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It’s unusual. But if it happens it usually because older men have more of their life set up. It’s not necessarily about gold digging for fast cars but more of that guys got a house paid off he lives alone in and she can stay in and get away from her own miserable life
/r/ExRedPill03/01/24 05:21 PM
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And that can apply to casual dating, if you’re willing to walk from them they’re probably willing to walk away from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 05:18 PM
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Yeah but if you’re confident in your relationship you’ll realise that aesthetics alone won’t destroy that. Now if your relationship is on the rocks and her ex fiancé walks in after winning the lottery and loosing 3 stone and now has a six pack - then you have something to worry about.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 08:11 PM
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Yeah but the confident man know that’s a woman who is actually in to you won’t leave you for a stranger. Sure people can be attracted to others but really the insecurity people feel is a form of jealousy. Why do you think women go back to their ex’s for example? Sometimes it’s convenience sometimes it’s connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 01:12 AM
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Not really because if they feel confident they know they have value in themselves in a different way Like if I a guy has dark hair and a guy with light hair enters the room, you’ve just gotta accept some people like vanilla more than strawberry doesn’t mean either is wrong. If I’m in a situation where a conventionally more attractive guy is deliberately trying to outshine me I’ll just sit back and let him burn himself out. If I’m not longer enjoying my time in that room I’ll leave of my own acco…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 01:09 AM
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I don’t think that really has anything to do with red pill but coke usually always leads to sex, and getting drunk leads to coke cravings because the two go hand in hand, same way some people only smoke cigarettes or smoke more when they drink.
/r/ExRedPill30/12/23 12:38 AM
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In my experience men rarely care for friendships with each other and don’t care for going out for meals together. Most activities are planned around meeting women
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:05 PM
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Or you could try a mixture of both - put yourself out there be nice but don’t take shit and have self respect. You can be nice without being a push over or a simp.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 07:25 PM
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It’s insinuating that your boyfriend isn’t knowledgeable and is therefore incompetent. It’s kind of like if you asked one of two friends for advice, your other friend could say “what’s wrong with my advice why didn’t you ask me?” Implying that their advice is less valuable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 02:18 PM
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I literally just told you how to do what you’re already doing more effectively. Don’t insult your boyfriend by asking another man for advise.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 05:07 PM
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Fine but don’t ask another man’s opinion about where to go on a date with your boyfriend because It makes you boyfriend sound incompetent suggesting you’re unhappy in relationship and it’s opening up a conversation. Also It almost sounds like an invitation for them to do a better job and/or continue hitting on you. All they here is “my boyfriend is shit at deciding where to take me on dates or how to entertain me, and he only wants to eat junk cheap food.” Basically you might as well have asked …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 04:38 PM
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Yeah they’re a turn off, but they will reach a level of indistinguishability. You won’t know that there’s a filter there and we will be happy in ignorance.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 09:45 AM
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Yes - I agree that is an arousal factor - but my point is that technology will reach a point where it is indistinguishable and you will unknowingly be catfished. Similar to how we already have digital filters. If it can make a real webcam woman go from a 5 to a 10 and is passable, consumers will never know any different.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 08:18 AM
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So if I’m on 400 test 200 tren 200 mast a week what are the chances of me knocking a woman up?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 08:25 PM
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Are we going to get to a point where “virtual pornstars” exist though? I mean if people never meet them face to face, for all intents and purposes, they could exist already. That would keep the “illusion” in tact. We could potentially be being catfish and never know any different. You could even make non-erotic videos or interviews with them in day to day life. Or eventually speak to them on webcam in real time. When VR meets AI in real time; that’s going to be hell-a dangerous. It probably will…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 07:49 PM
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What the fuck are you talking about? “Needing” a college degree? “Face maxing” “Gym maxing”? For fucks sake man. This is incel talk. Look if you’re sociable and mentally and physically healthy with a decent amount of confidence, and are somewhat financially self sufficient, you’ll have no problem attracting a mate who is also attractive. You can do that shit at 16 or 56. Doesn’t matter. You don’t need 6 figure bank accounts and a Bugatti to take a girl to the park or cinema then bang her in a Va…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 06:37 PM
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Then the incels go for the bussy, problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 04:17 PM
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Testosterone replacement therapy, in a higher dose, is called a steroid cycle. Steroids are very common amongst gym goers nowadays. Even the likes or Arnold knocked someone up and had a kid whilst on a heavy cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 01:26 PM
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Freedom of speech mostly. I’m happy that there are opposing views and debates. Just like women are free to post FDS content. So long as they’re not breaking any laws, it’s fine, they should be allowed to voice their opinion. It doesn’t mean it’s right. Or that it works. Or that it attracted healthy partners. Hopefully, a lot of their content is aimed at self improvement rather and walking away from people that are not interested in you, rather than dating advise. What should not be on there and …
/r/ExRedPill19/02/23 11:42 PM
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When was the last time you got your testosterone levels checked?
/r/ExRedPill06/02/23 11:12 PM
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Not even this, women do have secret sex. Usually it’s with an ex or there are logistical reasons such as distance or housing as to why you cannot see each other again. I’ve slept with my ex seven times post break up. No one knew. And nearly every time she pulled away / ghosted / stopped replying or reaching out. A few of those have been back to back, as in two nights in a row. She called me over the next day and says she’s spending an extra night for example, I know our sex was good I’m not inse…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 02:03 PM
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Yeah it is. And healthy partners will just loose interest over time, ghost, or block you. Even unhealthy partners will be thinking “I deserve better” and eventually cheat if they don’t end things first. This creates a self fulfilling prophecy when the perpetrator gets abandoned/cheated on. Not that they’ll care as they have likely lined up a new supply already.
/r/ExRedPill19/01/23 12:25 AM
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BPD women usually are attractive lol. It’s just that they tend to self sabotage relationships, usually with tantrums ghosting or cheating. And then as they get older they tend to comfort eat, drink/drugs a lot, to self medicate. As a result they gain weight as a combination of that and medication increasing their appetite.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:57 PM
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Because at some point you’ll probably realise that you had a unicorn who would have stayed with you if you’d treated her better. Some women will tolerate a bit of rp especially if they have high interest, and you might trigger their anxiety causing them to work harder for your attention by “acting more feminine” or giving you gifts of sex/affection/food/sometimes even money. But you may come to a realisation that they had high interest anyway and that they lost interest because you kept pulling …
/r/ExRedPill16/01/23 10:30 PM
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Men don’t want to do that because vasectomies are supposed to be permanent. That’s the equivalent of offering hysterectomies as a form of birth control. A lot of people who are for example in their 20s who are sexually active and or in a relationship, want the option to have children later in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 07:09 PM
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You know local anesthetiser is painful to inject? I was injected in to the base of my shaft / mound 6 times. The doctor told me it was 1 injection immediately did a second and as I got my words out he said we’ve just done the third, you’re over half way now. Gotta say, crafty, but good phycology trick. And you’re already in manageable pain so you’re sort of thinking fuck it what’s one more. Waiting for that to actually numb you, I think I was given lignocaine, takes time. It honestly would be qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 07:07 PM
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Input doesn’t matter if the processor is different. Just because you have more buttons on a keyboard doesn’t mean you can type faster. Nerve endings is kind of irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 06:10 PM
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That was literally one date and I did about 3 dates that month, all of them went fairly well. I genuinely didn’t care much for the girl. I met her in a night club the day before, I got her number, when she turned up she wasn’t who I thought she was - I was quite drunk that night. I’d gotten her number earlier in the night.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/23 08:30 PM
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Every bitchy woman I’ve delt with is usually still angry at a break up from her ex boyfriend. Usually it’s a case if he’s cheated she still loves him he’s begging for her forgiveness but she’s still angry at him, so she goes out and tries to get someone new. She doesn’t actually want anyone new she just wants to know that she could for the ego boost so that she can say “1:1” in her head. Therefore she doesn’t really care about you, usually projects the anger she’s feeling about him and her now b…
/r/ExRedPill10/01/23 03:08 PM
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Fucking hate everything about him. His name, his cow boy attitude, his fake suite, has accent, his casual “tell her to come over with and bottle of wine and make dinner.” So that you can set yourself up from a statuary rape case. I don’t hate RP I just that one cunt in particular, I find him to be disgustingly cringe and out dated. I just can’t watch him anymore and I disagree with a lot of the bullshit he says, there are much better coaches out there. Anyway after reading your post and not givi…
/r/ExRedPill10/01/23 10:49 AM
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Because love is about respecting your partner, and you cheating on him is not respecting your partner. You do not have an agreed open relationship. This is not something you have spoken to them about, you a hiding it from them. You’re lying to him by omission, so that he doesn’t leave you, because you know your behaviour is wrong. If you really believe you’re better that him tell him the truth and see if he stays. Tell him you want an open relationship. Tell him his dicks too small. See how well…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 02:41 PM
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Sorry you’re so sensitive That is literally not an apology, it’s classic narcism
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 02:35 PM
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He’s honestly lucky to have me That just proves you don’t respect him and the relationship is not equal. You’ve already cheated on him. Just end it and be single. You shouldn’t tell him you cheated however.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 05:16 PM
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You’re missing the point entirely. Whilst women are not a commodity, equality is expected as a minimum; and you are offering far less than that. A minimum fair trade for a person giving you their time, energy, money, and resources, to making you and your life feel better, that you do the same and give back to him through loyalty and admiration. If you want a man with an 8 inch dick and that’s your standard - fine. But you should not have trapped and married a man with a 6 inch penis if you knew …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 02:46 PM
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Then look in to the underlying reason why the sex is bad, or why the relationship was allowed to progress despite physical incompatibility. Sex is a skill that can be improved with communication and trust, if attraction is present. If you’re not having good sex, it’s usually a symptom that something is wrong with the relationship dynamic. Therefore you don’t really care for each other or care about them enough to respect monogamy. Therefore the relationship should most likely end. You should bot…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:36 AM
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Not if they are actually satisfied in the relationship. People will only wish to stray if they are can get a better deal elsewhere. If you a man and woman in a relationship share respect communication and good sex, he won’t want to sleep with others and the thought of sharing her is something men will kill over.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:26 AM
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Society is not becoming more tolerant of non traditional life styles. It’s more so that people that object are silenced and encouraged not to speak against it, whilst those that already accept and allowed to speak up more freely. What I’m getting at is I don’t think thing society opinion is changing, just the vocality of it is. So there’s less hate which obviously good, but I don’t think it’s increase in prevalence it’s just less taboo. Logic and emotions are different. Jealousy is a core emotio…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:22 AM
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Honestly I think the answer is: Only see them once or occasionally twice a week. When you do see them, they’ll fuck you like crazy. If you get too comfortable and see each other too often, the relationship will probably end before the sex does. I also think this is why some men have rotations. So you have three nymphos a month rather than one.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 05:10 PM
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Also the issue with robots could very well be that they are “too nice/blue pill” to date. There’s a lot of science behind maintaining attraction and interest of a mate. There’s a reason that video games and slot machines are not pure dopamine hits all the time…. With the pleasure has to come suffering for there to be equilibrium. Otherwise you pay for it in other areas - not just financially. I mean people/men are going to pay for it in unsatisfactory loneliness, thinking “maybe a doll is all I …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 01:29 AM
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Nah, I have a rotation instead. Non of it casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 11:05 PM
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Oh I’ll still fuck them and have one night stands. I just get attached and sad when I can’t see them again. I generally think casual sex is just because you’re not good enough to be a relationship partner. I’d rather a fling where we try a relationship to the point of fucking and annoying each other and grow apart. I’ve had a few of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 10:50 PM
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If I’m vibing with someone to the level I want to have sex with them, good sex is only going to make my vibe more. At that point im going to want to see them again. Unless of course the sex was terrible. And even bad sex is more to do with attitude and lack of enthusiasm (no vibe) compared to aesthetics or technique.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 10:45 PM
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To me it’s not satisfying without an emotional connection. To that’s like saying (I’m heterosexual) “Well can’t you just let your guy mate give you a handjob?” Well I technically could but why not just do it myself?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 10:43 PM
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Every good one night stand I’ve had has been because we felt a physical and emotional connection. If I’ve not felt an emotional before sex, I’m unlikely to feel it after, and I’m unlikely to want to contact them again. If I feel the sex was good, I want to see them again. Wanting to spend more time with a person, is a form of a relationship. Even if you want to call is a friendship. If you exchange contact details, it’s no longer casual. If they don’t want to see you again, it’s rejection. If yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 10:33 PM
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Tbh I think that is contradictory. Your casual sex evolved in to LTR’s. Starting a relationship with sex and having, no relationship, as in, zero contact and never seeing that person again, is causal sex. Casual sex is what you have on a holiday or business trip. A FWB arrangement is not casual sex in my opinion, that’s the foundations of “a relationship” no matter how you want to define it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 10:28 PM
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There’s a difference between quick sex and casual sex. Sex on a first date does not have to result in casual sex or one night stands. As a guy any one night stand I’ve had, I’ve been pretty much prepared to see them again. And generally the only reason we didn’t enter some sort of relationship was because of logistical reasons or I did something to fuck up the attraction (when I was younger and inexperienced, completely blue pilled, needy/desperate cringe texts etc). FYI I don’t think casual sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 04:29 PM
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I would say forgive yourself. The relationships probably wouldn’t have worked out, regardless of your red pill interface, because of your then mental health, and doing rp was probably your way of protecting yourself. If you hadn’t been rp then you probably would have got fucked over or heart broken, which would lead you down the rp path now. I do think rp is stupid and unnecessary. But there’s also an element of “if someone really likes you, they’ll put up with it.” Just because those relationsh…
/r/ExRedPill04/01/23 10:33 AM
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I think the more ideal description is “is prepared to listen to and be lead by the husband” Generally, women can be quite agreeable if they like someone. I’m not saying that in a misogynistic way. I think most women are quite happy if on a date, he takes her likes in to considerations, picks her up in his car at an agreed time, leads/drives her to the location, parks and pays, shows her the directions to the restaurant, pays for dinner, drives her home, and hopefully she likes him enough to have…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 10:57 PM
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It’s not real it’s just a drug in a different presentation. The issue should be on why they are not doing something to fix their undesirability.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 07:42 PM
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They won’t catch on because men want status not orgasms. You can’t get status from a fucking lump of plastic. Also, there’s no variety. You’ll get bored fucking the same doll and as it doesn’t have feelings you won’t feel compelled to keep or respect it. So you’ll just get another one to spice things up. Unless you’re going to have a random setting mode on it. And yeah I can see that shit being a subscription for the AI model pretty easily like tinder plus/gold/platinum, if you upgrade you can c…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 07:35 PM
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I thought this post was aimed at her tattoo. What does it say? Till I hinge / live / die ?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 07:24 PM
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Better looking people have more options. Looks arnt everything, personality matters. An orbiter can get in eventually if they pull back. There’s a reason they’re allowed to orbit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 12:01 AM
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I can answer this as a stupid heartbroken guy. My ex and I dated roughly 2 years ago. After 6 months, she broke up with me. I never got over her. We stayed in contact, we slept together a further 3 times (for multiple nights each time) roughly 2 months apart each time. The last time, it was pretty shit, she wasn’t as in to it, she was distant, and she gave me an std. As a result of this we ended up going no contact for almost a year. A year later starter talking again and eventually slept togeth…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 11:58 PM
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Then you should have the maturity to understand the risks and be able to accept the outcome. Any relationship you have you should be prepared to have it end it tomorrow and accept it’s over, it’ll hurt like hell, but they owe you nothing. All he’s saying in that message is just because you can, doesn’t mean you should, fuck over younger naive people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 04:06 AM
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RP a self fulfilling prophecy is essentially teaching a person how to be a Narcissist - which doesn’t actually work if you have empathy for other people, you care for them, and trying to suppress all of the quantities that make you a healthy and attractive human partner. Narcissistic tactics only work on unhealthy people. You’re essentially only attracting other people with cluster B behaviours. Any mentally healthy person will tell you to get fucked and block you. The exception to this is if yo…
/r/ExRedPill21/12/22 01:12 AM
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Why do we need gender equality? Why can’t we just accept that men and women are different? One is not better than the other. Each has different strengths and weaknesses. We can be different and still respect each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 06:07 PM
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Probably yes. r/BorednIgnored is a thing And just to humblebrag, I had a girlfriend give me a blowjob whilst I was playing call of duty. It was quite fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 07:00 PM
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There’s nothing illegal with asking woman in a bar or club if they would like to come back to your place. I’m not suggesting spike them. And obviously if they’re too drunk to consent or overly intoxicated, avoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 05:11 PM
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I didn’t say it was a good idea…. I specifically said it was a bad idea… I don’t recommend it. It’s highly risky and leads to nothing but a string of casual meaningless sexual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 05:02 PM
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One thing to remember is that a lot of woman who are attracted to those “bad boys” have attachment issues and some form of cluster B personality disorder. Usually there is some deep rooted trauma within them. They are enjoying the chase. These are not idealistic or healthy relationships. These often toxic traumabonds and combinations of addiction traits, including drug/alchol/sex addiction used to self sooth and distract. Basically these bad boys are potentially exploiting vulnerable women. If y…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 03:58 PM
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Not really sure if people are understanding my question. If you match on tinder for the first time ever, and even they come over straight away and are in your bed 1 hour later, I’m counting that as 1 hour, not the 30 seconds it takes to get the from your front door to your bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 03:03 PM
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Was half joking there. I tripped over in the gym last month. I was carrying two plates and I full on tripped over a dumbel, stumble for 2 metres, drops the plates, faceplanted the floor… felt My dignity leave my body. Laid on the floor deciding if it was worth getting up … did two press up and laughed it off then stood up looked left and right to see if anyone noticed. and a cute girl did ask if I was alright. I said yeah that’s how you do a drop set right? She laughed a bit and that was that. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 12:52 PM
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Bad idea, if you’re a regular at the gym you’ll gain a reputation for being “that guy”. Flip the script by falling over and having a girl ask if you’re ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 09:13 PM
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But you implied that woman only fuck older men for money and that sexual preference doesn’t come in to it. You’re accepting that sex work is not enjoyable, then there’s your answer as to why the majority of women avoid it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 09:45 PM
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All I’m really reading from this study is that taking a woman to a zoo and watching chimps fuck each other is going to make her horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 09:15 PM
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If that is your opinion, why don’t you just date a man and do gay for pay? Because what you’re essentially implying is that women have no emotional attachment to people and simple degrade themselves to men for money in in exchange for their pride. Even a man can do the same nowadays. Go find yourself a sugar dad and see how easy it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 09:09 PM
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Which requires confidence. Many lack that and simple cannot be bothered to put up with the criticism, competition, harassment, or energy required to build “customer rapport” if you want to call it that. You’re also forgetting that the majority of young women are not exceptionally good looking if they do not look after themselves. This is almost like saying “all 18-25 year old men could go to the gym, get 6 pac abs, and fuck 52 women a year.” They… technically… could… but a very small minority of…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 04:16 PM
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Girls usually just want a man who is heavier (and or taller) than them so that they feel smaller.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 07:40 PM
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No. They’re delusional as fuck. Usually incredible narcissistic too and think they’re gods gift.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 05:14 PM
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Is focusing on work really making you happy though? Compared to having a family?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 01:42 AM
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Eating more calories is a phycological issue for me. I seem to alternate between that and fasting. All paused lifts: Bench 120kg x 2 / Squat 140kg x 3 / deadlift 220kg x 4 I find my form goes out the window if I go higher, I try not to ego lift, generally my training lifts are in the 5x5 70% region. My squat should be higher but my knees always fuck up partially due to my height and inability to hit depth, otherwise I could quarter squat 4 plates for ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 09:55 AM
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6ft 5 so yes very tall. I was a fat 270lbs before I did anything about it. I lost 100lbs in 2 years. Lifted a bit natty for 3 years gained about 30lbs whilst underrating. My natty weight was around 210lbs, eating more would just get me fatter. I juiced a bit and got to a lean 220. But instill looked dyell. Then I got robbed and thought fuck it. I juiced and ate a lot for 6 months later blew up to 250lbs. Even then I didn’t look juiced and I wasn’t ripped. I didn’t have a gut but I wasn’t lean ei…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 05:47 PM
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It’s not fatphobic to want someone with similar interests and values to you. What if he’s a power lifter for example and he’s not in to looking skinny or lean and eats pizza all the time? I personally don’t want to date a woman who has limited interest in better her physical health. It’s all downhill physically if she lives off Uber eats and alcohol all the time. I like a woman that once a month says “alright, I’ve binged too much, time to reel it back in” before she goes off the rails too much …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 04:02 PM
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If you’re a virgin male in their 20s, it’s a red flag because… Something has gone very wrong in your life for you to not have had the balls to get up and go after what you want. It’s likely a trait of being really fucking awkward and not knowing how to interact with people. That’s not going to change overnight. I knew a girl who was 32. Hadn’t had sex in 4 years. Body count of 2. Both times were to her then boyfriend in relationships. She was a virgin until 25. Sounds good right? Wrong. Girl was…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 07:18 PM
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Maybe you should be on your own then.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:34 PM
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Bye
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:32 PM
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Problem is on bumble a lot of women put no effort in to the opener and instead just say Hi
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 06:16 PM
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Polygamy isn’t the normal despite what the media are trying to brain wash you in to, it’s very niche and most sane people catch feelings and won’t tolerate it unless you back them in to a corner or don’t give a shit about relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 05:51 PM
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He’s not happy, he just has no other option as he’s trapped. That’s different. In her words, if she left him, he would most likely take his own life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:14 PM
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If a relationship starts off monogamous and one person (usually, it’s the woman, I don’t think a man would dare to…) suggests “opening” the relationship, it’s likely that they are already cheating and are just looking to relieve the guilt. I’ve personally witnessed this. He was in to it. She didn’t really want the relationship to be opened though, she said she just wanted him to be a better partner. He probably would have benefited from getting in shape (he is obese) and sorting out his testoste…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 02:54 PM
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Cheating is a consequence of being unhappy in a relationship. It’s perhaps an indication that the relationship is not working or that your partners behaviours are causing you to resent them. If someone is cheating in a polyamorous relationship, I’d say that’s probably because they are jealous of their partner or are looking to monkey branch to a different relationship - perhaps even a monogamous one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 02:19 PM
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Sure sure…. One minute you’re sitting on Grindr… next minute you’re sitting on a cock
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:26 PM
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You’re not straight if you’re on Grindr 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:01 PM
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Yeah but the reason they’re doing that is because they can’t necessarily find what they are looking for. You’re also forgetting that gay men are segregated by the role of “tops/active” or “bottoms/passive” as most don’t enjoy both.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 09:00 PM
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I don’t understand what she’s saying. Is she implying that some men can get a woman based on their looks alone? Ask her if 19 year old male Instagram influencers get invited on to 50 year old cougars yatchs for free just for being handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 01:32 PM
1

