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A girl says to you "good boy", you go to the internet and share how going to sleep earlier has made girls say "good boy". Domesticated It must be the other way, you must say "good girl" and have her tell her friends. It's not how they see you, it's how you see them. Do you see your mom, and need a her to say good boy, or do you see a woman If a study came out that women were 15% more attracted to bald men, would you shave your head? This "optimizing" mindset is just disconnected from reality. Wo…
/r/seduction20/05/24 11:53 AM
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All of that behavior is subconscious, it's inherited. The urge to procreate and for sexual relationship is inherent, all that we learn is the context, the specific culture in which we'll direct those instincts. The more you interfere with that instinct, the more likely you'll contradict it, the weaker you'll perceive the instinct. You cannot add, this is game, you must remove what has already been added, this is natural. Naturals don't game, guys try to mimmic natural behavior, this is called ga…
/r/seduction31/01/24 04:47 PM
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Yeah man, well said. It's a cycle of degeneration that starts early and gathers momentum, all the while you just feel like "you". You just feel that is what and how you are and it's not enough, so you add something to you, "game"
/r/seduction31/01/24 07:30 AM
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Those "specific behaviors" are wired in already, they don't have to be taught, you don't have to behave intentionally, you can behave spontaneously, naturally Everyone is taught, every bird must learn to fly alone, only the natural comes out of the learning process without anxiety and insecurity The more healthy you are, the less you think in game and the more you think in those "specific behaviors". Game itself is unnecessary and you can let go of it and forget about it forever without conseque…
/r/seduction31/01/24 06:43 AM
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Yeah, coping mechanism To me we're talking about relationships and sexuality. Once a person is no longer anxious and insecure, they can learn to have whatever sex life they want. "Natural" doesn't mean they're invincible, it means they lack anxiety and have less crippling insecurities, this makes it easy for them. The unhealthy put more effort in, only once they're healthy does it become simple, then they'll be felt as a natural and can stop talking and thinking about game altogether
/r/seduction30/01/24 09:46 PM
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Game was created by the insecure and anxious, not "naturals" Naturals succeed because they're healthy, they have to learn like everyone else, only their learning goes on without a hitch. The unhealthy students struggle to succeed because they are unhealthy, so they learn game Every one is a natural or at least born natural. When they're dealt bad cards, they pick up anxiety, insecurities and struggle because their issues and habits distort reality, their sexuality feels the effect because it dev…
/r/seduction30/01/24 09:06 PM
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Stop playing games
/r/seduction30/01/24 06:54 PM
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Yes but anxiety and insecurity is complex and the average person doesn't have the tools to grow past it to the extent that they can have healthy, spontaneous sexual relationships. This presupposes, "no game". There is no "student of game" in this sense, only the healthy - the natural and the unhealthy - the emotionally disturbed that learn "game"
/r/seduction30/01/24 06:49 PM
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It's already indirect, it's not direct. It's already been simplified to "do you want to go back to my place" The problem is you think it's a "line", when it's an indirect invitation for sex. You think you have to be "original", it's unnecessary, there's already a simple solution Why does "my place" have negative connotation? If you can look at your ideas or beliefs around this, you'll let yourself be simple and unoriginal and make life easy
/r/seduction30/01/24 06:30 PM
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You really needed to get this out hey
/r/seduction31/10/22 09:14 PM
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But they also dont care if you can play music
/r/seduction31/10/22 08:33 PM
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Lol huh. No, foreplay is the frame and the learning environment. Foreplay is the lego blocks for you to play with so you can learn to express yourself sexually For example, the rules of the game (the frame) is 1. Go slow 2. Before acting, feel yourself and feel her 3. Be curious and try new things eg.what are you holding back and what if yoh didn't? Try hand holding, caressing, verbal praise with eye contact, they're all ingredients for you to play with 4. When you try something, do it gently an…
/r/seduction26/09/22 08:20 AM
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Yeah the emotional experience, well really the whole you. I understand your appreciation of detailing women that way but what I'm actually talking about is clarity of your own experience. With time your awareness will grow to include her. That's why I use the idea of foreplay and the knowledge that women on average take longer to warm up to be ready for sex, as the foundation and an environment for learning. Learning through play and exploration, with sexual interactions as the medium to develop…
/r/seduction25/09/22 05:26 PM
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Usually women take longer than you to be ready for sex, depending on their emotional state, they need to warm up before sex. Keep this in mind. The idea of foreplay is important Maybe kissing is all the same right now, then you try what it's like with no tongue, maybe what it feels like to kiss her neck, how she responds when you bite her neck lightly? Where I'm going with this is having a process focus and not a goal focus, what is your process of foreplay? Explore these things, moving towards …
/r/seduction25/09/22 06:00 AM
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Guys are goal oriented, they focus on the result and not the process to the result but apply this with women. Here the result is more important than the means. The process reduced to yes or no, in this case, maybe and any willing participant with a vulva is proof of legitimacy
/r/seduction25/09/22 04:41 AM
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"All this time and I haven't asked your name. Well Amy, take my number so we can talk later, I know you're working rn"
/r/seduction24/09/22 08:03 PM
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You need a therapist
/r/seduction24/09/22 07:58 PM
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You're misunderstanding the process. Women don't respond to words they're paying attention to your mind (how you think - is he a leader?) and their emotions. They're not thinking what did he say yesterday but are remembering how you made them feel Words are a subjective medium of communication, since the meaning of words themselves vary between each person. They're more a form of self expression - how you're communicating, than what you're communicating. Our body communicates more than our words…
/r/seduction24/09/22 03:11 PM
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I literally don't have time to do that, maybe 2 hours ago, it feels like a lot of effort, for what? Peace though
/r/seduction23/09/22 05:31 AM
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Nobody has time for that
/r/seduction23/09/22 05:22 AM
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It's bad form to pretend to know what you're talking about and use studies to attempt to support random conclusions of your own
/r/seduction23/09/22 05:10 AM
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Like I said in that dm, you're not mature enough for us to discuss sexuality And now basic conversation is failing you too lol
/r/seduction23/09/22 05:01 AM
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I'm a guy but yes, he has no idea Lol yes he qualifies for those subs, this is what men have to deal with while trying to learn and develop their sexuality. Forgive the next guy of his transgressions, it's rough out here
/r/seduction23/09/22 04:55 AM
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Are you drunk? You message me in my inbox, blabbering incoherent shit so rightly I'm gonna ask what's up You messaged starting with "i don't know why that abortion of a post was deleted but i'm glad of it.", so I came back to check if my post was removed only to find you attempting to bully someone else lol
/r/seduction23/09/22 04:50 AM
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Lol thank you, this guy is full of shit It's one of the problems with the internet and information. Here we have a guy that can't interpret studies arrive and preach to the deaf
/r/seduction23/09/22 04:37 AM
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Basically but there is no apprenticeship for sexual maturity, so the average guy today learns sexuality from their parents, who were born in the 70's and the internet. The modern man enacts something along the lines of courtship and self improvement, which basically references our culture from the 1600's to now. I would not be surprised if the average mans agenda is along a spectrum of wanting to provide and wanting to impress
/r/seduction23/09/22 03:10 AM
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How old are you?
/r/seduction23/09/22 02:59 AM
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Women project their sexuality onto men too, all parties involved are operating in the dark. Ultimately humans are just trying to survive and get what they want out of life. Reflexive responses to sexual stimuli generally have their root in evolution and variance in upbringing. Male arousal is not just about receiving horny stimulus, the fact that you can tell if a women a mile away is attractive, just from her silhouette, even though she's fully clothed, says there's something complex taking pla…
/r/seduction23/09/22 02:46 AM
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Funny story. It's interesting that you got to talking about sex, how did it lead there? You touch much? I get annoyed when women hit me up wanting sex, I get so lost in my little projects lol. She'd have to message me exactly when I wake up, that's like the only time my dick is driving me
/r/seduction22/09/22 08:40 PM
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Nothing is missing. You probably lack a certain degree of self control, a certain maturation of your growth as a man isn't quite there. You drop hints of escalation being a problem over text but it's probably more of a mental than technical issue. Are you a man that knows what he wants, that can lead her? Then you would just step up, women are quite literally waiting for who will step up. You would just feel where she's at and try and lead her to whatever you're about. That's all it is, there's …
/r/seduction22/09/22 08:14 PM
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It has more than 140 characters
/r/seduction02/06/22 09:25 PM
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Lol swimming pools
/r/seduction02/06/22 09:24 PM
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Moving forward with 1/5 of the women that you're talking with, so you'd be on 4 more dates I say go with the ho's
/r/seduction25/05/22 03:34 AM
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1/5 seems reasonable. What did the 3 you went on dates with have in common, what was the pattern of the conversation
/r/seduction25/05/22 02:19 AM
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How many message you back
/r/seduction25/05/22 02:12 AM
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1/3 Of the 60 matches, how many are messaging you back
/r/seduction25/05/22 01:59 AM
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If she's going to a museum and art gallery with you it's a date because those are boring as fuck. Just start very light, tell her she looks beautiful today. If she seems happy/relaxed or whatever by it, she's in front of you because you make her feel good and she wants more.
/r/seduction25/05/22 01:56 AM
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Hey
/r/seduction25/05/22 01:47 AM
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Nah it's a genuine question. I applaud your honesty, she just couldn't see a relationship with you
/r/seduction25/05/22 01:46 AM
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Lol what's third base again. Yeah your rate is low, I think it's because you're trying to date. At 19 focus on having fun and move fast with women
/r/seduction25/05/22 01:41 AM
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You're motivated by a family not necessarily a woman. It's short sighted but better than nothing I guess. If that's the life you want then it's fine
/r/seduction25/05/22 01:37 AM
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It depends on the conversion but you can be really fast of you want to I normally ask for their number to call them. One conversation, voice call, is usually enough to solidify a date. So I'll just say what's your number I'll call you or more subtle and technical is to qualify them, just say you seem cool, what's your number, I'll message you There isn't really a formula, just what you're comfortable with and where you're comfortable moving things forward from. Recently, I'm very fast, not reall…
/r/seduction31/12/21 06:32 PM
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Pretty much. Men figure this out late in life lol
/r/seduction29/12/21 05:35 PM
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Lead, especially younger woman, they'll just sit there with their panties soaking while you talk about your next project lol. Infinite ways depending on the woman in front of you. The main thing is staying in touch with her. You do something and you feel her reaction. You might begin kissing her neck, she pulls back a little, you switch back to just making out. You can go backwards and come back again I just put her hand on my dick while making out and feel how comfortable she is. As long as she…
/r/seduction29/12/21 05:27 PM
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Lol
/r/seduction29/12/21 02:28 PM
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Run
/r/seduction29/12/21 02:25 PM
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Talk to her on Sunday
/r/seduction02/12/21 04:00 AM
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Fair enough
/r/seduction02/12/21 03:57 AM
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Could've left out the if you aren't interested part. Also dinner is pressure, more casual is easier to say yes to. I hope it all works out for you though
/r/seduction02/12/21 03:56 AM
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Where do you think you went wrong
/r/seduction30/11/21 04:58 PM
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Therapy
/r/seduction30/11/21 02:00 PM
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What's the initial approach like and why are the numbers flaking
/r/seduction30/11/21 01:55 PM
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Yeah. I think silence and isolation is important for men. Meditation is important, else you don't quite move from your core. My vibe is like a dead quiet forrest, when people hang around me they become more still. Hanging with me is like playing in a quiet forrest lol But anxiety and tension will make being with yourself difficult
/r/seduction30/11/21 04:08 AM
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Sure
/r/seduction30/11/21 03:58 AM
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Self image is difficult to rescue, it's not like you're going to behave differently to who you think you are right now, in a week. Honestly I think therapy is a good thing. It's very hard to talk to women when you don't feel good about yourself and socially, insecurities are incredibly distracting. We can talk about what to do as well as fundamentals of inner game but personally, for young men especially, comfort in their own skin, that connection to one's self, is the only foundation from which…
/r/seduction30/11/21 01:38 AM
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There's a lot of smart people in this thread, with a lot of reasonable, emotionally intelligent and logical thoughts but when you're attracted to a person, most of the time, it's you that will change in their presence not them The first thing a man must do to make his life easier is drop his body fat. Eat your dam avocados and broccoli, get to 11% and all of a sudden your jokes are funny to everyone. That's the cheat code to all of this
/r/seduction29/11/21 09:51 PM
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That's not something you'll have to think about. If she's a good woman, she'll create enough drama for the both of you. You just have to keep the boat afloat
/r/seduction29/11/21 09:24 PM
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Yeah the person on the receiving end prefers an attractive person. Time of day, location is just thinking too much. If it smells like a man and look like a man, that's enough for a woman imo. If he looks like he's just got done talking to his therapist, that's when the time of day matters
/r/seduction29/11/21 05:09 PM
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It only depends if you're attractive or not
/r/seduction29/11/21 03:07 PM
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You don't really mention where you get stuck with women
/r/seduction29/11/21 02:07 PM
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What competition
/r/seduction29/11/21 12:52 AM
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I hear you
/r/seduction15/11/21 09:53 AM
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Unless you are especially visually aesthetic, ig is a waste of time. You have to focus on what's real, your life is a real thing. My ex was on social media a lot, she's young. Always on twitter and ig. Constantly getting dm's from guys, it's just validation. When it came to real things like actually talking, than passing notes on twitter, hanging out and sex, she'd call me. Your ig girls are keeping you at arms length and there's actual guys in their lives giving them real dick How you are in pe…
/r/seduction12/11/21 02:54 PM
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Lol okay, I'm always down to learn. Tell me how it can be done through socials and text
/r/seduction22/10/21 02:42 AM
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This only changed for me when I realized women like sex. I mean I knew women liked sex but didn't know how much they liked it with me. For all your flaws, there are still things that make you valuable as a man, to your friends and family and the world all needs you to step up Honestly, life is chaotic, messy, cringe, awkward and everything in between. Interactions are the same, however you can also create things like fun, freedom, excitement with your own initiative. I think it just comes down t…
/r/seduction21/10/21 07:08 PM
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Of course, especially if you're under 25 Your voice is still more powerful in connecting and communication
/r/seduction21/10/21 04:20 PM
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Well you gotta assume she's interested in you, you gotta like yourself. Only then will you let it be easy, simple, only then will you do less and even be boring. Or else you will constantly be thinking of what the next move is I would call her. 10-15 minutes over the phone is enough for the week, get to know her and her lifestyle. Maybe a couple texts if I have a funny thought or something. Then the banter is natural, light, like passing notes back and forth in class
/r/seduction21/10/21 03:56 PM
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Lol maybe
/r/seduction21/10/21 02:41 PM
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Unless when we lock eyes somehow time stops, yes, that's too much effort for me. I'm not a magician, I have places to be and things to get done
/r/seduction21/10/21 10:52 AM
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Depends on your age. I think men take longer to mature sexually, if at all. At around 24, if his development was finr, I'd consider him a young man and he should have more self control and clarity
/r/seduction21/10/21 10:48 AM
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Texting is for women to gossip with each other and for meme's. It's inefficient because it's disembodied, she cannot feel you but if she likes you she will obviously want to talk and will reply to your unfunny jokes and unflowing conversation anyway It's a tool for logistics not connecting. You're good at connecting, you say you're funny and can flirt, why do more? Keep your texts short and sweet and use voice notes and calling to reconnect. She needs to feel your influence. Text, "hey you free …
/r/seduction21/10/21 02:46 AM
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In person
/r/seduction09/10/21 07:41 PM
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It's only on the corners of the internet that you will see this said A more pressing question is, is it possible to date the women you find MOST attractive? The answer is yes
/r/seduction09/10/21 07:39 PM
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I'm gonna save this, it's like knockout blow. A proper uppercut for the right moment She's open but also unsure. It's really up to your lead, and if she wants to follow. To that end, see other women to sharpen up or maybe meditate and focus on your purpose more. You're too focused on her to know what's best
/r/seduction08/10/21 07:10 PM
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It's crazy that you knew I was taking a shit while reading this. It's one of life's unspoken pleasures
/r/seduction08/10/21 07:04 PM
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Could be worse but just being in this mindset of "is that a sign" is game over imo. Sure it can still work fine but it's gonna be a trend. You have to bring the killer, the "I want you". Wondering if somone is flirting is a lot of effort
/r/seduction08/10/21 07:00 PM
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Pick up lines are funny, if the line makes me laugh I'll say it. I guess it's the place you're coming from Meta is interesting. Many guys, at least here, are thinking how can I differentiate myself or trying to differentiate themselves but the frame is still the same as the frame pick up lines were used within 20 years ago. It's still, "what's the best reply/line" Since caves the only man that's differentiated is the one that's living fully and doesn't care
/r/seduction08/10/21 06:54 PM
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Maybe it's time to expand your comfort zone. Maybe stop talking with them and start dancing with them
/r/seduction11/04/21 03:23 AM
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You're just insecure. These are questions of self doubt and lack of belief, fears of getting dumped.. that if you take seriously, will take you further away from where you want to be
/r/seduction11/04/21 03:21 AM
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There are no girls you know you'd just enjoy making out with? Doesn't have to be deep, a lot of it is just having fun
/r/seduction11/04/21 02:55 AM
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Yeah it's normal, it's okay. You're missing out on nothing. Make the special moments happen then my friend But you cannot avoid women, you must get experience. Women grow faster, they're expecting men not a boy with a career. There is no way you can properly understand yourself as a man without understanding women in relation, they are after all our complement
/r/seduction11/04/21 02:48 AM
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Experience but the fear/excitement never goes away. It's mainly about reducing your anxiety in your daily life, getting more comfortable and relaxed in your own body. Then you won't be blasted away by her initial impression. Meditation can help slow your thoughts down, then you can bring this single like focus and intent to the interaction I don't even think anymore, I don't tell myself anything but my thought process is probably, "she's cute, I wanna meet her". The key here is attention has mov…
/r/seduction02/02/21 07:45 PM
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Less Call her to confirm
/r/seduction23/12/20 11:29 AM
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Doesn't mean anything. Text less
/r/seduction23/12/20 10:14 AM
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Tinder was never made for men to get laid, it was made to make money. Peeps have studied human behavior to figure out how you will spend money on their application, not how you will find your partner
/r/TheRedPill11/12/20 02:42 AM
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I'd recommend David deida, go to his website. You have to find a way to understand your relationships in terms of your purpose in life Nothing with long term effect happens quickly. Life is more like an art than something we overcome or succeed at. So you can learn the 5 primary colors by the time you are 10 but will take your whole life to make art Maybe just have more sex, it's easy. When a girl messages me she's horny and asks to come over it doesn't effect me as strong as it has in the past …
/r/seduction04/12/20 02:20 PM
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Thanks for the tips
/r/seduction16/11/20 01:56 AM
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It's easier to find a girl to have sex with than it is to find a compatible girl to have a relationship with Relationships are challenging and need constant maintenence It's very possible to avoid them altogether
/r/seduction09/11/20 12:49 PM
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Most of the emotions you're feeling seem like projections onto him, a crush basically Let's keep it simple. You might want to be proactive and ask him out, seeing if you actually like him and if you could work together
/r/seduction19/10/20 04:35 PM
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Make them feel good about themselves
/r/seduction19/10/20 03:40 PM
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What a headache
/r/seduction19/10/20 03:35 PM
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One wants her, the other wants her to like him
/r/seduction19/10/20 03:29 PM
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It's your politeness. Try to "cut through" with realness Smilling, small talk.. It's not proactive enough to start something
/r/seduction19/10/20 03:22 PM
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Yeah it's a mental switch, it's a belief. It's like doing less does more
/r/seduction12/07/20 05:18 AM
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What do you mean, it's within your power to make an offer no? You're not getting their interest, you're giving yours. It's not oh hey she's interested in me (although of course you get those emotions), it's oh hey I'm interested in her. You're not getting them, you're giving you. Try begin relating on this level first. You first have to make the switch from a beggar to a chooser
/r/seduction11/07/20 09:33 PM
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Haha I hear you, this is the mindset that is perpetuating your condition Sexually it sounds like you still need to develop, women can actually help you with this. Every women is on a similar journey and you can help women learn and explore not only their own sexuality but emotions and mind, which is what we do in relation right So for you right now it's like, as you say, begging. Make it about growth, fun.. something more empowering so when you meet a new woman you can say hey this is where I'm …
/r/seduction11/07/20 08:33 PM
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How well do you relate sexually? Sounds like your problem lies within your beliefs. There's something you think is true about women and yourself that's not, and when you interact with them, you communicate this belief The period between 22-24 is particularly interesting to me. The beliefs then, and what context or foundation your relationship was built on. You said you broke up because of lots of lying? There's clues there
/r/seduction11/07/20 02:31 PM
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Online does take a bit of testing, you're on the right track
/r/seduction13/06/20 03:29 PM
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By not texting at all
/r/seduction09/06/20 10:56 PM
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If you have your own car or place just find an okay chick on tinder. Easy stuff
/r/seduction09/06/20 10:55 PM
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Toothpaste
/r/seduction09/06/20 10:54 PM
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You could.. but you need to be moving towards something. I want to know what you can do You could look into her in the eyes and say, "yeah being diagnosed with autism has made it more difficult for me, but Im doing x, and excited about y. I know I'm not the only person with anxiety though, do you deal with it?".. or whatever Simple stuff, just gotta get over yourself
/r/seduction06/06/20 02:04 AM
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There's this one guy that posted on here some telegram or whatsapp group for wing men, maybe contact him and see if he can share the site with guys
/r/seduction03/06/20 03:48 AM
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Talk to all those girls you're not into and then take that with you with women you're into. When you're talking to a 6 you're not excited before bed, you don't think at all. Honestly gotta start somewhere. A woman is a woman, a 6 responds the same way as a 9. What a 6 doesn't like a 9 doesn't like also, so fail with women you can go without. It's men that change women by putting one on a pedestal. This is the thought that gave rise to pick up, she is higher value so we must also appear higher va…
/r/seduction03/06/20 03:21 AM
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It's just a comfort thing, people move at different speeds. Yea try again but don't focus on it, if that makes sense.. don't make it a goal, you'll miss the right moment, the window. Focus on having fun and if you feel good about her, try kiss her again. Wait for the desire to kiss her first, this is what makes it natural
/r/seduction03/06/20 01:50 AM
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It's a good practice if you struggle with approaching But predators don't move with haste
/r/seduction03/06/20 01:41 AM
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Probably by absorbing yourself into something that makes you feel good. Try to make as much progress as you can with relationships though. Work on making friends, being social, getting whatever you can get handled like your finances. If you can learn to relate, you can build relationships
/r/seduction31/05/20 09:52 AM
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She doesn't wanna talk for 2 hours, she already has girlfriends. Maybe she thinks you're looking for a gf, while she is for the streets
/r/seduction20/05/20 12:52 PM
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There is no way a woman can hold my interest during this time so I don't expect the same for women but humans will always want to connect, want intimacy etc. so there's still a demand for these things The key is just to not text a lot in general but create the impression that communication lines are open, as you would of we didn't have to stay home
/r/seduction11/05/20 04:40 PM
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College dorms mostly. From 19-25 conduct all your business in and around universities
/r/seduction03/05/20 04:41 PM
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Of course you can do that with your oneitis but why would you want to? Just find a better girl. You've gone through the fire, you've changed.. So what's in it for you now
/r/TheRedPill23/04/20 07:30 PM
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That's just ego talk. There's so many women better than your oneitis, you just have to leave your city for perspective. Leave your country and you're mind will explode, you'll immediately acquire an abundance mindset and first thing you'll do is start working on yourself The girl I was hung up on in the imaginary world of high school if I look at her facebook pics now, she's fat ! We're only 24 now, it would be sad of me to want her to crawl back! Best thing you can do for yourself is move on an…
/r/TheRedPill23/04/20 12:49 PM
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Shouldn't really attach morality to sex. "this is good, that's bad". Please only speak from experience Humans are already selfish as fuck. Westernized humans are the ultimate selfish. That's why we are the way we are today, they want what they want not cos it makes the world better or worse but because they want it
/r/TheRedPill23/04/20 12:40 PM
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Yeah beyond sexual strategy, the range of women aren't too different from men. Social conditioning and culture affect all. Most women are bluepill/beta. Men just have a chance because older guys guide younger guys. Older women basically let younger women figure things out for themselves hey
/r/TheRedPill23/04/20 12:34 PM
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What were you imagining, they would pull down your pants and give you head? They didn't dismiss you man, you literally ran away seconds into the interaction
/r/seduction20/04/20 06:01 PM
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Maybe it would mean that for you but it could mean a number of things. In general I'm not overly interested in what happens over text, it's all about compliance. If I say let's meet up, 6pm Friday and she says "sure", idgaf if she can't hold a conversation, doesn't ask questions or checks up on me (that's what my actual friends are for), it's on. This game is played in real life not on the phone
/r/seduction20/04/20 05:17 PM
2

