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Discussionatelitus/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 10:43 PM
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Healthy relationships require compromise and vulnerability which is becoming taboo. Don't compromise; don't be a beta, don't be a pickmeisha. If your partner isn't literally or metaphorically sucking you off at all times, dump them because you deserve someone who makes your needs the only priority in their lives. You're the King/Queen and you have to let the whole world know it. Give less than you get, say I-love-you two times for every three they say to you. Fuck with their heads; nag and neg t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 05:25 PM
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Would you still do it if they didn't offer anything in return?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 04:45 PM
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Do you think this skews women's attitudes towards relationships in the same way porn is reputed to skew men's attitude towards sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 10:41 PM
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It's less about getting laid and more about looking for male leadership and guidance that's all but disappeared for a lot of guys. If half of marriages end in divorce, half of growing boys end up without a clear male role model. So they turn online and realistically, a forum about how to pick up chicks is going to be attractive to them. Where else is a young man supposed to get dating advice if he has no men to look up to and turn to for advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 09:39 PM
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Assuming this is true, how would you like cultural values to shift? Do girls need to get cool with guys looking at other women naked (which is, by your admission, a turn off) or do guys need to get cool with women showing their bodies to their extended friend circle?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 09:29 PM
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This. The need for validation and attention is not a female one; it's a human one. Instagram is full of guys posting their PR's, shirtless pics, etc. because validation feels good for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 09:25 PM
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It's funny how men are only admirable when they're devoting their entire existence to a woman's desires.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/12/20 05:40 PM
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The lengths she went to to talk about her loser exes sounds a little on-point. Then again, there are coke-addicted frat boys and cheating manipulative borderline abusive people in the world.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/12/20 05:25 PM
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Is there a better way to go?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 05:20 PM
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Option 3, clearly
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 05:10 PM
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I only really like sex when it's with someone I actually care about; I've done the ons thing in the past and it didn't really do anything for me. Some people consider that a kind of asexuality but personally I just consider it a different attitude towards sex. I think people struggle with it because of our extremely sexualized society where everyone is assumed to either be having sex, wanting sex, or thinking about sex at all hours of the day. Abstaining from sexual contact effectively cuts you …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 05:09 PM
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Women are doing this in female-only networking spaces; why can't men also do the same? Why can't men advocate for men's interests and women advocate for women's interests?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 04:22 PM
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That's some Elastagirl levels of reach. The amount of times you've orgasmed in the presence of another person is an indication of how suitable you are in a relationship? Is a person who has been with ten people more relationship material than a person who's slept with five? What about people who meet someone young and marry them at 23 after only dating a handful of others? Better yet, why are you judging maturity based on another person's validation?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 04:00 PM
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Why would someone who has enjoyed a great deal of sexual partners in the past be satisfied with one in the future? I don't think each person you fuck lowers your chance of being a life-partner by a measurable amount, but if I'm dating someone who's slept with a new person every few weeks for the last several years, why would I suddenly expect them to be satisfied with a monogamous relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 03:54 PM
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Values about sex should be aligned in any long term relationship and should be communicated early and often so both parties can make decisions about the future of the relationship. I don't think sex is love, but I think sex should be shared between people in love. I'm not asexual and I don't think it's unreasonable to expect that in a monogamous relationship I would have sex with my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 03:47 PM
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Are you saying you disagree with her??? Go back and look at the words until you agree with them! No she will not defend her position; no she will not convince you. Just read her feelings and agree with them!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/12/20 01:41 AM
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Taking dating advice from TRP/FDS is like taking financial advice from someone who's perpetually broke.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 04:47 PM
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Men should absolutely reign in their own sexuality. The things men do for even the faintest crumb of sex is pathetic. We all have instincts and desires and drives but we make choices whether or not to act on them. The idea that a man is incapable of reigning in his thirst is ridiculous. I also agree that we need to tell men to get fitter and healthier independent if women want to fuck them or not. Heart disease and diabetes doesn't care about your luck with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 04:46 PM
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TRP doesn't account for queer sexualities at all; TRP sees anything that isn't straight people having straight sex in the straightest way possible as outliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 04:40 PM
