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LTR/MARRIAGEaussiedollface/r/RedPillWomen28/04/18 05:32 AM
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LTR/MARRIAGEaussiedollface/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 02:40 AM
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I’m not a fan of work romances, it just seems like trouble as a general rule! xo
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 11:33 PM
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I swear I know this person! Hehe
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 11:43 PM
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I would suppose the female incel would be similar to the male incel, in that they can’t secure what they want from the opposite sex. Female incels cannot get commitment from a man, although I’m sure they can get sex. I think they would be those unattractive, unpleasant and aggressive type of women who have lots of casual sex. SJW types. xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 11:34 PM
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My hubby enjoys a red wine or a beer in the evening. I have half a glass of wine sometimes to join him. Sometimes we drink more if we are at a bbq or dinner or some kind of event. I feel tiddly with very little so I try limit my intake xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 11:04 PM
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Thanks for your reply. This sounds like a fairly common thing! I was beginning to wonder if it was just me! That’s great your husband has been able to manage and balance the different facets of his life. Mine has agreed to try a “safe word” when he’s being too full on with me so I’m hoping this will work xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 08:12 AM
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This is fascinating. Thanks for your perspective. Perhaps he could try to develop this skill more? He always changes out of his suit straight away when he gets home which I think makes him feel more relaxed. I do light scented candles and put his slippers out and have dinner ready which is my way of trying to help the transition. It’s hard as he always has to log on after dinner and do another hour or two of emails for work, so maybe he just struggles to switch between the two xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 08:11 AM
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Thanks so much for this advice. I just said this to him and he agreed and thinks it’s a good idea. I think he’s keen for a little gentle reminder in the form of a code word rather than me telling him how sad I am and how it makes me feel. He clams up a bit when I do that.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 05:03 AM
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Thanks for the advice! This is my fear too. Firstly it’s not really my nature to rise to things like that, and also I wonder if it would just spiral. His LTR in the past was with a woman who had the same job as him, and I get the impression their relationship was very combative and competitive and drama-laden. I don’t want that dynamic xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 04:12 AM
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Thanks for the reply! I can relate to everything you say. I definitely feel excited to see him, then immediately deflated because he’s still in work mode. I’m also trying to be less sensitive about it. Thanks for the advice, I like the date night idea too xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 03:07 AM
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Thanks for the reply! I like this idea. I will try showing vulnerability rather than just telling him to stop xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 02:55 AM
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Thanks for the reply! Do you think mirroring him would fix the problem by changing my style, or will it show him how annoying it is to me? xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/18 02:54 AM
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Great news lovely! I remember your original post too hehe xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 12:05 PM
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Wow that’s amazing! How special and lovely xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 11:51 AM
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Go back to Eastern Europe.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 11:42 AM
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OP you have a bad reputation with this crowd of people and you can pretty much write off having any kind of relationship with any of them. You made a mistake in the past, and you’re paying for it now. Things like that come back to bite you. In terms of moving forwards, try focus on yourself and your studies and work. Exercise, get out and see some friends. Also reflect upon what you want from a relationship and how to be the best version of yourself to achieve this. xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/18 11:57 PM
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I have a potty mouth too! It’s bad, I grew up with only older brothers and picked it up. I suggest just making a conscious effort to not swear, after a while it’s a habit that just becomes extinct. I also say sheesh now instead of the swear word lol. My husband hates it so I try really hard to kick it to the kerb!
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 11:55 PM
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I agree with all the great previous posters suggestions! I think your vetting skills are the most important thing, they will allow you to identify men with traditional values regardless of where you are! Avoid “bad boys” like the plague, I never understood women’s attraction to them but it does seem rather common xo
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 10:36 PM
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I love this post, thanks for sharing. Can you tell us a bit more about this “restraint” mentioned? It sounds similar to things my husband has mentioned that he likes about me. (FWIW his mother had an affair and broke up his family, and I feel like he perhaps he over-values restraint and morality in women?)
