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aussie_darrow/r/askMRP22/03/21 12:50 AM
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If you live in a western country, this plan sounds somewhat naive. And remember, the woman you marry is not the same woman you divorce. They are very different beasts.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/25 10:11 PM
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Last week I said I wanted to cut that shit out. My goal was a 100% reduction in alcohol intake. I managed to stick to that until Saturday night, where I had roughly about 60% of what I would have had on a normal night (every night) Which equates to a 91% reduction in alcohol use this week. So you set yourself a goal, failed, then hamstered. Sounds like you are an alcoholic and no alcohol is the right amount for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/24 11:11 AM
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I was ready to cut my long-distance GF loose a month ago, and I started spinning plates. ..... Now that we're back together, I'm absolutely brimming with energy and focus. ..... Spinning plates has also proved to be a great boon; I'm having the best sex of my life. ..... After much deliberation, my decision was to demote my GF to a plate. ...... I decided to let her move in with me again, but only if she accepted my frame and played the role of a "good housewife," Fuck, I'm confused...
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/23 04:30 AM
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Access to my kid is the only external thing has a direct affect on my happiness, which I cannot shake off. Have a close look at your motivations here. I believe that there are two main drivers to your emotions relating to your kids - genuine love for your kids and/or fatherly duty due to societal programming. I think a big chunk of guys are more hung up on their sense of failure at the latter. I was in the second camp. I’ve slipped into letting emotions dictate what I eat, using food as a coping…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/23 10:37 PM
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I don't have concrete goals here which is why I never seem to make progress. I'll put some thought into it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/23 10:12 PM
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Nuking the marriage isn’t a fuckup if it wasn’t worth it. That said, failing to mitigate the risks to your child can be, if she’s important to you. Nuking was absolutely the best choice for me. I sent my daughter to counselling and had done so for many of her younger years. ​ Consider looking into parental alienation and discussing your rights under the parenting agreement with a lawyer. You didn’t give her age, but it sounds like reunification therapy could help. You may need to get an order fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/23 10:11 PM
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Most of your post is giving yourself an attaboy for shit you should be doing anyway. Your 19% BF tells me you’ve been off course in the past even after you started OYS. That's fair. While I have been consistently training, I haven't had anywhere near the level of focus that I had for the first three quarters of last year. My discipline has slipped a bit. That’s likely because you are not digging into the pain points enough. Also true. This has been a theme for me for the past months. Probably be…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/23 11:32 AM
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I don't have a plan for this yet. I'm going to train in Thailand in May with a bunch of guys, but May is too far away to be a plan. I'll arrange an event this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/23 11:14 AM
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OYS #37 Age: 49 - Dating one woman 39 Stats (7 day rolling avg.): 6', 202 lbs, 19% BF (navy) - up -11 lbs (4%) over the last few months Lifts: DL 325 3x5, SQ 231 3x5, BP 193 3x5, OP 132 3x5 Reading/Listening: Huberman Podcasts Summary: The past three months... Everything is going well. I decided to bulk after cutting the first nine months of last year (losing 44 lbs). I have gained some mass across my upper body. It was poorly planned out, and while I did gain some lean mass, I also put some fat…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/23 08:52 AM
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Dude. You are a senior-level manager? so time management should be a fundamental skill that you've mastered. I don't know where you are wasting your time. That said, leave work an hour earlier 3 times a week and stop in at the gym on the way home. Or, whatever. Now, be honest. The real reason is that you are afraid of what your wife will say when you take those 3-4 hours per week for yourself, right? That, or laziness... Once you are honest about this, you'll get better advice. Edit: And get som…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/22 05:13 AM
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In the past week, how many hours were spent watching TV, lounging around or finger fucking your phone?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/22 10:00 PM
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I'm thinking about homeschooling my kids. I haven't decided because I haven't done the work of figuring out logistics, curriculum, pros/cons, etc. Why mention it to anyone if you haven't done the basic considerations of whether it's a good idea? It must be exhausting for your wife if you are the type of guy that throws out ill-considered thought bubbles all the time...
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/22 03:53 AM
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Lifting: Still squeezing in at-home workouts. This week only got in two workouts about 30-40 mins each. Stopped reading here...
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/22 03:31 AM
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You have my permission to leave her.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/22 11:57 AM
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We had sex after I was done with my work but it was mediocre. I kept apologizing while doing the deed because she said it was hurting her (she was dry so we had to use lube) while I was fucking. Don't apologize for anything. Especially during sex. That's a pussy drier right there. If you have to, use the lube and keep going as if it's no big deal - because it isn't a big deal. The less words the better during sex unless you are talking dirty. ​ She was into it, or doing a good job acting like it…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/22 11:11 PM
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I knew at the moment that the power / control dynamic made the sex hotter, but writing it out in the comment helped really cement it for me that to really break through, I need to be fucking her mind and her body and I think that's going to require more assertiveness. I don't really have any interest in making our relationship into a full-on dom/sub relationship, but I certainly don't mind increasing physical and mental dominance and I'm going to look through some dom/sub stuff for ideas because…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 11:04 PM
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That said, I’m not sure how the “stay plan is same as go plan” applies to me. I’m coming at MRP from a Christian perspective, so there’s only “The Plan”. If my wife decided to leave or cheat are my only ways out. Sounds like you are the only one playing by those rules... given that your wife is happy to throw the 'divorce' threat around.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 10:14 PM
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spent more time than I intended wondering just how the fuck I went from being a goddamn snake-eater to a middle aged schlub who can’t get laid at home That's easy. You got fat, physically and mentally lazy and believed that once you got married the work was done. Most of us came here from this position. Don't worry about the calipers... at over 30% it's going to mean shit anyway. Just track your mass, waist circumference, lifts and calorie intake. Track your lifts, waist and mass at https://stre…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 09:34 PM
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These are calculated 1RMs. They've barely moved all year while I've been cutting and doing so much martial arts. I'll find out tonight whether I'm grading for black belt this year. If not, I'll back off on the MA and start pushing hard on the lifting otherwise I'll start pushing in hard in a few weeks. What are your current stats? I'm 189 lbs at around 17% BF Navy with a 34.6' waist.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/22 11:42 PM
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Yes, I agree with all of what you've said. She's at a point where the govt. has assigned her a small team of health professionals to assist her. She won't see them so their new strategy is to use her mother and me as a proxy for that care. So, I'll be meeting with them regularly over the coming weeks. That said, I'm comfortable with the fact that I only have a limited amount of influence in this situation. I've had a massive covert contract around my daughter for years that I've managed to overc…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/22 12:34 AM
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I decided to commit to my main plate after sleeping with 12 women. It's interesting that you decided the commit to your plate after completely falling off your mission...
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/22 11:00 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/22 10:32 PM
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Zero Porn - Not sure if I've mentioned this before. I never felt like it was a problem, but I did recognize it as a weakness, so I've stopped watching porn. In turn, I masturbate less often (1-2x a week vs. 5-7x). Masturbating less does seem to help energy levels generally. It's been said enough times on here, which I agree with, that porn is poison to the male mind. I also think it ruins your sexual imagination, particularly around the emotional part of DEVI. I also think that jerking off is a …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/22 07:16 AM
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Mon (with a trainer): Bench, Seated cable rows, Deadlifts Wed: Shoulder press, Chin-ups and Squat Fri: Shoulder press, Chin-ups and Squat Sat: High rep arms I've changed it around as I've got the trainer on Mondays to spot my bench. I do hundreds of pushups each week so I only do bench once a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/22 12:27 AM
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I'm pretty good at only worrying about things I can control. I want to talk to her most days so that's what I do. I don't think about it much. I'm at peace with whatever happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/22 12:13 AM
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As /u/muzzy_W0e wrote, it's an easier mechanism for managing incoming calories. I don't think there's any difference between grazing and restricted feeding windows where the same incoming calories are consumed. But, the best diet is the one you stick to. This week, I've lost 7.5 lbs (mostly water and food matter) on OMAD - and I've been training like a beast. OMAD wrecks my sleep and mood so it's not a good choice for anything other than quick cut.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/22 12:08 AM
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OYS #36 Age: 49 - Dating one woman 39 Stats (7 day rolling avg.): 6', 193 lbs, 16.9% BF (navy) - down 0.91 lbs (-0.81%) this week Lifts: DL 373, SQ 289, BP 216, IBP 192, OP 132 Reading/Listening: Huberman Podcasts Summary: Everything is going well. Work and physical training are where most of my time goes now. I need to replace watching youtube with reading. Mission: To maintain freedom, strength, potency, abundance, and independence well into old age. Physical: Fat loss: I got down to 15% FB a …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/22 11:38 PM
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Which is the same as saying “be more attractive, be less unattractive “ which gets you 80% of the results. The other 20% is learning how to grow past the larping.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/22 03:51 AM
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Dude, read my OYS history if you want to know how to lose fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 02:05 AM
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and I'm not looking fatter, so I'm optimisitc my gains are real. Just measure your waist circumference over a rolling 7-day average. If it's relatively static then your gains are likely not fat/water.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/22 11:19 PM
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I also have to stop ruminating shit in my head. Let go of the past. Making someone feel bad for that does absolutely nothing. It undermines my SOs trust in me and I look like a shithead. And feel like one too. Even your reason for not doing it is in your wife's frame. And, you feel guilty too. How about doing something for yourself?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/22 11:09 PM
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when it is what I want Why? Serious question.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/22 10:57 PM
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You shake it by living the best version of life you can create. You don't have time to give a fuck what people in your past might think when you've got fun stuff to do and hot bitches to fuck. I feel no guilt, shame or regret for nuking my marriage and all the collateral damage that's come from it. All of that shit is rooted in Nice Guy provider duty programming.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/22 12:51 PM
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​ Exercise: Focus thus far has been running at the expense of strength. PB'd my 5km recently (31m) . Focus now is lifting. BLS - 5 days weight programme. Other than the obvious health benefits, the underlying reason for doing all this training is to gain confidence. So, I base all my training around things that support that goal directly. Physically, I get confidence from being and looking strong, being attractive, being able to defend myself and testing that with fighting. Martial arts gives yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 11:50 PM
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Currently, my image of my separated life is very unclear: Will I keep the house? Where will I live? Probably, or get another one. Took me 5 days to find a new home when I nuked. Do I want 50/50 custody of the children? Will I work part time to support them? Probably not if you want to work full time, train and have time for fun and plates. Who will I spend holidays with? Your kids, your friends and your plates? What will people think? Will I always be the bad guy? Yeah, you'll be the arsehole. B…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 12:14 PM
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OYS #35 Age: 49 - Dating one woman 39 Stats (7 day rolling avg.): 6', 194 lbs, 16.48% BF (navy) - down 0.41 lbs (0.87% BF) this week Lifts: DL 373, SQ 289, BP 216, IBP 192, OP 132 Reading: When It Is Darkest, WISNIFG Mission: To maintain freedom, strength, potency, abundance, and independence well into old age. Physical: Fat loss: My total mass dropped a tiny bit this week. The waist circumference is down 0.5 inches to 34 inches. I've got to lose 0.6 inches from my waist to get to 15% BF Navy Me…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 10:44 AM
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OYS #34 Age: 48 - Dating one woman 38 Stats: 6', 194 lbs, 16.7% BF (navy) - down 1.67 lbs (1.1% BF) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 373, SQ 289, BP 216, IBP 192, OP 132 Reading: When It Is Darkest, WISNIFG Mission: To maintain freedom, strength, potency, abundance, and independence well into old age. Physical: Fat loss: My total mass dropped 1.67 lbs this week. The waist circumference is down 0.8 inches to 34 inches. I've got to lose 0.8 inches from my waist to get to 15% BF Navy Method…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 10:15 PM
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Yeah, this whole issue is retarded. I said this in my other comment in this thread - My motivation for doing the hike wasn't being met by her approach and I didn't realise it at the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/22 11:22 AM
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This whole situation is petty and minor. That said... After reflection, I think the real issue is my motivation for doing it in the first place. I like the hikes, the exercise and the outdoors and views. But, a big part of doing it was spending time with her and socialising with the other people on the hike. Her approach is to tear up the mountain and wait frustratingly while everyone catches up. I don't get caught up in her frustration and I don't feel a need to fix the situation. Those are her…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/22 11:09 AM
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hiking with gf You're way too in your head about who should be leading. It's her hobby. Follow her up the mountain. And grab her ass to steady yourself because you're so inexperienced at this and she's so sure-footed. Yeah, in the moment I don't sweat it. I find myself wondering whether I should be reframing the activity or just let her have it. I'll let her have it. daughter I'd be interested in whatever notes you have on this. I have a nephew who seems similarly lost. It's an interesting topic…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 11:02 PM
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I've been role-playing over text with my woman. Today, she was the slutty nun and I was the priest that had to discipline her.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 12:17 PM
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I'm also continuing to realize how little I need in terms of possessions, but also how much I love living alone. I love this too. I enjoy not having shit everywhere in my house. My hamster goes quite a bit when I think about the shitty things my STBX and mother-in-law are saying about me to each other. There's some weakness in me that I have to get over with this; more Nice-guy traits of just wanting everyone to like me, regardless of how realistic that is. You'll need to get used to this. Every…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 11:32 AM