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I don't think you'll have a hard time finding those; women are advancing into professional spots at higher rates than men are and are looking for similarly successful men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 04:35 PM
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Because society still tells men that a woman's sexual interest in them is inherently valuable and that attaining it is the goal of his existence. Thus men who aren't successful are seen as failing in their duty to attract mates. It's gynocentrism plain and simple; woman good because woman and man must get woman because woman good.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 04:32 PM
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Straight women are a plague on gay bars. They show up sloppy and loud and somehow get offended when lesbians hit on them in a gay club. They've somehow decided that they're entitled to enter gay spaces because vagina and then act pearl-clutchy and cry misogyny when people politely suggest that maybe gay bars should be for gay people and not half-in-the bag proto-Karens looking to avoid getting hit on. You want women only clubs? Be my guest. Gay bars are not zoos for you and your girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 04:28 PM
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I think TRP wouldn't exist if there were structures and spaces for men to go to be among other men. Women benefit from female-only spaces and I'm not begrudging them that as long as men get to have our spaces as well. But it seems men can't gather anymore without cries of misogyny
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/20 04:23 PM
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Men have been told to step back from society and let women have their turn. The prevailing attitude of feminism is that men need to move over and make space for women who are being told to lean in and step up. Are we surprised that a generation of boys that has grown up with "the future is female" don't feel inclined to take part in building a future that doesn't seem to be for them? A society that hates them, jokes about killing them, glorifies women who abuse men, laughs at male pain and compl…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 07:22 PM
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I think it's more acceptable for a woman to be unemployed/underemployed/living with parents than it is for a man to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 06:43 PM
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Findommes fantasize about rich nobodies that will pay them 5 figures to berate them. The reality is that there are more women looking for this arrangement than men looking to participate in it. You have to be a serious slug of a man to consider signing up for this arrangement and the ones that do are usually not wealthy enough to make the time investment worthwhile.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/12/20 05:52 PM
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This behavior is endemic in kink spaces too. Women with no understanding of kink or SSC practices want to abuse and humiliate men and get paid for the privilege. Findoms get pretty harshly banned except in dedicated findom spaces because most findommes are just "pay me money and get nothing from me" dommes.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/12/20 05:48 PM
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That's the one thing I should know about you??
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/12/20 04:38 PM
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What is the "first move?" Is it initiating conversation? Giving the first IOI? Contriving a scenario in which she's alone with the guy she's interested with? Grabbing his dick with both hands in the middle of a Kroger aisle?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 04:31 PM
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I have a lot of female friends; I've had a few make advances on me and dated a few as well. I used to get attracted to my friends but I learned a while ago that the girls I'm friends with, I didn't ask out sooner for one reason or another, mostly because not every guy has chemistry with every girl. I have a pretty tight group of friends that I don't really want to compromise at this point in my life. It's easier to try and date outside the friend circle and keep my friends for who they are. You …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/20 12:20 AM
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She was single by choice when it suited her; now that it's out of her hands, it's a problem.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/12/20 09:46 PM
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TRP: You are the prize only if you make yourself the prize; you have to work hard and build yourself up for women to be attracted to you. You have to constantly work to gain and keep attraction. Abundance mentality means you're willing to walk away from a woman who isn't treating you well. Other women are out there and you can find another one if this one doesn't work out. I have no understanding of FDS that isn't secondhand so I can't speak to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 09:12 PM
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When women do it they're abusive too. A cute body is not a pass to act like a lunatic.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/12/20 04:55 PM
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She did find someone though; she has a boyfriend. But because he isn't wealthy and can't afford her opportunities, she doesn't mention him until the end. That guy needs to evaluate his relationship; his girlfriend is judging the success of her life by someone making much more than he does. That bitterness is going to bubble up in 9 months when she posts on relationship_advice about how she cheated on "perfect" boyfriend.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/12/20 04:55 PM
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My uncle is a pretty macho guy's guy but in spite of that, has comparatively little backbone. My ex-aunt baby-trapped him, definitely cheated on him while they were together and even told him to his face that one of his daughters was not his. Took him 10 years to pry that bear trap off his leg and divorce her; had to move in with his parents after all was said and done. The thing is that everybody but my uncle in the family rightfully pegged her as an opportunistic bitch from the get-go. He was …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 04:10 PM
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No gay men are all spies who are just waiting for you to turn your back so they can shapechange into a heterosexual and fuck your girl behind your back. /s It's okay to draw a boundary around flirting but gay men don't fuck women; that's kind of a defining factor of being a gay guy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 04:00 PM
