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The less you do for him, the more he actually loves you and does for you. Men pick up on energy. If a woman is exuding desperate energy that she wants him to buy her flowers, etc., he will pick up on it and not do it. But, when a woman is in the energy of “I am not available for this man to not buy me flowers, etc., I am only available for this man and every man to spoil me” he responds and spoils her. This has worked wonderfully for me. For Christmas, my partner received a shirt from me. A nice…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 07:20 PM
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This was so wise. ❤️ Thank you for sharing and I am so sorry for your loss. 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 07:12 PM
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I am proud of you for recognizing this and for beginning the hard work of taking back your power :). Self-awareness is the first step, action is the next. Your desires are not naughty or bad, they are divine and given to you by Source or God or whatever higher power you believe in. If you have the desire to marry a well-off man, then it was destined to be so, that is your life path and your intuition will nudge you in the right direction. Don’t resist your desires, respect them and allow them to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 06:01 PM
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If you date, marry, then procreate with a broke man then you also pass that scarcity down to your children via epigenetics. In my culture, a woman who marries and has children with a broke man is considered vile and selfish because she has knowingly allowed her future children to lead compromising lives in poverty, in lack, and without the adequate resources to nourish their minds and bodies as they grow into adulthood. Men who are broke are ineligible to date or marry. And they often are some o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 05:08 PM
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Omg how gross. Ugh. Question OP! What does “Ryan Bumble” do for a living? Just curious if there’s a difference with men across SES (personal theory + also convo’s with my girls)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 04:58 PM
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OMG I am beyond happy for you!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 03:54 PM
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with the pea sized ring we need binoculars to see & they swear up + down the rest of us are jealous 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 04:43 PM
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This one hits home
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 04:42 PM
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My partner is a C-suite Exec at a Tech Fortune 500 and I 100% cosign all of this. 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 08:30 PM
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Was he a legacy admit? 😭😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 12:00 AM
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“It might sound like a bunch of woo woo and synchronicities” No, it doesn’t. And, I often find that individuals who say that are sleep walking through their lives and asking you to do the same too. Anywho, I love that book. It is amazing and I am so happy you have found value in it too! I love how speaks on the trauma that women and young children endure contrasted with the trauma of soldiers, for example. He denotes how women and children are ignored, meanwhile soldiers are given the space to b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:50 PM
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I think that was me who commented about using a PI (lol). In addition, whitepages premium all the way. Quadruple check his income, job (LinkedIn - private viewing mode), debt/asset ratio by verifying his income (by job title/industry/company) to see what he has vs. what he can afford. Know his friends, look them up in the similar fashion, know the company he keeps and their involvement especially if could be nefarious activity. I highly recommend a PI, but it can be a hefty price to pay, so whit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:39 PM
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Don’t react, leave, block him and delete. He knows, he just doesn’t care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:33 PM
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Block & delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 07:29 PM
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Kindly distance yourself from her but keep in touch/be there as her friend (just with some added distance) in the case that she falls on her head one day and wakes up to the depravity she is married to. 😷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:37 PM
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I wrote a personal anecdote of the HVM that I personally know of and can confirm their HVM status. Of course it goes without saying that there are HV men who have graduated from top universities and who have great careers that cheat on their partners and wives. But, there are HVM with these credentials who do not and who are absolutely lovely. It simply comes back to vetting every man, irrespective of how HV his resume makes him appear to be. And no, they do not choose to be with women of equal …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:16 PM
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What is interesting too is that for the most of modern-day HVM, they marry women with outstanding academic and career achievements. The difference, however, is that the true HVM are too busy working and building their wealth/empires/businesses/careers. And, the more HV a man is, the more likely he is to go under the radar as to avoid unnecessary attention which can place his life at risk. The bulk of those on social media speaking on what HVM want are: • not HVM • have never met a HVM or several…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 05:41 AM
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I am sorry. 💔 I grew up in a similar environment, that being a Church, as you experienced. The misogyny stays with you long into adulthood. Oftentimes, the messaging of “women should be mothers, not career women” have lead me to self-sabotage my own academic and career achievements out of fear that I would outshine men. It is twisted, disgusting ways of thought. I am so happy you are free from this toxic environment ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 05:35 AM
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cackles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 05:31 AM
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Omg. The 25+ woman being single as possibly mentally compromised part. How interesting! What do you think drew your sister to this vertical of living?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 05:27 AM
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I love! ❤️🥰 how it should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 05:11 AM
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Thanks. I will check it out, but again to reiterate, Teen Vogue will only write from the vertical of an American mindset and will not account for the mindset of those abroad. Again, while we understand the devastations of European colonization, remnants of its power has not permeated into our beauty standards which are unique to the country/continent/ethnic "tribe" or group of another. I would highly encourage that Americans seek to understand a more global perspective and understanding of how t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:39 AM
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Hmm, are you American? I find that most Americans have this viewpoint but it is actually untrue. Those of us abroad actually do not perceive whiteness as superior. Sure, we acknowledge colonization and the mass destruction which it has caused, however we (those of us abroad) have our own hierarchies of supremacy and beauty. Oftentimes, those do not include the features or characteristics of what is associated as white, but rather what is associated as worthy in that particular society. Being exp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 02:43 PM
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Ah! I see and thank you for delving into this. I grew up abroad, and immigrated to the United States for University so many of the white supremacist messaging via advertising and marketing materials has been entirely lost on me. Whiteness, where I am from, is not equated to anything of superiority. Rather, whiteness is simply that, whiteness. It is very sick, wicked, and twisted how the color of one’s skin is considered to be anything but that: a color. For as technologically advanced our societ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 05:46 PM
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Where did that come from? I am genuinely curious. I am a WOC and my partner is white, however, that being said does not mean that I am oblivious to the LVM/NVM that exists amongst white men. I have dated HVM of all racial backgrounds, ethnicities, cultures, so on. Likewise, LVM/NVM, of all backgrounds too. The glorification of men, in general, seems to be the downfall of women everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 03:53 PM
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Your dad sounds amazing in every way! People, I have found, as a collective tend to be addicted to suffering. Either suffering themselves or inflicting suffering onto others. I love that your dad, without explicitly saying this, guided you to avoid environments where suffering is expected and encouraged. Life may be hard, but we do not need to make it anymore harder for ourselves or others. We deserve a life of bliss, of love, of joy, peace, and happiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 03:42 PM
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What in the hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 06:18 PM
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What sends me the most is when the wives/girlfriends that are effectively manipulated into men’s lie of swoon love is everything swoon.....they take great pride in giving the world to a man who gives them nothing. And, if you try to question their why behind being so kind/loving/giving to a man who doesn’t reciprocate, they become irate. But, I guess that is because the question hits a trigger. Lol #triggerwarning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:09 PM
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Wow 🥺 this is so heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing. I am so sorry for your loss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:45 PM
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They have the same predator eyes. Soulless & lifeless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:44 PM
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I am so happy you mention this! I am the exact same way. We run our own race and that is perfectly okay 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 11:20 PM
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No lies written here. 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 11:11 PM
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So cute! I am so happy for you! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 12:29 AM
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The women who do this & the men who do this, I think they are mentally compromised. So, what you are telling the world is...you fetishize emotionally immature men and boys? So, what you are telling the world is...you are sexually desired to little boys? Like...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 12:18 AM
