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| 1 | you cant get laid staying home ,unless your order hookersI’ve definitely gotten plenty of women without leaving the house, through social media game on Facebook & dating apps https://youtu.be/QVCTx0BfS_0 | /r/seduction | 10/03/22 05:43 AM |
| 1 | “Fake it till you make it” and “Women can tell when you’re being fake and it puts them off”Develop a persona of the version of yourself you’re repressing. Improve that persona until it can be a standalone aspect of engaging with women, then integrate it back into your full personality | /r/seduction | 07/03/22 11:26 PM |
| 2 | Surely its common sense that girls like physically attractive men. Is it a lack of empathy or ability to see it from the other side that allows men to be totally blind sided?A lot of it is gaslighting from women, media, and society, pushing the narrative that men are not sexually desirable so that they can continue to take advantage of what men are willing to do for a chance at sex. It just backfires when men realize this was never the case, then go red pill. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/21 02:08 PM |
| 10 | What do you mean when you say men have fragile egos?They use violence too & more often than men, just are not as effective at it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/21 06:49 PM |
| 1 | When vetting goes wrong and your wife/husband/girlfriend/boyfriend is abusive despite a lack of red flags: is the victim really to blame or is the perpetrator to blame?I believe the social narrative that relationships have to be equal plays a big part in this. I believe in Brodie’s Law. Some always will. Some never will. For most people, it depends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/21 12:13 AM |
| 15 | Women aren't attracted to dad-bods. Women are unattracted to the expectations of fit men.Had an ex who told me for years that she doesn’t care about muscles. We broke up and o branched out and learned more about sexual attraction. She used to tell me she loved my body and didn’t want it to change or at least that it didn’t matter, but when I finally got her more opened up to see attraction from a place of sexual desire as well, she admitted that fit guys got her more turned on when talking about physicality. What she meant by not caring was that the things that she is sexually attra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/21 12:07 AM |
| 0 | Thinking about cutting off a partner because she prefers someone else’s penis over mine when I used to be the best because it would no longer hold the same satisfaction to my egoThere’s a difference between fuck buddies and FWB in my book. I have a certain closeness and rapport with my friends and that includes friends I sleep with. & what makes it tough is that she says she still prefers me sexually overall & genuinely overall. If I did want a relationship, I don’t mind a woman having had better in the past, but during makes me more iffy about it. Was the best dick she’s had and is still the best sex overall,& she doesn’t want the other guy, so it’s like a Free-hanging… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/21 07:21 AM |
| 0 | Thinking about cutting off a partner because she prefers someone else’s penis over mine when I used to be the best because it would no longer hold the same satisfaction to my egoYeah, that is why I’m a little hurt. It’s’more about timing and the circumstances than what happened. I’ve been with women who had bigger and I’ve been with women who had better before and after me, just during me is a new one that I have to learn to process the same as with the other situations. I’ve been helping her sort through things sexually herself, so we have that type of communication, but for me, trust is built on preference—not blissful ignorance. I have both a big ego and the desire f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/21 07:14 AM |
| 0 | Thinking about cutting off a partner because she prefers someone else’s penis over mine when I used to be the best because it would no longer hold the same satisfaction to my egoWe communicate plenty effectively. She’d been locked down into a LTR for 6 years. I didn’t want to put her back in that situation. Also, I have my own situations as well and she knows all about them. I think the thing is that quality of a woman’s doesn’t really affect me emotionally or how invested in a woman I am, whereas, that was the basis of this situation for how things went between us, so even if I had better sex, it wouldn’t change how I treat or see the women I deal with. Also, she start… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/21 07:08 AM |
| 0 | Thinking about cutting off a partner because she prefers someone else’s penis over mine when I used to be the best because it would no longer hold the same satisfaction to my egoI’m burdened with both a big ego and the desire for truth. FWB is one of two things for me—that building sexual and nonsexual chemistry to go into a monogamous or poly relationship or working on things that would make both or either party more ready for an actual relationship. It’s a transitional thing for me. And I knew these things were a possibility, but I didn’t want to limit her and for a while she didn’t want to sleep with anyone but me and was adamant about it and I wouldn’t steer her awa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/21 06:48 AM |
| 0 | Thinking about cutting off a partner because she prefers someone else’s penis over mine when I used to be the best because it would no longer hold the same satisfaction to my egoThat’s not how FWB works for me. I’ve had plenty and I use FWB as my segue into relationships and as a platform to build sexual and nonsexual chemistry without letting the emotions of the situation cause people to settle prematurely. What I’m just processing is that we had good sexual and non-sexual chemistry and things have been going well. We talk. I teach her things. Sometimes she practices what I teach her with other guys, but this time it was better in some ways the rub my ego wrong and I’m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/21 06:36 AM |
| 1 | Thinking about cutting off a partner because she prefers someone else’s penis over mine when I used to be the best because it would no longer hold the same satisfaction to my egoNever said she was mine; she belongs to herself. I like to give natural monogamy a try instead of trying to force a woman to deal with just me “or else” or to just decide not to care and be emotionally detached | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/21 06:33 AM |
| 1 | Thinking about cutting off a partner because she prefers someone else’s penis over mine when I used to be the best because it would no longer hold the same satisfaction to my egoNo, I don’t believe in obligatory monogamy. I just have to process this a little sooner than expected. We’re both working on different things. She never had a relationship or situation where sexual chemistry was a priority before me, so I knew that when Pandora’s box opened, that she may get curious and wanted to give her the option to see how she’d do things. I just have to process how she says I’m still the sexual preference without being the dick preference & whether or not I’d still want to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/21 06:32 AM |
| 1 | Men shouldn't blame women for the lack of male solidarity in society. Men should rely on men for help instead of expecting women to solve their emotional and psychological problemsMy point was clear. You couldn’t think of any argument as to why men shouldn’t have outlets outside of clinging to male disposability. You have no logical ground in your argument that is consistent with your initial statement across genders. You think women deserve to be privileged for no reason other than having a pussy & think men are pussies for thinking it is reasonable that outlets in a modern society should be extended towards men that they will also help. I couldn’t care less if you read … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/21 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Men shouldn't blame women for the lack of male solidarity in society. Men should rely on men for help instead of expecting women to solve their emotional and psychological problemsYour arguments are disingenuous. Feminists literally speak all manner Of misandry towards men with impunity & you think that a Lil misogyny (which women have been proven to be attracted to (dark triad traits triggering sexual attraction in many women)) by some men means all are unworthy of outlets? Give me a break. You just don’t care because of your own misandry. Literally women saying men are trash as a hashtag. This has nothing to do with misogyny. It’s male disposability that women have bene… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/21 01:04 AM |
| 1 | Men shouldn't blame women for the lack of male solidarity in society. Men should rely on men for help instead of expecting women to solve their emotional and psychological problemsThe problem with this argument is that society has outlets for women; therefore, it is a perfectly good argument to say those resources should be allotted to men by society because men have the same problem. Your argument see is like saying that if you already see a house burning down, you should have already decided to learn in advance how to fight fires. No, society should already have firemen in place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/20 06:10 AM |