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 10:15 PM
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I think some sassy, back-chatting bitchy women seem to do well with men in their early twenties. They literally command attention with this sort of behaviour, I guess it’s “exciting” or whatever. From what I’ve seen though, this doesn’t last and it’s the more kind and gentle women who men like to marry. I haven’t read the book, but I do agree women should have a sense of self and stick up for themselves in relationships xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 10:09 PM
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Hmm...I think this is probably a common problem! I guess everything has a time and place? The old saying “a lady in the streets and a freak in the bed” comes to mind hehe. Sounds like you’re doing great with the lingerie etc! Anyway, no real advice from me, I’m following this thread because I am somewhat sexually repressed I think (strict catholic upbringing etc) and would also like tips only how to be sexier for my husband. xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/18 09:59 PM
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I think the cure for too high standards is a good hard look at yourself and what you realistically offer a man/relationship. Do you have someone who could drop some truth bombs? My mum was very good at telling me I had “no wifely skills” and that I needed to learn how to cook etc hehe. She also used to tell me that I would be “left on the shelf” if I didn’t get my act together. It seems harsh at the time but it’s good advice xo
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 10:55 PM
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Hi OP! I went to medical school and I know it can be really stressful and often your health and fitness suffers. I do think this is something you should focus on though. Could you even make just little changes to your lifestyle? Like walking to uni everyday? Have you tried skipping omg it burns so many calories and you can easily just do it at home. Just take a bit of time to work on yourself, and then see what kind of men you can attract. Female medicos often marry other doctors, so you’re in a…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 10:44 PM
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What a lovely story to read! It sounds like he is very much letting you into his life and is taking your relationship seriously. Congrats on being able to move forward from a bad previous experience. My hubby and I did long distance for a while and it was hard! A couple of suggestions: -I’m unsure of the logistics but is there any way you can visit him at the three week mark? Two lots of three weeks apart is much easier than six weeks in totals -Send little things in the post! Letters, cards, li…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 10:36 PM
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I think you just need to have “openess to experience”. I could be wrong, but I think when men complain about women being boring it’s more like your refusal to experience new things with him. Perhaps he likes sailing, or wants to try a new cuisine. If you have openess to experience you will join him in this and the two of you will bond over the experience. A “boring” lady might just refuse. I’m a fairly conservative homebody, so I’ve never been the life of the party so to speak. But my hubby like…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 10:19 PM
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Hubby and I have similar earning potential and not any large individual assets so it doesn’t really pertain to us. I think prenups are good when one person has substantial assets or wealth and the other does not. A wealthy man would be a fool to marry without a prenup, and you don’t want to marry no fool! Hehe xo
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/18 10:16 PM
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I used to work with a young nurse who has alopecia and was fully bald! She was the sweetest, most lovely, kind and fun girl, and she was married too. You can totally keep your femininity whilst having some issues with your hair. I think try fresh pretty makeup, keep your skin and body weight healthy, and dress in styles that compliment your colouring and shape. xo
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 10:20 PM
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Being well-bred is merely a pre-requisite in some circles, not something that adds extra value above and beyond that. Being physically attractive, kind and fun are things that add extra value, therefore I suggest you work on that. xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/18 10:46 PM
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I agree with all other posters here! I love entertaining. Adequate food and drinks, a nice tidy house, a considered guest list, and social graces are important. Entertaining can be hard! You need to put your guests needs before your own xo
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/18 04:33 AM
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I get LED laser facials every two weeks which keep my skin looking really youthful! I highly recommend. Other than that, I (loosely) count calories daily so that I’m not going over my recommended limit and I also do pilates although not as often as I should. My husband likes my hair blonde and prefers dresses to paints/jeans, so I accomodate that xo
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/18 09:01 AM
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Girl. My husband has the most messed up, dysfunctional, manipulative and substance-abuse family. We don’t see them at all anymore. Your situation sounds lovely to me. Make conversations and situations fun. Ask them questions! xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/18 08:22 AM
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That’s very sensible of you and I think a realistic and feminine approach to the situation! I’m married and don’t have a lot of experience with dating, but I’ve just seen with some my friends...it’s almost as if their involvement with a high status guy really affects their view of themselves? Like they really internalise it, ie. “I am of value because I have been involved with this high value man”. So that’s why they struggle so much when it doesn’t work out, because it’s not only the loss of th…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/18 01:13 AM