Skin is an organ and a reflection of your general health and diet, Testosterone boosts collagen significantly which actually improves skin. If you’ve got bad skin maybe consider reevaluating diet and life style, considering if any food allergies or intolerances, and whether you need roaccutane. I take testosterone and my skin has never been clearer than it is now. Although I know that beer or bread will likely cause me to have small break outs, so I generally stick to vodka and rice or potatoes.…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 10:46 AM
1

I think a lot more women would be put off knowing you’re insecure enough to be applying make up compared to just embracing who you are. Nothing wrong with skin care and washing. But as for make up, the one exception is maybe if you have a particularly noticeable facial spot or boil and you cover it with foundation. But if you’re getting in to contouring and whatever then that’s a no go.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 09:45 AM
1

“Of course he’s natural! He just works out really hard for 4 hours twice a day every day for 20 years! You could look like that if you worked out every day for 20 years!” People also think that captain America and wolverine are natty. They’re juicing and/or using CGI of body doubles of professional bodybuilders. I’m kind of annoyed by people saying “you don’t need steroids to get bigger, just work harder.” Whilst there is some truth to that, as most people are not at their genetic limit, 20 year…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 12:10 AM
1

I am a steroid user. I don’t look like those, professional bodybuilders. I don’t use a lot anymore, I’m on a fairly conservative dose of testosterone. When I was juicing hard a few years ago, the attention I got was pretty insane, just from having abs and shoulders - I still looked natty to the average person. But the fact that I could get so lean whilst still being big was the advantage. You don’t have to be “overweight” but when you can get lean it’s noticeable. The problem with cutting natty …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 11:49 PM
1

Study said are they are physically attractive, not are they attractive. You can think someone is attractive without wanting to fuck or date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 09:11 PM
1

What the hell. If I find out a woman has kids she won’t even get a first date. It’ll just be “cool, nice talking to you, bye!”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 10:57 AM
10

Not necessarily, sometimes people can play games but you’re not their target you’re just a pawn for who they really want.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 08:26 PM
60

Not necessarily. So long as you are physically fit and don’t have children, you can maintain your attractiveness to men your age and younger. Men tend to get turned off by games and playing hard to get. Loyalty, Maturity, confidence, and directness can be attractive. These tend to increase with age.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 06:23 PM
1

Who the fuck cares about statistics. Go find one and stop worrying what everyone else is doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:48 PM
1

I was thinking something along the lines of “there’s a lot of lonely sluts”. There are girls out there willing to do nasty things with you on the first night. But they arnt necessarily bar hopping or on tinder or Instagram. They’re likely sitting at home on the sofa with a cup of tea and they Havnt had sex for a couple of years. And honestly you’re most likely to meet this sort of woman through work or jobs - she’s the type of office secretary that will fuck the gardener.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:01 PM
23

Chasing ass is a waste of time if that’s what you mean. According to trp relationships are pointless. Well yeah, so are friendships. Relationships are just friends you can fuck and have more feeling towards… I wouldn’t want to go out with a new group of friends every week. I like seeing the same friends I know and have history with.
/r/ExRedPill03/11/22 12:40 AM
1

I’m a childless male and I’m repulsed by children. I won’t bother to talk to single mothers. You won’t get a second date or even a first. I barely want children of my own, let alone someone elses. Ive been warned this will happen more as I approach 30… I’ll simple date younger around the 25 mark.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 10:39 PM
1

Depends on the investment from both sides. Are they paying 50:50 Who is travelling or putting in more effort How long are the dates Are they seeing other people What are the logistics (who’s bed are you in), how serious are the dates, is there anything else going on? Health problems, injuries, periods, contraceptions for example. Generally women want it just as much as men do. If she’s making him wait deliberately, she’s just teasing, so walk away and move on. If for example a girl strips off th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 12:28 AM
2

Black pill: Women only want sex, but never with me because my jaw line is not defined enough so I might as well give up at life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:57 AM
1

Guys that act blue in moderation but think red. They buy their girl flowers on special occasions, knowing that she will get turned off if he does this every day. There is such a thing as being too nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:55 AM
8

Yeah I was thinking that also…. We tend to look at old people as innocent but forget that they were subject to the same temptations as today. I mean sure they didn’t have tinder or only fans or internet pornography, but they still had “ladies of the night” and late night cinemas, porn has been around since the cameras first came about in roughly the late 1800s, and before that they would write or draw it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 07:12 PM
1

Yes I’d agree with that…. But sometimes that can be worked through if both parties are willing to communicate about each other’s needs that are not being met.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 01:12 PM
1

It can, there must have been some initial attraction for the relationship to have started. Unless they have done something to give you the ick or destroy the trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 09:31 AM
1

What if: the only requirements to be in a relationship… were that you both want to be in a relationship and are respectful to each other? If both parties are willing to give equal effort, it can and does often works, as is the case in arranged marriages. What if the decline is simply due to a loss of physical attraction? Which can be rectified. Often it’s physical and mental health that causes relationship decline along with taking each other for granted and a growing resentment for the mistreat…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 11:18 PM
1

Who are these people and which gender, that are saying to enjoy the decline of what? Less sex? Less dates? Less options? Is the question, should people do things to prevent the decline or getting less sex as age or are in a long term relationship? If so my response is no they shouldn’t just accept it, they can change it by raising their own sexual market value. Everything else you’ve said just sounds like incoherent word salad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 02:43 PM
1

I’m not really sure what your argument is? Anyone of either gender can raise they sexual market value by being in physical shape. Even if you are woman who is considered past her prime (rp would argue that’s after 30) you can still attract men by simply look after your body. The only real thing that will drastically lower your SMV is having children, as a lot of men will consider that an immediate disqualification from dating, unless said children have reached adulthood. Men can increase their s…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 12:29 PM
1

Because even a 60 minute punt doesn’t teach you how to have sex or be competent in bed. Neither does a 5 minute blow job and 30 second blow and go. Honestly to get good at sex you need confidence and trust with your partner. Me and my first girlfriend were both virgins at 18. We dated for 3 months first, and last 6 years. Our first time was not bad at all (from either perspective). We took things slow and communicated throughout, used condoms and lube and put down a towel, then talked and laughe…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 12:20 PM
1

Eggs increasing cholesterol is a myth, there must be something else going one. More likely you are stressed and have high cortisol levels. Unless now you casually mention you’re on sertraline of a similar ssri, are you on any other medication?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 05:11 PM
1

Is your cholesterol high because of being overweight or poor diet? Both of these produce oestrogen, which can fuck up your sex drive. You may even have gyno as a result (breasts). Even if your testosterone is “normal” it can still be very fucking low which will impact your mood. I have “normal” test levels, but I feel like shit and unmotivated if I’m not on trt or if my oestrogen is too high (testosterone aromatises in to oestrogen) .
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 11:53 AM
1

Feminine energy is docile, childlike, appreciative, passionate, emotional, submissive, receiving. Masculine energy is assertive, aggressive (not necessarily violent), leading, directional, stoic, logical, giving/providing, compassionate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 11:49 AM
3

No, but when I find out I’m somewhat irrationally jealous. In my experience though, women with high body counts (one was 20 year old and slept with 18 people before me, since loosing virginity at 16) was fine as a partner, but not someone I was attracted to for other reasons (very poor, wanted kids asap, mother was around about 40 years old) and had a few mental health problems. Another partner I had a situationship with for over a year. She was 23, didn’t know her body count exactly, but I thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 09:41 PM
1

What if he changed his mind, after sleeping with her? Not necessarily because of poor performance or anything like that, but just a feeling of post nut clarity and “oh fuck… I’ve made a mistake.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 06:23 PM
1

Paying for it does not necessarily mean it is any good though. I think people desire a genuine connection. As a man that has paid for sex workers often, there have been many out there that will show little attention or enthusiasm, force you to an orgasm via hand or mouth within minutes and show you the door very quickly when you’ve paid for an hour - leaving you feeling robbed and invalidated. So paying for sex is not necessarily the answer either. And if you do find an enjoyable worker, you’re …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 02:42 PM
1

It’s not manipulation, it’s just general awareness and scepticism.
/r/ExRedPill13/10/22 10:34 AM
1

You replied to a year old comment. It’s not manipulation. It’s just accepting that you can’t control other people, if they want to fuck you over, they will. But at the same time it’s not being so blinded to think that they wouldn’t or couldn’t fuck you over, if they wanted to.
/r/ExRedPill12/10/22 09:31 PM
0

Yeah but no one likes piers. He’s a cunt, I’d back almost anyone else against him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 11:05 PM
0

Spun plates before. All 3 of them were wrong for me. I was in love with one.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 06:38 PM
3

Healthy people don’t generally fall for or get attached to BPD partners. They usually don’t develop a savour complex or a trauma bond. They simple call it off then block and move on. People stuck in a situationship or an on/off cycle with a cluster B generally have low self esteem and boundary and are basically trauma bound to their partner, months or years after it has ended, even if they have dated or slept with other people. I know because I’m still “in love” with my ex and still talk to her.…
/r/ExRedPill05/10/22 05:33 PM
1

Not really. Me and my girlfriend have great sex, without the degenerate stuff. Neither of us want it. There’s a few kinks we’ve talked about trying (like a remote vibrator at dinner) but nothing that crazy. We generally have a lot of sex often. It’s passionate we both enjoy it. I don’t think less of her after sex at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 02:49 PM
4

I don’t need to pose on an app to learn that girls get hit on more often and a significant amount of those men are creepy or cringey.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 03:43 PM
12

Brooo you’re posing as a girl on a dating app getting attention from men… you basically did this for the ego boost and disguised it as an experiment. A lot of girls are on the app for the exact same reason and have no intention in meeting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 01:23 PM
1

I don’t dislike it, and there is a lot of paradox’s to it. One thing me a similar aged male friend have found though - at the end of the day game didn’t really matter. If she likes you, she she likes you. If you can just hold frame it doesn’t really matter what you say wrong inn your first date or your 50th date. I guess what I’m suggesting here is when guys say oh what chat up line do I use it how do I pass this shit test it’s like - this is like asking how to pass the interview without knowing…
/r/ExRedPill03/10/22 05:19 AM
1

Not really. They don’t care because they know that most people aren’t special, and that there are 3.5 billion more of them. They also don’t care because it is noted to have a mission in life, something to work towards. If a person stops seeing a red pilled person, if they are truly red pilled, they will move on to another person and continue working on their life. It works two ways. It’s nothing more than a summery of confidence. But you should also be aware that you catch more bees with honey a…
/r/ExRedPill03/10/22 01:02 AM
2

It’s like a back handed compliment or comment that puts you in your place, which given the right context might be funny, say for example she can’t read a map and he says “You’re not hot enough to act this dumb.” It’s kind of a tease, but generally much more offensive and pressuring.
/r/ExRedPill02/10/22 12:45 PM
2

I’m a guy, not op, and this an exrp sub. My belief is people care. Rp pretend not to care. If they genuinely don’t care, they were never romantically attached. This means that the relationship was not going to work and that says a lot more about their attachment style rather than your own attractiveness or self worth. My take on it is, if she ghosts him, he will just move on. He will start bad mouthing her saying she’s for the streets etc but that’s his own insecurities. He has manifested his wo…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/22 12:35 PM
1

Do ex partners Google your name or keep tabs on your social media? Yeah. I’ve got blocked ex’s from years ago, sometimes I still search their online profile a couple of times a year. Ex I was with for 6 years never posts a damn thing. I’ve never tried to contact her and I’m over her. But I’ve no idea what she’s up to nowadays.
/r/ExRedPill01/10/22 08:04 AM
1

Then let it leak. Your intention is to stop contact with them. What they see or hear about you is inevitable, but it doesn’t matter what they think.
/r/ExRedPill01/10/22 07:56 AM
13

End the relationship and let him jump to his own conclusions? Most frustrating way would be to block them everywhere and have zero contact and do not post a damn thing anywhere.
/r/ExRedPill30/09/22 11:23 PM
1

Variety of women I can give you an opinion on, because I had situationships with 3 women over the course of 2 years - and yes they do overlap and I dated them all at some point. In order of who I met first, 1 was cute and hot but too unstable to be relationship material. She basically didn’t have a job and did lots of drink/drugs and was depressed. 2 I actually loved, still talk to, and we had a relationship for 6 months until she broke up with me (never new about the others). But she is very ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 11:55 PM
2

Because they want sex. Which is why they meet the guy. The are looking to meet and screen them, then have sex or dare or a connection. Your first couple of dates are basically screening if they are a good sexual partner and working out their motives.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 10:39 PM
1

Yeah but not all of us do it for the women, that’s just a bonus. There are reasons to train such as physical strength, longevity, health, posture, improvements in day to day pain relief, less bloating, being physically ready for day to day activities or possible physical confrontations. Improvements in mental health and self confidence too. Improvements in neurochemistry and mood, reductions in stress, an outlet for pent up angry, and social interaction are all great reasons to go. If I don’t go…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:55 PM
3

So does natural crash dieting, or dieting without sufficient protein intake. I’ve done it in the past - always end up like a fucking rake unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:45 PM
1

That sounds an awful lot like someone would say if they couldn’t put on muscle.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 09:13 PM
3

But both of my half sisters are 1 and 3 years older than her, they moved out when I was about 8, I’m not really close to them and I don’t see them much - I’m basically an only child.
/r/ExRedPill26/09/22 02:24 PM
2

I don’t really understand your question, but our mothers are the same age. Ironically her mother had her at 28, my mother had me at 37.
/r/ExRedPill26/09/22 01:40 PM
2