| 2 | What is the female equivalent to male pattern baldnessI’m in the same position, but as a black man. Bald, thick beard. I have been told that I can come off intimidating, but the main issue I’ve noticed with it is that assumption of stoicism and hypermasculinity or conservatism because of my appearance. I’ve mostly used social media to pick up girls, so that’s one way it comes in handy. Bald with a beard triggers sexual memories for many women. Both are associated with high testosterone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/20 09:51 AM |
| 2 | What is the female equivalent to male pattern baldnessI think that a person having high enough sex appeal and enough respective masculinity/femininity in the eyes of the other person, then sexual attraction will be there even if they don’t fit the usual ‘type’ of that person. I’m not the biggest truster in sexual attraction that just grows over time or due to liking a person because it usually lasts as long as the two people are on the same page. In a lot of those cases, as soon as they are no longer seeing eye to eye, they can’t use sex to stay cl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/20 09:27 AM |
| -1 | What is the female equivalent to male pattern baldnessA lot of women prefer bald men—especially ones with beards. I think it would have to be something somewhat polarizing. This may be a better comparison to small tits than a small penis. Some guys like smaller tits or are indifferent and for some it’s an instant ‘no’. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/20 09:00 AM |
| 1 | CMV: TRP and FDS preselect for women and men who are fundamentally not healthy for a LTRThere are offshoots of Red Pillers who believe in prioritizing sexual attraction. For those men, I believe that they are weeding out more FDS and sexual repressed women than they are weeding out women who also seek to have relationships founded in mutual sexual attraction. I will also say that men’s love and attraction for a woman is based less in respecting her boundaries than for women, so a man who has a plate that shows that she is relationship material (if he wants one & she meets his crite… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/20 08:53 AM |
| 14 | Young men are not being "radicalized" by random men on the internet; their views/opinions are much more so being forged by what women themselves directly say on social media and other public forums.No one wants to take women’s voting or property rights that is taken seriously. I have yet to hear that a single time. And you exposed the hypocrisy yourself. Women’s “marriage rights” are predicated on taking rights away from men. They are not equal rights, but the a ilit to exercise that power over men at a whim. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/20 10:48 AM |
| 0 | The biggest reason why average dudes have low n-counts is because they're too picky ...pickier than ur average manwhoreIt’s a catch-22. When you place value to attractiveness that way, average guys try to go for women they see in their range. The average woman is who has the high standards. 8.5+ women and 6.5 down women usually aren’t that picky in my experience. Most men find women from 7-8 as the GF/approachable zone, so they chase them—making them feel that men on their level are beneath them. The 8.5+ women are more used to men being timid around them, so they value direct approaches more and women 6.5 and u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/20 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Seasoned homicide investigator claims that sexually successful men are more likely to murder/harm women over rejection and handle rejection very poorly. Does this line up with your observations? Why does this occur so much if a man has options?Women are sexually attracted to men who display dark triad traits. The feeling of entitlement to women sexually is what gives men the confidence to approach women sexually and seduce them despite many having social program that says that it is wrong to have casual sex (for many women). It works until it doesn’t. It’s a hard switch to flip for most men, so most find it safer to stick on the side of following a women’s lead on when she is comfortable having sex. Seduction, to an extent, has some o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/20 06:19 AM |
| 2 | A woman I was FWB with is slandering me and sabotaging my business after I kicked her out of a group. Everyone is telling me that I shouldn’t respond because she’s a woman, and as a man, I can’t win—even though I have text proof of all her lies. What now?Thanks and I’m blocked from where she was slandering me and most took place in group chats, so I couldn’t see anyways, but a few people I knew informed me of what she was posting and that she deleted things and then they weren’t able to see the comments, showing that maybe someone took up for me in the comments. I do plan to visit a lawyer and seeing what I can do. I did an interview with a person she slandered me to, documenting all of her lies, and the business ideas she plans to steal after s… | /r/MensRights | 04/10/20 06:02 AM |
| 1 | A woman I was FWB with is slandering me and sabotaging my business after I kicked her out of a group. Everyone is telling me that I shouldn’t respond because she’s a woman, and as a man, I can’t win—even though I have text proof of all her lies. What now?That’s pretty much what people are saying to me, but I have engaged a little when it first started and she’s spun that, as well as having doctored and screenshots of me, taken out of context to slander me. If there were none of those, I probably would be more comfortable with just ignoring it completely, but that’s not the case. I’d be just explaining the entire situation with screenshots of her lies/slander & disproving it by sharing the full context of those conversations while using screensho… | /r/MensRights | 30/09/20 01:48 PM |
| 6 | A woman I was FWB with is slandering me and sabotaging my business after I kicked her out of a group. Everyone is telling me that I shouldn’t respond because she’s a woman, and as a man, I can’t win—even though I have text proof of all her lies. What now?No Lawyer money. And she deleted some of it after the phone call from a police officer in another city, but a good bit of damage is already done. BCS for me would be a public recanting, but with as malicious and blatant with her lies as she has been, I’d rather not just ignore it although that’s what I’m doing. I wish there was a MRA lawyer I could sit with and see if I have a good case. | /r/MensRights | 30/09/20 12:22 AM |
| 1 | [REPOST] “It is dangerous to be in the provider role because of the high risks. As well as the reality that women treat their casual sexual partners better than they treat their long term relationship partners.”Sometimes, I’m still fuming because you can be completely upfront and honest with women and they can still gaslight and try to manipulate then play victim when held accountable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/20 09:19 AM |
| 1 | The whole I’m ready to settle down memeIf she has engaged in casual sex, then says that sex is not important to her to leverage more effort/investment before sex, I will conclude she is like that the first group, regardless of her age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/20 01:45 PM |
| 1 | [REPOST] “It is dangerous to be in the provider role because of the high risks. As well as the reality that women treat their casual sexual partners better than they treat their long term relationship partners.”My personal philosophy revolves around how to not judge women for their sexual pasts by dealing with all women as if they have the capacity for casual sex if genuine desire is there and not pursuing any women who aren’t interested in casual sex with me. Because of if, I have had to learn a good bit about sex appeal and honed my sexual skill until I reached the point where there are women on the other side of the spectrum who use men for sex and still date the “nice” guy more seriously, so while … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/20 08:31 PM |
| 3 | [REPOST] “It is dangerous to be in the provider role because of the high risks. As well as the reality that women treat their casual sexual partners better than they treat their long term relationship partners.”No, as long as she doesn’t cancel/flake on me to have sex with someone else unless it’s a significant other or someone who is formally courting her. If a woman flakes, she has to reschedule ASAP or I cut her off and she has to make it up to me to get back in my good graces. I assume if she flakes on me it’s to see another guy, most of the time, but I don’t act on that assumption unless she confirms it (which some have) or she doesn’t reschedule ASAP. I respect women putting a higher level of pri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/20 05:55 AM |
| 1 | CMV: "Provider" males should employ sugar dating strategy by 30s rather than marry women in 30+ range that rode CCThe equalizer for sex with women is not money; but sex appeal and skill I think that men should learn to deal with women while getting our resources together, so that we know what pure lust is like to be able to maintain an approach of biology-first and keep that going to establish being a lover, first, in all romantic relationships with women. Then, you can avoid being a target by women for your resources unless you are famous and avoid being BB. Being a provider should be a plus to the woman y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/20 02:13 AM |
