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I had a co-worker who helped software companies through agile transformation (almost the same as lean, but applied to software instead of manufacturing). He used to refer to our clients as "target rich environments" because they were so screwed up we could literally start just about anywhere and it would be an improvement. No reason not to get the low-hanging fruit first. You could also lead with kaikaku but it's obviously hard to stay motivated.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 07:41 PM
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Lean isn't really about motivation. Lean assumes that if things aren't working well, it's probably a systemic problem and not an individual one. So it focuses on fixing the system to make it easier for people to do what they're supposed to do. At the factory where I used to work, one thing they did was to make "spaghetti diagrams" - they drew out a floorplan and used yarn to show where the operators had to walk throughout the day. In some cases it added up to miles of walking. Then they would mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 07:36 PM
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I wasn't meaning to disagree. You start with kaikaku - making radical and visible changes in a short amount of time. So like rearranging tools and workspaces to improve efficiency, doing the "sorting" (forgot the Japanese word), etc. And then you follow it up with kaizen which works exactly how you describe.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 07:26 PM
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Well, in Lean, you also have the principle of kaikaku, which is making radical changes in a relatively short time. Kaikaku and kaizen work together.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 06:51 PM
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I've been married for almost 20 years and am purple-pill at best. But even I know this. In 20 years, I've never been glad that I argued with my wife. Don't take the bait. It's not going to go well. Disengage. just allowing her to disrespect me There's a difference between ignoring her / going and doing something different, and putting up with it. As an example of the former... I know a woman who is a reasonably high level manager at her work, was an officer in the army, reasonably attractive for…
/r/askMRP16/11/16 09:43 PM
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I don't have any close friends, but most of the men I know are the husbands of my wife's friends. Any thoughts on whether it's wise to just become friends with them? That's obviously the path of least resistance.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/16 04:09 PM
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Sounds like you did a pretty good job with your toddler. Don't put up with bad behavior from your kid; deal with that immediately and firmly, with no compromise and no backing down. At home, you have more opportunity to deal with these things. He can sit there in his booster seat until he finishes his food, and you can simply ignore the fit. (Ignoring a fit from a toddler is incredibly effective, BTW.) In public, you do need to be considerate to those around you and avoid "making a scene" - whic…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/15 05:27 PM
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Wow, I'm sorry you had such a difficult time. Illness is hard enough without lacking support. In my own case, my wife has been incredibly supportive, so I don't have to deal with that at least. If I'm disturbed, scared etc... Keep it to myself. When I had cancer, I broke down once during chemo. It was terribly upsetting to my wife. Fortunately it was also at the very end of my treatment - I didn't have to keep it in for long. Don't prove shit Well, I want to demonstrate that I can in fact (for i…
/r/askMRP18/08/15 08:11 PM
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Thanks for the book recommendations; I will take a look at those. Crack jokes and make light of everything. I was just thinking of Ronald Reagan's legendary humor after he was shot. One thing I forgot which I think is important for guys in this situation, which is that I am taking personal responsibility for getting all my dr. appts and such set up. Normally my wife handles this kind of stuff for me, but not in this case. I feel like it's important for me to handle this personally rather than my…
/r/askMRP18/08/15 08:04 PM
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are you guys having sex now? Not a lot. Probably 4-5 times on a good month. She almost never turns me down, but she's typically legitimately pretty tired at the end of the day so I feel pretty guilty initiating. I don't want it to be an obligation - that's just bad all the way around. I'm working on two things: First, getting in shape. I need to lose at least 40 lbs, and while she doesn't look quite like she did pre-kids, she's still pretty hot. I can't really expect her to be attracted to me at…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/15 08:03 PM
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What the fuck happened for you to accept shit sex for so long? I am not OP, but in my own case it was pregnancy + young kids. We had pretty good sex until my wife became pregnant with our first one. Then things slowed way down. She wasn't feeling well, it didn't feel good, she was afraid of hurting the baby... Then the doctor says "No sex for six weeks" after the baby. Followed by lower drive due to her nursing and being tired. That lasts for about a year until she stops nursing and the baby sta…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/15 05:40 PM
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no longer than 10 weeks I'm curious as to why the 10 week limit? Also, what would I switch to once that's done?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/15 05:32 PM
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for upping dread I think that's supposed to read "before upping dread." The idea is to move more slowly if you've ben acting beta for a long time.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/15 04:54 PM
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Similar situation here, but I'm only about 40 lbs overweight. Right now I'm mostly doing body weight exercises - trying to strengthen my legs and core, and work on cardio to get ready for a backpacking trip. My plan when I get back is to start lifting and cut calories simultaneously. I don't think I'll build muscles very quickly, if at all, that way. My goal is just to lose weight and do the lifting just to establish / maintain my habit of going to the gym, and keep from losing any muscle I do h…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/15 04:46 PM
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Because I was sick this week, I skipped going to the gym a couple of days. Last night she asked "Hey, are you going to the gym tomorrow?" I said I was and asked why. "Oh, just curious." Consistency is key! She's definitely watching to see if this is a phase (even if she doesn't realize she's doing it.)
