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athene34/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 08:54 AM
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I see. This where I'm failing, although I'm starting to pass some. Most of the time I initially refuse, then get the complaint about her horrible day, she's tired, blah blah, I sigh and do it, and "hamster?" myself into thinking that she has always been really low energy, has had thyroid issues and maybe it is a comfort test after all. When I do not do it, the go to phrase is "then you'll want me to have sex with you, when you don't show that you care for me. Then you will want me to feel attrac…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 09:50 AM
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I'm still trying to figure out when something is a compliance/shit test and when it is a legitime call for help. Is there any difference between "go get me more pizza" (that's what she did a few months ago when she respected me very little) and "can you get me more pizza , please?". When I get asked for this, and I'm still eating and refuse/ignore, she goes into a rant about how deadly tired she is, the really low energy she has, how she's been cleaning up the house after coming back from work w…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 08:04 AM
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First of all, a million thanks for taking the time to write such a comprehensive answer. I see what you mean and you are absolutely right about the way I handle discussions/arguments at home. I raise my voice and generally look stressed very early in all of them, and can never leave without answering to the arguments she gives. As an update, my therapist convinced me to go home and say that I would stay at homewith the kid and she could go as a step forward on my side to release the tension. She…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/15 08:51 AM
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Thank you!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/15 08:01 AM
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An IDGAF attitude must include an element of caring and emotion or it is just being a dick and how do you do this when you are supposed to not give emotional comfort to your wife as long as she doesn't fuck you? I can see you must not show being butthurt, but fuck me if I understand how you can show you care and at the same time show you don't care...
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/15 03:41 PM
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My wife uses exactly this reasoning to call me selfish. That is, she doesn't say I'm selfish for not doing things for her (well she does too) but for not doing things for our son. Let's say I've finished bathing him, I've prepared his dinner and I hand her his plate and head for the garage, where I have set up my gym. In two minutes she calls for help. Reasons: the boy is really unruly tonight/I'm really tired tonight/he wants to watch something different on the computer (which shows up on our T…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/15 04:52 PM
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Ok,I said that and haven't moved from that position. She says she's still going. Now what?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/15 07:07 AM
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Well, that's exactly the problem She will be going to that play the day before, or 2 days before her period. From experience, most of our major fights have happened there. But, on the other hand, if i don't do anything and sit at home with the baby she will have lost, since I've already shown my displeasure and lack of approval.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/15 03:34 PM
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This is Spain. Hunting license is as far as you get. I mean, you have to be military, police or private security to get one. She's still saying she'll go to that play rain or snow. I'll have to look into the babysitter thing, but when I do that one day before her period, the shitstorm is going to be epic. She can utterly and completely lose it, and has done so before. Only this time I'm expecting the cops to be called for.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/15 03:19 PM
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I'm going to buy a bike. That was on the way when we learned that she was pregnant, and never got to buy it. It has been on the back of my head for over a year and a couple months ago decided I should do it, but haven't taken any steps so far. I've said nothing yet. Also going to get my hunting firearms license.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/15 06:48 AM
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No to brag, but several women have said "You look like a film star". All over fifty years old, though. Those are the cheekiest. My Ex-wife called me "model". The problem here is that throughout our relationship, I've made it crystal clear that I don't cheat. Didn't do it on my first wife either. Breaking this frame is really complicated now. I would need to make the dread overt, and I don't think I can go for that at my stage. Hell, my therapist sent for her and after a little talk said "look he…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/15 05:41 PM
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Yeah. With kids in the picture the feeling is a lot different. I would have done just wht rollo says when we were starting the relationship, and would have been natural. I see it from the point of view of the Chateau's maxim "never let a woman walk all over you". Making me the babysitter of her GNO feels like she's humilliating me. But, on the other hand, since I never go out at night, finding a babysitter and going out myself would look like I'm doing it out of spite.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/15 05:34 PM
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She doesn't even tell me. Our luch convo is "(me) hi, how's the kid?" "fine, asleep" "and your day at work?" "not bad/busy/whatever" "ok, see you at home". And replay at home.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/15 05:30 PM
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This Alpha thing is where I'm lost at. My father is an angry alpha. He tamed my mother this way. That is, his way or the highway. He's not funny, and is not amusing in a way a woman would find charming. He's a hunter, a biker and does not do much apart from that. Doesn't even have the conversation outside any of those subjects. I can be an angry alpha for some time, but then I cave when given what I think are compelling reasons, so I'm more like an angry beta. You know what I mean? I'm not looki…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/15 05:24 PM
