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| 20 | Roast me, ladies. I deserve it.Doll, you're human. You want what you want. The truth is this: just because something seems good for us doesn't mean that it is good for us. You are fighting against hormones, and that's a tough thing to do if you aren't trained for it. It doesn't mean that you're any less, it means that you're normal. Attractive men generally aren't easy to find, and despite how people feel about women judging men on looks, we have the right to want to be with someone that we aren't grossed out by kissing. But … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 06:30 PM |
| 80 | Let's Talk About "Cool Girls"/"Strong Women"I've learned that "strong women", when coming from a man, is often a misnomer. A woman that knows her boundaries and prizes those boundaries isn't what they're talking about. A "strong woman" to them is one that will bend and bend with the amount of labor that they put on her and won't break. When she breaks, she's not worthy of being with - and that gives them clearance to go off and find the next. A "strong woman" to a man is one that they can easily dehumanize. They're dehumanizing women anyw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 06:26 PM |
| 5 | People continue to dismiss discrimination against black women. I don’t get how no one’s seeing this for what it really is.Because white women benefit substantially from violence. Some even commit it themselves. White women have the been the loudest voices saying "Violence isn't the answer" when they don't face even a fraction of the hell Black women face and are QUICK to outsource their violence onto other people or the police. White women have been inserting themselves and their trauma into this situation. There's no solidarity with Jada or any other black woman. A lot of it is, "But ME!!!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 03:41 AM |
| 120 | What do you think about seemingly HVM doing psychedelic drugs occasionally?Why are we throwing the 'HV' label on any random man? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 11:31 AM |
| 12 | Interracial dating and avoiding MRAsIt's pick-mes and women with non-existent self-esteem, or the ones that think that they're somehow different and that they'll sway his opinion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 06:22 PM |
| 61 | Even the comments are clocking onto his weaponised incompetenceThank fuck for it being up for sale. I'll tell you what - someone would be forking over a lot of money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 02:23 AM |
| 51 | Interracial dating and avoiding MRAsI'm black. When a man discusses Kevin Samuels in any way that is remotely positive, you should run. If the man talks about "Submission" or speaks in the pejorative about his women, you should run. I say this because not only are they insecure and self hating, 10 times of 10, those men will beat your ass, cheat on you, mentally abuse you, and/or knock you up without marrying you. They are all abusive degenerates, with no exceptions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 10:54 PM |
| 528 | Even the comments are clocking onto his weaponised incompetenceThat's a Natasha Denona, and that's from the Tropic Palette. That palette, even the full one, was limited edition to begin with, and good luck finding it. He's a piece of shit, and him AND the kids would be toast. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 10:31 PM |
| 13 | The truth about "the wall"The very same people who have come up with the idea of SMV are the very same men that are delusional about their own attractiveness towards women. It's interesting how SMV matters against women, but apply it towards men and then get SO UPSET. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 05:12 AM |
| 9 | I'd leave. Straight up would not make it down that aisle if my man was dressed like thisOh yikes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 01:57 AM |
| 13 | I need someone to help me make sense of this...You want apology because the lady was being considerate? Because she had common sense?Kanye is easy to figure out. The reason why he chooses young white women to be shitty to is not just misogynistic, but also erotic: he's the sort of dude that always wanted what he felt that more powerful men had. He's an example of men that truly hate women but still likes to have a woman for status. He desires these women, deep down, because they make him feel like he's made it and women like Taylor and Billie are the height of white girlhood during their respective eras. The status argument i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 07:15 AM |
| 3 | FDS Books: On Edith Wharton. (LONG POST!)I think that was a possibility, but also more the chance that his depression may have also killed his libido. But then there's also the possibility that him being gay, getting married to a woman, and having to play the role, coupled with a family history of depression, may have exacerbated his. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 09:29 PM |
| 2 | FDS Books: On Edith Wharton. (LONG POST!)House of Mirth, easily. It's a phenomenal bit of work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 05:38 PM |
| 52 | FDS Books: On Edith Wharton. (LONG POST!)Yeah, I have a doctorate. A lot of this was spent with me trying to cut down on the wording so that Reddit wouldn't reject it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 03:33 AM |
| 14 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!Problematic as in The House of Mirth has some serious antisemitism going on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 09:59 PM |
| 169 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!You just reminded me that I really need to write a post about Edith Wharton being a very FDS writer (problematic though she may be, particularly in The House of Mirth). I own 3 of her novels, and The Age of Innocence is one of them (the others being The House of Mirth and The Custom of the Country). She discusses some HUGE FDS points like how society scorns a woman that follows her standards (as was the case with Undine Spragg in The Custom of the Country), how patriarchy will throw a woman's ag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 04:54 PM |
| 94 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!Holy yikes that's hateful. This truly is a case of 'Drunk words are sober thoughts'. This man was pining after his ex for THIRTEEN FUCKING YEARS, and said that, without a single thought, if his ex wanted him back, he would have dropped OP and gotten back with her. Kids and family be damned. That's a painful thing to do to someone, and it leaves the recipient with a lot of self-esteem and trust issues later on down the road: and this was something that her husband was willing to do to someone. He… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 04:12 PM |
| 30 | Pinnacle of being a privileged liberal feminist 🙄But that goes to show that libfems can't logic. They can emote a lot, but they can't form a cogent, logical argument about methods to empower women that doesn't involve centering men, their feelings, or their dicks. Someone in the comments is all "But in Nordic countries, prostitutes only have to deal with riskier clients." LOL, BIWOC (particularly Indigenous) SWers frequently ONLY deal with dangerous and undesirable clients, but this is what happens when you're a libfem - WoC aren't actual peop… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 03:27 PM |
| 130 | Pinnacle of being a privileged liberal feminist 🙄Also, fuckery from the comments: Regarding high rate of male suicides, they truely are strugging. There is a lot expected of them as well: projector, provider, be emotionally strong, etc. There is no culture to spoil them like there is women. Women can cry and feel their feeling while men are conditioned into thinking they are not supposed to feel their emotions. I think that maybe the reason for the higher rate. IF YOU HAVE A MAN IN YOUR LIVE SAYING THINGS LIKE " YOU BE BETTER OFF WHEN IM GONE"… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 05:22 AM |
| 6 | I think he told on himselfHe's right about one thing. LVM do want submissive women. The problem is that LVM think that all men are LV like they are, and get very defensive and concerned when they see a man that isn't. Their methods of getting a submissive woman aren't direct though - actually submissive women are the ones that they bypass. They go for women that don't put up with their shit and psychologically abuse them later. OP, I'm going to be a little harsh with you for a second: Don't you ever in your f-ing life be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 04:52 AM |
| 99 | Pinnacle of being a privileged liberal feminist 🙄I knew that they were on the bullshit about "Well, FDS has a point but...not all men!" The bar is in hell, and the reason that the bar is in hell is because women like this are content with keeping it there if it means that they can get male validation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 03:48 AM |
| 73 | Pinnacle of being a privileged liberal feminist 🙄Maybe they will by one of those nice liberal men that they put on a pedestal. It's not like liberal men don't wash their asses, do racist/sexist/bigoted shit, gaslight and abuse, treat women like public toilets, or have a monopoly on abuse, chauvinism and misogyny like those damn conservative, MAGA hat wearing fucks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 03:42 AM |
