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I identify so hard! For years, Paediatrician Dad would reply to every report of illness with " what do you want me to do, cut it off / finish you off?" or yell and berate me with "why did you make yourself sick! or "why did you fall, going around without using your eyes, who do you think is going to care if you break your neck!" I had a bad scalding accident in the home as a teenager. Rather than have him shout and berate me for a week, I didn't tell him and just fell asleep in a cold bath to es…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 05:57 PM
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Thank you for sharing your experience. I am so glad you got out. It makes me angry and sad that so many women and girls are groomed to allow our power to be hijacked. Material like this reveals the strings being pulled. Its bigger than any one woman but none of us need remain in the belief that its unavoidable and acceptable. Yes, I was a pickme. Yes, I sometimes realise just how much I accepted in learned helplessness. No, I won't remain ignorant. Yes, I will live in my power and uphold my stan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:16 PM
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Thank you for sharing the link to Everyday Chauvinism. I intended to skim through it and delve in later, now 2 hours and a lot of reflection later.... Such great foundation knowledge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:25 AM
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I have felt called out on occasion too! Things have slid at hard times. The difference is that nearly all women will quickly pull things together if someone is visiting and we're not trying to date in that state.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 12:19 PM
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All men benefit from the enforced social acceptance of male violence. To themselves, it gives men a green light to use the "act of passion" excuse. There is also a lot of money to be made from toxic masculinity and male violence. Governments fear the power of large (organised) mobs of men and encourage them to channel their energy into spectator sport culture and a fabricated enemy, as an accepted pressure release. It can be likened to bread and circuses for the powerless plebs in Roman times. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 12:02 PM
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So well said. I will borrow the analogy about men cooking. Nobody calling Gordon Ramsay a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 09:17 AM
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He thinks taking care of himself is not his job, and is fishing for some pickmes to do the mental and emotional labour for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 07:45 PM
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Gosh, that question and answer really brought back regret. Nobody has a bigger target on their back than an insecure and naive young woman. The woman here has to be ready to see the man's behaviour for what it is and secure in herself. This "big brother", fortunately, is giving her the truth. Other men posing as big brothers won't. It's easy to embrace what you already want to hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 11:21 AM
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Well said. Its easy to get immersed in the catharsis of condemning the bad while forgetting about contributing to the good. I have done so myself. There is a responsibility in simply commenting even, which I am really feeling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:17 PM
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Poor girl - as that's what she still is - she has fairytale thinking. We're groomed en-masse to believe we're "special" and if only we keep putting being nice above our own instincts and needs, we'll earn the prize of a man "rescuing" a.k.a "liberating" us from a peaceful life while he devours our energy and dodges giving anything meaningful back. The post rescue scene is hidden from us by all except other women, if men don't manage to silence or discredit them. She is not able to ask herself wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 01:38 PM
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Thank you ❤. I have found so much empathy, knowledge and support here myself and am grateful for the way FDS encourages us to develop ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 09:03 AM
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Periods are as natural as breathing. When my mother told me she feared boys in my niece's class would target and harass her for menstruating, I asked her with irritation and the complacency of a comfortable life, "But how would they know?". She grew up in a country which is resource rich but impoverished by the crimes of colonialism, so she knows about not having basic resources. She also knows very well what men and boys will do when there is the sniff of a chance to grab an unearned ego boost …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:38 PM
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Bravo for maintaining the right standards. You don't deserve a narcissist who wants to make everything about him in this stressful and emotional time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:37 AM
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Seeing examples of bad situations like this is so helpful in bringing the FDS principles to life, and I am grateful for that. It does pain me to see women brainwashed by the patriarchy into ignorance of plain fact. We are trained to believe we need a man to give us value, ignore men's lies, contradictory behaviour and believe relationship troubles are caused by our failing to be enough or understand how to reach him. This clearly affects women of all ages, particularly younger, less exposed and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:28 AM
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Born in 🇺🇬 living in 🇬🇧
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 07:47 AM
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Mesmerising. Beautiful Essex man, and not in the TOWIE mold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:10 PM
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Rourke's story was about him. The number of I's in there was distasteful. Opportunist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:06 PM
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That must have been terrifying at 16. Good on you for showing the creepy father the disgust he earned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 06:51 PM
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He wears his Madonna- Whore complex on his sleeve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:21 PM
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This poor, precious baby girl. May she rest well and her mother find peace. And I thought my mother was overreacting when she warned my single parent sister from leaving her daughter for sleepovers at friends' homes where men were around. No matter how nice a man seems, you don't know what he'll do till he does it. Statistics don't recommend giving them the benefit of the doubt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:37 AM
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I remember my shock at being polite to an old man who started a conversation as we waited for a bus. I could. Not. Believe. It. when he grabbed my arse and tried to keep his hand there telling me "you are a nice lady".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:19 AM
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Its good to see this programme, protecting girls. I think it needs to start younger, like age 7 or 8 years, as many men are targeting girls that young. Sadly, I know of girl children who are sent to be "housegirls" for strangers, as their families (fathers) can't afford, or in awful cases, don't want to send them to school and feed them. Housegirls are low paid maids, called to do any job in the house. They should be paid in cash but some are just "paid" with use of a space on the floor to sleep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:02 AM
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I am British and the desperation of British men to wear other men's glory from a war over 75 years ago is pathetic. Yes the girl is German. No, your great grandfather fought in that war, not you. Its now over and Germany is doing better than the UK. No, he would have been unlikely to congratulate you for bullying a child from a safe distance when you wouldn't have the balls to face her probably fitter German dad and do it to their faces. Self-aggrandising Cowardly frauds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 02:11 PM
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Thanks for the eyebleach. It was completely necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:35 PM
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Certainly seems so. William is guaranteed heir. He could use that platform to do a lot more good and lose nothing. But .......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 10:54 AM
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He should now be referred to as Bill "released on a technicality from drugging and rape conviction" Cosby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 10:35 AM
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Thank you for sharing this article. Its such a clear, accurate account of some of the ways the patriarchy works to control, devalue, distract and derail women - wasting our energy in a rigged game, to siphon of the benefits of our labour and surpression, to give cheaply to men. The article is so uplifting and affirming. I've bookmarked it to return to and remind myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:11 AM
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I hear you there. It must be exhausting for men to be constantly on their guard so women don't get "big headed". How insecure of them to want to deny another's value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 06:28 AM
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Same here. I wish I'd gone further and had the sense to end the relationship at the point of him going on a family couples holiday without me but well, we learn.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 07:52 PM
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Thanks for taking the time to share this. Such an interesting and illuminating article.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:55 PM
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A thirst tick! You killed me with that. Sadly, that's what many men are like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:42 PM
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100%. My friends laughed when they asked me why a relationship ended and I answered "Because we got to know each other"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:31 PM
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There is reality and then there is male "logic".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 05:27 PM
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MoFos who will enjoy you cooking a special meal for them, then attempt to give you critique and a mark out if 10. Delusionals who will play nice to get your number then try to put you into the position of proving yourself. One joker even told me he had "homework," for me and tried to get me to look for a flat for him. I put down the phone and never picked it up again. Men treat you how they assume you deserve being treated, and therefore how they think you will accept being treated - based solel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:46 PM
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What is it with point 2. An ex used to remove his trousers as soon as he came in the house and wander about in a work shirt, tie and socks then presume I'd want to have sexy time that night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 04:36 PM
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Love that movie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 12:07 PM
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Wow. You shone a light right in my face. I am working on myself right now and go through days of thinking, "Fuck 'em, all men aren't worth my time" to "I'd like to enjoy vetting on my way to finding an HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 07:48 PM
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Penelopekitty, I love your username. You're totally right. With "The Wall" being a male fear and them pretending they are in their prime at 40, an early 40s to mid 50s mid-life crisis is expected. Wow, that's 15-20 years that an LVM could be at his worst. That is frightening. I am in my early 40s now and think it might be best to focus on myself till my mid 50s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 07:30 PM
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That we'll die single and alone is actually men telling on themselves. Once women get sick enough to stop carrying them and it's time for them to uphold "in sickness and in health", many of them, you don't see for dust. Yes, they want to punish us for not putting their minor needs above our very lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 06:10 PM
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Let them rant on and on - we learn from it, adjust our security and vetting and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 03:52 PM
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And so vetting never ends. A must read for all teenage girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:57 PM
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Is he pretending that we don't all know what the male or human forms look like? Men will harass women covered from head to toe in loose clothing. Its all angry projection because they are resentful that we call out their ogling instead of letting them leer and lech unchallenged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:47 AM
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Very well put. Their actions are consistent worth that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:26 AM
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Its vomit on a page🤢 There's a male BDSM fantasy tone to this - the creepy writer enjoys the thought of making the woman suffer the gaze of the crusty old weirdo and his crudely described and threatening arousal. Taking pleasure in her disgust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:08 AM
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This poor girl. She does not yet know what she doesn't know. She definitely has self esteem issues. I identify so hard because I made a hash up of my 20s running away from myself and towards an LVM. Therapy is so important. Many of us us can be unable to take advice from friends or act in our best interests, for so many reasons, and need to work through some issues first. You are so kind to be there for her but be prepared for her not to be ready or able to hear, understand or believe what you t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 10:47 AM
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21 from Italy. YOU LIE Smells like scrotey subterfuge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:40 PM
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This creature was pushed screaming out of the vag of an undying "something", covered in that blood plus more and is always sniffing around one. He might as well put an end to himself right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:58 PM
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What posturing. Rape apparently is all false accusations, ruining a man's life, but consensual sex between a young woman and her choice of male partner (hopefully young too) is an offence deserving for him to be shot for and her to be seen as a slut? Who are these men protecting? Themselves from their daughter's superior control over access to her own body? Or, again, themselves but from other men's control over what they deem their property. Protecting their daughters would entail confessing th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:40 PM
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It's sad. These women know they are trying to buy male attention and validation, through submission and suffering for male pleasure. They don't believe in their own power to have it any other way. Men live to be seen as in control, having power over their world and exploiting it to their benefit. They will always try to push past boundaries and know they have to work for it, by fair means or foul. A woman laying out the red carpet to give them power for free will be taken as an opportunity to ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 10:50 AM
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I agree. The couples counselling could drag her back into the nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 04:36 PM
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Thanks Frogspocket. This is what I needed to hear, put so well as you have. Much as I don't need a man in my life, I do want to enjoy a relationship with an HVM. I think every step of vetting, on the learning curve closer to that, will be a valuable experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 04:34 PM
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I fixed the last paragraph. "Once you look after yourself through health and therapy, you ~~can consider working on keeping your marriage together and trying marital counselling, or deciding that you~~ need to move on."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 12:16 PM
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It's good to see something examining the other parent. For a long time, these studies were seldom picked up by the media, or if they were, they were often twisted to fit the agenda of crucifying mothers, by blaming them for not controlling the fathers. Mothers can't always leave immediately with their children, particularly in countries where access to paid work and childcare is limited.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 08:15 AM
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Thank you. You will, because you want to. Responding to this means you are a caring woman who loves her parents and will honour them by putting in the effort to make them as comfortable and happy as you can. I think many parents bank on their sons or their sons' wives taking care of them. It is women who do the hard things in life where there isn't a man blocking them. Men don't usually make petsonal sacrifices to do unpaid and unrecognised work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:50 PM
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I agree with you there. I protect my elderly parents, I take care of the garden, home maintenance, security, technology advice and DIY work, my sister's and I together manage their finances and complex healthcare arrangements. I talk to the Urologist, Neurologist, Endocrinologist, Oncologist and Ophthalmologist, deal with his prostate appointments. We support her with the health issues she diminishes beside his. We take them out and visit them. We spoil them and make them feel needed. We tell hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 10:25 PM
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Old Trev in the comments wrote a dissertation. I don't think he's going to be OK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:11 PM
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As long as they don't have another easier option to get whatever flavour of labour they want for free: sexual or emotional, or money, they always come back. When depends on the ability of that man to catch the best woman available to him, with minimal effort / what he feels is adequate effort, at any particular time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 08:33 PM