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/15 04:36 PM
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once you've built up enough value Right - so that's kind of my point. You have to get yourself and your relationship to a certain point first. I use a form of "you're cute" on my wife quite a lot and it's very effective. (I compare her behavior to something our youngest daughter did once which was really bratty and simultaneously hilarious.) But I have a pretty good relationship. But if a guy comes in and his marriage is falling apart and he's never even begun to assert himself and he's low SMV …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/15 04:52 AM
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/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/15 04:42 AM
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Flying leg kick, most likely.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/15 01:14 AM
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There should also be some kind of penalty for suggesting "smack her ass / pat her head and tell her she's cute" as a cure-all.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/15 08:39 PM
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We need to make "WWPD" ("What would Picard do?") bracelets. http://imgfave-chat-herokuapp-com.global.ssl.fastly.net/image_cache/1367811136621505_animate.gif EDIT: They exist. https://www.etsy.com/listing/163663223/star-trek-bracelet-star-trek-jewelry
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/15 08:34 PM
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You've read MMSL so you're familiar with the Captain / First Officer paradigm. Can you imagine Captain Picard interacting with Commander Riker the way you did with your wife? "Number One, if you would have just asked me instead of telling me, then maybe I would have listened." "Number One, don't be childish. Answer your communicator." Sounds stupid doesn't it? Don't argue with a woman. Don't tell her "Woman you have to respect me!" Just like attraction, genuine respect can't be negotiated.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/15 08:11 PM
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As you've presented it, this is unacceptable even in BP relationships. But you have a long road to walk, so you can start fairly gently if you don't think you've got the groundwork laid to really assert yourself yet. Walk in and say (pleasantly) "Hey <gf>, it's <time>, please come help me get some dinner ready." (Tell, don't ask.) If she ignores you or argues, calmly repeat yourself. "I need some help, let's go." Wait until she gets off the couch and comes with you, don't leave before then. Lay …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/15 05:46 PM
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It shows yourself to be a professional. Not needed for a lower end job of course, or in the very worst circumstances. But it shows that there's no hard feelings, that you wish your former company success, and that you have a higher view than just your own day-to-day duties. And it takes a huge load off the manager's mind and is very impressive. He'll think well of you even though you're leaving. I never worked harder than the last 2 weeks of my last job.
/r/askTRP07/07/15 09:24 PM
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Quitting after just two weeks is going to burn some bridges, no doubt. But there's not much you can do about that. One thing I'd add to the advice here - take a few minutes so that you can give the CEO a status update on your projects. Put together a plan on how to either wrap them up, or transition them to someone else, in the next two weeks.