When I was 25/26 I briefly that was 19/20. There was 5 and half years between us. We didn’t work out because we were just very different people, but the age wasn’t a problem. Although it’s honestly not exciting either. She might have been young but she wasn’t all that physically attractive. Personally think my current partner is physically more attractive at 37 than she was at 19. Although the two most physically attractive women I’ve had sex with, were each 19, and I was 24 at the time.
/r/ExRedPill26/09/22 11:00 AM
6

I’ve gone the other way - I’m 28 dating a woman who’s 37 (without kids, that’s a deal breaker to me). It’s still early days, I can’t really imagine introducing her to my family as she’s the same age as my sister. Not that they would disapprove. The age difference doesn’t bother us as we seem to forget about it and have an emotional connection that is quite good. I wouldn’t specifically go out of my way to date older - my last girlfriend was a year younger than me, the one before her was 2 years …
/r/ExRedPill26/09/22 09:45 AM
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Social status seems to consider it a failure to date significantly younger though. If you’re 36 and bring home a 21 year old to the kitchen table you’re likely going to get a lot of negative feedback.
/r/ExRedPill26/09/22 07:38 AM
1

Bold and incorrect of you to assume that. I’ve fucked plenty of 19-25 year olds and my last two girlfriends were all 2 years younger than me. I’m 6’5 230lbs 10% body fat - I don’t struggle to attract women. I’m not dating her because she’s older. The age is irrelevant to me. I didn’t know until we had a conversation and she told me. By then we already had chemistry and got on very well. She’s 6ft slim and a dress size 8.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 02:34 PM
1

I’m in my late 20s but I’m dating a woman in her late 30s. There’s a 9 year age gap. I prefer it. She’s more mature and affectionate, less games, more respectful, isn’t on social media, and is more set up in life. Being older isn’t an issue. She does look after herself physically too - she’s got a better body than a lot of 20 year olds I’ve been around. She is good with her make up and makes an effort with her dress sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 09:37 AM
2

Only works if you’re physically seeing each other and there is an underlying physical attraction from her and there is some sort of pre selection or status that makes her interested in you. For example you’re a mysterious quiet office worker George clooney type who only always says good morning to the receptionist once a day, but he’s always in a hurry to leave site for a client meeting.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 12:41 AM
6

I think it’s better to be too hot. Even if you seem like you’re spitting game or rehearsed lines, that’s actually going to work in your favour. She’s going to assume your shitty pick up lines get lots of women, even if you don’t. Being ultra direct and persistent is confident too. The worse case scenario if you get rejected and then you back off and then go ghost cold because that pull away and contrast is attractive if there was any attraction, and if there isn’t any attraction after that there…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 11:07 PM
5

I don’t think that is directly related to red pill. But it could suggest some underlying self confidence issues and insecurity, which could correlate with red pill? Perhaps a porn addiction or desire to be a submissive? Or being somewhere on the autism spectrum? Or perhaps having an anti social / schizoid personality disorder? It could be a distorted desire to have empathy for a woman, by role playing as one. My advise to you would be that you consider therapy. Be careful as some may project the…
/r/ExRedPill19/09/22 07:57 PM
3

I met her offline at a singles event… I’d recommend them. Not much competition if you’re actually good looking and have game. She’s quite rich too, so we go 50:50 on stuff or take turns. I was really direct with her. Kissed her cheek immediately when I walked up to her put my arm around her waist. Our lock and key didn’t fit so I said to her oh that’s a shame, give me your number. Kissed her on the lips about 10 minutes later, she said I think that’s against the rules I said fuck the rules they’…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 07:43 PM
3

I’m late 20s dating a woman 8 years older than me without kids, low-ish body count, couple of long term relationships. Way less bullshit than women my age and she’s more (financially) independent, respectful, and affectionate. It’s refreshing to date someone that doesn’t even have an Instagram account or know what only fans is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 06:31 PM
3

Purple pill is more of accepting that love is conditional based on your ability to be a provider or “to simp” and also being aware of what red pill describe as female nature. It’s a mixture of knowing your girl probably is going to the club to try cheat on you, but accepting that if she does… your relationship probably isn’t working because she wants to go and you’ll find someone better because you didn’t stop doing the things that made her attracted to you in the first place… (but if that was t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 06:26 PM
1

They still exist. I met my current girlfriend at an event. Another bonus is she doesn’t have social media so she’s not looking for online validation all the time. Admittedly a lot of people there are a bit awkward, but I’d say there’s a fair amount of attractive people there too. Although the best way is to be social. Network and your SO will probably be a friend of a friend. That’s how I met at least two of my former girlfriends. Make friends through a WhatsApp group. Get your Circle of friends…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 07:09 AM
1

My advise would be in person singles events. The sort where 100 people of each gender turn up. It’s so much easier than online dating, no photos posing bullshit, no games, no swiping, and being left on read - if it goes very well you can get a hotel that night there and then. Usually people go to this events alone too. So you don’t have to worry about approaching a group, everyone’s there with the same idea wanting to meet someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 08:34 PM
14

I was with a girl for a while who preferred it. In a weird sort of way, it’s also a lot more intimate. It’s not really something you’d try on a one night stand, only with someone that you really trust. It’s kind of like, you can grab the front but hands off the back. That taboo is kind of the appeal.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 05:14 PM
3

As someone that was in similar situation - I tried leaving multiple times and she begged/guilted me in to staying each time. When I told her I cheated, during an argument where she was pushed me over I tripped and she started kicking me on the floor, at least we had a reason to break up. She got me back for cheating though, she stole 2k from me. I didn’t go out with the intention of cheating. We argued she told me to leave, my parents wernt expecting me home, I went to a bar, met a girl offered …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 04:17 PM
3

I’m not particularly worried because it will come back if I stop taking it. Testosterone is a steroid, and all steroids mimic the effects of testosterone. It has several benefits for me like increased immune system, recovery, energy, mood, confidence, motivation, libedo (refractory/reload period and performance) nutrient partitioning (eating more food builds muscle instead of fat). I’m quite conservative with my doses too. I use enough to do the job, slow and steady, rather than an overnight cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 09:37 AM
1

I wouldn’t go that far… I don’t juice for others. I do it for myself because I like the mood and life style improvements or being high testosterone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 10:49 PM
5

Right. Don’t bother with soap either, just use the pheromones from you ball sweat.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 10:48 PM
5

Spending money on a good aftershave is a game changer. Women always comment on how I smell good and remember me for it. It gives me confidence too knowing that I smell good and get compliments.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 09:15 PM
8

Not always the case. I juice and don’t look supernatural, but then I only cycle about 300mg test a week, It helps speed the process up and keep the fat off. I made the choice after years of yo-yoing and looking dyel after 10 years despite putting on 50lbs. The standard is now to be juiced. Unless you’ve got phenomenal genetics and life style and diet - where as I’m barely making it to maintenance calories.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/22 09:12 PM
2

I don’t think he had any impact. He didn’t change anything. People just found him entertaining and related to the things he was saying. And some of the things just became outrageous. Me and my friends would just starting saying to each other and what colour is your Bugatti. He was just like a rude comedian, not a role model, and I think he was just a character.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 06:57 PM
2

I didn’t say skinny. I said not overweight, which is 60% of the population. Bmi is an indication of health, and wanting a healthy partner is a biological impulse.
/r/ExRedPill13/09/22 03:43 PM
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I don’t think men have particularly high standards for beauty. Honestly most men just want a slim woman. I’m not talking about bones or abs or skinny, but just not overweight. And that’s about what 60% of the population, are overweight. Just a life style change to eat clean and exercise a couple of times a week, will make either gender, significantly more attractive.
/r/ExRedPill13/09/22 03:04 PM
1

Im male and I don’t enjoy casual sex because I get attached. I’m fine with fucking on first dates or soon after meeting, but I don’t want it to be a one time thing. If I want a one time thing, it’s probably because I’m not attracted to them, therefore I probably shouldn’t be fucking them. I have “spun plates” in the past with the same 3 women dating them on/off and I would not recommend it as it’s exhausting. I’d rather put the effort in to one woman. Of those three one I loved, had a relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/22 06:27 PM
16

Why are you shocked that “person who likes to dress for attention” is also an exhibitionist and enjoys getting paid for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 10:27 AM
4

Every time I’ve only had a one night stand that has not resulted in us fucking again it’s been for one of three reasons: 1 - Timing/logistics: A holiday fling or business trip where we cannot see each other again or there is a physical distance between us. Generally if this wasn’t an issue we would be DTF again. 2 - I rejected her because she was awful in bed or did something that was a massive turn off. Generally about the worst thing she could do is reject a guy or lack enthusiasm, have a “hur…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 04:19 AM
2

Yeah if you’re really close to someone, good sex can be as simple as making out and kissing, but with full body contact and nudity, and things just “slide in” to place accidentally. At that point no one cares about positions or stamina or whatever, if you’re having that emotional connection, you literally cannot be bad at sex, especially for a woman’s perspective. I’d say for a man the biggest turn on is eagerness. We’re so used to being rejected and invalidated and “paying for sex” that genuine…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 03:24 AM
15

Jesus that is such a toxic way of thinking. You realise the majority of people just get one partner and monogamously date them for multiple months? Finding quality fucks is difficult. Sex is better with feelings and when you learn what the other likes/dislikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/22 03:00 AM
1

You’re on the right path though, so we’ll done keep at it. Even after I lost the weight and had some shit relationships, it took me a few years to develop that confidence within myself and with approaching women and regularly getting rejected. Rejection happens, it sucks, people can be brutal. But sometimes I can use the exact same technique with someone else and it works, and the problem isn’t me it’s them. I guess I learnt to just be myself, not play games, and not take rejecting personally - …
/r/ExRedPill08/09/22 09:29 PM
1

You can change who you are “being”. If you’re a fat lonely coder with an attitude of “why does no one like me” that’s the exact vibe you will give off. You won’t get people if you’re miserable. If you look and feel good and believe you’re the shit you’re be a lot more confident and fun to be around. But if that’s how you feel then you won’t get it. You’re already approaching the topic with negativity and you’re determined to be proven right. You’re in an echo chamber looking for people to agree …
/r/ExRedPill08/09/22 11:58 AM
3

A lot of these BP are depressed people with no lives. They’re living off take aways, spending all day sitting on their ass not exercising, working dead jobs or no job at all, and spending all their free time jacking off or watching TikTok. Simply being a man doesn’t entitle you to be attractive. That has to be earned. If you don’t look after yourself your mental and physical health will deteriorate and you will give off “yuck” vibes in your appearance first and then in your personality as you be…
/r/ExRedPill08/09/22 12:53 AM
2

I think people are more isolated now. People do less stuff and they sit about at home. People are probably in worse health, mentally and physically and lack social skills. There is a lot more stranger danger too, and social media actually being counter productive when it comes to dating because choice can be overwhelming. People don’t have their own space or independence anymore because of cost of housing and living is going up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 01:11 PM
1

Yeah…. Makes sense https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/wm3o9e/my_ex_with_bpd_is_in_hospital_how_can_i_support/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 08:21 AM
2

So what you’re saying is you want them to want sex all the time but never actually do anything to go out and get it…. Do you realise how absurd that sounds? Honestly you’ll grow out of this opinion in a few years time, you’ll look back and realise you were being very naive. It’s just one of those things you accept. My first girlfriend and I were virgins at 18. We lost it to each other. We were together for 6 years. She was a fucking terrible person. Sex didn’t change that. Also her sex drive was…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 12:04 AM
3

I suppose you want to be her first kiss as well? If you only want virgins you’re cutting off a significant amount of women and or limiting yourself to a much younger age range. Virginity is not always a show of restraint but more of social ineptitude on both sides… if they’re not having sex you have to ask themselves why is their sex drive so low, do you really think it’s going to improve with you? Fine if you’re dating early 20s or whatever but it’s going to get worse as you get older you’re go…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 11:03 PM
1

That wasn’t a typo, you know exactly what I’m getting at.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 06:20 PM
1

I can tell you one of my experiences: She was 32. Didn’t loose her virginity until 25. Has only slept with her first and second boyfriend. First relationship lasted 3 months. Second lasted 6 weeks. Massive fucking tease. Traumatised more than you realise. On paper yes: virgin low body count woohoo. Physically attractive too. Hasn’t had sex in 4 years. Reality: doesn’t fuck because she gets more out of just teasing guys and then saying nah, and then haas a superiority complex about it. Massive tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:13 PM
1

See what I find interesting is if we consider narcissists too be very seductive, they’re effectively getting what the red pillers want. And yet the RP would never tell a woman they directly want them or show any kind of weakness or desire. They’re just that entitled that they think looks cash and muscles sells itself - it doesn’t. It gets your foot in the door at best but there is no chat in the RP other than to ignore her texts or be direct. To me that doesn’t sound effective. I tried it on tin…
/r/ExRedPill04/09/22 10:22 PM
1

Who said anything about taking it away? Who said anything about taking advantage? I slept with a woman I’ve known a month, on our third date, and we both wanted it. I genuinely have feelings for her. I future fake things like “if we ever end up having kids would be so attractive” but I’m not faking - I genuinely think that.
/r/ExRedPill04/09/22 10:12 PM
4

Had a similar conversation with my new partner last night. Our third date, I’m back at hers, we’ve had sex. Pillow talking. Both said something along the lines of feels good to finally get what you want. Isn’t it crazy how a month ago we were strangers just looking at each other from across the room and now we’ve just fucked. I got what I want because I saw her and thought yup - I want her. She said she felt the same before and after we started talking. And yeah the sex was good for both of us, …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 08:51 PM
7

You just straight up said you don’t find her attractive. Maybe you were doing rp tactics. Didn’t work did it? You forgot to sell her a dream. Women can sense if you don’t like them, or if you only want to fuck them, or if you’re being inauthentic such as saying you want a relationship when you don’t. I don’t know how to explain this man but when you come at a girl with the energy of “I fucking want you and I’m committed to fucking you … “ you usually get it. It’s much more about energy / vibrati…
/r/ExRedPill04/09/22 08:40 PM
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You’re too caught up in the philosophy man. People do have sex without wanting to date them. That has nothing to do with alpha ness, if anything it’s a “well you’re not quite good enough a match for a relationship, but you’re attractive enough for a shag” is actually a drawback. Yeah people go through phase where they are single and cannot find a romantic match. In my opinion if you’re dating and communicate and fuck well and the relationship is actually working - they won’t cheat. If they do ch…
/r/ExRedPill04/09/22 07:44 PM
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That has nothing to do with alpha ness. That’s timing and social conditioning as well as alcohol intake. If you’d met her in a hotel bar you could have fucked her too. Do you care if she thinks your beta? You shouldn’t. But what she likes doesn’t get is how you’re thinking, she just thinks you’re immature or jealous. Realistically if she’s told you about other guys she’s fucking you’re friendzoned anyway, so just go cold and move on.
/r/ExRedPill04/09/22 07:32 PM
1

Gym, physical fitness, meal preparation, certifications and vocational work that is not just text book degrees. Group activities that are not focused solely around alcohol consumption. Pub friends are not real friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:09 PM
1

I don’t slut shame but I disagree with the free to dress how three want message. If I turn up to a office/corporate interview in jeans and a t shirt or a track suite instead of a suite and tie and I don’t get the job, who’s to blame? First impressions do matter and people will treat you accordingly. Yes you can have assets just be modest about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 11:16 AM
1

My ex was 26 and 17 stone. Her sisters were early 20s and honestly bigger than her 300lbs This woman is 28 and 10 stone. Both 6ft tall. I didn’t fancy my ex. We met on tinder and she was about 13-14 stone in her old photos. She’s like a si: 10 in a body con dress in uni. Fucking cat fish. But she made all the chat effort. Meet up and she’s About 15 stone in person, but dresses well. We get drunk and fuck in a hotel on first date. Over the next 2 years we knew each other she continued to put weig…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 09:10 AM
5

It’s also a lot easier when you’re not living off take aways and binge drinking 3 times a week like most 20 year olds do with this everlasting uni lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 08:56 AM
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I’m 28 and started seeing a woman who’s 37 without kids. She’s got a better body than most of the 20 year olds I’ve known. And no she’s not enhanced, no kids no fake tits no silicon or surgery. Just looks after her health, non smoker, doesn’t party, walks 1 hour every day, cooks and prepares food daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 12:02 AM
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That won’t fly for much longer. Within the next 5 years it’ll say for them
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 11:06 PM
3

Red pill teaches you how to get a person trauma bonded to you. This is only “works” against unhealthy people will low self esteem. Healthy people will just move on or tell you to fuck off. Not only is this inauthentic and not real love, but they are usually not the kind of partners you want - hence the reason for spinning plates/searching for a new one. I went through a spinning plates phase and it is exhausting and unsatisfying. Even narcissists use “blue pill” or love bombing to get a person i…
/r/ExRedPill28/08/22 05:37 PM
2

I’m not, but I’ve had success with speed dating. Not to much the organised 3 minute then switch events - more of the single events where you go and mingle. Feels more organic, and with your previous knowledge you have an advantage if you’re purple.
/r/ExRedPill27/08/22 09:16 AM
1

Which makes it easier for the rest of us. I’m not saying you have to be alpha, but just have your fucking shit together. Half the people out there are miserable working shit dead end jobs they don’t care about, eating fast food, running up credit card debt, never exercising, and over using social media. If you fix these things you’ve got a damn good chance of getting laid or having a relationship, just by being active and looking after your physical and mental health so you don’t end up in this …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 12:08 PM
1

Monogamous fuck boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 10:59 AM
0

I think it’s dangerous to take away freedom of speech. I don’t see it as a cult, I see it as an alternative viewpoint. Whilst I don’t agree with what they say, I think it’s useful to understand their argument. That is what debate is. Imagine if politically you banned right wing views and only allowed left wing views. Which is basically what has happened already. But then there would be no democracy, only a dictatorship, and that is a slippery slope - one that would probably slide back to the rig…
/r/ExRedPill23/08/22 06:09 PM
1

Also how does one go about treating it? My ex seems to have it quite severely because of her constant and reoccurring self harm. Is it a case of life style/choices can help her to be more stable? Because when we were together, she never cut, she didn’t so drugs, rarely ever drank. She still doesn’t do drugs, but she does overdose, changed jobs frequently, feels the need to cut/self harm, cut her hair off, etc. I wish I knew something else that could how help her. Also she’s the one that broke up…
/r/ExRedPill23/08/22 12:37 PM
2

