’t know what your question is because you just dumped paragraphs of gossipy word soup. Why are you talking to your sister about her marriage beyond “Congrats, send me the invite”? Why are you trying to be involved in her …
/r/askMRP19/01/20 01:11 AM
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Becoming a man of value is something you can do. She will not be happy no matter what you do. Therefore she will not be happy if you become a man of value. You need to get your thinking straight. I don’t know if your wife will come around or not. I do know that your negativity about your wife isn’t helping anything. You’re praying that God will excise her bitterness. You should be asking him to help with yours.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/20 08:34 PM
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Your statements are not congruent. You are saying both that your marriage isn’t salvageable and that you want to continue working on it. You still can’t see through your anger.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/20 04:46 PM
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That's when I realized she will never be happy no matter what I do.... All I get from her is contempt. So file. If you truly believe that no matter what you’ll never have a good relationship with her, then why are you still married? Also I think you might need to reread the sidebar because you seem to have missed some pretty key stuff. You decided to be a 100% dedicated plow horse for 6 months and you’re surprised that she found more shit for you to do? If you had a plow horse, wouldn’t you find…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/20 04:07 PM
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but my core, back and legs are reasonable No they’re not. You’re at novice level on squats and deadlifts. I weigh 150 and I’m weak as hell and my squat and deadlift are just below yours. I’m picturing you sucking in your gut and cinching the measuring tape tight when you measure your waist. You don’t improve by lying too yourself.
/r/askMRP17/01/20 03:53 PM
1

How long have you been losing weight? Losing weight depresses your hormones. Once you’re eating at maintenance or above your hormones should rebound from that, though.
/r/askMRP17/01/20 03:33 AM
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I think that’s all you can do. No amount of evidence will “prove” you didn’t fuck some whore. It will just show her that you’re willing to cave to her emotions. I mean, feel free to lay on as much comfort as you can in terms of words, but you should stop well short of providing any evidence against her accusation.
/r/askMRP16/01/20 09:42 PM
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I don’t think there’s any additional comfort to give here. Providing the employee’s receipt looks weak as hell and I don’t see why she’d believe it’s real anyway. Opening up your cell phone for her similarly won’t prove anything. She’ll just say you must have deleted the conversation with your slut. I think you’ve done the right thing and all you can realistically do. You told her the truth. I wouldn’t try to spin this into “dread” though. That it’s just going to encourage you to engage in suspe…
/r/askMRP16/01/20 09:29 PM
2

However, my wife is still reminding me to do stuff, even if I am working on it or have already completed it “Yep, working on it” and “Already done” That’s all you have to say. “It’s on my list” is a good one to have for things you aren’t yet handling, but make sure it’s actually on your list and gets handled. I understand the tendency to get butthurt when being nagged, especially about stuff you’re already taking care of, but it’s not a useful response. Own your responsibility and move on. Do yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 09:08 PM
1

Dumbbell vs barbell is not the difference between OHP and military press. Use dumbbells if that works but it doesn’t turn it into a military press.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 08:54 PM
1

Your mission is literally to be a fucking white knight. Your wife isn’t inspired by your “alpha heroics” because you have no alpha heroics. You aren’t running into and burning buildings to save babies. You’re a wanna be SJW. Holy fuck how is this your mission?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 08:53 PM
1

Replacing OHP with ... military press What is the difference between these two in terms of shoulder function?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 07:28 PM
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I got in a fight with my boss on Thursday. He really pissed me the fuck off and we kind of duked it out in the office. You can’t see past your mountainous ego so let me try to explain this in a very straightforward way. Your boss is hard on you because YOU DO NOT OWN YOUR SHIT. You delegated a task to a new employee who needed hand holding and then you left for vacation. You didn’t do the hand holding, and you didn’t find someone to do the hand holding. You assumed it would just work out but it …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/20 05:01 PM
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Damn it. I’ve been looking at Meetup options and thinking none of them are that appealing, and that I’d rather try to start something with my friends, or maybe I should start my own. Now I’m suddenly realizing this is just more approach anxiety. Now I have to go to random meetups.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 06:36 PM
1

Currently cold. Let me know if it starts snowing.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/20 01:57 AM
2

I think you're on the right path. Assuming you're 21% (taking the middle number), you've got to lose 9.3lb of fat to get to 15%. Call it 12lb to deal with the fact that you'll lose lean mass (mostly water) on the way. You'll land around 143 and be in a much better position to bulk. I suspect you'll be a lot more attractive physically at that weight, too. I stand by my statement that being weak is unattractive but being weak and fat is more unattractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 10:38 PM
1

How tall are you? This fucker is 5'7". 5'7" guys can go pretty low on calories without starving, especially 5'7" guys with little muscle. Ask me how I know.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 10:35 PM
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You CANNOT unlearn a habit. Bullshit. Lots of people have, e.g., stopped chewing on their nails. I sat on my feet in chairs for years because I was so short. I used to do this weird thing where I'd "bite my jaw" (as others described it). I did this for years as well. I stopped sitting on my feet because it became embarrassing. I stopped "biting my jaw" because it created pain in my mouth from the repeated action and I finally put mental effort into stopping the behavior entirely. I don't apply a…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 10:25 PM
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I've been thinking about leadership and what I need to do for my own growth. I got some great feedback on leadership last week and I think it did put me mentally into a slightly better place. In particular I realized that I don't need to wrestle random tasks from my wife (or co-workers) in order to be a leader. I need to take care of the shit that is important but no one is taking care of. However, I also sat down and looked at my home and work life and realized that I'm largely just treading wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 09:49 PM
2

Let’s make it interesting. Lizzo-level. You haven’t fucked in 3 months. And you’re blasting Tren.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/20 04:03 AM
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Lol. You don’t care but you’re still responding, bitch. You sound like a 13 year old who needs remedial math.
/r/askMRP12/01/20 05:56 PM
2

This coming from the retard who tries to evangelize this conspiracy theory while refusing to provide sources because he thinks no one cares anyway.
/r/askMRP12/01/20 05:19 PM
2

You’re a dumbass. The US does add iodine to their food. Iodized salt was an important change for health and it’s why you don’t really see goiters anymore. China doesn’t fluoridate their water because it already has naturally high levels of fluorine. I don’t think anyone adds bromine as a supplement. I believe it’s used as an alternative to chlorine in some places.
/r/askMRP12/01/20 04:48 PM
2

But will you eat fat ass on the first date?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/20 04:59 AM
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What the hell is a BSDM class? I’m assuming not a typo since guy getting denied sex is probably not in a weekly bondage class. Search turns up nothing though.
/r/askMRP10/01/20 03:40 PM
1

Thanks. I’ll circle back to this one soon. Maybe I’ll try the audio book this time.
/r/askMRP09/01/20 12:39 PM
3

You should practice initiating with someone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 07:39 PM
2

I'm come to believe there are no meaningful epiphanies in this. In fact I would be wary of perceiving one. But you will look back on 100 little mindful changes and realize your mind is a different shape from what it used to be. Agree. I had a bullshit narrative in my head about how if I had some sudden mindset shift this would all be easier. But that was just more fantasy because imagining some magic mind shift is easier than hard work. Getting my mind into a “different shape“ is doable, but it’…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 05:27 PM
1

There are 30 million women in the UK. Some of them would absolutely fuck you. Some those are undoubtedly more attractive than your wife, too. You’re using your “I’m unattractive” narrative as an excuse to not even try. You’re telling yourself that you’re being self-critical and realistic but you’re just avoiding the hard work. (And I know all about avoiding hard work.) You don’t have to look like Chris Hemsworth to get laid. Your problem here isn’t lack of attractiveness but lack of effort. Your…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 05:16 PM
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That’s valid. I think I’m grasping for stuff because I’ve not been leading. There’s a bunch of other shit that needs leadership, though. I should start there instead of attempting to take over something my wife is handling well and pointlessly creating conflict.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 04:13 PM
1

Still needs an end date. Have you talked with lawyers yet? Why aren’t you out looking for someone else to fuck at this point? Have you built a social life away from her?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 04:04 PM
1

Absolutely. The broken record was intended to be an in the moment response to avoid it escalating next time. Lots to do different next time, starting with not losing my shit. Thanks for the feedback. It was good to work through which pieces of this were acceptable and which were not.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 02:53 AM
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I’m not entirely happy with how I handled it, no. In retrospect, the better response would have been to simply ask my daughter if she was actually hurt or if she was just looking for attention. Even if attention seeking, there’s a possibility that she would have answered honestly and it’s very probable that we could have had a conversation about why attention seeking is problematic in this circumstance. Of course it’s also possible that she was actually hurting, in which case asking would obviou…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 12:55 AM
1

Your kids are still pretty young, so nothing wrong with letting mom provide some comfort. Because she got there first and they naturally reacted to her mothering. As they get older, you will have opportunities where you can respond first and help them laugh off the less serious slips and spills. But when mom is there, her mothering instincts are going to kick in automatically. Let her be a mom, there will be plenty of time to teach them in different settings. I don’t mind her comforting. I mind …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 12:41 AM
1

Because she was somewhat concerned about Older Kid and was worked up in general and frustrated that I didn’t acknowledge her suggestion the way she wanted. Also because she ran into the room straight to Younger Kid and probably didn’t notice that Older Kid was sitting there just fine at first.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 12:20 AM
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I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about the discussion a couple weeks ago and where it leaves me. My conclusion is that literally nothing has changed. My desire for an epiphany that somehow changes everything was just more mental masturbation. I have to do the work if I want a change and there’s nothing that’s going to make it easier. The good news is that I can do it. The bad news is that I have to teach myself how to do hard work. I’ve been half assing for a year and a half. Health 37, 5’7”, 1…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 06:32 PM
2

athletic build If the internet has taught me anything, it’s that “athletic build” means “weak and flabby”. I’ve never seen anyone with an actual athletic build describe themselves that way.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/20 05:26 PM
1

The irony of the “blue pill alpha” whining that he wants to be spoon fed.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/20 04:06 PM
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“Don’t make pussy your mission.” “...Also, I’ve always been alpha. No, seriously, I was just blue pill alpha before. I don’t know how this is relevant, but I really want to mention it.”
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/20 03:45 AM
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I went that route... I was told something within the lines of “All finances are our finances, and you can’t just work and keep the money.” I politely declined to agree and STFU. You should have continued the negative inquiry instead. By STFU after she gave you her “justification” you implicitly acknowledged its validity. “What’s wrong with me working for more money?” “What’s wrong with me keeping more of the money that I earn?” Keep drilling in until you get to something meaningful or she gets t…
/r/askMRP05/01/20 09:47 PM
1

I don’t know if he’s actually a retard but he’s the bitterest motherfucker in the world. He legitimately hates women. If he weren’t a renowned PUA, I’d think he was an incel.
/r/askMRP05/01/20 09:44 PM
3

With the accusations of being dismissive... I STFU and look at her like I’m brain dead because I literally get stuck like a retard knowing I really am being dismissive. How do/did you handle this? Sometimes complaints of “you’re not listening” mean exactly that. You aren’t listening, and maybe that’s a problem if you care about maintaining a relationship with the person complaining. Other times, “you’re not listening” means “I’m unhappy that I’m not getting my way”. For those cases, you need to …
/r/askMRP05/01/20 03:55 PM
1