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Thanks. You think it's purely an ego thing, being wrapped up in the identity of being a "good dad" and being there for them? Jones would call this societal programming. What help me was separating duty from want in how I deal with my daughter. You might find that 90% of what you do for your daughter is done out of a sense of duty.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 11:24 AM
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OYS #33 Age: 48 - Dating one woman 38 Stats: 6', 196 lbs, 17.84% BF (navy) - down 0.28 lbs (0.95% BF) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 373, SQ 289, BP 216, IBP 192, OP 132 Reading: When It Is Darkest, WISNIFG Mission: To maintain freedom, strength, potency, abundance, and independence well into old age. Physical: Fat loss: My total mass dropped a tiny bit this week. The waist circumference is down still. I've got to lose 1.3 inches from my waist to get to 15% BF Navy Method. Lifting: Des…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/22 04:00 AM
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When I put my own lifts into that calculator I get the exact same total as you on the big three, bench 242, squat 262, dl 366 = 870 Lets plan on touching base at the end of the year to see who's closer to 1,000 and who's less fat. How about the loser has to comment advice to at least 10 people on r/DeadBedrooms, lol Challenge accepted! Regarding your daughter, we've talked about this some before and it stuck out to me in your original post: Keep my daughter learning and purposeful That's a goal …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/22 08:27 AM
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Do GSLP in stead and then switch to some BB stuff once you're done cutting if you want to focus on growing certain upperbody muscles. I'll check that program out. Beware of an incoming ego phase. Handling your ego and discerning between good and bad ego is a weird and unexpected problem you get, once you kill off most of the blue. At least it's been for me. Noted, thanks. Treat it like any other problem. Learn about it (suicide), in particular how to prevent it. Then do that. After, it's just Ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/22 08:16 AM
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Thanks for the feedback, again. Lifts: DL 373, SQ 285, BP 212, IBP 192, OP 132 Are these 1RMs? Yeah, I take the estimated 1RMs from strengthlevel.com and use that. I'm confident that I can lift those as a true 1RM. Scales are horrible, just use waist circumference/Navy. Waist measure works fine until you drop below 12% or so, where the last bit of stubborn fat tends to hide in weird places that vary with the individual. I find strongur.io works really well at all BFs, but it does require you to …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/22 11:42 AM
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Yeah, I told myself that's why, but it was avoidance in reality.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 03:55 AM
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Good shit, man. You are in for a wild ride. Keep doing your OYS as it'll be the only thing keeping your head straight while you get overwhelmed with the abundance.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 12:13 AM
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I didn't text, touch or even think about a single bitch until the ink was dry, stuff moved out, accounts settled and separated, respective moves completed etc. There's a reason for that. Same here. This is why it took me more than a year to consider other women.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 11:57 PM
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OYS #32 Age: 48 - Dating one woman 38 Stats: 6', 196 lbs, 20.34% BF (scales), 18.6% BF (Navy) - down 0.66 lbs (-0.1%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 373, SQ 285, BP 212, IBP 192, OP 132 Reading: WISNIFG Mission: To maintain freedom, strength, potency, abundance, and independence well into old age. Physical: Fat loss: My fat loss slowed this week. I'm down around 7lbs over the last 3 weeks so I'm chalking this week up to a small plateau lack of discipline over the weekend. I'm eating 1.…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 11:41 PM
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I’ve seen the ‘crabs in a barrel’ term here and there but didn’t know it was a well known metaphor. It’s not common in Australia. We commonly use a similar one. And, culturally we are proud of taking the heads off the tall poppies. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tall_poppy_syndrome
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 08:59 PM
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I get a lot of shit for not doing this IRL. Like: at all. Honestly I don’t think there’s much downside to people knowing you are better than them (As long as you don’t go the other way and delude yourself that it matters). Yeah, this is probably just another nice guy trait that needs to be killed. If you “need” them - at work or wherever - of course it’s better to take them out bowling and build some comfort. But I don’t want friends or romantic or business partners that can’t get past their own…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 02:09 PM
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All feedback on here is projection to some extent. Part of what makes it useful - and useless at times. Here's some more notes from my book. What I meant about OYS was twofold. 1) Much of the feedback will be shitty projection. Even from "approved" contributors. Don't let this mislead you. 2) Even if the feedback you get is misleading it is still worth OYS. First, because the process of posting it up makes you more honest and gets you acting in line with your interests. And second because taking…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 02:01 PM
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That thread and linked posts have some gold in them. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 01:23 PM
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Which is why keeping up the writing+posting it periodically is necessary to keep yourself honest, I wholeheartedly disagree with this though: the feedback makes you think more than the OYS itself. There is no quality control on dudes posting here, rule 10 is literally never enforced. So I think many find, at some point, that the feedback is pretty useless, and they stop. I did too, but found this - as per above - to be a suboptimal solution. But I'd be wary of listening to much to the bloopers t…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 12:28 AM
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I can see that. I do find that if I don't have an area in my OYS I don't punch myself in the dick about it weekly. My OYS is also where I track my personal goals (poorly). I probably need to dust off my goal tracking app and use that instead but that's more overhead to an already full week.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 11:54 PM
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Things are generally going well for you, you know most of the lessons and are in implementation mode. It makes sense that a weekly OYS isn't a priority. Many stop altogether at this point. As far as I can tell, a significant chunk then backslide to a "better than they were" kind of purple-something. u/usefulwalk4 is my favourite as everyone knows, but it seems very common. The backsliding is the thing that concerns me. It's so easy to slip back into behaviors that I had when I was married. The O…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 08:18 AM
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I get just punching in an OYS, but this one is so sloppy that it gets confusing, which sucks for you, because then you haven't reaped the benefit of clarifying your thoughts and aligning them to your actions that usually comes from it. Yes, you are right to call me out on its sloppiness. I've been very busy with work, training and socialising that I've not taken the time for quality reflection. And, when I've had some time for thinking I've been too tired lazy to reflect and write my journal. I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 12:22 PM
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Keep doing the work, dude. Life is pretty sweet on the other side.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 11:47 AM
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OYS #30 Age: 48 - Dating one woman 38 Stats: 6', 197 lbs, 20.24% BF (scales) - down 4.57 lbs (0.84%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 373, SQ 273, BP 211, IBP 178, OP 132 Reading: WISNIFG Mission: To maintain freedom, strength, potency, abundance, and independence well into old age. Physical: I got called out by u/SBIII about the likelihood of hitting my BF% goals (15% BF in July and 12% in September). I'm back to One Meal A Day again now in order to get over the line. Fat is been coming…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 11:24 AM
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I spun plates for about 5 months this year. I'm no expert. YMMV. I had some business profile shots that I used along with a photo of my dog. If I was to set it up again I'd have some shots that speak to the same stuff that's talked about here; a leader in your social circle a leader in your workplace in shape (not fat) have abundance (money and other women) have an interesting life I had the most success through bumble because my profile wasn't optimised for hookups. All the girls share your pro…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/22 04:37 AM
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We've had a good couple of weeks for example, but I very recently learned she has a number of secret credit cards in active use. Also lying about me to others on the phone when she doesn't know I came home. Lies like these were detected early on. So I keep her at arms length. I didn't have enough self respect to break things off at the time These are pretty serious breaches of trust. She has no problem being repeatedly dishonest. I couldn't put up with that.
/r/askMRP16/06/22 10:02 PM
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Sepean Here's some posts I've found so far mentioning alpha: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/5bspwh/fr_im_back_after_experimenting_with_lowered_alpha/ https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/feeq65/communication_and_signals/ https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/9z1tku/everything_is_about_sex_except_sex_sex_is_about/ https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/5yejxu/most_mens_masculine_ideal_is_not_alpha/ Now, give me my fucking upvote. Edit: I know wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 11:27 PM
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I am having a good time. MRP gets the field report based on a discussion on the balance between alpha/beta/LTR/plate spinning that's been running for a couple of months. And, it's a useful FR for the many guys that divorce. It pretty much confirms the RP truths.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 11:13 PM
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Haha... I can't not lift now.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 12:23 PM
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OYS #30 Age: 48 - Dating one woman 38 Stats: 6', 202 lbs, 20.93% BF (scales) - down 1.29 lbs (0.31%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 373, SQ 268, BP 209, IBP 176, OP 132 Reading: NMMNG Mission: To maintain freedom, strength, potency, abundance, and independence well into old age. Physical: I am maxing out my intensity at Martial Arts now and am getting pretty fit. Feeling really good about the upcoming gradings, particularly the sparring rounds as I've been doing a lot of sparring in th…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 10:19 AM
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My point is. Take the lesson. Really internalise AWALT, seeing it in the flesh like this. Yes, it was easier to see when I was plate spinning. The same alpha that got her in as a plate in the first instance. I got caught up in the 'beta game is important too' discussion and played around with that this week. ​ To give you an example. I literally within the last two hours have had two different bitches write me that they miss and worship my dick. Unprompted. Yeah, I had a 'God, I miss you' text u…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 12:03 PM
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Thanks again for your insights. Comes off petulant over screen. More important, it completely, utterly negates what you initially wanted and clearly communicated. So you changed your mind because of some feels and words from a woman. So much for being “OI”. Take a second to punch yourself in the dick for this - and even more for using meaningless RP lingo to cover BSing yourself. I delivered it in an amused "Ok, whatever" tone but your point still stands. After some reflection, if I want to buy …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 10:49 AM
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Reduce my porn use to less than 1x per week Why use it at all? That shit is toxic to the male brain.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 08:28 AM
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Did you think I'd do it when you set the challenge?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 08:01 AM
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Haha… fuck yeah. It’s been a wild ride!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 03:20 AM
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I'm pretty fucking awesome, I need to see that more and give myself more credit. To be inching forward in all life areas consistently over a long period of time is rare and awesome. It's all your fault, wins included.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 11:37 PM
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Be careful of frame here. On the one hand it's good to understand womanese. Just don't forget to speak manglish. The old rule goes as much for this bitch as a wife of twenty years. Watch what she does not what she says. You presumably decided that a bit of beta was needed to calm the anxiety. So own it. Who gives a fuck what she thinks. If you thought/said anything but this you failed the shit test. I knew she would push back on the gifting before I went to the shop. I said to her beforehand "Yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 11:09 PM
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Non-existent. I message her once a week offering to take her out but she's not responding. Her mother doesn't respond to me either. I've made peace with it. I rarely think about it now. My daughter is in contact with her x step-mother so I hear a bit about what's going on. My plan is to keep offering some contact here and there. I've been toying with the idea of moving to another country which wasn't a real option when I had custody of my daughter.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 10:17 PM
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OYS #29 Age: 48 - Dating one woman 38 Stats: 6', 203 lbs, 21.24% BF (scales) - down 0.85 lbs (-0.07%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 373, SQ 268, BP 209, IBP 176, OP 132 Reading: NMMNG Mission: To maintain freedom, strength, potency, abundance, and independence well into old age. Physical: I'm doing a lot of martial arts training now which has, on top of my regular schedule, including a run of all-day Saturday events like workshops and grading days. I'm at risk of overtraining so I've …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 01:24 PM
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Two things have worked for me on “good beta”:Texting or getting a gift when the mood strikes me. Anytime I’ve thought “maybe I should wait X amount of time to text back” or “maybe I’m spoiling this girl”, it has went badly. Yeah, I've done the holding off text thing and seems a bit childish. For the most part, she drives the cadence of messaging so it's a non-issue. She didn't message me for half a day a while back and then told me she was playing the pull-back game. I AM'd it and it's not reocc…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 10:41 PM
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Thank you. I had a hard time disconnecting jealousy/possessiveness with insecurity/fear. But, I suppose it's in the delivery that counts here. e.g. "I'm not a man that shares his girl" or "I don't date girls that have guy friends" using /u/_RPeed 's example. It's been really helpful for me to separate the beta vs blue stuff in my head. I like some of the beta stuff. The trick is whether you are doing the beta stuff from a place of gifting or to calm your own blue fears which is right back to Nic…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 10:08 PM
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I've got no frame of reference here. You've issued this warning a few times so, I'd like to really understand the nuances better. Here's how I think it should be categorised; Good Alpha Own mental point of origin Judicious with time Fun, positive and interesting life DNGAF (Amused Mastery) Direct in communication Unapologetically states wants and needs Bedroom dominance (DEVI) Saying no (push/pull) Lots of sexual communication Lots of flirting and sex Honesty (where it aligns with your goals) Ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/22 10:51 PM
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Gotcha. It's such a good post I wanted others to see it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/22 01:27 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/7lolrm/thoughts\_on\_frame/
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/22 01:10 PM
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OYS #27 Age: 48 - Dating one woman 38 Stats: 6', 204 lbs, 21.17% BF (scales) - down 0.03 lbs (-0.3%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 373, SQ 268, BP 209, IBP 176, OP 132 Reading: NMMNG Mission: To maintain freedom, strength, potency, abundance, and independence well into old age. Physical: Feeling back to normal after having covid. I'm getting the odd lightheadedness when standing up. Nothing bad. Back to about 90% fitness. Weight loss stalled this week likely due to some poor disciplin…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/22 11:25 AM
