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CULTURAL MISOGYNYberned-out/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 09:46 PM
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STAY WOKEberned-out/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:51 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYberned-out/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:17 PM
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The idea is that your destiny and fulfillment are based on helping him get somewhere in life. Here is the most common form I've seen this take, when discussing life goals and wanting more out of life........ "Isn't being a wife and mother fulfilling? Aren't I enough for you? Isn't being Mrs Bigshot what you want?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:37 PM
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OMG GPS I'm on the floor here. "Men have built-in GPS. No, not that GPS, the other one." ROFLMFAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:31 PM
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I cannot TELL YOU how many times I've argued this or had this conversation or just heard it out of men. If he tells you something like, "The universe made you for me" or thanking your parents for "making you for him" then RUN. This is a super common widespread belief men love to fetishize and promote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 04:28 PM
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that center actual women There's the confusing part. To them it's extraneous garbage because it's not about them. For a change. That is privilege.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:24 PM
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"its a lot." It's a lot of self-improvement is what it is, yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:22 PM
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OPPORTUNITY MAKES THE THIEF is a saying that applies here. She started as a child, a teenager, to give herself away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:08 PM
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BULLYING I personally think it's because boys are shown endless deferrence for their voice in schools, and because bullying girls is used as a means of social climbing. I cannot think of a single class my entire time in all the schools I went to, where there wasn't loudmouth boys who always had their voices front and center. their knee jerk opinions always out their mouth the instant it hits their brain. We've learned that bullying occurs inside friend circles, not stranger-to-stranger like it's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:44 PM
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I think it's essential to point out here that she is Asian, and there is a full-on free-for-all on Asian Americans since lockdown. Stand with your sisters and check on them. Any Asian families you know need to hear from you that you see them and know it's happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:49 PM
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omg i had to stop halfway through i was laughing too hard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:10 PM
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SAFETY is why women "hold out" LOL. That's why we hesitate. We can do math, and the risk vs reward equation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:01 PM
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Like friendship is bad. Men lean on women their whole lives for all the benefits of therapists, maids, mothers, ........then they're like BE FRIENDS??!!!! BITCH!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:00 PM
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"I don't want her if she can do math on how much a pregancy will cost her in life!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:59 PM
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Not a word about empathizing with the person you are risking pregnancy with, nah. Not an important item. And a man with a pursed smile like that.........only means that whatever is in that mouth is something to be ashamed of. Not surprising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:57 PM
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they'd fill up a bunch of prisons with women and breed kids for sale, just like they used to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 03:38 AM
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omg i'd take that any day of my life over giving a bj LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:49 AM
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Well, wallstreet is actually full of psychos, hedge fund managers, people who love money but who are horrible people. So, there's that similarity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:01 PM
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Slave labor is great for the recipient! It's so much less work! It's so easy! It's so accessible! Late stage capitalism at its finest, where anything that can be bought and sold should be out there on the free market. Earth and humanity be damned, new fresh free porn is a necessity as far as these apologists are concerned. For my whole half century, all of progress has to carry this wet blanket of "maybe the women need to reconsider their opinions a bit, let's settle down and think about this". …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 02:50 PM
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take advantage of the free legal consultations for your situation. it's entirely possible a pro bono contract would be an option, costing you nothing to pursue this. keep records of what this is costing you. it's costing you, just make a list of the effort and emotions. write down what happened now, pursue now. good luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 03:21 PM
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Let me tell you about caregiving and women: most of us do it. Society expects us to light ourselves on fire to care for others. This woman is a legend in my books. She had no problem walking away from a man who told her to light herself on fire again, dammit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:55 AM
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Not to mention, you start eating what they want to eat & waiting until later for everything that sounds amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 12:54 AM
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LIFE PRO TIP: If you have people who treat you great who light you up, I've found that I always extend an invite and an offer to pay, whatever adventure I'm going on. 99% of the time people do not accept your offer but it's delightful for the ppl you care about to receive the offer. Of course, do this with ppl who don't abuse your attention or time or money LOL. Just the ones who treat you great and light you up. I am so glad I stumbled upon this strategy. It has lead to great adventures and sur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:21 AM
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Right? I have a young friend who's been trafficked, and she's in her 20's. I feel for her. She tells me that nearly every fucking guy on OF tries to get free shit, negotiate down, buy the minimum. It's not a money maker, but rather just another way for men to waste our time. She quit OF, and she was homeless at the time. Like, holding a sign and working a hula hoop on the college campus, working for tips from the family types was definitely more dignified and workable than OF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:33 PM
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The last SO I had checked a lot of boxes as far as being high value. One that he was insistent upon was paying for everything. I"m buying groceries, he pays. Cosmetics, clothing, car repairs, he paid. If I wanted it, he wanted me to have it. Even before we dated, when we were just acquaintances, he paid for my tab if he was present, he paid for the weed, the beer, if he was present it was on his tab. A great deal of his self esteem was based in being raised to pick up the tab, establish that you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 11:30 PM
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Here's an example: I have three older brothers who were minors/teens in the 70's who worked in shops, (yes as managers, see that 70's show) and such and it was normal for them to do the "titty twister" to girls. Basically groping co workers by coming up behind them and grabbing both breasts and twisting them then wrestling with the girl. I saw them do it. Now they're still in their 50's and they are bosses. They supervise people. So my math is off? I'm okay with that. No feelings hurt. Same diff…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 06:27 PM
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"born in a bath of misogynistic culture" is great. Stealing that. Men my age, in their 50's, were raised to think that anything goes as long as you don't have to pay a legal price. A bath somehow sums it up. It's all encompassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:53 PM
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50's+ is everyone my age and older. When I was in elementary school my mother couldn't open her own bank account, buy a car, or lease a home without a man's signature. Sometimes she'd come home from one of her jobs in tears from the sexual harassment. I don't know what she had to do to make ends meet, but it was like that. I was not seeing things. Please don't gaslight me with the notion that I didn't see what I saw or lived what I lived, and until you watch the special, please don't gaslight me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:48 PM
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Back in the day, if you weren't worthy of being picked, and didn't get picked, your fate could easily turn into sex work, back alley abortions, no money, and no rights. I was just in the car and heard a song called "Sugar Daddy" and yeah it was as awful as it sounds, all about being able to taste the good life, I have a right to, he gives me all his money, he give me all his money. So, the main issue I have with this is, the Sugar Daddy was born from a time only a FEW YEARS AGO when women had ze…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 10:03 PM
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YES YES YES. The basis is, shore up your own kingdom's health, wealth, and defenses before you invite someone to get too close to the Queen. Then you are never trapped, never dragged too far down, always land on your feet. Being human means you make mistakes. For me, FDS is protecting me from mistakes I would have made in general life. I've raised my standards, my boundaries, my expectations. That's been enormous for me. It took me a while, but the toxic people in my life, gone. Done. FDS showed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 12:31 AM
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Ayyy, you are a victim of child abuse. You might try a peek into the sub for children of narcissist parents. Hugs but you and I and all of us know you are far better than she ever treated you. You didn't deserve it, and you're here to level up and rise past this history. STaying in therapy is good for you, helps rise past all these horrible commands and abuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:30 PM
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THANK YOU I had huge reservations about it after the trailers and now you've done the horrible viewing chore for me. THANK YOU!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 01:34 AM
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Pickmating call.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 02:14 AM
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ONE!.....or more Ladies! FORM A LINE TO THE LEFT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 02:10 AM
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my long term hookups turned into real FRIENDSHIPS yes. not relationships, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:46 PM
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The last 2 people I dated spent probably around 2k per month in the early stages. When they want to be there, they want to have the best memories with you and crush any competition. That was my experience. $2k isn't much if you view it as an experience. People spend that on a vacation or important celebrations like xmas. If you want to have coffee with women, join the book club, tbh. There's lots of ways to meet women that don't involve dating. Those are cheap avenues to grow yourself and level …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:13 PM
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Stop spying on me! LOL I was literally saying the same thing while looking at my own hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:37 PM
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So glad you are out! I totally get the conditioning by fear. It's horrible. Good on you for not getting married!!! DODGED A LITERAL BULLET!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 01:42 AM
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I have to say Amen to this. If I had trusted my intuition in 2020 I would already have filed a police report and lawyered up after an assault from a family member. I haven't done that yet, but I am still leveling up. I hired a lawyer and get my first consultation next week. I forgive myself for not trusting myself. I've learned that you gotta let go of self-blame to be light enough to rise. I'm so grateful for this sub. THANK YOU, Queens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 06:20 PM
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LOL he talks like this worked for a long time then suddenly didn't. That's rich. The pic of him at the bar says he is really just into complaining to strangers while they get paid to listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 12:03 AM
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I have VERY BIG HOPES for our new Secretary of the Interior, for one. She will dive into the plague of missing Indigenous women all across North America. Every day I feel like we MUST keep fighting, for the ones who we already lost to trafficking, to the ones who are waiting to be rescued.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:15 AM
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I want to be really clear: The bare minimum is NOT a challenge. You are begging for his respect, trying to pull it out of him, trying to reason it out of him. STOP. You are in an abusive relationship, very very abusive. Alcoholism is no joke, families on the side also no joke. Abuse frequently flies from both sides, and that's how it keeps going. Forgive yourself and level up. When you file the report, state clearly that the abuse is overwhelming and exhausting and continuous. You have proof of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 04:54 PM
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I absolutely love explaining this to men when they ask, "what the heck is up with that girl's blue hair and the metal in her face (piercings), that's so ugly, and she would be so pretty without it!" and with GLEE I inform them it's to keep old, ugly, nasty, and pervy dudes like you away. i also point out that don't worry, she's not lonely LOL. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 04:17 AM
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yes, and this is a known strategy men share. they fantasize early about molding girls and teaching them about their own passions. any time a man "molds" you or starts to, that is just wrong. people don't get "molded" like objects unless you're hurting them. People should unfold themselves in their own time in safety and where their well being is a priority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 04:09 AM
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Okay so if it's truly one-sided, then this is very abusive. Save it all and file a protective order barring communications that are not about your children. Depending on your state, you also may be able to have the state be the intermediary for communications regarding your kids. Nobody has the right to just hammer you like this. I hope it is one-sided then you do have a claim here. A single text from the middle of the night is not the whole story, just saying. Save it all to submit with the ord…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:53 AM
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news alert: men can only ejaculate inside women's parts or they die like a bee LOL now i can't stop laughing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 08:37 PM
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Who thinks this? Men who need placated. Governments placate men by giving them authority over women. It prevents them from resisting the government, because that would be against their self-interest. Whoever wrote this has another larger-by-far problem in his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 08:33 PM