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That’s like the best compliment ever! I’m glad your date went well. xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/18 11:54 PM
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I can’t personally relate to it either. I’ve seen friends be “involved” with a high value man to some degree, then not be able to let go once it’s over though. Then they don’t give other decent suitors a chance, despite being much better suited to them. That’s my interpretation of being an alpha widow xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/18 11:28 PM
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I’m a physician, currently doing research in dermatology. I’ve somewhat put my career on hold so I can support my husband in his career progression, create a home for us, and try conceive. I love my job but it will always take second place to my marriage and family life. What are you interested in doing? Do you enjoy the education field you currently work in? I always just think it’s good to pick something that (1) you’re interested in and (2)you’re good at, and just stick with it. xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/18 02:32 AM
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My mum is always shocked by all the dating and swapping and changing nowadays. She says back in her day “you just picked someone, and made it work”. xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/18 02:22 AM
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Get them removed with laser xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 11:57 PM
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Yes! Back at college I had my now husband (early dating days) pop over for lunch which I made him and we sat on the balcony and ate. My SJW housemate afterwards said accusingly “ugh I could hear you, you were giggling and laughing so much” and rolled her eyes. I was like, umm, yes that’s 101 of flirting, laughing at your dates jokes. It amazes me how women’s attitudes abour interacting with men have changed xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 12:22 AM
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Have a nice daytime date, a lunch and walk around a garden or something. That way you can chat more and also avoid the temptation to physically escalate xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 12:16 AM
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This is such a good analogy! Thanks xo
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 10:25 PM
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OP you must try see this from your boyfriends point of view, you sent him the tracking code so he looked it up for you. By sending it to him you are actively inviting his input/guidance. Then you decided to go anyway despite it not being there. The whole thing seems like a waste of everybody’s time, unless you genuinely wanted some fresh air and a walk etc in which case you should communicate this to him. I gather this is a pattern in your relationship not just s once off event. Other posters of…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 10:19 PM
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Hi honey. I can totally relate to this, in fact I only work like one or two days a month now! We are just married and don’t have any children (yet). My husband has told me he prefers it this way as I’m happier and less stressed and he feels the relationship is more balanced overall. I do feel a little bit of judgement from others sometimes but I just ignore it. I’ve worked hard to set up our new house and to also be fiscal/money saving which my husband seems to really appreciate. I think it’s a …
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 10:30 PM
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College isn’t just for STEM jobs! Also, every teacher I know went to university and did a degree. I think men nowadays expect you to do “something”. What are your passions? What are you most interested in? xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 11:47 PM
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I think first of all you should stop looking for relationship on tinder and at bars. Do you work? Study? Interests or hobbies on the weekend? These are much better places to meet men and get to know them without alcohol. As other posters have said, I agree about reading the side bar as a starter. If you truly seek a proper relationship, then information here will help you xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 11:43 PM
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Has he explicitly asked for this? I mean I’m sure like most men my husband probably has threesome “fantasies” too, but sometimes fantasies are just that, and should remain just that. I think you’re playing with fire here OP. If he’s asking for it to be a reality, then that’s something you could talk about. I think it would be unwise to “gift” him this. xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 11:34 PM
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Femininity has its own quiet strength, which is something all these new wave man-hating “feminists” fail to understand in my opinion xo
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/18 09:59 PM
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This is my favourite brand! x
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/18 10:41 PM
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My dad is a catholic from humble beginnings and he sent me to a very strict catholic school, and my mother is from an old-moneyed conservative English family with unashamedly traditional views, so my upbringing was very much RP values. There are no divorces in my family, it’s just not the done thing. When I went to university I think many people found me to be boring and closed minded, but I did make lots of good girl friends etc. I never really felt like I fit in, and found the whole hook up cu…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/18 10:30 PM