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Overcame a slight cancer scare but have been drinking heavily with the girls. After having two acquaintences die from drinking in the last two years, I started taking naltrexone before drinking, so its just a dumb habit at this point, but the beating to the liver is still the same. Between that and lack of sleep from partying, there's little motivation to do anything but sleep late and repeat the cycle. I'm seeing the fallout from this in the GF now too, who was initally extremely career oriente…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/22 02:38 AM
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No, still dating exclusively. At least for now.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/22 10:20 AM
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hookup to dating, and now something more serious, it’s something that bugs me. She seems to have walked it back too. Is it possible she was just talking a big game or shit testing you?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/22 05:33 AM
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What the hell? You're hamstering about the struggles of being monogamous and painting it as if you are embracing the suck so as to get some sort of character growth? This isn't BUD/S teapot, it's just a dude with external locus of control not getting fucked and patting himself on the back for it. A few days out and this all seems a bit dramatic. However, my theme for the year has been to face discomfort head-on. To sit in it, own it and overcome it. Nothing has done more for my confidence and DY…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/22 01:15 AM
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This is why you always see us vets asking: "What value does she bring to your life?" The marriage must be about more than sex by /u/Red-curious is another way of looking at it and a helpful post. Thanks for this. It was a very interesting read.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/22 12:59 AM
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Yeah, while plate spinning I was getting the variety and sex was limited only by my own imagination. So, crunching the numbers on sex alone isn't enough. I'm not an easy person to add value to. I've got a PA, cleaner and a yard dude. All the easy shit is taken care of by those people. I can see she's looking for ways in but my Nice Guy is saying "I don't need help with that". She's cooked and tidied up but so did my plates. She can put me into situations where I can learn - She enrolled us in to…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 11:48 PM
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I've had 4 classes and honestly, I'm hooked. Muay Thai is awesome. Anything that has you standing toe-to-toe with someone very regularly is going to help with confidence. ​ I'm not planning on stopping lifting weights, but this week I didn't go to the gym. Fucking weak. ​ I have scheduled this week to fit 2 days at the weights gym, and 4 days at MT. I will see how it goes. Min 3 days per week lifting is the general advice you'd get around here. ​ When the party ended I assured those who asked th…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 03:21 PM
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I'm referring to my own personal decision to reduce my activities to not make others sick. I didn't feel up to training anyway so it wasn't a particularly tough decision to make. I'm not interested in debating the larger Covid response.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 02:59 PM
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Well, sorta. I slipped out for a fuck. Walked the dog every day and went out to buy supplies. I spoke to the head of my MA gym and that's what he wanted. Same with the weights gym. I work from home anyway. That said, I don't think it's culty to not want to make others sick, as futile as that all seems now.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 02:42 PM
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This is interesting. Maybe it's the hard mode aspect of RP in an LTR. Some models that have been useful to me: I'm the prize. My LTR will add value to my life in the ways that I value it, or I'll get another. Yes. I've been telling myself this and I genuinely believe it. ​ Exploring value. My BP thinking about LTR has had me playing small about the value my wife can add to my life. It is fun to challenge those limiting beliefs and seek even more and different value from her in various ways. Thro…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 02:36 PM
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Fuck. Yes. I wrote this part when I was feeling a power transfer at the time. That whole thing was in my head (as is everything) and have reframed it successfully in the last couple of days. I had never lost that power in the first place.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 02:05 PM
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OYS #27 Age: 48 - Dating one woman 38 Stats: 6', 204 lbs, 20.87% BF (scales) - down 1.61 lbs (0.75%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 373, SQ 268, BP 209, IBP 176, OP 132 Starting over I have the sort of personality that likes to start 10 things a once and not finish them. When I came to MRP, I was already separated and felt like a lot of sidebar didn't apply to me because I wasn't in a relationship and wasn't at all interested in getting in one. Instead, I was happy leeching off of the …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 01:05 PM
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Metric to imperial conversions with rounding.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/22 10:23 PM
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/u/busiitravel I've added more context here, not that that comment addresses this. I was a bit surprised that it was only 7 weeks I when I responded, I thought it was a few months. ​ What would you tell another guy who LTR a chick after 7 weeks? I'd probably tell him he's made a mistake. ​ Maybe I'm missing something/DEERing, but, if I see something I don't like or it's not working for me anymore, I'll let her go. ​ I never promote a plate from the rotation unless she has been around for at leas…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 03:31 PM
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I'm not sure (if times changed), but I think many women in Australia automatically think that exclusivity is implied if you're banging them and you're giving them the boyfriend experience. I know that the girls I had as plates seemed to think that I'd be exclusive. I know they all became exclusive to me once I banged them (said so, not sure, didn't care). My male friends couldn't get their heads around the fact that I was dating/banging multiple at once. My brother had a particularly strong BP r…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 03:02 PM
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By leave this be and wait out the long game, do you mean you’re going to stop contacting her unless she gets in touch? I'll be reaching out to her periodically to remind her that my door is always open. But, from a place that doesn't need that relationship to work. I've made peace with this now. To the extent where I've started considering whether I need to be in this city at all anymore. I am pretty good at only worrying about things I have control over and this isn't one of those things. That'…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 02:09 PM
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Around 7 weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 09:05 AM
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Duude. "The Talk" is Socially Retarded, Do Not Tolerate It. In reality, it was much more nuanced. There weren't any demands or ultimatums and she was happy to stay as things were. I need a break from plate spinning while I do some more work on myself and my mission. I'll have no problems ending it if it's no longer working for me. I'm not going to get invested and see it as a short term thing while I get my mission on track. The foot is firmly on the accelerator, particularly around physique and…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 11:54 PM
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OYS #26 Age: 48 Single: 13yo daughter Stats: 6', 206 lbs, 21.62% BF (scales) - down 1.18 lbs (0%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 373, SQ 268, BP 209, IBP 176, OP 132 Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Sex God Method, Unchained Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG Mission: To maintain freedom, strength, potency, abundance, and independence well into old age. Physical: I've got covid now so I'm in isolation. I've been feeling quite run down so I'm using this week to recharge a…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 01:06 AM
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It's gonna be a no I'm afraid Why? Calling them bitches dehumanises them for you, which seems counter to your mission. I get it, it's kinda the opposite of oneitis which is the biggest derailer of plate spinning.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 11:24 PM
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So everything is going perfectly? What don't you want to tell us?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 10:32 AM
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And then punch yourself in the dick for being in your girls head and gleefully thinking of overt dread effects like a DB dude on oys2. You're better than that. Haha.... gotcha.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/22 09:00 PM
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​ I would start tracking but keep everything else the same. Creatine adds a few pounds of BW if you respond to it. So it's a good thing. Get in the habit now of tracking everything you eat, and BW every day. If in 4 weeks your rolling average isn't less than now, adjust calories. I'm very motivated now. I'm not sure if it's the creatine or the fat loss but my body is starting to take shape. I'm looking forward to where I'll be with it at 15%. ​ I do indeed shit on dudes who take about "plate" wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 10:44 PM
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Thanks again for taking the time to comment. I appreciate it. ​ I think I told you a while back that easy gains were going to run out soon. Tracking in particular will be needed now. Both of calories as well as BW. Do you weigh in every morning and take a weekly average? If not, you should.That said, 2-3lbs can easily be explained by starting creatine, if you only started a week ago. Yeah, I've been lazy with the tracking. I weigh in every day, add it to a sheet and put the 7-day rolling average…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 12:51 PM
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I'm game.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 08:59 PM
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What’s the difference between that and the Sex Piggy Bank? Covert contract
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 12:52 PM
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I introduced that book to this sub - it has some good chapters on goal settings and mission, but beyond that it's useless.. I like the chapters on happiness (actively chasing long term happiness over short term happiness) and the stuff on societal programming/obsolete biological wiring (breaking out of a mental prison of one's own creation). ​ You've been re-reading that book and "getting to the exercises" for a number of weeks now. Either do them or ditch the book and move on. Yes, that's what …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 12:24 PM
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OYS #25 Age: 48 Single: 13yo daughter Stats: 6', 207 lbs, 21.62% BF (scales), 19% (Navy) - up 2.19 lbs (+0.09%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 373, SQ 268, BP 209, IBP 176, OP 132 Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Sex God Method, Unchained Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG Mission: Freedom through abundance in all areas, through achieving and maintaining self-actualisation. This is my priority for this week, I'm starting to experience the side-effects of a lack of discip…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 11:37 AM
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That not only will most guys LTR. That much is obvious. But that many will LTR real fucking quick. For them, it seems, the cost of doing the classic RP "cream of the crop" filtering model outweights the benefit. ​ I'm splitting hairs here - I don't think that it's as much a filtering for the best per se, more so, giving yourself a chance to get an accurate assessment of your SMV and allowing yourself to calibrate your filters. My assessment on "Good enough" is changing by the week. ​ Further, th…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 02:53 AM
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So, Time opportunity cost. Right. And, I would agree with this. Managing bitches is a huge time investment that definitely comes at a cost to other life areas.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/22 12:43 AM
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What really are the up-sides on LTRing? I've been going back and forth on this for a few weeks now. What specifically is HVM getting from LTRs that they aren't getting from a set of plates that are attached? Some sort of deeper and more satisfying emotional bond? I read /u/HornsOfApathy "Why I don't spin plates" post for an answer to this question. That post brought other stuff into focus but didn't convince me on LTRing per se. Bluepill me would have answered this question with - I can share ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/22 10:42 PM
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I’m finding my women really easy to manage. They are all quite funny and a pleasure to be around, very sexual, feminine and compliant. They seem solidly attached. I’ve broken off two previously without much more than a snarky text, but I don’t think they were as attached as my current set.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 12:59 PM
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I was taking viagra for the last month and it’s worked well. It was annoying to have to plan to take it at the right times though. I’ve just switched to a daily dose of Cialis (5 mg) so I’ll find out how effective it is tonight. It’s all psychological and I’m going to keep taking it until I’m done larping. Coincidentally, I started researching ways to fix this without pills but the suggestions are all health and fitness related which I’ve got covered. So, I need to get into the psychology of it …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 12:35 PM
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Not as much as we use to. Thanks for the reminder.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 09:12 PM
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Yes, you are 100% correct that if it's going to be fixed, it's on me to do it. I'll think this through some more and layout out my vision for this area of my life in the next OYS. Thanks for pushing me on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 08:51 AM
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My brain automatically goes to complex systems, research and analysis. I hear you. This stuff is really just one brick at a time. If you find yourself spending hours fucking around with spreadsheets, delete them and go to the gym. It's that simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 03:21 AM
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The truth is that I don't know what I want. Everything I thought I wanted here was just father duty. It's been a long time since I've enjoyed spending time with my daughter and if you are doing it out of duty it gets old fast. I know what I don't want - To be treated disrespectfully. I reach out to her every few days. I've set some minimal expectations regarding how I'll be spoken to and she's cut me off. I'll leave the door open and wait and see if she ever walks through it. I don't know what t…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 03:05 AM
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I've gone back to a muscle bike now but I was out every weekend on my adventure bike for long time. It's such a great way to see the world. I was riding street for a long time before I started riding dirt. If you are new to riding dirt, I recommend getting coached on it. I did a couple of 1 day training sessions with a motocross guy and it was both really fun and made a huge difference to my riding ability on and off road. Also, resist the urge to get a huge super adventure bike unless you plan …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 12:19 AM
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This is the first post on mission that has truly resonated with me. Thank you. Given that men are not static, more so if you are living on your edge, it seems futile to set a static mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/22 12:09 AM
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Haha... thanks for the tips. I've got a few more OYSs ahead of me before I'm moving down into the 20s but I'm certainly enjoying the women in their late 30s at this time.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 03:30 PM
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I booked a time to get my motorcycle license in the summer and have started looking for a bike. Have two big adventure/ camping trips planned in a couple of months. I've been riding for decades now. It's one of my greatest joys. I'll choose my bike over my truck nearly every time. Are you getting into adventure riding?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 03:21 PM
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I'm not saying it's not possible to turn it around. However, I am saying that you are trying to turn it around because of fear. I think most MRP guys are trying to fix their marriages because of fear - fear of losing and hurting their kids and fear of losing their assets. But, yours looks like a fear of losing a woman that might touch the pee-pee.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 03:06 PM
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I'm not going to deconstruct this like the other guys in here might because I haven't done the work from the perspective of a guy in a relationship. However, this smells like oneitis. Everything you mention here, you get when you are a high-value guy because women mould themselves into what you want if you lead them there and they want to follow you. You are contemplating marrying a woman that won't fuck you without crying for fuck sake. Because she is a unicorn. I suspect you have a scarcity mi…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 02:14 PM