I know her threats are real, she doesn’t even make threats I just find out later that she’s done it. I’ve actually been speaking to her today, I do have to carry the conversation sometimes but she does respond. At the moment I’m not even aiming for relationship/seduction, just having conversations with her again feels great, I’ve really missed her. I just feel like a bit of an idiot sometimes when she self isolates or shuts me out - but then I know sometimes me not giving her space makes her mor…
/r/ExRedPill23/08/22 11:20 AM
2

She would try therapy for a few months, get back to baseline for a few months, and then go off the rails again. Very sad to hear the person you love is not only in pain but wanting/has attempted to end their life repeatedly.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/22 10:01 AM
2

I didn’t actually call her actions shitty. They’re hurtful to me, but I do have a lot of compassion for her and understand vaguely why she behaves the way she does. She was as a very sweet person, I’m still in love with her and will still talk.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/22 09:44 AM
7

RP value stoicism, discipline, and duty. Doing it anyway regardless of how you feel. Typical old school way of thinking. They tend to say depression doesn’t exist or that it is a side effect of a shit life style, so you should fix the underlying causes: diet, obesity, career, friends etc even if it’s means getting way out of your comfort zone. As for a BPD man receiving mental health talk from a RP community - I would have thought they would be the perfect candidate as they share similarities wi…
/r/ExRedPill22/08/22 11:19 PM
1

I think if someone’s sex drive was that high, that they were having sex that regularly, they would not have multiple partners. If you’re having sex 5 times a week with the same person, presumably you’re enjoying the sex and their company, especially if you continue to do it for 2 years. The idea of a rotation of satisfy sex is almost non existent. Multiple partners are often short lived, hence the desire for a new partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 05:04 PM
2

You asked why men don’t just use hookers. Also I’m not OP. It’s because men do actually want more than a relationship and an emotional connect not just a hole to poke. Statistically the most requested adult service is “the girlfriend experience”. Most men do not want to be racking up body counts, they just want one high/equal value person who respects them. The problem is most men don’t want to do the work and don’t level up to provide anything of interest to that woman, should they even find he…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 04:26 PM
1

I didn’t say that I didn’t, I listed it as a negative aspect to casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 01:06 PM
2

Hooker sex doesn’t make men feel validated or desired because it’s transactional. You’re purchasing something, you’re not being gifted it or chosen. Not to mention a lot of hookers won’t kiss, insist on condoms, watch the time, or forcefully rub/suck you to give you one quick ruined orgasm so that you leave after 10 minutes even if you paid for the hour. They’re just not enthusiastic and there’s no chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 11:22 AM
1

Myself (male) and another male friend have actually discussed if we should not have casual sex with women we want to date. Our reasoning is that sex clouds judgement, puts us under their spell, and we overlook a lot of red flags. If anything I’d say that sleeping with a woman lowers my standards. They usually want to see me again, and that usually ends with us dating and becoming a relationship that lasts for 6-12 months until it fizzles out. But usually I know by the second or third date if I s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 11:14 AM
2

BPD is a severe mental illness that causes a lot of pain to the person and those around them. If it’s any consolation to you, they do feel guilty about their actions, and hate themselves for it. BPD people carry a lot of internal shame, which leads to self harm, isolation, spiralling, and worsening of their symptoms. My advice to you would be to take a step back, understand that she contributed significantly to the break up also, the two of you were not a good match. The kindest thing you can do…
/r/ExRedPill18/08/22 06:29 PM
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Self improvement, focusing on yourself, self respect/not chasing women. Don’t be a dick to the ones that make the effort though. And sometimes you have to approach too - rp doesn’t teach that.
/r/ExRedPill16/08/22 07:34 PM
3

I said one time…. not at once
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 07:30 PM
1

Do you really care if she’s fucked the same guy 30 times or 30 guys once? Not really a huge difference. I usually find girls arnt actually sleeping around instead they have a long term fwb but are always seeking better.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 06:42 PM
8

Lol I just dealt with a woman who was 32 years old had a body count of 2. Both relationships. Each lasting about 3 months next one 6 weeks, she was broken up with both times. What’s wrong with me I hear her say from the friendzone because we worked together. On the surface - nothing. Knows how to flirt. Gets attention easily. Good looking, slim, blond hair, good banter/chat. A little crazy and emotional but not a deal breaker. Hasn’t had sex in 4 years. Get to actually know her: massively fucked…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 04:28 PM
3

Not to mention there’s plenty of low body count women that simply lack opportunity or looks, but their standards are still “sketchy”. As in she could have a count under 5 but she’ll fuck your best friend and she doesn’t count blowjobs as body counts if no intercourse takes place.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 04:09 PM
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There’s a difference between dressing sexy and dressing slutty. One you want to take to your work Christmas party, the latter you want to take to a motel. I’ve dated girls with high body counts. It doesn’t work out if they start showing disrespect and loyalty, or starts to stray. That’s what earns her the slur, not the amount of partners she’s had.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:06 PM
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I don’t think it’s about numbers. It’s about a lack of loyalty and attention seeking behaviour. Wearing provocative outfits to get excessive male validation will earn that name, even if she does not sleep with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 01:06 PM
1

Yeah testosterone can increase risk taking behaviour, along with sex drive. That doesn’t mean that it does. In the same way alcohol is associated with seduction. But just because you get a girl drunk doesn’t mean she will fuck you consensually. The underlying drive still has to be there.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 03:04 PM
1

As someone that tried it, it’s not worth it. I went on three dates. They all liked me. I tried cutting one off h, she guilted me in to staying. I cut her off when she moved. I was loyal to one L who I’m still in love with. I saw the other one S, because she was always available and we had the most fun together. I ended up blocking S and feeling terrible about it, but she was also the worst influence on me. I have her blocked now. Because I genuinely don’t want to keep hurting her and leading her…
/r/ExRedPill29/07/22 04:23 PM
1

Was she? I got addicted to coke whenever I was around her. I wasn’t a very good boyfriend, I never made the effort to hang out with her. But it’s not surprising. I didn’t like her. She was also really fucking expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 11:43 PM
1

Oh she was ex for a very good fucking reason Honestly I didn’t even cry when we broke up. I just shrugged and said fuck that I’m going gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:07 PM
2

I mean I personally wouldn’t want my girlfriend to go on a girls weekend. However, I would not go on a boys weekend either. It’s mutual respect at that point. Even boys nights out, she insisted on coming to them, but I was not allowed on her girl nights out. Needless to say, she is my ex as we had a lot of growing resentment towards each other. What I especially hated though is when me and her had a night out, and she would invite her girlfriends, then ditch me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:22 PM
1

Woman rely more on emotional arousal and trust to get there. Also what technique works exactly for one woman won’t make another woman orgasm, where as men are pretty simple to achieve orgasm. But yeah I’ve had quite a few female one night stands orgasm so I don’t believe that statistic.
/r/ExRedPill26/07/22 06:51 AM
1

If the girl is interested in you, conversation flows. For example she texts first or gives you open questions which lead to conversations. Cold texting a girl who has limited interest is very difficult to get a meaningful response. In that situation, texting is almost pointless, the goal should be to schedule a meet up and save the chat for when you’re in person.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/22 08:41 AM
3

No because men and women are biologically different and heterosexuality is the norm. This is just hard wired biology. Just like men will reject overly plus sized magazine covers. You cannot force them to like something, and when they disagree, you shame and outcast them. Anything outside of that is free to exist. It always has existed. It’s just that nowadays it is getting more media attention. If you think men are going to suddenly be interested in wearing dresses and nail polish because of pri…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 11:54 PM
1

The ideal is an individualistic thing though. Some men like thick thighs and big asses, some like blondes, some like brunettes, some like small and petite, some like muscular or chubby, some like athletic girls with no tits and abs. Looking at the overall statistics is a bit pointless. I don’t care if there’s 10 girls out there that match my ideal, so long as the one I’m with likes me back.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 02:50 PM
1

As someone mentioned already : widowed or married. I’m also adding in: pathologically fear induced abstinence and asexually
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:45 PM
1

I dunno man, I’m interested in a girl I work with and I’ve gone the full purple pill on her - given her many chances. She’s now saying she wants to fuck tomorrow and she’s stripping on facetime. I’ve been watching Chris voss hostage negotiations and applying this to dating to build empathy. It’s working for me so I’m not complaining. Obviously working on the looks and things too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:33 AM
4

Honestly, I don’t hit on girls. It’s not that I’m ugly or can’t hit on girls, I just don’t bother. I’m at that stage where I’m content with the grind phase: all I do is work gym sleep repeat. Yeah dating would be cool but I can’t be bothered to waste another 6 months just to have it fizzle out, spend loads of money on restaurants and hotels, waste days not making progress, eating and drinking junk and feeling shit as a result. I just don’t like it. I quit drugs I quit women I quit alcohol becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 11:15 PM
2

Red pill is basically about developing Stockholm syndrome within your partner. It only works on those that are vulnerable to begin with, and those are probably not the sort of women that you want to be with, most of them will have some sort of cluster b personality and/or mental disorder, some form of traumatic upbringing, and by traumatising them you’re able to make them relive that trauma they confuse fear/love with you. I do think you can get away with a certain amount of shit (rp might recom…
/r/ExRedPill11/07/22 10:46 PM
8

I found that it worked but only on women that I wasn’t in to. To summarise I’d say: shit attracts flies, honey attracts bees. Repeatedly being a toxic partner will result in them leaving you. That doesn’t matter if you’re spinning plates. But to be honest it’s exhausting dating multiple girls. It serves no purpose.
/r/ExRedPill01/07/22 10:16 PM
0

In my opinion acting submissive in anyway in the bedroom, disturbs your partners confidence in you outside of the bedroom. Aka you get pegged in the bedroom that shits going to haunt her next time she wants you to protect her in public. I don’t care how good it may feel, I’m not willing to do that with a serious relationship partner, because it will affect the dynamics of the relationship. But fwb/cougars/escorts whatever sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 10:58 PM
3

When I did steroid I literally had girls walking up to me asking to fuck. The way I got treated was insane. And no I wasn’t big, just lean.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 09:49 PM
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Disagree, each generation is progressively more fucked and annoying than the last.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 03:21 PM
1

It’s not just about sex. But if you stop having sex, something is wrong. There is resentment building and unresolved issues in the relationship. And I don’t currently have a partner. We were long distance and intimacy was a problem. Men trade their attention for sex, and I was getting fed up getting the cold shoulder in bed, or being left blue balled, or sorting her out and getting nothing in return. She was a selfish lover, we eventually stopped having sex and it didn’t phase me. I stopped find…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 05:59 PM
12

Bullshit tbh. If A didn’t turn in to a relationship she would likely get bored. If B had potential and was better looking that A, he would take priority. I don’t think she withholds sex I think it correlates with attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 11:33 PM
3

Sex is the glue that keeps a relationship together. If you don’t find your partner physically attractive, you will start to resent them over time. Also their body is likely a reflection of their life style. For example if youre both carrying an extra 10% bmi from fine dining and take aways - you’ll probably get on. If one of you can’t keep up, or insists on over ordering, or priorities dates consisting of meals out over activities - you’re going to hate that person over time because your values …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 09:42 PM
1

Seriously I’d avoid massively. The onlyfans is swarming her with validation and there is no way you can compete with that. First of Facebook is dated with with them younger generation it’s all about the Instagram. That is like your CV when it comes to dating. Honestly it’s a stupid game, I wouldn’t even bother trying to get women online that you don’t know in person. Basically you’re not going to get with this woman, spare yourself the heartache and just find someone else.
/r/ExRedPill18/06/22 12:10 PM
4

Well... you really can’t tell
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 08:45 PM
1

I don’t think it’s fair to say only alphas go gym. I go gym and I’m not really alpha except I can take the lead in certain situations. That’s not alphaness that’s just confidence. And the gym is a great way to build your confidence if you’re lacking in it. At the moment I’m going gym every day because I used to be a coke addict, me and my gf have broken up, my best friend has ghosted me, and I have no fucking friends.... I seriously dread the weekends when I’m not working. And I’m a workaholic t…
/r/ExRedPill12/06/22 08:43 PM
0

I don’t have a life. I go to the gym every day because it keeps me mentally healthy and stops me from relapsing in to drug use. Sometimes it’s not about what going to the gym gives you, it’s about what it stops you from doing instead. What else you can do? Compare yourself to Instagram people and best yourself up, watch porn or Netflix for hours on end, go out and get drunk (if you’re lucky enough to have friends), or stay indoors and get drunk/smoke weed/do coke alone? Sometimes it ain’t about …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 11:46 PM
6

I think as a man if you don’t have your shit together and you have a girlfriend - there’s a good chances you’re settling. She might be also. You start to resent each other over time. She’s also a distraction to you. You want to work on yourself and lean out, she wants to drink alcohol and go for meals out. You want to work and do overtime or projects, she wants your time attention and money. Time that you probably would be better off spending on things you need to do to get your shit together.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 02:02 PM
3

Maybe cut back on the porn? I mean it depends on you. If you are happy with being potentially bisexual than whatever, you do you. But this is where I’m about to say something controversial: If you are finding that these are intrusive thoughts or that you are not actually that way inclined when you are “sober” and not aroused - then I would suggest you stop indulging in these fantasies that are causing you shame. Again I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with being bi if you want to. But if you…
/r/ExRedPill02/06/22 10:24 PM
1

Being treated as one of her girlfriends was what someone said to me about the way she’s treating me. She knows I like her, yesterday she was telling me I’m just jealous because I want her all for myself. We were naked in bed with the lights off, I had my boxers on, we were cuddling and spooning, I had my hand on her waist and was kissing her neck. I suggested sex but we didn’t do anything sexual, she repeatedly said were just colleagues. I don’t think she’s only in to alpha men, she doesn’t know…
/r/ExRedPill02/06/22 07:34 PM
1

I think it’s more of “she sees me as one of her girlfriends” We got in bed and she was naked ffs. And yet nothing happened. Which draws me to the conclusion either she has issues with sex (didn’t loose her virginity until 25) or as she says she straight up doesn’t see me like that aka I am friend zoned or acting very “beta” as some would say.
/r/ExRedPill02/06/22 04:50 PM
1

It’s not exactly a friendship - we work together in an office and she’s in the same department. She thrives off attention and is swarmed by a lot of older men constantly. But for most of our interaction I’ve had a girlfriend (sometimes more than one) and she actively thinks I’m a player. Also there’s been about 3 occasions where she’s invited me back to her place and I’ve said no, rejected her, and went home. On one occasion I had like 150 missed calls from her then she started sending me voice …
/r/ExRedPill02/06/22 03:11 PM
3

I sort of am this person. There’s a girl at my work. I listened to all her shit. I’ve shot my shot she knows I like her. I’ve been to her house. We’ve been in the same bed, naked together, and we didn’t fuck. It’s actually devastating to my mental health. Especially as we went out for work drinks yesterday she rang me this morning to say she blew a guy from work in the toilets at work. And I feel like fucking shit. I’m cutting her off as a friend. FYI I don’t think I’m bad looking, I don’t give …
/r/ExRedPill02/06/22 08:12 AM
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This argument is similar to that of porn. Everyone is “perfect” in porn and it’s not real. It therefore makes real life look dull in comparison. With porn addiction, even “normal” porn starts to look dull and then people go to new lengths, seeking more depraved inches etc, to get more excitement. You’re talking about raising the bar of attractiveness to meet everyone’s standards, surely that has the same effect as lowering the standards of everyone. Or are you just saying if looks were never an …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 11:02 PM
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I think it depends. My is gym is open between 6-10 and I work between 10-6 with a two hour commute each way. So forgot the morning session. I can only get down there after 8pm. Realistically I’m too fucking tired when I get down there. And as I take caffeine it means I’ll be awake until 2am and it means I’m fucked for my next day at work. I recently had some time off and thought oh I’ll go to the gym. Was getting down there a few days in a row at various times between 11am to 4pm. All the fuckin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 08:02 AM
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I’d say women are generally more social than men. Which is probably why men have higher suicide rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 01:57 PM
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But if you are honestly below average, what other option do you have? If you’re packing three inches and you’re self conscious about it, do something to prepare to work around the problem. There is a lot more to sex than just intercourse, I (and so has she) had loads of fun just using a wand on my partner. I’ve also had hook ups where we just 69ed and no intercourse took place, still had a lot of fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 10:20 PM
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Tbh man own it. Learn to give good oral (hopefully you enjoy this) and if you do get a girl back to yours - just be honest and say: yeah I know I’ve got a small cock but here an 8 inch strapon a give her the time of her life, pound away without worrying about coming prematurely and then get her to finish you off. It’s honestly not the end of the world. You can also get sex toys/dildos/strapons that you wear that will increase your length similar to condoms. Believe it or not; honestly with some …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 09:01 PM
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No but the ability to change and repair things, should provide hope for those that consider themselves to be hopeless. There are some elements of brutal truth that physically unattractive people have less success, but so long as you are able bodied, there’s nearly always something that you can do to improve your looks and confidence. Even stupid things men wouldn’t normally consider, like a good aftershave, can be the cherry on top when it comes to getting a woman interested in you. I don’t thin…
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 06:05 PM
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Same here man. But I lost 120lbs and get treated a lot differently. I’m still naturally shy but you can fix things. I’m not saying you’ll become a chad but you can develop the confidence to go after what you want. Generally the obstacles you’ll encounter along the way end up being blessings in disguise. Also, I had a peek at your profile and pics, you’re not as bad looking as your comments suggest, you could do fine by just working on your confidence a little.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 05:21 PM
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Which can be changed, with a healthy environment and consistent work. It’s mostly your up bringing and social influence that will affect your personality.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 01:11 PM
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Maybe but it’s confirmation bias and a lack of motivation or desirability to improve because they are lazy/depressed/mentally ill as a consequence. There are literally Male motivational speakers with no limbs who are married to beautiful women and successful because of their attitude.
/r/ExRedPill27/04/22 07:14 AM
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Isn’t there a statistic that says ~50% of the population is obese? Or the average person is overweight? There average person is therefore invisible. Both sides only notice the attractive ~20% who meet bare minimum in terms of not being overweight, and being dressed well. Just getting noticed doesn’t mean they’re selected.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:07 AM
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Fun up until the come down, where you’re turning in a club at 2am, seeing drunken women given to RP tactics and persistence/borderline SH, and then see it “work” and that they like it and go home with the guys. And then you’re left standing there where your whole life went wrong and why you Havnt grown out of this yet, then start thinking about your ex. I mean that’s my experience of come downs anyway. I’d still do it again though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 01:02 PM
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Oh I have actually, done mdma multiple times, cocaine and meth also.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 12:48 PM
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They’re not fun, they’re a distraction from misery. Don’t make you happy. They make you less sad. There is a subtle difference, being less sad means not caring that you’re unhappy, but that does not mean that you are therefore happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 11:21 AM
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That’s... probably because a lot of 30-35 have kids, which severely limits their dating options. Most childless men will straight up say “no I’m not getting involved with a single mother” due to a combination of having no experience and not wanting to be a step parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 06:13 PM
1