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that sounds awful! can you try babysitting, retail or some sort of tutoring/education/carer role? xo
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 04:15 AM
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My husband asked me if I’d ever had any one night stands when we were dating (I haven’t), and he knows how many past boyfriends I’ve had, so he has a general idea without me verbalising the actual number. I haven’t asked him his, I don’t really care xo
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 09:41 PM
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I think both men and women shoulder different “loads” in a marriage. Personally, I’m happy to shoulder the emotional load described in this cartoon. If I want help or assistance with something I just ask my husband for help! We used to both work full time and I still shouldered all the emotional load. It was harder, but not impossible. I have no issue with pleasantly saying “oh darling! it’s bin night!” and he takes the bins out. Wanting someone to read your mind is a bit unreasonable I think. I…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/18 08:36 AM
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My mum always taught me that when your husband is stressed with work etc, the first most important rule is to not do anything to add anymore stress. So I try put off conversations about things that aren’t important and can wait, I don’t offload my own problems on him, and I try take care of everything so that when he gets home he doesn’t have extra stresses to deal with. In terms of adding positivity, if he wants to talk about work and vent to me then I listen, if I sense that he doesn’t want to…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 10:03 PM
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Honey I think if you’re happy with the outcomes of his decisions then just let it go? If you really don’t agree with them or his decisions were wildly unwise then I would understand. I have lots of opinions about things sometimes hehe and I’ve really had to learn how to keep things that are unimportant to myself, and also to “pick my battles” as my mum would say xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 07:53 AM
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Hmm I don’t think it’s a question of whether they “should”, it depends on what is appropriate given your and your partners beluefs. Personally, I do not think a married person should be spending intimate one-on-one time with someone of their preferred gender. I don’t believe it’s appropriate. xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 10:21 PM
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Good for you OP! You sound like a smart girl with your head screwed on. As other posters say, it’s less about age and more about the type of man and qualities. Having said that, if I were you I would be aiming for a man in his twenties as you will have more in common. Do you go to college? Work? Church? These can be good places to meet eligible men xo
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 09:53 PM
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I really needed this post. Thankyou. I’m still learning how to deal with instances where my husband loses frame. It’s hard because it really turns me off, but he’s also human and has a lot of stresses with work etc. I find it happens more frequently when he’s stressed with work and has a lot going on. I used to sulk and get irritated! I do still have a lot to learn and practice in terms of controlling this, and supporting him regardless of the situation. My husband gets “lost in his head” someti…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/18 12:18 AM
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I read this and it really helped me. Highly recommend! xo
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 11:27 PM
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I’m a physician and work with ladies who have married builders and tradesmen etc. It certainly does happen!
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 11:10 PM
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Yes! Thankyou for this post, I totally agree. I’ve noticed this trend in my life too. I’m a physician and many ladies I work with were married/dating builders and other tradesmen. Very “strong” and manly types. I also noticed that men like that seemed to pursue me more as I moved upwards in my career! I suppose it’s a dynamic that works for some people. I personally prefer more traditionally “intellectual” types so I married my darling husband (lawyer, earns more than I do etc). x
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 11:02 PM
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Welcome. Apart from the sidebar and all the other helpful comments other posters have made, my only tip would be to not take yourself too seriously. A common trait I seem to notice with far left women is a tendency to take themselves, their job, their opinions, their beliefs, very VERY seriously. A bit of lightening up and agreeableness goes a long way in forming friendships, relationships ships, and pleasant interactions in general xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 11:06 PM
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My mother and grandmother were like this too! I think good role models are so important xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 10:49 PM
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Thanks honey. Yes we had a conversation one day when we were both completely exhausted from work and were barely seeing eachother, and we realised it couldn’t continue like this long term. We consciously chose his work as the “primary career”, and whilst it took a bit of adjustment, it’s created much more balance in our lives! xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 10:45 PM