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How do I manage the time I spend with the women? I usually plan it up to week in advance. They all have kids with different shared-parenting arrangements so they aren't always available. They often reach out to me in advance for some time when they are without their kids because they know I'm a busy guy. And, anytime I push for a night that they have their kids they'll find a sitter. If they ask for a night that's already taken I just say I can't do that day as I've got something on. Additionall…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 01:37 PM
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Complete starfish. I even noticed tears at one point. I'm not saying one way or another what you should do. But, do you know why you are in this relationship?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 12:31 PM
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OYS #24 Age: 48 Single: 12yo daughter Stats: 6', 205 lbs, 21.53% BF (scales) - down 0.69 lbs (-0.25%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 373, SQ 268, BP 209, IBP 176, OP 132 Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Sex God Method, Unchained Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG Mission: Freedom through abundance in all areas, through achieving and maintaining self-actualisation. I've been busy with business, training, going out and getting laid so my work on the UM vision building exer…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 11:34 AM
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If you continue doing the work, life is pretty sweet on the other side, dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/22 09:45 PM
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I've talked about this in prior OYS. The majority of my engagement comes from a sense of duty. There's nothing left in our interactions that serve me. I don't want to have those interactions if they aren't pleasant and respectful so, I'm not having them.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/22 09:39 PM
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None that stops you from declaring a set of SMART goals, declaring some daily/weekly habits, executing on them and reporting your progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 08:40 PM
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I had a great discussion with u/aussie_darrow last week about the importance of stating goals in OYS. I can see some action items for calorie control but you aren't stating (for yourself) what you are going to do regarding lifting. You are being pushed to declare your intent here because it helps you keep that promise to yourself and it helps others here determine whether you're full of shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 01:08 PM
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Nail biting. This has been one of my biggest challenges and MAP reds, deeply engrained habit at 38 that isn’t glaring enough to make me stop, but it’s childish and has many negatives such as wearing down teeth, germs, hands looking like shit. It’s been a journey diving into the triggers that cause me to do it; mostly boredom and anxiety. I did this until about 8 years ago. Just paint that nasty tasting shit into the gaps around your nails every day. If you get used to the taste change brands. Ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 09:26 AM
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OYS #23 Age: 48 Single, 12yo daughter Stats: 6', 205 lbs, 21.23% BF (scales) - down 1.97 lbs (0.37%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 372, SQ 268, BP 209, IBP 176, OP 132 Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Sex God Method, Unchained Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG Mission: Freedom through abundance in all areas, through achieving and maintaining self-actualisation. I've been busy with business, training, easter and getting laid so my work on the UM vision building exercise…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 05:54 AM
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Yeah... they are vague goals. And, there's no actions. For example - I have 3 physical goals to achieve by the end of June - get to the 1000 lbs club get to 15% BF obtain brown belt in one of the martial arts I'm practising obtain orange patch in another Daily/weekly habits/actions Lift heavy weights 3 days per week minimum Attend/practice martial arts 8 hours per week minimum consume no more than 2000 calories per day You need a clear intent in the work you are doing or it won't happen. Each we…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/22 05:32 AM
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Just because I didn’t state goals doesn’t mean I don’t have any. The goal I just hit was to lose 10% of my body weight (252 lbs.). My previous goal was to hit what I weighed before COVID (260 lbs.). The next is to hit the weight I was when I got married (240 lbs.). I have a string of goals ending with hitting a “healthy BMI” (168 lbs.). We put these goals into your OYS because it makes them real and you are held accountable to them. This is a place of action. What specifically are you going to d…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/22 05:20 PM
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I didn't lift at all last week. I have some excuses, but that's all they are… excuses. What the fuck man? There are no excuses. Do you want to be a fat, unattractive cunt? You don't say in you OYS what your goals are and how you are going to achieve them. Let me guess, you don't know?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/22 04:58 AM
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OYS #22 Age: 48 Single: 12yo daughter Stats: 6', 207 lbs, 21.6% BF (scales) - down 0.93 lbs (0.02%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 363, SQ 268, BP 204, IBP 176, OP 132 Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Sex God Method, Unchained Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG Mission: Freedom through abundance in all areas, through achieving and maintaining self-actualisation. I've been somewhat time poor this week with being away, my daughter's incident and getting laid that I put ver…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/22 04:28 AM
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For me, having a rotation gives you the inspiration to go places sexually I wouldn’t have with one e.g. one of my girls might lead me to a sexual area and I lead the other girls there.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/22 09:56 PM
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Another thoughtful and awesome answer. Thank you. ​ Women that don't contribute to your Mission don't have a place in your life. Right. The girls aren't in opposition to my mission, but like everything, it's about balance. Which isn't easy as they are distracting by design. One sent me a photo of her vibrator just then and my new girl just sent me a photo of her fake tits unprompted. They need the attention. I haven't calibrated the amount of attention that I should be giving. And, that's the pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/22 06:08 AM
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How many plates do you find are manageable without it disrupting your mission?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 10:29 PM
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OK. Thanks for spelling it out. I'll break it down. EDIT: I'm going to take a break from mrp/dating for the next couple of days while I do a deep dive into Unchained Man. I'll internalise that shit and do the exercises.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 09:47 PM
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I dropped the last middle eastern girl. I’ve got two Aussies and an African now.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 09:08 PM
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Goal: Under 15% body fat Why: Improve my confidence by looking great Method: Track every calorie that I consume. Never exceed my daily allowance starting at 2000 calories Understand and balance macros Understand and consume supplements Train martial art 3 days a week Lift weights 3 days a week Minimum 7 hours of sleep per night Run every morning
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 12:14 PM
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You'll probably get rule 9'd for this one but a good job on acknowledging a lot of the shortfalls. I picked you as someone that wasn't going to get past your ego for some time. EDIT: Looks like I spoke too soon on the ego...
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 11:11 AM
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OYS #21 Age: 48 Single: 12yo daughter Stats: 6', 208 lbs, 21.63% BF (scales) - down 0.83 lbs (0.15%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 350, SQ 260, BP 204, IBP 176, OP 132 Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Sex God Method, Unchained Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG Mission: Freedom through abundance in all areas, through achieving and maintaining self-actualisation. Reading: Reading Unchained Male again and getting to the exercises. Physical: The effects of the vasectomy ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 09:52 AM
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I imagine the weird pre-programming you mention about your daughter is like a form of oneitis. You can't just let her drop and replace her with another "daughter plate". You're almost by default in a NEEDY position, "I need my relationship with my daughter to be good". Fuck. This is it. And, I would never have come to this realisation alone. Thank you. And, the needier I'm the more repelled she is. Arrgh! I can work with this. Thanks! ​ This is freaking awesome but just like with all other women…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 08:34 AM
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I don't think this duty stuff is that unusual.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 08:28 AM
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Thanks. Again. Thanks for the links, I particularly liked the 12 bitches link. ​ This is important because the best way to avoid oneitis is to have a very clear Mission and goals for your life outside of women as well as what you want your woman life to contribute to your overall life goals. If not, the right feminine energy can seduce most men to start BSing themselves. I do have a mission and goals outside of women but I'm most certainly distracted by them now. I think it'll be that way for a …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 08:24 AM
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It’s like weights on a free diver Great analogy.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 06:36 AM
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Noted. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 06:27 AM
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Separated 19 months, divorced 5 months, dating 4 months, fucked 5. Unicorn or not, I’m continuing to spin plates and vet carefully over the next 6 months. I suspect my unicorn will have some skeletons.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/22 09:03 PM
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Funny you say that. I fucked my new girl on Friday. 10 years my junior and a perfect body (fake tits and all). She knows how to stoke my ego too. I’ve been coaching the fuck out of myself ever since getting on top of my frame and oneitis.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/22 01:58 PM
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I don't have time a spell out why this area is important but it is because "The stay plan is the same as the go plan" and being financially independent is necessary. Stick with doing the OYS and it'll become apparent.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/22 02:50 AM
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To be honest, still a bit hung up on the previous girl despite having lots of opportunities in the past few weeks. I guess it just hits hard when things move forward so quickly only to crash and burn even more quickly, almost feels like it went from idealization to discard. Need to get out of this mentality. To be clear - you had a girl for a few months, ended a month ago and you are still kicking stones about it? All this as a RP aware man? Sounds like you need to get your dick wet mate.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 12:28 PM
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I want to be in her life. It's so hard to consider this without all the parental duty mixed in with the wants. I need to reflect on this. Thanks for the prompts.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 12:09 PM
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Do you feel some relief that she moved out? Or worded another way, are you denying yourself the feeling of relief for fear of "how would this look if anyone else knew I was thinking this"...? I am relieved. Absolutely. My version of fatherhood was largely driven by a sense of duty, not for the love of my daughter or the love of my role as a father. Before conceiving my daughter I knew that I didn't want that duty. I'd had a few conversations with her mother making it clear that I was not going t…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/22 12:27 AM
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Money has always come pretty easy as I've always been a hustler. So, my attitude towards it is "I can always get more". I'm not as good at holding on to it as I'd like to be but that's another area to dig into over the coming months. The stress of court and money at the time took a big toll on my wife/marriage and the way my wife collapsed under the strain took a toll on my willingness to continue with my marriage. This was all pre-MRP so not doubt I'd have managed things differently had I'd bee…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 11:49 PM
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I hear what you’re saying. But, she didn’t ask me to spend that money. I can’t even say I regret spending it as it kept my daughter safe for those years where her mother was a total mess. I don’t think about that money anymore. Any resentment I have would be squarely targeted at her mother but that’s wasted energy too. I never wanted kids and I allowed myself to be baby-trapped by her mother which I might also hold a smaller amount of resentment for too. I don’t think about this either. I’m goin…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 03:10 PM
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As far as I can see, the areas of abundance are financial, social and woman. Woman is covered, Financial needs optimising, and social needs lots of work.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/22 02:56 PM
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Have you heard of Google?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 11:29 PM
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Thanks, I'll check that out. I was down more than a pound today so I'm back on track. I just need to lay off the zero beer when I'm out.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 10:23 PM
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She recently decided to go live with her mother despite having gone through the legal meat grinder. Yes, I was butthurt about that move and yes, I had a giant covert contract regarding that. I don't think I've got resentment towards her for the court stuff, although I will reflect on this some more. I think I developed some shitty automatic responses to her shit testing when she lived with me that I have to flush out. Thanks for the prompt.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 10:17 PM
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Read "No more Mr nice guy"
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 12:53 PM
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OYS #20 Age: 48 Single: 12yo daughter Stats: 6', 209 lbs, 21.77% BF (scales) - down 0.27 lbs (-0.07%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 350, SQ 260, BP 204, IBP 176, OP 132 Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Sex God Method, Unchained Male, NMMNG, WISNIFG Mission: Freedom. Abundance in all areas provides freedom. Achieving and maintaining self-actualisation provides abundance. Reading: Reading Unchained Male again and getting to the exercises. Physical: The effec…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 11:59 AM
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Interesting suggestion. I did try rugby in the past and I indeed lacked aggression. I've been thinking since I put on 10kg I might do better if I tried again. Thing is: would it really help with women and sex? Yes. Women can smell the fear and intimidation and it's unattractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/22 03:27 AM
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Here is a rating system for relationship status: 3] Shitty relationship - Horrible experience <= this is you 2] Single - This is actually pretty great <= you are afraid of this 1] Relationship/Spinning plates - Pretty great (with empty balls) <= need to master 2 to get to this
/r/askMRP23/03/22 11:06 PM
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I started working with a trainer at the start of the month Get a powerlifting coach if you insist on having a coach. One that actually looks like he can lift heavy.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 09:24 PM
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I took my wife out for dinner on her birthday, something we hadn't done in a long while. I set a goal to have a good time and initiate. Ragnar identified that I should beware of trying to "time it". Well, he was right. I built up the date so much in my head that I failed to get out of it and lead my wife to a good time. She was quiet and withdrawn the whole time and I did nothing to break the mood. I basically stewed in my own head the whole drive and date, and obviously did not initiate. This i…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 09:06 PM
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Thank you. I knew I was flying too close to the sun with the MRPorn. I’ve recognised this unbalanced pussy chasing is unhealthy. I’ll do the UM exercises.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 01:36 PM