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An attorney would not agree to take on her case if she was not a CPT. The goal of the attorney is to win the case with the end goal of making a paycheck, therefore, attorneys are specific as to which cases they agree to take on. If they think that they have a chance of winning, they will proceed. And, one guarantee of winning such a case is that the client (Chloe) is exactly who she says that she is: a CPT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 08:52 AM
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cackling the facts are astounding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 09:54 PM
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Absolutely! It is so interesting you shared the part of being wary of dating men who speak about work with you all the time. One of my girlfriends is going through this at this exact moment in her life. I have never thought of conversations centered around work with romantic interests in this vertical. It makes complete sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 04:55 PM
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I found one via the one my brother uses, as far as searching for one, I have no idea. I would strongly suggest that if you do search for one, that you keep your search private and do not bring it up to anyone. No mention of hiring a PI, no conversation that even would slightly or subtly suggest that you are seeking one, etc. Be safe, keep the information to yourself and trust nobody with the sensitive information that you are hiring one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 04:31 PM
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Exactly. I immigrated to the U.S. for university from my home country and I was born into “money”. Knowing that I, by extension of my parents have money, they would routinely emphasize that my money does not matter (to a man). And, they would overemphasize that I (as a woman) must never lead with my money, my family, my Father’s business or anything of that likeness because it will only attract thieves guised as good-hearted men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 04:26 PM
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Don’t be or feel insecure. I come from money and my partner is from money also, we don’t care where you come from. We care that you are a great, honest, noble individual who works hard to build a beautiful life for themselves. We (my partner and I) have a bit of distaste for many we know that come from money and prefer to spend our time around those who have worked and earned, by their own merit, where they are in life today. That grit, that resilience, that I-can-do-this-shit attitude is everyt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 04:21 PM
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what? girl you’re so off base. i deleted my comment, yes, but to insinuate that I’m lying about what I wrote is just....off base. I wrote, that YOUR phone is yours and HIS phone is his. it’s reddit...an anonymous platform where lying serves 0 purpose, there’s no need to lie. have a fab night sis. Blessings to you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 06:46 AM
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I wrote that you should know the passcode to his phone, but, your phone is your phone. Meaning, you do not share your passcode with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:07 PM
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I love this! I know it is a bit far but I hire a private investigator to do the dirty for me as part of the vetting process, particularly, as the commitment becomes serious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:37 PM
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Congratulations!!!!! pop the champagne cheers to a life of bliss and knowing that you never settled! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:30 PM
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How do women have sex with these kind of guys? Instant turn off. It’s like having sex with your damn child...lmao. Tragic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:30 PM
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Don’t beat yourself up ⭐️ Life is lived to be learned from. Now you know better and you will do better too. Chin up 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 03:15 AM
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Send him a $1,000 Venmo request for him to compensate you for him wasting your time. Maybe, I am kidding. Maybe, I am not. So happy for you babe! Cheers to the level up!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:22 AM
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I like your ways, girl! Ha. So true lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:08 AM
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My mouth dropped while reading this & my mouth is still dropped open....omg what!!!!! girl!!!!!!!!!!! This. shit. is. WILD. Okay, thank the cosmos, the stars, God and Jesus Christ himself that you are out of this. I am so excited for you to begin a new life, a new chapter, a new season where this loserrrr is nowhere to be seen nor found. Cheers to the level up!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:07 AM
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LoL cackling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 03:00 AM
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And on the Seventh Day, God said, “let there be FDS”. This was an entire word. I grew up in restrictive, fundie religion and the parallels you drew are spot on. 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 04:10 AM
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A gem you are! Did you notice any common traits: quirks, occupations, personalities, how they talked about their girlfriends/wives across your clients? I am curious 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:11 PM
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I am so proud of you. ❤️ You did that. Life will be joyous in every way from this point on. Walking away from toxic, shifty family is the hardest yet most rewarding decision ever. You will look back a few years from now and be so, incredibly grateful. I am here for your badass-ery. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:04 PM
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My dear, I am so sorry. In tbe midst of this all, in spite of how challenging it may be to see the light at the end of the tunnel, challenge yourself to do so anyways. Create an actionable plan for yourself—your future, whether that is furthering education or a career, or a job that will pay enough to keep both you and baby safe and healthy—and no matter how challenging this plan is, stick to it. Resilience is bred within our most darkest times, you are alive today and that is because the purpos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:55 PM
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Yes! And I love how you worded this. You didn’t victim shame, you pointed out the truth and provided constructive feedback. Love love love. We have to be extra aware of the boundaries that we implement. I have taken notice of some women almost taking a bit of pride in being a doormat. Like, their sense of joy and fulfillment is from “oh my...look at me...I did all the dishes and they didn’t even say thank you,” a bit of an addiction to suffering if you will. And, if I kindly suggest that they ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:58 PM
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Not the titties 😭 cackling lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:41 AM
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Babe, so many people are addicted to suffering and pain. They need their daily dose and hit of sorrow, depression, sadness, anger, unhappiness, unfulfillment and so on. Those of us who choose happiness are exceptions and not the rule—it’s rare to do so and hence why this sub thread and women like us are on the receiving end of hate/misunderstanding/ridicule. Happy people trigger unhappy people. I am happy you realized your worth, your value and that you cannot take everyone with you into a life …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:57 PM
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They only call bright, intelligent, fabulous, and better people than them crazy. Take it as a compliment, no matter how challenging this smear campaign is, understand that he is afraid of you. You know too much, you have seen too much. If you were to speak out about him, he knows people would turn on him, so he has to make others turn on you first. The more you ignore him, the angrier he will get and expect the rage and the continued smears because these people don’t get tired. Make sure to focu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:09 AM
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I think MM (and I run in MM’s circles Ik this is the internet you don’t have to believe me but really) triggers women. Deeply, deeply triggers women into a state of disbelief that she married at the time, the most eligible bachelor while being everything that the manosphere has purported as unattractive. She was over 30, she was divorced, she is not on par with his status that being, the aristocratic class. And, perhaps, because she is biracial. All of this triggers women into a state of divisio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:53 AM
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Lol the US is certainly wild and expensive for absolutely no valid reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 07:00 PM
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I don’t know you are being downvoted. This is true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:59 PM
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My personal standard is and has been minimum $500k - multiple 7 figures. I have found HVM within these income brackets, currently with my partner who is within this income bracket and is a wonderful man. Each level has bad and good people, there are LVM who are broke and LVM who are rich. We have to be discerning at each level and of each man we are to be involved with. It is dangerous, I think, to generalize men. My best friend is engaged to be married to an American legacy family, heir to one …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:56 PM
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Men who work hard to establish themselves from a less wealthy background really are something great. I have a lot of respect for these men. Any man who is high earning is a risk to be narcissistic/psychopathic/sociopathic, nevertheless, that is the case with everyone who operates at a high level career wise. We just have to be committed to vetting men at each level 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:50 PM
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So on another & unrelated note, I would really caution ladies in here who don’t personally know Meghan from making some serious claims about her. Obvi this is the internet & my identity is unknown but I can tell you if you wish to believe that I run in upper echelon circles where MM & hubby are in also. You guys don’t know her, I do. She is fabulous, a sweetheart, and lovely. And for those of you saying why did she marry him if he’s racist/the family is racist okay sis seriously and honestly you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:31 AM
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Ok...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:15 AM
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As if we women don’t get enough shame from everyone else smh. These comments have me 😳 wow wow wow. Didn’t know a stranger could trigger people into raging hatred.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:09 AM