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Oh honey, don’t be too hard on yourself. I’m sure most, if not all, women can relate! I know I certainly can! My husband is a junior partner at a law firm filled to the brim with attractive, young, and competitive women. One is a model too, like she’s absolutely stunning lol. He also met all his previous girlfriends at work. So I struggled for a while with jealousy and issues of insecurity, despite being generally happy wth myself and my appearance and career etc. My only tip is to keep yourself…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 06:30 AM
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You should not be paying for both of you on your first date! Sorry but I think you should stop this immediately. Aside from that, you perhaps you could light heartedly offer to contribute and reach for your purse (ie. Not make a big deal of it). A traditional man would decline and take pride in paying for both of you (say thankyou and also reinforce what a lovely time you’ve had). I’m sure the ettiquete differs depending on your culture and where you live, so you are the best placed to decide ho…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 10:26 PM
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OP I think this will just take time, although it’s probsbly realistic to expect that you will have different tastes (which is normal, because you are different people!). My husband has several things he doesn’t like to eat, including lamb and pork which are my favourite! Like you, I enjoy cooking, but I’ve had to adapt my style to his tastes. Good advice from other posters about slowly integrating things! I think it will just take time xo
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/18 10:15 PM
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I think it more a matter of time. If both partners have demanding careers, then it’s very difficult to have a quality family life, and a man looking to marry and have children will be turned off by a woman with a busy career (if he too has a busy career). However, I think “attraction” may be separate to this? I am a medical doctor and my husband is an attorney, and he likes my job because he respects it and finds it interesting. On a practical level though, we discussed that only one of us could…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/18 04:03 AM
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Thanks for the advice! He fell over quite a lot and seemed to get very frustrated with himself which lowered the mood of the morning, so we ended up separating for the afternoon and taking different slopes and met up again later. It worked well! Love the romp comment hehe xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 12:42 AM
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I really took your comment on board and it popped into my mind a few times over the weekend! We did end up separating and taking different slopes for the afternoon and meeting up later which worked well. xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 12:41 AM
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Thanks for the advice! He went to different slopes to practice some technique and enjoyed himself. We did have an apres too hehe. xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 12:39 AM
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Thanks for the advice! We skied for a bit and he seemed to get frustrated, so we separated for the afternoon. It worked well. xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 12:38 AM
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Never send sexual texts outside of a proper relationship. x
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 12:36 AM
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Do you go to a co-ed school? I went to an all girls school so I didn’t directly have this issue but I could see how it might arise. I think high school years are for studying, cultivating friendships with other girls, learning skills like cooking and playing sports, dance, art, or whatever your interests are. Perhaps you should interact with the boys less? Focus on yourself at this time xo
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 12:32 AM
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It’s not as important for men. Although in my experience it is important for men of extremely high status, for example “old money” types and politicians etc. x
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 10:51 PM
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You show great self awareness in seeing this behaviour in yourself! I do this too, and I realised that I need to focus on other things throughout the day. For example, I get the urge to text my husband constantly about everything that’s happening in my day and to ask him about his. I think I just want to “connect” and chat, but I’ve realised he’s busy and this can sometimes be frustrating for him. So now I text my friends and my mum instead! I think it’s much more of a female thing, so this is a…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 03:35 PM
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You have to do what works for you! In my personal opinion though, you’re 25 and should perhaps be looking for a relationships with a man 25-early 30s. I know you said you dated a 30 year old and he seemed so childish, but that doesn’t mean all 30 year olds are like that! My ex boyfriend was 7 years older than me and just so immature, and my husband is the same age as me. So everyone is different xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/18 03:20 PM
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If you can’t handle an alpha, then don’t marry one. I married one and it has its challenges, but then doesn’t every relationship? Take your pick! Side note, I see a lot of women married to betas who seem super bored, and they try flirt/get attention from alphas to get their thrills. This includes towards my husband, and he’s been around enough to know how the world works and he just thinks it’s hilarious. He respects my girlfriends more who have married alphas like him, also it means he enjoys s…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/18 01:55 AM
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I am attracted to men who are more intelligent than I am, and so I found one to marry. The smarter you are the smaller the pool will be, but a bit of a challenge/hard work didn’t put me off. I highly recommend pairing with a man who has a higher IQ than you, the dynamic works well xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 03:52 AM