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I would think a better counterargument for these types would be to point out that they don’t need to seek women’s approval for validation and general life success, as opposed to the Sisyphean task of trying to claim that many women aren’t selfish and petty when most human beings generally are. I feel like this is an important point. Men get bombarded by the idea that your value as a human being is tied to the amount of pussy you can attract. We need to tell men and boys that a woman's interest i…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 03:56 PM
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I have to agree; the most understanding I've ever gotten as a man has been from other men. That said, I think we have a long way to go before it's normalized on a broader scale than individual friend groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 03:51 PM
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It's not just male culture; it's how culture as a whole perceives men. Women are as guilty of perpetuating "toxic masculinity" if not more so. Gillette ads telling men to cry isn't going to work if we're not also telling women that the men in their lives are not robots and that basic human empathy is required of them. That means shaming women who shame men; that means treating male problems like problems instead of "MRA Tears". Sure, let's move the needle. Just don't frame this as entirely men's…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/20 07:35 PM
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"Women don't want to be with losers who are out of shape, lack status, and lack personality." doesn't sound like a radical notion. I don't want to be with loser women; why should women be with loser men?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/20 05:26 PM
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I think it's a symptom of instant gratification tinged with a skewed understanding of romanticism. People want Prince/Princess Charming; they don't want to work with Prince/Princess Pretty Good. The idea that your romantic partner needs to complete you is a flawed one that both sexes cling to. People don't want relationships; they want someone to fill that which is missing in their lives. Thus hookup culture, dating around, and turbulent romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/20 05:23 PM
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It's the mistaken belief that the other sex is afforded all advantages compared to your own sex while ignoring the hardships the other sex suffers and the advantages afforded to your own sex. Women think that the patriarchy hands men everything they ask for and ignore the hardships of being male in today's society. Men think that women can get anything they want from men/government assistance while ignoring the hardships of being female. It's gender solipsism and I don't see it getting resolved …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/20 05:17 PM
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Is there any truth that the mean for "effort/originality" is more/better in the profile of women vs the ones of men I think this is an example of bias. Women have garbage dating profiles as well but because the average male is about as discerning as the average swine when it comes to sex, women can afford to not put in as much effort. Someone is going to fuck her. That said, the average person is exactly that; average. I'm sure there are a swathe of guys whose interests revolve around the same f…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/20 05:07 PM
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because we have been conditioned to believe that nobody gives a shit about us or our feelings to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/20 04:57 PM
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Emmett Till whistled at a woman and he was murdered for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 06:56 PM
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I dislike the idea that men need to be more like women or need to be more feminine. Some people identify with masculine fashion; not everybody is a skirts and lingerie sort of person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 05:41 PM
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Hobbies. Seriously, a person who is passionate and dedicated to a hobby or personal pursuit is a person who's alive. A person who invests in the things they care about. It doesn't matter if it's something I like or not; genuine interest and passion in something is incredibly appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 05:39 PM
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Men do not cry or talk about our feelings because we have been conditioned to believe that nobody gives a shit about us or our feelings to begin with. At best, you'll lose face for showing emotions; at worst, you'll be ostracized for it. A woman's pain is something to be concerned about; suicide is only a problem when women do it. Sexual assault is only a problem when it happens to women. Women underepresented in high-earning fields must be corrected; men underepresented in universities is just …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 05:15 PM
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Did she really do billions of dollars worth of work though? There's a pretty large gap between poverty and affluence. Maybe she doesn't deserve poverty but nobody deserves a billion dollars.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 04:21 PM
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Spend less time on social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/20 04:17 PM
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You're surprised that a male sphere prioritizes men over women?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 06:24 PM
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Disdain for working class people is endemic across the board. I'm not surprised it hurts your dating prospects as well. A particular career does not make a person intelligent; hell, people graduate from four year colleges stupider than they were when they enrolled. I think you're running into prejudice that's more deeply ingrained than Bumble.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 05:37 PM
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I see just as much (if not more) coming from women's side of the aisle. Cosmo and talk shows are full of women airing their grievances about the male sex. Not saying those are/are not justified, but let's not act like women don't kvetch about men more than MRA's kvetch about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 05:16 PM
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A job is a job; some jobs have attractive and fit people that do them (swimsuit model/firefighter) but a profession doesn't make a person sexy to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 04:31 PM
