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20

My ex husband said he needed a partner because he can’t do things on his own. That’s not a partner that’s a parent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 07:40 PM
19

She sounded like she was talking to the teacher about her 8 year old son who did something bad at school. I’m sorry but the mom is one of the reasons he is like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 07:32 PM
25

There are 2 men like this in my dept, both in their 60s and have been there 15-20 years but have never moved up in title bc they don’t want the responsibility. Both have full time working wives who are the breadwinners while they coast by doing the least work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 07:23 PM
3

I want to say that every anti porn man is only that way because they used to be an addict and their dick stopped working. Not because they care about the abuse of women in porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 04:56 AM
1

Bruce Willis is gross too. I think his wife is even younger by a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 04:48 AM
2

I was friends with a married couple like this. We’d go out to dinner and he’d be telling his wife how much to pay him back for the meal. They’re divorced now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 04:41 AM
14

My hobosexual ex husband proposed immediately after moving into his new GFs house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 05:37 PM
32

The recent threads on the front page asking men if they were ok with letting women go gray was infuriating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 02:29 AM
15

Single fathers = someone else got rid of him for a REASON And this is the second post today I’ve read where the guy is basically unemployed and the woman is paying the bills. These guys are pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:20 AM
214

I hope Leo realized he is officially old when he played the dad in Dont Look Up who has college age kids
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:16 AM
-4

Why do you feel you “need” sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 10:27 PM
18

The last thing I want to do is talk about work or investments with some random. He needs to save that conversation for one of his bros
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 10:10 PM
26

He wants full custody so he doesn’t have to pay child support. That means more money he can spend on onlyfans subscriptions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 10:00 PM
43

I’m feeling this way also. I’m in my early 40s. I guess it’s too much to ask that a man has the same things I do- a real career, college education, financially stable, and owns a house. (My ex-husband moved into MY house and I’m not doing that again- he was a hobo looking to save on rent)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 08:22 PM
207

Real intent of his text: “Oh hey is your vagina healed yet so I can get some sex?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 02:22 AM
144

I member
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 12:51 AM
218

If that is the worst fault he can find with her then he is just looking for any excuse to be mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 12:50 AM
4

Get rich, be not nice…I’m intrigued
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 05:34 AM
42

“Ain’t no fun if my homies can’t have none.” They dont care what you do after they’re done with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 05:31 AM
15

He might be a nice person but that doesn’t mean he’s not a manchild. She saw her future right away if she stayed with him. Smart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 05:29 AM
17

Gross but maybe you have to be a cattle rancher to find it funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 05:25 AM
85

She asked him not to do something, and he made an elaborate plan to do the exact opposite. It shows a total disregard for her wants and feelings. And he did it to her in front of a crowd of people to show just how much her opinion really means to him at her own wedding. Every guy knows a woman wants her wedding to be perfect and spends hours on hair and makeup, and thousands for a photographer and a nice dress. The photos would be ruined as she would have to wash all that frosting off her face a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 10:13 PM
11

Yea I don’t get why guys are so weird about being short. I got some rude messages before about how I probably only date tall guys and would never give a short guy a chance. I was like um my ex was barely 5’8”. So maybe it’s not your height but your personality that is turning women off. But they would rather blame it on the thing they can’t change than admit they have a fault
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 09:19 PM
16

You can give a man everything- a loving wife, great family, support him, cook, clean etc until he is 85 on his death bed with dementia and the wife is changing his underwear for him. but it all comes down to “but I don’t get enough SEX” and he will throw it all away in the blink of an eye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:02 AM
79

They’ll be bald, ugly, and alone eventually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 05:35 AM
189

My ex husband bought me a fake Tiffany’s necklace so he could have an excuse to funnel money to his porn addiction. I figured it out when the silver started coming off and showing brass color underneath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 03:48 AM
4

It’s not worth putting my safety at risk to date complete strangers. So I’ll just stay single I guess. And that’s fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 02:23 AM
208

Would he have said that if she was turning 22? Probably not. It was NOT an innocent joke and he was definitely trying to neg her for being in her 30s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 12:45 AM
84

When will men learn that women care more about personality than abs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 12:38 AM
3

Totally agree! I had to catch myself saying “well maybe he means well…”. They don’t. They really don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 12:36 AM
8

I haven’t dated in many years. Last night I made an Ok cupid account just to see who was on there. I put the range at 32-52. Let me tell you 99% of the men on there looked like they lacked hygiene or would strangle you in a dark alley. Many were obese (I am not, for the incels reading this I weigh 102lb). I saw one guy who looked ok but his profile said something like “I’m not your sugar daddy so don’t expect me to pay for anything” and other negative things. I had a friend who was married to a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 12:32 AM
2

This is BS, my ex husband had a private chat group of 10 of his real life friends and they talked about everything in that chat, like problems with their wives etc. and they gossiped more than any women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 03:14 PM
27

I would never hike with a stranger but reading his first posts I totally rationalized that he was just a clueless guy who just wants to go hiking. It sounded so innocent. And then THAT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:50 AM
176

They don’t even provide anymore, everyone I know has 2 working parents
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:41 AM
43

I got married and it turned out he had gotten a loan for the ring and it had a $250 mo payment. So I ended up paying for my own ring in the end…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 10:23 PM
16

What you described sounds similar to evangelical Christians.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 10:14 PM
1

4 yrs with a gf and buys property with her but not marriage. Sounds like he couldn’t qualify for a mortgage on his own so he’s using her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 11:34 PM
67

A 20 yr old with a 14 yr old best friend is grooming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 11:29 PM
43

I literally just saw a TikTok of a woman dating a single dad who was showing the reasons why she keeps a separate residence. His place was trashed and looked like a bachelor pad. She knew that moving in with him would mean she would instantly turn into a maid unless she wanted to live among his junk and clutter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 10:49 PM
428

Shhh you’re crushing the dreams of these divorced 40 year olds who think they deserve a 22 yr old
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 10:39 PM
57

Normalize sleeping in separate bedrooms. Men get so bent out of shape about this but how would they like it if I was sawing logs next to their ears all night bc I put up with snoring like that for years. Never again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 07:49 AM
33

I’m happier working on my career than having someone hold me back because he doesn’t want to move from his job he complained about daily about how much he hated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 07:46 AM
6

Men are never friends with unattractive women for a reason
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 06:22 PM
12

I guarantee if the tables were turned and his wife wrote this article about porn, the man would be very upset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:31 PM
93

Please talk to your IT dept and ask if you can use your initials or “agent #1” on the chat instead of a first name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 08:38 AM
23

Male roommates probably smell your dirty underwear. I could never live with one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 01:47 AM
333

If you’re not married, you are not entitled to know every last detail of their bank accounts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 01:41 AM
1

Gotta be teenage parents. I think student loans start to become due 6 months after graduation so she would be about 22 as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 05:02 AM
176

No, because men make more than women just for having a penis, so if he’s making less then is he even trying to better himself? My ex would rather sit in the same job for 20 yrs bitching about it and when I wrote him a resume, made him a linkedIN, and told him what to say in his video interview he instantly got a job offer of 25k more. All because I made him do it. So to me that says he’s not even trying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:48 AM
8

Reddit men have been watching so much violent porn that they think choking and slapping is normal. It’s not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:21 AM
13

I did not. 50:50 chance of divorce anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:13 AM
11

I haven’t been with that many guys but 2 men had limp D the first time and said it was nerves. They ended up being porn addicts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 03:00 AM
9

Reddit is the perfect place for this ad because all it’s male users are porn addicts who have caused themselves porn induced ED
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:58 AM
12

I’ve done a lot of volunteering and there were never any single guys, if any men were there it was with a gf or wife. I just don’t see single men going out of their way to do work for free
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:55 AM
99

This post made it to the front page and said OP was a piece of shit. What people don’t realize is that the guy was just playing a game us women have heard a million times before, myself included. He wants to date and get regular sex but have an excuse to not be ready for a relationship and string the girl along indefinitely while he keeps his options open or the “ex” becomes available again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:48 AM
176

Do they think their buttholes get looser every time they take a poop?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 02:39 AM
20

Another girl I graduated with wasn’t so lucky- a different male teacher in high school went to prison because he did something sexual with her. He was totally disgustingly ugly and old. She was on the spectrum so he took advantage of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 04:04 AM
50

Yes, I had a very weird moment with a male teacher in 8th grade. I didn’t even know him that well but he took his own necklace off and said he wanted to give it to me, and asked if he could put it on me. I threw it away when I got home. It felt like the beginnings of grooming and I kept my distance from him after that. Boyfriends give you their necklace, not a 50 yr old man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 02:15 AM
15

I did meet up years ago- only do the women only groups. I went to a trivia group that had guys in it and literally all of them were loser weirdos. Also the only people I recognized from my city on the site were weirdo guys from high school. No one normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 11:25 PM
98

I had a guy ghost me who then texted me a YEAR later. Blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:59 PM
151

There’s an AITA thread on the front page where the husband is forcing his wife to bring the 4 year old to her overnight birthday girls trip. Luckily, Reddit ripped him apart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:53 PM
3

I really hate this and it’s a reason I don’t come on here often anymore. Shirtless guy mirror selfies are an auto swipe left but I just saw a thread with a collection of mirror selfie “bulges”. Feels like looking at porn and I’m not here for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:03 PM
3

I haven’t been to a club since the pandemic started and I realize I don’t miss it at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 06:00 PM
5

Wow, even after hanging out with a man for a YEAR, you still can’t trust them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:43 PM
3

I saw this article on yahoo and I ran here because I knew it would be posted. I hated how she stopped seeing him due to her BDD and not because of his rude comments! He was clearly negging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 05:02 PM
5

Never once have I been alone with someone whose company I enjoyed and thought “I could get away with murdering them right now.” This is PSYCHO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:57 PM
35

This is why I won’t do online dating. There have been many incidents of women getting murdered by a man they went on one date with. Too many psychos on there that will end up stalking you. For all I know the guy could end up following my car home and I wouldn’t even notice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:48 PM
15

The red flag I ignored before marrying him is after his family dinners (Holidays/birthdays/etc) the women would go to the kitchen to clean up while the men did the minimum of stacking up plates on the table and then disappearing to the basement to play pool or something. The funny thing is, all the women were the breadwinners while the husband had a shitty job or no job. I am recalling another time the family all met up at a restaurant and I watched the wife come in toting 2 baby carriers (twins…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:37 PM
11

Hello I find you mildly attractive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:58 AM
1

CCW. A knife requires close contact
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:52 AM
8

Ok this is rape but the men will be like “she agreed so this is false accusation!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:19 AM
40

I’m remembering my friend in the 80s whose mom and dad both worked. The dad was fat and worked third shift in a factory and did nothing but sleep all day and yell at us if we disturbed his precious sleep. The mom was thin and pretty and did everything around the house when she got home from work after we got out of school. They were not rich by any means, it was a small house and they drove geo metros (the cheapest compact car you could buy). I just can’t imagine working full time and come home …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:11 AM
53

Now that women are in the workforce and MANY are making more money than their man, they are realizing that we can just get a roommate or a cat and not have to deal with having to be a slave for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:00 AM
4

My ex husband had a private group chat with his friends and they were messaging on it all day every day. I took a peek at it and it was stuff that should not be shared- like private stuff about their wives they were sharing with a group of 10 men. Stuff like marital problems or sexual details such as “my wife is into chicks, maybe I can get a threesome.” I realized every time I went to a party, these men would be there and know all this crap about me that my husband was messaging. I definitely d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:21 PM
1

Yea, block and delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:03 PM
2

What he was doing is called triangulation. Mentioning other women to make you jealous. The minute a guy does that, I’m out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:00 PM
3

I meant the story about the 17 yr old
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:46 PM
2

I’m sick of waiting for friends to come with me. Time to do stuff on my own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:45 PM
9

I agree, it’s a terrible/confusing example for your kid and it’s also not safe. I wouldn’t even attempt dating until the kid is in middle school. I don’t even have kids and I won’t date strangers due to safety issues. Edit- and the guy she’s dating is literally another child. She feeds him, he doesn’t help with anything, and gets nothing in return except sex? The guy is a gigalo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:29 PM
3

I’m hoping this is just another fake Reddit post for karma. I don’t want to believe it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:04 PM
35

I’m guessing he fake proposed to her so he could move in and mooch off her until he didn’t need her anymore. You shouldn’t be proposing to anyone unless you’re 100% sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:46 PM
33

He had a man bun. Think of it as a bullet dodged
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:36 PM
9

It’s 12 in the Philippines. That’s why you always see old creepy guys traveling there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:34 AM
77

The one guy everyone thought had the perfect marriage ends up being a cheater. Why am I not surprised? I’ve totally given up on finding a guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:17 AM
1

These are like $25 and Bluetooth which is around 30 feet. No you can’t put it in someone’s car and track them via GPS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:52 AM
380

That guy looks completely dead behind the eyes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 02:22 AM
13

I expected to see some pervy looking guy with a crusty beard and mullet but it was a totally normal looking dad doing it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:49 PM
35

I used to babysit a kid who got caught looking at it at age 10.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 12:45 PM
9

Oh no i might look like a lil bitch by holding this painting so let me add drugs to it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:26 AM
5

My ex tried this with me but I didn’t fall for it. His new fiancé did though. Make him buy his own house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:25 PM
18

The real reason he is posting “my GF isn’t giving me enough sex and says it’s because of X disorder, what can I do to fix it so she will have sex with me more”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:41 AM
14

Not defending him but I think a lot of his worth is in his company stock, not actual cash he has in his bank account. But still, yes he could do more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:35 AM
15

What’s the word for an opposite prostitute? (The kind that pays for the hotel room and has sex for free)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:28 AM
36

They guy plays too many video games
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:20 AM
12

If she was in it for the money and didn’t have a prenup, she wouldn’t have stayed for decades. She would have left in the minimum amount of time needed to secure the bag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:58 AM
2

I did NOT do it. Here I am, a homeowner before I met him, and his ass moved in with ME. I got the college degree, he didn’t. I had the better job. Shouldn’t he be taking MY name? His mom was super rude about it too and kept writing my name on cards and stuff as mr and mrs “his last name” even though she knew I don’t go by that. Really stupid tradition that needs to die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:10 PM
14

Bill was already a billionaire before he met her, and didn’t want to get married to her. He even wrote a pros and cons chart of marriage and presented it to her. I have no doubt he has a prenup and she is a major pickme who signed the prenup AND let him vacation with his ex, because that’s what cool girls do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:18 PM
243

He was 31 and she was 22 when they got together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 11:26 AM
2

Guys have tried this with me since 20 years ago, so nothing new.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:36 PM
66

Isn’t this from a Sunny in Philadelphia scene about the exercise bike with a sex toy attached to the seat? This is a terrible ad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:35 PM
11

Do not date people you work with. This can be detrimental to your reputation at that workplace. The place I work at now is rife with gossip. This one guy who used to work here went around telling everyone that “Britney” came over to his house to hang out and she tried to kiss him and he denied her. Both people were in their 50s. I know this story is complete bullshit and that Britney probably denied him sex so he blasted her all over the office as being desperate. This all happened years before …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:25 PM
156

And that’s another reason why I got rid of my ex-husband. Here I am owning my own house (before marriage) and paying all my bills just fine. Then this guy moved in and I suddenly become his slave yet when I suggest working part time so I can get my masters degree he says no. Excuse me, you can leave and I will get a roommate who picks up after themselves and doesn’t act all emo if I reject sex because their breath stinks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:31 PM
32

If you still go out with him after this it just shows him that he can flake on you and you’ll be ok with it. You are not that desperate and weak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:01 AM
9

Wouldn’t have dated him as he still lived with his parents even though he worked full time making more money than me at the time, yet I was living in an apartment. It turns out he was a manchild
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:31 AM
31

Can you imagine if a wife told her husband she wanted to have sex with someone else?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:26 AM
55

They say around age 30 is when you start cutting a bunch of “friends” out of your life. No time for fake friends and frenemies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:22 AM
39

Wouldn’t the term be volcel instead of incel?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 07:12 PM
45

This is why I say everyone should work as soon as the kids go to school full time. At any moment, you could be left for his secretary and you’re stuck with no job experience and have to start at the bottom for minimum wage. You can’t count on alimony or child support to cover every thing., and it runs out eventually. You need to have your own game plan so you’re also not stuck with someone you don’t wanna be with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:11 AM
40

Christian religion does this to people. I don’t know anything about him or the show but I can tell you that my ex husband was a “Christian” and was raised by a very religious family. The religion tells you that premarital sex is bad and you should be ashamed so it really messes up teenage boys heads. So instead of having premarital sex my ex used porn as his way around that “rule”. He had girlfriends in high school and college who wanted to have sex but he was trying to uphold his “values” and n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 12:17 AM
29

Men do this and no one bats an eye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 09:36 AM
17

If a guy can’t decide between you and someone else, he doesn’t like you that much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 03:04 AM
61

I read a quote awhile back that said “if you find yourself playing detective, dump him”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 02:44 AM
10

He didn’t even wait for the “let me cook dinner for you at my place so I can try to get sex after” obligatory third date!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:58 AM
13

I don’t want sex, just last minute 2am dates in my bedroom. Lol who would fall for that??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:45 AM
38

They are wasting their time trying to advertise soap and hygiene to most male Reddit users. Even the guys reading this comment would probably agree!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:43 AM
3

I just don’t visualize men with something to offer hunched over their phones texting strangers. They are out there in real life meeting women through friends, hobbies, work, volunteering, etc. and by hobbies I mean healthy things like running/biking and not magic the gathering
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 01:54 AM
351

The girl in the video read the handbook. I thought everyone on this sub was fat and ugly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 01:17 AM
10

You don’t say what country but have you considered fostering an older child. That is much more doable as a single parent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:35 PM
2

Even asking for an STD test is considered “neurotic” now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:46 AM
2

Notice how he said he never slept with the same woman more than once? I’m sure he got ghosted immediately afterwards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:45 AM
2

There really is a fetish for anything. That said if any scrote wants to pay me $250 to stomp on their balls...(joking...or am I...)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:42 AM
1

I am child free. I received the most hate from other women about it IRL. You’d think they’d understand?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:38 AM
3

He is not even good looking from what I can tell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 01:21 AM
182