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Can’t say I was rule 9 but I knew I was getting off track and deserved a ban. My post was originally 50% too big and I had to strip out some stuff. I stripped out the wrong stuff. My post was 90% about pussy which is just another distraction. Thanks for the attitude adjustment.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 01:19 PM
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Example - So I kept pushing telling them that I was motivated, dedicated and that I just needed some work experience to kickstart my career, if that meant working for free and cleaning the toilet/ bring the coffee until I become useful in the team, that’s what I would’ve done as long as I got a bit of training. I insisted in talking with the members of their team and I tried to impress everybody. Then 3 weeks later I get an email saying that they never thought of having a graduate scheme but tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 11:06 PM
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Slowly decreasing weight, slowly increasing strength, waist perimeter not moving. I had this for 6 weeks. Now, it seems to be all coming off the waist. ​ Whenever anybody (friends, family, …) speaks about “patriarchy” I react with my own view of it (I basically call it “the system” instead of "patriarchy"). I seem butthurt, as if the mention of the patriarchy word makes me react. I am making an effort not to react to it. Basically, nobody cares about my view, and I care about being perceived as …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 10:28 PM
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I'm referring to the whole concept. But, the reaction just proves it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 10:04 PM
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I've heard a few people on here talking about fucking without coming - holy shit. That is my goal for new level of control I want for sex. How do I achieve this mastery!? Why? And, who's frame is this in?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 03:13 PM
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On Thursday, I wanted not to cum while having sex but did not manage to. Started fapping one out before I have sex again, since a few days of not cumming makes retaining while having sex harder. When I lost control and came, she was super excited and full of herself for making me lose control for the first time, to which I lost my cool and foolishly said “I only came because I wanted to!”. This whole not cumming thing sounds like it's 100% in her frame. Some silly fuck-you to your woman, "see mu…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 03:08 PM
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OYS #19 Age: 48 Single: 12yo daughter Stats: 6', 209 lbs, 21.7% BF (scales) - down 2.71 lbs (0.24%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 338, SQ 260, BP 203, OP 132 Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Sex God Method, NMMNG, WISNIFG Mission: Freedom. Abundance in all areas provides freedom. Achieving and maintaining self-actualisation provides abundance. Physical: I got my vasectomy done last week. All went well. Exercise: I was supposed to take the week off exercise…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/22 02:55 PM
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You are limiting the strength of your legs to the strength of your arms.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/22 01:36 PM
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This feels like a troll post. ​ Slept with ex. Was a cool moment even though I couldn't get it up. Why? Iron Rule of Tomassi #7 ​ The only thing is that I refrained from saying certain things. For some reason, being naked with her made it more difficult to speak my mind. That's definitely something I must be wary of. Why? Are you trying to get her back? Or, need her know something about the past? ​ Sexual tension with colleague is mounting. I'm 26, she's a 40yo divorced crazy MILF. I want to fuc…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/22 12:34 PM
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I've found that removing time/attention has been an excellent way to achieve this. This happens naturally because I can't keep the attention up to them anyway. I've got shit to do. ​ So I rarely text my girls unless it's for logistics. I haven't worked out the cadence for this yet. I've been very chatty in text then when I'm with one of them my phone stays in my pocket and I don't get back to the others until the next day. ​ You say you would like a girlfriend but remember they should be the one…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/22 08:35 AM
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In the first scenario, she's a bundle of sticks that I'm trying to light on fire so I can get warm. If the conditions aren't right, I'll never get a fire. In the second scenario, I'm a fucking bonfire, and even if her wood's been soaking in the lake, eventually it will burn when it gets close for long enough. Holy shit, dude. This is MRP gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 09:26 PM
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I thought of another downside to not drinking - When you don't drink, it has a chilling effect on others; they'll often not drink or drink very little. The problem with that is that most people don't know how to have fun without alcohol so it can mess with the vibe. In the first couple of dates, I'll learn what she likes to drink and stock that at home. So, if I invite her back to my place, I'll make her a drink to show that I'm not judgy about alcohol and set a familiar vibe.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/22 09:18 PM
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The no alcohol is starting to really pay on my ability to think and stay cool no matter what. Yes. When I first quit alcohol my mind was hyperactive. Crazy vivid dreams, etc. Alcohol also affects your ability to have REM sleep. So, the clarity and calmness may be simply due to the fact you are getting the REM sleep now. When you really assess the pros and cons of alcohol consumption, there's not too many pros and many cons. The pros usually come down to getting some fake confidence or relaxation…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 10:29 PM
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Cheers mate.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 09:53 PM
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Thanks for this - I've never thought about beta game. I've been using the vasectomy sex break to setup non-sexual dates so maybe that's beta game.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 05:39 AM
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Only thing I would have done different here is to say 'I didn't really care for your behavior' rather than 'I'm insulted'. But that may be more of a personal preference. Thanks, I get the difference. Thanks for the flair!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 04:05 AM
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You say you’ve made peace with spinning plates because you’re just in it until you get a girlfriend, then you’re out. Let’s say you decide to spin plates indefinitely and never become monogamous. Would the guilt come back? Would you have to find a new way to make peace with that? I've not thought it through that far. I know my attitudes are evolving and that I'll probably be able to rationalise it differently then. ​ You say you used to feel like you were taking something from them by fucking th…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 11:08 PM
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It's only simping if you're using a gift as covert contract to get into her pants. And clearly you understand the difference. This is abundance, OI, and you just wanting to have a good time with someone. Good job dude. In like 2 months you've figured out how to spin plates and have an awesome time I picked this attitude up from someone here. Goes something like this - I have an interesting life, I go out and have experiences and have a good time. I also, like to bring a beautiful woman with me a…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 10:54 PM
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Oh, I want to share a funny interaction from last night's date. I had a second date with the Australian woman and at the end of the date I kissed her. She would kiss very passionately for about 5 seconds then freeze and pull away for 3 seconds . This went on for a couple of minutes. In real-time, I could see her hamster was having a stroke trying to work out whether to give in to being 'just a plate' after saying numerous times she didn't want to be the 'Tuesday' girl. It was hilarious. She late…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 10:12 PM
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What a difference to the fat incel you were when I challenged you just a few months ago. Haha... yeah, good times. I do appreciate the mentoring. I very much appreciate the challenge. Without that I know I'd be still 'avoiding the drama' of women. ​ Fuck, I need to start taking notes from you on the platespinning. I don't know about that. I'm out here messing with the bored fourty-somethings. ​ Well done, good for you. Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 09:44 PM
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OYS #18 Age: 48 Single: 12yo daughter Stats: 6', 212 lbs, 21.94% BF (scales) - down 1.37 lbs (0.42%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 338, SQ 260, BP 203, OP 132 Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Sex God Method, NMMNG, WISNIFG Mission: Freedom. Abundance in all areas provides freedom. Achieving and maintaining self-actualisation provides abundance. Reading: Started reading WISNIFG. Dating time was up this week which is cutting into my reading time. I really ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 01:46 PM
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Go to the gym regardless. Work on a different part of your body or do exercises to support the healing of the injury. No one else here is taking a few months off because of an injury.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/22 11:28 PM
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This is what I've done. Sit down and write a list of all the interesting stuff you'd like to do. Some with the family, some just for yourself. e.g. I added scuba diving to my list this morning. Then, book it in. Action. I've got all sorts of shit booked in now. Music festivals, monster truck shows, sports. I don't tell anyone about it. And, when the thing comes up I decide who I'm taking with me (a date, a friend, my daughter, my family, an employee etc.)
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/22 11:05 PM
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As /u/Holiday-Physics-3359 says, always include the bar weight (20kg). Your stats are completely off. At your weight, you should be either way stronger or way fatter than your numbers suggest. I'm going to guess that your BF% is likely up around 25%.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/22 11:24 AM
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Who the fuck cares what her intentions were? This reads more like you were scared you would look bad. I don't have this fear. ​ My guess is she's bringing this up because you leaving the marriage looks a lot like you leaving her (in her eyes). And when you can't engage with that it confirms it to her. So now her only source of truth in this situation is your ex. Even if her intentions aren't genuine and she doesn't trust you at all, how does not engaging with her legitimate concerns do anything …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 11:43 PM
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Why? Because I though I would become fit by lifting alone (wrong). And although I became stronger and gained muscle (not much, but enough to see changes), I remained at +25% BF. Fat is managed in the kitchen, strength is managed in the gym. Sure, there's some crossover, but at 25%, put the fork down.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 11:25 PM
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At the time I was trying to have a good time and was keeping things light and fun. Further, I didn't see the conversation going anywhere useful and I doubt her intentions for starting that conversation were genuine. Maybe I'm wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 10:23 PM
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The age will drop as your looks improve. Yep... I'll just keep grinding. If a bitch proves herself exceptional over a 6-12 months you can decide then. Yes. In practice, the plan is the same regardless of the outcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 10:17 PM
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I had a low point bounce of 99.75kg. Keep grinding dude. The whole world treats attractive people way better than unattractive people. Are you including bar weight in your lift stats? How long have you been taking lifting seriously?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 10:01 PM
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I haven't been able to lift since last fall due to painful, nagging injury. Taking appropriate steps to address it including PT. Nearly ready to lift again. Biking daily in the interim. Really? ​ It's like the second I start to see some changes in my life, and get some gains, my mind wants to go be lazy again. Oh.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 09:54 PM
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The fake it till you make it post had me thinking about this some more. Fake it till you make it isn't about becoming something fake, or something that isn't true to yourself. Imposter syndrome is the natural byproduct of living on your edge. When you feel that, you know you are pushing yourself. Once you realise that, you become comfortable in the knowledge that it'll pass with mastery.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 09:48 PM
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Regarding MRP I am mainly focusing on mental aspect and leaving physique behind They go hand-in-hand. Your mental game will be shit if you are fat, weak slob.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 09:38 PM
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OYS #16 Age: 48 Single: 12yo daughter Stats: 6', 213 lbs, 22.36% BF (scales) - down 1.1 lbs (0.34%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 338, SQ 260, BP 203, OP 132 Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Sex God Method, NMMNG, WISNIFG Mission: Freedom. Abundance in all areas provides freedom. Achieving and maintaining self-actualisation provides abundance. Reading: Started ready WISNIFG. Dating time was up this week which is cutting into my reading time. I really need …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 12:41 PM
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Also decided to quit my job and look for a new one. Is it normal for people to quit jobs before they've got a replacement? I've read a couple of times in MRP of people doing this and it's certainly not common in my part of the world.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/22 10:43 PM
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I found this great video on the science behind IF:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9tRohh0gErM /u/ImpatientZen /u/theCrimisomLine /u/Cam_Winston21 /u/_the_improving_man
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/22 12:08 AM
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I've been running with 2MAD for the last 4 years although I was eating a lot of shit in the last year using lifting as an excuse. I can lose fat with 2MAD if I'm disciplined, particularly with my exercise schedule.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/22 11:23 PM
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It needs to be big enough to swing side-to-side. So, sorry.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 03:09 AM
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Hey mate, I got really good at over eating on OMAD, dont get me wrong it works but after a while a had to track cals. I know some of the benefit is not really having to calorie count, but if you track it in MFP you might be surprised. Yes. I'm a bit slack with calorie tracking. I've been an MFP subscriber for close to a decade. I've been very active which hides some of the calories. I'll start tracking again today. Thanks for the push. ​ Also, good call on the bike! Thanks. I've been riding for …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 12:23 AM
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I had to look up OMAD/2MAD … I do the same 2 day cycle I run once per week - but I am labelling as IF. I cheat a little atm by using the optislim shakes. They help me take edge off hunger at night and therefore I sleep better. I also have to be careful to avoid coffee on these days as the caffeine + hunger gives me a restless night. My go to meal for OMAD/2MAD is breakfast, scrambled eggs and bacon. Yeah, it's all IF. OMAD works but it weighs on your energy, sleep, mental clarity, mood and gym g…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 12:17 AM
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At least weight loss is on point. 1lb/week is sustainable. 10lbs in three weeks isn't now you aren't really fat, just chubby. Shoot for 1lb/week, throw in a maintenance week every 6-10 weeks for sanity. And lose the last 30 lbs. like that without rebounding hard. I dropped another 2 lbs this morning. I've got 3 lbs to go to complete the feminist challenge. ​ Come on man, you're better than this. Stop dancing. If you wanted to meet in a storm, you go for meeting in a storm. If you don't, you don'…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 12:10 AM
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OYS #16 Age: 48 Single: 12yo daughter Stats: 6', 215 lbs, 22.7% BF (scales) - down 0.99 lbs (0.05%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 330, SQ 253, BP 198, OP 110 x 9 Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Sex God Method, NMMNG, WISNIFG Mission: Freedom. Abundance in all areas provides freedom. Achieving and maintaining self-actualisation provides abundance. Last week: We had a catastrophe happen in our part of the world which caused some distractions last week. Got …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 08:35 AM
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Don't put it past her to sabotage the contraception. Baby traps are real. Ask me how I know.