| 188 | Pinnacle of being a privileged liberal feminist 🙄This is exactly what I think of when I visualize a libfem - a white woman that doesn't fit conventional beauty standards but still tries to do her best to get men to like her. She'll say anything, do anything, and will also know that we have a point in this community, however, doing the work to actually become self-reliant is too much because she's internalized the programming that she's worthless because she's not some scrote's first choice woman, and it's too much for her to think that she mig… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 03:35 AM |
| 5 | Does the quality of men you attract affect your self esteem?Yeah, unfortunately that's part of being a woman in a patriarchy. Society impresses upon us that we're just holes. That we're NPCs and status symbols and have no aspirations, desires or boundaries of our own. I'm sure that alcoholic scrote likely thought that you owed him something and that you should have been grateful for his existence. That last part doesn't sound extreme to me. People learn how to adapt to keep their bloodline going. If they can't adapt, they end their bloodline. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 03:04 AM |
| 20 | Nick Cannon shares he's expecting his 8th child, with model Bre Tiesi — weeks after the death of his 5-month-old son. Nick Cannon is a sick pos and all the women are serious pickmes!This is fucking tired. People keep excusing this as "But he has the money to take care of his kids," like if you have money now, you will always have money, or even like Nick Cannon is worth a lot of money. These are siblings that won't know each other, children feeling like they're alone, half siblings that will feel excluded and estranged from each other, mothers that have problems with other mothers that extend that fuckery towards the children, and then when Nick Cannon loses his fame or fad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 10:06 PM |
| 38 | Elon Musk's Tech Bro Fanboys & VC Pick Mes Think Your Womb Is Inefficient & Holding Back Gender EqualityBasically, women aren't willing incubators willing to push out more pawns to make Musk even richer and he can realize his silly dream of moving to Mars when things get a little bit too shitty on Earth. Fuck that guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 06:47 PM |
| 12 | Late Miss USA, having previously written a heartbreaking essay about turning 30, dies by suicide at 30 years old. Women being worthless at 30 is an idea perpetuated by the manosphere, yet they dare say FDS is toxic?Yeah, that started to happen when I was 29 nearing 30. My level of give-a-fuck rapidly deteriorated until I hit 30 and it broke entirely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 06:41 PM |
| 55 | Late Miss USA, having previously written a heartbreaking essay about turning 30, dies by suicide at 30 years old. Women being worthless at 30 is an idea perpetuated by the manosphere, yet they dare say FDS is toxic?Here's some things to keep in mind. The characters in Insecure, as fashionable and enviable as they were? Were in their late 20s when the series started, and in their 30s as the series went on. The ladies of Sex and the City, problematic they may be? Were in their 30s. Beyonce Knowles-Carter? 40. Adele? 33. Margot Robbie? 31. Lupita Nyong'o? 38. Kerry Washington? 45. Meghan of Sussex? 40. Taylor Swift? 32. The older Kardashian sisters? 37-42. Yvonne Orji? 38. SZA? 32. Emily Ratajkowski? 30. Rosi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 07:11 AM |
| 86 | Late Miss USA, having previously written a heartbreaking essay about turning 30, dies by suicide at 30 years old. Women being worthless at 30 is an idea perpetuated by the manosphere, yet they dare say FDS is toxic?The 30s are awesome. You realize that the rules are made up and you can live your life the way that you want to. Men don't stop wanting to fuck and marry you just because you hit 30. If anything, they try harder to make you feel the despair that they feel. Women don't stop being desirable at 30. On the contrary, some of our society's biggest icons are well in their 30s, and even in their 40s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 06:16 AM |
| 146 | Late Miss USA, having previously written a heartbreaking essay about turning 30, dies by suicide at 30 years old. Women being worthless at 30 is an idea perpetuated by the manosphere, yet they dare say FDS is toxic?I'll say one thing about the 30s - a lot of severely LVM tend to really fuck off at that age. It sifts men out in a lovely way. We have to deal with other LVMs, but turning 30 does a lot of the job for us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 06:14 AM |
| 632 | Late Miss USA, having previously written a heartbreaking essay about turning 30, dies by suicide at 30 years old. Women being worthless at 30 is an idea perpetuated by the manosphere, yet they dare say FDS is toxic?I really wish that there was an ad campaign or a PR campaign for thirty-something women and above that said how much more powerful we are in our 30s, versus our 20s, where we tell young woman that there is no such thing as a wall. There, is, however, fears of men that become realized at that age of their jig being up. I grasped something in my 30s that I never had in my 20s - self-esteem and boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 03:44 AM |
| 96 | Fresh Take: Men Who Rush For SexThat fresh take makes sense. Honestly, the traits that make a HVM are not only a rarity for men, but these are traits that are expected for women. Our society rewards men truly for not being at the standard of even the average woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 12:17 AM |
| 88 | Rihanna & Her Pregnancy AnnouncementThey were grooming or outright raping so many young women in the industry during that time. Beyonce, Aaliyah, Foxy... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 11:42 PM |
| 34 | Rihanna & Her Pregnancy AnnouncementHood mentality is based on having the most status for the least amount of work. Apparently, fathering bastard children equals status - nation building and beautiful children and all that. I mean, take a look at Nick Cannon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 11:40 PM |
| 51 | Rihanna & Her Pregnancy AnnouncementI highly doubt that he will. Men like him have this hood mentality and self-hate. He lives to ingratiate himself as the lovable hood dude that associates himself with rich 1%er white people (hence his boasting about being in SoHo and Beverly Hills, doing drugs and womanizing and wanting nothing to do with racial justice movements), but one thing is with hood men is that they impregnate women all the time, but don't marry them. It's a way of 'claiming' these women without the costs and issues of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 11:35 PM |
| 63 | Rihanna & Her Pregnancy AnnouncementAlways. Radfems exist to make our own way, warts and all. I've come to realize that a lot of libfems are too scared to have to ask themselves tough questions and deal with the warts, so they feel like if they have men shouldering their burdens with them that it makes things feel a little less difficult for them. . The truth is that these women really are shouldering the burdens on their own, including the burdens that the men have also saddled them with. Liberal feminism doesn't encourage women … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 11:31 PM |
| 63 | Rihanna & Her Pregnancy AnnouncementRihanna is a pick-me on a massive scale. She JUMPED to drop Ari Fletcher and the other chick that made jokes about DV from Savage x Fenty (and understandably so), but she lets woman-hating LVM have a chance with her and even decides to procreate with one. Rihanna is a prime example of some women will always put men first and send another woman down the river for less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 08:24 PM |
| 9 | Does the quality of men you attract affect your self esteem?It used to back when I was a pick-me, and then I realized something: trash likes to make itself known by it's odor, and when you know that the majority of men are trash and that you'll get subject to their stink eventually, you'll stop taking it personally. Men will have sex with anything. They'll make a woman that is attractive and beautiful feel cheap because they'll pump and dump. You can be a beautiful woman, get loads of attention from ugly men, and if you feel badly about yourself and get … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 08:11 PM |
| 38 | A Curated Selection from OLDAs I always say - ENM is a scam. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 06:50 PM |
| 31 | The bar is in hell.Just say that you expect cheap or free pussy because you can't afford what you really want. Low effort men ruin the dating environment for everyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 06:48 PM |
| 151 | You will KNOW when a man wants you as his everything. Because HE KNOWS right away.Usually, by date one. Date 2-3 is to put it generously. I've gone out on first dates dates where men that have eventually become my SOs have wanted to have another date the very next day. Or they'll talk about things to do on the next date on the first one and will quickly follow through with you. If it's one thing that men aren't, it's subtle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 01:23 AM |
| 25 | When they tell you to settle for the guy’s attractiveness and the moment he levels up, he dumps you.NEVER EVER settle for an ugly man. They don't hate that they're unattractive. They hate that high-status women won't go for them and that they can't treat women like shit the way that attractive men are said to do because women won't give them the time of day. Also, I've found that ugly men will often do women the dirtiest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 06:16 PM |