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She was a CEO of a medical research facility and I think the whole world crashed down. They had two small kids at the time. Nothing short of complete loss of her footing I think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:41 PM
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oh just yuk on every level. girl, out out out with that stain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:40 PM
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YES this was well done!! You're an inspiration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:39 PM
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I'm sure she will, and just like Martha Stewart and the lady who bribed the entrance officials for her daughter........they're just women thrown onto the pyre as a scapegoat for having a seat at the table of what men do freely. imo. It won't stop us from fighting it tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 08:28 PM
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i don't understand why reddit hasn't forked yet and separated all the NSF subs and content. i know you can "filter" it but that isn't effective when constant new subs get created. a forked reddit safe for women and children is what this world needs. but as long as tech companies never assign staff to fight hate campaigns (which is what this amounts to, obvs), tech platforms will always contain it and big money will always back it. as long as there's tools to use kids and women as commodities on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:59 PM
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I have a friend, a few years ago the FBI knocked on her door and took her husband away for CP. She had no clue. If they can find that guy, then they should have plenty of effort going on here on reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:31 PM
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I have seen women treat their sons as their emotional nurse. Literally knew a person take their kindergarten-aged son out of school regularly to soothe their PTSD anxiety. The first time I saw that, I was supposed to pick him up as his emergency contact and bring him home. When I heard the reason, I did pick him up, and the first thing he said when he saw me was "oh god what now". So, I told him there wasn't anything wrong, his mom just locked her keys in the car and needed me to spend some time…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:58 AM
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He must have some truly magical dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 10:07 PM
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Clearly he is talking about Black women. And Black ladies' hair is not some hobby. They are routinely punished for the wrong hair, no matter what the style is. Getting professionally done hair is a necessity for them in this country. Soundcloud bars........it's nice work if you can get it I guess? Would not know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 07:36 PM
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Show IATA to all american girls, let them in on the big lie about motherhood and being married. The whole thing is a chore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 02:36 AM
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Yikes I bet he's fun at parties with that tweaker pimp vibe he's got going.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:13 AM
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Oh yeah, women are gonna be SO UNFUCKABLE NOW. Man! Dick is hard enough to come by as it is, we'll never reproduce at this rate! He's tryin' to convince somebody of something but I can't tell what.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 10:40 PM
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LOL Crush her self esteem then sit back and reap the "benefits" of ............? Catching a domestic violence case most likely. This approach of conquering someone is a sad, dysfunctional race to the grave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 10:32 PM
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holy wow that should do it. show all the girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:00 PM
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Men and boys, always trying to talk their way out of work and self improvement. OPEN A BOOK AND LEARN HOW TO PLEASE PEOPLE, fellas. This is the way to what you seek.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 04:14 PM
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I told my stepdaughter one time, "You don't have to have a reason to break up with someone. Just do it. Be the asshole, the jerk, the bitch. You don't even need to know why you're doing it. You do it because you WANT TO, and figure out the why later, or don't." The look on her face was amazing. She had always thought you gotta have a reason, because men are always telling us we have to have a reason to reject them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:51 PM
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This asshole now is doing the pout-face until mommy fixes his emotions for him. Their mouths run so much faster than their brains, because they are allowed to submit opinions on everything knee-jerk mansplaining just by interrupting, from childhood. They avoid doing labor this way, they avoid empathy and learning in this way, they avoid responsibility in this way. I have 3 brothers and a couple dads, plus all their friends. The irony is, the labor to learn how to do something sexually pleasing f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:13 AM
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i love the color and it looks so creamy and nice. oh my gosh, well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:12 PM
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And there's a tie-in between porn-comparing like you're saying, and old fashioned street perving, that we all know as 'cat calling'. The tie-in is this: it's not about sex, but about making a girl cringe with disgust. A recent study about unsolicited dick-pics said upwards of around 20% of men this is their primary motivation. So nah it's never been about what we're wearing. It is about bullying, pure and simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 09:06 PM
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"late teens" gross. okay, so high school kids and a 40 year old. i hope she poisons your geritol sir LOL. also, the idea of spending the next 20 years alone is MAGICAL to women. tell girls the truth, that they can make a million dollars faster than getting a kid into kindergarten, and they'll put off husbands altogether.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 12:53 AM
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The main remedy for roommate issues is to get another roommate. If perchance she uses wifi only on her cel you could filter OLD sites at the router and see if that helps until you can re-home. You're on the correct path in that you're not looking for a way to change her, just get out from under it. As for how to find someone new or a new place, get an agent. I find that hiring pro's gets the best results. Throw a little money at it that way, but not a lot of time, and you might jump right into a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 07:41 PM
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nobody makes a list for xmas in this fashion. but tbh, i hear very few "married to a cop" stories that go well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:55 AM
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Yeah, the 40+ OLD scene in my area is a fucking job hunt. UGH. Like dude, you want ME to do YOU a jobby job kind of favor in the sexual arena? I don't even KNOW what your junk looks like and now I DREAD THE THOUGHT. Thanks, sir. Being attracted to them is just a cross I bear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 02:06 AM
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Have you tried being his therapist? His coach? His accountant? His goalkeeper? His cheerleader? His nutritionist? Have you tried cross dressing and wrapping yourself in saran wrap? Do you sift the flour first before measuring or are your dumplings dumpy? All these things could cause your man to lose interest!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:33 PM
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I think the best part of all this is he'll go down in infamy in his circle of friends and family. No telling how many wives and girlfriends in both families that she just spurred to stand up for themselves and throw the whole man out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 10:17 PM
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One thing I've done that works is squarely loudly calmly say, "IS THERE A PROBLEM HERE?" And then everyone looks. Stay loud and calm. If they say, "no, there's no problem here!" you say "YOU WERE FILMING ME, THAT FEELS LIKE A PROBLEM. ARE YOU FILMING?" And by that point management is on it if it's a gym or pool or such. I've done this with teenagers picking on me, fraternity children, old men and young men in the street. It usually works well. I hope this helps someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:48 AM
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"A high body count" ROFLMFAO. What he doesn't know is, we don't keep count. Why bother counting mediocrity. I count the best ones by category. The rest are forgettable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:26 AM
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Any time you're incapacitated by your emotions it's a red flag. Ladies, take note. Life should not be a roller coaster of emotion. If it is, then there's a problem. It's not sustainable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:46 PM
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This is the whole truth and it used to be an exchange of sorts, when women couldn't own their assets (a mere few decades ago). I fell for this, but a new day dawns and now women have rights to their own money, own professions, ownership of their belongings and lives. I'm proud I made it through. The new battle is, letting women and girls know that it's easier alone at first, then add the man later. We no longer need them to survive. They need US, and it's easier alone at first, then add the man …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:37 PM
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I never met a HVM who had time for e-games, tbh. In addition, there's a tribalism with platforms, which always strikes me as "bro" behavior, not serious husband behavior. I've met lots of HVM who will play games in person, that's a long tradition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:32 PM
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Congratulations and you're making a lot of people happy to hear you're doing better. Pat on the back for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 04:03 AM
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I really think a lot of this is just planted divisive internet culture-forming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:56 PM
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This is the kind of thinking that is behind laws. It's important to vote, ladies. Together we're the largest group of voters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:18 AM
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LOL this made me laugh. I am imagining you holding a giant wrench like a baseball bat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:16 PM
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My sister's marriage is the best one I know. They spent a few years putting off kids so they could talk about how they would do it. She's an educator, so she sees to their educational development and medical. Hubs sees to the nutrition and transportation. If she wasn't my favorite person in the world, I'd probably be super jealous LOL. I'm happy for all of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:12 PM
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I know some guys who have money and they never use a term like gold digger. They are happy to be able to open a fat wallet and not bat an eye at the bill. Most ppl don't want someone who doesn't appreciate that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 12:52 AM
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My sister is married to an HVM. He does all the cooking, shopping, car maintenance, and the stuff on the regular shared chores list. It's not hard. The bare minimum is not a challenge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:45 PM
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I agree with regrets. The ones I have are about NOT leaving sooner. Wasted time seems to be the biggest regret.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:56 AM
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I think that many women are having a moment of being insulated finally from workplace and social sexism, due to the quarantine. I personally am not sure I can go back. I'm going to try like hell not to, I'll say that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 09:01 PM
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IMO if he's good in bed, there's no doubt in his mind. If a woman climaxes with him and he's attentive, he knows he's good in bed, because you can't get there unless he pays attention to your experience. That's my opinion. His reward and affirmation is your orgasms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 08:48 PM
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I had the idea of a "perv scale" for men, using the word "perverse" to mean everything from the obvious sexual perviness, to the perverse idea that it's okay to trick someone into risking pregnancy, onto the notion of entitlement to exhorbitant amounts free labor from your life partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 08:46 PM
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This is why it's soooo essential to legislate protections and access to financial freedoms, reproductive freedoms, and imo reparations. Personal safety and freedom doesn't just "prevail" without legal leverage and protections.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 06:09 AM
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I always called that type "vampires". but I like Soul Digger the most
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 12:40 AM
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"Most ladies" says the questionably young person who couldn't know "most" of anyone. Judging from the skin and the actual size of her thighs. Her thighs are 4 inches wide. I'd be surprised if this was an adult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:02 PM
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This is the man talking, but the assumption is it's the woman. The man took the pic, the man has the pizza, the man is saying the words. It's gross in several directions. Did she even know he took her picture? It doesn't seem like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 06:19 AM
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That's just an ad for human trafficking I would not doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:08 AM
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I think LadyDraconii's comment fits a lot of puzzle pieces in my mind. It'd require as study to determine. Maybe it has been? I'm thinking not, but hoping someone has a link. It would be interesting to read.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 11:57 PM
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Of course! That makes a ton of sense. I saw a part of a video with Neil DeG T., and in it he mentioned "how puzzling nature can be, for example the human body has an amusement park right in the middle of where all our sewer system is." I'm paraphrasing. But if what you're saying applies, then yes it would make perfect sense for the two functions to be together. It's easy to imagine the clitoris being key to reduction of injuries, or re-habilitating injuries, and reducing illness in the mother. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 11:36 PM
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I had a deleted comment for whatever reason, that had to do with perhaps other functions of the clitoris. My ideas are: Possibly it has a role in more successful fertilization of the egg, or the release of additional chemicals or hormones that assist development or attachment of the egg to the uterine wall perhaps. Maybe it plays a role in latching onto the male genitalia, increasing a woman's chances of bearing children with her chosen, healthier mate. It might be a gate of sorts, like a sensor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 06:58 PM
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LOL it took three tries for the bot to not auto-delete my comment for possible policy violations. The clitoris, and men's willing ignorance of it, is a very interesting topic to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:34 PM