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Its really hard to leave when you like someone as a person but his lifestyle is no longer compatible with what you want. A fulfilling life is dependent on so many more things than liking someone. Your boyfriend is doing good work with the homeless and caring for his grandpa because he wants to. That's fulfilling for him. You must pursue what is fulfilling for you, including compatibility in a relationship. Nobody deserves to be rewarded for good deeds by winning the fair maiden. You don't owe a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 07:38 PM
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I pursue young women because they're in that sweet spot where they haven't had a chance to understand themselves or others. They haven't learned what is acceptable in relationships, what they want out of life or their personal preferences in a man. They still automatically respond out of their conditioning to respect authority / their elders. They have not fully learned what boundaries are or that nobody else's agreement is required to enforce them, by leaving. They have been pre-trained to feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:55 AM
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A man will do whatever it takes to ensure good working maintenance of the source of whatever it is he likes. If he feels women he's with aren't at their optimum, it's because he chooses those them. If she started of optimum, the change is because he neglects and damages them or blocks them from taking care of themselves. Those who leave and level up it's because they have self respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:49 AM
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Thank you for posting this. I enjoyed it so much and shed a little tear. The older ladies only missed the summit due to the limit of their bodies, not their minds. The joy on the faces of the girl students hero worshiping their teacher. What stuck with me was one woman saying she used to ask herself why anyone would respect her when she wasn't educated or skilled in a job. It exposes the deliberate lie of pretending that women's knowledge and labour is worthless. I doubt that this woman's husban…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 09:54 AM
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I really want to believe in reincarnation and live to see those days. Would there be a Jurassic Park scenario where scientists revive extinct men and regret it when they wreak havoc. Only capitalism under patriarchy might actually wipe out the whole human race first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 08:12 AM
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Yes. The ex who went on a consolation holiday with his male "best friends" a week after we broke up who then blows up my phone from abroad leaving crying messages because they left him hungover and flew home while he missed his flight. Unbeknown to me he was well into a new relationship with the woman he cheated on me with and didn't want her to know he'd messed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 07:23 AM
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And men want to claim women are only good for sex. This porn addicted liar isn't even fucking her and still finds it worth his while to manipulate and gaslight her into staying. She needs to see her value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 02:14 PM
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Men demand that women express gratitude for every meaningless gesture they make: gifting you a box of stolen paperclips from his office. This man will self-consciously refuse to acknowledge her sacrifice and if she wants to change things, he'll insist it was her decision and she is ruining what they have. He will treat her like he did her a favour. He'll punish her for being more capable than him and having proved it in her achievements. He does not value or love her, he is happy to hobble her w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 02:09 PM
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100% I think most girls growing up under patriarchy need therapy. It should be part of sex education that you don't date or make major life decisions till you have handled any causes of inferiority complex/ desperation/ feelings of obligation / codependency and established yourself in a career with your path planned. You never put anyone above yourself, especially manipulative, exploitative men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:57 PM
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Yeah, the old "I haven't done anything wrong" Semantics, debate and technicalities won't show them love in their old age
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 12:12 PM
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The British dude with long brown and blonde hair though! He was giving such toddler energy in the way he spoke. There is an when acting boyish is all wrong. His "self knowledge" doesn't extend to himself being the common factor in why women don't turn up for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:26 AM
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In the last picture she looks disappointed and resigned to it. He'll prove to her that's how things would continue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 06:51 AM
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Very well put. The one thing guaranteed from sex with a man is ANTI-climax.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 03:48 AM
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100%. He smelled the blood in the water with her relationship and tripped over himself to get his bid in for what he percieves as the fresh young meat. Of course the sly expression of interest is non-obligation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 10:38 PM
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Dubious about "idle" as a housewife. Shame that, in her day, her hard work was still credited under his name and unless you research the story, is still now seen as his "legacy". She did what she could though. Good on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:57 PM
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They evaluate the mother of their children (plus wife /girlfriend) as having a lower sexual value to other men. They imagine that only connection to another man can give her value. They presume that she will stay with them out of desperation and treat her accordingly for a man (no empathy) and escalate the abuse and taking advantage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:39 PM
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Jimmy's intro said it all. How much money men are willing to "waste" compared to the wife's work colleague's husband. Men only care about looking bad in the eyes of other men. Everything in life has a cost, usually a monetary or time cost, but then, women are supposed to swallow their needs in favour of humouring the nearest penis person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 09:25 PM
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My first reactions was his "F off with that nonsense. This is the best laugh I've had all week. 😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 08:44 PM
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The complacent and contemptuous ignorance and opinion of men is irrelevant when it comes to women being the gatekeepers to their own energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 07:32 PM
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Yes, my parents are both diagnosed Diabetics in treatment and my Dad, a doctor insists my Mum, a nurse isn't and is just fat and lazy. She is slim, manages the Diabetes better than him, healthy and cares for his fat, destroyed wheelchair ridden carcass. The have the same doctor. These men KNOW and use it as an opportunity to try and control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:40 PM
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I feel you. The ex would say the period pains I endured silently but showed in my reduced energy levels and Ibuprofen consumption "shouldn't be as bad as you say" then proceed to thump me in the back and belly any chance he got. I had scald burns on my feet from a dropped kettle and he kept standing on my feet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:31 PM
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100%. He wants to train her to suffer all in silence, pamper and pander to him, take his word as gospel, voice no needs and take what he does till he gets tired of her and forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:27 PM
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They think that preventing a woman from having anything that they don't or anything equal to them keeps them above her. From toilet paper to better looks through self care, to a bigger salary or better skills. They'll do anything to destroy that dynamic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:20 PM
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Hits home. They'll readily excuse themselves for disrespecting you then harass and follow you around trying to get you to "admit you're being weird" with them yet for the preceding days / weeks / months they have DARVO'd you into disgust or disengagement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:12 PM
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You're not alone. I have a clever, talented sister in a similar situation. Every New Year I pray it will be the time she decides "F this".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:17 PM
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The hubris is disgusting. Men live by the ends justifying the means but they sabotage themselves with willful ignorance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 03:46 PM
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If someone is asking you for something, it's they who should be thinking about feeling grateful. My brother (reasonable guy but not 100% HVM) took his wife from the UK for a week long trip to New York, spent more than 3 months' salary at Tiffany's for the ring (because she likes their stuff) and proposed at an exclusive private restaurant after a carriage ride through Central Park. He saved hard for that and that year still paid for overseas holidays besides that because he felt it was a trip fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:42 PM
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who Thank you for your kind words. Onwards and upwards!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:14 PM
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I hear you. My mother grew up in an East African country and told me that if you're a woman in that country, who a man has raped or beaten or you are single and someone has stolen from you, don't call the Police as they'll take it as an opportunity to do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:47 PM
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"You lied to me" "You wouldn't have stayed with me if I hadn't" Dicktim
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:36 PM
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Thank you for sharing your story and the value you found in FDS. I am so happy for you on your levelling up. I have a similar history to yours and every point you made rung a bell. I have a long way to go and reading about your success and how you're achieving it is so inspiring and encouraging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:53 PM
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This is so true in every realm of life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 10:38 AM
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This is spot on! I agree with the commenter(s) who said it's about control. What's even more insulting is having a man who has consistently made you cum for a long time try to do a "take back" on it when he thinks it'll be harder for you to leave. E.g. buying a house together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 09:55 AM
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Men withold all the things they generalise as women's desires in a relationship to use as bait for day to day operational manipulations, or as get out of jail free cards to make her feel he has done something for her after he has shat on her and pushed the boundary to the point of losing his pocket pussy / substitute whatever non-reciprocal benefits he leaches from her. Smarter men mine individual women's needs early on in their acquaintance to better manipulate her by passing off personal knowl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 10:19 PM
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An insecure man will take it out on you. That's what they do. It's not worth the time or effort doing the emotional labour to baby him, and its unlikely to help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:19 AM
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Too much effort for him to buy cake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:46 PM
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It's all in their heads. I believe that they believe it's involuntary celibacy. When their idea of being a man is all about subjugating women, if her needs are fulfilled in any way by his actions / lack of action, he thinks she's "won" in his imaginary game and he's a loser. Some make the choice not to believe it, as a result of taking responsibility for themselves. The incel myth is an expression of men's blame offsetting, which like carbon offsetting, doesn't fix the root of problem. If they c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:09 PM
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Thanks for sharing this material
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:02 AM
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That's a big deal if kids from that era, with parents of that origin won't entertain him. I empathise with the kids, from a similar background, experience and with a charismatic Dad whose outside persona didn't resemble the arsehole in the house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 09:47 PM
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Exactly. Hubris can be a trap for men. And it's definitely men the term was created for. Baby Daddy thought he'd manipulate her into a position of of vulnerability where he could use money, her post pregnancy body and the burden of a child to dimimish her self worth, ability to work or leave and her attractiveness to other men to keep her under his control. He counted on being able to stay on top whether he himself ultimately stayed or left. Seriously, men's refusal to heed women who have spoken…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:10 PM
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I don't get why he isn't being charged with intentional killing / murder of the woman yet he is for the child. How is drugging, drowning and shooting a person not intent to kill?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 09:38 AM
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The simple state of existing as a human being while not being a penis-person. That's why women are demeaned over all facets of our basic existence at the exact point where it is possible to deduce we aren't men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:50 AM
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100% Its laughable that they claim to feel insulted. When women deliberately dodge and bodge whatever stimulation men need to orgasm, while insisting on getting ours, we can talk. Experts in projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 09:17 PM
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🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:37 PM
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You know my sister then!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:14 AM
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100%. When the one with no vagina decides to snatch your phone or handbag to trap you, you can leave and get to safety without complying with his plan to hold you hostage until you "pay" him as gatekeeper. Bras, shoes and knickers are great hiding places. I have hidden things in my hairdo before. More often than not Its helped friends, as being vigilant already helps you spot some of these rabid, soulless creatures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 02:44 PM
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Those angry red pill comments are all the same. Kneejerk reactions to keywords/ideas, no creativity, predictable. Now I know this, they are irrelevant, like some bot comments we see and scroll past. ScoteBot. Maybe not, I'm now thinking scrotey buts.🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:58 PM
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I was so excited to read this news! Thank you for making another access point outside reddit. I listened and loved it. Podcasts are so easy to absorb. I can now multitask while learning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:48 PM
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I was seeing a guy of my age in my early 20s and realise only now, reading the comments, that his 60ish year old boss was trying to hit on me for a year. I am black and was born in Africa. The man kept cornering me at work parties and giving me his life story and telling me about the love of his life, an early 20's woman from my country who he'd leave his wife for if he had a chance, how he's so sad and lonely blah, blah, blah. I listened and didn't say much. I was used to listening to sermons f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:05 PM
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I hear you. Same photos in my folks' house. Deliberately making you feel at fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:53 PM
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This fills me with trepidation. I don't use Tinder. I wouldn't trust them to reliably feed through information if it loses them too many paying customers. If anything goes unflagged it's too easy to claim some problem with Garbo, then once doubt is cast, blame is deflected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 10:47 AM
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They know. Once again, women's emotional labour is demanded to solve men's problems. It's just like a lazy sod of a man watching the house become a mess while his wife, whatever, is laid up in bed injured and disingenuously declaring "you should have asked me what you wanted me to do". Worse still, he's the one that injured her. Now watch them report that only a small proportion of women bothered to reply, while they already have a continuous deluge of data. Governments know precisely what works…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:06 PM
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100%. In my longest relationship I was initially attracted to the man because of his intelligence, hard work and achievement in his academic field and his co-ordination, accuracy and skill in his sporting pursuits. He mixed with a sad bunch, became a lazy, scruffy, boozing stoner and really unattractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:43 PM
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I just knew it reading between the lines! I am gobsmacked at the sabotage and lies, especially the memorial and wedding shower. And to snidely blame you behind your back. Jesus. Congatulations on your escape. They want to look like long suffering martyrs and have everyone believe they're the ones holding things together so even your friends are on his side because "he's so good", "she's lucky to have him". EDIT: removed text as I thought it derailing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:12 PM