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😭 people cannot handle Meghan being supported for some reason. Love your comment, wholeheartedly agree. Thankful for rational women in these comments who can logically assess the circumstance of MM & Harry. You know what they say sis...common sense is just not common. Cheers to downvotes 🥂🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:06 AM
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Seriously. If I have ever seen the vile nature of people, it is with the hate they spew about Meghan Markle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:03 AM
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Whew the comments...😳 women can get along for so long l o l...a mess. edit: if you have time to actually theorize who Meghan is from nothing more than rumors and gossip blogs who have been proven to be biased, I don’t know, I will pray for you. That is low. That is sad. I hope you develop some empathy. I hope you realize that people are far more complex than dailymail.com’s reports. Welcoming my downvotes 😌😏🥰💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 05:46 AM
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wow I am so happy you are out of that relationship. Here is to a life of joy and fulfillment with a man who does cherish, admire, and adores you. ⭐️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 11:06 AM
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I am allergic to lazy men. Her husband has no excuse, he is a complete lazy asshole. My partner is a C-suite executive for a Fortune 500 tech company anddddddd he still cleans, cooks (for me and him), does laundry, maintains the cars, makes doctors appointments, etc etc. The issue, I think, is incompetent men vs. competent men. This husband here is a dead beat failure to himself, society, and his family (wife). I hope she divorces him!!! 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:20 PM
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I will only procreate and have a child to continue a legacy with a man who has $250 million to $3 billion in assets and worth to pass on. That is my boundary. 😂😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:14 PM
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What what what!! Your OB talked you out of having an abortion? I am only medical school, but from my rotations in OB, I know that suggesting one decision over another to a patient is a HUGEEEEEE hell no. You can inform them of their options, educate them on the implications of either choice (abortion or no abortion) and what that means for their lives/welfare...but to verbatim advise against an abortion!? Woah. I want to say that is unethical. Any docs that can weigh in?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:06 PM
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A male friend, who secretly admired me (while being in a relationship, mind you), confessed his feelings to me. I swerved, rejected, vehemently shut that down. He then went on a multi-year smear campaign convincing everyone in our shared circles that I was: deranged, crazy, mentally ill, lying about my career (was in tech @ time in faang company), that I was a failure, that I talk too much, that I am annoying, and the list without exaggeration goes on. FOR YEARS this man went on a tirade against…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 08:32 PM
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The premise is not that Cardi B is an empowered woman, it is that the outrage of WAP implies that there is a hypocritical double standard which women are subjected to but men are not. Also, why breast implants? No need to shame women for undergoing plastic surgery if it suits them. Their money, their business.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 08:23 PM
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What has me vehemently rolling my eyes these last 24 hours is the amount of people dismissing the sheer, horrifying, and disgusting anti-Asian attacks as an act of racism. Racism against Asians is still racism. Simply because one group is purported as the model minority does not negate the existence of hatred, ignorance, and racism against that group. There is this attitude of well, Asians always do well, therefore, they will pick themselves up from these attacks by their own. They don’t need us…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:54 AM
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This is so golden!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:50 PM
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I think making sure he financially supports you! While also having your own job/income stream/business. But great question!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:45 PM
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SUPER SINGLE screaming 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:39 PM
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Black women are unfairly subjected to boxed in stereotypes which are limiting, dismissive of one’s potential, and damning. The truth is: women of all backgrounds have women who are “bad” examples to their young girls. Black women have Michelle Obama, Kamala Harris (biracial), Condolezza Rice, Janet Cohen, and the list is extensively long with decorated black women. And every other race and ethnicity of women have women of accomplished calibers to be good role models. There is good and bad in eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:35 PM
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He should be giving you an allowance, weekly. No matter how successful that you are, you must ensure that the man you are dating is forwarding you money from his accounts to yours on a regular basis. And save every single penny that he gives you, invest that money, finance a business for yourself, etc. Have your own income stream too! Build your personal net worth, by using his money and your money simultaneously. So, if you are ever (God-forbid) in this predicament, you will walk away with more…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:27 PM
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WOW!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:43 AM
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Meghan markle (in the states, idk about the UK) being blamed by women everywhere for the decisions of her Husband. He is sympathized with as a poor little boy and she is demonized as an evil manipulative bitch. Women’s sympathy for men is when I think “believe all women” and “women support women” my fucking ass. Every woman for themselves is the culture fabricated as a cutesy, kumbaya SiStErHoOd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:51 PM
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if these guys don’t become CEOs w/all the support they get they’re fucking incompetent I cackled lol. So true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:48 PM
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Yes yes yes!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:45 PM
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Depending on your country of origin, marriage is a financial benefit to the woman. Think of marriage as a business partnership: what is your ROI? If the relationship dissolves, will you leave added assets or with a loss in assets? What will your net worth accumulate to, or has the potential to accumulate to while being married? If you, for example, want to build a business, is your partner able to provide financial start-up funds? In a living arrangements, can your partner float the house paymen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:37 PM
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Imagine, married women feeling bad for asking their adult husbands to be an adult. devastating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:29 PM
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I toggle with my little pseudo theory of why women do this to ourselves. We know and see mothers all around us exactly like you described, yet, we do not listen and heed the glaring red flags. We continue to glamorize and childly ideate about having children of our own one day and raising a family. Thinking/rationalizing with “this won’t happen to me/my husband is way better than her husband” and then it happens to us. We say the media has lied to us by selling us a fairytale fantasy of love and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:26 PM
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Adding a many for emphasis on how many examples of this there are; many.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:18 PM
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Yes! 💓 and that is on period!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 08:20 PM
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Yes! Meghan is a fabulous example of a woman who loves herself while simultaneously loves her family and does not compromise on either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 08:18 PM
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Many moons ago, I advocated for this perspective of women to be understood by my Church and was promptly slandered, defamed, emotionally abused, and kicked out. Modern-day Church is everything they claim to be against: hateful, abusive, unaccepting, judgmental, unforgiving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:44 AM
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Yes 🥺 I developed UTI’s, every day. It went away when I began to confront the underlying anger I felt from being betrayed by those who were supposed to protect me. I have been healing from my c-ptsd for 4 years now and it is not always easy, but with each year, I feel another layer to the trauma lifted. I do notice, when I am triggered by something that reminds me of my past, I can ruminate and spiral into nonstop thinking about the trauma. And, in that moment, a UTI comes along. So, I journal o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:02 AM
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Do you have a history of trauma? If so, you may be reliving the trauma by trying to heal yourself by healing others. 🌸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:42 AM
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Seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:32 PM
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Omg! That hurts my heart to read. I am so happy she has redirected her focus to what fulfills her. It seems as though that is what “hot” women in general must be wary of: men who simply desire them for their looks, nothing more. Once they are over your look, they move onto the next “hot” look. Anecdotally, my “average” friends are married to high value and high roller friends (billionaires..seriously). Yet, my “hot” friends are in and out of toxic relationships with men who are high in status, b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 10:47 AM
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Yes a million times!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 10:44 AM
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It’s always the bystanders who irk my soul to the maximum degree. I can relate to your friend. It is hard, nevertheless, she will be blessed with an amazing Husband. I know karma is not always believed to be true, however energy tends to balance one way or another. She will (if she has not already) attract likeminded men on her plane who value her being. Sociopathic men and people in general are fabulous reminders to victims that you are amazing...that is why they chose you to prey on...you have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 10:42 AM
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😭😂 why are men such professional babies? I am sure your teeth are perfection!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 10:37 AM