Going up on stage and asking for an apology may be a bit pathetic. However seeing as how he went up on stage, going up and explaining, would have been a more appropriate thing. If he went up on stage and just said something like “Chris, I don’t approve of your joke. My wife is suffering from a health condition and has chosen to brave it tonight to raise awareness, your joke is in bad taste, I’m disappointed in you.” And then left the stage without making a scene. That would have got his point ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 08:25 PM
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Can you imagine if will smith went up on stage, asked for the mic, told him he over stepped the line, and asked for an apology? That, would have made Chris look like a total dickhead for mocking a disability/health condition. That would have been, much more “alpha”, and controlled, to destroy him with sharp words instead of just violence. I believe it’s Jordan Peterson that says you should be a monster but also learn how to control it. The violence was unjustified. But, in my opinion, a bit path…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 05:21 PM
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The think is, she lives 200 miles away. I’m more than prepared to do the 3-4 hour drive (again) to visit her and catch up, hopefully shag, but I just feel like such a simp for doing it you know? She does suffer from borderline personality disorder, and because I have no trust in her (she fucked another guy whilst we were together but later cried grape because she’s fucked in the head - she’s the one that decided to get drunk and coked up with her favourite person) that I have zero trust in her. …
/r/ExRedPill26/03/22 12:01 AM
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Ah fair enough - I think around that time last year we were all in lockdown so relationships were a lot harder to come by, people tended to just stick with their partners. It was also like 1-2 weeks after my then gf had just broken up with me, we never got back together but banged about a week later, then another 3 months later, then again about 2 months later during which time she gave me and std. We spoke like a month later for the last time as she blocked me.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/22 09:40 PM
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Dude my comment was a year ago lol. But i guess my point was, you’re more likely to put up with shit if you have low confidence or lack of experience.
/r/ExRedPill25/03/22 09:20 PM
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If you go to a club and talk to a girl for a few minutes/hours then ask her back to your hotel and fuck her, do you think she really gives a shit if you make 40k a year? Sincerely 27m that does make decent money, fucked an average looking 21f uni girl I met in a club solo whilst travelling on a business trip, brought her back to a 4 star hotel (on expenses), then never really heard from her again. She kept saying shit like how much more attractive than her i was. And I didn’t pull any red pill s…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 10:05 PM
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You mentioned wanting it to be more like okc then why not just use okc? If it’s just regarding the lower amount of users, that shouldn’t be a problem, if the quality of the individuals is more suitable. It could just be that tinder users are not looking for LTRs which the app presumably is not designed for. It’s just a tool, but most of their user base seem to use it in this way. I have used tinder to meet and date women. I’ve gotten matches. I wouldn’t say that I was a particularly popular user…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 02:59 PM
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Complex post traumatic stress disorder.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 05:10 PM
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Maybe. I am diagnosed with CPTSD. I behave like a narcissist as well. I don’t do weird shit like stalking or begging though. I might want to but I know it’s not effective. I did actually manage to sleep with my ex BPD 3 times post break up, we met up, would spend about 2-3 days together and then she would split on me again and ghost. I honestly did love her. It helps that I found her really physically attractive, she was my “type”.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 01:51 PM
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The BPD ex? She blocked me on WhatsApp’s about 5 months ago. We hadn’t spoken since. We broke up about 10 months ago. So there’s not really any point explaining it again. She lives 200 miles away she’s fucking other guys I’ll probably never see her again. It is what it is. She wasn’t a bad woman. And I got blind sided by a girl 1-2 years ago before her, who I thought I’d never get over, but I did. So I keep telling myself eventually I’ll get over this other girl too. Actually recently deleted he…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 11:39 AM
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Sort of. I’m still dating those two. I’m also had two one night stands. My views on relationships have shifted massively. I’m pretty sure I’m now somewhat broken
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 08:35 AM
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Didn’t meet new women. I met three around the same time, she was one of them. Me and my BPD ex were only officially together for about 3 months. There may have been some overlap where I cut the other two off. One of them moved back home during the pandemic (150 something miles away). The other one (lives 30 minute drive away) and I met up with her a couple of times especially when my ex was splitting on me or ignoring me or kicking me out etc. I just never cut any of them off. The two I have now…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 11:45 PM
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I’m no saint either - because I was seeing three women at once. I tried to cut off the other two when I “chose” the BPD girl. It was more of, I really liked her then that event happened and shit got real and the relationship sped up significantly and quickly. I am dating both other girls still nearly 2 years on so I must be doing something right in terms of relationships. They’re all long distance that’s the shitty part.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 09:14 PM
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She has Borderline personality disorder, so the whole experience has been.... well how do I describe it. It’s like Stockholm syndrome, with a narcissist. She didn’t do anything wrong she never hit me or did anything directly bad. But going through for example, her overdosing on vallium, after ‘she had been raped’ at a party/gathering (two guys two girls all doing coke), and the breaking up every 3 weeks or so, the constant passive aggressiveness. The 3 times we hooked up after the break up, the …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:51 PM
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I ended up trauma bound to a cluster B, it’s been horrendous to get over. Nearly a year later I’m still not over her - and we only knew each other for a few months.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:41 PM
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What makes you think the person has no feelings for the “side person”? Often it’s an old flame or a co worker. A relationship develops. It gets deeper. Feelings get involved. People get lonely. It becomes sexual over time. You ever had more than one platonic friend at the time? Do you hate your other friends just because you’re not hanging out with your best friend? Cheating doesn’t always have to be a relationship failing... just another relationship.... succeeding. And then there’s guilt and i…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 06:44 PM
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Just to play devils advocate, I don’t think that’s a gender issue, it’s a society issue, we’re all becoming increasingly narcissistic thanks to social media. You could argue men don’t give a fuck about feminism unless it helps them get laid. Which is, probably, equally true. Men have more motivation to work harder because they’re under more pressure to gain status and be bread winners. Which is why they apparently earn more money. Women have the safety blanket of being able to pop out kids and e…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 02:33 PM
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I ain’t any pill but attract beas with honey and fly’s with shit. Rp has only landed me trash women. Bp has worked fine to get ons. I ain’t about splashing cash to woo a woman, but buying a drink during our interaction (not as an opening line) isn’t simping. You look like a tight fuck if you don’t. Charisma and making a woman feel safe is more important than her thinking you’re some alpha dickhead. Especially when she’s only interacting with you for a few hours at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 09:03 AM
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No means no, but sometimes platonic interaction is still possible. I have a work crush and we are friends. We do not overstep the mark but still go for drinks together, call each other outside of work hours, and on a few occasions hold hands. It’s about matching interest and respecting personal boundaries. I don’t do anything that she wouldn’t. Neither of us have any pressure to step things up. I have declined going to her home after a few too many drinks because sleeping together would be a bad…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 08:12 AM
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Sex isn’t that great. There’s more to life than just busting nuts. And I say that as a guy that has sex regularly. I’ve had 4 different women this year. Can’t say any of them were really worth fucking up my life over.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 08:42 PM
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No it’s more like saying you can’t work multiple contracts or work at multiple companies as well as if you were just working at one company full time with your full dedication. If you’re not monogamous, you don’t invest as heavily in to the primary relationship. You might even loose sight of which one is the primary relationship if other relationships are developing. In my opinions cheating is due to built up resentment and incompatibility with a partner. Partners do it to be selfish and to reta…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 06:55 PM
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Ok then dropping 30lbs would take you 15 weeks. What’s stopping you? If you start coming up with excuses you’ll realise you’re the only one stopping you. And if you’ve got other priorities in life that’s fine. Just accept that not all your energy is going in to one goal, but don’t get disappointed when you haven’t unlocked the perks of completing that goal yet.
/r/ExRedPill11/01/22 12:33 AM
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No dropping 50lbs would take you 3-6 months and you should do it immediately for your self pride. As a former fatty, no one takes you seriously when you’re overweight, society treats you terribly, you earn less too, it does terrible things to your mental health and makes you incelular.
/r/ExRedPill11/01/22 12:24 AM
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You might as well say, should I go for a massage. Sex with an escort is just a transaction with no emotional connection outside of the time you pay for. You’ve already said that you feel lonely. I would advise you not to go to a prostitute for an emotional connection. If however you just want someone attractive to give you an orgasm, then sure go ahead, but escorts are somewhat addictive if you have the money.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/22 06:20 PM
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‘Cool’ being a vague term for, able to socialise comfortably and make friends, not so much because they got a new shiny red truck at Christmas. If your kid is 5 barks at peers then runs away to lick wall paper, they’re pretty much fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 10:00 PM
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The answer is to socialise them before the age of 3-5. If they don’t become “cool” by then and get along with other kids, or they become introverted, they’re pretty much fucked by then it’ll be an uphill battle. That of course would depend on your own ability to socialise with fellow parents to allow this to take place. Which means having your shit together, not being an embarrassment, having good personal health (not being fat and embarrassing), having a clean home, hosting social events, etc. …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 09:34 PM
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And to add to that, in day to day life where clothing is a thing, you can’t really tell if someone is lean or just slim until they take their off, compared to bulkier guy it’s pretty obvious even if they have higher bodyfat.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 04:13 PM
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Because the alternative is boring? Easy routine is unsatisfying. How do you define self improvement? How do you measure it? Bigger muscles, less body fat, higher salary, more qualifications, more friends, more sexual partners, more Instagram followers, more holidays? Do any of these things really make us happy? In my experience any one of these tasks, requires prioritising one single objective at a time and putting the rest on hold: studying more means you’ll be working/gym less, aiming for more…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 09:27 AM
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I don’t think nsa really does exist. Fwb sure but if you know each other you develop a friendship or relationship. Jealousy naturally happens so the best option is to just lie or pretend that they are your only partner - their own perception will cause them to doubt what you are telling them, but also rationalise it, just like a wife who’s husband has a mistress but she chooses to overlook the obvious signs.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 01:31 AM
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I don’t understand how Jon Toth is 137kg in that photo, even if he is 6’5 Dude looks about ~110kg at most.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 12:28 AM
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The analogy of red or blue pill is from the movie: take the red pill to see how the world really is, or stay ignorant and happy with the blue pill. The failure of TRP is that you’re just seeing someone else’s perspective. If you hang out with the wrong people and in the wrong places (for example, night clubs) you will become very depressed to witness “red pill” or groping tactics “working” to seduce women. They fail to take in to consideration the consequences of casual sex with compromised or m…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/21 09:48 PM
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with an attractive girl way more men would say yes. Does that mean they should cheat or they will cheat? No. But men experience temptation differently. Not you’re an idiot because there’s no such thing as “free” sex. If I was walking down the street and a woman walked out of her house and said come inside my house let’s have sex, there’s no fucking way I’d go. Would I tempted? Sure. Am I about to go in to the home of someone I don’t know and risk being robbed or having a me too allegation? Fuck …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 06:39 PM
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Just because this other guys being a red pill idiot I wanted to throw something out there: As a 27 year old guy with a long distance girlfriend, who went to a night club last week, and got invited by 22 year old woman to go back to hers for an after party and to hook up - I said no. There are some decent guys out there. We’re not all sex obsessed. I don’t particularly refuse offers out of loyalty, I’m just not tempted. Sex is meh. I could bang a hot escort within an hour, if I wanted to, but I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 04:27 PM
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Honestly just drop out of social media, or up your game. Or, only use social media to share things that bring you happiness or value. Don’t use it to try pick up randoms. Seriously stop trying to game it’s a broken system. Just make friends with girls and if there’s a connection it’ll happen if not move on. Most of attraction is just about being happy in yourself first and not trying to fake it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 06:27 PM
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Nice guys are subservient and submissive indirectly in America. They are taught to do things "not to be rude" or not to offend people's feelings. They are expected to do things just to be "nice." When a nice guy says, "no" or doesn't fit into that status quo, that nice guy is shamed as "rude", "bitch", "difficult" and told to "watch his tone." He is ostracized until she conforms. Whilst I understand the point you’re making about eastern countries facing more consequences for not being submissive…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 06:42 PM
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A narcissist with a lot of false confidence and an avoidant attachment style. A black pill is the same, without the confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 08:10 PM
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No I’m saying they shouldn’t make women their priority. People should focus on self improvement and what they enjoy doing first.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/21 06:33 PM
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No, because red pill only “works” if you are attractive and looking to trauma bond cluster B women. Outside of those two requirements it’s nothing more than harrassment and confirmation bias of incellular beliefs. Incels should just go there own way.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/21 05:39 PM
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Yeah because being attractive isn’t supposed to be hard work. Having a good career, going to the gym, socialising, and not getting fat are supposed to be enjoyable and not a chore.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 04:26 PM
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Your face makes up like 5% of your surface area of your skin, work on the other 95%.
/r/ExRedPill25/10/21 01:01 PM
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Why would it take years. If you’ve never lifted before then adding 20lbs to your frame eventually without the assistance of steroids is fairly easy to do within 6-12 months so long as you do the work. If you didn’t put on size, you didn’t do the work. You didn’t lift regularly and you didn’t eat enough, especially if your weight didn’t change.
/r/ExRedPill25/10/21 06:27 AM
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Thats a confirmation biased. Facial shape changes with hormones and body fat levels. Everyone has personal preferences. But if you’re telling me that fit men with abs big arms traps and shoulders don’t get female attention then you’re very much misinformed. Although it’s much easier to just say that rather than try obtain it yourself, or do something about it. At the end of the day resistance training isn’t just about the aesthetic outcome. It’s the journey, the routine, the discipline, the self…
/r/ExRedPill24/10/21 11:04 PM
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Well if you got in to lifting you would probably feel more confident from having routine, discipline, goals, and an activity. You’d also look more attractive. Not sure where you’re getting this idea that women don’t like muscular or athletic guys. Everyone looks better when they’re fit and healthy.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/21 10:18 PM
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Probably not because at 155lbs you’re not eating enough. If you’re suffering that much, why not just inject testosterone? Get a blood panel first to see if you actually are deficient. Work with a good coach to discuss a plan to bulk up. More that likely it’s just a matter of eating once every 4 hours through out the day and having a 1k calorie mass protein shake before bed, on top of working out at least every other day.
/r/ExRedPill24/10/21 10:02 PM
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I think the men committing crime is more to do with testosterone, higher libedo, and more pressure to excel at life. A lot of crime is motivated by money (to provide/life) or drugs to escape reality because of failure to live. Or violence/sex because of failure to live a successful life. I don’t think women really suffer from the pressure as much to provide, so they’re less likely to commit crimes that are motivated by money. You don’t really see female bank robbers for example. Women might go i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 04:20 PM
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Yeah but that’s usually because overweight women might have something that stands out to compensate, almost like a fetish: Height, accent, hair colour etc. Just something that would +2 them to put them back on the guys SMV. Banged a tall fat french girl once because her accent turned me on and I like tall women and she was keen.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 04:31 PM
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Who’s to say she’s pretending to like you? If you’re polite and not bad looking, she might not mind having sex with you, she might even enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 05:57 PM
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Then you should always choose being alone and not settling for people that don’t improve yourself life.
/r/ExRedPill08/10/21 12:01 PM
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I mean I disagree with that completely... I would rather have a career that I enjoy than just chase ass all day. There’s more to life than just casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 10:09 AM
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When my man and I were young he wanted to become a tax attorney ~~and then marry a good girl. ~~As a good PickMe I convinced him that cool guys like him need to enjoy life and bang thots, not work at some law firm full of fat Beckies. I knew that he was going to get finessed by some woman looking for a meal ticket. I mean I take that on board but.... He is now committed to a work free lifestyle and has enjoyed depraved sexual experiences with a variety of women. Isn’t it required to have the res…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 09:40 AM
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Yeah it is hard to find but my opinion is also that people treat you how you allow yourself to be treated. One of my ex’s was BPD and I, admittedly, didn’t treat her as well as I could have done. I “strung her along” for about 8 months. I could have/should have ended things because we wernt going anywhere. Because I didn’t want the relationship to be anymore than it was. I was talking to/dating 3 women at the same time. She suspected this. I’d joke about it openly. And yeah I was passively being…
/r/ExRedPill06/10/21 11:38 PM
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Men go purple pill when they realise what women are like but also learn what they want to hear... There’s a lot of narcissism rising in culture nowadays thanks to social media and dating apps, this didn’t exist 20-30 years ago. Red pill is more of how to attract and keep a toxic relationship going with a narc rather than, how to find build and maintain a relationship with a healthy suitable partner because unicorns are rare.
/r/ExRedPill06/10/21 11:15 PM
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I think a lot of people confuse attraction with popularity. Yeah there’s a lot of sexless guys out there but are they meeting, or do they have anything in common with, women? Looks can matter. But a guy with ripped abs can still get laughed off. It helps but it isn’t everything. I really don’t believe this alpha/beta methodology. Self improvement is the key and so is working through your own mental health issues. A lot of rp stuff stems from narcissism and experiencing past behaviours. Yes there…
/r/ExRedPill06/10/21 02:27 PM
1

