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DISCUSSIONash_around/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:18 PM
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Yeah not exactly sexual history just a cautionary tale it probably should be a damn book honestly, haha. That’s also why I feel more comfortable in the other area too though. This is very very public.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 12:18 AM
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That’s the script they have come to believe it’s totally twisted. Maybe one of these days they will learn about retention and stop blasting that lie to themselves and to women. It’s all so twisted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 12:16 AM
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That was why I was so excited to find this community it came when it was supposed to for me. Funny thing was I was going to make my first post my story but then got caught up in this and bombed trying to get my point across without proper context... I moved over to the discord and I feel I bit more comfortable there honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 12:06 AM
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This! And that’s where I am getting to. I’ve refrained from sex because as great as the orgasim’s are I’m not sharing that energy with LVM’s anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:56 PM
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I don’t agree at all with this statement. If I don’t orgasim then it wasn’t good. As for men I don’t agree with that either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:52 PM
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Exactly! I’m dominant as well and even my dominant partners I required them to do what I wanted and how I wanted them to do it. Its very interesting seeing that this is not the norm since most the women in my life are similar to me. It’s a whole different side of things for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:49 PM
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Absolutely agree. Although my literal self wants to say most men that don’t cum still consider it good. Haha. So is there really any “bad” sex for them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:22 PM
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Yeah that’s what I just responded with on another comment and that’s where I was so completely clueless... no shame was meant at all but I am now seeing where and why some women might find it so. thanks you for sharing your experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:20 PM
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So that’s a big difference for me, 95% of the sex I’ve had has been good/great and that had shit to do with the men I was having it with. As I became more comfortable in my own skin it just kept getting better regardless of my partner. So I am most definitely speaking from a strong personal bias here. And I am now seeing how very not common my experience is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:16 PM
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Absolutely agree. My hope was to bring that to light but it’s a super triggering topic and I didn’t start it off in a good way at all obviously. 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:10 PM
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If you read my other comments you will see in no way was I trying to shame anyone low or high key.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 11:09 PM
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I would agree with your arbitrary number, haha. My experience has been that most of my partners didn’t leave me wanting and were more than eager to please so there could be that disconnect as well. Even if the majority of them ended up being shit bags after the fact. Absolutely I’ve done so a few times. But after being disappointed I learned that I could still get myself off and not call my whole night trashed because they sucked... Yeah that’s definitely a different topic then I was touching on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:59 PM
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Fixed that portion I absolutely agree with you I forget how aggressive caps can come off. So that’s the thing, I have friends that flat out understandably hate sex because of their trauma and I’ve watched them toil and work their asses off to find themselves again and their root causes of why they hate it. I am absolutely asking women to experiment more not with sex but with their relationship to sex and their beliefs about sex. I’m going to take moment and try to rephrase this discussion so it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:32 PM
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Thank you! Yeah that wasn’t my intention at all. I’m a literalist so broad sweeping generalizations drive me nuts and I honestly can’t fathom how they happen so I truly wanted to start a why do most of us have this hang up and if we do what we can do to help overcome. I was so cautious in my choice of wording for this post too and what I’m trying to get across still doesn’t seem to be coming across. Thanks for seeing through my obvious inability to start a proper discussion in here. Any advice a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:26 PM
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And this is where lines are getting crossed. If the sex is bad yes I am going to get off (for me it isn’t hard work) and that will be the end of that partner not justification just reality for me. My statement is also that some men do try and just aren’t good and that’s fine too I just won’t be calling them again. So your stance is if they suck in bed it’s because men are choosing to suck on purpose, always? I just don’t agree with that at all. So in a situation where sex isn’t good you... decid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:18 PM
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Thank you for you response. It was when I saw a large population of women stating that don’t enjoy sex that I wanted to open the discussion as to why, although there are millions of places to do that why is this also not a healthy safe place to discuss sexual repression? I feel it very much this lands firmly in FDS culture to discuss why there are strong hangups surrounding sex and the traumas we have all gone through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:10 PM
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Thank you for you willingness to have a discussion. I am really surprised about the amount of defensiveness when asking open questions or speaking an idea that others don’t agree with (that’s from the other post). Also the assumptions that are made are very discouraging to someone trying to have dialogue that fits within the handbooks guidelines. “I’ve seen FDS criticized for acting like women don’t enjoy sex.“ - Exactly! After my interaction I wanted to start a dialogue because so many women st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:04 PM
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It comes down to instincts when I talk with them on the phone or through chats I start to listen to my gut. If something seems like a flag (I stop and listen) I will question them on that flag and the moment I question them that’s when the claws start to show. One of the last guys I was talking to, my instincts keep telling me something wasn’t quite right (even though he seemed nearly perfect and said “all the right things”) when I asked him to elaborate or would push him for more information he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 02:35 PM
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I would feel the same. Like an earlier response I normally push to pay my half when I know it’s a total bust. That said I also very very very rarely had that happen to me once I got dialed in with weeding and vetting my matches better. I would suggest putting them through a few more hoops before agreeing to the date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 03:33 AM
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Woof! I just took the quiz thinking about how I feel in relationships and I’m avoidant (no surprise there) I’m conscious and working on it. But then decided to take it with my best friend in mind and got secure. It’s amazing when a highly avoidant person gets paired with someone that is incredibly emotional but honest and trustworthy. Thank you for these resources it shows what I still need to work on but also shows the measure of what I should be looking for in a sexual partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:08 PM
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The therapist thing is definitely disappointing but that has shit to do with you. That is all on them not doing their job. If they are not willing to help you or work with you on CBT then move on... just like we would with a shitty dude. Don’t waste your time or money on anyone that isn’t providing. I’m glad that this has helped you regain your composure. You’ve got the start of that feeling again now move forward with it! I get getting low it happens to everyone (the people that say it doesn’t …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 02:15 AM
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Oh I get the “I’m exhausted from self work” deal for sure! I’m actually going through that right now. Haha! Ohhhhh therapy! I’ve gone through so many therapists in my time! Sometimes we out grow them some times we find rotten eggs. Therapists are human too and finding a great one takes time and patience. You might try looking for some that have a more holistic approach or even some that also work with hypnotherapy I’ve found those tend to be a bit more open then the standard treat all emotional …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:10 PM
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You’re down right now. That’s alright. Take a step... then take one more... next thing you know you’ll be running around the damn block. Your story reminds me of me several years ago. My marriage lasted almost ten years until I blew it up. If I could tell myself then what I know now... Go get therapy. Now not later. Your physical ailments can be psychosomatic. You are only as healthy as you want to be. Check out shadow work and re-parenting therapies. Start meditating. Find something you are pas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:15 AM
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