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This would be true if relationships were only about love. Trust, respect, and compatibility are equal factors in any long term relationship. Marriage still carries societal weight independent of love and offers a degree of status. If marriage was just about love, same-sex couples wouldn't have fought so hard to get access to the legal rights marriage entails. Life-partners can be banned from being next to their significant other as they passed away and excluded from inheriting shared property. G…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 04:23 PM
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Why does a space for men about men's issues need to center on female experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 04:14 PM
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I think you hit upon a good point that isn't brought up as much wrt positive displays of masculinity; being an anchor for your partner during difficult times.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 03:27 PM
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The thing is that "men are to blame for all the problems women have" and "women are to blame for all the problems men have" ignore the fact that we do not live in separate castles where one gender lobs problems at the other side. Men's problems are the fault of individual men, individual women, Men as a collective, Women as a collective, societal expectations for Men and the individual man, etc. Personally, the only thing you can do is take responsibility for your own actions and mitigate the di…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 03:23 PM
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It's a preference; some people like it, some people don't. You think colored hair is sexy and fun, some might see it as garish/unattractive. Do whatever you'd like with your body; just don't expect everyone to love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 02:05 PM
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Personality. I've moved on from plenty of attractive women because they couldn't hold a conversation, didn't have hobbies outside social media, or generally were dull to try and talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 02:01 PM
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I thought marriage was supposed to be a partnership where both spouses shared equally in the housework and raising of children?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 08:50 PM
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Doing dishes, cooking food, and cleaning are not pleasurable activities for most people. Even in a committed relationship, these are not fun to do; they are a responsibility that only really crops up during co-habitations. I am not overjoyed to scrub pots and pans; I do it because it needs to be done. The idea that I should "enjoy" basic activities like this is as absurd as asking me to enjoy wiping my ass or brushing my teeth.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 08:46 PM
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Why does a person's life need to be spent pleasing someone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/20 08:39 PM
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We're at the point now where regularly patronizing hookers is preferable to jumping through hoops for tepid starfish sex with boring women. At least hookers will do what they're paid to do.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/12/20 05:35 PM
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This is literally every sloppy drunk MILF who falls over after three martinis and shoves the faces of twenty year old guys into her sagging breasts. This is a woman who thinks acting twenty means being twenty and hopes with enough partying, she can recapture the magic of her youth. I've been to concerts sitting next to this woman. I've met this woman in every bar I've gone to. This is the female equivalent of the forty year old who can't shut up about how he was Valedictorian in high school or c…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/12/20 11:36 PM
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"Y'all ain't shit!" Of course I'm not shit; why would I want to be shit?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/12/20 11:31 PM
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If she were actually funny, interesting, or pleasant to be around, she might keep a few. If literally no man wants to associate with you outside the bedroom, odds are it's you not them.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/12/20 11:30 PM
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Women are used to venting their anger in physical ways in het relationships because nobody gives a shit if a woman hits a man. That carries over into lesbian relationships where suddenly they realize that their partner will slap back.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/12/20 05:37 PM
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Why the everloving fuck would you put your children on an app where people are looking for someone to fuck?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/12/20 09:07 PM
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Simple: they feel unloved because the vast majority of women don't love themselves. The average woman, under a veneer of girl-power and "women are queens!" rhetoric, despises herself more than men in worse situations. The homeless guy who roots through my trash for uneaten McDonalds is more cheerful than my high-earning, high-career driven cousin who got Wall'd harder than Berlin did. Predisposition towards neuroticism is an anchor around the neck of every woman on the planet. All the ass-kissin…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/12/20 08:05 PM
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If you're lonely by yourself, you're in bad company. And good company realizes bad company is more infectious than COVID and steers well clear.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/12/20 06:58 PM
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The advice men and women get at these ages is like night and day. Men are encouraged to build power and focus on themselves if women aren't interested in them. The rationale is that once Sheilah is done fucking around and getting a desk job in HR finding herself and focusing on her career, you'll "make a good husband." What men are realizing is that they can take all the resources they saved by not dating and invest them in themselves. They're realizing that women in their 20's will sleep with o…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/11/20 07:47 PM
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"Not afraid of a strong women"="I need a doormat to shout at and blame for the shit that goes wrong in my life and he better not raise his voice back at me or I'll cry."