| 10 | [REPOST] “It is dangerous to be in the provider role because of the high risks. As well as the reality that women treat their casual sexual partners better than they treat their long term relationship partners.”This is the reason I don’t date women unless we’ve been having a sexual relationship for a while. I cover the lover base, first. For me, my POV is to say that while not committed to a LTR, I engage in FWBs and Fuck Buddy Situations. My standards are, we’re meeting up to have sex and hangout. I like to hangout, but once hanging out lowers her sexual availability, or she flakes, or goes ghost, then when she comes back, the situation becomes more strictly sexual. I make sure that the situations I f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/20 12:19 AM |
| 0 | A lot of cynicism from men about dating revolves around the fact that most women are not consistent with how much effort the men they “let” sleep with puts into them, versus the men that are actually dating them. And why I like the 90 day rule.I’ve been in conversations and forums with women and most women tend to have no sense of holding each other accountable for using and taking advantage of men. While most men will at least acknowledge that they are doing something wrong by doing that, most women will act as if they did nothing wrong by flaking and things like that, then call men toxic and abusive for holding them accountable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/20 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Casual Sex for Women is like Prostitution for MenI’ll say in a way, yes, but no. But I also say this because I am not opposed to women having casual sex not sex work. Now if a woman wants to spend time with a man, and the only thing that she has to offer is sex, and she doesn’t really want to have sex, but does it for the attention and validation,that is like a man who wants to have sex with a woman and takes her on dates because that is his end goal instead of being direct. Now, I think that prostitution is a better option than dating with th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/20 06:47 AM |
| 1 | Is it possible to combine a bachelor lifestyle with a long-term relationship?Many men allow women to use societal propaganda to shame them into being more domesticated, which in one part is a woman trying to mate guard but subconsciously, it is a power play to be less attracted to the man to maintain the ability to use sex to leverage power in a relationship when he no longer has the moral option of seeing other women. The game a lot men have in order to get women is often no just a matter of buying flowers and being romantic to do continue doing the things he did to kee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/20 06:22 AM |
| 2 | Question: Have any of you had an experience that restored some of your faith in the opposite sex?For hot women, in a small town, usually whatever guy they sleep with tries to lock them down and cums fast out of being an excited simp for her beauty, so she is less concerned about being used for sex like less attractive women & if you know how to please a woman sexually, they aren’t used to that. It can completely flip the script. If she feels like you have sex with her is doing her a favor, she will treat you how men who have sex with her treat her, which is culture shock for most guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/20 03:21 PM |
| 5 | Question: Have any of you had an experience that restored some of your faith in the opposite sex?True, people make the narrative that attractive people aren’t kind to try and balance it out, but it really has no causation or correlation to it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/20 05:54 AM |
| 1 | Happy long-lasting LTRs generally only work if you're really good friends with each otherWomen have their own sex drives, But I’ll entertain this. If she does it to make him happy, why would she stop caring about making him happy, then withhold? If it was all about making him happy and not about her just wanting to do it because of her own desire, then there are outside factors that affect whether or not she wants to have sex & chances are, that withholding is subconsciously a punishment or giving in is a reward because what would affect her ability to care about whether or not he i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/20 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Question: Have any of you had an experience that restored some of your faith in the opposite sex?I actually agree with this. I dealt with women who were in my “league”, then this year I started dealing with more 8-9+ (I don’t call women 10s) and I am around a 7.5 and 8 on a good day. The funny thing was during the beginning of the Covid-19 frenzy, I was getting flakes on by 5s right and left, then for the majority of Covid-19, I was only sleeping with an 8, an 8.5/9, and a 9/9.5 & received some of the best treatment that I have ever received from women. And I mean objective treatment. Like … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/20 02:59 AM |
| 4 | Happy long-lasting LTRs generally only work if you're really good friends with each otherDefinitely agree with this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/20 02:50 AM |
| 1 | Happy long-lasting LTRs generally only work if you're really good friends with each otherIf it was a case of not wanting it at all, then when she finally does it, what do you call that? It is definitely a case of using what you have to get what you want, whether that is through using sex to get something or using withholding sex to get something. While manipulating me isn’t the easiest task, if a woman had to try and a manipulate me, I’d much rather it be with doing what I like rather than doing what I don’t (which is withholding). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/20 02:46 AM |
| 1 | N-counts?I’ve had women friend zone me then I implemented game and fucked a few of them or they atleast approached me sexually after I put attracting them, sexually, at the forefront of my intention. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/20 06:42 AM |
| 0 | Q4M: Would you ever date a woman who wants to remain abstinent until marriage for a non-religious reason?Definitely not. I’ve slept with enough religious women that i wouldn’t do it for them either. & I have my experience with being celibate religious reasons, myself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/20 06:21 PM |
| 5 | It's OK for a man to have preferences on N-count, dating history and promiscuityThe issue is that all of these things can be lied about, so it is easier to just get to know her for her and just set your own standard of not being part of her future if you’re not part of her “past” of casual sex. A lot of guys have these standards based off of a feeling of sexual inadequacy that is brought up by the idea of being compared. If you establish sexual chemistry through casual sex before determine if you want a relationship with her, then the fear of being negatively compared sexua… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/20 04:38 AM |
| 3 | Are expectations for sexual exclusivity early-on in dating varied depending on the social circles?My POV is that I don’t believe in obligatory monogamy, so earlier on, we’re seeing if we have sexual chemistry and need time to see if our drives can align over time and life. If I can’t see myself being monogamous with her, no relationship is on the table, and if I don’t feel she would be easily monogamous with me, no relationship is on the table. We, then, transition into being monogamous through the natural state of plates falling off and not wanting to put energy into getting new ones, then … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/20 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Men dont really believe "Sex comes before commitment" or "Sex comes before love" do they?I really do not feel safe being emotionally Invested in a woman who does not show lust towards me. That may just be because I have built strong emotional connections that didnt lead to sexual chemistry or consistent sex, or because I have been the side dude or hookup guy later on in my college years, but after you learn the nature of female sexuality and how much better they treat you when they are sexually attracted, you no longer see a woman as more moral for holding out. You just see it as if… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/20 07:51 PM |
| 3 | (Follow up question in regard to earlier post on women with high N count) Should men wait as long as possible to enter a LTR/get married then?I understand that. I think maybe the best way is that if you have the genetics, and find a HS or college sweet heart, take it, but if you dont have the luck or genetics to get one, learn the game, self improve, fuck who you can until you can fuck who you want, then start sorting out who can be LTR material. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/20 07:36 PM |
| 3 | (Follow up question in regard to earlier post on women with high N count) Should men wait as long as possible to enter a LTR/get married then?I would agree on the premise of fairness, but if you get older and realize that you don't relate to young girls and that the women closer to your age group are already damaged, it may no longer seem like a good idea. My father and God father were Tyrone's in high demand with women (& still do better than me (who doesnt do bad)) and neither have ever been married and they're both getting near 50 and regret not marrying younger and building wealth and a family structure with a wife instead of deal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/20 06:48 PM |