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"Sole function" is wrong. There's no human organ that big that has a "sole function". The ironically false title is the fault of the publication, but I love that they manufacture and distribute plastic models of the entire clitoris. It'll take women years or decades more to prove that the clitoris is more than "just" for pleasure. UGH. Breathe. I went nuts about the cave paintings for years also, until finally they proved women did the cave paintings. One day hopefully the clitoris will get its …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 07:27 AM
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This is a great idea. I might be okay dating again with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 09:45 PM
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This also applies to privilege. People with privilege who belittle where you are in life compared to them. All men have a level of privilege over all women. If he belittles your success compared to his, he's not checking his privilege.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 04:15 PM
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I'd like to add, for those who might think they're not a "genius" or equivalent, or maybe that you must be born a genius, or come from privilege: "Genius is 1% inspiration, and 99% perspiration." EDIT: I married a man who had me do the 99% perspiration for 'his' success. The only person I would do that for again is myself, or a larger worthy cause.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 07:30 AM
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I'm going to be the voice of discord here, because I see what looks like real belief that animals like HVM, or that if your pet likes your guy, that in itself is a sign of an HVM? One of the most common ways for one person to abuse another is through pets, because pets make it soooo easy. They don't know good from bad intentions. An animal's reaction to a person is not a reliable indication of a human's intentions. Animals do not have character judgement or complicated standards. I hope that's n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 12:59 AM
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"She's too old" is code for "I hate to exercise".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 10:05 PM
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Honestly, some ppl need to lose their internet license.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 10:01 PM
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I have been saying it lately but it's worth repeating, that me and my friends now carry little kids baseball bats. We wear visors and I'll wear a baseball themed shirt, just to keep it normal looking. Me, three female friends, one male friend, all the stalkers from out pasts are back on our tails again. It never seems to end, so I just now have to be in the zone, and it's much less stressful to be looking for someone to attack than it is looking to defend. The shift in mindset can save energy an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:22 AM
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It's possible he's a very skilled cheap date love bomber. It's also possible that since this is so specific, perhaps it's a local strategy men share with one another. Back in the day it was the grocery store to meet women. So dating like this might be a strategy for them to get you to give them wife-levels of trust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:12 AM
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I would like to say your username is delightful LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 04:13 AM
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I'll be looking for it. So far I can't find it but I will be back. :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 04:17 PM
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Lots of sadness regarding this, but I take a little schaudenfraude solace in the knowledge that many of these boys and men will be the world's biggest losers when they're older. There will be a divide, between girls and boys who follow FDS-type principles to deal with today's world and plan their future, and the boys who spent their childhoods watching porn. I will be happy to see those boys struggle and fail and complain. I'll be here to say, "everyone told you so, you limp dick porn sick loser…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:27 AM
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I read an article on the topic, and one part of it was this (paraphrased), "The sexual revolution, women's lib, the new liberal feminism.......women have definitely achieved the right to say "yes" in this culture, but NOT the right to say NO." I sincerely hope that the next chapter of human rights movement in this country exposes that saying NO to men PAYS DIVIDENDS, because what they are wanting to do is consume your value for free. Your image, your genitalia, your uterus. They envy it, know we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:09 AM
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I notice it's all pics of men. Who likes men the most. He does. Bragging on how abusing women brings benefits. Closeted gay for sure. And, looks like he also can't get women to send pics even? I am not going to follow up to see if I'm right, but that is the impression I have here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 12:43 AM
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THE FIVE YEAR RULE: WINDFALLS and INTERNATIONAL MOVES When you receive a windfall, hold onto it for five years before investing or spending it. This gives time for the savings to become part of your status quo and gain interest but MOSTLY: Initially you'll have to weather other people trying to get it from you through loans, gifts, investing, pleas for help. EXPECT IT, and see it for what it is. Hold onto the windfall. They don't happen often. Moving internationally: Wait five years before you e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:39 PM
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Yes, but his brother Kimball is a straight-up HOTTIE. You know that had to sting while growing up. His big brother is very hot, VERY TALL, smiles all the time, is the life of the party, and loves to cook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:26 PM
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This reeks of gleeful misogynistic ignorance. All over the world men and governments put enormous pressure on getting sons, to the point of infantcide, millions of girls killed at infancy. But here's the thing: a man who has girls has an almost 100% chance his genes will be passed on, easily, rapidly. Women find mates easily, and almost all have a baby. I have this strongly held belief that the reason laws have to be written to keep us down is because so many men would not be able to reproduce i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:24 PM
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I think you're right, and I've thought about this a lot lately. The only supply of ongoing dopamine for some men is having someone take shit and accept it. It's a thrill when you beat someone in a game and you win, I can acknowledge that. And I think that's part of the "getting off" for some men. So, all their relationships look like the same argument has taken place, same issue, same nit to pick with every relationship, just to make sure it goes the direction where he can get his kicks being a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:15 PM
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Huge age gap, and his first and second wives found him to be a narcissistic hype man type. His world, we just are taking up space. Yeah, while she was giving birth he was having a red pill meltdown. He also conned his first wife out of prenup rights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 05:33 PM
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Yes, to the point of being a total nag about it. I was reading about it during his epic meltdown while his child was being born. Literally, on twitter he says, "take the red pill" and anyway, I just read up a bit on it. I had to answer an interview question one time that I wasn't prepared for, "name a person in Tech who you really admire." I didn't have an answer, but I love electric cars so I said Elon Musk. This was before the complete embarassment. Now I think about it every time he does some…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 09:22 AM
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Honestly, most people who cover themselves in tattoos like that, especially in the face area, are hiding something. Usually low self esteem or closeted tendencies, trying to cover needle or self harm scars, or all of the above. This is not a new idea, but it bears repeating. If a man pursues more more more than he needs of anything, especially something socially bizarre like body modification, it's a highly visible red flag. I'm sorry you spent money on it, but I only had to take one look and kn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 09:09 AM
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I posted a question to sex workers the other day and got three responses, one from a sex worker, and the other two commenters said it seems like a rather rude question. I thought about that. Three tiny little real responses versus the heavily-upvoted questions we see rotate through that are some variation of "Sex workers of reddit tell me a juicy story from your work for free please. Dance, monkey." And sex workers (air quotes) pile on to comment? To give away free written porn content? Hm. Wow.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:57 AM
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Elon Musk does this. I think he's so obsessive with it that his staff can judge his mood by how platinum his wife's hair is. Any of them. All of them. Shocker, his young new baby momma died hers jet black in response to the pressure, cue meltdown. I get this hair thing a lot, bc I have long hair and men think that's a free pass to diss short haired women. It is always so disappointing. It's like, sir, you are not Fabio with the hella hair. When you are, you can be in charge of it. So take your s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:29 AM
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Yes, down to just about everything to do with usa culture, "predatory" is how it is set up. Everything's predatory, very little of our needs are met for our taxes, very little representation for us. The gains are owned by the top, and the losses are paid by the bottom. The infrastructure is paid for by the poorest and hardest working, and the gains from it's use are private, for the top only. The bottom are afforded neigh even basic health care without bankruptcy, poisoned water to drink and bat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 03:48 AM
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It's worth mentioning too, that a man who balks at medical testing will balk at preventative care in general. I am 50 and can tell you that the two things definitely go together. LVM. You do not want to drag a man through preventative care like you're his mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 01:56 AM
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So, is "report" the proper action to help the moderators with the very valuable time? We appreciate you so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 11:05 PM
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I love her. She's been very vocal about her wardrobe choices being driven by online misogyny and shaming. This is the very first pic I've seen of anything other than her head and she's still amazing. More amazing. I love the natural woman. I'm glad she dgaf. Dudes shame women because they themselves are ugly inside. It's basically them broadcasting, "hey internet, everyone, listen up my name is Misery and I love company"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:18 PM
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Flogging your servants sounds like a very harsh time to live in. Oh wait, that still happens to women doesn't it tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:14 PM
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Gross! I hope she was paid handsomely for her work, because this guy is a chore and a half.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:11 PM
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I suspect that at least some of, if not a vast majority of this is bots using this content to sow division. I could be wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 09:58 PM
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This is so true. Men in this culture gatekeep their touching and sharing so much that all they have left to bond over is agreeing to shame a third person. The really vocal asshats like dudes, so....shaming women it is. If the conservatives are looking for the mythical gays who're corrupting America's finest youth, look no further LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:32 PM
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If you want to be at someone's bedside as a relative, then marriage is essential in many places. Insurance is another very compelling factor for many people. If you want to have exciting romances, that is entirely possible without marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 07:42 AM
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My current favorite list: Lovecraft Country, The Good Place, Twilight Zone (Jordan Peele's), Maya Angelou on audio, The Mandalorian, and honestly my guilty pleasure is Blue Bloods, if only for the dinner table scene in every episode where ethics are discussed from all points of view. I never liked cop shows because of where we're at as a society but the writing is spot on for that show and there's like 7,000 seasons of it so you get to watch long term relationships develop amongst an extended fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 05:55 AM
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Roslyn Carter, FLOTUS, said once, "Everyone in their lifetime will either be a caregiver, or need a caregiver, or both," which makes caregiving everyone's responsibility, but usually only women take it seriously. I'd like to point out that most of the time the woman will not be supported in disability, but she will do the supporting without any contortions of conscience or fleeing the scene, or feeling like she is being cheated from a quality relationship. The reason I'm mentioning this is becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 12:08 AM
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Destroying something is not a prank; it's bullying and abuse. YOu don't have to forgive and have a good reason to break up with someone. YOu can be a total jackass if you wish. You do not have to be elegant and fair when someone destroys your work, your project, your possessions. These things do not belong to anyone but you, and you don't owe anyone an emotional gift of forgiveness, kindness, or stoicism. You also could press charges most likely, and it would probably result in his having to att…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:53 PM
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what on earth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:10 AM
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It's crazy, but I know that every single woman who watches this has been through it. I have, so many times. The last time it happened I was at Walmart in the middle of the day at the age of 45. It's all about wasting our time and them stroking each other's dicks emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:33 AM
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This is the "plantation mentality" that is so prevalent in this country. Idealizing the ownership of another person through abuse and humiliation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 12:26 AM
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It's also the term for that part of the abuse cycle where the abuser apologizes and makes everything right for a while. If you have "makeup sex" after a conflict, then you're in that cycle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:27 PM
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Truth, one of the best practices I have now is only my most inner circle has my address. There's a lot of mental security there. I also keep my voter registration private, which usually is a process requiring forms, but it is well worth it, ladies. Otherwise it's public information. I also do feel validated by the calling and trying to chase me down for some favors or energy. I let them go unanswered and pick what I spend my air on. So happy for you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:30 PM