Fair enough. I’ve been getting stuck in the early parts of Day Game because it just doesn’t seem particularly relevant. Maybe I need to power through to the more relevant pieces, and look for ways to apply the pieces that don’t seem obviously relevant.
/r/askMRP05/01/20 03:44 PM
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I figured here is my chance to speak up and start implementing some of the things I've learned and let her know the screaming is not an acceptable reaction to the kids. Did you say this shit in front of the kids? If so, then yeah, you fucked up. She’s not going to take being corrected by you very well, but especially not if it’s in front of the kids. In front of the kids your job is to be calm and in control. Be in control of yourself and to the extent possible, your kids. Don’t bother trying to…
/r/askMRP03/01/20 09:42 PM
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I would love to see this one answered. Everyone says to read Bang or Day Bang or similar but those are pickup books. The techniques you use for strangers are not all the same you use for close relations. "Hey, is that the new iPhone Galaxy? What do you think about it?" "What? You literally bought me this phone. Are you having a stroke?"
/r/askMRP03/01/20 07:02 PM
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Alright, then. Lack of interest on your part suddenly makes sense. I still find it strange that you "spent the last 18 years pursuing [your] wife for shitty starfish sex" and suddenly you're repulsed, though. I can understand wanting sex from your (perceived) only option even if you're not very attracted, and I can understand disinterest because of lack of attraction. It's the flip between the two that I find odd and think is likely anger.
/r/askMRP03/01/20 06:55 PM
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Next time when she comes to you and says she doesn't know what to do, tell her that you want you both to be healthy and attractive. She's seeking guidance, so give it to her. Also how fat is your wife, actually? You keep saying you're not attracted. Were you not interested in fucking her pre-RP?
/r/askMRP03/01/20 05:33 PM
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You're wallowing in your self-created pit of ambiguity. Do you want to fucking separate or not? If yes, then stop dragging your feet and just get it done. If not, then sit her down and tell her you think the idea of separating was rushed, and that you want to delay it to "work on your marriage" (work on you). From what I can tell you really want more time, so just tell her that. Right now you still haven't told her that because you can't handle the ego bruising of just admitting that you were wr…
/r/askMRP03/01/20 05:13 PM
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Except he did get sex. He could have been getting sex this whole time. He's the one who's been withholding for months, not her.
/r/askMRP03/01/20 04:45 PM
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I got a lot of really good feedback/discussion from my last OYS. Some of that focused on my relationship with my wife, my comfort giving (really comfort seeking), and how I should navigate that. More of it focused on my lack of general progress and where the issue is. I could have parroted the textbook answer a week ago, but I got more out of the conversations than that. /u/RPeed in particular connected the dots between my behavior and my ego in a way I didn't see. Several of my fantasy scenario…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 06:05 AM
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If you'd asked me this before all of this discussion, I might have rattled off a bunch of stuff I'd do with all my hypothetical free time, but would I have done it? Probably not. I'm that guy with all the post-retirement plans that still don't happen post-retirement because free time was never really the problem. Thanks. I wish I'd had some epiphany and could say exactly where I'm going from here, but I didn't. I have a lot of thinking about what I want my life to be and what I'm going to do to …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/20 04:35 AM
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Makes sense. Thanks for the detail and the feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/19 04:37 AM
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I honestly didn't think I was making a lot of excuses. Thanks for the feedback. I'll revisit my writings (and thoughts) and see if I can recognize that myself. Bitching about my wife? Sure, I can see that. Obviously that's not actually helping to fix anything. For the bulking, I know this is DEERing, but I think you misunderstood my statement. I'm not complaining that it's a slow grind or asserting that I'm special in any way. The slow grind is just the reality of the gym. I've been gaining pret…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/19 08:45 PM
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Honestly you don't look as bad as I expected for 23%. But yeah, I personally think you should still cut. And yeah, your real name is attached to those photos. You should probably delete and re-post with a different Google account (or use imgur).
/r/askMRP30/12/19 08:23 PM
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Absolutely. Wasn't implying that there should be no consequences. My plan was that they simply can't stay with us anymore if this continues. They can fly out here but I'm not hosting them if they're not present. It's not worth the hassle to me or my family.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/19 06:14 PM
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I can always cut later on. You're already fucking fat and you're bulking to obese at 6lb/month. Fine, bulk until your feet fall off, but don't come in here bitching about conflicting information when literally no one is giving you conflicting information here. Even foxy here didn't actually tell you to bulk. You just read what you wanted. You grabbed onto the one post that says "be careful about getting to lean" in the sea of "you need to cut" posts and decided to keep bulking to whale status. Y…
/r/askMRP30/12/19 05:45 PM
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What do you mean about ego? I don't see where my ego is holding me back, but then I'm sure almost no one does. But maybe you mean something different than I'm thinking? I'm working on the 150lb. It's a slow grind and likely to stay that way absent pharmaceuticals. I don't think the short is ever going away, though. I just have to maximize what I can. Style and grooming are on point. My fedora is argyle so it matches my socks and sweater vest. I oil my beard until it glistens like an ocean sunset…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/19 05:16 PM
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My parents live across the country, so we don't use them for childcare. They already only the kids (in person) a couple of times a year so it's hard to restrict access much further. I think this is a case where overt expectations need to be laid out.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/19 04:43 PM
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I'll make sure to put it in my spreadsheet.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/19 04:40 PM
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That's not the problem. The problem is that you're doing something obviously stupid and pretending that it's due to conflicting information. Everyone will continue to have different advice based on their own biases and experiences. It's your job to take in the information, filter out the garbage, and set a workable plan for yourself. I don't think anyone actually told you to bulk at >20% starting BF. I think you're just hearing what you want and doing the easy thing. Someone told you not to both…
/r/askMRP30/12/19 04:39 PM
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You've got a 37" waist at 5'7". You're in no danger of getting down to 10% anytime soon. You should be cutting. You don't need to get to 10%, but it's fine if you do. 12% is a much easier target, though. You sure as fuck shouldn't be bulking at >20%. Gaining weight when you're already fat is a recipe for biasing toward additional fat storage, especially when you're gaining so rapidly. Cut to 10-12% while lifting hard. Then bulk slowly (half pound/week) up to say 15-18%. Repeat.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 04:29 PM
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Are you documenting all the crazy shit she's doing to the kids? You said she recorded a video telling them you didn't love them anymore or something like that, right? She gave away the dog. You should be documenting all this shit in as much detail as possible because it's your ammunition to get more time with your kids. She's actively using them to hurt you and is pretty blatant about it.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 04:16 PM
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Pants size is meaningless. Size 32 from Old Navy is something like 36” on average. Additionally, that is not where you measure hips. If you want to measure your hips, you measure the fattest part of your ass. Measure your waist at the navel.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 02:02 PM
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For a situation with a sane wife, the “stay put” advice is probably good. From what you’ve been saying, though, your wife is proper crazy and doing shit like photographing your gun to send to the cops. If this is really true, you’re probably setting yourself up for legal issues by staying in the house. So it’s a trade off between “abandonment” and keeping your ass out of cuffs. Of course, you’re also a complete drama queen and idiot, what with fucking your crazy wife against your lawyer’s explic…
/r/askMRP29/12/19 11:42 PM
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Thanks for all the detail here. I don’t have much to say in response but I’ll do my best to digest all this and hopefully use pieces of it successfully.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/19 05:15 PM
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I just assume that any promise of future sex is bullshit. Maybe that’s a reflection of where I’m at but I generally find that sex promises are not trustworthy. My mental space is healthier when I assume sex is no more likely after a promise than before. I can understand why the manner in which the commitment was broken would affect your feelz, but your feelz are protected if you just assume sex commitments aren’t actually commitments.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/19 05:10 PM
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My waist is only about 32-33. What does this mean? You say 37 above and it makes no sense that your belly is 36 and your waist is 33. I was down to about 17%BF a month ago. What the fuck? So you’ve put on 6% BF in a month? Is it your goal to become less attractive? Edit: 6% body fat should be about 9lb for you and you only gained 6lb. These numbers don’t make any sense. You need to get better/more consistent with your measurements, or else you need to find a different way to estimate BF (probabl…
/r/askMRP29/12/19 05:03 PM
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Did you actually stop initiating sex like Foxy? As far as kino, I could see overtly sexual kino making sense to continue even if actively cutting out comfort. Slapping my wife’s ass probably doesn’t deliver a lot of comfort. There is a lot of kino that straddles the comfort/sexual boundary, though. i.e. I’ll caress my wife’s lower back when I walk by sometimes. I guess if I’m cutting the comfort initiations, I have to make the call on whether a particular interaction is more about sex or comfort…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/19 05:03 PM
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That’s a valid response. I don’t think I could actually manage a mistress while keeping my marriage intact. But that’s exactly the problem, isn’t it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/19 04:02 PM
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Based on the evidence, the answer must be very little. She has responded to me getting more physically fit and spending more time away from her socially. But it’s not the level of response I want. We have sex more than we used to but I’m not able to initiate with a high probability of success, and when we do have sex there’s a lot of pushback when I go for anything outside our vanilla repertoire. The pushback often doesn’t have a playful tone, either. Maybe this is just a problem with my ability…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/19 04:17 AM
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See my response to BROOP79. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/eeyl35/comment/fc7bbj8 You’re not in a DNGAF state at all. You’re beaten down and in ego protection mode. This is Sour Grapes in action. You can’t have sex with your wife so your ego asserts that you don’t even want it. It’s bullshit, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/19 03:11 AM
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How do we get here? ... I could care less if we have sex or not. You didn’t get there. This isn’t DNGAF. You care a ton. You’re just also defeated and beaten down. Don’t deluded yourself about where you are. This is not OI or NGAF. Be careful or you’ll find yourself pulled into the chase the instant she shows any sexual interest and she’ll absolutely remain the prize.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/19 03:08 AM
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Yep. I read that when he posted it. That’s what made me think about my own comfort tendencies. Good to read it again. /u/hornsofapathy, how did you mesh this with kino? If you’ll forgive my autist tendencies, I’m not entirely sure how to separate comfort and kino. Did you cut out kino initiations when you cut out comfort initiations? Cut certain types of kino?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/19 10:39 PM
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Yeah. I don’t really care about the scoreboard. I mostly care about not being needy. I don’t get zero from her in terms of comfort seeking but I’m reaching for it too much. It could easily be a covert contract, though. I’ll have to do my best to measure my success in what behavior I want to demonstrate rather than how she responds.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/19 09:52 PM
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What pissed me off wasn't the denial of sex, it was her again making a commitment then blowing it off... But it was commitment for sex, so have you really divorced those two concerns as much as you think? In the past we've talked about her weakness in trying to please everyone but this time I was more forceful. Have her read WISNIFG.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/19 09:25 PM
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Agree. I'm closing that distance too often. On reflection, I'm clearly the one in chasing mode right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/19 09:12 PM
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Late post this week. Health I’m sick and it fucking blows. I’ve been sick for 4 days and it’s getting worse. Actually starting this post at the doctor’s office. Lifting has of course fallen off as a result but the first two days of the week I killed it. Really happy with both days in the gym. I’m trying to squeeze more into my time. Both days I got an entire extra exercise in using the same amount of total time, mostly just by shortening rest intervals. As committed, I completed my 4 remaining g…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/19 06:18 PM
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I don’t think you have shit to teach. You’re literally telling this guy not to try very hard. HornsOfApathy called you right.
/r/askMRP22/12/19 02:09 AM
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You’re an idiot. You can’t pull off autistic STFU with frame. There are a thousand threads about moving past STFU because it’s not a strategy for growth or communication. It’s purely a coping strategy to stop the bleeding and to give you space to develop actual frame and healthy responses. He’s gonna get smoked. Good. Then he has a chance to learn. Choosing to not even try for six months is a recipe for stagnation. You’re a great cheerleader for losers who don’t want to put in the work, though.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 11:56 PM
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Don’t come in here with your reading comprehension and moderate expectations!
/r/askMRP21/12/19 11:24 PM
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No, he hasn’t. In this case he said "I see you guys have got this, then" and walked away butthurt. He’s shutting down autistically and you’re telling him to keep doing this for another six months instead of actually learning to fix himself. Basic communication skills are not “running”. Most people here are just telling him to try taking a single step and you’re here shouting “Whoa, what’s the rush Rambo?”
/r/askMRP21/12/19 11:09 PM
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This is terrible advice. He can absolutely respond with AA or AM. He can also do the calm and controlled “Babe, I’ve got this. Go get ready.” STFU is not the only thing he should be doing for 6 months. He shouldn’t expect her to turn around her behavior overnight, but he also shouldn’t neglect improving his own reactions.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 10:42 PM
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Because if he does STFU, lift, and sidebar for six months, his wife likely will consciously or subconsciously start to respect him more No she won’t. If he lifts for 6 months, he’ll look a bit better. If he reads for 6 months and shuts up like an autist for 6 months, he won’t make any progress mentally or with his wife because you don’t internalize by reading. You need to put stuff into practice. He absolutely should be practicing AA or AM. Shut down butt hurt is what he’s already doing. He’s no…
/r/askMRP21/12/19 10:39 PM
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No it’s not. There’s no reason she needs to keep tabs on him all the time. That’s bullshit and he absolutely should not be giving into her expectation there. Frankly she doesn’t actually think he’s sneaking off to cheat anyway. It’s all a giant shit fest.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 09:39 PM
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It’s great advice if you’re a giant fucking loser and content to remain one. It’s terrible advice if you have aspirations of being a man.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 05:18 PM
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You don’t get it. You’re stuck in a victim mindset and don’t see any options except choosing the lesser of evils. What would someone who isn’t a powerless victim do? Probably start by meeting with multiple lawyers to understand the likely outcome of a divorce instead of assuming the worse. Is he in a no fault state? If not, and he can prove infidelity, that probably changes things a lot. Does his state have unlimited alimony or limited? Also changes things. Figuring out how to minimize the cost …
/r/askMRP21/12/19 05:04 PM
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Can you seriously not imagine any scenarios that end with him happy? You really believe the only options are miserable marriage or miserable divorce? Fuck that. Why can’t a divorced man thrive? Because of child support and alimony? Bullshit.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 03:20 PM
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2lb of sirloin steak will give you 200g protein and 1200 calories. Fill the rest with ice cream. Done, and no keto. With 2lb of steak in your stomach you’re probably not hungry either. Seriously, though, if you can’t get 180g protein in without breaking 2600 calories, then you need to eat better sources of protein, probably lean meats. Supplement with protein powder if needed. Good whey protein will get you 1g per 5 calories.
/r/askMRP19/12/19 05:45 AM
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If you were in a job interview, and the interviewer asked you your greatest weakness, what would your answer be? I think you’d say, without sarcasm, something like “people get jealous because I’m so awesome”.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 12:44 AM
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This past week hasn’t been very notable, at least in terms of improvement. I was on vacation visiting family. The trip was good. The kids enjoyed it. My wife was cranky about parts of it but I mostly just reminded myself that I’m not responsible for her feelings and played it light when she was cranky. I didn’t get myself back on track when I came back from vacation. I didn’t lift on my first scheduled day. I got up feeling crappy and skipped my morning session. Then I wasted the whole day and g…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 07:18 PM
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The fuck you lift. You’ve been lifting “for several years” but you’re still at novice level. Your weight and body fat are unchanged in the past 7 months. SBIII and HornsOfApathy are right. You’re wasting everyone’s time here.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 10:21 PM
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You don’t fucking get it. You are still the problem. Your ego is now blaming “old themerovingian01” but you haven’t changed. You’re exactly the same loser that you were when you signed up months ago. The fact that you don’t get this is why everyone is treating you like shit. You are in 100% ego protection mode. You aren’t owning shit. You aren’t improving. You aren’t even trying. You’re coming here every month or so to tell everyone about the horrible thing your wife did and how life has happene…
/r/askMRP16/12/19 10:16 PM
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Just because you lost the war... You're just going to let this fat fuck muck up your life... You’re a retard. He’s not at war with the fat fuck banging his wife. OP is at war with his own loser behavior. The fact that you think the guy banging OP’s wife is the problem indicates that you’re a loser, too. This is victim mentality bullshit.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 10:08 PM
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Jesus fucking Christ. Shut up about your shitty wife. Rifleshoot didn’t tell you to dump a wall of text about why she sucks or why you were with her. He asked what your mission is. He asked what you don’t have that you need. ... Oh, I get it. The answer to both his questions is “her”.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 07:39 PM
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But do you pinky promise? Cross your heart? Jesus Christ you must be the biggest valuation whore in the world. You just can’t stand the idea that someone has a poor opinion of you.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 07:12 PM
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You should keep your mouth shut and move the divorce along as rapidly as possible. Right now you have her feeling lovey dovey for some other schmuck and likely willing to part more amicably. Use that to separate as quickly and smoothly as possible. Don’t mention this to her or her new guy or his wife. You will gain nothing from it unless you’re in a state that actually penalizes adultery. And even then it’s probably not going to net you enough to justify the combative divorce.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 05:57 PM
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She’s not going to beg for forgiveness. She literally moved out already. She doesn’t care about you and hasn’t for a long time. The only way she comes back to you is if this current thing blows up. Although if she does beg for forgiveness, I’m sure you’ll post here immediately after. “STBXW came over and put her mouth on my peepee. She cried and apologized and promised to fuck me more. Should I take her back? I’m thinking I should delay the divorce proceedings and see if she’s really changed.”
/r/askMRP16/12/19 05:46 PM
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It had nothing to do with you thinking you could save her and everything to do with you knowing you couldn’t do better. Your fear of being alone is palpable. You’ve been actively chasing this woman who openly stated that she didn’t want to be with you and by your own admission brings no value to your life and treats your child like shit.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 05:01 PM
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Needless to say I filed the divorce papers today. You’ve been avoiding filing for months while everyone here told you repeatedly to just file and move on. Now you finally file because you find out she’s fucking someone else and it made you feel butthurt. You have no self respect and no balls. She’s fucking him because he’s less of a loser than you.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 03:54 PM
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Have you started reading the sidebar at all? The effort MRP generally says you should put toward your relationship is specifically with on yourself. So I honestly don’t know what time investment you’re minimizing. The only real “relationship effort” should be a about building your skills: game, leadership, shit test management, OI, etc.
/r/askMRP13/12/19 04:38 AM
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Would you buy a house with a friend that you were planning on having as a roommate? Probably not. One of you would buy the place and the other would pay rent. Rent would generally be less than half the mortgage (at least four several years) to offset the fact that the renter isn’t gaining ownership of the asset. No reason a friend you fuck couldn’t/shouldn’t have the same arrangement. Absolutely no way I would ever buy a house with someone I wasn’t willing to marry. There’s just so much of your …
/r/askMRP13/12/19 04:34 AM
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keep the relationship going but reduce the effort I put into it while I read and work my ass off for the next 6-12 months What does this mean? Working your ass off and doing the bare minimum seem pretty much polar opposites. I’m legitimately curious how you see these playing out together. This sounds like you checking out of your relationship and essentially going Rambo.
/r/askMRP13/12/19 04:22 AM
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Two people on the paperwork doesn’t change “the ability to apply two incomes to the debt”. What it changes is the ability to qualify for more debt. You can apply two incomes with a single name on the loan and if you need that second income to qualify you probably need a smaller house anyway. I wouldn’t buy a house with someone I wasn’t married to regardless. Your finances are too tied up in theirs anyway. If you don’t trust them enough to marry, you shouldn’t trust them enough to take a 30 year …
/r/askMRP13/12/19 04:04 AM
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Diet’s decent. I’m getting my protein and slowly gaining weight. I could probably do with fewer refined carbs and sugar but I’m not really overdoing it there most of the time. Worth considering, though. Perhaps I should work on cleaning up my diet a bit more. Drinking, meh. Not worse than a week ago but not really better either. This could definitely be having an impact. I’m drinking a lot less than I used to but more than I was, say, 5 months ago. It’s very possible that this is affecting my li…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 03:03 PM
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I’m on vacation so nothing major expected career or fitness wise this week. General I’ve realized a couple of things this past week. First, I’m not gaming my wife nearly enough. Kino is there but I’ve slacked off on playfulness/push-pull/etc. I’ve started working in this and need to do more. My game has gotten really lazy and conservative and that’s just garbage. Goal: Playful every day Second, I’m modeling awkward social behavior to my kids. I took my daughter to a playground and she played wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 05:16 AM
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How are you still asking these same questions after months? You keep coming back here and asking for advice on the same question because you want a different answer, but there is no different answer. Your relationship is over. It’s been officially and clearly over for months now. You should file. You should have already filed. This hope you’re carrying that she’s going to come around is embarrassing.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 04:57 AM
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Clearly it’s not going to you OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/19 12:36 AM
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I’m pretty sure that your driving is also a problem. The fact that your reaction to someone pulling in front of you was to swerve into oncoming traffic tells me that your driving is garbage. There are legitimate cases when this it’s appropriate but it’s extremely rare. The fact that you have cases like this regularly tells me that you’re not paying attention or alternatively that you’re choosing to drive like a moron.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 11:18 PM
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They could be doing this to other people but without knowing that it’s just conjecture. What the fuck? Do you think that people are driving around looking for you just so they can turn in front of you? Of course they do this shit to other people. Other people don’t fly into a rage because they expect it and so they account for it in their driving. You aren’t causing people to drive poorly, but you are causing yourself to fly into a rage, and you are causing your own poor driving responses, and y…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 10:22 PM
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I really don’t want to believe what you’re saying because I just don’t see it. You got that backwards. You don’t see it because you don’t want to believe it. When the common denominator is you, you need to all yourself why. If your answer is “just happens”, you’re probably full of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 06:31 PM
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Today I had some old fucking handicap guy take a turn right in front of me as I was coming his way. Had to swerve into oncoming traffic (no surprise) and he was right there on the side of the road probably scared shitless. I didn’t roll down my windows and call him an old fuck so I think I did really well. First, I’m glad to hear that you’re trying to get your ridiculous anger under control and that for once you didn’t go into a pistol-waving rage. This is sadly an improvement. Second, I’m still…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/19 05:02 PM
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Probably more comfortable sucking him off, though. Doesn’t even need to kneel, just bend over a bit.
/r/askMRP03/12/19 06:54 PM
1