/r/askTRP07/07/15 04:36 PM
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As far as the ultimatum, it's possible this is a comfort test, sounds like it to me. So do something like gently pin her down on the bed and say "When I'm training with and I get her pinned, I'm absolutely NOT tempted to do this ... or this ." I bet you can work this in tonight when you move your pillow back to your own bed. As far as salsa, IMO, bjj and salsa are entirely different. I think it would be inappropriate for a married woman to take salsa lessons with a man other than her husband (an…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/15 05:53 PM
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As far as the Bible - "husbands love your wives" and "wives submit to your husbands" are both unconditional and independent commands. Saying she'll submit to you IF you are loving to her is just as ludicrous as you saying you'll only love her IF she submits to you. But for some odd reason, no woman ever says "sure, you only have to love me when I'm submitting to you 'as unto the Lord'." Also you can point her to 1 Peter 3 - St. Peter says that if a woman has a bad, even unbelieving husband, that…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/15 05:39 PM
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This reminds me of the Ben Franklin effect. I wonder if it's the same mechanism at work.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 08:04 PM
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Assuming you're going to do this on a regular basis - start with the guys you know won't bring their wives/moms/daughters and stick with that group until it gets established. Then invite the others, probably just 1 new guy each time, make the rules clear. He'll be coming into an established culture so it should stick better.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 06:11 PM
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And if the husband isn't man enough to keep his wife away, he doesn't get invited back.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 06:08 PM
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In the past, lifting weights has not helped build any muscle if I did it while dieting. Then I stopped dieting and started building muscle. But I think right now it's probably best to lose weight even if that means I don't gain much muscle for a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 12:40 AM
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I have earned the right to do whatever the fuck I want to do. I'm a man, first and foremost, not a boy, and my woman is not my mother. ... I've worked hard to become not just any man, but a successful man. ... If I want to take a few hours and have a little fun with a small portion of the remaining third of my time here, ain't nobody got the right to say shit about it. Fuck that. Aside from Scripture, that's probably the most liberating thing I've ever read in my life.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 08:00 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/38rda4/hit_the_reset_button/
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 07:53 PM
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I am significantly overweight; I need to lose at least 40 lbs. That's going to take a year all by itself. How does that affect the timing? Also, I'm "skinny fat" - think Dilbert. Should I start lifting first, or focus on weight loss first? I've been unsuccessful at doing both. EDIT: I misunderstood what "skinny fat" meant. Will focus on weight loss first.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 07:48 PM
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Sorry to be breaking the rule about only "MRP APPROVED" people replying here - but I do think I can be of help here. Especially if you have kids, get a book on Family Worship, and institute this in your home. This one by Terry Johnson is good.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 07:43 PM
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Sexual denial I'd love to hear a pastor stand up in the pulpit, read 1 Cor 7:3-5, and sit back down. No qualifications, no excuses, no explaining it away.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 07:38 PM
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This weekend is going to be a challenge. My wife and I are talking about buying a travel trailer because we want to be able to take the kids on a lot more trips. We have a lot of kids, and limited towing capability, so that limits our choices quite a bit. It's hard to find those models for sale, so we're already kind of frustrated. I'm going to be balancing features vs price vs weight. And getting my wife's input (because I really want her to be happy with what we get) without either getting def…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 05:50 PM
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Awesome!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 05:23 PM
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Oh dear. We lost internet points. I better go re-evaluate my entire life. I'm kind of proud my particular comment got called on on TBP. But I'm jealous of you: I think BluePillProfessor may be the actual worst person I've encountered in a TRP related sub.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 05:07 PM
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If this is only periodic behavior from her, then it's appropriate to own up to it and apologize. If it's nag nag nag all the time then I would refuse to participate in it. No apologies, nothing. Just ignore it. My kids' karate teacher says "I don't argue with children." Tell her - "I don't argue with women." Or "I don't explain myself to women." "I don't owe you an explanation." Or something like that. Be consistent. Just don't apologize. She'll eventually stop because it's not getting the react…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/15 02:30 AM
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Sorry, can't help you with that.