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He's like, "Do you guys have any other excuses I haven't used yet for not paying attention to the person I'm naked with and who's risking a lifetime of child rearing to do this with me?" She'll stop doing the housework and he'll be like, "I can't believe the sheets get dirty? Why has nobody ever told me? I feel like my whole life has been a lie! How can I forgive my mother and girlfriend and wife for not pointing this out to me again?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:34 PM
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I agree with the HVM wanting to cuddle. The post-sex pillow-talk and intimacy is the life blood for an HVM, because he understands that caring touch and intimate moments of trust is valuable and not something to be flippant with. It's like how babies need skin to skin. Adults have the same kind of need for trusting intimacy, if they're going to really have a quality life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 09:58 PM
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This is, imo, men who can't recognize their own feelings, who never learned to watch their self-talk. Self-talk is not only about how you talk to yourself, but your inner dialogue about others . Men who say this kind of thing have very lazy self-talk habits and also probably aren't totally straight, imo. Wanting to get away from someone after sex like that is a sign that it doesn't feel right to you and it's not your true preference. But you'd have to be in touch with your feelings and what they…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 09:53 PM
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Pro tip: always ask questions when an in appropriate joke comes out. It's going to happen to you in nearly every workplace and school, etcetera. They call it "noodle brain" and you request they explain, no I don't understand, explain it. It kills the joke nearly every time. It will save you grief and frustration as the years go by. I think a Teacher called it "noodle brain" and that's how she deals with inappropriate parents at the meet-the-teacher interactions every year. She deadpans it, pleas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 05:08 AM
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I think it's important to note here that no matter how HVM your partner may be, there will ALWAYS BE OTHERS GOADING HIM ON from a group perspective. . He's just looking for some bro acceptance, not what will work best for his family going forward into the future. Now his wife has been humiliated in front of the circle of friends, on top of making the mistake of bearing him children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:14 PM
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LOL if this was about picking up men and tricking them, there would be zero interest. It's about CROWD CONTROL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:08 PM
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Yikes. There's a lot wrong there. Worst notion: that anyone is glad to be a slave. That's just the most not-human thing ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 06:23 AM
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I have heard lots of men be very pragmatic about their prospects like this, because I am a reformed "cool girl" and I've heard it all. But I also had three older brothers growing up, so yeah, for them they never even THINK about the pregnancy issue at all, or discuss empathy. Women are told to be empathetic no matter what, same as on reddit with the INCESSANT #NOTALLMEN bullshit. When I was growing up, magazines were plastered with "how to please your man" articles. One of the MOST POPULAR comed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:16 AM
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It's not just here, all nude pics are being catalogued with names, so yeah, the whole internet. NEVER SEND NUDES Just direct them to the BLOCKED and DELETED section.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:54 AM
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This was like, the whole plot to Grease. I like this ending MUCH BETTER. Sandy shoulda driven her own car off into the air and left Danny like a grease stain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:55 PM
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You know, that is an excellent point! I am a "celebrator". I always felt so bad about it, like I'm some kind of party animal, right? Then a few weeks ago, I was talking down about myself to my sister, was saying I just enjoy celebrating, I don't know why, like I was embarrassed. She said, "You do! And you're really good at it too." It shook me, honestly. Because I am good at it, and I love sharing excitement and making people excited also. Since I found FDS though, I have pretty much stopped loo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:25 AM
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Yes, I no longer share what's going on with men or people who won't be supportive, period. I pay for professional opinions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:14 AM
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I love it! I switched off coffee onto french pressed cacao nibs. I pour that over a product that's a chai/mushroom mix, whisked with warm frothed soy milk or now pumpkin spice almond creamer omfg. Only one cup per day is all I desire, compared to all day coffee drinking for 20 years. I didn't name the products bc I thought I recalled that being a "no no" on some level here on reddit? I thought I'd never give up coffee, but I'm pretty happy. Mushrooms give you great mental stamina, in my experien…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:29 AM
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Hi, I am in an oily-skin family and we just got this terrific tip from another parent a few years ago: don't use wash on the oily face, use nutrogena wipes. It takes dirt and leaves whatever it is that soap strips off. Teenagers using them instead of acne meds and lotions, and having great success just ditching the soaps for the wipes. It seems to bring balance to the universe. I also use collagen gel, that is terrific for inflammation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 12:05 AM
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I do the same thing twice a day: lotion on legs and arms, sunscreen for face and collagen gel, floss with waterpik and mouthwash. I keep my waist-length hair in protective styles almost always, and use a variety of detanglers and conditioners. I have a personal trainer I see once a week for the last year, have a nutritionist and diet center, and I make sure to always have toned legs, get sun on them, shave them regularly and use self-tanning moisturizer and get sun on them for Vitamin D. I do no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 09:51 PM
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That's what I tell young ladies when they say this, "How much do you get out? How many men do you meet? Where do you go? There's 7 billion people on the planet, girl." That last one always seems to strike a chord with women. Somehow it's easy to get tunnel vision because our lives only have 24 hours in a day and we get distracted by all the low-effort behavior of those who lean on us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:29 PM
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I assume you're getting a thorough talking to about how inappropriate this is, on your part? You stand to lose your income here, or more. Consider it a learning experience and gtfo of that dynamic right now, no contact, or you are in for a very bad time. He has a decade of practice at this game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:17 PM
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I want to mention also, there was an additional element of sting to my leaving. The discussion about their disrespect came up when my "bestie" called to ask why I had turned down the job offer I'd received, working at the same non-profit where she was supervisor. She'd alerted me to the open position before the fallout, and I'd applied. I knew something was amiss when she kept telling me that she couldn't pull any strings to get me the job, even though I hadn't asked. I assured her I was quite q…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 06:01 AM
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I left behind a small circle of friends about two years ago. They were totally taking advantage of my time and work, and disrespecting me and my time. I decided a couple Christmases ago that I was done putting all the effort into plans others were making for us, only to have the others blow me off. Inside of a few weeks I got blown off around 7 times, the last time was our early Christmas celebration as friends, that we'd done every year for several years. Out of three other adults, I got one te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:41 AM
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There's a saying in engineering: "You can't manage what you don't measure." You're measuring in order to manage what you want! You're actively engineering your future. That's fantastic at 17, it's music to my ears. All of that has to start with measuring what it is you're presented with, and what amount of effort you want to put into yourself, and what you're expecting to get out of it. MAD PROUD OF YOU YOUNG LADIES!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 02:37 AM
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I actually thought, "I've definitely heard this kind of thing out of scrotes" oh definitely. What comes to mind first is, I had a friend in college who was a California Dime, and super wealthy. I'd hang with her at parties and dudes would literally hard-approach her with stuff like, "You're coming home with ME tonight!" figuring that taking that nasty treat-her-poorly-chicks-love-that was the only hail mary they had at getting what they wanted from her and they HAD to do it in front of the bro's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:33 PM
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Fake or not, it's the culture of bragging about treating someone poorly that's on display here. I spent most of my youth outside the USA and it's more glaringly obvious the more distant you get it seems. I always thought of this attitude as "plantation mentality", which pervades the system and culture here. Bragging about owning people, hurting them, using them, ruining them. Keeping people in their place using tactics of traffickers and plantation owners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:36 PM
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PS make me a sandwich hurhur
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:31 PM
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There's a mask here in Austin catching on with women. It just says, "I'M NOT FRIENDLY" on it. Something had to give, so a sign on the face it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:12 AM
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I was thinking just today how much I am ENJOYING MYSELF learning, just care and watering for myself. I am not only good enough, I'm feeling so much more calm and focused. FDS has eliminated so many grey areas from my life that I didn't realize were gray and that were doomed to never improve, things I was doing that I didn't really want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:35 AM
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Congratulations! I'm so happy for every success story I hear. It's balm for the soul!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:31 AM
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I used to work at United. One day a lady got ghosted while she was on the flight. She landed, didn't see her guy, and found he'd blocked her on all media, I found her hiding behind a large potted plant bawling her eyes out. There was a blizzard. It was the last flight of the day, we had to get her to a woman's shelter and U comped her return the following day. Ugh. Imagine, not having the cojones to block someone until they're on a flight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 07:19 AM
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Girl is ignorant. The acts grow and they move progressively towards the real thing. It is known. Trusting pervs omg girl you're helping them. SMDH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:50 PM
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Some ppl may have already said it, but this is not his first go-round and he'll be back. That's how they do. If nothing else, a body cam like a gopro can film your whole run, point it behind you. Some of them have connectivity. hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:54 PM
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I have owned guns but don't like them at all, had one used against me, which is the danger of a woman with a gun. So now I just can't even be around them; even just standing next to a policeman makes me sweat bullets. But this baby, I'm very comfy with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:49 PM
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Check any homes along the route, see if there's cameras up, ask the ppl to check maybe?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:04 PM
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I carry a neon orange kids baseball bat now. I figure I can get a good scare into someone, since attacking with a baseball bat isn't the usual response. I've used them before, very handy if road rage happens. I've been stuck sitting still in traffic when a road-rage guy got out of his car and started walking toward my car. I picked up the bat and he stopped and turned around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:02 PM
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I have a friend who got a facelift at the same time as another surgery she had to have. The facelift paralyzed her face and left her unable to close her eyelids or speak clearly for about a month straight. The paralysis eventually wore off, but she had to constantly put eyedrops in to save her eyesight. Then she found out she got herpes from her husband, who encouraged her to get the surgery. Found a stack of sex club punch cards from around the world in his wallet. UGH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 12:37 PM
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Cling wrap costs every time, vs a container that you re-use, and a container is a bit cleaner smell-wise in the fridge probably. And they're stackable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 07:05 PM
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Gee, wonder where he picked up that habit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:39 PM
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I for one cannot get ENOUGH seeing older women on screen. I'm captivated. I'm as enthralled by it as I was peering up close at my lovely grandmother's lovely soft skin and her lovely scent. When I see older women on screen I am simply enthralled by the depth of character their faces can show, and nuance, and just the aesthetics of the beautiful parts of age really moves me. Most ppl feel the same way, from what I've read about viewers, except for the notoriously pervy dudes who crank out everyth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:45 AM
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I promised myself a while back that if I wanted plastic surgery when I was older, I would first spend that much on therapy and see if that wasn't my problem first, see if I still wanted the plastic surgery. I can't tell you how many times that self-promise has come up and I've never come close to spending as much on therapy as I would have on surgery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 05:35 AM
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Most women in domestic violence situations talk about this yo-yo of emotional abuse, which almost has to include the honeymoon phase. What's not said in the guy's comments was that he won't stop doing the yo-yo. It's implied he ditches her and moves on, but no, men hate breaking up and losing the dog they like to beat. He'll continue getting his jollies abusing her, which is textbook domestic violence dynamics. When ppl casually dismiss it as just boys being boys, they should be slapped with the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:57 PM
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This is NVM behavior, to the extreme, because you'll find most women in domestic violence situations talk about this yo-yo of emotional abuse, which almost has to include the honeymoon phase. What's not said in the guy's comments was that he won't stop doing the yo-yo. It's implied he ditches her and moves on, but no, men hate breaking up and losing the dog they like to beat. He'll continue, which is textbook domestic violence dynamics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:53 PM
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My apologies. I'll delete it. Thank you for being so kind and producing good dialogue as usual. Love you ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:47 PM
