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you know.. I was the 19yr old kid going out on a date with a 25 yr old, not realizing how naive I was. Maybe other girls could date an older guy but I definitely had no experience at all with dating, my ex had dumped me horribly and I was acting out. If someone had told me how shitty he was I would have stayed away. Thankfully, because of the distance nothing happened with the guy, we just went on one date where I was uncomfortable and text messages which weren't very nice. If you don't want dra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:44 PM
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Yep. I had a guy once tell me that since his friends didn't think I was that good-looking, he could not date me, even though he agreed that he did find me good for him. Eh. His loss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 05:43 AM
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When he finds you hot but you are not his idea of a girlfriend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:24 AM
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this is like a 100% of guys I see everyday. the last guy i talked to before i shut down on dating was literally this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 06:38 PM
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I haven't allowed them back into my life but it hurts so much to stop myself from reaching out. I feel quite stupid for still wanting them back in my life even when they have been disrespectful. I keep myself away from them but continue to hurt about it. I want to love myself so much that I don't hurt about this. How do I teach myself that? I have kept myself away for over a year but the hurt is almost still as fresh as ever..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 08:46 PM
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Love yourself? What does it mean? I am tired of hearing this phase, of course I love myself, I invest so much time and money and effort to better myself, physically, mentally, spiritually.. but i'll still end up feeling sorry for my BPD ex because he doesn't know any better. I want to love myself enough to hate him and everyone else who treats me badly but I don't know if I could hate anyone. I feel so utterly weak when it comes to putting people in their place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 07:37 PM
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The first part of your story match word to word with my ex, he actually CRIED when i got a scholarship. I hope the second part of your story comes true. Because I am still reeling from the trauma of taking care of a man-child, I am pushing away every guy who even remotely reminds me of my ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 09:27 PM
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oooo i can answer this. I thought it was just me with the horrible guy friends story. i never really had a guy friend till i attended college at 17. In school, i was mostly a very introverted person and stuck to my work. Im college, I suddenly started getting many male friends because I started going out, talking to people etc. Since I am an introvert, I always limit the group of people who have access to me. Guy friend number one: The first time we met, he had just told off another guy for hara…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:28 PM
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reading this hurts so so much because not one year back i asked my crush out, the first time i asked a guy out actually. asked him out because another LVM encouraged me to. the only reason i even considered it was because i was very very emotionally vulnerable after a relationship with a BPD ex who was so so abusive. my crush said no. few days later he made a move on me and since i was so hurt and so flattered that he agreed, we made out a lot after that. dropped him in a few months because it f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 08:33 PM
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nope, NVM is negative value male. no value male are ZVM i think, zero value males
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 01:44 PM
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not everyone. some people just feel happy that they are not in that position anymore so it's easy to make fun of her. ignore them honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:28 PM
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HOW IS HE ENTITLED TO HALF OF IT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 05:20 PM
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I'd love to see a reality show where pickme's are taught to let go of their notions and at the end of the show are proud independent thinking women. Also, the show SHOULD NOT end with them getting a guy because I am so done with the value of a woman's life centering around getting a guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 02:09 PM
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i had an ex-s mom say the same about her son when he behaved badly. She was so proud and I just compared it to my mom who would kick my ass if I acted like a child past the age of 13? She so proudly told me that he was a 10 year old boy in a 22 year old body??? She wanted him to be a child so bad, she doesn't even "let" him get braces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 01:33 PM
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i think your bad experiences would help you in vetting any future guys who fit that same profile and girl, enjoy this! give yourself permission to be happy!! if you really have a gut feeling that just doesn't go, think through your conversations and chats. Are they always one sided? and when you feel overly in awe of him, go through the wiki on this sub and see if he violates anything you aren't ok with. also, it's normal to constantly question ourselves because we are scared. but remember that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:24 PM
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if he seems like prince charming, something is wrong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 02:15 PM
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Thank you :') I have constantly been looking for red flags and I almost always forget to see them as human, someone who is not expected to be perfect, because I am so scared of someone abusive entering my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:47 AM
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Thank you for this, now that you say it, it is definitely a red flag when someone doesn't even know me and wants to "help me through my problems". I have not invested a lot more time than needed. I reply to him messages as and when I get time, so as now I am not too available to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:45 AM
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I haven't told him any of the major things, but I'll definitely keep this in mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:43 AM