| 3 | What are your experiences with commitment-phobic or flaky women?I had a gf who would fluctuate between being fully celibate, anything but PIV, and sexually active with me for a while and she would always cut the sex off if I started to relax with her. When she finally decides to commit, it is to abstinence (religious reasons), but when she is active, it is just a matter of doing it until she feels a certain level of commitment or until the guilt overshadows the pleasure and desires, then locking it down again. I broke up with her because of the inconsistency… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/20 11:00 AM |
| 1 | Any RP, or RP leaning users, advocate for, and defend BP. Any BP or BP leaning users, advocate for and defend RP.I am RP leaning and advocate for BP when it comes to LTR for men who are a woman's sexual alpha. If she is highly sexually attracted to you and you have a good sense of boundaries, I don't think you can really beat the BP model of family. I see RP ideology as a way to elevate a man's sexual value to get to that place. If a man is just naturally gifted with genetics and personality that is attractive, there is no need for RP imo. Being the object of high value women's lust at a young age means th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/20 10:52 AM |
| 1 | "Reformed sluts" are probably among the worst types to date.I try to make it simple. My process to get there is not, but things can be like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/20 10:33 AM |
| 1 | "Reformed sluts" are probably among the worst types to date.It is a thing. I know guys who have gone through similar. I think it is more so a matter of a woman having moderate interest, but willing to hookup, but only under the perfect storm of circumstances, and me confirming attraction then asking them if they want to be friends with benefits is not that perfect storm. What I have realized is that these are women who have hooked up with some guys I know, but it was some drunken fling and that they wanted a relationship with me outside of those perfect … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/20 07:55 AM |
| 1 | "Reformed sluts" are probably among the worst types to date.I know what word I chose. I say gaslight because the women would subject me to settings that are usually turn sexual, but would try to act like I didnt know what I was talking about when I brought it up to discuss the parameters of the relationship, because they were previously artistic or platonic in nature, then after the fact told me that they did want it to be a sexual relationship. Trying to convince me that I didnt know what I was talking about was gaslighting, then telling me later was co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/20 10:30 PM |
| 1 | "Reformed sluts" are probably among the worst types to date.College girls who were not willing to have a conversation about consent, but would want to get high or drunk or expect me to make a move without their expressed enthusiasm, then would tell me that they wanted to sleep with me, but were not willing to get together to do it with that being the understanding ahead of time. They wanted to not take responsibility for their sexual desires and thus, attempted to friendzone me for not being willing to take advantage of it. The moment the conversation wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/20 09:28 PM |
| 1 | "Reformed sluts" are probably among the worst types to date.Not true at all. I have literally asked women or they asked me and when I made it clear that Ibwas interested, they tried to gaslight me because I wanted, but then later told me that they wanted to sleep with me but didnt want me to think they were sluts (as if I cared) or only wanted to date me, but weren't interested in sleeping with me without commitment. I have had many women who were only willing for me to make a move or be in technically nonconsenting situations, and told me after the fact… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/20 04:51 PM |
| 0 | "Reformed sluts" are probably among the worst types to date.Well, they are giving the new woman access that they did not give to the previous women, so she is not being cheated. I don't agree in pump and dump unless you genuinely would give that woman a shot to build a connection and just dont like her afterwards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/20 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Why is it so common for men to think that if a girl is nice to him, she must want him?BINGO | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/20 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Ladies: Do you feel men are too sexual in dating?IME, there are many women who are content with only having a conversation and have no intention on ever having sex. I am a person who is interested in people, but if I get too interested in a woman I find attractive, I may feel something. Making things sexual, for me, in many instances is seeking to establish sexual chemistry before I am too emotionally involved and weeding out women who do not see me as a sexual being or sexual object. For me, the emotional side is a given if there is attractio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/20 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Ladies: Do you feel men are too sexual in dating?This sounds more like the God cop, bad cop routine. If one guy gets things sexually charged, but a woman is socially programmed to be against it, she still is put in a sexual mindset, so she may fuck the guy who is being more polite in her orbit. Sometimes me and friends have done this. Sometimes, the aggressive guy gets it, but sometimes the more passive guy, but usually the passive guy wouldnt have gotten it without the aggressive guy putting sex in the air. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/20 04:39 PM |
| 23 | Most of TRP's dating values are simply attempts to protect their egosIt's easy to speak against, but when we feel t Less sexual desire from women than is necessary to meet our physical and validational needs on a consistent basis, then hear a method to change that, our ears spark up. I've seen results through redpill philosophy. You may not like it, but unless you have a philosophy that is more effective to improve a man's ability to attract attractive women for sex, or to manage multiple women, it is only a virtue signal to virtues that many of us don't have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/20 04:18 PM |
| 2 | Most of TRP's dating values are simply attempts to protect their egosYup, they are black-pilled. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/20 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Do guys find a wider range of women attractive compared to the type of guys women find attractive looks wiseThey are not attractive to me or most souther black men I know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/19 05:13 PM |
| 5 | To avoid being BB, a man should simply be with a woman who makes about the same or even moreBB is not only about money. Simply a last name and willing to have children is enough to be chucked by many women. Ironically, even your looks can make you BB. It all depends on what she is willing to compartmentalize to find happiness. She may find the most conspicuously attractive guy she can, and sleep around with the men who have mor sex appeal. I saw a woman saying that on here once. The way to avoid it is not to offer security, which will force you to build your sex appeal, it if you provi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/19 08:12 AM |
| 1 | If you could sum up your goal in studying redpill ideology into one sentence, what would it be?Me saying i want sex is part of my development in clarifying what I need to myself to not get strung along. Yes, I enjoy love and friendship, but regardless of how I feel that day, sex is going to be an underlying factor in my decisions, so I should try to be conscious of if. As a recovering nice guy, being clear to myself about the importance of sex for me is important, but it is not all I want. I only emphasize it to bypass the built in societal shame around male sexuality. Logically, I know w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/19 04:14 PM |
| 1 | If you could sum up your goal in studying redpill ideology into one sentence, what would it be?You're oozing with self-awareness bro. I fucking love it. Keep up the good work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/19 04:04 PM |
| 1 | If you could sum up your goal in studying redpill ideology into one sentence, what would it be?Perform legal coitus, procure legal tenders | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/19 03:46 PM |
| 1 | If you could sum up your goal in studying redpill ideology into one sentence, what would it be?If you look at the flairs, debate isn't the only option. And if I use TRP, I may be banned from other subreddits I may enjoy. Ask how I know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/19 06:29 PM |
| 2 | If you could sum up your goal in studying redpill ideology into one sentence, what would it be?I like that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/19 06:01 PM |