I miss having someone I can count on and do fun things with. Then I realized I can just get friends instead of a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 02:07 AM
68

I have to take care of my own child wahhhhh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:09 PM
10

I had a “honey do” list. He would just call his dad to come do it. I started seeing him as less of a man every day and realized I was caring for an infant who could do nothing on his own and wasn’t husband material. If I wanted his dad to come do everything then I would have just married his dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 12:43 PM
74

What he really meant was: “I’m in a dry spell- are you willing to do the once a week hookup thing again”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 12:01 PM
38

If it’s not wrong, then why do they hide it? Would they be ok with it if the tables were turned- NO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:12 AM
145

if you’re dating a man and have no children...you are still taking care of a child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 10:40 PM
310

Don’t do shit for free
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 07:11 AM
10

Maids and prostitutes get paid, but she did it all for free...what a gal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 11:05 PM
107

All I read was “I am overweight and have a crappy job and no money.” Why does he think he deserves to date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:15 AM
3

I think this guy is like my ex. He blew all his savings on a camper van and then found some chick with her own house and moved right in with her. That is obviously this guy’s plans too. Does he plan on raising a family in his van? Grow the fuck up dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:59 AM
34

Men will Jill themselves for stupid reasons, like not being able to get sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 11:26 AM
9

The 50/50 money thing even though you’re married- girl you were just a roommate and maid for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:10 AM
421

A woman will ask a question to the store worker or other appropriate person to ask, not a random person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:00 AM
57

Once again my theory that male teachers are LVM proven right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:15 AM
7

CCW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:10 AM
201

He didn’t cheat probably because he just hadn’t solidified a date yet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 02:36 PM
97

Forget having a career, society says you should quit your job and stay home with kids and be a slave to a man who will eventually leave you for his 20 yrs younger secretary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:01 AM
16

Yes, they will literally jerk it for HOURS during a session
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:28 PM
10

This is totally my ex-BIL. His wife was the breadwinner while he made a few hundred dollars a month doing “odd jobs” aka unemployed. He didn’t even stay home with the kids. I recall this one time we were all meeting at a restaurant and she was toting 2 baby carriers while he walked behind her with nothing. They are super religious so that is the only reason I can see why she is still with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:35 PM
143

He wants to stick it in dry because he’s a porn addict who death gripped his dick too much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:07 PM
5

What is a digital nomad? I’m glad you have friends in this town but I hope they are not men, and you’re not moving there for these 2 guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:50 PM
35

Pool is a LVM activity. A pool hall is just a bar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:46 PM
17

When we split, we split the bank account in half bc our finances were combined. There was a substantial amount in there, enough for a down payment on his own house. He blew it all on buying an old collector car he says is an investment. I cannot be with someone that low IQ. And he paid cash because they don’t give out loans on old cars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:26 PM
40

Yes!! I did this too- my ex husband moved in with me after marriage and then wanted to be added to my house I owned for like 5 yrs and put $20k down on. HELL TO THE NO! When we divorced of course he was still thinking he was entitled to it even though he did not ever contribute a dime or fixed anything around the house. He literally just lived in it like a child while I did everything. Now he has a new fiancee who owns her own house and he moved right in with her and will do the same thing to he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:07 PM
1

This is like the snake telling eve to eat the apple (no I don’t believe in the Bible)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:52 PM
5

You were smart for not selling your home!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:45 PM
23

The house seems to always stay clean, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 12:36 PM
2

If you’re in the shadows, it’s because you aren’t doing anything to stand out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:13 AM
86

If you plan on using scroteline dating after this, I suggest you edit your profile so you are not easy to find on LinkedIn. Don’t tell them your job industry and use a nickname etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:05 AM
37

A friend of mine sent messages to the wife she found on fB, the guy thought he was slick but it was really easy to find him with limited info. Sad thing is the wife is still with him but was pissed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:00 AM
131

If I was bored I’d ask for his cell phone number so I could google search it and find out his full name. Then find his Facebook and then message his wife’s account because I bet she knows nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:46 AM
73

Some of my coworkers have already taken jobs elsewhere that are offering 100% remote positions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 04:36 AM
41

She’s wrong, they don’t change. They all go back to their old ways eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:45 AM
294

You’re 27, not 17. Sorry too late
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:44 AM
25

Then there are the mama’s boys who go too far in the opposite direction and treat their mom better than you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:19 AM
34

Yes he was and ended up getting limp dick by age 30
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:33 PM
181

Never have but my friend did and he wanted a relationship right away, and was really nice to her. At this point i might be ok with it if he checked all the other boxes and was perfect in every other way. I cringe at how my ex husband would want to stick it in “dry” because it was “tighter that way”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:14 PM
24

It’s not that I don’t believe it, but you need to get her side of the story
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:44 PM
37

They will use their mental illness as an excuse for their bad behavior or cheating. Example- “I have low self esteem/depression so that’s why I was talking to that other girl so I could feel good about myself that I was still wanted/handsome/etc” Also men with mental health issues tend to do violent things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:32 AM
29

I wouldn’t want this guy anywhere near my nonexistent kids
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:21 AM
1

How many men do you know that fit the description of “humble caregiver” ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:19 AM
48

Men who want to work with children and mostly female coworkers are very suspicious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 02:33 AM
54

And I just mentioned in another thread that male teachers are LVM IMO, and here’s the proof lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 01:50 AM
47

How do you women not have trust issues for life after this? I’m not sure I can trust a man again after being cheated on and lied to
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:54 PM
298

I’m sure my ex thinks this was him in our marriage. Exact quotes: “I cooked dinner and you didn’t have sex with me!” Every nice thing done is an ulterior motive to get sex. A transaction like an ATM machine “I did this thing, now you owe me sex”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:47 PM
81

And the pay is “you get to stay in my shitty falling apart house/mobile home for free”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:42 PM
61

“If you worked out, you wouldn’t have cellulite.” I was 95 lb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:04 AM
93

When men want therapy they just text every ex they know until one of them will listen to his woes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:02 AM
3

You may disagree, but I have the opinion that all male teachers and nurses are LVM. Why do they want to work with mostly women? Or teenage children? It’s suspect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:26 PM
11

He doesn’t get to ask for the ring back AFTER you’re already married! Wowww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 11:15 PM
17

A lot of gaslighting I guess. Such as “the shower only gets dirty because it’s from your makeup” so then the shower became my chore. Same when the drain was clogged, bc it’s my long hair that clogged it. Fighting about it got tiring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 08:45 AM
30

Same! My ex-husband literally would say that he picks up his OWN mess so that means he isn’t causing me any extra work. Yes he did his own laundry (his clothes only, not the towels or sheets), washed “most” of his beard hairs down the drain, and organized his own stuff (tools, etc). Never once did he vacuum, mop the floor, clean the bathroom, etc. I did however, get him to mow the lawn after i had so many issues with the lawn service, but not without a lot of arguing about it. (I had a postage s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 06:00 AM
6

You are lucky you did not get raped. This is a lesson learned- do not do this again. Men are not your friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 05:17 AM
9

Yes!! Major red flag. This person is too lazy to make their situation better and would rather complain than apply to jobs or get more education/skills so that they can leave. And everyone knows you make more money by changing companies every so often and getting a big increase in pay, rather than sit around and wait to get a dollar raise. A guy like this will probably end up quitting his job randomly one day because he knows that you will cover the bills while he “looks” for a new job for the ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 05:06 AM
14

I saw that and immediately downvoted it too! I can’t believe this person actually thinks “mimicking sex with a child” is OK. If anything, that’s only going to make the pedo want to do it even more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:27 AM
5

He is doing too much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 03:15 AM
13

My NPD dad would always do this to me as a kid! He’s super short so you know he was pumping his little legs as fast as they could go lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 09:44 PM
23

I don’t like Steve Harvey but he was right about this one thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 03:22 PM
8

I read that whole post on askmen and it was horrifying that his breadwinner wife is working full time and raising an infant and 2 other little kids and all he can think about is MUH DICK. I say breadwinner because she is a teacher and he is a firefighter. My ex BIL was a firefighter and he made no money and was an uneducated LVM with only a high school degree he barely obtained.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 12:40 AM
12

Keep up with what? Do you not have male friends you can do your hiking/biking/whatever hobby with? I have my own hobbies and I’m not interested in keeping up with someone else’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 12:32 AM
5

You are lucky that your work fired him. Usually this does not happen and you have to keep working with your ex which is awkward. This is why I say to never date a co-worker. And it’s funny that even though you worked with this guy for awhile before you dated him, you still did not know his true character. I am reminded of the posts on here talking about their “HVM coworker” when you actually have no idea what he is like outside of work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 12:26 AM
27

For me it was “I’m going to go detail MY car” literally every time i cleaned the house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:51 PM
23

What on earth are you doing talking to men on Reddit??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 11:49 PM
157

He is texting while his GF is at work and just wants JO material
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 07:40 PM
28

Don’t be like me and end up marrying him. Limp dick by the time he was 30.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:31 PM
43

You reap what you sow!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 05:16 PM
25

I moved from the frozen north to the beach for a new job. My ex husband hated warm weather so he would never let us move and I was stuck trying to find a job in one little city. Never let a man hold you back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:43 PM
50

I would rather die alone than settle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:11 AM
82

Men regress into children when in a long term relationship and that is not sexy to me. A woman might get fat in a relationship but at least they don’t tear their toenails off in the bed or have shit stained underwear or let their pee go all over the floor and need a chore chart in order to get them to help around the house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:23 AM
537

What do you expect from a website that has incest subreddits and other disgusting stuff, and lets minors post nudes on porn subs with no verification of their age
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 11:57 PM
28

I just went to the front page- is this about how they hired a pedo-supporting trans admin? I think I’m done with Reddit, this place is truly sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 09:54 PM
62

I’m not doing those wife benefits either. I have a full time job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 09:47 PM
8

You don’t need hand muscles to hump a blow up doll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 02:34 AM
11

Do people really think the military guy is going without sex for an entire year when he’s deployed? He’s cheating with prostitutes or other females in the military
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 02:29 AM
21

Make all your photos private to friends only
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 02:11 AM
11

Thanks for checking into pornhub because I did wonder if maybe it was in his history only because it was a pop-up from another porn site. But I don’t think a pop up would take you straight to the homepage URL unless you actually clicked on the pop up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:00 AM
37

I also saw Chaturbate in my ex-husband’s web history. I’m against porn completely but since chaturbate is LIVE webcam girls you can interact with, it was way worse and seemed more like cheating to me. You were right to dump him. The whole point of chaturbate is to interact with the girls and tip them money to get them to do things. If he wasn’t at that point yet, he was going to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:48 PM
12

They don’t want to admit that what they’re doing is basically free prostitution
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 07:39 PM
3

In the USA you can call the IRS and get a copy of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:58 AM
1

His GF is like 10 yrs younger than him still
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 12:33 AM
77

1 child is less work than 1 child AND a manchild
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:08 PM
52

Imagine if the tables were turned and she revealed some pegging kink. The men in the comments would all say to break up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 05:49 PM
85

All the info you need is on the tax return
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 05:43 PM
1

I got one of these too. Looked at the person’s comments and it was some sociopath. I have since turned messaging completely off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:07 PM
27

Yes!!! This was me- the homeowner before marriage. He moved in with me and I just continued cleaning my own house the way it was before he moved in. But he claimed since he picked up after himself, there was nothing else he needed to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:59 PM
75

Lol at these men defending hiding a sexual fetish for YEARS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:49 PM
125

Can someone tell me how a 200lb man gives consent to a 95lb 5ft woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:46 PM
5

My ex said “I have my own problems and I can’t deal with yours too”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 01:54 PM
2

The old “moving out of town” excuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 01:31 PM
14

Don’t give them your full name and Facebook!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 01:25 PM
9

I never did understand how he would rap this song and then the next song would be about fucking hoes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:51 PM
3

I’m thinking she didn’t bc she was still “dating” him after she found out he had a GF. She should have told her right then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:44 PM
38

Drake is a pedo, did you not see his inappropriate friendship with that 13 yr old from stranger things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 11:14 AM
44

Lol this guy saying Tupac lyrics as if it was some poem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 11:11 AM
223

You can’t even post something about how often women are raped without them going “what about the .0001% of men who are raped?!?!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:51 PM
9

Watch out for free-spending men also though. My ex-husband offered to pay for everything for everyone all the time. Then when we got married and combined finances, he continued to do that and blew more money than he made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:25 PM
4

He had a gf for 8 yrs he didn’t marry- red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 04:45 AM
188

Funny bc the lyrics also talk about how he won’t give oral sex to women unless he’s severely drunk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 04:37 AM
29

So, we should just get a dog instead? What even was that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:54 AM
102

Don’t use OLD for starters. Men see this as a free prostitute app, unbeknownst to the women who are having sex immediately with strangers and gaining nothing from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:48 AM
20

Men don’t have female friends- they have women they are trying to fuck or “FWBs”. There’s a video out there of a person at a college asking if men and women can be “just friends” and literally every man said no and admitted they just pretend to be friends with the hopes of one day hooking up. If he wants friends, he can have male friends. I don’t want to be with a man that wants to hang out with other women when he has a GF/wife. It’s called respect. Do you think your man would like it or even A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:41 AM
41

The ones he robs of helping fund their college education so he can pay $1000s to have sex instead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:22 PM
25

“My wife got fat after she had kids so my love for her faded””feel sorry for me”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:11 PM
93

Yes!! A guy did this to me! I had mentioned a restaurant I wanted to try with him and he texted me weeks later that he was at that restaurant with his male roommate and his GF, and the girlfriend’s female friend with no invite for me to come there. It was so obviously done to make me jealous and if the girl was “just a friend” then why not invite me too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:47 PM
120

Have you EVER seen a guy “just hanging out” with a female friend that is unattractive? I haven’t. Men only hang out with women they’re trying to have sex with. Otherwise, they’d just hang out with their male friends...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:40 PM
741

I identify with “I don’t get jealous.” The minute a guy starts talking about some other chick- blocked. I’m not going to fall prey to some triangulation crap. This one guy I was talking to would text me with “wyd” and then I’d ask him back and he’d be like “hanging out with my friend “Suzie”. Ok well have fun, bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:32 PM
41

My ex husband knew my triggers and didn’t care and continued to do them (such as street racing while I was in the car and he’s a 40 yr old man)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:12 AM
152

Is he 8 yrs old?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:03 PM
2

No, and a kid should be given a flip phone, not a smart phone. Another parenting fail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:11 AM
2

The blocking would go on the router level
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:40 PM
22

I get that, but most parents don’t do anything at all. They give their kid an iPad and let them do whatever they want with it. At least make an attempt and call geek squad or whatever for help if you’re not tech savvy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:06 AM
51

I blame the parents who allow unfiltered internet access to an 11 yr old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:08 AM
169

Try getting a respectable job after your nudes are plastered all over the internet. Why even bother getting a degree? You’re not going to be able to use it for anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 02:44 PM
195

He’s walking around with a poopy ass instead of taking a SHOWER. Her standards are so low
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 04:28 PM
7

He was 5’7”...no more dating short guys, they have Napoleon complex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:22 PM
46

Like when 2 girls find out about each other and poof, now he has no girlfriends at all. Then he feels all sorry for himself when all he had to do was be happy with 1 girlfriend and not cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 01:14 AM
43

My ex-husband didn’t even like it if I drove the car with him in the passenger seat, because it made him look like “a bitch”. I can’t imagine him doing this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 11:47 PM
4

True, although in that case you still get scantily clad women. Not the content that interests me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 10:40 PM
28

If you sort by rising on /all it is nothing but porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:52 PM
50

Yes!! I was going to say restraining order!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 01:14 AM
90

If your name is not on the deed, don’t help pay off his mortgage. That’s like paying his car payment because you ride passenger in his car. He’s going to have that mortgage whether she lives there or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:19 AM
3

I don’t want herpes, thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:28 AM
35

Made his wife have kids and then cries because he has to quit his “fun” job and get a real job to support them. Boo hoo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:16 AM
28

Why don’t they just hire a prostitute?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:40 AM
25

Yes! They will find it hard to hide their girlfriend/wife for an entire 3 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:35 AM
23

He thinks 3 months is long term? This is just an agenda he is pushing to get women to have sex quick. It does work- for us. If a guy won’t wait, I don’t want him bc he clearly only wants me for sex. Edit- is this guy the mod of /dating?? I just got a message I’ve been banned from that sub when I’ve never even posted in it/looked at it, nor am I even interested in dating right now (and if I was I would never in a million years go on that sub for any “advice”) Lol butt hurt and definitely an agend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:32 AM
30

No, I get the impression that he is a manchild that doesn’t want to admit he’s aging. Extremely common thing for men. I don’t know anything about him other than what I’ve read on Reddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:08 AM
42

And then they’ll have a daughter and suddenly be “woke” on how women are treated like sex objects and not wanting that for her, while he previously treated women like sex objects his entire life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:26 PM
46

As a fellow childfree homeowner with a full time career/degree, I agree with you. I used to be married, but I owned my own house before marriage (bought in 2001 when houses were like $100k). Being married gained me NOTHING, it only made my life more inconvenient. All I got was this guy who moved in with me and then expected sex on demand and me to continue taking care of my house on my own. Years of sleepless nights due to the snoring. Having to freeze at night bc men need the house AC at 65 to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:13 PM
86

I don’t think you should have sex during the honeymoon phase, it clouds your vision. After the phase wears off, you’re like “ew why did I ever have sex with him?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:00 PM
42

Driving 20 minutes cost what, $2 in gas? Then she pays for the food and probably gives him sex? This dude is basically a gigolo getting paid to come have sex with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:53 PM
259

This is why you don’t date/marry men 12 years older than you. He is like Leonardo DiCaprio who wants the perpetual 25 year old girlfriend. It sounds like they had been together a long time so that means she had to have been pretty young when she started dating him which is a red flag to me, because what does a 35 year old man really have in common with a 23 year old besides just wanting you for your looks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:44 PM
19

I hate how they try to say “but women have support groups and men don’t, that’s why male suicide is higher.” Both men and women have access to the exact same support in the form of therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:36 PM
10

I’m sure that was a man’s idea, because that is what HE would want if he donated that much money. Kinda like those influencer videos where they are doing something nice for a homeless person while putting a camera up in their face- have you ever noticed it is always male influencers doing this? They can’t do anything nice unless they are getting recognition for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:29 PM
36