| 42 | Eve doesn't date single fathers, or: cultural misogyny in a nutshell, or: the audacityFrequently, these men often view their situations as "She tripped, fell, and landed on my dick" or "I didn't know that her birth control failed/she wasn't on it/I didn't have any condoms on me/no one is going to go near my dick/I told that bitch to get an abortion." They don't extend nearly the amount of excuses on single mothers. Single fathers are fucking awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 06:15 PM |
| 63 | Woman goes on Judge Steve Harvey to “sue” fiancé of 15+ years for not marrying her.Very true. I hate how he says things occasionally that are so fucking right but then he does the most egregiously LV shit. Like goddamn it, dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 05:27 AM |
| 227 | A forever girlfriend I metALL OF THIS RIGHT HERE. Men know two things: They know the woman that they want to marry VERY QUICKLY, and they will move heaven and fucking Earth to lock her down so that no one else gets her. They know that they love to waste some poor woman's time if it means that they don't have to be single. He trapped her with a baby and she thought that her having a baby was going to make him do right. A baby has never changed a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 03:39 AM |
| 96 | Woman goes on Judge Steve Harvey to “sue” fiancé of 15+ years for not marrying her.First of all, why is she going on the show of a noted cheater? All he's going to do is gaslight her. Secondly, I'm starting to think that she likes being gaslit. Thirdly, if she were to leave that guy tomorrow, he'd have another woman and would be ready to put a ring on that new woman's finger within a few months. She needs to let this go. Her trying to sue him is a sad ass effort to hold onto him. Sorry sis, you sunk that fucking cost, and you're going to have to eat every bit of this. Being a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 03:37 AM |
| 6 | Thoughts on G.L Lambert? Relationship expert (@8plus9 on twitter)He refers to a Basica as someone who is waiting for a man and gets upset and bitter when one hurts her. He states that there's nothing exceptional about a Basica, that all they do is play nice and wait for something to fall into their lap and take no initiative. While this is correct to a degree, Lambert approaches the point but still misses it. The problem is that the Basica is a problem for low-effort men. Low-effort men LOVE the Spartan because she removes the work from dating for him. A man … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 10:50 PM |
| 13 | Thoughts on G.L Lambert? Relationship expert (@8plus9 on twitter)Unfortunately, what I've learned is that people who market towards black women in particular (as GL Lambert does) know that they have a very lucrative grift going. It's why people like Ro Elori Cutno, Umar Johnson, GL Lambert, Derrick Jaxn and so many others have seminars or books where they absolutely sound like dog shit and contradict themselves, but expect you to pay for this 'sage advice' that's really common sense shit, or in the case of Ro Elori Cutno, provide actively harmful information … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 08:54 PM |
| 37 | A pictorial depiction of the “male feminist”Every male feminist I know was a predator, and every libfem that catered to them was their victims. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 08:32 PM |
| 23 | Thoughts on G.L Lambert? Relationship expert (@8plus9 on twitter)With GL Lambert, what you have to do is eat the meat and throw away the bones. Unfortunately, a lot of his books tend to be very lean on the meat. While I agree with him in that men are attracted to women that don't give a fuck about them and to be very particular about putting out, leveling up and making demands of men - if a man can't meet those standards, curb him, Lambert is a PUA. He wrote "Men Don't Love Women Like You" and something about thinking or acting like a Spartan, and then he wro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 08:31 PM |
| 32 | What do *you* think a pick-me is, and why do you think you used to be one?I was absolutely a pick-me in my 20s and doubled down hardest on it before my last relationship ended. I firmly believed in the idea of "A boyfriend doesn't owe his girlfriend shit and doesn't owe her help," until I started seeing women asking men to subsidize entire lifestyles and sometimes the men would do it without asking questions. I would try to off parts of myself that weren't palatable to him and take on what he wanted. I believed in talking to your boyfriend like he was a homie, fucking… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 08:23 PM |
| 50 | Trust your feelings and the strategyGood for you. Men know what they want quickly and they know that they don't want to sit on their hands if they're with someone that they actually want to be with. They will, however, waste the time of a woman that is good for 'right now'. If he doesn't know what he wants to do with you after 6 months in, he's not it, sis. Men hate to be single and believe it to be a personal failing. Never mind treating women like walking therapists, holes and repositories for all of their issues, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 08:05 PM |
| 21 | Did you saw the news that british universities make coursers/workshops for students working in adult industries? link in commentsThe only difference between progressive men and conservative men is that progressive men idolize conservative men but are too chickenshit to attempt their methods. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 08:02 PM |
| 4 | Harbouring resentment in future relationshipsA few things. I understand the pressure of setting a timeline for yourself. I, being in my 30s and man-free, will tell you this - you life in your 30s without a man is so much better than having one in your life. Women do not hit "the wall" at 30. The average man, however, does, especially when you consider that they start balding early on and the average man doesn't take the best of care of himself at that age. All those shitty choices in food and behavior? Catches up to them around this time. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Man calls out misogynistic entitled red pill loserYou: Nope. What you're missing here is that I hold men accountable based on the fact that they are men, not the colour of their skin or race. Also you: Its not a race thing, we know that the reason's for people not having families and such vary and are not down to such factors as race/colour of skin. I am related to white males who are absent fathers, its a misguided ego thing imo, people that lack the emotional depth to be parents, despite obstacles and pressure. Also you: While I will not disa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 10:01 PM |
| 3 | Man calls out misogynistic entitled red pill loserNo, you're actually making excuses for black men because you're uncomfortable with holding black men accountable for their behavior towards black women. We understand women like yourself as tireless activists for WWs safety and interests, and then get quiet when BW state that we're having an issue as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 04:07 AM |
| 40 | Man calls out misogynistic entitled red pill loserYeah, this is how BW get silenced when we have issues with BM. This take is extremely libfem and allows men like the guy getting called out to flourish. Men like the black guy literally look for (particularly white) women with libfem ideas like this so they can throw their failures in BWs faces. BW are literally telling people that the reason why we aren't having families is because of the men. It has zero to do with poverty. Mahogany Pink did a whole video where she states that impoverished men… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 01:24 AM |
| 54 | You can date a man for ten months, think you're his girlfriend and he will still say you're "casual" and go behind your back and find a whole new girlfriend.This queen must have sensed something was off with him (he was seeing other women) and didn't sleep with him.This guy is garbage. He absolutely was seeing them both at the same time and wasn't being completely honest with either one. Men are really only as faithful as their options. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 04:34 AM |
| 69 | "Just live in the moment!""Live in the moment" was "YOLO" a few years ago and "Life is short, live it up" years before that. There's a little plaque in my great aunt's house that says: Life isn't short. Life is long. So just remember that what you do today can burn your ass tomorrow." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 05:43 AM |
| 58 | Sons of single mothers = a huge red flagI see what you were trying to do with this post. I don't think it hit with everyone, but I also see that you weren't putting blame on single mothers. The problem that is put upon single mothers is to raise a son in a patriarchy. She is already ostracized and hated by not upholding the status quo. The sons, as they get older, have a lot of hostility towards everyone, including their mothers. The odds are against her in a way that those of us that aren't single mothers cannot comprehend. Insofar a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 05:15 AM |
| 6 | Insecure has a lot of examples of LVM, HVM, and the women that love them. SPOILER HEAVY, read at your own risk.Derek was so HV. His friends being LVM made me a little nervous, but at least he would tell Lawrence when he was being full of shit. Also, Molly and Taurean with the edibles was one of the best things I've seen in that series. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 01:52 AM |