General I’m finding myself in a small anger phase. Last time I said I hadn’t been in one of these for a while, but here it is. I’m getting frustrated with repeated rejections lately. I’m initiating more but getting the same amount of sex. It’s rare that my initiations work and she continues to dole our sex on her schedule. I’m sure there’s some validation issues at play here but also sometimes I just want to fuck and 1-2 times/week isn’t always cutting it. I know I’m just not attractive enough y…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 06:27 PM
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It is a risk but I am wondering the best course of action to help mitigate the risk and protect myself a bit. It’s your life and your choice, but the best way to mitigate this risk is to stop fucking her now.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 05:33 PM
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To be clear, your risk here isn’t that you don’t get your extra 60k that you’re angling for. It’s that you lose your job entirely. Ignoring the possibility of this going “metoo”, if it comes out that you’re having an affair with her, even consensual, your job is at risk (so is hers). You say you’re collaborating with her, leveraging her toward your next promotion. This overt conflict of interest is almost certainly in direct violation of company policy. And even if it’s not, you’re presumably at…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 04:14 PM
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Obviously. It’s not going to suck itself. Do you not have dudes sucking your dick? How beta are you, man?
/r/askMRP03/12/19 03:29 PM
2

Maybe she’ll think part_wolf is just really attracted to Mr 6’7”.
/r/askMRP03/12/19 12:51 PM
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It is absolutely mate guarding to ask to meet this random fucking guy just because he’s in a picture with your girl. If he were 5’1” and fat would you “want to meet him”? You especially can’t claim you aren’t advocating mate guarding when you throw out that lame “he seems like a nice guy” line. I get that you think you could pull this off and she wouldn’t see the mate guarding, but you’re wrong. This behavior is utterly incongruent with someone who doesn’t care about the other guy.
/r/askMRP03/12/19 03:54 AM
2

1lb/week is a terrible guideline for weight loss unless you’re already below 9%. For typical people, 2lb/week is entirely reasonable and for overweight people, even higher is appropriate. 1lb/week is reasonable-ish for weight gain for newbies. Most people will gain a decent bit of fat on a 1lb/week bulk, but not a ridiculous amount. I personally think about 0.5lb/week is likely a better target for most, but 1lb/week isn’t crazy and it’s fairly common guidance. Calculating your TDEE and measuring…
/r/askMRP02/12/19 04:09 AM
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For example last time she demanded that I share the passcode to my phone, claiming she can't trust me if she thinks I'm hiding something. Another time she wanted to book a solo trip to visit a girl friend. I gave her airline miles and permission to go. Do you want her to have your passcode? If so, you shouldn’t care. If not, you shouldn’t share it. In either case the problem is that you care about her feelings rather that your choice. Why were trying to prevent the trip in the first place? Mate …
/r/askMRP01/12/19 06:32 PM
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The downvotes are because this guy doesn’t know shit. You’re clearly still a loser. You could cut the cord on this and move on, but the fact remains that you’re the problem. You won’t know if you could save your marriage until you fix yourself. And at that point you should be fine with either outcome.
/r/askMRP01/12/19 06:29 PM
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You can’t break the pattern if you don’t see it. The pattern that keeps repeating is that I take steps to lead my own life and my family ... end up caving to some of her demands to restore the peace. The piece you’re missing is that you’re continually caving, reinforcing her shit behavior and confirming to her that she still has all the power in your relationship. You need to stop caving to her. Providing comfort doesn’t mean acting like a weak bitch. You mention “ramping up dread”. Why is it “r…
/r/askMRP01/12/19 06:24 PM
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Sounds fun but hopefully you’ve got more going on in your life than that. And hopefully if you’re at the stage where pussy is your mission, you aren’t also terrified of your wife. Also this dude claims he’s banging 5s and 6s which means he’s banging 4s. Pass.
/r/askMRP28/11/19 09:27 PM
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You have literally nothing going on in your life that you’re proud of except that you fuck a bunch of girls. You’re a 31 year old who’s reached the same level of success as the typical sophomore frat bro. Congrats.
/r/askMRP28/11/19 04:25 PM
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How can I be a loser if I stepped out and found women throwing themselves at me? How can you not be a loser if you’re such a weak bitch that you don’t know how to divorce your wife? Why the fuck are you here if you’re so awesome?
/r/askMRP28/11/19 04:21 PM
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Whenever you feel like changing it back I guess. At some point you’ll want the extra rest day for recovery. I have no idea if you’re there or not. I don’t like the “start with the bar” strategy for this reason. It means everyone comes up with their own “hack” to progress faster anyway because it’s just so low for most lifts. Starting Strength has a much more sane starting point: add weight until the bar slows down.
/r/askMRP28/11/19 01:13 AM
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He’s literally running a beginner program. Squatting 3x/week is a common to many popular beginner programs. Speaking of, /u/redirectedfs, why are you changing the frequency? If you’re running StrongLifts, it should be 3 days/week, not 3.5.
/r/askMRP28/11/19 12:46 AM
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Thank you. This is an interesting study. Key takeaways for me: Upper body is not affected by this effect. The “cardio” effect is mostly with respect to power, not strength or hypertrophy. Running had significantly more effect on fat loss than other cardio. Running was shown to reduce hypertrophy and strength increases. Running was not shown to actually cause strength or muscle loss. Indeed all groups increased strength, power, and hypertrophy. The effect is unsurprisingly tightly coupled with fr…
/r/askMRP27/11/19 06:24 PM
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I'm not sure you'd get a lower heart rate lifting heavy for an hour versus cardio for 30 minutes. You absolutely will, because of rest between sets and also because weight lifting is anaerobic. Heart rate-based fitness trackers can’t even estimate calorie burn from weightlifting because heart rate isn’t sufficiently elevated. A typical weight training session supposedly only burns ~200 kcals because it’s mostly rest time.
/r/askMRP27/11/19 04:05 PM
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“Running steals gains” is absolutely broscience. If you run so much it causes a deficit, you’ll obviously reduce gains but that’s the case no matter how you induce the deficit. If you schedule runs in a way that they impede recovery (e.g. 10 mile run before squats) you’ll reduce gains. If you schedule your running appropriately and get enough calories, it doesn’t impede muscle gains. In particular it’s no worse than other forms of cardio. If you believe there is science behind your claim, can yo…
/r/askMRP27/11/19 04:00 PM
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What the fuck? You just finished a cut but now you want to recomp? Did you finish your cut or not? Quit fucking around. There us some decent evidence that recomp is a real thing. I don’t think there’s any evidence that this calorie cycling is relevant, not that it should matter for you. I’m pretty sure that this calorie cycling business is just a trick to get people to bulk more slowly. If half the days you eat at maintenance, you’ll gain half as quickly, and so more of your gains will be lean (…
/r/askMRP26/11/19 09:39 PM
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This isn’t a real thing. The ecto/endo/mesomorph stuff is debunked garbage. How do people still think this shit is real?
/r/askMRP26/11/19 09:32 PM
1