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Yup. Case in point my Dad who used to terrorize my mum out of wearing makeup, perfume and dressing well. He would take her to work balls and dinners at a few hours' notice, lie about the dress code and intimidate her out of contacting his colleagues to ask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 08:50 AM
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Men know how emotionally and morally bankrupt they are. They want to be in control and to prove their dominance. They can do this in only one way - by seeking to destroy others' value. They're energy vampires. Your suffering feeds them. For one to win, another has to lose. Someone who treats others like this is exercising hate. There's no love there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:40 AM
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I am so sorry he did that to her. Men like that have no souls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:38 AM
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That worthless book. My father gave copies to all the women and girls in the family and not the men and boys. Says everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:24 AM
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The number of times I have stated my position on something and heard "but you haven't heard my side" or "you aren't listening". Essentially they think their having an opinion/stance makes them right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:48 PM
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Very well said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:23 PM
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That's really interesting. I wonder if a hormonal/ brain chemistry driven cause of the protectiveness of boy mums is discovered, might it be found to be linked to men's more negative attitude about taking on another man's sons than his daughters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 06:49 PM
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I'm sorry they did that. You did well to walk out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:05 PM
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Hear hear. And they can piss off with the "we're pregnant" and "dadbod bollocks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 12:36 AM
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I am speechless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 04:39 PM
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Same here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 09:54 AM
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He rolled off me after sex and "proposed". No ring. I accepted 🤡. When he took me to pick one, his budget was one hundred pounds (UK), despite having received a windfall of one thousand. After visiting a few places on afternoon, he raged at me for not having made a selection yet and said he was going home. I went with him 🤡. He didn't mention a ring again.When he had a bonus of twenty thousand a couple of years later, it wasn't a consideration. Close to the end of that relationship, 10 YEARS and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 08:11 AM
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It's shocking that he did that to you. I'm so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 06:57 AM
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Many men already abuse women over reproductive issues, even before it gets to seeking help to conceive. They refuse to have their own fertility tested, refuse to accept the results, blame women for not performing a miracle with low count sperm. Some use it as an excuse to cheat and get other women pregnant. They encourage and feed off the guilt the woman may have and her effort to make his "sacrifice" worthwhile or make up for her supposed "lack". Even more horrifying, some men wait till her rep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:39 PM
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I feel for you. That sounds like one of my sisters. My other sister and I don't tell her a thing any more and she can't figure out why. I'm amazed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:45 PM
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🔥These burns are keeping my evil heart warm today. People who hate your group/class don't care if you join their team. They always work from the foundational refusal to see or treat you as individuals, human or having intelligence worth valuing. Infighting and turning on others in your group will be used to help them discredit and ignore you. E.g. women are so bad, look at all this woman on woman hate, they can't even live happily together because they're unreasonable. How can they live happily …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 11:36 AM
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Thank you for taking the time to explain. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:19 PM
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I don't feel comfortable with the arrested man being investigated by the very police force he works for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:34 PM
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I really hear you. My mother went from SAHM to 7 kids with little access to funds for herself to a working mum, then continued to work 100 hours a month at over 68 years of age to provide for the time she finally can't work. (UK state pension is not much in her case).My Dad obstructed her from working while we were kids and wouldn't share his pension. Now she's stuck caring for him in illness with our help when she's at work. She won't divorce him because he'd die quickly on his own and she's be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 11:23 AM
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Thank you for your time and generosity. I will get reading!🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:15 AM
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I'm saying neither. I don't agree with early marriage. It's easy to forget that not everyone reading is used to our principles so they need to be clarified. Thank you. Edit added to my comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:09 AM
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All the flavours of hate, manipulation and abuse, just to try and force control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:01 AM
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Thanks for this. I need to vet my news and media sources.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:41 PM
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I wonder if men will work out it's their bros at the top who evicted them from their tiny fiefdoms. The big boys will continue to direct blame at women. I think women will continue to work but wage rates remain surpressed so that even more people cannot afford to run a household unless it is based on 2 salaries. There will be a lot of propaganda to shame and guilt women into having children. With countries like Poland and US states such as Arkansas and Tennessee trying to ban abortion, I think t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:00 PM
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You're right. I was too focused on the hate to see that he totally is. Bootlicker means the same here. We also use arse kisser or say someone is sucking up to another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 03:35 PM
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Also THEY'VE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 11 YEARS BUT MARRIED FOR 3? jesus christ, this marriage was over before it started. 🤣That's the best way I've seen it put! EDIT: Just to clarify that this is meant to apply to women who have reached suitable age, according to the FDS Handbook. It is easy to forget that some of us are new members.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 03:16 PM
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I love how Alex Beresford aired the truth, telling Piers that Meghan has a right to cut him off. I don't know much about him other than he is a meteorologist and a news reader for the TV station. He hosts the show in Piers or Susanna's place when one of them is on leave and sometimes reads their weather forecast. In the UK there is a horrible headline about Meghan's dad stating he'll keep talking to the media till she speaks to him. These old men obviously took the same course on "controlling" a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:10 PM
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Men who have lived long periods or lifetimes of celibacy are a testament to how sex is not essential for men. They simply have the physical power and support from the patriarchy to frame it as such through threat and emotional manipulation. Men can easily have mutually beneficial, respectful sexual relationships with women but they get off on withholding the respect and benefit part and many love to inflict pain. They do this to all women. Casting women as worthy or unworthy is violent in itself…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:34 PM
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This guy writes like an asshole trying to look more clever than he is. He's conceited, facetious and condescending and is devoid of sympathy if only for the woman's feelings, whether he agrees with her or not. The way he refers to the people who write in by the inflammatory acronym he creates for their issue is taking the mickey. He is taking time to craft that nonsense to show how clever he isn't. The way he shouts "INCEST" constantly through the reply to this woman comes across as intended to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 08:58 AM
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For some of us they build an image of womanhood to foist on us and deny our anger. For some of us they build an image of anger to foist on us and deny our womanhood. Yet who are they? They don't set the sun or rise the moon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 10:49 PM
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Unhinged and so angry! Its scarcely worth the risk to have male friends. I hope this woman can shake him off completely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:53 PM
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Men tend to see challenges everywhere. Anything other than silence or approval is seen as someone trying to claim superiority over them. They live to be seen as dominant. They cannot digest feelings of smallness and when they perveive they have been criticized, they spew their anger out as harm inflicted on others. They don't have the self esteem to do anything other than take it personally. Nor do they have the introspection to process and work through the feelings and get on with their day. Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:43 PM
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🙌🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:00 PM
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Zero women write like this, including pickmes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:32 PM
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This post has really found the chink in my armour. What you and the other reply say makes sense to me. I know too well how girls are made to take responsibility for adult males' sexual abuse yet boys who abuse are allowed to be children. I will educate myself better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:18 PM
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That's true. I find it hard to blame children for what adult men expose them to, presenting it as just something all males do. They encourage cognitive dissonance. Sometimes it takes time for kids to come across the right voices and make sense of things. By adulthood, they've heard them and chosen to ignore them. Maybe I am too optimistic. I tend to empathise with kids because I know how insidious and powerful patriarchal brainwashing is. EDIT: I've learned I need to look at the facts of abuse b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:12 PM
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I cheered out loud to hear she left. So hard for her with pregnancy and emotional abuse and grooming since late childhood. So, so glad for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 12:20 PM
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Excluding the boys/teens affected, I am cackling with glee. You don't take pleasure from the dehumanization, rape, demeaning, commodification and brutalisation of victims of sex trafficking, children and women and deserve sympathy for breaking your sexual function and your ability to feel intimacy. EDIT: I've learned I need to educate myself on the facts of abuse by boys. My sympathy is misplaced and falls into the trap of enabling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 12:05 PM
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Very well said 👩‍🎓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 09:22 AM
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To be so blatant in his profile too! This is horrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:56 AM
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Oops! Sorry, I was lost in indignation for her. I've edited to refer to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:22 AM
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He said he doesn't care and he meant it. When you're dealing with a man, your happiness won't change unless you do something. He told her he won't listen. She should leave and never come back. She's 29, he's almost 40. If she wants kids or a relationship of value, she should not let him burn through her time and block other opportunities. EDIT: Just realised this is not the poster's story so corrected text. Need more coffee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 12:05 AM
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When I was 18 I dumped my shitty boyfriend for screwing over my friend who'd helped him financially out of friendship to me. His mum got on the phone and harassed my mother, who she'd never met, demanding to know where I was and complaining that her son couldn't focus on his Uni degree. Apparently mine didn't matter. She tracked me down and gaslighted and emotionally attacked me till I cried then she sent him over. It got worse. I'm happier to be rid of her than him. I wish the relationship with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 07:55 PM
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Its interesting to hear other opinions. Of course black people are not a monolith who agree on everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:25 PM
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As a black Brit, I wish Meghan godspeed. I could say more but it's a problem for the majority group to solve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:23 PM
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Wishing everyone a happy day !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 06:36 PM
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🥇🥇🥇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:55 PM
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This infuriates me. Poor boys are not being encouraged into "safe sex work". I'm sure there is a market for college boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 03:08 PM
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It's left to individual mothers to struggle to do what fathers and the patriarchy fight to keep in place. The only thing which might work is the continually dropping birth rate. The patriarchy will however use every tactic they can to force a reversal by taking back the rights women have won. I think too much has been learned about men for women to be so easily manipulated again, especially if we unify as women first, anything else secondary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 02:37 PM
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🤣🎉🎉🎉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 02:06 PM
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A man is a man first before he is anything else, and in our patriarchal world, sadly that usually means misogynistic. The fact that male doctors angrily argue to disregard part of human anatomy so that they can ignore female wellbeing says absolutely everything. Some of them will condemn FGM, yet their minds are the same as the patriarchies which commit this. They are enforcing their will that women's bodies exist for the use of men and only men. A woman being deprived of pleasure in sex by a ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:46 PM
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First class film. Outstanding woman. My mother told me at 5 that I was "too aggressive", meaning I had my own mind and should keep quiet about it. Surprisingly for the time, the early 80s, it was a white upper class woman science teacher who told me I was intelligent and should do whatever I like in life. This woman gave me books and her time and encouraged my love of self-directed learning and my confidence. I'm inspired to examine my life and make sure that a young woman observing me is inspir…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 01:09 PM
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I once sat in on an eating disorder therapy group where a complete walrus of a man told a group of 90% women how he couldn't open up, coped with sex and only went for "fat" girls as they felt grateful. They told me he rarely shared and had openly hit on 3 of the group in the preceeding weeks. Looks like he went there to listen and identify targets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:04 PM
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That's a good point! I would love to see diverse body types depicted more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 08:05 PM
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He's not arguing to encourage and incentivise mothers to raise kids in the home. He's arguing to make it hard to leave. He has fear of what people he identifies with will lose but no appreciation for the provider of that benefit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 07:09 PM
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Some parents are more aware or just more bothered than others about character merchandise which sexualizes girl children. Harley Quinn clothes and Bratz dolls for example. Good on the designers for this change. I have never seen a boy dressed in or playing with merchandise that sexualizes boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:58 PM
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What talent. The girl will treasure the memories and these priceless mementos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:45 PM
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So pleased it was possible to install a rational judge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:28 PM
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Showing her ignorance about capitalism. It's who that keeping wages down?👂🏽👂🏽👂🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:41 PM
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Actions speak louder than words. None of these men are turning down vagina. The trash talk is masturbatory, foreplay for the real sexual organ, his ego. He sees the sexual act in the same way every time, whoever it's with, girlfriend, wife or other. He needs to believe he demeans you and through that, gains emotional release from ego aggrandizement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:33 PM