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My apologies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:46 PM
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Well it wouldn't be the first time I got tricked LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 11:46 PM
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right? it's bc they've got the upper hand, nothing else. they won't allow each other to ruin it. this is the corrupt dictatorship of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:56 AM
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I feel like the first year of high school, girls should have a whole class for the whole year just reading this shit to discuss the sheer enormity of it so the lies are exposed. Like finishing school but FDS. You're honestly not prepared as a girl. Girls are being lied to: "you can do anything you want with your life! " and "love is eternal" and "diamonds are forever" and "boys will be boys" and "porn is good because reasons". The reality is, it's time for a revolution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:38 AM
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If only there were some way to find information freely so you could learn to do things for yourself. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:41 AM
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I think we need to love-bomb askmen with this stuff. All the things we need in life, how to find a boyfriend to do it for me. How do I find a boyfriend that will clean my teeth for me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:32 AM
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Child marriage and labor marriage needs to be ended. ENDED. At this point it's escalating severely. It's not getting better. I'm from the USA and even I have friends who were trafficked and sold into marriage at 12, 13, 14. I hope this movement spreads everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:23 AM
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Good on you for leaving! WOOP! Congratulations. It's so much better alone than with a NVM who sucks all the life out of life. Way to you, you! Bien hecho!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:37 AM
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I've benefitted in getting my head aligned on my priorities and feeling good about them. I'm applying a lot of the principles of protection, like setting high standards from the initial encounter or every conversation. Setting boundaries and not extending my emotions to people, not offering myself up hoping to be liked or inquire on anything that might lead to me being asked to do favors. I'm a lot more selective on who I share my daily news with also. I do not invite opinions from anyone, and I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:14 AM
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I heard of it this way. I was like, wait wut? A what is where? I gotta see this. OOOOOOH best day of my life on reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:03 AM
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It's when a dude says, "I know a place we can go....." and he takes you to the woods or a park or a field.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:58 AM
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field dates I'm DEAD. This deserves a PSA poster for young women. "FIELD DATES: Not even once. "
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:56 AM
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I'm sick reading this. I have many times shed tears and said prayers for all the women enduring being beaten, humiliated, scarred, enslaved and being property every day while I am not. I hope that we do destroy this culture of enslaving women and their children for men's pleasure. I hope that women continue to fight to save children from child marriages and save women from labor-marriages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:39 PM
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Got a snippet just at the right moment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:39 PM
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Got a pic at just the right moment!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:38 PM
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Congratulations! I look forward to the next post. Be safe and enjoy that oxygen!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:16 PM
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I want to share a notable playlist for a most notable occasion!!! Maya Angelou Essentials . You will not regret it. Spoken word and song and music. We are truly blessed to share time time on this earth with this amazing Woman and Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 06:05 PM
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Tidal's Women Empowerment playlist!! 100K!! Another longer WE playlist from 2019
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:49 PM
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I'm excited too! I've been waiting my whole life for women to get where we're not trapped, and it's happening! WOOP. I mean, It's too late for my clock to turn back but I see all these young women here, learning their power, leveraging it to plan her life her own way, with INTENT, it makes my heart rise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:44 PM
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This whole movement is balm to my tired old heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:39 PM
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Not all men, just the trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:30 PM
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Oh yes it was a play on being "opposites" of the current stereotype of super-rich being odd because they can afford to be exceedingly isolated from normal life. But the Addams were stylish, adorable, funny, passionate, and enviable instead of crusty dusty pervy and greedy. This Addams Family movie from the pic, same era as Rocky Horror and Elvira. I think Halloween in the 90s had all three movies covered at any given party.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 06:47 AM
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This version of Gomez was the best one. Honestly, I have given a shameful amount of leeway to dudes who can do that verbal lovemaking like Gomez does Morticia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 06:31 AM
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Yes I'm 50 and a scary number of men my age would ask about my cooking in the first conversation. Can you cook? I'm like, yes I can and no I won't. Only lazy assholes can't cook by this age. You're just telling me you're a lazy asshole and too broke to eat at a restaurant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:27 AM
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The older male fantasy is the "Nurse with a Purse" and yeah, living by myself is like being a kid in a fort castle all day, compared to marriage or living together. Taking care of just me results in 100% customer satisfaction nearly every day, zero whining and complaints, and dinner is always what I want, the tv is always on the channel I want, the radio is always playing just what I want, and I don't have to answer a single question from someone else shouting from another room, ever. I love my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:09 AM
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well it's like this, one man with 25 phones works those apps constantly to do his illegal pimping. so yes it's human trafficking, and we're mixed in with it on the app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:06 AM
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yes that's one excuse they use to ask for nudes on the spot, to sort out the bots. they tell me they'll spend a couple months talking to someone only to find out it's a bot ROFLMFAO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:05 AM
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Also, crazy amount of dudes my age asking me if I can cook. Like wtf of course I can cook. At my age, only lazy assholes can't cook. It's just a passive-aggressive way for them to say, hey I'm a lazy asshole, are you interested?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:59 AM
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Oh yes this is true. Now they want a "nurse with a purse", but they seemed puzzled on how to get it done, imo. (Go figure.) I do all those things mentioned above, and I'd love to see some miraculous reason to marry again. I cannot imagine a scenario that would convince me. There's zero upside to marriage or co-habitation for me at this point. Men always eventually angle seems like, unless they're HVMs or gay. I have several gay male friends. Once you're my age though, you get dudes wanting the "…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:44 AM
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YOu know what this looks like actually, is professional trolling. I was reading up on it a couple days ago, and the key sign are: zero personal story in the post; sweeping generalizations that are intended to incite derision; and a prompting for discussion. I really think it's a pro troll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:27 AM
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My abusive mother once found an old phone book of mine, called all my friends and told them I was being held against my will in a cult, and convinced them to call me to see if I was okay but don't let on that she told them, just call me and ask if I'm okay. Out of all my friends, ONLY ONE called me and said, "I just got a call from your mom. She said a lot of shit about you that didn't sound like you, what's going on. " I was like, holy crap that's why all my old friends are calling me all at on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:03 AM
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This anxiety about not working every available moment is cultural conditioning. Be as skeptical about it as you are a man texting you at 11pm to see "wyd?" Our bodies aren't made to work so hard. Something nefarious is driving us when we are working every possible moment or feeling obliged to do so. Usually what motivates us is fear. I meditate or go full silent lately when I have direct anxiety about my productivity. At a certain point I kind of "wake up" and am like, wait I'm fine this is not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:25 AM
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Hormonal contraception will increase your appetite but I don't recommend it necessarily. Nut butters are the world's best starvation-ender for kids and young ppl needing weight gain. If you're not allergic to nuts, go that direction, because a tablespoon is a ton of calories and you don't have to force down a lot of volume. I make weight-gain smoothies for my elderly mother: peanut butter, avocado, nut milk, protein powder, collagen powder, chia or flax, vanilla, molasses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:13 AM
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I just want to say thanks for all this. It's helped me a lot. I've re-centered myself, lost weight, stopped browsing OLD, moved into my own space and cut out my NP, and started projects that excite me instead of projects that just have to get done. FDS is a good self-help for me. One of the worst side effects of being in any LV or NV relationships with anyone is how they stay inside your head rent free for years afterward. FDS changes my inner dialogue for the better, and that's awesome. I'm als…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:01 AM
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He got me because he checked so many of the big boxes. Depression tho. I lit myself on fire to warm him of course, tried all my best pickme tricks, but he was sad when I arrived, sad when I left. My sister called him Eeyore and it stuck LOL. When I stopped arguing with him he thought he'd won. Nah. He realized later, that's what we do when we've given up and are leaving. I wish him well. My hunky, rich Malboro Man. Get some therapy, sir.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:44 AM
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"The most common way people give up their power, is by thinking they don't have any." ~Alice Walker
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 04:04 AM
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That's a giant lie, and it's the exact opposite. Men say that bc older ppl are a lot harder to take advantage of. It's just a big "negging" lie society tells you. Life gets outrageously better the older you get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:47 AM
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I'd like to mention that IN MY LIFETIME women have gained the rights to lease apartments, own homes, get a credit card, buy contraception, and be protected from marital rape, and other assorted human rights that we didn't have before. So there's a really good reason we all thought you had to have a man or panic and die trying. Because not having a good one was extra risky. And the good ones got taken fast. It's that simple. Oh, also, us older ladies are mad proud of these generations after us. M…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:39 AM
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Says the unmarried woman with no kids who hasn't made him a sandwich yet. I implore her to get started on that adventure and privilege. That'll keep her busy for a couple decades while the rest of us run the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 03:22 AM
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So, the admin from the jobs group came up with blurting out, "I'M NOT FRIENDLY!" as her go-to man-stopper. It's working. I did it once already in a parking lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:58 AM
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Yeah I haven't needed to go back to that store since I found out he's doing it to others also. Soon as I'm out of salmon I'm heading back to that one to see I guess. I can't let it just go, that's for sure. Some other decent person needs a job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:54 AM
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I'm in the life stage you're talking about. I'm new to FDS but had already drawn the line on a lot of things that are in the handbook, trying to get toxic people away from me for good, cleaning house in my life. It's working great because it's got my mind organized in a much better way, putting dating in its place in the grand scheme of things, instead of it being a focus. I'm financially well enough off to live alone without working and it's wonderful, and quarantine has been good for me instea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:06 AM
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I have one at the fish counter. Confirmed with other women in a tech jobs group in my city, he plays the recording and does the routine while you're captive waiting for your fish. I'm so close to going back to the specific store to make sure and reporting him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 01:58 AM
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This is a big part of why I was so attracted to my last SO, yo Boy, he could put himself together, lifted weights, emphasized all his best features ironed his shirts, turned heads everywhere we went. And he worked hard, so hard. Roping cattle, fixing fences, stacking hay and all that cowboy stuff, then he cleaned up so nice, smelled so great. It was so out of the ordinary that damn, he hooked me but good. I wish I'd had FDS when I met him, things might have gone better than they did. (Want to kn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:39 PM
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Okay now I'm really glad I didn't become a nurse. This is too much. Dang.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:17 PM
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Honestly it used to be that way, before internet and internet porn, anal was just a taboo thing ppl didn't discuss at all usually. Eating pussy was a goal and men were divided about it along cultural lines. Boy those were the days. I got so much good head. Damn. This mass-marketig of the destruction of women and children with the violent incest child porn is new as far as the masses knowing about it and being able to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:13 PM
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"Amazing orgasms always"! That sounds like an informercial for a vibrator. The selling point being it's way more generous and reliable than the average man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:30 PM
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Hello, fellow ladies. Hurhur.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:26 PM