The dad is right- no educated woman is going to want a guy who lives in a rural village. There isn’t any jobs there for them to use their degree on, and I imagine the son has no skills beyond farming the family’s land. In the USA, more women are going to college than men also. We’re doing very well making our own money so we do not need to settle for indentured servitude with some scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:23 PM
65

This is why I don’t think men should be counselors/psychologists. There was a thread on the front page yesterday called “what was the worst thing a mental health professional has told you” and the replies were mostly about male counselors. Reddit men constantly complain about how men don’t have support groups- why is this? Is it because men lack empathy? And if so, wouldn’t that make them terrible at that job?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:55 PM
9

The fact that he lied to you is a big issue on its own. If he lies about that, there’s no telling what else he lies about. My ex husband lied about his porn spending also- he would always go deposit his biweekly paycheck but take out $300 in cash and claim he uses it on gas, us going out to restaurants, etc. I naively believed him until I started tracking all our purchases (our finances were combined). The cash he was taking out was just disappearing. I later found porn downloads on the PC from …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 01:48 AM
37

I dated a guy like that when I was in college. Everything was a competition- who is smarter, who has the better degree path and will make more money once we graduate, etc. it’s gets old quick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 01:03 AM
11

Oh he tried- he would bitch daily about wanting to quit his “stressful” job and chase his dream of traveling around in a van working random “fun” jobs. He worked at the same place from age 18-35 and never made any attempt to find a different job or even write a resume. It was so stressful to wonder if today would be the day he quit his job and I would be left supporting him. His job wasn’t stressful, he just literally didn’t want to work bc he was lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:06 PM
49

A man doesn’t give a woman twins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:57 PM
195

Lol my ex literally wrote on a message board “I work my ass off and she doesn’t have sex with me.” We were both working 40 hrs a week and made the same amount of money. I owned the house and he moved in with me. Why did he feel like I owed him sex because he did the minimum of merely having a JOB while I worked too? And did all the housework?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:31 AM
249

No one is nicer than the guy who hasn’t had sex with you yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 10:48 PM
27

Ask if he uses Reddit. If yes, he’s prob looking at porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:02 PM
7

It’s not that they will hit on you through LinkedIn, it’s that they will find out where you work and possibly stalk you. If you have a unique name, think about making up a nickname for yourself that they wouldn’t be able to google you with if someone asks what your name is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 04:41 AM
25

Be careful telling people what you do for work when you work in a male dominated field. All they need to know is your first name and what you do and they’ll instantly find you on LinkedIn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 02:56 AM
17

He was constantly fondling his balls. I dunno if they were itchy or what, but he’d be fondling his balls even while he peed, causing the stream to go everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 02:18 AM
7

Every time I hear this, they’re talking about years ago when tinder first came out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:55 AM
6

He wouldn’t be on a dating app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:51 AM
30

While Gwen does look amazing, I don’t want anyone on here (us women 40+) feeling sad that they don’t look like that or think that they’re aging badly. She’s had work done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:51 AM
19

Notice how if a man asks the same kind of relationship questions, the advice is always the opposite. Give men all the chances and communicate, but dump the woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:41 AM
15

Careful, it’s still a wild animal. My neighbors had one and when it got to be a full grown adult it spazzed out and bit one of the family member’s face for no reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:38 AM
37

That’s what your bathroom floor will look like if you date him. I speak from experience- years of cleaning up pee that ran down the side of the toilet while living with my ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:35 AM
7

Your post reminded me of something my porn addicted ex said and now I’m wondering if he was also looking in people’s windows like a creep. He would always mention things he saw in the neighbor’s windows. And I’m not just talking about the old man across the street who watched TV until 5am, it would be neighbors way down the street. He said he would just “accidentally” see things when he drove or walked by. Bullshit. When I walk/drive, I look forward and don’t crank my head to the left/right to p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 12:13 AM
16

Money wins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:20 AM
357

We really need to stop paying attention to male redditor’s comments. The men on this site are the furthest thing from “normal”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:09 AM
162

I don’t care if he’s “served his time”, I would not want to be in the same room alone as that man. If they hired him, I would be looking for a new job. I believe people can make stupid mistakes, like getting busted for car theft or something like that. But violent crimes like rape show a complete lack of morals and a mental state that should never exist in a person’s mind to begin with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 03:28 AM
21

My mistake was telling him I was new to dating after being in a long relationship. Do not do this!! He instantly honed in on this as a weakness and tried to say this is how dating is nowadays. Men think they are owed sex by date 2/3. Well, I don’t do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 08:20 PM
5

I believe you, it’s just surprisingly rare. I knew a guy like this, 6 month old baby and wife died of cancer at age 35. He was remarried within a year. Not a bad guy but obviously looking for a replacement mom ASAP. So many women do this on their own and get zero credit but when a man raises his own kid it’s like they’re superdad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 08:15 PM
66

The Jesus phrase on the wall explains why she puts up with it. That’s the way she was raised. (I don’t want to get into a religious debate with people here who might be Christian, but wives “serving” their husbands is part of that religious culture) She prob works a full time job too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:45 PM
3

Only taking care of the kid because he’s a widower and can’t just run away and pay a few hundred dollars a month to the mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:38 PM
15

To me, it means she thinks they’re still together and he’s lying to her. I would never date someone who still lived with an “ex”. There’s a very high chance they’re still having sex, separate rooms or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:07 PM
103

Looks like a homeless heroin addict on a dirty mattress
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 06:01 AM
124

“I don’t want to hurt my ‘ex-partner’s’ feelings so we can’t tell her about us, ok?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:26 AM
109

He asked to come to my house because it was date 2 and “some kind of penetration is expected by date 2.” I had not even kissed him yet. Yes he actually said the word “penetration.” I walked out. He was from OLD. Never again will I use OLD....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:46 AM
9

I’ll give a pass if I see a leashed child in a crowded airport where it’s so easy for them to disappear, but it looks like he leashes his kid while in his own yard because he’s too lazy to actually pay attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:38 AM
77

You see so many single moms forgo dating in order to focus on raising their kids. You literally never see this with single dads because they desperately need to find a woman to help him with his kids. Basically he is just looking for a bang-nanny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:35 AM
4

You need to dump him, not just stand up to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 12:24 AM
87

I’m in my 40s and weird shit like this was not commonplace like it is now, since porn back then was not normalized and only something perverts/creeps were into. A friend of mine who is a pathetic pickme started making out with a 25 yr old guy at a bar and he put his hand on her neck in a choking motion IN PUBLIC and I was beyond disgusted. (No I don’t go out with her anymore)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:41 PM
14

I had a guy friend like this. I told him I went on a date and he got all mad and pretty much walked out. This was back when I was 19/20, I stopped being friends with men since then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:35 PM
68

As soon as you get a boyfriend, he’ll probably stop talking to you. And vice versa if he gets a GF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 07:32 PM
7

You’re probably right, based on the lack of life skills she taught all her children (all boys, and all losers.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:08 AM
18

This was me. I spent years telling him his breath stunk. I think it was genetic because his mom had horrid breath too, like maybe they had tonsil stones or something. All I got in return was him saying that I was crazy and that it was really MY breath that stunk and I was smelling myself. When I got rid of him the first thing 2 people said to me was “I never wanted to say anything before, but how did you kiss him because his breath always stunk!” So glad to know it WASNT me after all. I had stop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:15 AM
17

Bonding with your son = getting boners together? Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 01:03 PM
42

At least Rush Limbaugh is dead now, and not a single tear was shed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:09 AM
30

Men who are “normal” and decently attractive are getting messages from women on their social media already (or being set up by their friends) and don’t need to resort to OLD. If a guy hints that he is single on FB and he’s a catch, any women he is friends with on there are going to be messaging him or vice versa. OLD are for the guys who can’t get dates bc they have no friends (and there’s usually a reason they have no friends). Or they’re a sex addict player.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 11:31 PM
133

I thought I was watching a teen yelling at his little brother. That’s the DAD???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:54 PM
101

Does he not think that women get ghosted?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:44 PM
102

She has 18 yrs of child support in common. Why else would she have sex with a 70 yr old? Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:07 AM
36

Birds of a feather flock together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 02:46 AM
24

Yes that’s true! I met a guy at a concert and got his name and number. Googled him later and he had mugshots online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:39 PM
58

OLD feels too dangerous to me. You’re risking getting date raped or ending up with a stalker because you’re meeting literal strangers who could have criminal records or be a sociopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 03:02 AM
16

And then he’ll have a daughter, and like many men will post something online like “it wasn’t until I had a daughter when I realized how bad I was treating women”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:10 AM
39

Getting married within a month isn’t queen shit, she just got lucky. You don’t know the real person you’re dating for a lot longer than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:42 PM
21

Copy and paste
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:28 PM
8

Imagine how much time these guys spend texting multiple women. They must spend literally all day on their phones to build emotional connections with all of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 08:45 AM
-10

I know you are trying to sleep but I want you to wake up and acknowledge me so I’ll touch and kiss you a bunch to disturb your sleep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:01 AM
62

Pretend your phone is ringing (on silent) and say “sorry I have to take this” and walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:31 AM
20

At least 19 if not 20. You don’t want a relationship messing with your studies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:21 AM
11

I don’t think it was meant in such a literal way, she was just warning women to not sleep with losers. If you spend your time with LVM, their bad qualities start to rub off on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:20 AM
42

And we have to read about how desirable “big asses” are and how gross a pancake ass is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:57 AM
24

What’s concerning is that we have to share this website with incels, and that there’s so many of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:45 AM
1

To tie a rope to. One on each side of the bed in the wall at mattress level. It was an apartment so there was no other reason they were there. Edit- this is what I’m talking about http://static1.squarespace.com/static/591094f7725e25240d414ba2/591b91afc03026da15263881/591b91dac03026da152647da/1494979034271/eyelet.png?format=original
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 11:34 PM
76

It’s also time to normalize not taking your husband’s last name. We aren’t property.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:30 AM
53

There was an eyelet in the ceiling also. I assumed it was for a hanging plant. Then he tells me later it was for a bondage sex swing. I was just a teenager and not about to start doing weird isht (and I won’t today either). He seemed like such a normal guy and this was 1999 before bdsm was “normalized”. I didn’t even know what bdsm was. Then he told me he was part of some bdsm website or something. Maybe it was like fetlife, I didn’t ask. I was too shocked because I didn’t understand how someone…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:19 AM
55

Have you ever known a straight male who had an unattractive female friend? Me either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:14 PM
291

My first boyfriend was 25 when I was 19. After a few weeks I found out he had a secret BDSM fetish and in his closet were whips and there were eyelets screwed into the wall for tying up his exGF who was apparently into it. Noped out of there so fast. I don’t understand why every guy I date ends up having some kind of awful secret and I’m just done. Where are the NORMAL guys at?!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:13 PM
12

I gained nothing from being married. I would have been better off with a roommate who paid rent to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:17 PM
67

We literally risk our lives when we go out on a date with a man. We don’t know if we’re going to gain a crazy stalker or be berated if we decline a second date. They don’t even appreciate that and ask for sep checks like they’re out with one of their buddies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:13 PM
33

It is possible to achieve enlightenment at a young age. Perhaps she grew up watching her mom do pick-me behavior?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 09:06 PM
2

My ex husband had all this, but blew all of his money on stupid crap and a porn addiction. Money alone does not make you a HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 04:01 PM
346

He doesn’t get that as a wife either because I work 40 hrs just like him. We can share chores 50/50
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:46 PM
133

How old are you OP? I’m guessing he’s trying to match with women half his age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:24 PM
3

These sound like things I would do with a friend, the type of friend you don’t really hang out with that much because they’re exhausting. And every time you hang out with them, you ask yourself why you’re still friends with them because they annoy you so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:05 PM
3

He looks like the creepy guy you see hanging outside a porn video shop. Oh wait, he literally is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:01 PM
11

The magazine is all about the things we can do for men- “how to give amazing blowjobs!” “How to look sexy for him!” Etc. Do men’s magazines talk about how to be a good husband? No. Because no one would buy it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:59 PM
12

Took me almost 2 years to get apprentice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:53 PM
8

This was the man’s side of the story which I don’t believe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:52 PM
14

I have cut out all friends who do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:49 PM
90

Never date a car guy. Just don’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:48 PM
9

Never write an email or a letter. It is better to just block them and pretend they don’t exist. They don’t care about what you wrote, and it only makes you look like you still care. They’ll also prob show it to their friends and laugh at how “crazy” you are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:47 PM
8

Yep, I would rather just get a roommate if I’m paying half the bills. At least the roommate will help clean and I don’t have to provide sex on demand and deal with snoring. I’m so happy I have my own bed again and can actually get a good sleep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:58 PM
3

While that is true, due to my bad experiences with dating men who had a SAHM, it is just easier for me to avoid them off the bat. I also avoid them if they were the youngest sibling. Maybe I’ve just had bad luck but they grew up spoiled being the youngest and got away with bad behavior as a kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:19 PM
9

I doubt he did anything in real life with anyone, but I could see him paying for phone sex lines. back in the late 90s-2001 it was still 56k dialup internet so there weren’t things like live video girls, only pictures. His CC had a $500 limit so it’s not like he was charging thousands to it unless he paid it off every week. I was with him almost every day but his family was really religious so he had to be home at 11pm (yes even at age 25, their house their rules). So yes I could see him going h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:24 PM
22

Yes I did, and thankfully I never bought property together with him. I owned my own house before marriage so he was not entitled to any of it. Yes he tried to get me to put his name on my house. Hellll no I had put $20k down on it before I even met him and I was not about to put his name on it with his zero investment. Now he’s engaged to a new chick who also owns her own house and they have already bought some property together to build a new house on. I’m so glad I did not fall into that trap …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:07 PM
16

Yes he had a secret porn addiction. But since he lived with his parents and the only pc was in the family room (this was like 2001) there is no way he could be spending that much on it seeing as his mom was always home. He was also a car guy that spent a lot modding his $5k car but it still doesn’t add up. He had less money than me even though we made the same amount and I owned my own house while he lived rent free with his parents. He didn’t take me on expensive dates or buy expensive gifts. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 03:07 PM
14

With the divorce rate being so high, it is foolish to not have your own career before you have kids. You need something to fall back on when the guy walks out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:27 PM
28

I basically paid for my own ring as well. It was $5k. He took out a loan for it and it had a $250 mo payment. We got married in like 6 months after he proposed and combined finances. No, I didn’t know he had gotten a loan. He lived with his parents with no rent or bills and worked a full time job so I assumed he bought it outright. I mean the guy was making 30k a year and drove a $5k car so he had to have money right?? Nope he had no savings and I never figured out what he spent all his money on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:20 PM
15

Cats clean themselves unlike a man with greasy hair/body and brushed his teeth for about 30 seconds as he gets into bed with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:42 AM
35

I really think it’s their mother’s fault for raising them that way. I don’t think I will date another guy who grew up with a mom who stayed at home and did all the cleaning and cooking. This was the case of my ex. His mom was picking up after him his entire life. He never realized how dirty things get because she was right there with a vacuum if he tracked dirt in the house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:31 AM
120

Men need to realize that doing a chore does not automatically get them sex. “I cooked dinner tonight, why won’t she have sex with me??” This is no different than changing out the empty toilet paper roll and expecting a reward. It’s something that he should be doing anyway when both people are working which is literally everyone I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:36 AM
72

That is foul. My ex used to sleep naked. I put a stop to that when I found a poop stain on the bottom sheet right in the area where his butt is. Unless you’re washing the sheets every day, put some damn pajamas on. (And no he never washed the sheets once, I always did, once a week. I’m pretty sure he would sleep for a month in the same poop stained sheets if I wasn’t there)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:21 AM
4

Yes. He says it’s bc she’s going to take care of him on his death bed. I think he has the beginning of dementia
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:22 AM
10

Thanks! I learned a new one today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:48 AM
18

Pileated woodpecker?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:26 AM
105

Omg I’m triggered, I married this guy too. I don’t know if dirt is invisible to them or if they just ignore it because they know we will do it. Actually I know my ex was just ignoring it because he had no problem making sure there wasn’t a speck of dirt on his stupid car he was obsessed with. On the days I cleaned the house, he wanted to look like he was “helping clean” by going into the garage and detailing his own car for hours (but never once mine). I wish I was joking but he spent $1000 on a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:19 AM
241

You made a lot of great points about buying a house/property together before marriage that I didn’t even think of. I actually have a friend who did this, and when they broke up it was so awkward because now they both lived in the house. He ended up moving out and stopped paying his half of the mortgage which put her into debt and ruined her credit score. There is another option though for the house title to go into the joint owners name only upon death. I only know this because my dad put his ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 07:03 PM
58

It’s the Boomer’s fault for not teaching their millennial children how to fix things, isn’t it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 06:06 PM
28

I don’t know why they think they can get away with it. Who even has the energy to maintain 2 relationships?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 06:05 PM
91

He sounds like a redditor and that isn’t a good thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:33 AM
64

Your post made me so angry! Ugh, the part about men needing a chore chart. Are they blind? Do they not see the floor is dirty? Or the skid marks they left in the toilet? Does the house just magically clean itself? Question- does he have a stay at home mom who did all the housework? I will never date anyone who had this, because their mother conditioned them to think the woman does the housework and probably picked up after them their entire life. Edit- I WAS you, except I married him thinking he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:06 AM
9

Yea that’s cool until he’s spending thousands on modding his car/bike, and spending all day detailing it instead of helping around the house. Just be cautious if he’s like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:57 AM
47

Might as well say “which park do you want to get raped in?” No I’m not meeting someone in a wide open space where I’m not sure if there will be other people around, unlike meeting inside a restaurant that is fully staffed with employees. (I don’t meet with strangers at all anymore, but if I did)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 10:03 PM
52

This reads like a rapist who says it is not his fault, it’s bc she was wearing a short skirt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 09:54 PM
21

Meanwhile, he did next to NO housework but when he did, he expected to be rewarded for it like OP’s pic. I’m not giving sex for doing the dishes of the meal that we both ate after we both got home from our full time jobs. I don’t think I can live with a man again and be put into indentured servitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 09:40 PM
1