/r/askTRP01/07/15 02:16 AM
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If you say "Let's go to <Mexican restaurant> at <time>" and she replies "Oooh, Mexican food is too spicy for me, can we go somewhere else?" then that's legit. Follow up with a different suggestion. Or if she says "Sorry, I have to do something then but what about <some other time>?" then that's also probably legit, and reschedule for the other time if it fits your calendar. If she leaves out the italicized part, she's probably not interested. But really I think you're over-thinking it. What's th…
/r/askTRP01/07/15 02:12 AM
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A woman who's been on the carousel is not worth a LTR.
/r/askTRP01/07/15 02:06 AM
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You have Approach Anxiety. Google it. Try the 3 second rule. Make it a rule for yourself that if you see an attractive woman, you'll go up and talk to her within 3 seconds. Doesn't matter much what you say; you're no worse off than if you don't talk to her at all. "Hi, I'm drew967. I just noticed you and knew that if I didn't come over here and at least introduce myself, I'd regret it."
/r/askTRP01/07/15 02:04 AM
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I was drawing an analogy between "How does my form look, am I lifting this right?" and "My wife did X, I did Y, does that sound right to y'all?" Not sure why we'd label the second one as "how you should feel".
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 10:34 PM
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I do sincerely appreciate your offer to help people out via PM. It is very generous and admirable. I've learned quite a lot by reading the responses when other guys post really specific situations and ask for feedback. (Or seek validation, or whatever we're calling it.) I've also found that I am much better at analyzing another man's behavior than I am at my own, probably because I'm detached from it. I bet we're all like that. That's like the whole reason consultants even exist as a job. Person…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 10:31 PM
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A better measure would be IOIs from other women All you did there was substitute "other women" for "your wife". You just told me to measure my progress by the actions of other women instead of my wife's actions. Think of my question in the same vein as someone on /r/loseit asking, say, how much of their initial weight loss might be just water, or someone on /r/Fitness trying to understand their "noob gains". But I do really appreciate your comments in the last paragraph.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 10:20 PM
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I appreciate this, but this approach keeps the rest from learning at the same time.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 10:10 PM
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If we were at the gym, and I was a newbie and you were all ripped, I might say "Hey, /u/darthskids, does my form look good when I squat?" Or perhaps I'd show you my workout routine and ask "What do you think?" It's a pretty clear analogue of "Here's what's going on in my life right now, what do you think? Am I on track?" It seems pretty arbitrary to call one thing "seeking validation" and the other "asking advice".
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 10:07 PM
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Sorry, I got a little confused - how long ago did this happen? Even if I did forgive something like that, I would not tolerate her remaining FB friends with him.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 09:23 PM
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I've been looking for a good, manly hobby like this. I might give it a shot. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 07:39 PM
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I wouldn't have taken it easy. I started going ridiculously, frustratingly slowly until she starting pulling me into her. Then I threatened to leave hickeys all over her. But she's really self-conscious so I went along with her request. Even though I'm pretty sure her ob/gyn knows we have sex. covert contracts When I got to that page in NMMNG it hit me like a ton of bricks. Even just having a name for it helps.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 07:37 PM
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I literally laughed so hard I spit my beer out of my mouth. Cracked me right up with the "strolling out of there" and then you know what. She started giggling too. AFAICT, 9 times out of 10 this is the best response to a woman's craziness. At least, it seems to work for me. I think they know when they're being crazy. Oh yeah baby, now time to mess up all that hard work I told her that all the volume in her hair just drove me wild with desire. just doing them and expecting nothing in return is fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 07:30 PM
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I hate being the beta bitch complaining guy. I have news for you... :-) I get this sometimes from my family. I make scrambled egg sandwiches. The kids rave about them. My wife sometimes gets all pouty about it. The key is to treat it like the nonsense it is. Don't take it seriously. This is laughable like when toddlers get into a fight. So laugh at it, not in a derogatory/mocking way, but just laugh, and get her and the kids to laugh too. Better reactions might have been: Condescendingly / baby …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 07:04 PM
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We men are not actually all that hard to please.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 06:39 PM