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My interpretation of a RP marriage, and those who are more experienced please correct me if I’m wrong, is that the dynamic is very much one of a “leader” and a “supportive role”. My FI never demands obedience from me, but he gains it by me respecting his views, allowing him to make the big decisions, and supporting him in any way that is needed. It is almost second nature for me to ask him if he wants a drink, or if he needs anything, or something to eat, because I am continually predicting what…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/18 12:54 AM
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I’ve never been a fan of overt flirting to attract a high quality man. Also not a particular fan of finding “excuses” to talk to men. In my experience, if they’re interested they will approach you. Our job is to make them interested, which is achieved by your own special brand of femininity, charm, and demeanour xo
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/18 02:45 AM
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yes, you worded it way better than I did! xo
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/18 06:10 AM
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She grew up in a town near me! I didn’t know her though, she’s older than I am. I’m not sure about her being red pill. Hmm, I mean she has quotes in that interview that sound like it, but she always comes across as a little bit insincere to me. She goes for wealthy and well established men who can look after her. I suppose it would depend on how she is as a mother and wife. She did get divorced after a very short marriage to Orlando bloom, which I do not think is traditional at all. Also she has…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/18 02:11 AM
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Good everyday recipes can be found for free online from both Jamie Oliver and Donna Hay! I use them a lot xoxox
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/18 02:07 AM
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This really resonated with me! Thank you. There’s so many little things like this that can really have a big impact. I especially like the appreciation/mentality points you make, I’m going to start this today! xo
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 09:26 PM
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So true! Thank you for such an insightful thread. I really enjoyed it xo
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 09:12 PM
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Does anyone have any little day-to-day tips to help implement red pill into their lives? Just simple little practical things? I do small things like get up early and always make him coffee and breakfast whilst he’s in the shower instead of just staying in bed hehe. Just hoping for some more tips xo
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 06:13 AM
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I grew up in a conservative family, and was then surrounded by fairly blue pill existence at college. I never felt like I particularly fit in, for example I didn’t like the hook up culture etc. I met many blue pill men and I just never felt feminine around them, it’s like they were feminised and wanting me to bring the masculine energy to the relationship. So here I am! xo
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 06:10 AM
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I agree with all of this. My FI is a corporate litigation lawyer and I am a doctor. I have recently transitioned to SAH, to focus on homemaking and do some research, and our relationship has improved greatly. I simply have more energy to dedicate to him and our relationship, and I’m happier because I feel like I’m being a good fiancé. I’m not saying everyone has to quit their jobs, and indeed I intend to go back to part time at some point, I can say that in my experience at least I agree with ev…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 05:55 AM
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I grew up in a red pill household and I do not see the issue with this at all! My father would never have carried my brothers anywhere, also to this day he doesn’t hug them, he will only shake their hands. They carried me around though, because I was the youngest and the only girl hehe. I don’t know, I just don’t see the problem here. As previous posters have said, its your job to mother your children and show kindness and empathy. It’s the dads job to demonstrate to him how to be a man. xo
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 10:18 PM
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I lived on campus at college (in Australia, similar to american sororities I suppose) and its definitely a challenge to maintain your traditional values! It can be done though, it just takes discipline. I attended a female only college so that helped. My general tips are: (1) Binge drinking is not a good idea. If you want to remain social, then learn how to nurse a drink for ages, drink soda and lime which looks alcoholic but isn’t, and offer to drive to parties/gatherings so that you have an ex…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 10:11 PM
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It’s always good to surround yourself with people who share your views. It will happen with time, as like attracts like. I have some extremely liberal friends who have become that way in recent years. We are still friends, but I do realis that we are at somewhat different stages of life now xo
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 12:55 AM
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Agree with the downtown abbey suggestion! Also any of the classics are good, particularly anything Jane Austen or Gone With the Wind has traditional concepts too. I’m not particularly sure about any modern literature but I’m sure there is some. Cooking classes is another good idea I think. My mother taught me how to cook from a young age and it’s helped me a lot in my relationship xo