You're fine
/r/seduction19/04/20 02:20 PM
2

Anxiety starts in your head but lives in your body. You just have to drop your attention into your body amd relax as much as possible. Your mind will follow your body
/r/seduction14/04/20 12:40 PM
1

Where's the mistake. She's down man, comfort is a good sign. Go get intimate with her
/r/seduction14/04/20 12:30 PM
3

Yes. It's the best time in a long, long while to be a whore. Stay safe guys
/r/seduction14/04/20 12:13 PM
1

Start with a shot and a beer
/r/seduction14/04/20 12:08 PM
1

That's me 🤷‍♂️ I wanna be with a girl till I'm with her
/r/seduction14/04/20 12:06 PM
1

If you don't see their value, leave them be
/r/TheRedPill11/04/20 02:36 AM
1

your yearly "im worried about my looks" threads
/r/seduction11/04/20 12:50 AM
6

mindless mr dependable is beta bux. women of past got married for support, now women can support herself. therfore follow a career for yourself, not to capture a woman. that means for you to get into a career for security is something you must want for your own lifestyle, or else you might spend a decade learning a practice you care little for, meanwhile you just wanna fuck or connect, work at the sneaker store and make music and friends. this is possible today, toban extent obviously whatever s…
/r/TheRedPill07/04/20 11:36 AM
2

You mean Dumbledore right, you believe in professor Dumbledore
/r/TheRedPill07/04/20 10:56 AM
1

There's always tomorrow, baby
/r/seduction02/04/20 02:10 AM
1

You aren't really that good friends aparently
/r/seduction02/04/20 02:09 AM
1

Yeah that makes sense, I see where you're coming from. It is better that way and potentially more sustainable
/r/seduction29/03/20 10:52 PM
1

No links lead anywhere
/r/seduction29/03/20 05:02 PM
1

Only those that strive to be elite need personal trainers, however most get personal trainers because they don't have the faculties for independence
/r/seduction29/03/20 04:51 PM
1

Yes
/r/seduction25/03/20 03:20 PM
1

"can help build this sense of adventure" no it doesn't only help, it does the job. You're looking for more to do (breadth) instesd of just looking deeper at what already works, in particular why, and refining it for potent delivery Adventure is basically the unexpected. Every moment is the unexpected, what pulls us out the moment is thinking, being conscious of yourself.. so there's a clue.. You need to take responsibility in a way where she thinks less and less. You already know what's going do…
/r/seduction22/03/20 03:09 PM
2

Just go slower Sort and prioritize the top 5-7. For example maybe the top 3 can be the ones you spend the most time with then the other 4 are more casual Keep it in a range that's very easy for your lifestyle. When one falls off, you replace and reorder It's like having a harem. Actually you could get a number of ideas and perspective by googling how to create a harem
/r/seduction22/03/20 01:23 PM
1

He'd have to be a real cool guy to be around
/r/seduction19/03/20 02:30 AM
2

Just assume she's interested, don't do mental gymnastics. If she stops talking keep it moving
/r/seduction19/03/20 02:22 AM
3

Focus on having fun, play around. A lot of the time it's about making myself laugh, letting go of what she might think. Sometimes I've jumped the gun or said something she didn't understand and things ended there, that's okay. I remember learning through failing never to make a joke at her expense. I also think attitudes like she wants you, you making her earn it etc. helps sometimes
/r/seduction19/03/20 02:05 AM
0

If a girl is talking to you she's into you
/r/seduction19/03/20 12:11 AM
1

Be less mindful of social norms, follow your desires a little more If you feel weird you're gonna look weird and then make her feel weird. Relax, nobody's watching you You might just be uncomfortable with your sexuality
/r/seduction18/03/20 06:41 PM
1

Social dominance. Basically being a leader in your life
/r/seduction18/03/20 12:15 PM
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It happens naturally, women are a distraction You need some time to heal and process your experiences. You'll bounce back streamlined
/r/seduction16/03/20 06:29 PM
1

Practice self acceptance. You're just hard on yourself. You don't sound okay with where you're at, that's fine but women will feel that you are holding something back, which will come across as you lying about something.. And you already think you are lying about who you are Try to be honest about who you are then but accept yourself. Why "still a freshman", have some pride, have some respect for what you do and where you are in your life please You're good enough I think I'm the same. I'll slee…
/r/seduction16/03/20 04:17 PM
1

I existed between the time when texting was cool and dating apps or social media weren't as dominant so I'm good at both. Men don't develop in person BECAUSE of the apps Texting is actually low value. The cellphone itself is the playground of pretenders. Till you are too busy to text or spend time on social media you shouldn't, it's an attention thing.There's a quality of attention, a sensitivity to reality that is developed when you are offline else you just default to mindless habit in person …
/r/seduction16/03/20 04:08 PM
2

Mystery is the unknown. A mysterious man is an unknown man A creepy man is an unattractive man therefore a creepy mysterious man = an unattractive unknown man and an "interesting" mysterious man = an attractive unknown man
/r/seduction16/03/20 02:32 PM
1

It's hard not to notice a person that's 6'4 but you're right. Shoulder injuries ruined my posture. I did shoulder rehab for 3 months, since it's a whole system (scapula, thoracic spine, neck, muscles etc) my whole posture improved. I noticed a lot more attention, it's hilarious Unfortunately after I finished ny rehab my sedentary lifestyle destroyed my posture further and it's a uphill battle Sedentary life styles fuck up the human body, we move without grace these days, dragging our bodies thro…
/r/seduction16/03/20 02:21 PM
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It's a grey area where the guys she's attracted to are out of her league and the guys that are attracted to her are out of her league Guys don't complain about this cos men play a proactive role, we do the approaching so we so the selecting (of who we approach). As a guy why wouldn't you approach the most beautiful women. I've approached beautiful women I thought I didn't stand a chance only to find out, for lack of better words, that they ain't shit Real life is not tinder, in real life, at any…
/r/seduction16/03/20 01:58 PM
3

I practice meditation. I watch my mind literally look for, find and see opportunities to make her laugh. A part of it is my witty, playful nature but another part is a sense that if she laughs she likes me, ie. my intention is validation based, so I don't try anymore, if she doesn't laugh at something that's on her. All this effort because media said that women like humour. I say just save your humour for the girls that want to see you, since they like you they'll enjoy even your dummest shit an…
/r/TheRedPill16/03/20 01:26 PM
1

You can become a top male. Dominance is in your behavior
/r/seduction16/03/20 11:42 AM
1

Yeah I think having that pressure makes things worse. You end up placing too much importance on your approaches and then you're not having fun. You become serious, it becomes a challenge or mission - "okay 250 approaches" It's like learning any new skill. You go from unconscious incompetence to unconscious competence. You reach stages followed by plateaus of seemingly no progress till the next, higher stage. Like how you're learning to dance, it's not linear like x amount of dances in x amount o…
/r/seduction14/03/20 08:10 PM
3

Cold approach is just a skill, not a lifestyle. It's a skill used to help build your social life. Hobbies can also be used to build a social life If you see the girl of your dreams you're gonna cold approach, you're not gonna ask your friends of friends to introduce you Women are everywhere, recently met one at the grocery store. Took about 3 minutes. Guys sometimes ask where to meet women and I always think, where ever you are Cold approach is the best way but it's the hardest to learn from scr…
/r/seduction14/03/20 04:10 PM
1

How'd you get to such a place. Could just be you inheriting beliefs from social conditioning Humans assign meaning. Sex or your sexuality has whatever meaning you give it Explore your attraction to them more. What, why, how
/r/seduction14/03/20 01:25 PM
1

This "women aren't sexually attracted to men" thing
/r/seduction13/03/20 11:01 PM
1

I don't know what you're talking about. We've been fucking for thousands of years don't complicate things. It's likely this attitude that's holding you back
/r/seduction13/03/20 10:39 PM
1

Takes time to make things appear natural. It's mostly about your self control. Initially you're going to be carrying the conversation anyway so you def havr to watch yourself
/r/seduction13/03/20 11:35 AM
1

Sorry dude, this is a victim post. Go take some time out with yourself
/r/seduction13/03/20 11:33 AM
1

It's a tricky one cos you'd basically be saying the same things in any situation, the place you're coming from is different though You're saying those things to get her to like you not to genuinely build self esteem. So honesty is key here, you don't have to do shit if you don't wanna.. "I'm so insecure".. "oh ok". Or just keep it simple, "you're being hard on yourself" Just gotta be honest with yourself
/r/seduction13/03/20 11:31 AM
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I think rejection is a primal fear, I think it has its roots in our evolution, the price of being social animals What I've also found is rejection is different for everyone and that it's a learned fear from early childhood. In other words whatever made you feel rejected early in your life is your "blueprint" for rejection. It could be being neglected, ignored, shouted at.. list goes on. It's a very specific "no" that you respond to There's also this spiritual element of not being enough fundamen…
/r/seduction13/03/20 11:14 AM
0

Unless you're lucky, first time always isn't that good. Whether you've known her for a day or a year The rest you've mentioned are heavily dependent on the individual. All in all if you're self aware, responsible and healthy you should have as much sex as you want to, it's open season
/r/seduction05/03/20 07:25 PM
1

😂 You are wise. Yeah it's how I continue to learn it today A lot of guys recommend reading Models, I haven't. Personally I learned a lot from way of the superior man and the book of pook
/r/seduction02/03/20 05:23 PM
1

Sounds cool, a rational sub
/r/seduction02/03/20 03:38 PM
1

Is he more emotional ?
/r/seduction02/03/20 03:31 PM
1

Where you are at right now is where a lot of guys start, the beginning. All you can do is find a girl you like and try lead things in the direction you want them to go, failing that you learn where you can improve.. that's the beginning
/r/seduction02/03/20 01:13 PM
1

In the beginning nothing seems to work out
/r/seduction02/03/20 01:09 PM
1

Yeah, right now. Keep learning.. it will happen
/r/seduction02/03/20 01:07 PM
1

Start by finding a girl you really like
/r/seduction02/03/20 12:39 PM
1

Invite them all
/r/seduction02/03/20 12:38 PM
2

The short answer is, with practice. The thing is, even within the group I'm still thinking independently to the group. I could leave them at any moment, do my own thing and have a good time. To summarize it briefly, lead yourself. It's all about if you can lead yourself through the world
/r/seduction02/03/20 12:36 PM
1

Who cares about difficulty
/r/seduction02/03/20 12:20 PM
1

Your voice is only projecting your beliefs You have to face your insecurities - go ahead and be boring, don't try make em laugh.. Just be boring, slow down. You can do it perfectly already with women you don't like, give it time to surface All it is about is valuing what you have to say more than what others will think about what you have to say. Once you make this switch, which will take time.. your voice will project it, it will project self assurance
/r/seduction02/03/20 12:09 PM
2

Yeah women live in the land of emotions. Emotionally, what I wanna eat now is different than what I may want to eat in even an hour It's more important to know what you want than knowing what a woman wants
/r/seduction02/03/20 11:58 AM
1