| 1 | If you could sum up your goal in studying redpill ideology into one sentence, what would it be?Sameish | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/19 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Some men bring the AWALT behaviors out of women .... even good ones?I got black pill vibes from your initial comment, so I see where he is coming from. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/19 05:57 PM |
| 1 | If you could sum up your goal in studying redpill ideology into one sentence, what would it be?r/InclusiveOr | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/19 05:54 PM |
| 1 | If you could sum up your goal in studying redpill ideology into one sentence, what would it be?I feel somewhat the same way. I feel I may be subtly losing traits that make me an all-around catch to maximize my purely sexual value in ratio to my emotionally attractive traits. Some dudes think they are alpha when they are really concubines. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/19 05:22 PM |
| 1 | If you could sum up your goal in studying redpill ideology into one sentence, what would it be?Is that a pride thing about the moral ramifications, a matter of jaded laziness towards doing the work, or are you a genuine hermit? I’d like things to go naturally, but I’ve realized that if you are not intentional in life, tend things to go in other directions and not necessarily the natural one. Women are attracted to leading qualities and for good, biological reasons. It sounds to me like you’d like to have women in your life, but just don’t like 5is part of the process. I am sort of that sa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/19 05:20 PM |
| 1 | If you could sum up your goal in studying redpill ideology into one sentence, what would it be?I had a situation somewhat like that 4 for years, I do not have enough positive experiences with a situation going from nonsexual to sexual for me to trust completely going with the flow. I want sex and I a, good at it but I want to be great and I also want to have enough game to not go through sexual droughts or seem Beggy with a woman for some. To me, I am afraid that if a woman grows to love me on a friendship kind of level that she will not have a high enough purely sexual attraction to me a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/19 05:08 PM |
| 1 | If you could sum up your goal in studying redpill ideology into one sentence, what would it be?Another way to see it is that what you think of as manipulation can really be what others interpret as leading and some have a natural inclination to do this, so they don’t have to deal with the moral Implificarions of nudging someone on the direction they want to go unless she is taken, I toxicated, or expressly celibate/abstinent. I, too, do not enjoy the feeling of the hunt because it seems manipulative to me to use things I’ve learned about female nature. The things that work tend to work ac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/19 05:04 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.No, just making an observation and sharing a different perspective. A redpill (really, more black pill) perspective is to say that every time a woman doesn't have sex with a man is because he is sexually unappealing. . I've heard things that some women have said and considered them and am sharing the perspective that some women do not want to have NSA sex with men who are good potential all-around partners and not just BB. This is basically looking at AF/BB in a perspective that adds a desire to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/19 04:12 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Not always. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Pairbonding is more of a scientific theory. I believe in it. How I believe it works is opinion so agree to disagree. And I am a BJG fan of FWB, but some people have a hard time with it. And I said poly, not necessarily just about N, but about compersion or indifference to someone they care about being pleasured by someone else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.The first night is usually the worst night 😭 so I am not a fan of one nighters. Lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Yeah, that may be part. They don't want to look like the bad guy, but I think that women who are emotionalky healthy may find it difficult to prevent the feeling of pairbonding once emotions are mixed with sex. It takes a special kind of woman, who may have a poly inclination to be able to go through that then not get jealousy or possessive. That's what one of my FWBs told me. Another said that she doesnt mind just sex and if a guy wants more, he should say that, but just don't play with her emo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Maybe | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I bet. But morals. It's not all morals, though. I realized that I subtly feel like seduction is manipulative, so I stray away from doing it in away that takes advantage. That hurts me with women, definitely, because many want to not take responsibility for their sexual actions, but I sort of force them to make a decision with a sober (including not highly aroused) mind before I introduce my intense sexual side to them. I have missed out on women like that before, but I feel like that type is mor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.It is a scientific fact that women have more hormones and are more emotional. Call it what you want. I don't give a fuck, honestly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 05:20 PM |
| 1 | You cannot be pro-male and pro-female. The sexual and relationship market places are a zero sum game. To want better for one sex, is to want things to be worse for the other.I think being pro male or profemale and wanting the best for both comes from the belief that if one has the upperhand, they'll do better but the other party. I think this about being promale. Since women are hypergamous, men improving themselves and reaching higher grounds gives women more opportunities to find mates they can be happy with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Even though that is how my situation has looked, I understand that they are not women whose natural inclination is wanting a man with multiple women-- I am somewhat attractive, but I am not some hyper masculine guy who has women lining up to be on his roster. It just worked out like this. I am studying compersion and things like that, but I am not ready to be emotionally invested in women who sleep with other men. I may try an open relationship with m ex. That's kind of how we are now, but that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.You can't be that reductive, can you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 04:45 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Call it what you want. Women who are too logical in my experience are somewhat going against a natural inclination and won't be able to keep it up. Love is not logical. I think it is important, though. So, if a woman is too logical about why she likes me, i see her as trying to use me as BB or will try to step into my masculine space. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Thats how I feel. But I'd be hypocritical to completely minimize sex because of beliefsbi do have about its power. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 09:59 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.This is true. The guy I am talking about isn't trying to make it a relationship. He just gives off the impression of wanting one through how he carries himself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 09:46 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I call it boyfriend energy. I am somewhat of an intense guy. When I engage with women, I have a way of getting a little too close to the cards they hold close to their chests and try to peak at them to help them win the game. I probably shouldn't say this here, but I like to groom women, sexually, and help them explore their sexualities and give them tips to avoid being emotionally manipulated by men. I don't want to sound like I think i am super smart, but honestly, I like to study people's wea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 09:42 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Yeah, it is one of those things that is more fun in action than in theory. Lol. I like to think I made it up, but I probably picked part of it up listening to something about marriage counseling and studying a little bit of edging & bdsm. It's hard to experiment with sex when it's always spur of the moment, so I had to create an environment where things could be planned and maintain a level of excitment. I feel it could really help a lot of LTRs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 09:34 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Directly directly. Smh. I don't care for nonverbal communication. I play to that and use boldness as masculine frame. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 09:31 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.They all have big things about self-control and I want to take them where they willingly relinquish that for a little bit. It prompts a little tug of war. Two have never really acted crazy with me over the course of years. One has acted a little crazy with me, but it was mostly just conscientiousness and I respect that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 09:30 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I know plenty of big-bellied guys who have a lot of sex partners | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 09:27 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I know what I want. As of right now, it is neither casual sex nor a relationship. My desires are somewhere in between, honestly. I may nudge myself in either direction, though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 09:26 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Yeah, my friendly kindness gets mistaken for romantic gestures and the women think I am trying to be their BF when I am not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 09:23 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I never did this, but my n is not very high. