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FDS MEMESbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:04 AM
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FDS MEMESbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 11:08 PM
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FDS MEMESbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:11 AM
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QUEEN SH*Tbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 09:47 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:50 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:11 AM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 05:41 PM
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REMINDER 👑basicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:56 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 04:10 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 11:37 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:02 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:19 PM
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NAH, SISbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:21 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:41 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 01:36 AM
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NAH, SISbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:08 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:04 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?basicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:27 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:16 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 08:51 PM
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STAY WOKEbasicbagels/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 02:59 AM
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Sadly, they don’t care because at the end of the day they feel it’s not their problem. After all, they’re not the ones actually pregnant, but the female is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 12:18 AM
4

Oh gosh another Scrote influenced by a narc, overbearing mother… and we wonder why the scrotes turn out the way they do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 07:47 PM
20

Totally unacceptable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 01:40 AM
11

So well said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 02:37 AM
31

Stopped reading when I saw the age gap.. 19 and 25? Just no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 11:58 PM
34

Well said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 08:19 PM
10

I see this constantly among peers in their late 20s. One girl I know was dating her boyfriend since beginning of high school, stayed together thru college, and after 11 years, she finally got a proposal out of him and she’s acting like she’s the first bride to ever exist. The cringe factor is too much, I could never!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 06:01 PM
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Love your use of JStor 😊 thanks for sharing, this is fascinating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 05:57 PM
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Agreed. Long distance relationships leave so much room for deceit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 05:56 PM
30

This is amazing and beyond handbook worthy. Thanks queen 👑 ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 02:41 AM
1

My mom was a HVW who was a single parent by choice. She was an amazing lady who gave me every opportunity in the world and I took advantage of all of them. Yes, it will be extremely tough at times but if you want a kid and you have planned/ready for it, don’t let lack of a scrote stop you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 09:22 PM
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My mom passed on her last name to me because my dad was a LVM. Very smart move on her part and I’m proud to have it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 09:11 PM
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She’s def further along than 12 weeks for what it’s worth haha I saw paparazzi pics of her the other day she is 5+ months along I believe. Shady!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:57 PM
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This is such an inspiring attitude to have. Very proud of you. You are spot on and deserve only the best ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 02:05 AM
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Very true as well!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 02:00 AM
10

So true! They don’t want to look like the bad guy and want to pin all the blame on the girl. Sad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 10:30 PM
60

This is so true! Men leave and women stay. Women need to leave too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 04:42 PM
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Sorry you feel that way. I didn’t mean everyone who believes in marriage feels that way. I believe in it. But in general, pickmes do feel that way. You rudely and incorrectly mischaracterized my comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 11:40 PM
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So many age gaps… 14 years older than her? 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 05:14 PM
2

