One for the ages (2 parts).

Otters-eating-tacos · 2021-02-28T20:12:56+00:00

You know, the more I read about this kind of thing every day and witness it in real life, the more I realize marriage and kids is a scam for women. This kind of situation is not worth having a man over

_differentmentality_ · 2021-02-28T20:09:19+00:00

Notice how the wife and the husband already have an age gap (12 years apart). It’s more often than not that men who date women that much younger than them have a youth fetish going on so this isn’t that surprising.

randomgirlimok · 2021-02-28T20:44:30+00:00

This is why you don’t date/marry men 12 years older than you. He is like Leonardo DiCaprio who wants the perpetual 25 year old girlfriend. It sounds like they had been together a long time so that means she had to have been pretty young when she started dating him which is a red flag to me, because what does a 35 year old man really have in common with a 23 year old besides just wanting you for your looks?

AstraeaOfJustice · 2021-02-28T20:02:49+00:00

What a complete scumbag. I hope they both drain his wallet.

janeaustenfan99 · 2021-02-28T20:20:31+00:00

She did the right thing. And good for her son for taking her side, as well.

bpdweep · 2021-02-28T20:29:23+00:00

Why do men’s way of being young again, is fucking girls old enough to be their daughter? Visit a childhood activity you used to do that made you happy, play a sport, do yoga! So many other things besides cheating on your wife. What an asshole.

AriaLuz · 2021-02-28T20:02:52+00:00

Karma. It’s a sad life when your dick runs your life. Dick ruins every life tied to it. In this case it’s the wife, the adopted child, the mistress, the unborn child, and his. So many lives ruined because of a penis. Well the wife is going to bounce back but his .... yep. It’s not. He’s going to be paying child support, he has a sexual harassment case going, he lost his son, and his unborn child. He will die alone which is what he deserves.

missangel89 · 2021-02-28T20:34:15+00:00

I feel like I've seen this thing with men where they want to "feel young again", but don't think women have this same thought when they're older. What's up with that?

Summerisle7 · 2021-02-28T20:18:12+00:00

He “kicked out” the mistress, did he. Good luck with that, he’ll still be paying child support for the baby.

MrsJohnMarston__ · 2021-02-28T19:58:20+00:00

So some in my family created a myth around my estranged grandfather, a narcissist, that he was still decent. Even though he refused to pay child support (for context we’re British) and went off with a new woman.

Apparently he’s “okay” though because he wanted my Nana back.

Nope. He was a rubbish dad (especially to my dad and uncle). But because he supposedly regretted his choices he’s better than the worst 🙄

ItsFreezen · 2021-02-28T21:16:44+00:00

If she made him feel young, then why did he kick her out? just curious.

RikaRikaw · 2021-02-28T19:59:24+00:00

I hope she gets a good lawyer to rip everything out of this asshole Feeling bad for the girl tho....must be horrible to fall for someone and then discover he was FUCKING MARRIED THIS WHOLE TIME

basicbagels · 2021-02-28T20:44:05+00:00

Idk where she posted this or what advice she got but really loving the ending, and what she is doing to regain her life back, without this man in it

justforfds · 2021-02-28T21:45:04+00:00

He thought he could get his wife to stay, after all she's old and therefore desperate.

I've seen a few things which show how far a man will go to hide all traces of his family to cheat. Going room to room and putting things in storage. They'll pay a lot for the dream of being a player. Some manage multiple families who don't know about each other.

So glad her parents are supportive. Sadly, too many can try to push their daughters back to the source of misery.

Novemberinthechair · 2021-02-28T20:54:28+00:00

What do you do? You sue the fucking shit out if him for alimony. Screenshot all her messages.

WornTheTshirt73 · 2021-02-28T21:13:12+00:00

Yes let her have him..she’ll soon find out that she’s fucked up her entire life over an old scrote ... that will be fun to watch ...oh just seen part 2... well that was quick

Velvettcum · 2021-02-28T23:53:06+00:00

She told me she would of left if she wasn't pregnant but she wants this family with him. She's 26 and so pretty. I can't compete with that.