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After you get your license how does it work? Does your club have planes available to rent?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 06:35 PM
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She was Adams first wife and refused to have sex with him prompting the first human to demand God make him another wife- Eve. I think you'll appreciate this joke: http://www.bestfunnystories.com/2009/10/what-can-i-get-for-rib.html I think my wife is mostly in the first category. She doesn't even typically resist or complain - she's pretty good at being submissive and wanting me to lead. I don't even notice very many shit tests. the only reason the sex is not up is because you are not effectively…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 06:27 PM
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It is on the expensive side Can you give us a ballpark figure?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 04:05 PM
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I'm imagining your childhood in which, just after you were born, your father named you "Sue" and then left. Years later, you received a letter from him on your birthday consisting of a picture of him holding you as an infant, and a handwritten note that simply read "Men don't ask questions." If you imagine MRP as a ladder, with us poor simpering beta fools at the bottom and more enlightened demigods like yourself at the top, basically you just knocked out the lower few rungs of the ladder. In my…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 03:23 PM
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She literally just woke me up for some sex 30 minutes ago. So I think the question has been answered. :-)
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 04:53 AM
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RP is a sexual strategy. One measures a strategy's success by whether or not it produces the desired results.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 04:50 AM
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My gut got me into this beta / bp mess to begin with.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/15 01:12 AM
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What are you looking for? What are you qualifying / disqualifying her for? A casual hookup? LTR? Marriage?
/r/askTRP29/06/15 09:48 PM
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Don't respond for a while. Say something really simple like hey, hi, yo, sup, long time no see, or howdy stranger. See where it goes from there.
/r/askTRP29/06/15 08:52 PM
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Thank you for this. Especially liked this line: be happy with your wife not because of of your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/15 02:34 PM
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The pig trivia makes it even better.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/15 02:23 PM
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Let it ride. Ideally she'll take a long look in the mirror and start eating better and exercising. If you want to be cruel, go up to her, hug her, say "Hey, about that comment the other day... You know I love you baby" and then pinch some of her flab and say "... ALL of you." This will probably bring things to a head, to put it mildly. Very well done in your response to her best friend's text, and her response back to you demonstrates that.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 02:04 AM
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I'm really wondering about the logistics of how/when you update that spreadsheet. :-) I'm also surprised there's no popular app or website to do this. I've seen a few but they were all primarily designed around tracking multiple relationships, and weren't well suited for what I wanted - just a few basic metrics (customizable) and some minor graphing/reporting. I had an app on my Android that I used for a while, then I switched to a spreadsheet on my iPad. I was tracking: my weight (I'm fat, work…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/15 01:48 AM
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You're a nerd and I mean that as a compliment. :-) It would be interesting to see if she maintains the pattern if you go 2-3 days without initiating. I was going to say 3-4 but let's not get carried away. I suspect it's some kind of chemical cycle due to the hormones her brain releases during sex and orgasm, as well as the hormones she absorbs from your semen. That fits your observation that it seems to be timed based on the last time you have sex. She gets a "high" from sex with you which lasts…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/15 11:45 PM
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Sounds to me like it may be a protracted Main Event
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/15 08:04 PM
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She has a headache. Still calls for the same course of action, but it is possible she's telling the truth.
/r/askTRP19/06/15 04:40 PM
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Say "ok, hope you feel better" and then proceed with your day. Just go do something fun. You can't know if she's telling the truth or not, but it's at least possible. If she texts you later today and says "Hey, I feel great!" then she was probably telling the truth. You can either go through with your original plans, or invite her to join you at whatever you're doing at the time, or reschedule, or ignore her, or whatever you want. If she texts you later today and says "Sorry, I still feel horrib…
/r/askTRP19/06/15 03:45 PM
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You are hamstering really badly here and jumping to an unwarranted conclusion to avoid taking responsibility for your failure.