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Ooh, please tell us more. How did the husbands sabotage their wives careers? What tactics? Would love if you made a post about this! So important of a topic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 10:36 AM
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I would say, not slightly, but largely love you more than you love them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:33 PM
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Women in STEM make my heart so happy 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:25 PM
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This video is triggering. So sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:18 PM
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Hear me out: in my home country, women who homemake are considered to be modern-day slaves by their husbands. Husbands who do not provide outside help (maids) for their wives are classified as abusers. So, if a wife is a homemaker in my country, the outside world automatically feels compelled to feel so sorry for her because we see it as her husband abusing her. I came to the States for University and when my psychology professor came rushing in after dropping her children off to school...I was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:07 PM
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So true. Whatever my heart desires, he is overjoyed to gift me with. It makes men happy to see their woman happy. And if he has the funds, the price tag of that object of happiness doesn’t matter. A few weeks ago, my partner and I walked into a jewelry store to shop for cuff links that he collects. We walked out with a gorgeous gemstone and diamond ring that cost $$$$$$. Why? Because he said that he had to purchase the ring for me because it lit up my face and it made HIM happy to see ME happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:01 PM
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I think the idolization of men from any race and background is equivalent to stupidity—completely. There are good men from each race and terrible men from each race. Look at men as simply that: men. And vet according to their ability to be a HVM. Date and marry whomever you want, your happiness and fulfillment is all that matters in this short life. If he is white, great. Black, great. Hispanic, great. Asian, great. You get what I mean...men are men, just choose the best one for you and forget w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 12:11 AM
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Source?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 12:09 AM
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Look into addiction to suffering 🌸 might give insight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 12:07 AM
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Wow 💓 I am so sorry about your teen years. I hope that life is no longer such and prosperity is yours forever and ever. 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 12:01 AM
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I love that! How it should be 🥰🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 09:52 PM
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Marry rich! Use his money to invest and get rich yourself. Or fund your passion projects, business endeavors, and interests, travels, whatever. And, require a maid to clean your home! If not provided, then....break up. Make sure HE provides someone to cook also if you do not like to cook. While he is providing these resources to you, be educated to the highest degrees. Ensure that your career is rock solid and use your income to invest in your financial security (market). Plan for your exit stra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:14 PM
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I love your realism. It is true, it is luck. And, I believe some manifestation and spiritual alignment too! I think it can be hard for some to admit that luck is the largest component to meeting their HVM, I certainly have found it challenging to admit, but it is what is true and grounded in reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 08:45 AM
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Omg I love you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 08:41 AM
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And in addition, men benefit from the beauty of a woman (all women are beautiful). When a woman looks good on a night out, standing next to the man, HE IS PRAISED and congratulated for HER APPEARANCE. “Woah bro, you scored a good one” etc etc. His value goes up, while hers does not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 08:43 AM
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I don’t know the words to convey how sorry I am to you and how heartbroken I am reading your story, but I do know that you are alive and breathing for a purpose larger than yourself. 💓 Your story is powerful and I hope you wield your voice as a champion for change, reform, and justice. So much love and light to you! Thank you for sharing 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 09:42 AM
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I would advise against Anna Bey. I know she poses as an insider of affluence and the upper echelon, however, I can tell you from the inside-out that she knows very little about how we actually operate. There are books out there that focus on what is important to the ultra-wealthy. I am not sure the credibility of Anna Bey and her mannerisms/fashion advice/elegance is very outdated in our circles. To fit in or to mingle with our circles, focus on becoming well-versed in the arts. Museums, literat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 04:19 AM
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That’s the way we move, sis. It’s the obnoxious privilege that wealth provides. It’s not running away from the problem, he faced it head on by having a conversation with his former friend. It’s because we can move and leave whenever we want, however we want, and without consequences. He didn’t tell me I need to move, we had a conversation about it of course. I didn’t include those details in my original post. I’m not the kind of woman a man can simply demand around 😉 My input is valued equally a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:41 PM
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I see that. Former to my current partner, I was in a string of abusive relationships too. However, I did not turn around and intentionally disrespect another woman while being abused. I maintained a level of respect for my fellow women and ensured that I would treat them well, always. I believe in being my sisters keeper. His wife, is absolutely a victim to her husbands abuse. I feel absolutely terrible that she has to endure that or has accepted it as normal now, and perhaps given up on true an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:13 PM
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He absolutely does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:04 PM
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You and me both. I don’t know, I have spent quite some time pondering about why too. I have simply concluded it’s a combination of personality defects, terrible manners, and distasteful etiquette. I am shocked you haven’t met people like this before - that’s amazing. I have had my fair share of these types...it’s really no fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:03 PM
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Good point. This is why I appreciate FDS, it gives people added perspective to the situation at hand. He has been scolded, by my partner. And my partner has cut ties with him also. However, with such personalities, they tend to gaslight you if you point it out. The classic, “stop being sensitive, it was just a joke”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:01 PM
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My partner and I are affluent, to be frank. Uber wealthy and so we have the means to leave when we want, if we want. Our home base is always the state that we are in, but we stay in other major cities in the U.S. or in Europe for a few to 6 months at a time, if we feel like it. To the average person, it sounds extreme, but to us it’s our normal. And normal for the circle of affluent friends we have - this is how we do life. I am in medical school and since the pandemic, I am mostly in remote lea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:54 PM
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Because my partner and I are affluent, to be frank. And because we have the means to do so. That’s why. It’s not an extreme decision on our end to get and up and leave when wanted, we do it all the time. Move from state to state for 6 months at a time or for him particularly, travel to Europe and stay there for months at a time because he has offices there. My partner is an Executive, so he can afford to do so. I know to the average person it sounds crazy, but for us and those in our affluent ci…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:50 PM
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I did not comment on how nasty my partners now ex-friend was being to his wife while at lunch, and that is because that is my partners friend, not mine. While I love my partner and he is an absolute HVM, I am always vetting him. It’s time like these that show who a real HVM is and I wanted to see if my partner would tolerate his friends behavior, call him out for it, and of course, protect and defend me. His friend was being disgusting and therefore, he needed to be the one to communicate that. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:00 AM
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My partner was okay with seeing his former friend once every couple of years and wanted for me to meet them this time as they came in from out of town. My partner did not know the extent to which his friend and wife were awful to. They had gotten married recently and he had not met his former friends wife, or had seen the dynamic those two shared. However, if they had moved to our state, he would not like to be living here anymore. My partners reasoning was that his former friend is okay with me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:54 AM
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I did not think of that, that makes complete sense! Thank you for your perspective. Yes! He had a conversation with his now ex-friend to discuss that lunch and how disrespectful his wife was towards me, detailing that because so, he will need to cut ties forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:14 AM
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Anger is a beautiful and necessary emotion. Use it. Use it to channel your radical growth and healing. Use it to fuel your determination to cut off your mother and family. Use it to motivate you to succeed, live out your dreams, and live happily ever after without them. Use your anger to light the passions within you and use your anger to remember this moment of time in life, so you will never allow yourself to be in this predicament again. Love and light angel 💗 Focus on manifesting, healing, a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:30 AM
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Love! He sounds amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:18 AM
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I want to point this out, love. “But he (generally) treats me well, we never fight, and we are happy… enough. I’m sure our lives together would have been okay. But deep down, I know I deserve more.” There is no need to rationalize his bad behavior. You don’t need to be the “good girl” we as women have been conditioned to be. It went from he is not that bad, to listing all the valid reasons why is he bad. It’s okay to say someone is bad. It’s okay to critique people who have wrongfully treated us…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 07:00 PM