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You are super lucky, honestly. 99% of people wouldn't take action, just say to you, "do you want me to do something?" He's probably done it before or she wouldn't know the situation. Yes, she and the men set it up of course. She did it not only for you but for the other lady and the baby. Mind your P's and Q's and if I were you do not date in that circle or neighborhood. There are serious people in your neighborhood and you do not want to be a romantic interest for someone who's done violence on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:02 PM
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Honestly, in my opinion, OLD is a project and a half and worth quitting for sure. It's just a magnified version of regular dating work. Ladies have been taken for a ride with OLD, honestly. It's a huge time suck to try to find a person who's going to be an even larger time suck. If you're young, you have the chance to really capitalize on your career early. The difference it makes on your finances in mid-life and retirement are staggering. You can find your HVM once you are well into your career…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:01 PM
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This looks a lot like posters made to identify Jews and gays during the holocaust. I'm sad for all of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 10:27 AM
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I'm definitely The Blocker, and I'd call this Stalker Bingo maybe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 10:23 AM
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I think that when you tag the other subreddit like that it brings visitors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 10:13 AM
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Endless asinine lists, LOL. That's narcissist-speak for "crowd control". Always gotta have the crowd control with the men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 10:12 AM
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I'm going to put this on my morning google routine just to get a lot of thoughts out of the way LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 12:59 AM
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YES. I am a reduced-size person, all of me actually. My Dr's have told me that I'm just a miniaturized person, no deformities but small. Old-school petite size. Including my uterus, vag, colon, skeleton, all of it. I have penis preferences for sure, and big dick energy is way better than actual big dick. I've never seen the papules, had no idea that was a thing. I like a man with very little body hair, lots of head hair, and easy-to-get-hard dick. Girth is a big plus. Above average length is a b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:22 PM
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I am cringing at the times I heard, "I know a place" and it's like the woods or some shit. A parking lot with a view. EW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 08:21 PM
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I actually tried to be the cool girl to one guy, I'm just soooo ashamed now LOL. He was the creeper boy in the ballet classes, who's only there to brag to all the world without cessation how he is surrounded by the most beautiful women in the world all day long. That guy that's got the ballerina fetish? Yeah, I dated one and I am like the polar opposite of the ballerina build and type. Granted, these are teenage girls too, right, we were all young adults. Dang, and I took that shit too. SMDH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 08:16 PM
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I had spent some time talking to him, decided to meet at a restaurant I like, and I said casual dress bc I was coming from work in slacks and sweater. I guess he thought "casual" meant find a hoodie you wiped the kitchen floor with and wear that. HE WORE A DIRTY HOODIE. Crumbs and stains and shit. When we met for the first time, and he made sexual innuendoes. EW. This was recently, this year, a grown man. A WHOLE PERSON somehow thought that's how you meet your new love interest for the first tim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 08:08 PM
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I went to college with a guy who was getting his degree in social work, and he sold drugs to the ppl at the private psych hospital in the drug rehab wing where he was doing his whatever internship or volunteering. I had to sit as a witness in a sexual assault investigation in college involving him. I heard he was married but still carrying on cheating bc it didn't count if the sex was gay and his wife was black anyway so it double didn't matter. Yes, I said he's a social worker. Alive and well s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 07:35 PM
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Right? I went on a 1st date and when he learned I speak another language he did a fetishy thing and started acting feminine, like his guard just dropped and "ooooh reallllly oh could you speak to me in .......".....I think he also mentioned breakfast but at that point I was focusing on the exit strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 12:40 AM
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Right, mine too, comparing himself to my homicidal ex husband. I said, that's not a high bar to clear that you didn't give me a concussion and hold a gun to my head. So what, nobody else does that to me either. That's not the bar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 12:34 AM
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Thank you for mentioning this; you're the first one I've seen so far. I've been absolutely horrified for the child actresses in the film. The man who played JarJarBinks had it bad enough, can you imagine. You are starring in a debut highly anticipated film and then things go not at all like you expected and you are the center of large blowback, and these are small children. These children will be pursued online by pedophiles the rest of their childhood, and into adulthood no doubt at all. Right …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:30 PM
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Right? I'm always so sad when I see poverty wedding rings. It's a sign of struggle and we know who pulls the most weight when a man's paycheck is thin. I'd sooner wear a cigar band than try to act proud of a thin, frail wire with a piece of ancient glitter stuck to it like you'd give to someone graduating from the 5th grade. Don't marry if it's not an improvement over what you can accomplish alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:10 AM
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Right? I happen to agree with you. If he can't afford to drop at least 3 months salary on a purchase like this, then there's a LOT of things he won't be able to do financially without struggling and without you pulling his weight. Like have a big family, take family leave, go on vacations, add to the house, rainy day funds, get a new car. It should be BETTER FOR YOU THAN BEING ALONE. If it's not, then it's not right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:58 AM
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Where I'm from, the ring is really effing important and you better believe it's judged by others until the end of time. It reflects on HIM as far as does he provide and cherish and can he / does he want to make sure everyone knows it. That's what it means in a lot of places. And it reflects on HER as far as is she proud of it for real? If so, you can tell. Did she settle for someone who can't afford kids or someone that it's clearly going to be a struggle, or does she even have someone who wants…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:32 AM
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Older men have been practicing on women in their 20's since they were in their teens, and there's not very many women in their 20's who realize their value yet and who've heard all the angles they come up with yet. That's the whole reason is to take advantage for MUH PENIS hurhur. Men in their 20's also don't realize how low value they are yet, and those who do are busy leveling up, working, and building their self esteem so they're worthy of what they want out of life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:35 AM
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I get proximity crushes terribly. It's pheromones and the desire to be loved. I ignore it, and treat it like a GIANT RED FLAG. Some things never leave you, and for me, proximity crushes are one of those things that's left over from childhood abuse, being drawn to people just because they smell nice and haven't hurt you yet. When I was a kid I used to desperately want to leave with other people after holiday gatherings, like just be in another family with a normal life where your parents like you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 03:17 PM
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I love Coach bags! The first one I ever owned was a gift from my ex-SO's daughter. I saved his ass twice one year, one heart attack and one pneumonia. If I hadn't been there he'd have died. She gave me a Coach in my favorite color for Christmas. There's a lesson there. I saved HIS LIFE and SHE rewarded me, and SHE knew my favorite color. SMDH
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 03:11 PM
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The first breakup is hard if your parents never exposed you to healthy boundaries and breakups. The one thing I wish I'd had at that age was the FDS manual. Your friend needs a strategy that protects herself FROM HERSELF, and honestly she could probably use some therapy because that kind of behaviour can land you in legal trouble or worse. If you're asking for advice I'd encourage her to get some CBT therapy, because she needs help in more than one direction. Her entitled attitude is not healthy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 02:55 PM
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Right? I used to beat myself up over this block I had about waiting to get asked out, but now I know why I was hesitant my whole life LOL. I was raised by my father, with three older brothers, so I guess I just know them too well in that regard. That I still am attracted to men is a cruel miracle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 02:44 PM
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This is my truth also. I am aroused by happiness, generosity of heart, empathy, and intelligence. If a man is taking care of himself, being kind, I don't "deduct points" because he didn't win the genetic lottery. But when ugliness comes out of his mouth, or he treats a stranger poorly, any good looks I thought he had are just a sad irony in my eyes. I didn't win the gene lottery either, but that's okay, I try hard, take care of myself, and treat people nicely, so nobody notices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 02:35 PM
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HE's stuck on the part where he whines loudly until his teacher or mother shows up and holds his hand and walks him through the lesson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 02:30 PM
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Then he'll punish her because he can't respect anyone who would love a guy like him. I mean, you COULD do some pushups and whiten your teeth, dress nicely, take some pride in yourself, and form a relationship with a like-minded woman. But nah, it's so much less work to just blame it on the 3 billion women walking around with their own problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 02:24 PM
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Okay that's why I couldn't find it is because it's just snake oil, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:16 PM
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NLP and other manipulative techniques What is this? I'm seeing some search results I'm not sure what I'm looking for. Thank you in advance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 06:15 PM
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I feel you completely. I've been wanting away from boys since high school for the same soul-crushing reasons. What I do not understand, though, is why people do not utilize porn blockers on their kid's cell plans and on their home networks. I really would like to know, because there's millions of kids being exposed to violence against women and children in a sexual context, just so much wrong in so many directions. If anyone knows why people don't do this, I'd be curious to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 11:58 PM
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Yes, I think it was definitely planned, and I've heard SO MANY STORIES of men doing this after a big investment in furniture and home furnishings. Often it's purchased on credit or predatory rental arrangements, and the woman gets stuck with the debt, which is a downward spiral.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:44 AM
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Good luck, and don't have second thoughts. What's already occurred is most assuredly a felony. Write down a chronology of escalations, recent events. A PO will require that in the application if it comes to that. If calling the police for an "assist" to move your stuff out because you can't do it on the DL, then try to arrange that to happen on Friday so if he gets arrested throwing a tantrum he's in the can all weekend most likely (it's what divorce atty's also recommend), giving you time to sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:36 AM
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I could have written this almost verbatim when I was married. I'm sorry, and this type of person is called a Viper. That's the category of violent abuser he is. He will strike when he's got you trapped, like in the car, and they use cars as deadly weapons to threaten you. My husband was the same. When you leave is the most dangerous time when you're leaving a Viper. They also will be totally obsessed for 6 straight months, then usually move on within a year if you stay NC. So it's important to g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 08:21 PM
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WTF is "disturbing nanny cams"? Is she referring to watching child abuse online until the wee hours....... or .....homemade porn? I am clueless. Also, probably a man wrote this, because dang.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:00 PM
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if they were just looking we'd never know what asshats they are. the problem is, they're catcalling, insulting, invading our space, lying their assess off nonstop, and all the worse stuff we endure daily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:54 AM
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This is definitely red flag behavior for escalating violence, so prepare accordingly to protect your beautiful self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 04:31 PM
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I've watched grown men teach little boys to catcall neighbors and laugh at women. It's their idea of a good time, and a primary reason I see men in general as default bullies. Until they show me otherwise, they all have bully behavior by default. What this country needs is a UBI if for no other reason than to liberate ourselves from men in general, cut the financial ties that bind so many women into unpaid humiliation and servitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:19 PM
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If you look up some articles about how traffickers operate you'll find red pill strategies. From one article, "it’s not as if sex-traffickers rip the kids off the sidewalk and take them to a dungeon and chain them up, the experts said — at least not most of the time anyway. Pimps use time to groom their victims, flatter them, make them think they love them until they’re close enough to make their move, they said." And they use guidebooks, support groups, all that. They're out in the open, pure m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 01:58 PM
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because they hate themselves for being so fucking eager all day long all the time. thirsty-ass bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:23 AM
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In my experience they have a love/hate relationship inside their own brains with their own sexuality. For many of them, they spend so much time chasing every in-vagina orgasm they can, that they don't level up and learn to love themselves and be someone they can be proud of. So when a woman is naturally loving and kind to them, they don't know what the fuck to do with it, because they cannot relate. They get spoon fed entitlement and audacity their whole lives, not caring and intimacy. That's no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:23 AM
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They're a misogyny movement that is based on strategies that pimps and traffickers use to control women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:15 AM