Because of their crippling low self esteem and inherently low self worth. They think that they are special only when someone has “picked” them to be married to. It’s a very naive and delusional mindset
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 03:52 PM
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If he wanted to, he would!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 07:44 PM
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If I read that right, she’s pregnant by him again? She is delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:53 PM
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This is handbook worthy, great post!👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:16 AM
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He left out his weight 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 09:55 PM
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It’s very common. These pickme’s self esteem and worth sadly revolve around what their bf thinks of them. They are fickle friends. Their loss, not yours
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 09:46 PM
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I’m sorry for your loss. I lost both my parents at a young age to cancer, so I can relate. I’ve also had a few different therapists, so please don’t give up on the search to find a new one! There are some good ones out there. Wishing you healing ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 06:50 PM
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Does your school/university offer counseling services? Most, if not all, do for free. Utilize all resources available to you. There is also online therapy that is relatively affordable. Just some options to consider.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 06:48 PM
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This happens all too often. The women find out and stick with the man. They truly don’t care. They think they’ve won a prize (because of their inherent low self-worth). It’s definitely disheartening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 06:45 PM
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Please make sure you seek out help, ideally therapy. Healing yourself is more important than any relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 06:40 PM
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Yes this is soo important! The amount of mamas boys that are out there is in the millions. Avoid them like the plague. The mom and son are both toxic and manipulative!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:52 PM
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Ain’t that the truth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:17 AM
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She says the fact that she (or he) can walk out whenever “keeps it sexy” sounds like a massive cope to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:17 AM
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Block and delete sis!! Don’t give him any energy or attention! Only validates him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:13 AM
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Amen. Healing starts from within, always ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 01:09 AM
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Chrissy is a total bully!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 01:12 PM
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Please work on forgiving yourself, you deserve it. What matters most is that you learned the lesson from the situation and won’t replicate it. You deserve not to feel shame ❤️❤️ and ps happy cake day queen 🎂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 04:50 PM
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And a 100% he’s thought about it/considered it already. Pass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 07:16 PM
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Love this breakdown. He is a scumbag and always has been
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 01:23 AM
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Unfortunately, they are. They are evil and malicious. Some of them are just so desperate and have zero self esteem. But the rest are just malicious to the core. It’s sad and pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:57 PM
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His brother is also a NVM scumbag!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 03:48 PM
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Lifelong New Yorker here too and I am in total agreement with you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 10:13 PM
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Very sad. Also, she flew out to Arizona to meet the man. As FDS says, never travel to meet a man!! Ever!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:40 PM
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My wonderful female therapist recommended the book “Disarming the Narcissist” and it’s a crucial read for everyone, especially FDSers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:39 PM
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She looks unwell, to put it nicely. Shame on her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:38 PM
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Typical narc mom. They are sooo prevalent these days!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:36 PM
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He is disgusting. He also responded by saying he didn’t do anything wrong. He needs to face real consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:35 PM
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That’s for sure. He can ruin and destroy it just as fast
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 09:21 PM
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I’m so sorry that happened to you, that’s not right either!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 03:42 PM
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Amen! A man will not save you, only you can save yourself 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 03:06 PM
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I totally agree!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 02:49 PM
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Totally agree!! She knew what she was getting herself into
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 01:31 AM
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I completely agree with your perspective on this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 01:30 AM
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I agree with your take as well! Upon further reflection, she’s being petty and vengeful. They’re both not going to change it sounds like
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:20 PM
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I agree too. After rereading it, I don’t really like what she’s doing. Either way, he’s not gonna change and she probably won’t either!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:19 PM
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I agree with your perspective too!! She’s not innocent in any of this either
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 06:37 PM
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You are supported. You did the right thing. You stood up for yourself and your life will be sooo much better in time. Your bravery and courage is inspiring queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 05:14 PM
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You’re a smart mom and doing the right thing ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 04:20 PM
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Amen! You are your own best investment 🥇 ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 03:55 PM
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This line!! Ive loved it too ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 03:51 PM
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Because they’re desperate pickmeishas. Plain and simple!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 03:49 PM
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Thanks for debunking this! I’m sooo tired of hearing this myth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 10:13 PM
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Sadly they do because there are soo many pickmeishas who would for their own low self esteem and validation purposes. Good on you for staying strong queen ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 10:13 PM
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Yes it’s just yet another example of their extremely selfish nature. One LVM I dated told me he wanted to get his nose hairs waxed… never mind he knew I would love to go for a pedicure among many other things. I’m past him. Such a loser clown 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:50 AM
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Thank you so very much for posting this, it’s fantastic ❤️ well said and came at a great time for me. Onward and upward
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:48 AM
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That’s disgusting of her. There are sooo many mamas Boys and crazy moms out there. It’s really disheartening to see
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 01:11 AM
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I see this all the time on social media. It seems to be popular nowadays to put the males face on a large cardboard cutout. Totally tacky and cringe in my view. Your feelings are spot on ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 05:03 PM
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Love sitwithsharons Instagram account!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 05:01 PM
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Any friends should absolutely not be asking you to watch their kids while their husband is home. Beyond inappropriate and not your responsibility!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:09 AM
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Classic pickmeisha making excuses for a LVM scrote. So beyond pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:00 AM
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Such a red flag 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:26 AM
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Cats are the best. They are very intuitive and know when we’re in pain. Wishing you quick healing and good health sis 💗💗💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 04:18 PM
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I love this!! So happy and proud of you queen 👑 ❤️ do you have any videos or resources in particular you found helpful?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:34 AM
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Great post. Love the specific cost breakdown. Wishing you the best queen ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 06:03 PM
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So well said. There’s no friend/friendship in these situations, just lack of respect for the female because of the fact it’s easy for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:29 PM
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So proud of you queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 09:33 PM
8

Beautifully said. The scarcity mindset is real and something I’ve struggled with (no longer thanks to FDS!) thank you for speaking out about it ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 11:05 PM
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Yes!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:22 PM
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Loved this comment too!! Really resonated with me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 03:23 AM
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Not a coincidence at all. I’ve had the same experience. Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:36 PM
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There are sooooo many moms out there like this. Millions. It’s sad. We need to do better as females
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:36 PM
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Me!! These posts are handbook worthy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:22 PM
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Amazing post!! Thank you!! 💗💗 Can’t wait for part 5!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:09 PM
43

Yes!! I used to have this habit too of apologizing but I’ve mostly broken it. We have no reason to be sorry for being busy (or not) in our lives!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:02 PM
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“You have a life, LIVE IT.” So beautifully said, sis. Great post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:00 PM
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I wouldn’t be surprised if his parents had that arranged. They’re despicable here too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:20 AM
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The :) at the end solidified everything. His child deserves better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 01:55 AM
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He’s definitely looking for several pats on the back, as he closes his story with “btw the mom and I live together now :)” he’s so out of touch with reality and so are his parents
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:18 PM
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Yes! He even says explicitly his parents thought she was some sort of gold digger. Pretty disgusting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:16 PM
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Ain’t that the truth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 11:15 PM
11