Left because I like gingers
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:18 PM
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Actually I havnt really bothered with female friends but it has reinforced my rp beliefs in some women. My “post wall” single mum friend who’s 32 is seeing a guy that’s 22 and she still got “just guy mates” that want to take her out for meals and drinks even though they’re ex partners. Or shit like that. Or even me as a friend she would go out for drinks just us two. Fuck it if I asked her to come round mine she would even though we have never even kissed, she was friends with my ex (who’s now 2…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:18 PM
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Being ignored by someone you care about causes the equivalent of physical pain, there’s nothing wrong with you for that. Your solution is to be distracted, find other things to enjoy, and other outlets apart from women, that will keep you occupied and enjoying life, even without a relationship. If she’s pulling back she’s bored or doing her own thing. Don’t chase don’t play games just let her leave. Do your own thing. Don’t say anything or confront her about it.
/r/ExRedPill29/09/21 03:32 PM
1

Being ignored by someone you care about causes the equivalent of physical pain, there’s nothing wrong with you for that. Your solution is to be distracted, find other things to enjoy, and other outlets apart from women, that will keep you occupied and enjoying life, even without a relationship. If she’s pulling back she’s bored or doing her own thing. Don’t chase don’t play games just let her leave. Do your own thing. Don’t say anything or confront her about it.
/r/ExRedPill29/09/21 03:32 PM
1

Is it really though? Ever hear skinny people saying they go all day without eating because they forgot? Yes. I do it all the time. There is something internally that allows them to do that. It isn't in their control, they don't want to eat so they don't. It’s emotional self control and discipline My body after 2 hours starts screaming at me to eat which I have to ignore or be fatter than I am. I sit in pain whole my body screams at me to eat until 8 hours I relent and eat something. Not after ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 06:02 AM
1

Yes but the fact is calories in calories out is the dominant factor in weight gain. What does fluctuate is people’s appetite. Also food selection has an impact on appetite also. People are overweight when they eat more, and usually don’t even realise it. I know because I have been 270lbs and I did slim down to 170lbs which was actually underweight for my height. Being fat was my motivation because I knew I was, or at least I felt uncomfortable, in the size that I was. I was a teenager and signif…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 01:03 PM
2

Alpha is just taking the lead in a situation, when appropriate. Not everyone is going to think you’re alpha at all times, nor are you expected to be. It’s also about consideration for others. Selfish behaviour is usually done for the good of your group - not against members of your group. Being a bully doesn’t get you anywhere.
/r/ExRedPill26/09/21 01:16 PM
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If you’re 270lbs something has gone wrong with your daily habits, because you are not physically or emotionally healthy, you’re using food as an escape to fill a void. Work on fixing that, loose weight. Get down nearer the 200 mark and then you’ll start seeing yourself as attractive and you’ll become more confident, The thing is it’ll just become a way of life - you’ll eat the same thing every day go to the gym routinely etc after a few months it’ll just be how you live, you’ll be content with i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 12:51 PM
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Connection and similarities are important. Even homeless men can get homeless girlfriends.... equal matches. The “social problem” is that only the top 20% of people are desirable. Women are generally more selective because they have more options. But being an attractive Male isn’t enough to get any woman. If you have no mutual interests or friends or social interaction, nothing will happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 04:02 PM
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Contraception exists for both partners. It is both of their responsibility to use it to prevent unwanted pregnancies. The only options a man has is: Use a condom Trust/rely on her taking contraception (potentially daily) A medical vasectomy. A woman can lie about being on contraception, or actually taking it as directed.
/r/ExRedPill15/09/21 09:41 PM
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This is an entirely reasonable stance, given that women bear all the risk of casual sex. Women have the additional risk of pregnancy, but also the option of abortion/child support. Men have the additional risk of false consent allegations and me too movements. Both genders have the risk of STI’s.
/r/ExRedPill15/09/21 06:33 PM
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It could be equal, I just don’t want to let her in to my life because I don’t particularly like my life/family and want to escape from it. Also she cannot stay at my home as my parents are hoarders and I’m saving for a mortgage for the next 3 years to move out - therefore can’t/don’t want to rent. She’s met a couple of my friends that’s fine, I don’t have many. Although she did ask me for money yesterday (whilst she is on this girlfriend holiday). She didn’t say how much. I didn’t open the messa…
/r/ExRedPill14/09/21 10:01 PM
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I don’t cut my friends off I just don’t want to drink with them. Unfortunately drinking is the only social meet up pass time that we have. I will be giving up drinking anyway due to the way it affects my mood and wallet. Got physically attacked last weekend, because apparently I was showing interest in a girl - I was not. I’d bloody well know if I had been.
/r/ExRedPill14/09/21 08:19 PM
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I don’t think it’s about finding someone “better”. Youre either connected or you are not. If someone is willing to cheat, you’re not connected. They are just going through the motions of a relationship because they like the perks or what you bring to the table but not necessarily you. Again this could be down to personal preference. Maybe one of them is just really attracted to “blonde so but settles for a not blonde and then finds a blonde that they feel a connection with. If it gets to the sta…
/r/ExRedPill13/09/21 07:26 PM
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Quite simply I don’t have many friends who are willing to do stuff. I spend most of my days at work and then after work I’m in the gym alone. My weekends I’m either travelling to see her once-twice a month, or I’m at home. I see my friends usually weekly on Saturdays. We go to the pubs or bars and I see a lot of action but have no desire to join in. Not necessarily because I wouldn’t be willing to find a new partner but no one is of interest to me. I project this feeling on to her. It scared me.…
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 05:58 PM
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We didn’t start off long distance, we dated for e months then covid meant we fizzled out when she moved back home. I got in another relationship for about 6 months, then when that ended she got back in contact with me we started seeing each other since then. It’s now been about 3 month together but our first date was a year ago.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 05:51 PM
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My life fits around hers, which in my opinion puts me in the lesser position. I’m terrified of being used. She was supposedly taking me away for my birthday - but I paid for most things, so that she would have the money left to do this girls holiday. I feel very used although she will apparently pay me back. Next month, when it’s her birthday, and I’m treating her... likely ive just paid for her girls holiday. I feel used even if she insists it’s not like that.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 05:48 PM
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Actually I am somewhat in to partying, and prefer to party with her. We do party together. The long distance gap can only be closed in about 3 years time when I sort my family commitments, but I have the money to do it. She has a moving out goal 2 years from now and has already said she would like kids. I don’t want them until I have the house and a ring.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 05:42 PM
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Ok well her posting and flirting on social media, peacocking if that is such a description, irritates me. It makes me feel jealous. I’m at a very low point right now. I don’t want to tell her that because I have experience of showing weakness and either being ignored or taken advantage of based on past experiences. I find that she won’t end the relationship if I just “man up” and stop expressing these feelings.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 03:51 PM
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I already do that. She says she loves me. I say it back. I just can’t help that I’m at home and she’s in a bar. I don’t want to be constantly playing a competition.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 03:41 PM
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In what way am I being a prick? I am not commenting on or preventing her from going to bars and clubs. I’m just not happy that she does. And I would like to change my reaction, not her action. Why does seeking to improve the relationship make me a prick?
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 03:36 PM
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Exactly, and it’s multiple nights, over night.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 02:29 PM
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What? Because she goes out? She's not your possession. I’m not upset that she goes out. I’m upset that she poses in nightclubs and bars. The problem seems to be your insecurities, and controlling nature. I am not restricting her from doing it. I am merely expressing here, that her doing it upsets me, but I also understand that I need to find a way to not let it upset me so that we can have a healthier relationship. I do actually want a relationship and realise I have some work to do - that’s wha…
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 02:26 PM
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And I think that’s very fair and respectful, she is aware that those situations are obstacles and chooses to avoid them. I’m honestly starting to reevaluate my life and think, well, maybe I should cut out bars and alcohol too. Completely. Regardless of my relationship status.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 02:16 PM
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It’s not so much that I think she will cheat, it’s more than I don’t like that she seeks validation. For example she posted on her Snapchat her pointing her legs up in air doing the splits in a club. She’s not cheating but I don’t appreciate that behaviour. I am just ignoring it, I haven’t commented, I feel like TRP would advise to call it out but it looks very insecure when she hasn’t done anything wrong. When I don’t give her a reaction or she brings it up she just tells me she loves me and I …
/r/ExRedPill12/09/21 01:25 PM
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No I mean giving her trust space and respecting her boundaries instead of bombarding her with affection because of their own insecurities and projections
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 09:40 PM
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TRP believes that women do not love men for men, only for what they can provide, and older men have more resources, as well as relationship experiences. They know how to “play the game” how to give her space how to avoid being desperate how to not fully invest, how to push pull. They learned from their mistakes. Good morning I love you texts and flowers daily turn anyone off.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 07:07 PM
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Spontaneity, thrill of being caught, bucket list locations etc. We’re not talking a pub toilets exactly but more tourist attractions or taboo areas like churches or architectural buildings. Or just not having a shared home, or sharing a home with family/siblings. Spices things up a bit, some people are in to it. Me and ex had sex in a park bench before because we got interrupted when her parents came home and nagged us to take the dog out for a walk so we carried on later.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 09:37 PM
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That’s not necessarily true. Sex can be meaningless or meaningful to either gender. At the very least for men, good sex once creates a desire for more sex with that partner, and rejection can hurt should his options be limited. Women usually have more options however.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 07:11 PM
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If you’re booking a prostitute you’re paying for their time, accommodation, and attention, which includes sex. Usually if you’re in somewhat good shape and polite, some women wouldnt mind having sex with you. They might actually enjoy it. If you are a regular they may extend your time, talk outside of work, add you on socials, or give you their personal number, remember details from your last visit. So long as you’re not annoying them then it’s possible to develop an almost work-colleague type f…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 09:07 PM
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I'm talking about self-improvement as the standard answer to why young guys aren't getting sex. It’s not necessarily that they can’t get sex, it’s that they can’t get the women that they want to have sex with. Prostitution and lower standards are still a possibility. Sex isn’t always the main motivation for men. The achievement that men are seeking from sex, is more important than just an orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 01:52 PM
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The reward of self improvement is not only to increase sexual market value though. It’s much more to do with developing routine and mental stability to improve your overall life. Many people find that their lives are empty post break up. Self care is there to attempt to heal from that emptiness. Unfortunately people are also finding that the emptiness on both sides cannot be fullfilled by a relationship either. This is why you see “simps getting dumped” because neither partner really understands…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 01:23 PM
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Ah you like cluster B personality disorders then. They’re very fun people. Very strong emotions, but see the world in black or white. Part of their illness is idolising people that they get close to, they then pull away and distance themselves, then discard and cut off the person. When left untreated, relationships / friendships are very difficult to maintain. My ex has a lot of friends that she would only talk to once a month and it starts to make sense over time. Even her “best friend” is was …
/r/ExRedPill29/08/21 09:58 PM
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Yeah but the reason we decline sex isn’t because of a preference for porn. It’s often because she’s just not that enthusiastic or good looking. Plus the “me too” movement and “don’t stick your dick in crazy” not to mention contraception make it not worth hooking up anymore. I’m late 20s don’t have my own place don’t even watch porn much maybe once a week if that. I don’t have sex because we are long distance. I did have sex multiple times a week, I had 3 partners, and I just got bored. My ex bro…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 10:08 AM
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the woman might be argued to have a higher sex drive than her male partner, even if it’s the case that if they broke up tomorrow, he’d be willing to see a hooker the next night while she’d need a few weeks or months before hooking up again That’s almost certainly not true. Most girls nowadays have a dial a dick on their phone. An ex, a crush, or a fwb, that they can ring and fuck within 24 hours. And if not, there’s always tinder. A man might have such contacts that he could call upon but it’s l…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 08:31 PM
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Then robots take all your jobs. Your job is to now build robots that build robots.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 10:41 AM
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Same I have CPTSD I don’t abuse people in that way. But I do... kind of. I’m just not very faithful.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 05:16 PM
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I dunno so much. I think it’s possible to date/sleep with multiple women are once but still have a favourite or preferred woman that you’d want to be monogamous with. However the instability of relationship obstacles and excitement, the drama and excitement of a side-girl becomes appealing. Mostly if the primary relationship isn’t working however.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 07:35 AM
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You’re missing the point of charisma and making her feel safe. Future faking is a big part of seduction. Whether you follow through or mean it is kind of not the point. She knows it might be BS or at least part of her might, but at the same time it gives her a reasonable excuse. It’s win win and the uncertainty increases her attraction. I’ve banged girls on first dates and it’s always been the vibe well duh we are going to do this again the sex was great, then back off play it casual and they hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 03:12 PM
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.... kind of yes. Born/Raise by a, crazy. Last time I met up with my exPWD I accidentally cut myself with a bread knife cutting a baguette. Proper sliced and thought I might need stitches. I just held my breath panicked gripped my skin held it under the tap. My ex literally just told me it’s not that bad and that I don’t get any sympathy. There was zero concern or reassurance from her. Kind of woke my up quite a bit, that’s not a normal response to your partner being in physical pain/emotional s…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 10:06 AM
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I think a lot of them have both because they both can be triggered by early trauma. BPD just might be more genetic and the trauma might be perceived more sensitively or is an over reaction, to what might even be a false memory.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 06:48 AM
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Two of my ex’s have bpd. I actually saw both of them at the same time 1) Girlfriend was long-distance (for a bit then she moved here then back), she was my “actual girlfriend” who I preferred and wanted to be with, but she regularly pulled away. 2) She was hot and fun but too unstable and kept drinking a lot and a lot of rage/drama. Quite clingy though, easy to repair if I just left her alone. Basically I kept seeing her once a month when the girlfriend split on me. Both had completely different…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 06:45 AM
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Sounds miserable, giving up hope of not having someone to connect with is almost black pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 09:40 PM
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Probably the same way that a man does. They maintain their SMV with good physical fitness and casual relationships, and good social lives. Children and family doesn’t really bother them. It’s replaced with career, friends, and social life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 09:27 PM
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And I think the other end of this is many people are single because they are toxic and/or therefore the chance of meeting one who does not give yoh this sort of toxic bs, is unlikely. I would blame social media and dating abs, but it seems to be more a social shift also.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 07:44 PM
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Intimacy and willingness to please. Woman that actually want sex by you, feel a whole lot different to women that you’re paying or are who are just going through the motions. You can tell if someone is authentic or not. Sex is better when you’re in a relationship and you have a desire to continue seeing each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 10:52 AM
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The theory is not toxic but the subs attract those from red/black also.
/r/ExRedPill15/07/21 02:37 PM
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Blackpill is giving up on women completely and having a derogatory attitude, dislike, or bitterness towards them, and no attempt to have a positive interaction with them. Often this is associated with an internal hopeless than they are not good enough for a relationship because they are too short/fat/awkward to attract women so they don’t even try. Think 300lb basement video game dweller Redpill is “treat them mean, keep them keen” attitude. They use and dislike women, but are still interested i…
/r/ExRedPill15/07/21 09:55 AM
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Even if you have those things it isn’t enough. Because a fuck load of women out there get bored when they “get” what they want. To keep a woman interested you have to “play the game”, act toxic, show them you don’t want them, in order to keep them chasing. That in itself is exhausting because most men don’t actually want to behave that way - they just want a comfortable/easy life with a loyal woman alongside them... and it doesn’t fucking exist. Most women nowadays don’t actually respond to nice…
/r/MGTOW10/07/21 01:48 PM
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Well every interaction has “masculine” and “femine” energy in heterosexual or homosexual relationships and each partner contains a balance of both for example men that nature or comfort or women that lead and plan - neither are bad or “wrong” traits. If you think otherwise you’re probably insecure in your own sexuality. I don’t know why you need a label that says you’re not part of a label? You’re a man and a woman and you’re happy together. Fuck what other people are doing or what other people …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 09:25 AM
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I don’t think men lie in the ways you assume though. If we hook up we are attracted. We don’t lie to get you in to bed. The problem comes when we are attracted to multiple people. We either juggle them as back up. Like I feel really shitty about a situation I’m in. I was dating two women. One I was less interested in, then moved away. So I thought well case closed, carry on seeing just the one. My one girl then ended things with me (probably because I was suddenly too needy agreeable and nice co…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:54 PM
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I mean as a guy who has cheated I can tell you it was because I had a problem with my partner. My first girlfriend, I just wasn’t that physically attracted to her. We lost our virginity to each other.. About a year later we went to Amsterdam and saw sex shows and the red light district. I just really wanted to experience a prostitute. It was like flicking through a magazine.... I should have ended the relationship sooner but I was dumb young insecure and lonely. Plus the relationship itself was …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:43 PM
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I’m against getting the mrna experimental injection. So far we know two doses lowers the immune system by 40% making you more susceptible to other illnesses. Vaccinated people can shed and infect other people. There is a (unknown) chance of heart inflammation, blood cell deformities, blood clotting problems, auto immune issues etc. I do not believe it is beneficial to my health. However it does reduce the symptoms by about 80% of people, but it doubles the chance of dying. So if youre vaxxed and…
/r/MGTOW01/07/21 12:54 PM
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Fair enough, but to a girl who’s on the taller side of 5’7 and up they’re more likely to agree with me. It’s not so much the ultimate size but the ratios people consider attractive. Lanky is an undesirable ratio, not the height itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:15 PM
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You’re assuming that the 6’3 guy is skinny and lanky. Well yeah if he’s 150lbs he’s gonna be lanky as fuck. Now imagine he’s a 220lb rugby player and there’s your answer. That’s what is considered more attractive than the 5’10 200lb football player for example
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:12 PM
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1- There’s a lot of men who are not in to those things either 2- There are some women who are in to those things. Grape or forced fantasies are quite common. You know what both those people usually have in common? Trauma. It’s not necessarily a gender thing, women are just much less open about their desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 10:14 AM
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Well looks do matter. People say they don’t like those things because they don’t like the insecurity that comes with them. That’s like saying no everyone’s goal in life is to buy a Ferrari.... Sure that might be true but if someone let you rent you one for free for a night you wouldn’t complain.
/r/ExRedPill29/06/21 09:54 AM
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I mean, no. Never talk about dating strategies? If she’s got any sense she will google it, know exactly what you’re doing, and just beat you at your own game. Not to mention the inauthenticity will just make you seem unconfident and turn her off. Red pill is a short term dating tactic... you won’t make it past 6 months if you keep invalidating a woman she will just give up and leave you alone. She won’t keep chasing you forever, and then you’ll be left in the position where she calls your bluff …
/r/ExRedPill23/06/21 10:28 PM
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Without talking about any “tactics” to use on her, we’re still allowed to offer advice right? Have you tried to work on your own attractiveness? Mostly physical appearance - get in shape if you havnt not already done so and wear flattering clothes goes a very long way. Aftershave, be well dressed, and be “busy” doing yo own thing. Basically make her part of your life, not the focus of your life. Still try to make time to do your own stuff that attracted her in the first place. When it come to re…
/r/ExRedPill10/06/21 05:02 PM
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I would say it’s more so red pill men are stuck in questioning “why didn’t that relationship work” when the real answer is that they forget to do the things that made them attractive to her in the first place. It can be as simple as he used to go gym regularly and then he swapped protein shakes for dates and beers and gained 50lbs. Or he used to have an active social life - but he threw it away to be with her. Or maybe he had a good job and was “on his purpose” but he fucked it up because he sto…
/r/ExRedPill07/06/21 03:48 PM
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Anyone else fucking hate working with women? I hate it when you email them at get a fucking paragraphs of word salad back. Emotional talk with as much detail as possible with a justification of when and who and why. Which is fine but they still don’t answer the fucking question. What’s the fucking names of your 3 new starters so that I can set them up for Monday? Also when you phone them, if they pick up, because we all know they’re working from home eating or watching Netflix responding to emai…
/r/MGTOW05/06/21 03:58 AM
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It’s the red pill dating strategies. To summarise it’s acting like a narcissist keeps them interested. Or trauma bonds are stronger than Disney/simp romances.
/r/MGTOW05/06/21 02:55 AM
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They’re not pro they’re just “easy” and direct. Can definitely have a shit punt and feel ripped off. Even if it’s good afterwards I think to myself “well that was a fucking waste of a days wages” and I end up feeling like a simp.
/r/MGTOW04/06/21 05:47 PM
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You’re right. But what I want is her. I want the version of her I see for a night or two or when we’re in person - not this shitty distant texting bullshit she gives me when she pulls away.
/r/MGTOW03/06/21 10:21 PM
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I care too much is exactly my problem. And I don’t want to be like this. Therefore I’d rather just remove myself from the situation completely, because I am like this.
/r/MGTOW03/06/21 09:59 PM
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Relatable, and same here. I got my ex back and she’s... not back. We fucked and she was in to me for about 3 days and now she’s super withdrawn and barely talking, it’s blunt or she leaves me on read but often responds with instant blunt responses that just fucking shut down the conversation.
/r/MGTOW03/06/21 09:59 PM
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It’s interesting you bring that up because most of my relationships have been with “offline” girls who don’t care about social media. I mean they have it but barely use it to post. The self validation thing is interesting, because I find if you validate women too much, it’s annoying and turns them off. This is where it gets tricky because to get them to chase you, you literally have to invalidate them, which makes you an arsehole and then they have no reason to connect with you. That’s what my a…
/r/MGTOW03/06/21 09:57 PM
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Same in a way. If I want sex that bad I’ll pay for an escort. Other than that I’m monk mode just gym work sleep repeat. I’m working 50 hours a week and gyming probably 10 hours also. Got a fitness page and a few girls from the gym have added me first, I follow them back they like a couple of my photos but that’s it. I’m not interested in liking their pictures or sliding in their DMs giving them free validation for nothing in return.
/r/MGTOW03/06/21 09:29 PM
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26, I won’t have my life together for another ~3 years when I can move out. I’m doing everything I can (studying, working a career not just a job, gym, diet) etc every day to be better than I was yesterday. I’m pretty content with my life. It would be nice to have someone by my side, but that doesn’t seem like it will happen any time soon. I’m fairly good looking, tall, lean, decent salary, and I just can’t hold women’s interest long term, I get fed up with the constant balance of push/pull. Eit…
/r/MGTOW03/06/21 09:27 PM
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I’ve been hit hard and pick myself up many times. I’m not bitter about women anymore, I just don’t see the point. My life at the moment consists of work gym and studying, I just don’t have the time of inclination to put any effort in to dating or chasing women.
/r/MGTOW03/06/21 09:23 PM
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Really? I thought this sub was about “giving up on dating and going your own way.” I was explaining my reasons for doing so.
/r/MGTOW03/06/21 09:09 PM
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Is this an actual quote or just a meme?
/r/MGTOW01/06/21 11:44 PM
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Technically I was permanently employed by an outsourced IT company. However, my job only existed because this they had a contract with said Luxury items company. I did request to work for the company directly, the Job that I was already doing was advertised externally, and I was declined. It was also much less money. They asked me to train the “new starter who was not my replacement” and I agreed but she had to delay her start date.
/r/MGTOW01/06/21 05:44 AM
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Dude you’re 28. If you can, get out of there as soon as possible. I find it cringe you go to the gym with your mother. What are you doing, toning with sissy weights and using a treadmill? Fuck that man get on some TRT and start doing deadlifts. Get yourself in a boxing class or some sort of combat sport where you can find Male role models to take you under their wing and teach you how to be a man, otherwise you’re going to end up as some sort of fat bumbling simp in the basement. Move out ASAP. …
/r/MGTOW31/05/21 11:05 PM
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Considering amazon workers have been told to piss in bottles and are not allowed toilets breaks, I can’t imagine that anyone has time to cry in a box. The work is unskilled, burn out and staff turn over is high. It’s unfortunate but it’s not sustainable and you can be easily replaced.
/r/MGTOW31/05/21 10:58 PM
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Back in March 2020 my last company let go 80% of their workforce. Being an IT contractor I was kept on as I was essential (can’t work without it systems) and I was still in the office constantly despite lockdown. One day I was setting up a meeting room and had access to the confidential documents facts and figure etc because I was fixing the CEOs laptop. The meeting was about cost cutting and further redundancies because they had managed 80% efficiency with 20% of the work force. Most of their p…
/r/MGTOW31/05/21 10:51 PM
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Aye I’ve seen some shit out and about. That second story, same club, I got chatting to a guy in the smoking area, platonically as we were both straight and out alone - he was recently dumped and it was his first night out. We were going to go to the bar but then these two women came out to smoke, I pulled him back and hang back a minute. We got chatting to them for the next hour or so. All having a great time. Club was closing in about 30 minutes, suggested we go to another. Talked of an Uber, I…
/r/MGTOW31/05/21 02:03 AM
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Dog pill? That’s a new one. Nah she just has the dog as a companion for her anxiety, almost like a therapy dog. Agreed that she has issues and is probably not suitable dating material, but I’m making the best of it. Worst case is we’re long distance and she’s a good shag when we’re together. I do have feelings but I’m in too deep to pull out now, is what it is, either it fades or we end, we’re not even together because she’s an ex that I’m fucking still, but as far as I know we’re exclusive.
/r/MGTOW31/05/21 12:35 AM
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I went to a different club a few months later. Im sitting down the smoking area, quiet weekday night, a girl asked me for a lighter and sits next to me. We get talking. She’s about 6ft tall in heels, slim, nice dress, curled hair, made an effort you know she’s all done up nicely like it’s a Saturday but it’s not. She said: “guess my age.” “I don’t know - 21?” she laughed. “no guess again.” “22?” “Nope.” “I dunno, just tell me.” “I’m 23, you were close. How old are you?” “Guess.” “22?” “Nope, why…
/r/MGTOW31/05/21 12:29 AM
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I met a girl in a club (need to be 18), drove her home, banged her in my car for like 3 hours, easily one of the best fucks of my life, she was a squirter too. As Im slowly driving down her road at like 5am she said “I’m 16”. I was fucking speechless for the next 5 seconds. I mean 16 is legal here so it’s ok (I was 24) but I was thinking holy fuck wtf shit fuck what. I said to her “I thought you said you were 19? You showed me your ID” Turns out she was actually 19 like her and her ID said she w…
/r/MGTOW30/05/21 10:54 PM
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Pretty much because these women know their value is lower, so they have no choice but to act like traditional women. She’s probably really nice to him, makes an effort, doesn’t play too many games, he’s sitting there all falling in love. Fuck it she might even be really fit and watch what she’s eats too. She might even start to enjoy his company. But without sounding bitter as fuck like most of us on here, that’s a fuck ton of responsibility to take on for any man and at such a young age. It’s a…
/r/MGTOW30/05/21 10:38 PM
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It’s funny you say pets because I never realised what a fucking cock block dogs are, especially if they want to sleep on the bed. Brings a whole new meaning to doggy style.
/r/MGTOW30/05/21 10:24 PM
11