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In case you don't get enough hate from the general public, date Jesse. He'll make sure you feel like shit ALL NIGHT LONG.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:13 AM
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This person acts like we don't have access to food, so we're tricking men into purchasing food for us LOL. Life Pro-Tip: don't go on dates if the cost of the date makes you mad. Stay home until you're ready for grownup time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:49 PM
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The best resource is probably going to be Certified Financial Planning. You might want to find one near you and enlist their services. I was raised in a CFP household, so I personally have never done it, because I lived with CFPs. The basics is budgeting, credit, goals, saving, planning. I invest in my 401k through work, IRA's through my bank, and savings. The "nut" is your monthly overhead, so that's what you want to keep small. If you don't have a CFP near you, I'd look online or look into the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:49 PM
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For example, you're a physical therapist who works primarily for the boss, but you also have private clients, and one of the private clients results in a big payoff for you because you privately billed the insurance, got paid. They might say they are owed a cut, a finders fee, or they suddenly really need a loan or an investor. edit: maybe they think you owe them for previous favors or for giving you a shot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 06:32 PM
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This should be taught to girls YOUNG. When I've mentored women who are coming into money for the first time, I tell them this: "There will be AT LEAST THREE people close to you who try to get that money from you." They've always come back and said it was true, always the SO or husband first then the boss, and a "friend" usually. Financial safety should be taught with regular safety. IT's the main way women are trapped and used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:40 PM
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I've met numerous ppl who don't have a license due to PTSD from something like: being in a bad wreck; being attacked in a car; general anxiety about driving for some other reason. I have one friend who was kidnapped and raped after getting in a taxi. She doesn't drive, and can't take taxis of any form now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 02:28 PM
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American male w/out a license? DUI probably, or PTSD. I'm going for DUI's. So, for sure he's a liar for no good reason. That's average.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:26 PM
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I think that "winging it" with love and marriage is pushed as a liberated marry-for-love-and-good-things-always-follow recipe that in reality yields poor results. Same for raising children. IMO. Any other lifetime contract we'd look into it a lot closer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 04:23 PM
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You put into words why I get so dang MAD when ppl tell me I look so much better if you wore no makeup! No makeup?!?! I'd get so damn angry but couldn't explain why. Thank you. The next time someone tries that line on me I will NOT be lost for words. "Just because YOU prefer to not make an effort does not mean that I do."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 12:51 AM
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I just left my last SO bc I was fed up with the trying to trap me financially, pressuring me to stay home like a wife, and also expecting me to maintain and pay for my own personal needs like a single person, but without my own income. Literally he KNEW and SAID during an argument (yeah I was arguing for him to give me respect alllll the time, ugh), that if I had more money I'd leave bc I wouldn't need him any more. I said, so, you're going to share your assets (3 million) with me and help me fu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 12:18 AM
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And if anyone thinks they do this on accident, THINK AGAIN. It's done on purpose and with intent. Money is how they get us stuck. DON'T FALL FOR IT. It is 10,000 times easier to be alone, work for everything yourself and keep oury own accounts than it EVER will be being married. And if I get sick and need help, I don't have to worry about some scrotum hurting me, leaving me, or abusing me. Which is pretty much EXACTLY what happens when a woman needs a period of help from a man. They're GONE, loo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 12:02 AM
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But but but.... NOT ALL MEN! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 10:47 PM
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Also "destroyed" "ruined" often used as well. I'm tired of it so bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 10:45 PM
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Shame is, what is looks like is him just using her time up to make her spend energy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:02 PM
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Yes, obvs Bundy is horrible and worthless as a man. What he said in the video is repeated a LOT by the ppl in the no fap sub. The all talk about how they struggle to see females as people, that all they see is body parts, until they address their porn addiction. Then, normal human interactions start to happen. Bundy was a narcissist, who tells people what they want to hear. So that's not lost on anyone I don't think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:42 PM
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Thank you, I will definitely be looking at this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 06:11 AM
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Hm, nobody said it did. It was an interesting video is what we said. He felt porn had an effect on him, that's clear enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 05:39 AM
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I had two close friends like this, men dropping to their knees everywhere they went. I'd joke how invisible I was when with them. One did what yours did, took every guy just to prove she could, friends either accept it or not. She died in her 30's, being chased by a man she was trying to break up with, when she ran into traffic. She was impulsive and careless with other people, which ended her. The other one is still a tremendous dude magnet, in her 60s, and leads a rich life and has sworn off a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 05:21 AM
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Oh, I'd need an FDS agent to filter the men LOL. Honestly. A concierge, even concierge auto-bots that interjects or tags what we would be red-flagging anyway. We do have a whole list of low-effort responses that I'd just as soon not even see. LOL. Filter those guys, and I'd have to see another feature: if someone reports dangerous behaviour, notify the others who've been communicating with him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 05:09 AM
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I thought it was an FDS satire and I was laughing...........then I realized it's real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:59 AM
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It's great advice to remember that just being with yourself is a good practice. I've been trying new things on my bucket list, finding that some of them were not as fun as I had imagined LOL. But you come away with a new experience, new memories, new ideas, new impressions of yourself, finding what you like and do not like. I date myself now, honestly. I need to up my dating game too though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:52 AM
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You might consider finding a woman mentor, or being a mentor to a younger person. I found it's a value-added endeavor, and also maybe join a professional women's network, attend events, volunteer. In the course of things, more friendships will happen. There's really not a lot of ways to meet decent friends, and most of mine (I have a few) I've met, we had an endeavor or common goal where we met. A few years ago I dumped a whole circle of friends. Felt great. That energy and time that I reclaimed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:48 AM
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I might have some insight as to why.......I noticed that all over my city (state capitol), on the railings by stoplights are stickers for this shit. New ones. Not that have been there a while, not where others put stickers. Active campaigns in their neighborhoods for their websites. I noticed it two weeks ago, mentioned that I need to hire those guys for my own business, because they can sure spread an idea. So. It's got to be intentional recruiting campaigns targeting their home areas. Of cours…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:59 AM
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I am saving this for the categorizations you spelled out. Well done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:45 AM
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OMG I cackled thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:37 AM
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I've experienced the angry scowling too! It's just lately. It happens when I spot a man trying to game a woman and I sit and watch. She'll turn away and he'll turn to me and SCOWL. It also happened at the dentist, and I was looking might nice that day. I thought it was kind of just me. It isn't. Lately the thirsty scrotes are obvious and wow the animosity/aggression/invasion of space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:34 AM
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also yes, since it's my field of work, i'm keeping an eye on the digital domain of it, and she's a widely-loved person with a huge heart and many loyal friends. all of the female ones are helping. the male ones just ....don't know wtf to say and obvs they don't even try to just google wtf to do to help, like i did the second she told me. like a caring friend would if they were at a loss after such a thing. sheesh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:03 AM
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omg i'm so sorry you're having to go through that! i hope you're safe where you're at. yeah, the statistics are pretty straightforward. if they threaten to hurt you, they usually do. if they threaten to kill you, they usually try. if they torture or hurt animals, they'll do it to a person also. if they already hit you, the floodgates are open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:51 AM
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the Protective Order request is submitted. the city is overwhelmed with domestic violence cases and her turn will come for whoever to stamp it okayed, when it happens. virtual hearing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:48 AM
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honestly, it's not a viable strategy in this city. the DA says the DV cases are overwhelming their system and critical cases go to the front of the line. nobody in that city cares what the front desk clerk said to the woman of color with the crazy ex. but i get it. honestly. if it was viable i'd be pushing that angle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:47 AM
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i work in IT and scrubbed her digital life for her once she told me, although she managed to get a fuckton of shit taken down on her own. but she is suffering the trauma of the attack, and also having to view all that video content to perform the task of submitting it for removal. of course, the providers send emails to the uploaders to notify them what content violates, and it has escalated his rage and paranoia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:52 PM
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right. well, he "pinged" her to see if she responds. the seemingly innocent connection on social media. and she did, because she was a "nice person". FDS warns about this very very strongly, for very good reasons. it is NOT a good thing. it can be a sign of deadly intentions. EDIT: yes, she's got her phone location shared with some of her network, and i have a tile in her purse so i can find her too. she has support, but good lord.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:45 PM
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this is amazing. thank you for sharing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:38 PM
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right. she was shocked that her closest, most dearest male friends.......she could tell they didn't get it. they felt like it was an exciting adventure of crazy-times, "you should write a book about it!" and shit like that. so in addition, she's lost total respect for all the men in her life basically. because even the "best" ones think it's still okay, like they just don't get it, they weren't panicked for her, and couldn't understand her fear. men are so incredibly self-interested it is crimin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:31 PM
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i think it's also a "pick me" culture for them except they get all the benefits of being picked without any prices to pay. they want ANYONE to pick them even if you make them cringe. they only want picked for the novelty of ejaculating somewhere besides alone. the difference is, the problems this presents are paid for by the woman. they privatize the pleasure and outsource the losses. and pat each other on the back for the novelty of ejaculating not alone. the more damage you do or potential dam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:22 AM
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there's three of us already in the open
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:17 AM
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this is me, i'm happy to say. i might have married a LVM once, but he's gone, and i'm living my best life spoiling my nephews, taking trips alone, giving gifts is my biggest weakness because it brings me so much joy. this sub has helped me A LOT with centering the gifting around myself. thanks, Ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 02:54 PM
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as soon as i hit a big financial goal i had..... that was it. i had 10k times more passion for myself and my own tiniest little ideas than the thought of the finest best man. just the thought of having to spend time educating another man on my boundaries and expectations.........just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 05:55 AM
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that's why i couldn't get into it. there's a whole story thread around where she waits several years or some shit for "the one" to try out the other women he's hot for or something something. she gets picked and happily ever after or......she gets a walk in closet of her dreams because? she shoulda just built the closet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 05:34 AM
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Dodging outside to finish a phone conversation with his buddy mid-conversation. That's when the topic turns to you, and it's not something you would want to hear. Asking what you want for gifts, especially if it's repeatedly. This is emotional manipulation. He gets to milk the emotional reward of your heightened expectations without taking a single action. That is NEGATIVE VALUE and never ends well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 05:22 AM
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my last SO told women jokes all the time. and honestly my fuse is so short now that it doesn't even light. i will never ever entertain any level of friendship or more with anyone who is anything less than loving and kind all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:32 AM
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believe someone when they say they think about you every single day after years. stalkers will return to the scene of the crime over and over (meaning YOU). i've got one that started when i was 16 and he just popped up again on facebook trying to get connected with everyone AROUND me (i'm 50, so that's a 36 year stalk and he still ain't tired of it.) my nephew has a stalker also that is connecting with his extended family on social media. it is NEVER NOT dangerous, and also WAY TO GO on leveling…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 10:27 PM