Soooo beyond true! Blood doesn’t mean a thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:12 AM
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Yes I agree! The silver lining is the brother is somewhat stepping up to the plate for his nephew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 06:11 PM
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Being a second class citizen gives them an identity that they don’t have and an excuse to act as a martyr. It’s a comfortable role for them, but an unhealthy and sad one in reality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:37 PM
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Well said! It’s like they’re trying to prove to the world (but really prove to themselves) that their life doesn’t suck and isn’t miserable. It’s all one big coping mechanism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:36 PM
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Disturbing stuff! It was a story in sooo many news outlets. Sad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:29 PM
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This is “journalism,” allegedly. Why are her parents supportive of this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:22 PM
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This is amazing. Bravo 👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 08:35 PM
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“You’ll win because you’ll keep your dignity” fabulous line in a great post, OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 09:09 PM
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I know a couple that’s been together for 10+ years (since early high school) and just bought a house together. No ring, no engagement, but they bought a house. Talk about a disaster
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:23 PM
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Try Eufy! I have it because I was concerned about Ring and it’s a cheaper, better option. You don’t have to pay a monthly fee like Ring, and you save your data (videos) locally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:18 PM
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This is very true. My mom gave me her last name because my dad was a NVM scrote. I’m sorry you’re in this situation, but trust me, as the child, I had such respect and love for my mom. You are her world 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 01:34 PM
3

Agreed! Came here to say this is shameful behavior from the NYT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 04:46 PM
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Just yet another selfish scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 04:28 PM
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What a scrote. He takes zero accountability nor responsibility for his behavior. He belongs to the streets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 04:28 PM
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Sooo proud of you!! You’re a true inspiration ❤️❤️Working on my license too :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:56 PM
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From the photos, I can only imagine how cringeworthy these convos are. These old scrotes have no game!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:48 PM
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The only one who hit a wall is him 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:44 PM
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Gates is a disgusting scrote NVM 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 10:04 PM
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Congrats!!!! I’m so proud and in awe of you for taking charge and doing this on your timeline. Here’s to new beginnings!! Cuddle those kitties and have some extra Oreos too!! 💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 09:31 PM
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Cringing at the use of the phrase “sexy times” in both posts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:26 PM
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Love this!! I have two male HVM cats, one is 21 years old and is the light of my life. Cats are awesome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:22 PM
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I love Dr. Nicole Lepera’s work. Her Instagram is amazing (the.holistic.psychologist) and she recently wrote a book called “How To Do The Work” I so highly recommend!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:21 PM
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Mamas boys are the absolute worst. Avoid at all costs!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:17 PM
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You’re an inspiration!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:14 PM
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Sadly, there are millions of women out there who stick around after their husbands cheat. It’s pathetic and depressing. FDS is enlightenment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 04:13 PM
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Yikes... sounds like she’s trying to justify the relationship on social media... not a good sign
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 09:58 PM
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So true. I shouldn’t have to worry whatsoever while walking outside, minding my business. Such an unfair burden
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:56 PM
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Totally agree about female GPs, OBGYNs, psychiatrists, and therapists!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:54 PM
4

Sounds like a lot of unnecessary drama that you’re free from, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:13 PM
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Maybe if more men stuck around and became accountable fathers, this wouldn’t be the case!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:06 PM
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She sounds like she’s in deep denial. The fact she felt obligated to defend her relationship to you says it all. You keep being a queen and she’ll have to keep living the way she is if she doesn’t want to make any changes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:00 PM
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Totally agree!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:52 PM
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Mamas boys are some of the worst scrotes out there. AVOID at all costs!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:50 PM
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My parents weren’t married when I was born and my dad was a LVM. My amazing Mom made sure she gave me her last name... it’s definitely empowering!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:49 PM
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Yes you did and do deserve better. Proud of you queen. Onto way better things! 💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:58 PM
12

Such a good post!! Number 6 sounds familiar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 11:34 AM
7

Wow.. I never thought of it that way but you are so right! Thank you for opening my eyes 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:32 PM
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FDS CIA secret agent!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:03 PM
3

Glad you agree 😊💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:54 PM
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George Soros is a scrote. Plain and simple
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:36 PM
17

This is so well articulated. And all too common!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:06 PM
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Beautifully written!! Handbook material!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 07:15 PM
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Happy cake day!! 🎂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 02:39 PM
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When that phrase is used, I tend to think they are lying 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 02:39 PM
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Yes it has. The city is not what it used to be. Get out ASAP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 11:38 PM
3

This is amazing!! And definitely handbook worthy! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:51 PM
1

This is such important advice that I wish my teenage self listened to!! I’d been even better off if I didn’t worry about boys. NOT WORTH IT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:38 PM
2

I almost wonder if he was trying to let her get more sick and die so he could collect benefits and/or a life insurance policy. Such a sick scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:48 PM
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I have no words. Scrote and a pickmeisha in action
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:17 PM
4

Really sick scrotes out there...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:15 PM
31

Now there’s a million dollar idea!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:10 PM
11

Did the pickmeisha get picked?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:07 PM
22

Scrotes jump ship all the time on their ill/sick partners. Very disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:06 PM
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Just started reading this book tonight. Beyond insightful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 01:56 AM
9

That’s awful. Glad you caught this early, queen! And why hasn’t the wife left him yet? Seems that cheating is a common occurrence for that scrote 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:47 PM
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I’ve been there too, sis. I think we all have. Soo proud of you! You’re a queen onto so many better things ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 01:10 AM
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He had the audacity to put his drink on your tab and then expect more. No surprise there! Good on you for knowing you deserve better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:21 AM
84