Where ever you are, go places. Start with the places you think you'd like
/r/seduction02/03/20 11:50 AM
1

Is your guy more "womanly" than other guys ?
/r/seduction02/03/20 11:17 AM
3

She's on holiday and probably wants to get laid by someone she thinks is cute
/r/seduction02/03/20 11:15 AM
2

Women gate keep sex, men gate keep relationships. It's simply not easy for women to get into relationships with the men THEY want Tinder and social media is just validation and attention, chick crack. Women are masters of social media and relational manipulation but when it comes down to it, they don't have as many options as you'd think having thousands of followers would imply
/r/seduction11/02/20 11:55 AM
1

It's easy for you to look at the bigger picture however women pay attention to the small details, they do it with each other everyday. They don't know you, to them how you look right there is you. Even if you don't cut your hair, if you keep it clean, trim the ends, shape up a little - they will notice it
/r/seduction08/02/20 12:40 PM
1

Yeah you become shy but it's the same thing, his eye contact has the same impact
/r/seduction08/02/20 12:32 PM
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In general body language is not something you wanna try to control. Eye contact communicates a lot. She may not have felt good about the way you were looking at her. If you can remember what you were thinking while looking at her, that's probably what you were communicating
/r/seduction08/02/20 12:25 PM
1

I'm jealous I don't do anything at all
/r/seduction08/02/20 03:26 AM
1

Not really, just doesn't seem calibrated
/r/seduction08/02/20 03:25 AM
1

Sort by generation
/r/seduction08/02/20 03:18 AM
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You can just lie and take the lie with you to your grave, hurta nobody. Be modest and say 2 Women think I'm a fuck boy, who am I to prove them wrong. My first kiss when I was 15 the girl thought I was a player - I didn't even know what to do, one of the most awkward moments If you're this far, just go with it. Even if you have sex and completely fuck up, even that is normal.. guys aren't exactly fucking like porn stars out here
/r/seduction08/02/20 03:15 AM
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The single biggest sign is to get tested. How a man can show he is interested in a woman is through holding eye contact longer
/r/seduction08/02/20 03:07 AM
2

😂 Maybe one day you will be unavailable but for today just be available
/r/seduction24/01/20 02:37 AM
2

Work through the emotions, work on your beliefs and have courage. Basically what everyone else is doing
/r/seduction24/01/20 02:19 AM
1

What's your question
/r/seduction24/01/20 12:03 AM
5

I'm a cerebral type, I only attract women with intellect It seems shallow but you overlook what we are and how men select mates. There is no primal wiring in men for intellect and verbal banter. It could be a standard of mine yet I'd lower it if she mirrors my primal blueprint It's not her body. It's her light, her radiance or feminine soul expressing itself through her body and mind. The expression. How she feels sexy, how she feels seen and appreciated, how she cares for We attract our complem…
/r/seduction23/01/20 07:10 PM
2

Fun is missing from your mix. Have fun
/r/seduction23/01/20 04:53 PM
3

She just needs to be healthy, physically and mentally. The rest doesn't matter
/r/seduction23/01/20 04:47 PM
1

😂 Don't need to read anything, honestly just go to the gym
/r/seduction23/01/20 04:45 PM
1

You're fine
/r/seduction23/01/20 04:39 PM
2

Friend zone exists. It's the place where one person wants more than the other wants to give but doesn't want to sacrifice their relationship
/r/seduction22/01/20 09:27 PM
2

A lot more girls than we'd assume are down to come over fast so we don't need lines to be direct. There's also a lot of girls that are protective and it would feel like you just wanna fuck or she just wouldn't feel safe if she hasn't met you Generally I'd have to meet her before she can come to my place so if I were you I'd just do coffee nearby
/r/seduction21/01/20 10:02 PM
2

Go somewhere more relaxed
/r/seduction21/01/20 04:18 AM
1

Yeah for sure but there's probably more girls into him than he thinks, even the girls that are attracted to his friend
/r/seduction21/01/20 12:35 AM
1

Is there really nothing you could have done about your approaches ? Maybe you wanted them to react to you as if you were your good looking friend and felt some way cos they didn't The way I see it, those girls are also open to hooking up with you. The girls hovering him doesn't mean they don't want you just like if you see two attractive girls together, you could want them both right. Ultimately the goal for most guys is choice, what the good looking guy has if he applies himself of course. That…
/r/seduction20/01/20 04:19 PM
1

Keep it simple. You can take advice from anyone but think for yourself
/r/seduction31/12/19 01:19 PM
1

This will keep her interested You obviously want to value and respect her as a person, not an object you run your game on
/r/seduction13/12/19 02:19 AM
2

With respect to mate selection men are primarily visual. Think about how this would help humans procreate. Now flip it, what would a cave woman instantly be attracted to. We'll find that the root is a mans mind, how he thinks. An attractive man can walk into a room and go unnoticed, it's not his m.o to be noticed, it's his m.o to notice, you see ? It's the dance, how men and women complement each other in every area; physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually
/r/seduction13/12/19 02:14 AM
1

Women are the peacocks displaying their feathers. I look good for me full stop Yes my ego is ever present and wanting to make an impression on the world but in reality taking care of yourself in itself is important for independence and relationships
/r/seduction13/12/19 02:05 AM
1

If you're having sex, she will continue to invest emotionally. If you aren't, staying in a masculine polarity naturally won't push her away. Generally speaking and this is not a frame trick or anything, it's more like how can you stay interested in her. You want her to equally contribute her unique flavor to your life else what's the relationship really about
/r/seduction13/12/19 01:55 AM
3

There's women everywhere. If I understand the message, it's correct though. If you're not decent offline, you're gonna struggle online. I could line up 3 dates with cute girls in a week on tinder but I could also have the same thing done walking through the mall for an hour
/r/seduction02/12/19 07:24 PM
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Think social, don't think seduction. A conversation is social after all. Keep it simple, start by talking to people just to talk You have to be okay with the unknown and not having control. That this conversation could go anywhere and it's okay but there's things you want to do or say. Then you'll learn faster
/r/seduction29/11/19 12:57 PM
1

If you're good in face to face you can make that transition into texting with the same quality. It's just that you are thinking about texting from a pick up paradigm, which leads to trying to control the interaction, to do your game on her, forgetting she's an individual. Ego driven stuff so when you have a blank canvas and it can go anywhere - good and bad, then we get stuck
/r/seduction28/11/19 09:52 PM
1

You're not trying to draw the woman in, to "pull". What you're doing is more like a rocket taking off in her face. You're not saying what works, you're doing you, in front of her.. you see, leading. Some guys like to basically run funnels, doing the same shit and whoever's attention they catch is processed. So you can do what works, I'm sure there's many tinder guides on the internet and youtube that will give you ice breakers. I'm just talking about my experience and what I learned Conversation…
/r/seduction28/11/19 08:17 PM
2

Mystery is a forefather, he was way ahead of the pack. Times have changed greatly and we can only look back and appreciate
/r/seduction28/11/19 07:53 PM
2

Just learn from them. Troubleshoot, stop for a moment and see what the commonalities are, maybe get down a list and then improve on one thing that you think could have a big impact, look closely at what you should stop doing, what you can let go of. Often doing less is more effective but also, doing the same things is just a comfort zone. It's like doing something because it worked once or not doing something cos it didn't work that one time. A big clue that can help you troubleshoot is using fr…
/r/seduction28/11/19 12:17 PM
1

Knowing what you want to do next and leading. So like cutting through noise, "being direct". It's like stating intention, not necessarily escalation Example imagine "how are you" was actually, "what do you want to do". So it's like "I'm ok. Gonna sleep in a bit, what's your number let's talk on whatsapp" or whatever, wherever you wanna take it. It doesn't have to be this fast but personally I don't want (knowing what I want) to have a conversation on instagram but I still want us to continue tal…
/r/seduction25/11/19 12:46 PM
5

Your time seems valuable, I try being less lame ..(-_-;) Game over. Main problem is trying to get her to like you so you end up asking something like how tall are you to test the waters. I wouldn't exactly say what you say matters though but def where you're coming from. You talking about whether she liked your pics or not kinda says what you're paying attention to. I'd say just be direct and see where she's at
/r/seduction25/11/19 10:44 AM
1

Sure, many ways it can help but it can also dull your sharpness
/r/seduction24/11/19 04:45 PM
1

Haha that was the right time. There is no such thing as a taken women, humans can't be owned like possessions. Though I can appreciate a guy with values, for me unless they are married and have kids you aren't exactly making anyone's life messy. Your belief that you'd be going on a date tomorrow if she was single is just misplaced. Women are emotional, the moment you shared was just that. Beyond this you're just making assumptions, tomorrow she could behave as if you never existed because she is…
/r/seduction24/11/19 04:43 PM
3

They're mostly describing their feelings with an image in their heads so it's all "static" - "If this happens I would feel like this. This happened and in hindsight I felt like this", even so, I didn't see anything that implied they didn't want to meet someone new, only how they felt the times it didn't feel good. Reality is fluid so a woman can experience a broad range of emotions (in the hundreds) in different situations, just like you would To me it feels like you're looking for reasons not t…
/r/seduction13/11/19 11:27 PM
0

Well done on getting in there We can see how nervous you are in the clip, in your face, your body language. Experience should help minimize these but it really comes down to beliefs. Take some time to think about why you feel the way you do when you want to meet a woman and see if you can reframe them Keep it up!
/r/seduction13/11/19 08:22 PM
0

By this reasoning model looking guys shouldn't be afraid to approach. Guarantee 100% of them have anxiety if they can even find it in them to approach. It happens everywhere, pro sports, public speaking or performances like concerts.. humans get anxious despite how people think they "should" feel. Approach anxiety mainly comes from our culture. I know an excellent dating coach and even he still gets nervous, imagine watching a person you know has hooked up with women in tripple digits and has ta…
/r/seduction13/11/19 08:15 PM
1

It's not black and white. Think of it in terms of friendship. If your best friend moves far away, you're still friends, still care about them but you're not the closest buddies anymore, you just keep in touch
/r/seduction08/11/19 12:06 AM
1

Cut contact. What are you looking for, a magic trick ? You can talk to her when you're around Thing is, if she's just cute, not even attractive - she will be speaking to other guys
/r/seduction07/11/19 11:26 PM
1

Sorry you had to endure it
/r/TheRedPill07/11/19 11:11 PM
2

Whenever I see people in the gym I always say in my mind "well done for showing up". Cos I know how hard it is for myself, even though my consistency is high but I know it's the same for others. I know tomorrow is friday and the amount of people that came this week will be halved, so mentally I congratulate myself and them There's a lot of testosterone and ego in the gym but I don't find the ripped guys impressive. Impressive to me are the blatantly overweight, the old and the one guy on crutche…
/r/TheRedPill07/11/19 10:47 PM
1

If you want to know what masculine energy is the read way of the superior man by deida. He's done the best job explaining this jazz to westerners. Otherwise eastern philosophy has already figured it out but it's a rabbit hole, the deeper you go, the more complex it gets - something like the tao te ching. If I had to summarize masculinity, it's presence, acceptance and integrity in practice
/r/TheRedPill07/11/19 09:40 PM
1

I attract the women I shouldn't have "useful communication" with at all. Attraction - masculine and feminine goes beyond the mind in this sense. Added to this is our nature, we're not above the animals, there is very much a cave man and women in all of us and you can communicate directly with that part of people, it's where social dominance comes from
/r/TheRedPill07/11/19 09:40 PM
0

I'm strong with a lot of things but I can't handle anothers's excrement
/r/TheRedPill07/11/19 09:23 PM
1

Try to bring up what you like
/r/seduction01/11/19 04:47 AM
1

Just move it forward, stop trying to talk. Take her number and make plans
/r/seduction01/11/19 04:42 AM
1

There's just too much there man, sorry
/r/seduction31/10/19 03:05 PM
2

They are average man, come on
/r/seduction31/10/19 06:49 AM
1

I'm not reading all that
/r/seduction31/10/19 06:48 AM
2

I've never heard of that. Sorry man, my eyes don't deceive me, I know a chump when I see one
/r/seduction31/10/19 06:48 AM
2

Don't get me wrong, you're a nice guy, probably a good person.. But you're a joke. I'm looking at you and I can see, why are you directing my eyes elsewhere
/r/seduction31/10/19 04:02 AM
2

Go to gym, put clean protein in you - whey, beef. Lift heavy - squat deep. Wake up your animal 26 is young, think about it, you could still date 21 year olds and those girls are the pinnacle of beauty through youth. In 4 years a 25 year old could be on her knees for you and here you are at 26, killing that guys dreams
/r/seduction31/10/19 03:57 AM
1

The funny part is likely nobody even gave a fuck because they're as self involved as you were in that moment
/r/seduction31/10/19 03:54 AM
1

This guy is a joke. Anyone can get average women blowing up their phone
/r/seduction31/10/19 03:51 AM
1

If you don't know anything about him then what are you talking about. People are likely paying 2K for someone selling them a dream right now, as we speak
/r/seduction31/10/19 03:50 AM
0

Yes, he is a great speaker. For maybe 10 years he's been learning to speak to an audience but he still has piss social skills, you can't teach what you yourself don't know
/r/seduction31/10/19 03:46 AM
1

They can't teach game cos they don't know it themselves. The only guys that succeed are the one's that teach themselves the way. Give Owen 10 promising men and we'll be lucky if 1 guy makes something of himself. These guys are better marketers and speakers then actual pioneers. Mystery knew a shit ton but he couldn't hack marketing, couldn't sell it in his time so weirdos did it, guys like ross Jeffries, Owen
/r/seduction31/10/19 03:43 AM
3

Those free videos are all there is, it's a veneer, an appearance. The same advice he gives are in any self help or psychology books with 4 stars on Amazon
/r/seduction31/10/19 03:38 AM
2