| 15 | Insecure has a lot of examples of LVM, HVM, and the women that love them. SPOILER HEAVY, read at your own risk.Be happy you didn't finish the series. It ended horrifically. Molly got her shit together, but S4 was the "shit on Molly" season. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 08:26 PM |
| 25 | Insecure has a lot of examples of LVM, HVM, and the women that love them. SPOILER HEAVY, read at your own risk.She looked very sad. She knew that she just settled, and she seems to regret it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 05:44 PM |
| 14 | Where do you find HVM?A lot of newbies think that the advice in this subreddit is going to get them a HVM, no questions asked. What people see in this community is "How do I use FDS principles to get picked?" It won't. It teaches you simply how to date while harboring some independence. The comment that people conveniently forget is that HVM are not easy to come by and that the only way you know a man is HV is through constant vetting, so don't lower your standards just so you can get picked. If you do this, you will… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 10:50 PM |
| 19 | Where do you find HVM?This exactly. What you have to do is DATE. There's no real way to come by a surefire way to find an HVM. It's basically dating and vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 07:43 PM |
| 14 | Where do you find HVM?Because there's this habit of new people asking "If I do x, I'll get x." There's also a problem of people asking if their man is HV. If you have to ask if he's HV, he's probably not. Too many people want a quick fix to finding an HVM, when it boils down to this: you just don't know unless you vet. There's a reason why the handbook doesn't have an astonishing amount on where to find HVM. The strategy is in the dating process itself. Leveling up is what is going to do a great portion of the work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 07:36 PM |
| 11 | Where do you find HVM?I really and truly wish that people would stop asking this. If you are coming in this community asking how to find a man, I question if you will actually take the lessons imparted here to heart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 05:29 PM |
| 127 | Where to look to find HVM?I'm going to be really honest with you here. It sounds like you are looking for someone to solve problems that you should be fixing yourself. You're coming up with reasons to not handle your mental health, coupled with you having a scarcity mindset regarding men. Living in a small town will exacerbate this. You're relying on other people to fix you when, the reality is, no one is going to give a shit about you but you, and especially not men. If anything, you're very at risk of getting used. You… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:50 PM |
| 144 | Being sexually desired ≠ Being respectedNot only that, but the majority of men don't even respect the women that they're with. They don't even respect the Madonnas. They find her to either be prudish or someone that they have to humble, use, or break down. Getting the attention of any man is simply not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 11:19 PM |
| 303 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?They believe that harming women and abusing women is synonymous with masculinity, and a rejection of that is a rejection of men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 04:30 PM |
| 9 | hot take: pickme women are worse than lvmI wouldn't call them worse, but I do believe that the danger/damage that they can inflict is different. I think that their level of access to other women in a way that LVM don't have is what can make them dangerous, but the problem is that the person that they ultimately throw other women at is the whims and violence of LVM. Unfortunately, the women that court the patriarchy get hit a little bit harder than the women who are used to patriarchal shenanigans because we know what their shit is abou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 12:55 AM |
| 19 | What does FDS think about the rise of the “stay at home girlfriend?”Sounds to me like another way for women to give low-effort/no-effort men labor who haven't earned it. You do all of the labor and then they dip for something that they think is shinier. That way lies madness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 12:44 AM |
| 137 | 'RACE PLAY' probably means he's lowkey a RACISTThere's nothing lowkey about race play. It's run-of-the-mill racism couched in the already abusive dynamic of BDSM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 04:47 AM |
| 180 | Anyone heard of the Tobe & Fat struggle love story?I totally intended to post that here. Tobe wasn't SHIT before his wife. He was another struggling soundcloud rapper. Martica came into his life and she made him do better than he was. I absolutely despise how this is the type of love that is pushed towards Black women in particular. There's not too many people more LV than Tobe, and she knows that she can do massively better than him. He is truly NOTHING without her. He doesn't have that humility though - the way he talks to her in this video is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 09:32 PM |
| 69 | Here are a few OLD phrases to look out for as a High Value Women:"Here for a good time, not a long time." - INSTANT block. Partying pictures WYD? Anything stating "vibe" in the profile. "Pam to my Jim" or any other The Office references. "BLM" - I assume you're just trying to either get a progressive woman or get a black woman notch on your belt. Fishing/MAGA/American Flag/Military photos Looking for my future ex-girlfriend No Drama Sex Positive/Kink-Positive Polyamorous/Open/Ethical Non-Monogamy No Bio Recently Divorced/Separated Snapchat/Whatsapp I have a p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 05:51 AM |
| 25 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?The understanding that men will largely bring you nothing but a new form of anxiety and misery. There's very few HVM and likable men out there, and that attitude has never failed me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Would you date someone divorced/ have kids?Not anymore. I got really attached to my ex's kid and the breakup was made worse because of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 10:28 PM |
| 37 | "Let's see where things go..."God, Tracy does such a service with that website. I need more people to truly pay attention to WTF she posts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:39 PM |
| 1 | A Different World: Was Dwayne Wayne LV?Also the fact that he had Whitley living in a whole fucking ghetto, wearing the same shit, until they got a better place. Dwayne knows that Whitley has standards. The series knows that Whitley has standards. So why are we putting Whitley in a shit area despite her upbringing? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:31 PM |
| 2 | A Different World: Was Dwayne Wayne LV?Dwayne is unquestionably LV, and I kinda despise how the series softened Whitley to be more tolerant of his bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 11:27 AM |
| 1 | Right as we are about to get a place, I found out my boyfriend lied about his income.This is yikes all over it. You want to be beholden to a man that dgaf about you by being a SAHM? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 08:26 AM |
| 6 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.Dani suffers from poor pussy management but had all the fucking smoke for everyone else. Light skin doesn't make up for poor pussy management either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 05:56 AM |
| 14 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.That's the thing: her light skin makes her innocent and worthy of second chances. This is part of what was meant in the other thread about not letting MoC triangulate. It's easy for someone to say it but it has to really sink in for them to believe it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 03:50 PM |
| 25 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.This exactly. I think a lot of people forget how dangerous pick-mes can be towards other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 10:04 AM |
| 15 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.It's very timely, because I can see some of the behaviors that lead to MoC triangulating women just to get their dick wet showing themselves in here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 10:02 AM |
| 21 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.I think the thing is that a lot of other black women are in here shrugging about it. We as women have agency in our decisions. DaniLeigh was not a passive observer in any of this. She was very active in downing and diminishing other women. DaniLeigh is not an FDS rescue mission. She's a woman that will throw another woman under the bus and has shown that she will throw another woman under the bus if it means that she can be picked by the patriarchy. She doesn't have any problem with the patriarc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 09:58 AM |
| 72 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.No sympathy for DaniLeigh. In the words of Mo'Nique, "When you do clownery, the clown comes back to bite." She was fully okay with his antics and being a pick-me when she thought it would put her above someone else. It was more important to her to be the preference, and therefore, more special than dark-skinned Black Women. Now she's being told that she's no different and she's upset not because of what he's doing to her, but because of her ego. There's a lot of lessons to be derived from this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 09:44 AM |
| 6 | Her Persistence Paid Off: How many red flags can you count in this wedding announcement?At least 13. And those are the most egregious ones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 06:37 PM |
