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ADVICEartsyluna/r/RedPillWomen07/11/16 02:57 AM
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ADVICEartsyluna/r/RedPillWomen29/11/16 07:43 PM
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ADVICEartsyluna/r/RedPillWomen12/10/16 02:06 PM
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DISCUSSIONartsyluna/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 01:04 AM
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I think you made the right decision. It would be one thing if he was someone you have known for awhile, but I think giving a strange man your home address and getting in a car with him is a big no-no.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/20 03:19 AM
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Do you want a potion to change his mind or something?
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/20 12:31 AM
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It sounds like he didn’t enjoy the pussy enough to want more of it
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/20 12:25 AM
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I’m confused. You said you don’t want anything serious, so what is there to turn around? It sounds like he doesn’t either.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/20 12:15 AM
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There are no guarantees in life. All you can do is try to learn from your past experiences. Maybe don’t be so open and upfront about sex. Guys seem to pigeonhole their attractive lady friends into one of two categories- “fun times” and “wifey material.” This is what one of my guy friends told me. Maybe you are presenting yourself as easy fun rather than a virtuous woman to invest in. The only way to know if a man is willing to invest in you is to wait and see if he will stick around without bein…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/20 12:32 AM
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Beta orbiting is something desperate men do in hopes of having a chance with a girl out of their league. Whether your boss likes you or not, he is probably aware that a relationship with a subordinate would be inappropriate. Don’t try to read into it personally, it just means he values his job. I can empathize with your clingy attachment style and being picky about friends. I think in this case, it is important to set boundaries for yourself. No small talk, no giggling or flirting. Keep your com…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 04:05 AM
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The low sex drive would be an issue for me. I guess it comes down to, do you love him and are you willing to put up with having an unfulfilling sex life to keep him? I feel like you need to add some context here. How long have you been seeing him? Is this a new problem, or have things always been this way? Besides the fact that he is a high value man, do you like him? Or is he just high value to you because of his job title/salary/looks? Does he like you?
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/20 11:27 PM
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I think RP views pretty much boil down to two principles: 1) Wait until he has committed to you before becoming sexually intimate. 2) Once you are in a relationship or married, make sure you take care of his needs (and vice versa). Have sex often and enthusiastically. Don’t let a dead bedroom situation develop. What you do in bed is really between you and your partner. I don’t think anyone here is going to tell you how you should be having sex unless you are asking for tips.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/20 08:16 PM
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Maybe you should do the “take things slow” approach so that you have space to work on yourself while getting closer to him
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/19 02:26 PM
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He probably doesn't care about your job or degree as much as you think he does. Men don't tend to value that as much as we do. And why would he care how much money your parents have? He's not trying to date your parents (hopefully xD). Conversation and personality and attractiveness are all subjective. You might admire his ability to hold an engaging conversation, and he might admire your ability to actively listen. If you are interested, I think you should try to date him and see if it goes wel…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/19 04:53 AM
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If you keep throwing yourself at him, he will probably just be annoyed. It sounds like he doesn’t care. You can’t make someone like you by “outsmarting” them. Cut your losses and move on, and don’t make the same mistake again in the future. FWB relationships are not redpilled from the female perspective because you gave him what he wanted (sex) without obtaining what you wanted (presumably a commitment). You have some issues to work through.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/19 12:47 AM
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You said there is a big attractiveness differential. Do you think she feels like she needs to do all this with nothing in return to earn your attention?