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 09:22 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I meant to put that I can and my issue is not wanting monogamy. Unprompted, all three of my FWBs have told me that they have no intention of sleeping with someone else anytime soon and that we have an agreemt to alert if there is a new partner on the sexual network. One is an Ex. One was a FWB from the start,and another was a Hook up who I just smoke and drink with sometimes. And it is not just my ex. One of my FWB runs away if she feels too close to an orgasm as well. And the other ones ghosts … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 09:16 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I have a philosophy of being in the zone vs being in the mood. A zone is more meditative. I bring mystery to women in the complexity of my philosophies and motivations. I tell them the truth and sound sarcastic while I do. I also try to encourage a reality of pleasure and using communication as a platform to build understanding and grow sexually. This works with women who have had several partners, but do not orgasm with them. Sometimes they are willing to learn new things. I try to introduce th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 09:07 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.This is really a big part of why I am single. My ex had the least amount of this dynamic involved. I could shower her with affection or not and still get my dick sucked whenever I wanted. I chose to shower her with affection. I can't still have sex with her when I want when I am aloof with her, but she can be inconsistent when things get too intimate and when she starts go enjoy herself too much. she gets scared. Literally happened many times during sex for us. This is a reoccurring theme in my … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 09:00 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I withdraw, myself. I'm an intense guy. My withdrawal probably feels like a normal fuck buddy. I clearly communicate how I am, though. I am not possessive or anything like that. I just like some attention and time here and there, outside of when it's time to have sex. Like i may come over or call just to talk about the kast session and philosophize a little. That's where I get comfortable and where I gather intel to apply to sex later. I am not the best at nonverbal communication. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 08:31 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Yeah, idk if I am missing out on anything, but I do not keep female friends I find attractive anymore unless they are in a relationship or live far away. Maybe that's the inverse. I need a mutual desire of the sexual nature of a friendship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 08:27 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.It's mostly talk now, but I am self aware. Some things got to give because my FWBs are always done with me then coming back and it gets a little frustrating, honestly. It's weird. The way I react to their withdrawal attracts them, then they come back, and when they come back, before long, here I go trying to be friendly again. It's a cycle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 08:25 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I have had it, so I can't say it doesn't exist. I want more, though. It's more of a statement than a mantra. I know that I have needs and they are more than physical. I said most, not all. My best friend is my ex girlfriend. I know what you're talking about. And Idk that may be a female thing, but honestly, I have never had an attractive female friend that I wouldn't be willing to jeopardize the friendship to have sex with her so there's that. And I try to do both simulatenously. I like to commu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 08:22 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I think understanding reasonable terms is part of an agreement. If it is unreasonable, a person with mid-level character who is agreeable will break the agreement. Women tend to be more emotional and this is biologically true. I think women range from completely emotional to cold pragmatists. I like them a little more logical than most, but a cold pragmatist is a piece of work who will fuck up a life with no remorse. Men usually range more in the logic range in different school of thought. Even … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 07:43 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Part of me feels the need to force myself to learn to love the hunt of pursuing women, but it's not my natural temperament. That's also why my default setting is establishing a few friends with benefits. I feel that learning to pursue women may contain skills that will carry over into other areas of my life when I get out of college. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 07:35 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I think this distinction is where things get a little iffy. The second I imagine sex with a woman, sex wouldnt change our dynamic. But I am fully capable of being emotionally available and present and not want a relationship. I crave not just sex, but intimacy, even if I don't want a relationship. The confidant of friendship is more intimate than most relationships. I try to build the friendships while also having sex with the women and use the communication and humor to lower their defenses to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 07:33 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I dont pay now. Why start? & Icasual sex may be the wrong word. My casual sex partners turn into FWBs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 07:26 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Not necessarily. You can commit to friendship and use friendly love to add to the sex. This is a theory I have used with several FWBs. Doesn't always work, but doesn't always not work | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 07:25 AM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I agree with this as well. I say this to my friends. Women like to earn emotional investment/attention. Another thing to think about is that women who have actually cool personalities who are free-spirits, are much slower to be called whores than women who have sex for validation. Similarly, a genuine people-person guy would not feel as much like a male version of a slut to a woman. She would want to be with him. It is the introverted types, who do not give every person attention that feel like … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/19 12:29 AM |
| 3 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I have experienced this, myself. I'm not saying I am a super model or extremely romantic, but little things like maybe buying flowers or letting them call and talking on the phone for hours or not wanting to seduce them against their better judgment. Even things like kissing during sex or things that create or denote closeness. They can scare women away who are not looking for something serious because it is either tempting, feels too intrusive, or is a reminder of a complete relationship and th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 11:12 PM |
| 6 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I agree. It is scary for a guy who understands the psychology of manipulating women, but understands the moral implications. If it were instinctual, he could dismiss the moral implications through ignorance. A sociopath is willing to learn it, then use what he has learned to meet his ends by any means. And someone wanting to please you sexually by any means is a powerful thing. It's alignment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 11:08 PM |
| 6 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Yeah, this definitely plays a factor. I am not comfortable lying to women for sex. But I am realizing that some women genuinely desire to be sold a story and that they sort of have intuition that is diffult to lie to. Women mostly know what kind of guy someone is, but they need to hear a story that they like to go along with it. And many do not know what they want or are unable to communicate it so if anyone sexuslly appealing gets close enough and tells them what time it is with self-assurance,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Worthless for you, yet you wasted those precious seconds of your life to comment. Fuck off. It is a contrary thought to the prevalent redpill ideology that she only isn't having sex with a guy because he isn't attractive or the the Good guy thing is always a lie. Many men will feel the pressure of this and begin to manipulate women for casual sex to make sure that he isn't at the bottom of the male sexual dominance hierarchy. Some men just may need to learn to detach emotionally with casual part… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I have (or at least as of the other day had) 3 fwb. 20, 21, and 24. I'm 23. I feel that my finances aren't where what my type looks like, so it is difficult to deal with older women. And my mindset isnt on what the younger women tend to worry about. I'm still trying to find my niche. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 10:54 PM |