/r/askTRP17/06/15 05:39 PM
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I don't think it's a mistake to ask your wife to talk to you so you can stay awake on a long drive. But if she doesn't, pull over somewhere and buy some coffee or take a nap or something. Snapping at her and blaming her for missing your exit was wrong. You knew she was starting up a video so if you didn't realize it turned off the GPS then you can't expect her to either. I think that apologizing was correct, unless it was only in response to her "cold shoulder" in which case it was weak. If you …
/r/askTRP17/06/15 05:35 PM
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married to the same woman TIL my wife has at least two other husbands.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 03:58 AM
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Should just implies obligation, and a man should never do something out of obligation, but always out of personal want/choice. Since we're being pedantic... Everyone always does exactly what they want to do. Even if they have a gun to your head, you're still choosing to comply rather than die. Unless you're literally being physically overpowered, it's all your choice. When we refer to an "obligation," we are simply weighting factors such as social approval or other consequences more highly than …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/15 03:55 AM
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I do not disagree with you. I'm just trying to clarify that a family man has to differentiate between his own personal desires, and what he thinks is best for his family. He's both a private individual, and an "officer" so to speak. It's not BP or Beta to make a decision that's not what you personally wanted if you think it's best for your family. For example, I love Mexican food and would eat it almost every day. My wife doesn't like it. Some of my kids find it too spicy. So when I take my fami…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/15 10:09 PM
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I agree to change plans and eat down there instead (Blue Pill mistake). One bit of advice I read here a lot is "Do what you want to do." Instead I think it's better for us dads to say "Do what you think you should do." If you genuinely thought she was correct and it was better for the family to avoid getting in and out of the car all day, it wasn't a mistake to go along with her plan. That is why I didn't want to eat there in the first place, but I bite by tongue and stick to generally ignoring …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/15 09:24 PM
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Sorry, I didn't quite understand. Your wife knows you like sex better in the morning, so she asks you to just wake her up in the morning and have sex with her. If my wife said that to me... I'd wake her up in the morning and have sex. What's the half hour of frustration you're referring to?
/r/askTRP16/06/15 05:52 PM
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Long hair is feminine, short hair is masculine. Or in our culture, at least; I won't argue about other cultures and times or about what constitutes "short" and "long". Don't believe me? Almost every girl I've ever known, in the months leading up to her wedding, grows out her hair. Why? Same reason she starts dieting and exercising. Because it's beautiful and she knows it. When a woman cuts her hair short, she is deliberately and suddenly saying "I no longer care to look beautiful and feminine fo…
/r/askTRP16/06/15 05:47 PM
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Jesus was the ultimate Alpha I think you'll enjoy this poem: The Ballad of the Goodly Fere.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/15 03:33 PM
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don't say anything. Don't respond. You have to be careful due to US medical privacy laws. If his wife doesn't want him there, then legally they have to force him to leave. It's stupid but such is life. The nurse may have been "joking" but absolutely serious.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/15 05:47 PM
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If I catch my wife stepping on the scale, I sneak up behind her and press down on the scale with my toe. Just enough to add 10-15 lbs.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/15 04:49 PM
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I would have played it sarcastic / funny. Best line I've ever heard regarding pregnancy weight: "Hon, I don't think that baby weighs 40 pounds." Or maybe suggest an outlandish weight. "Wait, let me guess... 350?" (Although if she's overweight that might not have gone well; you don't want to be cruel.) Or how about "Um, I've seen you naked. That's how you got this way, remember?" And then if she still insists you leave, just chuckle at her silliness and walk out. OTOH - pregnancy does weird stuff…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/15 04:48 PM
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she wouldn't wear her wedding band. In a traditional wedding, you put the ring on her and say "With this ring as a token of my love and affection, I thee wed." The ring she wears is a sign of your love and faithfulness, not of hers. So in essence, if she refuses to wear her ring, she's absolving you - not herself - of your marital commitments. It might be fun to point that out to her.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/15 03:03 PM
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The more stuff I read around here, the more instances I can think of over the last two decades where my wife was basically begging me to be RP but I was so plugged in that I didn't see it. When we'd been extensively discussing a significant lifestyle change and she finally said "Just be a man and do it!" Or when she basically begged me to start lifting by talking constantly about how much she likes men with big arms, and then praising me excessively when I did start and every bit of progress I m…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/15 10:28 PM
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I really like being married. Can't imagine life without it. But my wife is a traditional woman. She was a virgin when we married, is a SAHM, takes care of the house, follows me, etc. I strongly advise you against marrying the girl you describe. Whether or not you break up with her is a different question. If you want to eventually get married, then move along and find a girl you'd be willing to marry.