No, he was waiting to see if I would notice that the PC was infected. He was hoping the virus would have magically gone away by the time I went to use the PC. He was religious and kept his porn use very hidden from me, and would not be OK with it if I was looking at porn. I had a vibrator before I met him that he guilted me into getting rid of, saying it was “disrespectful” to be using it instead of sex with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 06:14 PM
12

Exactly! I can only date men that I know, or other people know IRL and can vouch for them as being normal. You can say anything you want on OLD and no one is the wiser, while you’re really an unemployed weirdo living in mom’s basement with no friends. That actually happened to me once. The guy wasn’t a serial killer or anything, but he said he worked at the hospital and had a house. Turns out it was only part time job and he was just house sitting...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:02 PM
83

This is why we get UTIs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 02:45 PM
92

Wow, I was just thinking last night about the transactional nature of everything my ex-husband did, except I didn’t know it at the time. I thought he was just a nice person, but no. It wasn’t until later that I saw a post he had written complaining about why I don’t give him sex. He was like, “I cooked dinner but she didn’t have sex with me! I work all day and no sex!” Um, congrats on being a basic adult? I work a full time 40 hour job making the same amount of money. The nice things I did for h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 02:09 PM
93

Right, I have financial responsibility and a good job that pays well. It’s not asking too much to expect the same. Men have much more opportunity than women in the workplace so there is really no excuse for not having a stable career by a certain age. I’m also not interested in anyone who is still working menial jobs. Shows no motivation or goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 09:06 PM
24

I need some IRL FDS friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 08:01 PM
403

I’m in my 40s. If he isn’t financially stable by now, he never will be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:59 PM
54

I cut out a lot of female “friends” when I realized I wasn’t getting the same effort in return. I’m not going to be someone’s friend when they’re in between boyfriends and have them go radio silent once they find a new guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:04 PM
127

Women can like gaming and anime but not have it be their entire life. It’s just a side hobby. It seems like men who mention being into that are so OBSESSED with it that it becomes their identity and they don’t put any effort into education or a real career, just their gaming addiction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 05:56 PM
461

That’s how an incel is born. Won’t date people on their own level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 02:34 PM
20

He could have paid for a cleaning service. But no, he was just looking for free sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 10:35 AM
9

After my divorce I walked away with everything I already had before I met him, and nothing more. I might as well have gotten a roommate, at least they would have cleaned the house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 10:28 AM
19

He got a porn virus on my PC. We were 25 and I had my own house but he still lived with mommy and daddy so he was at my place a lot. While I was at night school and he was hanging at my house, he went on my pc to look at porn and got a virus on it. I got home from school around 10pm and we hung out for a little bit before he left to go back home. The minute he left I hopped on my PC to do homework and discovered porn pop ups that wouldn’t go away. I immediately called him and asked him what he d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 10:20 AM
114

Meaning- he wants someone totally committed to him while he can be free to keep dating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 04:58 AM
29

If the house was bought before marriage she is out of luck in most states. She can try to get half of the equity gained during the marriage though, or what she’s put into it like improvements. I know because I’ve been through this. Ladies- if you move into a guy’s house he owned before marriage you are just paying his mortgage for him. Your name isn’t on the deed. You only get half the things you bought together during the marriage, not everything he owned before that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:41 PM
2

If your man is on leave for many months or a year, where do you think he is getting sex from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:44 AM
4

I would rather have that than live with a man ever again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 03:37 AM
43

Cats don’t spend all your savings on stupid car parts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:53 PM
30

What movie?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 11:51 PM
11

Haha yes I will never buy AirPods, I want everyone to see the very visible white cord.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:55 AM
65

Make up a fake name. You are now Carol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:25 AM
24

Yes, just watch a few episodes of catfish to see how easily you can be found, even if you’re trying to hide your identity. NEVER give out your cell phone number on OLD. Just do a google search of your cell phone number and your full name and maybe address pops right up. Even telling someone just my first name, city, and the industry I work in will lead you right to my LinkedIn profile. For example, if you’re a nurse named Mary who lives in XYZ city and has a LinkedIn profile, it is so easy to ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:23 AM
21

At first I didn’t know where you were going with this story and then I was like wow! You are exactly right!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 12:13 AM
29

You’ll have to get a man with a flip phone and no internet at home, and doesn’t own a PC. And doesn’t go to sketchy massage parlors. Good luck. Edit- and I’m so sick of Reddit saying it is natural, because it is NOT. Before the internet, guys who bought porn dvds were seen as perverts. No reputable person wanted to be caught dead at a porn shop that sold them, only disgusting losers went there! Nothing is natural about watching other people have sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:49 PM
200

How many men sweep the floor or wash the clothes (besides their own)? My ex vacuumed like twice ever and only because I asked him to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:28 PM
16

The only reason men “blow cold” is when they aren’t that interested in you (and are most likely entertaining other women, or trying to).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:10 PM
103

“I can’t believe she cut her hair so short, no man is going to find her attractive” is the worst
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:47 AM
87

And let me guess, this female best friend is attractive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 12:55 AM
131

The sexual innuendo about him being naked with a toothbrush in his butt would have me swiping left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 08:01 PM
9

I would stop associating with any of those men who didn’t think it was rape. Edit- oh, they were just randoms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 06:02 AM
57

Him: my facebook friends say they would never let their wives tell them what they can and can’t buy! (He wanted to put “mods” on a brand new $40k car we just dropped $10k down payment on) As his friends all drive 15 yr old station wagons. Also: “Oh I didn’t realize I spent $800 in micro transactions on porn”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 05:59 AM
27

Ok my list was nothing like that, it was just a list of repairs the house needed. I literally did 99.9% I all the home repairs but I made the list in expectation that he would see it and chip in. He didn’t. But he sure did spend his free time obsessively waxing his stupid car or jerking it to porn though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 03:52 AM
6

I don’t want to have sex with someone who is constantly pissing me off by doing nothing around the house and acting like I’m the maid while working 40 hrs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 10:55 PM
74

I had a honey do list on my fridge. Years went by and not a single one got done unless I either nagged for months until it turned into a big fight with him storming away to go do it, or I just did it myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 10:52 PM
25

He was 35 at the time and does NOT play video games or have any gaming systems. I would say he is a low level PC user as well...except for knowing how to browse to porn sites. I was in total shock at how he even found this. He is religious so in his mind maybe it didn’t count as cheating?? But he looked at normal porn too. I feel like maybe he had a lingerie fetish and he liked picking out virtual outfits for his computer doll. Super fucking weird. He immediately got another GF after me though a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 10:33 PM
15

He might as well ask if you cook and clean too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:48 PM
118

I guarantee it’s a porn video game. This was one of the last straws for my ex-husband as well. In a little over a month there was $800 on the credit card for some kind of “software” he claimed was for work. But it was all charged in $20 increments. So I googled the name of the software on the card and it came back as some virtual porn where you purchase outfits and whatever for your virtual sex doll. He finally admitted to his lie and said he didn’t realize he had spent that much on it. It disgu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 06:46 PM
326

Why is it you always see the man immediately create a new family? So selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:39 AM
17

She’s moving in and I guarantee paying him rent AND being a live in maid. Why???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:56 AM
105

Men commonly leave after a child is born, because they aren’t #1 anymore. They see your dog as a threat to the competition for your attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 01:59 AM
6

Don’t be a free prostitute. That’s how men view it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 11:49 PM
11

I internet stalked a guy I was texting and found out he had domestic violence mugshots. That was the last time I tried talking to any men I didn’t know. No OLD for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 11:33 PM
2

The beards pictured look unkempt, I would think they were a homeless man if I saw them on the street.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 11:29 PM
35

They don’t enter relationships just for sex. They also enter them to get someone to move in with them and pay half the rent. And cook, clean, etc after our own 40 Hr work week. why are we doing this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 11:21 PM
3

You say dying alone with cats like it’s a bad thing. Personally I’m ok with it, if that’s how I go (most likely)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:53 AM
5

You know the weird kid in high school? This is him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:49 AM
9

Men are incapable of friendship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:47 AM
32

There are no male beauty standards since dad bods and beards are now seen as attractive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:44 AM
11

You can only hear “I’ll get around to it” so many times...YEARS later shit wasn’t done. Most of the stuff I ended up doing myself using YouTube tutorials. He was totally useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:05 AM
53

Also want to say HIRE. My ex would not fix anything around the house even though he was an engineer and more than capable. I had to hire his dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:36 PM
48

Another example of how men will ruin your life and just walk away with no guilt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 03:32 AM
18

Sounds like that woman will never retire and will be working in a minimum wage job until she dies. Also a machine/robot can make a coffee, so don’t bank on that job being around much longer. Service industry jobs rarely come with a 401k or health insurance either. The only people who are making tons of tip money are young and good looking and can get a position at the best places.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:15 PM
18

I don’t know who she is but I imagine she started dating him before she was famous in order to use his connections to get ahead. There is no way someone like her would be attracted to a regular Joe who looks like he does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:58 PM
40

I would never live there, or date someone whose dream was to live there. I don’t care how pretty it is or whatever, the type of people that flocked there for the $15 minimum wage so they could continue their dream of being a service industry burnout are not the type of people I want anything to do with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:54 PM
41

Using porn at all is never ok. It objectifies women as objects and supports a terrible industry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:11 PM
18

Great list. I know several single women with college degrees and own their own house (myself included). Single men who have these things? None. I’m not going to settle for a guy who does not have the bare minimums of what I have for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:23 PM
120

For my dealbreakers, I would add “addictions of any kind” and “uses porn” to that list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:20 PM
142

Show him your tik tok full of hot men and see how he reacts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:54 PM
80

I have more money being single then I did with my ex-husband. I owned my own house before marriage and he moved in with me from his mommy and daddy’s house at age 25 and continued to spend all his money with his numerous addictions (such as modding his car to impress other dudes online, and porn subs). He didn’t contribute to making my life better at all and it felt more like he was my adult child living in my house. So glad I’m not dealing with that shit anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 02:45 AM
65

Thanks. My ex-husband was subscribed to an “only fans” type of thing, before only fans was made mainstream and “acceptable”. He was hiding it from me on a secret credit card. To me, that is cheating plain and simple. To others, I was looked at as some kind of psycho for divorcing him over “porn that all men look at.” I later found chaturbate in his search history which I know is live cam girls which is even worse as it’s a real person you can interact with. If the tables were turned there is no …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:52 AM
132

An ex-friend of mine’s husband got busted by the police at a happy ending Asian massage clinic. He told her he had a porn addiction as his excuse. She’s still with him bc they have a kid. I don’t have kids so when MY husband told me he had a porn addiction (again) I ditched him. Was I suppose to sit around and wait for his porn addiction to graduate to something more serious like massage parlors or cheating on me with a real person? I got shit on so much by everyone (male and female) for not “su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 11:19 PM
68

31 is early for a mid life crisis which it sounds like he is having. Grow the F up. Unless you have money, none of these college girls are going to want this guy and his receding hairline. Ok so he isn’t attracted to women his age, well I’m not attracted to bald men either but it’s called being realistic that most men in my age range are going to have severely receding hair, if any at all, and terrible skin because men refuse to wear sunscreen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 09:32 PM
9

Unfortunately they were telling him he was totally in the right because in men’s mind, separation gives you the right to start immediately dating other people. These men were all married too. I feel sorry for their wives. In reality I found messages of him trying to meet up with this chick before I filed for divorce but he of course didn’t tell them that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 09:25 PM
79

Never date a car guy. The thing he is holding in his hand in the last pic is a turbo. They are $2k+ for just the part. Unless you want to deal with a husband who gets upset and pouts when you won’t let him spend thousands in “car mods” every year, on top of a car payment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:40 PM
11

Honestly I got into his Facebook account (when we were still married, but separated) and he was saying to his private buddy chat group of like ten guys how guilty he felt for dating this other chick during the separation period (the one he moved in with) and how he wished he would have waited until the divorce was final to spare my feelings. How nice of him /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:35 PM
40

I am waiting for the day this happens with my ex-husband. I have him blocked everywhere and he is happily engaged to a new chick but I’m sure years down the line he will think it’s ok to contact me just to see how I’m doing. More so to see if I’m doing OK after what he did to me, in order to make himself feel less guilty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:12 PM
144

I’m having this issue too. A spouse is supposed to make your life easier, not harder. I see a lot of couples getting an apartment together, splitting the rent 50/50, and then the woman is stuck doing most of the housework even though they both work full time. Just get a roommate instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:49 PM
12

Their tik tok is a shared account. This only ever means he cheated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:39 PM
68

STOP offering to “be friends” with men. They don’t know what this means. Either you date them, or you never talk to them again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 07:42 PM
48

Literally all he did was be late for work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:59 PM
161

Men who can’t support a family on one income can’t tell women anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:44 AM
11

Who are you going to rely on when you eventually break up? THAT is your real BFF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:50 PM
7

Don’t date guys that use Reddit. That was your red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:02 PM
13

Clearly she is the fill-in while he waits for female BFF to start liking him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:58 PM
45

Reddit IS a porn site. Of course the men on here promote it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:52 PM
32

Getting shit faced past age 22 is a red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:50 PM
27

Men don’t change! He would eventually go back to his old ways. Also “I’m ready now” means he is in a dry spell and will say any lie he can just to get access to free on demand sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:49 PM
45

If you had a flat tire, would he come help you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:26 PM
72

Ah, the old “come over for dinner so I can spend $5 on spaghetti and get sex in return”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:56 AM
90

As kids we are taught not to get in a car with a stranger. Why on earth are women going to the homes of internet strangers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:34 AM
232

Any guy that is touring around playing shows is not being celibate and waiting to get home to you...same goes for military men. Avoid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:28 AM
2

I would never date a guy with kids. I’m childfree. When my dad got divorced from my mom, he moved his new GF in to take care of me. She was awful and abusive but he really didn’t care, he was just looking for a live in nanny/bangmaid and I imagine most of these single dads are too. I’m not signing up to raise someone else’s kid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:20 PM
1

Do you live alone = I don’t want you coming to MY place. I want to go to yours so I can slink out when I’m done
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:11 PM
1

1-2 times a day but they’re 3 hour long jerk sessions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:08 PM
1

I’ve been depressed and didn’t take a shower for a couple days, but at no point would I leave shit caked on my ass. That’s beyond depression if you ask me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:02 PM
2

I did this, because we started dating at age 22, and got married at 26. I figured we were both young and he would eventually mature. He didn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:52 PM
3

A relationship is supposed to add to your life, not take pieces of it away (like your hobbies)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:45 PM
13

How many married dads do you know with a female best friend? Lol none
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:32 PM
10

Right, how is watching people have sex via live cam not cheating, but what if you were in the room with them watching them have sex? Is it cheating now? I think both are cheating and are technically the same thing. What if he hired a hooker and watched her masturbate in person? Most people would say it is definitely cheating. I don’t think it’s any different than watching live cam girls. Porn is cheating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 08:26 PM
-1

Oh I’m def not sympathizing towards him, I just see 2 people with issues and a toxic relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:34 PM
10

...the safety of my presence?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:11 AM
415

He forgot, because he doesn’t care. Plus he’s also talking to a dozen other women so he can’t keep up on everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:14 AM
34

They’ll take you on dates and have sex with you, but that’s pretty much it. Otherwise you’re encroaching on their freeeedom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 02:01 AM
67

“Waehler added that these men often make very good companions, "but if women push them too far or ask for more than what they are capable of giving, these bachelors will frequently push them away or end the relationship." As someone who has been married and never will marry again, this sounds ok to me. I will never live with any man again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:45 PM
93

My dick is big, it’s just hidden under the fat, I promise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 11:43 PM
1

It never bothered me in the past what a guy’s height was. I’m short so 5’7” is still several inches taller than me. However, I won’t date a short guy again due to the insecurity and Napoleon complex he had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 09:19 PM
4

Lol my ex told me he was 5’9” when we first met. I laughed and got out the yardstick (we were at my house). He was 5’7”. He said he must have shrunk because in high school they measured him at 5’9”. At that point high school was like 5 years ago. I was like Um do you not get measured at the doctors office? He was really trying to cling to that high school measurement where he probably didn’t take off his gym shoes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 02:35 PM
20

Blowjob week while wearing Lip Venom lip plumper
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:51 AM
68

Looks like Florida
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:49 AM
98

“and if you have a flat ass you can just spend an hour every day doing squats so you can have the body I prefer” (said by guy with beer gut)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 11:56 PM
105

I’m so sick of the guys whining about height when they would overlook things a woman cannot help- like if she was skinny and flat chested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 11:14 PM
4

Gee I wonder why he got divorced? Could it be because of him spending thousands of their money on porn? FWIW my ex spent $800 on porn in a little over a month and lied about the credit card charges (the porn companies will disguise the charges to sound innocent, but I researched the charges and found out what it was). Once he confessed, he said he didn’t realize he had spent that much on it. It truly is an addiction when you’re just clicking buttons while jacking it and racking up $20 charges pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 03:23 PM
2

Trippy video
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 01:38 PM
162

“. Despite being married to a very attractive woman, I couldn't get aroused with her and I would blame her for this. I wrecked her self-esteem” This is why I ended my marriage. Great article.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 01:21 PM
3

It was in high school and yea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 01:10 PM
29

I think you should check if any guy on bumble is also on tinder, because if he is then you know he is faking wanting a relationship for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:48 AM
18

A friend did that to me point blank with one of those party poppers. Left a welt on my forehead. Glad it wasn’t my eye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:44 AM
26

And they also want you to pay half the bills on top of being their cook and slave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:43 AM
118

My ex-husband did something nice like this for me, but then I read his texts to his friends about how he hoped he would get a threesome out of it. So now I’m skeptical of this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:39 PM
15

I once dated this guy who unbeknownst to me at the time, was always with this other chick on Sunday’s and so he was never available on this day with varying excuses. She worked in the “service industry” (like waitresses, hair dressers, etc) and I guess Sunday is like a Saturday for them because they don’t work on mondays. So, do you ever see him on Sunday’s? He might have this day reserved for hanging out with a girl who has that kind of schedule.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:09 PM
146

Whatever they can do to justify and normalize their porn addiction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 11:02 PM
236

“Why won’t women online be my free therapist?!?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 10:59 PM
35