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/19 06:53 AM
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I’m not sure this is the right place to post this. She sounds like a doormat and you both sound like you have commitment issues.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/19 06:38 AM
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I had that issue with a former boyfriend and he said it would take a long time for him to develop feelings, because once he had them they wouldn’t go away. He said he needed to feel “safe” first. It didn’t work out between us because he needed to focus on his career, but I think we would have gotten there if the circumstances were different. Men experience love differently than we do and I wouldn’t take it personally. It will feel extra awesome when you get to the point where he can say it back,…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/19 01:10 AM
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The real issue here is that you have been misleading your boyfriend about your feelings for a really long time. That kind of break in trust will keep him hurting for a long time after you are gone. And he will find out eventually, if he doesn’t already know. Start being a good person and end it before he sinks more years into you than he already had. Crushes are normal as long as you don’t let them get to you, but the bigger problem is that you never loved your boyfriend in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 11:48 PM
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I find that the less frequently I curse, the more people pay attention when I actually do. I prefer to save "bad words" for when I'm either making a dark joke, or upset enough to really need them. They have more effect when you don't pepper them into your everyday language.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/19 04:36 AM
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I guess it depends what she means by chasing. I just ended a relationship with a very ambitious and self-assured man because he was always distant around me and it made me feel unwanted. I would be anxious all the time because I felt that he just wasn't that into me. I respect and admire him a whole lot as a person, but I still feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I feel at peace not having to wonder if I'm enough all day long. To me, a man who is too aloof in a relationship i…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 08:46 PM
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I am sorry you feel that way. It sounds like a tough situation and you are trapped by your guilt for what you did to hurt him. If he wanted to move forward with the relationship, he would have to forgive you instead of punishing you, and it sounds like he isn't willing to do that. He told you to let him know when you want to leave? He sees no future in this relationship, and you shouldn't either. Good luck and be well <3
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/19 06:35 PM
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He admits that you don't make him happy. He knows that you are uncomfortable with him seeing other women, and does it anyway instead of ending the relationship with you. He doesn't respect you and you are letting him get away with it. Don't allow him to put the blame for his "straying" on you- if you are a monogamous person, you deserve to be in a relationship with another monogamous person. If he won't do something as basic as not seeing other women while in a relationship with you, there is ab…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/19 11:23 PM
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I am struggling with this right now. I have been dating a guy for a couple of months and I don't feel ready for full-on sex yet, but we have done everything else. I sleep over at his house a couple times a week, but we can't do much there because his mom and brother live with him and they don't have boundaries. He can't usually come to my place because he is busy with work and family stuff. So we end up just sleeping next to each other because it's often the only time we have to spend together (…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/19 03:32 AM
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So instead of "dating up," if that is a possibility for us, we should willingly take a lesser partner to protect your feelings? You aren't entitled to date certain women. I understand that gender dynamics play out in a different way for smart and successful women because men don't value our success the same way we value theirs, but that's not a reason we should shoot ourselves in the foot by dating down if we have have better options available. Your post is just a rant that adds no value to the …
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 05:18 PM
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Well a middle aged trucker hit on me by telling me I look like I'm in high school so..... xD
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 05:11 PM
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That's tough. It's going to take some personal growth on your part to get over the feelings of insecurity and jealousy, but you should really try to work through it so you don't drive him away. One part of your story really jumps out at me- you've been together three years, you're not married, and he bought you a new Tesla?!? That's a big time investment. He wouldn't have done that if he didn't value you a lot. The fact that you were there for him from the beginning and saw the potential in him …
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 02:12 AM
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I think this is really different from what most people think of as shallow plastic surgery, like breast implants and lip fillers. It won’t make you look like you are vying for sexual attention, it will be restoring your lip to its natural appearance. I see nothing wrong with it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 01:39 AM
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But he isn't leveraging his position as her doctor to get a relationship if they already knew each other and she makes the first move. Like if I were to start dating an ER doctor and one day I end up in the ER and become his patient, would that mean we have to break up?
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 02:09 PM
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I asked myself the same when I read this post. I subconsciously imagined Sarah as an older woman from the way OP describes her, in part because of her self-assuredeness and in part because she sounds jealous that OP may be having a baby soon. Definitely try to have a conversation with the husband and see if he is just spooked by her fear-mongering or if what she said made him realize that he isn't ready yet.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 12:30 AM
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I'm not sure about that. The fact that they knew each other before the clinic visit makes it kind of a special case, don't you think? Or are there some kind of rules in place that bar doctors from working on people they know socially?
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 11:33 PM
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I agree that social media sounds like a good idea for the first move. Also, I am a bit confused about this clinic- Is he your general practitioner now? Or was it just a one-time visit?