This right here!! The mindset of “you will be tolerated for who you are and you don’t have to do anything” is so pervasive throughout society. Well said ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 12:19 AM
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I know it hurts now but in hindsight, it is way better you didn’t get involved with someone like him. He obviously has issues, like who does that? Hes clearly incapable of being in a stable relationship, so consider yourself saved from that. This will eventually be a blessing 💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:34 PM
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So proud of you!! It takes a lot of strength to do this. Power feels scary at first, but freedom and high self worth was meant for you 💗 you’re a queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:19 PM
4

So true. They’re just trying to appease you or tell you what they think you want to hear. FDS queens, we know better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 07:01 PM
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Try to channel your bitterness that you described towards yourself into something powerful. Underneath your rightful hurt, you see, acknowledge, and know you’re a queen who only deserves the best. Never settle. And channel that extra energy into treating or bettering yourself. You got this 💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 07:00 PM
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You deserve way better... he sounds like a scrote. You’re a queen!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 06:56 PM
2

I’m a fan of Alan Robarge’s videos too! They’ve helped me through tough times ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:51 PM
3

Love Myself by Hailee Steinfeld is also totally FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 08:47 PM
3

And I love the pink paper and ink color you wrote in! You deserve the best queen 👑 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 06:22 PM
2

One year of therapy may not be enough. I’ve been it for years and it took me many years to heal and grow. Still working on it. You CAN and WILL heal ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 06:00 PM
3

Amen! This is handbook material!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:57 PM
19

So well said! Such an important reminder ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:55 PM
8

My mom was 40 when she had me and my dad was 48. While I came out perfectly normal, I do not recommend this and I am looking for a partner who is younger to have kids with in the future!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:23 PM
10

You’re absolutely right. Sadly, there are a lot of sick and disturbed women out there as well. Many of them are pickmeishas. Really, really sad :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:20 PM
14

I agree... when I read that and saw the way he phrased it, I was even more disgusted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:42 AM
2

Sorry bout that!! Will do :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:20 PM
11

Yup. And I read the ex husband and gf met at his work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 10:17 PM
12

It means he needs a maid and a chef 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:51 PM
110

Btw, OP claims to be 35F, husband is 30M, and ex wife is 26. So much wrong in this post, idk where to start!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:12 AM
1

Btw, OP claims to be 35F, husband is 30M, and ex wife is 26. So much wrong in this post, idk where to start!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:25 AM
1

She’s best friends with her “father in love” and her husband is close to the mom. Sounds toxic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:18 PM
3

And don’t forget many living in moms basement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:40 PM
25

She posted this on relationships 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:01 PM
1

Gahhh the part 2 didn’t post I might delete this and repost sorry!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:47 PM
9

Don’t be embarrassed. None of this is your fault ❤️ is there someone you can talk to that you trust?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 07:40 PM
28

Yup. Napoleon complex and little man syndrome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 08:52 PM
39

Yes. It tells you everything. Trust no scrote who is bad with your cats (or pets). At all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:08 AM
8

To mellow out or calm down, I like to listen to ASMR on YouTube. There’s sooo much out there, like relaxing rain sounds, beach waves, to the sound of nails tapping on a table. It all sounds good and is calming to me :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 02:28 AM
26

This is handbook material. So well said!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:22 AM
31

Heard all of this before. Thanks to FDS, I know that he just wants to make me feel bad. None of it is actually true ❤️ stay strong queens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 12:45 AM
2

Sooo true! Same goes for pickmeishas
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:53 PM
1

I love most of her work but this post disappointed and surprised me as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:51 PM
6

Soooo many NVM are obsessed with video games and anime. It’s their top two priorities
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:49 PM
19

I had the most amazing single mom ever. She taught me to always hold myself in high regard and to see my worth. She passed away from leukemia when I was 19, but she set me up for an amazing life. I will always be indebted to her ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:46 PM
13

He sounds like a deranged mamas boy. I’m glad you realized your worth. You deserve nothing but the best ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:44 PM
2

So happy for you! ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 10:01 PM
7

Lmao he’s clearly mentally unwell sooo good thing you got rid of him sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:58 PM
5

I’m proud of you for letting go of what was so toxic and for opening up. Only good things are coming your way ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:56 PM
2

Yes I agree sis!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 10:44 PM
18

Lock that monster up and throw away the key
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:16 PM
16

Hes trash. Better to know now than later!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:43 AM
6

Theyre gorgeous!! 🌸🌺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 01:02 AM
3

This is totally unfair to you. You have every right to feel the way you do. I’d definitely say something to your dad, but I know dynamics can be tricky. Just want you to know you’re heard and supported ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:23 PM
5

This account is amazing!! I follow her on insta, she is FDS personified!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:43 AM
1

Lazy lazy scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:47 AM
2

This happens all too often - the woman blames the other woman when it is the SCROTES fault. How is that so hard to comprehend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:45 AM
1

Soooo many men, LVM, and scrotes live at home as long as possible. I know several men who are 30+ who still live at home. It’s pretty sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:42 AM
17

Sad yet predictable story. I know a couple who have been together since high school (at least together 10 years now) and not only are they NOT engaged, but they just bought a house together. I legitimately can’t comprehend why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:37 AM
15

And the best valentine you could ask for!! What a cutie!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:28 AM
11

I’m sorry you went through that but the important thing is you learned an invaluable lesson that will carry you through life and bring you all the happiness you deserve. You’re a queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:25 AM
3