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Thank you. All women should be celebrated, loved, adored, and cherished for how they choose to be: natural or glammed. Neither is better than the other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 12:39 AM
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Sis! Thank you for the adding this comment. Are you in Genetics?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:53 AM
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Yes! You have illustrated everything wonderfully. No wonder men find it easy to manipulate women and do so day-by-day. They see that women have no qualms with cohabitation which is proven to negatively affect women and are okay with giving them the freedom and access they did not earn via by making her his wife. But even on that note, the entire ideology of being gifted a “wife”. Like...what....is....that. Marriage and consequently becoming a wife is not an accomplishment, it is quite literally …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:18 AM
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I am really happy for you, love. But, unfortunately, it does not change the true nature of men. That is what your boyfriend should do for you. No questions asked! However, there is no need for you to hypothetically allow him to move in with you if need be because of his finances. That is not your responsibility, it is his. He is a man and therefore can take care of himself. Please look into the parental investment theory and similar theories. You, by virtue of being a woman, are already at a lar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:06 AM
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Personal space is a luxury I cannot be bothered to give up. I used to think that women have been mercilessly brainwashed into believing cohabitation (without marriage) is a good thing. Now, I think that women have refused to critically think for themselves and question societal expectations. Blind sheep following blind sheep. The fear of men holds women back from questioning constructs which don’t serve them. I try to help, FDS is here to help. But, it seems as though women have become content w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:14 PM
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Omg 😂 facts & only facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:05 PM
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It’s cute when men of this psychological temperament try to convince others otherwise. Dunning Kruger at its finest. 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:03 PM
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You would be surprised 🥺😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:00 PM
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That is amazing love - I also echo what the original commentator asked. He should either fly you out (if there is a nearby airport or if you are crossing state lines assuming you are in the U.S., I apologize if you are outside the U.S.) or pay for your gas, food, and any other needs you have purchased while on the drive to him. Or he should drive to you, pick you up and drive you back to his place. It seems very extra, I am sure, however you deserve the best and it is up to you to set the preced…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:28 PM
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The Rwandan genocide is an example of Eurocentric beauty standards, however, it does not mean that Eurocentric beauty standards have affected every non-western country. Within African countries are a sundry of features, phenotypes, and skin tones that are held as beautiful. They are contrary to what is held as beautiful according to Eurocentric beauty standards. But, in addition to that, it is dangerous to say Eurocentric beauty standards because it implies that it is only individuals from Europ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:42 AM
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Good points, however Eurocentric beauty standards are only within Caucasian majority countries. Other countries have their own beauty standards which they abide by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:44 PM
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Amazingly illustrated 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:08 PM
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Now that is a fabulous Father!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:08 PM
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Your aunt is a smart woman! She knew what she wanted and went for it. I love that. Do you intend on following her lead? 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:02 AM
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This makes me so happy to see! And it is so true. 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:56 AM
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Being Type A is a wonderful thing :) sometimes with women friends though, I remember that grace is good to be allotted when it comes to texting. I don't mean to be easier on our women friends, but a bit more understanding! But this is only under the context that she is a genuine friend who is not replying out of ill-intention, rather because her life is more chaotic than normal. I like to make my boundaries known with friends by starting a dialogue with them like this, "I like to text back withi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:08 AM
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Edit: After further research into the credibility of Anna Bey, I do not think she is a valid source for how to operate the upper echelon. Much of her advice is outdated and not in line with how and what we actually do in our circles. Almost, laughably wrong. There are other women who are well-versed in teaching credible advice which will actually grant you access into these circles. I may update my comment with some links. For me, though, I was born to a wealthy family (an abusive family, but we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:20 AM
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I suggested, in tandem with your comment, Anna Bey prematurely. I did my research further on her and I do not think she is a credible source for operating the upper echelon. In our circles, much of what she teaches is outdated and blatantly false. She has great insight into the basics: cleanliness, clean nails/hair/makeup/steamed clothing/no excess in flashy labels...but ultimately misses the mark on how we truly operate in our circles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:03 AM
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You are very welcome lovely! xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:00 AM
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Bingo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:59 AM
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I agree with you. So long as there is communication as to why she is not responsive, I am okay with it. But, if it is to be deliberately rude and dismissive of me, my friendship, my time...then I am not okay with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 10:46 PM
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I absolutely agree with you, however I would also urge you to be mindful that some women really are occupied with matters in their lives. Perhaps, intensive schooling or a very traumatic time in which she copes by turning inwards and processing her emotions this way. And, not everyone is glued to their phone either! I am similar to you and cannot stand text messages beyond 24 hours, however, I am also Type A and have learned that others are simply not. So long they are truthful friends who are g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:32 AM
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Wait! Lol, I am confused! I thought you meant my typo of the H in St. Barts (some people spell it with the H and others without).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 11:43 PM
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Typo, love. Thank you for pointing that out! Will correct it now. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 11:38 PM
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The good ones pretend like they are lower class, and near impossible to find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:45 PM
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Lmao! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:44 PM
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I added a bit more in the comments & my post 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:43 PM
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Good etiquette absolutely is. Discussing money, politics, and race is an absolute no-go. Do not do it, not now and not ever with anyone outside of your immediate family. This is particularly hard for me, as I deeply care about social causes, however, it is inappropriate to discuss such. More no-go's: Asking intrusive questions and asking what someone's parents or they themselves do for a living. If they don't outright tell you, then they don't want you to know. They will tell you when they feel …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 09:22 PM
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Blacklisted means that an individual has been flagged as "you can't sit with us". The word gets around quite fast and depending on who that individual made the offense to (whether valid or just perceived), they can go so far as to ensure that they don't have access to restaurants, clubs, events, gala's, and so on. But here is the kicker: the person who is blacklisted never knows they are blacklisted or why they were. It's absolutely cringe, I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 06:06 PM
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It depends. I went to Ivy League Universities for my schooling (and attend a Top 20 for med school), along with my siblings, and my partner. What I can tell you from first-hand experience of being friends with, attending classes, vacationing in the Hamptons and Monaco with, and simply interacting with individuals in the upper echelon of society is that it is all conditional. Is he from a lineage of generational wealth? Well, if so, then expect for his family to have a large say-so in the woman h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:22 AM
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Lol. Yes. Being slim is the social currency in the upper echelon. Often, it is what can get you in and the first thing to get you kicked out. Right alongside mannerisms and etiquette. Many of my network and partners associates (Ivy League/Top 20 school circles) will oust a person to the curb if they don't fit into the "mold". Unfortunately, it is true, these circles are largely superficial and the gatekeepers will not grant you access if you don't meet the standards. It's a secret world with a s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:01 AM
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Would love examples also!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:51 AM
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"Nogoodnik" sis bless you for this word lol. I love it. Yes! Under particular conditions, personality is indeed heritable. And also shaped by the shared environment that children are reared in! I know there is a large emphasis on being married soon to a HVM, but for these very reasons, I do not feel comfortable allowing myself to be engaged and/or married to a HVM whom I have not seen in nearly *all* sorts of seasons of life. Particularly, the stressful seasons where abusive tendencies tend to m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:49 AM