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 11:29 PM
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50k is a hefty price tag. I think only you know what is right for yourself, but from what I hear, it sounds like you are doubtful. I wouldn't go into that much debt unless I knew for absolute certain that a) this is what I want and b) I have a plan to pay this off in a reasonable amount of time. Think long-term: You don't want to be in a career for too many years. It will take much longer than a few years of saving to pay off 50k in student loans. So your only other option for paying it off soon…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 04:22 PM
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I would definitely talk to your sister about this. If you get involved with this guy and he is close with her ex-fiance, she will have a hard time shutting out that part of her life and it could re-open those traumas and prevent her from healing. He sounds like a catch though, and if she was already trying to set you up with someone, she might be supportive. It just depends on where she is in her healing and if second-hand exposure to her ex-fiance would be too much for her to handle. At the ver…
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 04:05 PM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/18 10:14 PM
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My goal for this month is to research places I want to live and try to narrow down on a few, since I will be graduating soon and starting the job search. Location is really important to me. I guess the second part of that goal is researching job opportunities in said places!
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/18 10:18 PM
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I started the pill shortly before my first relationship ended, and I partially blame it for keeping me in an intense depression for much longer than it should been. I was only on it for a few months, but even that was enough to wreak havoc on my mental and emotional health. Will probably never try it again.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 11:44 PM
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I have found the opposite to be true in my personal experience. I poor myself into relationships, and I don't have expectations that he pays for my things, aside from cheap date things like ice cream and stuff. But in most of my dating and relationships, I have found myself having to ask the guy multiple times to reciprocate some of that energy, because it becomes quite draining when I am the one always planning to meet up and adjusting my schedule accordingly. I hate having to beg for a text ba…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/18 11:32 PM
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I think humor can be useful in these non-serious situations. Next time you find a nail clipping on the sofa, throw it at him. Email him pictures of nasty bitten nails. Get creative to turn your nagging into fun-poking. I think teasing is a lot easier to take than complaining.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/18 11:38 PM
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I used to date a guy that would playfully jump on top of me and squeeze me, to the point that I couldn't breathe. I wasn't scared of being injured or anything, but it was frustrating sometimes because I'm claustrophobic and have a tendency to start hitting and kicking when I feel too constrained. I advise saying "ow" whenever he gets too rough. Don't try to make him feel bad, but let him know that he's being too rough and it's getting on your nerves. I also have a brother who does wrestling and …
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/18 11:07 PM
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I'm all for letting the man take the lead...until he's running off the road. It's time to take the wheel and dump him. Don't be subservient to someone who doesn't value you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/18 10:13 PM
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Smart woman. Why shouldn't she want to secure her future? It's not a bad thing to want kids and a stable household. Although if she was engaged to another guy 3 months later, she was cheating on you before she left. Sorry for that.
/r/TheRedPill02/12/17 09:33 PM
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Diddo. But I understand it's asking for a lot. I think it's equally important that we keep striving to be better women so we can deserve all that! I try to imagine myself in a man shoes, and I think it would be incredibly hard to possess all of those traits. It makes me want to keep working on myself so I can be confident that I deserve Mr. Right when he comes along.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 11:15 PM
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Riverside is nice, but that's just a few blocks out of 880 square miles. Jacksonville is huge.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 06:00 PM
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I'm from Jacksonville. I moved before I got to dating age, but I never liked growing up in that city. It's all strip malls as far as the eye can see, with no aesthetic value. Not even in downtown. Don't go there if you value the beauty of your surroundings as much as I do. It also has a population of 1 million, so it's more of a big city. Savannah and Charlotte are gorgeous in my opinion, I think they would be far better options.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 04:20 PM
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Vaginas aren't generally full of E. coli...butts are
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 07:17 AM
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Watch porn. The hardcore stuff is unrealistic, yes, but having some visuals is better than not knowing anything. I think the most important part is being excited and enthusiastic to try things (at a pace that is comfortable to you, of course). Part of that is being really comfortable in your own body, and if you have any insecurities, leave them at the bedroom door. A shameless girl with flaws is better than a flawless girl with shame. Also, I haven't tried toys, but I imagine that using a vibra…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 05:51 PM