Among many other things, one guy told me after I made a comment he didn’t like while we were grocery shopping (and he was on the phone the whole time) he yelled and screamed at me the entire car ride home... telling me what a dumbass idiot I am for calling him out for that. Then to make it worse, when we got back to my place he told me I “got what I deserved” - big big LVM red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:03 AM
7

Thank you for your comment it made me happy :) she passed away from leukemia so I’m even prouder to have her last name with me always
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:15 PM
33

My mom gave me her last name. And I’ll forever be glad for it because my dad was classic LVM and left us. Power and love to awesome some single moms!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 04:29 AM
27

So so so well said! Spot on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 03:36 AM
40

Because they’re lazy and don’t want their fragile way of life and comfort zone changed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:56 PM
115

I love to catch a predator!! I’m glad Chris Hansen continued the series on YouTube but I wish there were more. So many scumbag scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 03:39 AM
2

Avoid a mamas boy at all costs!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 04:05 PM
86

There’s an alarming amount of sick scrotes as well as pickmeishas in this world
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 03:53 PM
7

It’s almost as if they’re trying to not only convince the public but also themselves that their relationships are working - when in reality, they’re forever girlfriends/pickmeishas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:05 AM
6

And sadly, all too common nowadays
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 10:06 PM
65

Jane is wise, he’s a scrote, and Cassie is a shady, manipulative pickmeisha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 05:53 PM
1

So proud of you. You deserve the BEST. period. ❤️💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:47 AM
2

That’s totally normal. You absolutely did the right thing though. You only deserve the best and your future is soo bright!! 💜💜💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:03 PM
130

Yes they are. Those with receding hairlines seem to be the most judgmental 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:19 AM
42

I’m so proud of you. You’re absolutely right, if it’s one thing, there will be more. You deserve the best queen 👑 ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:30 AM
4

No, the problem is the video games. Time to grow up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:41 PM
6

So well said. These men need therapy. And we are not their therapists!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:40 PM
10

Great list! Something about writing it down onto paper is so helpful ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:38 PM
21

Much of this is accurate in NYC as well 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:36 PM
4

Ahhh yes. A tale as old as time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:33 AM
23

Also if he’s telling her it’s 1-2 times per day its definitely much more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:32 AM
4

Because they’re selfish and lazy. They care about what “feels good” and since they aren’t the ones potentially getting pregnant, they don’t truly understand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:31 AM
17

If she believes this line of bs, she is completely naive and needs serious help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:27 AM
26

Don’t forget the $450 in subscriptions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:26 AM
190

This is one sick family. Why do some many scrotes have awful mothers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:23 AM
18

Red flag number one: “boyfriend” and “several years”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 12:22 AM
141

Did she think this was supposed to be cute and endearing? It’s just embarrassing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 12:21 AM
11

Because they’re lazy and selfish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:03 AM
30

Parasocial relationships have become waaaay too common in society. Pretty damaging
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:53 AM
20

Saved this one 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:52 AM
14

Of course the scrote’s enabling mother “understands” where he’s coming from. The Apple never falls far from the tree. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:08 PM
12

They are really sick individuals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:18 PM
14

These are great reminders. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:17 PM
3

Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:45 AM
1

That’s awesome! Three years is a little concerning, though. Hope everything works out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:51 PM
3

Those were my favorite books growing up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:49 PM
52

You get what you put up with. She’s enabled her husband to treat her that way. What a shame
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:46 PM
9

“He thought we needed to know more about each other that he hasn’t seen in the past 5 years” aka he’s a liar who doesn’t want to marry her. Scrotes gonna scrote!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:03 AM
48

Age gap of course. Also shes married to a psychopath
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 03:37 AM
6

Sorry you had to deal with that. She’s a pathetic pickme and he’s no better. On to better things, sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:16 AM
5

Omg 😂 the cringe is real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:13 AM
7

Yes you are! Proud of you queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:10 AM
22

Definitely read the handbook if you haven’t already. A pre-screening zoom call will help you decide whether it’s worth your precious time to even meet up to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:35 AM
10

Scrotes gonna scrote. They’re pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:24 AM
5

Expose 👏🏻 them 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:23 AM
144

This is common pickmeisha behavior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:08 PM
2

He’s a pathetic mamas boy. Nothing worse than that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:27 PM
1

You got this sis!! Stay strong ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:30 PM
10

All the pickme vibes here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 07:20 PM
20

Same. And NEVER AGAIN!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:41 AM
6

Love her page so much!! Must read for FDS queens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:49 AM
2

A very important reminder. Well said sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 01:14 PM
14

How about “let me know if you want to go out” like no you plan something and ask...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 01:06 PM
15

Sis this sounds like an excuse. There are plenty of options. You have to make the active choice to move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 12:30 AM
24

I lost my mom (and dad) 7 years ago. My thoughts are with you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 12:28 AM
13

The mothers can be just as bad as the sons. Enabling and encouraging their behavior 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:53 PM
2

Love Myself by Hailee Steinfeld
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:49 AM
6

Oops I misread that 😅 too familiar with LVM being enabled by toxic mom’s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:15 PM
18

You go into therapy and seek professional help.
/r/askFDS02/10/20 02:04 PM
13

I have female friends who found their female roommates on an app called Roomster. Might be something worth looking into!
/r/askFDS02/10/20 02:02 PM
14