| 55 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorThis exactly. What ends up happening when Black Women don't play their odds better and limit themselves to black men is that we end up accepting LV behavior and romanticize it. The 'Black Love' narrative is romanticized to keep black women in line. It's a fantasy on par with Disney romances. We believe that our inability to keep a black man means that there's a problem with *us*, and not a racist and sexist beauty standard that places white women as a status symbol. It also keeps us as soldiers … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 05:53 PM |
| 49 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorAnd what a lot of those white libfems don't understand is this - If the white libfem's race works to her advantage, in a patriarchy, the black man's sex works to his advantage. Don't give men the benefit of the doubt in a patriarchy, period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 05:47 PM |
| 7 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorI think this question views the entire thread in the wrong way. It's not about black men not being attracted to white women. I've found that most black men aren't particularly attracted to white women, but they are attracted to what white women represent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 05:36 PM |
| 25 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorSame. I think another problem is that BW also aren't honest with ourselves, but that's a different discussion for another day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 05:23 PM |
| 220 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorEXACTLY!! That's what it boils down to. The type of femininity that these sorts want is a response to a stimulus. The behaviors they call "masculine" are frequently survival based behaviors, because that's a position that far too many women are put in. It's a way that some of these men indirectly shit on themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 03:23 AM |
| 75 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorBecause of the legacy of white supremacy. Understand, a lot of black American men feel the need to compensate against other men. Because of white supremacy being so harsh on them in particular, it places them at a disadvantage. Young men tend to be more acutely aware of this. As a result, white women are seen in the same realm as luxury cars and high-end clothing. It is the white woman as a product, and the status that she can provide for men. It's the belief of "ALL men covet WW, how can you no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 02:47 AM |
| 343 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorYou're correct on this. Also, to be even more frank, I've noticed white women will tolerate more LV behaviors out of MoC than they will white men. Do not do this. Example: black men approaching white women on the street. I've even seen in a comment here with a TikTok video where a woman said something about the Black dude that approached this woman as being "handsome". They will get giggly and sweet because their fantasy just came up to them and approached them. No. Approaching a woman on the st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 01:36 AM |
| 89 | Grown ass 30+ year old men taking highschool/college girls way too seriouslyAnd the truth is that these are the same men in their 20s that didn't take care of themselves - and they let that shit seep into their 30s and up. Scrotes who were ugly, smelly, dirty, unkempt garbage in their 20s didn't have a glow-up in their 30s and very rarely glow-up. That requires self-reflection, of which they have none. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 08:16 PM |
| 20 | Homicide is a top cause of maternal death in the United States: Black women have up to nearly three-fold higher risk of dying by homicide than those who are not pregnant. This is why you have to stay EXTREMELY vigilant when vetting men!Honestly, it's because we've been socialized to believe that our lives aren't worth living without a man. That any man, no matter how awful, is better than not having a man at all. Because we've gassed black men up so much, and because black women frequently tend to set the trends, they've been catching the eye of non-black women. Too many non-black women will be harsh as hell on their own men but will fall into a puddle of "cool girl"-ness when it comes to black men, since they're what's curren… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 07:06 PM |
| 13 | Homicide is a top cause of maternal death in the United States: Black women have up to nearly three-fold higher risk of dying by homicide than those who are not pregnant. This is why you have to stay EXTREMELY vigilant when vetting men!Basically. Black men have the problem of being the lowest of LVM. Since they can't measure up to other men, they have to berate women instead - and not just any woman, but black women. I wish that we would stop making excuses for them, marching for them and believing in this black love fantasy that's always pushed on black girls. Little girls get Disney pushed on them, little black girls get black love pushed on them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 07:01 PM |
| 177 | Grown ass 30+ year old men taking highschool/college girls way too seriouslyIt easy - they know that they're the ones that young women won't pick, and because those young twenty-somethings have a lot of men in their age group that are much better for them, they hate that those young women have that choice. I mean, all things considered, who is going to go for the balding, drooling man with the beer belly, lack of hygiene, and erectile dysfunction - especially when they don't make nearly the amount of money that they claim to young women that they do? Young women having … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 06:56 PM |
| 4 | How Do You Handle Friends Trying to CompareThat's a bitter person. Know how you solve this problem? Drop her as a friend. She doesn't see you as a friend - she sees you as a competitor that needs to be cut down. Not only does it make you feel better in the long run, but it makes her have to stare down her own problems as well. She can't compare herself to anyone, so now she's about to get evicted by herself. All that 'baby weight' that she lost didn't keep her in her place, did it? Even as you're living with your family, she won't have a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 06:51 PM |
| 28 | When it comes to "High Value" communities targeted to women, many are belong in the trashThese pick-mes are out here strong and wrong and intentionally misleading people so that they're not alone in their misery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 08:03 PM |
| 46 | When it comes to "High Value" communities targeted to women, many are belong in the trashAnd what she doesn't realize is that he absolutely wants marriage - just not to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 07:48 PM |
| 3 | How do you deal with HVM that know they have options?Who the hell cares if he can get any woman? You have to think about yourself. Eyes on your own paper. This seems like a situation of pre-emptively calling him a HVM when he's likely not one, just has the trappings of one. Any man that triangulates you with other women or threatens you with other women isn't HV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 06:15 PM |
| 12 | Dating experiences of intelligent/highly educated/successful women: Tell me your stories and give me some advice!I have been working on a Ph.D, but am currently in the middle of a career change and have put school on hold for a bit for a cross-country move. When you are educated, the extreme majority of men are LV. They either want to be with you because they want to live off of you and your degree becomes THEIR degree, or they despise you because you won't listen to them and their trash opinion. They have a penis, which means that they know more and are more than you! Degrees mean ambition, and nothing is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 06:11 PM |
| 24 | “Never tell men about your trauma”Never share trauma. Most men are LV and only want to siphon you for what they can get off of you. They want to steal your light, and no man - not even the HV ones - are equipped to deal with a woman that is a fully realized person. They'll throw your humanity back in your face because you aren't a perfect, 2-D bangmaid. I told a guy that I had depression and anxiety. He then went on to tell me that it was the reason why we couldn't be together because "Two people who have depression can't be tog… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 06:05 PM |
| 99 | When it comes to "High Value" communities targeted to women, many are belong in the trashShe knows how this is about to end, and she doesn't like it. Being a single mother is fucking brutal out here, and that's a situation that she's about to be in and doesn't want to be in. The people in that community are saying "Hey, you should just accept your lot of at least having the pretty ring box but not actually having a ring, because he's still buying a house for you." The appearance is better for her than the reality, but the reality is starting to close in on her. This is where being a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 05:59 PM |
| 16 | Job interviews are like datingThat's me right now. I had to block and delete someone who attempted a work scam with me yesterday. Blocked, deleted, and reported on LinkedIn. Had to turn down another interview where they didn't want to pay me market value. I do, however, wish that women in hiring and HR weren't so fucking competitive and nasty towards each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 05:56 PM |