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Woah! Does your BFF's mother voice regret or concern from this? Thankfully, your BFF has a friend like you in life. And, I hope that irrespective of the health conditions, she leads a healthy and prosperous life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:43 AM
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Yes, ma'm. Whenever I have voiced this opinion, it has been flagged (in real life) as being reverse sexism (lmao...like ok) and/or me being a calculating, cold, terrible woman. But, we are not naive and we understand the consequences which we, as women, will face if not mindful of how friendship dynamics work within a romantic relationship. Cheers to not being left at the crossroad of boo-boo the fool & associates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:40 AM
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Yes, sis! Surround yourself with HV people who support you, want the best for you, find happiness in your happiness, and who are fulfilled in their own lives. Or at the very least, are working towards that fulfillment. You deserve that! Thank you!!! It's a struggle at times, but I am thankful for the opportunity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:36 AM
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I am still a medical student, but in my 4th year rotations now and I was completely dogged out during my first week at the Hospital because I was not implementing these principles. It took me a while to pick myself back up and learn, but you are so right about this. Thank you for sharing. Post saved 💛
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 06:47 AM
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Amazing. This makes me so happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 06:33 AM
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😂 lmao. These “men” are so damn funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 04:20 AM
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Being a cold hearted and gold digging bitch will keep your lights on, car note paid, debt handled, pilates membership secured, dermatologist appointments on routine, Starbucks with no limit, Chanel bags secured, Birkin if you choose to. Oh and a partner who values you because we all know that men love b**** and cherish what they pay for (you!).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:03 PM
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People would tell that to me also. But, I caught onto their tactic of wanting me to *not* believe better was out there, so that I could join them on their level. You know what they say: misery loves company. So, when I did meet and proceed to have a loving and fulfilling relationship with my now-HVM partner....sis...all these people had the worst and most severe attitude towards me for it. They said they could no longer stand to be around me because I changed (lol. how does someone change after …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:00 PM
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Sis, I did not know that. But, am I surprised? Lol nope. They're so tragic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 05:06 AM
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For the “rational” and “logical” self, they sure don’t know how to keep their mouths shut. At every turn is a man telling on himself. For free and no prompting needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:10 PM
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I am my partners best friend, but he is not my best friend...😉 separate the roles, always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:07 PM
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It’s always the broke and/or unintelligent ones. Procreating with such men is a danger to society as it allows his subpar genes to carry on to the next generation. Women need to extensively vet men for this reason (amongst the plethora of others) and curb the crisis of LVM and NVMs infiltrating society. They are reliant on us to bring their genes to life. Our womb is their lifeline, we should really see it as the treasure it is and only allow the crème de la crème to have access.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:03 PM
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“Well, surprise motherfucker” 😭 what a beautiful sentence. I will implement this into my day-to-day inner dialogue when dealing with my scrote, med school, god-complex, ugly ass male classmates. Bless you, Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:49 PM
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People who say “get over it” are often abusers themselves. The less you think, process, understand, and work through the trauma you have experienced...the more power they have to abuse you. It’s a tactic. Keep you in the dark from understanding the depths of your pain, so that you remain clouded in emotion and unable to see their manipulation. Or, they are emotionally stunted and have repressed all of their emotions. Thinking that doing so will make them happy in the end. But, if you have ever n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:44 PM
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Yes!!!! Anger is a mandatory to properly process. When people advise to be “positive” or to “stop being negative and bitter”, what they are actually advising is to repress your emotions. And continue the toxic cycle over and over again. It is so important that we are all wary of who we receive advise from when we are processing trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:41 PM
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This is true. Perhaps, marrying up can also entail one’s character, work ethic, and ambition. Maybe they don’t make as much, but they are determined in their work to be at the top of their field. So long as he is working intensively to be his maximum best, maybe it will mitigate the gross black hole of “my wife makes more money than me...I must punish her for this”. But, lol. Who am I kidding? He will realistically wither away into that black hole. Cheers to the single life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:35 PM
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Can high earning women PLEASE stop dating and marrying lower earning men!? Like girrllllllllll puh-lease. Get your mind out the gutter, raise your self-worth and esteem and DO BETTER. No more settling for “a good guy” who makes less than half of what you make. Women will always lose in the game of marriage, so marry wisely and marry UP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:10 PM
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Haha! I love it sis 🤗 cheers to a good life! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 07:49 AM
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Lol. I wouldn’t advise it, but if the shoe fits...😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:06 AM
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Emphasis on the closeted homosexuals. Some of my partners business associates are all this and cheat with their “personal trainers”, meanwhile their wives know but choose not to care because of the financial security. So, the wives cheat with their “personal trainers”. As you wrote, a picture perfect family on the outside. But, an entire web of lies on the inside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:34 PM
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Bingo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 06:27 PM
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Absolutely agree! Thank you for this comment and perspective <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:05 PM
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I love that! I'm going to try this out! Thank you for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:03 PM
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There is a HVM is looking for a woman just like you. And, as you free yourself of expectations of what could be and work towards what you want, divine intervention will cause you two to cross paths. Find joy in the mundane routines of life, cultivate a passionate pursuit towards your goals (your journey to fit - you go girl! you've got this), and live life with "reckless abandon". You are worthy of that life and you are worthy of life shared with a HVM. Magic happens when we honor, respect, love…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:51 PM
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Virtual (covid-free) hugs! I am so sorry you went through that. I am happy that you recognize what it was and that you are apart of the FDS community! I grew up in abuse too and it is one of the most insidious happenings in life as a child. The way it molds you to be afraid of the world and afraid of your true potential...ugh. It also makes you strong, resilient, fearless, bold, confident, and more...but that is after the painful process of healing the layers of hurt. How have you healed from yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:46 PM
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Please do! <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:42 PM
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I love journaling and I am so happy you wrote this! I am going to try your method of journaling! How have you mitigated the side-effects of self-sabotage? Like extreme tiredness or procrastination? Those are the two that I find with each level that I "transcend" to routinely manifest, alongside fear. I love the concept of wearing jewellery as a ritual - sis - this is amazing. Thank you so much for sharing! I am going to implement this all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:42 PM
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Isn't it scary how it just does that? I realized in my life, each level that I "transcended" to, there would be another bout of self-sabotage. Until, it dawned upon me, that with each level, I have to unlearn my old scripts. This happened to me in my first year of Medical School. I kept procrastinating studying for exams until the night before and had a complete panic attack and breakdown. I thought I was procrastinating because I was tired, or because I had a change of heart about medicine. But…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:37 PM
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Congratulations, Queen! Gorgeous ring and I have to say, I love your hands! They are so pretty and feminine, lol. So happy for you! We love a FDS success story. 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:10 PM
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I think this is a case-by-case happenstance. I was born into a wealthy family and also engaged to a wealthy man. So far, my parents network of affluent friends are free as hell. The women live life on their own terms, are fabulous and care not one bit about submitting to their husbands/male family members with money. The men often support their wives and other women in the family to be in pursuit of their rights, freedom, and happiness. I mean, transferring thousands of dollars into her account …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 04:16 PM
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Truer words have never been spoken
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 10:15 AM
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Facts. was an international student to the America for School and boys would know my family was $$$$, so to not mess with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 11:54 PM
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It’s all about the kind of HVM. HVM don’t view $$$ as a means to control you, for them, $$$ is an “us dynamic”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 11:33 PM
7