Of COURSE this scrotes mom made a comment backing him up.. what is with all these awful moms with scrotes for sons?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:59 PM
5

Congrats on the new apartment!! Having a garden sounds lovely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:43 PM
13

Just a couple of sick sick scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:39 PM
32

The money related emojis are a red flag 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 08:39 PM
2

You have issues that need to be worked out. Seek professional help
/r/askFDS30/09/20 10:08 PM
3

People (pickmeishas) who can’t handle the truth label things as mean. Very immature and delusional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:36 PM
2

This is awesome. Like a handbook cheat sheet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:34 PM
16

The ones who are criticizing FDS are the scrotes who see their current way of life threatened. The lower the expectations, the better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:18 PM
6

Good for you sis!! Your strength is inspiring ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:38 AM
6

Proud of you sis for following through and freeing yourself 💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:27 AM
14

Makes sense. Lots of them are either narcissists or have crippling low self esteem and are looking for an ego boost. Sometimes both!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:25 AM
43

Omg this looks absolutely delicious sis!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:24 AM
1

This is a genius idea 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:23 AM
7

Sounds like a potential pickmeisha...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:43 PM
5

Mamas Boys are the absolute worst to date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:40 PM
7

Happy cake day sis!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:05 PM
7

Precisely 😂before FDS, I might’ve considered it but now I would neverrrr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:36 PM
4

Many of these scrotes have a rude awakening when they finally snap out of the delusional reality they’ve been living in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:13 PM
50

Yup sooo true! I had a guy ask me for a “wine in the park” first date. When I said no, he then suggested dinner. Total LVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:08 PM
10

Pickmeisha 101
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:40 AM
25

I’m so so sorry for your loss sis 💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:48 AM
96

A super sad, tragic case of an epic pickmeisha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:37 AM
8

Great post!! Any tips on improving posture? I’m always looking to do so
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 12:40 AM
6

This is nothing to be proud of
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:07 PM
5

Wait why was your girlfriend hanging out with him without you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:06 PM
11

This is sooo embarrassing and cringe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:04 PM
13

Great post!! I find this behavior very common in pickmeishas as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 07:01 PM
2

Sounds like he’s negging you and trying to say your pics are inconsistent. He’s a loser. Unmatch and block!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:33 PM
5

You are doing the absolute right thing sis. This was a necessary step to take. We’re so proud of you 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:31 PM
9

Way to go sis!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:02 PM
1

“Might” come off as a bad guy? What a sick scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:43 AM
36

You need to get into therapy ASAP
/r/askFDS22/09/20 02:47 AM
36

Wow sounds like yet another mommy’s boy. He was clearly raised by a pickmeisha. Society is doomed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:00 AM
149

Sooo many moms encourage this kind of behavior in their daughters. It’s very sad for society...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:48 PM
3

“Work on stopping” is a bs lie. He sounds extremely low value. Dump, block, and move forward
/r/askFDS21/09/20 06:39 PM
1

One guy found me on Instagram (which I do NOT give out on OLD apps) and when I didn’t respond to his date request, he said “...” like I owe him something. What a scrote!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 05:02 PM
5

Flip the numbers around from 36 to 63 and then you get his real age
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:22 PM
7

Hashtag... JustPickmeishaThings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:21 PM
6

All that matters is you realized what you were and changed. Now you’re a queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:16 PM
4

You are spot on. Pickmeishas are soo insecure they need to constantly show off. It’s really sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:15 PM
7

His emoji use is major cringe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 03:29 PM
16

She said he plays with the toys and she can hear him mimicking the voices. He is clearly mentally disturbed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:27 PM
20

She “has to?” How pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:23 PM
53

Many scrotes and pickmeishas over there. We’re powerful and onto their crap over here, they don’t want their way of life and manipulation disrupted!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 07:04 PM
65

Wait she’s not getting child support?! The Kardashian’s are loaded. Wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 07:03 PM
1

Please work on self love and self esteem. See yourself as the prize. You can do it 💗
/r/askFDS17/09/20 06:59 PM
3

Never travel to meet a man!!!! I did this a couple times prior to my FDS-enlightenment, but now I would never dream of it.
/r/askFDS17/09/20 06:58 PM
2

It’s an excuse. Men make time for what they want to make time for. Period. Full stop.
/r/askFDS17/09/20 06:57 PM
2

He lovebombed you right from the start. Going forward, try and focus on things that make you happy. You deserve to be
/r/askFDS17/09/20 06:55 PM
3

Canva is a great app to use!! It’s free and you can access it on the app or computer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 06:46 PM
12

This was empowering to read. The cycle ends now. Way to go queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 06:42 PM
9

Aka he’s just looking for sex..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 06:40 PM
24

I’ve dated a couple guys who were obsessed with video games. Complete and total LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 06:37 PM
33

Amen, OP! So well said. One guy asked me for a wine in the park first date 🙄. I said no and then he suggested a dinner date - they try to see how little you’ll accept right off the bat!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 06:36 PM
28

This is great!! You got this sis!! Ps I’ve never been to Montana but I’m dying to visit 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 02:54 AM
17