| 121 | No man is ‘seemingly HV’ — he simply did the bare minimum on the first couple of dates. Stop labeling men HV too EARLY on!There's a lot of low-key Pickmeisha's that truly believe that their guy is HV. They're not HV. You haven't read the handbook enough. You don't want to vet because *~*feelings*~* and vetting is such a hard process. I get that the feelings happen, however, FDS encourages you to IGNORE THAT SHIT. It's strategy for a reason. You can't strategize well when you've been dickmatized. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 05:52 PM |
| 6 | Ashnikko and her songs: are Gen-Z ladies finally getting fed up?This is the same libfem shit that I can't stand. Empowerment so does not equal sexuality. Be okay with being a sexual creature, however, it's that sort of sex-positive lib shit that states that women can only aspire to being property, and that empowered women understand and accept that they are community property. There's nothing empowering about it. It still asks someone to 'choose them' as property and disrespect them as a person and cast them aside. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 07:07 PM |
| 16 | Please don’t idealise men from other culturesI'm going to put in my bit. Black American men ain't it, ladies. Mahogany Pink on youtube broke it down. The reason why they shit talk Black women is because of INTENSE self-hatred, and there's a lot of non-black women that think that shit is cute. Newsflash - they don't tend to marry non-black women either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 06:43 AM |
| 10 | Doesn’t it seem like men only value women who they think are out of their league?No. Men value the status that certain women can bring them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 05:27 AM |
| 6 | I met himIs this a joke post? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 08:14 AM |
| 19 | Share your experiences with violent homeless men. I'll start: he punched me in the face on public transport...Frankly, I think that radical/leftist men envy the primal violence of homeless men. They see themselves in them, and they absolutely support their right to personhood more than they respect ours. Homeless men are fucking awful, and are absolutely dangerous. I'm at least happy that cities like Austin have cracked down on their encampments - it makes me feel safer as a woman being able to just be, rather than having to put up with shenanigans from degenerate scrotes that don't have anything to los… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 05:26 AM |
| 35 | I screwed up.STOP. Listen, you are getting a Masters because you're getting something BETTER. Congratulations to him - he's a man with a job. So the fuck what? Dime a dozen. The reason why it's not meant for you to be working yet is because you're about to go for something big. Any butterfly has to sit in the cocoon for a little bit before it takes flight. And when a butterfly is in a cocoon, is it paying attention to what the other butterfly next to it is doing? When you take the trash out, do you check and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 05:55 PM |
| 67 | The mystifying "logic" of a pick meShe needs attention at all costs, and it doesn't matter who it's from. You're doing right. She's hopping on the Histrionics bus and I would stay far the fuck away from that shit. If she were to get hurt by one of those men, it would somehow be someone else's fault. She's about to burn down here in a bit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 07:03 PM |
| 37 | are guys allowed to roster date?Hell yes, this is a big red flag. If it's one thing that men aren't, it's subtle. If he's trying to do the whole "I'm fond of you" shtick, it means that he wants to fuck you, but he's going to always have his feelers out for someone that he values more. If he's trying to be 'subtle', it's because he's on bullshit and is being deceptive. Also, please stop referring to randos as 'HVM'. HVM are vetted. Because it's so early on, he'd be crazy to not multidate if he didn't feel anything for you the s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 07:47 AM |
| 28 | Let's assume this is a straight woman... I hope she and others who feel this way finds this sub because this was really sad to watch, and I hope she doesn't find out the hard way that 95% of men in the dating pool are trash and all the people she's seeing in relationships likely aren't that happy.My heart absolutely goes out to her. I have had moment where I've felt like that - usually during my more depressed moments. When I'm operating at a more normal baseline, I usually am just repulsed by men. At 25, I was in a relationship like this. The reason that it ended was because we ended up going in different directions in our lives. Sometimes people outgrow each other, and what she's seeing is this couple's highlight reel rather than the shadowy moments where things aren't so great. I've h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 07:44 AM |
| 5 | The IckHe kept a disgusting house. If I didn't clean it, it would remain that way. He was always trying to triangulate women. He never wanted women that he was with to be friends with each other. He always tried to make sure there was a weird tension between all of us. Imagine when me and his ex-wife became fast friends? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:11 AM |
| 4 | Every fanboy getting ready to quiz me on the backstory of a random-ass character that was on screen for two seconds to prove I'm a fake fan:I get this ALL THE FUCKING TIME. Got it in public wearing a Cult of Luna tee. Metalheads are either sweethearts or utter douchebags. There's no inbetween. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:03 AM |
| 98 | I love my friend, but she’s a pickmeisha.It's so funny, because girl is clearly living in opposite-land. She's the easiest woman possible - a woman that makes no demand of any man that she's with - and she's STILL not doing well with it and she's still mad at other women because they're successful at what they do. Again, being a Pick-Me is THE WORST self-PR. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 08:13 PM |
| 36 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.Yikes at that conference. ALL of those scrotes are hideous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 05:20 AM |
| 3 | This is what you get if you act „low maintance”. You are worth less than a good PC setupThat thread is rife with pick-mes and assholes. "DeBeers has done a hell of a marketing job!""My hubby bought me a Moissanite ring because I don't want to have an entire mortgage on my finger!" "She may be low maintenance but SHE'S A GOLD DIGGER FOR HAVING ANY DEMANDS AT ALL." (also said by the same men that also ask "Why won't women fuck me?") Let's be honest here - while he's nickel-and-diming over a fucking diamond ring, he needs to add up how much everything she has done for him over the yea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 07:18 PM |
| 2 | Spotted in another sub. Subtle red flag that I (as a short-legged woman) have experienced too!Shit, I just posted this to the wrong thread. LOL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 07:18 PM |
| 164 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.There are, indeed, losers in polyamorous relationships. That loser is always a woman. People need to get a fucking clue and cut this shit out. The men in polyamorous situations are often not ever prizes, either, so they're fighting for what again? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 06:02 PM |
| 67 | Pickmes and 🤡🤡🤡: “If you are so picky, you are going to be single forever.”Honestly, I've found more single pick-mes than not, so what's their excuse for why they're losing? All that shit about what we should and shouldn't do, and men are still annoying women like me. Being a pick-me is the worst type of self-PR. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 06:24 PM |
| 5 | Message for side plate pick me’s. You’ll never win by disrespecting yourself & other women.This is the shit that makes me wish that Alienation of Affection returned in more states. Make these pick-mes take the warts and all. They'll think twice when they're going to wreck their bag too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 05:43 AM |
| 13 | Message for side plate pick me’s. You’ll never win by disrespecting yourself & other women.This is the utter fucking truth. Storytime:I was with a guy for 3 years. He cheated on me with a woman he told me to never worry about (because of course). She was pretty well unlike me (not pretty, not accomplished, not interesting, had no friends), but she was certainly okay with him cheating with me. She played the damsel in distress role perfectly (and was also Asian, which is fucking Kryptonite to white tech bros, which he was. I'm Black, and that's not so popular with the tech-bro crowd), … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 05:38 AM |
| 2 | Why staying in a toxic relationship makes you NV (lower than LV) when you have childrenI read that thread. Mom's a huge pick-me. She was just happy that her dirtbag frat-bro boyfriend decided to become her dirtbag husband and goddess know what the fuck she may have done or gave up to marry this guy. She's raising her daughters to have the same non-existent standards that she has and to put up with the amounts of abuse that she has just so that she can say that she has a man. Honestly, she puts me in the mindframe of either a libfem who married a piece of shit and ended up voting i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character?Animated character - Setsuna Meiou (she comes off a little bit different in the manga - she has unrequired love for Endymion in the manga). In the manga, Rei Hino. Setsuna commanded respect. Period. She's very tall, no-nonsense and doesn't GAF about anyone but Chibiusa. Mamoru does not wow her. While she's a bit different at the door, when she's reincarnated as a human, she does really amazing things with physics, is probably the smartest person in the series, and doesn't bother with men or even… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 02:42 AM |