???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 11:24 PM
6

Men like him belong in hell. I said what I said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:40 AM
7

No! Never acceptable. Refer to FDS handbook ⭐️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:36 AM
16

Women need to constantly be in the position of power. A man needs to the continual and visual reminder that he is replaceable, and that you will leave. Be glamorous, make sure you always keep yourself maintained and have eyes looking at you when out with your man. He will always be reminded that if he does some stupid shit like this, not only are YOU out. But you are ONTO something better. Keep them scared and know you are always the prize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 09:31 PM
1

Yes, sis! It really is a compliment when LVM tell us that we are intimidating. Like, thank you for telling us that we are too good for you? lol 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 08:56 AM
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Omg sis, do we run in the same circles lol? Yes, the men at my alma mater and other Ivy's are on average more shallow and empty than everyone else. Princeton is the worst...in my opinion lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:10 PM
3

Channel it as fuel for your success :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:07 PM
10

Omg never believe the lie that you intimidate men. You only intimidate men who are below your level. Secure, high-value men will never be intimidated by you. The issue is that they are rare, spend most of their time involved with developing themselves. The good news is that like attracts like (if you believe in energy) and that so long you develop yourself and refine who and what you want, you will attract him into your life. Don't focus on him though. Focus on you. And write out a list of quali…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:06 PM
8

Red flags sis, he is selfish. Run away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:03 PM
7

I think it may be a bit too soon. Two dates are not enough to fully know who someone is and to understand if you really like him. The risk of meeting his friends too soon is that you enjoy the company of his friends, build relationships with them, and in 6 months if you happen to no longer like this guy anymore parting your separate ways will be all the more difficult. Before his friends, I would encourage meeting his family to thoroughly vet him. Refer back to FDS handbook! :
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:02 PM
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I showed this to my partner who is a Tech C-Suite Executive and his fellow Executive/CEO (sorry to be pompous but want to note this to give the proper context of the societal status they speak from) friends and all of them clowned this clown. Real high-value men don't tell the world they are...their actions speak for them. And, real high-value men don't gain pleasure from berating or speaking down to a woman abusing women. My partner said this after watching the video: men who fail at competing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 04:55 PM
6

Love this!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 04:03 AM
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It’s so problematic that women who have had sex are now “impure” and women who haven’t are “pure”. I grew up fundamentally Christian and the entire organization is a breed of Stockholm syndrome, I swear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 04:02 AM
22

Beautifully put!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:59 AM
26

Full stop: he said he took her out to bUfFaLo WiLd wInGs for their anniversary. A step down from McDonald’s and he can’t afford a $6 basket of wings and $4 fried pickles. Tragic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:43 AM
1

I hear you, sis! That is really sad 😢 That is terrible they don’t want to pay the dowry. Do the men’s families step in? Or are they just silent and let him opt out or begrudgingly pay the dowry?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 12:41 AM
3

Africa is a very diverse continent and it is not a monolith. IMO it is important to be specific and make mention of which country someone is from in Africa because each country is that much different from the next one. West Africa to East Africa, South Africa to North Africa. Some are Muslim, some are Christian, some are Orthodox, etc. So the diversity of this one continent is far too large to encapsulate with a sweeping generalization. For one, I know that my Ethiopian friends are financially s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:08 PM
9

I run around in upper echelon circles where men are like, you know, actual men. These men also belittle, make fun of, poke fun with, talk down to, demean, mildly bully, refuse to work with or have in their circle of associates, interact with, smile at, look at......these kinds of men. They are actually massively rejected by the top men and so they cope on steroids to soothe their battered egos. Lol. If only they really knew how men @ the top shit on them. Hehe Edit: these men @ the top also don’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 09:24 PM
13

Facts sis! I also highly recommend everyone to read “The Rules” alongside FDS handbook. Ex; one of the rules is if a doesn’t give you a romantic gift for occasions then he doesn’t love you and you need to dropppp him ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:15 PM
2

Always level up! Never stay complacent, always challenge yourself to growth, stay fulfilled in your life and pursuits and passions. Your health and wellness, etc. With no explanation to him or any man you are seeing. The point is: at any moment, you can leave and find the next HVM with ease. After a while, attracting HVM becomes natural. It’s kinda an energy thing! They sense it in you and pursue you, but you must always be ready to drop him if he shows any red flags. The man you are dating will…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:20 AM
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lol because world revolves around you? Ok.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 08:23 AM
9

I don’t get it. Why do women do this? What are the drivers for this? I’m triggered definitely by all of this because it reminds me of my own pickmeisha days. But, I can’t put my finger on what the driving behaviors were behind this???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 03:33 PM
11

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 03:19 PM
17

OMG. If we ever needed a sign that karma is real. Sis, wow. ☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 05:03 AM
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Omg 🥺 The story says that the husband and her best friend contacted the family at the same time about her going missing. I wonder if they had an affair, she found out, and needed to get rid of her for them to continue their affair...Chris Watts vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:59 AM
3

Thank you sis! 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 11:02 PM
3

That is amazing! So happy for you 💓💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 07:36 PM
15