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Hey, speak for yourself. I keep a lot of valuable things in here. Keys to a new car, plane tickets to Hawaii, you never know what you'll find.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 05:40 PM
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I don't think an article about RPW really matters to us since we're anonymous anyway. The writer is free to make an interpretation however she sees fit, whether we see it as disingenuous or not. The proof is in the pudding; as long as these strategies work for us, they are worth sticking to. Her opinion on the matter is of little concern.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 03:47 AM
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I don't mind a bit of cooking or cleaning, but I would definitely want him to have a job. I started working at 19 because I felt bad about making my parents pay for my housing and food along with tuition, and I would expect at least as much independence from a partner. I think a lot of college students just take out too many loans or let their parents pay for everything.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/17 02:41 AM
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I feel the same way! I feel like the boys in my class are just that- boys. I'm a woman and I want to date men, not boys. I feel like they wouldn't know what to do with me if we went on a date.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/17 06:05 PM
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Since I got to college, I seriously dated a 30-year-old when I was 18 and casually dated a 25-year-old when I was 19. Even the 25-year-old seemed a bit immature for my taste. I don't mean to bash young guys or make them feel bad, I think it has more to do with the college environment than anything else. I've definitely met mature young men before, just not in this town.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/17 06:02 PM
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I'm trying, but I don't know where to meet them. I don't have time to join more clubs.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/17 05:58 PM
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I really can't get into nerdy guys, but it also depends on what kind of nerdy we're talking about. Into video games, Pokemon, and Star Wars? Bleh! I can't think of a bigger turn off because those interests seem so juvenile and unimportant to me. Or are we talking nerdy guys who study their asses off in college and go on to be successful business owners/engineers/doctors/lawyers? It depends. Some still have really beta tendencies and neglect their physical fitness. Some are definitely interesting…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/17 05:57 PM
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I've been looking for months now. After having dated an older man, I have to say I have a very hard time feeling attracted to boys my own age now. I had it too good and now I expect maturity, which you can't find in undergrad-aged boys. I feel like I'm going to be sitting around and twiddling my thumbs for the rest of college unless I get really lucky and meet another good man before I graduate.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/17 10:38 PM
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What makes you feel that way? Why do you think you are so unattractive?
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/17 03:08 AM
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It's not okay to be an asshole to other people. I try to reign him in when I think he's being mean. But I have to say, nice guys aren't really my type.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 01:17 AM
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I'm 5'9" and I feel like the short girls should do me a solid and save the tall guys for me xD
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 09:55 PM
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Short men have better proportions. Tall men can see over the top of my head. My only preference is that he be taller than I am.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 09:52 PM
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As long as he's not an asshole to me, lol. P.S.I love your flare. Do you farm?
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 09:48 PM
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Probably not. I'm trying to grow my social circle and I like talking to her at work because she's really smart and open. Also, she invites me out quite often and I like that because I don't have to make the effort to initiate. But I think I'm going to have to cut back after witnessing that, because she's clearly not a good influence.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 02:52 PM
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My primary goal is to develop my glutes. The secondary would be flattening my stomach. I don't have stomach fat but it bulges out every time I eat, so I figured tightening my core muscles would help with that. How many times per week should I be working my glutes? Also, do you advise bulking and cutting? I'm worried that eating at a surplus will make me gain weight.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 02:48 PM
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I've been going to the gym pretty consistently for 3 months now, and I mostly focus on core, legs, and glutes, but my measurements haven't changed at all. I mostly do freemotion machines for legs/glutes, donkey kicks and weighted leg lifts for glutes, and planks, Russian twists, and captain's chair for core. I don't track my eating too well because I'm a poor college student and I don't have time for meal prep. Any advice?