/r/askMRP01/03/22 08:15 AM
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Get noise-cancelling headphones
/r/askMRP28/02/22 11:49 PM
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Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned
/r/askMRP27/02/22 11:27 PM
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You may want to speak to a lawyer. You may be on the hook for some kind of financial support depending on where you live. Create a 'Kill the puppy' list and secure it all before ending it. Bank accounts Passwords Shared assets Loans/credit cards Rental agreements etc. Don't stay in the same house with her once it's ended. That's how things get out of hand and you end up in a cop car. Don't feel the need to win any arguments once it's done. Just get your shit and move on to the next phase of your…
/r/askMRP27/02/22 09:35 AM
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Great post. Something to ponder.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 03:59 AM
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Three thoughts. Your lifts are OK. So just diet down to peeled (think more like 10-12%) and then get strong from there. If you stop at 15, you'll be fat again within a month of gaining, Yep. I'm hyped about getting to that BF%. I'm going to knock off the feminist challenge this month. ​ The guilt about not protecting the whamen is hard-wired. Accept that you have to actually be an asshole. There's no way around it. I'm starting to warm into this. I'm putting a bit of DYGAF in a lot of interactio…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 10:28 PM
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Given up on women?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 09:54 PM
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IR7 I searched around and couldn't find a definition for this.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 09:49 PM
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I'm booked for this coming Monday. Can't say I'm excited about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 11:36 AM
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Tip: Have absolutely no shit food in your house. Crackheads in rehab don't live with a pound of crack in their fridge.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 11:04 AM
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I have struggled the majority of my time here at MRP questioning the authenticity of my development. Something has felt off and fake, like the true conditioning and evolution of my authentic self has been nebulous at best. This is what leaning into your edge feels like. I have felt this way about everything I've worked hard at. Then, one day you realise that you are authentically good at the thing and relax into the authenticity. Until you lean into another edge.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 10:47 AM
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Some days I feel super confident and that can take on anything in my current job, and can do it long term, other days, I feel like I am trapped, don't know what I'm doing, or just apathetic. Look for the triggers to this reaction. And, work out whether you'd bring these reactions to something new.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 12:52 AM
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OYS #15 Age: 48 Single: 12yo daughter Stats: 6', 216 lbs, 22.75% BF (scales) - down 1.1 lbs (-0.05%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 330, SQ 253, BP 198, OP 110 x 9 Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Sex God Method, NMMNG, 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep Mission: Freedom. Abundance in all areas provides freedom. Achieving and maintaining self-actualisation provides abundance. This week: Grinding in the office, gym and the dojo. Back to 1 meal a da…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 10:34 PM
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We have 4 kids You should mention that in your OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/22 11:06 PM
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No-booze is going strong, still find myself wanting a glass of whiskey at the end of the week though. This does get harder whenever typical times of having a cocktail or beer show up, like going out to eat at a bar and grill. This booze fast was made with my wife and I at a counseling office, the therapist wanted to make sure our drinking wasn't affecting our relationship negatively. Since we are headed towards divorce, I'm feeling doubtful about wanting to abstain completely but at t his point …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/22 01:11 AM
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Add in your current lifts, height, weight & body fat percentage. Physique is 80% of your beginner journey and it allows the veterans to see if you are full of shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/22 01:01 AM
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Thanks for this post. I knew that I was a drunk captain when I was married, but this has really bought into focus how fucking lazy/delusional/drunk/dysfunctional I was. Great post!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/22 10:31 PM
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Now take your goals of "x,y,z" and try to tie it to my goals, in how achieving your goals can help achieve my and the company's goals This came up recently in a business coaching session. Thanks for reminding me of it. A very powerful tool to get buy-in from your staff.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 12:57 AM
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overload of alpha Is that a TRP term? I think I know what that means. So much IDGAF that it's counterproductive? My mindset needs a lot of work. I occasionally find myself attaching my abundance mentally directly to the interaction I'm having with women instead of a more abstracted 'Yeah, I can get laid whenever I want' confidence. I can catch that now and remind myself that I can actually get laid whenever I want and, that in a month or two I'll be in an even stronger position to do so. Interes…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 11:23 PM
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Monogamy vs. plate spinning isn't as cut-and-dry as one might think. I'm more TRP than MRP (as per the divorce) but even so I can see the upside of only having to spend time on one bitch. It does mean more work managing oneitis, scarcity, save-a-ho, betaization etc. But even for you and I that don't want live-in again, currently spinning plates (and having a blast, I must say), I'm not sure that the serial monogamy thing isn't just as good, just different. I'll play this as I see it. For now, I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 12:39 PM
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Nearly 6 years for me now. I'm having a 0.0 beer right now. Good enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 12:05 PM
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https://www.dayssince.app/
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 10:38 AM
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The internet is also divided on whether masturbation is good or bad or whether porn is good or bad so I’m a bit lost. The Internet is divided on everything. It's clear that some habits can lead to addiction. You've got addictive behaviours throughout your OYS. Porn is not good for you. Drinking is not good for you. Chewing your nails is not good for you. Hopefully they can continue to clean up. 'Hope' suggests you aren't in control of that. But, you are. Soak that nasty tasting shit into the gap…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 12:46 AM
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Oooff... I needed this too. Great.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 12:06 AM
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If they work then go for it. The key is simplicity and consistency. You are building a wall one brick at a time. I am learning that building the better man is a very broad multi-year project that requires discipline and consistency. Avoid spending hours researching things like callipers and use that time to get stronger. If I can get below 100kg that will be first time in a decade or more. I am thinking I might try to land around 92-95 kg range. There is no 'if' or 'thinking' or 'trying' about i…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 10:59 PM
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Thanks again for taking the time. I appreciated it. ​ I take this to mean that you have no problem just spinning plates for the foreseeable future, perhaps life. Last week I was thinking that getting a new girlfriend every 6 months would be ideal as you get that explosive energy without too much drama. After reading the plate links you've shared, that approach seems more in line with what I want. I don't have the time or inclination to be banging a different woman every night but 2 or 3 would be…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 10:40 PM
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So, to that end, today marks day 3 no alcohol. Nice, I have an app that I put these types of milestones into which allows me to periodically remind myself when I last did x.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 11:51 AM
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QLD. I head that a DEXA scan is partially covered by private health. Haven't checked personally.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 11:05 AM
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Before we start exchanging notes on spinning plates. Read this. Great read! I have some societal conditioning to get past in order to execute at that level. And answer these questions: What do you want out of your woman life in the short, mid and long term? Short, mid and long term - a fun distraction. I'm completely against cohabitation and marriage because I don't want my assets plundered. How do women contribute to your Mission? They don't. I don't need one. I have a PA to take care of the da…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 10:53 AM
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I had been staying STFU, but I think she crossed the line when she pulled the kitchen knife. What the fuck man. Video this shit for the upcoming court proceedings.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 02:06 PM
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SQ 77.5kg, bench 57.5kg, BB row 67.5kg, OHP 40kg, DL 75kg. There is little detail on your lifts. It's unusual that your DL is less than your SQ...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 01:53 PM
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I ordered some skin folder calipers I'm not sure callipers are accurate at greater than 15% BF. Too much variance in how much fat you can pinch. I bought scales from Kmart in oz and they are very consistent but possibly a couple of percent down on reality. It doesn't matter as long as they are consistent and you are losing fat. Use the scales for now and the callipers later when you've got a small pinch of fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 01:46 PM
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OYS #14 Age: 48 Single: 12yo daughter Stats: 6', 217 lbs, 22.7% BF (scales) - down 0.77 lbs (0.07%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 264 x 9, SQ 198 x 8, BP 154 x 13, OP 110 x 8 Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Sex God Method, NMMNG, 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep Mission: Freedom. Abundance in all areas provides freedom. Achieving and maintaining self-actualisation provides abundance. This week: Grinding in the office, gym and the dojo. Back to…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 01:30 PM
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Thanks man. Yeah. I've really gone downhill this week. I've lost motivation in anything that's not physical. Procrastination at work is the worst it's been where I just didn't give a fuck about it for a few days. I've started adding some hydralyte to my water to lift the zinc, magnesium and potassium levels to see if that helps with the fog. I also had some breakfast this morning to see what affect that would have on my moods and motivation. I need to ship some work. Historically, I've had issue…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/22 12:53 AM
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Yep, could well be. I'll post a better photo with the next OYS. And, I'll stick with the scales as they seem consistent. When the scales say 15% I'll get a dexa scan and push on to a true 15% if that's needed.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 09:51 PM
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Read Sex God Method
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 09:15 AM
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Alcohol Drinking way too much. And this has even been dialed back some. Have a drinking problem and it is something I need to be continuously mindful of. Even had to go to therapy for a bit because of it. Goal is to be drinking only once a week (Saturday or Sunday) and only a have a couple of drinks. In my opinion, if you have a drinking problem, abstinence is the only option. I stopped drinking nearly 6 years ago and I don't miss it at all. Immediate fat loss, clearer head and immediate improve…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 05:41 AM
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Navy method has me at 25%
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 04:00 AM
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This is difficult for me to answer at this point. My financial situation improves each day, but it's not at a level of abundance where I'm comfortable. Which means you'll be more on the hook if you pull the pin in the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 02:27 AM
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my situation would cost me half a million dollars over 16 years. It'll cost you whether you stay or go. My wife used cost me a fortune to keep.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 02:11 AM
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Here's the progress picture. https://imgur.com/a/4uuuSic
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 12:26 AM
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I think it’s around 21%. Strong.ur has it at 21.8. There is about half an inch layer of fat across my belly and arse. I should hit 15% at 202 lbs providing I maintain muscle mass. So, another 15 lbs of fat loss. Edit: I’d try navy and add a pick later today
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 09:56 PM
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I’m still drinking. Albeit way less than before. And, part of the hesitation on other goals is that I’m rationalizing that I’m still drinking and that’s gotta be the first domino to fall. Still reading the book…. Dammit how have I not finished that yet? Fuck the book. Just don't drink. Start with a day, then a week then a month. If you have an alcohol dependency, seek medical advice before stopping.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 12:58 PM
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OYS #13 Age: 48 Single: 12yo daughter Stats: 6', 217 lbs, 22.77% BF (scales) - down 2.58 lbs (0.53%) this week (7 day rolling avg.) Lifts: DL 264 x 9, SQ 198 x 8, BP 154 x 13, OP 110 x 8 Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Sex God Method, NMMNG, 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep Mission: Freedom. Abundance in all areas provides freedom. Achieving and maintaining self-actualisation provides abundance. This week: Grinding in the office, gym and the dojo. OMAD i…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 11:28 AM
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Dating apps Still haven't downloaded any. But this time around it isn't out of fear or anything, but quite simply because I don't have the time. Working, going to the gym and composing is taking up all my time, and at the moment, I'm perfectly happy with that. Is this really the case? I'm a super busy guy and I can spare a couple of hours a week. Are you really sure it's not avoidance?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 09:36 AM
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Even with the completion of these projects, I do not see an end with the amount of work that needs to be done. Starting a business isn't easy. When choosing what to do ask yourself "Does this make the boat go faster". If it doesn't, then consider whether it needs doing. Google Image search "Eisenhower matrix" if you are struggling with this. I'm still angry, but when I'm constantly working every minute of the day and I'm so exhausted that I fall asleep on the floor, it doesn't give me time to be…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 08:11 AM
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Yeah I pumped myself up all week to do that the next workout but I didn't get any resistance since she was passed out in the bed. Fuckin what? Dude, you so tunnelled up your wife's arse she's probably taking worming tablets. Just go to the fucking gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 09:52 PM
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And what if who you are is someone who has guilt or shame? Do those emotions have any value at all? Read somewhere years ago that shame, guilt, jealousy, remorse, regret etc have no value other than to help you not repeat mistakes. But, other than that I struggle to think of a reason why you wouldn't shake them off ASAP.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 10:51 AM