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It was a man sexually grooming and abusing a child called Jane. The woman called Jane wasn't there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 09:19 PM
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I haven't worn a bra since last March. Not going back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:24 PM
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Those women want these men to quit their nagging and pushing of their dicks and kinks for violence on them. Sure, appeasement can be misrepresented as consent. Bless their hearts - they give themselves personal credit for leveraging the physical advantage and threat they pose, allocated through sheer accident of birth. Their psyches are devoid of self-esteem. There is no contrived ego boost too small and flaccid for them to desperately suck on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:39 PM
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So now he's gotten that off his chest he'll leave. No doubt he'll claim assets his high earning wife paid for despite his abandoning his children with her. Maybe the greedy sod will claim custody to royally rip her off while still dumping the childcare on his other mummy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 12:24 AM
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I think this is very rife in extremely patriarchal cultures. I am a Brit born in Africa and all my black friends who are women laugh about men who ask them if they can cook before they ask them their names. Of course they all say no, even the Pickmes I used to know. One man asks how I could have passed 30 and not cook. I said my father provides for me. Not a total lie, he has 2 specialty dishes and readily pays for takeaway when I visit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:38 PM
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For years, they trained themselves to pump and dump. Nothing more, nothing less. After years, pump and dump is delivered to them. Nothing more, nothing less, until they're not fit to pump.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:13 PM
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I threw up. My grandma warns my cousin about leaving her 2 pre-teen daughters to stay overnight with friends where there are males in the household. She says they find ways to sneak undetected to fiddle with children and seem to be born with skills to mess with their minds so the kids may never tell you. I think a protected childhood and absence of similar threats can make you think it's all exaggeration coming from a person who was brought up in what you viewed as more puritan times with religi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:55 PM
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She unwittingly showed her belly with paying half for his gift to her, engaging for 3 years and telling him he had authority over her decisions by asking for "permission" to pay alone for an upgrade to his gift. He picked up that tribute and now deigns to not "forbid" her, with some censure thrown in for good measure. It's over for her. Run, don't walk. Don't ask men to tell you you're not wrong. They'll tell you you're evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:36 PM
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Jannie has no idea he's alive. In his paranoia, he allowed himself to feel triggered and attempted to condescend. I hope he feels better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:30 PM
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The young woman's wellbeing was not the priority to him. It would have been wiser and more discreet to just let the young woman know directly to check her searchability on Google as some personal identifying information was coming up linked to the address. If she thought he found something, him never mentioning it and acting like he never did would be fine for her to live with. If she asked him, he could say he saw the reddit but its completely none of his business and he just wanted to give her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:05 PM
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This is the fruit of men's narcissism. They believe that disgusting women are lucky to find men generous enough to put up with benefiting from marriage to them. That men martyr themselves for sex or fatherhood. Projection. They also need to believe that women, whether married or not, are desperate for sperm because of their biological clocks. Any sperm, regardless how sorry a NVM it may come from. Projection. Men do sexualise everything. Trust them to think women would spend all their time bumpi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 08:13 PM
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I think some parents factor their daughter and her children in on how they'll be looked after in old age. Not the sons and their kids because apparently it's not their responsibility. My friend's Dad calls her selfish for living 10 miles away from him while his 3 sons live more than 50 miles away. EDIT: I think now you weren't asking. I do read things literally sometimes 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:43 PM
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She can't see the insult. After refusing to pay even just for himself when they did things together he can suddenly afford a ring. He's pissed off that she kept pointing out he's a freeloader so he's moved on to freeloading for her commitment and love when he hasn't worked for it. It's no coincidence he paid the price of a burger meal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 05:10 PM
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This puppetmaster Trojan horse bollocks - with their unqualified, manipulable and sellout mouthpiece libfems again. The mags and websites are written to attract advertising space. The articles are overt or covert messages to control the target reader's behaviour consciously or subconsciously. The ads and articles about make-up, surgery, anti-aging treatments, infertility struggles, successful women praising the men they married down for and equating the (questionable) value of his mere presence …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:47 PM
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Loved it! Thanks for the link.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:47 PM
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Young women are groomed to accept abusers in staged: spiteful little boys, older boys then older men. Very small girls are gaslighted into not challenging the idea that boys who pick on them like them. As they grow a bit, girls are brainwashed into believing that being the prettiest princess makes them special. They are lied to that special men /princes will come and win battles for them and take them to live happy lives of love and adoration. Ain't no mountain high enough, when love conquers al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:55 AM
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Ugly men complain that women only not care about looks. Women tell men that a sweet natured man, whatever he looks like, becomes a pleasure to behold, dear to them. They mean it. Ugly men call women shallow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:13 AM
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That's fascinating to know. It looks like body image is damaged by being attracted to men, who specialize in undermining the confidence of those they themselves are attracted to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 10:09 PM
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So, so true. I watched a friend struggle with money. When she took a Saturday job to bump up her income, her boyfriend told her he'd break up with her because there's no point if they don't see each other. He then spent Saturdays drinking with his friends while she stayed home broke because he wouldn't pay for her to go with him. Thank heavens they split up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:25 PM
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Horses (and carts) are still kept by enthusiasts and the rich. It's generally a sign of affluence. Men won't suddenly stop trying to one up each other. We'll see men still chasing women to prove they are skilled with women or that they can afford to incentivise one to be with them. If sex robots came in real woman will be a status symbol. In many countries people are struggling to pay for essential healthcare. Male orgasm via expensive robots and artificial wombs are nowhere near a priority. LVM…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:59 PM
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100% this. Widespread use of sex dolls would make life very dangerous for women because of men indulging all their violent fantasies on a doll and needing more extreme stimuli to orgasm, just like porn is doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:45 PM
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I just came across it after watching American Horror Story the Cult. Looks like a must read. I admire Valerie's resolve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:37 PM
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I got too impatient to read all the comments before posting. This is almost certainly an African country. This behaviour is par for the course unfortunately. Sounds just like the pious hypocritical men in my country of birth. They will be bbq'd in their hell. Something about the turn of phrase as well as the religion and elders. That man is less concerned about his marriage than missing out on the cash he doesn't have access to. At no point does the man talk about speaking with his wife about re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:00 PM
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A man I knew rolled off me after sex and proposed. I was a teenage fool and accepted. He raged at me when I didn't choose an engagement ring in a timeframe of a few hours which he had kept to himself. From a salary of a couple of grand a month (90s money), he bought me his selection of a £70 ring from a cheap catalogue store instead. I was buying myself more meaningful jewellery just as random purchases and he knew it. I threw that piece of tat into a hole in the floorboards of a house I no long…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:30 PM
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They fake being worthy of it. No orgasm for me no sex for him. At least then there's something in it for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:09 PM
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I think the reason why gay men are on the whole much better groomed and dressed than heterosexual men and have more presentable homes is that men are indeed visual creatures but they don't feel entitled to sex from other men and make the effort. They respect other men and seek their approval. The opposite applies with heterosexual men's treatment of women. They feel entitled to our labour as well as sex and turn fulfilment of all those benefits into something to look down on us for. They know th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 02:59 PM
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I love this woman's matter of fact, excellent delivery. Now most women work, we need not be forced to show gratitude to men who credit themselves for dominating already pre-trained subordinates, often through physical strength gained by accident of birth. They congratulate themselves for not losing their slaves' labour through starving them. The superiority and provider myths. At the current time, there is no advantage to the patriarchy, nor many individual men, for women to stop working and enr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 10:16 AM
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Children in prestigious schools can be targeted when it is known that they may not get into a similarly prestigious school. These can be scholarship students who otherwise lack finances, or where they are very close to graduation. The abusers rely on parents' desperation to lock in the child's progression while funding is there or their desperation to be able to name the good school on their child's university applications. I have seen a couple silence their daughter and throw her back to the wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 11:13 PM
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It certain he's up to no good but just to second your point too. My uncle gave away thousands because his reasoning was impaired due to a early stage dementia. Still, he was hiding his diagnosis from my aunt and putting their finances at risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 10:34 PM
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I've also noticed a distasteful habit of producers in putting a racial flavour on this abuse porn. I was disgusted to watch a Wayans' film on Netflix where a man, presented as an NVM from the outset, was discussing paint colours for a nursery with a middle class, supposedly higher value mother to be. Both were black. They got to the colour black and I turned off when they suggested that " black b*tch black" would work for a black baby girl's room. I don't accept that reclaiming the word "B word"…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 10:06 PM
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Too common. When I was 9, my younger sister was born. While my mum was in hospital, my Dad sat on the sofa while I looked after my 2 younger brothers, 5 and 3. He had the gall to complain about the meals I cooked and sent me off to shop alone and "find something better". He would tell me off saying "what kind of woman are you". I wasn't one and it creeped me out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:50 AM
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He thought he could get his wife to stay, after all she's old and therefore desperate. I've seen a few things which show how far a man will go to hide all traces of his family to cheat. Going room to room and putting things in storage. They'll pay a lot for the dream of being a player. Some manage multiple families who don't know about each other. So glad her parents are supportive. Sadly, too many can try to push their daughters back to the source of misery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:45 PM
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They know. A lot of men go into marriage and parenthood intending to leave their ex wives with the bill and holding the baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:09 PM
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FDS helped me save my friend from manipulation from a NVM who financially and emotionally abused her for years, many times refusing to leave the house she rented when she dumped him. When she finally forced him out, he harassed and stalked her. He then cried depression and guilt tripped her to attend couples counselling, I asked her not to go and sent her links about why you don't attend with an abuser or when the problem is exclusively theirs. She has ditched that ball and chain now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:32 PM
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I agree with you there. They just ignore the elephant in the bed in that most of them are not helping women to come or are actively preventing it. Their definition of sex is a man entering a vagina and ejaculating. Curtains down, take a bow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:56 PM
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Jfc. He asked to be your ex but was enjoying the benefits too much to end it himself. Men don't listen to women but their lack of logic and dishonesty trips them up in disputes and they reveal themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:46 PM
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If it not about the carefree life that money enables then men would appreciate the value of a woman who has made a deal with him to sacrifice her earning potential to raise his kids. They don't. A low effort man remains low effort in any environment. He may leave her to bear the huge financial, opportunity, physical, mental and social burden of raising the kids alone while he cons a naive woman into doing the lion's share of work to make a relationship work under the facade of 50/50.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:35 PM
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🤣 I guess they think we're waiting to be called on to serve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:56 PM
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I don't have to be my boyfriend's emotional support animal, 😂🤣I love it. That's a great way of putting it. Hopefully its ok to post this - I know I might not be adding anything new but I just wanted to express my gratitude to the women of this sub for helping me see things in a new light. I am new too and really appreciate women addressing similar points in their own words, bringing their own observations and unique perspectives to it. It's an opportunity to enrich our knowledge. Also, the power…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 11:27 AM
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I hear you. Since a relative became ill, the men in my family text me to ask how that person is or try to orchestrate me to do something they themselves have identified that needs doing. They contact me instead of giving their relative a much appreciated phone call. They want to avoid being asked to help and avoid feeling guilty about not helping. Funny because they expect me to take all that on. I ignore the question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 11:14 AM
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I read The Rules 10 years ago and look on it as a good start and a mixed bag. I think many women find it or something similar when they've had enough of men trying to go wild west in their lives. I think The Rules had one foot in the camp for beating men at their own game rather than a complete woman focus, teaching you to know your worth, goals and objectives, the nature of men and act intelligently from there. It does move with the times so I hope the latest editions are more woman centred. Fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 11:01 AM
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Reaping what they sowed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:56 AM
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It's common in the UK to go with "partner". In my area/circles it means anything between girlfriend and fiance. Its a holding pattern that can last forever and it puts wifely expectations on a woman in society's eyes and very much most men's. From watching others it seems like many couples mysteriously drift from dating to being partners without any discussion or conscious intention about it. One day, someone just calls the other their partner. I hear some people say "long term partner" which is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:15 AM
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My father was deathly ill in hospital a few years ago and his friend brought a man along with him to visit while my family was there. The first thing out of that tag-along's mouth, before greeting my father or mother, was to turn to me and say " Wow, you're so fat". To me, a woman you have never met before and the daughter of a possibly dying man you have also never met where you are imposing on an intimate group. Is this how you pay your respects? For reference I was a US size 8 (UK 12) at the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 09:02 PM