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 04:34 AM
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I have a friend from work, and I hung out with her a few nights ago. She has a long-distance boyfriend (college) who was visiting and I met him for the first time when we hung out. She. Was. Horrible to him. I just went over to her apartment to watch a movie, and she was constantly nagging this guy. He's a bit dopey, but I felt bad for him and honestly it was a bit awkward to watch her dig into him in front of me, the only guest. I almost wanted to say something about it. He was making us margar…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 04:26 AM
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It didn't seem like male-bashing to me. I think she was just trying to put women on a pedestal that we don't belong on. She didn't really say anything bad about men, she just over-exaggerated the sacrifices that women make in a marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 03:22 AM
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I'm the same way. 5'9", wide shoulders and wide hips. I work my legs out a lot so they are a bit muscular, but I don't carry much extra fat. I totally get the struggle of just wanting to be "lighter" without really changing your shape xD It sounds like we're pretty similar except that I'm flat-chested. Out of curiosity, why do you not like your big butt/boobs? Hour-glass is considered the ideal body type by most. I would recommend losing weight if you feel like you need lipo on your butt. If you…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 03:17 AM
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I felt that her post was more in defense of women who didn't wait for marriage to have sex with a romantic partner, rather than women who have casual sex. I think she makes a good point about a girl being intimate with someone whom she thinks she will marry, and it's important to draw a distinction between that and a CC rider. Yes, waiting until marriage is the safest route if you only ever want to have one partner, but that isn't always a possibility in our society if you want a HVM. The proble…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 04:05 PM
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It really depends on how she carries the weight. She says she puts on muscle easily, meaning she could easily be fit and slender at 150-160 pounds. I'm ~145 pounds at 5'9" and quite slim. I just have muscular legs from squatting. 135 might look unattractively skinny, depending on her body type.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 07:37 PM
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Thick thighs save lives
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 04:18 AM
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I saw that story too, and I almost shared it. "Be the change you want to see in the world"- I love that quote so much that I stitched it on my graduation cap. Sometimes, you have to be the first one to start addressing a problem.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 03:59 AM
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If she gives you fulfillment, it shouldn't be a problem. Just stick to your values. And it doesn't hurt to sprinkle on some subtle RP truths every once in a while, you might be able to change her mind on some things if you go slow enough.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/17 12:49 AM
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You might not. Figure it out.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/17 01:08 AM
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The people on this sub can't tell you how to be happy. If you sleep around now, you will probably regret it when you're thirty. If you sit around and twiddle your thumbs until then, life will be boring until you're thirty. Figure out what you want more. The point still stands- it will be harder to find a quality relationship after you've slept around.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 10:37 PM
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Now you're getting it. Having sex doesn't make you worthless, just less valuable to most guys. This isn't about shaming people, it's about giving you the tools and knowledge you need to get what you want, which, for most women on this sub, is a high value male.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 10:18 PM
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Classy broads, trashy books. That sounds like a good time xD
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 10:02 PM
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The condom thing made me lol. Good move
/r/TheRedPill12/02/17 05:38 PM
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I dated a 30-year-old for 7 months when I was 19. The relationship was very healthy, but he broke up with me because we were at different points in our lives. He still chats me up and I miss him, but I'm not answering any more.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 03:15 AM
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lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 04:07 PM
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I've been working on this too for a few months. It's tough to be mindful of it constantly, but it gets easier after a while. I'm naturally an introvert and have the same "don't bother me" aura unless I consciously make an effort to make eye contact, smile, and approach people. Don't give up, it gets much easier with practice.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 02:37 PM
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You don't know your female anatomy very well. The "outer labia" (labia majora) would hardly be stretched by sex at all. I think you mean vulva. After a while of no sexual activity, it tightens up again. Skin friction, sure- but if you give your partner lacerations with your penis, you are doing something very wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 02:06 PM
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Thank you. This sub needs more uplifting/self-improvement posts. I'm also jealous of TRP sometimes because I feel I only have x amount of years to get Mr. Right, and I worry I'll miss the mark. You remind me that it isn't so :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 10:00 PM
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Vagina doesn't stretch permanently. It is a muscle. Childbirth may change things, rough sex will not unless you are having sex with a fire hydrant.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/17 12:54 AM
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That might be it. Maybe they get tired of being showered in compliments by their inevitably pussy-whipped boyfriends. It just seems antithetical to be so feminine, and yet so uncommitted.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/17 05:36 PM
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Kind of like how some men are into 18 year old virgins, and some are into MILFs? It's a similar dichotomy. The question is how to effectively incorporate both moods into your personality. There's a time for sweetness and a time for seduction.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/17 07:00 PM
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I knew someone just like this in high school. She even stole my BF of two years and broke up with him a few months later 0_0 I just wonder why these high value girls like to date and dump so many guys instead of just LTRing their favorite one. Maybe it's an ego thing?