What we talking about here
/r/seduction31/10/19 03:31 AM
1

It's the same way when there is no pressure on humans, they perform so you just have to figure out what reduces the pressure for you
/r/seduction31/10/19 03:28 AM
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1% is rare Plenty of factors are overlooked. Age range, only 20-50 year olds can enter to play, there's guys that are already married or in relationships etc. So it's more like 20 million. 195 countries in the world, like only 80k per country, per city maybe only 10k. That's few enough that even pretty girls will never meet a top 1% guy. That's where I step in, the top 50% guy that's talking to her hahaha
/r/seduction31/10/19 03:24 AM
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It all takes time. Till then do things that lift your spirit
/r/seduction24/10/19 02:48 AM
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If at first your don't succeed
/r/seduction24/10/19 02:46 AM
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I'm only commenting on it with regards to alpha fucks/beta bux. Not if he himself is "alpha" or "beta"
/r/TheRedPill21/10/19 01:32 AM
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That's good for him but why must we pretend it's something it's not ? Nothing wrong with guys paying for sex but there are subtleties. He's an alpha with the 5, 6's and 7's - he's not paying shit. From there it's a different level, the guys on this level are thinking differently, he doesn't so he pays. I don't give a fuck about alpha/beta, I'm using the terms here for the discussion.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/19 01:21 AM
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Beta's will always pay, in their minds they are always paying. Everything they are doing is to get the woman's sex so beta's will be out here quantifying productivity as if it relates to women. In OPs mind it's already all transactional- beta bucks, however the alpha's are exchanging their TIME for sex. If OP wasn't paying, he wouldn't be fucking. He gets to pretend to be the man women want but all he's doing is being a john, he's a trick. Nothing wrong but let's not pretend. They say their pric…
/r/TheRedPill21/10/19 12:03 AM
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Make no assumptions, positive or negative. See how you feel together next week
/r/seduction14/10/19 02:16 AM
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For me it depends if we met online, haven't in person and she flakes, I'll just move on. There's power in moving on quickly If I've met them before, I'd treat them like a friend not like a chick I need an opportunity to attract
/r/seduction14/10/19 02:09 AM
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Everyone sucks in the beginning. Make it easy for yourself, make your goal easy. For example, just saying hello to 3 women, telling them you think they look nice today and leaving. As your belief grows you can challenge yourself Also you can always meet women through online dating. They don't have to be stunners, use it as a spring board to start getting comfortable with women and being yourself around women
/r/seduction14/10/19 02:04 AM
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There are 100 reasons, you may have just invented number 101. It doesn't really matter though, you're not her psychologist
/r/seduction14/10/19 01:54 AM
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I've apologized to girls, nothing wrong with it if it helps move things forward. Just don't drag the apology and whatever happened. Help her move on and then move on yourself. If she wants to pout, nothing you can do
/r/seduction08/10/19 08:48 PM
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What happened in those experiences that made you lose your mojo
/r/seduction08/10/19 08:40 PM
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It's like the self help niche, when it started there's a lot of people that wanted to make money from it. There's men that are gonna try make money from other guys wanting to improve their relationships. We're the "community" but we're not interesting enough to be on bbc news
/r/seduction08/10/19 08:38 PM
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If looks = being clean and not overweight, then for the average guy looks don't matter. There are lots of average guys, guys that when you see them you'd be like "I could do better than him", dating attractive women Look, men are wired to look for fertility, in other words, size up her appearance. We can look at a women 100 yards away and get a good picture if she's attractive or not. This primal level of advanced technologies is where attraction occurs. Women aren't wired to size up potential m…
/r/seduction08/10/19 08:32 PM
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Of course
/r/seduction28/09/19 02:56 AM
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When you want to, be selfish. They will never message again because they are pussies/beta's with big ego's but make no mistake, they want you to message them, they want you to ask them out (until they don't of course). The one's that block you are a blessing, you gotta dodge a lot of bullets in this game, every woman may think she is for you but every woman is not. At the end of the year or whatever, just see who stays and say thanks to the stars the others left, they may have taken your soul I …
/r/seduction28/09/19 12:49 AM
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I feel like you can take responsibility, I don't think it's necessarily her leading you on. She is probably too beta, like most women, to take responsibility, risk hurting your feelings and just say I'm not interested so I think ultimately it's you leading yourself on. When you "make a move" you can find out there and then if she's interested or not. "Hey wanna do something together this weekend", you grab her hand, grab her head for a kiss or whatever your style is. She can't lead you on when y…
/r/seduction28/09/19 12:29 AM
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She's not interested but you can still make thing happen. There are many things you could do but it's more practical to learn the lesson and move on to another attractive girl
/r/seduction28/09/19 12:21 AM
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This is sheep food, it is very far from the truth. If you want to understand polarity from a westerners point of view, I can only recall devid deida explaining it accurately. Otherwise you have to go straight to the source, eastern philosophy. It's funny to see this westerner be like "femininity has nothing to do with being a woman", she's so proud as she says it yet the asians had it down before Christ. Like the tao te ching was written so long ago the author and date aren't really even known a…
/r/seduction28/09/19 12:09 AM
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You're trying to make a girl that likes you like you. Ask her if she wants to do something together whenever
/r/seduction14/09/19 09:01 PM
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It would be so easy to step into the "vs" frame here. I probably would have reacted so but I think keeping the "togetherness" frame is so important. "nice, don't tell me you're bored/is he mr.right" or whatever. It's like, even if you weren't sleeping together you'd still like her, being supportive
/r/seduction11/09/19 11:23 PM
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Take baby steps, lead her then get alone with her. That's something you could say when you're alone together
/r/seduction11/09/19 11:18 PM
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It's not much different from normal conversations in person but because you have time to think, it's easy to try and be Casanova and fuck things up, it's easy to get ahead of yourself. That's why your rules reffer to doing less Only three things are going to fix your conversational skills and extend into your texting. Your beliefs, experience and abundance. Women expect game, they don't expect a confident motherfucker. With experience you'll understand your own flow better, it's something you cu…
/r/seduction11/09/19 11:07 PM
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Yeah abundance and experience increases standards
/r/TheRedPill10/09/19 10:33 PM
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Sleeping around is fine, nothing weird about it. I just question the motivation behind it. You'd have to be willing to sleep with anyone to reach 400 so it makes me think it's less about the person than getting a notch on his belt, which makes it less impressive cos a lot of guys can have a cue of low quality
/r/TheRedPill10/09/19 09:10 PM
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You just wanna be polarizing through authenticity, then it's almost like you're giving her a demonstration of whoever you are, through whatever she gives back to you or the situation. This takes about 30 seconds to 2 minutes, then there's always a "what's next" point, then you need to lead, you need to do something.. like make a decision about where you want it to go.. and this is how the dance goes on your whole relationship That simple, everything else is superfluous. Use the context/situation…
/r/TheRedPill09/09/19 01:13 AM
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Alex is one of the best with repsect to inner game, bar none.. but outer game he may want to look somewhere else, guys with a more "polarizing" style
/r/TheRedPill09/09/19 01:01 AM
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What's the motivation to be with so many women ? I think honestly think 1 quality women that is a light in your life is better than 100. I will never be amazed at the amount of girls guys get since with tinder right now I have 200+ matches and going on dates and potentially hooking up every week is a piece of cake. I know that's just my ego speaking cos I know there only maybe 5 from all those women that are actually worth the time But that's just me
/r/TheRedPill09/09/19 12:59 AM
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Are you talking about not being attractive to white and latin girls specifically ? Sure on the surface, most people are socially conditioned and not open to change in that sense. Most of the time they just haven't met you. Most of the time it has nothing to do with you, for example she might fear what her friends or parents will think. I think there's a lot of attractive white women that are open to dating black guys and if you wanna date only black women I don't think you would be losing out at…
/r/seduction08/09/19 10:09 PM
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I get what you're saying and where you're coming from. It's pickup-esque. It's like the mystery method right, where back in the day was the thought that you needed to first have attraction, then rapport, comfort.. "natural game" these days still has that, so you might think you need investment, you may think she needs to show interest or do something for you to move things forward You don't need to "seed" anything or challenge her or get her to reply to your texts for her to wanna hang out. Just…
/r/seduction07/09/19 11:15 PM
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Meet her, you may not even like her Don't try to do much over the phone till you meet
/r/seduction07/09/19 08:14 PM
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What is shr investing in then, the idea of you ?
/r/seduction07/09/19 06:37 PM
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Hahaha I reddit on my phone, I'm on the train now but babe you know I'll make time for you when I can Yeah this has gotten out of hand 🖐️
/r/seduction06/09/19 05:08 PM
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Yeah, basically. Have you met each other before ?
/r/seduction06/09/19 04:27 PM
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Okay, you caught me at the wrong time as my eye's were shutting for sleep. I'll try and help On tinder a lot of girls say "no hook ups" but in my experience, these women are open to hooking up, ons and fwbs.. so what are they actually saying ? The answer to this is pretty much the answer to why girls don't want to see you again. There's food for thought for you. If you figure this out it will be rare that girls don't want to see you again. Personally I know I haven't been on one online date that…
/r/seduction06/09/19 04:14 PM
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Yeah same thing
/r/seduction06/09/19 08:18 AM
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We're talking two different languages, I don't know how to translate it for you Let me try quickly. Kino makes touching the girl a goal, it's not, it's very easy to touch a girl. The thought should be whether the touch is pleasant or not, so the intention is not to touch her but to make her feel good via touch and touch is like communicating with your hands, so how can you communicate something with your hands with her, that's how you touch women. Say to her, "I like you" with your hands, you ca…
/r/seduction06/09/19 06:08 AM
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Ok man, I can tell even with your recipe you're gonna struggle. I can only wish you the best
/r/seduction06/09/19 05:44 AM
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I say it kinda tongue in cheek cos he says he hasn't seen her often enough
/r/seduction06/09/19 05:07 AM
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I am trying to describe to you something very subtle. You are coarse, unrefined so what I'm talking about is going over your head, this is what is happening with your women too, you are missing what's going on right in front of you For example, "Ending the date with a kiss" but also, "is also important to know that the date went well", the first one is social conditioning, the second one is pick up conditioning. Firstly this is what I mean by what you think is successful is not. Secondly I was s…
/r/seduction06/09/19 05:05 AM
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You're simply not exposed to enough girls each week, so your thoughts keep going back to one girl .. but like your thoughts .. you let them wander into fantasy, practice meditation, practice staying here, not elevating a human in your mind
/r/seduction06/09/19 03:51 AM
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What catches your attention but things that are pleasant to the eye. It is a stretch to say she wanted to sit on your face, she just wanted to look at your face, it's a good start
/r/seduction06/09/19 03:45 AM
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Often but I'm looking at them even more
/r/seduction06/09/19 03:43 AM
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I edited my comment to be more clear, you may want to check it out What you think is a success, is simply not
/r/seduction06/09/19 03:34 AM
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If you feel like something is off, something is off. Let it go and move on. Any one particular girl is not important, you've got to understand this. Speak to another girl man
/r/seduction06/09/19 03:18 AM
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Somewhere your beliefs are rotten. Instead of talking about what went down here, tell us what was going through your mind Like you can tell how guys think by the words they use. I can get a good picture of how you think by you using words like "kino", "kiss close", "lmr" to describe your actions and it's within these frame works/beliefs/concepts that you're having a huge disconnect with the women you meet Briefly, I suspect the girls can tell very quickly or atleast you are coming across very st…
/r/seduction06/09/19 03:15 AM
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Your power is in what is in your control
/r/seduction06/09/19 03:00 AM
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Do yourself a favor and learn how to move on with grace
/r/seduction06/09/19 02:58 AM
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This can't be done over text as she will be texting a lot of other people. It's not 2005, she's not waiting for your sms It can be achieved in person
/r/seduction06/09/19 02:55 AM
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Do it after sex
/r/seduction06/09/19 02:53 AM
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What do you want to hear ? Nothing changes, you're calibrating to the girl, some girls are deep others are dumb, some busy others have a lot of time etc. Whatever you're doing in person, do it on the phone but like dial it back, bite sized if you know what I mean. For the more specific stuff, the minor details just trial and error. You wanna keep in mind the bigger picture. From my understanding it's like she will set up her life in a way she is getting a lot of attention over the phone, so you …
/r/seduction06/09/19 02:52 AM
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When I don't lift I get depressed and can't get out of bed
/r/TheRedPill02/09/19 12:45 AM
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"Everything okay ?" But also .. till the last message I thought you were the text in blue, so take note of how you are coming across Her saying you two can figure out another time is a good sign. If she didn't say this I wouldn't respond at all
/r/seduction28/08/19 01:58 AM
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That's like asking if you had anything perceived as valuable or whatever, say money, what's the best way to utilize it. The best way is to not even bring it up, let her worry about proving herself I didn't even know I was packing till a couple women brought it up and then I checked the internet and confirmed but even today I don't take any confidence from it. People talk about big dick energy, I don't have it
/r/seduction28/08/19 01:56 AM
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That's up to you
/r/seduction26/08/19 11:43 PM
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You're misunderstanding your role. Initiate sex, they will initiate the relationship. Get to sex, if you have frequent sex she will try to trap you in a relationship. You are trying to trap yourself.. you see, so then they are the one's wanting to be free. Role reversal. The guys that aren't looking to get in relationships are the guys getting trapped in them. You are free, spread your wings and fly and you will see women with cages in hand lining up
/r/seduction26/08/19 08:56 PM
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You say the problem is your life is shit. You thinking your life is shit is the problem. You feel like you need xyz to give yourself permission to feel good but the truth is you can just straight up feel good and enjoy women. I get it, we all feel like we need certain things like stability, friendship, a job .. whatever is important to you to feel good about ourselves but this is just an illusion. With women, we look at their bodies mostly .. she can work at mac donalds, have 1 friend, no hobbie…
/r/seduction26/08/19 01:35 AM
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Hahaha this is so dick There's a lot of "low quality", borderline anti-social people online. Even in my age range of 20-27 which has the highest smv women online It's sad to see how people let go of themselves so early in their lives, by 28 you can start to see life beating them. These women in their mid 30's look so done, smv nearly all gone
/r/TheRedPill23/08/19 12:23 AM
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I think he was good enough for her but she wasn't good enough for him His smv is higher than hers but just cos she has access via a smartphone, to another guy who probably is the same smv as her guy yet doesn't give a fuck about her, she thinks she can do better So then a man's best bet is to find a girl who thinks he's the best she can get, that's messed up in my opinion. I think it's a specific group of women that predominantly thinks like this though. There's still a group more conditioned to…
/r/TheRedPill21/08/19 01:29 PM
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Yeah, it was insecure. He put himself in a bad position It's sad to think a guy has gotta be so much higher value for a chick who ain't shit to not message some dude on tinder
/r/TheRedPill21/08/19 12:59 PM
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Literally the only way to stop them wandering is to be the biggest alpha It's not possible to control another persons actions. Best bet is to find a particular girl. Among many dichotomies, there's two types. A girl that loves the many and a girl that loves the one. The ones that love one are the type that try to "fix" their partners. If when you meet a girl she's already talking to multiple guys, it's something you need to pay close attention to. Then all you can do is make her earn you, the hi…
/r/TheRedPill21/08/19 01:36 AM
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Go out alone and you'll figure out
/r/seduction19/08/19 02:54 AM
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Sounds like the making of a manwhore. I'm kidding but not really, you're just a late bloomer. You'll kill it .. if you can get over yourself You'll understand it all one day.. if you keep moving forward. It all gets a lot easier but it will all be very painful in the meantime. It will be shorter than you think but longer than you may wish for You're story is not that important, you might want to let it go now. Go and kiss a girl already, they don't bite. Maybe then advices and motivation would m…
/r/seduction17/08/19 04:58 AM
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I agree but it's also a lot simpler. You are simply more than your thoughts so whatever you do, you bring more than your thoughts. I think it's very difficult to bring soul, you have to go through a lot, especially technically. So in life, something happens and a person hides their heart. Their soul doesn't touch their work, they look to "do it right". Same with women, you can "do it right" . You can in fact be successful in these endeavors, without soul, you can mirror the mystery very closely …
/r/TheRedPill17/08/19 03:40 AM
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I don't know your situation. Try going to a new place every week, speak to those around you for suggestions. "Hey man I wanna explore some new places, know of any nice spots for me to check out?"
/r/seduction16/08/19 12:25 PM
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Get far away from her, in memory and in life. You are going to lose your soul. You're not fighting for her, you're fighting for your soul. Leave her and choose your life Get intimate with other women, they will show you that she is not unique. The feminine energy is always the same
/r/seduction16/08/19 12:21 PM
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Approaching through text, that's an oxymoron Young boy, you are a MAN. Go do something meaningful offline, you're sure to meet many people on the way
/r/seduction16/08/19 12:14 PM
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There is no objective reality that we know of, it's all subjective, a reflection of our mindset. There's little we know objectively To one guy, a girl looking at him means she wants him, to the other guy that there's something wrong with him. To another her looking away means she's not interested, to the next her looking away means she's nervous. If you can find evidence to support her liking you, then you have a good mindset. Guys can struggle here cos reality projects onto them Life is very sh…
/r/seduction16/08/19 11:48 AM
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Be humble. It's like being happy with what what you have but not what you are Depends on the dose but arrogance isn't that bad. Especially if your actions follow up closely
/r/seduction16/08/19 11:40 AM
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Ltr, sex, texting quite a bit and seeing each other frequently
/r/seduction16/08/19 11:27 AM
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Don't follow a girls reaction, follow yourself. You gotta do you. Not what others guys say, including me. Especially not what girls react to I mean dial it back as in the speed you are moving. When you know what you want to do.. you do it slowly, you know where it's going. I don't think you know what you want to do, I think you just like that girls are interested in you and move it in any direction towards this.. But you don't know what to do with them once they do I have a feeling you are doing…
/r/seduction15/08/19 07:47 PM
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Deal with the pain. It will be over soon. That exact same feminine energy is everywhere, there's more where it comes from . It never runs out. Go speak to another woman
/r/seduction15/08/19 09:11 AM
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Don't say it, lead it there
/r/seduction15/08/19 09:03 AM
1

Get a hobby
/r/seduction15/08/19 09:01 AM
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Maybe, if I like you
/r/seduction15/08/19 08:57 AM
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It's not something you try to do. It's the result of something else, having your shit together and being okay with rejection, bring okay with yourself
/r/seduction15/08/19 08:48 AM
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Think happy thoughts
/r/seduction15/08/19 08:46 AM
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You're coming on strong is my guess Whatever you're doing, dial it back by 70%
/r/seduction15/08/19 08:42 AM
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Thanks for taking the time to write this but honestly for majority guys this may as well be advanced material. You've simplified it, which I appreciate cos it can be easy to get lost in the details .. but like you say, they're prerequisites, requirements. If you do 4 of 5 right .. you might not see each other again
/r/seduction14/08/19 03:42 PM
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Oh yeah I get that feeling. For me it's the opposite, it's more like troubleshooting. It's interesting cos I wouldn't assume I've done something good unless she's receptive. The past few weeks I've approached women that appeared to have felt good about me approaching but even though they'd give me their number, something has felt off
/r/seduction14/08/19 01:44 PM
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Is it because of this that you're excited, that he was a cute guy doing it or because it felt good for you
/r/seduction14/08/19 01:24 PM
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I'm introverted. I'm the opposite I've been approaching since I was 16 though so it's more like a tool I'm comfortable using I've found always being social, always being on has a lot of pressure with it. It reminds me of my buddy that would chase state after having a shitty day at work, poor guy. It made me realize that's it's better to know how to navigate situations because that's exactly how it plays out in reality. To know how to make it happen when you're not feeling social, you're not on, …
/r/seduction14/08/19 12:47 PM
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Fun light conversation is the sweet spot but there's no real benefit to texting other than to keep in touch and organize
/r/seduction14/08/19 12:34 PM
1

Is this the first time a guy has approached you, in this manner ?
/r/seduction14/08/19 12:23 PM
2