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Your self-esteem is tied up in your daughter liking you and choosing you over her mother. Sorta, more it was an epic covert contract where I spent ridiculous amounts of money to secure the custody and the minute she could monkey branch she did. At first, I thought of it as 'Arrgh, the betrayal!', now I see it for the failure that it is. It's still swilling around in my mind and, each time some aspect of it settles in my mind I can see that it was my failures that contributed. ​ This is so my dau…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 12:50 AM
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OK, so I'm not slaying 20-year-old HB9s out here. And, I don't have a lot of data points as I'm only a few weeks in to this so take this with a grain of salt. That said, all I've done is maximise my appearance with a haircut, beard trim and new clothes. I chose clothes that looked good for my shape but also gave off a bit of a confident/status vibe - clothes that your male friends would have given you shit for when you were younger. And, the only thing I've done is filtered every behaviour/word/…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 11:55 PM
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I reread your parent comment as I didn’t consider it properly before I replied. I was distracted by the burn at the end of it. My marriage - The commitment itself wasn’t the problem, more so being a drunk captain. That, and I was easily controlled by guilt and shame. I could write a novel on everything I did wrong in my marriage most of which I didn’t see until after I ended it and discovered this place. To be specific regarding commitment. I don’t have anything against it, and, I also don’t see…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 03:27 AM
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Was it commitment and unconditional supplication that made your first wife so happy? Yeah, I've been consuming enough RP content over the past 20 months to have a clue what's right and wrong. The difference now is now I've got to put it to practice and break the old habits. ​ TBH, when your bodyfat is over 20% and your big 3 lifts are 2.8x your bodyweight, a lack of commitment is about the only attractive thing you could offer a woman. Thank you for the reality check and the laugh.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 12:00 AM
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You are still dropping a pound and a half a week, it's still low hanging fruit. Yes, 2.4 lbs came off of this morning's weigh-in. I was referring to the fact that the mental game has to shift from fleeting motivation to discipline.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 11:53 PM
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OYS #11 Age: 48 Single: 12yo daughter Stats: 6', 220 lbs, 23.3% BF (scales) - down 1.39 lbs (0.32%) this week Lifts: DL 264 x 9, SQ 198 x 8, BP 154 x 13, OP 110 x 8 Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Sex God Method, NMMNG, 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep Mission: Self-actualisation and freedom To achieve a life of abundance in all areas of my life. In order to achieve this, I will need to achieve and maintain self-actualisation. Abundance provides freedom.…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 01:23 PM
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OYS #11 Age: 48 Single, 12yo daughter Stats: 6', 221 lbs, 23.62% BF (scales), waist: 40" - down 1.73 lbs (1.08%) this week Lifts: DL 264 x 9, SQ 198 x 8, BP 154 x 13, OP 110 x 8 Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: Sex God Method, NMMNG, 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep Mission: Self-actualisation and freedom To achieve a life of abundance in all areas of my life. In order to achieve this, I will need to achieve and maintain self-actualisation. Abundance prov…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 11:56 AM
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I'm starting it tonight. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 10:30 AM
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That's what separates you from that fit guy. His body might be a 20%er, but his mind is still in the 80%. And you need both to be a high value, integrated man. I know that's what you guys teach here but, thanks for spelling it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 07:56 AM
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Thanks for the heads up. I've talked a big game so far so it's time to put my frame to the test.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 07:51 AM
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Thanks, man. I've always been dominant in bed. But, pretty fucking boring overall. I browsed the Reddit dominate sub and that shit was next level. It doesn't do anything for me. I have no frame of reference as to if someone said that they are into being dominated, where about in the range from a slap on the arse to tied up with candle up the arse. I guess I find out if I can get past the date.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 07:48 AM
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OYS #9 Age: 48 Single, 12yo daughter 6', 223 lbs, 24.7% BF (scales) - down 4.13 lbs (0.43%) this week I moved to a moving 7 day average for weight/BF Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: NMMNG, 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep Mission: Self-actualisation and freedom This week: Got out of quarantine. Got back to the gym and martial arts. Lost some weight. When on a date. Physical: Despite being in quarantine for the first half of the week, I've managed to lose…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 08:52 AM
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Haha.. thanks man!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/22 09:51 AM
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I'm staying calm. I'm not discussing chores all the time. I'm randomly dropping to her room to chat about nothing. I'm bringing her when I walk the dog. I'm playing cards with her. I'm calmly managing boundaries. Goal: Go a whole week without raising my voice. Goal: Spend daily time playing with her. Goal: Police boundaries calmly and consistently
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/22 09:42 AM
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Cheers man!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 07:37 AM
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Yeah... it's everywhere over here now. Friends and family are all getting it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 07:36 AM
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"Standard teenage bullshit" is your ego telling you you're not at any fault. You are 100% correct. I just spent 20 minutes in a pillow war with her and her attitude immediately improved. Time, attention, praise and boundaries. The first three builds relationship. Boundaries builds respect. I took your comment last week, added it to my notes and moved on without implementing it. Time, attention and praise have been non-existent. Boundaries are weak and unenforced. I'm doing something about this n…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 07:35 AM
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treat it like a game, get good photos that show your interesting life. Thanks for the tips man. I have been treating it like a game and not taking it too personally. I often laugh out loud at some of the shit I say. There is plenty of DGAF. The truth is, I don't have an interesting life. I work on my business, look after my daughter, go to the gym/martial arts. I'll think on how I make things more interesting. It might be good for me and my daughter regardless of OLD. I'll grab tinder gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 07:27 AM
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How tall?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 12:27 PM
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OYS #9 Age: 48 Divorced 4 weeks, 12yo daughter Height: 6', 224 lbs, 24.1% BF (scales) - down 8lbs/1.5% this week Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: NMMNG, 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep Mission: Self-actualisation and freedom This week: My daughter got flu symptoms which means we are in quarantine. We got tested yesterday which means we are out of quarantine if the results are clear when they come in over the next few days. It caught me by surprise somewh…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 09:23 AM
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I just signed up for Bumble. I don't know if it's Bumble fucking with me but I've got a dozen or so likes in about 5 minutes from a bunch of forty-somethings...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 01:09 PM
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Not going to lie, when I read your comment I got a little spike of anxiety. I'm a bit nervous about getting back into it. I don't really know where to start as I've been out of the dating game for 13 years. Anyway, fuck it. Below 210 and laid by June 1st or it's $5k to the feminists. Fucking game on.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 09:40 AM
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Your questions prompted me to go away and think about how I might break this pattern. I've written down the whys and hows. Given that fat loss is the best thing I could focus on right now, I'm going to make it the focus of my OYS. Why? Be a good example to my daughter Be more attractive Be more confident Be more successful - attractiveness aids business Be more respected - no one respects a fat fuck Be healthier Black belt this year, need to be more athletic More running this year, need to be li…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 09:49 PM
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Yes. I have 2 black coffees before 11 AM and nothing until 6 PM. I felt pretty crap the first three days and ate like I was possessed in the feeding window. Yesterday, I didn't think too much about food throughout the day and I wasn't as ravenous when I did eat. I'm getting used to it now.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 09:40 PM
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Thanks. I've been a bit light with the first three. I watched a good ted talk a while back where the mother talked about always finding herself complaining about something in every interaction. That's me. Always chore nagging. But the negative approach doesn't work.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 09:31 PM
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Yes. This has been the plan for the last 12 months. I've got a long history of making progress for a while then letting work derail my personal life chasing the next shiny thing instead of grinding in all areas of life. I'll fix this.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 09:25 PM
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OYS #8 Age: 48 Divorced 3 weeks, 12yo daughter Height: 6', 231 lbs, 25.6% BF (scales) Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: NMMNG, 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep Mission: Still working this out. The past nine months I got all excited about last years 60DoD, set some goals etc. I landed a couple of big projects in my business and have been in a washing machine ever since. Business has improved but everything else has stagnated. Physical: I've continued to lif…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 08:32 AM
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And wear a fucking condom for fuck sake. Stop making babies. OP is totally going to get baby-trapped.
/r/askMRP13/04/21 06:26 PM
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Looking closer at the new scales, I doubt they are anywhere close to accurate. They say I have 7 lbs of bone which obviously isn't even close. I'd say my old scales are more accurate at 21.6% which makes more sense. Based on this image I look like the guy at the 20 to 24% range: https://www.estimatebodyfat.com/static/images/bodyfatpercentagepictures.png
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 01:34 PM
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OYS #7 Age: 47 Wife 46, Married 10 years, Separated 9 months. Kids; 12yo daughter from prior LTR, 20yo stepson. Height: 6', 212 lbs, 21.4% 30% BF (new scales) Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: NMMNG, 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep Mission: Unfuck myself. I don’t have a resolved mission yet. Mental My March work binge has left me flat, frustrated and depleted of fucks to give. I've finally realised how poor the payoff is for over-working. If I wasn't doin…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 02:20 PM
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This OYS is entirely about her. Even down to changing jobs to be closer to her.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 12:02 PM
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It’s a slippery path, I don’t even realize I’m doing it, until I ask myself, when was the last time I meditated and it was like two or three days ago. It’s weird, it’s like I don’t even know its happening. Pre-plan all this stuff in a calendar with alerts. If you are going to flake out on it, at least it'll be consciously.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/21 03:06 PM
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But it also means no sex attampts for 3 months until I get checked for STDs Condoms?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/21 02:43 PM
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Also, classic manipulating kids against the other parent that WILL get used against you if she decides to lose it I get what you're saying. In my case, my wife isn't my daughter's mother so she can't do much parenting orders wise. My daughter is 100% in my care as her bio mother is an alcoholic.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/21 02:18 PM
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Puts a burden on a 7 and 12 year old. I’m never going to be that parent. Who cares? Yeah, I've stopped it. It's a shitty thing to do to my daughter and now that I've caught myself doing it, it's done.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/21 02:11 PM
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You feel sorry for the idea of her you have in your head. It might not even be her, and if it is, she might not feel the way you do about herself. She's pretty vocal about how she feels about things, and, she's been pretty adept at using guilt to manipulate me. I thought I was past it but quite obviously I'm still in her frame in this area. I'm barely interacting with her now and I don't get sucked into anything when I do see her, so I've just got this to kill off. Blue pill perspective: What if…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/21 02:09 PM
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In
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/21 02:16 AM
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Re: sex with wife - watch out for a baby trap. That’s how I got my daughter.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 02:07 PM
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Not really. An example would be that I was checking a luxury coupe on the internet and asked my daughter if she liked it. Then, I said “don’t tell x (her step mother) as she’ll get bummed out”. Urggg.. classic nice guy. I just didn’t see it before.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 01:46 PM
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I’m using office365, confluence and redmine at work. Using apple calendar, confluence and apple reminders at home. You can set due times on reminders. You might like Trello. I’ve also had click up https://clickup.com/ recommended to me a couple of times recently.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 01:33 PM
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Yeah, it is fucked. I biased towards appeasing my wife’s pissiness over my daughter’s wellbeing. I didn’t think that through. Another nice guy thing to fix. Thanks for shining a light on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 01:18 PM
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OYS #7 Age: 47 Wife 46, Married 10 years, Separated 9 months. Height: 6', 208 lbs, 21.4% BF (scales) Kids; 11yo daughter from prior LTR, 20yo stepson. Lifts: SQ 3 x 242.5 lbs, BP 3 x 182lbs, DL 3 x 287 lbs, OP 3 x 121 lbs Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: NMMNG, 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep Mission: Unfuck myself. I don’t have a resolved mission yet. Fitness / Hobbies: The last couple few weeks have been a train wreck. I fell into an old trap of settin…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 09:14 AM
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You didn't list your lifts.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 07:14 AM
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Finance: The court decided that I had to pay her layers, and a pension retroactively. I will lose around 30/40k in this divorce, that I will have to give her. She also gets to stay in our home (that I renovated and that she left) while I have to pay half the loan for. She gains more money than I do and the custody is 50/50. I feel like the court robed me. I had to spend > $160K to secure custody of my daughter from her raging alcoholic mother who didn't want her anyway. She just wanted to have m…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/21 02:00 PM
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I don't want to be married nor live in a nuclear family structure. I came to this realisation a long time before I nuked things. If it helps, I don't regret a thing 9 months later.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/21 01:31 PM
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Yeah. I'm business owners so they are either going to be employees or clients, neither of which are worth the risk of losing those contracts. And, I like my martial arts club and I don't want any bullshit there either.