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It is entirely because many men are attracted to immature women and the bodies that signal that. They have brittle egos which need a constantly reinforced power dynamic which favours them. They cope by denying the fact of women's humanity and women having any purpose that doesn't serve them exclusively. Men take refuge in pursuing young women because they are innocently trusting and easily persuaded to channel all their energy into those men. Men accepting reality would mean facing the fact that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 08:11 PM
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Internet likes do not equal real life respect. She is broadcasting her lack of self respect. Men will usually shoot the messenger when it's a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:43 PM
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Some women think they love a man because he stays. They are grateful and confuse that for his worthiness. He stays because he is able to reap benefits with either no effort or by manipulation or abuse. She doesn't yet know the entirety of her value as a human being and that she must have high standards. I feel a thank you FDS song coming on, along the lines of Amazing Grace. ..FDS how sweet the sound... I once was lost but now I'm found.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:00 PM
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Perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:31 PM
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Why are they outside? Flowers man wants to publicly usurp beardy gunman as the one the world sees having a woman on her knees. He does not have good intentions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:25 PM
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The title. They're not joking with this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:21 PM
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He'll be done soon enough as the attention and infamy dry up. He has nothing better to do than bother people who don't want him, literally like a nuisance fly. He's rejected, looking unhealthy and much older than his age. We reap what we sow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:05 PM
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I was seeing a guy with a dog. The first time we went hiking he forewarned me for disrespect by saying he would have to run ahead separately to exercise the dog as she wouldn't wait. I thought nothing of it. It made sense, why not let the dog stretch it's legs, some of them need a lot of exercise. Bless her heart, the dog wouldn't leave my side. She'd go to him if called and then come back to me and move at my pace, exploring close by. Whenever I stopped, she stopped and sat down. I wasn't used …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:39 PM
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Screaming baby racoons! (my borrowed FDS curse word) He desperately wants that online feminine attention. Disgust is so unremarkable. Bottom of the barrel. I'll have to demonstrate I don't care by never acknowledging such stunts again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:39 PM
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There's no intersection with being interested in a girlfriend and manipulating her into giving you benefits. I think some men using such an app would get a hard on every time they're reminded they didn't actually give the likes, relishing keeping it up their sleeves to throw it in her face later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:53 PM
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My friend has an early teens daughter whose whole social circle have been watching a UK show called "Love Island" for the last few years. Many kids' viewing habits aren't monitored by their parents. It shows attractive early 20s people in swimwear shacking up in a big house in a sunny location. New people come in occasionally. Most couples change partners a few times. The aim is to be voted most popular couple by the viewers at the end. My friend makes a point to watch it with her daughter and p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:47 PM
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I love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 08:23 PM
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Thank you. This was an really informative read. It's clear precisely why sex work shouldn't be called anything other than abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 05:39 PM
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In my experience its predominantly teen girls to early 20's women at malls and clubs. Maybe he's aged out and they aren't interested in an older man. Could be his success rate is falling, he feels self conscious about it and needs to control perception by declaring that it's by choice that his attention is elsewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:38 PM
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Glad to hear that! The lowball award says so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 10:04 AM
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Many men can't stand to see a woman prioritized over them for any level of need, especially a wife or girlfriend whose thankless subservience they feel entitled to. They have paranoid, insatiable, resentful egos, like black holes sucking everything in to destruction. This man perceives his wife's tiny act of care for herself as slacking on care for him and is ensuring that no area of her life doesn't prioritize him. Her life means less to him than the petty ego boost from his skilless, mundane l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 11:18 PM
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Women have worked like slaves for so much of history. This decision was handed down to benefit men. This outcome was made possible by the Chinese government's attempts to stop women from rejecting marriage in increasing numbers. Marriage is still linked to having children and the birth rate fell by 15% in 2020 and it is predicted to keep dropping. New workers and consumers must be born to keep the mostly male owned businesses profiting and to care for the elderly. Not to mention that there must …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:57 PM
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Thank you. This makes me smile and affirms my power as a woman who learns from other women and influences others..........
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:01 PM
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I'm so sorry that those old monsters did this to you. So glad you're safe now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:23 PM
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The reports of it warm my bitter shrivelled heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:13 PM
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Happy birthday to YOU! 🎂 My first thought would have been just "What? Did you message me by mistake?" We're these all men who did that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:52 PM
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That's a good point. Killing is killing, no matter who does it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 11:01 AM
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Go easy on yourself. It sounds like you definitely know better now. The main thing is to keep him blocked, wherever he crops up. As a human being, it's OK to make a mistake and learn from it. It's how we grow. It takes time and a focus on doing things that enhance your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:00 AM
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Women are certainly the real providers. Now expected to win the bread (50/50 is a con), bake the bread and sweep up the crumbs afterwards. No thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 11:42 PM
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Do you feel she only pays attention to her career and neglects your house? Ha ha ha ha ha ha 🤣 Lolololololololol! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 11:16 PM
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That's going to leave a greasy mark. If they were thinking about Nyotaimori a thought is all they gave it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 10:48 PM
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I suspect he may have been testing you on how much you'll allow him to put his needs before respect / consideration for you. Establishing that he'll always put himself first. Was he one of those people who make certain things their identity and don't bend for logic or other people? There is some correlation with this type of character and passion about gun ownership and rigid political views. It's an out there story to tell for sure! I'm wiping tears off my face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 11:06 AM
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I'm happy for you if he is a good one. It's a cool meme, however, my antennae are twitching at it. To me it makes sense as a joke for FDS minded women who laugh at the idea of that 'king' demand from men. From a man it feels potentially passive aggressive, like the focus of the joke is the woman's undiscriminating 'punishing' of men. You're totally going to vet so I know you'll be OK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:41 AM
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The guy who posed the question at the start is a joker. Men have always beaten women for free and they play 'devil's advocate' about equality meaning a green light for men to commit assault on women. Let him not pretend the never hit a woman thing is really respected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:58 AM
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The nonsense of being up in arms about unmarried women in their 30s with no kids. Yet LVM are badmouthing single mothers while refusing to marrying their forever girlfriends and at the same time pressuring them to birth their children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:46 AM
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Attempting to get you to allow them to police your personality or be the arbiter of fact or correct opinion. You're too sensitive / chatty / quiet / suspicious You shouldn't feel like that I don't remember that happening I don't agree with how you feel Their opinion of your mind is not relevant. It's take it or leave it with my personality or boundaries. I guess it's all the condescending gaslighting tactics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:37 AM
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This brings to mind a noughties film I saw called 'Evil Woman' where a man has a girlfriend depicted as mistreating him. One of her main transgressions was allowing him to satisfy her in bed and ignoring his pleasure. I always laughed at that part because they didn't appear to see the double standard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:24 AM
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The goldigger finishing with this woman could be a great opportunity for her. I hope her sudden request for him to pay was borne from her eyes being opened about heavily subsidising his lifestyle. She must prioritize supporting herself though. He knows he's misbehaving and his self consciousness is showing through how he tidied up his rationalisation to say she wasn't up to his usual standard anyway. He went the extra mile to justify himself by throwing in the implied approval from other women (…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:08 AM
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It seems like so many of us fall into the cool girl trap and don't want to seem needy. We are told it's pressuring a man to mention marriage. My big sister (I'm middle aged but she's always big sis) told me to always say without qualms that you intend to get married. The unsaid part is this does not mean it's with him. Brainwashing women into the scarcity and ticking clock mindset really pushes standards into the ground.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:41 AM
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This is so important. I'm not an autonomous 'me' if I exist for someone else's pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:34 PM
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Men find a way to snatch credit and transfer responsibility. We know that sex of a baby is determined by the successful sperm. In many countries where men blame women for giving birth to daughters, they credit themselves for 'strong sperm' if she gives birth to a boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 02:56 PM
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scrutinize her response in the crucible Completely. The woman's culpability at some level is always assumed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 12:47 PM
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When you are a woman, it doesn't really matter what size you are, there will always be men who hate you. I laughed out loud. Ain't that just the way! As a woman, there will always be men who hate you. I think some men try to hit on women they are jealous of in order to try and demean them in their own eyes by f***ing them. They can then tell themselves (and brag to other men) that they are superior because they 'owned' her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 12:25 PM
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We're brainwashed to subconsciously (or consciously) believe in the neurotic, emotional woman/girl trope. That women are unreasonable. Once there is that get out on respecting your stance, LVM will find ways to provoke and undermine you so that they can feel in control. The wider patriarchy has done the heavy lifting, these unremarkable guys just come and work the primed pump. So good to share so many similar accounts and validate what we already knew, give it a name and understand it. We're inv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:31 AM
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That was really interesting. It's one thing hearing about attitudes from previous generations and another to be horrified with examples of what we're considered 'love' messages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:59 AM
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By rejecting the baby, he may end up training her/him to instinctively avoid him and he'll regret it. No old age benefits to cash in on unless he finds a way to mean something to the child. I hope this isn't the woman's house they're socialising at. If so, it's going to be a woman guest who picks up Dad's slack. He steals her enjoyment of being the guest in his house. Men make themselves perpetual guests in their own homes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:13 PM
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Thanks. I was lucky enough to be taught about it in my early years and was able to see this behaviour for what it was. As I learn more, it seems women of different races may have more in common with each other than with men of their own race. There is nothing that an LVM won't use to control and abuse women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:07 PM
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I admire Kim for doing what she needed to for herself and her kids. What are the odds that Kanye writes some obvious revenge song. But that's more publicity (good) for the Kardashians.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:03 PM
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It's sickening. Birth rates will continue to fall in countries where women can work and are compensated well. Movement of labour around the globe will have to be made fluid to keep economies running. Eventually the devaluation of women's literally vital role will have to be addressed. That will be after my time and I hope our descendants are prepared for the shenanigans of desperate men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:58 PM
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I'm a black woman in her 40s, good social skills and etiquette, well spoken, pleasant looking, well groomed. In all my life, only 3 black men who were not visiting family friends have even approached me. As a teenager with a white male friend - a black man in his 30s came and barged at me, sucking his teeth, then circled me with his face pushed up against mine. He stopped and looked at my friend and called me a bounty bar (thats a British chocolate bar which is brown on the outside, white on the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:24 PM
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So to get closer to true 50/50 the husbands should be paying their stay at home wives at least half their own gross salary or 80K a year. This should increase with each child and with experience. Labour carried out for the man would add to the cost and should exclude emotional and social labour because unpaid employees won't be buying a man's mother Birthday presents or asking about his day. Nursing him in old age should be added as another separate fee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:00 PM
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🤣😂 That's about as much sense as they make! This reads to me like an excerpt from a myth or fantasy tale where the protagonist is instructed by a sorceress on conquering some terrible beast to escape the peril of a horrible fate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 10:51 AM
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Thank you! This entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:38 PM
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I am so sorry they did this to you. The fact you're here on FDS is resistance through sharing your knowledge with others and women supporting each other. I don't really know what to say except sending you a hug and I'm glad you're here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:08 PM
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It's chilling to hear the judge say "there are no free rapes in my courtroom". We know there are so many in other courtrooms and which never even get to court.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:16 PM
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You're an angel. Thank you xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 12:46 PM
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These men lied because they know what they did is unacceptable and don't respect her, not even the 21 year old adult living under his mother's roof, lying and stonewalling her and helping his father gaslight her. This woman is out working hard night shifts yet praises her husband in a special way for merely also working. Look at how the son shows his appreciation on her return from work! Disgusting. I suspect she does most or all of the domestic work and the men in the house have no real reason …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 10:40 AM
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Thank you for the recommendation. I laughed so hard I cried. I'm only a few chapters in but excellent so far. I just love Luda's thoughts and the artwork.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 10:49 PM
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An older man I used to see pre-FDS (50 to my 35). He asked me if I would move in with him if he asked me to. He wasn't actually asking me to move in so I replied that I don't know. He pestered me to answer yes or no and I stuck with I don't know. He angrily snapped that he had never asked me anyway. A few days later, he messaged me saying he'd got me a surprise present. He sent me a photo of 'my' new washing machine in his kitchen. I didn't reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:50 PM