He likes that a girl validated his directness
/r/seduction14/08/19 12:08 PM
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I knew of the parallels a long time ago but couldn't see the similarities. Dog training is an interesting metaphor because it can easily be offensive but I think the message is less to do with the dog and women and more with men and leadership. Let's look at woman and their interactions and relationships with dogs. They are nurturing and affectionate towards the dog, they never try to lead it. Which gives a small glimpse into the character of women. Guys might think that giving a dog affection a…
/r/TheRedPill13/08/19 01:44 PM
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I'd recommend full body stretching and/or foam rolling. Most lift with incorrect form and limit their range of motion and it causes imbalances and tightness in areas that wouldn't normally be I spend more time stretching than I do at the gym and I lift heavier, run faster and recover better every time. You just gotta sacrifice your numbers for a couple months. There's a solidity or strength in my movement, almost like I'm slowed down from lifting but I move very naturally and fluidly, which make…
/r/TheRedPill13/08/19 01:00 PM
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Luck is where opportunity and preparation intersect. Sure, you're lucky to be in those situations but there's a lot going on. There's just stuff going on that you're not conscious of, making you think you're getting lucky
/r/seduction12/08/19 10:32 AM
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Depends what your core beliefs about people are and how you perceive yourself. If you think people are idiots in your spare time, then it's going to be easier to send that message to people when you're expressing yourself A lot of introverted guys lack belief in themselves and could do with being selfish. Being introverted myself, being thoughtful already, I feel like what I want to do is often the right thing anyway and I don't care what anybody else thinks about it. The line for me is my inten…
/r/seduction12/08/19 09:24 AM
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You're basically correlating your self worth with you having sex but honestly, even when you have sex these feelings won't go away, you might feel better about yourself for a day and worse case you may end up chasing that feeling. Think about it, if sex was a big deal and you just went to an escort, would the feelings go away ? No. It's you feeling inadequate because of something you're learning. Like if I were to feel inadequate about struggling with maths or something.. and have it effect my w…
/r/seduction08/08/19 03:08 PM
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It's a metaphor I hear you. Good luck
/r/seduction08/08/19 01:30 PM
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It's not for women to care, it's for you ! It's not who women would rather date, it's who you would rather date ! It takes time, frustration is a big part of the process. The dating coach was wrong, it's like saying you can't be happy without chocolate in your life. You can.. But it makes life sweeter doesn't it.. But are you like I'm so bored without chocolate in my life?
/r/seduction08/08/19 01:19 PM
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You've got it the wrong way. You can go become a monk and still reach fulfillment. It's not in sex and intimacy for a man but it is for a women I know guys that have slept with women in 3 digits that are empty. It's actually scary, to think making women your purpose, which is still difficult.. leads to nothing. Men always find out, there's nothing at the end of it, just empty. They always walk away from it, once they figure it out they always reduce its importance to nothing It's actually in liv…
/r/seduction08/08/19 01:01 PM
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It just means girls won't run away from you, you must still expose yourself to women. Your path must involve people, try to interact with 3-5 new women a week. Even if you're just saying hello to start, asking how their day is going If you think of your purpose as a path you walk, women are on the side with houses, shows, stalls selling stuff. As you walk your path you come to meet these women, some decide to come with you, others tell you to go away, that you don't have enough money or aren't w…
/r/seduction08/08/19 12:50 PM
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It wasn't an approach. He knew her before, they've hooked up before. They were touching like lovers
/r/seduction07/08/19 09:38 AM
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Because there's more risk involved for them but mostly cos they're even bigger pussies than men You have to make the moves because you can guarantee she won't. Even if you're alone together on her bed, she won't make a move If you're waiting, you're going to be waiting your whole life because that's exactly what women are doing. You can be acting. This is your value
/r/seduction05/08/19 12:10 PM
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Go outside with purpose then. Have one or two things you know you're going to say. There isn't really such a thing as prepared, there's experienced and inexperienced. You're always going to be unprepared, life is always going to put resistance in your way. No matter how perfect your plan is there will be just as many rational reasons not to do the thing as there are reason to do it, so look for reasons to do it. Know that you're going to fail and in that process you will learn, you will gain exp…
/r/seduction05/08/19 12:03 PM
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Well there's always a silver lining There's this old man at the gym, late thirties - early fourties. I'm doing legs on friday and this cute girl, oldest 22-24 starts talking to him, in my head I'm like maybe he's her uncle. They start embracing each other ! He's touching her, smacks her ass at one point and I can't believe it. Of all the guys in the gym, this man is ugly. Yeah sure he was big, at least he had that going for him but I'm 100% sure he's a little under double her age, he looked real…
/r/seduction05/08/19 11:43 AM
1

Well said
/r/seduction04/08/19 01:31 PM
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How old are you ?
/r/seduction04/08/19 03:46 AM
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26 is young. My advice would be for you to write off the next three years with respect to expectations, don't try to get it handled. Just get out there and get experience, just fail a lot and build success right on top of this Hopefully you can last those couple years of experiences without life knocking you out the ring, it can get tough. Then you can start truly learning from there cos you will have had good experiences and bad experiences, you will know what you want, where you're going and w…
/r/seduction04/08/19 02:14 AM
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I appreciate that you kept going for so long even after things didn't go as planned, now that's inspiration. Keep it up
/r/seduction04/08/19 01:57 AM
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Man I don't know about tinder Just met such a beautiful girl today at the train station on the way home, took about 3 minutes for her to give me her number, we have to debate effectiveness, doing less and getting more done. I'm normally relaxed but my heart started racing after meeting her cos she was much prettier up close than I thought.. and then I kinda started to understand why guys don't approach, why guys are online When you approach you are naked, not a presentation of yourself like onli…
/r/seduction04/08/19 01:52 AM
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Nah, he lost his cool then used emotional blackmail. He got logical when she said I'll just get water. Could've easily just said I'm okay on my end, let's bounce or even just gotten her water and himself nothing You don't need to be in control of the interaction with an iron fist. Not everything is a test, sometimes you just gotta play with the cards you're being given We're deal with humans. It's like approaching an animal in nature, you do so at its pace not yours else it's just gonna run away…
/r/TheRedPill03/08/19 04:56 AM
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On Saturday. He's a lot more conservative than he says
/r/TheRedPill03/08/19 04:38 AM
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It's in developing your mind You need to man up a couple levels. Presence, positive-dominance and escalation/moving forward. These are all mental From there it's just about exposing yourself to the women you want. This could range from needing to be around you for 20 seconds to 2 hours for them to choose you. You're obviously not compatible and resonate with with all women but this will have the highest odds in my opinion
/r/seduction02/08/19 05:22 PM
2

You're still choosing though. You're not waiting for anything
/r/seduction02/08/19 05:36 AM
2

If you say so
/r/seduction02/08/19 05:14 AM
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You develop yourself
/r/seduction02/08/19 01:26 AM
9

Now we talking
/r/seduction01/08/19 09:54 PM
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Nah that's a made up problem. Most guys are putting in a shit ton of effort But I also don't like the presupposition that you need to put in effort just for her to show her emotions. That doesn't sound fun and really she should be working to get you to open up I don't think it's too much to ask the universe for emotionally healthy women in your life but hey do you
/r/seduction01/08/19 09:48 PM
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You're not in touch with yourself anymore. I don't know you so don't know how you can find yourself again. I can suggest some things. You're gonna have to let go of some things and find meaning again. For example stop going to gym for a week and in that time do something nice for yourself while searching for why you like going to gym and what your personal goals are. Start a 30 day positivity habit, try getting out in nature. Think about self care right now, what all of this stuff you're doing a…
/r/seduction01/08/19 07:04 PM
1

?
/r/seduction01/08/19 04:33 PM
1

Doesn't even matter. Successful night by my standards, which is very high, is 10 approaches. That's large enough to get enough momentum to get a taste of how taking action makes you feel good as a man and good enough for you to write a detailed report of your happenings, for you to improve Sure, bar regulars may be low but it's okay. It's just a timing thing, a time of the year thing. Culture brings peeps together, where ever there's music, art, fashion, food is a good place to start. Go to meet…
/r/seduction01/08/19 04:20 PM
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And embedded in that belief is the end of you. You cannot deny your nature. It's like a male lion saying, dam why I gotta kill all the previous cubs or like.. this buffalo is still alive guys and it's guts are hanging out ! He's done for. Naturally nature would have eliminated you, except humans are different, we have evolved, today you can exist contrary to your nature.. so you just suffer. Your nature urging and pulling you one way, your ego taking you another The nature of our is existence is…
/r/seduction01/08/19 03:34 PM
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Worry not, let me go on Guys will get results online but they don't realize the person they're becoming in the process of jumping the queue and you know what.. nobody is above the process. Their skills and abilities suffer because they've chosen comfort. Sending a cowardly online message sidesteps the risk of rejection that keeps most guys on the sidelines at the club.. so when they leave the house they take their place on the sidelines, all the women along with them There's a very harsh contras…
/r/seduction01/08/19 12:17 PM
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Meditate.. Be still Practice presence. Feel your body as you look in their eyes
/r/seduction01/08/19 04:48 AM
0

Sure but what's in it for the admins
/r/seduction01/08/19 04:45 AM
1

This person is as good as in your imagination. Go talk to someone real
/r/seduction01/08/19 04:41 AM
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Speculation, no point
/r/seduction01/08/19 04:33 AM
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It depends how much emotions you've invented. Say you've slept with the a guy a couple times, boom you see him flirt with someone else. Now we are beyond mind games, we are into human nature and history shows what happens in these situations To answer dudes question, yes she will want you more, insecure thoughts will slip into her head."am I wasting my time" - bzzt you text her saying you just thought of her. Seduction right
/r/seduction01/08/19 04:16 AM
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There's a couple things. You gotta make it easy for her, you gotta find out her situation. Does she live alone? You could go over to hers and cook together. You can go somewhere together nearby, tell her she doesn't have to out on makeup and just get a pizza or something.. You gotta find out her situation and make it simple, so instead of asking her out you tell her what to do. Basically taking responsibility for the whole fucking thing Mainly try to perceive the reason she doesn't like going ou…
/r/seduction01/08/19 04:10 AM
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The biggest problem with online dating I've found is that it takes away the opportunity for you to man up. Our whole culture is slowly stripping away masculinity, the whole culture is gynocentric so we're getting a lot of men using a feminine schema which is leading to a shortage of actual men In our heritage there was a right of passage that would signal a boy becoming a man. We've lost a lot of these ways to get boys to step up, to face fear. Now any guy can live a comfortable life with no ris…
/r/seduction01/08/19 03:50 AM
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You aren't in control of them interpreting your actions, that's just an excuse you're using I understand where you're coming from but guys these days are soft. So what if she's uncomfortable ? You can always step back, you can always say sorry. It's better to ask for forgiveness than permission, especially if you have good intentions
/r/seduction01/08/19 03:25 AM
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How old are you now, 22 ?
/r/seduction29/07/19 02:20 AM
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You make too many assumptions, too many for me to address individually and then you go on a tangent. You aren't actually referencing anything I'm saying but you sure are speaking louder. The more you speak, the more you show how little you actually know. I understand, you're not a man. More tropes please
/r/seduction28/07/19 05:07 PM
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Evolutionarily, the male's role is to propagate his genes, ie. "have sex with as many attractive women as possible". The gene's are in you, you're wired for it. They're just suppressed, this is the purpose of social conditioning. Do women function contrary to their nature ? No, they select the alpha for evolutionary reasons, their hypergamy is well and alive, for evolutionary reasons. There is such a thing as an alpha and beta, nature displays our heritage and we're still on that level to this d…
/r/seduction28/07/19 04:56 PM
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True to an extent, if we're looking at the bigger picture, in a simple way But becoming non-needy for a young man is actually difficult. Fact is he will likely have to be happy being alone more than anything. Self validation isn't an easy task for any human. Women probably don't even have a schema for it, among many other psychological constructs, since it didn't serve evolutionary. Evolutionary speaking, alone for a women = death Look at online for example, an unattractive girl can have 100 opt…
/r/seduction28/07/19 04:28 PM
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This. Most mistakes guys make probably revolve around neediness, scarcity, most success doesn't revolve around being non-needy
/r/seduction28/07/19 04:03 PM
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When you want to. She's interested or she's not. She's following your lead or she's not I don't let girls qualify me anymore. My mindset is I'm not asking for her number I'm offering her an opportunity to continue talking to me, if she doesn't want to it's okay, it wasn't meant to be
/r/seduction28/07/19 12:50 AM
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It's because you're gaming them. It's because you're spending time, energy and money on them Running game creates fundamental errors. For example, you're going to try to hook up with any decent woman that likes you, even though against your best judgment you really shouldn't and this same girl is the one that's going to flake on you and make you feel like you messed up somewhere. However when you go after the girls you really want, even if she tells you to get lost there and there you'll feel re…
/r/seduction27/07/19 09:54 PM
3

I like your confidence but beauty is a dime a dozen
/r/seduction27/07/19 12:40 AM
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I agree with the premise. The fact that you would improve yourself for women is a contradiction, all it really achieves is putting ideas in your head that you aren't enough as you are which isn't true However if you don't develop yourself you will not get the women you want, you will get the women that like you and if you are lucky she will be attractive. This is average, this is what ordinary people are doing. I wouldn't encourage guys to be mediocre and settle when there are AMAZING women out …
/r/seduction26/07/19 11:58 PM
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puffs his chest ".. but I don't really care" Friendship isn't about power, you're thinking like a woman My point was, if they want to fuck you they think you're an alpha or a leader. The hottest girls as a friends ? You'd need to be a levitating gorrila. If you were beta or weaker than them, they wouldn't respect you. No respect, no friendship See men understand that all men are equal. I have several beta friends, older and younger, that I'm more alpha than. I eclipse them however I treat all of…
/r/TheRedPill26/07/19 03:18 PM
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What you're talking about here isn't friendship though. You can sorta be friends with a women but generally speaking, not really. Women lack basic respect for beta's and weaker men. Honestly, they're barely even good friends to each other, you're asking too much from them. I have female friends and I have a huge suspicion that all of them would be open to jumping my bones
/r/TheRedPill26/07/19 02:36 AM
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Least I'm not on tinder There's gotta be a term for this I'm too lazy to find out. Whataboutism ? What about you !? Least I'm not on tinder ! Sure sign when someone has been owned
/r/TheRedPill26/07/19 02:27 AM
1

When you escalate. Words < actions
/r/seduction22/07/19 12:47 AM
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Also humans more often than not fumble through their youth. It's like giving power to a 19 year old, they will surely waste it and this is what all women do, only the exceptions use the power given by their fertility early in life to actually get somewhere So their years with the most value and power are among humans least mentally and emotionally secure years Guys should be grateful, we come together, there are no woman's forums teaching hot women to navigate their early years, they just bullsh…
/r/seduction18/07/19 12:14 AM
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It's a pretty basic need wanting to be desired but I don't think it's in the nature of a man. It's probably true till around 16 for males yet true for women all their lives . I think as people it starts with their parents most of the time. In your case, you probably never experienced being desired by someone you find attractive and this small blip in your timeline looks to be changing the course of your whole life It's pretty interesting, there's some guy out there similar to you but instead has…
/r/seduction17/07/19 08:51 PM
1

Citizen dildo lifestyle
/r/seduction12/07/19 07:28 AM
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Well women are polite, they won't outright reject you if you're positive or dominant. Only men they think they can dominate will taste a woman's wrath The question then is what is rejection. It's interesting cos it will often go back to whatever you felt rejected by as a kid. For me ghosting and flaking is rejection, I will feel rejected if a girl does this to me. For other guys, possibly yourself, the feeling of rejection is something else, maybe something more confrontational or assertive Ulti…
/r/seduction12/07/19 07:25 AM
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It's not about becoming massive. Even if you are skinny but strong it's great It's mostly about testosterone, most of what makes you a man can be summed up by testosterone. It's almost impossible to be dominant without feeling strong in your body You don't exactly have to work out but you have to do physical shit that stresses your body or basically your mind will rot because physiologically we are our bodies first, then our minds. We meet our bodies needs first, then our minds If you workout it…
/r/seduction12/07/19 07:16 AM
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Snapchat and a number don't mean anything. Organize on tinder, if she agrees to come out and see you, take her number. Do not try to get to know her over the phone, it won't mean a thing, save this potency for in person. It all happens then, so there is no such thing as tinder game, especially with a number as reward, that's so beta
/r/seduction09/07/19 05:27 AM
1

Try meditating to reduce thoughts
/r/seduction09/07/19 05:10 AM
7

Quality of time not quantity. You only need to approach around 10 women a week, record your progress, work on blocks and you"ll get good fast
/r/seduction07/07/19 08:40 PM
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They don't feel they've earned the level of interest you're giving them. It just implies things that repel people. I found it's not being interested or not, it's liking yourself more or not. Valuing yourself more or not. Be excited about yourself, your life and share it with others, don't make others the focus of your attention. Then when you're really eager and passionate about someone it won't come across as you needing their validation, you needing them to like you back and feeling bad if the…
/r/seduction07/07/19 08:37 PM
1

Not really but I get it.
/r/seduction03/07/19 03:14 AM
3

I used to wonder why people stared at me too, I came to the conclusion that I'm handsome. Best get used to it, go say hi
/r/seduction03/07/19 03:01 AM
3

Why would you sell it if it were any good, in other words why would you want money back on a supposed investment. We never cease to make punks of each other in this game. This motivates me to put out better content
/r/seduction03/07/19 02:59 AM
0

She wants, she wants, she wants You know what I want ? A woman that doesn't suck cock for money
/r/seduction03/07/19 02:50 AM
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I thought this was funny, it made me feel better about my own progress if I'm honest. There should be a stickied thread where we post all our first approaches Well done for taking action, well done for actually going for what you want. You need to learn to crawl before you can walk and walk before you can run. Before jumping into "masculine" approaches you should take the time to learn how to hold a conversation. For now forget seduction, think social. Make it a goal to hold a conversation for 5…
/r/TheRedPill30/06/19 10:26 PM
1

Sitting around a lot probably contributes more
/r/TheRedPill30/06/19 08:21 PM
6

You just wanna be in tune with your sexuality
/r/seduction28/06/19 04:31 AM
1

I wanna bang sluts. I want to be her 200th guy and she can be my 100th. Modern day romance
/r/TheRedPill25/06/19 11:45 PM
2

Return on investment on tinder is low, lower than cold approach
/r/TheRedPill25/06/19 11:05 PM
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The problem with online dating is there is no barrier to entry, all this does is create an imbalance because of the selection behavior of men and women In person has always been the latest tech because nature made it so. I've been approaching since I was 16, I have friends that were doing it before me. Not anyone and their ego can be successful, there's a right of passage. This one friend of mine is very good looking and his family wealthy, cool social guy, I'm jealous .. it took him 8 years of …
/r/TheRedPill23/06/19 11:11 PM
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It was the validation spike from the 37 matches, as if it said anything about you. You didn't get laid, the goth got laid. Tinder is a waste of time, you can't measure your progress on it, whether good or bad. The difference between 7 and 37 matches is a picture, a presentation in your new clothes. When they meet you, they don't want to see you again. Now that's closer to reality Forget monk mode, you're simply avoiding pain yet when you get back in the field, all the pain you haven't faced will…
/r/TheRedPill23/06/19 04:57 PM
1