| 6 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Not all, but definitely some. I am in college. I know women like this. Some of it is a response to having been with narcissists who emotionally manipulate to and through sex. It takes over a woman's mind and life sometimes. So, some only want to sleep with men who pose no threat of a relationship, so they can get their rocks off but avoid emotional pain. Sometimes, it's so that they can think clearly when dating to find someone they care about, then make that guy wait. This is still a painful co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 10:51 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I didn't want to say most or all. I am not a fan of over generalizations. I'm just pointing out that it can and does happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.It's even scarier to meet someone who likes emotional closeness when you don't want something serious. Sex can be very vulnerable. She fears she may get attached and you leave like it's nothing because the sex is casual or that you will use the emotional side to get her attached then hurt her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 10:40 PM |
| 2 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I'm trying to learn to look at things more rationally. I am changing, sadly. For some women, a good guy means not sexually appealing, but to some it legitimately means that she is not ready for something serious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 10:39 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Most men will cheat anyway so smart women should prioritize the other benefits men have to offer and just get some on the side as wellI would commend your willingness to completely abandon morality in order to align your actions completely with your desiresd results, which is both having a high value life partner and exciting sex, but from the way that you explained it, this sounds more like a weak justification of your efforts to maintain emotional distance than a desire to be polyamorous. I can't condone this kind of duplicity and dishonesty, but I have thought about it how it works. If you can keep from being caught and not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Strong hope? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 07:48 PM |
| 4 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I won't jump to say super hot. But equivalent to the attraction she'd normally require for casual sex. And I explained it in the post. Successful women do intimidate some men, but they definitely scare a lot of men off. Not the same. The fear I'm talking about here is more like a man being scared off by a hot women because she tends to be hypersexual. Fear they may say they want one thing, and really want something else, and hurt you after they encroach and break your agreement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.That makes some sense. Perhaps, "younger" explains it more. Not too long ago, women weren't as comfortable being being casual sex partners, so they would buy bullshit (that many knew was bullshit) to justify casual sex to themselves, or genuinely feel the need of a relationship for sex. These days, there is almost not shame for a women in a casual sexual relationship, so they don't always need the promise of love for sex. I think women avoiding love when they want casual sex is partly a response… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 07:02 PM |
| 7 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Good question! Just left a LTR and has LTR habits. Wants or has had emotional sex and prefers it to emotionless sex, but is not ready for commitment. In transition between school and may move far away soon. More confidence with sex where there is a connection and/or communication. Maybe had a bad experience in last relationship. There could be many reasons. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 06:57 PM |
| 3 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Yeah, I'm still in college so that is probably it. And I hope so, because I don't want bad behavior to be reinforced to the point that I lose my good qualities. Sounds weird to say, but it is a possibility. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 06:22 PM |
| 1 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.That's the point. In order to have casual sex without being an emotional wreck, they need to keep a level of emotional distance. Giving too much attention can trigger feelings of emotional attachment, which fucks up the whole thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 06:21 PM |
| 4 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I sort of understand the fear for them, though. I add emotion into it with a purpose of making the sex more penetrative. That may be closer than they want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 06:17 PM |
| 7 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I think it's more prevalent than people think and that a lot of men who are successful with redpill are just these men who tone back and learn to treat women like sex objects. It's called self-improvement, but idk if this is really improvement. Feels like regression to me. But fuck it, I want sex, so it is what it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 06:17 PM |
| 8 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.This is true. Just sharing a different perspective from what I am used to seeing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.I think you may have a point there. I have casual sex, but I do not enjoy the process of finding new women to sleep with. I have thought that I may be a tad on the spectrum before then I spent time with my highfunctioning autistic friends and think that I probably am not. This is not in reference to incels, though. I am sexually active. And this is more of a perspective that is new to me. It takes the villanization away from women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 06:06 PM |
| 3 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.That can also be true. Maybe that is being truly well-rounded. I don't think they treat the "sloots" the same way, though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 06:01 PM |
| 15 | Some men have issues with casual sex--not because they are unnattractive, but because they are well-rounded, emotionally available, and it scares away women who are not looking for anything serious.Oh yeah, I know for me, it seems that the women I have casual sex with either secretly want a relationship with me, or get scared off of I display affection. I am always honest, though, but I have been on both sides. It's frustrating. For some women, as long as I jackhammer them and ignore them outside of that, we're good. Those women do not like when I put a lot into foreplay. I recently had a FWB that I made cry because I did something nice for her. Then a couple of days later she said she can… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 06:01 PM |
| 1 | What would happen to societies if most women were sexually aroused by the archetypal beta male provider traits?Two primary positive outcomes. If the conclusion would be bad, men could see that the pursuit of alpha characteristics is a righteous cause. More men would seek to be traditionally manly. If the conclusion would be good, we should encroach propaganda the shows beta attributes in a sexy light. An example would be like Donald Glover/Childish Gambino. Lately, a lot of women are very sexually attracted to him for his mind and creativity. If women (in let's say black culture) had a shift of the stand… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 05:38 PM |
| 1 | What would happen to societies if most women were sexually aroused by the archetypal beta male provider traits?Why are you here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 04:56 PM |
| 1 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?Guys who want to have sex with female friends tend to conflate what she likes about his,friendship with what sexually attracts her and revvs up the friend qualities to stand out and get sex or a relationship. It is what is called a beta orbiter. Many women take care of this and use the guy for free validation (and sometimes favors & money), giving nothing of value to him in return. For me, with a female friend, we need to be on the same page about sex or we won't be able to get along long term. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/19 08:39 AM |
| 0 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?OK I thought you meant if he wanted an explanation, that he didn't have to be your friend. I feel that wanting an explanation is someone's way of showing they care in not directly leaving a situation. Like if a guy doesn't know why, he may think that it is something misunderstood or changeable. If he finds out is simply a lack of attraction, he can swallow that tough pill and either not be friends or learn to make you unattractive in his own mind, but being on different pages about wanting to be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/19 09:12 PM |