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An LVM won't pull together with you to ride the storms when you're poor. He makes it worse. You're broke with a man like that, it's likely he'll focus on trying to assume a position of control and make him feel more powerful in himself by blaming you. He'll blame you for not earning enough to fix it on your own / blame you for not 'inspiring' or supporting him to be capable enough to contribute / blame you for spending too much / he'll cheat / abuse you / secretly spend cash on himself for his s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 03:32 PM
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A lot of LVM sit back and expect a woman to spill their guts unprompted. Failure of a woman to do this rings alarm bells with them since we're reported to want a man so badly and be habitual talkers and complainers. As we know, some sweep up this information to manipulate. Pre-FDS and still now, I would find myself in situations where if any person didn't ask me about myself or asked a question and rudely didn't listen, I didn't waste my breath talking about myself unprompted. Pre-FDS though, wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:53 PM
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That man is a psychopath. The baby's tormented cry. It breaks my heart. This abuser may pat himself on the back for his tactical skills etc with the gaming but he's failing to use those skills to set the baby up with a nice activity next to him, letting him game while the boy is safe. The naked hatred is terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 10:06 PM
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It's a bitter shot in the vague direction of those unnamed women who didn't want him. In reality, they're not sparing him a second thought. He keeps the tone self-pitying enough and sad enough to appeal to the Pickmes who think his experience will make him appreciative of them. He is hoping to be messaged by them. This was his advertisement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 03:15 PM
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I must write better next time. I don't think that the psychologist's conclusion is an indication of bias towards men as they do find the murderer fit for trial. This wasn't clear in my comment. Thanks for letting me know! I've edited it to make it clear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:10 AM
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The psychologist's evaluation is only positive step one in a series of hurdles, rigged towards male privilege. Men receive more lenient sentences than women for violent crimes because acceptance of a high level of male violence is normalised. If an intimate relationship can be claimed, men are treated even more leniently because it is deemed "domestic violence". Marital rape was confirmed as a crime but there remains an unspoken idea of a man's supposed right to abuse "his" woman. I have never f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:02 AM
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She sighs...."Listen guy"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:14 PM
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I hear you ! Reminds me of a 10 years older LVM I knew, pre-FDS. He refused to touch me or give me oral. I mentioned it very gently one day, simply asking him if he could help me that way. He became enraged, told me it was my problem and I had 1 minute to fix it = stop talking about it and revert to Stepford mode. When I went to leave, he blocked me at the door and told me he was sick of doing all the physical work during sex. Same man had pointedly asked me not to initiate as it was offputting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 08:02 PM
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I laughed till I cried. It's like something a Pickme wrote to score points. I think LVM don't struggle to suck the life force out of their bangmaidtherapistforevergirlfriendslaves one little bit. No apology. He forgave himself on his own 😂 He latches back on to mummy like a parasite. He's not too much of a big man for that. It's OK, he's her extra special boy. Good grief!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 01:03 PM
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This will benefit women but not LVM. You tell them where it feels good, they ignore it. You take matters into your own hands, they become hysterical with anger. Sex for them isn't about mutual sexual pleasure. It's about power and wanting to see themselves as someone a woman submits to. Some of them talk about having sex with a woman to get her on an Oxytocin high. Orgasm will give high levels yet there is control to be had in denying it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:17 AM
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I love your no nonsense attitude! It can be hard when everyone around you tries to invalidate you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:48 PM
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I'd wager he thought you'd be in a "good mood" at the anniversary lunch, as if he'd done something special rather than the bare minimum by attending. LVM have a tendency to demand a concession/ reward/get out of jail free card at points where they feel you've become beholden to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:58 PM
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You're right! The respect isn't there. LVM don't care how women feel, just that they are treated like the prize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:30 PM
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This really strikes a chord with me. It's like a toddler who doesn't like to have their wrongdoing confronted and is inconsolable till you reassure them. At least they grow out of it and learn to treat others well and say sorry. LVM choose to revert to immaturity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 12:45 PM
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Teachers should be prohibited from sexual relationships with their former students and their siblings for ever. They know too much about these people and recognise patterns of vulnerability they can exploit to groom and abuse them. These vulnerabilities don't just disappear in adulthood. Teachers without abusive intent wouldn't think twice about the sense in this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 10:05 AM
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Some of these men don't believe what they're saying. They think that acknowledging the pain women go through and any experiences unique to women is putting us above them and encouraging us to consider stopping providing sex and labour benefits to them, for however brief a time it takes to recover. Post FDS, I don't give sexual access to men who behave like this. On that vein - I think it's a good vetting opportunity. How he behaves if you have period pain or other symptoms will tell you how he'l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:15 AM
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Grandma knows best. She knows he doesn't spark joy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 11:38 PM
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I'd been conditioned to keep silent, like many young girls are. I'd totally blab now. Shame on him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:58 PM
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Yeah. A man I lived with set himself up in competition with me merely over using the loo. When I left the room to walk to the loo, he'd chase me and shove me out of the way saying he needed to go first. He'd then use it extra slowly himself, making me wait and wait. I don't know how he managed to hold it in so long to pull this nonsense. One time I had my period and ran in before he could catch me. He followed me in and told me to get up or I'd make him have to use the sink or bath since I was b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:53 PM
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I once knew such a guy. There really are no limits with some!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:42 PM
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If you stick to dates outside your homes till you've vetted enough to believe the man would do his full share of the work, then it's easier to avoid this. Of course, if he then doesn't pull his weight you cut him loose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:50 AM
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People cheat regardless of what their partner looks or behaves like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 08:19 AM
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The man doesn't think he himself has enough to offer and feels threatened by feminism. He's lashing out at a beautiful woman who won't look back as she goes on a date with another man. Some non contenders like him will enjoy the clips. Unfortunately it doesn't make him more attractive to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:55 AM
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Thank you for highlighting this. I do see it is more complex than I presented. While holding adults who do not seek to quit responsible, I would not wish to blame a child or anybody who persists in fighting for recovery from addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:26 PM
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Men aren't going to 12 step groups or for therapy to stop their porn addiction. Some men are already suing porn sites and gaming companies for the consequences of their self inflicted dependency. A few years from now will it be commonplace to re-frame these as being a victim of commercial exploitation, likened to the work of Big Tobacco? Will society pressure women even more to accept men with so called commercially caused sexual or behavioural injury? Will these behaviours then be disregarded i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 07:29 PM
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Psychiatric diagnoses and psychological evaluations are not excuses for behaviour. They are mere reasons, which are the perpetrator's business and nobody else's. For example - we don't excuse neglect because a person in a position with duty of care felt overwhelmed and didn't try to find a solution. Sure, we can have empathy for people who cannot function for the kind of relationship we want, and then move on because we're not compatible. I don't want to do /try / wait / I don't believe / don't …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:12 PM
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I wonder if they rely on others (women) being hygienic so they benefit indirectly. My Dad never wore deodorant despite stinking to high heaven in the height of summer. He didn't wash his hands after using the toilet. Yet, he would be so worried about food and drink hygiene and worked in disease prevention. My mother and I with my siblings kept the house clean. In old age, he now accepts my request for him to wear deodorant, sending him for a bath and asking him to wash his hands. He feels it's r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:16 PM
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If only all it took was a lack of interest to be free of men's aggression or manipulations. The unlocked door is labelled with instructions that those who speak honestly can cross the threshold. Yet LVM are using battering rams and explosives to try and get in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 12:52 PM
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I'm surprised to see a spade being called as misogyny is usually ignored or more vaguely presented as far right or conservative. Glad he's being identified for what he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:06 PM
3

I know what you mean. A man I lived with for a decade would painfully tickle / pinch me into a panicked state. I told him in the early days it caused pain and hyperventilation and terror so when we bought a house and moved in together, this is what he chose to do to enjoy power and demeaning me. Even after I stopped verbally protesting and would just leave the room, he'd work through the full cycle of Darvo on his own, shouting it at me while following me around the house. It seemed at the time …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:59 PM
2

I grew up with a Charles, Charlotte, Charlie and Chaz. Named after an absent father called Charles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 05:03 PM
7

About 10 years ago I watched a group interview / open discussion between some top Hollywood actors. One famous black actor, unprompted, started spouting about how his black daughters must realise they will never be the cute little thing and they aren't beautiful. To other men. To me this means he saw them as a source of shame and was trying to separate himself from that. It was very negative and framing struggle as the unavoidable destiny of a black woman. Rather, he could have decided to back t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:10 PM
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So many men talk about "living life how it's meant to be lived", "finding fulfilment", "a natural, healthy relationship", "having fun". What they mean by all these things is securing easy access to as much vagina as possible, while offering as little as possible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 11:23 AM
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I don't know if this woman is know for accents - the snippet in the London accent was flawless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 10:33 AM
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Another trap in accepting a family heirloom is it's often seen as a loan, not a gift like a genuine engagement ring. So much pressure to return it if things go south. Then it's recycled for the next woman fitting into the blank space marked wife?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 10:07 AM
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I find the insulting message from The Princess and the Frog even worse. Prince Naveen is a prince in name only and in reality a gambling addict, hard partying, conceited, irresponsible manchild whose family are ashamed of him. Tiana is not the princess of her own story. Rather than writing a heroine story where royalty is irrelevant, it is made clear that a rich white woman is the princess. Tiana rescues Naveen, not before he brings her down to living in a swamp, then she's supporting him with t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:46 PM
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You are right. I never considered that they are sexualizing boys in a paedophilic way as well as girls. And those comments about Frozen! I don't know why I am surprised. The patriarchy tolerates no less than supremacy and idolisation of males and the necessary propaganda to support it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:12 PM
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Bravo to the writer. This has been going on forever. When I was growing up in the UK in 90s, I and all my 12 year old classmates at school read 'Mizz' magazine. That rag was entirely about kinky sex positions, a little fashion and music, pleasing boys and selling the dream of having an adoring boyfriend. For 12 year olds! Nobody can tell me little girls are naturally boy or fashion crazy. It is marketed to them. Older girls of 14 and upwards read Cosmopolitan which carried on the brainwashing. S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 11:44 AM
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Men readily seek help for erectile dysfunction if they fail to keep a woman. Veterans seek help for PTSD. Men don't seek help for what they can eventually manipulate a woman into tolerating or taking on as her problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 07:22 PM
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Hi Dandymalion, Congratulations for having the self respect and strength to know your worth and accept no less. In case you are unsure now - I promise you that you will feel better than before. Yes - he chose not to message you until he faced suffering. Despite your opening up to him and his awareness of your suffering, he chose to make you hurt. You communicated and did everything you could and he showed who he is. You deserve better and you will have it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 06:47 PM
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Yeah, it's a stretch 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:42 PM
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Men I have had relationships with have talked about facing intruders.....yet it was 5ft 2in me who would have to confront whatever disturbed us in the night. Usually some nonsense of their making: leaving a stereo on timer; food they left cooking after a drunken night out without me that almost set the kitchen on fire; their lack of boundaries with their friends banging on the door; the PoPo coming to get them for their drunken shenanigans. Yup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:10 PM
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Imagine the state of those unwashed fursuits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:56 PM
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All I could think was who gives a sh*t how numb he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:46 PM
11

Unfortunately men and boys do designate domestic work and the work of a relationship as a woman's responsibility and necessary sacrifice, not because it's right but because society will back them up. Hence why they acquire girlfriends and wives they mistreat instead of paying for a housekeeper, chef, therapist and sex worker. Someone I once had a decade long live-in relationship with used to try and take over housework I was doing, asking to 'help' me. Literally grabbing a vacuum cleaner from my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:37 PM
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The number of men who blatantly pursue the woman for sex to the point of harassment, then claim there was no attraction from the outset. And this is never addressed on these shows. I am appalled at how badly the Psychologists and relationship experts gaslight women and also try to guilt and pressure them into immediate 'intimacy' with a complete stranger. The word pimp has come to mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 01:08 PM
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I agree that the power of Lib Fem has too many women confusing the right to express themselves sexually with pandering to men to be used. I look back on my young brainwashed self who didn't stand a chance of understanding the nature of men. I did see that the only thing men pretend to express admiration or appreciation for in women is sex. But this has always been a coin toss with a cheat - you go in with the lie of equality but you're guaranteed to lose. In fact, the deliberate deprivation of p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 12:10 PM
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This song has long bothered the hell out of me too. Such songs are Trojan horses. Sadly, it's never 'just a song'. What we absorb into our minds is as important as what we eat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:54 PM
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Oh no! He also confessed to not wiping his penis after urinating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:23 PM
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You are savage 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:40 PM
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He refuses to take in the fact that women don't think like LVM. I imagine he sees a woman he wants to masturbate into and is prepared to tell whatever lies it takes to get into her lady garden. Women are getting to know a few things about him from the online chat and noping out. Alternatively, he's uninspiring compared to other men and that's the end of it. Unfortunately, possessing a vagina makes women involuntary magnets for male attention. We don't need to look for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 03:08 PM