I doubt he would be ok with it if she was hanging out with her ex boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 10:40 PM
53

Any woman could walk into a bar or get on a dating app and have sex within the hour. That’s the opposite of involuntary celibate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 07:13 PM
11

I think you should be your real self instead of faking it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:31 PM
150

Someone said FDS is the female version of PUAs which doesn’t even make sense. We aren’t trying to pick up guys or string them along falsely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:15 PM
-2

Paywall
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:06 PM
28

Assuming he has children from a prior marriage, I feel bad for them. They can kiss their inheritance goodbye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:57 PM
23

Yes I should easily get over a 10 year marriage in a few months
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:30 PM
2

Their friends will ALWAYS agree with them, even if they secretly think otherwise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 09:39 PM
2

I’m in IT. If you’re out of work while taking care of kids, your skills are now obsolete and it will be hard to get back into the workforce. I could not be with someone like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 09:32 PM
2

I don’t think the man was going without sex though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 09:20 PM
3

Men won’t TAKE THEMSELVES to therapy like women do. They would rather do nothing and then cry about how no one cares.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:51 PM
3

Every guy on 90 day fiancé
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:50 PM
2

So is she sucking his D under the desk while he looks at porn on the pc? How embarrassing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:38 PM
9

Imagine taking jobs you’re overqualified for just to meet women. He cares about that more than progressing his career
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:21 PM
32

Then they come to bed at 2 or 3 am and wake you up wanting sex, like you’re their on-demand sex doll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 03:34 PM
118

“He pays for dates and opens the door for me. Such an HVM!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 06:02 AM
34

He was going to repair the necklace and then give it to his new GF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:35 AM
13

Your mom had shitty female friends. However, yes this did happen to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:20 AM
32

Behold, the male redditor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 03:15 AM
3

My ex husband did not. I’ve only seen lower class men do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:11 AM
21

“Someday” means “if I can’t find anyone better, I’ll settle for you”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:10 AM
3

Stealth slide YOUR penis into him and pretend you forgot the condom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:07 AM
4

Stealth slide YOUR penis into him and pretend you forgot the condom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:07 AM
14

I’ll say this every time- avoid the #vanlife dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 01:05 AM
8

Men can hide their true self for years...just ask their moms who still think he’s a perfect angel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:56 AM
31

That could be posted on /nice guys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 10:07 AM
58

He wants HER to be in a relationship with just him, but HE can date other people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:54 AM
46

I love this. Several years ago I realized this and stopped feeling guilty for saying no to people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 02:01 AM
7

It’s not about peeing in the hot tub, it’s about his maturity level. Who wants to be married to someone who acts like a literal child? How can this person be trusted to raise children and be a good partner when they can’t even use a toilet? Guarantee this man will go around saying she divorced him over him peeing in the pool once but it’s not about that at all. He’s disrespectful and childish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:28 AM
22

It sounds like the kid is screaming because it’s daytime and the dad is supposed to be watching him, but is sleeping instead. Is he giving the kid attention, food, clean diapers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:13 AM
1

For me, they would reappear in November, like shortly before thanksgiving. Why is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:08 AM
24

It’s also very possible he cheated on her while she was gone and was avoiding sex until he got an STD test or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:03 AM
14

Articles about sex shouldn’t be in teen magazines unless it’s educational such as teaching consent/boundaries. Ugh and it even advocates sexting which can be life ruining if the pictures are shared, which most teen boys would do with their bros.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:54 AM
3

The wife asked for more screenshot proof and then thanked my friend for telling her. But ultimately she stayed with him because my friend peeped on her profile almost a year later and she was still with him. She was way way out of his league too. She was thin and pretty and he was overweight and old looking, (but still dressing like a skateboarder.) I think they had been together for a very long time and she prob stayed bc the kids were still in elementary school
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 12:58 AM
3

They do this while having a GF when they are thinking of breaking up. There is no way they can do it properly and actually be single first, as that would mean having no sex. They must monkeybranch back to a guaranteed source of NSA sex first, then break up with GF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:25 PM
13

A friend of mine sent me a pic of a guy she was talking to on tinder. He had part of the name of a business he worked for visible in the background- like all we knew was it started with “D” and the type of industry it was (or that he said he worked in). Well it is not hard to google (for example) electrical companies that start with “D” in your location, and then head over to LinkedIN and find the guy’s full name and pic on there. She then went to FB and found the real pics of him 10 years older…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:18 PM
35

You mean they will use cam girl sites and comment on Reddit porn subs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:46 PM
14

My ex-husband would come into my tiny 5x7 bathroom when I was using it, saying “married couples don’t hide anything from each other.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:24 AM
5

I’ll give her a pass since they are both still teenagers. It’s ok for a teenager to play video games. Past college, not so much...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:06 AM
36

I remember my idiot ex-step-sister who never played/watched a single sport pretending to be all interested in football for her sports obsessed boyfriend. Why bother? I don’t have to like the guy’s hobbies, especially if I dislike it. I hate camping and hiking, but so many guys are into that and if they are expecting a “hiking buddy” to shit in the woods with them, it’s not going to be me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:00 AM
66

And she probably pays rent to her boyfriend to pay off his mortgage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 01:42 AM
7

This would have spoke to me more if it showed what she was missing out on- fighting, gaslighting, etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 12:04 AM
46

No different than the MLM people who were mean to you in high school, reaching out on social media like you were good friends in order to sell their crappy mlm product
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:20 PM
12

The boy came over so he could make sure she wouldn’t change her mind about taking the pill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:01 PM
50

What does a retiree on social security have to offer a woman who has her own social security income?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 07:49 PM
14

Same, I know many on this sub want marriage but I’ve been there done that and I’ll never do it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:17 PM
7

How about you stop judging people based solely on their appearance? Why is your heart hurting over someone who could have a shit personality?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 10:54 AM
18

“2-3 times a week and almost every weekend” means 4-5 days a week with the friends partying and drinking. Grow up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 10:46 AM
1

He sounds homeless and probably thought he could stay at your place for free
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 10:42 AM
50

Is it not literally the same response they all give? And then you end up apologizing to him for being “crazy” about him innocently liking pictures of his exes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 02:07 AM
53

In psychology class they taught us that sex was a physiological need next to air and water. (Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs) What a crock of shit. If it was a need, then virgins would be dying in the streets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 01:21 AM
145

“It’s just a picture, I like everyone’s pictures. Did I say I wanted to f**k her? Why are you always ruining everything? I was just trying to have a nice day but here you go being crazy and weird.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 11:59 PM
7

I’ve done this and it’s kind of hard to want to have sex with them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 01:03 PM
9

Or stay together but miserable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:10 AM
23

That’s exactly what he said when I kicked him out and he got his own apt. I said how come you can clean your own place but you didn’t clean ours? He said “because I knew you would do it”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 12:57 PM
169

My ex-husband made the same amount of money as me but got home 3 hours earlier and did literally nothing. I think he vacuumed twice ever because I asked him to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:18 AM
2

I’m totally ok with dying alone. I’ve been married before and I don’t need to repeat it. BTDT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:16 AM
6

My ex- husband definitely loved me. But he had addictions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:10 AM
18

I would take that with a grain of salt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:07 AM
23

Do you really have to ask? He wants sex and you’re an easy option than trying to find someone new. He also prob called 3 other exes and left the exact same vm. They do this when they go through a dry spell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 02:51 AM
21

I mean technically, they’re being treated better than any other chickens, but it’s still gross. I think parrots are gross too though but people have them in their houses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:44 AM
8

I agree, that’s why I said they “think” they don’t cheat. But they do. They all do....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 11:52 PM
27

Men having a mid-life crisis ARE terrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 10:47 PM
8

I would absolutely not date someone who has ever dated one of my friends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 08:30 PM
20

Men with good jobs, personality, and who are moderately attractive have no shortage of women IRL. The only people who need matchmaking services are going to be socially inept, live with parents, etc Edit- I haven’t used them, I guess this is my experience from watching reality TV
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 08:24 PM
35

Because they think gamers don’t cheat. They know where the gamer is at all times (at home on his pc) and think the gamer loves her because he invites her over every night (he wants food and sex and doesn’t get out enough to have a harem of women).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 08:16 PM
5

It means “I’m going to have sex with other people at the same time as you, and you can’t be mad about it. I’m also going to go MIA for days bc I’m with another chick, and you can never come by unannounced”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 08:09 PM
68

Medical debt is one kind of debt the spouse can actually be held liable for. I looked into this when my now ex-husband started talking about how he wanted to quit his high paying job, move to CA, and fulfill his dream of working at a ski resort for min wage and no health insurance, at 40 years old. I filed for divorce quickly after that as I knew the first thing he would do is break his neck with his old out of shape body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 07:49 PM
5

I just watched a TikTok where the wife put a note under his dirty laundry that he will win a ps5 if he picks up his clothes. This is the equivalent of a chore chart with gold stars
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 07:42 PM
2

He prob sent three emails just like that to his other three exes. It means nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 05:21 PM
7

So is this a mother and son? That’s the only time they should need help learning to groom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 05:09 PM
1

I’ve only met one guy who did this and he was extremely spoiled as a child by his mom so he feels entitled. Normal guys do not do this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:38 AM
4

He sent this while he was dating someone? He either wanted to rub it in your face or thought he could make you a side piece
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:34 AM
30

He gives massages in expectation it will lead to sex. Not because he’s doing it for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:24 AM
7

Was it really a freak accident?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:21 AM
20

Ok great, but why is she asking him to look at porn?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:07 AM
19

Omg this was my ex husband when my mom was in hospice and about to die. He decided it was a good time to go hiking with his friends and of course she takes a turn for the worse right after he left and couldn’t be reached because there is no cell signal when you’re hiking in the middle of nowhere. When he got back my sister and I told him that going hiking during such a critical time was selfish and stupid and he threw up his arms like in that pic and said FINE I’ll never go hiking again! Instead…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:04 AM
142

That’s exactly it. Most of the guys my age had moms who didn’t work, and therefore would do everything around the house. Nowadays, men don’t make very much money so their spouse also has to work full time, yet the man still expects her to do all the shit his mom did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 03:47 PM
4

I work a full time job, I’m not doing that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 04:18 AM
3

This is (one of the reasons) why I’m divorced. Apparently having “only fans” subscriptions you hide on a secret credit card doesn’t count as cheating. (Couldn’t hide it anymore when he got ED) Everyone took his side and thinks I’m irrational for divorcing him over porn because “every guy does it.” Flip the script and see how these guys act if they caught their girl with secret porn subscriptions to hot guys- guarantee they would say “that’s cheating!” and be super pissed and feel all inferior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:52 PM
2

I agree, I don’t want to be “branded” as a divorcee on my profile. Everyone has exes. It was in the past and I’ve moved on and my ex is engaged now so it’s not like I have some ex-husband still in my life. I would tell someone if they asked of course but the main point is I’m single and that’s all that should matter. Are we going to make people put the number of SOs they’ve lived with on their profile too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:43 PM
1

Maybe I’m not attracted to men because this did nothing for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:16 PM
2

I’ll say it again, this is why I’m against #vanlife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:53 PM
1

What’s next- Men clean up after themselves day?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:45 PM
5

How stupid are these guys? Do they not realize a friend or coworker might see his profile and tell his wife? A nice man doesn’t cheat on his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 04:09 PM
27

Meaning he has watched so much porn that he is incapable of getting off to normal sex anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 04:03 PM
40

“I couldn’t find any better so I settled for your mom”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 03:48 PM
17

Just because the guy agrees not to choke her doesn’t mean he won’t resent her for “crushing his dreams/fantasy.” I wouldn’t want to date someone who is into hurting people, period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 04:09 PM
39

My pickme friend was dating this dbag guy who had terrible friends. One of them said he didn’t date divorced women because they “clearly make bad choices.” Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:37 PM
6

They should have photoshopped in a more realistic guy than that. Add 200 more lbs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 10:51 PM
21

This is exactly what happened to me, but everyone took his side because “all guys look at porn.” They all think I’m religious or a prude for kicking him out. I was a “bad wife” for not supporting and helping him with his addiction over and over again. He was subscribed to some porn girl’s “only fans” (before there was only fans)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 11:58 PM
36

Nope, they just make posts on Reddit saying how men don’t have support systems like women do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 11:59 AM
17

This is grandma’s house she left to her grandson in her will
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 12:53 AM
17

Wow what a great guy for not ditching his wife /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 01:50 AM
8

Any attention gives them the impression you care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 01:43 AM
3

“I’m an adult so yes I know how to cook food for myself.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 11:47 PM
6

Guys want someone who looks good and makes them feel good. Your intelligence or career do not matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 11:39 PM
11

It sounds like she thought they were friends but as a niceguy, he wanted something more which freaked her out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 11:31 PM
4

Yes, that’s what I’m telling myself. Very rarely does a relationship last forever these days so why bother? I do miss the companionship though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 07:49 PM
11

I’ve been really struggling with this wondering if I should have put up with the porn bc my ex husband was HVM in almost every other way. At age 40s there isn’t going to be anything better out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 01:08 PM
1

Just because you don’t have a mortgage doesn’t mean he gets free rent too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 05:57 AM
7

Just remember that friendships can last a lifetime while boyfriends and husbands come and go
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 05:54 AM
9

And then notice in the scene he says he is working his ass off so she can eventually stay at home and become his live-in maid, and ruin her career. Except he hasn’t even reached the point of making that much money yet but is still expecting her to be his maid. He is absolute trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 05:14 PM
8

Your reputation around town is about to change
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:58 PM
17

Ugh that was triggering for me. I had a “chore chart” for my ex-husband on the fridge for years and not a single thing got done unless I asked 20 times and it would eventually turn into me screaming at him to do it, which he still never did. I’m not talking about cleaning, I did all of that (and worked full time). It was stuff that I could not do like “fix squeaky dryer.” I ended up hiring people to do these things or did it myself with YouTube tutorials. I hate how we have to ask men over and o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:42 PM
29

If your name isn’t on the deed, you ARE a tenant. You can be kicked out if he wants you to, because it’s not your house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:27 PM
6

Whaaat? They weren’t using exam software that monitors them via webcam???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 11:08 PM
30

I can hear the lonely men with no GF yelling SIMP!!! While this guy is in a loving relationship and happy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 11:01 PM
24

Olsen twins countdown websites
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:59 PM
2

Don’t worry, they’ll all be divorced by 39
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:01 AM
17

But...but.....BiOLoGy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 11:15 PM
81

I know a guy like this. She dumped him and 5 years later he still can’t get over her. He has relationships in the meantime with other girls to pass the time while secretly pining over his ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 07:54 AM
-8

I’m mad he asked to hold hands with a stranger he’s known for only a few minutes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:58 AM
5

Not just rapists, I want an OLD that does criminal background checks for anything. And verify their job, too. And whether they’re still married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:53 AM
7

I’m so glad you broke up with him. This wasn’t a prank. He knew exactly what he was doing and how much work you put into this plant. I don’t know why they like to ruin the things that are important to us- jealousy maybe? My ex did the same thing to me- he ruined something he knew I worked so hard at which was my college graduation. He didn’t go to college so maybe he was jealous of me. He decided to pull a “prank” and get a bunch of people in the audience to yell a stupid phrase he knew I HATED …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 01:50 AM
1

Chef could be a line cook at a cheap diner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 09:41 PM
28

They send this at 2am hoping you are drunk so they can rape you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 09:40 PM
1

I agree that cheating is abuse. However, when a guy wants to cheat, he’s going to cheat regardless of who it’s with. The man is 100% to blame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 06:49 PM
-1

How did she “help” abuse his wife? She was a side chick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:24 PM
1

No one is denying that, but it doesn’t mean she caused the guy to murder his family. This is just a way to blame everything on the woman so the man looks more innocent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:42 PM
12

Stealing someone’s man and doing Facebook stalking of the cute guy at work you have a crush on doesn’t make you an accomplice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 11:19 PM
23

I have my own job and money
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 11:04 PM
47

So desperate to marry a guy who works at TARGET
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 11:01 PM
1

They’re all the same...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:21 PM
14

Has he heard of cloning? Only female eggs are needed. Maybe some day in the distant future there will be no men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:19 PM
9

I know a guy like this! It’s my friend’s ex (except he didn’t have a kid). He owns his own home and will quickly move any woman in with him and then kick them out once he’s sick of them. I think my friend even paid rent to him so she helped pay off his mortgage while she got nothing in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:07 PM
1

She’s too far gone. There is no saving her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:52 AM
7

She pays her own money to be a delivery prostitute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:48 AM
2

Adventure sports photo (is he skiing?) is a no go for me. Not looking for someone who seeks thrills and adrenaline rushes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:43 AM
17

I was going to mention this too. He’s so nice because she is fit and cute and he’s....not. And he knows it. She’s not dating him for his looks, she’s with him because he’s so nice. And if he stops being nice he doesn’t have anything left to offer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:38 AM
7

The meticulous placement of the goldfish gives me serial killer vibes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:24 AM
2

His letters from prison were published today in a book. He said he first smothered them at home but then they woke back up while he was strangling the mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:19 AM
38

You guys need to put 2 factor authentication on everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:14 AM
17

I dunno what inner life means either, so I’ll just replace his speech bubble with “I’m so tired from work today and can’t help you sorry”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:10 AM
53

DO NOT EVER ADD HIM TO YOUR HOUSE DEED EVEN AFTER MARRIAGE!!!!! My ex husband moved into MY house and wanted me to do that and I said no. We are not together anymore. I would have been signing away half my house when he wasn’t even involved in the down payment and purchase of the house. I bought the house way before I met him. Now he is moved into a new girl’s house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:43 AM
2

How about dating a guy for months and then he reveals a micro peen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:07 PM
74

The boomerang thing is really true because I know a guy who got lonely and reached out to multiple exes all at the same time. And of course each one prob thought they were the only one and they must be special because he missed them. But he literally told all of them he missed them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:01 AM
33

I hated the message in that movie. The frog guy was leeching off her success
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:01 AM
33

And don’t forget having to look good and “sexy” for the man while he does nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:48 AM
17

If given the chance, a 60 yr old guy will readily leave his wife if he can get with someone much younger. I say no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:44 AM
7

Hopefully pre-med and never makes it into medical school. Pre-med is just a basic bachelors degree in literally anything, including art.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:41 AM
5