| 0 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?As a guy, I have this thing about not wanting to put too much of my energy where I can't put my dick, when it comes to women I find attractive and want to have sex with. The second I imagine myself having sex with a woman, sex would not change the dynamic of the friendship for me -- NOT having sex would. So, if I want to have sex with her, we'll only be able to stay friends if she is in a relationship or lives far a way, because not being on the same page about being platonic makes things awkwar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/19 08:44 PM |
| 2 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?I know I am this guy. I kind of went on a rampage through my female friends I found attractive and burnt bridges and fucked the others. Still friends with the ones I had sex with. The others, I keep at a distance, because guys who want sex tend to become superfriends and do the most. I try to limit my energy where I can't put my dick. Yeah, it sounds harsh, but saves me heartache and headaches. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/19 08:36 PM |
| 0 | What women mean when they say things like "sex would ruin our friendship"? Why friendship and sex are mutually exclusive?So, you'd rather rend a friendship than risk a friendship ending because they didn't like that you told them the truth? Ok | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/19 08:32 PM |
| 8 | What works better to repel sex negative people- waiting or fucking on the first or second date?Best answer | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/19 08:04 AM |
| 2 | (Discussion) Something I've noticed about men's preferencesBazinga | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/19 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Do the men who want women to select "better" men .....want them to do it for the good of "society" or for their own self-interest?IMO the best way to conduct society is where the individual choices can benefit society and that can happen through what is being propagated and what is being rewarded. It is like moving all manufacturing oversees. It can hurt our economy, but if there is no reward for keeping jobs here, why would a company do it? Simply for "morals"? That's not realistic. If selfishness can point towards societal betterment, then it's a good plan. Other than that leads to infringing on people's rights or the im… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/19 04:41 PM |
| 2 | US finally catches up to Japan: around 27% of men under age 30 are virginsI'm pretty sure you're being sarcastic, but I agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/19 09:42 PM |
| 1 | What is with this sub's obsession with the "UMC/UC"?I am just that one commenter who doesn't know what UMC is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/19 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Insecurity claim is so overusedI get this alot when I ask questions. They were hard questions for me, which is why I ask online, on a throwaway account. Yes, I have some insecurities. What I am not insecure about is asking questions and people trolling, though. As a person with some insecurities, I know one when I see one. Dismissing someone's claims/questions is a tell-tale sign. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/19 04:06 AM |
| 1 | Don't you think there are alpha and beta women?Men do not need women's help in being attracted. Submissiveness and/or responsiveness is what draws male sexual attention as well as attraction. It is the invitation. A man may see an aggressive woman as having defective genes that make her need to aggressively pursue men to find a mate. This can be a subconsciious turn off for some men. That's if this is the perspective we rediscussing this from. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/19 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Don't you think there are alpha and beta women?The top level of women, in men's eyes is not like an Alpha male. She is attractive and gentle and her feminity causes men to want to dote over her. She does not need to be loud or obnoxious to get her point across. A lot of women think that to be an Alpha woman is to be like an alpha male and what they may think is an alpha male is a wanna be alpha male and emulate it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/19 06:41 PM |
| 1 | People are not lowering their standards by wanting someone who looks good without looking like they work out all the time.Username checks out | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/19 09:45 PM |
| 1 | People are not lowering their standards by wanting someone who looks good without looking like they work out all the time.People hate it for a number of reasons. 1. They are not born that way so it subconsciously feels like genetic bait and switch. 2. It makes them feel insecure about not working on themselves 3. If a person goes on and on about it and tailors their life to it, it is annoying in a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/19 05:24 PM |
| 2 | People are not lowering their standards by wanting someone who looks good without looking like they work out all the time.It's because many women tend to virtue signal in describing their preferences and change tines depending on the setting or audience. The goal is not necessarily to be accurate, but to appear good and say the right thing. Also, women's tunes change when they are horny. Being asked a question by someone who appears to be insecure triggers a reaction that turns them off, so their answers will mostly not be honest about what their preferences and reactions would be with a man who turns them on. This… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/19 05:22 PM |
| 1 | People are not lowering their standards by wanting someone who looks good without looking like they work out all the time.I somewhat agree. But I think subconsciously it is about genetics and we tell ourselves it's about lifestyle so that we seem more virtuous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/19 05:18 PM |
| 1 | People are not lowering their standards by wanting someone who looks good without looking like they work out all the time.Great. The confidence nay get you in the door,but being a gym rat isn't the optimal body type for most women -especially for relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/19 05:16 PM |
| 2 | People are not lowering their standards by wanting someone who looks good without looking like they work out all the time.This | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/19 05:15 PM |
| 3 | People are not lowering their standards by wanting someone who looks good without looking like they work out all the time.Women changing their tune depending on how horny they are and the context they are speaking in doesn't help, though. They seem to have a tendency to fabricate when it comes to certain things like the goal is to make all women seem good and or emotionally stable or non-anomalistically sexual. So it makes it hard for men to trust when they sat something. A lot of what they say seems to come off as virtue signaling so we only want to hear the "hard truths" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/19 04:29 PM |
| 2 | People are not lowering their standards by wanting someone who looks good without looking like they work out all the time.Men go crazy who don't understand sexual charisma. We aren't attracted to men so we make our own criteria of what should be atrractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/19 01:19 PM |
| 1 | I want to hear your thoughts on the concept of the joy of giving or responsibility- as something that brings happiness in and of itself.Great day to troll, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 09:37 PM |
| 1 | I want to hear your thoughts on the concept of the joy of giving or responsibility- as something that brings happiness in and of itself.Nope. I mean the definition of feminism. You think feminist means feminazi. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 09:35 PM |
| 1 | I want to hear your thoughts on the concept of the joy of giving or responsibility- as something that brings happiness in and of itself.I've seen it more than once. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/19 05:22 PM |
| 0 | Women process break ups during the end/decline of the relationship, men process breakups afterwards.Ehh, that's you. No woman has a guarantee that a new guy will be more swxuallt compatible and some women care about their N because evebbid they do not necessarily mind akot, they know that a high N would siqualify them from having an hinwat relationship with many guys, so if the relationship ends and it takes them a long time to find someone they're confoeravke with or they have bad sex with one or two people, they want to start having sex again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/19 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Guys who say "Nice Guys Finish Last" are hypocrites.Conflating not being physically attracted with being attracted to bring mistreated. No dice | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/19 11:44 AM |
| 2 | CMV The Manosphere Misses Two Crucial Parts Required for Girls to Get Sexual: Comfort and TrustComfort and trust are both requirements that can be overcome by excitement and arousal. Men who work through the comfort and trust have to do much more than men who just appeall directly to a woman's womb. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/19 08:03 PM |
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