The body wash 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:53 AM
5

Guys think having “mild alcoholism” is a personally trait and brag about it. Pathetic 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:28 PM
10

A classic tactic for men to avoid responsibility or feel less guilty. Total red flag!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:22 PM
10

“It could be, but it won’t” 👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:21 PM
7

Sooo true! This is handbook worthy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:35 AM
46

Sooo many moms see their sons as their husbands/partners. It’s so disturbing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:23 AM
48

“Giving him a talking to” is just another excuse for him to tune you out.. scrotes gonna scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:19 AM
37

They sure do seem to be promoting pedophilia these days...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:48 AM
3

That’s the way it should be!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:35 AM
3

How did you know 😂 they split all household expenses in a spreadsheet, created by him, to make sure they’re fair and even 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:35 AM
5

Yup. She’s disappointed they’re not engaged yet. And he is taking his sweet time. He’s in no rush
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:34 AM
3

Proud of you for leveling up sis!! Although I haven’t tried it myself (I have a local therapist), I’ve heard good things about Betterhelp and Talkspace online. Something to look into. You got this 💗💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:33 AM
4

I know what it means. As someone with a psych degree, I hope that isn’t just an excuse, as RSD isn’t a condition itself. Hoping he gets well soon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:30 AM
14

I see that you wrote on FDS your husbands brother is living with you both rent free. I hope your husband instills some HVM principles in him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:39 AM
14

This is the most accurate thing I’ve read, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:37 AM
18

Proud of you sis. Happy happy birthday!!!! 💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:57 AM
57

FDS success indeed! This is textbook queen behavior!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:57 AM
2

She’s putting a bad name on scorpios when in reality she’s just yet another pickmeisha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:54 AM
9

Thank you, amazing mods! There has been an influx of posts recently by people who clearly haven’t even browsed the handbook!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:38 PM
1

HVM behavior!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:38 PM
7

You did amazing!! I always see you giving amazing advice on this sub. You’re the real MVP!! 👑💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:36 PM
3

Same here sis! Scorpios rule!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:36 PM
3

Way to go sis!! We’re proud of you. A true queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:35 PM
3

You are wise beyond your years, Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:34 PM
108

One of my best friends did this and is currently living with her bf. She complained to me the other day how her bf doesn’t lift a finger and she does all the work... cleaning, cooking, and driving him to grad school. Pickme 101 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:33 PM
4

Beautiful. Saving this on my phone! 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:32 PM
16

Thanks Phoenix for stating this clearly and concisely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:31 PM
45

Now this is HVM behavior!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:30 PM
4

Wow that’s intense!! That’s sociopathic behavior. Glad she safe!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:29 PM
4

I know a HUGE pickmeisha who put a tracking device on her man’s car. Such a waste of time. Just dump, block, and move on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 08:01 PM
43

And also posting on the surviving infidelity sub. Level up sis!!! You deserve better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 01:03 AM
70

He sure has enough money for his own car (and gas) but not willing to buy more than a Coke. Pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:55 AM
8

Great post!! Fantastic idea to put these activities in a planner (with fun gel pens of course!!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 02:37 AM
3

He did new episodes on YouTube (without NBC) in recent years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:44 AM
12

Did you make that?? It’s AMAZING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:09 PM
6

If he’s pulling this crap at 47, he is BEYOND low value!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:08 PM
8

This is soooo cringeworthy. I had a friend who also had to “nudge” her LVM bf (now ex) to apply to jobs and he was lazy as can be. Was too concerned with his computer games 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:05 PM
9

So well said and concise!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:04 PM
7

Dumbass scrote but excellent reply by a queen 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:03 PM
16

I’ve definitely been in a very similar situation during my pickmeisha days. Proud of you for staying strong queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:01 PM
3

I’m glad she’s creating quality content, however I know her in real life and can confirm she’s a pickmeisha :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:14 PM
5

This is a repost, but a great one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:13 AM
21

His gf is more than likely a huge pickmeisha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:06 AM
22

Block, especially the narcissist LVM ex!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 12:58 AM
19

Well said! If a guy uses any variation of meet up, hang out, etc., I’m not interested!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 09:18 PM
15

Saved this on my phone. Soo true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 09:16 PM
1

Way to go queen!!!! You deserve the best 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 09:13 PM
6

Napoleon complex 101
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 01:12 AM
5

Don’t say it, just do it. Go on those dates with others
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 01:09 AM
9

Check out r/narcissisticabuse 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:35 PM
25

Way to go Queen!! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:26 PM
9

Someone recently suggested to me “wine in the park” as a first date 😂😂 before FDS I would’ve probably accepted but now I know that it’s LOW EFFORT as well as potentially dangerous, so I declined
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:02 PM
2

“Projecting negativity on his reality” - him saying this is a red flag! “His reality” may not (and likely doesn’t) match up with actual reality!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:00 PM
12

Good for you for learning from the situation. That’s all we can do in some cases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:51 PM
2

Great to hear. Stay strong. You got this ❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 02:56 PM
7

So well said! The most important line: “they will fall out of love just as quickly as they supposedly fell in love.” Handbook worthy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 08:17 PM
14

Nope. Don’t feel bad. Your wedding, not theirs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 08:10 PM
6