Can you imagine meeting a guy IRL (like at the bar) and the first thing he says is some gross sex comment? You’d throw your drink in his face. Why do they think it will work over text?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:37 AM
8

Not everyone wants kids ya know. There is also this thing called adoption.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:35 AM
7

Financially resonates with me. My ex husband has blown through so much money. I’m glad it is not my debt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:34 AM
7

A guy did that to me, but still came back to me later trying to cheat on her. So just bc he’s posting her on social media doesn’t mean anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:27 AM
4

Can you imagine having kids with this guy, he would not be able to change a diaper or see one in the trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 12:14 AM
17

“We should take a break” = I’m having sex with someone else right now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:09 AM
2

No, I don’t recommend marrying someone who you feel you have to hide your salary from but that’s just me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:54 AM
2

Yes unless you file sep, of which you may lose some tax deductions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 12:57 AM
55

What is with these short guys trying to be a Dom? Not into that stuff but a short guy trying to be all authoritative is lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 12:52 AM
1

The problem here is that they got married way too fast. The honeymoon period can last up to 2 years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 07:28 PM
3

Men like boobs and butts, women like tall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:57 PM
37

Getting a hotel is also treating her like a hooker, because that’s what she is- a free hooker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:28 PM
5

She prob demanded it from the beginning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:56 AM
8

Is he talking about a ring? I don’t get the joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:52 AM
17

Men don’t even know what medications their kids are allergic to much less their size
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:49 AM
7

Red flag. I haven’t had a roommate since 21.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:47 AM
24

“I want to see if you’re better than the person I’m currently dating so I can monkey branch to you and dump her” The cycle would then repeat with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:45 AM
84

You all are just jealous that she gets to move in with him and pay half his rent while being his maid and sex slave 24/7
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:42 AM
3

That’s true, my porn addict ex with PIED was somehow still doing it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 10:45 PM
3

I’d rather be single than have to take care of a man and work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:29 PM
171

Can a 90 yr old even get it up though? These porn addicts be having problems by age 30
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:16 AM
3

Never date a man who dumps his GF for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:13 AM
11

Even moving in after you get married doesn’t make the house yours, it is pre-marital property. If you divorce, you get nothing. Source- I owned a house before marriage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:09 AM
10

Pickme trying way too hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:06 AM
35

Actual quote from my ex-husband when he wouldn’t admit he had sex with this girl- “I didn’t lie, I just held back the truth.” They literally twist shit in their heads to make themselves believe that they are not a liar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:59 AM
6

No one should cheat whether you’ve been cheated on first or not. Just leave the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:52 AM
8

Same thing happened to me. We separated but had not filed anything and apparently “separated but still married” gives a man free reign to start dating. They don’t even wait until the divorce is final.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:41 AM
6

She needs to watch the show catfish. Whenever this happens it ends up being some weirdo who used fake pics and is too afraid to expose their true self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:31 AM
38

Who is the older guy in the video? I want to believe this but people don’t graduate law school and immediately start making bank like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 01:27 AM
11

Did you have sex with him before? Is he saying he would rather have pics than drive 15 min for actual in person sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 10:56 PM
8

If a random guy pushed you down while you were walking down the street, you would call the cops.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 12:18 PM
4

Who is saying men peak at 50? I can’t find any attractive men on OLD past age 35
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 04:05 AM
4

She is the ultimate pickme- she gave him 500k cash for his bday after he cheated on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:54 AM
10

There are “mama’s boys” who never learned to be self sufficient due to their mother coddling them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:47 AM
34

“Sarcastic” or something about Sarcasm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:23 AM
26

Have studies been done on children born from young women who are with old men? Is there a higher chance of autism with older man sperm?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:39 AM
1

I’m an ISTJ and I would love to date someone with the same type as me, but I don’t think ISTJ commonly use dating apps as they do not like meeting strangers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:30 AM
16

Block him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:21 AM
22

She probably paid for the thrift store ring too. And he said he’d “pay her back.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:38 PM
5

Because they are shiny and new, and it’s exciting. Also, relationships are defined in the beginning as far as the guy knowing what he can and can’t get away with. My ex’s new GF shit-tested him by publicly posting and tagging him in a picture they took together 3 weeks into dating, obviously to see how serious he was about the stuff he was telling her since he was still going through a divorce with me. So it could be all the new GF making him do these things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:26 PM
7

Probably unwashed too..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:12 PM
10

Get an IUD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:46 AM
9

No man will turn down the opportunity for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:44 AM
19

Good for you for getting out of waitressing. I’ve never worked in that industry but I had a friend that did and the environment is so unhealthy with the drugs and alcohol. And everyone sleeps with each other. You end up aging out and are left with no real skills to put on a resume.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:28 PM
13

How did you get depression and adhd under control?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:22 PM
8

No one is making 60k a year with uber unless you live in a big city. Also you need to subtract gas and wear and tear from that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:03 AM
18

I had 2 contact me a year later at the same time that I had like 1 date with ever. It was around thanksgiving so I dunno if they were looking for someone to spend the holidays with or what. One of the guys had ghosted me after the date (which was fine because I didn’t really like him anyway) yet here he was a year later asking for another date like no time had passed. He texted asking “hey is this still so and so?” I said yes, who is this? He said something like “hey this is G, we went on a date…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:45 PM
6

So he was either a lying POS or paranoid and checking to see if she was still on it. This girl even bought a house that he ended up moving into (they’re engaged now).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:29 PM
20

How many months did that guy have to wait to close the deal and get the commission check? He could be making $30k a year for all we know. A girlfriend of mine was hooking up with this guy who said he was a realtor and it was the same concept- no salary or anything, only makes commission if he sells a house. His “real job” was working at a restaurant and ubering and lived in some crappy studio apt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:25 PM
25

How many times did she have to bitch and nag before he did it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:14 PM
11

A friend of mine met a guy from bumble. A year later I saw him on there and sent the profile to her. She said it was old and that he had forgotten to delete his profile. Is this true? Why would bumble show me a guy who “supposedly” hadn’t logged into bumble for a year?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:35 PM
42

I heard a guy telling his friend about his $15k commission check as I was waiting for the elevator. His friend started asking him more questions about the job and it turned out he makes no salary, only commission. I assume he doesn’t have health insurance, 401k, or anything like that since he is not actually an employee. I can’t imagine having a job like that where you have a bad month and get nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:12 PM
102

Porn has normalized deep throating and other painful sex acts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:08 PM
12

Dildos don’t lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:47 AM
8

They ALWAYS come back
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:30 AM
4

This is his moms house, she said “gonna help his mom out too”. His mom lets him live like that so it’s a lost cause
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:25 AM
3

This is common on OLD it seems
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:21 AM
3

When you put it that way it makes me feel better! Thanks! And he’ll always have his porn addiction so she can also enjoy the limp D.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:12 AM
6

I started dating him when we were 22. He said stuff like he didn’t care if he only made $30k for the rest of his life working in a machine shop, didn’t want to go to college, and refused to work any overtime even though the option was there. I thought he was just young and stupid so I built him up by making him go to college (he never finished though), writing his resume, LinkedIn etc. I was able to help him get a job making 90k of which the new girl is enjoying I’m sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:31 PM
2

He is clearly a porn addict if he thinks it is appropriate to jerk off on the family couch in the public area
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:41 AM
12

We don’t need to impress men when we get 300 matches in an hour and they have 1
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:35 AM
5

He sounds unemployed. Investor could mean he has $500 in stocks and lives in his parents basement writing his “novels”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:32 AM
95

Hopefully the wife’s girlfriend, not his
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:29 AM
150

He thinks he is still in a frat. Obviously partying until 5am at 30 yrs old. Grow up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 01:43 AM
70

Exactly this! Sundays were my “cleaning day” (I work full time) so in order to look like he was “helping” he would go into the garage and detail his car (but NEVER mine). Literally my car got not one wax job but he’d be out there avoiding the cleaning by detailing his car, and if I said anything he’d be like “weekends are for relaxing” or some crap like that. He was obsessed with his stupid car and I’ll never date a car guy again. -yet i would be mopping the floors of dirt we BOTH track in, vacu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:50 PM
9

Don’t go on “walking dates” and then have sex with them. These are not going to be good guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:47 PM
16

I signed up for hinge a couple weeks ago just to see what was on there in the 36-45 age range. I saw ONE attractive guy but he had a bunch of pics with his motorcycle which is a red flag for me. After swiping left for an hour and not seeing anything decent I deleted the app. Bald, unkempt beards, uneducated and working menial jobs. Nothing in common with guys like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:38 PM
18

Lol you’re right. Instead of “helping clean” it should just be “he cleans” (and doesn’t have to be asked or given a chore chart). And it’s more than just cleaning up his own mess, like my ex-husband did. Yes, he literally said because he cleans up his own mess (like washing his own clothes) that it counts enough. Never once did he vacuum or mop or anything like that. That kind of stuff just got magically done on its own I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:30 PM
31

He lied. That is reason enough to drop him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:21 PM
158

Omg yes mowing the lawn takes an hour a week and they think that’s enough. I could just hire a kid to do it for $20 and then what? There was a post on Reddit several months ago where a guy was saying his contribution was fixing stuff around the house. His example was that he had fixed the brakes on the car which was “worth more” chore-wise because it saved them money. First of all brakes need replacing like once every 3 years. I hope that guy’s wife leaves him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:15 PM
36

For number 4- be wary of letting a guy move in with YOU. I speak from experience. First of all, why doesn’t he have his own place? What’s going to happen is you continue to take care of your own place the same as you always have except now you’ve got another person bringing more dirt into the house. And you get the mentality of it not being their house so they don’t want to help fix it or care about spilling oil on the driveway or that the yard needs watering unless you constantly tell them to d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:56 PM
13

Oh ok. You have to get over the mindset that you “owe” him anything which it sounds like you did. The old me would feel guilty for making him drive all that way and I would have forced myself to hang out longer even though I realized I didn’t like him. I felt it was better to avoid confrontation that way and then just decline a second date later. But it was his decision to drive that far and that is the risk he takes to go on a date with a stranger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:11 PM
23

The teen is right though- the mom needs to be mad at her husband, not her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:05 PM
16

Was he at your house??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:52 PM
76

With the divorce rate you’d be a fool to rely on a guy to take care of you the rest of your life. You should have an established career before having kids and go back to work full time once the kids are in school 8 hours a day. And ideally you would be married and live with a man for a few years first to see how much he helps out at home before having kids with him. I speak from experience after seeing my mom with no career to speak of getting divorced when I was 10 and was only qualified for en…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:44 PM
5

No just move on because he lives too far away. He’ll end up getting a girlfriend who lives in his city and you’ll get ghosted anyway. Men don’t want an LDR, they want easily accessible sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:23 PM
3

Are you a free delivery escort service?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:12 PM
14

My pickme friend went through this same thing. She was hooking up with this loser guy who would hit her up at 2am to have sex. She really thought she was the only one because they would have sex every weekend. Then she started saying to me that maybe this could be a relationship because she isn’t girlfriend material anyway. This guy had never even taken her on a date but she thought they were “dating” because they texted every day and had sex every weekend. Of course after 3 months he completely…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:05 PM
5

It’s only 3 weeks in and he already can’t deal with the stress. He will prob end up abandoning his wife and child before a year is up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 02:51 PM
7

How is this guy benefitting her life in any way?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:42 PM
2

This is what men in their 50s look like. Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:37 PM
6

So what men want is a sex slave and maid who lets him cheat on her. Got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:33 PM
24

That’s why they ask for your Snapchat and try to sext you. They want a free cam girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 01:31 PM
4

He got exactly what he deserved
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 01:13 PM
8

Omg the car obsession!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 06:29 AM
30

Lol at the anal pic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 12:33 AM
13

My cat makes a soft chirping sound when he jumps off things or you pet him. One time a guy angrily said “does your cat have to make a noise every time he moves?!?!” He was seriously annoyed by that. Um bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:04 AM
3

I watched the first season and it turned out that Cambodian realtor lady was NOT a millionaire who really lived in a normal house and her boyfriend was an actor. And the whole Las Vegas wedding thing was scripted to have her not show up. All fake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:03 AM
8

This show is actually scripted and fake. Just saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:12 AM
12

Can they keep the little thumbnail photo from dating app messages so people can see how ugly the guy is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:07 AM
3

Why does his shirt and tie look like he’s attending a gender reveal with that color combo?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:05 AM
19

AND he probably lived in an apartment and could buy a house with the money he is blowing on a Tesla car payment. He’s not getting that the red flag is the Tesla. Don’t buy one if it means you have to eat ramen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 12:14 AM
13

I work with people who have PhDs and I feel like depending on the college they are just giving those degrees away because they’re IDIOTS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:14 AM
10

But he gets a pass because he “told her right away”. Doubt it was his first time, and he felt forced to tell because the other woman threatened to first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:11 AM
1

The typical guy who is into Star Wars probably posts on Reddit Edit- also Star Wars seems to go hand in hand with being a gamer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:01 AM
3

A simple google search tells you the nanny dog thing came from a fake Facebook post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:00 AM
1

No, and no Star Wars either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:28 PM
1

Usually the same guys are on all the apps to maximize their chances
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:16 PM
8

there are certain traits bred into dogs to make them naturally pre-disposed to do things like retrieve, kill rats, or follow a scent. Are we just going to ignore that over a hundred years of breeding pitbulls to have a high prey drive (so they will fight other dogs) makes them chase and bite, sometimes years later with no warning?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:08 PM
170

They’re looking for FREE prostitution
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:55 PM
45

Anal is so popular now because men have death gripped their dicks to porn and now a vagina feels loose to them, so they need a tighter hole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:53 PM
3

I have single friends but I would like one that I can go out with who does not feel obligated to talk to every guy who approaches her. Like we’re supposed to be hanging out but she ends up talking to some gross guy all night while I’m trying to pull her away the whole time. In the past year she’s slept with a few of them and then cries to me about getting ghosted after. Honey you met them at the club did you think they wanted to date you? I can’t take it anymore because pre-corona I liked to go …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:20 PM
5

No one’s D is big enough to permanently stretch out a vagina. They could only wish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:27 PM
24

Carrot dangler
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:37 PM
5

Don’t. You are still married. It doesn’t help your case any. Technically it’s adultery since you’re still married in many states. That person could end up getting questioned even though you met them later. It’s a bad look for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:27 AM
6

My ex had permanent clips inside each ball you could feel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:23 AM
79

It’s a good start I’ll give him that. Pillows look a little flat, get new ones. Also move out of moms house ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:15 AM
8

I just meant work clothes because assumingly most married women today do have a job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 11:10 PM
15

Did you seriously think people would not comment on a pic of your boobs hanging halfway out of your shirt? On a mostly men’s website?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 10:58 PM
15

No. If he liked you he’d ask you out. But no guy will turn down free sex if you’re offering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 10:48 PM
13

Either way, I’m sure the majority of women have full time jobs. I don’t know very many who stay at home because no one can afford to live on a single income.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 10:33 PM
21

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.cnbc.com/amp/2018/03/23/more-women-are-breadwinners-but-are-still-treated-differently-at-work.html It says 49%, not sure but it’s still a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 10:26 PM
93

It needs to show her with a briefcase and business clothes on, not groceries. Because half of women than men are breadwinners today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 10:17 PM
22

That’s it. I’m done with men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 10:16 PM
354

I dunno, I was pretty controlling to my ex husband. I wouldn’t let him spend thousands on his porn or go on vacation with some chick he barely knew lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 10:15 PM
19

These don’t look like what I see in the pornos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 09:10 PM
14

The only reason to use Snapchat is if you’re a minor and you don’t want to get in trouble having your parents seeing your text history, or nudes. Red flag when adult men are still using it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:42 PM
6

Some of them want to jump immediately into another marriage because they don’t know how to take care of themselves as a single person. Case in point, my ex husband who put a ring on the first chick he dated. He said he isn’t an independent person and needs a partner. Translation = manchild
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 10:29 PM
2

No one said there is anything wrong with lunch from home. We are asking why they are getting praise for it. This is one of those bare minimum things- that a guy has a job and doesn’t blow money on going out to lunch everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:16 PM
11

We’re seriously looking at an image of blue collar workers on break calling them HVM? Is the bar that low?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 10:35 AM
3

Yep, crushing his dreeeeams! But he immediately found some other chick who owned her own house to move into.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 10:29 AM
6

This was my ex husband. Wanted to quit his job to be a ski instructor in California (min wage and no benefits) and live in a vintage camper van. And wanted to spend all the savings on old cars because “they’re a good investment” instead of putting the money down on a house or a CD. One of the MANY reasons I filed for divorce is that a spouse is responsible for the other’s medical bills. The first thing his 40 yr old ass was going to do as a “ski instructor” was break his leg because he isn’t eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:53 AM
1

Low key trying to get you to send nudes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:34 AM
54

Probably his sister
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:20 AM
15

But western girls aren’t like that so he needs a “submissive Asian girl”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:18 AM
4

Why are you having sex with people you would never date? Buy a vibe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:25 AM
35

You’re nOt LiKe tHe oThEr giRLs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:21 AM
53

Guarantee this shirtless dbag is not supporting anyone and is just saying what you want to hear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:16 AM
4

How long can they keep up the charade though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:10 AM
5

Is this saying that men DO change for the right person? I don’t want to believe that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:17 AM
1

My post was removed from FDS for reposting a whiskey-themed man cave that was on the front page of Reddit. I said this was a red flag that whiskey is such a hobby that he has built a whole man cave shrine to his different whiskeys. A bunch of people on FDS said it was a cool idea. Um ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:55 PM
2

They pick you up in hopes that you’ll invite him in afterwards and have sex. Unless you’re ready to do that, don’t let him pick you up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:22 PM
15

He’s texting so many girls he can’t keep them straight anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:19 PM
8

A gourmet store-bought cupcake and no card, because it’s not like you’re going to write anything heartfelt in it for a guy you barely know. Although I wouldn’t date someone who goes out to get plastered unless he is still in college and hasn’t mentally matured yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:18 PM
47

You were too nice. I would have not included the “no fault of your own”. I dunno if you were trying to spare his feelings but fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:08 PM
5