He’s 24 get the fuck out of there. Hit the gym and stop going for scraps. Jesus fucking Christ what’s wrong with “men” nowadays, no balls or direction in their life at all
/r/MGTOW30/05/21 06:30 PM
1

Impressive man, naturally big. Wasn’t judging for the steroids either - I use them. 6’5 26 sitting at about 225lbs/14% now, on my first cycle since lockdown. Not massive I know but bigger than most average guys. My goal would be around 230lbs/10% and see what happens from there.
/r/MGTOW29/05/21 05:15 PM
1

285lbs and 19% body fat? That’s means you’re rough 220lbs of muscle at 6ft 1? Are you on roids or been working out for 10 years because that’s like borderline genetic limit?
/r/MGTOW29/05/21 03:16 PM
2

Well I’m Male and I’m actually 26 also. I would date younger or older. My last girlfriend was 24. I talk to and get attention from girls that are students/20s but they just don’t interest me romantically as they’re usually quite immature. I work and they’re just in a different life style and different generation. I’d say emotional connection or intelligence is more important. At 24 I had a holiday fling with a girl that was 19, she was gorgeous physically and I really liked her emotionally too. …
/r/ExRedPill27/05/21 07:31 AM
1

It’s not necessarily just money and age, it’s acquired experience and leadership, confidence and what the experience they can provide. Guys in their late 20s have the advantage of putting in a couple of years of self improvement in their career and the gym and have their own place, compared to students in their early 20s who may still be in bad shape, working retail, and drinking too much beer, and generally not having much practise.
/r/ExRedPill27/05/21 06:37 AM
2

If you’re talking about that secret guy, I honestly don’t think he’s a real person. I think he’s a character chatting shit. A lot of these TRP people are either incels or faking completely - they have healthy “simp” relationships and just pretend they carry on like chad.
/r/ExRedPill26/05/21 08:10 PM
5

To be honest, I subscribed to an only fans girl just to see what the hype was about. This girl I had no emotional connection to, she just seemed like my type physically, I was curious and it was cheap. Honestly it’s a fucking waste of time. I don’t think there was anything worth jacking off to on her page. It’s literally just a few nude pictures. And guys are tipping her stupid amounts of money? She’s also seeing videos (you have to pay again) to see her get fucked by her boyfriend. I don’t get …
/r/MGTOW13/05/21 08:18 PM
23

Depends, I have a type. What’s a 6 to others is an 8 to me. I don’t go for women that have super busy social media’s and hindereds of guys in their dms. I go the quiet girls next door types who have potential.
/r/askTRP07/05/21 07:40 AM
1

If your partner is that passive during sex, you’re missing out.
/r/MGTOW03/05/21 09:55 PM
1

Yes but they don’t call it red pill. Common belief seems to be that unicorns/soul mates exist and “when it’s right” you won’t need any games. I’ve learnt the hard way twice that “even when it’s right” you loose the woman if you make her your priority. Seriously fuck lockdown for taking away the gym from me, and the places we could go from us. It’s not that I got fat but I got depressed lost shape and didn’t have much to do except work (from home) then drive to hers. Sort of became a bit of a ser…
/r/ExRedPill01/05/21 03:54 PM
1

You can’t “pay” for a relationship though. One night stands fuck much better than escorts.
/r/MGTOW30/04/21 10:36 AM
1

I doubt it. Displaying your wealth can make you look insecure and turn women off. If you just pose with a 6 pac abs and a BMW, most women will look at you and think you’re a dick. Most of them are on there for the wrong reasons - validation and distraction, “they just want to chat” and they won’t meet up especially during the current pandemic situation.
/r/MGTOW30/04/21 07:46 AM
11

It’s not impossible but it’s a numbers game. The problem is you two don’t really have any mutual friends so it makes it very difficult to demonstrate your status in a group, and it makes it very easy for them to leave. Also, what comes quick leaves quick. The competition is fierce, pictures and chat is probably only 20% of whom you “are”, so you’re really fighting an uphill battle. If you’re going to even have a chance at online dating you’ll need: instagram with recent photos and decent number …
/r/MGTOW30/04/21 12:29 AM
8

It’s not worth it, you always end up feeling like a simp. The fantasy is always better than the reality. Sex tends to make you want to connect with someone. You end up feeling used or empty and poorer after an escort. And because you feel shit/good, you’ll want to visit another one to feel/even better. It’s a really expensive habit, one that’s quite hard to break, it sucks the enjoyment out of life. Women fuck different when they want you vs when they have to. If you’ve ever fucked a girl that’s…
/r/MGTOW27/04/21 08:49 PM
4

When you’re leaving the date, take her hand and hold it. Walk to a location slow down and stop then and face her. Move hands to her waist, or one below her lower back. Look at her make eye contact look at her lips, you want to look from one eye to the lips to the other eye and back again then smile. She’ll pick up on it subconsciously and smile too. Lean towards her whilst pulling her body towards you. Go slowly. Let her at least move towards you to complete the kiss. Take the line from hitch an…
/r/seduction01/04/21 01:30 AM
2

What you’re describing is “purple pill” It’s when you accept that people (not just women) are pretty shitty, people are selfish, people have needs, love is conditional/concept that doesn’t necessarily exist. You kind of accept that women kind of do want to be the submissive one in the relationship at least when shit hits the fan. I’d say you’re just sort of experienced. Out with the Disney bullshit, but not quite replaced it with bitterness, instead abundance. My friend pretty much red pill/ince…
/r/ExRedPill20/02/21 03:33 PM
1

So? They’re not doing a split. It’s not like they turn around and say “Monday I shall only lift bricks for lower body. Tuesday I shall only use a sledge hammer for upper body” They generally “work full body” 5-6 days straight.
/r/MGTOW15/02/21 06:17 PM
2

It’s not really a problem though if you eat enough. Plenty of builders/labourers get “accidentally jacked” and they’re not taking rest days.
/r/MGTOW15/02/21 10:16 AM
5

It combines both elements of red and blue. Basically it’s playing nice, but expecting the worst. It’s dating a girl, but not bringing her flowers or gifts every single time you see her. Accepting that she might be texting other guys, but just ignoring it. It’s seeing her message instantly, but leaving it 20 minutes before opening. It’s knowing that if she wants to go on a night out, she can, but accepting that she might find someone better. It’s still a form of manipulation, but not quite as har…
/r/ExRedPill10/02/21 06:53 PM
3

For myself and another Male friend, we both had quite traumatic and unexpected break up. As in, a week before they are future faking/everything is fine telling you they love you, then they break up telling you they’re need space/they are not ready for a relationship, then they are on tinder less than a week later. Attempting to understand the sudden discard is tough, a lot of internalised “what did I do wrong, j was being so nice to her?” Followed by “clearly I was being too nice, I should have …
/r/ExRedPill06/02/21 12:57 PM
11

The thing is man, there’s no such thing as “red” or “blue” pill. Red pill will only get you trash women. It’ll trauma bond them to you. If you start redpilling a good woman too hard, she will leave, and she won’t come back, she will go her own way. She might be miserable or whatever but you are not irreplaceable. Blue pilling will get a girl infatuated for the honey mood period at best, then she will get bored and loose respect for you. She also has to be quite vulnerable, on the rebound, low co…
/r/MGTOW04/02/21 01:08 PM
6

Good job man. I used to work contracts so was never sure of my next income. Not that I was broke, just didn’t like the idea of high outgoings. Ex tried to convince me to buy a brand new bmw/merc on finance “because it was only 2000 then 400 a month (for 5 years)” like she did. She didn’t appreciate that she would be paying 6k a year just to rent a car. Or about 20k to rent a car for 5 years and then hand it back to sign up to a new contract or pay a ballon payment to keep it. I went out and brou…
/r/MGTOW02/02/21 09:57 AM
0

I don’t care, I like squirting. My body count (without paying) is only about 10. I’ve had 3 squirt with me for the first time who have never done that before. If you make a girl squirt, it’s submission on their behalf. They enjoy it, you’re alpha in their eyes. I don’t care if it’s messy, sex is messy, normally just put a towel down and go to town.
/r/MGTOW02/02/21 09:48 AM
1

Not defending their action.... But it just says that you can be banned for calling fat or trans people names. It doesn’t say that you have to match with them, so you can just carry on ignoring them. This doesn’t really change anything, it’s just a PR stunt and a pro left movement.
/r/MGTOW29/01/21 11:06 PM
5

At 21 I would say just get your own space as soon as you can. Get independence from your parents. That will let literally let you build your space. You can study all night, diet however you want, go to the gym whenever you want, have any friends over whenever you want, all the things that will hopefully allow you to get on your grind without having parental backlash of “you’re not eating properly” or the temptation of snacks in the house. Having your own space makes it easier to hook up also, bu…
/r/MGTOW26/01/21 02:15 PM
1

What about those that have tried the “honest” and loving approach, only to have it work temporarily and then be met with rejection or abandonment?
/r/ExRedPill19/01/21 11:41 PM
1

I dated a narcissistic woman before, the entire relationship was a fake. She was a singer/actress so made sense she was just in character 90% of the time. As for incels: I don’t necessarily think they’re NPD. They’re just weak minded and fall in to a cult out of frustration. They give up trying to improve themselves rather than trying to learn how society works.
/r/ExRedPill15/01/21 04:31 PM
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I’ve also heard that NPD is mostly a masculine trait. The common “themes” are very similar, except BPD turn it their anger inwards with self harm and self depreciation, whilst narcissists turn their anger outwards with grandiosity and controlling behaviour. The “cure” for BPD generally seems to be adopting more NPD traits through DBT.
/r/ExRedPill13/01/21 12:00 PM
6

Yeah but it can also mean you can’t get the fuck over that one. Look at single mothers: Chaddad always comes back for a few weeks when he’s having a draught. She’ll leave her current simp for him, have her fun, get dropped, and then find another simp.
/r/MGTOW09/01/21 09:59 AM
2