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I can see some of these men losing all composure or coming out attacking you. The hypocrisy. I'd respond with a laugh and "Lighten up, It's a joke"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 02:54 PM
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So true. I forget sometimes that there are women who perpetuate the status quo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 11:51 AM
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I'm sad to say I heard the terrible crimes he was convicted of. There is no justice in patriarchal societies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 12:34 AM
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Great article, plus the one it links to about Geoffrey Rush. This get out of jail free card is extended to any male who hasn't irreparably proved himself ineffective in other men's eyes, whether the mark he makes is good or evil. It extends even to any unremarkable, unaccomplished teenage boy, based on the slim possibility of what he might achieve. Simply being male is his currency. Even those who clearly fail in life are often excused as mentally ill or depressed. Men try to render us valueless…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 11:12 PM
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I've had spells when my flat has been a tip and I've descended into a blob on the sofa, bingeing on Netflix and living on takeaway with dirty dishes in the sink. There has been Prosecco involved. These have been spots when I was feeling down. A man never ever makes that better. A HVM can try to help but usually I have just wanted to be on my own. A woman who feels disorganised tends to keep to herself, so yes this might a single woman 8n that situation. LVM on the other hand feel no shame in try…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 03:12 PM
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They communicate by their actions. He avoids her = he doesn't want her near him He is only present with her for sex = sex is all he wants to use her for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:34 PM
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You're not alone. I went through something identical and have recently been able to speak frankly to the people concerned. Congratulations on upholding your boundaries once you were safe to. Respecting ourselves sadly does not always lead to other people taking responsibility for their actions and knowing they are at fault. We keep the relationships sometimes but these people have damaged them very badly. One thing I have learned is that we can never regret standing up for ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 01:22 PM
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I thought exactly that when I saw the footage!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 01:37 PM
3

Makes me mad. I stayed at my sister and niece's house one weekend and we were woken up by banging at the door at around 7am. Her friend's boyfriend, who she barely knew, dumped his 2 kids on her because the mother was away and he wanted to go out. She accepted the kids because she know he wouldn't look after them. He left no spare clothes, nappies, toys or money. Just left them unfed on the doorstep in their pyjamas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:01 PM
3

I see this too. I believe this partially explains men refusing to support their partners when they are in need. Being the carer / doer / undertaking any action where they don't come first is seen as being subordinate and powerless under that person, regardless of the reasons why. This and it's mirror image of not having their own needs met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:39 PM
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This really breaks my heart. Sadly, the son may easily overlook this behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:17 PM
3

I'm proud of my wonderful friend who finally cut off her deeply NVM at the end of 2020. 7 years of using, abusing and humiliating her, manipulating or browbeating her into tolerating it. He's lurking, as they do, but he has gone several steps too far, affecting her career, her child and her parents. Too far. She is buying a house on her own this year and already has plans set up to level up in all areas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:06 PM
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Absolutely!🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 02:50 PM
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His body language read disinterested, passive tolerance. When they first move closer, he is ALLOWING her to kiss his cheek, he just receives while she is the one giving all the emotion. He only gives her side hugs. The SINGLE occasion he enthusiastically hugs her and kisses her, fully turning to embrace her and hold her hand is when he hears that she hadn't seen anyone for 5 years before him. He verbalizes it as him being special and reacts to that. Isn't it enough that she likes him? No, it has…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:48 PM
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I agree with the need to completely blank men where you can if they are asking for anything other than the time / directions / a specific short question relevant to the situation and location and appropriate from a stranger. If they try to commute that into hitting on me, I move away. They count on women being conditioned to be polite and then use that to get their foot in the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:30 PM
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Is he honest with women at the outset that his intention and priority is sex on demand? I strongly doubt it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:15 PM
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Exactly, it's for empathy and a natural reaction towards someone you would never intentionally want to hurt. He was trying to put her in the place he wants her to be in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:44 PM
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Its all from feeling low value like you have to prove yourself to a man. The wifey try-out. Either you go in feeling like that or they manipulate you into feeling that way. To watch this is saddening but if we're honest, lots of women give their manfriends the care you'd give a toddler and cope by telling themselves "he needs me" and turning the man's laziness and demanding behaviour into a brag. The "nobody can look after him as well as I do" stuff. I worked with a beautiful, clever, competent …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 06:29 PM
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Totally, like having a pulse is the only requirement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 10:55 PM
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Wow! I can only be vigilant about security and stand back and watch them implode.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 09:43 PM
11

"...... Quest for Nut..." I can't help but see the squirrel from Ice Age. 🐿🌰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:45 PM
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No form of acquaintance with a man is risk free for any woman, particularly as the intimacy of the scenario grows or the more they know about her. They are physically stronger, advantaged by the patriarchy, lie to manipulate and undervalue women's love and work, wanting to subordinate us to them. Society shames women for even just looking at a man, if someone chooses to take exception to it. She is blamed if she is abused or taken advantage of and told she should have chosen better, so she must …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:00 PM
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Amen to that. I'm finding fewer things I want to watch and listen to because some of the messages are clearly patriarchal propaganda / brainwashing. Nothing we internalize is ever just entertainment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:56 AM
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My mother cares for my father who has openly told her he would never do the same for her. He has used her like a servant their whole married life. The minute she is unable to manage, I'll be advocating for him to go to a home, regardless of my brothers who stand idly by, trying to orchestrate my efforts instead of speaking to their own parents. I am middle aged and am disgusted by men my age wanting to secure a wife appliance for the home. I feel that with the dearth of HVM out there, I'd like t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 09:34 PM
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I noticed your posts! We're trained to absorb those lies without question and to think these scenarios will work out to our benefit if only we give enough. Thanks for pointing it out. I saw the other red flags in it but the main characters slipped under the net because he said he loved her, though he wasn't behaving so. If I want to see a woman working to solve a dark mystery with a genuine feeling of reward at the end I'll watch Miss Marple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 08:57 PM
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I feel for you 🙁 Same here. She does it to both her sisters and her brothers' girlfriends. Its pathological. The result is she feels excluded by her sisters and framed as a drama queen by our brothers. If the shoe fits......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:28 PM
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Bridgerton, we're looking at you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:16 PM
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Your comment really jumped out at me. I'm learning this too! When I read posts here that resonate with me, I usually find myself drafting a reply as I reflect and form thoughts about what I've read and the realizations it inspires. I don't post every one of these but it so helps to lay everything out and look at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:17 PM
4

This is awful but I shouldn't be surprised. I totally agree that women protect other women and kids best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 01:39 PM
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A lot of women don't realise they can just leave. I didn't. Due to my conditioning and low self esteem I was unconsciously accepting and unwittingly encouraging abusive behaviour in my past relationships. This is just me - supremely confident women are abused too. I redrafted that paragraph a few times. I wanted to include "short of direct insults or a physical violation on my person or property" but looking back, I tolerated these too in my earlier relationships and was gaslighted into minimizi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 01:35 PM
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I'm so sorry he added this stress during your grieving. What a pathetic, self centred wretch. An ex of mine ignored my message on the morning I told him of a death in the family. When I texted "goodnight, speak tomorrow" in the late evening after a busy day of arrangements, he suddenly became available and blew up about me "dismissing" him. He made up a tryst with an imaginary ex he "couldn't get out of his system" and regretted. I deliberately didn't respond to that which made him push the stor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 01:03 AM
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I agree that this was a test on what she would accept. Men talk about women "shit testing" them. That is totally a concept in men's mentality. He deserved to have the pepper spray used on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 11:25 PM
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That is so creepy, calculated and threatening. I makes my blood boil hearing you have had to put up with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 11:01 PM
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It really doesn't matter how tenuous your acquaintance is. You're part of a mental map they have, signposted "there be vagina". It's like a dog who has buried a bone for later delectation. In bad cases they can be as tenacious as one. I was contacted by a man I had matched with on match.com 7 years ago - yes 7 years! At the time of matching, I didn't know better and gave him my mobile no after a few exchanges on the site. I was deep in pickmeship at that point. We messaged on Whatsapp - no perso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 10:51 PM
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My baby sister (she was 28 then but big sistership is for life) was stalked around a supermarket (grocery store) by a security guard who was leering and told her creepily "I want to get to know you". No hello or anything else. He abandoned his post and followed her to the car park, standing in front of her car and refusing to move unless she gave him her number. She's pretty FDS naturally, more than my starting point, so she stayed in the car and wound down the window just enough to shout that s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 09:10 PM
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For this man, would the right time have been when age related illness started kicking in and he had no other options?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 12:11 PM
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LVM don't want to admit / aren't aware enough to realise that they see women as the real providers and they the dependents. They are notorious for changing sexual partners anytime their needs change, or adding them - very often deceptively/secretly against their existing partner's will. They still looking to a mother figure to make it better. These same men who want to be catered to for life , punish women for not feeling inclined to permanently sacrifice themselves so that another adult can hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 12:09 PM
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I'm so glad to say she's well on her way. I think the immense, unquestionable disrespect made her reflect and question why she entertained any disrespect from men at all. There's no gaslighting her into making excuses for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 04:09 PM
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Yeah, brings to mind the awful man who my close friend told about her eating disorder. She's FDS now. When we were all out together a couple of times, she abstained from dessert and he smirked, rolled his eyes and said " Yup! I know why", clearly thinking he was holding a secret over her and feeling powerful about toying with revealing it to others. He'd do rude things like rest his feet on her belly or bottom when we were relaxing together, which he knew she was self conscious of. He'd often co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:46 PM
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Eh? Confront his girlfriend about what exactly? What exactly should his mother know about what his father stashes (in hidden folders)? Blame the nearest woman for his and his Dad's wrongdoing. Broken record.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:55 PM
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Men want to force on women that their only value lies in men deeming them sexually acceptable. Projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:36 PM
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Hmmm. These men claim not to see a need for or notice the myriad thoughtful, personal things women do for them and claim it as a basis to not reciprocate. They know. The kids know. Unfortunately, how the kids process it depends on their mother here. Acceptance means it's acceptable and it calibrates their own treatment of her. Unhidden consequences show that it is not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:20 PM
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Yeah, a man I saw a few times warbled on from the outset about his first girlfriend cheating on him at 16 and breaking his heart. 40 years previously! Apparently every one of his 3 ex wives was at fault for their marriages not working and nobody understood him or loved him, blah, blah, blah. He was working hard to build an origin story so I'd feel like I had to be the one to make it up to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 01:02 AM
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🤣😂 I love it! More often than not, that sausage doesn't live up to the promotional efforts and doesn't satisfy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:09 AM
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The symbolism from the necklace is alarming and backs up his words perfectly. He's the buck, on the higher level, with antlers formed like a crown - her 'king. She's the little thing below and not even the star of the piece. He's into her right now and another 'tail' could easily slot into second place in her stead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 09:50 PM
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So much leverage is made from women's sympathy, the expectation of them to keep everyone comfortable and the implied responsibility turning into guilt Having compassion for someone struggling does not mean you have to fuck them. You don't put your vagina in the collection box for a cause.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:56 AM
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At least she doesn't have his child. I hope she gets fed up of lying down to be walked on. I despair over how patriarchy confuses women so much we'll act against our own interests.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:39 AM
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A condom split during sex with an ex fiance who I lived with. I stopped in shock and said I'd need to get the morning after pill. His next action, in the face of my terrified expression and stiff body was to say "now we can carry on without, as you're taking the pill tomorrow. I'm willing to take the risk!" This is a guy it had happened with once a few years previously and at that time he ignored it compleyely and didn't ask if I was late or pregnant. I stopped using the pill with him because he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:19 AM
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I just need to give a thumbs down to Disney's Princess and the Frog. The message it seemed to give was that a black woman cannot be a princess. She doesn't deserve a prince unless he's merely a prince in name with none of the good features, she has to do build a bear work on him and the best she can hope for is false '50/50' Meanwhile, the nearest white woman is the princess in her story. Thank heavens for the directors making normal films about normal people who happen to be black. I don't know…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:26 AM
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Men say this but what are the chances the sex they'll want you to 'get' is even good for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 12:00 AM
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This is an artistic representation of the unnaturalness of the demand. It is an insult to nature. The womans disfigured anatomy signifies that this role diverts her path, away from her healthy development and fulfilment of her own goals. The outward facing wrong arm is a metaphor for her diversion from the person she wants to be and deep spiritual cry for help.........