What happened to that post, by the way? It was weird but I was curious where the comments would lead, and then it was gone.
/r/askMRP25/11/19 09:35 PM
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The elephant in the room that everyone else is avoiding is that there is a good possibility that there is another man at the bottom of this. No one’s ignoring this. It simply doesn’t matter. Maybe she left him for another man. Maybe she left him to join a lesbian commune. Maybe she left him because she’d rather be alone. It doesn’t matter. She’s no longer with him. End of story. Hypothesizing about who she might be fucking now is a completely useless waste of time. The story that matters is what…
/r/askMRP25/11/19 07:05 PM
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There is no magic here. This place is 100% about hard work on yourself. The only advice you’ll get is to get to work. Get to work reading. Get to work lifting. Get to work shutting up. (Typically STFU is so you aren’t poisoning your relationship with your wife, but in your case you’re clearly such a drag that your friends don’t want to hang out, so you need to STFU about your failed relationship around them, too. Stick to sports, I guess.) One day, on a whim she expressed a desire to seperate. I…
/r/askMRP25/11/19 05:40 PM
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None of them. You’re overcomplicating this. Pick a sane number based on your experience or one of the calculators. Add between 250 and 500 calories to the number to get a .5-1lb/week increase. Now eat that many calories every day. This is your starting point. Get an app that will give you a rolling average weight and weigh yourself daily. Ignore the first 2-3 days entirely because going from a cut to a bulk will mess with your water weight. From day 3, pay attention to the trend and adjust your …
/r/askMRP24/11/19 01:25 AM
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The internet is swimming with a million answers to this. At the heart of the million slightly different answers, you’ll find a common core: Eat in a surplus so you’re gaining weight slowly. Up to a pound/week, but you’ll probably do better closer to a half pound/week since a pound is on the upper end. Lift hard. Focus on compound lifts. Track your progress and progressively overload. Get enough protein. It’s not rocket science. The biggest common fuckup is probably not eating enough. Next is eat…
/r/askMRP23/11/19 06:43 AM
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That also sounds effective.
/r/askMRP23/11/19 06:34 AM
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Lat flare, man. Gotta work on that pose.
/r/askMRP23/11/19 01:01 AM
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You’re small for your height, so skinny. You’re trying to cut, so fat. You do the math. You haven’t shared your lifts, so they must be garbage. You think you put on a bunch of muscle but you clearly didn’t. You’re novice stage so you wouldn’t have lost a bunch of muscle in a cut unless you really fucked it up. You never put on much muscle and you still have a lot of work to do. My guess is you dream bulked and didn’t actually push yourself in the gym, so you put on mostly fat. Stop worrying abou…
/r/askMRP23/11/19 12:59 AM
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Only if your bottom lip quivers.
/r/askMRP22/11/19 04:17 PM
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Embracing the “asshole” title is an AA tactic. But she didn’t call him an asshole for going AA. She called him an asshole for avoiding her and her friend by moping in the yard. The AA response just doesn’t work here.
/r/askMRP22/11/19 04:06 PM
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Careful with the “unfair” stuff. That can easily come across as whining. Nothing is ever fair and asking for fairness is usually a losing proposition.
/r/askMRP22/11/19 03:59 PM
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Having kids doesn’t make it easier to care less. It makes it harder, partly because your investment in the relationship is so much higher and partly because you have 3 people freaking out instead of one.
/r/askMRP22/11/19 03:58 PM
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"Oh shit, i'm stuck with sash_northpoint the rest of me life?" Be there to help her when she starts going down the rabbit hole of thought. Don’t worry, babe. We’ll probably be divorced long before you die...
/r/askMRP22/11/19 03:52 PM
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This is the same moron who threw a hotdog at a friend’s head and she ran away crying. This is all gloriously dumb. https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/brw935/comment/eois23u
/r/askMRP22/11/19 03:51 AM
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To be clear, I’m not saying you were the “nice guy” here. She was. You put her in a spot where she “owed you” and she’s got really awkward as a result. I imagine that if she found you attractive, it added even more to the awkwardness.
/r/askMRP21/11/19 04:47 PM
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That sounds more like standard social “nice guy” behavior. You gave her a favor she didn’t ask for and it put her in a weird spot. If someone’s hideous picked up the box she’d likely have reacted the same.
/r/askMRP21/11/19 04:00 PM
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This is OI. Sure, it’s OI. You can’t do AA without OI, though. If you can’t laugh at her reaction, whatever it is, while you walk away, you can’t do AA. AA followed by butthurt when she rolls her eyes at you is just completely incongruent and will come off as bitterness and condescension. It's just another tool in the toolbox. Dread isn’t really a tool. It’s an outcome. Dread is essentially just her recognition of your options. It’s the state where you are attractive, she sees it, and she knows …
/r/askMRP21/11/19 03:52 PM
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Sounds like movement in the right direction.
/r/askMRP21/11/19 03:45 PM
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Your expectations are too high. You have 18 years of shit marriage and a month of overtly withdrawn asshole. Honestly, how long has your marriage been a wreck? How long have you told her by your continued relationship that her behavior is entirely acceptable? You can’t expect that you’re going to get wonderful behavior from her suddenly and be able to reward that. I can guarantee that you’re doing a terrible job of expressing your expectations. (Do you actually even know what you expect?) I can …
/r/askMRP21/11/19 04:52 AM
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That was sarcasm. She doesn’t actually think he’s on any adventures. She’s taking down to him like she’d talk down to a misbehaving teen. Are you as autistic as OP?
/r/askMRP21/11/19 04:35 AM
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You don’t get it at all. Why do you even care if she rolls her eyes and laughs? AA is for the person doing it. If the recipient laughs, cool. If not, cool. AA is about how you find her shit ridiculous. It’s not about being a comedian for her. Letting her burst your balloon and drag you down to her mopey level is the very definition of being in her frame. Do this stuff for yourself. If AA isn’t authentic for you and you don’t want to do it, fine, but not doing it because she doesn’t like it misse…
/r/askMRP21/11/19 04:32 AM
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Women are the oldest teenagers in the home, and are rules by their feelz. So are guys. The vast, vast majority of people, male and female, are essentially stumbling through life by accident and operating by feelz. Taking action that isn’t 100% emotion driven is a learned skill. It’s not something that men innately know, or they wouldn’t end up here. Basic MRP faggot It’s ego soothing for guys who don’t have a real sense of self worth. It’s a lot easier to convince yourself that women are garbage…
/r/askMRP20/11/19 04:48 PM
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They might just want to work on themselves, god forbid a woman do that. I love that the voice of reason is the guy who self-identifies as MGTOW. This place is thick with retards who soothe their egos by convincing themselves that AWALT when it’s really just APALT. They come here as losers who can’t manage their own lives and a couple weeks later they are 100% convinced that women are literally mental children.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 04:07 PM
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You're only going to get one answer to a question like this here: Do whatever you want. Do you want to move to a new city? Then move and invite her along. She might come or she might not, but you should make your choice and let her make hers. You'll be fine either way, and either way you'll be better off making your own choice than following hers. My guess is if you stay there with her, she never leaves (and neither do you). She's 25 years old and she's at a good point to switch jobs according t…
/r/askMRP20/11/19 04:34 AM
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Well you better figure your shit out before she files. Right now she’s in deadbedrooms with thousands of people telling her she deserves better than a withholding spouse. And regardless of what you say, you are running the withholding wives playbook: Never admit to withholding. Sex is always on the table but only when stars align and all secret criteria are met. Only initiate with unreasonable expectations are clearly attached.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 01:41 AM
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This place is for asking questions. And yes you will get called a fat faggot. It’s part of the deal. The people calling you that aren’t saying you shouldn’t ask the question, though. They’re saying your shouldn’t be a fat faggot.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 01:38 AM
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What the fuck? You’ve said explicitly that you’ll have sex with her if she initiates. Now you’re saying that you have even more conditions on what it takes for you to grace her with sex. You’re 100% in her frame regardless. None of your actions here are for you. It’s all about trying to get her to be the dancing monkey. Just file. You’re intentionally sinking the relationship anyway.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 01:21 AM
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You might have lightened up, but not enough. I made a face like "suit yourself" and walked away. You’re still acting like you’re angry. You won’t fix your marriage if you don’t want to be with your wife. You might as well go ahead and divorce if this is the best you can do. You’ve even constructed a covert contract that you will not give her sex unless she initiates in the way you demand. She’s literally texting you asking for sex. She is initiating, but it isn’t the supplication you want so it’…
/r/askMRP20/11/19 01:17 AM
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I don’t understand what “wait and see” means with a hernia. Are you just waiting for the surgery to heal / pain to subside or do you have clear physical evidence that you still have a hole in your abdominal wall? If the latter, no amount of waiting and strengthening is going to close the hole. (I am not a doctor, though.)
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/19 12:36 AM
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Why have you had a failed hernia surgery for 4+ months with no follow up scheduled? Your plan to strengthen your herniated area until it’s “rock solid” before you see the surgeon again is really, really dumb. Get your body fixed. I know sb3 asked what I have read in the sidebar, and only a splattering atm. Most of my focus has been on improving Me first. In what way are you “improving you” in the interim? It’s sounds like you’re very willfully treading water.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 11:46 PM
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Dude. Come on. You read some posts by Rollo and now you only fuck chicks who wax? You are not attractive enough that your wife is going to run to the salon to wax her pussy on a whim for you, especially when you’ve been acting like a prick for a week. This is a you problem, not a her problem.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 11:37 PM
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I don’t believe for a moment that you aren’t angry. Firstly, you should be angry. 18 years of begging for duty sex? If you’re not angry then something is wrong with you. You should recognize your anger and turn it toward useful activities instead of being a cold dick to your wife, though. Secondly, your anger bleeds through in your comments. It’s plain as day. I plucked this from your OYS a couple weeks ago: On Sunday the wife said, "I wore a dress...are you happy now?" I looked up and said, fla…
/r/askMRP19/11/19 11:19 PM
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No, we have you acting like a passive aggressive woman. You’re withholding sex and you sure as hell are acting like you’re angry. To be clear, you are literally being passive aggressive here. You are refusing to take an easy action out of spite.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 09:53 PM
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It’s bullshit. If you don’t want to fuck your wife, fine, but this is utter garbage. You don’t need to “improve yourself” to have sex. Your radio silence and your “stoic” requests for patience reek of anger. I don’t buy that your physical attraction toward your wife actually fell off a cliff because you “swallowed the pill” and neither does your wife. Your behavior is not congruent and she sees this. You’re so angry and butthurt that you wouldn’t initiate over the weekend because your wife didn’…
/r/askMRP19/11/19 09:49 PM
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5 weeks ago you were aching for that sex validation and suddenly you don’t find her physically attractive. Nothing happened to her body in the last five weeks. What happened is that you’re in the anger phase and it’s bleeding out in your interactions with her. You’re cold and distant which is why she feels like she isn’t getting any affection from you. Your hand holding and kisses aren’t genuine and it has a lot more to do with your head than her body. Nothing in the text you wrote about your in…
/r/askMRP19/11/19 09:32 PM
1

“I need you to be patient with me.”
/r/askMRP19/11/19 09:23 PM
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I haven’t posted in OYS for almost 5 months. I took a break because I was sinking too much time into MRP. At this point I’m spending time here anyway so I should really be doing OYS. Lifting is going fine and I’m continuing to make progress. I’m nursing a minor knee injury and haven’t touched squats in a few weeks, deadlifts in a couple months. Current 1RM PRs are: pull up +30, BP 165, Squat 270. Current weight is 147 at 5’7”. I cut from 157 to 137.5 during the summer and have been slowly bulkin…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 05:48 PM
1