Whatever the answer is, don’t wait around. Continue to move forward and if/when he ever figures himself out, then you can reconsider.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 12:05 AM
13

Read the handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 11:58 PM
13

The harsh truth is if he wanted to be with you, he would be. Clearly he has issues he needs to work on. You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 11:40 PM
6

I feel for you and the situation you’re in 💗 You can do this though! Do your best to focus on your studies. Can you connect with a therapist/support staff via university? Might be helpful to have a third party support system. Wishing you the best 💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 11:35 PM
12

“I guess I got use to saying 32” lmao 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:33 AM
32

There are definitely therapists that understand this. This sounds like an excuse sis. You deserve better ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:32 PM
31

You mentioned you get taken advantage of a lot. Have you considered therapy to work on self-esteem and confidence?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:21 PM
10

I’ve commented this a couple times before but I think it’s worth sharing. My mom had me naturally at age 40 (going on 41) and my dad was 48. I turned out ok, no complications :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:05 AM
3

This is how to level up!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:59 AM
11

For what it’s worth, my mom had me naturally at age 40 (going on 41) and my dad was 48. I turned out ok, no complications :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 08:52 PM
3

Well said!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:15 PM
2

Way to go!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:12 PM
17

This is a fantastic post!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 01:14 PM
18

This is iconic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:11 AM
2

“Maybe I come over” LOL hes so hypocritical
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 12:58 PM
9

Spot on and I totally agree. We don’t want pen pals!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:28 AM
13

This is fantastic 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 10:25 PM
3

I love how he said “so I can get to know YOU first” as if you don’t have to get to know him. Men are so selfish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:35 PM
2

Totally agree with this. Gotta be direct!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:26 PM
8

Love that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:38 PM
9

Now this is how you know you won 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:43 PM
44

Fear of being alone, low self esteem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:41 PM
2

Same!! It’s one of my favorites 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 12:59 PM
51

People forget about these things quicker than you think. All that matters most is how you feel about yourself. You should be super proud of how far you’ve come 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 11:23 PM
2

All too common and oh so lazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:21 PM
3

Amazing list!! Thanks for the suggestions 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:34 PM
2

Love this!! Congrats!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:16 PM
18

With all the pickmeishas running around out there (myself a former one), OLD has never been easier for men. Hit up a bunch of girls at once and keeps them in rotation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 11:40 PM
2

How dare he suggest the cat has to go? What a loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:54 PM
6

This is pure Queen energy right here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:50 PM
95

Hey queen, I hope you’re doing ok. As a mom of cats myself, I get the impending stress you’re feeling. You are ABSOLUTELY DOING THE RIGHT THING. This “man” is a child - playing video games incessantly as an escape from reality. This is 10000% on him and is not a reflection on you. You deserve infinitely better and I’m proud of you for sticking up for yourself. Keep strong 💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:41 PM
2

💗💗💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:02 AM
13

Yup. My last LVM’s personality consisted of playing video games and his car that he’s still paying $25k back on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:42 AM
12

Yes I have, multiple times!! The mommy’s boys are the worst. Avoid at all costs! PS I’m an only child and my mom never acted like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 10:18 PM
28

Way to go queen!! So happy for you and your new, exciting chapter :) I played a sport too in school, so your new job sounds amazing!! 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 10:17 PM
3

Congrats I’m so happy for you!! You are definitely leveling up! 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 10:15 PM
1

Thank you for this amazing list!! I’ve already copied them down 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 03:23 PM
10

You’re leveling up!! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 01:34 PM
1

Both :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:46 AM
22

That’s exactly him 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:04 PM
1

Love reading!! Any good recommendations?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:03 PM
32

One LVM I was involved with ate the microwaveable Hungry Man dinners on the regular
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:58 PM
2

Absolutely! I read your comment and you sound awesome. I know you’ll do great no matter what path you choose. And I came out totally normal and my mom had no complications nor fertility treatments. So anything is truly possible 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:00 PM
189

Always!! Actions speak louder than words. I heard one pickmeisha complaining to her bf that he never posted pics of them on his social media yet they’ve been together almost two years. Red flag to me ladies 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 01:58 AM
3

My mom had me at age 40, going on 41. My dad was 48. Nothing is impossible :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:32 PM
3

I always think back to this sub when I see a friend of mine post pics with her bf she’s been dating high school (they’re now 26). They didn’t attend the same college yet stayed together. Everyone was sure they’d get engaged right after college graduation, yet here we are and there’s still no ring for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:27 PM
4

I just went through something similar. Infinite gratitude for FDS! I’m really proud of you 💗🌟
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:23 PM
19

You’re a savage!! ❤️This made my day, I was laughing out loud 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 10:28 PM
19

Lmao I’ve certainly done my fair share of pickmeisha activities. Highlights include doing his laundry for months even though he told me earlier on he didn’t want a relationship. Another guy took me on a first date and saw the bill was kinda high and I offered to split it and he let me 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 10:21 PM
3

I love your bedding!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:03 AM
2

Love this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 01:18 AM
1

This sub is empowering!! It encourages us to have higher self esteem and raise our standards. Nothing negative or hate filled there’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:58 AM
48

If he needs to take his dad to pick out a bike, then yes. You have every right to feel annoyed about this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 03:13 AM
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