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:47 PM
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If sex is only PIV, why are they begging for hand jobs and blow jobs? Refusing to reciprocate in pleasuring your partner effectively is about control and winning, being on top, as is every part of their psyche. Men are integrally insecure. It is pathological. They must create the flimsiest of scenarios to lift themselves up. Undisciplined men struggle to manage themselves sexually. They are sexually needy and lack responsibility. They blame women as they perceive this as domination and control o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:25 PM
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Some men just are subservient to women in workplace hierarchies. Let them accept it. She's in charge. As humans, we're equal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:48 PM
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Me too! It's amazing how we can forget the effort that goes into things which are a daily routine for work / socialising. For Zoom meetings, all I need is to sit in a spot with flattering light, the touch up filter and my quick front loaded hairdo and I'm set.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:43 AM
2

The whole feeling of entitlement to 'a chance' is aggressive and dangerous. 'No' is a complete message. Nobody's entitled to a sample of another person, like children and a bag of sweets. That's what a chance essentially means - a free dip to get a taster of what they want. Once their hand's in the goodie bag, good luck pulling it out if they haven't had enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:28 AM
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They really believe that anything which even hints that attention or effort should go to someone other than them is abuse, which needs to be punished. As if it can only flow in one direction. It's all a zero sum game, 'winner' takes the spoils ad infinitum. I suspect he likes you but is enraged because he's telling himself he'd 'have to' help you, which his black hole of an ego extrapolates into you putting yourself above him and diminishing what he gets. As we know, LVM are vengeful and lash ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 10:38 PM
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I think they believe they're dominating their environment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 10:24 PM
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🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 10:22 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 10:21 PM
5

The old unflattering saying applies here. Why buy the cow.........
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:42 PM
14

I really get irritated with the 'I'm having trouble reading you' coming from some men. If I'm not an open book, turn the page with some questions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:18 PM
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🤣😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:59 PM
5

Some women will wrongly believe widowers will be easier to get on with and cherish them because of the experience they've been through. Wrong. If a man is LV, he never feels too wretched to mistreat a woman. It's really the ultimate in the list of issues LVM think buys them Carte Blanche to misbehave without consequence. Some will even lie about it. And after all, one never completely gets over a loss as such and some will tell you nothing you experience will ever be as bad as they have. If you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:56 PM
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So true. When they say you're not listening when you simply don't agree. They want to make decrees.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:34 PM
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I know a man like that. He wonders why his daughters don't talk to him much. Erm, because he isn't listening. He thinks a 2 way conversation with a woman in his family means she only stays silent or agrees. Better to not bother than hear a shaming lecture about something you never said. It's funny. He had respect for women outside his family and now also some dementia and forgets to be nasty. I wonder how much of it is automatic and how much is thought out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:32 PM
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For LVM, issues in either party are shortcut on their usual path - manoeuvring into prioritising his interests above all else. LVM happily dramatise and also fabricate issues for this purpose. Patriarchy has done the prep work on some women already so they come along, say the magic words and pick the easy fruit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 01:13 PM
3

Unless you hate him for his race, it isn't racist and is nothing to worry about. Unfortunately some people, of any races, are just thoroughly unpleasant. Mostly the men /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:34 AM
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Jealousy of the female attention to men who don't look like them and deciding its emasculating ti perform to appeal to girls and women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:17 PM
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These men want to style themselves as the 'Queenmaker' who can 'make ya', then anyone who they help is beholden to them or they 'break ya'. It's a Faustian pact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:12 PM
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Women are brainwashed into thinking that a man wanting access to you sexually is empowering. Power is surely something someone has which can influence others to do things they otherwise wouldn't do. Any runt of a man stands a good chance of being able to overpower and rape a woman and women are forced to change their behaviour in order to defend their ability to choose who gets access. So where is the power in making yourself accessible? Looks like the only sexual power women have lies in the ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 07:10 PM
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What he means is girls aren't paying me attention, this'll get 'em.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:50 PM
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Good on you. I wish I'd realized earlier I could just leave!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 07:34 PM
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I admire your strength, self-respect and forward vision. Many adult children of such relationships, where Mum didn't leave, really suffer for it in what they learn about acceptable behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:43 PM
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That defies even LVM logic! What did you do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:37 PM
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Even one of my brothers at my mother's house. He's calculated that he can get away with it. The other brother respects his mother and sisters more and takes pains to do a good job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 11:21 AM
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It makes my skin crawl. You're spot on - Powerful Brits continue to be protected, whatever they do. Looking at you HRH.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 11:11 AM
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Thanks for spotlighting this. There are so many things we take in good faith because we don't know better. Some men are really obsessed with sex at any cost. Poor abused little girl. All of those kids then and now. Seems any new technology that comes along, a good portion of the population is thinking how to get themselves off through it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 10:40 AM
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That man's enraged because of the implication that a man, even if he's in the wrong, is not entitled to a woman's constant attention and sacrifice. Men do most things simply when they see an advantage, at a time they want that advantage. As long as his day to day comfort won't change, nobody else's concerns matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:50 PM
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I've had Virgin River on as background noise while working from home. For a start, the actors playing the lead couple, have a16 year age gap from the old man down to the young woman - it was so jarring and creepy looking at them. I won't go into spoilers but good grief! Every relationship except 1 is centred around a pickme and an opportunistic, self interested, dishonest man. I can't even be bothered to check if a man or woman wrote these 'romantic' propaganda. If it's a woman, she's radicalize…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 04:18 PM
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Fairy 'tells' As an enlightened woman I see they are telling on themselves when actions speak louder than words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:55 PM
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No. They got enough in childhood and received the message that they could verbally and physically manipulate women and girls to cater to them all their lives. I really compare most men to Cuckoos in our nests. It's not inherent in all of them but even some who know better will take the easy road because they realise they can. Society / patriarchy does almost all the work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:34 PM
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Is this a variant of the idea that women are mentally ill if they don't chose servitude to men, bearing their offspring and slavishly caretaking a showhome for them as their purpose? Whatever the woman's living conditions or state of her life, how she feels about it is the only thing that matters. This picture simply projects what he chose to say about the modern woman. I wonder how much direction was given by the magazine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 01:54 PM
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I've found none of those things in a relationship unless I arranged it and paid myself. Except the calls - some men are too keen to push emotional labour onto any woman who'll answer the phone. Girls and young women should know they can sexually experiment without the need for a 'meaningful' relationship, stay safe and stop once their curiosity is satisfied. Not caring about people is no crime. It just means you didn't hit it off. You move on and maybe you'll care about another person who fulfil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 09:10 PM
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I so agree. Parasites they are. Sucking the life force of their 'host' to the point of an earlier death.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:53 PM
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What on earth did she honestly expect? I know some things we have to experience and learn but this seems clear cut. And what happened to girl / sister code? I wouldn't entertain my sister's ex's brother as it keeps him in her life (I know there may be exceptions out there if people are all on good terms). Dating the brother of an abusive ex would never happen. Her sister's given her a lot of grace but she's betrayed her. This should really be 'Am I The Idiot'. I feel pity for this woman. Emphati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 09:18 PM
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Hi. I'm sorry you're wrestling with this right now- these feelings and thoughts can be exhausting. Mentally and physically. Unfortunately, few women get the needed training or advice before finding themselves in a relationship. How do you feel your ability is to speak up for yourself in general? You said you both agreed to discuss things but it seems like some things are difficult for you to broach with him. How do you feel your boundaries are? Do you tend to appease and please? It is important …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 12:45 PM
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My God. I wasn't prepared for reading this. We can forget so easily that slavery never stops. Men continue to seek to accumulate and stockpile power by compromising others, playing puppet master and reaping the spoils. Its pathological. And I will say men since we're living in the world they claim all the credit for. Men in every group rely on the fact they can always dominate compromised women physically, sexually and often financially. If they can hobble a woman in any of these ways first, eas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 09:52 PM
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Yeah... My forever ex earned more than me and I paid 50%. The smidgen of FDS I had in me stopped me from performing housekeeper duties so the house was a mess half the time. But I delivered free emotional labour. For the usual reasons I didn't know I could just leave. He declared regularly that his job was more important and he was the breadwinner. He tried constantly to 'debate' me into deprioritising myself in every area, even to try to persuade me into sacrificing my morning work prep routine…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:48 PM
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Back in the 00's, my ex's father went to Amsterdam for his other son's stag night. Each night, he refused to go to the red light district, telling the men it is disrespectful and degrading to women. He returned to his wife having respected her and those women. His low value sons filled their boots. Not even a right thinking father can stop the overwhelming influence from peers and the encouragement of our patriarchal societies. It made me stop and think about why my ex still watched. So close bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:03 PM
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