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/11/20 06:58 PM
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I used to rise to comments like these until I realized they're feminine negging designed to get men to qualify themselves as "one of the smart ones" to her.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/11/20 05:35 PM
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Translation: men have called me out on my bullshit in the past and instead of making efforts to improve myself, I am doubling down on my "feisty" personality that almost assuredly includes drinking, arguing, and impulsive decisions that would make a horny eighteen year old balk. Don't you dare hold me accountable.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/11/20 02:43 PM
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Ma'am, you appear to have a giant metal zit on your lip; I would get that removed before attempting online dating
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/11/20 02:39 PM
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"I am mean and rude and bad tempered but you better not be; I want a doormat I can use as a punching bag. Where are all the good man-shaped stress balls?!"
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/11/20 07:36 PM
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The preferences/standards misconception really irks me because standards should be things that are vitally important to a relationship, not cosmetic preferences which everyone has. I prefer short brunette women who like music and outdoor activities but I'm willing to wiggle a little on hair color, hobbies, and other small details if I'm interested in the rest. My standards involve things like respect, honesty, and mental/emotional stability; even if she's a 5'2 brunette who prints free concert t…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/11/20 03:06 PM
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Women fail to understand that if you were really worth being a main girl, someone would make you their main girl. Plenty of men out there want to wife someone up so if you're constantly single: 1) You aren't interested in the men who want you, and/or 2) You're so obnoxious to be around outside the bedroom he won't deal with you unless you're actively pleasuring him. Lowering your preferences (which so many mistake for standards) and improving the quality of your appearance/character is what men …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/11/20 07:05 PM
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Women are sad that the era of getting free shit for possessing two X chromosomes is ending. I buy drinks, food, and gifts for friends on special occasions; I wouldn't buy shit for my friends "just because" so why does this stranger who I don't even know if I tolerate, let alone like, feel entitled to special treatment? Why does someone allergic to treating men with respect still ask for it? Qualify yourself to me and add value to my life; then we can talk about rewards for good behavior. Until t…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/11/20 06:57 PM
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"Women wear many hats" Women are masters of turning paper party hats into tiaras. This is the sex that classifies talking to her romantic partner as "emotional labor" and throwing clothes into the washing machine as "homemaking." They never do as much as they want everyone to think that they do.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/11/20 06:47 PM
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She's in love with herself and far be it for me to intrude on a happy healthy fulfilling relationship
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/11/20 06:38 PM
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Women are incapable of meaningfully supporting men. All the good support I've received over the years has been from male friends and relatives. Women just want you to get over it quickly so they can go back to talking about themselves, their wants, their needs, their favorite shows, their Starbucks order, their work drama, their...
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/11/20 05:46 PM
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I find that most people who cry out loudest against fascism would absolutely be fascists for the right dictator. They're only "anti-authoritarian" because they haven't found an authority they like enough yet.
/r/TheRedPill18/11/20 11:39 PM
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"I take no shit"="I rudely and violently defend my narrow worldview from any and all invaders no matter how small. Speak when spoken to, slave."
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/11/20 03:11 PM
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Please line up to be the next man she publicly defames after your relationship ends
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/11/20 02:54 PM
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