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/17 06:42 PM
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Well, it depends on how much you like his other qualities. Personally, a high n-count in a man is not an unattractive quality. But if he holds it over your head and makes you feel uncomfortable, whether intentionally or not, that's a bit of a red flag on his social etiquette. I wouldn't be hasty and break up with him specifically over this without telling him first that it bothers you. If he continues, or you have other reasons for wanting to break up, then it's really just up to your feelings. …
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 10:21 PM
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I think that's inconsiderate. Have you mentioned that you feel disrespected when he talks about his past experiences? He should know better, especially since you don't have any of your own sexual experiences.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 09:03 PM
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ONLY 10 cm shorter? Lol. I'm 5'9" (175 cm), I would love to date someone who is 10 cm taller!
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 08:52 PM
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Me too. Especially in a college town, that's just what people do..It's not like seedy players are the only people who hang out in bars. It's just normal Friday/Saturday night behavior where I live. But I'm not 21 yet so I have to put it off for now anyway lol
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 08:50 PM
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Touche. I mostly am against all of the manipulation that some men put into spinning plates, down to outright lying to them. There's a difference between having game and making false promises about your intentions. I have no problem with casual sex when both people are on the same page about it being casual.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 08:46 PM
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I think only the OP knows her situation well enough to say. I just have a feeling that they have a low probability of working this out, because you can't negotiate things like when to settle down. If he isn't ready, there's nothing she can do to speed him along.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/17 08:42 PM
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I wouldn't waste another six months on him. One, maybe. He's giving her pretty clear signs that he doesn't want to be alone, but he doesn't want to commit to anything. He's treating her like a placeholder. In six months, she could spend her time moving on from him and dating other people which is important if she wants to be married by 27.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/17 06:18 PM
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I'm in college too! I have a hard time meeting the type of guys I'm interested in. Most of the boys at my school are either immature frat-party boys or soft nerdy types. I don't feel any attraction. I don't know where to go to meet older men though. I want to try bars, but people keep saying to stay away from bars. And I'm studying engineering and working two jobs and running two organizations, so I don't have time for more clubs. I've dabbled in online dating and I go to the gym often, those ar…
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/17 10:08 PM
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Thanks for the advice. Very insightful.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/17 04:36 PM
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Watch porn and do as the pornstars do.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 09:40 PM
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I identify with that form of ambition. My goal isn't to climb a corporate ladder and as long as I make a living wage, I'll be happy. I just really want to leave this world better than I found it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 07:28 PM
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How can you be a housewife with a career? I want to stay home during the preschool years, but I don't think working from home would be a viable option for an engineer.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 07:22 PM
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This might make it better or worse depending on your beliefs, but I'm a libertarian and mostly interested in local politics.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/17 02:38 PM
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That's understandable, just don't ruin a good thing because fear got the best of you. Being prepared for disappointment is just a part of dating. It sounds like he was waiting for reassurance and you didn't give it. If you don't explicitly display your affection soon, he's just going to stew and start distancing himself because he thinks you aren't interested.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 12:55 AM
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Well...Are you crazy about him too? You didn't mention anything about how you feel.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/17 11:45 PM
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I waited 4-1/2 months to date this guy. I had been on two other first dates before him, but they were very casual and didn't go anywhere. I still miss my ex, but I am starting to remove him from his pedestal now.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/16 05:49 AM
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The ex and I were together for 7 months, and it's been 5 months since we broke up.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/16 06:01 PM
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I just went back to read this again because I'm dating someone new and my feelings for the ex are relapsing. I cried two days in a row and I don't want to fall into a rut again. Your post really helped me a lot, so much that I remembered it months later :) Right now I don't think I'm ready for a relationship again, but rereading this helped me deal with the emotions that come with dating someone new after a bad breakup.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/16 03:30 AM
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I told him that I would at least want to wait until we're an official couple to have sex, and he's okay with that. So far we've made out a few times. We've been talking some more and he volunteered the information that he is looking for marriage and family. That's a breath of fresh air. I usually feel like I have to dance around that subject for a few months before I can even bring that up, to avoid scaring men away. It's still no guarantee that things will work between us, but at least we are o…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/16 07:36 AM
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I've never seen that theory in practice, but pump-and-dump is not what most women want, nor is it good for their self-worth.