Sis! I’m in medical school and seriously half of the student body are predators. As is the physician population too (in the U.S.). It’s an attractive field for these personalities because they are given access to people in their most vulnerable state. It’s wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 07:34 PM
3

I love this! 💓💓 I aspire for this once I graduate medical school!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 07:23 PM
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Definitely look through the flair, FDS Success! But, I will share my quick success story for you too :) I was in and out of abusive relationships, was abused growing up (every form of abuse). Committed myself to growth and personal development, chose to do the hard work of working through my trauma and never settling for anything less than healthy. A lot of therapy, spiritual work, shadow work, coaching, etc. I am now in medical school and my HVM is a Tech Executive. I pay for nothing, I am full…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 07:07 PM
3

Omg 😭 I am crying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 06:39 PM
1

Are you Korean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:32 AM
26

Men have never valued what they don’t pay for. It is crucial for women to make sure her partner is footing the bills, providing housekeeping services for her, childcare for her, meal services (Hello Fresh, etc.,) for the times she cannot or simply does not want to cook. And it’s important that she never feels bad for requiring this. Women give up far more than men will ever in a relationship. OnlyFans is an open display of how men will pay for women who demand it. In other words: don’t be nice t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 08:29 AM
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The Feminine Fancy is not so much about hypergamy. More, femininity tips and such. Watch her most recent video on the topic, where she advises her viewers to be realistic about hypergamy....I think she is a bit underdeveloped in FDS principles to truly understand hypergamy in its fullest. Sadly :/ because hypergamy = the key
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:53 AM
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Sis! It is NEVER too late. Ever. Let me tell you, in medical school, the most successful classmates are the ones with crazy life experiences who have fought to survive. You can never waste your potential...it is impossible. So long that you are breathing, your potential exists. It’s not until you take your last breath, that your potential does too. I had a terrible childhood, fought tooth & nail to make it into medical school and the entire time on my journey here I was beating myself up. Tellin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:39 PM
14

Omg take the class! Before medical school, I suffered from crazy anxiety. I took biochemistry and withdrew TWICE. I was like “sis, get your life....now”. Decided that I would succeed, changed my mindset (thank you to my therapist - they are a God send) and aced it. Moral of story: don’t give up on yourself. It’s never too late! If I can do it, you can to!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:32 PM
5

Wow. That is gross!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 05:30 PM
1

I agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 05:54 PM
7

Men complain all dayyyy about marriage being a scam for them and that women ransack their finances following a divorce. Like LOL if you cheat, she is entitled to alimony. It never ceases to amaze me how they don’t do their due diligence understanding marriage laws, then complain....for their stupidity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 05:53 PM
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I think for a few women they can be fearful that they will he chastised as gold diggers if they are honest with their relationship dynamics. Andddddd, then I think that some women are petty and don’t want you to live a good life like them. So they purposely withhold necessary information to keep you stuck, while they thrive. You are the table, sis. Welcome to the light!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 05:43 PM
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Or have her own bag investing and doubling in one account and his bag investing and doubling in another account :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 05:38 PM
7

What is it with 23 year olds. It’s like the golden age 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 05:36 PM
3

I am curious to know, if she said that because she thinks so or if she has had other conservatives say so? I, too am in a conservative majority area. However, I have not heard of this sentiment being discussed. Their concern is not Harris’ race, rather her politics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 08:40 AM
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WHATTTTTT did I just read? Wow. I grew up in the church and ran away when I went off to college because my discernment was striking red flags with my former youth pastor. But THIS! Wow. I cannot imagine. I am so sorry you endured this! And I hope those girls are set free from his grooming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:09 PM
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my heart breaks for you, sis. This is painful, debilitating and absolutely annoying to process. I went through and still am healing through a very similar situation. What worked for me is reaffirming myself as much as I needed. But not just saying, “I love you” “you are worthy” “you are good enough”....rather affirming that “he targeted you because you have something he desperately wants. This is confirmation of how amazing you truly are” and the likes. Ultimately, I learned that people who call…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:47 AM
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Can you expand on why you feel this way? From my perspective, he is simply the kind of man who believes in being in his masculine and a provider. Even to women he is not romantically privy to. But, curious to learn how you have interpreted this : )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:11 AM
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Well first, congratulations on leaving him behind! And nowwwww, you can be loved the way you were created to be ❤️ My approach to post-breakup is: • reflect what happened • assess my role (like lack of boundaries, fear of confrontation, etc.,) and then work on these to apply for the next relationship • shadow work! Rework attraction to anyone similar to ex (assuming he is no good) • level up, my favorite one. Gym, food and wellness, vitamins, therapy, journaling, update my personal style, hair, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:08 AM
6

Shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:07 PM
5

This is brilliant 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:00 PM
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To be fair, marrying rich is smart for all women. Perhaps not rich, but certainly a man who is financially stable with enough financial resources to provide adequately for his wife and family. Her principles are mostly in tandem with FDS principles. All of us women interpret and apply these principles in ways which are most conducive to the lifestyle, plausible romantic partnership or marriage, etc., for us. We all have different goals—all high value goals albeit—and there is nothing wrong with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 10:06 AM
2

Yes! 100%. And with no remorse either. Life is short, stress causes aging and a myriad of health problems. All pickmeishas and LVW to the trash! With love of course lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 07:38 PM
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This is such a wonderful topic, certainly not discussed enough. I went through a phase in my life where I had to cut off, drop, and close the chapter on 99% of my (women) friendships. I was dedicated to becoming an HVW and decided to settle for absolutellyyyyyyyyyy ***nothing*** less. Unfortunately, if you are a woman who is committed to evolving, growing, and becoming your best and most idealized self....you have to be extra careful of the company you keep :/ What to look out for when vetting p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 12:15 AM
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I love this! I will add to your already amazing comment: Supports your goals and dreams with actions, affirmations and with the same dedication as he supports his own. Sees you for who you are and loves you for exactly that. Inspires you to grow because he wants the best for you and that lies within your self-actualized self. Without any hesitation, proudly exclaims that he is lucky to have you. Speaks well of his family, friends, and associates. Speaks well of you with those same people. Provid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 04:58 PM
3

We cannot persuade people to repress their thoughts and feelings when they are healing from trauma. If not processed, expressed, cried out, sweated out at the gym, etc. then it will fester inside. Plausibly leading to the development of PTSD or worse yet, C-PTSD. She is grieving right now: the man she loved is not the man he was. It can be shocking and derailing. It may take her a few months to resolve her shock and then she can transition into not thinking about him as this healing process goes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 12:20 PM
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ALWAYS be leveled up, healthy emotionally and psychologically (physically too), financially stable and fabulous in the case this happens to you. Always be in a position to upgrade if a man does this. He says this you. He did you a favor! Time for the upgrade. Show him no emotion and smile, because his absence is now your freedom to be pursued by a man 10x of who he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 04:47 PM
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I love it! ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:40 PM
2

I am so happy you saw the light and walked away ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:30 PM
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This sounds like lovebombing and narcissists!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 02:39 PM
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Queen shit. We need to find her and pull her into our community. 👑 I feel so proud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:47 PM
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