/r/askMRP22/03/21 02:55 PM
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I think this advice is pretty good. I replied to her DM, made some small talk and completely ignored the offer for coffee.
/r/askMRP22/03/21 02:49 PM
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I could tell the difference - the bots don't usually have 3 kids in tow.
/r/askMRP22/03/21 02:51 AM
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This would work. One of them was sizing me up as a beta plough horse. She asked if I was a workaholic which I replied yes. She hit me up in my DMs that night.
/r/askMRP22/03/21 02:50 AM
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Brutal
/r/askMRP22/03/21 02:44 AM
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Haha... That'd work.
/r/askMRP22/03/21 02:44 AM
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Good stuff. I've taken everything from MAP and arranged it into goals and tweaked it to align with what I want. I'm a fairly down-to-earth guy, I don't have a strong status drive. The beach house is about lifestyle - I lived on the beach 15 years ago and I really enjoyed it. I regularly go camping on the beach now.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/21 12:53 PM
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Sounds like you are doing a lot of hard work, but without a clear goal its kind of pointless. I have a mud map of what I want - I want to give my daughter the best chance of being happy into adulthood. I want financial independence. I want a house on the beach. I want to be in excellent physical condition. I've got all my goals entered into a goal tracking app some with daily tasks to progress them. I do think I might have too many goals and that I'm spinning my tyres a bit. However, when I look…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/21 10:33 AM
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I’ve never fucking lifted. I contemplate hiring a personal trainer just to yell at me and familiarize me with how to not be a faggot. Get a trainer experienced in lifting heavy to train you in form and how to safely escape a failed lift.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/21 10:19 AM
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OYS #6 Age: 47 Wife 46, Married 10 years, Separated 7 months. Height: 6', 208 lbs, 21.4% BF (scales) Kids; 11yo daughter from prior LTR, 20yo stepson. Lifts: SQ 3 x 220 lbs, BP 3 x 181lbs, DL 3 x 264 lbs, OP 3 x 121 lbs Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: NMMNG, 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep Mission: Unfuck myself. I don’t have a resolved mission yet.. Fitness / Hobbies: Training martial arts 4 days per week and gym 3 days per week doing both on Mondays. …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/21 03:34 AM
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You should put a ring on that fast. She sounds like a keeper.
/r/askMRP10/02/21 12:08 PM
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OYS #5 Age: 47 Wife 46, Married 10 years, Separated 6 months. Height: 6', 209 lbs, 21.5% BF (scales) Kids; 11yo daughter from prior LTR, 20yo stepson. Lifts: SQ 3 x 220 lbs, BP 3 x 181lbs, DL 3 x 264 lbs, OP 3 x 121 lbs Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep I’m now the least fat I’ve been in about 11 years. I finished MAP and I’ve gone ahead a setup most of the dos/don’ts in my goal tracking software with daily/weekly actions. …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 12:19 PM
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A bottle of red wine. I don’t mind the smell of alcohol. Can’t stand cigarette smoke though. I lost 22lbs in the months after quitting drinking without changing anything else and kept it off. My blood work improved dramatically over the following year too. I only mention it as a lot of people don’t think that not drinking is an option.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/21 01:29 PM
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I don’t intend to quit drinking alcohol, unless I’m directed to do so due to illness or health issues. I enjoy drinking whiskey and wine. I do, now, recognize that I have a problem. Though it wasn’t extreme, affecting my life or work, I was letting things get out of hand and it wouldn’t have been long until I was treading in deep waters. 4.5 years ago I decided to take a month off from drinking. I was drinking around a bottle of red each night and more on the weekends. By the end of the month, I…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/21 01:00 PM
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I'm curious how it'll all turn out too. She's actively planning our hook-ups now and has completely dropped any negativity which is a very big shift. I'd be surprised if it continues longer than a few weeks though as she loves the drama and can't fake it that long. And, her motivators are probably all dread and not desire. Fucked if I know...
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/21 02:59 AM
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OYS #4 Age: 47 Wife 46, Married 10 years, Separated 6 months. Height: 6', 212 lbs, 22% BF (scales) Kids; 11yo daughter from prior LTR, 20yo stepson. Lifts: SQ 3 x 220 lbs, BP 3 x 181lbs, DL 3 x 264 lbs, OP 3 x 121 lbs Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male, Mindful Attraction Plan Reading: 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep Mission: Unfuck myself. I don’t have a resolved mission yet. This has come up a few times this week when talking with business coaches/financial advisors. One of them suggeste…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 08:31 AM
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I'd be concerned about a domestic violence allegation living under the same roof. It's impossible to record all your interactions with her if you are always 1 room away.
/r/askMRP29/01/21 08:25 AM
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Add super fucking lazy to that list
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/21 03:42 AM
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Don't worry about this. I have found it is more an emerging property than something you plan. Once you are some months in, you can start using some tools like Unchained Man. But I would hold off for now. I realize, this is difficult for guys like us, that always had a big picture framework to guide our actions. I read an imagine of the ship you are captaining somewhere. If you don't know where you want to go, just spend some months - up to a year - building an awesome ship, and then let the guy …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 10:45 PM
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Jesus Christ... haha
/r/askMRP27/01/21 04:52 AM
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I hope all of this is documented in your OYS history. You know, for research reasons.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 01:27 AM
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OYS #3 Age: 47 Wife 46, Married 10 years, Separated 6 months. Height: 6', 211 lbs, 22.3% BF (scales) 25% BF (navy). Kids; 11yo daughter from prior LTR, 20yo stepson. Lifts: SQ 3 x 220 lbs, BP 3 x 181lbs, DL 3 x 264 lbs, OP 3 x 115 lbs Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male Reading: 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep, Mindful Attraction Plan Mission: Unfuck myself. I don’t have a resolved mission yet. Background: I walked out of my marriage in a red pill rage in July. I have my daughter from a pri…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 10:17 AM
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Thanks, man. I used OLD about 12 years ago. I met my daughter's mother there. I saw it as a numbers game and cast a pretty wide net. I was having date a couple of times a week while I was using it. I was in pretty good shape then but had no idea what I was doing (no game). I've been a series of long term relationships since I was 17 so I didn't see a need to learn it. It's hard not to look back and get pissy about being so clueless...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/21 12:14 PM
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What's keeping you staying with your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 01:55 AM
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Do you use OLD?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 01:38 AM
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Your right. I'll get behind it properly.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 03:00 PM
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No, I've already agreed to let her do gymnastics despite the inconvenience. I am genuinely torn on her lack of sticking to things. But, maybe I'm holding her to a higher standard than I hold myself...
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 02:24 PM
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OYS #3 Age: 47 Wife 46, Married 10 years, Separated 6 months. Height: 6', 213lbs, 22.4% BF (scales) 25% BF (navy). Kids; 11yo daughter from prior LTR, 20yo stepson. Lifts: SQ 3 x 198 lbs, BP 5 x 165 lbs, DL 5 x 253 lbs, OP 5 x 121 lbs Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male Reading: 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep Mission: Unfuck myself. I don’t have a resolved mission yet. Background: I walked out of my marriage in a red pill rage in July. I have my daughter from a prior LTR and I have 100% cu…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 12:15 PM
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I’ve been using this app for organising goals and tasks. https://www.goalsontrack.com/
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/21 03:27 PM
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OYS #2 Age: 47 Wife 46, Married 10 years, Separated 6 months. Height: 6', 218 lbs, 23% BF (scales) 29% BF (navy). Kids; 11yo daughter from prior LTR, 20yo stepson. Lifts: SQ 5 x 181 lbs, BP 5 x 165 lbs, DL 5 x 253 lbs, OP 5 x 110 lbs Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male Reading: 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep Mission: Unfuck myself. I don’t have a resolved mission yet. Background: I walked out of my marriage in a red pill rage in July. I have my daughter from a prior LTR and I have 100% cus…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/21 11:07 AM
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Wow.. it's amazing what 8 months in the gym can accomplish.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/20 12:21 AM
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I am highly considering eliminating our marital joint account from its existence. It creates confusion in terms of bill money and play money. I’m having a hard time budgeting/tracking. Currently, as it stands, our joint account is where our base salary goes into. We pay bills and spend money from that pool. Here's what I did and it worked well. Create 2 separate accounts with visa debits cards. One for you, one for your wife. At the start of the month deposit both of your play monies to those ac…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 03:00 PM
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get an eyebrow piercing Great idea! You'll be the coolest kid at the skate park!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 02:12 PM
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No, I learnt about RP before I learnt about MRP. So, I've only been working on myself since discovering MRP a few months ago. There had been years of shitty behavior leading up to that point. The way she reacted to the request to get a job was the last straw. At that time I didn't understand that it was all my beta shit that was the cause of it all.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 10:52 AM
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Yes, your BP 5x5 would be around 245 minimum I've booked a trainer for Monday for a few weeks to work on form and learn how not to injure myself. I'll have a think about what you've said regarding the relationship. Thanks for the insights.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 10:42 AM
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You seem totally confused, and you’re talking out both sides of your mouth right out of the gate... with a BF% that doesn’t match your lift numbers (not even close). Are you saying that I should be lifting a lot heavier for that weight/BF%? Yes, I'm weak. I've been plugging my numbers into the strengthlevel.com which says that I'm at about 4 percentile for my weight and age. I'm new to lifting and am trying not to injure myself and probably have another 20% in me. Those numbers are based on 5 x …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 02:25 AM
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Arrg... thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 11:33 PM
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I fucked up the number of years married. It’s just over 10. I was dating my wife when my daughter was born. My wife was wealthy when we got together. Although you are correct, I dove straight into the beta plough horse role pretty quickly. I am not entirely sure what my motivation is for leaving a foot in the door with my wife. I think I’d like to see what would happen if I got my shit sorted. I wouldn’t mind a relationship where I don’t have to live with her. IDGAF really. No, I haven’t fucked …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 04:12 PM
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OYS #1 Age 47, Wife 46. Married 11 years. 6', 218 lbs, 23% BF. Kids; 11yo daughter from prior LTR, 20yo stepson. Lifts: SQ 5 x 175 lbs, BP 5 x 140 lbs, DL 5 x 220 lbs, OP 5 x 110 lbs Read: NMMNG, Unchained Male Reading: 48LOP, RM, The Unplugged Alpha, Why We Sleep Mission: Unfuck myself. I don’t have a resolved mission yet. Background: I walked out of my marriage in a red pill rage in July. I got sick of her being lazy around the house as a SAH mother and asked her to get a job. She hit the roof…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 08:34 AM
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Break this up into paragraphs to improve readability.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/20 10:01 AM
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That's good, in that it makes her very agreeable. But also means she will be doing things in the now that she won't be in the future when she feels like you're likely going to stay.Just be ready for this pullback. And accept it for what it is...the pendulum swinging. Ha! Every day I read these posts I always find a little gem. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 11:40 AM
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