Sure there are shitty women too. But at least you wouldn’t have to deal with all the “but muh dick” crap. I’d like someone who can make decisions with their brain instead of their dick. Does a man like that exist?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:34 AM
3

Date other people if you have to. That guy sounds like a huge loser. If it wasn’t for his family being wealthy would you even be dating him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:27 AM
31

Honestly I’m not attracted to most men my age either (40s). The receding hairlines 🤢 Edit- and unkempt beards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:03 AM
11

People have twisted “masturbation is healthy/natural” into “masturbation while watching porn is healthy/natural” to “porn is healthy/natural.” Since when is it healthy/natural to peep on other people having sex? Go to some swinger party if that’s the lifestyle you want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 05:57 AM
5

Or magically find a way that you can be attracted to women. I think about this a lot. Would it be better than a relationship with a man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:55 AM
20

What a great message for young girls- Settle for a guy you have a “build”. Then watch him leave you for another woman once you’ve built him into the man you wanted him to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:48 AM
32

Sex on demand and being his maid isn’t “wifey shit” either, it’s slavery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:44 AM
17

Is it too much to ask that a man only wants to have sex with ME? If they’re not capable because of biOLoGy then I would rather stay single. When I was married, I never fantasized about having sex with other men. Men think porn is harmless but I think it damages the way they view women/their wife without them knowing it. Maybe there would be less “stale” relationships and dead bedrooms if they cut out the porn usage. This goes for women too. Porn has no place in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 01:35 AM
15

Sorry I don’t look like the Instagram models you jerk off to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 12:16 AM
17

Even if he didn’t know what to get or it was too early in the relationship for an expensive gift, everyone likes food. I mean he could have got a bottle of $10 wine or some candy you like which requires zero effort since he already has to go to the grocery store for himself. It just means he doesn’t think very much about you or care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 09:48 PM
6

Thanks. I do miss the companionship but the cons outweighed the pros. (I literally wrote them down.) If you have to take xanax to be around someone, you should leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 09:26 PM
5

Tiny D energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 09:21 PM
4

This is 100% a redditor incel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:10 AM
37

The fact that he had to mention helping clean means he probably doesn’t do anything to help with it normally. AND it sounds like she works and takes care of the kids. She’s tired and he’s all “but muh dick, it needs to take priority”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 03:07 AM
51

I’m not desperate enough to use apps. If the right guy came along IRL ok, but I’m not about to go looking for it. If I’m alone forever, I don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:22 AM
43

Lookin like a thumb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:20 AM
113

No one wants you moving in with your busted ass old TV and second-hand stained couch that smells like urine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 12:19 AM
29

Because they’re extras/stand-ins who are volunteering for the job. Would be the same for female main character
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:49 PM
3

Unfortunately no, most of my friends are pickme and would prob tell me to cOmMuNiCaTe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:40 AM
164

I don’t think I would risk dating if I had a toddler because you never know with these psychos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 10:19 PM
3

He’ll promise to pay you back, and then ghost you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:57 PM
2

Interesting, in the US it’s mostly the country boys who love their guns and deer hunting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:56 PM
6

I used to work at a job that had a division of blue collar installation type workers. They were the trashiest and most lived paycheck to paycheck even though they made decent money. They also tended to be rednecks who loved hunting and fishing. I would never date blue collar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:35 AM
7

I want to know why you’re having sex with morbidly obese men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:30 AM
7

He’ll take you to Goodwill and buy you a $2 sweater. What a king
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:22 AM
1

“I wasn’t a skank and I regret it”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:20 AM
2

Absolutely not. You could be meeting up with a ted Bundy who seeks normal over text but is a psycho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:12 AM
4

Why? Because men are worse gossipers than women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:09 AM
9

Men peak at 50 LOL!!! I guess if you like bald and limp dicks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 05:02 AM
35

If you’re moderately attractive, your male friends want to bang you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:58 AM
13

It’s not generous, an Airbnb is cheaper than a hooker. It also costs like $20 to rent a canoe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:45 AM
3

He absolutely should feel bad about it. It’s literally a crime if you know you have it and don’t tell the other person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:43 AM
21

Texting at 5am is really rude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:39 AM
9

On the positive side, he wants to be seen with you in the daylight for a longer period of time. Yea the bar is so low I consider it a plus that’s he’s not planning a 10pm date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:37 AM
9

That too! Any guy who invites you over for dinner is just a ploy for sex. Unless you’re Gordon Ramsey, I don’t want to eat your shitty spaghetti
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:12 AM
95

54% of women are the breadwinners! Why would a woman want to live with a man and “take care of him” while the majority make more money than the man?? https://www.bizjournals.com/dallas/news/2018/12/17/more-than-half-of-women-are-primary-breadwinners.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 12:17 AM
104

1- don’t date guys who are newly divorced or are separated (aka still married) 2- don’t date guys from work. Too awkward when you break up plus may violate company policies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 12:14 AM
28

I can’t tell if he’s love bombing or very inexperienced with dating. Buying jewelry gifts on the third date is weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 10:50 PM
4

I think he gave you an excuse- if he wanted to be with you, he would
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:32 AM
32

Dick stops working as well and they’re balding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:18 AM
18

Don’t date anyone from Reddit. They’re not normal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:26 PM
42

There is a difference between owning a ps4 and playing a game on the weekend vs being a “gamer.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:25 PM
2

It’s been a year, there are no open ends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:24 PM
2

Why don’t you take the MSF course so you can learn how to ride a bike yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:21 PM
4

“Grow to meet your level” = helping to build a man. No!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:00 PM
9

Yea, don’t put that your hobbies are video games. All you’re going to do is attract loser gamers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:56 PM
22

Refers to other women as “old friends.” His FB relationship status is hidden, says it’s bc he is a private person. Turns off tagged photos. Says he wants to be with you but he just went through a bad breakup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:49 PM
19

If he doesn’t know if he wants to be with you, then he doesn’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:45 PM
23

Low key called you fat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:37 PM
22

Why admit you’re so awful that your dates walk out on you?? At least he’s honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:29 AM
91

My ex did this same thing- tried to plan an elaborate Valentine’s Day so he booked a surprise for me. So we’re standing around downtown for like a half hour waiting for this “surprise” that never shows. An hour later he gets several calls from the horse and carriage ride he booked asking where we are. By then we were already at a restaurant and could not make it. He gets all mad and accuses them of getting the time wrong and ruining his plans. Later that night he wants to drive by his work to lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:27 AM
11

Men do NOT change, they just find someone who is more willing to put up with their crap. Perhaps the woman had an even worse relationship before and in comparison thinks he is great. One woman’s trash is another woman’s treasure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:12 AM
2

Just another example of a man with stupid ideas telling his spouse that she’s “crushing his dreams!” I hope she divorces him bc he sounds like a selfish leech.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:17 AM
31

I completely agree. I also have a low count which my pickme friend thinks is weird. I can’t do hookups.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:00 PM
8

It’s a manipulation tactic to flip it around on you. In my case my ex wanted to go on vacation to visit some chick he SLIGHTLY knew and met well after we were already together. I wouldn’t let him go and got the “you’re crushing my dreams bc I’ve always wanted to go to that state” comment. He never once acknowledged how it made me feel and thought I was being ridiculous that I didn’t tRuSt him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 02:30 AM
3

Yes, it’s a diss disguised as a compliment. He liked your paintings but low key suggested that he can paint better than you, which makes you doubt your artistic ability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:35 AM
6

“I need someone to watch my dog bc I’m too broke to pay someone, so I’ll just find some random person online and pretend like I’m interested so I can get free shit and money.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:19 AM
6

Yea for like 20 minutes, then I start browsing FDS and it goes away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:14 AM
18

“You’re crushing my dream!” Edit- lol wow I didn’t even read the texts yet and I just knew he would say that! I’ve heard it several times before with my ex- it’s such a common phrase with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:08 AM
-2

Straight guys don’t wear bathing suits like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 10:39 PM
4

I think her thought was that he would feel guilty that she came over with a gift so that’s why she left it. But these guys don’t know what remorse is so the gift was wasted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 11:23 PM
95

Surprise, the guy you knew for 24 hours before you had sex with him was being fake nice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 10:39 AM
52

I hate this meme because I’m not making dinner as a wife either. Why can’t he make his own food?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 10:36 AM
25

This is a meme- please send bobs and vagene
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:13 AM
16

And then he pulls out his small D.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:09 AM
148

Video games are $60, I would have returned it. He prob played it later with his ex. Fuck that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 01:16 AM
2

The voucher is about to expire, he isn’t offering you anything. And why on earth would you fly to a guy you don’t even know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:29 AM
7

This guy has made it clear he doesn’t want to be with you. He only wants sex. He will not marry you and he will not be your boyfriend. What are you doing?!?!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:24 AM
10

My ex-husband did this too! And she was posting on his Facebook saying “I miss my best friend, when are you going to come visit me?” I replied to her saying “excuse me but his wife (me) is his best friend” and my ex deleted my comment! He met this chick long after we were together and hung out with her only a handful of times so wtf. Probably had a secret texting relationship or something. He begged me to let him go visit her in another state and I said no and he could not understand why, and ba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:02 AM
5

Nope. Men are friends with women because they want to have sex with them, and are also using them for the emotional support they can’t get from their male friends. I don’t want my man talking to another women for emotional support and telling her all our private info whenever we have an argument.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:57 PM
48

He sounds like a caveman. Me hungry. Feed me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:40 PM
68

He is acting like HE is the prize. “You have to earn that”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:36 PM
5

How was I supposed to know about a hidden porn addiction?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:37 AM
-10

Did you have sex with him? If yes, then you know for sure why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:36 AM
2

Me. I will not do any OLD or blind dates, trying to make a relationship happen with a stranger who can easily hide his true self for months or have some weird background. However, I will hold out a sliver of hope if I get to know someone over time because I only date people I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:29 AM
38

Go on dates with men you haven’t had sex with yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:22 AM
14

The show was based mostly in the US but yes the matchmaker was horrid. She tried pairing the lawyer woman (Aparna) with a guy who makes podcasts and lived at home until he was 37. Then she’s pairing the gamer guy with no career aspirations with highly successful women. None of them worked out and she totally wasted the women’s time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:44 PM
42

After watching that Indian matchmaking show I’m not sure about this. Every guy signed up to the service was LVM and I figure it’s the same for any culture (I’m not indian). Even on that show you had the video gamer guy, the guy who lived with his parents until age 37, etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:38 AM
5

Some women are easily impressed and rave about their men who do the bare minimum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 10:33 PM
13

He gave you his work number
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 10:28 PM
8

There probably ARE hidden cameras that he watches later or puts online
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 10:27 PM
18

CONDOMS DO NOT PROTECT AGAINST HERPES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:47 PM
1

Well at least there is no having to be a bangmaid with a 65+ guy since their dicks seem to stop working much earlier than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 05:39 AM
3

I liked the part about gaining your sanity back. People try too hard to make a bad relationship work and end up being miserable. Basically it drives you crazy being around someone who is the cause of constant aggravation to you. People don’t want to leave because of the time invested, the memories, or they’re afraid to be alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 04:15 AM
4

This guy has a girlfriend. He isn’t taking his parents on a trip or to the store, he’s with his GF. This is why he didn’t give you his phone number or social media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 04:03 AM
4

How did he find out you’re single now? Don’t let people at work know your relationship status when you break up unless you’re trying to date people you work with (I do not recommend).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 04:00 AM
11

“He cheated on you because you weren’t giving him what he wanted.” it is always the woman’s fault the relationship didn’t work out according to these guys, even if she gets cheated on. They’ll say it’s your fault for choosing a bad guy or that you did something wrong to cause him to cheat. The truth is, they really want a girl who will stay in the relationship with them even if they cheat. The fact that you left the relationship is a red flag to them because it means you won’t stand for their bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:55 AM
3

Does anyone have a good comeback to this besides “say something funny”? Something that will make them feel dumb for saying it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:49 AM
3

Translation: I have no friends and I live in my parents basement. I’m looking for a woman with her own place who will let me move in so I can leech off her instead of my parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:52 AM
6

Once he got you as a match, he wanted to be honest about what he really looks/acts like and see if you’re still interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:47 AM
16

He wanted a free cam girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:42 AM
9

Block and move on. He is either interested in someone else or has realized he doesn’t like you that much. Bit of course he will keep you on his back burner for free sex “as friends.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 01:48 AM
10

he wanted to stop her from eating something she obviously enjoys as a control thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 10:03 PM
92

That’s exactly the type of guy I would want- one that makes things as a hobby instead of gaming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 09:49 PM
9

She thought she could change his mind if she did all that shit for him. If he really did tell her all that in the beginning (that he wasn’t ready for a relationship) then that’s on her. When people tell you who they are, believe them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 09:35 PM
33

I actually dated a guy with a “dad bod” who pinched my stomach fold. I weigh 100lb. Obviously I stopped seeing him bc WTF. Yea I’m “skinny fat” and I don’t need a reminder from a guy who is overweight himself. I just want a guy who can accept my body the way it is and wont suggest I do squats so I can have a bigger ass for him. This is me and this is what you get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 06:27 PM
22

It’s a numbers game. Hit on everyone and maybe eventually you will get lucky. There’s bound to be some girl with a daddy fetish it will work on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 06:12 PM
9

He’s looking for a bangmaid and therapist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 06:08 PM
16

Boomer men grew up in an age where women “took care” of the man by basically being his maid, so of course they want to move in with a woman so they can have a slave. There is nothing beneficial for the woman to do that since she is done having kids and can take care of her own bills. What does a retired woman get out of moving in with a retired man? Nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 06:02 PM
7

Any guy that has a “gaming area” is a deal breaker for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:54 PM
35

No, it did not. I said “can I work part time so I can get my masters degree” my ex husband said no. So I kicked him out and divorced him bc that is not a partnership.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:14 AM
8

Having boyfriends moving in and out isn’t a good experience for your kid. Edit- and only 6 months?? I wouldn’t even trust him alone with your kid yet and you want to move in together? Big no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:33 AM
11

Da fuck is a suicide swipe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:18 AM
11

I’m happy to have you send me nudes through snap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:17 AM
11

“I have a job”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:14 AM
7

I don’t support stripping nor do I support rap videos wearing stripper clothing that only appeals to men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:44 AM
2

Triggered by the packing bag for a trip. I gave my ex one task- to pack the q-tips. I knew he would fuck it up, but I wanted to see if he could do it. I thought I could make him learn how to be responsible. I had to ask him 3 times if he did it yet until he finally did. Then when we get there I find out that he had counted out exactly one Q-tip for each of us to use per day and packed exactly that. It was then that I realized he must have something really off with his brain bc counting out an ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:05 AM
3

Basically admitting he is broke AF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 11:35 PM
93

I actually got off lucky. I owned my own house and let my loser ex husband move in with me. When I kicked him out he threatened to “take my house.” He refused to google about what pre-marital property was and insisted I was lying. In the end he got nothing. Ha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 11:10 PM
27

Marriage is only beneficial for the man nowadays. The majority are broke jokes so they don’t have to worry about their wife taking all their monies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 09:41 PM
2

Reddit men: “What a simp!” (As they cry themselves to sleep alone)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:25 AM
74

Don’t forget to HATFISH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:23 AM
12

He’s tired from working a 40 hr work day, just like his wife who works too but also does the majority of the housework so he can “relax”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 03:21 AM
15

Same here, it is very difficult to want a relationship with a human that lets their dick make decisions for them. Like literally everything revolves around sex and looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:44 AM
7

I agree with the OP, always have an exit strategy and never rely on anyone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:39 AM
1

The reason is that Helen Mirren is a rich actress who has access to Hollywood nips and tucks- regular 75 yr old women don’t look like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:10 AM
23

Men are not friends with women. Men are only “friends” with women they want to fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:40 PM
61

Guys with money like that will drop you for a younger model
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 01:16 AM
12

Have you guys seen him without the beard in the new Bill and Ted movie? He looks like any other guy in his 50s....I don’t see the fine wine. And his beard always looks unkempt. https://imagesvc.meredithcorp.io/v3/mm/image?q=85&c=sc&poi=face&w=1500&h=785&url=https%3A%2F%2Fstatic.onecms.io%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2Fsites%2F6%2F2019%2F12%2Fbtftm_20190708_pp_0173.jpg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 01:11 AM
88

They feel entitled to not do housework when they can’t even pay the bills
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 08:43 PM
-20

Has he? I think he looks old and half his face is covered up with hair so you can’t tell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:46 PM
1

So his GF is literally just a warm hole for him. He doesn’t give a shit about anything but “muh dick.” Cut this person out, he does not benefit your life in any way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 04:47 PM
239

The worst was the “men don’t have any support for depression like women do” thread. As if therapists don’t exist...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 12:52 PM
36

The only men who are truly your friend are gay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 10:47 PM
41

He wants to date his coworkers, so he is letting everyone know that he is single (but that it wasn’t his fault). He forgot his lie later, or decided to come clean for whatever reason. Either way, avoid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 10:41 PM
192

This is what he really means: progressive : women will work and pay 50/50 Realistic- don’t expect much from him Independent- pay your own bills bc he will not help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:42 PM
29

It is. However, my ex was a secret porn addict and didn’t know what Reddit was. So even if a guy doesn’t use Reddit, it’s not a guarantee :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 02:14 AM
61

The cam girls have figured out this site is filled with mostly loser neckbeards so they post their nudes all over this site, messaging guys their cam links or Venmo. Lately I’ve been getting added to group chats by someone posing as a girl that needs money. I never accept the chats so I don’t know what they say but the subject is stuff like “help a girl out” etc. and the names are always stuff like “sexybabe123” etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:31 AM
27

My ex- “but you do it so much better”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:45 AM
59

Talk about low standards....she’s that desperate that she has sex with a guy who smells like a homeless bum, and is bumming off her house to boot. I bet he isn’t paying a dime towards her rent or utilities either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:45 AM
132

Because every guy who uses Reddit is LVM. Reddit is a porn site first and foremost!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:42 AM
85

I think many women who do want kids put up with LVM because they really want a family and end up settling. So they are not on this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 11:37 PM
14

They know you get buddy passes and want free flights
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 11:14 PM
11

you are being love-bombed. My narcissist alarm is going off. It is not normal to start talking marriage at 5 weeks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 04:34 PM
55