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You are being stalked it seems. Unless he knew your reddit name from before. If he didn't, then expect that he's in other corners of your life right now. I would assume he is in your life in ways you don't know. Please be careful. They don't ever tire of wanting to abuse you again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 07:12 PM
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The holy trifecta of red flags: lying, bragging, and negging. I should make a venn diagram.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 08:41 PM
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$45 for 1,000 views on pornhub is why it's the way it is. they're selling front row seats to DIY torture and murder. any rando in India can make a years' wages if they get a mass rape and gang murder video up on pornhub fast enough. it's so prevalent that an economy is being built around it imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 09:45 PM
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i keep inserting this reality into comments on nofap, because i hope that seeds are planted with anyone who sees it, you're viewing rape and pedophilia on pornhub. it's incentivized enslavement and ruin for women and children. i hope this gets on a roll. males need to be brought up to speed on the consequences of their actions by governments and the people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 09:44 PM
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because they're taught that the customer is always right. and by customer i mean their penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 04:58 AM
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you save a fuckton of money, i'm here to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 04:56 AM
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"horrifying amount of work" speaks volumes about his sense of entitlement, especially when most other genres are made for the male gaze: action, suspense, mystery, nighttime shows.......etceter.......oh, and lest we forget the entire earth's library of porn, also made entirely for consumption by males at any cost. never heard a man talk about a war movie like this. to me, war and depravity are a "horrifying amount of work" that's often born by women and children. but those are men's favorite gen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:42 AM
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i commented that men found a whole genre of something not made for their gaze and now dey make sadface
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 12:39 AM
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i think they're just jerking off to bios and hope one day a real person will emerge from the screen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:44 PM
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you'd think they'd start realizing that by not being picky, they experience 1000x more rejection. it's not big math.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:14 PM
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i lasted a couple months and regret it but i'm glad i don't feel like i want a man. 99.999% low effort pornsick chumps half-assing themselves to every single woman on the app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:55 PM
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congratulations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:32 PM
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LOL my keto brain is like, "that's a man with resources" ROFLMFAO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 10:11 PM
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That's good advice. I've been working on a lot of things to improve myself, and have just kind of thought that better self-esteem would follow, but I have not intentionally been looking at my emotions and my confidence. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 04:36 PM
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It seems to be normal yes. They'll mass-request females, so just block. It's as absolutely low-effort as it can possibly be. It's the junk mail of social media imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:04 PM
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I feel exactly this way, and I'm wayyyy older than you. I wish I'd KNOWN this when I was your age. Bravo to YOU. This is going to pay HUGE dividends to you in your life. You are multiplying your own opportunities, and I'm so impressed!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 02:55 PM
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I have a question I'm embarrassed to ask: I find myself physically attracted to men with a little pot belly, although I know it's a clear sign of bad health and poor physical fitness. Is this my pickmeisha past trying to trick me? I just find myself wondering why my brain is doing this to me. It's almost like it's looking for a "safe bet"? Even though I know there's no such thing, and ugly men are just as depraved as handsome ones. I'm baffled, and this is a recent development, not a feature in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 02:28 PM
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i never thought of it that way, but i now feel validated that i never really loved it or understood it, and i'm a serious book-loving person. thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:38 AM
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i agree!!!! i thought it was sad as SHIT. i figured it was just one of those things i didn't get that other ppl got. like porn. LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:36 AM
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stop, don't pay any more. you realize how much more it costs you to just GROOM than him, to be on even looks generally? life in general costs you a LOT more. not to mention, if you start 50/50 on the food it can be a road to increasing your food intake, becuase when women accomodate men on food, they eat more, they eat different foods, we damage our own health in general when we go even-steven on food with men. you do you, but me personally, i try to just stay away totally from sharing food bill…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 01:11 AM
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i'd like to point out that it was just about 4-5 decades ago ONLY that women gained rights across the US to have their own bank accounts and sign contracts, buy cars, rent homes, etcetera, without a man co-signer directly related to the woman (husband, father, brother). this is where a lot of the "gotta get a man" comes from, imo. we still do not have full rights, obvs. but it was worse then, and believe you me, there's strong forces who'd love to return and THEN SOME to those days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:57 AM
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like church..........omg. like a cult. how horrid is that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 11:40 PM
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wow, i just went and looked at how he's obsessed with getting women obsessed. sad. you shouldn't model your life around another person. whether that's to make them angry, or obedient, or happy. i hope he's an anti-masker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:11 PM
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I KNOW. this is so spot-on. it's so gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:01 PM
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wow someone really needs therapy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:58 PM
2

he should REALLY just take off that mask
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:52 PM
2

thanks! i was actually searching FDS on netflix and disappointed there was no list! spotify has some good playlists
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 06:49 PM
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Congratulations and I have to say I admire your systematic approach to your recovery. It's inspirational. I know you'll carry your strategy forward and I hope your future is loving and special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 04:58 PM
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"The men watched 70 minutes of porn per week on average, ranging from 0 to 1,575 minutes. For most participants, watching sessions lasted between five to 15 minutes. Only 3 percent watched for more than one hour." This means that the average dude, married or not, is visiting porn sites up to 35 times a week for 5 minutes? ish? And they wonder about ED. There's no "peeking" in porn. It's a cycle they call PMO. Porn, masturbation, orgasm, and that's how it's referred to in addiction discussions. S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 04:46 PM
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he wants you to respond, sis. that's why he said it. i hope you do not respond. whatever you give him is ammo. take your ammo and leave. this is how you win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 01:11 PM
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nofap helps each other on how to block porn from accounts and they cheer each other on. i love reading it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:14 PM
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man, i love that sub. nofap is helping people so much, and they help them quickly, with straight talk and hard rules about cutting the shit out of your life. like this sub. today i read a whole thread where they discussed how every woman is a person, has a name, all women had become respectable in their eyes and life was feeling so much better. all these dudes were talking about seeing women as people with complex detailed lives, and it was liberating for them to lose the "tags" that they were a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:13 PM
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Grown ass man who makes an identical regular long trip with their own child cannot be bothered to care for his own self, pack a water bottle or an orange if there is a woman in proximity to blame. In typical fashion, the toxic family backs up his uselessness by also blaming the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 08:44 PM
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this sounds like soooooooooo many conversations i've had. trying to date average men is like a job interview LOL. ooooh, can i really make you breakfast before i go to work while you lie in bed? SQUEEEE yes please!! i thought nobody would ever offer for me to do unpaid shit labor for free voluntarily while you lie in wait for sex and food. HOW AMAZING IS THIS, SIGN ME UP. hallelujah men are THE BEST. can i wear skimpy lace items for your pleasure while i fry bacon? woop. oh, you like my hair dow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 08:36 PM
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I think you have a lot of courage, clearly, because you're here. So I just want to say that. I'd advise some professional assistance with your decision making and mental health strategies. They're skills that anyone can build on. I never learned a lot of the basics until I sought professional help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 08:29 PM
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i'm definitely having a lot more personal time, and cut out a very toxic family member, deleted the dating apps, and have greatly improved my physical fitness. without negging and time burglers i'm really feeling like 50% of this i'm not going to change if we ever get out of this covid situation. i'll never chase a man again, hallelujah. never do his chores or his plans or postpone a single everloving THING again. EVER. and i'm thrilled. the weight i carry is so much lighter, because it's my own…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 08:16 PM
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finally they catch a WOMAN PEDOPHILE that's rich and famous? she's going down. if she lives to november it'll be a real miracle. i hope they clean up reddit's hateful mysogynistic rape culture porn bullshit. now reddit has some answering to do. oh boy do they.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 05:32 AM
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thank you for that link! yes, except that i had something more in line with a gps tag and possibly google lense for car ID, with multiple choice, not signing up and account management and searching and having a relationship with an app. if you've ever used the usgs "did you feel it?" website, then that's what i was thinking of. look at it here . the pain points with hollaback seem to be account management, ancient data still showing, not getting a person's location. ugh. kiss principle is where …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:41 PM
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I love this sub, first off. It's an oasis for me so far. I am wanting to create an app for live-mapping street harassment, looking for collaborators. I've never made an app, but been in tech a long time, feel confident. I got a couple replies off spinster but we haven't yet connected or spoken. I've not forgotten you ladies. Probably we need to create a workspace for it, and decide on android or ios first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:07 PM
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i studied art in college, and throughout history there've been many instances of erotic art such as fertility symbols and gag gifts, to name two types of erotic art. but today's porn is not that. today's porn is not unlike watching a person be fed through a wood chipper. it's just watching women and children get hurt and destroyed for entertainment? it's violent and humiliating by and large, that's the objective, the tone, the way it's filmed. and it's the way that "stars" are made as well, such…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:04 PM
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good fucking point actually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:57 PM
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i hate that every spring the strip club signs welcome new high school graduates. it's so fucking rude and pervy and gross. and men just chuckle hurhurhur
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:45 AM
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all the women i know who've been in the military have been sexually assaulted. all. of. them. i'm a volunteer veterans' advocate, so i've met a few female veterans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 02:04 PM
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hygeine unicorn. i'm stealing that LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:21 AM
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you can add one liners to google routine? you should do a how to vid maybe yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:18 AM
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now i'm not in it. i think it's just taking time for verification
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 06:26 PM
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yes to all of this. i'm one of those people. i can't tell ENOUGH young women to avoid building around men. build it for yourself. when i started kindergarten, in a lot of places in the usa, women still needed a man to sign for a bank account, car purchase, home loan, anything financial, a rental agreement. you know what my own single divorced mother had to deal with in landlords just to get housing for us? phht. most men alive today were fine with it then and would be thrilled to see it again. t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:27 AM
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she's gonna die. he should be charged asap but he won't be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 01:54 PM
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get on the discord
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:03 AM
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hey, it'll get better. i just got rid of a pick me mom just like you, moved out. was sad to do but now that i'm inside with the door locked it's peaceful. you'll get there. hang in there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 12:16 AM
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reddit's a breeding ground for school shooters and pedos any more. why can't they split it like bitcoin, put the pervs on one side and humans on the other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:37 AM
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yeah, he's massaging a pressure point and he doens't even realize it. dude's squirming so bad it's like he's cutting himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 11:44 PM
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this makes my fucking day. you guys are fantastic. agreed. HIGHLY ENJOYABLE. omfg. fuck that trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 11:42 PM
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Biggest regret of my life is this birth control battle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 04:44 PM
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