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i haven't told him about my past, probably just funny stories. what I meant was that he doesn't "get bored" or switch off when I talk about something important. I did tell him that last year was a bit of a struggle but I am doing better and he said and genuinely meant that he'd be there for me if I needed to talk it out. I felt it was a bit too much too soon too. I told him that we are going a bit too fast and he apologised, and has been very respectful. It's a shock to me because earlier whenev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:42 AM
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My ex boyfriend told me THE SAME story about me being hotter than my sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 09:23 AM
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I would love to be pen pals if you are interested!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 02:23 PM
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I told a very close guy friend of mine that a guy molested me and he said "i told you so" and has never mentioned it again. My girl friends came home, changed my sheets, cleaned my house and hugged me till I cried and let it all out. Then one of them stayed over the weekend to make sure I was alright and called me every night of the week to see if I was doing ok. If I wasn't straight, I'd never talk to a man again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:26 PM
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Are pepper sprays illegal in Australia?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 07:04 AM
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My ex-boyfriend was ALL of this and he still managed to ruin my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 05:05 AM
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Thank you for the caption! I needed to hear that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/20 07:59 PM
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Wow, you go girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 07:17 AM
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I would give you an award if I could afford it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 07:27 PM
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Yea. Right down to the sisters asking her to come over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 03:25 PM
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I guess I have done all the "concrete" work I could do, like getting a good job, that admit to a masters degree. It is harder to control my emotions. Will work towards it. Keeping away from guys for now. Thanks for replying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 05:17 PM
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I never thought of point number 1, definitely will look into that. Point no 2 is something I realized and I am trying really hard to stay away. Extremely difficult because I am have this strange longing, I am not sad, this "longing" just strikes me whenever I am doing mundane tasks. Will definitely follow all the points you mentioned. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:22 PM
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They kinda sorta implied that I was making a big deal out of nothing. They would agree to see me, but after me telling everything and answering their questions, they'd just say that it's all fine, I don't need to be worried and that what I am facing is normal for someone my age, the "need" to be with a guy. After two sessions of this advice, I figured it was a waste of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:20 PM
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Men my age(22) are not commitment minded. Hell, I wonder why am I commitment minded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:14 PM
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True. It sucks big time but it is true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:11 PM
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Thank you for this. I have been scolding myself for "needing" a guy, it's the nagging feeling, but it comes and goes. Good girlfriends are god sent, you are really lucky that you have one :') I am hoping to reach the place you are at. That inner peace. I know I will get there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:10 PM
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The first one was a psychologist with 4 years of experience. The Next was my ex's therapist, he knows my ex's background so I thought he would be able to advice me better. He was the one who suggested meditation. The last one was someone who is a person getting her MD in psychiatry. I explained everything to her. She knows me a bit personally and she says that I just need to wait it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:06 PM
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I was in therapy for a few months. They literally turned me away, they said there isn't anything wrong with me. I was asked to meditate and that's it. Three different therapists. When I talk about being desperate, they say it is normal for someone my age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:02 PM
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Emotional intimacy. The butterflies, desperate to be with someone. I am trying not to feel this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:58 PM
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Thank you for this. Yes, I am working on myself, I was recently admitted to a prestigious masters program. Career wise I am doing great. Confidence is something I need to build on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:55 PM
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I think sometimes the apple does fall far from the tree. But he might have learnt some coping strategies living with his dad/living with his mom who was abused by his dad. If he can understand his different behavior to certain situations, and work towards changing it, then I think you have nothing to worry about. Let's say, for example, he has seen his mum being possessive because his father was a cheater. If he thinks that's ok in a relationship and he forces it on you, not good. But if he real…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 07:42 PM
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I once went on a date with a guy who was smelling so so bad I could not bear to stand near him. Never saw him again. Phew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 05:09 PM
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Hallelujah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:30 PM
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This literally is happening to me now, found this sub a few minutes back because of some people saying it is shitty on r/unpopularopinion It is not shitty by God
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 03:50 PM
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