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DISCUSSIONbest__stressed/r/RedPillWomen02/08/23 10:26 PM
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DISCUSSIONbest__stressed/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 04:53 AM
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Well you know the situation best, hope it works out for you!
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 02:28 PM
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Yeah I had the same question…could you give him an ultimatum of some sort? 4 years is a long time to be “on the hook”, just ask him if he wants to be with you as you are now. And if not, then you can start to move on. A no is a no, a yes is a yes. Don’t give him room to waffle on it. Tell him that you still have feelings for him and ask him what he wants to do about it Edit: I just want to add that I didn’t mean to ignore your questions at the end of your post, I just don’t think they’re relevan…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 08:03 AM
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Physical peak? Women: about 20-35yo, men 20-40+ for the simple fact that their swimmers decrease around then. So men are blessed with more time, if we’re strictly talking child-bearing years. And of course there are exceptions for both genders. But social peak is also important. I often joke with my friends and fiancé that my “peak” will be in my 70’s— once we get those retirement dollars, and have plenty of grandchildren to gossip about while vacationing with the Bahamas with my husband. Not to…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 07:55 AM
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Okay I just have to say this— I think progressive culture has absolutely infiltrated your mind. Virginity is nothing to be ashamed of, and neither is desiring a family someday. The right guy will come along, and will value those traits. It’s what makes you, well, YOU! Try to heal from the hurtful comments of others. It’s not easy, especially if some of those harmful ideas came from your own mother. But everyone has a unique personality, and embracing that makes them stand out from the crowd.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 07:25 AM
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Especially considering BPD, you need to be with someone you can trust. And from the sounds of it, it doesn’t sound like you’re asking for much at all. You’re not even asking for constant communication; just an occasional check in. So if you’re wanting honest advise, I would talk to him when you guys are done with your trip and just break up. And don’t make it a conversation, just tell him your reasons why and make the conversation as simple as possible. You guys are young, unmarried, and he’s al…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 07:09 AM
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Since you’re a little more passive, I would just keep the peace as long as they quit the comments toward your husband. Maybe approach your mama privately and ask her to not target him like that. It’s totally unacceptable for them to make those comments and expect you both to be fine with it. My sis is a feminist, and my fiancé accidentally offends her all the time. And it’s over the smallest things. The way we handled it? I’d just argue with her (in private) until she got frustrated and “shut do…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 02:56 PM
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Your English is fine! And yeah he’s done with playing around, although he wasn’t much of a player to begin with! Congrats to you and your partner
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 02:42 PM
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Nope I don’t think your out of line at all, this is actually super important. So I personally think that people should be open-minded to dating older, if what they’re looking for is to settle down and have marriage/family. And a lot of RPW are looking for that. However, what you’re saying is also true! There are creeps out there. As someone who has been abused in previous relationships, I can say that is is VERY important to bring up questions like this early in dating. A good place to start, “W…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 02:36 PM
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I’m sorry to hear that! I have some bad ex stories of my own as well…the age thing is definitely not the most important thing in a relationship
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 02:25 PM
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Sounds like you have some great men in your family! That’s great to hear :) Idk, so I come from a church background, and a lot of my friends are guys. I noticed that being in the young adult group at my church, there are so many guys still in their 20s, living at home, being kind of directionless and completely failing when it comes to women (I can think of 4 guys like this right now). So maturity is far away for them. Maybe it’s just the people in my circle! And to your point about women, I com…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 02:23 PM
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Yeah I have to say I agree here, I think that values are definitely more important than age. And also attraction. If the attraction isn’t there, it’s just simply not going to work out long-term!
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 02:12 PM
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Yeah from personal experience, that’s kind of my view too. There are exceptions out there, but I always felt that when I was dating closer to my age, they expected me to “carry” the relationship— emotionally, paying for dates, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 02:08 PM
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Yeah that’s great, idk if I just had back luck with guys or what! Never met a guy like that, but I’m so happy to hear that they’re still out there.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 12:46 AM
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Yes to this!! Mine is and 8 year gap, totally understand why it’s not for most people. For us it works, but you also have to find common ground
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 12:45 AM
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Yeah that’s a good point, I remember bringing this up with my guy and he was saying that in his experience, a lot of women are flaky too. Thanks for the imput! I always have my friends ask relationship advice and this is one of those issues always gets brought up
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 12:43 AM
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Yep, this all the way! It’s an unpopular opinion, I’ll admit. But I’m 23 and my fiancé is 31, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. The older guys are ready to commit. And they actually take on the role of protecting and providing…just a thought
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/23 10:13 PM
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I dated a guy who literally laughed at me for asking him how he feels about children in the future. Fast forward to today, and my fiancé told me that my desire to be a mother one day was one of the reasons he decided to take our relationship from friends to dating. And we are waiting until marriage. So all that to say, don’t lose hope! I found my guy through church, so if you’re religious that would be a good place to start looking. And also being up-front about what you want from a relationship…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/23 10:08 PM
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Congratulations on everything you’ve accomplished! Especially finding community, I feel like that’s so important for accomplishing goals. You’re killing it!
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/23 09:59 PM
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I apologize for responding late, my account wasn’t showing new comments for some reason. And thank you for elaborating! We will be working on our communication, just trying to be honest with each other and avoiding smaller “snaps”— As your saying, I think those are just smaller tensions building up, but bigger “fights” can almost be more productive in a way, even though we definitely don’t want them to become habit. Thanks for the advice!
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/23 09:51 PM
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Thank you! Yeah I definitely don’t want to make it a habit, just like how at work I don’t make it a practice to snap at coworkers, but sometimes annoyance still happens. A lot of time I bite my tongue with them; but since I’m so comfortable with my fiancé I don’t want to build a habit of losing my cool. Thank you for the feedback! And I’m in full agreement about apologizing
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/23 09:46 PM
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Yes that’s correct! Premarital counseling is more like a workbook that we read through and complete on our own and then come back to discuss. And it will be done with our officiant. So to clarify; it’s not traditional mental health or couples counseling. Sorry for any confusion!
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/23 04:27 AM
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We’ve been together a year but we were friends before that
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 12:11 PM
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Yeah, I totally get that. It’s tough to feel like you’re alone when holding to your convictions! I guess I would just encourage you to stay true to yourself. If a guy isn’t on the same page, don’t be shy to pass him up for the next one! There’s always another fish in the sea
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 05:35 AM
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Yes to all the folks suggesting therapy. You are worthy of love, and I’m sure you’ll find it with the right person! I had to work through my own sexual history and ask my fiancé to forgive it, because some of the junk from my past was hurtful to him. And we both moved on from it once it was all out in the light. But more importantly, I think it’s good to forgive yourself!! You are probably harder on yourself than anyone else will be. Get back to finding the joy in life, and letting mistakes live…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 04:35 AM
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No, I think men are more open to this suggestion that we give them credit for— although I suppose I’m coming from a Christian background where that’s the norm, so maybe in other cultures/religions it’s not the expectation for men to wait. But it really comes down to personal boundaries. If you’ve decided to wait, then hold out until you find a man who is on the same page with you. And they are out there! You should never feel pressured to have sex before you’re ready. Edit: also, I don’t mean to…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 04:24 AM
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