What did Reddit say? That’s she should be grateful he is even buying her anything at all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 03:03 AM
31

I’m suspicious of all men honestly, I view everything with skepticism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:58 AM
46

AND even if it was true, would you want to be with a guy who lets another guy he JUST MET take videos of him for a porn site and does nothing but “wait and see” instead of telling his other teammates IMMEDIATELY so they can also be protected from this guy taking videos? The story is so fake- I bet if she was to look at her BFs phone she’d prob find the videos taken by himself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:00 AM
19

Men don’t want to be friends with women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:50 AM
116

I am suspect of your BF. most guys would have demanded the guy delete the video right then and there and got him kicked off the team. It sounds like an excuse in advance in case you find out he’s on there. “It wasn’t me that put them up, it was that other guy!” Yea right. No one lets someone walk away with a video like that to “wait and see”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:01 AM
29

Keen to get drunk enough to have sex with me bc I am too cheap to buy a hooker?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 12:08 AM
8

Traveling for work is definitely suspect- I’d never date a guy who does. My friend’s husband did and ended up sleeping with chicks from hotel bars and then left her for his coworker who went on these trips too. Left her on her ass with 2 little kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:49 AM
7

Porn is ruining your mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:39 AM
7

Doesn’t sound like he’s that interested, you prob would have got a “wyd?” text late at night if you gave him your number
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:38 AM
2

More like “women today waiting for a man who has a good job, goals, and doesn’t have a porn addiction” The bare minimum doesn’t seem to exist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 10:44 PM
4

The timing isn’t wrong, he just doesn’t care about you. If he did, he wouldn’t want to lose you. A vacation is more important to him than a girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 03:13 AM
12

I couldn’t even get my ex-HUSBAND to pay my bills, even though he moved into MY house!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 03:06 AM
56

Never build a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 03:04 AM
3

It’s unsafe to talk to or meet with strange men, too many crazies on there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 07:48 PM
8

Unless you think planning all dates in the future sounds fun, then block. Making a reservation is the bare minimum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 08:50 AM
11

Is she biracial? It’s weird to mention your moms race unless you are mixed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 08:31 AM
23

Dude just get a hooker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 08:10 AM
59

Because their version of “sex positivity” promotes sleeping with random people from tinder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 03:56 AM
58

She is definitely paying his bills, otherwise she wouldn’t be so desperate to find him a job. Probably stuck in an apt lease with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 02:57 AM
3

The way it’s written makes me think he was really drunk/high when he wrote that, or is mentally challenged
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:31 AM
6

“The other girl didn’t work out so now I’m pursuing you. Come to my house and give me sex in exchange for a shitty spaghetti dinner”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:13 AM
47

“A secret? I actually think you’re kind of ugly”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:56 AM
13

I have a pickme friend with a pickme therapist who told her to write a letter to a guy who had ghosted her. He wasn’t even her boyfriend and they had only dated 2-3 months. She actually wrote him the letter and left it on his doorstep along with some small gift he had previously given her (a thrift store figurine/planter or something). So cringe. Don’t ever do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:50 AM
10

Wow your ex is my ex husband! One of the reasons I left him was the anxiety he would cause me, for example driving 100mph trying to “race” people on public roads with me in the car. I actually had a panic attack from it. Then after I kick him out and he’s having all these anxiety issues did he say “wow now I know how you feel and I’m really sorry.” A month later I was in the car with him and he did it again- tried racing someone at a stoplight and then yelled at me for getting mad at him. I then…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:43 AM
5

How do you know his ex is even aware that they’re broken up? Could be a lie and probably is if he’s still living with her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 01:37 PM
19

Men don’t even know how to be friends with each other , much less women. That’s why we always hear about how men have no emotional support, etc. The only men I will be friends with are gay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:54 PM
8

I was literally told “I wouldn’t be who I am today if it wasn’t for you. You helped me become a better person.” Then he cheated and left. Never build a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:15 AM
4

He’s cooking you dinner and you ask what is the catch?Men cook you dinner because they want you to come over to their house which increases their chances of getting sex. It’s not because he wants to cook you dinner, it is just a ploy for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:41 AM
7

I would like a free prostitute while I lead you on like it might become something more until you finally figure it out and leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:34 AM
4

As soon as they know what they want...or as soon as you have something they want? My ex husband proposed to his new gf bc she owned a house and he could move right in with her for free after I kicked him out of my house. He was talking to his friends about his plan to move in with her after 3 weeks of dating and while we were still going through divorce. So I’m going with disaster as you don’t even know a person after 9 months so there is an ulterior motive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:19 AM
6

Preparing to divorce wife by moving money to accounts her name isn’t on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:13 AM
4

I would respond that “hanging out” is what you do with your boys/friends and i am not your friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 04:04 AM
2

Surprised they don’t have tinted windows on the car but I suppose stars are stars because they want to be seen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:56 AM
5

Why would you even be on bumble then? Lining up dates in advance? I bet he does this while in a relationship too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:15 AM
6

Maybe she is really nice and loyal to her female friends but just hates men? There could be something in the editing as well to make her look more negative than she really is. I actually liked her bc she knows what she wants and won’t put up with BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:03 AM
7

This is why I won’t date strangers from apps. Too many crazy people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 08:44 PM
4

I’m only on episode 3 but I would want my money back if that matchmaker set me up with a 41 yr old “podcaster” who only recently moved out of his parent’s house. Edit- and Vyaser is a gamer loser with no future plans and doesn’t deserve to be set up with these high earning women unless they are looking for a house husband. Vyaser was a gigantic manchild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 04:30 PM
3

I would block just because he said drinking games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 03:05 PM
2

Even just a first name brings up a lot of information on LinkedIn, especially if you know what kind of job/industry to narrow it down. And if you work in a mostly male field like I do, you’ll be so easy to find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 03:14 AM
3

I meant the guy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 03:08 AM
38

I’d be afraid to do this because chances are he’d be some psycho who would want revenge by googling my address and slashing my tires
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:24 PM
27

No one even cheated! He kicked her out, they were separated and “done.” This would be a non-issue if it was him that dated a younger woman while separated. I’m sure he did!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:58 AM
62

Why on earth are you going for truckers, much less lazy eyed truckers? Raise your standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 04:07 AM
1

Why would you put a child’s face online
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 02:30 AM
2

“And then I went out of town for work for a week and came back to him back on heroin because I wasn’t around to babysit him 24/7”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 02:18 AM
18

Oh wow, I actually did this when I was considering divorce. So glad I did it, I would still be miserable. There are no pros in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 02:09 AM
4

He was in love with a minor when she was 16 in high school and he was college age? Sounds creepy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:05 PM
5

This is a good point. My ex-husband was an adrenaline junky and was into motorcycles and cars because driving fast= a rush. He had an addictive personality (porn, smoking) so this was just another way to chase a high. I’m not saying every motorcycle driver is an adrenaline junky, I’m sure there are a few who just find it a more convenient form of transportation (like if you lived in a big city and can find parking for it easier). But it’s def a red flag to watch out for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:21 PM
6

“I fell asleep” is like the #1 thing fuckboys say as an excuse for cheating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:11 PM
5

Men don’t understand the concept of wanting to be single for reasons unrelated to having sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:06 PM
19

I bought a house when I was 22. Then at 27 I let my now ex husband movie into it. Never again!! He then found a new sucker after I divorced him and moved into her house. Moral of the story is don’t let a guy move into your house!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:29 AM
55

Who is that and why does he look so short?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:53 PM
36

I bet if the tables were turned and the wife had this question, and answered some man they both knew, the husband would be livid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:42 PM
4

I think the equivalent for men is the “nice guy”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 01:03 PM
22

Men who just got out of a divorce seem to marry the next person who comes along immediately, because they have no idea how to take care of themselves and need a replacement bangmaid ASAP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 07:03 AM
11

A lot of what he said was true of most men, except he vastly overestimates how attractive a 35 yr old man is. Unless you have money...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:58 AM
52

Because there are tons of stupid women willing to do it for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:49 AM
5

A text asking to paddle board is something you send to a friend, not a stranger. Setting the bar low from the start that you’re “just a friend”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:36 AM
125

I keep seeing these tik toks where the guy is like “this is how you impress women” and it shows him doing the dishes or taking out the trash. Wow I’m supposed to be impressed that you can clean up after yourself and don’t expect a woman to be your maid? How sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:31 AM
14

I want our first date to be you wearing as little clothes as possible at the beach so I can check out the goods first
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 07:06 PM
11

I have a really dumb friend and I tried so hard, but next thing I know she’s like “so that guy from the bar is coming over to have sex.” And then she got all mad when he ghosted her immediately after. Can’t fix stupid, so I don’t even bother giving advice to her anymore. It’s like giving cherries to pigs. “But he texted me for 2 weeks! We had a connection!!” Now she is saying “not all guys are like that.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 01:53 PM
3

I hope this was someone just fucking with him for a laugh. Good play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 04:22 AM
3

“oops didn’t mean to”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 08:58 PM
19

I will say it again- Reddit is a porn site!! They’re taking down anything that is anti porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:28 AM
14

Try looking at the front page with nsfw turned off. I always see naked pics on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 09:55 PM
41

Because they are likely using Reddit for porn too. Cam girls post their pics on here and the guys get off on talking to a real life girl with their disgusting comments on the pics. It’s like one step further than just watching porn and super creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 06:55 PM
16

Is he not incorrect though? Men date based on looks and don’t care about much else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 04:50 AM
72

Because this site is pro porn and anti women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:04 AM
70

Wow, Reddit is straight up promoting porn. I’m leaving this site
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:57 AM
11

Has a girlfriend so he doesn’t want you calling or texting his phone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:35 PM
36

What about the most popular sub gonewild? I have read that minors post their pics on that for attention. Since it’s all anonymous with no age verification, Reddit is supporting and allowing it to happen. But if they banned all the porn subs that allow users to self post they would lose most of their members and there goes their advertising dollars. So they will just continue to allow it and ban the smaller subs to pretend like they care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:33 PM
74

Here we have a group of men in their mid 30s (based on hairline) still pretending to be in college. They really don’t ever grow up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:28 PM
446

But will they ban the porn subs like gonewild etc? Reddit is a site for men, and is basically a porn site in disguise. I am not surprised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:24 PM
34

Selfish, he should have offered to go back there with you the next day to shop for a bike so you could bike together. He isn’t very interested in biking with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 05:21 AM
140

Exposing yourself to STDs and letting strangers masturbate into your body is not the same as baking cakes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 05:08 AM
9

I think for some women the desire to have kids is more important, so they settle. It’s hard enough to find a guy who merely has a steady job and won’t cheat on you, and almost impossible to find one who also does not need a “chore chart.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 10:52 PM
28

he is so graciously offering to have sex with you as if he is doing you a favor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:17 PM
35

Probably fat with a small D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 10:39 PM
5

If you’ve noticed a pattern where you keep doing this in relationships for no reason then yes I would suggest therapy to figure out why. He sounds very forgiving, but maybe he is just a doormat or desperate. Deep down he may be harboring some resentment that will come out later. He may use it as an excuse to cheat on you later- I’ve actually seen this happen in another married couple I know. Wife cheated on him, they went to therapy etc and everything was fine. Years later he gets the chance to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 08:56 PM
60

There is a subcategory in porn for brats. Probably has a fetish and it turns him on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 08:41 PM
9

The kindest thing you can do for him is to let him go and learn from this to not do it in your next relationship. You say his self esteem is destroyed so this doesn’t sound healthy for him to stay in this. Your guilt will be lifted knowing you did the right thing so he can have a chance with someone else. Unless you do this kind of thing all the time, it shows that something was lacking in this relationship and you are not right for each other. I may get downvoted but I do not believe in maintai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 08:33 PM
19

I hate how this guy is always posted on the front page in a positive way. Of course the guys on Reddit love him. They see him as a success story- short guy gets a hot chick and money. He’s not even funny. They completely overlook that he cheated and I think it was when she was pregnant which makes him such a shitty person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 08:12 PM
5

Did you already have sex with him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 02:16 PM
17

When he asked her to clean up I wanted to punch him. He wants a new mom not a wife. I don’t care if I get downvoted for this but a guy who lives at home once he has graduated college or has a full time job is a red flag. I moved out at 18 and got roommates, I am so sick of the “millenials cant afford to move out” crap. Most of that is excuses and just being cheap, lazy, or stupid with money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 03:06 PM
13

This movie had such an awful message. She was going to give it all up to be with that loser frog guy. Then he ends up leeching off her success when she gets her restaurant. I hated it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 02:44 PM
5

Thanks, you’re absolutely right. He’s a leech. She’ll figure it out soon enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 01:29 AM
27

Me me me, I had a dream you were doing something for ME, it made ME feel better, etc. obvious sign that he only cares about his own wants and needs. “I” statements are very telling. Edit- I see someone else said the same thing! Signs of a narc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 11:04 PM
15

In my world, yes. But he quickly got engaged to a girl he knew 20 yrs ago from high school (who never did anything with her life) who will be happy with the level of person that he is, so I guess he won in the end. All I can say is I hope she is enjoying his limp dick lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 11:01 PM
26

I spent over a decade trying to build my ex husband. The problem is that they have to want those things for THEMSELVES, not because you helped/nagged him to do it. My examples are nagging him to take college classes (free through his job), make a LinkedIn so he could get a new job, find jobs for him to apply for, etc. If the guy doesn’t want to improve himself on his own, he isn’t the right guy. As soon as I left my ex, he reverted back to exactly the person he was when I first met him. Which in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 10:19 PM
9

I would thank her for doing me a favor so I could then dump him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 10:01 PM
9

You’re not supposed to date until you’re officially divorced technically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 09:52 PM
4

Vet vet vet a guy before you even go on one date with them. I’m sorry this happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 05:13 AM
43

Meth. He has NO TEETH! She is attractive so why is she with him??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 04:55 AM
21

Or, he starts thinking that he must be better looking than he originally thought if he is able to pull chicks as hot as her. Other women look at him thinking he must have something special since his GF is much better looking than him, and start showing interest in him. Then he starts thinking he is the shit and can probably get a hotter chick, so he dumps her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 07:09 PM
15

You have to remind a 6 yr old CHILD to brush their teeth, not an adult! Yet this was my ex and I don’t understand how I put up with that, thinking “oh his mother did not raise him right, surely I can teach him one time and he will learn how to function as an adult.” But NO, that does not work! If an adult has to be told to do something, it means they won’t ever do it on their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 02:37 PM
8

I don’t get it either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 12:05 PM
52

And he talks about his fling. It’s no wonder no one wants to be with a fuck boi.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:10 AM
6

I am getting bombarded on Words With Friends 2 by men. It’s just a scrabble app but it has a chat function. Don’t even bother accepting a game from a man because they don’t even play the game, they just want to chat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:06 AM
1

Yes I should not have wasted my time with marriage counseling!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:02 AM
23

Women bosses are “bitchy and bossy” while male bosses are described in a more positive way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 02:34 AM
10

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again- do not date guys who live in vans or see it as a life goal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:14 AM
7

Ugh, the pickmes in that thread- “it’s ok if my bf jerks off to porn bc it’s momentary”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 05:00 AM
59

Yea he made 3x her pay, she was making minimum wage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 09:16 PM
130

Not necessarily, could be just an act. I knew a NVM who said the same thing, he was very much about “equal rights.” Including making his gf pay half of HIS mortgage if she wanted to move in, because it was “fair”. She never did move in because what woman would sign up to pay half his mortgage that your name isn’t on, and then basically be his slave/maid. “But my mortgage is cheaper than your rent” he said. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:54 PM
56

The reason people post on social media looking all happy is to make their ex BF jealous (or make their man’s ex jealous), so just remember it’s all fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:46 PM
17

I like how men are trying to justify it by saying maybe the scores are him rating himself and not to be mad about the low scores. Um, recording and scoring sex is fucking weird and psycho behavior. Not to mention dating someone way younger shows he is really only interested in her appearance and sex. This is some Patrick Bateman type of shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:25 PM
17

Probably very common for a child who grew up as a star and treated like a god by everyone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 07:11 AM
43

Cam girls get paid for sexting. Don’t do it for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 07:08 AM
19

This madd me another level of mad when I found out my now ex husband was subscribed to some porn girl’s pics at $20 a pop
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 07:05 AM
8

The mental image made me gag. I’m not sure I like men anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:52 AM
59

He didn’t meet her a week after you. He dumped you because of her. That’s what they do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:49 AM
7

It’s called the Romeo and Juliet law and may differ depending on the state (in the US) In the United States, many states have adopted close-in-age exemptions. These laws, known as "Romeo and Juliet laws"[54] provide that a person can legally have consensual sex with a minor provided that he or she is not more than a given number of years older, generally four years or less
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:24 PM
1

What is a motor club? Is that like a motorcycle gang?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:28 PM
11

I’m thinking he is lying too. 15 and 18 could both be in high school and I think there may be exceptions to the law in that case. Like what if you’ve been dating since you were 14 and 17?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:23 AM
3

You’re so right about the “free therapy”, I’m imagining a guy you don’t even know wanting to text about his bad day at work and get reassurance from his free on-demand therapist (you)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 07:15 AM
3

This is triangulation and it is a tactic to get you to work harder/be the perfect GF for him so he will choose you. Just say bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:48 PM
7

What about Modern Dating? Any good?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 08:17 PM
54

“Yea come over so I can get you high on edibles so you won’t be able to say no when I start sexually assaulting you”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 03:17 AM
33

It’s all about him. “I want to meet you” and “entertain me” (you sound fun). He is offering nothing in his message that would make you want to see him, and puts an expectation on you to “be fun.” He didn’t even ask you a single question about yourself or compatibility before you meet because he doesn’t care. It sounds like he is just looking for a hookup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 11:34 PM
14

Men are only capable of getting emotional support, not giving it. Excuses- he could have gone out to his car.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 07:25 PM
151

Men don’t make enough money to support a family on one income, and no woman wants to sign up for working a full time job while being a man’s maid/cook/homemaker/sex slave/etc. I was married and worked full time and made as much money as my ex-husband. Guess who did ALL of the housework? Me. When I kicked him out and visited him at his apartment, I commented “wow the toilet is clean, how come you couldn’t do that before?” His answer: “because you always did it.” This is a man who was unable to ai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 03:17 PM
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