I totally understand being dismissive of her demand that you jerk yourself off. You just made the same reference to hamster food and I wanted to understand how that’s relevant. It sounds like it’s really not, and it’s just about not being in her frame, which makes a lot more sense than thinking she’s developing dread about nofap.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 04:29 PM
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At the time I had enough DNGAF practice that I said, "Yeah, I don't do that anymore." That was a serious dose of hamster food. I fail to understand this. I’ve seen guys here proud share stories of how they told their wives things like this. I’ve seen other guys state how they told their wives the opposite, that they were going to “take care of themselves”. In both cases they imagine this is “hamster food”. Why the fuck does your wife care if you jerk off or not? This seems so pointless.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 04:18 PM
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By retaliating against her son you idiot.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 04:12 PM
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Give my mom some time with her diagnosis; but have that talk with her about why she doesn't listen to me when it comes to living healthier and just talk to her - don't try to get her to do what I want just talk to her and share me with her. This is the objective. Ask her why does she not listen to me ask her is it because she isn't proud of me? (because I am not proud of me). Does she not listen to me because she doesn't feel I am a man; that she feels I am a scared little boy? (because I feel l…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 04:09 PM
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You had an opportunity to reiterate this rule and instead you demonstrated that it’s bullshit by your own actions. You absolutely have not been clear with this rule. Not even to yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 03:48 PM
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You didn’t actually tell her your rule. I do expect family to take care of one another to whatever extent possible. Those are my rules to be in my family. So tell her that. I know, she should “just get it”, right? Well she clearly doesn’t just get it and you should communicate clearly when she’s failing to meet basic expectations. This is simple being-an-adult stuff and you fucked it up hard with your childish tit for tat. You not only failed to communicate your rule, you demonstrated that your …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 03:34 PM
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Imagine being so ego controlled that you can’t recognize feedback and get defensive instead. The single line wasn’t the point, though it was the epitome of dancing monkey. The point was that you should be living your life for you. Spending your time obsessing about whether your wife is skipping a trip, or hitting the gym, or whatever because she’s looking for someone new is pathetic.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 12:50 AM
1

Are these your friends or hers? If they’re yours, why wouldn’t you have fun? Are you not fun?
/r/askMRP18/11/19 04:19 PM
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If she is, I would hit the gym hard and your diet plan starts right now. This is the dumbest fucking shit I’ve heard today. This is 100% dancing monkey. If you need to diet and hit the gym harder, then do it, but not because your wife doesn’t want to go on a trip with you.
/r/askMRP18/11/19 04:16 PM
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10% is absolutely not stage condition unless you’re wearing a bikini on stage. Stage condition is closer to 5% for men. Plenty of people can get to 10% and maintain it without gear. It’s not easy, but it’s very doable.
/r/askMRP18/11/19 04:04 PM
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I'm using strong lifts 5x5x3 and their suggested weights You absolutely are not doing stronglifts. You’re not following the rep/set guidance. You’re not following the schedule. You’re doing a bunch of random exercises. My advice is to pick a respected novice program and follow it 100%. It doesn’t need to be strong lifts but it needs to be an established program put together by someone who knows what they’re doing. If you really want to add body weight exercises, do them after your weights as acc…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/19 12:45 AM
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I would definitely get more testing done. You have two tests with wildly different results. You shouldn’t simply take the higher one. You should get more data points.
/r/askMRP14/11/19 06:28 PM
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If your libido is really this low, I’d start by getting my hormones checked. Being happy with twice a month seems really odd assuming you’re not 80. If you don’t have ED, I don’t understand why you can’t just have more sex. Do you legit not get erect for a week after having sex? What prevents you from physically having more sex? Is it just disinterest? I don’t struggle with low libido so I honestly can’t really relate here. I also still wonder about the rest of your marriage difficulties. Is it …
/r/askMRP14/11/19 06:07 PM
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[Heads up, I can’t see any of your replies here so you might need to reach out to a mod. Maybe you’re in a shadow ban state for some reason.] Is your libido actually lower than your wife’s or are you avoiding sex out of shame over your PE? You also don’t really provide any pertinent details here. How often are you actually having sex? What are the other problems in your marriage that you mention? You are supposedly getting all the sex you want but you’re unhappy with the marriage, so what else i…
/r/askMRP14/11/19 04:58 PM
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Cool. I asked for something science-based and you just repeated the claim. So broscience. Cortisol increases in response to any exercise, because exercise is literally stress on the body. HIIT in particular releases lots of cortisol because of the intensity. LISS doesn’t really cause a huge spike in cortisol unless taken to the point of glycogen depletion (60+ minutes). On the other hand, fasted exercise and morning exercise (both commonly recommended) both increase cortisol. None of this really…
/r/askMRP14/11/19 03:55 PM
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I’d love to see an actual science-based article that says this. I’ve never seen anything except broscience backing this. It’s always “running made me skinny, now I lift and have muscle”. Yeah, now you fucking lift. Running wasn’t stealing your gains because there were no gains to steal. I’ve never seen anything that showed that people who run and lift and are eating in a surplus and gaining weight didn’t gain muscle. I’ve never even seen this claim made anecdotally. It’s always “I couldn’t gain …
/r/askMRP13/11/19 08:05 PM
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I'm back to running doing 10 min daily, cutting on the frequency as I'm improving my lifts and I need more time to recover. Now it is 4/7: 85 pushups, 95 crunches, and 110 body-weight squats. Lifting program (3/7): 8*5 Squats (100 lbs) everyday. On alternating days: BenchPress (80 lbs) with lat row (80 lbs), and OHP (80 lbs) with dumbbells deadlift (100 lbs). Additional exercises (3/7): 8*5 On alternating days: pull ups with biceps (80 lbs), and butterfly press (80 lbs) with raised leg (100 lbs)…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 04:22 PM
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Nothing wrong with running. It’s a healthy activity so long as it isn’t replacing or interfering with the weights. Don’t run and think you can eat more as a result though. It doesn’t work that way unless you’re covering a lot of distance. Running can actually cause weight gain because it increases appetite and typically burns fewer calories than people assume. Give the intermittent fasting some time to settle in. It takes a week or two to get used to not eating in the morning. The morning hunger…
/r/askMRP13/11/19 03:57 PM
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I think shes a cheating whore. ... Any advice? Uh, yeah. Don’t be an asshole to your mom. If your mom were actually a “cheating whore”, you probably wouldn’t be upset about you’re parents getting divorced. But you are upset. You say that your family fell apart but you are the one driving a wedge between you and your mom with this. You might actually lose your relationship with your mom if she hears you’re saying this shit to people. You need to find a way to accept that your parents’ marriage is…
/r/askMRP09/11/19 03:41 AM
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Read all the tips about how to eat to lose weight and do the opposite. Seriously. Low fiber, calorie dense foods. High fat, possibly even moderately high sugar if you really need the calories. Your appetite might increase as you get used to simply eating more, but it might not. Your best bet is figuring out how to get more calories in with your current appetite. 20/lb in a year is only .4 lb/week. That’s only an extra 200 Calories/day. You might need to go a bit higher to accommodate your natura…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/19 11:13 PM
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More fats. More liquid food. You can make a 1k Calorie protein shake pretty easily with protein, milk, and peanut butter that isn’t terribly filling. If you’re trying to eat 3k calories of steamed broccoli and baked chicken, it’s gonna be tough. If you’re on 2k calories/day and need to be at 3k, the fastest way is a pint of good ice cream after dinner. Is it ideal? No. Is it better than not getting enough calories? Yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/19 11:08 PM
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So stop talking on the phone while you’re driving. Problem solved. The more you say, the more it sounds like you really are one of the problematic drivers. You’re nearly getting into collisions because you are distracted. Your attention is compromised and instead of recognizing that and dealing with it, you lash out at others. I have noticed that whenever a driver screams at me, flips me off, etc, they’re the ones who fucked up. I almost never get people raging at me when I actually messed up. I…
/r/askMRP08/11/19 07:39 PM
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Everyone sucks at driving. Including you. I get a lot less frustrated driving now that I’ve acknowledged that virtually everyone is just kind of shitty at driving. There are a select few assholes who are constantly causing problems but most of the time it’s otherwise decent drivers making mistakes. Oops, I didn’t see you there. Oops, I thought I was at the 4-way first. It’s just how it is. People fuck up. Also, this bit: Afterward I knew what I did was wrong and I feel guilty and ashamed that I …
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:10 PM
1