They're just values and rules from my experiences
/r/TheRedPill21/06/19 08:24 PM
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That's an external focus, men measure themselves by their own, internal standard As a guy when you have an externally enforced reality you suffer. If you can build momentum with an internal standard, you'll feel good If I say to you a masculine man is x and you wake up in the morning and try to be x, you'll suffer. I can talk about my own standards. You'll have different values You can see that the difference is that to the men, what they think of themselves, their opinion is more important to t…
/r/TheRedPill21/06/19 07:08 PM
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Women measure themselves that way. What does a man do with the envy and adulation of other men ? It's worthless, similar to the gym guys that feel good when guys envy and glorify their physique.. hilariously pointless These days it's not uncommon for men to measure themselves like the women do Our culture is funny, you have to operate on a deeper level. For example capitalists and marketers know this is how guys think, with an external focus.. so they sell sex, they sell this dream. Besides enjo…
/r/TheRedPill21/06/19 06:02 PM
1

Yeah hot women are not elite humans, we don't measure ourselves by who hot girls choose to sleep with. My measurements are a guys ability to keep the women in his life because awalt. I've yet to see an ugly guy have attractive women in his life with abundance via his mind
/r/TheRedPill19/06/19 05:33 PM
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Good women will keep you honest, good men will keep you honest. So even in a relationship you should continue to meet good men and women. In this game no man is an island, we impact each other. Only if you check out the game can you go monk
/r/TheRedPill19/06/19 04:54 PM
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I've yet to see an ugly guy overcome his looks using his mind in real life. Therefore it is written that if a man can achieve this state, his karma is complete and he is not reincarnated. I'm just kidding.. but really, "reality" is heavily projected onto the ugly guy, his psyche is obliterated before he's 21. What guys usually do is compensate for their looks To simplify, guys can normally meet women within 2 "points" of their own "rating", in looks. Being a "6" is probably the lowest you can be…
/r/TheRedPill19/06/19 04:44 PM
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It's not about challenging your girl, it's about challenging yourself. The common guy "settles down" into a relationship, he gets soft because there's a meal and sex waiting for him at home. He is lucky to find the strength to bounce back from a bad break up, many don't return to form at all. ​ It's not to make her attracted, not everything is about what a woman wants or needs. Keep talking to other women to stay sharp, steel sharpens steel - how does your girl think you got the way you are ? Ju…
/r/TheRedPill19/06/19 04:10 PM
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The ultimate dating app of 2019 is cold approach
/r/TheRedPill19/06/19 12:39 AM
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What do you disagree with ? Sure, there are parallels, similarly with men and dogs right. If you want an animal to like you, you give it food. If you want a woman to like you .. well that's the wrong mindset, you don't try to get women to like you
/r/TheRedPill18/06/19 12:58 AM
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I agree with you. Many guys are at a point where if a study came out proving that bald men have more sex, they would shave their heads in the morning. I think guys should approach for two reasons, to go for what they want and to see where they are on their journey .. no mention of attaining the women. It's just that when the guys asked for your help you went back to OPs point, by going into the frame a woman's frame, which says to me one thing. Two guys can be doing identical things but there is…
/r/TheRedPill13/06/19 03:04 AM
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Cool analogy. No point in identifying as either though. One day you are a salesman, the next day you're a stemlord, just characters in a play. None is better than the other, both have a place
/r/TheRedPill13/06/19 02:56 AM
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You were onto something but you lost it quickly. That LFA dude is mgtow, possibly a pump and dump mgtow, of course he is going to say don't approach because one day a women took his guts out and hung them to dry Like you don't see yourself. " Consider 99 “cold approaches” approach this girl, and this 1 dude doesn’t, she’s gonna wonder why he didn’t , and you got an entry, they’ll come to you and your “approach” will be smoother". You go into a woman's frame, this is exactly what the OP is talkin…
/r/TheRedPill13/06/19 01:24 AM
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Look better in your pictures and use tinder gold. The better the pictures the better the matches
/r/seduction10/06/19 02:38 PM
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Thanks. I'm actually a little depressed that this comment got attention. Probably one of my least thought out replies. Maybe it just resonates with guys I agree but its impact is reduced in a loud, dark room. Put that same guy in a bar near the beach during the day and he'll have a much better experience Yeah women are. The club isn't impossible but it's tougher. I'd only advise guys that are into night life to do it. Day game you can have a boring interaction in 5 minutes and be on a date the n…
/r/seduction09/06/19 05:16 PM
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Different vibes but has it's own challenges. It depends but in general, things are more in your favor when the sun is up. I also don't like making art at clubs and running into things like flakes the next day
/r/seduction09/06/19 08:30 AM
1

I think it's interesting how fears are developed. Like it's not just 1+1=2 but a chain of events, beliefs and then thoughts and emotions that just holds people in place, stuck But comfort is just the familiar. There is no comfort in nature, only change. As humans we've been so successful at creating comfort in a world of chaos that it holds us back from living our dreams. Like we grow up thinking that achieving comfort and security in our lives is success but comfort has a glass ceiling
/r/seduction09/06/19 05:13 AM
1

Yeah I was kinda just being a dick, making a joke of it. Good for you man, sounds like you're making it happen. Go get em !
/r/seduction09/06/19 05:03 AM
1

True, nothing is achieved without self love. Whatever goal we have, the amount of self care is the level you'll reach with that goal. It seems to be the first step before anything, to be okay with yourself But also for men, the comfort zone thing is huge, stepping outside of it little by little. Cos women can go on all day about loving themselves and shit but are they that okay with with who they are that they would put themselves on the line and open themselves to failure and feelings of reject…
/r/seduction09/06/19 04:55 AM
0

No it's not a dhv, it's try hard. Look at it this way - you are high value, by affect, all your actions are a dhv. You are the dhv, doing more is a "dlv". Offering value is not the cause of the dhv
/r/seduction09/06/19 04:48 AM
1

I'm 24 this year. I don't know why people don't talk about it but there's a big emotional shift that happens between around 20 and 23-25 20 you're still like trying to prove yourself; to the world, yourself, whoever but there's still that bit of awareness there, it's just not focused for prolonged periods. I think it's just a good time to fuck up a lot, to experience a lot, on a wide spectrum
/r/seduction09/06/19 04:36 AM
1

You got more girls now because you're 31, you're in your prime. It's like an attractive 22 year old girl saying she got more guys now than she can count cos she learned how to hold eye contact hahaha. I've been piercing girls souls with my eye's since I was 17. It's still tough as hell for younger men in their early twenties. When I'm 31 I would not even give 5 minutes to think about dating and attraction, just managing multiple women
/r/seduction09/06/19 04:10 AM
1

Hahaha to become a wizard. Dope man, you remind me a lot of myself when I was 20, except I was probably a lot more stupid
/r/seduction09/06/19 04:06 AM
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The club is like a stage, most if not everyone at the club is putting on an act or at the least trying to put on an act. So there's this layer between you and the person while everyone is trying to have as much as fun as possible. It's almost like there's roles and expectations, you can't just talk to a girl normally, already she's assuming you're horny and wanna fuck, waiting to see what you, the 6th guy to talk to her is going to do to try to get sex from her. Like stars have to align for thin…
/r/seduction09/06/19 04:05 AM
1

You're right about the number. I usually say let me take your number but you gotta already be giving her your phone when you say it. If you're phone isn't out then it creates that like vacuum where it's like you're asking for permission and that's just not the best way to go about your business You're 20 ? You're gonna be killing it in a couple years. Good luck
/r/seduction09/06/19 03:52 AM
1

What do you mean by offering value
/r/seduction09/06/19 03:46 AM
2

Initiate, this is your moment
/r/seduction07/06/19 10:36 PM
3

This is kinda funny. "I have every program.. I can't decide where to go .. which program would you recommend" The thing that's holding you back is the thing that's causing you to go in a loop and that is .. not making a decision, not committing, not moving forward. It doesn't matter which direction you choose to go, anyone will do. Taking information in is only useful when you have experiences to reference from. Let's say you decide to go east, you read a book that says go north but while walkin…
/r/seduction07/06/19 03:05 AM
4

Read 60yearsofchallenge section on physical escalation. Basically it's about your comfort level, you'll need more experience
/r/seduction07/06/19 02:50 AM
1

Please ask her to elaborate on what "no girl game" is
/r/seduction07/06/19 02:48 AM
1

The term is hypergamy, all womem are like that
/r/seduction06/06/19 10:09 AM
1

That's the difference, self-awareness. Some people move past it, some people continue do it to others and allow it to be done to them. What kind of relationship do you think those women are in ? Probably as fake as the friendships to get shit. You see them at face value, not what their actions show, so your assumptions are far away from reality
/r/seduction04/06/19 05:26 PM
1

That's you projecting your values, not the reality at play. I'm a man of principle, I agree that it isn't normal or logical.. but that not what women a woman is, that's not their reality. Women have the potential to be 10 times more manipulative than men. They aren't these serene creatures because they have a pussy. They are just like any other human and are capable of the very worst. It's okay if you don't accept it or judge them for it, they'll just hide it from you
/r/seduction04/06/19 03:59 PM
1

It's not an education or even an attractiveness thing, it's a self-awareness thing. Women can only play with a guy with lower self awareness relative to theirs or less dominant males, beta's. It's because when you see them you make assumptions about them based on how they present themselves, not understanding AWALT
/r/seduction04/06/19 03:20 PM
4

Honestly I think mansons models is sheep food. It's good for people with lighter levels of self awareness, hence masses. It's the likes of the mode one book. Not that simple stuff is bad but that there's better stuff out there. The holy grail is probably the book of pook, followed very closely by 60yearsofchallenge .. and a handful of others that have made a massive contribution to bring awareness to this space. If I could give my imaginary son one book before death, it would be pooks. It may ta…
/r/seduction04/06/19 12:53 PM
2

Not sometimes .. It's NEVER on you and if we're getting philosophical we can say it's the same way, good or bad response .. her reaction has little to do with you. What is in your control is how you feel, so even with this in mind you still need to pay attention to your emotions
/r/seduction04/06/19 12:47 PM
1

Facts Well women aren't a resource but yes, there are plenty of them. Though like men, few and far between are of high quality. Abundance is about choice, see many guys only choose a woman because she chose him. In other words she liked him and he likes her because of this, not because he chose her from his options. Most guys aren't exactly spoiled for choice
/r/TheRedPill02/06/19 09:57 PM
3

It's like you want your mommy to tell you there's no monsters under the bed Nobody has a crystal ball, at the most you have imagination and that's probably all you'll need. All you can do is put yourself out there but know that whatever happens you will learn something. You have to go in with the students mentality It's hard not to get better at anything you give time and attention. However experience is a quality not a quantity thing, it's the quality of your experiences that determines how goo…
/r/seduction29/05/19 01:21 PM
1

I hear you. You're just doing your job, keep it up I guess
/r/seduction29/05/19 12:23 PM
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It's just a perspective on beliefs. We're discussing beliefs and their origins, you've taken it a level deeper by going into psychology but it opens it up to many perspectives, like how Maxwell Maltz talks about a person not being able to out perform the image they have of themselves in pyscho-cybernetics. Limiting beliefs aren't criminally ignored. It's valid to constantly be aware how society creates and reinforces ideas, we can't watch an hour of tv without noticing it Personally I don't thin…
/r/seduction29/05/19 03:10 AM
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It's not that you are meeting gold diggers, it's that you are bringing the gold digger out of women. You are doing provider shit and they are fitting you into that role. Have you ever dated broke ? Where the woman likes you and not what you do for her. Maybe dial back your dates, dial back talking about what you actually do, talk about what you enjoy about your work rather than the facts. Take her to where you would go to eat after gym or something. Really dial it back, like get a pizza and go t…
/r/seduction28/05/19 03:54 PM
1

Your walk is your date. In other words there is no date, just you and her. You're right by making your move on your walk but you don't have to make it a big thing or make a big jump. While walking hold her hand and tell her you appreciate the time you spend together or whatever you actually do appreciate about her. If she's comfortable with hand holding you can slow down and come to a stop somewhere you like, take her other hand for a moment and kiss her
/r/seduction28/05/19 03:38 PM
3

Why do you sticky your own comment ? Unsticky it and let us see where it lay brother
/r/seduction28/05/19 03:28 PM
1

You can influence them
/r/seduction28/05/19 03:26 PM
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Very bluntly for brevity. You didn't "develop feelings", you invested your emotions into each other. It's hard to let go of investments, even bad one's I don't understand how another person can make rules about how you should go about your life. Your mutual friend can apply her rules to herself but not to others I love you, I love you not .. highschool stuff. It's not about loving or not loving, it's about respect. When you feel good and there's no conflict it's easy to love, when you feel bad y…
/r/seduction28/05/19 01:18 PM
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You don't have to fake anything, just work on your insecurities directly. You shouldn't look at yourself as a problem that needs to be fixed though, just work on the things that are holding you back from your goals and dreams right now
/r/seduction28/05/19 01:05 PM
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You're a perfect example. Here we have an attractive and confident guy that can talk to any women, yet it stalls eventually. I wonder why, it must be his game right ? He thinks if he should improve his game his results will change You have to think on a deeper level than society has us thinking on
/r/seduction28/05/19 03:25 AM
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The rules don't change for guys with socially crippling insecurities. It's hard work for an average, normal guy to make changes, it's 10 times more work for incels. If an incel can change he doesn't reincarnate, he has sorted out his karma for all his life times. I'm just kidding but really, they'll have to put in an olympian level of effort till they get it sorted and I think a big part of what stops them from even trying to change is knowing that others don't have to work as hard
/r/seduction27/05/19 01:45 AM
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Looking through all the articles on the front page I see little to no reference to actual social skills and more to game, what I'm actually talking about
/r/seduction27/05/19 12:57 AM
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The understanding of validation in this context flies over your head, you also missed the part where I mention real change. You and him are both on the same level of understanding with respect to what I'm talking about here. I understand what I'm saying is contrary to where you're at and what you're doing right now but I hope that one day you can see what I mean
/r/seduction27/05/19 12:49 AM
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Perhaps you're lacking an appreciation for nuance. We're not discussing definitions. There's a reason I posted this here and not in r/socialskills
/r/seduction26/05/19 09:31 PM
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I completely agree with you. It's not skill though, like you say.. some have what it takes - to change
/r/seduction26/05/19 08:11 PM
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It's a modern way of saying courting, seduction. Courting, seduction, game, pick up .. all the same. Just words at the end of the day, that all point to supplication and validation based methods of connecting
/r/seduction26/05/19 07:35 PM
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The better you get, the less layers you will have on top of your personality, the process is deductive
/r/seduction26/05/19 07:31 PM
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You're deep in it, can't see the forest for the trees
/r/seduction26/05/19 07:30 PM
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That's honestly the first time I've heard that being the meaning of game. Why not throw it out the window and just say you're working on yourself
/r/seduction26/05/19 07:29 PM
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This is gonna sound cliche but think positive. Right now you're just thinking and probably looking for reasons why you think she doesn't like you. It kinda reveals how you feel about her. Just this past week a girl I was texting didn't text me back for over a week. I remember on Wednesday thinking she's not into me, thinking let me just delete her number and move on. Then I get a message on Friday, It turns out her phone got destroyed. We go out together on the weekend and hook up. I thought it …
/r/seduction26/05/19 05:25 PM
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They'd need to be something quite apparent, quite big going on for a guy to be attracted physically then turned off because of something mental You sure you aren't closed off and they're thinking you're not interested ?
/r/seduction23/05/19 10:32 PM
1

Are you "losing" then before or after sex ?
/r/seduction23/05/19 12:37 PM
1

Go out first, then come and check for tips. It only works in that order
/r/seduction23/05/19 04:06 AM
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It would be unusual if any human was turned off by sex. I mean you exist because humans are turned on by sex, you see
/r/seduction23/05/19 03:57 AM
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It's okay to hook up with cute girls because there's no difference between a 6 and 8, a woman is a woman. The 6 can give you grief, the 8 can give you grief. "2" can make you happy, "10" can make you happy. if they know how to push your buttons so to speak. The major problem is that you will never step up to the 8's, you will always settle. You also don't have to hook up with 6's, you can just chill with them because if you only want to chill with hot chicks you will be in scarcity and scarcity …
/r/seduction23/05/19 03:53 AM
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Because you care what you will look like it's best that you run. Those guys that don't care already probably shouldn't run after women
/r/seduction23/05/19 03:43 AM
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Stop yourself right there. Just go out for a month, do anything, whatever you think works.. then come back and find books. Speak to women first before filling your head with ideas about women
/r/seduction23/05/19 03:42 AM
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You'd get better with women by sending the money to me
/r/seduction23/05/19 03:40 AM
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You're not unattractive. Fortunately and unfortunately, it's all in your head. You can change if you wanna. It's not that a women may or may not find you attractive, it's that you don't think you're attractive to women so you're holding yourself back from getting out there and getting experience, which is only making things worse
/r/seduction23/05/19 03:38 AM
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Stop masturbating but also, do you really have the women in your life that you're happy with. In life it super easy to settle down, mediocre is the standard .. nothing against it. My girl is very cute, cooks for me, gives the best blowjobs, really caring. By all accounts I have enough fuel to get married .. but I know I'm settling. Even with her other girls make my head turn .. but she's awesome. So there's that decision, in probably every area of your life where you gotta be honest with yoursel…
/r/seduction22/05/19 03:34 PM
1