My advise to you would be not to give away too much too soon, and not to waste time on girls that do not show interest in you. I know that advise may be somewhat rp but I would say as a dating strategy it works and is easier. Most girls I spoken to despite using the apps, they don’t care about their matches. Many just use the app as validation and have no interest in using them to date. Every successful relationship or interaction has come from being very polite and direct. Talking for a few day…
/r/ExRedPill29/12/20 10:06 AM
1

Being willing to leave out of boredom is a pretty big sign that yes, you're not as willing to commit. That may be so, however, if the job/relationship was the right fit, you ideally would not be bored. It doesn’t mean that you find all jobs/relationships boring if you are willing to obtain another.
/r/ExRedPill28/12/20 01:33 AM
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If anything high body count (in either partner) could reduce ability to pair bond because you’re willing to walk away so quickly. Replace the word sex with job. If you’ve only had two or three jobs the prospect of leaving your job is quite scary. If you’ve done 20+ jobs, or you’re a contractor, you get over that fear and know that finding another job isn’t necessarily that difficult. Having said all that someone can still work +20 jobs and commit to a full time job for multiple years or indefini…
/r/ExRedPill23/12/20 10:41 AM
3

Reasons to shave your beard: You’re 25-30 but still wanna get with 18-22 year olds in a club. Shaving takes a good takes 5-8 years off your appearance. Chat shit about tictok and tell them wkd is cool and you’re in.
/r/MGTOW20/12/20 09:34 PM
5

Greek athletes didn’t eat processed food and were very athletic/active. That and they walked everywhere and did a lot of manual labour and training. They were soldiers. Even modern day military are in good shape, and that’s not just because of steroids or supplements. It “only” takes about 5 years to reach your genetic maximum potential, if you are consistent, in your life style your body will adapt. Most of us to gym a couple of hours a week at best. That doesn’t offset the other 6.75 days of s…
/r/MGTOW04/12/20 06:12 PM
24

I prefer the term spurgled
/r/MGTOW04/12/20 07:46 AM
2

I mean that’s debatable. Red pills are misogynistic but black pill incels can be terrorists. Red pills are more of a rude cult whilst incels are mentally distraught and need mental help
/r/ExRedPill03/12/20 09:54 PM
1

There’s other terms too. Blue pill as the guy above mentioned is anyone that’s basically brainwashed into the way of thinking that is the opposite. Red pill still date, usually they pertain some “hope” around being able to obtain a relationship, or they may be pick up artists or assholes. There is unfortunately, a term possibly more toxic that red pill, and that is black pill. They embrace the victim mentality further. These people believe that they are too awkward, ugly, short, or genetically/r…
/r/ExRedPill02/12/20 07:02 AM
3

I mean I’m much more inclined to say that the problem is you got married at 22, and brain doesn’t stop changing until you’re around about 25. I met my first girlfriend (same age) at 18, we were were together until we were 24. We were very different people by the time we got to 24. It could have worked, but the “problems” I saw at 18 never changed. I wanted her to “be less mean, more affectionate, and look after her health better.” She did nothing over 6 years to improve those things. In fact if …
/r/MGTOW18/11/20 10:03 AM
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You sort of find a path between accepting human behaviour is not linear or restricted to gender. Everyone works on the same way; but it’s not as cut and dry as red pill makes it out to be. Being direct when required, improving yourself, setting boundaries, taking the lead can all be great at times and are healthy. Being playful with women who are enjoying it is fun also. Negging and harassment is not though. Neither is jealousy games or devaluation. You attract more bees with honey than shit. If…
/r/ExRedPill16/11/20 05:51 PM
1

I’m probably better than average, and I still struggle. Looks wise I’m tall at 6’4, 210lbs, go gym, fit/lean but no six pac as I’m skinny fat but look fine in clothes. Dress well, confident, can get attention on nights out, earn above average for my mid 20s age range. I fall down because I still live with my parents (and likely will until I’m nearly 29), cannot bring girls home as they hoard and the house is a mess. I do have some game. I don’t not get women. But I’m “guilty of” being a bit of a…
/r/ExRedPill10/11/20 07:54 PM
2

It might have said something about playing video games and someone replied suggesting that “they’re always schemeing/cheating they’re never alone” To which I replied with the above basically saying some women are just happy to have their own space from time to time, and especially if she’s doing that at home in another room then he has nothing to worry about.
/r/MGTOW07/11/20 09:36 PM
6

I used to watch Elliot hulse for his gym advise and holistic approach to exercise. His bro science about pushing and mental strength, videos like the transcendent rep, they used to help. And he had some useful tips on working the body as functionality. But I don’t like this new Elliot. I’m not particularly liberal or offended easily, But I unfollowed him when he starts being homophobic. He posted about a boxer “wearing a dress” which actually matching floral shirt and shorts. That guy earns way …
/r/ExRedPill05/11/20 10:21 AM
3

Testosterone Replacement Therapy Men’s testosterone naturally reduces as they age beyond about 30 years. Testosterone increases appetite, sex drive, mood, motivation, confidence, energy, strength, cell, muscle and body hair growth, and nutrient uptake and partitioning - meaning that food consumed it more likely to be used to build muscle rather than stores are fat especially in conjunction with exercise. Basically, all of the traits of Male puberty. It also boosts the immune system. All anabolic…
/r/MGTOW04/11/20 08:16 PM
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Actually she’s already got that. She never said he didn’t make enough, just that he doesn’t have enough time. Diabeties and low sex drive: he could probably sort this out by getting his ass down the gym and doing TRT. Assuming it’s not type 1 (genetic) which is less common than type 2 (shit diet). The real question then would be: does she deserve him? What can she offer him? Maybe he would be happy with sex. He needs to level up tbf. But why should he invest anything in her she’s already cheated
/r/MGTOW04/11/20 03:09 PM
4

Who’s laughing though? Why do you care what they think? The people that are laughing at you - their opinion is not relevant. I would not share that information, I’d simply tell people it’s non of their business.
/r/MGTOW02/11/20 07:06 AM
2

I don’t use push pull. I use pull and back off. There’s a difference. Pushing a girl down just makes you seem like an arsehole. It also makes you seem fake. Be passive rather than actively push. Just don’t lie, even if it offends.
/r/ExRedPill01/11/20 04:35 PM
5

For anyone wondering alpha simply means your ability to control a situation. “Real” alphas know when to step back. If I’m in a crowd I let my girl in front so that I can watch out for her and she knows where we are going. Alphas don’t always lead. They don’t always control. Being “alpha” in today’s world just doesn’t exist. Being not socially retarded and having empathy for others though, very much does. And that is rare. Even narcissists know when to be kind. You attract bees with honey but you…
/r/ExRedPill30/10/20 04:45 PM
1

It’s just the way it is unfortunately. You can do it within reason but it comes with maturity that you lean on support for others.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/20 07:34 AM
1

Then if the interest is not reciprocated you accept it and move on. TRP might give you some insight in to what you need to do differently. But at the end of the day if the connection is there, she’ll feel it too and reciprocate it and things will be much easier as she allows you to lead the relationship. Where TRP fails is pick up or thinking that you can change their opinion, or that all women are “wrong” and it’s a common misinterpreted and leads to bitterness. A lot of the “women” TRP critiqu…
/r/ExRedPill28/10/20 05:03 PM
1

Do you express interest or test the waters? Sounds to me like you’re just not escalating, expressing interest, flirting, or actually asking them out. Ask them out and if they reject you don’t be bitter but don’t hang out with them again. As for years well you need to be levelling up: style fitness status confidence etc. The biggest turn off is to complain to women also. It’s fine to have a shit day or express problems, but don’t whine about it to them. That’s what your guys mates are for.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/20 03:16 PM
1

You’re focusing too much on “getting in to a relationship” rather than just having a relationship or hanging out with women and seeing what happens. Nothing is certain. Just because she likes you this week doesn’t mean she will like you next week. Just let go and enjoy the ride, don’t focus too much on the destination. Be happy in the moment and don’t worry about where you end up.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/20 02:26 PM
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I mean, anyone is capable of cheating under the right circumstances. The way you have to look at it is that adulatory is the symptom of a failing relationship. The mindset you have to have is: if they leave you or cheat that is your loss. Don’t take them back, replace them with better. Basically try to view cheating as a break up. Don’t take it personally. It’s their problem, not yours, don’t let it distract you from your own happiness.
/r/ExRedPill27/10/20 04:05 PM
-1

I wouldn’t say they’re transactional, just auteurism goes against human nature.
/r/ExRedPill23/10/20 10:49 PM
-2

And what if your job stopped paying you and you couldn’t get your needs met? Would you look for another job?
/r/ExRedPill23/10/20 03:58 PM
-2

It’s true though. If your job made it so you cannot be fired under any circumstances, why would you do any work at all? Waiting until marriage, fine. Waiting until marriage just so that she can’t leave you after you’ve popped off within 30 seconds, not fine. Why neglect basic desire? This created a mindset like sex is something wrong, immoral, or selfish. Sex is actually mutually enjoyable for both parties involved. I’m sick of men thinking that women do not enjoy consensual sex or that they onl…
/r/ExRedPill23/10/20 03:02 PM
-3

Ok you’re not wrong on a lot of those beliefs and they all sound great, I just don’t think they work out in reality. Marriage should not be a “trap” to keep a person bound to you. And fearing being left is a good thing - anxiety creates desire. Men like things to be certain and logical. Women are more emotional. Their feelings can change day to day. I’m assuming your a virgin too? So you don’t really know what sex is like? It’s not some magic “we now have a bond” or “I’m going to fuck you so I f…
/r/ExRedPill22/10/20 11:59 PM
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Red pill is not the answer but self improvement is. I don’t agree with this idea of waiting till marriage for sex. Nothing changes when you get married. This idea that people see it as a destination just doesn’t exist. But you know what does exist? Adultery and divorce. So why wait until marriage for sex and why get the government involved in your relationship?
/r/ExRedPill22/10/20 11:37 PM
5

I mean I agree with a lot of what you said, but don’t you think it’s down right rude and disrespectful that she cancel plans to hang out with other guys last minute? She also likely knew about it for a while as the match was planned. If she wanted to see the match that badly why didn’t she make plans earlier? The match isn’t relevant, she choose the company of others over him; and for that I think it shows his level of importance to her. Also, she “bragged” to him about another guy wanting to ta…
/r/ExRedPill22/10/20 04:28 PM
-5

I mean, I think she’s bad news. I’m going RP on this one, but not in a bitter way. Let me explain a bit: She did shit test you. You sort of handled it. I mean you did the right action, but you did it in a BP way. You basically validated her by saying how much you wanted her. Dude I think you told her too much. I would have been a bit more blunt and honest. And I sure AF would not have told her my plans. I’d want her sitting there worrying, without me having said anything. I would have said somet…
/r/ExRedPill22/10/20 04:14 PM
1

Incel women exist; they just arn’t necessarily looking. They’ve dropped off of social media. They are generally invisible and ignored. Sometimes they turn to online dating. It doesn’t take much to have a look through match.com to find a whole bunch of 3/10 women, who have attitude and “hate men” because they keep getting fucked and chucked by (4-5/10 guys) that just want sex. The thing is incel men give up because they’re frustrated of up paying and not getting sex or a relationship. Incel women…
/r/ExRedPill20/10/20 10:12 PM
2

The thing is.... A woman without a career, will give a man without a career a chance. She isn’t necessarily attractive though. There’s a whole group of this “outside of what is ‘genetically’ attractive” people that are still getting laid. Said guy could be really fucking popular/have lots of status, be physically fit, lie a lot, be ambitious, date older women or women with lower standards etc and still get laid. All it really takes is for the connection to be there at on some level. I’ve seen ho…
/r/ExRedPill20/10/20 09:58 PM
3

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head with that sentence. Dating is not logical. Relationships and attraction are not logical decisions. The fact is attraction is either there or it isn’t. There are ways to boost your physical attraction and body language and that’s it. All this pua and fake alpha shit will only get you so far. at best it will land you in bed with a women you are very physically attracted to but have no connection with, which will likely just make you more depressed and confus…
/r/ExRedPill19/10/20 10:18 PM
2

Yes but most people confuse red pill with pick up or being an incel. You can be aware of peoples nature and still date. You just accept the reality that people’s words and actions don’t always align and that even they don’t understand the way they feel. I’d describe that realisation more as an awakening. Like I’ve got friends that say they’re red pill, they don’t use social media, they don’t get laid, they don’t dm, they give up. And say women should do all the chasing. And that doesn’t work. Th…
/r/ExRedPill19/10/20 07:32 PM
6

I mean have you considered that most young people (of both genders) don’t actually have their shit together? I’m not talking Ferrari and a 6 pac. Most are still living at home with their parents. Most are on low income. Most are not in a “proper” career. Most are in student debt. Most rent/finance their cars or do not drive. Most do not have a lot of disposable income. Most still rely on their parents for support. And women care a lot more about that than men do. Honesty to get laid as a woman, …
/r/ExRedPill19/10/20 05:48 PM
0

“Alpha Male” is just about being the leader in a situation. However they lack the grace and social ques to be empathetic or guide others. You also have to know when to back down and when to let others take over. There will be times when the lime light isn’t on you, you’re not the most alpha, and you should be ok with that. Me and my best mate are the “alphas” in our group of women. We both are capable of leading them and looking after them. We’ve dating some of them and therefore are friends wit…
/r/ExRedPill16/10/20 11:54 AM
1

I think that’s where you’re going wrong. You’re trying to “date” women. That mentality of “will you go out with me?” Or “will you be mine, now?” doesn’t really exist. don’t talk about the virility thing at all. It really shouldn’t come up in conversation. The thing is dude so long as you’re not fat or socially awkward, most girls will give you a chance. I would really advocate that you start talking to more girls. And specifically talk to them without an outcome. I don’t mean slide in their DM, …
/r/ExRedPill12/10/20 08:23 AM
0

At 24 you shouldn’t be worry about or prioritising girls. You should be worrying about getting your shit together and using your 20s to set your life up. You’ve got to do the grind now to be successful later. Look there must be stuff in your life that is making you depressed, that has nothing to do with women. If it’s confidence issues, weight issues, lack of friends/social circle, social awkwardness, money issues, housing issues etc... you should be focusing on yourself to sort those things out…
/r/ExRedPill12/10/20 08:15 AM
-6

Sure, red pill YouTube channels that are actually helpful. The ones that don’t specifically advocate dating, but instead advocate self improvement. Mindful attraction isn’t misogynistic- that guy teaches both men and women the same “manipulation” tactics. But he also says some really good advise that isn’t dark. Just to be part of a group or community, make friends to generate status, don’t hit on women, and eventually women that are interested will begin to show you choosing signals, hint, or a…
/r/ExRedPill11/10/20 11:54 PM
1

Well that’s just a mind set of saying “you’re part of her life, but you’re not her life.” Which is actually part of the same thing where they say crap like “you should be the star of your own movie, not hers.” I mean sure having a life helps and so does similar interests, but it’s not everything. Personality and connection matters more.
/r/ExRedPill11/10/20 10:03 PM
3

And yet at the same time, you’d think that basement dwellers with their only fans simpscriptions, would understand the concept of monogamy because that is essentially what they are practising when they only jack off to and become addicted to one girl.
/r/ExRedPill11/10/20 10:42 AM
1

Not necessarily. You have people who have been hurt and therefore have better empathy and don’t want to hurt others. I’d I say I looked in the red pill because I had so many questions as to why she was doing all of these irrational things. And basically why did she loose interest even when I treated her like a princess and put her on a pedestal. It’s because I then learnt that although that’s what she said she wanted, it wasn’t really what she really wanted. But then I realised that girl in part…
/r/ExRedPill08/10/20 05:52 AM
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Red pill is not necessarily a bad thing though neither is it toxic. In a way it’s the Male equivalent movement to “feminism” It’s a term that is so diluted and mis used that it looses it original purpose. Feminists do not hate men for example. Also, red pill is not the same as incel. To me red pill is saying: look at how shitty people can be. Look how much people would rather lie and manipulate you, because that’s truely how they feel, but they lack the courage to break up. Red pill to me is not…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/20 11:09 PM
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I mean the thing is you’re not wrong which is why it’s hard to turn these feelings off BUT You are wrong about two things: Prevalence and duration. Not all women do this. And those that do, don’t do this forever. In fact it doesn’t even apply to just women, men do it to. There are guys that go through a slut phase. It is easy to rack up numbers, if you have your own place, and if you have zero standards, and you have a 9-5. If you’ve got that down, you’re not fat, and you’re not socially awkward…
/r/ExRedPill06/10/20 02:58 PM
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That’s fine. Be aware of TRP but don’t follow it. Yes some people, will fuck you over, it’s good to be aware of the warning signs. Don’t let that put you off dating though. Be aware you might have to pay on the first date for example, but don’t simp out and go for an expensive restaurant to impress her, coffee or a walk in the park is fine.
/r/ExRedPill05/10/20 11:02 AM
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The thing is you can still be mgtow and be ambitious. The right woman will build you up, not knock you back. I’m not saying you should go out there and chase ass or even bother with online dating. But I’m hoping that mgtow simply refers to being on your purpose, not ignoring the possibility of dating altogether.
/r/ExRedPill05/10/20 05:41 AM
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Or once you get over the anger you’ll learn the purple pill. You’ll know that people, of both genders, are capable of fucking you over. Also, if you keep carrying on like your girlfriends going to leave, ignoring her messages, ghosting, keeping her on her toes, making her jealous, and similar PUA/red pill tactics - she’s going to leave. Because the “hypergamy” will kick in that when you’re not replying to her texts, there’s 6 guys in her DM that will give her that. So if you think you’re special…
/r/ExRedPill05/10/20 05:38 AM
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I think the answer to this is to simply be around more women. Be in a group and be party of a community. Just don’t hit on them straight away. It’s not “beta” or weak to do this, it lets them get to know you, it improves your status, it makes you social proof. From there you can indicate attraction by asking them out. If they reject you no harm done, just move on. But it works much better than cold approaching, where you’ve got at least a 50% chance she tells you she has a boyfriend simply becau…
/r/ExRedPill01/10/20 06:59 PM
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