/r/askTRP06/12/16 04:20 PM
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If you think plate spinning is good for women, you're out of your mind.
/r/askTRP03/12/16 03:04 PM
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Mods? Are you there? Obvious troll is obvious.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/16 05:27 AM
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BS. You can't assume n-count from a resting facial expression alone. If she still has RBS while talking to you, maybe.
/r/TheRedPill01/12/16 10:39 PM
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I generally don't have an issue getting guys into an LTR, my problem is getting from LTR to marriage. With my first boyfriend, I waited a year to have sex. We were together for another year and then he lost interest. With the second, I waited for about a month or two after we were an official couple. He left after seven months because he was moving for work and didn't want long distance, even though we had discussed that when we were first dating. I feel like I vetted as well as I could with the…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/16 05:35 PM
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Three months seems a bit long to me. I don't think most high-value men would wait that long unless they are very religious or you are a goddess among women or something. I feel like I would start to come off as frigid if I held out that long. Although, reading TRP has made me reeeaaally paranoid about getting played.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/16 07:06 PM
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Another reason I want to go slow. I'm nineteen going on twenty and this would be my third. I don't want to rack up too many lays at this young of an age. But I also don't want to wait until I'm thirty to get married.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/16 11:21 PM
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You kiss on the fourth date, or have sex on the fourth date?
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/16 09:08 PM
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I'm libertarian too. Where did you guys meet? I'm in two libertarian activism groups but there aren't any single cuties.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/16 05:02 PM
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I couldn't wear heels if I wanted to xD My dating pool is already cut in half at 5'9". But I did end up getting some capri jeans and a pair of black leather flats with a mary-jane strap, they look really cute and retro together!
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/16 02:32 PM
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When I lived on a farm about a year ago, all I wore was men's jeans and T-shirts! Nothing wrong with practical. But that was a pretty isolated area. I do make my own money and since I'm single in college and ready to mingle, I figure it's time to start putting more effort into my looks.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/16 02:27 PM
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I also like reading TRP posts, even though it's from a different perspective, it has really helped me to understand men in a way that nothing else could. Although I disagree with a lot of the mantras they have (AWALT, never get married etc.) it is still really useful to get a glimpse into the minds of the other sex. They were always very confusing to me before I discovered red pill.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/16 01:12 AM
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Thanks for the reply, you are very well-spoken. I had started familiarizing myself with RPW during that relationship, and I just picked it up again because I'm feeling blue and I need to start moving on and putting myself out there. After my first boyfriend, of two years, left me for someone who was a lot more feminine, I was bitter and jealous at first. Then I decided to swallow it and self-improve, so here I am. I agree that fickleness is a huge problem, egged on by modern dating culture and l…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/16 08:57 PM
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I'm starting to believe that he may have been leading me on from the beginning, but that is very cruel and he is generally a very kind person. It's hard to bridge the disconnect there. I'm worried about experiencing that again in future relationships. Men can promise commitment all day long, but it's pretty easy for them to change their minds until after they put a ring on it. I hate being lied to.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/16 02:34 AM
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I know he was way too old for me, but I have a hard time feeling attracted to guys my age. They seem immature, boyish, and I feel like they are even less likely to be looking for a commitment. I don't think he was "going after me" necessarily, as when we first started hanging out he was trying to set me up with his younger friend. Thank you for the advice though, I am trying to start dating again but I am being careful to limit physical contact. I don't want to damage myself even more. It's also…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/16 02:29 AM
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