Okay first of all a fifty year old man has no business banging a twenty year old woman no matter the circumstances. The mistress is quite naïve if she believes that she can grow a family with a man that decided to throw his whole entire family away just to get his tiny little d1ck wet.

Our son is adopted and I know he's always wanted bio children.

I wouldn't call that ex husband a family man....

pearlspaghetti · 2021-02-28T20:04:55+00:00

I felt pity for the other woman until she decided "fuck the wife's feelings" and decided she wanted to stick it out with the vile liar. Nothing against wanting to keep an unintended pregnancy (I didn't and never would, but to each their own), but there is nothing more peak Pickmeisha than finding out your boyfriend is married... and wanting to stay with him. Glad to hear it didn't work out; it's a rough lesson but maybe she'll learn.

I hope the wife goes on to thrive and live her best life and puts these assholes in her rearview.

biggestsigh · 2021-02-28T23:42:36+00:00

He broke up with her and kicked her out, no doubt because that kid wasn't his. He fucked up his whole life for someone who clearly saw him as a mealticket. why are men so dumb?

2021-02-28T22:28:28+00:00

Oh I'm so glad to see this update! I saw the original post, but not that, and I'm glad she got out and her disgusting ex is facing consequences for his actions!

Sewud · 2021-03-01T02:19:19+00:00

These stories are really scary to me. It just seems like men will callously do whatever they want for their best interested and they will say anything to convince the women around them of what they want. This man wanted a wife 12 years younger, so he got one. This man then wanted a biological child, so he got a new girlfriend 26 years younger. He just does whatever he wants.

Babooshka-123 · 2021-02-28T22:46:11+00:00

Oh I hope both these women come out of this with shiny new lives, and he’s absolutely on his arse. This man is going to have some serious legal fees to pay £££

GabbaG0ul · 2021-03-01T00:22:28+00:00

Even after all of that, he STILL kicked out the other woman! NEVER 👏 BE 👏 THE 👏 OTHER 👏 WOMAN 👏 I know she didn’t know at first, but it rarely works out for the other woman. First off, if someone has a mistress they’re already LVM. That and they are never guaranteed to leave their wife even if they say “we’re getting divorced”. Even after getting her pregnant, moving her in, he STILL kicked her to the curb in hopes that his wife would come back. Once you’re the other woman, you will always be the other woman. Don’t even entertain it sis.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-03-01T01:25:28+00:00

I'm so happy that she is divorcing him AND her family isn't gaslighting her like it's her fault he cheated!

TinyLittleOwl · 2021-03-01T01:58:06+00:00

“Women are the ones who always cheat” “Women always make decisions based on emotion” “Women are scared of aging” “Women are hypergamous” “Women divorce r@pe the good men because they’re bored” “Women don’t love men for who they are only for what they can provide” “Always get a paternity test before signing the birth certificate to make sure she didn’t have a child with another man” “Women will always come crawling back to you after they realize they fucked up”

Everything that sausage creatures say about women can be applied to the m*le in this post. Pure projection

PasDeTout · 2021-03-01T03:06:26+00:00

These dude has the last laugh though. He’s passed his genes on twice so that they can live on in a new generation.

He’s obviously a terrible person but I really feel that a 26 year old is old enough to know that getting pregnant by a coworker literally twice your age isn’t in the Big Book of Great Ideas. Also, if this man had been working at the company for a while, then surely other people there would know that he’s married and make casual conversations about his wife and child? Either the side piece is particularly stupid or she’s not being entirely truthful about what she knew.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-03-01T07:11:48+00:00

2 weeks after she went to care for her parents he's having an affair

I guess it's out of sight, out of mind? His memory of being married to someone is really short, it seems.

Didn't wear his wedding ring

He waited for her to go and care for her parents, saw an opportunity with the secretary and just took it. Or he didn't wear his wedding ring at work surgically to pretend he is single.

In both cases, he is scum.

she's 26 and so pretty. I can't compete with that

Hah! And she shouldn't. Compete. Ever. He's a cheater, this isn't dating. This was an extramarital affair. First thought that comes to mind is: sue him, not "how do I compete with that".