Ultimately sexuality is suppressed. For one reason or another it's hidden. It's not like an on or off switch where you make a move and all of a sudden you're a sexual guy, it's an identity, where you walk through the world knowing your dick can make a women feel good and also know in your bones that like you, women are sexual creatures. When a women says there's no chemistry, especially after being around him for a while, she's almost always talking about sexuality
/r/seduction11/05/19 06:05 PM
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I agree with you
/r/seduction11/05/19 12:45 AM
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That's the whole thing though .. it's just an act and it's not like you're a good actor or something. James bond had a script. At some point there is no script for what you are living and there you are, vulnerable. Now it's your movie. Are you gonna play your role or is your movie going to be the story of how you acted like James bond. Pretty much all you're going to be doing is facing your fears and in those fires the man is born.
/r/seduction10/05/19 11:40 PM
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Yeah substances show you what is possible .. but they also hide a lot of pain and have their own pitfalls. That's the process I'm talking about. It's not gonna happen over night like having a couple beers but if you believe in yourself it's right there
/r/seduction10/05/19 10:55 PM
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If you're gonna be alone with a woman it would be wise to carry a condom. You shouldn't expect anything cos you don't have a crystal ball but being prepared does clear the clouds in the mind. Right now you're just thinking insecure stuff, try thinking about her experience. Does she want or need a guy with 50 women worth of experience or someone that wants to make her feel good ? The rest of your post is just negative thinking. You really don't even want your mind going down that road
/r/seduction10/05/19 10:49 PM
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No you don't know, those are just assumptions Well .. men are made, it's not an act, it's actually facing life in your unique way We've developed as humans over hundreds of thousands of years. Dating culture is like 50 years old. Our brains function as if we were still in caves, our wiring is exactly the same as the dude clubbing the woman over the head and dragging her away. If you look at a modern woman at face value, in all her glory then you can enter into delusion, if you come closer to you…
/r/seduction10/05/19 10:03 PM
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You do sound immature. Emotional maturity is being able to process positive and negative events without them taking your mind on a roller coaster. To stay on your course, emotionally. Very few guys know how to talk to girls naturally. Society makes this a tough task buy slipping ideas into our head about what women are, what they want, who you are etc. Many guys have learned how to .. and the world keeps spinning
/r/seduction10/05/19 09:56 PM
1

When you start to identify with it
/r/seduction10/05/19 09:51 PM
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Yeah man honestly, be naked, be vulnerable but I will also say that your body is your temple. There will come a point where you build your temple so well that others will be influenced by it, the moment when you start seeing through their eye's is when it's over
/r/seduction10/05/19 09:46 PM
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Making a move would have gotten him to the conclusion on date number 1. The conclusion in this time line was always going to be "no chemistry". This is probably what he was afraid of so suppressed his sexuality .. which ironically lead him directly to what he was trying to avoid ​ The thing is this guy will never know the reason why she is pulling away. In his mind he has created an amazing experience and he has but he did it for a girl that doesn't respect him enough to not lead him on but like…
/r/seduction10/05/19 09:38 PM
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Good luck
/r/seduction25/04/19 01:41 AM
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Just be honest, free your mind
/r/seduction18/04/19 06:17 PM
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It's never over but some girls will think you're a pussy and pull away for good
/r/seduction17/04/19 02:51 PM
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Putting her on a pedestal in your mind is the first mistake, you're just not going to be able to turn her on if you think you're getting more out of the deal, to put it simply, if you think you have less to offer From what I understand you're coming across as someone that wants to be exclusive, although you want sex you're pretending like you need to be the main guy in her life to have sex, if you know what I mean, her boyfriend. The "I've accepted we aren't going to be committed partners" betra…
/r/seduction17/04/19 02:45 PM
1

Think of it as bringing her out, warming up the conversation. Ultimately you do want her contributing to the conversation
/r/seduction12/04/19 05:36 PM
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If we simplify the message we can say she is teasing you. If your frame is competitive, then we can say it's a shit test, something to overcome. My core mindset is humor, positivity and optimism so I'd say something that comes from one of those places, eg. "you know what they say, if at first you don't succeed". You may value something else so may have a different response
/r/seduction12/04/19 05:31 PM
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"How's your day been", ironically is the best ice breaker. You want to keep it really simple. Maybe a bit of appreciation in there too, telling her you think she looks great today or whatever. People grow up differently. Different backgrounds, education, culture etc. There's also the possibility of them not knowing what to do or say in the situation. If they don't ask the same question in return or open up, you can still answer your own question and also lead her to being more open by going ther…
/r/seduction12/04/19 04:49 PM
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It depends who you are as a person but yeah once you go in your head, you will rationalize everything. If you are more thoughtful, you'll benefit from more action than reflection. If you're more action oriented, you'd benefit more from reflection. It's finding balance between comfort (routine) and being uncomfortable (novelty)
/r/TheRedPill31/03/19 06:34 PM
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Online is 100% hypergamy, nature in motion. Hypergamy would've been impossible to picture in practice 60 years ago. If you're in your 20's, your parents wouldn't understand it in practice, our experience. ​ The landscape is weird. In theory online dating should've made cold approach impractical, not too long ago it simply had a low roi and many questioned its efficiency. Counter intuitively it is slower in practice but goes as fast as online dating. When I was 16 I went out one night and got 33 …
/r/TheRedPill31/03/19 10:26 AM
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You're thinking is complex because you're unsure. If you can hold hands, there's a shared understanding that you like each other Once you know she likes you, you can let go of complicated thoughts My wing also talked and thought in game terminology like you, it's fragmented. I remember him holding hands with a girl and yet still doing all these game things. He was looking for the indicator that she likes him for him to take the lead but women are never going to take that risk and do something ov…
/r/seduction13/03/19 04:42 PM
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What's kino-ing. Anyway my favorite move of all time is holding her hand. Grab her hand or offer it to her. If she holds it, it's on like donkey kong. Then just wait to get alone or lead or somrwhere you can be alone
/r/seduction13/03/19 04:18 PM
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Because he's a rapper
/r/seduction13/03/19 04:16 PM
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Women will keep you around for eternity if they like your company, if they are lonely or bored or whatever. Don't orbit her. It's okay to move on and go for what you want in life ​ You can def still be friends though, you don't have to cut her out. If you are bored, lonely or whatever, hit her up. Pull back a little.. no need to make a statement. Even if she's like you've been distant you can say there's been a lot going on or something
/r/seduction13/03/19 04:12 PM
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Hahaha this is funny. I don't think it's necessarily wrong though, sure it's insensitive but clearly you were just trying to be funny and fell on your face I'd just say that. ​ The thing that's a turn off is not owning it, retracting statements based on her reaction. Getting stuck in the past is synonymous with being stuck in your head and approval seeking behavior, you wanna keep moving forward. It's okay to fuck up, it wont be the last time. It's okay to say sorry and move on. If she still wan…
/r/seduction13/03/19 04:00 PM
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This is the information age. The only thing you need to pay for information is a high speed internet connection. I could download all of those programs overnight, they have little to no value
/r/seduction08/03/19 05:13 PM
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This is such a pro mindset and it could be applied to many things. It's important to not let your insecurities distract you from what you want to do. It's also happening to a lot of people around you. Get over yourself and take action, always a good reminder
/r/seduction01/03/19 11:13 PM
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Don't know what the difference is between a dildo and a pump. Attach them both to respective male and female dolls and voilà, "sex doll". I'd smash a doll with a fat ass than my hand over a thousand mega pixels any day. I mean, masturbation is relatively healthy. I'd give one to my son too, maybe he can educate himself about a womans body while he's young. Let's look at the positives for a second. People make fun of men wacking off but women are also out there rubbing themselves to sleep, at lea…
/r/TheRedPill26/02/19 04:28 AM
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My ears perked up when you reffered to your partner as your adversary not your friend, surely that's not healthy What about love in a spiritual sense ? Wouldn't you say our existence and expression have anything to do with this higher purpose ? I always lead my girls down this road, via friendship. Many of them want to give and receive love for it's own sake. More often they can only do this via children/family/pets. Many others want to leverage sex for resources/status and men vice versa, and t…
/r/TheRedPill18/02/19 03:39 PM
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I'm curious how your relationships are ?
/r/TheRedPill18/02/19 11:34 AM
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You're probably doing and saying a lot of boyfriend shit. Get them horny and emotional
/r/seduction13/02/19 08:37 AM
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It's not a shit test. She's just getting the sense that you have expectations and/or creating subtle pressure. Date and a movie, valentines .. it's taking away from your experience with each other. Tell her you're just focused on having fun together, then maybe she can make a move on you
/r/seduction13/02/19 08:25 AM
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Um check jugglers work. Think his meet and connect book is it. Mental masturbation on conversation and such but good stuff
/r/seduction13/02/19 08:03 AM
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You don't have to be excellent. Just self controlled, which by today's standard may as well be excellent, I'll give you that. It's good that you point out attention but this only applies to high status men, in other words dominant men. If you go mgtow you can learn this principle of attention fairly quickly without needing to be high status. Take your attention off women and you will be on the highway to excellence as we know it today My friend this past weekend didn't go out with a hun so that …
/r/TheRedPill10/02/19 08:13 PM
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The opposite would be a "realist". Meaning concrete real world things like value and resources. So no not really good news
/r/TheRedPill10/02/19 07:57 PM
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Internet points don't mean anything. You'll get upvotes if you validate and downvotes if you're contrary
/r/TheRedPill09/02/19 09:29 AM
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I've met a lot of girls that went to all girl schools, a lot of their numbers are always low
/r/TheRedPill08/02/19 07:28 AM
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With the guy I know, a genuinely cool person, it reflects true empathy.. the kind of empathy that doesn't close I don't pay attention to what guys are doing because chicks are paying attention to them. I would argue it's his "social breadwinner" position. However online activities are not even where the game is played so I couldn't care less
/r/seduction08/02/19 07:20 AM
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It doesn't mean anything, that's just her style. I think it's good news, low maintenance is good news cos then you can text other girls or do other things without having to worry about seeming disinterested. I know at first it seems counter-intuitive, in your mind you know she likes you but you don't see it on the screen, if she likes you she'll want to respond asap right ? no wrong, this is closer to supplication, you don't want a needy girl. Try and accept it, if you get closer she will text y…
/r/seduction08/02/19 01:01 AM
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Why don't you ask him, maybe he is not as he appears ​ I think I know the kind of guy you are talking about. If it is - these guys don't close but since they are good people, women feel good around them. Speculation ​ I think it's cool that he doesn't fit the mold. In our minds we have a picture of the kinds of guys that are successful with women but I feel like these rationalizations are so that we feel better about our situation. "He has money, he is an athlete, ceo yada yada"
/r/seduction08/02/19 12:45 AM
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Sure.
/r/seduction08/02/19 12:41 AM
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Throw your phone against the wall and then go and take it to repairs. By the time you get it back it would be a good time to reach out to her
/r/seduction26/01/19 02:11 PM
3

The start of your best years
/r/seduction26/01/19 02:10 PM
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Working one on one with a coach is the most effective way. They can cut your learning process in half and accelerate your development, especially if you have a lot of experiences already. Like a tutor or personal trainer. Imo there is no point thinking about this stuff cos someone else has already figured it out Next is inner game, what I'll call mental strategies. Guys just don't pay enough attention to this stuff, it's watered down into self help chat these days. Read a chapter a day of the Bo…
/r/seduction25/01/19 07:42 PM
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Your last sentence is very true. Every woman I've been with has been a strong feminist. Like I was shocked what the one posts about destroying patriarchy on fb but she cooks for me and shit. There's one that's very dominant, almost tomboyish till our clothes come off, then she's the most feminine girl in the world. I remember her asking me if I'm dominant and I was just thinking no I'm not I'm just a man and you're just a woman and it's just how we relate to each other. Feminism is not worth pay…
/r/TheRedPill07/01/19 05:54 AM
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"Abundance, physicality, frame" ​ https://imgur.com/a/rDFHyl9
/r/TheRedPill18/11/18 03:56 AM
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In Sri Lanka the leopard is the apex predator - at the top of the food chain. In india the leopard must compete with the tiger. In Africa the leopard must compete with the lion .. so yeah your environment will probably change the game for you but western women themselves behave the same
/r/TheRedPill18/11/18 03:31 AM
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Your bar is sky high, very few people have anything meaningful to say in a social context. As long as you're into it, everyone else will be too
/r/TheRedPill18/11/18 12:18 AM
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If you do it more than 3 times at the same venue, you will be more and more comfortable. I remember going to the club alone for the first time and being very uncomfortable, very stiff. All I could do was sit down and speak to one or two people next to me. Now it's my home. The first time is the hardest and potentially suckiest. The more proactive you are in the place, the more relaxed and comfortable you will be So your goal should really just be to be there and do what you can
/r/TheRedPill18/11/18 12:15 AM
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We also go to the toilet alone. I'm kidding. Going to a social place alone is very different than grocery shopping. There is truth in what you say though. The only thing that I learned can help guys going out alone is the same mindset as when grocery shopping - having a goal Before you walk into the shop, you know you're gettng the milk. Before you order your coffee, you know how you like it. What it really comes down to is proactive thinking, knowing what want to do next. You can start the nigh…
/r/TheRedPill18/11/18 12:12 AM
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Madonna/whore. The nice guy - madonna, the jerk - whore. To the nice guy she is pure, they don't want to muddy her. To the assholes out there she is already a slut. So women are on gaurd, pretending to be prude.. "I'm a lady" .. yah sure. Also women slut shame way more than men. But I agree with this post
/r/TheRedPill16/11/18 05:23 PM
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The ego is a static mental construct reinforced externally. It's not that she is a 6, it's that guys treat her like she is a 10 You can approach and treat her normally
/r/TheRedPill15/11/18 02:53 AM
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I'm happy to help if you have any questions
/r/seduction15/11/18 01:52 AM
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You should unplug from pick up paradigms altogether, it's based in manipulation. The guys that created it were coming from a certain place of not being attractive ​ You're coming from a certain place of insecurity. Even from someone you wish to be close with, you hide yourself behind technique and strategy ​ Follow the principles, make your own rules ​
/r/seduction14/11/18 10:22 PM
1

Exactly, it's supplication
/r/seduction14/11/18 07:02 PM
1

A man, more specifically.. a man's desire for them
/r/seduction14/11/18 06:59 PM
1