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/18 12:51 AM
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Hehe i think secretly wanting the exes to disappear is quite normal. It sounds like youre in a good position, he cares about you and is committed to you, and as a side note was not to her. This should give you relief. I would just be careful in terms of actively discussing this with him, because you don’t want to elevate her to any kind of importance. And it doesn’t sound like he’s really actually doing anything that you would like him to stop (ie. he’s not hanging with her etc). The overlap is …
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 10:37 PM
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This is so true. The casual “hook up” culture has always historically existed, but it was between men, and certain women of lower social standing (I’m trying to be discreet here). Women looking to be married would only accept to being courted, and would not think of participating in such casual arrangements which in all honesty, really only benefits the man. I think these principles should somewhat apply today. I see girls having casual hookups and then creating drama when they aren’t respected/…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 10:19 PM
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Okay, deep breath OP. Everything will be okay, and it really does seem that you are ready to make some changes in your life. Can you identify what your “purpose” is? Do you enjoy your job? Do you want to be a mother and wife? What is it you really want from life. I think you should also consider what it is you want in a husband, then when you start dating again you will have more focus and purpose. Red pill women has some great reading in the links! Perhaps start with that and the concept of vet…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 10:14 PM
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I do feel that this is too much of an emotional dump and I worry it may scare him off? I think it’s great you have such self insight. I agree with a previous poster that men don’t need to catch a glimpse of all our inner workings. I think just ask him what his relationship is with her, listen carefully to his response, then say that it makes you uncomfortable that she still shows interest because you are his partner and you love him. I’ve had issues with an ex still pursuing my FI and I just thi…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 10:06 PM
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In situations like this it’s always best to be friendly. You don’t have to be actual “friends” with her, but at minimum you should be friendly and get along with her when the four of you are together. xo
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/18 10:01 PM
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I’m sorry that you’ve had such difficulty in your life. I won’t pretend to know exactly what you’ve been through, but you sound like a lovely and thoughtful girl, and you’ve done so well to move on from your past. Have you been seeing a therapist? Once you find one you like and have good rapport with, you may be able to navigate some of the thought processes/behaviours you mention. I do believe professional input is important here. I also want to say that you are not “broken” nor are you “goods”…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 09:05 PM
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They can be pretty! Especially if they look natural. Just in my experience, I think guys like the look of them, but if they ask if they’re fake and I admit yes then they are like “oh....” I ALWAYS have a pedicure though, and my fiancé loves it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 09:14 PM
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love this. thanks for sharing!
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 09:06 PM
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This is such an interesting post! I’m so glad I found this board. I’ve only had a couple of boyfriends, but they have always brought up commitment, not me. In the dating phase I have always focused on connecting emotionally and mentally, and really listening to him and getting to know the man. I wouldn’t sleep with a guy before we were exclusive, but I do also accept that in those early stages of dating they are likely sleeping with other women. Some of my friends freak out by this and I think t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 09:02 PM
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I think I dress conservatively by modern standards (thanks to my posh english mother) and my fiancé always comments how good I look. I think he would maybe prefer it if I wore tighter things on occasion, sometimes he buys me a slinky evening dress and I will wear it to dinner. I know he also prefers my hair long and minimal makeup, so I keep this in mind xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 10:05 PM
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Oh gosh. I really do think you should be married (if that’s what you want) before any children. I’m sure he cares about you a lot, but do you think there’s some element of him wanting to “tie you down” with a baby? What’s his rush? I think you need to have a talk with him about expectations xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 10:00 PM
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Sorry but no alpha man in a proper relationship would spend time and energy on a bunch of women who aren’t his partner.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/18 03:51 AM
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Sounds great! Let me know how you go. It’s been an adjustment for me but our relationship has really flourished xo
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 10:49 PM
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It is not a good look for a young woman to be surrounded by men. It will turn off high quality men have no doubt about that. You do seem rather adamant that your behaviour is fine though, so unsure exactly what you are seeking by posting here xo