/r/askTRP11/06/15 08:54 PM
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I've been reading TheRedPill for about 6 months, but it just makes her complain louder. Do you mean it makes her complain louder when you do RP stuff? Or does it make her mad that you read TRP and talk about RP? Shes starting fights all the time now. Do you think she's testing you? What kind of tests? basically forces me to use Viagra when I tell her I have ED, when it's really I don't feel any attraction whatsoever. Stop lying to her. Tell her you're not attracted to her. Just say no.
/r/askTRP11/06/15 08:51 PM
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My wife found out I was reading MMSL. She kind of freaked out and demanded to know more about it. I said "Well, it says that to have more sex and a better marriage, a man ought to work out, not be a slob, be assertive, take care of things, and not let his wife walk all over him." She calmed down and said "Yeah, that's true." Never heard another word about it. I think most women embrace MRP principles even if they don't like to explicitly acknowledge it. They desperately want manly husbands.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/15 05:49 PM
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I've been reading the TRP sidebar all morning. This is overwhelming.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/15 05:38 PM
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That made me literally laugh out loud.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/15 07:08 PM
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Thanks for the clarification. THESE are shit tests and easy ones too. So, she doesn't say things like this. Bad sign? Good sign? Maybe I'm just too whipped to realize the tests?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/15 07:06 PM
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There was one bit of solid advice though. Female here: she cheated and he dumped her. FYI: over a month out of your bed....it's a for sure...with those words
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/15 06:28 PM
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I just read your post on confusing shit tests and comfort tests. Maybe that's what happened here. I'd made a decision which she didn't like so she started to argue. I thought it was a shit test so I tried to hold my ground - which came across as defensive. But maybe it was really a comfort test - her wanting to make sure I cared about her and listened to her thoughts. So then I just made it worse by withholding affection. What do you think?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/15 06:24 PM
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I think you forgot to include the part where you guys fought. It was a boring fight. Basically I lost frame. I had made a decision and she started to question it a bit, and I got defensive. Then I withdrew affection a bit for a couple of days.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/15 05:56 PM
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I'm 40. My perspective may be a bit different because I'm still unplugging; also I've been married since my early 20s so I never really had much of a single life. It's much easier to stay in shape, than to get in shape. The gym is excellent for building muscles, but I'd also find a hobby or sport that I enjoyed to keep my physically active. It's OK to build a little bit of an independent life when you're married. Stay on top of your finances.
/r/askTRP10/06/15 05:49 PM
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I've read most of NMMNG, all of MMSL, got part way through Deida but got sick of the "lick her face" thing, and read some of Sex God. Since you haven't done anything related to redpill strategy here Thanks for that, very helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/15 09:42 PM
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Thank you for the feedback. Any idea what I should do about Mother's Day? We really had some good plans, just ... tornadoes got in the way. I didn't realize she was so hurt about it, I thought it was just something that didn't work out. Not sure I can do anything at this point or if I should try.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/15 09:39 PM
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I know I failed there, I acknowledged that, and am looking for some advice on where to go from here.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/15 09:33 PM
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You could have done this: Her: "i guess that doesnt seem to bother you?" You: "No idea what you're talking about. I'm a virgin!" or Her: "It's such a shame u have a bad reputation already...for such a nice, good looking guy." You: "Hey, I worked really hard for that reputation!" or Her: "It's such a shame u have a bad reputation already...for such a nice, good looking guy." You: "Meet me tonight and find out if I deserve that reputation." or Her: "It's such a shame u have a bad reputation alread…
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