Semantics. Dishonesty and manipulation come from the same place
/r/seduction14/11/18 06:58 PM
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Cart before the horse. Start at the beginning. talk to them normally and add masculinity through appreciating her
/r/seduction14/11/18 02:33 AM
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This is confusing, you must be under 14. Just do it. If she doesn't let you kiss her she's not actually your girlfriend. I also don't understand how her period affects intimacy. ​ You didn't kiss her because you're afraid. Man maybe just tell her you'd like to kiss her
/r/seduction14/11/18 02:31 AM
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Priorities brother. Focus on your work, plenty of other places to speak to women. ​ Maybe you can try the classes there. That's the only time I'm social in the gym, cycling, yoga, boxing classes can be interactive
/r/seduction14/11/18 02:21 AM
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Biggest turn off is not being a man, lack of masculinity. It will come out in everything you do. The the biggest turn offs from being a pussy are as follows Dishonesty/manipulation Caring what she thinks without knowing her Not moving things forward A better question is what is the biggest turn on ​
/r/seduction14/11/18 02:12 AM
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You don't need to wait for anything but get your shit together with respect to your priorities or you'll end up having shitty experiences and okay sex with losers in your parents place
/r/seduction14/11/18 01:55 AM
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She is just teasing you, she likes you. You're dealing with them fine. Reframing them with sexual undertones is golden, laughing them off is platinum ..
/r/seduction11/11/18 12:13 PM
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On the surface it's either porn, masturbation or low test. Squat deep The word "delay" brings to my mind thinking. When does anyone act or perceive with delay unless their mind is talking. Maybe you are judging too harshly. She doesn't have to make your dick stand up in 10 second of meeting her, there just has to be something that you appreciate. It can be her style, her smile, even just her eye's. Take action from there. You're actually responsible for moving things forward. If something turns …
/r/seduction11/11/18 12:09 PM
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16 year olds don't think for themselves, let alone apply themselves in their chosen direction. I seriously could've been smoking weed, playing games, fapping and only started at 21 and I'd be in the exact same position, give or take
/r/TheRedPill15/10/18 07:23 PM
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"To all the young guys" ... says the young guy. You're beating yourself up. Thing is, the stuff you can do from 18 - 22 isn't that much. You don't have much money, much experience of anything, don't really think for yourself etc. Truth is you are exactly where you need to be and are only about 2/3 years behind the most productive of your peers. But if you are here, you may as well be 5-10 years ahead depending on how you apply yourself. Life is not linear.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/18 07:19 PM
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You're only starting, you're going to mess up in order to learn your way. So I would say it's a bad idea. When you have a clear picture of who you are, where you're going and what you want to do with women then those situations will naturally escalate. It's more forgiving to learn from women further out your circle. ​ However you can still very much practice your leadership with the girls in your circle. You can still appreciate them, tell them they look great ect. This alone will make you attra…
/r/seduction12/10/18 05:04 PM
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We'll start by looking at your personality. How good are you at asserting yourself with others, that is, getting them to do things for you ? That's usually the root of the weakness. Indecisiveness. In sexual relations there is a polarity, for this duality to exist, one person needs to take responsibility of the direction of the interaction. I'll simplify. Since you do the fucking, you do the leading. An interaction with a man and a woman is already sexual, you cannot make it sexual, you can only…
/r/seduction12/10/18 03:39 AM
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Plausible deniability is something the ladies practice. It's better for a man to practice courage Go direct, say you gotta go but would like to talk, ask for the number. Probably 1 minute more invested than what you suggest here However the abundance mindset here is good
/r/TheRedPill10/10/18 07:50 PM
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Pleasure, good luck
/r/seduction10/10/18 06:09 PM
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r/http://www.rsdnation.com/node/899069/forum. It's the best threads from rsd. The only thing you may need more imo is a certain structure in your head, the structure of how you go about your business and deal with the feedback ​ Anything more gets to a point of diminishing returns. As in you could be doing much better with far less information. Ultimately the goal is not to think about this stuff at all but to live it ​ I remember this train of thought from learning photography. You can take gre…
/r/seduction10/10/18 04:16 PM
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The difference between being with friends and being solo is that on your own you're going to be much more proactive, mentally. Does this mean that you will be interacting with everyone ? No. You can set yourself a small goal of introducing yourself to 10 people - whatever level you are on, whatever your next step is - it could be complimenting 3 girls. So start there, start with a small goal for your time out This whole mindset is more potent because when you think this way in a group, you're th…
/r/seduction10/10/18 03:39 PM
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Ask where she's headed or where she is coming from then take it from there. Understand that not everyone is being social on the train, it's not the usual so this means you will have to take the lead a little bit more, you'll have to carry the conversation a little more Maybe a bit more specific. Say Hello to her, she will look in your direction, catch her attention with your eye contact. This is the approach. Now focus on being friendly and social - "so where you heading ?", tell her where you a…
/r/seduction10/10/18 03:29 PM
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Looking to the internet to validate/approve you is probably the lowest your self esteem will ever be ​ There's how other people think you look and there's how you think you look. All you need to be concerned with is how you think you look. To other's you can be a 2 but to you, you always need to be a 10. ​ All you need to change is what you think of yourself
/r/seduction10/10/18 02:42 PM
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It's okay man, you don't get it
/r/TheRedPill04/10/18 01:12 PM
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Don't get into relationships because of validation ie. how she looks and don't get in one because you are having sex. How you've described her, she was always a plate but you've given her the seat next your throne I don't know what goes through guy's heads when they think alpha. You must have standards, that is alpha, not increasing your time at the gym or some imaginary future frame game
/r/TheRedPill04/10/18 01:10 PM
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Hahaha she gets nothing. Well there we go
/r/TheRedPill04/10/18 12:28 PM
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There's a million what ifs in life. As I like to think, when one door closes another opens, such is the abundance of life But really look at what's going on in the story above. 24 years on they are different people in different circumstances. She's a single mother in her 40's now. He gets "closure". Let's look at it from her perspective. What does she get out of talking with this guy ?
/r/TheRedPill03/10/18 02:24 PM
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This sub, the red pill, is more like a slap in the face or a freezing cold shower. What brings men here is not their lack of positive masculinity, that's fairly straight forward to develop. It's their experiences with "toxic femininity". Masculinity often manifests in the physical, it's in action - it goes outwards. Femininity is the opposite, so if you can imagine everything a woman does is physiological, that's what they do with each other, that's what they do to men. So all of this is straigh…
/r/TheRedPill02/10/18 04:02 PM
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You're quite idealistic then. The reality here is a little darker
/r/TheRedPill02/10/18 01:22 PM
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I'm looking at the 40 year old not the 16 year old
/r/TheRedPill02/10/18 11:39 AM
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This is so sad. A 40 year old man being happy with a kiss at the end of a dinner date. That is not a man's sexuality yet he speaks of being comfortable in his own skin. He would puke if he even had a vague idea of what she's been up to the last 24 years
/r/TheRedPill02/10/18 03:08 AM
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Well done for putting yourself out there, lord knows how tough it is navigating dating ​ I think most of your actions are coming from an insecure place, so that when she did something that poked these insecurities, you couldn't deal with it emotionally ​ It's a lot more than assuming attraction here, it's more like the image you have of yourself. This will probably take real work with yourself but not for too long. It's beyond what you think you did wrong and what you think you did right. It's m…
/r/TheRedPill30/09/18 03:22 AM
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If politics give you anxiety, refrain from politics. Let's not get distracted here
/r/TheRedPill28/09/18 10:53 AM
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Just a shit test. I'm doing legs today, then going to meet a cutie
/r/TheRedPill28/09/18 10:51 AM
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Maybe, maybe not. Only you can tell
/r/TheRedPill27/09/18 11:29 PM
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They are doing whatever the "bottom" 40-60% of men are doing
/r/TheRedPill27/09/18 01:17 AM
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This is true. I had a couple of conversations I had to carry heavily early on. During them I was thinking wow she's really not that interested in me. Only to find out later she's nervous and doesn't know what to say. It was the ultimate perspective shift. I could tell the nervous behaviour, it's like they're reacting to me just being there. Fidgeting, pulling out their phone to do whatever. Basically things I'd do if I was self conscious in an environment
/r/TheRedPill27/09/18 01:12 AM
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Nicely put. Thanks for sharing
/r/TheRedPill27/09/18 12:57 AM
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60yearschallenge, manwhore, honest signals. I'm sure there's a couple others worth a mention Read rsd early stuff, watch their early videos. Alexanders blog was one of my faves, maybe it's on the wayback machine archives I can't speak for max. Maybe you'll approach more but I dunno bout results
/r/seduction18/09/18 01:55 AM
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Hahaha you've wasted 9 years mate
/r/TheRedPill17/09/18 12:39 AM
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It's meta, one level deeper. You can build the intuition by asking yourself "what does this say about them". If you tell me you're a doctor to me what that says about you is that you're a hard worker and you like helping people so again, what does that say about you ? I get closer to seeing you for who you are, and who treats you that way but those closest to you Talking would be one of the more direct ways of doing it. What it is really is the way you think. It's the thoughts in your head. Are …
/r/seduction15/09/18 04:53 PM
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Well you don't need to understand a person fully. All you need to do is see them for who they are, not the concept in your head I don't understand the question
/r/seduction15/09/18 01:34 PM
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You speak knowledge but your writing is piss. Seriously look into it ​ You are correct about this perspective. However men should stop focusing on women and seek direction and purpose in life. It won't guarantee women but it will bring out your masculine qualities big time, which are inherently attractive. The same way you are naturally attracted to a feminine woman's energy alone and can probably tell if she is attractive from watching her walk from feet away ​ Some people can't get the picture…
/r/TheRedPill15/09/18 07:43 AM
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I think this is fairly common, you need their validation to feel good about yourself To separate from your ego and operate from your sense of self, imo atleast, it's the times when things aren't going your way that you can best shape your character. If you're not getting the best vibe from her, maybe she's hard to read - do you go home and look at the positive, try to move things forward in the present or is it game over and more evidence of your "skills". Especially in the moment you will be te…
/r/seduction15/09/18 07:19 AM
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Yes this is correct. It's impossible to tell who someone is by looking at them but this is what we train ourselves with social media and television. It takes a bit of time to understand someone, their dreams and motivations, their fears and struggles. This is what the mating/dating dance is all about. Instead humans today interact with concepts in their head, of what people are supposed to be in their head, based on how they present themselves ​ There's a few perspectives on this because equally…
/r/seduction15/09/18 06:59 AM
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Keep in mind that she is there because she likes you and is hoping to get fucked
/r/seduction13/09/18 05:41 PM
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Solo is far more potent, wing men and wing women are for the untrained. They only hold you back. Now if a women wants to hook you up with her friend, that's a story for another day
/r/seduction13/09/18 05:41 PM
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Why are you looking for their validation
/r/seduction13/09/18 05:38 PM
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I was exactly the same a year ago and here I am teaching it today. I wrote about it in my field reports a year ago so I'm conscious of what's going on here. ​ You can do it. Your mind just feels that way purely by habit. This is the root of the theory of impression vs expression. There's just a filter there, you're not fully in tune with yourself, you're more in tune with the impression you are making
/r/seduction13/09/18 03:12 PM
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No. You should relate more and express more. I was giving you an example, let me try be more clear. ​ "How to deal with mental issues" "Oh why do you feel that's important" "(she speaks)" "(you relate)" -- "Teach us taekwando" "Why do you feel that's important" "I feel like being able to protect myself has helped me feel comfotable in my own skin" "(she relates)" "I was never like this you, I laugh at how anxious I got sometimes" "(she relates)" "(you express yourself, tease or whatever) it woul…
/r/seduction13/09/18 02:48 PM
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Pleasure, I edit the comment, it might help a bit more now.
/r/seduction13/09/18 02:09 PM
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Firstly lets start with the assumption that you did something wrong. You didn't, if anything you both are communicating on the exact same level and yet she slips bellow your level of communication frequently. For example, you tease her with "you devil" and her reply is severely uncalibrated, yet you think it's you, you come here and the guys suggest that it's you and then you end up learning how to navigate people you shouldn't even be giving your time to. Look you're interested in her, she's in…
/r/seduction13/09/18 01:59 PM
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Between 2008-2011/12 they were the best. The earlier instructors and posters/members made it what it was. Have a look at the quintessential articles, all those guys are what RSD is and was. They have let go of their best instructors, they've allowed their forums to turn into ruins and now there is nothing left. The guys that are left can barely connect with women effectively and they sure as hell cannot teach or coach. They're far from qualified to teach or coach ​ The thing about RSD and game i…
/r/seduction13/09/18 01:27 PM
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Yeah exactly
/r/seduction12/09/18 11:37 PM
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Maybe not 5, we would be talking about inexperienced 19-22 year olds but screening for these things is extremely important before you decide to commit to her. Most only screen for how she's been treating them ​ Her past relationships will give you clues to how she will really be, her sexual past is important to get a picture of her actual behavior, her views can easily be changed but you cannot change her ability to nurture so you should also screen for this. It can be something you may not want…
/r/seduction12/09/18 07:27 PM
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Scrap the plan, let go of the mental and the step by step. It's boring and predictable. Let your passion and fear guide you ​ In my mind it seems like you aren't used to women coming out to see you, so you don't believe in yourself, so overcompensate and/or over think ​ I would say you should be more bold and direct when setting up to meet but keep it extremely simple. So like cut the amount of texts you are sending before you suggest to meet, in half. And be very bold, so you will have to have …
/r/seduction12/09/18 07:19 PM
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Firstly women are subtle, they are neutral in public. You are looking for too much and you are looking outside yourself. A bitter lesson in life is understanding that you are enough just as you are. To see all that you need to know a woman is into you, all you need to know is how they treat someone they aren't into. They do it with disgust, so anything other than that is a green light. If they aren't trying to get away from you, you are in a golden position. This is the level of faith to operate…
/r/seduction12/09/18 03:49 PM
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Veteran field status
/r/seduction12/09/18 03:31 PM
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We can keep it simple here, whatever you feel, she's going to feel So we can say you make girls uncomfortable because you're uncomfortable You also don't need to be a mind reader to get a sense of how someone feels. It's in their face and tone of voice
/r/seduction12/09/18 03:29 PM
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You cannot be in the "friendzone" via text The "friendzone" is the place you end up in when you don't touch her with intent in mind, in person. It should be called "the dead zone" because you are too scared to lose her, so don't move things forward.. and naturally she won't move things forward, so it's dead. I also look into lexicon. You use the word "should", to me this is a word used by a guy that thinks she shouldn't do what he's asking, so he doesn't assert himself with confidence. "We shoul…
/r/seduction12/09/18 03:15 PM
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The ultimate shit test haha. A test of focus. All you have to do is go back to doing you. Clear your head and focus on your purpose. When dealing with her, be open, clear and relaxed
/r/seduction12/09/18 03:04 PM
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your reply is the "wanting to be accurate" of ego, and my reply is the "wanting to be right" of ego. so cos we aren't going to get anywhere here i'll go back to my main point; yes action is king but we must approach action consciously
/r/TheRedPill09/09/18 02:55 AM
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"Lifehack" - "Why you should think for yourself"
/r/TheRedPill09/09/18 12:55 AM
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It's very easy to talk shit about other men. I think it's a mistake because all men are equal and with a little guidance all three of those mentioned guys could be fucking that exact same woman. They just fluctuate in mindsets due to conditioning, all due to mental habits. With certainty I can say you do the same, so I'm unsure what value you are really trying to give here
/r/TheRedPill08/09/18 11:34 PM
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Incorrect action without knowledge is better than knowledge without action. These are extremes, where you will typically find guys. However, is walking 100 miles in the wrong direction better than walking nowhere with the right directions in hand ? I certainly know which poison I would take ​ Life is the ultimate balancing act. Action will always be king because life is right now but we aren't animals, we come with knowledge and imagination to bring with to the moment ​
/r/TheRedPill08/09/18 11:18 PM
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I'll state the obvious, are you talking to girls ? Things only happen with women when you get out of your house and talk to them You're a good product, focus on your marketing - get out there more, go to new places, start some conversations and see what happens I think you're just overly focused on yourself, neurotic thoughts ..
/r/TheRedPill07/09/18 01:35 AM
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Basically you're saying lifting whatever weight you are now is ineffective, you need to ramp up the weight 3-6 times that. You will burnout in a a couple days. It's best to move from where you are. Keep an hour of meditation as a goal and work towards it
/r/TheRedPill07/09/18 12:44 AM
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Exactly. Leading goes way beyond being decisive and making commands or taking control, way beyond it The mindset required is that of the team. You are basically the coach, all the way to the bedroom. There are crappy coaches and there a great coaches. One's you will give everything for and other's you wouldn't do anything for. Same with women. Think you can rock up and make another human follow you because trp said so and you've got another thing coming. Mutual respect is earned
/r/TheRedPill04/09/18 01:51 AM
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A man should be perfectly able to be lonely in solitude. There's a difference in the lexicon. Many people, women and men, are afraid to be by themselves, afraid to be in a quite room with no distractions. I'm introverted, I think of it as being with myself. Fact of the matter is we are always with ourselves. That person speaking in our heads is the closest to us, this is why self talk is so important. When others have doubt, when others aren't with you, you will always have yourself. Before a wo…
/r/TheRedPill04/09/18 01:36 AM
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Success is all in the way you think, it's not in what you do. You can tell how successful someone is or will be by the way they think. This is all quality women do, they scan the mind, they screen the mind. They could care less how it's packaged ​ Women are not too different than men, they don't require much to get turned on. The difference with women is that they are all psychological, that is where their whole battle ground takes place, so for man to show dominance in this area says a lot abou…
/r/TheRedPill02/09/18 01:31 PM
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Okay then she's probably busy Set up something this weekend if you're free
/r/seduction30/08/18 12:15 AM
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Are you okay knowing that she's attracted to you or do you need her to spell it for you over the phone ? She's doing you a favor, texting women isn't that fun. Maybe she's just busy, maybe it's not you. Ask her if everything's okay, since she's been quiet. If all is well, set up your meet and go and actually enjoy her
/r/seduction29/08/18 11:14 PM
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Haha homeboys claw is on point
/r/seduction29/08/18 03:28 PM
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You can only come off as you are
/r/seduction29/08/18 01:42 PM
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It's the main thing holding many from starting things in life
/r/seduction28/08/18 10:39 PM
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Make a move
/r/seduction23/08/18 04:34 PM
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A man's arousal is like a light switch. It gets "flipped" on/off. What happens here is he believes he's in there right.. then he fumbles a few words and in his mind he flips the switch off. "Dam it I messed up", "how can I save face". The thing is though, women don't think like that. She's not thinking "he made me feel great but he panicked at the end there, nope not for me". The way she is aroused is different You are okay. You're going to fuck up a whole lot more than panicked conversation in …
/r/seduction23/08/18 04:22 PM
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It's like missing a penalty. If you start to ruminate, there's a good chance you'll miss the next one too. It's all about keeping your head in the game. I would advise laughing at your self, doesn't have to be out loud. Look for what was amusing about the whole thing If you were thinking about doing it, you weren't that far away actually. What probably happened was, like in sport, you lost your focus for a couple of seconds. Just the thought "but my family is far behind" or whatever fear comes i…
/r/seduction23/08/18 04:11 PM
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Nah man, don't do that
/r/seduction13/08/18 07:21 PM
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Haha I know what he did here but I'll keep quiet about it. I will say that it's not game. I'd also assume a big part of it is where you are in your life rn
/r/seduction13/08/18 01:37 AM
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Please stop giving advice
/r/seduction13/08/18 01:02 AM
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I'll get a little deep here What's holding you back is the same thing that's driving you to ask for advice. What's getting you to ask for advice is what is preventing you. Because you aren't okay with yourself, you assume that other people know reality better than you.. so you look outside yourself for what is true but it will never be true for you - you'll adopt shit that's not you. It will never be what you want to say, it will never be how you feel. There will never be a connection because yo…
/r/seduction12/08/18 01:30 PM
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The problem with guys is that they talk to women instead of with women She was just teasing you, just throwing something out there to see how you would respond.. and you fell in line. You even ask her to directly to qualify you, to vet you Women's best game for guys that are looking for sex is "work for it". You cannot resurrect it because of the position you take in your own mind. Women are subtle, if you failed this one, the next few would really put you on your heels
/r/seduction12/08/18 12:55 PM
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Not enough for my level of skill. Maybe 5-10 girls every two weeks I just got my car few months ago and spring is in a few weeks this side so I'll be looking to close the year with bigger numbers
/r/seduction03/08/18 07:43 AM
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I'd say to myself a lot "avoid nothing"
/r/seduction03/08/18 01:03 AM
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Ultimately it's a skill we cultivate to use whenever we would like to, for whatever purpose It's up to you, I don't advocate mass approaching. If I'm a little nervous then I know I should be taking action. I might say to myself "avoid nothing" for that day. Them the next day only initiate with women I'd actually like to meet
/r/seduction03/08/18 12:40 AM
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I like this I have a saying, "where ever I go, there they are". My thinking is to let them catch my attention than for my attention to seek them The problem with thinking within the pickup paradigm is that there's contrasts. When you're doing your errands you're one guy then when you want to meet a women, now it's "day gaming" As funny as it sounds, the best place to meet women is "right now". That's my whole philosophy. I found that if I went to a place and meeting women was at the top of the "…
/r/seduction01/08/18 12:19 AM
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Yeah, maybe screen for the characteristics and be willing to walk away
/r/TheRedPill29/07/18 08:03 PM
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It would be better for everyone if guys manned up
/r/seduction28/07/18 11:11 AM
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If only I knew then what I know now. Thing is when you lose your virginity at 16, it's a different pov when you lose it at 20. Everything I did when I was 16 "just happened", all the way down to my social circle. Everything I did when I was 20 I made happen, all the way down to my social circle Yeah, it's easier than most think but also harder than most would try
/r/seduction27/07/18 12:47 PM
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Sure, if they want to break the ice but it's not the same thing as leading, which is what guys are doing when they initiate interactions with a sexual context What you are basically saying is you want women to invite you to take the lead, yet by definition, since you're not initiating you're not taking the lead The whole thing then depends on whether the guy will do what they guy is expected to do in the first place. What all this seems like it amounts to is you wanting her to give you a green l…
/r/seduction27/07/18 12:36 PM
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