Just a heads up, fights in the real world aren’t like high school fights. Everyone “fights dirty”. Getting in a fight in high school tends to mean that someone gets a black eye. Getting in a fight in the real world might send someone to the hospital. Don’t believe that your experience in high school translates.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 04:04 PM
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That’s women for you though. Uh, glass houses. How are you judging someone for their emotional response when you can’t control your emotions? You were walking up and down the aisles of a grocery store in a rage for an accident that didn’t even happen. I’m amazed by the ego protection here. All these guys with their lives falling apart around them being like “Women are all children, an I right?” Maybe have some modicum of self awareness.
/r/askMRP08/11/19 03:53 PM
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I get her point of view but I feel like she doesn't give much about my opinion in things that affect both of us and I start to question if she's still LTR material because of the fact that she has listened to me but completely ignores my opinion. I feel like you’re an idiot. It’s her body and her money to correct an actual physical deformity. This comment about things that affect “both of you” is bullshit. Does she get to decide your haircut, pick out your clothes, choose your job, because it af…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/19 04:05 PM
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Weight lifting doesn't increase endurance anyways. Of course weight lifting isn’t going to drastically improve your cardio capacity, at least not the way it’s usually done. I didn’t claim otherwise. My point there was simply that you’re in poor shape by all measures, not just strength. I've also in the past done more loss starting in worse shape and not getting dizzy, so it's pretty obvious my fitness is not the cause of my dizziness, and since tests show keto isn't either You said earlier that …
/r/askMRP06/11/19 09:05 PM
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DEERing is about validation, not about being an agile or even wanting people to like you. It’s about needing to convince someone else that you’re right because you aren’t capable of just being confident in your own stance. DEER is essentially the opposite of NGAF. You can learn to stop DEERing without understanding it, but it’s more helpful to see it as the desperate validation seeking that it truly is.
/r/askMRP06/11/19 08:55 PM
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And now? Progress is in the weight room is tracked with lean mass, not total mass.
/r/askMRP06/11/19 08:15 PM
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Maybe not good for the first year, but pretty good for subsequent years in someone who is natty. Might be good for the first year as well depending on what his body fat was when he started vs now. OP, you’re down 17 pounds from your peak weight. How much of that fat was on you when you started?
/r/askMRP06/11/19 03:26 PM
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Now I know why they say to get close to your natural potential before pursuing steroids. 9 years of lifting and just cracking the 1000lb club. 4 years of juice and still lifting like a natty.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/19 01:35 PM
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Good for you on one count then.
/r/askMRP04/11/19 09:35 PM
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Posted a few times and got righteously massacred. And yet your account is 6 hours old, so you’re one of those pathetic shits who deletes his account every time he posts because he’s embarrassed of his own history but too lazy to change anything. I could probably get her more on board if I could give her a baby. I had the surgery this year to make that possible, an incredibly expensive ordeal, and after all of it, it may have failed. Still not sure, but looks bleak. Am I correct in assuming you h…
/r/askMRP04/11/19 09:31 PM
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“I could probably get her more on board if I could give her a baby.”
/r/askMRP04/11/19 09:22 PM
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both types of girls There aren’t two types of girls and you clearly haven’t spent much time reading. You have a Madonna/Whore complex. You say you’ve slept with 40+ women. Were they all trashy?
/r/askMRP04/11/19 09:20 PM
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$30k ring Are you extremely wealthy or extremely stupid?
/r/askMRP04/11/19 09:17 PM
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Are you serious with this? Do you not know what AWALT means? How can you seriously act surprised that she does “AWALT shit”? Were you under the opinion that she’s not a woman? No, you’re delusional and still think there are “two kinds of girls”.
/r/askMRP04/11/19 09:15 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/53ozx7/mrp_99_remedial_mrp_the_basics_of_deer/
/r/askMRP02/11/19 12:00 AM
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You don’t practice shit which is why you’re here whining about how dizzy you get after running a mile and a half. Your body is in terrible shape. I lost 20 pounds in 10 weeks this past summer and I wasn’t dizzy on my 6 mile fasted runs. This is not an impressive feat. Instead of keto, you should be worried about why you’re in such terrible shape that you can’t run 2 miles.
/r/askMRP01/11/19 09:54 PM
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So in the past two years you’ve put on 2 pounds. A large meal should gain you more on the scale than this. but I can sumo deadlift 135 and bench 105 at 3x8, which ain’t bad for a manlet such as myself. You can barely deadlift your own body weight. You literally can’t pick up your wife’s weight on a bar. It’s no wonder she’s not putting any work into her body. You aren’t either and she’s following your “leadership”. Physically I don’t look scrawny You’re 132lb and don’t even have abs. I generally…
/r/askMRP01/11/19 07:33 PM
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There are zero guys on this subreddit that look like your first photo. That guy has spent literal years in the gym and tens of thousands of dollars or more on drugs and he has elite genetics for bodybuilding. Very few guys here have a goal of looking like that. Good for him achieving his goal, but very few share it. You know what that first guy and the second guy have in common, though? They both lift. I bet that second guy benches at least twice what you do and spent a year in the gym multiple …
/r/askMRP26/10/19 01:41 PM
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I’m condescending because you’re full of shit. Too lazy to work out? Fine. But don’t pretend you look like Arnold after a few gym sessions. Putting on muscle is hard work and it doesn’t happen “extremely quickly” for anyone, even with drugs. Here’s a fun exercise. Sit down with your LTR and have her go through magazines and point out the guys she finds most attractive physically. Then look up their stats and realize she’s picking guys who are 9% body fat at 200lb. (Or famous, but you’re as famou…
/r/askMRP26/10/19 12:23 AM
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My body responds extremely quickly to weight exercises and any serious lifting will make me look like some kind of wanna-be Arnold Schwarzenegger which is not the look I'm going for. Your body absolutely does not respond “extremely quickly” to lifting. People spend years and thousands of dollars on pharmaceuticals and still can’t manage to look like Arnold. You’re lazy and looking for excuses. You asshole. And your LTR is lying to you. She’d be soaked for Chris Hemsworth if he showed up while yo…
/r/askMRP26/10/19 12:12 AM
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You created an account to brag to a bunch of faceless internet goons that your wife touches your peepee sometimes and that occasionally another woman does too. To further prove you’re super awesome you went spelunking through hundreds (thousands?) of old posts to pull up old sbiii posts in a sad attempt to to embarrass him. No one’s impressed, bro.
/r/askMRP25/10/19 11:54 PM
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So worst case you sound like a butthurt bitch and best case you sound like a butthurt asshole. If AA makes you sound like a condescending prick, you’re doing it wrong.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 10:51 PM
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I think going mute is preferable to these short “AA” responses. Why do you care if she “gives permission” for something you were going to do anyway? Bothering to retort at all is more likely to sound annoyed/butthurt than anything. Especially if you’re doing it every time.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 07:43 PM
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The first sounds butthurt. The second sounds pathetic. Your really shouldn’t care about this crap, but if you’re going to AA, do it better than this.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 07:31 PM
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My point is exactly what I said. They didn’t give him their range and he should not constrain his request to their supposed range. Nowhere did I say he should haggle for nickels. But $60k isn’t nickels, nor is $30k and I bet he could get at least that much more if they want him. Given that much of his total comp will likely come from bonus as a percentage of salary, negotiating another $30k on the base salary could pay off quite a bit more, even just the first year.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 07:07 PM
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What are you going to therapy for? A good therapist can probably help you with specific problems. No therapist is going to be much help if you don’t know why you’re there.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 03:18 PM
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They told you the range, so you know the ballpark they are in. No they didn’t. They told him the bottom of their actual range. There’s less than a 7% difference between the bottom and top of the range they gave. This isn’t the possible salary range. This is essentially a single point from the actual range. It’s presented this way to make a candidate think they’re being told the actual range and to cap the salary discussion at the employer’s desired level. Surprise surprise they’ll offer the top …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 03:06 PM
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I feel more inclined to get back with her than to finish the divorce. You should put your kid up for adoption. Your wife is a confirmed, literal whore who abandons her child to fuck strangers for cash. You’re such a pathetic dipshit that you’re considering taking her back and you’re justifying it by telling yourself that she gave up whoring despite all evidence to the contrary. Seriously, if you can’t do better for yourself than this, you’re going to ruin this kid’s life.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 02:55 PM
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Jesus Christ, just file the papers. Also use protection if you’re going to fuck your estranged wife. My money says she shows up at the house with a positive pregnancy test soon.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 07:09 PM
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They told you already, though. They gave you a number and said "we think you're worth at least this much". The reality is that you're worth what someone will pay, just like anything else. You can try to go higher but there's no reason you should go lower, regardless of whether you think they're over-valuing you. Also, I take back what I said about asking for more since you haven't actually gone through the full interview process. Just tell them it's in the ballpark and you're sure you can come t…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 02:43 PM
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Do I try and come in as a low-budget high-value option which is still GREAT for me say... around $230k? What the fuck? If your self-assessment is even half-way accurate you're worth more than that to one of the "top 5 tech companies". There's no such thing as a "low-budget high-value option". If you're worth $300k, you're literally not employable at $230k. They won't think, "Oh, this is a great deal", they'll think, "What's the fuck is wrong with this candidate that they'd actually request lower…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 12:10 PM
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For the elevator, something like amused mastery is probably appropriate. If what you’re claiming is true, then this bitch was ridiculous and you should have chuckled at her as you moved the stroller as far out of the way as possible. If you wanted to play the asshole, dramatically gesturing toward the door with a “pardon, my lady” would have been better than acting butthurt because the mean lady was rude to you, but that’s still an over-investment in an interaction that didn’t matter. For the wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 10:46 AM
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I wish I hadn't said my last sentence and just showed my anger instead of faking being nice. Well I have good news. She could definitely tell that you were angry. Angry and impotent. You come off like a giant loser with a chip on his shoulder in this story. You’re such an angry bitch that in your fantasy version you are actually more of an asshole and call her fat twice instead of once. The ideal version of this moronic interaction shouldn’t be that that you “won” this conflict by hurting her fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 09:47 AM
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If OP were following the program he probably wouldn’t be having this issue. Either his body would adapt to the load because he’d be squatting 3x/week or the fatigue would catch up and he’d start failing and be forced to deload soon. Not following the program is likely contributing to the issue. If it were me, I’d probably go ahead and deload 20% and then start following the program properly. But if it were really me I’d actually pick a different program because squats 3x week hurt my old man hip…
/r/askMRP12/10/19 10:26 AM
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5x5 Stronglifts has you hitting full body hard 3x week. You can’t realistically do much more than that and recovery. People who are in the gym 5 days a week aren’t doing full body every day. And do whatever you want on rest days. Cardio, GPP, walk, light calisthenics, rest.
/r/askMRP12/10/19 08:50 AM
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I’ve started 5x5. Chest, back and shoulders are fine but when I squat I simply can’t use legs properly for up to 5 days. If I follow the programme to the letter, I should be squatting every other day Yeah, but you’re not following the program to the letter are you? That’s your problem.
/r/askMRP12/10/19 08:43 AM
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That’s way different than saying you shouldn’t be sore. Yeah, once you’re in a routine and used to it, your shouldn’t be experiencing DOMS for 5 days. But moderate soreness for a day or two is pretty common even in experienced lifters. Someone who’s always sore for 5 days is probably hitting legs once/week, which will make it harder for the body to adapt to the load.
/r/askMRP12/10/19 08:41 AM
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Yeah, but OP just started lifting. Long lasting DOMS is pretty common in new lifters or after a long break. Even an extremely half-assed leg workout can leave a new lifter with significant DOMS. Fastest way to get past it is to hit legs 2-3 times a week for a couple of weeks.
/r/askMRP12/10/19 08:37 AM
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I don’t know why everyone in this forum recommends staying fat just because you’re weak. If you’re weak, you don’t look good and you do need to get stronger. Throwing an extra 10% body fat on top of your weak muscles sure as hell won’t make you look better though. I did a shitty bulk to 157lb from somewhere around 145. Strength was going up but fat was going up faster. I followed that bulk with a really aggressive cut down to 137, knowing it would bounce to about 140 as soon as I stopped cutting…
/r/askMRP12/10/19 03:39 AM
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What are you talking about? It’s extremely common to be sore after lifting. It’s so common that people regularly debate whether its a problem not to experience DOMS.
/r/askMRP12/10/19 03:17 AM
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Olympic powerlifting isn’t a thing and you clearly don’t know what you’re talking about. Here's the thing though.. look at olympic power lifters. Most of them look like strong fat dudes. Yeah. Check out this fat fucking Olympic weight lifter: https://wellbuiltstyle.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/tumblr_m73lr0T3YE1ruecxyo1_400.jpg If you want to be strong without looking fat, then build muscle and don’t build fat. It’s that simple and has fuck all to do with muscle confusion. Plenty of people hav…
/r/askMRP11/10/19 11:48 PM
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Reverse pyramid training. Popular with LeanGains followers. I think it’s a decent idea on a cut. I tried 5/3/1 BBB on a cut and just felt run down as hell.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 11:30 PM
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Fuck off. She was not clinically diagnosed as BPD. Your last post makes it clear that this was an off the cuff remark made by your therapist. Your therapist saying that your wife is “almost certainly” BPD is not at all the same as your wife taking the relevant tests to actually diagnose her. With that said, your marriage is over and it doesn’t matter if she’s BPD or not. Move on.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 07:16 PM
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New house isn’t a mission. Your wife clearly doesn’t understand her place in your mission. You say you both want to own additional properties and she wants to manage them. What steps have you taken to make that real? A concrete savings plan to purchase a rental property would probably put an end to the “I want a new kitchen” stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 10:30 PM
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I don't know how to provide comfort I guess, its fake...I told my wife explicitly why I keep her around. I like to fuck her and want her to be my sex toy. Why don’t you give her some comfort that isn’t fake? She’s begging you to tell her how she fits in your life and all you can tell her is that she fucks and cleans. Of course she’s not comforted. She’s stressed as fuck because you’re constantly telling her that she has no value that can’t be replaced by a maid service and a hooker. In other wor…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 06:40 PM
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I was too busy owning shit to care. Stop telling everyone how awesome you are. You didn’t own anything. You went to fucking sleep. You said so yourself two sentences ago. Your ego is lying to you and holding you back.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 06:30 PM
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I don't want a partner. I want a bang maid. I have been telling her that for years. You really are 13. No woman wants to be your bang maid and nothing else indefinitely. I don’t think the problem is that you actually don’t want a partner. I think the problem is that you don’t know how to include her because you don’t have any actual plans. You’re too selfish to support her plans and you don’t actually have any of your own. So you’re unable to give her any guidance or support and all you have lef…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 04:14 PM
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I’m pretty sure you hate yourself, which is why you present such a ridiculous fake persona. You are larping who you think you want to be, or at least who you think RP says you should be. Figure out what you actually like about yourself. Embrace that. Then figure out what you don’t like about yourself. Fix that. Maybe start with the fact that you are a self-admitted poor leader. Why are you a shitty leader? You clearly aren’t happy about that. You want submission which means you need to lead. The…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 03:59 PM
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Jesus. Here you are still blaming your wife. Yeah, she’s the child. Like every other fucker here, you’re the problem. You won’t fix a thing until you admit that to yourself and stop blaming your wife. You give lip service about how you “want to improve” while you continually lay blame for your failings on your wife, boss, and anything else so that you can protect your ego and keep pretending to be “alpha”. Literally everything your wife said in that email has been told to you repeatedly here. Bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/19 03:47 PM
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Sure. I just don’t think it’s about “deep down feeling unworthy”. That’s the effect, rather than the cause. The sabotage is caused by ego protection. The effect is self-loathing. There’s some amount of cyclic reinforcement here but the core is the ego protection.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/19 04:14 PM
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Deep down they believe they are not worthy of love or sex or meaningful friendships and so they self sabotage in an elaborate act of self deception. It’s got very little to do with this. Covert contracts are about ego protection and conflict avoidance. “Work extra hard and my manager will promote me” is a covert contract that avoids difficult discussion about your expectations and your boss’s. If you never express that you’re unhappy at your current level, your boss won’t get mad at you or tell …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/19 02:44 PM
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Fair enough. If it’s already in the sidebar then there’s not much else to do. I didn’t realize the note was in there already.
/r/askMRP03/08/19 09:10 PM
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Can a mod just update the sidebar to point to one of these discussions? This one point seems to come up more often than the rest of the book.
/r/askMRP03/08/19 07:54 PM
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Lifetime endurance athlete ... now at 18%BF What sort of endurance athlete are you that you’re carrying 18% body fat? Even if you’ve been bulking a few months that sounds like bullshit. Endurance athletes are generally lean as hell and 4 months of bulking shouldn’t add 8-10% BF. Have you been dream bulking or are you not actually an endurance athlete?
/r/askMRP03/08/19 07:52 PM
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Thanks
/r/askMRP25/07/19 02:52 PM
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Shout outs to modafinil. 5 hours of sleep and I feel like a fucking champ ready to destroy the day. Off-topic, but where do you get your modafinil? I seem to recall you referencing some site but now can’t find that comment.
/r/askMRP25/07/19 03:46 AM
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Do I just accept the fact that my life, feelings emotions and perspectives are worth less than hers? You fucking idiot. Your “life, feelings emotions and perspectives are worth less than hers” to her. She cares more about her feelings than yours. Everyone is solipsistic. Deal with it. Half of MRP is guys learning to be more solipsistic and take what they want. The other half is sidebar and lift, which is what you should be doing. Lazy fuck.
/r/askMRP25/07/19 03:24 AM
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OYS #10 Fitness 36, 150lb, 5'7", 15ish % bodyfat (Navy method; need to recalculate this) Wendler Training maxes: OHP 90, BP 135, SQ: 245, DL: 255 I’m down another 1.5lb for the week. Slightly slower than my target. The cut seems to be going well. I’m hungry but not unbearably so. The biggest problem the last couple of days is just being uncomfortably cold indoors. Dunno how much of that was just it was actually cold inside. Plus I’m running out of gas early in my workouts. That’s the cut. Weeken…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 02:21 AM
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You’re not describing an emotional tampon. You’re describing a drama queen. An emotional tampon is someone who listens to her bitching endlessly and soaks up her bad feelings. If you’re listening to someone complain all night, you’re an emotional tampon. If someone telling you that they are upset gets you upset, you’re an emotional tampon. If you get pissed off about dumb shit on Reddit and create drama, you’re an idiot and a drama queen.
/r/askMRP23/06/19 04:14 PM
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So a few years ago when I heard that some professional scientists--researchers and professors of biology at respected universities and so on--did not believe in Darwin's theory of evolution, I thought that was the most ridiculous thing I'd ever heard. But I was slightly curious to see what they had to say. Well, turns out I don't think their ideas are ridiculous anymore. I cannot imagine what some scientists said that made you believe in God and the afterlife. How does “evolution isn’t real” tur…
/r/askMRP21/06/19 03:02 PM
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I’ve tried that. Didn’t work particularly well. Good for Arnold that he could get by on 6 hours max. Wish I could.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 02:58 PM
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How can you function? Low sleep for me is tightly correlated with not managing my own shit well.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 11:34 AM
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I want to know how this happens. How were you raised atheist but then decided you believe in God and an afterlife?
/r/askMRP21/06/19 11:21 AM
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For sure. I am a bit concerned about getting too skinny, but more concerned about being able to lift at all. I'm a below-elbow amputee and weight gain made it basically impossible to get my prosthesis on. Current plan is to cut down pretty aggressively (probably bumping into scary skeleton territory) to get the prosthesis fitting well again and then get back to slow bulking. Honestly even ignoring the prosthesis, I was probably headed for a cut within two months anyway. I didn't start this proce…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/19 04:25 PM
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OYS #9 Fitness 36, 151.5lb, 5'7", 15ish % bodyfat (Navy method) Wendler Training maxes: OHP 90, BP 135, SQ: 245, DL: 255 I'm cutting now. I'm pretty sure the water weight is all gone since I'm down almost 6 pounds in a week. Cutting is definitely easier when I'm not drinking. Last time I did a cut I really half-assed it and basically ate barely below maintenance for months. What a catastrophic waste of time. This time I'm shooting for ~2lb/week at least initially. I dropped a pound over the last…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 05:29 AM
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Paycheck to paycheck is for losers. You don't have to retire but being unable to retire in your old age seems like a giant fuck-up. Of course if you're planning to die at 50 then whatever I guess. Personally I care about sending my kids to college debt-free, so I'd be saving even if I never wanted to "retire".
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/19 04:21 AM
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She wants to be like the moms she sees who have daddys who make 200k plus and just let them run around blowing cash. That won’t happen even if I made that money, but she is tired of hearing me say “We don’t have the cash for that.” and forcing her to budget money Those people are failing to save for retirement and very possibly racking up credit card debt. In no way would $200k put you and your wife into a place where you could spend without concern endlessly. You say it won’t happen even if you…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 03:37 PM
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Glad to give it. I like the fact that you seem to live honestly. You own your shit to the point that you tell your wife that you get validation from gay guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/19 04:24 AM
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You want to move to the city? But somehow it took an ultimatum from your wife before you would even look for a job in the city? You suck at lying.
/r/askMRP17/06/19 04:09 AM
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You don’t have a marriage. There is no marriage here This is the reality. Right now, /u/ComteDeBetamax, you're a weekend dad supporting an ex-wife. You're already living the divorce-rape life. You're supporting your ex 100% and paying thousands a month to keep her in a plush lifestyle while you're not even around. You're supporting her bullshit hobby to the tune of tens of thousands per year. You're paying for her new house. You only see your kids on the weekends after driving 5 hours. You're di…
/r/askMRP17/06/19 03:58 AM
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Did your lawyer actually say that getting a lower paying job will help you? Are you in a state that grants long term alimony? Is it better to lose 40% of whatever you currently make vs 40% of the pay cut you'd take if you move to the city?
/r/askMRP17/06/19 03:46 AM
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A second revenue stream sounds like a great idea as long as it’s something you can do with a reasonable time investment. As far as self actualization, I saw the same comment. I think it all comes down to what you actually want. If your goal is honestly to be the cartoon character, then be the cartoon character. If that’s not your goal, then what is your goal? Be that. I honestly don’t see that this is a much different from the dancing monkey discussion that happens all the time. Instead of doing…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/19 04:40 PM
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2 years without debt reduction means you’re not living beneath your means. On the other hand, your debt isn’t growing so you’re not in train wreck territory. I understand the value of time and the tradeoffs that happen between priorities. Only you can decide what value you place on improving your financial situation and what you’re willing to sacrifice to achieve that. To be clear, in no way am I suggesting that you do this to get more compliance or anything else from your wife. If you were sing…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/19 04:06 PM
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My process is working How long have finances been your primary focus? How long have you been trying to dig out of debt to end up in the same place? If you’re 15k in debt and that’s exactly where you started, then you are not living beneath your means. Unplanned shit always happens. It’s part of life, and it has to be included in the budget. I don’t know what you earn or what your living expenses are but it sounds like you need to find a way to increase income or cut expenses, or both. You could …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/19 05:07 AM
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Stop excusing her behavior. Scratch that, stop delaying enforcement of your boundaries. You absolutely made the budget clear. You told her repeatedly what the budget was. She repeatedly ignored your budget, going so far as to remove you from her credit card. The rules were clear. She’s repeatedly violated them. Now what happens to the nurse? Near as I can tell you have exactly one way left to enforce your boundaries. Or you can keep pretending that you’re somehow on track to salvage this.
/r/askMRP16/06/19 04:34 AM
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You’re planning to move to a place you don’t want to live and take a 50-90% pay cut so that your wife can ride a horse more conveniently. Fuck the credit card. You’ve got way bigger problems you delusional fuck. You’re here stressing about her unwillingness to accommodate your budget while you’re uprooting your life and decimating your income so she can ride a horse. How many years of her horse shows could you fund with the income you’re going to lose by following her to the city? How many times…
/r/askMRP16/06/19 04:24 AM
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You’re lazy. There is no easy path. There is no magic motivation anyone can give you. It’s hard work to fix yourself. Start with Steel’s guide. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/acvzgx/steels_guide_to_married_red_pill/ Lift. Read the books in the sidebar. Post in the weekly OYS thread and be honest with yourself about where you’re fucking up. Do the hard work. Build the discipline. Or don’t. No one else really gives a fuck.
/r/askMRP15/06/19 03:15 PM
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OYS #8 Fitness 36, 157lb, 5'7", 15ish % bodyfat (Navy method) Wendler Training maxes: OHP 80, BP 130, SQ: 235, DL: 245 I was on vacation and haven’t lifted in a week. I’ll be back at it tonight. Surprisingly my weight shot up about 3 pounds. I’m guessing some of that is just random fluctuation but I definitely didn’t restrict my calories last week and without lifting, an extra pound or two is believable. Clearly overdid it. As mentioned last week, I’m going to start a cut. Goal is to lose about …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/19 03:48 PM
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man_in_the_world’s breakdown is great. He captured what a colossal series of escalating fuck-ups this situation was and how OP drove it to this point. Nonetheless, attempted child abduction and physical assault are both hard lines for me. I’d be completely done after the attempt to take the kids in the middle of the night. I’d be proceeding with papers, requesting primary custody, and securing a court order that the children must remain in the state. But that’s easy for me to say since this isn’…
/r/askMRP10/06/19 06:10 PM
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He definitely egged the whole shit show on. Laughing at her when she threatened to hit him was absolutely taunting her. Still, this seems like an unsalvageable wreck at this point. What a mess.
/r/askMRP09/06/19 01:21 PM
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You seem to think things are still Business As Usual after an attempted kidnapping and assault. I would actually consider filing a police report for the attempted kidnapping. Fun fact, though, you’ll probably end up in jail for assault if you do because you were dumb enough to physically drag her to your bedroom when she started yelling instead of just walking away. Also, where was your kid when your wife was hitting you and then you were dragging her away? Your story just abandons kid #2 on the…
/r/askMRP09/06/19 11:38 AM
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Your wife tried to kidnap your children. Then she physically assaulted you. Your next step shouldn’t be to “let my distance be her reward.” It should be to visit a divorce attorney, ideally several, and get papers drawn up. You need to be planning for how this ends, because right now the most plausible outcome is that you end up divorced on her terms and you get to be a weekend dad with supervised visitation. She’s crazy enough to try to take the kids and to physically assault you. She will abso…
/r/askMRP09/06/19 11:32 AM
1