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The example on that post is really different. an alpha man in a short term relationship trying not to convey neediness through his actions. On the comments, most people mention that in a LTR a GNO should be a really exceptional thing. In a relationship as shakey as mine, the lack of respect shown by her, choosing to go out with friends before going out with me, forces me to take a stand.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/15 07:36 AM
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Wouldn't work. First, we have never hired a babysitter. She's a scared person, and we can only leave the kid with her mother (who does a great job but is as afraid of everything as she is). I've brought this issue several times, 'cause we can never go out on our own, but she says she won't trust anyone and wouldn't be comfortable during the date. Actually, the babysitting culture is a lot less prevalent here, we have family, so you don't find them easily.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 04:04 PM
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I'll give you my opinion, in hindsight. I did all this but the frame was that of someone who was being forced to do it, in a passive agressive way. Had I done all this from a position of leadership and laughed at her when she started to get bratty the outcome would have been different. It was 50-50. She comes from a really fucked up family and has abandonement issues. Her own fear of being left alone, like her father did, makes her react in crazy ways. i know how it sounds, and I assume that the…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 04:00 PM
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citaTwo years with no sex? Seriously? You are worried about your wife going to a play because she MIGHT get horny a few days later? Whoo boy! I know. I'd do a faceplant if I were flexible enough. But it was like I couldn't even say good morning to her without a searing retort. I've tracked her phone, VAR'ed her car, the whole job, and nothing's come out of it. She also goes to a therapist, her only 3 hours unaccounted for, and the gps shows she's there right on time. As for horny, no, I don't th…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 03:55 PM
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I already texted a "denied" answer this morning. 5 minutes later she texted "how's that?" (it is like why but less strong in Spanish) and I haven't answered since. I allowed it to happen by helping out really a lot at first, and showing I was competent. From there, when I tried that she took back some of the chores she shamed me into believing that she couldn't work (full time, 8 to 5, personal assistant) and take care of the baby's things (was really tired after work and I really had to lean in…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 01:57 PM
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I've been a bit extreme. I do play with him, then bath him, cook his dinner, then train and cook mine while she feeds him, then as you say occasionally we get to watch an episode.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 01:47 PM
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Not enough, i have a 40 minute commute. And even so I've tried, but I was going to kill myself, not strong enough to go heavy while fasted.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 01:45 PM
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Divorce rape is very much the same thing here. Our liberal party copied the system from yours. Combination of things. Very little experience dating, relatively fresh out of my first divorce, she's a redhead and was good looking and super nice. she's not obeast, 5ft4" and 135 lbs, but soft and thick in the thighs. Spain is not a secret paradise like south america. Spanish men are super thirsty and every girl has a flock of vultures cyrcling around most of the time. Guess what that's done to the g…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 01:43 PM
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My therapist has told me the same thing, no more babies. Interestingly he has also recommended me to find some time for me/return to my hobbies (falconry anyone?), being more assertive and thinks dread would be good to shake things a little. The problem with dread (and hobbies) is my schedule is so tight I would have to make it up, like saying I had lunch with this or that female colleague when it isn't actually true. I start working at 8 am, finish at 6 pm and by 10:30 I'm in bed. Gym at home, …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 12:08 PM
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I'm halfway through. Actually I've already read the rest of the sidebar material but that one, though it seems it would be the one i need the most.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 12:00 PM
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Thoughts about leaving her have been constantly in the back and not so back of my mind for the last 2'5 years. When my son was born, I immediately became a second class citizen in my own house. compound this with a terrible relationship with my mother that has finally led to their falling out (and my mother has done her worst to get to that as well), her health problems (asthma, general tiredness), nd divorce has been really close. There was a point when she said we were really together because …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 11:23 AM
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That's what I don't get. We were at a stalemate where none of us showed any need to interact with the other. I wasn't even initiating. She however was finding a way to shame me into calling or messaging by saying that I didn't ask about my son during the day. 8 months ago i started going to a therapist. I have been diagnosed as having OCD treats, but not the full thing. The guy is not totally RP (this is spain and people don't even know about it) but is not BP either. Since the start of my thera…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 11:00 AM
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Hell, no. ovulation this saturday, May 10th, period May 23rd-24th, just like the rest of humans. That is, she's about to ovulate and is throwing a shit test. actually, 2, she's trying to get a cat, which I'm cool with, but she's trying that I get that cat for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 10:19 AM
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I don't think he's talking about his kids, he wants to use dread on his wife, and he's finding it difficult to do so without neglecting his kids a bit. I understand him, it's the same thing for me, and my wife is really quick to point out that my disappearing and not being there in time for let's say the kid's bath, which is one of my tasks, is egotistical and self-centered.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/15 11:29 AM
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