| 48 | This is why it is important to vet and advocate for yourself, ladies. It's life or death for some of us. No one, neither progressive nor conservative, will speak on this because our lives don't matter.It was fucking silly. You had people marching because people read "Black Lives Matter" as Black Men Matter, but fuck black women though. People treated Breonna Taylor like a fucking meme and Ma'Khia Bryant like a fucking animal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 02:14 AM |
| 1 | Remember the ex you wanted to marry? Let’s all laugh togetherI have one! Was stingy about his money when I needed help, but would lavish me with stupid shit like a Trek road bike when I already HAD a bike and lived in an apartment. Had a kid. Used his kid as a wingman. Had an Asian fetish. I'm black. Was an asshole to everyone. He didn't talk to people because he was a raging prick. Attempted to triangulate me, his current woman and his ex wife. Well, at least ex-wife and I are good friends! Took care of his kid only when it made him look good or when he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 08:09 AM |
| 20 | NYT - Why Sex-Positive Feminism Is Falling Out of FashionI was just coming to post this. God, this is such an important article. Young women are learning FDS principles and applying it in what they want for themselves and their relationship and are realizing that porn sets them back. It's a fucking horrible industry and leads to horrible men and horrible views of women. Women get turned on and we are sexual creatures, but we want to be on our terms. Not on the terms of conservative men that view us as personal property, nor by liberal/progressive men … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 10:05 AM |
| 19 | Small wins!! OF to ban porn.Exactly, but apparently libfems and other idiots think you can "feel" and "good vibes" your way out of anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:32 AM |
| 118 | Small wins!! OF to ban porn.Big shock there. This also proves, time and again, that SW may "feel" empowering to impressionable women in the short term, but in the long term, they're easily exploited and cast aside. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 09:32 PM |
| 3 | More reasons not to entertain pickmes - these girls know what they're doing to other women.You better preach, sis! I see so many libfems that believe that women have agency, but when it comes to side chicks and pick mes, they have no sway over their actions and they're just naive, unassuming women that are just in the dark. They aren't responsible for their behavior, you see, and we should never hurt the feelings of a side chick. They believe that women don't owe each other loyalty and respect in regards to side chicks, but we all owe side chicks and pick mes endless reserves of empat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 04:59 AM |
| 3 | More reasons not to entertain pickmes - these girls know what they're doing to other women.This is why I don't have a lot of mercy towards Other Women who cheat with men in relationships. The men are without question LVM, but ladies, should we really be dumping on each other and hurting the next woman over some scrote? It allows the men to never have to check their behavior because they can always count on some pick me to aid them in their ego boost at another woman's expense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 04:46 AM |
| 2 | Why feminist men don't exist and why leftist men STILL don't give two fvcks about women.And the fucked up part is that in my local circles, the men that I know have raped women have all been the loud "I'm fucking FEMINIST, bitch!" sorts. If a man is calling himself a feminist, I'm running. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 05:07 AM |
| 47 | Progressivism is just as rife with cool girls and pick-mes as conservatism.Never. It's all about the comfort of scrotes. Fuck the women, we're always collateral damage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 04:55 AM |
| 4 | Polyamorous, Every bi woman on dating apps feel this video I am certain.Dead on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:55 PM |
| 7 | Would also love to have more conversations about how we can be more intersectional and open to discussions about race and feminism ❤️I have a friend of mine that is a sex worker. She's luckier in that she is able to select her clientele and set her limits. Men, however, have wanted to pimp her and take her earnings and leave her a percentage. What young women don't get when they glorify this shit is that the latter is more likely than they think. The former is not at all the norm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 05:05 PM |
| 49 | Men who lie about their careersI live in a city with a really prestigious university. The amount of men that are obviously lying about going to said university is out of this world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 04:59 PM |
| 2 | Black women of FDS (mixed-race women can chime in too): How do you feel about the "swirler" movement?Hit me tf up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 09:53 PM |
| 14 | Black women of FDS (mixed-race women can chime in too): How do you feel about the "swirler" movement?Divesters generally show a lot of FDS, radfem ideology. It's a very "black woman first" policy. They tend to dispense with any loyalty towards anything BUT black women. Their main idea is if the community offends you and fails you, cut it off. An example of personalities correlating to each idea: Christelyn Karazin is more swirl-oriented, while Kendall St. Charles is more divestment-minded. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 08:44 AM |
| 25 | Black women of FDS (mixed-race women can chime in too): How do you feel about the "swirler" movement?Oh yeah. High Value Black men, from my experiences, are raised in homes where they're not coddled. They're expected to make something of themselves and are taught respect from a YOUNG age. They're going against a lot of cultural programming. There's a reason why there are a lot more Futures than Russell Wilsons. They're also raised in communities where it's safer for them to show behaviors that would get them labeled as "soft" in the majority of our own communities. Our community dynamics genera… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 11:34 PM |
| 38 | Black women of FDS (mixed-race women can chime in too): How do you feel about the "swirler" movement?Thanks for the award. But yeah, 33 years of life has given me the ability to see past the bullshit and say things as they are. A high-value Black man is amazing when one can be found, but they're exceedingly rare and the odds are often against them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 11:16 PM |
| 40 | Black women of FDS (mixed-race women can chime in too): How do you feel about the "swirler" movement?And the fun part about men like this is that if one of his black homies did something to you, he'd never protect you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 11:13 PM |
| 108 | Black women of FDS (mixed-race women can chime in too): How do you feel about the "swirler" movement?I'm of two minds about it. The swirler community is great to encourage black women to date out and to put us in situations where we can do that. The truth is that the vast majority of black men are not high quality at all because our communities don't encourage HV behavior out of men and yet encourage pick-me, pack mule behavior out of black women and girls. We have an epidemic where you can throw a rock at a crowd of black men and not hit a single high-quality one. Black women are much higher q… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 10:54 PM |
| 1 | I raise you Over 30s Midwestern LVM starterpack.Went to UIUC, can fucking confirm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 06:48 PM |
| 3 | What do we think? https://www.elle.com/life-love/a35398184/alienation-of-affection-lawsuits/I absolutely think that the scorned spouse should be able to sue the other woman if she's aware of the relationship. I feel like there's a lack of nuance regarding OW, and while many aren't aware of what's going on, I think there needs to be an understanding that 1. There are women out there that have no problem steamrolling over other women for their own ends and 2. OW behavior leads to MORE, not less, LVM. OW that know what's going on have agency, treat her like an adult and hit her ass with s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 11:24 PM |
| 38 | Your friendly reminder that unicorn hunting and polyamory are one and the same. Both are bad news for you.And if she asserts herself, she'll be said to not being ethical or being selfish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 01:18 AM |
| 4 | Looks like Jeannie Mai is about to take a huge L.I hope she likes them enough to take care of them solo. 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 11:31 PM |
| 11 | Looks like Jeannie Mai is about to take a huge L.Exactly. She acts like she's getting a prize. And the fun part is that her having fucked around with Jeezy means that she's going to have issues even attracting anything but rappers anyway. Oh well, she just took one for the team. 💅🏾 This is what happens when you give ashy-ass advice to us (black women) in particular and don't know what you're talking about. These dudes got a passel of baby mamas that they created and Jeannie thought that her Asianness was going to save her? Chile... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 09:51 PM |