It’s definitely on my reading list.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 06:58 PM
2

For one thing, I am a Nice Guy, so dumping responsibility for failure onto subordinates seems like a the wrong thing. It’s the exact opposite of Owning Your Shit. For another, this is a dangerous path if you have competent leadership who are aware of this dynamic. I’ve seen people who engaged in this exact behavior get pushed out. I can believe that there’s a way to do this effectively but most of the time this is really obvious and breeds resentment with your own employees and distrust with you…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/19 06:32 PM
1

OYS #7 Fitness 36, 154.5lb, 5'7", 15ish % bodyfat (Navy method) Wendler Training maxes: OHP 80, BP 130, SQ: 235, DL: 245 Still aiming for about half a pound gained per week. Seems on track but harder to tell lately as my weight is fluctuating more than usual. Highest morning weight is 155 but suspect average is closer to 154 or 154.5. Missed a day of lifting last week because I failed to plan well and scheduled a social outing on top of my lifting time, and was not willing to lift at 11pm. Did c…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/19 10:47 PM
1

What are you talking about? I identified a problem (yes, a problem I created) and instituted a working solution. I don’t want to be dismissive of feedback because that’s the whole reason I’m posting here, but my perception is that I’m getting feedback about a situation that doesn’t exist, like I’ve only replaced a bag of candy with a box of donuts or that I think it’s not my fault if I fail to control what I eat. I don’t know if I expressed myself really poorly or what.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/19 11:58 PM
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It wasn’t particularly nuanced so I wonder what you think I missed. I had a problem with eating candy and I found a solution. I don’t have a problem with eating donuts so I’m not trying to solve it. My idealized version of myself is healthy, not a health martyr.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 03:05 PM
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I don’t have any desire to be a person who literally never has a donut. The life of an ascetic sounds fucking lame.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 12:57 PM
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OYS #6 Fitness 36, 154lb, 5'7", 15ish % bodyfat (Navy method) Wendler Training maxes: OHP 80, BP 130, SQ: 235, DL: 245 Sticking with the plan and aiming for 0.5lb to 1lb per week gain. 3x/week BBB with the exception that the second accessory on leg days has been replaced by upper body as I mentioned last time. Did 3x5 pull-ups for the first time ever yesterday. I'm very proud of that achievement but simultaneously embarrassed that I can only do 3x5 and it took me so long to get there. I look so …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/19 04:09 AM
3

First off, you should have stopped leaving your shirt on the bedroom floor like a fucking slob. If you gave her ammo for this “shit test” every night, then you were acting like a lazy five-year-old. Second, no way this was the reason your marriage fell apart. The shirt on the floor is annoying. It’s not divorce-worthy though, nor is the fact that you ignored her nagging about it. She left you because you utterly suck. You’re leaving lots of advice around MRP but you don’t seem to be doing any wo…
/r/askMRP28/05/19 03:14 PM
1

That’s just bizarre. The link works for me (mobile) unless I open in desktop mode. They (Reddit devs) did something bizarre with this one. Makes no sense that you can’t just access the “about” page directly regardless of desktop/mobile/new/classic.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 02:53 AM
1

Most of them are in the sidebar reading list. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/about
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/19 01:09 PM
1

OYS #5 Haven't posted in a few weeks, partly due to "lack of time" and partly due to the fact that I haven't been making a much progress in any area and didn't want to be honest with myself and say that. I've been working on putting together an actual MAP and focusing goals and next steps there rather than using this as a dumping ground for a bunch of items on my todo list. I've got a lot of areas to work on, but I'm realizing that ending my time wasting is the biggest one. I'll fix this. A lot …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/19 04:02 PM
1

Loosing cool and exploding about dumb shit isn’t “alpha”. Per the OP the interaction was polite until the wife exploded. It sounds like there was no conflict until she created one.
/r/askMRP23/05/19 10:23 PM
2

Calling her out on the bad behavior might transfer some of her anger from him to you. So? If you don’t care or don’t want to care, then sure, STFU. But if you don’t like the behavior, then address it. If you’re avoiding saying something because you’re afraid of having your wife get angry at you, then you must have missed the point of all if this. Her getting angry at you shouldn’t affect your actions.
/r/askMRP23/05/19 02:55 PM
1

“Because I’m not interested in arguing” “Because I was bored” “Because I have better things to do” You don’t have to re-engage the argument just because she gives you an opportunity. Tell her something like that (or don’t, you could also shrug and STFU) and don’t engage. If she escalates, repeat the same, calmly. If she continues, leave again. Have some self-respect. You can’t stop her from trying to argue. You can stop yourself though.
/r/askMRP21/05/19 02:59 AM
1