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 10:14 PM
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I love the way you’ve summarised your priorities! Thanks for sharing. I think this will help me to keep things in perspective xo
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/18 10:37 AM
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Hi there! I’ve recently transitioned to stay at home, so I can share some of my experiences at least. I’m a medical doctor and whilst I love my job, it does cause me quite a lot of stress. My FI suggested I stay at home, as his job is also rather stressful and he earns way more than I do, and he can financially support me. Two stressful jobs quite simply does not work, and is not good for the relationship in my opinion. I completely understand your experience as an independent woman, and I think…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/18 01:36 AM
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I’m sorry but in my experience men much prefer to ask out the woman, and it sets a more traditional tone for your interactions. Have patience, my fiancé and I chatted for two months before he asked me out. Just give him little indications you are interested, if he likes you, he will ask. Good luck! xo
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/18 09:43 PM
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Congratulations on your career change! It sounds like you are enjoying it. I can totally relate to this, I am a junior doctor and the study and stress I have gone through whilst with FI has been unbelievable. The things you say about feeling that you are not being a good partner etc I completely understand as I felt them too. My FI prefers when I am less stressed and can do more around the home, because he has an even more stressful job and he is the breadwinner, so from his point of view, it’s …
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 06:45 AM
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Hopefully its just a phase, give her positive reinforcement when she behaves like a lady and zero attention when she doesn’t xo
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 01:09 AM
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I think your interests are fine! It’s more about your “energy” than your interests per se I think. The only thing that stands out for me in your post is that you describe yourself as liking “debating”. Be careful to not come across as argumentative, men most certainly are not attracted to that. x
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 01:05 AM
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How exciting! So you’re going out for dinner? Not to their home? I only ask as I feel the gifts might differ. I agree with other ladies saying that something homemade is a good idea, I make homemade jam so I took that when I met my fiancés morher. Biscuits or any other baked good is a great idea. I tend to shy away from gifting wine as I’m not a big drinker myself, but this could work too. If you went to his home I would think flowers or a scented candle might be appropriate. xo
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/18 04:07 AM
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I’m so glad to read your post! I need some tips for this kind of lifestyle. I always worked and studied a lot, but we are now moving to my home city (yay) as my FI got an amazing job. He told me that I don’t have to work, and he actually would prefer that I didn’t for a bit at least, as he’s seen how stressed I get and also I have a wedding to plan. We don’t have any children either. I’m lucky in that I have one good friend in a similar situation, so I talk about it a bit with her. I do feel the…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/18 04:33 AM
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Hmm, I have a grumpy fiancé on my hands too! Hehe. Firstly, I really do think you should try eat together. It’s important bonding time, even if you aren’t talking. Perhaps sometimes you could go to the gym with him? I try do all my chores and get things ready so when he gets home I can give him my full attention. If he wants to watch tv or do some work or read, then I just leave him be and bring him little drinks or something. Mine also likes to vent about work things to me, and tell me about hi…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 10:24 PM
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Sounds like he’s turned off by your political obsession. Either tone it down or find other friends to talk about this with imo xo
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/18 07:39 AM
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I’m not overly into politics, but my FI is. Just in my experience, relationships seem to work better when couples generally share the same views, or the woman is more politically conservative than the man xo
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/17 01:06 AM
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Thanks for sharing! I’m not asexual but I do have a very low sex drive (I recognise these are different, but I feel I can maybe understand some points of where you are coming from). Not being sexual has actually helped me immensely, because I don’t sleep with men until we are well into the relationship and they have proven their commitment. In your case, I worry that men might find you appealing and sweet, but over time lose interest because men need to feel sexually powerful. Have you seen a th…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 02:32 AM
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Hi there! I’m new to red pill women, but will try share some of my thoughts on this. My only advice is that the “power” you sense early on in the relationship is really just the natural dynamic between men and women. He is wooing you, trying to “get” you and keep you interested. I read an article once where it described how men will try really hard early on to woo you, and make you fall in love with them, before they’ve even decided what they want from you or if they love you. Especially if you’…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/17 01:49 AM
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