| 10 | Looks like Jeannie Mai is about to take a huge L.I'm sure she won't be jealous of Jeannie in a few years when he knocks her up and dips. These pick-mes need to stop thinking that they're special. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 08:42 PM |
| 6 | Where's the lie?Yeah, I'm visiting my grandparents who live close to Indiana and the men on Tinder are next level trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 09:33 PM |
| 17 | Where's the lie?Put down out-of-shape and Trump supporting and you've got me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 06:32 PM |
| 4 | If you could go back and give your 23-year old self dating advice, what would it be ?Better to keep your standards high than to be the "cool girl" and relax them for someone who will cheat on you and leave you for someone else when they get confident anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 07:07 AM |
| 1 | The comments are filled with libfem cool-girls and the scrotes they fight for.The cringiest response of all: God we keep getting these shitty posts lately Women like you make it very hard to convince these dumbass men that there’s legit harassing, trash men out there And yes that’s on them for generalizing but ffs you’re acting like this to a dude who’s not trying to fuck with you or bother you at all Also, you sound incredibly dull. You’re the type who I’d tell my boyfriend to move on if he showed me this conversation. You’re barely trying. You come across as pretentious… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 03:57 AM |
| 2 | The comments are filled with libfem cool-girls and the scrotes they fight for.When I was younger and in my pickmeisha stage, I used to give paragraph long lecture-responses to make these scrotes feel something that they didn't care enough about. It never worked. As I got into FDS, I stopped doing it. I feel even better not expending that much energy on some limp dick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 01:25 AM |
| 3 | Chloe_ tells you to walk away and put yourself first.Yeah. He does something involving insurance and they live in a 250K house in Texas. Her husband, James, is about 20 years older than her, and was married prior to being with her. He cheated on his wife with her, and she settled for him. As a result, she has a really fucked up relationship with her stepdaughter. A lot of the information that she gives isn't information that she's actually utilizing. If anything, she's not particularly FDS at all, she's a lot like Ro Elori Cutno but is on the othe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 03:33 PM |
| 3 | How do you forgive yourself for being a pickme (my journey to FDS)We all make mistakes, and have to start somewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 02:34 AM |
| 12 | Chloe_ tells you to walk away and put yourself first.Be careful with SheRaSeven. There's nothing actually hypergamous about her. She married some old scrote that only makes 70K a year and settled for him after having been with him for 10 years. Her relationships with her stepdaughter is acrimonious at best and she likes to give any woman not like herself a hard time. https://www.lipstickalley.com/threads/what-do-you-guys-think-about-sheraseven1.2121539/ If you're black, use Christelyn Karazin (The Pink Pill), Bougie Black Girl and Chrissie instead… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 01:56 AM |
| 79 | You shouldn't have to beg for respect. Never *love* a man who would disregard you like this.Too many words, sis. A block says more with less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 02:46 PM |
| 3 | It’s the colorism, misogyny, ageism,and blatant disrespect for me. Black men are taking a full on L for this one.Chile, the dudes manage to be actively not shit. They turn 40 and bother women like me. "Hey black queen/sista/ mother of the earth." I cringe at that ashy shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 07:17 AM |
| 2 | Woman finds out dirty dick husband is cheating with his mistress again. She sues the Pickmeisha mistress AND she sues her husband since he bought a condo to use as a love shack. Looks like the condo will be going bye bye.Illinois removed that in 2016. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 06:22 AM |
| 2 | What in the PiCk Me I’M a CoOL GirL Hell is this????!!!Oh, athletic metrosexual men are my weakness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 06:13 AM |
| 75 | Who told old men young women want them?I'm in my early 30s and get 50 somethings trying with me. (They also think I'm 25, but that's another story) Beer guts and limp dick doesn't work for me. Get me a big dick silver fox with money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 09:17 AM |
| 5 | 🤡*Circus music slowly gets louder*🤡Does it explain why the great majority of pick-mes aren't actually picked and that the ones that do always marry abusive losers that try to cheat with "bitches" like me, though? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 03:40 PM |
| 3 | Op accused of tattoo/body shaming in the comments for saying this dude looks susI joined the group earlier. These mods make me want to throw them into the pit. I know there are some women that chase scumbags but holy shit. They took the bar and buried it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 04:53 AM |
| 1 | Round 2 of Great Value Post MaloneLol, the mods/admins are the worst ones. I've seen some pathetic chicks but good fucking God they're pathetic. They're not doing us any favors here. That group = libfems calling out LVM, but simultaneously still having no standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 04:50 AM |
| 3 | Op accused of tattoo/body shaming in the comments for saying this dude looks susDamn, I'm sorry! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Round 2 of Great Value Post MaloneThat thread were a bunch of Pickmeishas projecting their personal traumas on this dude and feeling some type of way because he's bawwing about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 04:26 AM |
| 2 | Round 2 of Great Value Post Malone🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 04:22 AM |
| 2 | Round 2 of Great Value Post MaloneI saw the other thread and had to join. The comments in that post are full of women with no self- worth. It's a fucking disaster. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 04:20 AM |
| 8 | Round 2 of Great Value Post MaloneThe shit part? People in the comments were throwing the panties at him and telling him how brave he was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 05:27 PM |
| 12 | Round 2 of Great Value Post MaloneGod needs to strike him with some lightning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 04:50 PM |
| 8 | Round 2 of Great Value Post MaloneHe did put it in his tinder profile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 04:46 PM |
| 16 | Round 2 of Great Value Post MaloneI really should show you guys the comments. There are a few calling him out but it's just a mess of LVMs and the libfems that love them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 04:09 PM |
| 7 | Round 2 of Great Value Post MaloneUpdate from: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/iu78ig/op_accused_of_tattoobody_shaming_in_the_comments/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share The comments are as bad as y'all think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 04:03 PM |
| 6 | Op accused of tattoo/body shaming in the comments for saying this dude looks susI really want to join this group to laugh at this bullshit in particular. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 06:11 AM |
| 40 | Op accused of tattoo/body shaming in the comments for saying this dude looks susApparently, Pickmeishas and libfems think guys like this are misunderstood sweethearts. We should never judge a man by his trash appearance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 02:01 AM |
| 28 | Op accused of tattoo/body shaming in the comments for saying this dude looks susThat guy is a giant red flag. "Don't judge someone with prison tats! He's likely so sensitive and such a good guy! Ever wondered why the bar for men is in hell? Because you can always count on some Pickmeisha to sniff his dirty draws. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 01:49 AM |
| 25 | Op accused of tattoo/body shaming in the comments for saying this dude looks susIt's the libfem/pick-me mantra. Find an obvious LVM, act willfully obtuse, act shocked when he slows LVM behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 01:44 AM |
| 6 | Dear Reddit LibFems: Nobody died and made your self important asses the gatekeepers of feminism. We're not "fake feminists" because you don't agree with us, nor are you as inclusive and non-judgmental of women's choices as you pretend you are.Because libfems is still about rich white girls slumming it before they find their husbands. Libfeminism is today's version of sending your daughter to uni to get a husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 07:11 PM |
| 11 | Dear Reddit LibFems: Nobody died and made your self important asses the gatekeepers of feminism. We're not "fake feminists" because you don't agree with us, nor are you as inclusive and non-judgmental of women's choices as you pretend you are.A lot of libfems are only feminist until they get a man's attention. Then they become MAGA soccer moms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 07:00 PM |
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