If your child was a brat you wouldn’t get into screaming matches with them. You’d set boundaries and enforce them. You’d remove attention in response to unacceptable behavior (tantrums). You wouldn’t fight with your child constantly unless you’re a moron and a shitty parent.
/r/askMRP20/05/19 09:22 PM
3

Jesus Christ, she’s not BPD just because they have a shitty relationship. This idiot is getting into nonstop fights with his live-in girlfriend. If she’s BPD for being a shitty girlfriend then he’s BPD for being a shitty boyfriend. Stop assuming that women have serious mental illnesses by default. You don’t know shit about her from what he posted. He’s clearly a drama queen. Maybe she’s a saint for putting up with him and her previous relationships have all been mellow and mutually-supportive. P…
/r/askMRP20/05/19 09:18 PM
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I know her job adds a lot of stress to her. So I kind of get it. Could you possibly DEER any harder? You said she only works two days a week and now you’re trying to defend her bitchiness by claiming her work stresses her out. You lack any semblance of congruence. The things you say just honestly make no sense. You can’t walk away because your time is scheduled? Bullshit. You’re terrified of making her angry by walking away.
/r/askMRP20/05/19 07:56 PM
1

Fair. But my wall of text doesn’t say enough given the amount of space it takes. I don’t like that and will work to improve it for next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/19 03:14 AM
3

Yeah. Cologne for interviews is a bad idea. For every person who manages to wear a subtle fragrance well, there are ten fuckers who smother the room. Show up smelling clean. Best case for cologne in an interview is that it has no effect on the outcome.
/r/askMRP09/05/19 03:14 PM
1

For us or you? Both, but mostly for you. It’s easy to write enormous walls of text that say very little, and this is a giant waste of time. I figure I’ll get better feedback if I am more concise. I’ll also spend less time if I’m only writing what actually matters. JFC you whine this much at home??? Didn’t realize this post came off as whining. At the very least this is unnecessarily repetitive. Point taken.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/19 03:05 PM
2

She’s very eager to clean up my mess before she has to return to Asia next week. I told her that I was handling it, but she didn’t seem to trust me or consider me capable. I wonder why she doesn't seem to trust you or consider you capable. I still don’t entirely know what I want - other than a general desire to reach consensus and to do the “right” thing "Consensus"? The "right" thing? Are you serious with this? There is no right thing here and you'll never reach consensus between the teenager y…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 03:24 PM
1

OYS #4 Not much to update this week. Kids remained sick for half the week and then I got sick. I'm still working my way through the lingering effects of a stomach bug. Mostly updating to be consistent with posting here. I also think I might try a different format next week. This is entirely too much to read for the amount of actual content. Fitness 36, 146.5lb, 5'7", 15ish % bodyfat (Navy method) Wendler Training maxes: OHP 75, BP 125, SQ: 225, DL: 235 Weight actually looked up after last week's…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/19 04:01 AM
2

you cite financials as to why you are staying... This seems off to me.. Any man can make up whatever it is you might lose by letting her go... this is our power as a man... MRP isn’t a money printing press. There’s nothing about reading The Rational Male that makes it easy to raise your income dramatically. I think staying with someone solely because they earn a lot of money is weak, but I can certainly imagine scenarios where OP might never make as much as 50% of his wife’s income. She could be…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/19 03:23 AM
2

”Yeah? So what?" I want a nice tight hole which your cunt isn't anymore." This isn’t Agree and Amplify. This is two losers having a shitty fight intending to hurt each other’s feelings.
/r/askMRP02/05/19 07:55 PM
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OYS #3 Kids have still been sick (daycare is apparently a plague ward now) so the past week was largely spent taking care of them, trying to get some amount of work done, and taking care of stuff around the house. Fitness 36, 150lb, 5'7", 15ish % bodyfat (Navy method) Wendler Training maxes: OHP 75, BP 125, SQ: 225, DL: 235 Lifted 4 times last week as I intended (plus some extra accessories as time allowed that I don’t consider proper lifting days). Back on the 3x/week schedule this week. Weight…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 03:38 PM
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This is why you see parent’s give in to their 5yo’s tantrums: they can’t stand to see their child in pain. Fuck no. I might suck at being “RP AF” but I know a few things about tantrums. Parents don’t give into tantrums because they “can’t stand to see their child in pain” but because tantrums are fucking obnoxious. Parents give in to shut the kid the fuck up, to end the stress, to end the embarrassment (if in public), to stop the assault on their sanity. Giving in is simply easier, right now, th…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 07:40 AM
1

I was definitely a lazy, drunk captain. Fixing that. I’m making gains in the gym. Obviously a lot more to do. Career is going well externally but I’m not happy and need to push harder. Getting better about all the other miscellaneous stuff. Not perfect yet. I hear you for sure. I have more work to do. I coaster for far too long and I’m not content with that anymore.
/r/askMRP30/04/19 01:13 AM
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I’ll keep this in mind and look for ways to handle this sort of test that don’t involve either deferring to her frame or overtly escalating. Thanks
/r/askMRP30/04/19 01:09 AM
2

Fair advice. Maybe I’m not in the place where I can pull that off yet. At the same time, I’m honestly not sure that being a nice guy and pulling back to respect shitty boundaries is a move in the right direction. Is it better to fail trying or to not try? I’ve already done a lot of the latter.
/r/askMRP28/04/19 04:34 AM
1

I don’t think Chad would try to win this war of attrition. I’d expect he has better shit to do. But I don’t think Chad would be in this war of attrition in the first place because he wouldn’t fuck up the cascade of shit tests the way I did. Your advice seems on point, through, and I appreciate that you gave me something concrete I’m fucking up. I’ll keep it in mind to bring more sexy and dominant and less gay ass-pinching in situations like this. The hand towels are for: wiping lube off hands, w…
/r/askMRP28/04/19 04:17 AM
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The real problem in this specific moment was obviously that I’m not attractive enough yet. I’m working on that. I hear your advice, though, and appreciate it. I’ll continue working hard on raising my game across the board, from mission to lifting.
/r/askMRP28/04/19 04:07 AM
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I am trying to have standards. Hence walking away. I’m also trying not to be entirely autistic, hence trying to not rely on walking away as a primary means of dealing with shit tests. Appreciate the advice. Gaming other girls is the one piece here that I have not actually been doing at all, despite it being in my weekly goals. I’ll work on that.
/r/askMRP28/04/19 03:57 AM
1

Understood. The plan of course remains to fix my own shit. I appreciate the feedback and I did reread your post. I have a guys trip (me and a friend, maybe I should see about doing a larger group soon) in a couple of months that I’m looking forward to for many of the reasons you highlight. Thanks
/r/askMRP28/04/19 03:53 AM
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I haven’t forgotten. Remembering doesn’t magically make me alpha of course. I’m working on that.
/r/askMRP28/04/19 03:45 AM
1

Thanks. The general feedback here seems to be that I just need to improve, which is mostly what I expected. I am bulking. Up 8 about pounds over the last few months but flat for the last few weeks. Working to slowly push my caloric intake higher to get the scale moving up again.
/r/askMRP28/04/19 03:42 AM
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I'm not going to DEER about my wife. It's sufficient that I believe she brings value in many ways and that I like her. Replacing her would just be trading problems. I'll look into David Deida some more. I haven't finished any of his books yet. Thanks for the suggestion.
/r/askMRP27/04/19 06:27 AM
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Not sure what you're expecting me to say here. Oneitis? Doesn't really matter since the only person I can work on is me, and at the present I think that is far more fruitful work than looking for a replacement for my wife. I fully believe that I am responsible for the scenario above. My problem is that I'm not sure how to fix it yet.
/r/askMRP27/04/19 06:14 AM
1

True. This is an option if I find I cannot curtail the random drinking otherwise. But for two weeks I haven’t had a drink and I still have a cabinet full of liquor. Having no alcohol in the house is not a desired end state for me. Certainly I would choose that over uncontrolled drinking but I’d rather just go back to drinking less frequently so long as that’s doesn’t prove to be an issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 06:33 PM
1

You’re absolutely right.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 07:50 PM
1

Fully agree. Need more discipline. Will remind myself of this failure next time I want to put off the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 07:49 PM
1

I do have a schedule. Currently I’m doing MWF and generally pretty consistent. Occasionally I’ve slipped a day, e.g. MWSa, but usually consistent at least recently. On Friday I was feeling kind of shitty and just didn’t lift. If I’d been legit sick it would have been reasonable but I just felt a little under the weather and told myself I’d lift on Saturday. Fully agree that sticking to the schedule is the way to go, though. If I’d told myself “today or miss it entirely”, I probably would have li…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 02:42 PM
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This is valid feedback. I have set myself up for failure in the past by trying to "make up" for missed goals. In a way, I guess this is an attempt to excuse the fuck-up. i.e. "I didn't accomplish my goal, but if I meet goal+X this time it's like I've fixed the past", which is obviously not true. I'll think about this one some more. I'll definitely hit my 3. Want to hit 4 but you're correct that this won't fix my laziness from last week and puts me at higher risk of missing a harder goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 12:27 PM
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Agreed on catching up. However my options at this point are to lift 4x this week or lift 3x this week. I'm doing 4x regardless of whether it's possible to "catch up".
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 12:13 PM
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OYS #2 This is the second week in a row that I've been unable to sleep through Monday night. No excuses for not posting in OYS, I guess. Half of this past week was spent dealing with a sick toddler. 3 doctor visits in 4 days as he got progressively sicker. Nasty cold symptoms turned into a 104 degree fever, turned into ear infections and pneumonia, turned into dehydration because he continually refused liquids. Finally on the mend, though he did wake me up at about 1:30am today... Fitness 36, 15…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 11:44 AM
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Sounds like an excuse to keep avoiding the actual confrontation. Practicing “being alone” seems fine, but confrontation practice is more immediately available and probably more fruitful. If you’re afraid of being alone, then practicing confrontation with the person you fear might leave you will show you that the sky doesn’t fall when you confront them (or it does and you still survive), and also force you to internally face the possibility of ending up alone. Practicing being alone doesn’t seem …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/19 04:10 AM
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Is there a difference? Your fear of being alone maps directly to your fear of your wife, because she has the power to leave you.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 11:41 PM
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No doubt. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/19 12:56 AM
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This is my thought on FMOFY as well. I don’t see how it works unless your goal is compliance with more frequent low-energy duty sex. Maybe it can act as a wake-up call if your wife is stuck in some spiteful, self-defeating loop where she’s refusing to have sex even though she wants to. If I ever get to that point, then maybe I’ll have that discussion, but again, I suspect once my wife wants to fuck me enthusiastically, she will.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 08:37 PM
1

It’s on my list. I’ve seen it recommended a few times (by you?) to others and queued it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 07:55 PM
1

No need for the soapbox. I hear you loud and clear and fully agree. My two drinks a day have absolutely been making me lazier. The likelihood I’ll do something useful in the evening plummets once I have a drink. Consistently drinking daily also seems to create a downward trend in my overall life motivation. That’s why I’m concerned with reducing my drinking. I’ll consider your dry spell recommendation. I’m not sure I’m going to go all-in on that right now and ditch even social drinking, but cert…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 07:32 PM
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That’s a useful reframe. I’m happy with my choice to connect with my friend rather than ditch him to go bowling by myself. However, if he’d stayed home, I realistically would have bailed on the evening entirely. Given that scenario, choosing to still go out and use the time constructively is a better option.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 07:21 PM
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Honestly I don’t think I’m to the point that I’m attractive enough that this will accomplish anything except making sex more of a chore for her. I’m unhappy with our sex life but if I’m truthful with myself I’d not be buried in pussy on the open market right now either. I fully expect that right now the response to “I expect more sex and more enthusiastic sex” would be very similar to last year, when she outright told me that she feels like she every time I initiate she has to have sex or I’ll d…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 03:57 PM
1

Thanks for taking the time to respond. You’re entirely correct that I lack discipline. I’ve managed to do quite well (academically and financially) without ever doing any sustained hard work and I’ve never built the habits or discipline I need to be the kind of man I want to be. Obviously that’s something I have to fix if I want things to meaningfully change. To answer your direct questions, what stopped me from bowling alone was that it was supposed to be a social event. It wasn’t that we were …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 02:46 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. I’ve always been confused by the conflicting advice about this, though. Everyone agrees that you cannot negotiate desire. Yet there’s also this frequent advice to openly state that you expect more sex. How do these two things jive? Telling my wife I expect her to fuck me more seems like at best it would get me more sex of lower quality.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 02:23 PM
1

OYS #1 Background I've been married 10 years, and we dated for about 4 years prior. I married my first serious relationship. It was great, we fucked like rabbits, yada yada. I settled down too much, got lazy and boring, the usual story. I was never a muscular guy, but I was a lot more social when we got together. I'm reasonably good looking and learned about pickup in college and actually applied it. I built a strong social circle (unfortunately based around partying), started to build success w…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 12:04 PM
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