No woman should feel like she has to compete with another woman for a man. Triangulation is something LVM do in order to feel desired. Heck, triangulation is a narcissistic tactic. He'll probably want to introduce the 2 of them so his 26 yo would have a free nanny. He'll probably go back and forth for narcissistic supply between the two making it a regular occurrence.

My rant aside, I'm glad she left him.

What proves even further that this man is old scum is the fact that he said about his affair which resulted in a pregnancy that it was a mistake and that he will kick her out! A pregnant woman, carrying your fetus... And you kick her out? What kind of scumbagged cockroach scum is he? ☠️

Karma ... Our son doesn't want to have anything to do with him

Hah! A bit of poetic justice there! Left by cheated wife and son, left by mistress when she realizes he's never going to treat her right. Already 50+... Karma surely didn't sleep. He'll die alone, forgotten by all.

TheDameWithoutASmile · 2021-03-01T00:28:59+00:00

Happy ending. And yay on her son for realizing what a POS his dad is.

Colour_riot · 2021-03-01T04:06:13+00:00

He's beyond disgusting. 52 and preying on a girl who is actually half his age. Lying to her and then trapping her into a pregnancy, and then turning around to beg his soon-to-be ex wife when she gets a divorce (likely because he realised how much it's going to cost him).

Oh, and the 12 year age gap between him and existing wife is another red flag.

AyemHerself · 2021-03-01T00:15:02+00:00

This is why it really doesn't pay to be someone's mistress. Some might get the high of validation that you're soooo desirable a man breaks his wedding vows for you. But when it all comes out he's going to go with the safe option (his existing family) and cut you loose. Affairs are for temporary fun, not new chapters. That, or he goes and gets a new mistress as soon as you two are official.

This woman claims she didn't know, but she didn't exactly make the effort to find out nor did she have any regrets once she could get her faaaaamily.

QueensJuju · 2021-03-01T16:08:14+00:00

I noticed that she initially tries to rationalize his predatory betrayal by making this about his desire to be a father to a biological child. He didn't fuck someone young enough TO BE HIS CHILD because he wanted to care for anyone. He had a family that was utilizing his love and support, he chose to withdraw it. She initially internalizes his betrayal as a personal failure, something lacking in the life she gave to him.

I think this is important to focus on because when we're blinded by love chemicals, sunk cost fallacy, and Pickme ways, we try to understand men's sick actions through some type of relatable lens. DON'T DO THAT. They're not lying, cheating in your own home, getting fired, and preying on the young out of some type of mismanagement of loving emotions. "I meant to be kind and honest but got so confused by my desire to be a good man I accidentally destroyed my career and all the relationships around me. Whoops!"

He threw away his job, his reputation, his financial security. He sexually harassed a co-worker. A young woman in a vulnerable position. He moved his mistress into the home his wife cleaned, cooked in, organized, and helped pay for while she tended to family in need - so he could have another bangmaid to it instead. He deliberately planned this in taking off his ring, hiding their photos. He was very likely reckless with birth control. After helping to create an entirely new human being on a foundation of lies, he was willing to abandon it, and the woman he tricked and used.

He's just a broken piece of shit. The less time you spend trying to figure out the WHY and HOW, the healthier and safer you will be. When you try to understand LVM behavior you're coming from a place of emotional intelligence and empathy, THEY ARE NOT. You will waste your time and risk deceiving yourself with mental gymnastics to understand the non-sensical.

Happy as hell to hear this woman walked away and has an excellent support system.

lickyblickyuhh · 2021-03-01T10:09:38+00:00

What an idiot. He destroyed two sets of families and his whole career all over a little sex. So utterly stupid.

MACMUA · 2021-03-01T17:19:26+00:00

I hope there is no pre-nup and she cleans house

IAteTheDragon · 2021-03-01T17:23:21+00:00

I don't think this is gonna improve his financial situation 🤦🏼‍♀️

Title	One for the ages (2 parts).
Author	basicbagels
Upvotes	706
Comments	140
Date	February 28, 2021 7:50 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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